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Dear Therapist: Will I Ever Get Over My Wife's Death?

We were married for 47 years, and I can’t picture life without her.
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Dear Therapist,

I am a fairly successful international attorney. My wife of 47 years died last December. It has been the worst three months of my life, and my depression does not go away.

How long will this go on? I still expect her to come out of her room daily. Should I go to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings again—although I have no desire to drink—just to talk? See a thanatologist? Is there anything to ease the solitude?

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