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Overcome your self sabotage!
Susan is single and attractive, Wendy had told me, so I was looking forward tomeeting her. "The weather-man says the weekend will be lovely," I said when I called,"Do you have a bike? Shall we go for a ride on Saturday?"Wendy is my assistant at work, and she knew bothher sister and I were not involved with anyone.The bike ride was our first date, and Susan turnedout to be
attractive indeed.The weather cooperated, it was sunny and not toohot. We rode along the shady path by the riverthrough the park, and then relaxed on the grass toenjoy the picnic I'd brought for us.It was a warm and lazy day, I was feeling amorousand made a gentle pass at her. The circumstancesseemed perfect, but romance needs both to sayyes. Susan had hardly met me and probably justwanted to get to know me first. She ducked.After a delicious lunch we continued the ride. Thenit was time to go our separate ways. She'd had agood time and I could see she wanted to see meagain. She put her bike on its stand out of the wayso we could enjoy a hug and perhaps a kiss.But I was disappointed that she had declined myadvance earlier, so I passed on her unstatedinvitation. I stayed holding my bike between us!We chatted pleasantly for several minutes, but I didn't arrange anything further. Ineither called her nor saw her ever again.If I'd kissed her when she was ready, who knows where we might have ended up? Iwanted a romantic relationship, she was available, yet my behavior ensured we bothlost out!
This was just self sabotage
Looking back at this experience with Susan, I really missed out. She was willing, Iwanted her, and yet I declined! Such thoughts from the self sabotage mechanism can