Chapter 1What is Love?(Baby, don't hurt me no more!)
What is love? The greatest question in the universe. The definition of love is the great secret of life. Only someone who loves themselves can truly love others. The Bible says, “love thy neighbor as thy self.” Only people who love themselves can love others completely and sincerely. Thinkabout it. The most loving people in your life seem to love themselves more than those who are notas loving and kind to you. As you'll see later in this book, loving yourself does not imply spending money, time, talents, or possessions on yourself, although these are ways of showing your love, nor does it imply vanity. Vanity is self criticism, not love. You will see this is true if you analyze someonewho is vain. You will know they are critical of themselves because they will also be critical of others.This book came as the result of challenging relationships and years of self hate and negative self criticism. After a year in Iraq as an army combat medic, a divorce, and 2 years of therapy and self examination I came to the conclusions herein. These findings saved my life (self hate always leadsto suicide if not helped) They restored my self respect and self confidence. They at last made meinvincible to the whims of the world and the unhappy state of those who depend on specific worldlyconditions for self fulfillment.By this I am referring to the common cold. Not the cold that gives you a runny nose and a sorethroat. The cold that exists in the heart of the unfulfilled. Those that are always seeking for something else to warm them. Not realizing that nothing can cure the common cold except theperson containing it. I am speaking of the cold of inhumanity, the cold of greed, the cold of heart.Until someone realizes what love is, they will always have this hollow spot somewhere inside . Onecan be brought up to live a spiritual life, without criminal record or cruel actions. One can give their entire fortune in the service of others and still have it. Some even spend their lives teaching loveand still dislike themselves. Others take an apathetic approach to cover up the hollowness. Self pity, an attitude of uncaring and an inability to understand prevails.So what is love? Let's start by talking about what love is not.