© Victoria Evangelina Belyavskaya
“From Ukraine we brought
, but we are already finishing it off,”announced Olexander, a typical big, smiling, positive-hero lookingUkrainian man on the first day of our Feng Shui training with the world famous expert Ms.Lillian Too in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. We started laughing. “You see, my wife wanted to attendthe training,” went on Olexander, protectively putting his big arm around the shoulders of his beautiful, seemingly 18-year old wife Anna, “but how could I let her go alone that far? So it isgood, I will sit at the training, think my thoughts… may be I will also find something useful, youknow.”At the first tea break Anna slowly rushed – it is a skill only gorgeous Ukrainian girls possess, Ihave been watching my graceful Mom rushing slowly all the time! – to the tables stuffed withyummy specimens of Malaysian cuisine and piled up a plate. Olexander was standing away fromthe food queue, his smiling eyes on Anna. When several newly acquired girlfriends and I saw her feeding her husband pieces of coconut pancakes, our main dish that early morning, weexchanged looks: “newly weds. How sweet!”A week later we were astounded to discover that Anna and Olexander have been happily marriedfor ten years and have two adorable boys, waiting for their return back in Ukraine.The science of Feng Shui applied by Anna in every day life of her family plays an enormouslyimportant role in the relations of the couple. The tender old-fashions of spouses’ interaction provide the sturdy ground on which love and respect flourish. And this is the very question of what comes first: chicken or an egg. Is it Feng Shui that brings these two to their ideal harmony(even in class they would hold their hands!) or is it something else that is responsible for their happiness?Diets and love relations. These two self-help categories of books take up to 40% of every bookstore. Indeed if you think that most people diet not for health but for looks, add the topic tothe relations branch. Some authors believe that once the two have a lot in common, the happyunit is quite secure. Their opponents argue that opposites attract. Over the years, I have learnedthat for me the crucial point is the love background of a person’s childhood or his ability andwillingness to learn to create it in his life today, to learn to receive the love given and to learn to be adult enough to show the depth of love and care.Perhaps I do not spend enough time with people from the former Soviet Union, but I see a – shallI call it “feelings handicap?” – in my foreign friends, especially those from America.Interestingly, the most feeling- and spiritually advanced people I know have also come from theUS. The turnaround difference among the two is what I called “love background” of the familiesthey came from: how much love they have received, observed and practiced in communicationswith their parents and siblings.