Why Won’t He Commit? Is Being Pushy The Only Way To Make Him Want To Commit?
Learn the Right Way to Move Him Closer to a Lasting Commitment
First, consider the potential consequences of pushing him too hard, too fast. One possibleoutcome is that he may capitulate to your desire, but not out of love. He does it to pacifyyou. Is that what you really want? If you grew up dreaming of a beautiful wedding andhappily ever after, do you really want to drag him to the altar like a caveman carrying hislatest kill back to his lair? No, of course you don’t!You deserve better…so much better than that. Not to mention that capitulation sets thestage for a lot of other relationship problems down the line. If he feels trapped intocapitulating, it’s not a good thing, and resentment will fester inside of him. He’ll take it outon you later, and it will hurt you very badly, whether he gives you a ring or not.
Pushiness May Lead to Heartbreak
The other consequence is that the relationship will die. In some cases, it may be the bestoutcome, but, in other situations, it’s just a terrible waste of love. You should understandthat he can love you without wanting a commitment. Men feel things in their guts andhearts, but they ultimately “go with their gut”. When you start pushing, even if he reallyloves you, his gut will tell him to run away, because there is a new problem and he doesn’tknow how to handle it.Think of traffic lights in red, yellow and green; when a man loves you, he’s
and he’ll probably do what it takes to move towards a commitment. His gut is sending him positive signals. However, when his light is
, he wonders if there might be troubleahead, despite the warm feelings that he has in his heart for you. When he’s “
”, hesenses danger or relationship problems that make him shut down emotionally.
Understand the Way That he Thinks and Feels
Sometimes, men set up traps for themselves and make their own problems with women.When you download and read the “
,”you'll learn of a system that will help you understand how men process emotions and howyou can understand your guy and his “gut” reactions. You’ll learn how to soothe his fearsand turn his heart light from yellow or red to bright,
. And you won’t need to push or manipulate to do it.