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331 -Developing Interpersonal Effectiveness Self Esteem: Self-Esteem Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes Executive Director, AllCEUs Objectives ~ The Nature of Self-Esteem ~ Identifying and Disarming the Critic ~ Creating an Accurate Self Assessment ~ Identifying Cognitive Distortions ~ Developing Compassion ~

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Self-Esteem
Presented by: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes
Executive Director, AllCEUs
Objectives
~ The Nature of Self-Esteem
~ Identifying and Disarming the Critic
~ Creating an Accurate Self Assessment
~ Identifying Cognitive Distortions
~ Developing Compassion
~ Shaking the Shoulds
~ Handling Mistakes
~ Responding to Criticism
~ Goal Setting
~ Core Beliefs
~ Building Self Esteem in Children
The Nature of Self-Esteem
~ How you feel about yourself in contrast to who you think you “should” be
~ The more rejecting we are of ourselves, the more
~ Distress we experience
~ We seek external validation
~ In order to develop healthy relationships people need to feel good about themselves
Benefits of Strong Self Esteem
~ Stable moods
~ Ability to set healthy boundaries
~ Stronger sense of self-confidence
~ Improved relationships
~ Less stress and feelings of emptiness
Where Does It Come From
~ Positive Regard (Direct & Indirect)
~ Media
~ Family
~ Friends
~ Self
What Do I Value
~ 5 Admirable People
~ Identify 5 people you admire.
~ What qualities do you admire about them
~ For each quality, explain why it is admirable
~ What do you wish was different about them?
The Pathological Critic
~ Arsenal of shoulds
~ Origin of the Critic: Conditions of Worth
~ Why you listen to the critic
~ Catching your critic
~ Talking back
Accurate Self-Assessment
~ Self-Concept inventory
~ Listing your strengths and weaknesses
~ Developing a new self-description
~ Celebrating your strengths
Miracle Question — Activity
~ Based on your (revised) ideal self
~ If you woke up tomorrow with a strong self esteem, what would it be like? What would be different? The same?
~ In your relationships
~ In how you handle stress
~ In your mood
~ In your job, etc.
Cognitive Distortions
~ The Distortions and Combating Them
~ Magnification/Exaggeration
~ Minimization
~ All or Nothing
~ Availability Phenomenon
~ Emotional Reasoning
~ Overgeneralization
~ Mental Filter (only seeing the bad)
~ Personalization and Blaming
Compassion
~ Compassion defined
~ Developing self-compassion
~ Developing compassion for others
~ Creating a compassionate world
The Shoulds
~ The tyranny of should
~ How should affects your self esteem
~ Challenging and revising your should
~ Can, will, cannot, choose not to
~ Atonement and guilt
Handling Mistakes
~ Reframing mistakes
~ The problem of limited awareness (context)
~ Your mistake-success ratio
Responding to Criticism
~ The myth of reality
~ Reality is everchanging
~ Now two people share the exact same reality
~ Responding to criticism
~ What does criticism mean about you?
~ About the situation?
~ About that person?
~ Take what is useful and leave the rest
~ Why are suggestions or feedback not useful?
Asking for What You Want
~ Needs vs. wants
~ Wants inventory
~ Creating a win-win
Goal Setting and Planning
~ What do you want
~ Prioritizing goals
~ Making your goals SMART
~ Making a commitment
~ Blocks and un-blocks to achieving goals
Core Beliefs
~ Identifying Core Beliefs
~ I am…
~ Developing new core beliefs
Improving Self-Esteem
~ To improve self-esteem, you must
~ Change the way you feel about yourself (i.e. change your feelings about your self-evaluation)
~ Focus on your strengths
~ Aim for effort, not perfection
~ Decide if some of the “ideal” characteristics are important to

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