Jungian psychologist Virginia Beane Rutter offers a wide variety of everyday things women can do to strengthen a girl's sense of self and ensure confidence and healthy self-esteem throughout her lifetime. Each chapter highlights an aspect of the passage from infancy to adolescence -- a practical response to Reviving Ophelia.
Virginia Beane Rutter is a psychotherapist and Jungian analyst on the faculty of the C.G. Jung Institute in San Francisco. She is married and the mother of two children, and has a private practice in Mill Valley, California. Her previous books are Woman Changing Woman and Celebrating Girls.read more
We should all celebrate our daughters in all stages of their lives, and this book tells us this over and over. It gives examples of customs done in other cultures to celebrate a girl's first menstrual bleeding, for example, and urges us (Western moms and dads) to do something similar. While I don't disagree with the books intentions, I felt that almost everything in it could have been said in a 20 page pamphlet. I tried to picture who the target audience is for this book, and I think it may be useful, on an elementary level, to some single fathers if they really are clueless as to how to support their daughters' spirit.read more
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How can we help girls find confidence in their femininity in a postfeminist society wherein they continue to be shortchanged both emotionally and developmentally? Rutter, a Jungian analyst in California, suggests that some answers lie in ritual and celebration. Many of her recommendations reflect actual rites of passage practiced by Native Americans and other tribal peoples. Rutter sometimes adopts a melodramatic New Age stance, e.g., her glowing report on a "group menarche ceremony" at something called the Menstrual Health Foundation: Coming of Age Project. She devotes an entire chapter to promoting water-related activities (from bubble baths to river rafting) to help young women get in touch with their "watery essence," which is her metaphor for "the ebb and flow" of feminine emotions. Yet, underlying even the loopiest prescriptions is a perceptive mind. Rutter adeptly suggests ways mothers can use traditionally feminine pastimesshopping, storytelling, even brushing or braiding a child's hairto instill in a daughter a strong sense of self. An empathic (and savvy) mother, she asserts, can even "reorient" a teenage daughter's avidity for makeup and clothes so that it is no longer a desperate urge to be accepted by her peer group, but a means to assert an idiosyncratic sense of self. (Aug.) Health (c) Copyright PWxyz, LLC. All rights reserved