Mediator & Parenting Coordinator I am often posed similar questions. Actually, I haveexperienced some life-changing events with regard to this very matter in my own life.Years ago as a pastor, I took in a 16 year-old, racially-mixed, young woman and her oneyear-old daughter, due to difficult circumstances in her world at that time. Today she isconsidered my legal child, a de-
factor daughter. But the reality of her becoming so didn’t
happen simply, or easily.
My own family brought ill feelings and a lot of skepticism to the matter, often raising the “sheisn’t blood” issue. Attorneys involved in the court case would often tell me that she couldn’t
be my daughter, at least not in the way I had referred to her in court documents. In the end,however, even the best attorneys were proven wrong. I remember watching one lawyer inparticular disputing with a judge, as the judge tried to stop her from further arguing my
points…the very points which eventually w
on the case, based on my claim thatshe
indeed my daughter.
We watch reality TV shows where people’s lifestyles appear far removed from what weconsider “normal”.
GLBT (Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender) relationships, marriages,and families seem off the wall, miles from most of our own lives. But at the water coolersof American mainstream gatherings there seem to be plenty of discussions about suchworlds, whether it be the HBO TV series
that even some of my traditionalist bestfriends were saddened and upset about (i.e., when the polygamist father/husband laydying), as if he were actually part of their lives, or just some overheard remarks of how