A Catalog of Some Common Excuses
In my role as a counselor, teacher, and parent, I’ve heard many reasons that people use toexplain an unhappy existence . . . and almost all of them inevitably fall into one huge category,which I call “excuses.” This chapter will introduce you to 18 of the most commonly used ones,along with a brief commentary about each of them. This will give you a brief primer before yougo on to learn the
method that’s detailed in the rest of the book.Here [are 4 of the 18], in no particular order:
I Can’t Afford It
It’s a rare day when I don’t hear some variation of this excuse, including: “I didn’t go tocollege because it was too expensive,” “I haven’t been able to travel because I never had thefunds,” and “I couldn’t go into the business I wanted because I had to stay where I was and earnmoney to pay the bills.” I call this belief lame and a cop-out, yet there seems to be almostuniversal agreement for its existence.You originated in a world of abundance, which you unquestionably have the ability to access.Whenever you discourage yourself with thoughts that your financial situation is preventinganything from appearing, that’s an excuse. If you instead decide to bring abundance awarenessinto your consciousness, you’ll shift your thoughts from
I can’t afford it
Whatever I need in the form of assistance to guide me in the direction of my life is not only available, but is on its way.
You’ll then consciously watch for the necessary funding to show up, but you’ll also be remindingyourself to believe that you have the ability to use abundance to elevate your life.Encourage yourself by realizing that you have the capacity to create a space within you that’sfilled with peace and joy, an inner island of contentment that has nothing to do with money.Practice gratitude for the essentials of life, which are yours to enjoy virtually free of charge.These include air, water, fire, the sun, and the moon; the very ground you walk on; the continuousbeating of your heart; the inhaling and exhaling of your lungs; your food digesting; your eyes andears; and so on. Be utterly grateful for all that you have naturally, which is beyond the scope of what’s “affordable.” As that endeavor strengthens, assess what you’d truly like to do, whereyou’d like to live, and what creature comforts you desire.When I made the decision to attend college after spending four years in the military, forinstance, I knew in my heart that money wasn’t going to be the thing that prevented me fromreaching my goals. I understood the costs involved, and I didn’t act on my fear of shortage orwhat I couldn’t afford—I acted on my internal knowing that I indeed was going to attend theuniversity. This knowing prompted me to investigate financial assistance from the government asa veteran, open a savings account designated for tuition and books, talk with the financial-aidpeople at the university, and make alternative plans to attend community college, if plan A werenot to materialize. I had a certainty inside of me that the “I can’t afford it” reasoning is an excusethat many people who aren’t considered wealthy employ as a means for exonerating themselveswhen they need a rationalization for why they’re stuck where they are in life.Oscar Wilde made this wry observation in 1891: “There is only one class in the communitythat thinks more about money than the rich, and that is the poor. The poor can think of nothingelse.” I’d add that such thinking includes lamenting the fact that they’ll
have money. Iadvise tossing out this meme, and instead rewiring thoughts to connect with what’s
tomanifest, regardless of your current financial status.Whatever you feel is your
and no matter how hard that calling seems to be pullingyou, if you maintain the belief that you can’t manage to pull it off, I can assure you that you’reright. To paraphrase Henry Ford, whether you believe you can afford to do a thing or not, you’reright.