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A Mother Tries To Understand Her Daughter's Gender Identity

A mother and daughter talk about what it means for them to come out as lesbian in different eras, and how labels — or a lack thereof — have shaped their coming out stories.
Molly Girton and her mother Lynn have had many conversations about how gender identity, gender roles and sexual orientation are different between their generations. Source: Courtesy of the Girton family

Lynn Girton, 69, never came out as a lesbian to her parents. She never even heard of the term lesbian growing up in a Christian household in Ohio. She dated men, because that was what she says was supposed to do.

Then at a summer job, she met Pat Freedman.

"We fell in love, and we did not know what that meant," Girton says. "We just wanted to spend the rest of our

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