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Desire and Fear: The Two Pillars of Relationship and Sexual Health

Desire and Fear: The Two Pillars of Relationship and Sexual Health, by Michael Charming. Photograph of someone passing a small heart to another by Kelly Sikkema
Photograph by Kelly Sikkema

Improve your relationships and ability to experience sexual pleasure by understanding how to navigate fear and desire — in and out of the bedroom

We often think of desire and fear as two completely unrelated concepts. However, understanding how these two powerful life forces interact is key to developing both deep intimacy and sexual pleasure — the cornerstones of healthy relationships.  

Desire impacts the people, places, and activities we engage in; it is also central to many facets of our lives: sex, relationships, career, family, and so forth.

When most people think about desire, they think about sexual desire

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