Understanding and effectively dealing with Hostile-Aggressive Parenting (Jan 1, 2006)Page 2 of 87
Hostile-Aggressive Parenting (HAP),
which is a serious form of child maltreatment and abuse, isencountered in many high conflict child-custody disputes. Within the family court system today,there is very little, if any, published standard criteria or definitions relied on to determine the kindof parenting behaviours and actions would be considered as a form of abuse or maltreatment againstchildren.This document has been written with a purpose to bring greater clarity, awareness andunderstanding of
and its remedies and was meant to be used as atool by professionals and laypersons to clearly identify parents/guardians who may be suspect of being classified as HAP.This article describes two categories of HAP, the first being mild to moderate and the second,severe. Both levels of severity of HAP require only one simple, uniform, yet effective, step by stepapproach to be successfully dealt with. It is hoped that this article will assist legal and health care professionals, the courts and others in the community who work to assist children and families insituations where high conflict divorce and separation is a problem.Early in 1998, as a result of research in the multitude of problems involving children and familiesaffected by separation and divorce, Family Conflict Resolution Services, applied the term “Hostile-Aggressive Parenting” to describe the multitude of damaging behaviours that parent exhibited whowere involved in separation and divorce. Since Family Conflict Resolution Services firstintroduced this term in 1998 and released the first draft copies of this document to the public at thattime, use of the term Hostile-Aggressive Parenting or HAP as it is commonly referred to, has grownsignificantly world-wideHAP is not a difficult issue to deal with providing it dealt with effectively and promptly through thecollaborative efforts of the court system and the community. The recommendations and procedurescontained in this document can, with the meaningful support from the court, legal and health care professionals and other supportive persons in the community, effectively control and in most caseseliminate this form of child abuse and maltreatment as well as reduce much of the needless, mostsevere and protracted litigation in our family courts today, which is causing so much harm andtrauma to children and families.