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The Problem With Body Positivity

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WE’RE NOT HELPING FAT GIRLS BY TELLING THEM THAT EVERY SINGLE PROBLEM CAN BE SOLVED BY LEARNING TO LOVE THEMSELVES.

On a morning last year, I logged into my teenage daughter’s student profile to add lunch money to her account. I was surprised to find only a few dollars missing.

We were driving when I confronted her. I could tell she was having difficulty putting her thoughts into words. “Mom,” she blurted out, “I want to lose weight.”

I pulled over into the Yogurtland parking lot. We sat in

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