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The Extraordinary Man: Reconnect to Your Masculine Power To Achieve Purpose, Freedom & Wealth

The Extraordinary Man: Reconnect to Your Masculine Power To Achieve Purpose, Freedom & Wealth

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The Extraordinary Man: Reconnect to Your Masculine Power To Achieve Purpose, Freedom & Wealth

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194 pages
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Released:
May 21, 2019
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9781948787765
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If You Don’t Claim Extraordinary, Ordinary Claims You! What does it mean to be an Extraordinary Man? What does it mean to live an extraordinary life, and why should you care to find out? 



The simple answer is that becoming an Extraordinary Man is the only way to achieve true joy and happiness. That process of becoming involves living passionately, feeling excited about life and prioritizing a life of abundance, meaning and deep fulfillment. 


But what is at stake if you do not pursue an extraordinary life? If you don’t claim Extraordinary, ordinary claims you! 


An ordinary man lives a mediocre life defined by surviving instead of thriving, where things maybe just OK, but are hardly ever great. Ordinary is where work is an emotionally-draining necessity, where relationships are a challenge and where finances are never too far away from going flat. 


At the heart of creating and living an extraordinary life is the process of becoming an Extraordinary Man. The good news is that it’s a lot easier than you might think! In order to have more, we must first become more and The Extraordinary Man lays out the principles and practices that can change your life - literally overnight. 


Each new habit, each new strategy applied changes your life for the better. Adopting these time-tested and proven principles will create extraordinary results for you and, just as importantly, those around you like your family and loved ones. 


All men know deep down that they have more to give, they know that deep down they are powerful. But on the surface, anything that blocks our masculine power prevents us from accessing our innate powers to create, to love, and to live life to the fullest. 


It’s time to leave behind the ordinary and become your best self; to fully become The Extraordinary Manthat has always lived inside of you!

Released:
May 21, 2019
ISBN:
9781948787765
Format:
Book

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The Extraordinary Man - Arthur Magoulianiti

Introduction

The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.

Jimmy Johnson

The prevailing standard of the society we live in today is one of mediocrity. People settle for the ordinary or the average, even when it’s not what they really desire. Most people are merely trying to get by in life, hanging on, day to day, month to month, hoping for things to change yet doing little that will actually change their trajectory and the inevitable, mediocre life it leads to.

Many are working hard, really hard, and yet still seem unable to break through that perceived wall that is keeping them from the life they want to have. They are surviving but certainly not thriving, living a life where things are just OK but hardly ever great.

Most men are not being extraordinary nor living extraordinary lives.

Does this make them bad people? Of course not; however, it does come at an exorbitant cost to them and their families—in challenging and failed relationships, difficult financial situations, and work that is uninspiring, routine, and boring, all out of a necessity to pay the bills, not because it is something they inspired or love to do.

It comes at a cost of unfulfilled potential, unhappiness, and of an accumulating sense of frustration, anger, and defeat. For many men, an alarmingly increasing amount it seems, the suffering, the shame, and the pain becomes just too much, and they choose to give up. They check out of life. It is tragic, yet it is avoidable.

The reality is that it doesn’t need to be this way. Being extraordinary doesn’t require some gigantic and herculean effort or achievement. All it requires is a slight shift in mindset, a few degrees difference in how we view life and how we show up; it’s doing just a little bit extra over a consistent basis, and that little extra results in an exponential shift in results over time.

Being extraordinary also isn’t something reserved for the lucky ones who may have been blessed to be born with certain talents and skills, or who grew up in a loving and nurturing environment, or even those who came from a wealthy background.

In fact, where you came from, what you have experienced, and what you have achieved so far in your life has little to do with what you are capable of achieving in the future, unless you allow it to. You are not your past. What you have done in the past has got you here. The way you showed up, the decisions you have made, and the actions you have taken created the reality that you call your life today; however, what you create tomorrow can be entirely different, as each day is a blank canvas to create something new.

Changing your reality to achieve different and better results will require you to change your thinking, to grow in ability and skill, to take a different set of actions; yet all of this is well within your capability and only needs that little extra. While the mindset shift required may be extraordinary, the actions aren’t and, in most cases, you don’t even have to work harder.

In fact, when you are taking the right steps and doing things in the right way, your life becomes simpler, you end up working less, and you earn more. Things just seem to flow, and all your actions appear to be inspired. You get out of your own way, and then one day you wake up and you suddenly realize that you are living your dream life.

It is not a fairy tale story; I am surrounded by people living this type of life, and I too am fortunate to be living this way. It wasn’t that I had the money to create this life; at twenty-six years old, I emigrated from South Africa to the United Kingdom with just 3000 pounds to my name, and half of that went towards rent in the first week!

It is not that I started life with any particular outstanding talents or gifts either, but I did have a hunger to create a better life than what I had, in all areas. If there was one thing I would say you need as a minimum to begin this journey, it would be to have a hunger to become the best you can be and to create the life of your dreams.

It is a hunger that won’t be satiated by complacency and mediocrity, nor by doing the bare minimum to just get by. You can only fill this void by intentionally, methodically, and progressively becoming the man you know deep down you are. And by reconnecting to this powerful man and remembering who you truly are, a force of nature, you can go out to create an extraordinary life.

Make a decision and commitment right now; decide this is for you; decide that you absolutely deserve to enjoy this type of life; and decide that you will do what it takes, for you and your family, and become extraordinary.

If we want to have more, we have to first become more. We cannot expect to have more if we are not prepared to grow more. In martial arts we say that in a fight, you don’t rise to the level of your expectation; you fall to the level of your training.

Likewise, in life, we fall to the level of the habits we develop. If we have strong habits, then they will see us right; however, if we have bad habits, instead of empowering us on a daily basis to produce great results, they will be disempower us, leading to a less than extraordinary life.

A successful life, an extraordinary life, is created by consistently stringing together successful days, one after the other, and how we create a successful day is by ensuring we show up daily with strong, empowering habits, principles, strategies, and practices.

It begins with having a clear vision of who we want to be, how we want to show up, and what we want to stand for. We need a map, a blueprint, a vision of the man we want to be and to create. Clarity is power, and we need to be intentional about what it is we are setting out to create.

We then have to assume total responsibility for becoming that man and creating the life that we want. We cannot expect that someone will just hand it to us. It is totally up to us; it is in our hands, and we have to act accordingly.

Growth and challenge are the next steps. Without growth and expanding our abilities, mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually, we can’t ascend the ladder of success. Constant, never-ending growth in all these areas is paramount, and in order to grow, we need to challenge ourselves and get used to being uncomfortable because comfort is the nemesis of growth.

It will require discipline, the discipline and the consistency to do what initially might seem difficult to do, but that will over time produce the growth and the results we are after. If we only do what is comfortable, that soon becomes uncomfortable, yet when we do the uncomfortable, that soon becomes comfortable. The discipline to keep doing what needs doing will begin to build the momentum that will eventually pull you forward.

Change requires energy; it requires a sound body and mind, and so we need to ensure that we are gifting our bodies the exercise, the nutrition, and the recovery that they need to deliver the best results. Life is a marathon, not a sprint, and so we need to maintain high levels of energy, of health, of clear thinking, which is only possible if we prioritize our health.

Creating abundance in all areas of our life, not just our finances, is the goal; however, we need to have a solid base to build on, and for that to happen, we need to have a certain level of wealth that allows the freedom to explore the best that life has to offer without being restrained by scarcity.

All this begins to lead us to becoming fully present in our lives, not stuck in the past or anxious about the future, both of which lead to suffering. It is important to be truly present in every moment and with the people around you. We live in the age of distraction, and so developing your presence, especially with people in your life, sets you on a whole other level.

It’s the people in our lives that enrich it and help us create unforgettable experiences, and so developing our relationships is key, whether it is surrounding ourselves with high-quality men who genuinely want the best for us or creating that intimate relationship with that very special person to share what can only be shared between two deeply connected, passionate, and loving individuals.

Being consistent is the key, which we require to create the momentum to overcome the inertia that keeps us stuck. That happens by cleaning up our incompletions and our agreements, to have a clear track ahead, and to remain in integrity by doing what we know we have to do as well as to what we have committed to do.

Finally, true fulfillment comes from having a cause or mission that we are aligned with that is bigger than us, something we can throw ourselves into, that we can contribute to, and where we can create a real impact.

When you combine all these ideas and strategies and implement them daily, you will become extraordinary, and the results that you will begin to create will also be extraordinary.

My deepest desire is for you to embrace and connect to the powerful man that you are, to reconnect to your masculine power to achieve purpose, freedom, and wealth, and by doing so, become an Extraordinary Man living an extraordinary life.

I wish you good fortune in this journey of yours and thank you for allowing me to be part of it. I am humbled, grateful, and at your service.

Let’s begin.

CHAPTER 1:

Modelling Masculinity

Masculinity is not something given to you, but something you gain.

And you gain it by winning small battles with honour.

— Norman Mailer

What does it mean to be a man, to be masculine, to be manly? What are the qualities of an authentic and whole man and how can we fully embrace these qualities to become the best men we can possibly be, to become an Extraordinary Man and by doing so, creating and living an extraordinary life for ourselves and the people we love, a life that is filled with personal fulfillment, love, joy, health and prosperity?

After all, isn’t this ultimately what we really want? To live the best life possible, to do something we love which truly fulfills us, to love and be loved, to enjoy abundance of wealth, health and time to do the things that we enjoy, to positively impact and contribute to the world around us. This is definitely my aim and given the fact that you are reading this book, I am guessing it is yours as well, or very close to it.

To do this though, to become an Extraordinary Man living an extraordinary life, the simple fact is that we must first become more, we must become better, we have to step up and out of the sea of sameness that is our society today, first by raising our awareness of what that actually means and then following through by adopting news skills, attitudes and disciplines.

It begins by getting clear and creating a vision of the Man we want to become and then doing the work to become that man.

As a starting point on this journey then, we need to develop a better understanding of what it means to be a man and then build on that foundation to develop our ultimate vision. A good a place as any to begin is to look up the definition of what masculinity is. According to the Oxford dictionary, masculinity and masculine means:

Qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men.

‘handsome, muscled, and driven, he’s a prime example of masculinity’

Having qualities or appearance traditionally associated with men.

‘he is outstandingly handsome and robust, very masculine’

The definitions above mention a couple attributes with a focus on physical appearance. They don’t really help us to accurately define what it really means to be a man or masculine. If anything, they provide a very stereotypical, outdated, shallow and limited view on what masculinity really is.

If we then dig deeper and look around in our world today to try answer this question, we could naturally consider the many examples of men who are in the leading roles in our communities and society as a whole, whether this be on the political stage, in the business arena, in sports and popular culture, in the military or in very own communities and families, with the closest example of a nan most us have being our very own fathers.

However, if we consider these examples of men, do we find the in them the qualities of what it takes to be a man, let alone an Extraordinary Man? Can we honestly say that most of the examples of men out there truly embody the qualities of masculinity that resonate with us as true authentic masculine traits that we would be comfortable to model to improve and enhance our lives and the lives of those we care for as well as passing the traits down to our sons?

The truth is the picture is very confusing because the current reality of society that we experience daily is very disturbing and confused. Of course, good men can be found everywhere but the sad truth is that most of what we experience, what we hear about and what we are exposed to, is anything but good or worthy of modeling.

When we tune into the news, we witness men behaving atrociously on a daily basis. On the other hand, through TV and film, we have men portrayed as nothing more than bumbling, lazy, incompetent buffoons on the one extreme or raping, murdering psychopaths on the other. Deriving a positive meaning to model from all this for most men is near impossible and this is one of the reasons why men feel they cannot win.

Looking closer to home, many men may have been fortunate enough to have their fathers around while growing up and

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