I want to thank Gershan Kaufman for his ground-breaking work on shame.Kaufman's book
has been my number one resource in naming thedemon I call toxic shame. My book would not be possible without hispioneering efforts.I'm also indebted to the anonymous writer of the Hazeldon publicationentitled
for my understanding of healthy shame as that which signalsour essential human limitation and, of the more than human/less than humanpolarity of toxic shame.Several other people have been important to me in understanding thedynamics of shame. They are Sheldon Kopp, Marilyn Mason, Merl Fossum andTerry Kellogg.Kip Flock, my friend and co-training therapist in Los Angeles has beenextremely helpful in my developing the concepts in this book. Kip and I havespent countless hours discussing and clarifying the concept of shame.I want to thank my colleagues at the Center for Recovering Families inHouston (especially Mary Bell) for their continued support.I thank John Daugherty, George Pletcher, and Rev. Mike Falls, my bestfriends, for sharing their pain and vulnerability with me. Their non-shamingacceptance has allowed me to share my toxic shame with them. Together we'vereduced the power of toxic shame in our lives.Thanks to my publishers, Peter Vegso and Gary Seidler, for their continuedcommitment and total support of my work. I'm grateful to Marie Stilkind for herpainstaking editing and for encouraging me to trust my own style, and to theproduction staff at Health Communications.My publicist Diane Glynn and her able associate Jodee Blanco, have gone far beyond the call of duty in promoting my work.This book would not have been possible without the incredible patience ofBarbara Evans, who diligently typed and retyped my manuscript (at all hours ofthe day and night). Barbara's grasp of this material made her far more than atypist for me.And lest I forget (which I too often do) my greatest gratitude goes to myHigher Power, whose Grace has saved me from my toxic shame.