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Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity

Written by Peggy Orenstein

Narrated by Peggy Orenstein


Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity

Written by Peggy Orenstein

Narrated by Peggy Orenstein

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4.5/5 (42 ratings)
Length:
7 hours
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Released:
Jan 7, 2020
ISBN:
9780062984715
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Description

The author of the groundbreaking New York Times bestsellers Girls & Sex and Cinderella Ate My Daughter now turns her focus to the sexual lives of young men, once again offering "both an examination of sexual culture and a guide on how to improve it" (Washington Post).

Peggy Orenstein's Girls & Sex broke ground, shattered taboos, and launched conversations about young women's right to pleasure and agency in sexual encounters. It also had an unexpected effect on its author: Orenstein realized that talking about girls is only half the conversation. Boys are subject to the same cultural forces as girls—steeped in the same distorted media images and binary stereotypes of female sexiness and toxic masculinity—which equally affect how they navigate sexual and emotional relationships.

In Boys & Sex, Peggy Orenstein dives back into the lives of young people to once again give voice to the unspoken, revealing how young men understand and negotiate the new rules of physical and emotional intimacy.

Drawing on comprehensive interviews with young men, psychologists, academics, and experts in the field, Boys & Sex dissects so-called locker room talk; how the word "hilarious" robs boys of empathy; pornography as the new sex education; boys' understanding of hookup culture and consent; and their experience as both victims and perpetrators of sexual violence. By surfacing young men's experience in all its complexity, Orenstein is able to unravel the hidden truths, hard lessons, and important realities of young male sexuality in today's world. The result is a provocative and paradigm-shifting work that offers a much-needed vision of how boys can truly move forward as better men.

Supplemental enhancement PDF accompanies the audiobook.

Publisher:
Released:
Jan 7, 2020
ISBN:
9780062984715
Format:
Audiobook

Also available as...

Also available as bookBook

About the author

Peggy Orenstein is the New York Times bestselling author of Boys & Sex, Don’t Call Me Princess, Girls & Sex, Cinderella Ate My Daughter, Waiting for Daisy, Flux, and Schoolgirls. A contributing writer for the New York Times Magazine and Afar, she has also been published in New York, The Atlantic, The New Yorker, and other publications. Her TED Talk has received over five million views. She lives in Northern California with her husband and daughter. 


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  • (5/5)
    This is essential reading for influencing societal progress on this topic.
  • (4/5)
    Both sad and hopeful about the difficulties that her interviewees—American boys, mostly middle-class or wealthy, but varying in race, sexuality, and cis/trans status—face in navigating sexuality. I was most struck by the comment that they’re getting a clear message to “respect women” but no guidance in what that means, as if we handed car keys to teens and told them not to hit pedestrians. Orenstein also suggests, following Dan Savage, that gay sexuality holds important clues for healthy sexuality of any kind: in a same-sex encounter, she suggests, nothing specific is supposed to happen by default, so a key question must be asked: “what are you into?” Boys and girls generally, she argues, should be taught to ask and answer that question, and hear their partners’ answers.
  • (5/5)
    This is very important, especially for parents of boys.