Having, brought Jesus the explanations that God is love, within that love law, there is no need for divorce,it was a need that Moses granted to unbind because the hardness of the hearts, but that certainly if the spouses lovethemselves there is not that need.Because we know through the Spiritist Doctrine that there is spiritual graduation;
(The Spirits’ Book, Q. 97-100
)different graduations that goes on to the infinite, and many spirits are still in apprenticeship of tests and atonements.That is, still arrested to this world, it happens that a man may marry a woman who may have an inferior spiritual degree to him, or vice-versa, that one be more moralized than other, or more intelligent than other, many timesin that unbalance between two different souls, God unites them with the purpose of one to help the other, be it moral, or be it, intellectually, it is a reciprocal need.Thence the Spiritist Doctrine asking that we be tolerant to each other and to accept the defects one to theother, with tolerance, pardon and charity; it is difficult, but with the knowledge that we are all lacking spirits, who knowswe are not able to resign ourselves and accept the matrimonial difficulties, as a mission, for our evolution and acquisitionof virtues.Jesus taught us, that we should not judge our neighbour,
(Matthew, 7: 1, 2)
the reason is that we do not knoweverything about people and we cannot demand fanatically: they should not get divorced.We cannot also say: look, you get divorced to live the way that you want.It is as one says in the saying: “The religious persons think like this because they do not feel in their skin."Well then, the most mistake of the people that marry, it is because they think that marriage is happiness;because they believe too much in the story that says":... and they went to the castle... and they lived happy forever more!"It is not well like this, the happiness is deserved and gained, it is worked, he who wants it has to make aneffort for that, he who wants to have friends has to be friendly, he who wants to be loved has to love; he who wants to berespected, has to respect; a couple that begins to disrespect themselves begins in disunion danger, for that Jesustaught:"Whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and theprophets."
(Matthew, 7: 12).
Be it with disappointments, be it with humiliations, be it with difficulties or not, being considered that we areeternal spirits in evolution on the way to perfection, we should make effort of maintaining our marriage, asking to God for forces for us to support and to help our marriage.In case there are not enough faith or knowledge of life, to be, destiny and pain, and as each head is eachsentence, if there is who believes in divorce as solution for himself, all is well, the doctrine spiritist does not condemn,but explains that we are spirits reincarnants that it is possible we had in other previous lives got acquainted or offendedourselves, and that in marriage sometimes, although difficult, the spirits are readjusted, they are regenerated and paytheir debits, and it is only that. it is enough for a meditation!From this world to the beyond what is worth are the virtues that we take with us and the love, what survivesis love, we know from André Luiz in the book "Our Home" that his mother had strong affections with her husband andvoluntarily she planned to be reincarnated to help him, that due to improper associations, he was in spiritual debt and heneeded help, what could only be accomplished by the fact of his wife’s loving him. As the evaluation of a marriage that is difficult to support, the true evaluation, can only be done after bothdisincarnated, because there is many details that escape from our eyes or senses, due to the vicissitudes of the materiallife.The more a spouse bases on the matter, more difficult it is to hold a whole life in union and harmony, and itcan also happen for religious inequality or unjustments others that do succumb them, once again the prayer and theconstant prayer is a resource, inestimably necessary!May then God so want, there to be more matrimonial love in the world and less divorces or need of separations, and there are separations that are done hurriedly without analysis or consideration and the beyondsometimes answers: if, oneself waited for a little while that proof would have finished with merit of being worthy of spiritual considerations.
(The Spirits’ Book, Q. 171 & 663)
CONSIDERATIONS ON THE STUDY OF:TO LOVE JESUS AND TO HATE THE PARENTS.
This strange moral, seems even coincidentally to coincide with the study of the divorce, let us see that off themarriage is born the opportunity of a spirit to reincarnate himself to give continuation to his evolution and progress,marriage is the most important part of the material life, because it is from it that the opportunity of the spirits to descendinto the matter comes.