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Dear Therapist: My Brother’s Behavior Sickens Me. Should I Cut Him Off?

I can’t tolerate his attitude toward my mom, so I’m considering not talking to him anymore.

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Dear Therapist,

About 10 years ago, my mom announced she had left my dad. She later explained that one of the reasons (among many) was that he had sexually assaulted her (an assault that was never reported to authorities).

My brother has told me on numerous occasions that he doesn’t believe her sexual-assault accusation, though from conversations with my mom, it’s apparent that she is not aware of his lack of belief. I have believed her all along and find myself unable

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