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Assault is not a feeling. The Aziz Ansari story shows why language matters | Tiffany Wright

After sharing my feelings on the Aziz Ansari story, I was told I don’t understand assault. I do
BEVERLY HILLS, CA - JANUARY 07: Aziz Ansari attends the Official Viewing and After Party of The Golden Globe Awards bosted by The Hollywood Foreign Press Association on January 7, 2018 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Greg Doherty/Getty Images)

I am not an Aziz Ansari fan. I’ve never watched his standup, I’ve never watched Master of None, and – brace yourself – I have only seen a handful of episodes of Parks and Recreation. But on Sunday, while absentmindedly scrolling through Twitter, I clicked on a headline from titled “I Went On a Date With Aziz Ansari. It Turned Into the Worst Night of My Life.”

In the article, an anonymous photographer going by the name of “Grace” details an encounter with Ansari in which she went back to his apartment after a date. According to her account, he repeatedly made clumsy physical advances and propositioned her for sex despite her resistant body language and verbal requests to “slow down” and just hang out. After taking a long time to process the events, “Grace” came to the conclusion

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