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The Worst Part of Keeping a Secret

It’s not that stressful to hide something from people, but it is stressful to think about it all the time.
Source: Christian Hartmann / Reuters

The average person is keeping 13 secrets right now. Five of them are secrets they’ve never told another living soul.

These stats come from a new paper published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, which looked at more than 13,000 secrets over 10 different studies. The researchers asked participants if they were keeping any of 38 different common categories of secrets which ranged from infidelity to financial secrets to secret hobbies. The most common secrets that people shared with no one else were: extra-relational thoughts (thinking something romantic or sexual about someone other than

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