No need for pardon Haim. Honesty is a gift between friends. Pain plays a big part in some of the issues with friends. But here in the US, people don't "do" death and grief well. After the requisite 3 months of mourning, many friends think that should suffice. For some of us maybe it is enough. But I think many of us have to sort through just what they are really mourning before they can move past it.