MITTEN. STRINGS
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SIMPLICITY
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Paintbrashes. The results of their labors ate breathtaking,
and L ooh and ahh over every epg. They sre beaut. But
she confesses with a sigh, she has dane most of them herself
‘The Ukranian kit proved too complicated for the kd, and
We stencils were difficult to do, The chien each made +
couple of litter eggs, but they ended up with glue all over
‘heir hands and soon lost interest. "Next year” my frend.
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| think of those Easter eggs now as I set out to write
about simplicity. So often, i sem, we are the ones who,
‘make our ovin lives more complicated than they need to be
‘We set the bar coo high, take on too much, turn small do
ings ino big ones. In part the culture isto blame—as cach
holiday rll around, we conffont at ever-expanding array
‘of merchandise too with it. There i more 9 se, more to
4d, more to buy, than ever before. And how easy itis ofall
‘wo thinking that Fiving well means pattaking of all chats
offered. With so many options and opporgunites to choose
fiom, it can bea challenge jus figuring out where to draw
the line
Why settle for food coloring and vinegar when you ean
rate an artistic treasure instead? Why stop at birthday cake
and ice cream at home when you can rent an indoor play
ground and invite the whole claw? Why spend the Saturday
‘before Christmas lding withthe fly when you coule
all be atening the annual downtowen holiday exttavaganea?
Why indeed? The face is, the marketers ofthis world
have gotten very good at thinking of new ways to eeate de46
sires for goouls and services and experiences that did't even
exis a generation ago. As a resul, we end up offering 00
‘much to our children and tking on too much ourselves.
eis not enough, anymore, to pall together a Halloween
costume fom the desu hin, add few extra touches, and
Inead ut the door to go tick-or-treating, The store-bought
contumes are more elaborate, more expensive, and more
svn every yar. There are decorations to buy ight shows to
orchestrate on the font lawn, hated houses vst, and 2
week’ worth of pre-Halloween activities to attend, Lae fll
in neighbor’ six-year-old daughter had been in and out of
Ine costume so many tes chat she refed to put it back on
for Halloween night. She'd been a ballerina in pata, at
school, and at wo parties. The novelty had worn off
[know a ile boy who pitched 2 tantrum at the end of
an elaborate birthday party because his goody bag did't
have enough treats in it. At another, children yrambled on.
all fours to pick up candy seatered from 3 pies and then
procested because there wast enough. Over the past couple
‘of years, my boys have atended birthdays featuring pony
rides, a vst fom Batman, ld animals, indoor rock climb
‘ng. gymnastics, and an infated space jump, tented hy the
thou ve seen overexcited kid fll part and more than one
exhausted mother weeping in the kitchen
Awspurcitys 37.
WW message do our own excesses send to our
chien? In our ffs to create spec oceans
for hem ew loin sigh of wht ely porte? Are
these abort rodutions cowedng ot the Kind fs
ple, heart elcbaions tat uly enrich our ves and de-
Tih or chile?
how weeks ago, 2 wel-known orytllr came 0 our
sow made the pln ck a end would havea ey
dinner tour owt, and then we would enjoy an evening of
Stories downtown, We at at ve hry, banded into boots
dnd incon and set On downpour. The Hay net
ingroom wil of we, ier chien ng in ae
from two thier tu autince athe bes of ies.
Batch wat sich, mothers were worn ct and Beda
gle and the cen were rlicking with ent | hoped
that our torteling celebrity would dim the horescent
light pte he cide into a il bring a ho the
crowed oom, But seemed, te mood ws alendy
find eat wis what he played t,wlehing 4 rrrene of
toices amc. andmperonations nan eff ote the
Jenin oft catered group.
“How come no one iststening?” whispered Jick
“1 ehink its pst my bedtime” confided four-year-old
Nickts
‘And 1 had co ask myself; What on earth are we doing
here?
OF course, hindsight is ey. But had 1 brought aie
‘more thought co our agends that evening, Hwa have e-
sized that these two small children did noe require an out
ing im one to experience something special. How much
hetter off we would hae heen staying home on that stormy
night, lighting a fre in dhe Fireplace, and inviting Jack’
Friend for dinner and a story told by frelighe in our own iv-
ing room, Once agin I was reminded: IF | pause long
‘enough to listen to my own inner voice, athe chan heeding
some external call go, see, and do, I make beter choices
For all.
Tetakes conviction tay, “This is enough"—whether ie
he enough holiday events, enough guess at a party enough
resents, oF simply enough activities for next Saurdy, And
cis hard t fel confidence non own choices, in our oven
sense of limis, when everyone around us seems convinced
‘that more and bigger i beter.
Bue fam learning. When [find myself worrying, Can
pull this whole thing of instead of looking forward to a
special day. 1 know i hecause Ihave allowed an event t,
bhecomte more extravagant and ambitions than t needs to be.
‘There is another way. We don't have to make everything
ino such a big deal. We ean choose simplicity over compli-
‘ation, And what reli there isin simplicity Here’ a tar
~~ Dovenscale holiday celebrations. Keep the focus
‘on family on meaning seule and tations,
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and on simple activities. Give fewer gifs, and tke
more time to enjoy them. One year we bought
CCaristmas presents fr a needy family and agreed
that we would pay for chose gifs by saline down
our own giving to one git per person. No one Flt
deprived: in fact, I chink weal fee relieved. When
ask my children what they love most about out
Chrismas, their answers remind me chat simple
realy is hes: eading our Christmas books, the ad-
‘ent calendar, om anna carol sng ith che Fam-
ily nexe doo, lighting the ting-2-ling on
Christmas Eve
We Seta limit on holiday acvities. (One Easter eng
hunts enought)
~ Don't ee guilty aboue skipping events hat every-
‘one eke atends. Your children need you and your
attention, not more atviies Last year we didnt
go to the end-of-the-year barbecue and pool party
for Henry’ second-grade class—simply because
swe needed a quiet family day more than we
needed one more end-of school event, As re-
‘mind my chien when the birthday patty vie
tions star to pile up, “You don'rhave to goto
everything” Watching us manage our own lives
sensibly, our cidren wil learnt ser limits, too
2 Celebrate birthdays in away that honors the qual-
ties you love in your child, They dont have to be
‘ig productions: make them expresions of lave