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Dear Therapist: I Don’t Know How to Feel About My Girlfriend’s Abortion

We've since broken up, and I'm worried it'll affect our future relationships in ways that we don't know yet.
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Dear Therapist,

About a year ago, my girlfriend got pregnant and we decided right away that we should get an abortion. I was only 19 and she was 24. We were both still studying and could see no way of working around the situation, so it was, at the time, the best decision for us. We were both very confident about it and did it as fast as we could.

It did end our relationship, though. I was silly not to expect that, but we were overwhelmed by a sea

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