y being for the other that which pleases them), or defensively reject or
withdraw from others before they can „reject/withdraw‟ from us.
We developrelationships but yet, there continues to be a deep yearning in our hearts, to beseen and loved for who we truly are. Intimacy begins with your courage to look intoyourself and accept yourselves for who you are; only then will you have thecourage to show yourself to others. Accept that your feelings may differ from yourpartner, your reactions to common life events may be different but your
does not mean that either of you is better than the other. Think about andidentify what are some of the positive things you bring to your relationship.Consider that the sharing of different perspectives often provides a fuller, moreglobal perspective on issues than a limited one-sided perspective. We are all on a journey but while you travel towards your best self you are worthy of love andacceptance for who you are in the here and now. I believe personally, some may
disagree, that the best relationships are those where partners‟ strengths and
weakness complement each other. Some of my weaknesses are my husba
strengths and vice versa and, together, we draw from each other to help make theother a better person. When I let my husband see my weaknesses then I gainaccess to the strength he has to offer me in that area, and I allow him theopportunity to feel valuable to me. In overcoming my insecurities, I unlock theinter-dependency that is a key feature of a genuinely intimate relationship.I know life is not so simplistic for everyone and some have experienced realrelational hurts which make vulnerability very challenging; you may need moresupport than this short note can offer. Nevertheless I believe everyone deservesthe freedom to be their true self. If you need it, I hope you will seek the supportyou may need to help you secure the love you deserve.
Have sex more frequently and liberally
Women particularly find it hard tofeel sexually attracted to a partner they feel distance towards, however since
intimacy involves the satisfaction of both partners‟ needs it is important toacknowledge the value of your man‟s sexual needs. If he is ex
pected to beromantic, affectionate and loving towards you it is reasonable that you support hisphysical needs. Your man requires sex to feel connected to you. Accept this as a
fact. You don‟t have to understand how they could think this way. It just is s
o. Oneof the key ways to enhance sexual intimacy is to practise have open conversationsabout your own sexual anxieties and needs. What are the insecurities you mayhave about your body, your sexual performance, or your sexual desires? Sexual orphysical insecurities may cause you to hesitate in bed; your partner may interpret