You see when someone is in a group he can only be doing one of two following things: a) Hecan either be offering energy to that group or b) He can be stealing energy from that group.You offer energy by being positive and by provoking positive feelings to the rest of the group.You steal energy by sitting there passively and wait to be entertained ( EVEN WORSE youcould be offering negative energy).
People like you because of the way you make them feel.
So let's picture this. Imagine that you are a part of group of seven friends that are sitting in a bar and they are having a cool beer. In that group one or two persons will be doing the talking.He and the persons that are actively participating in the conversation are the ones that offer positive energy. The others, the ones that are just listening - they are the absorbers. In a goodgroup of friends, persons will be alternating roles all the time. You cannot talk all the time.The ways to offer energy in an interaction can be counted with the fingers of a hand that has been playing with firecrackers:
'Thou cannot believe what happened to me lazt week when I went to get mytongue pierzed...'
2 - Humour.
Any use of humour ( canned or improvised ) is a great way to make people in thegroup feel happy. '... So the hippie grandson gets back to the house and asks his grandmother."Hey granny have you seen my LSD stickers ???". Then his granny answers: "Forget thestickers my grand son. Can you tell me what on earth will we do with the dragons that wehave in the kitchen ??".
3 - Positive thinking.
Just be positive and enthusiastic (to a certain extent..).
4 - Participate in the conversation
even if you don't feel that the subject is interesting. Learnhow to have a small talk and how to chat about things that don't seem very important. "... and personally I love lager beer because the taste reminds me the first day I licked a...".
5 - Have a positive non verbal language
AKA boooooooody language. This is a bit of a longchat but remember that your body language influences the others subliminally. So if you havea grumpy body language they will start to feel strange and it won't be long since they willanchor that feeling with the boring guy sitting next to them.
6 - Listen actively.
Make the other feel that you are listening to what they are saying. Thengive your opinion.
7 - Engage the mind
of your friends with tricks, magic, logic games or interesting news thatyou've picked up from somewhere. If on the other hand....
- You sit back without making any of the above, if you don't give a damn about theinteraction or if you wait like a prince for 'something interesting to happen' ...