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CORRECTION: The Last of the Tiger Parents

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MY DAUGHTERS MIGHT SOMEDAY BRING HOME GRADES THAT MY FATHER WOULD HAVE REGARDED AS FAILURES. IF SO, I EMBRACE THE DECLINE.

In first grade, I arrived at my suburban elementary school as a sort of academic vaudeville trickster. My classmates stood speechless as I absorbed thick tomes on medieval history, wrote and presented research reports, and breezed through fifth-grade math problems like a bored teenager.

My teachers anointed me a genius, but I knew the truth. My non-Asian friends hadn’t spent hours marching through the snow, reciting multiplication tables. They hadn’t stood at attention at the crack of dawn reading the newspaper aloud, with each stumble earning a stinging rebuke. Like a Navy SEAL thrown into a pool of raw conscripts, at 6, I had spent much of my conscious life training for this moment.

To my authoritarian father, all has gone according to plan. I excelled in school, attending Amherst College

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