Alpha Signals (Transcript)
most of the inuence we have on others it’s not by what we say, but by
what we do, and our gestures and posture, and that kind of started the
ball rolling. And after I was nished with the project, I continued the
research and brought it to the point that it is today.
Jim Curley: Explain why alpha signals can help a person avoid getting into a ght.
So, you’re in a situation where your heart starts pumping and you thinkthat something could happen. How can alpha signals avoid the actualphysical confrontation?
Mr. X: Ok. First let’s look at the typical causes of ghts. And when I say aght, I’m talking about a violent physical confrontation. And the majorityof these ghts can fall into ve basic categories, one is for material gain;
one is for anger venting; another is for sadistic pleasure; one is for saving
face; and the last one is what I call status points. Let me dene this vecategories of ghts, and then we’ll talk about how alpha signals can or can help. The rst one.
Jim Curley: Material gain.Mr. X: Material gain and that is simply someone mugging or stealing from you.Could be on a street corner, it could be in your house, it could be in your car. The important thing there is that people who do this are looking for
a victim, they are not looking for a dominant condent individual, they’re
looking for a submissive individual.Jim Curley: An easy target essentially.Mr. X: Exactly! So, the choice comes between someone who looks likean alpha male, and I’m not talking about , at this point of physicalcharacteristics, cause if you’re 6’6 and 300 lbs and you know, built like alinebacker, then you know, a lot of this is irrelevant. But, for the rest of usit is important and we’ll discuss a little bit further. But, it’s important notto look like a victim, and you’ve heard that a lot, but what does that reallymean? I get really impatient and lose interest when things are talked toomuch in the abstract. When someone says, don’t look like a victim. Iwant to know, well what a victim looks like.Jim Curley: Yeah, right! What does that mean right?Mr. X: The other, anger ventilation. Let me give you an example of anger venting. A guy’s had a bad day, he’s been dumped by his girlfriend.He’s in line at a theater, you walk by and accidently brush his shoulder,or knock him in the arm or hit his arm and in turn he spills his coffee.He’s already mad. He wants to vent this anger. He’s at whatever hashappened personally and you are his victim. Now, there’s this wholeidea of people that have anger issues, you know, they beat their wife’sor you know, they say they can’t help it, it’s something that just happens
and they need to go through therapy. I nd that really suspect, becausethis same individuals if they get cut off in trafc by a once again.
Jim Curley: A linebacker.Mr. X: Yeah. A 6 foot 5 linebacker with tattoos. All of a sudden they have some
kind of ability to control their anger; they don’t ip him off or whatever.But, when they get home they go kick their dog, or what have you or nd
someone that they feel they can dominate. Because, remember, most
people looking for a ght are not gonna ght somebody they feel can do