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How Much Should You Know About Your Therapist's Life?

IN TODAY’S WORLD, IT’S IMPOSSIBLE FOR ANY PROFESSIONAL TO BE A BLANK SLATE. MAYBE THAT’S NOT SUCH A BAD THING.

When I was starting out as a therapist, a colleague told me what was intended to be a cautionary tale. After suffering a series of miscarriages, she was in a Starbucks when her doctor called with the news that her pregnancy wasn’t viable. Standing at the counter, she burst into heaving sobs. A patient happened to walk in, saw her hysterically crying therapist, walked out the door, canceled her next appointment and never went back to her.

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