Is courageous in decision making always works in the interest of theteam
Is secure willing to surround him self with people better than him self 12.Can accept responsibility and gives credit
WHAT ASSERTIVENESS IS…. AND IS NOT
Some of us have been told that we need to be more assertive, but yet wonder if thatis really something that we want for ourselves. Do I really want to become a personwho is tough all the time, who pushes others around to get my own way? The problem is often due to a misunderstanding of the term ‘assertiveness’. There isa tendency to confuse assertiveness with aggressiveness – a quality that is notdesirable in healthy relationships. This article should help to clarify the differencebetween assertive, aggressive and passive behavior.
Assertiveness involves directly telling someone what you want or would prefer in sucha way as to appear neither threatening nor punishing, nor in putting down the otherperson. It is about standing up for your rights but not at the cost of violating therights of others. It also involves being able to express what you want withoutexperiencing undue anxiety while doing so. It does not involve being ‘totally honest’about one’s feelings.Assertive behavior is
Expressing your ideas clearly, but not by hitting out at others∙
Making decisions - even if your decision is not to make a decision!∙
Being clear about your point and not changing your mind if you do not want to∙
Listening to the other person’s point of view∙
Having self- respect and respect for other people∙
Feeling equal with others∙
Expressing feelings honestly and with care∙
Being able to reach workable solutions to difficulties
Aggressiveness also involves an expression of feelings and opinions but in a waywhich punishes, threatens, or puts down the other person. The aim is to get your ownway no matter what. If we win and get what we want it probably leaves someone elsewith bad feelings that they have lost. this could have a negative impact on futuretransactions with that person. Another possible consequence of behavingaggressively is that we might feel guilty later.