happened.My lifeline was a group of people called Adult Children of Alcoholics and for two years I worked their program.
At the beginning of this journey I heard the words “We never recover”. At the time they were the most devastating words I
had ever heard. All this hard work! All this pain! Someone in
our Twelve Step Group began to chuckle. “Of course we never
over, but we do get better”. For a long time I had no idea
what that meant. As I started to go through the pain work andreach healthier parts of myself, I began to realize that recoverywork is ongoing. Ongoing on a daily basis.I began devising a plan for myself that I could use one day at atime. What I discovered was that almost everything I used ormisused had a fine line between helping and hindering. Thatfine line could very easily be crossed, either way. It alldepended on which buttons were pushed.These fine lines began to add up to my recovery. I pass them onto you. I hope they are of service.
WEAPONS or TOOLS
When we grow up in a dysfunctional environment we learn howto use all sorts of tools for survival.
We learn the “fight or flight” tool. We learn how to be
peacemakers. We learn early that we can get attention by being
“bad”. We learn how to be daddy's little girl or mommy's little