Men's Health

SEX THERAPIST FILES

1 THE GUY WHO KEEPS GOING BACK TO YOUNGER WOMEN

Joel had one or two affairs every year. He took up with inexperienced young women impressed by his nice clothes and fancy dinners. But he wasn’t just a jerk looking to screw younger women—it was more complicated.

According to Joel, his wife loved him but wasn’t impressed with him. She knew him before his success and had plenty of sexual experience of her own. And while Joel had no concerns about disappointing his girlfriends sexually, he was concerned about disappointing his wife. The results: performance anxiety, sexual frustration, and lower desire for his wife.

He needed a new attitude, I told him, one of “we’ll have fun in bed no matter what.” First: De-emphasize intercourse, making it one of many activities in bed. That makes erections unnecessary, reducing pressure.

Joel also

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