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69145 High Rate of Divorce in Malaysia

69145 High Rate of Divorce in Malaysia

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HighRateofDivorceinMalaysia
A Social Ill in Malaysia: Causes and Remedies
The
family
is the keyword of my assignment. The family is considered as the basic unitof any civilization on the earth. In Islam, the family is the
foundation of the Islamicsociety
. So, the strength of the Islamic society is gained mainly from the strength of thebasic unit of its formation i.e. the family. Oxford dictionary defines the word family as
agroup consisting of two parents and their children
living together as a unit.
Therefore, we candeduce that any defect in the institution of the family leads into breaking down the unit in whichwill lead to a disaster in the society as a whole.The word
divorce
is the second keyword of my assignment. Oxford dictionary defines divorce asthe legal dissolution of a marriage. So, divorce is
the end of family life.
If the institution of thefamily is attacked by any plague, and the plague was not cured at the shortest time possible, thenthe family is facing a trouble amongst its members. Divorce occurs when the plague is uncuredand it continues to swell.
Islam allows divorce in the case of unsolvable problems betweenthe spouses unlike Christianity that prohibits divorce. The divorce as a solution to resolvethe family is a mercy to both spouses in order to stop the continuous suffering of thefamily. Thus, both spouses may have better life with another partner. Moreover, Allahhas permitted divorce and it is the most hatred non-prohibited action to Him.
 
Divorce existed since the inception of human life. And it is found in every society. Butthe percentage of divorce varies from a society to another due to the way of life in theparticular society and other living factors. Malaysia witnesses a gigantic growth in bothits economical and social lives. As a result of the growth the trend of life of theMalaysian people has changed. This led to positive and negative consequences.Malaysia has a very high percentage of divorce. The average of divorce cases based onstatistics reaches to 20% per year
1
. Moreover, the majority of the divorce cases happen tobe amongst the Muslims
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. This alarms the Muslim scholars as well as the political leadersin the society to find out the causes of the high rate of divorce as well as establishing the
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Zeenah Kausar, 2005. Social Ills in Malaysia causes and remedies. IIUM
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Zeenah Kausar, 2005. Social Ills in Malaysia causes and remedies. IIUM
 
best practiced remedies to those causes so as to save the society from a great collapse inits social structure.According to Kaussar, (2005). “The most important reason that is attributed to theproblem of divorce among Muslims is the ignorance of the type of relationship that Islamenvisages for married couples”
3
. So, not understanding of Islam and weakness of faithplayed a major role in increasing the percentage of divorce in the society. Therefore, notabiding by the Islamic teachings and the deep ignorance of the Islamic instructions by themarried couples lead to divorce. Furthermore, neglecting the tradition, values and moralin exchange for modernity exacerbate the problem.People emulate anyone comes on the TV or appears on the magazines just because he/sheis a model. This blind emulation by the people causes several problems between thespouses. For instance the husband wants his wife to behave in such a way that is immoralbecause he just saw actor X doing it and vice versa.In addition, the ‘poor parenting skills’ proves to be an important factor leads to divorce.Since both the father and mother do not know how to bring up their children as well asnot knowing the roles of each one towards the house. Usually, the spouses send their kidsto the kindergarten to bring them up. But no one guarantees that the babysitters wouldraise the kids up in the proper way that the parents are looking for. Thus, problemsbetween the husband and wife will explode and they start to blame each other.In fact, the ‘poor parenting skills’ is a consequence of the working father and mother ingeneral. Both do not have the free time to spend with each other or with their kids. As aresult, the family life will change to a materialistic life wherein love does not exist andharmony is lost.Moreover, Social pressure on a girl to get married early or to force her to marry someoneshe does not like or she is incompatible with lead to the divorce too. In addition to therapid spread of the drug addicts amongst the Malaysian guys. Many cases of divorceswere because the husband is a drug addict and the wife cannot live with such ill person.
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Zeenah Kausar, 2005. Social Ills in Malaysia causes and remedies. IIUM
 
She fears of her life and her kids’ lives as well, because he might get crazy at anytimeand kill them.In the same way, many Malaysia men depend on the women to get them the money. Thisirritates the women of the society because they keep working and taking care of the kidsas well as taking care of the man of the house who is supposed to work and feed thefamily. So, the wife prefers in this case to have her own house and spend her money onherself and her kids.One more factor which is considered international i.e. the financial problems. ManyMalaysian are still poor -as is in any society- and they cannot offer the suitable life totheir family. That might be because of the previous mentioned reasons or that their “Al-Rizq” (
اقز
) is not adequate to feed the family.Furthermore, it is found that families of more than five members are living in a smallhouse. This destroys the harmony that is supposed to exist in the family, and leads toother social problems like rape-incest.In fact, there are more reasons like the advent of new technologies such as the Internetand its services like the social networks where people meet others over the net, andaccessibility to pornography and sexual oriented Websites.Politicians, scientists, Muslim scholars, and others try to put up plans to reduce the causesof the social problems in Malaysia. Most of them believed that the major remedy wouldbe returning the people back to hold their traditions, values, morals, and religiousinstructions. Enhancing the Islamic values of the people will extremely help to reduce allthe social problems in any society. Since Islam is a comprehensive system of life whichcovers all aspect of life.Moreover, conducting courses and campaigns for parenting skills, in order to boost theknowledge of the parents about bringing up their kids. Those courses must talk about thebasic elements of the family and the social bonds between the family members. In

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