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The Joy of Being Alone: How The Loner Movement Is Changing Our Lives

The Joy of Being Alone: How The Loner Movement Is Changing Our Lives

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The Joy of Being Alone: How The Loner Movement Is Changing Our Lives

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Dec 9, 2019


This Loner Movement book has a treasure trove of things to do when alone and/or isolated. With the spread of the COVID 19 virus, the need to regulate your social activity is being taken more seriously.

Learn more about the Loner Movement and Loner Culture!

Are you feeling lonely or do you know someone who is? Are you sad about a romantic break-up or know someone who is? If so this book's for you!

There could be over a billion adults worldwide who are alone. If you're one we hope you're enjoying it as much as we are. If not this book could show you why you may be a lot better off alone, at least temporarily, than you realize.

We spend a lot of time alone. You're likely alone showering, writing, working around the home, napping, driving, maybe when sleeping at night, etc. Usually we enjoy being alone but trauma can break that tranquility. Humans are pack animals and the life of a hermit is not only difficult but not recommended. Most need to work in association with others to meet obligations and acquire income. You have friends, neighbors, family, associates, etc. Still you're likely better off alone than in life's many higher maintenance relationships.

This book can show how many unaccompanied (alone) people might be better off. It can also help readers let go of bad relationships and social agendas that could harm them. If you know people who are feeling melancholy due to a break up, this could be a particularly good gift book to get them.

Dec 9, 2019

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The Joy of Being Alone - Jay Cartwright

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The Joy of Being Alone: How The Loner Movement is Changing Our Lives

Copyright 2019 Jay Cartwright

ISBN 9780463585658

All rights reserved.  No part of this work may be reproduced or transmitted in any form by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying and recording, or by any information storage or retrieval system, without permission in writing from its writer, except by reviewers, speakers and others who may quote brief passages. 

The author's educational background is in Psychology and Communications. The author has never been married and has been a loner for a great many decades. The author is not a behavioral therapist or psychologist, licensed or otherwise.

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The world could have a billion loners! Our needs and interests matter! Stop by and be part of the Movement!

Table of Contents

1. Introduction

2. Getting Started

3. The Difference Between a Loner and a Lone Wolf

4. The Loner Movement is Different From Being Incel

5. Obsessive Socializing Can Have Limited Value

6. I'm not depressed I'm just tired of people's crap

7. How Life Might Be Easier and Safer By Not Being Coupled and/or By 8. Being More Selective When Socializing

9. Various Reasons People Belittle Those Who Aren't Socially-obsessed

10. Some Biological Reasons for Feeling Lonely

11. Relationship Addiction

12. Mating Relationship Stress Cuts Down On Your Life Expectancy

13. Marital Stress Cuts Down on Your Life Expectancy

14. The Sex Drive Can Make People do Stupid Things

15. Little known Special Masturbation Techniques

16. For Women - A Specialized, Often Overlooked Breast Massage Technique

17. For Men - An Important to know Specialized Masturbation Technique

18. Other Potential Benefits of Being a Loner

19. Conclusion

20. Bibliography/References

21. Bonus Book 1:  100 Great Lines For Guys To Put in Their Personal Ads

22. Bonus Book 2:  100 Great Lines For Women To Put in Their Personal Ads


Welcome to the Loner Movement.

There are dramatically more loners on earth now than there's ever been. In fact the number may be over a billion!

A 'loner' is someone who prefers to limit his or her association with others. Sure people learn to be that way to an extent from an early age but loners are thought to take it a step further.

Negative impressions of loners have been fueled by those comparatively few 'loners' who acted in socially disturbing ways. The majority of loners are most interested in having more time to themselves to do the things they prefer as well as affiliating themselves with lower maintenance relationships and activities.

There are loners who are rich and loners who are poor, we're all around you. Loners have been, and continue to be among the world's richest and most powerful people.

Loners of both sexes go in and out of being 'loners'. Loners can and do have relationships, and that includes intimate relationships, though after an intimate relationship becomes serious, it's likely he or she is no longer a 'loner'.

Dating opportunities for loners are at a historic high thanks largely to relaxed morals, better contraceptive measures and the internet/communication revolution.

There are more single adults in the United States than there has ever been. In 2017, the U.S. census reported 110.6 million unmarried people over the age of 18, or 45.2 percent of the US adult population. 53 percent of single adults are women. In 1960, 72 percent of adults were married. But in 2017, 63 percent have never been married. [4]

Typically a person is considered legally single if not married, widowed or divorced. 'On the street' however, the term 'single' refers to someone who's not involved in any type of serious romantic relationship, including long-term dating, engagement, civil union or marriage. Thus he or she is single by choice and can participate in dating and related activities. For many, marriage is no longer essential. In fact, in a 2017 census report, 55 percent of Americans believed that getting married is not an important milestone in leading a happy adulthood. [4]

The number of single people worldwide has exploded. In the UK it's roughly 15 million people [2] French marriage rates are 45 percent below U.S. figures. In 2004 the marriage rate in France was 4.3 per 1,000 people, compared with 5.1 in the United Kingdom and 7.8 in the United States. [3] Clearly being alone is a way of life for a large and continually growing number of people!

Let's also remember that being alone (unaccompanied) is not synonymous with solitude or being sexless as most single people have intimate and/or sexual relationships, at least off and on.

But are single people healthier than those married? A 2017 study published in the Journal of Women’s Health found that single American women had lower BMIs (body mass index), waist sizes, and risk associated with smoking and alcohol than their married counterparts. [4]

If one is being chastised by others in Western societies for being single, then clearly they've not seen the recent statistics, and perhaps themselves not realized the many benefits of being alone.

If you're a loner, I hope you're enjoying being a loner as much as we are, but perhaps you've been a loner for years and experienced ridicule by sarcastic, even abusive relationship-obsessed or socially obsessed people.

Perhaps you'd like the added free time many loners have to do more things we want to do versus spending so much of our valuable time doing things others want us to do.

Are you downhearted because of a recent break-up? Are you not sure if you're a loner, or even want to be a loner? Well this book will concisely discuss its benefits, and there are so many!

First let's better understand how today's loners are often not the same as the loner of yesterday.

Getting Started

To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance. — Oscar Wilde

Life is hard, you have bills to pay, people's egos to juggle and billions of microscopic critters are trying to kill you.

We take being alive for granted but in actuality one of the most important things that you have to do every day is make sure you stay alive!

Most take living out their full life expectancy for granted but throughout history billions have learned the hard way that they got their longevity math all wrong. Having an optimistic disposition often helps but you need a lot more to survive to your normal life expectancy than happy thoughts.

So why not go out of your way to prioritize living your full life expectancy, or even outlive most of your peers?

For many people (but not all) you can lower your stress by being happy while alone, and being happy while 'alone' is a priority for those in the Loner Movement. Why? Well often it's because socially obsessed and poorly coupled people have their own set of problems, and many of them are serious.

But back to this whole extend your life expectancy thing.

The top 10 countries with the highest average life expectancies forecasted for 2040 are:

Spain - 85.8 years

Japan - 85.7 years

Singapore - 85.4 years

Switzerland - 85.2 years

Portugal - 84.5 years

Italy - 84.5 years

Israel - 84.4 years

France - 84.3 years

Luxembourg - 84.1 years

Australia - 84.1 years [5]

Researchers say the top five health factors that increase the likelihood of premature death are high blood pressure, high body mass index, high blood sugar, tobacco use, and alcohol use. Air pollution ranked sixth. [6]

In the United States, when you're at age 65, the number of

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