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Adventures in Transgender Fertility

I’M A LESBIAN. MY FIANCÉE IS A TRANS WOMAN. WE’RE TRYING TO HAVE A BABY THE OLD-FASHIONED WAY. IT’S COMPLICATED.

Over the last several months, I’ve spent evenings watching my fiancée, Lara, inject herself with smaller and smaller doses of estrogen. I’ve watched her stand in front of a mirror, singeing each hair out of her face with a secondhand electrolysis machine.

The return of her testosterone hasn’t resulted in just the resurgence of facial hair; her pants now fit differently, too. My own skin has been plagued by acne since I got off the pill six months ago, and my default states are angry, hungry or sleeping. Such are the perils of

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