Socialite - Make Your Life Fabulous and Enjoy What Life Has to Offer

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Socialite

Make Your Life Fabulous and Enjoy What Life Has To Offer

COLLIN MILES

Rags to Riches Entertainment Group

An imprint of Aauvi House Publishing Group

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Published by Aauvi House Publishing Group at Smashwords

Copyright 2013 Collin Miles

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Titles by Collin Miles

Socialite – Make Your Life Fabulous and Enjoy What Life Has to Offer

Home and Car Impressions – Harmonizing Your Home and Car with Your Lifestyle

Entertaining / Holidays – with Enthusiasm, Taste, and Style

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Contents

Book Cover

Title Page

Copyright

Introduction

1 – How to Live Like a Socialite

2 – Private Parties

3 – Charity Events

4 – Mastering the Arts

5 – Fashion Designers and Editors

6 – Publishers Row

7 – Exclusive Fitness Centers and Personal Trainers

8 – Sportsmanship and Teamwork

9 – The Press

10 – Mastering the Art of Networking

Closing Remarks

End of Book

About the Author

About the Publisher

Books by Aauvi House

Excerpts by Aauvi House

Credits

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Introduction

In its brief history, Aauvi House Publishing Group has become the new it marketers of information-based lifestyle solutions in the self-help and how-to markets for all age groups. Reinforcing a belief that living a planned extraordinarily fulfilled lifestyle is of paramount importance to its readers.

The Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series is a first, of a twenty-one book series, that will be revised and re-launched periodically with all new material. These books feature famous themed cities represented by the book covers and include an introduction comprising a short story about its featured city. Annually, the series guides will be rolled up as chapter inserts into a single book and sold during the holiday season.

Anyone who desires the secrets to A-list living, values their appearance, is concerned about lifestyle or just needs more information can benefit from reading and continually referring back to the Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series. Each book – practical in its approach – is full of facts that teach you how to make the most of your life, how to achieve peak performance, and how to maintain general health. In short, the Aauvi House Publishing Group, Rags to Riches Entertainment imprint’s ability to offer its readers a more complete and concise migration path to an extraordinary red carpet lifestyle, just got better.

Information Is Timeless

Everyone holds a secret desire to be part of the A-list seeking a confident, fashionable, and extraordinary life. These series guides make transformation routine to which all men and women will relate.

Actionable Strategies

The Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series contains specific strategies in each book and edition that can transform lives. It details social skills of boosting confidence, replacing bad habits, and re-inventing one’s self. These books will appeal to professionals, parents, and generations of young adults.

About the Authors

The Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series are written by a team of contributing authors, all of whom have a witty, quirky, slapstick appeal.

About Our Cover Story – Manhattan, New York

Since jet setting is part of such a grand lifestyle, the Insiders’ Lifestyle Guides series theme includes a cultural or travel experience with every book. That is, between promotional junkets, film festivals and red carpet appearances, celebrities can rack up as many frequent-flyer miles as they do trips to rehab. And so can you, once you have an insider bird’s eye view of the possibilities.

Whether traveling by plane or virtually by way of these pages, our cover story, Manhattan New York, is highlighted by its magnificent skyline. A commercial, financial, and cultural center of the city, Manhattan has many famous landmarks, tourist attractions, museums, and universities. Manhattan also has the largest central business district in the United States, is the site of both the New York Stock Exchange and NASDAQ, and is the home to the largest number of corporate headquarters in the nation.

Manhattan is the most densely populated and the oldest of the five boroughs – Manhattan, the Bronx, Brooklyn, Queens, and Staten Island – of New York City. Located primarily on the island of Manhattan at the mouth of the Hudson River, the borough is conterminous with New York County, an original county of the state of New York. The borough and county consist of Manhattan Island and several small adjacent islands: Roosevelt Island, Randall’s Island, Wards Island, Governors Island, Liberty Island, and part of Ellis Island, Mill Rock, and U Thant Island; as well as Marble Hill, a very small area on the mainland bordering the Bronx. The original city of New York began at the southern end of Manhattan, expanded northward, and then between 1874 and 1898, annexed land from surrounding counties.

New York County is the most densely populated county in the United States, and one of the most densely populated areas in the world, with a 2010 population of 1,585,873 living in a land area of 22.96 square miles or 69,464 residents per square mile, more dense than any individual American city. It is also one of the wealthiest counties in the United States, with a 2005 per capita income above 100,000. Manhattan is the third-largest of New York’s five boroughs in population, and its smallest borough in land area.

About Socialite

There is something great about A-list living and Socialite, the twelfth book of a twenty-one book series, is the first step to achieving a high society life. Ever wonder how to become a jet setting celebutant? From how to act around the wealth: to your clothes, to your manners, to your speech, to your grooming, and more. Trading in your life for a limousine.

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How to Live Like a Socialite

The socialite is on every list worth knowing. Ever wonder how to learn how to become a jet setting celebutant? Meet the socialite. She or he is just one, of the many matriarchs or patriarchs, of any given rich and envied city around the world. Can you be what it takes to be a socialite? If so, you will need to learn how to act around the wealth: to your clothes, to your manners, to your speech, to your grooming, and more.

Through these pages you will be put through a crash course in the finer things of life. From fine wine and cuisine, to fashion do’s and don’ts. You will be put through challenges to test your new social skills. In the end, you you’ll know you have made it when you have won the ultimate prize: a brand new life, a life fit for a socialite in society. All things money can’t buy.

Socialite Etiquette

Now the first thing you need to know about the life you are after is that you never get a second chance at making a first impression. Welcome to etiquette boot camp. This is a crash course given by some of the top etiquette pros. To start, fundamental principles of good manners include: respect, consideration and honesty.

Manners

Manners by their very nature adapt to the time, reports the latest, and 18th edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette. So up to date that it offers a chapter on social media and includes guidelines about Facebook, Twitter and blogs. In more than 700 pages, it advises readers how to behave in nearly every possible setting, from text messaging to enlisting household help.

And as fluid as manners are, there are still four areas that exasperate even the most patient people: reservations, formal dress codes, expressions of gratitude and gifts.

Accept the invitation, or offer your regrets, and declare your intentions as early as possible. Don’t wait for something better to come along – that’s neither nice nor considerate. Regardless of the number of guests, hosts need to know how to make people comfortable and how much food and drink to offer.

Formal evening clothes are specified on invitations as either black tie (black dinner jacket with black satin or grosgrain lapels, pants with stripe down the sides matching the lapels, pleated white shirt, black bow tie) or white tie (black tailcoat with satin lapels, pants with a stripe on the outside legs, white pique waistcoat, starched white linen shirt, white pique bow tie). For women, formal dress generally means a long dress and fine jewelry.

If someone gives you something, you should thank them – write thank you notes on personal stationery. Use graceful word beginnings and endings that merit frequent use such as please, thank you, you’re welcome, and I’m sorry.

When you are living the good life you would never go to a party without bringing a gift for the host. It doesn’t have to be anything too expensive, just something creative. Just make sure you know how to spell your host’s name.

Greeting Etiquette

The impression you make starts with the greeting you give people. It’s their first opportunity to assess your personality, your demeanor and your manners. Greeting people politely is an important skill to master both socially and in a business setting. To avoid making an unfavorable first impression, be sure that you know the proper etiquette for any situation you may encounter.

At Work

Interactions in a business setting are, generally speaking, more formal than interactions in your private life. If it is your first time meeting someone, you should stand, shake his or her hand and say, I’m glad to meet you. (The exception is if you are meeting someone in your own office, in which case you would say, I’m glad to see you.) If you have already been introduced to one another, say, It’s good to see you again, or It’s good of you to join us.

It is proper to shake hands when you are introduced to someone for the first time and any time thereafter that he or she offers a hand to you. A handshake is the only touch that is appropriate in a business setting.

Socially

If you’re meeting someone socially, Hello, Mr. Smith, Hello, John or Hi, John! are suitable greetings on the descending scale of formality. Depending upon how well you know the person, touching is also proper – anything from a handshake to a hug, if both parties are comfortable with it. If you’re unsure, wait for the other person to make the first move before initiating physical contact.

By Letter

The proper greeting in a personal letter is, Dear ____ followed by a comma. In business letters it’s a little trickier, since you may not know the name of the person to whom you’re addressing the letter. Make every effort to find out (try calling his or her company and asking, for example, Will you please tell me the name of your customer service manager?) and include his or her title in the greeting, i.e., Dear Ms. Smith, followed by a colon. If you can’t find the name you need, start the letter with the greeting, Dear Customer Service Manager or Dear Sir or Madam; the term To Whom It May Concern is no longer considered proper business etiquette.

By Machine

Etiquette has evolved to keep pace with modern living, so there are guidelines for greetings via voice mail and e-mail, too. When leaving a voice mail, start by saying, Hello, this is Jane Smith. Speak clearly and concisely and, when you are finished, give your name (and number, if applicable) again so that the recipient won’t have to replay the message if he or she’s writing down your information.

You should start a business e-mail in the same way you would start a written letter, though the greeting may be omitted in subsequent notes if your original message becomes the start of a respond to chain. The same theory holds true for private e-mails: Start with a greeting like you would in a written letter, because leaving it out can come across as abrupt or rude.

Mistakes

The purpose of etiquette is to put people at ease, so if someone makes a mistake when greeting you – or if you make a mistake in greeting someone else – there are ways to handle the situation without embarrassing anyone. If your name is mispronounced, simply say, You’re not the first person to have trouble pronouncing my name; it’s ____, then smile pleasantly and continue the conversation. If you’ve forgotten someone’s name while you’re greeting him or her, say something like, Please, remind me what your name is, I know we’ve met before. The important thing is to continue speaking pleasantly and avoid making either of you uncomfortable.

Being Well Rounded

A big part of being a socialite is being well rounded. And when you’re well rounded you just know more and have more to talk about. There are four areas to master to be considered a well rounded socialite.

Academics

Socialites are educated. Academics is simple, you need straight A’s throughout high school for Ivy League schools to even consider looking at you. What’s not as well known is the importance of connections. Colleges like students that come from schools that give them a steady stream of successful students, and they also like it when you are recommended by Alumni’s, or people who came from your school and graduated from your college choice. Bottom line, be nice to everyone! You never know when they can pull strings for you.

Sports

Socialites attend and participate in sporting events, clubs and gyms. For example, if you are good at a sport, then you might be able to get full scholarships to schools. Clubs are good to join because they keep you in shape all year round, increase your skills, scouts attend the tournaments, and you get to travel to some new places. On the downside, most clubs practice for several hours three times a week and can take a big chunk out of your week and may prove problematic when you need to cram for semester exams or work.

Volunteering

Volunteering is a must for any socialite. There is no required amount of time you need to do volunteer work, but it doesn’t look good if your philanthropy efforts are minimal.

Unique Abilities and Awards

Socialites are accomplished. For example, when applying for college, colleges like to see that you are accomplished in other things besides grades and sports to set you apart from the majority of applicants. Think about it, there are probably thousands of people applying that have good grades and play a sport.

Just get a bit serious with a hobby. For instance, if you play an instrument, participate in a few local competitions to win a trophy. Write a short story and submit it to a newspaper competition. Even act in a commercial. Anything that will make you unique and standout is important. Generally, however, you should make sure your awards and abilities are loosely tied to what you are applying to study or career: a trophy for painting a flower won’t help you much in Med School, but an award of leadership excellence training might help you get your dream job.

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Private Parties – Manners and Style

There is a distinction between a hosted and no-host event. An organization or association sometimes gives a no-host party, where you may be expected to contribute to the proceedings of the event. A hosted party, on the other hand, is one presented by an individual or firm in a private home, office, or event space where you will not be required to contribute anything to attend while participating. During a hosted party a socialite can find themselves invited back time and time again by simply exhibiting the following behaviors:

Always arrive on time. The reasonable arrival time for a party in a private home is within 15 minutes of the appointed time. Arrival time is less strict when the invitation clearly states the event is an open house within a range of times. In this case, it is best to arrive no later than within an hour of the ending time.

Always have the telephone number on hand. In case of an emergency delay, call your host to explain where you are and when you think you will arrive. This is vital in the case of formal dinner parties and polite for other events as well.

Say hello and good-bye. Upon arriving at a party, be sure to locate the host to extend your greetings and appreciation for being invited. Then find the host again before leaving to say good-bye and to acknowledge the wonderful party.

Bring a house gift. It is always a nice gesture to present a small gift of appreciation to the host of a party in a private home. However, do not ask the host to open your gift in front of you or expect it to be used at the event. Let the host set it aside for a more appropriate time. It is not necessary to bring a gift to a hosted party held at the office or event space.

Sing for their supper. One contribution you should make at a hosted party is to participate. Help make the vent a success by introducing yourself to others and engaging in conversation. Be prepared to join in whatever good-natured festivities your host has planned . . . even singing!

Eat and drink responsibly. Avoid arriving at a party hungry. If you find you have consumed too much