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    Help Yourself Get Unstuck
    Help Yourself Get Unstuck
    Help Yourself Get Unstuck
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    Help Yourself Get Unstuck

    By Ashish Antia

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    Help Yourself Get Unstuck was written as a tool to get you through the worst times of your life, to accompany you on your journey from survival to living and enjoying life.

    When you feel you are sinking in emotional and mental quicksand and you feel that there is no escape or respite from your circumstances, this very easy to read book is your friend that guides you towards choices and options available to you when you thought you had none.

    This book is not here to preach or get you on any spiritual path. It is simply written to get you to transform yourself, by making some very basic choices in order for you to be happy being yourself and get what you want for and from yourself and your life.

    This book doesn't require or demand a lot from you at this point and time of your life. All you need is to do is read it and spare a few minutes every day to work on yourself by following the easy to do exercises, visualizations, mantras and other techniques that allow you to regain control over your life and self.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherAshish Antia
    Release dateAug 2, 2012
    ISBN9781476361796
    Help Yourself Get Unstuck
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    Ashish Antia

    Ashish Antia was a lawyer who took some time off work to recover from inexplicable pains that plagued her. She went on a journey that led her as far away from any law office as possible. She never returned to a proper legal practice and choose to dedicate her life to help others heal themselves from life. At present she lives in an oasis of zen, peace and green in the middle of one of the world’s busiest, noisiest cities while attempting to find more of life to live and love.

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      Help Yourself Get Unstuck - Ashish Antia

      1. ORIGINS

      A decade or so ago, my life was pretty much all doom and gloom. Every time I felt I had extricated myself from one dramatic situation - personal or professional - I would find myself embroiled in another. It seemed that I was subjected to different degrees of persecution, injustice and pain. There were incidents that should have given me great joy and moments, that should have filled me with pride (I have pictures so I know they happened), but I have no pleasant memories from that time at all. Even as all of those wonderful things were happening to me, a part of me made the choice not to experience the positive feelings associated with them. I chose to hold on to my childhood feelings of inadequacy, pain and self-doubt instead.

      As time passed, childhood traumas should have faded and been replaced by success. But a part of me refused to forget all the hurt and pain I had experienced. I felt I had no control over the thoughts, feelings and emotions that haunted me from the past. Every time I succeeded at anything I was unable to enjoy it, as it was always tinged with feelings, thoughts, emotions and negativity from the past.

      When you allow past trauma to merge with your present circumstances, you give the past implicit permission to influence your life. You allow yourself to mentally and psychologically get stuck in the past. This affects your personality, as it alters who you are at that particular time and place of your existence. You become unclear on what you desire to be, what you want to do, and all that you stand for.

      Pessimism and negativity creep into your nature and then you find every area of your life is stuck. Your personality is affected and that takes its toll on every aspect of your life, right from your work through to your personal relationships. Everything becomes strained and difficult and you seem to be consistently unlucky. When this happens, every aspect of your life feels challenged and everything seems to be spiraling out of your control. Life begins to feel like a trap, a never-ending cycle of unhappiness that is further fuelled by the negativity you feel and express.

      If you find that you are stuck in this cycle, help is at hand. I know it feels like you’re in a tunnel with no end, like you’re trapped in emotional and psychological quicksand. You’re unsure about moving towards the light, you have even begun to doubt the existence of the light and are constantly worried that you may sink even further. You’re simply too scared to make any moves in any direction, be it in your career or your personal life and you are in limbo. I wrote this book to guide others, to remind them that there is light at the end of the tunnel, the tunnel only feels like it is never-ending, but there is a way out.

      In order to find my way out I tried very many things ranging from the scientific and logical to the spiritual, esoteric and inexplicable. From physicians and psychologists who prescribed drugs, to healers and yogis with their books, philosophies and theories, I tried it all. Fortunately I found yoga first and learnt about the power that lies dormant within each of us that can be tapped by discipline, practice, study, focus, concentration and meditation. But by far one of the most valuable things I learnt from yoga was the importance of discrimination, questioning everything until I was satisfied about its value and to detach from what I felt was not of value to me.

      It is this discriminatory power that helped me walk away with what I felt was appropriate for me. It allowed me to avoid the cults, myths and mania that entrap those seeking spiritual and esoteric knowledge. If you are treading down that path, let me help you. What you need to do is to stop looking for that saviour! It is not the guru, teacher, healer, clairvoyant, tarot reader, astrologer, Godman or anyone else who can liberate you or get you unstuck. The only one who can free you from whatever it is you are stuck in is You. You are the solution to all your problems and the only saviour. You are empowered with all it takes to be who you want and where you want in life.

      A lot of people credit someone else when they are able to get unstuck. It may be true that some guru, teacher, friend or other guided you, showed you a path to getting unstuck, but it was you who allowed them to, and it was you who actually did all that was necessary to tread the path. You did whatever it took to get unstuck and worked to attain it, so take the credit. Do acknowledge the person who showed you the path to freeing yourself but when you recommend it to others don’t forget to mention that it took a lot of work which you were willing to do and did.

      The great Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu said a journey of a thousand steps must begin with one single step. My journey to transform my life began a long time ago. I am still on that journey, and with each step forward there is a wonderful feeling of satisfaction and pride for destroying, demolishing and dismantling self-imposed punishments. At times there are missteps and there have even been a few U-turn’s, which I have learnt to accept as opportunities to learn valuable life lessons. As time passed I even learnt to love my mistakes, for each mistake made in the past has helped me avoid pitfalls in the present.

      I wrote this book to share some of the most important lessons I learnt on my journey to getting myself unstuck. I find it helps to remind myself that nothing in life is impossible - even the word ‘impossible’ is a condensed version of ‘I’ M POSSIBLE’. Just imagine what an amazing world we would live in if each and every one of us were able to break the chains of whatever limits us, forgive, let go and just be POSSIBLE. The power to make the world a better place is in your hands, you can do it now by changing the only thing that lies in your power to change - YOU.

      2. HOW TO USE THIS BOOK

      I am as much a student of life as the next person, and I do not tell people how to live their lives. This book is meant to be a guide for you to use, a tool to help you help yourself. In order to successfully use this book you will need:

      The urge to help yourself get out of the situation you are in; and

      Willingness to work through the exercises in this book, which consist of visualization, guided meditation, list making and planning.

      I recommend reading the book once in its entirety, so you understand the journey you’re about to embark on. When you read it again you may choose to apply what is in the book to your life, but don’t hesitate to work with it at your own pace.

      Every chapter links with the one before and after it. When re-reading the book it is best to read sequentially, rather than jumping into certain parts that you feel you need to focus on. There are simple exercises you are required to work through in every chapter. Every one of them is easy and at most they should take no more than a few minutes, the exception being the drawing up of lists and plans. Each exercise has a specific purpose, so don’t skip even one. At times you may feel you wish to skip certain steps you find hard or irrelevant. Be brave and steadfast in working though them and remind yourself that there is value in every one of them. If you are unable to do any exercise exactly as it is prescribed, you can modify it until you are comfortable with it, and then attempt to do it in the manner prescribed.

      All the salient information from each chapter has been summarized and condensed under the heading A Reminder to enable you to recap and review it. If you feel the need to review a certain chapter when you are pressed for time revert to the Reminder, which should tide you over until you can reread the entire chapter.

      The last thing you will find in every chapter is a Mantra. Every chapter ends with a different mantra, which affirms something relevant to the chapter to which it relates. Don’t let the word Mantra overwhelm you. In the context that mantras are set out in this book, they have no religious significance. They are simply motivational statements that can be chanted, sung, repeated mentally or written when you feel that you need an extra push to carry on.

      If you know someone who is stuck, you can use the principles laid out in this book to help them break free from their cycle of the never-ending traumas that consume them. Or you can gift them this book.

      Remember, this book is a guide. There is no deadline or timeline within which you need to get from one chapter to another. If you are in a book club or are reading this book at the same time as your friends and loved ones, and they have moved on with their issues at a faster rate than you, do not be tempted to compete with them. The aim of this book is to guide you to resolve your own issues once and for all. So even before you start the book you must acknowledge that you are unique, as are your problems, and you need to work through your issues at your own pace.

      Be kind and patient with yourself. Patience is a valuable virtue and it will be of great use to you as you make your way through this book. If you find you are not a very patient person this book will help you develop the virtue of patience.

      I urge you to look at your life with this book as your guide, and I hope you choose to dismantle your self-imposed limitations, and free yourself of the way you perceive and treat yourself. You deserve the best of you, and to be able to tap into the best of you at will - and you can do it. So start reading and working your way through this book.

      Reminder:

      This book works on two principles, self-help and working on the guidelines in the book, to reach your goals.

      When working through this book remember, it is your guide, not a quest that has a deadline. Deal with every one of your issues at your pace. You and your problems are unique.

      Work through each exercise as every one of them has a specific effect to help you get out of the situation and predicament you find yourself in..

      Be patient, work hard and look forward to getting unstuck and living the life you want and deserve.

      MANTRA

      I am the key to resolving all my problems.

      3. THE ME PHENOMENA

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