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Dear Therapist: I Was an Accomplice to an Affair

And I worry that if my now-boyfriend cheated <em>with</em> me, he might cheat <em>on</em> me.
Source: Bianca Bagnarelli

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Dear Therapist,

I have been dating my boyfriend for eight months. However, we started “talking” over a year and a half ago. At the time, he had a girlfriend and they were about to buy a house. He and I just clicked immediately. We sat next to each other at work and talked all day every day and then it became physical. We started texting in December 2016 and in April 2017 he told me he was in love with me, but that he just felt stuck where he was. He ended the search for a house when he realized he was interested in me. Still, he took about 10 months to actually break up with her, out of fear and

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