The Get More Sex, Get Better Sex Course: Week 4

The Get More Sex, Get Better Sex Course - Week 4

Iain Littlejohn

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This course contains advice and information relating to sexual health and interpersonal well-being. It is advisory only and is not intended to replace medical advice. It should be used to supplement, rather than replace, regular care by both your own and your partner’s doctor or mental health professional. Whilst all efforts have been made to ensure the accuracy of the information contained in this course as of the date of publication the information and opinions contained herein should not be used or relied upon without the consultation and advice from a physician. The publisher and the author disclaim any responsibility for the accuracy of such information and opinions and are not responsible for any adverse effects or consequences that may occur as a result from any use, reliance or application of the methods suggested in this course.

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Table of contents

Summary of Day's 1-15

Day 16 - Main Content

Day 16 - Summary and exercises

Day 17 - Main Content

Day 17 - Summary and exercises

Day 18 - Main Content

Day 18 - Summary and exercises

Day 19 - Main Content

Day 19 - Summary and exercises

Day 20 - Summary and exercises

What's next: Weeks 5-8

Appendix: Massage

Swedish Massage

Sensual Massage

Appendix: Scripts

About the author

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Summary of Day's 1-15

Let's start off this week's topics with a summary of what's been covered in the previous 3 week's eBooks…

Day 1 - was an introductory day where we looked at; how the course worked, how long it was going to take you to get more sex, what it was going to take for you to achieve success, what assumptions the course made about you and a discussion around whether or not you should be letting your partner know that you are taking the course.

On Days 2 to 4 we started the course properly; beginning by covering what I call the Stop It Now’s. These were made up of 60 suggestions of things that I suggest that you ought NOT to be doing if you want more sex, because if you were doing them then they might well be putting your partner off of sex with you. Examples of things that the course suggests that you stop are to; quit pursuing your partner for sex, stop being angry, quit arguing, quit taking your partner for granted, quit asking your partner if she’s in the mood as a way to seduce her, to quit controlling and manipulating her, etc. These were all good solid relationship improvers.

Having told you what to stop - Day 5 of the course started to look at the suggestions for things that you should start doing if you want more sex. Having taken you down with the stop it now’s, today we started on building you back up. We covered just two start topics to help you get more - 'Creating a connection with your partner' and 'Becoming a good listener'.

Appendices - In the appendices section of Week 1 you were also introduced to the two topics of; Causes of low sexual desire and Talking about sex with your partner.

Days 6-8: Days 6, 7 and 8 continued looking at more suggestions for things that you should start doing if you want more sex. Having taken you down with all of the 'Stop It Now’s', these 2 days continued building you back up. We covered topics that helped you with things like; creating a connection with your partner, becoming a good listener, appreciating and valuing what your partner does for you, your household and your family, giving your partner your time and helping out around the house. And for the non-believers we brought each suggestion back to why you purchased the course in the first place – ie why each of the start it now suggestions will help you get more sex.

Day 8: On day 8 we looked at 20 self-improvements which will hopefully have helped you look better (both mentally and physically) to your partner in order to assist you on your journey to getting more sex with her. Topics such as; becoming more of an old romantic, sorting your wardrobe, becoming a flirt with your partner, hygiene and looking after yourself, etc. Day 8 also saw the introduction of the ‘Getting better at sex’ tips, 61 of them in total, which from day 8 onwards are starting to be given to you two tips per day until the end of the course.

Day 9: On day 9 we started looking at how you can get your partner to start thinking about sex with you more, a key step in the process. Today was all about introducing this seriously important concept to you and getting you going with it. We also started looking at what I call the ‘Daily tasks’, these are the things that I suggested that you should be doing daily in order to make it way easier for you to get sex when you want it. From this point on in the course the daily tips are now being given to you two per day in order to make it easier for you to learn and practise them in the exercises.

Day 10: On day 10 we started looking at the suggested weekly to-do’s, mainly getting you working on the concept of having regular ‘date nights’ with your partner as a way of reconnecting and giving you the perfect opportunity and conditions for you to initiate sex. You also got introduced to the concept of improving the conversations you have with your partner, giving you suggestions for conversations that will help you to effectively ‘chat your partner up’, because those normal, dull old conversations that you’ve potentially been having weren’t really overly effective seduction techniques.

Two appendices were included with the eBook for week 2: Tips for meaningful conversations with your partner and Erotic media to get you both in the mood

Day 11: In day 11 we kept on going with what we'd been working on in Day 10 - looking at the suggested weekly to-do’s, and the concept of having regular ‘date nights’ with your partner as a way of reconnecting and giving you the perfect opportunity and conditions for you to initiate sex.

Days 12 to 13: These two days were all about giving you some suggested monthly to-do’s. We looked at some regular monthly to-do’s that you really should be doing, a number of suggestions that will give you great opportunities for sex and finally some that will more than likely lead to sex.

Day 14: Was about just two topics; firstly how you could create opportunities for sex with your partner, and secondly how you could spot good opportunities for sex with your partner.

Day 15: On day 15 we started looking at how you could go about getting your partner into bed when you want to, how you could start to call the shots for once! You got introduced to the process of how to relax, then romance your partner and how to undertake a little foreplay on her mind.

Appendix - Getting better at sex: This appendix gave you all 61 of the ‘Getting better at sex’ tips in one place. In the main course document the tips are spread out, two per day from Day 8 onwards, so this appendix was given to you in order to make it easier for you to review all of the tips in one place. They were all categorised out, so you could find the tips you want a lot easier.

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Introducing Day 16, Week 4

Hello and welcome to day 16. Today we’re going to continue looking at the foreplay her mind topic. Then we’re going to look at the second major topic for the day – which is to undertake the second stage of foreplay – with some touch - on her body. That’s right! We’re finally going hands on! Imbetween both topics though I’ll give you some tips for what to look out for to ensure that she’s ready for some touch foreplay and some additional body language pointers to be on the lookout for.

Before we do that though let’s have a quick recap of yesterday and let’s also take a look at how you got on with the exercises that you were set…

Summarizing what we learnt yesterday

We started off yesterday by looking at the next stage in the seduction process - which was to relax your partner - and we looked at some ideas on how you can help her to relax.

Secondly we looked at some ideas on how you can romance your partner when you want sex. We also looked at how you can use romantic conversation to transition your chats with your partner towards topics with 'sexual charge'.

Moving on to the exercises - how did you get on with communicating with your partner better? Did you help to make her feel included in what's going on with you and what you are up to yesterday?

And how did you get on with the second exercise? The listening one. This was all about trying out some reflecting. How did it go? Do you think it helped your partner to see that you were listening to her that little bit better?

So then, your third exercise yesterday was to try out one of the relaxing ideas. Did you give one a go? How did it go down?

And your fourth exercise was to try out a romantic gesture or thing to do for her. Did you try something? Or have you got something planned for later this week? How did the romantic gesture go? Do you think that it got your partner closer to being in the mood for sex with you? Perhaps try another out tonight.

Fifth, I asked you to go and have a romantic conversation with your partner. So - how did this go down? Did you transition to it gradually? Could you see the difference in having this sort of conversation to the ordinary / dull / everyday ones?

And how did the foreplay her mind tip go that you chose?

The next exercise was the final kissing tip – so – did you try different stuff out? Were you that little bit more adventurous? Did you try holding your partners head whilst you kissed her?

Foreplay stage 1 – work on her mind continued…

Yesterday we looked at some ideas for conversations that you can have with your partner to start getting her into the right place. I’ve said this a number of times already, but it’s so important that it’s well worth repeating – you’ve got to try really hard to avoid talking about subjects that are boring, depressing, or just too damned serious. Otherwise how on earth are you possibly going to seduce your partner into bed? Conversation topics such as what colour shall we paint the spare room? or what shall we cook for when Margaret and David come round for supper? just aren’t good seduction techniques!

With that in mind then, I’d like us to look at some possible questions and conversation topics that will get your partner thinking sexually…

Before we get into the ideas though, a few ground rules for the next stage of your conversations…

You’ve got to transition across to these conversations and have them in the right way - otherwise you could make things worse. We’ll get to some examples of how to do this in the right way when we look at the possible topics below.

Try your best not to make it downright obvious what you’re doing when you transition your conversations to this next stage. Be as natural about it as you can be – practise if you need to.

When you talk with your partner what you are going for needs to be the equivalent of her ‘day-dreaming’ about sex. It’s got to be that subtle. Hence the reason why practise is good here!

Force yourself to have conversations that will up your partner’s mood, not ones that will be downers. Just do whatever you’ve got to do to have different conversations from the ones you normally have – prepare, revise, plot, plan, etc.

Okay then, let’s get on with some possible conversation topics for this stage…