From the Publisher
We all want a bright future that will create less suffering and more happiness. However, this depends upon having the ability to create a healthy future by making good decisions guided by healthy values and boundaries. Sadly, most people make decisions based upon a flawed thinking process controlled by impulsive needs, wants, and desires that only cause emotional suffering. This becomes the dysfunctional life nobody wanted. Symptoms include: anxiety, dissatisfaction, frustration and anger. A common solution to alleviate this misery is to develop a dependency on destructive behaviors as a means to numb their emotional misery. This does provide short term relief, but is not a cure for the problem. Over time, this dysfunctional life gets progressively worse and people get pushed to their limit and become mentally, emotionally and spiritually bankrupt. Out of desperation caused by our flawed thinking process, our naughty little habits become addictions and our emotional misery is taken to a whole new level of intensity because our addictions take control of our thinking and decision-making. The result will be a life long experience of emotional misery.
We have been programmed to believe that success is defined by having a good job, making a lot of money, accumulate a lot toys, and having fun. This is the image of happiness that we grow up with and it all sounded so easy. Yet, this couldn't be farther from the truth. The real world is messy, complicated, difficult and toxic and this mass confusion consumes people. Clearly, our flawed thinking process does not prepare us to prevent and minimize stressful problems and to find solutions for our problems. The mind that created the problem is unable to find a solution and the experience is more suffering. Who needs this!
The development of a flawed thinking process begins during childhood and becomes the only way we know how to think. It creates our reality and we make decisions according to our reality. If our reality is inaccurate, our decisions will be the wrong decisions and thus, more problems.
Flawed Thinking Process
Flawed + Flawed + Flawed = Bad
Self Definition Emotional Mindset Decision
The purpose of this workbook is to provide an overview of how our flawed thinking process is created. Written exercises provide an assessment of risk caused by a flawed thinking process. Then co-dependency and addiction will be examined and the related emotional misery.
Most people reach a point of knowing they are experiencing more misery and very little if any happiness and would like to improve their life, but just don't know how or what to change. The process begins with believing one is not a victim and has the power to create a healthy life. Then one can begin the process of creating a new and effective thinking process.
An Effective Thinking Process
Self Definition (Ingegrity, Dignity)
Effective Emotional System
Life Outcome = Happiness
The first task is to examine the concept of happiness because this is what we are trying to experience and we must know what it is. Then work from top to bottom beginning with addressing past unresolved emotional issues, which allows the real you to come into being. Then to learn how to create an effective emotional system that allows one to efficiently process feeling and emotions. Then to create an effective mindset that allows one to create an accurate reality. Lastly, to learn specific skills as: anger management skills, and communications skills. Exercises are provided that will help the reader create an effective thinking process that will empower one to make good decisions based on healthy values and boundaries. Thus, the creation of a healthy lifestyle, a positive vision and an enriched life. If not now, when? Your future depends on this!