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JANUARY (FIRST) 2009
JANUARY (FIRST) 2009
Vol 36, Issue No. 842
BUILDS HAPPY HOMES
Founder: Vishwa Nath
NEW YEAR SPECIAL
INTERESTING WAYS PEOPLE WORLDWIDE CELEBRATE NEW YEAR’S DAY
Lesley D. Biswas
SEASON OF LARGESSE
Dr Rummy Agarwal
FINANCIAL PLANNING FOR NEW YEAR START EARLY
16 LIVE-IN RELATIONSHIP YES OR NO
M. Shamsur Rabb Khan
ONE COMMON RESOLUTION THE NEW YEAR 121 IMBIBED SOUL WITHIN
54 HONEY FOR BETTER HEALTH
M Shamsur Rabb Khan
87 GARDEN PLANTS
100 A JOURNEY OF ART
103 THE MIRACULOUS POWERS OF SPICE IN HEALING
ROCKING WORLD OF YOUR SEXINESS
Dr Parveen Parkash
32 DEFEND THE
130 THE VITRIFICATION A RAY OF HOPE
132 SURGING AHEAD!
110 POETRY IN COLOURS
WINTER SKIN CARE
Dr Geetanjali Shetty
113 CHILDREN’S DAY TO SHOW CREATIVITY
74 RELISH GREAT GASTRONOMIES IN THE NEW YEAR
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26 OUR ROMANTIC CANDLE-LIGHT DINNER
D. P. S. Kohli
50 THE LOVE MESSAGES
Neelam Chandra Archana Sengar
92 WHEN I WAS ‘ROCKED’
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117 ARE YOU IN LOVE LUST OR JUST HAVE PROBLEMS (QUIZ) 152 CROSSWORD 157 BABY CLUB 165 AS YOU SAY
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BOMBAY FILMDOM 119 YOUR BODY 120 TEENACHE 156 MONEY MATTERS 158 CLASSIFIEDS
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47 BEAUTY QUERIES 69 PERSONAL PROBLEMS 48 ALLURING ACCESSORIES 72 FABULOUS FOOTWEAR
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PAKISTAN’S SHAMELESS DENIAL LAWS TO FIGHT TERRORISM
t is now more than one month since the carnage of Mumbai took place courtesy terrorist intrusion through sea route into our commercial capital. Of the 10 terrorists, who carried out the attack, only one Ajmal Amir Kasab could be caught alive. He is presently in the custody of Mumbai Police. During the interrogation, he has confessed his Pakistani roots and declares himself a resident of Faridkot. But the Pakistani Government is shamelessly denying this fact. Even the head of Pakistan’s Ministry of Internal Affairs, Rehman Malik refuses to accept Kasab as a Pakistani. According to him, there is no person of this name in the entire database of his ministry. Such an importunate stance proves only two things. Either the entire bureaucracy of Pakistan is banking upon plain fallacy or the nation is not developed enough to maintain an accurate database of its citizens. As for the second possibility, it is also well known that Pakistan is a failed state or at least heading towards this status sooner or later. So it will be only a fallacy to expect that the nation would prepare and maintain an accurate database of all of her citizens. Hence, minister’s statement appears more like an excuse than a solid explanation. Meanwhile, American investigation agency, FBI, which started its probe into Mumbai attack in the beginning of December, has pointed towards another secret agency, besides notorious ISI, for having a proactive role in the attacks. Undoubtedly, terrorism has become an eternal problem in this region. And solely Pakistan is to be blamed for this nuisance. Although there is presently a civilian government holding the reigns in Pakistan too, yet the entire world knows that such governments there are weak and work on the mercy of orthodox Muslim forces and the military. Present government is no exception either. Indian Government, on the other hand, is showing superb restraint despite all the pressures from Hindu orthodox forces. Apparently, our Government is aware that once the war is declared, it will have an escalating effect and will not end easily or early. Then possibility of China entering the fray cannot be ruled out. So the best way is to compel Pakistan to destroy terrorist camps running in that region of Kashmir that it continues to occupy illegally.
he two anti-terrorism bills, Unlawful Activities (Prevention) Amendment Bill, 2008 and the other one to set up a National Investigation Agency (NIA), that were passed by the Lok Sabha in the wake of the Mumbai terrorist attacks will help the government overhaul the security scenario in the country. The idea of a Central agency to investigate terrorism and related offences has been mooted by many committees and experts. In fact, a federal agency on the style of the NIA is long overdue. The Bill gives the NIA the jurisdiction to investigate offences under a clutch of legislations such as the Unlawful Activities (Prevention) Act, the Atomic Energy Act, and the Anti-Hijacking Act. To fast track the criminal justice delivery system, the Bill envisages the setting up of special courts. The Bill will give the Centre the power to suo motto direct the NIA to investigate certain offences; it also obliges the State governments to assist the Agency in investigating them. As the Centre would be entering an area that hitherto was the preserve of the States, it is important that the NIA is employed in a manner that is in keeping with the sensitivities of the State police. At the same time, it is important not to become over-anxious about the possible encroachment of the States’ powers as the NIA is meant to investigate only a narrowly defined list of crimes. While an independent body of judicial experts would be set up to review cases under the Unlawful Activities (Prevention) law before granting sanction for prosecution, the government needs to strike a balance between the requirements of law and security agencies, and principles of natural justice, reasonableness, fair trial and human rights. Though the agency would be set up under the Centre, it was laid down clearly that law and order was primarily the domain of the States. The fact of the matter is that the NIA should be kept away from political interference and control to fulfil the purpose for which it is being created. As advancements in technology, communications, and transport have lent a new dimension to terrorism, it is time to fight this dreaded menace collectively by the nation. While improving intelligence and policing, the fellow countrymen also need to be actively vigilant.
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Woman’s Era ● January (First) 2009
How different communities celebrate the same day.
By Lesley D. Biswas
INTERESTING WAYS PEOPLE WORLDWIDE CELEBRATE
New Year’s Day
ew Year is the time for the family, friends and celebrations in our country and, while we are familiar with extravagant decorations, feasting and partying being the flavour of these celebrations, people around the world have their own unique and amusing ways of celebrating this occasion. While these colourful celebrations might differ from culture to culture they often symbolise the same objective to bring good luck! It’s
interesting to note how the world celebrates New Year’s Day is very different from when these celebrations actually began almost 4000 years ago.
New Year’s Day around the world: Contrary to the popular belief that New Year’s Day has always been celebrated on the first January, actually there was a time when the Christians were confused about which day to celebrate New Year’s Day and in the middle ages they twice changed the dates of New Year, once to 25th December and then to the 25th March. Finally, it was Pope Gregory XIII who revised the Julian calendar and New Year’s Day returned to be celebrated on the First of January. Arbitrarily, even today, many cultures have stuck to their own days on which they celebrate the advent of the New Year. Like the Jews celebrate New Year in September or early October; for the Hindu community New Year is celebrated as the festival of lights, (Diwali) that falls on a different date each year; similarly for Muslims who follow the Gregorian calendar their New Year’s Day also varies. In Thailand the celebrations are held on 13 April and in Venezuela 31st December is New Year’s Day. Meaning of New Year’s Day traditions: Just like the dates, amazingly even the traditions and customs that are a significant part of New Year’s Day celebrations are also unique and go on to display the individual cultures around the world. Amongst them, some are also amusing like the Mexican tradition of wearing red underwear specially by women to find love in the new year or the German tradition of leaving a bit of food on their plate until midnight on New Year’s Eve in a way to ensure that their larder remains stacked in the coming year, and Denmark’s strange practice of littering their
AMONGST THE FIRST TO CELEBRATE NEW YEAR’S DAY WERE THE ANCIENT BABYLONIANS. IT IS SAID THAT THE FIRST CELEBRATION TOOK PLACE ABOUT 4000 YEARS AGO AND THE TRADITION OF MAKING NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS STARTED WITH THEM WHEN THEY RESOLVED TO RETURN BORROWED FARM EQUIPMENT.
The first celebrations: Amongst the first to celebrate New Year’s Day were the ancient Babylonians. It is said that the first celebration took place about 4000 years ago and the tradition of making New Year Resolutions started with them when they resolved to return borrowed farm equipment. The tradition of exchanging gifts started in 153 BC with the Romans giving one another gifts of branches of sacred trees which got replaced by gold-covered coins and nuts imprinted with pictures of Janus (the God of gates, doors and beginnings) on them. Other ancient communities who also used gifts were the Persians who gifted eggs as a symbol of productivity; the Celtic priest who gifted the people branches of Mistletoe; and English husbands who gifted their wives ‘pin money’ to buy pins and other articles on New Year’s Day.
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SOME FOODS ARE ALSO THOUGHT TO INFLUENCE LUCK, AND EATING THESE FOODS LIKE BLACKEYED PEAS, CABBAGE AND RICE, ARE CONSIDERED LUCKY. AND THE DUTCH BELIEVE THAT DONUTS ARE LUCKY AS THEY ARE RING-SHAPE WHICH IS THE SYMBOL OF A CIRCLE MEANING COMING FULL CIRCLE IN THE NEW YEAR.
friend’s doors with broken dishes collected over the year.
Importance of traditions: Traditions have come to play a significant part in the New Year’s celebrations because it has come to be believed that one could affect the luck they would encounter through the coming year by what they do on
the first day of the year. So, many people do strange things on New Year’s Day hoping to influence lady luck. Like the Japanese who believe that if they laugh on New Year’s Day, the whole year will be filled with happiness or in Venezuela people believe that wearing yellow underwear will ensure good luck through the year. The Koreans, however, prefer to remember their fighters on New Year’s Day and organise a ceremony as a mark of respect to 33 fighters who laid down their lives for the restoration of Korea. A bell is rung 33 times for each martyr. Another popular Korean belief is that watching the sunrise and making a wish on this auspicious day will make their wish come true. The people of Austria, Poland and Belgium also observe this day as the eve of Saint Sylvester by greeting each other with kisses at midnight. The children in Belgium write letters on decorative paper to their parents and godparents which they read out to them. In Hungary effigies of ‘Jack Straw’ who represents evil and misfortune, are burnt to get rid of bad luck. Some foods are also thought to influence luck, and eating these foods like black-eyed peas, cabbage and rice, are considered lucky. And the Dutch believe that donuts are lucky as they are ring-shape which is Woman’s Era
the symbol of a circle meaning coming full circle in the new year. The people of Portugal, Spain and Venezuela eat 12 grapes at midnight to ensure that the next 12 months are happy ones. Many countries celebrate New year’s Day with parades like the Junkanoo parade in the Bahamas; the four-day parade in Nepal; the Greek parade where people carry figures of apples, ships and stars; and the children’s parade in Syria and Lebanon. Auld Lang Syne is a song sung in many English-speaking countries at the stroke of midnight on New year’s Eve and it is sung in America to welcome the New Year. The song means ‘the good old days’ and was written in 1741 by Robert Burns. In London, crowds gather in Trafalgar Square and Piccadilly Circus to hear the chimes of the Big Ben announcing the arrival of the New Year. Moving away from differences and coming to the similarities, in most cultures, people wear new clothes, feast on good food, greet one another and those family members who are away for work come back home to enjoy this day together. There are grand displays of fireworks and lots of noise created by horns, bells and guns firing. People make New Year Revolutions in the hope of a new beginning and a better life. We
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A modern concept for living together as couple which is devoid of marital sanction, legal or religious.
By M Shamsur Rabb Khan
YES OR NO
he Maharashtra Govern ment's proposal to amend section 125 of the Code of Criminal Procedure (CrPC) to protect the interests of a woman in a live-in relationship has opened up a new chapter in human relations in India. In January 2008, the Supreme Court observed that long-term live-in relationships should be acknowledged as legalised marriages. A Supreme Court bench headed by Justice Arijit Pasayat declared that children born out of such a relationship will no more be called illegitimate. Considering the plight of children born out of unmarried couple and the rising
number of orphans in the country, this is a healthy observation.
Legal justification: In the ongoing social reform in the Indian social milieu, a live-in relationship, which has always been seen by people as illicit, illegal and unethical, has finally been given the green light. Some hailed it as a progressive step, while others showed discontent and discomfort. But let us first consider the legal sanction. The amendment, as sought by the Maharashtra Government and which has drawn from the recommendations made in the Malimath Committee on Reforms of the Criminal Justice System, 2003, needs the Central Government’s approval to become a legislation. The legislation, if amended, provides for claims for maintenance by a woman who is living with a man as in a marriage if she is dumped by her partner. This legal sanction, as its supporters such claim, would provide security to a woman along with making man more accountable for his behaviour and treatment of her. Besides, the law would see to it that no man goes scot free after using a woman for a time. The Malimath Committee report says: "The man should not be allowed to take advantage of his own illegal acts. Law should not be insensitive to the suffering of such women." Therefore, the committee has suggested that the definition of the word 'wife' in section 125 should be amended so as to include a woman who was living with the man as his wife for a reasonably long period, during the subsistence of the first marriage. Although there is a provision for the maintenance of an illegitimate child, a woman in a live-in relationship has no rights equal to what a wife would enjoy. The proposed amendment, hence, would redefine the word 'wife' to include the woman who was living like a wife for a reasonably long period. However, the question of decision on ‘period’ is a big hurdle as the government has not specified what this period should be. Whether it
would be a one-year period or more or less is still to be decided. The more pertinent question is whether the amended law will impact the marriage system in this country, or whether it will harm monogamy or encourage polygamy. Let us see an example. A Madhya Pradesh High Court judgement in 1985 dealt with the case of a woman Loli, who had lived for several years with one Radhika Singh. They lived together and produced five daughters and a son. Upon desertion, Loli filed a case. The trial court dismissed the case filed by Radhika Singh's sister-in-law stating that Loli should not have property rights as she was just a ‘mistress’. The court also contended that Loli had started living with Radhika Singh even when her first husband was alive and, therefore, there could not be a presumption of a valid marriage. But the appellate court set aside the trial court's order and the Madhya Pradesh High Court upheld the appellate court’s judgement.
What is a live-in relationship?: The term live-in relationship is a modern, urban concept for living together of a man and woman outside marital sanction – legal or religious. It is a living arrangement in which an unmarried couple lives together in a long-term relationship that seems like a marriage. Such a couple seeks to enjoy close association, have sex, and live in a house. The basic intention is to test their compatibility before they commit to a legal union. In western countries, as per the estimate between 1970 and 1990, the number of couples living together outside of marriage quadrupled from 523,000 to nearly three million. In India a live-in
relationship is a new arrival involving young, working men and women, who love to live together in a single room or flat and behave like partners in marriage. Though instances of illicit relationship are abundant in India, it has been exclusive to the old kings and feudal lords, who were habituated to keeping a large bevy of women in their palaces, the arrival of modern times negated this trend and called it the exploitation of women. For example, in THE TERM Gujarat, Maitri Karaar or 'friendship contract', Nata LIVE-IN Pratha in Rajasthan and RELATIONSHIP Madhya Pradesh, has IS A MODERN, long been practised whereby a man and a URBAN CONCEPT FOR woman entered into voluntarily “marriage.” LIVING However, it prescribed TOGETHER OF that the woman would exercise no claim on the A MAN AND man during or after the WOMAN relationship beyond OUTSIDE 'friendship'. Interestingly, the man in such MARITAL relationships was always SANCTION – married while the woman LEGAL OR was single. Hence, she RELIGIOUS. knew that she could never marry, but enjoy a
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physical relationship with a man. In the tribal belts of Jharkhand and Orissa, there is a custom of wife selection on makar sakranti night. Amidst celebrations, boys and girls assemble under a banyan tree, choose their partners, live there for three days and, at the end, if they find themselves compatible, take the bride home. If not, both of them go back to their respective homes and wait for the next year. However, the Saif Ali Khan-Preity Zinta starrer Bollywood hit movie Salaam Namaste has perhaps added sanction to the live-in relationship while the Karan Johar-directed Kabhi Alwida Na Kehna showed manwoman anguish to establish an outof marriage relationship.
OPPOSITION TO SUCH A MOVE IS BOUND TO COME IN A COUNTRY WHERE THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE IS CONSIDERED A SACRED, LIFE-LONG RELATIONSHIP, RATHER THAN A MATERIALISTIC UNION OF TWO PEOPLE WHICH IS BORNE OUT OF THE ONSLAUGHT OF LIBERALISATION AND GLOBALISATION.
Changing social set up: Modern life-style has changed the social setup in which new types of human relations are being discovered. Today, people in metros – mostly single, working and financially independent – are choosing to live together without marriage. The fact that they are choosing to live without marriage usually means that they have chosen to defy society and, if a relationship like this breaks up, it is most likely that the woman will be in dire straits. But the question is whether this will impact the moral fabric of society. Or, in adopting modernity, are we trying to forget our tradition? A live-in relationship certainly seems to have some advantages over marriage for women, especially with a new study finding that live-in boyfriends do a lot more housework than married men. What the research study says? A research study, “Effects of Union Type on Division of Household Labour – Do Cohabiting Men Really Perform More Housework?” carried out at the George Mason University, which was based on a questionnaire sent to 17,636 people in 28 countries, found that married men tend to help around the house less than live-in boyfriends. According to study coauthor, sociologist Shannon Davis, the key finding of the study, published in the Journal of Family Issues (28 June 2007) suggests that marriage changes the division of labour. However, another research at the University of Warwick, UK, claims married men and women derive satisfaction from their spouses’ happiness unlike those people who live together without marriage. Nick Powdthavee, who carried out the study, looked into the lives of 9,704 married individuals and found a married person is significantly happier in life if his or her partner is leading a cheerful life. He found no sign of such an effect on couples who are cohabiting. The
research reveals that the institution of marriage induces the habit of sharing among spouses who not only share their material belongings, they also try to be part of every aspect of each other's life through smooth and rough times. The concept of risk sharing between individuals in a nonmarital relationship was found to be almost negligible. In India, live-in couples are still comparatively rare except for a few cases in the metros since Indian social upbringing and ethos stops young boys and girls from initiating live-in relationship, those who live in away from their home towns do love to create such relationship. From the rich and upper class to the middle and upper middle classes, young men and women are perhaps seemingly ready to go ahead with live-in relationships. Virginity, sanctity, religious sanctions, life-long bonds, etc., seem words of the past for those who advocate individual freedom and rights.
Opposition to the Move Opposition to such a move is bound to come in a country where the institution of marriage is considered a sacred, life-long relationship, rather than a materialistic union of two people which is borne out of the onslaught of liberalisation and globalisation. A political party even termed live-in relationships as anti-Hindu. Moreover, according to the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955, there is no provision for a second wife among Hindus. Hence, enabling the mistress to get the status of a legally-married wife in all matters, including a share in property, inheritance, and maintenance, is contrary to the Act. Critics of live-in relationships rate it as an act of escapism from responsibility, or a selfish motive based on personal enjoyment. However, a great many advocates of it may find it more comfortable to have a relationship without the sanctity of marriage. A whole lot of debate on various aspects involved in living in urgently required before the government gives it the nod for We legislation.
SEASON OF LARGESSE
Another New Year! It’s the thought that goes into your gifts that matters – not the cash. By Dr Rumy Agarwal
y children have outgrown Santa Claus. It’s a pity really, cos such childhood beliefs make the world seem less cruel than it is; and since the reality check comes sooner than we’d like it to, we tend to wish that our children could hold on to their magical world, insulated against harsh realities, for as long as possible. But, well, everything happens when it has to, and children have to grow up. But do they really? Okay, so they no longer believe that a plump, cherubic old man with a snowy beard and red togs slides
down the chimney with a sack full of gifts on his back which he gives away cheerily to everyone. But they still do believe in gifts, don’t they ? Like hell they do! Be it any occasion or – for that matter, no occasion – if children can smell gifts in the air, they’ll be in line anyway! Another New Year is here…well... “What better way”— they’ll urge you —“to kick start it than by handing over a gift or two?” And parents being parents, you relent — just to put a smile on those beloved faces. As I, too, pondered on what to buy for my sons so that they could usher in the first of the next 365 days on a hopeful note, I couldn’t help harking back to my childhood when gift-giving was a different ball game altogether. Huge shopping malls hadn’t invaded the cities then, the consumer market hadn’t burgeoned the way it has in recent years and blatant commercialisation hadn’t converted
every human gesture, every festival, into a media circus. Those were the days when giving a gift was more from the heart and its value was not in the price tag alone. Things are very different today. With such a variety of gifts at our disposal, we don’t need to give our grey cells much of a workout in planning the right gift (but, hey, wasn’t half the fun in planning the gift? But that’s another story). So we just buy something off the shelf, get it attractively packaged and gift it to someone – very convenient, very time-saving. Nothing wrong in that if the gift-giving is more of a social norm or compulsion. But when you wish to give a gift cos you truly love someone, I think you need to put a little more heart into it.
GREETINGS CARDS SENSE OF FULFILMENT
When in school, we were encouraged to draw our own greetings cards and give small handmade gifts to our family and friends – it was a very engaging exercise and thoughts and ideas flew free and fast; the giver felt a sense of fulfilment and the receiver had the joy of knowing that someone cared enough to actually make something exclusively for him/her. That card/gift was infinitely more valuable than the
most expensive one you could buy from a store cos it had more of YOU in it, we were told. Conversely, we were also urged to see the spirit behind the gift, the warmth of the giver’s thoughts rather than the cost. That is what makes a gift worthwhile – and this knowledge is in itself a gift, one which I’d like to give my children. Hey, Abhishek and Abhinav, this is the first of your most valuable, non-material gifts from me for the coming year – the knowledge that the value of a gift lies in how much of yourself – your heart, your thoughts and your labour – you have put into it. Another precious gift that I’d like to give you for life is the gift of a social conscience. Both of you are kindhearted I know, so how about using the New Year to show some of that innate kindness to people less privileged than, you? There is so much stuff lying around the house which you have outgrown or no longer need – clothes, toys, shoes, books, etc. These are things which you have already enjoyed; so how about reliving those joys by gifting them to inmates of hospitals or orphanages? Trust me, sons, the joy you will get by seeing the smiles on their faces will not compare to any you’ve known: the joy of giving surpasses all other pleasures. Every New Year heralds a new
The children apply their innovative ideas in making the handmade greetings cards, which is essence gives them the sense of fulfillment.
beginning, a fresh start. I wish to gift you the wisdom to be able to learn from your mistakes in the past year, benefit from all your experiences and be able to look forward to new experiences and new joys with a heart filled with hope and faith. Having learnt from the past, put it behind you and move on to newer horizons. Last of all, my sons, you have me. I may not exactly be what you’d have asked Santa Claus for, but I am the one person who loves you more than anyone else in the world; your happiness makes mine manifold and your sadness rips my heart to pieces. Your successes put me on cloud nine, your setbacks make my heart ache. I not only wiped your tears but mine too when you grazed your knees; I clapped the loudest when you won prizes; I still have every single greetings card you gave me; I will be there for you in your happiness when you achieve a coveted goal or even when you have your first crush. I will also be right behind you should your hearts ever break. So, sons, here I am, gifting myself – my heart, my love, my attention and my time – to you for the New Year and always. Those are my gifts to you, Abhishek and Abhinav. P.S. Okay, okay, I’m not a cheapskate, guys — I’ll also get you that CD and that jacket and that…oh dear, I’ve forgotten...but why should I worry? You’ll not forget We to remind me, I know for sure.
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Our romantic candle-light dinner
It is an excellent plan to celebrate wedding anniversary. By D.P.S. Kohli
t was our 40th wedding anniversary and our took us to our third-floor room overlooking a garden children had arranged a get-together for our and the swimming pool. She opened the room and close relations and friends. Obviously, this my wife said, “WOW — a candle-light dinner for party was to be held on our wedding day. On me!” My friend — the assistant manager, had set up this occasion, I wanted to do something a special table for two with imported crockery and different than the usual party and exchange of silver cutlery. A bottle of champagne deeply gifts. embedded in the ice cubes was cooling itself snugly I had heard so much about romantic candle-light in an ice bucket. Four large candles were dinners, so I decided to arrange a candle-light strategically placed at the four corners of the table. dinner on the anniversary eve. This was the The room had been decorated with unusual first time I was going to do so and didn’t flowers like orchids, tulips and, of course, want anything to go wrong. For some time, red roses. My wife I had been keenly observing such candleMy wife took in all this and flashed her light dinners in TV serials and films. So I million-dollar smile, and I was beaming at took in all decided to keep it a secret till the last my achievement. I had also arranged for a this and moment. DVD player and brought along a few CDs flashed her I had taken a yearly membership of one of some romantic ghazals of Ghulam Ali of the five-star hotels who offer 50 per cent millionand Jagjit Singh. discount on food plus a complimentary stay I put on the first CD of Jagjit Singh and dollar smile, and breakfast for one night. The assistant out came the ghazal “Nazar nazar se mila and I was manager of this hotel had become a friend, kar.” That set the mood for our romantic beaming at so I consulted him to book a room for one evening. I took out the chilled champagne night and arrange for a special candle-light bottle (provided free by the hotel on our my dinner. When I told my wife about our oneachievement. wedding anniversary) and asked my wife night stay in a five-star hotel, she was quite to hold it while I took off the seal. I wanted excited. However, I didn’t tell her about the the cork to pop out and touch the ceiling, candle-light dinner. as seen in films, so I shook the bottle a She excitedly put on her party sari and an couple of times and loosened the cork. expensive pashmina shawl, as it was winter, and packed her overnight bag. Off we went to the hotel he cork did pop up and touched the ceiling but where we had booked a room. The assistant I had never bargained to spill half a bottle on manager met us at the reception and we completed the clothes of my wife. The million-dollar smile the check-in formalities. The assistant manager took on her face turned into a frown and she said, “Can’t me aside and confirmed that everything was taken you do even one thing properly? You have spoiled care of. my expensive sari and my pashmina shawl”. I The room service-in-charge — a young lady — sheepishly offered, “I will buy you an even better
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sari and shawl tomorrow.” And this was just the beginning. Our hostess lit all the candles and switched off the lights. I poured the bubbly in the two flutes lying on the table and gave one to my wife. We said, “To our 40th wedding anniversary and our first romantic candle-light dinner,” clinked our glasses and took a sip. Right on cue, a waiter knocked on the door. I opened the door and in came a tray laden with three types kebabs. The smell was very appetising as their restaurant was famous for their kebabs.
was looking forward to starting with the mouth-watering Kakori kebabs when my wife looked at the kebabs and dropped a bomb. She asked, “Have you forgotten that I don’t take non-vegetarian food on Thursdays”? “My goodness!” How could I forget that it was Thursday? Anyway, I ordered some vegetarian snacks for my wife and waited till they came. By that time, the kebabs were as cold as the look on the face of my wife. She was feeling very uncomfortable in the wet sari. The romance seemed to be slipping out of our hands. The only change of clothes was a night suit she had brought to sleep in. Obviously, she could not get into the night suit at this time of the evening. To make amends, I played my trump card and said,
“Darling, I have bought a solitaire diamond ring as a wedding present for you.” These words brought a smile back on her face as it does to most of the women. I put my hand in the inner pocket of the coat where I had kept it the other day after purchasing it from the jeweller. It was not there. I looked into all the other pockets but could not find it. I was mumbling, “I had kept it here,” again and again till my wife suddenly laughed and said, “My forgetful darling, you changed your clothes before coming over here and must have forgotten to retrieve the diamond ring.” I heaved a sigh of relief, in the background, the singer Ghulam Ali was singing “Itna toota hun ke chhoone se bikhar jaonga (I am so broken that if you touch me I will disintegrate)” — it explained my state of mind. Fortunately, the elusive smile reappeared on my wife and I felt relieved. Slowly and steadily, the ice cold champagne, the warmth of the room, the blooming flowers, the perfumed candles — or the mix of all of them — started acting on our mood and both of us felt relaxed and in a cheerful mood. Soon, my wife suddenly said, “Let us go home and I change my clothes, it will take only 20 minutes as our home is so near. You don’t expect me to wear these clothes tomorrow also as we are to check out after breakfast tomorrow.” It was a very sensible
Dining in the midst of candle lights ambience to celebrate the wedding anniversary, is out of the box idea.
suggestion and I immediately ordered our car to be brought to the porch. The car was waiting when we reached the porch, with my wife taking full precaution lest anybody see the soiled clothes. It was only a five-minute drive and we were home in no time. We rang the doorbell, waited for some time, but nobody came to open the door. We had not taken the key of the main door as our son and his family had no plans to go out. We waited for 15 minutes before making a phone call on my son’s mobile. His first words were, “Happy wedding anniversary eve, we hope you are having a nice time.” I hurriedly told him to come back home as soon as possible. He said they could not, as they were out to see a film and would be home only after midnight.
extinguish the candles and switch on the lights. Now all that was left was the dinner. The variety of desserts I had ordered once again lived up the atmosphere. Two waiters came and cleaned the table. Thereafter, we were enjoying each other’s company and clinging to the bright and lively moments of our life while under the spell of Ghulam Ali’s ghazals. It was getting late and we were thinking of going to sleep. We slipped on our night suits and called my friend to send the housekeeper to collect the soiled sari and shawl. Within minutes the housekeeper knocked on the door and I handed over the clothes to be dry-cleaned. The housekeeper had sprinkled rose petals on our bed in order to recreate our wedding day. My wife said, “It looks so silly sleeping on those rose petals.” She picked up all the rose petals and threw them in the dustbin. We n annoyed frown appeared on the face of my had a very sound sleep on the silken bed sheets in wife. We had no option but to go back to our hotel room. On reaching the lobby, I asked my the heated room and the soft scent of the flowers around us as well as the intoxicating wife to go to the room as I had a small perfume worn by my wife. matter to attend to. I met my friend the Suddenly, there was a knock on the door assistant manager and told him our Thereafter, we predicament. He said, “My dear friend, were enjoying and I wondered who it could it be at this hour. Reluctantly, I had to get up and open you are staying in a five-star hotel, this is a each other’s the door — it was the housekeeper holding very small problem which will be sorted out company and my wife’s sari and shawl smelling of being in no time. After you finish your dinner, just clinging to the dry-cleaned recently. I said, “How could give me a call, our housekeeper will collect bright and you deliver the clothes at this time of the the soiled clothes, get them dry-cleaned lively night? The housekeeper was taken aback and deliver them to you in the morning.” moments of and said, “It is 9 in the morning, sir and I This piece of news cheered up my wife and our life while thought your wife might like to change the romantic atmosphere was back with a under the before breakfast.” I looked at the clock in bang. spell of the room and it was 9 in the morning. We There was still some ice-cold Ghulam Ali’s had never slept that long before. champagne in the ice bucket; the perfumed I tendered my apology to the housekeeper candles were still burning willingly, a ghazals. who gave a meaningful look at the still heady mixture of scent from the galaxy of sleeping figure of my wife, closed the door softly flowers combined with the cosy temperature of the and went away. room took its toll and we were back with a vengeance to relive our old memories. By now my e freshened ourselves up and went down to wife had shed her inhibitions, forgotten the soiled the restaurant to enjoy the buffet breakfast, clothes which was included in the package, before and the vegetarian snacks and was now in a going home. We reached home and were naughty mood. welcomed by our children with shouts of “A very We enjoyed our drinks and were waiting for our happy anniversary, dear mom and dad” and all of vegetarian dinner talking about all that happened them hugged us. We went to our bedroom and the during our 40 years of marriage and memories sweet and sour. The appetising aroma of so many of first thing my wife said, “Show me the diamond ring.” I replied, “Which ring?” She said, “The the dishes, some common and some uncommon, made us feel hungry. Two waiters laid out the dishes diamond ring you forgot to take with you to the hotel.” “I am sorry but that was only to take your and we started to eat. mind away from the soiled sari and to change your The next words from my wife took my breadth mood.” away. She said, “Don’t you think it is a little too She gave me a very dirty look — which I truly dark, one can hardly distinguish between a piece of deserved. Will I ever arrange another candle-light potato and cheese, please turn on the lights and dinner? Your guess is as good as mine. extinguish the candles.” I had no option except to We
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our dreams of having the near perfect ‘enviable’ body are on the verge of becoming a reality, as scientists have come up with the formula for the sexiest woman. To reach the conclusion, the researchers investigated hundreds of theories about what men find attractive. The study found that most guys like girls with big breasts and blonde hair. However, in the new book, “Do Gentlemen Really Prefer Blondes?” American journalist Jena Pincott has uncovered a series of factors that are crucial in mating game. The first being the waist-to-height ratio. The
Ways to deal with your figureproblem. By Dr Parveen Parkash
smaller the waist and curvier the hips, the more attractive a woman looks at first glance, according to the expert. Add to that a perfectly symmetrical face and a near-perfect female is ready. Not all beautiful faces are symmetrical, not all symmetrical faces are beautiful. But symmetry does play a role in the game of attraction. It is still the breasts and blonde hair that catch a man’s eye the most, the study found. Jena explains: “Breasts are an advertisement of age, health and good genes, which is why anthropologists think they’re crucial to sexual selection in cultures that don’t eroticise the chest any
more than the face.” Curvy women have been admired for their sensual figures. But a new study has found that ladies with large hips and small waists are cleverer too, than those with apple-shaped bodies. According to international researchers, women with an hourglass figure are not only intelligent, they also give birth to brighter children. The fat around fuller hips and thighs holds higher levels of omega-3 fatty acids which are essential for the growth of the brain during pregnancy. The scientists at universities of Pittsburg and California came to the conclusion after analysing data from a study of 16,000 women and girls, which collected details of their body measurements and their scores in cognitive tests. The team found that those women with a greater difference between the waist and hips scored significantly higher on the tests, as did their children — possibly a result of higher levels of omega-3 fatty acids on the hips. Further, hormones make women tempting and more appealing during ovulation. A new research has revealed that a woman’s voice is most attractive to a man when she is ovulating. Australian experts say the find is further proof that women become ‘different’ at this point in their menstrual cycle as they come under the effect of sex hormones. During ovulation their oestrogen is at the peak. Along with this women also experience a sudden surge of the male hormone testosterone, which adds an aggressive edge to their already sex-receptive mood. Research has shown the female lap dancers make more during their cycle peak and another study rated a woman’s walk most sexy to men when she is ovulating. In research, Nathan Pipitone and Gordon Gallup of the State University of New York tested the cycle’s effect on voice attractiveness and found the women’s voices to be most attractive if they were recorded during the peak fertility period of the menstrual cycle, and less attractive if they were recorded during non-fertility periods. 34
It is thought that voices are slightly higher pitched on high fertility days.
Find your way to a slim and curvy body: Thin is in, and being overweight is out. It is a fact that every woman dreams of having an hour-glass figure but most overweight women take too long to take matters in their own hands, as they feel that losing weight is very difficult and, therefore, not an option for them. Also, the reality is that, between managing a house, doing household chores, looking after the children and husband, many women feel that it is impossible to find time for themselves. Even experts have discovered that gaining and losing weight is a complicated process and involve more than just diet and exercise. Some people get hungrier sooner than others; some fill up quickly, some binge and others are emotional eaters. Losing weight does not always mean rigorous exercise and strict diet control. You’ve got a starry occasion coming up shortly and feeling less than svelte and want to shave off the kilos, pronto. Don’t think of punishing sessions at the gym. So what you do? Nothing, all it takes is some clever styling. Get your hands on innovative ways to fake your weight ● Wear black, black, black says US fashion editor Sarah Bonett. Katrina Kaif swears by its slimming power. ● If you have a large bust and hips, choose a V-neck dress with a skinny belt around the waist. The belt attracts attention to the midriff, as does the V, says fashion designer Wayne Cooper. ● Draw people’s eyes
RESEARCH HAS SHOWN THE FEMALE LAP DANCERS MAKE MORE DURING THEIR CYCLE PEAK AND ANOTHER STUDY RATED A WOMAN’S WALK MOST SEXY TO MEN WHEN SHE IS OVULATING.
away from problem areas with great shoes, sun-glasses or cool accessories, says fashion designer Shona Joy. ● Avoid large prints. Large body shapes should wear small, all-over prints with a dark background to disguise any lumps and bumps. ● It’s amazing what a difference wearing the right underwear makes to the look of your outerwear. Formfitting underwear can shave off inches and help you go down a whole size in appearance. Further, get an expert bra fitting. Regular bra fittings mean you’ll always be supported regardless of your boob’s natural fluctuations. ● Choose outfits that emphasise your favourite features. For example, if you have a great face and decolletage but you aren’t so happy with your waistline, go for an off-theshoulder tee. This will draw eyes away from your waist. ● Use objects you’re holding to your advantage, by placing them in front of areas you’d prefer to hide. If you’re big in hips, carry a clutch. Or, if you want to balance out a large bust, carry a shoulder bag that sits on your waist. ● If you’re bigger on the bottom half, avoid light
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shades in pants, skirts and shorts; stick to darker shades. If you have great legs but are bigger around the waist, a shorter A-line dress is flattering. l Make friends with fake tan. A darker skin tone gives a slimmer silhouette. Concentrate on your problem areas — think tummy, thigh and bottom. If you don’t have time for a tanner to develop, mix equal parts of liquid bronzer with your body moisturiser and apply to any exposed part.
Reserve weight faking for party purposes only: Weight faking is an instant measure and is good for party purposes only. Don’t underscore the severity of a growing girth problem. Recent research has unearthed the fact there is no way to waistline is the best successfully fight flab as way for any certain hormonal factors in OBESE physician to know the human body work WOMEN WHO your health. against weight loss. This CARRY MOST makes shedding weight an If your body is uphill task. OF THEIR EXTRA thicker around the When people say walk FAT AROUND abdomen, here are an extra mile every day diseases to watch and going up and down the THEIR out for: A big belly stairs counts, sounds easy STOMACH ARE can put you at higher to lose weight. But as risk of poly-cystic sobering statics show, it is 70 PER CENT ovarian disease, more easily said than mess up your done. Most people with MORE LIKELY TO periods and cause growing girth will, in the DEVELOP facial hair growth and end, be unable to overcome biology and lose BREAST, COLON infertility. If you have excessive fat around much weight unless some AND your belly, you can big changes occur in body. PANCREATIC be insulin-resistant. More and more According to the waistline-linked health CANCER. latest study, women problems are now finding their way into many homes. whose peak weight is around their According to Cuilin Zhang, a waists instead on their buttocks and researcher at the National Institute of thighs face an increased risk of dying Child Health and Development at prematurely. Clinicians associate Harvard, abdominal fat exposes high body weight with conditions like nearby organs to potentially toxic diabetes and heart disease. A lot of people are not aware of chemicals produced by the fat. Fat that collects on buttocks and thighs links between body weight and may be less harmful because it is far cancer. Obese women who carry from the liver, pancreas and other most of their extra fat around their crucial organs. The greater the stomach are 70 per cent more likely proportion of abdominal fat, the to develop breast, colon and greater is the risk for chronic pancreatic cancer. A health survey of degenerative diseases. Your Americans, results of which were
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published in the Journal of Psychosomatic Medicine, concluded that obese adults were up to twice as likely to suffer from depression, anxiety and other mental health conditions as normal weight adults. Furthermore, people with big bellies are more likely to get Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia. A big belly is bad for careers too, as overweight youngsters are viewed more negatively in the workplace than those who are of average weight. Latest research is turning conventional thinking on dieting and losing weight on its head. Tummy talk has become lip talk globally and more and more research is being developed for fighting flab.
Employ penetrating laser to kill fat cells: In liposuction, a surgeon pokes holes in the skin, inserts a metal cannula and sucks out fat. It has risks of infection and scarring. However, Dr Anderson, professor of Dermatology at Harvard Medical School, has created a laser that can kill fat cells without harming the skin. With the free-electron laser, light goes through the skin into the fat layer, either killing or decreasing the amount of fat, which is then absorbed by the body. Get the directions from pedometer: An article in the recent issue of the Journal of the American Medical Association highlights a far less invasive commitment device for weight loss, the pedometer, which records the distance a person covers by foot. With a pedometer, you know how many steps you should be taking in a day. Knowing this shows pretty wondrous results. The use of a pedometer is associated with a significant increase in physical activity and a significant decrease in body mass index (BMI) and blood pressure. Dance to keep bulges away: Fitness may be serious business, but who said that getting fit has to be a rigorous punishment? For all those who dread the routine, it’s time to pull up your socks and jump on the dance
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floor. Moving and sweating to the rhythm of dance aerobics helps in strengthening your body and raise energy levels for the day. Dance combines the best of two very energised forms of burning calories — dance and aerobics. By performing highly aerobic activity, you increase your aerobic enzymes which help in burning fat.
help in weight-loss by adjusting the body’s fat-burning machinery. It is said to change the efficiency of weight-loss by favouring fat burning rather than fat storing. Dairy sources of calcium (the low fat variety) is more effective in weight and fat-loss than fortified calcium food and supplements.
negative calorie diet is that it is rich in vitamins and minerals. Negative calorie foods that you must include in your diet are the orange, apple, carrot, watermelon, tomato, strawberry and grapefruit.
Keep your sense of humour alive: A belly laugh can help you lose weight. It has been found that a daily chuckle can burn up to five pounds of fat a year. A really raucous laugh uses about the same energy as walking more than half a mile. It works on many muscles and makes the heart beat faster. You have 10-20 per cent higher energy expenditure during episodes of laughter than during rest and 15 minutes of chuckling daily could lead to a weight loss of just over 4.5 pounds in a year. Maintain a diary : Devote some time each day to record what you have eaten and how much, your hunger level prior to eating, and any feelings or emotions present at the time. A food diary can provide a large amount of self-awareness. It can identify emotions and behaviours that trigger overeating, foster greater awareness of portion sizes and help discover your personal food triggers. Cultivate the habit of consuming calciumrich foods: Recent studies suggest that bone-forming calcium can
Welcome protein diet: David Cummings of the University of Washington found diets high in protein may be the best way to keep hunger in check. Researchers looked at the effectiveness of different nutrients at the suppressing appetitestimulating hormone ghrelin. Fats suppressed ghrelin poorly. Proteins were the best suppressors of ghrelin in terms of the combination of the depth and duration of suppression. Abstain from the comforts of air conditioner: The AC limits calories burned from sweating. It keeps us in a temperature range in which we do not have to regulate our body heat. Scientists suggest that when people are out of this zone they lose weight Don’t dismiss Ayurveda as unscientific: Ayurvedic weight reducing treatments consist of certain panchkarma procedures which facilitate better results of medications used at a later stage. Various guggul preparations and phaltrikadi qwath are the best medicines for obesity. Similarly, the well-known arogyavardhini vati along with triushandi lauh, shila sindoor, triphla qwath and Mahamanjishthadi qwath are the foremost anti-obesity medicines. Ayurveda prohibits excessive sleep and day-time napping for persons suffering from obesity. Negative calorie foods make the battle of the bulge easier: Negative calorie foods are foods that contain fewer calories than it takes to digest them. For instance, if you eat a fruit that contains 50 calories but your body uses 65 calories to digest it, you will end up burning 15 calories just by eating. The good thing about a
Pop an anti-obesity pill: Rimonabant stifles hunger cravings by targeting the endocannabinoid system, which plays a role in regulating weight. Cannabinoid receptors are thought to stimulate cravings, rimonabant blocks the receptors, knocking out cravings. Be careful, if you lose weight and stop treatment, it will bounce right back up again. Scientists have discovered a new anti-obesity pill of alpha lipoic acid. This pill would free dieters from all eating restrictions and also help slow down the ageing process. This pill may ‘lock in’ the benefits of dieting, allowing dieters to return to normal eating without putting on weight. The research indicates that by following a calories restriction diet for six months and then taking the pill while eating normally, fools the body into behaving as if it was still on whatever diet it was following before the supplement. However, simply adding the supplement to the diet has no effect. Furthermore, a tiny pill that swells to the size of a tennis ball in the stomach is being touted as a cure for obesity. The pill contains an absorbent substance which expands by more than 1,000 times when combined with water-making, makes dieters feel full. The team behind this research is from the Institute for Composite and Biomedical Materials at Italy’s National Research Council. Shrink your stomach through surgery: When all methods fail to rid oneself of morbid obesity (BMI 40kg/m 2), bariatrics surgery is the vital way out. The two most common procedures involved in the surgery are gastric banding (reducing stomach size by creating a smaller upper stomach or ‘pouch’) and gastric bypass (creating a pouch and connecting it to a shortened section of the small intestine).
Reducing the size of the stomach decreases the food intake and bypassing the upper part of the small intestine reduces digestion and absorption of caloric foods. Further, a silicon balloon inserted into the stomach with an endoscope can make you feel so full that you eat just a quarter of what you normally do. Now, don’t feel confident with a curvy waistline alone. It has to be coupled with yummy breasts. A perfect combination of a curvy waistline and gorgeous breasts gives a new meaning to your sexiness quotient and makes you truly cosmopolitan.
Don’t have inhibitions. Keep your breasts sizzling: For most women, breast size is an important part of feeling good, desirable and normal. If you are not satisfied with your breast size, go for enhancement through bra, gels or exercise. Wearing the right-sized bra helps you get the wheels moving and in fourth gear. Go for wearing a bra that fits you perfectly. It will not only prevent back pain and provide much-needed support, but will shape your bust to look fabulous. Holding your bust up with proper support via a good bra can make you look a lot slimmer too. Couple your healthy diet with exercises such as push-ups or use the chest press exercise machine. It works to firm up the pectoral (chest) muscles beneath your breasts. This causes breasts to look firmer. If you are not inspired with your breast size even after exercise, they may need surgical intervention. Today, it is not uncommon for a woman to undergo breast implantation. It is the insertion of an artificial implant which is a balloonlike structure in the breast to increase its size. A study carried out by
the British Association of Aesthetic Plastic Surgeons found that operations had risen almost fourfold in 2007. You must think long and hard before going in for implants. Remember, augmentation through surgery is fleeting and the only constant thing that is here to stay is inner bliss and satisfaction. An implant may increase your commercial value, but it is not going to make your boyfriend love you more. According to survey, 66% of men said they would prefer that their girlfriends not undergo any plastic surgery.
Frequent body weight change hurts your boobs: Breast size becomes the causality in the process of losing or gaining weight. Frequent gaining and losing weight forces the tender skin of your breasts to expand and contract over and over again. The result is red or white streaks on the breasts. When you lose weight, fat is also lost from the boobs giving them a sagging appearance. Check up your top collection regularly: A bra used few times a week for, after several months, it becomes shapeless. A loose top can cause the ligaments and fibrous tissue in your twins the stretch, resulting in pain and even premature sagging. Further, during summer, the area around your breasts traps sweat and triggers the growth of zit producing bacteria and yeast. Stop this by wearing thin and breathable tops made of cotton.
Tips to spice up your pair: Understand the meaning of normal healthy breasts Always keep in mind that a normal, healthy breast comes in many different shapes and sizes. No breasts are the same. Your nipples may not match either. This is normal, so don’t worry about it. Asymmetry probably isn’t a health danger. The easiest way to correct the minor asymmetry is by placing a pad on one side of your bra.
FOR MOST WOMEN, BREAST SIZE IS AN IMPORTANT PART OF FEELING GOOD, DESIRABLE AND NORMAL. HOLDING YOUR BUST UP VIA A GOOD BRA CAN MAKE YOU LOOK A LOT SLIMMER TOO.
Keep your breasts clean and hydrated: Washing them every day with a gentle soap helps prevent breakouts which are caused by bacteria. Keep in mind, frequent application of soap can make the skin dry. Prevent the skin on and above your twins from becoming itchy by keeping them hydrated with an oilfree moisturising lotion after your morning shower and again before going to bed.
Inspect and feel them once a month: During the week after your period, when breast tissue is at its least dense, stand in front of a mirror and slowly glide your fingers over each breast and up into each armpit. Note any bulge, rash or puckering. Feel each part of your breast with light and then firm pressure, pressing into your flesh to detect any lumps. If you detect a lump, note exactly where it is and have your gyno examine it. Get your breasts examined: Visit your gyno once a year for clinical breast examination. Sonography and/or mammography is useful for breast cancer screening. If you have a family history of breast cancer, you can be tested for a genetic marker. We
Because winter can be harsh, here’s how to soften it.
By Dr Geetanjali Shetty
WINTER SKIN CARE
ost of us are well aware of what damage the summer can do to our skin but forget the toll winter can take on our face, arms and legs. Cold weather can be the catalyst for some worrying complexion complaints, and can leave the skin looking less than its best all over along with your hair and nails. So now is the time to start thinking about staying one step ahead at this chilly time of year by taking preventative action against the cold. During winter, skin tends to be dry, itchy and scaly. Dry skin is always prone to be more
tanned and turn darker, therefore extra care is needed during winter. With a little change in your skin care regime, you can fight winter woes and sail through the season in style.
SKIN CARE FOR WINTER
Change your cleanser: Dry skin is another winter woe to be tackled. And this is aggravated with the use of soaps and detergents. Cleansers containing salicylic acid and benzoyl peroxide can be particularly drying, especially if you are using them in conjunction with other acne treatment products. Use a mild face wash with moisturisers. Look out for those with aloe vera. Use mild toners in the place of astringents since they have a drying effect on the skin. You should take a short bath or shower (no more than 10 minutes) only once in a 24-hour period. For adults, showers are generally better than baths. While longer baths or showers, especially in hot water, can be quite relaxing, they will also increase the loss of natural oils from the skin and worsen skin dryness. The bath or shower should be in warm rather than hot water. Soap should be used minimally and only when and where needed (for example, under the arms, the groin and genitals, the feet, and the face). Moisturise: Moisturising is about
the only thing you can do to treat dry skin in the winter. Taking a hot bath and lathering on the moisturising cream is an easy and quick start to healing and preparing your skin for the cold elements that it will face for the day. Some of the best types of moisturisers for winter weather are ones that contain oils in them just because your body isn’t producing the oils needed to have hydrated skin. Lanolin, vitamin E oils, and avocado oils are perfect for absorbing moisture and retaining it in the skin. Protein from milk is a great way to soften skin that is dry or wrinkled. Honey is also a great moisturiser that is completely natural using nutrient-rich moisturising cream is the most important remedy for winter-beaten skin. To reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles while evening out natural skin tones, apply moisturising creams three times a day to maintain a smoother, softer, younger looking, more radiant complexion. The best time for a moisturiser is after a bath, which helps seal in the extra moisture in the upper layers of the skin thus making it soft and supple. Importantly, make sure you moisturise the knees, elbows, calves and heels well – these areas are prone to dryness since there aren’t many oil glands here. To soften cracked feet, rub in a rich body lotion,
DURING WINTER, SKIN TENDS TO BE DRY, ITCHY AND SCALY. DRY SKIN IS ALWAYS PRONE TO BE MORE TANNED AND TURN DARKER, THEREFORE EXTRA CARE IS NEEDED DURING WINTER.
pull on a pair of socks before going to sleep and you will wake up to find a beautiful pair of feet looking at you.
Exfoliate: Winter is a season when dead and dry skin gets accumulated very fast; one is required to exfoliate the entire body. Exfoliation will allow the skin to soak up more moisture and remain moisturised for a long time. There is no production of oil from oil glands of skin in winter. This is because of the low outer temperature and central heating. In this condition, there is more loss of water from the skin. This might result in premature wrinkled skin. All these conditions can be avoided by skin exfoliation but should be restricted for just once a week in this season. Protect: The sun’s damaging rays can affect your skin even during the winter months, so use a sunscreen. Since you’re usually bundled up when outside in the wintertime, you don’t need to lather sunscreen all over yourself. Try to wear make-up or moisturiser with SPF 15 on your face throughout the winter.
WINTER LIP CARE
Dry, cracked and chapped lips are a common winter complaint, and severe cases of chapped lips can be very painful, not to mention unattractive. What’s worse is that lipstick makes cracks stand out even more instead of concealing them. 44 Woman’s Era
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CARE OF THE HAIR IS AS ESSENTIAL AS THE SKIN. USE A MILD SHAMPOO DURING THE WINTER. DON’T OVERDO THE SHAMPOO REGIME SINCE IT WOULD REMOVE ALL TRACES OF NATURAL OIL LEADING TO DRY HAIR, DANDRUFF AND HAIR LOSS. ALSO, MAKE SURE YOU WASH YOUR HAIR WITH LUKEWARM WATER SINCE HOT WATER MAKES THE HAIR DRY.
Almond oil makes for a great lip moisturiser. Simply apply some almond oil to your lips before turning in for the night. Avoid licking your lips and don’t bite the skin on the surface of your lips. Lip balms are nowadays available commonly and some with an SPF factor as well to protect users from the harmful rays. Lastly, during the winter months, it would be wise to stay away from the lipsticks that claim that they are long lasting. Often, they can dry your lips out and cold weather will do that fast enough. Instead, look for creamy formulations.
heating appliances on your hair like straightening irons, curlers, etc. Expose your hair to natural drying. Keep away from blow dryers this season.
EATING THE RIGHT FOOD
Water is important no matter what time of year it is, but it is extremely important in the winter. You should drink plenty of liquids in the form of water (at least eight-10 glasses a day), lime or lemon juice, tender coconut water and other fruit juices to replenish the water lost from the winter air taking it out of your skin. A good night’s sleep is also a good step to take. While you sleep at night, your body is replenishing itself and preparing itself for the oncoming day ahead, whether it be hot or cold. If you aren’t getting enough sleep at night, your body as well as your skin will not be healthy and glowing. In the winter we regularly eat a lot more than we do in any other season. This is good as long as we are eating the right foods. Foods that are full of antioxidants help your skin to fight off inflammation and protect the cells of the membranes from being destroyed by the elements. Drinking green tea or eating foods with omega 3 are other great ways to help. These are rich with antioxidants. Taking a multi-vitamin is also a great way to help your skin along. Those with dry and damaged skin must have vitamin A in their diet. the dietary sources of vitamin A are carrots, papaya, spinach, coriander leaves, drum sticks, pumpkins and animal foods such as butter, curd, egg yolk, liver, fish liver oil, fish and whole milk. Evening primrose oil in the form of capsules helps in replenishing the lipids in the stratum corneum (uppermost layer of the skin), thus maintaining the moisture content of the skin. Lastly, if you have a skin disease due to dry skin (such as psoriasis, atopic dermatitis, eczemas, etc.) which are known to aggravate in this season, please visit your We dermatologist.
WINTER HAIR CARE
Care of the hair is as essential as the skin. Use a mild shampoo during the winter. Don’t overdo the shampoo regime since it would remove all traces of natural oil leading to dry hair, dandruff and hair loss. Also, make sure you wash your hair with lukewarm water since hot water makes the hair dry. Intensive hair conditioners help combat dryness caused by cold weather. Conditioners are a must after every wash especially for dry and thick hair in this weather. Since the cold weather causes your hair to dry, massage your hair in aloe vera juice for a few minutes. This will restore its softness. You can also treat your hair with an oil massage once or twice a week. Olive oil can work wonders in reinforcing moisture to your hair. Avoid exposing your hair to frequent colouring, streaking or ironing as they can rob your hair of its moisture and it is advisable to avoid
unboiled milk on a cotton wool to lightly rub the area. Or opt for the skin whitening creams that work overnight.
I am 18 and have a regular problem with blemishes after a pimple. What can I do to lighten the area again? Use a thick slice of potato and tape it in place with medical tape so it stays there for a minimum of 20 minutes. Then remove and wash the area off. Do it every day. Consult a dermatologist who might suggest something precise for skin lightening as well.
I was gifted a skincare product that said ‘organic’. What does that mean and why is it better? I have noted that this suited me a lot better than other products I was using earlier. When any beauty product says ‘organic’, it means that the ingredients are all natural. They would use herbs, floral extracts, essential oils, etc. These products avoid any chemicals and pesticides kind of harsher products. They are natural and hence leave better results if you have no specific problem to address. Also, if your skin is ‘hypo allergic’ these are good products.
dyed hair comes from the clorine of the swimming pool water. While different hairdressers might use fancy products to diminish that effect a simple homemade paste could be of baking soda and water. Apply it to the hair and leave for 10 minutes. Rinse, shampoo and always condition as appropriate.
I recently turned 45 and find that pigmentation on my cheeks is getting darker. What can I do to combat it as, otherwise, I look much younger and am quite fit physically? Hyper-pigmentations occur due to excess of melanin and this is linked with hormonal fluctuations – something to be expected around the age of 45. You can ask for topical creams to suppress the production of melanin which is best prescribed by a dermatologist. This would lighten the dark patch. From your kitchen you can use
I use papaya in summer with yoghurt in a facial. Can I use the same in winter too as it seems too cold? My skin is normal with an oily T zone. Yes, papaya can be used in winter too. Make a mask with pulped papaya and mix in a couple of spoonfuls of oatmeal. Add honey to give it sticking power and apply for 20 minutes. Another wonderful winter ingredient can be two teaspoons of orange juice.
I want to do my waxing at home. How can I make good wax at home? Making wax at home is not always economical or easy. Even parlours purchase wax from a readymade supplier. Use one cup of honey, 3/4 cup of molasses, 1/2 cup sugar, and a little juice from a lemon. Be sure to heat it up enough to where its not too hot. Stir, apply to the area you want to wax and remove it with linen strips. Alternatively buy ready wax and heat it either in microwave or in a container of hot water and it will still be cheaper than going to a parlour.
My younger teenaged sister has dyed her hair blonde. The trouble is when she goes swimming it turns a tinge of green and she looks like a monster until she goes to the hairdresser. Is there no home remedy? The greenish tinge for blonde
I have facial hair which I bleach. I notice that when I use heavier makeup the hair looks coated and stands out in the light. What should I do? What am I doing wrong? You should apply the foundation from forehead and centre, veering towards the sides. Where there is facial hair, go against the hair to avoid streaks and traces. The brush should blot and absorb the excess oil of the skin as you apply the foundation. To get the perfect look with foundation, the key lies in blending well.
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The Love Messages
SMSs that conveyed wrong ideas. By Neelam Chandra
she learnt that they had a daughter who was her anika was working as an area sales age. She welcomed Kavyaa with open arms and manager in a big pharmaceutical company they became the best of pals despite their and had a hectic life schedule. She had just differences in nature. completed her last meeting at 5.30 p.m. and While Kanika enjoyed studying, Kavyaa hated it. rushed to Nagpur airport to catch the 6.30 She enjoyed singing all the time and knew all the p.m. flight to Mumbai. She had another important meeting scheduled at Mumbai next songs of Mohammed Rafi and Lata Mangeshkar, who were her favourites. After the twelfth class, day at 9 a.m. Kanika decided to pursue B. Pharm, while Kavyaa She finally relaxed when she sat on her window had no desire to study further. Since her parents seat in the plane. She opened her shoulder-length were forcing her to study, she took admissions in hair and removed her bangles and earrings. She BA. simply wanted to relax just now and hoped that the person who sits next to her would not be a talkative ne day, Kavyaa happily came to tell Kanika person since she had no energy to carry out the that somebody was coming to see her and she formality of talking. She just closed her eyes. was very excited about it. Kanika was She felt a lady come and sit next to her, but she did not even open her eyes. But soon she could hear shocked. She asked her, “Kavyaa, you are just in the first year and only 18 years old. Do you want to the lady sobbing. She looked at her to find her fair cheeks bathed in tears. She looked at her face again get married now?” Kavyaa, replied, “Why not? You know, Mangesh is very smart and handsome, an and a faint sign of recognition flashed in her mind. MBA and working in one of the best multinationals. She was her neighbour and childhood friend He has a bright future. If he says yes, I will marry Kavyaa. She tapped her shoulders and Kavyaa also him.” Since she had already made up her mind, recognised her immediately. there was nothing Kanika could say. Amidst tears, Kavyaa squeezed Kanika’s hands Mangesh did say yes to Kavyaa, but he was and said, “I am so happy to see you, Kanika. So sorry for my tears.” Kanika asked her, “Kavyaa, you ready to marry her only with a condition. They would get engaged now but get married only after were crying so hopelessly. I cannot believe that the she completed her graduation. He wanted ever-chirping Kavyaa will have tears in her his wife to be at least a graduate. Kavyaa eyes!” The first one did not like the delay, but Kanika started This made Kavyaa cry all the more. read, ‘I am respecting Mangesh. Kanika just held her hands and let her cry. missing you’, Kavyaa and Mangesh got engaged After she had calmed down. Kavyaa told the second one soon after and they had a lovely courtship Kanika, “I am divorcing Mangesh. I am said, ‘Please period. They would not sleep without going to Mumbai to get back my things.” rush to 303, talking to each other and he would come Kanika was shocked to hear this. Her mind to Kavyaa’s house at least once a month. took her down the memory lanes. Hilton After B.Pharm, Kanika went to Mumbai Kanika was staying in a palatial Towers’ and for her MBA. Meanwhile, Kavyaa’s building. She was the only child and her the third one parents had shifted to their own house at father would normally be on business read, ‘I love Nagpur. Kavyaa specifically invited her tours. She would always feel very lonely. you for what She was overjoyed to learn that a tenant you have done for her marriage and Kanika attended it. After her marriage, Kavyaa also shifted would be occupying the first floor soon. today to me’. to Mumbai, but Kanika’s life in college And her happiness knew no bounds when
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had become too hectic and she rarely found time. After her MBA, Kanika took up a job in one of the leading pharmaceutical companies in Nagpur and lost touch with Kavyaa. Four years later, she was meeting Kavyaa now in this state. She asked her what had driven her to this extreme step. Kavyaa replied, “Kanika, you won’t believe it, but Mangesh is having an extramarital affair with his boss Susan.
had doubted it for long and had also heard rumours about their closeness. But things became clear last week. I just happened to see his mobile and started reading his in-box when I came across these messages from Susan. You know what they were? The first one read, ‘I am missing you’, the second one said, ‘Please rush to 303, Hilton Towers’ and the third one read, ‘I love you for what you have done today to me’. How can I stay with such a person? When I confronted him and asked him to explain, he simply said that I am overdoing things and if I keep thinking like this, we’d better separate. I was so angry and Immediately came back to my parents. I just cannot stay with a husband who is having an affair right under my nose.” By that time it was announced that the plane is approaching Mumbai. Kanika asked her where she would be staying at night. She was not so sure and hence Kanika invited her to stay with her in Hotel Marriott where she had booked a room. Kavyaa kept crying the full night. Kanika
was feeling really bad for her and asked her if she had met Susan, her husband’s heart-throb. Kavyaa got annoyed at the suggestion and said, “Why should I meet that bitch, the destroyer of my family?” Kanika slowly convinced her that there was no harm in meeting her. Since Kanika’s meeting would get over by 11 a.m. and she had the full day to herself, she offered Kavyaa to go with her to meet Susan. Kavyaa reluctantly agreed. After Kanika’s official meeting, she and Kavyaa started off together for Mangesh’s office to meet Susan. They first decided to go to Mangesh’s room. His room had a partition and was shared with another colleague Suyash Pathak. Mangesh’s computer still had the desktop photo of Kavyaa. When Suyash realised who they were, he invited them in. He was full of praise for Mangesh and surprisingly asked Kavyaa what had made them arrive at this decision. She told him about his extramarital affair. Suyash was shocked to hear this. He told her that this is simply impossible, since no one in the office had seen Mangesh even flirt with anyone. He further added that the best thing for them would be to meet his boss Susan, who was closest to him. Kavyaa had not named the person with whom Mangesh was having this affair. Kavyaa gave the ‘Did I not tell you look’ when Suyash talked about closeness with Susan. While they were going to Susan’s room, Kavyaa kept muttering, “See how he was talking about Mangesh’s closeness to Susan? I am going to really kick her on her face.” Kanika quietened her since they had already reached Susan Gonzales’s chamber. Kavyaa whispered in Kanika’s ears, “I am not going in as Kavyaa, but Kavyaa’s sister Divyaa.” They knocked at the door and heard a “Come in”. They went inside and Kavyaa introduced herself as Divyaa and Kanika as her friend. Susan was sitting with her back towards them since she was working at the computer at the back. She had short curly hair and was looking quite glamorous in her magenta sleeveless top.
Upon hearing their introduction, she turned towards them and they were surprised to find that she was quite an old lady. Her age was more than 50. Kanika could see the surprise on Kavyaa’s face also. From what she had told Kanika, she had assumed Susan to be a much younger person. Susan seemed quite happy to meet them and immediately ordered sandwiches and coffee. She began by praising Mangesh a lot for his efficiency and intelligence. She added that she wanted to get in touch with Kavyaa since she had heard about their impending divorce and told them that she would like to help them if she could in any way.
I had SMSed this message to Mangesh during this meeting since I was really missing his ability to convince people and handle them diplomatically.
ivyaa (or rather Kavyaa) told her that Kavyaa had doubts about his extramarital affair. Susan started laughing. Divyaa told her about the messages from Susan which Kavyaa had read on his mobile. Now Susan was serious and said, “At times, when messages are read without any context, they are bound to create confusion as they had done now.” She went on: “In fact these messages were sent by me only to Mangesh. The first message was ‘I am missing you’. Well, on that day, there was an important meeting in Delhi and Mangesh has expressed his inability to come since it was his engagement anniversary and he wanted to organise a surprise party for Kavyaa in the evening. The client with whom we had this meeting was a very tough one. I was finding it very difficult to handle him. I had SMSed this message to Mangesh during this
meeting since I was really missing his ability to convince people and handle them diplomatically. “The second message was ‘Please rush to 303, Hilton Towers’. Well, I was at Delhi as I told you and another important client turned up at Mumbai. There was a mess-up in dates and we had expected him the next day. Upon reaching India, he gave me a call. Since I was not at Mumbai, I asked Mangesh to rush to 303, Hilton Towers, where the visitor was staying. Mangesh had a three-hour-long discussion with him and finally clinched the deal, despite stiff competition from five other firms. I was too happy to know this, but since my meeting at Delhi was not yet over, we were exchanging messages only and I sent him the third message saying ‘I love you for what you have done today to me’ — since it was basically my work to meet this client.” She continued, “From my end, please apologise to Kavyaa. I am really sorry that my messages have caused so many problems for everybody. Mangesh is like a son to me. Both my sons are in Canada and Mangesh’s presence around me makes me feel that they are near me.” All of Kavyaa’s doubts had been cleared and there were tears again in her eyes. Whether these were tears of happiness or a feeling of guilt for misunderstanding Mangesh, Kanika could not make out. They came out of Susan’s room and Kavyaa took a taxi straight for her home. Kanika could see a fresh glow and determination on Kavyaa’s face as she wished her goodbye. We
HONEY FOR BETTER HEALTH
Honey is used as a food supplement or as a medicine. It is good for health because it contains mirerals like sodium, calcium, potassium, magnesium and iron as well as some vitamins of the B group and vitamin C. For centuries, honey has been considered a wonder food in many countries. In ancient Greece athletes took large quantities of honey while training for the Olympic games. Even today, honey is taken by cricketers and swimmers to increase their endurance. Children who are given honey regularly, improve their blood count, 54 weight, energy and appearance. It has been proved that two tablespoons of honey contain as much energy as a large farm egg. Honey is used in post-surgical treatment for wound dressings containing honey hastens healing. Honey draws out the moisture from the wound and the bacteria quickly dies in the dry atmosphere. It is also effective in keeping the lungs, kidney and skin remarkably free from diseases. Just add a spoonful of honey with pomegranate juice and drink – your cold and flu will be gone. Do you Woman’s Era
want to slim? Take a spoonful of honey in lime juice. Or mix a spoonful of honey with milk every night. If you get pain in the throat, immediately take a spoonful of honey. The pain will simply vanish. Are you suffering from chronic cough? Make a paste of a spoonful of honey and woodapple, eat it every night and get relief. A teaspoonful of pure honey every morning with water enlivens nerves and provides daylong freshness. But do not smear honey on your hair, since you will end up with a white wig! – Ram Babu, Vijayawada.
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Sweep black-cake eyeliner on the upper lashes.
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Always keep a close regular watch by sticking with the basic necessities of the budget, to avoid any deviation. This will save many blushes during turmoil.
By Suman Bajpai
FOR NEW YEAR START EARLY
inancial planning is about the right mix of financial strategies to meet your life goals; a good place to start is clarifying what's most important to you. It could be saving for an education, buying a home, planning for 'what if' situations, dealing with a significant life change (e.g. marriage, new baby, loss or change of job), or something else.
Make a budget: So, you’ve splurged on party, gifts, holidays and
fun… Now the party’s over, New Year has begun with new hopes and dreams. With new ventures and opportunities, make a habit to save in the beginning so that you will be on track when the years end without any regrets. Getting your financial affairs in order may demand much more than just a tightening of the household budget. A budget shows you the sources of income and types of expenditure. Prepare a realistic budget considering your incomes and expenditure. A well-planned budget shows you how to manage cash flow. While forecasting cash inflows always be conservative as its best to underestimate than overestimate. Write down your financial position (total salary, assets, liabilities, etc.), list your spending and work out where you can save. For a start, simplify your needs. How much is enough? Do you really need that
home renovation vacation in some hills station or new car this year? These things cause wealth ‘leakage’, so think carefully about taking them on. If you don’t have time to enjoy your possessions because you’re working hard to pay off the mortgage, what’s the point? You want happiness but not on terms of debt. Excessive holidays, beauty treatments and shopping sprees can be a major drain on your purse power. While you don’t have to completely deny yourself, there’s a compromise to be made – less spending on temporary treats will give you greater long-term satisfaction and happiness. One reason people fail at budgeting is because they have unreasonable expectations. A better strategy is to establish a realistic budget – one you can live with because it isn’t overly strict and
A BUDGET SHOWS YOU THE SOURCES OF INCOME AND TYPES OF EXPENDITURE. PREPARE A REALISTIC BUDGET CONSIDERING YOUR INCOMES AND EXPENDITURE. A WELLPLANNED BUDGET SHOWS YOU HOW TO MANAGE CASH FLOW.
doesn’t make you feel deprived. Start by listing your necessities – housing, food, kid’s education, and utilities and so on. If you have money
left over, then budget a modest amount for the occasional luxury – like dinner out once a month, or trips to some nearby place. Set reasonable limits on these latter categories, but don’t feel compelled to completely slash them from your budget. That way, you’ll be able to stick with your budget over the long haul.
for the family's future but the savings will also prove to be handy on a rainy day. After all, women are considered to be better savers than men!
Make a list: Everyone has certain fixed incomes and expenses each month. However, it is important to set aside money to save for big purchases, like the down payment on a house, emergencies like unexpected medical bills, and of course retirement. Anything left after that becomes your disposable income. Planning your lifestyle so that you spend no more than that amount every month is one of the keys to financial success. The first thing you need to do is make a list of where your salary goes. Along with the major payments such as rent, home loans, car loans, education costs, insurance premium, etc., you also need to list down all the small and big expenses regards to food, travelling, entertainment, shopping, and other household expenses. After you have made this list, you need to check where you can cut down on your spending. Most people don't realise that they spend a lot of money on things that don't really excite them a lot. Cutting down on such items can help you to save some big bucks for things that do matter to you. Try to put away about 10 to 20 per cent of your take-home pay for savings or investing. Having extra money gives you more twist room in your financial plan and more control over your financial life. Apart from working women, homemakers too should take to investing. They can save from the monthly allowance they get to run the house. Not only will this enable them to plan better
No credits, no cards: The mistake people make when using credit cards is that they use them for indistinct purposes and within an indistinct time-frame. You should never use your credit card like cash! The benefit of credit cards is that you can make a major purchase and then pay for it over a short period of time. If you can't pay off those bills on a monthly basis, don't shop. Credit card debts will kill your long-term financing, will create a bigger and bigger financial burden, and will put more pressure on your marriage relationship. It is important to priorities your payments. Start with paying your investments first, then the credit, then yourself. Don't carry too many cards. Multiple cards make it easier to rack up debts because it's harder to keep track of your spending. Having lots of cards isn't necessarily bad for your credit, but misusing them is. Limit your cards so that you can manage carefully: one card for major purchases and one for short-term purchases that you can pay off every month. Savings account: Set up a separate savings account. If you mingle your savings with your regular checking account, you'll almost certainly dip into your savings and may never pay them back. Having your savings in a separate account is a constant reminder that these funds are earmarked for your future, and watching the balance grow is not only rewarding and motivating - it's downright exciting! Decide on a percentage of your gross income to designate as savings. Ten per cen is a good starting point, but if you've developed a budget and have analyzed your spending and you honestly can't find a way to set aside 10 per cent for your future, then start out with eight per cent, or five per cent, or whatever you're able to do with perhaps a little
bit of discomfort but without great sacrifice. Create emergency funds. Normally, it should be three months’ expenses. Increase the amount if your job security is low or you have many dependents. Keep putting fixed amounts into a joint account, operable by either or survivor, till you reach the target. If you need a large emergency fund, you could park a portion in short-term liquid funds of large and successful schemes, which can be encashed easily and which earn a higher return. Do not touch funds for emergencies unless there is one.
living for a year? Have you saved for your kid’s education? Before diving into the equity, bond, property or offshore markets, ensure that you have an emergency fund — three to six months’ worth of expenses saved in a money-market account. If that’s covered, start investing. Think about tax-saving changes you can make this year.
Reconsider financial goals: With the beginning of the year, evaluate what you are trying to accomplish. Do you have an emergency fund in place? If you are without your regular income from next month, will you be able to maintain your standard of
Be happy : Both money and saving both are important parts of your life, but don’t you want to start your life once again with the sunlight of the New Year with a happy beat, do things you enjoy? Simple enough! Being happy is easy when you're doing things that make you smile. It could be anything from knitting, and gardening, to dancing, reading or watching a movie. Start a new project or continue one that you’ve been putting off. Click here for fun ideas to enjoy life! We
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My boyfriend and I cannot get married for at least four years since it will take that long for us to finish our studies, get jobs and establish ourselves. We have also decided not to have sex until we get married. But we touch and pet a lot. A few days ago, my boyfriend put his fingers into my vagina (he often does that but this time he did it deeper than usual) and I began to bleed. I am now scared. Am I no longer a virgin? Also please tell me
if oral sex when a woman sucks a man’s penis, is safe. It appears that your boyfriend broke your hymen and yes, this means that you are technically no longer a virgin. But since you are going to marry this man, it shouldn’t cause a problem. Oral sex is safe in the sense that you cannot become pregnant, but remember that any heavy petting can lead to a loss of control and you could end up having sex.
I am 27 years old and I had a love- marriage six years ago. Though I love my husband, I have a lot of problems. My husband is an absolute mother’s boy and cannot stand up to his mother at all. I want to continue with my studies now because my in-laws are rich and I don’t have to do any housework and so am bored at home. But my mother-in-law thinks that too much studies makes women haughty and difficult and so has ordered me to discontinue my distance education programme. My husband refuses to discuss the matter with his mother and says that I just have to obey her. Another thing is that my husband has a problem with sex. He did not touch me for the first two years of marriage. After that he had sex with me for about two months and during this time I became pregnant. He has not touched me after that. I need sex and this is a big problem for me. I have a three-year-old daughter whom I love very much. I want her to be happy and have a stable upbringing. But I feel as if I am going mad. I am lonely, have nothing to do and am physically unsatisfied. What should I do? It is really sad that a love-marriage should have turned out like this. It is also surprising that you did not get to know your husband better during your courting days. As you talked didn’t you realise that he was tied to his mother’s apron strings? You could even have got an inkling of his disinterest in sex from the way he treated you. I presume, again because it was a love-match, that your husband didn’t marry you unwillingly and that he isn’t in love with another woman. Now you mustn’t let the situation drift but should talk frankly to your husband about two matters. Tell him that he needs to see a doctor/sexologist, and ensure that he does so. Also, tell him that you will not give up your studies and that it is up to him to sort things out with your mother-in-law. You can also talk to her yourself or have a sister-in-law, your father-in-law or some other older relative intervene for you. Be polite but firm. Assure them that you will not become haughty or difficult and prove that to them.
I am 26 years old and am very upset because my breasts are very small. Earlier I didn’t feel so bad, but nowadays my friends tell me that no man will want to marry me as all men are turned on by big breasts. No clothes look good on me either. So I have developed quite a complex. Are there any exercises I can do to increase the size of my breasts? No, there are no exercises that increase the size of a woman’s breasts. However, you can have a surgical procedure and have silicon implants put in to make your breasts bigger. But you should have this done by a good surgeon whom you have checked out. Also, take into consideration the fact that occasionally the implants give trouble by “leaking” and then causing pain and discomfort. Implants can however be removed if they give trouble or you change your mind and want smaller breasts again. But you should not be so influenced by what your friends say. One’s body is important, but more important is the kind of person one is. People like and love us with whom we are close and not just our looks. So there is every chance that you will find someone who will love you for yourself and not just for your breasts, your eyes or some other part of your body.
has a lot of information on magazines and publishing houses you can send your work to. If you lack confidence in your language skills, you can do a course in creative writing. These are offered by many universities and institutes. But this course is not necessary for becoming a writer. Script writing is a specialised kind of writing and to learn it, you could do a course in scriptwriting offered by a media institute. Then comes the difficult part – getting a TV channel or director to accept a script you have written. For this you have to use any contacts you have and do the rounds of channels, studios and the offices of directors. Once you become known, you could be given stories to turn into scripts.
I am interested in becoming a writer. I want to write articles and stories. I would also like to write scripts for TV serials and films. Please help me and tell me how I can achieve my aims. If you want to become a writer, you must start writing! Write articles and stories and send them to magazines and newspapers to be published. Be prepared for rejection slips and don’t get depressed if manuscripts are returned. Once your manuscripts are accepted, printed and paid for, your confidence will increase. If you want to write a book too, you should just plan it and start. Once it is completed, you should send the manuscript to publishing houses for publication. The Internet 70
I am 24 years old and I have just finished my studies and got a good job in a BPO. But the BPO is in Bangalore which is far away from my native town. So I will have to stay alone there. I have got a room in a working women’s hostel and so my parents are okay with sending me so far away, but I am very nervous about my safety. This is mainly because I have never moved closely with men other than close relatives and I will have to do so in my new life. So I find myself worrying about hypothetical situations and wondering how I would keep myself safe in them. What if a man accosts me in the street? What if I have to stay late in office and am the only woman to do so? What if male colleagues plot to give me something mixed in a soft drink or even water so that I lose consciousness and they then rape me? These are only a few scenarios that are giving me sleepless nights. Please advise me on how I should deal with them. You seem to over-reacting to your situation. Did something happen to you when you were younger and has that made you so afraid and wary? If there was such an incident in your past, you should try to get over your Woman’s Era
fear so that you can lead a normal life. Remember that most men are decent and you are in no danger from them. But it is better to be over-careful than to be too care-free. So be cautious and alert and do not put yourself into awkward situations. For this you should follow certain rules. First of all, do not speak to strangers, especially those who accost you in the street. Of course, this does not mean that you should ignore an old man who is lost and asks you for directions. You should always use your common sense! As far as male colleagues are concerned, you cannot afford to totally ignore them because you have to interact with them in your work and will need their cooperation. So be friendly and helpful, but maintain your distance. If you have to work late, try and see that a girlfriend also stays back. If that cannot be arranged try to postpone your work to the next day. If you can’t do that either, make sure that the security officers/peons/your superiors know that you are working late. Make sure that the office car will see you home or, if that is not possible, you leave while the streets are still crowded. It is better if you never accept a drink from a man who is not a very good friend. Get your water/soft drink yourself. Also remember that there is safety in numbers. So go out with girlfriends or in a mixed group as far as you can. If you are generally sensible and not gullible, you will remain safe. You should not get paranoid about your safety either. You could also do a course in selfdefence and carry a pepper spray in your handbag when you go out.
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Chicken spinach and peas quiche
Winter is a time when you can allow your taste buds the treat they demand. Pies, puddings, pastas – just about everything looks good and tastes even more heavenly with the touch of ingredients available during the winter months. So let’s party and begin the new year by adorning our dining tables with tasty and colourful dishes!
By Roma Ghosh
in the New Year
CHICKEN SPINACH AND PEAS QUICHE
INGREDIENTS: For the crust: 300 gm of maida 140 gm of melted butter 1/ tsp carom seeds – ajwain 2 salt to taste For the filling: 11/2 cups of cooked chicken – shredded into strands or cut into small pieces 2 tsp of oil 1 cup shelled peas 1 cup spinach cut into small pieces 3 beaten eggs 50 ml of milk 50 ml of cream 3 pinches of sodi bi carb 1/ cup grated cheese 2 salt to taste METHOD Sift the flour, salt, ajwain and mix in the butter and mix with your fingers to resemble bread crumbs. Add just enough water to form a stiff pliable dough. Roll out the dough or into a ‘chapatti’ which is bigger in size than the greased pie dish that you are going to use. This is because you want the crust to cover the sides of the pie or baking dish. Line the dish with the pastry and keep aside. To prepare the filling: Heat the oil and fry the chicken pieces adding salt to taste for about two minutes. Remove and cool to room temperature. Place in a mixing bowl and add the rest of the ingredients for the filling in the mixing bowl and stir gently. Pour this mixture into the prepared crust and bake in a pre heated O oven for 20-25 minutes at 180 C or until the mixture is set. If you want the pie crust to be a nice
golden brown you could alternately bake the pie crust in the oven for 10 minutes, take it out and then pour the filling and bake again. Allow it to cool slightly in the oven. Use a pizza cutter and serve in slices.
Upside down cheese cake
INGREDIENTS: For the pie crust: 250 gm of maida 150 gm of butter salt to taste For the filling: 1 cup chopped spinach leaves or peas 1 cup flour 1 tsp of baking powder pepper powder to taste 1 cup cream 3/ cup of grated cheese 4 salt to taste METHOD Sift the flour, salt, and mix in the butter and mix with your
fingers to resemble bread crumbs. Add just enough water to form a stiff pliable dough. Divide the dough into 5 portions. Roll out the dough or into a ‘chapatti’ which is bigger in size than the greased small sized pie dishes that you are going to use. This is because you want the crust to cover the sides of the pie or baking dishes. If your pie dishes are bigger or you want to bake only big pie you could use one dish. If the dishes
are small you will have to divide the pie crust into portions accordingly. Line the dish with the pastry and keep aside. For the filling: Mix all the ingredients together and mix well. Add all the liquid ingredients in a mixing bowl and then slowly add the maida to ensure no lumps form. Divide this filling into the number of pies you have chosen to make. Pour the mixture half way through each of the pastry cases and keep in an oven to bake at 160 degree C for 15-18 minutes or until the mixture has risen, is set and a light golden brown in colour. The one which you are using spinach will look much darker than the peas one once it is baked. Serve as individual pies.
UPSIDE DOWN CHEESE CAKE
INGREDIENTS: 200 gm of paneer – grated 120 gm of sugar – ground to a powder 1/ tsp of cinnamon powder 4 150 gm of hung curd 21/2 tsp of gelatine soaked in 1/2 cup of luke warm water for 10 minutes
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METHOD Grind the biscuits in a mixer and mix in the oil a little at a time. Use this mixture to line a pie dish – preferably a non stick cake dish so that it is easy to over turn the cheese cake. First grease the bottom of the dish using your finger to spread 2-3 tsp of oil on the base of the dish. Now line this with the prepared biscuit mixture and flatten with your fingers. Leave this in the fridge till you prepare the mixture for the cheese cake. Grind the sugar in the mixer and then add the hung curd and blend well. Now mix in the gelatine, cinnamon powder and the grated paneer and blend once again to obtain a smooth batter. Pour this batter over the prepared cheese tin. Cover with a foil and keep in the fridge for at least three hours for the cake to set well. Loosen the sides of the cheese cake with the tip of a knife. Run the top of the knife along the edge of the cheese cake. Place a plate on top and overturn the cheese cake immediately. The cake if set well should turn over very easily because of the grease at the base of the non stick pan. Cut into slices and serve. You could also use silicon cake dishes for freezing the pie. It is easier to overturn the cake from the cake cases made out of silicon.
sweet lime juice 11/2 tsp gelatine – soaked in 1/2 cup of luke warm water for 10 minutes For the bottom layer: 300 gm of dark chocolate biscuits 4-5 tbsp of melted butter. METHOD Grind the biscuits in a mixer and mix in the oil a little at a time. Use this mixture to line a pie dish with the prepared biscuit mixture and flatten with your fingers. The layer should be one eighth of an inch in thickness or more so that you can see the layer clearly when the cheese cake is ready. You may need to increase the quantity of the biscuits depending on the size of the dish you are using. Leave the biscuit layered dish in the fridge till you prepare the mixture for the cheese cake. Grind the sugar in the mixer and then add the hung curd and blend well. Now mix in the Cream cheese and blend once again.
Dark bottomed cheese cake
Now mix in the gelatine, and the grated paneer, and the musambi juice and blend once again to obtain a smooth batter. Pour this batter over the prepared cheese tin. Cover with a foil and keep in the fridge for at least three hours for the cake to set well. You could also use a spring cake tin for preparing this cheese cake. It is easy to unlock the spring tin on a serving dish so that the two layers are easily visible.
CAULIFLOWER IN MINT TOPPED WITH POPPY SEEDS
INGREDIENTS: 1 big head of cauliflower – weighing around 700 gm cut into flowerets 1 cup of oil 1/ tsp of haldi powder 4
DARK BOTTOMED CHEESE CAKE
INGREDIENTS: 200 gm of cream cheese 200 gm of hung curd 200 gm of grated paneer 150 gm of sugar or as per taste 3-4 tbsp of musambi juice –
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Cauliflower in mint topped with poppy seeds Savory Canopies
begin to change colour. Lower the heat and mix in the green chillies. Now mix in the green chutney and cook for a further 2-3 minutes. When the preparation is dry and all the water is absorbed from the chutney put off the heat and sprinkle the poppy seeds. Serve with parathans.
INGREDIENTS: 12-14 ready made pastry cases or you can make canopy cases at home For the filling: 1 cup of mixed sprouts 1 tsp of chaat masala 1 chopped red bell peppers with the seeds 2 tsp of lemon juice 1 small sized onions – finely chopped For the home made canopies: bread slices
2 chopped green chillies 1/ cup of green chutney 2 prepared from mint and coriander leaves salt to taste For garnishing: 3 tsp of poppy seeds salt to taste
METHOD Wash the cauliflower and drain out all the water. Sprinkle salt and haldi on the cauliflower and set aside for 10 minutes. Heat the oil in a non stick pan and fry the cauliflower flowerets, covering with a lid till the flowerets
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or if you are making the flaky ones then the following will be needed 200 gm of maida 80 gm of butter 100 gm of butter for spreading on the dough salt to taste METHOD If you are making the canopies with bread all you need to do is cut the bread slices with a round cutter or a katorie. This round shape should be slightly bigger then your muffin case in which you are going to bake the canopies. If you do not have muffin trays put the bread slices into a katorie or just leave it in a pre heated oven to bake at 160 degree C for 5-7 minutes or until a light golden brown If you want the flaky canopies, then mix the maida and the salt and the butter and knead into a dough. You should need little water to knead the dough. Gently roll out the dough in a round circle. Lavishly spread the butter on the dough and start ‘pleating’ the dough as you do for parathans. Roll out once again and cut out circular pieces with a katorie. Line a muffin tray ensuring that the round pastry piece is as big as the muffin case to cover even the sides. Choose small muffin cases and place a circular piece of dough so that it folds inside the muffin tray to cover it from all sides inside. Bake at 150 degree C for 10 minutes and then reduce the heat and cook a few minutes further till crispy and golden brown. Allow to cool in the oven. You can store these cases in an air tight container.
INGREDIENTS: 12-14 ready made canopies For making canopies at home follow the recipe given above For the filling: 2 cups of sweetened thick cream 1 cup of dried fruits or 1 cup of pomegranate seeds
2 tsp of chopped and sweetened fruit peels – used in cakes fresh fruits of your choice METHOD Mix all the ingredients for the filling and fill the cases just before serving. Instead of the sweetened cream try using shrikhand and mix the other ingredients with it. It gives a delicious taste when put into crispy shells. An easy to prepare sweet dish but excellent in taste.
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INGREDIENTS: For the pie crust: 250 gm of maida 150 gm of butter salt to taste For the filling: 1 cup of grated cheese 1/ cup of cream cheese 2 1/ cup of grated paneer 2 3-4 tbsp of milk blend all the ingredients for the filling and keep aside For the tarts: Sift the flour, salt, and mix in the butter and mix with your fingers to resemble bread crumbs. Add just enough water to form a stiff pliable dough. Divide the dough into 10-12 portions. Roll out the dough or into a ‘chapatti’ which is bigger in size than the greased tart trays or muffin cases you are going to
Winter vegetables in basil
use. Line each of the muffin cases with the pastry and keep aside. Pour the prepared mixture half way through each of the line muffin cases and bake in a pre heated oven at 160 degree for atleast 12-15 minutes or until the crust begins to attain a light golden colour.
2 tbsp of maida 1 tsp chillie flakes salt to taste METHOD Break the broccoli and cauliflower into flowerets. Scrape the carrots and cut into cubes or pieces as per your choice, string the beans and cut into one inch Pieces. Heat the olive oil and saute the vegetables till just tender but still crunchy and not over cooked. Lower the heat and cover and add salt to taste. Also mix in the chillie flakes and the basil. In a small mixing bowl, mix 2 cups of water with the maida and stir to obtain a smooth paste ensuring that there are no lumps. Add this paste to the cooked vegetables and stir constantly so that the paste does not become lumpy. Stir and cook for only 1-2 minutes more. At this stage if you feel you need extra gravy then add some more water but ensure that you keep stirring so that the maida does not turn into lumps. If you have basil leaves, then garnish with basil leaves and serve with dinner rolls.
WINTER VEGETABLES IN BASIL
INGREDIENTS: 300 gm of broccoli 200 gm of mushrooms 100 gm of carrots 200 gm of French beans 1 small head of cauliflower 1 tsp dried basil powder or 7-8 fresh basil leaves 3 tsp of olive oil
PEPPERY ROAST MUTTON
INGREDIENTS: 1 kg leg of mutton – bone removed 2 tbsp of ginger garlic paste 1 tbsp of green chillie paste 1 cup of curd 3-4 twigs of fresh green pepper 1 cup of oil For garnishing: fried onions potato wedges – optional METHOD Try out this mutton recipe during winter time when fresh
Peppery roast mutton
green pepper is available in South India . Keep the mutton pieces in large chunks. With the tip of your knife, make insertions in the mutton so that the marinade seeps well into the mutton. Mix the curd, salt and ginger garlic paste and chillie paste to obtain a marinade. Marinate the mutton pieces with this marinade and salt to taste and leave it aside for atleast 6-7 hours (preferably over night) Cook the marinate mutton with the marinade and 2 cups of water in a pressure cooker till the mutton is half tender. Remove from the pressure cooker and retain any gravy or juice that may remain. Tear the mutton into long pieces or bite size pieces as per your convenience. Grease a oven tray and place the mutton pieces with the remaining marinade or gravy from the pressure cooker. At this stage you may also add the potato wedges which have been peeled and salted.
Place the mutton and the potatoes in a pre heated oven at 180 degree C for atleast 45 minutes or until the meat is tender. After every 5-6 minutes brush the mutton pieces with oil. Continue to do so till all the oil is used up. Just before the mutton is tender and soft – when it is 90 percent cooked throw around the fresh pepper and turn the mutton pieces so that the pepper mixes with the mutton. Allow to cook for 6-7 minutes more and serve hot with dinner rolls. You could have variations to this recipe. If you want you could not use a pressure cooker and roast the mutton on the oven or the grill from minute one. Also once the mutton is ready you could heat 2 tbsp of oil and then fry the mutton pieces with the fresh pepper.
months use these flowers to make a interesting delicacy INGREDIENTS: 300 gm of drumstick flowers green chillies chopped 2 tsp of ginger garlic paste 2 tbsp of browned onion paste 3 tbsp of tomato puree 1/4 tsp of haldi powder 1 tbsp of coriander – dhania powder 1 tsp of jeera powder 4-5 tbsp of oil salt to taste METHOD Boil the flowers in salted water for 2-3 minutes and drain out all the water. Discard the water. Heat the oil and fry the onion and ginger garlic paste. Add the flowers and continue to fry over low heat, stirring from time to time. Add the spices and salt and continue to cook over low heat for another 3-4 minutes. Add 2 tsp of water and cover with a lid. Allow to cook further for 2-3 minutes and serve hot with rotis.
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FISH IN SAFFRON SAUCE AND FRESH GARLIC
INGREDIENTS: 12-15 pieces of fish – with or without bones 3 tsp chopped fresh garlic with
the leaves 1 tsp of red chillie paste 3-4 tbsp of olive oil salt to taste For the sauce: strands of saffron soaked in half cup of luke warm water 1 cup of curd 1 cup of cream 2 tbsp of tomato ketchup 3 tsp of garlic paste
11/2 tbsp of besan mixed in 1/2 cup of luke warm water METHOD Blend all the ingredients for the sauce in a mixer with one cup of water and keep aside. Sprinkle salt on the fish pieces ad keep aside for half an hour. Heat the olive oil in a non stick pan and fry the fish pieces, turning so that the fish is golden brown on both sides. Remove and keep aside. In the same pan add the blended sauce. Lower the heat and add the fish pieces. Allow the fish pieces to simmer in the sauce only till the sauce comes to a boil. Put it off immediately. Garnish with the chopped fresh garlic and serve with pasta or rice.
DESI TANDOORIE CHICKEN SANDWICH
INGREDIENTS: multi-grained loaf 2 tbsp of green mint chutney 2 tbsp of butter 2-3 boneless chicken or left over cooked methi chicken 2 tsp of oil few slices of salami slices of tomatoes METHOD Cut the loaf into two halves. Slit each horizontally and butter the inside of the loaf. Then spread a layer of the mint chutney. Heat the oil and fry the salami pieces for 1-2 minutes. Remove from the oil and add the chicken pieces which have been shredded. If you are using the methi chicken it will give a different taste and look to the sandwich. Add a few tomato pieces and maybe a few green chillies if you like.
Fish in saffron sauce and fresh garlic
Desi tandoorie chicken sandwich Pasta with olives and paprika
BRINJALS WINTER STYLE
INGREDIENTS: 1 large round brinjal weighing around 250- 300 gm turmeric 2 tbsp of oil salt to taste For the sauce: 500 gm of tomatoes 1 tsp chopped chives 1 tsp basil leaves 2 fresh red chillies salt to taste METHOD To prepare the sauce: Drop the tomatoes in hot water for 2-3 minutes. Remove with a slotted spoon and remove the skin. Cut into halves and then quarters and remove as many seeds as possible. Heat half cup of water and add salt to taste. Add the chopped tomatoes and the chives and basil leaves and cook this mixture over low fire till the tomatoes are mushy. While cooking keep mashing the tomatoes with the back of a
PASTA WITH OLIVES AND PAPRIKA
12-15 olives 3 tbsp grated cheese – optional METHOD Heat the olive oil and add the pasta and fry for 2-3 minutes. Add the paprika and continue to stir and toss for another two minutes. Add the grated cheese if you are using and serve at once with vegetables in creamy sauce.
INGREDIENTS: 3 cups of pasta boiled in salted water 2 tbsp of olive oil 2 tsp of coarsely ground paprika – red chillies
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wooden spoon. Put off the heat and keep aside. Cut the brinjals into circles. Sprinkle salt and haldi powder and keep aside for 5 minutes. Heat oil in a non stick pan and fry the brinjals on medium flame turning the brinjals so that both
the sides get cooked and attain a golden colour. Add the prepared sauce and allow the brinjals to simmer in the sauce for 2-3 minutes. Serve garnished with chopped chives. Goes well with rotis or even a pulao.
INGREDIENTS: 5-6 small sized red peppers 5-6 small sized green peppers 3-4 tsp of olive oil salt to taste METHOD For the filling: Boiled mashed potatoes or mashed vegetables or any non vegetarian left over chicken, mutton or fish. Add whatever spices like chillie, garlic paste, jeera powder to give the filling a good taste. You can even use left over rice and mix it with a few methi fresh leaves and add some spice and use it for the filling. Remove the seeds and use the filling to stuff the capers. Grill on a grill or even a sandwich toaster adding oil a little at a time. We Grill and serve hot.
Brinjals winter style
Some valuable tips on how to make your place green and colourful.
By Sheela Ramakrishnan
Plant large groups of contrasting flowers next to each other to create a spectacular effect. Plant shrubs and individual ornamental grasses in groups of odd numbers so as to balance out the visual aspects of your flower garden. Don’t clutter a small space with a large number of plant species. Limit it to just a few so that your flower garden does not become an eyesore. Keep your flower garden properly maintained. Prune your trees and shrubs to maintain appealing shapes. Deadhead your flowers and cut back old, frayed growth. Lawns are much easier to mow if they aren't broken up with a few flowers here and there. If you want to plant flowers under a tree, make sure the flowers will do well in the shade. Be careful not to dig up any roots when planting flowers under a tree. Plant flowers under trees by digging a small separate hole for each plant. Avoid putting new structures or plants where they will damage existing landscape features. Plant in curves for better visual balance, not straight lines or perfect circles. Make sure that your flower garden slopes away from your house. Adding mulch to your finished flower garden will help hold moisture. In addition, deteriorating mulch will add organic matter to your soil. Some mulch, such as shredded bark, can be quite attractive. Use drip-irrigation systems to water individual plants and save water. Woman’s Era
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Never water on a windy day. Water in the early morning or late afternoon to avoid evaporation. Try introducing or attracting lady bugs, prying mantis, and the non-stinging Trichogramma wasp to your garden for natural pest control. Try gardening with plants that will attract birds and bats which will eat up insect pest species in your garden. We
efore setting up your garden, have clarity about the type of flowers you would like to grow in your garden – viz., perennials, annuals or biennials, the mainstay of the flower garden. Perennials are plants that survive for many years. Some take more than one season to mature. At maturity, perennials will produce fruit or flowers and seeds. There are two types of perennials: Herbaceous perennials that die to the ground after each growing season and grow back each spring. Woody perennials that survive intact from season to season. They enter dormancy in colder climates. Trees and shrubs come under this category. Annuals are plants that complete their life cycles (germinate, flower, produce seed and die). Some annuals grow back from dropped seeds, otherwise they must be replaced every year. Biennials are plants with a lifecycle that spans two years. During year one the plant germinates and grows. The second year it flowers, produces seeds and dies. Your garden can also have a combination of all the above to have year-round feast to the eyes.
Use a creamy soap for extra suppleness in your skin. Add a few drops of oil to the water that you are using for bath to retain the moisture lost when bathing. Pamper your skin with a little coconut oil before bath to heal dryness and chaps. Moisten your skin with a good moisturiser or a creamy lotion or cold cream. Use of sunscreen is must in winters also. So apply 20 minutes before your step out. A proper nutritious intake helps in rejuvenating the skin from within.
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Oh so hot! A stylish red jacket beautified with smocking patterns on the sleeves worn over a black spaghetti top, is paired with red trousers.
Colour me red: Lovely red full sleeved dress for the Christmas night.
A collection of vivacious vetements for the coming New Year!
Chequered charms: A shortpleated and chequered skirt enhanced with a trendy belt is teamed with a black velvet top beautified with zig-zag lace.
Sensuous skirt: An off-shoulder yellow top with a lovely border is matched with a red silk skirt edged with broad golden tissue border encrusted with mirrors.
Flirty fur: An off-shoulder pleated pinafore is beautified with fur on the top.
Colours of night: Heavily embellished with sequins, the ensemble in dark and light hues of black looks captivating.
Warm charm: Short top in hues of warm dark wood colour is coupled with denim jeans.
Shimmery sensation: Dark purple shimmery dress for the New Year party.
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When I was ‘rocked’
When there was more fun off the cineplex screen than on it!
By Archana Sengar
wonderful – all that music, and Farhan Akhtar has am not one for family outings. There is too sung so well! Ammamma will love it.” much preparation to be done, too many things “But, girls, don’t you think it will be better to wait to be checked, too many doors to be locked for the DVD.” I tried to reason with them. You know before one sets out. When I was a kid I your ammamma can’t watch a movie at a stretch. If dreaded Sunday picnics because it meant we had the DVD, she could continue watching it being pulled out of bed horribly early by my after she wakes up and not miss anything.” too enthusiastic brother. He was two years “No, acha,” they said together as if they had older to me, but acted like a baby, jumping up and rehearsed the statement thoroughly. “The DVD will down while yelling in my ear, ‘Picnic, picnic!’ I take ages, and anyway, this movie can only be always wondered what would become of him; enjoyed on the big screen. By Monday the whole thankfully, he grew up into a fairly sane man. Now, class will be discussing it, and we don’t want to feel if he ever gets up early on a Sunday, it is only left out. We must watch it on the weekend.” because he has to go to his office to complete some unfinished work. o that was it, the cunning angels! But you know, However, I have been blessed with a wife who it’s true that daughters are a father’s weakness. has shades of my brother’s childhood excitement. I could not refuse them outright. However, I tried Though she does not jump up and down when another trick. planning an outing, I am quite sure her feet are How will ammamma climb all those steps in the itching just to do that. It is only the thought of our cinema hall? You know she has a knee problem.” teenage daughters that prevents her; after all, “PVR Priya has a Star class,” pat came the reply. parents have to maintain their dignity. I only wish “It’s ground floor. Ammamma won’t have a problem my parents were as thoughtful. going there.” I could almost hear them wondering My father, though 80, still cheers the Indian how many years had passed since I myself had cricket team with whistles and shouts and follows all entered any cinema hall. its matches on the TV. If it wins, he talks of nothing I sighed and gave up. I managed to get tickets for else the whole day. If it loses, there’s always another the Saturday evening show. The most day to hope for. He also loves to watch all difficult part was leaving the office in time the major football and tennis tournaments, My father, to reach home, but I managed that too and during the Olympics it is impossible to somehow. We had a quick tea and left for unglue him from the TV. though 80, the movie. On the way I was informed that My mother on the other hand, is still cheers the outing would be incomplete without a extremely fond of movies, even though the Indian meal at the adjoining McDonald’s, after since she turned 75 she has been prone to cricket team the movie. I managed to smile. I didn’t fall asleep in the middle of one. Faith and Joy, my daughters, adore their with whistles want to seem more backward than I was. If the price of the tickets had given me a grandparents. When their grandmother and shouts shock it was nothing compared to the (they call her ammamma), had her 78th and follows sensation of being frisked. I wondered birthday on the Friday Rock on! was all its how people could take it so coolly. Finally, released, they decided she deserved a we entered the hall and were led to our treat. matches on seats by a smart usher. My mother took the “You must book tickets for this movie, the TV. aisle seat. acha’” they cajoled me. “It is simply
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commotion, tried to pacify them. “He was speaking of our house”, he explained helpfully. A middle-aged lady who seemed to have come alone to the movie turned and stared at me. “Your house is on fire?” she asked, sounding puzzled. “No, it is not,” I answered firmly, hoping people wouldn’t begin calling the fire brigade. “But then – where is the fire?” she persisted. I hastened to assure her there was no fire anywhere. She turned back, looking dissatisfied. Rachel whispered again, sounding slightly sheepish, that now she came to think of it, she was almost sure she had switched off the gas. My mother, who had been sleeping peacefully all the while the hullabaloo had lasted, woke up with a start, perhaps due to the sudden silence in the hall. Even the scene on the screen was one of those ‘quiet’ ones where nobody is speaking. “Is it intermission yet?” she demanded. “I have to go to the toilet.” ‘Shush, Ammamma,” whispered Joy, “speak softly, the movie is still on.”
s if to prove her wrong, a large ‘Intermission’ appeared on the screen just then. “See, I was right”, declared my mother triumphantly. The lights overhead grew brighter, and she got up and moved away slowly. “Acha,” said my daughters in unison, “please get us some popcorn.” “No need”, said Rachel, “we are having burgers would have liked to point out that watching it on after the movie, aren’t we?” the DVD was precisely what I had advocated in “But popcorn is different,” pouted the girls. “We the first place, and also that I had got her always have it when we come here with our friends. enrolled in a driving school before we had the kids, And there is still an hour to go before we get those but she had never bothered to use her learning burgers, and we are starving.” It was amazing how much unity they could display at the hour of need, so licence after completing the course. That would have resulted in an explosion louder than the various to speak. I got up reluctantly. “Oh look.” exclaimed Faith, “Ammamma is trying blasts that had occurred in the city lately. I tried to think of a solution. to open the exit door. But the toilet is not that way. I “Can’t you call one of the neighbours and ask had better go and help her.” She rushed away, and them to switch it off for us?” I suggested. I went to the snacks counter. There was a Our flat was on the ground floor, and the long line already, and the menu prices “You can motor switch was located right besides the were sky-high. I sighed for the good old always watch bathroom ventilator. A tall man could days when we could buy packets of roasted groundnuts from a kiosk outside it later on, on easily reach inside and switch it off. Okay, maybe not that easily, but it could be the cinema hall before entering the hall, the DVD. If and munch through them at a leisurely only you had done. After all, what are neighbours for? “But all the numbers are in my pace. Then I ruefully recalled line in front taught me cellphone, and I have not brought it with of the lone men’s toilet on the rare how to me,” she answered . occasions I had visited it, and its far from drive...” “Don’t you have a neighbour’s number pristine state, and decided that PVRs were on your phone?” a better bargain. A deep, “Of course not,” I replied, affronted at When I returned, the movie had not heartfelt sigh the idea that I used my phone to chat with begun, but the screen was showing social followed this the neighbours. messages such as “Speed thrills but kills”. I statement. “Even if you don’t have your phone, you distributed the popcorn packets and sat
down. Suddenly, Rachel jumped violently; the packet in her hand flew into the air and popcorn rained down like a shower of meteors. With a trembling hand she pointed to the screen and I caught a flash of ‘Conserve Water’ before it was replaced with ‘please switch off your mobiles’. “What?” I asked, puzzled by her reaction. Whether or not she agreed with the message there was no need to panic, even though scientists would have us believe that potable water on our planet was going to finish any day now. “I forgot to switch off the water motor,” she croaked. “There was no water in the tank when I was cooking, so I had switched it on, thinking I would switch it off before leaving. But I forgot...by now it must be overflowing, and the alarm must be shrieking itself to death.” I tried to console her, but she rushed on without listening to me. “If the motor keeps on running it will burn itself out, plus all the neighbours must be wondering what the matter is.” She stopped and turned to me. “Please go home and switch off the motor. It is not too far.” “It’s not that near either,” I protested. “I will miss the whole movie.” “Is the movie more important than the motor?” she asked, unmindful of the people glaring at her. “You can always watch it later on, on the DVD. If only you had taught me how to drive...” A deep, heartfelt sigh followed this statement.
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must remember a few numbers. Especially the upstairs Kapur’s. You call her at least four times a day.” “Don’t exaggerate,” she rejoined with dignity, “I don’t call her more than twice a day. Anyway, who remembers the number when all you have to do is to punch ‘find’?” I admitted she had a point. In the older days people at least dialled the number on those old fashioned phones. It helped the brain retain the digits. But what was the use of thinking about that now? Joy must have heard us arguing (with the rest of the audience!), for she came to the rescue unexpectedly. “I have Preeti’s number, acha,” she volunteered, adding (when I looked clueless), that Preeti was the Kapurs’ daughter. I gratefully handed over my mobile to her. For someone who claimed to have never touched it, she operated it with surprising familiarity, whispering and giggling into it for a time that seemed unnecessarily long to me. I fidgeted in my seat, not daring to interrupt. Finally, she switched it off and gave it back to me.
“All is well,” she said, smiling. “Preeti’s parents are not at home”, (I almost dropped the mobile. What had she been chattering about then?), “but there is no power, so the motor won’t be working anyway. The lights went off barely 10 minutes after we left the house; there’s something wrong at the sub-station. They are repairing it, but it will take them a while to fix it.” She finished her piece and turned her attention back to the screen. I sagged back with relief, trying not to think of my wasted talktime. The movie was soon over, but we decided to get the food packed instead of having it at the restaurant. For one, it was too crowded, and also we could not rely upon the inefficiency of the minions of power company indefinitely. But today the gods must have been smiling upon us. The power came back only after we had reached home and switched off the motor. “Thank goodness for friends”, exclaimed Joy. “Thank goodness for power cuts”, intoned my wife. “Next time we go on a family outing, I will stay We home”, I promised myself.
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About the Artist Name: Puja Sharma Date of birth: 24 November 1959 Qualification: M.Phil (English), MA (Drawing & Painting) Diploma in Art and Craft E-mail: email@example.com Exhibition: AIFACS – Greater Noida, Wisdom show, Lalit Kala Gallery, ‘Kala Kumbh’ – Aifacs & Bikaner, Creative artist group, Bhagidari Mela New Delhi organised by Delhi Govt, Exhibition Groups, Delhi, Wisdom – Annual Show 2004, All India woman exhibition at AIFACS Delhi and Hyderabad by Wisdom Society 2005, Kala Mahotsave All India Art Exhibition organised by Wisdom Society; All India Senior Artist Exhibition at AIFACS; 1st Exhibition Wisdom show at PSK Delhi, May 2005, 2nd and 3rd Wisdom Show at PSK Delhi Nov. 2005. Group show at Lalit Kala Academy, 2006. Group show at Greenwood Art Gallery, New Delhi, 2006. Group show at Army & Navy Building Art Gallery, Mumbai, Nehru Art Centre Mumbai2006. Art Mall. Camps: Demonstration Trildor Colman, AIFACS, Artist day camp at the Platinum Jublee at AIFACS 2005, Senior Artist camp at Amritsar, organised by AIFACS, 2005. Senior Artist Camp at Rani Jhansi Road, 2004; organised by AIFACS 77th Annual Art exhibition at AIFACS, March 2005. All India Woman Artists Camp at Kud, Jammu, organised by Tourism Deptt. Jammu and Kashmir. Deptt. 2005. National Art Camp, Hyderabad 2005, Organised by Tourism Deptt. Hyderabad, 2005. Maharani Bagh New Delhi, In Bhusawal Maharashtra,06. Sahitya Kala Parishad, New Delhi, Asoka Hotel, New Delhi, Art Mall 2007. Conducted summer childrens’ workshop of Sahitya Kala Parishad as an ‘expert’. Dhumimal city gallery 2008. DPS Srinagar 2008, State Orissa Lalitkala Academy, 2nd National Arts camp 2008. Awards: Award at 71st Annual Exhibition Amritsar 2005.
A JOURNEY OF ART
“My paintings are my personal diary of life’s many joys, observations and experiences,” says the artist. By Subhra Mazumdar
f art is considered to be a journey, then there can be no better example of such art than the works of artist Puja Sharma. A painter with a yen for painting the outdoors, not just through the technique of paint and brush, but with inputs of the heart and mind alongside, her works are marked by a steady progress of remarkable milestones. With each stage of this onward journey Puja Sharma’s artistic endeavour has examined a new dimension, so that her body of work wears an innate freshness, a growing maturity and a pronounced technical excellence. Though she dismisses this growth factor simply as ‘ ‘I’m growing old’, the truth is far from such simplistic explanations. A teacher of English at one of the capital’s prominent schools, Puja spends every hour of her time at her easel. She is also an
active member of several artist groups who make their art a means of bonding and exchanging artrelated ideas and creations. Excerpts from an interview:
Your current works are abstract forms with a centric emphasis. What is this centric form of brilliant colour meant to signify? I was sitting in a garden surrounded by flowers, at the Bhimtal Garden, the hill station of Nainital. The effect of the sun and shade, made some parts of this dense flower cluster appear dark, while elsewhere it was bright and colourful. From my seat on the grassy lawns, I immediately began to make sketches of the shade and sun dappling effect and when back home, in my own garden, the image of that Bhimtal Garden began to converge and the painting you see, came alive.
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and then , they seem to lose their magic. There seems to be a silent conversation flowing between me and the sight, and that is what I express through the creations on my canvas.
Do you generally paint flowers in abstract formations? I have always loved painting flowers, as part of my overall love for painting nature. Earlier my flower paintings were markedly realistic and I even went on to create a series that was displayed in one of Delhi’s galleries. Later, I chose to take the flower paintings to the next level and painted them in the abstract. What amazed me was to see how closely viewers to the gallery identified with these abstract flower creations and nothing gave me greater pleasure than to see the smile on their faces as they viewed these bright formations. In some of your recent abstract works there is a palpable division of the canvas into linear divisions? Is this a further, or earlier stage of your artistic development? Perhaps, you can call it an earlier stage or you can call these paintings site-specific. The series was painted in a near realistic form as I was seated on top of the
Nagarjuna Sagar dam site in Andhra Pradesh. I could see the geometric stretches of rock formations extending out far from where I was seated. There was even a tree line on the horizon and then another fringe of trees running across from the other side. The place was covered in sunlight and below, the sight seemed to be in the shadow. I sat there in the open and began transmitting in colour just what I could visualise before me. I sat there till late in the evening and as the shadows length ened, my painting took on more sombre tones. The trees became more wispy and distant and the rocks became prominent. The painting was later displayed at the Andhra Pradesh State Academy of Art.
Can you point to the most emotive of paintings from your point of view? It was a painting that I had done on my recent trip to Srinagar. We had gone to Gulmarg and that day, the sun was bright and clear, after it had snowed the previous night. The sight was breathtaking. The hills above were snow-covered and down below, the river and countryside were a bright blue. My imagination took the better of me as I watched the local people with their herds. I decided to create a narrative on the canvas, rooted to that scene. This abstract work is really divided into three linear divisions of white tones, blue tones and dark tones. The blue tones have a faint play of figures, particularly an old woman who has two parrots on her shoulders. It is a fantasy about old memories of childhood that are now free to enter and exit her mind as she basks in the sunshine. The nebulous figures is a deliberate stance to convey that one links with the past while being in the present. Do you come back from a place and paint pictures based on your experiences? I like to store away fond memories and events. When I take up the brush it seems I can recall these incidents with more than average hindsight and as I paint, I seem to know the exact brush stroke that will be needed to make that incident come alive. I know exactly why I have put a certain colour, or a certain stroke, in a certain place on the canvas. In that way my paintings are my personal diary of life’s many joys, observations and experiences, making each of my canvases a way of relating to my past, my present and perhaps my We future.
Do you always carry your canvases on your trips? Well yes. I find the outdoors seem to lend themselves to imme diate treatment on the canvas. Unless I record the sights there
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Have the benefits of spices ever remained in doubt?
By Golden Reejsinghani
OF SPICES IN HEALING
pices that we use in our daily cooking are full of healthy antioxidants which kill the free radicals. They also remove diseases from the common to the most dangerous and keep our bodies healthy and happy. Here are some common spices which help us in our daily battle with disease. Asafoetida (hing): It is used for relieving stomachache, indigestion and colic. It is usually taken in the rainy season mixed with jaggery. It makes the body free of cough, cold and other respiratory ailments. Cardamom (elaichi): There are two types of cardamoms: the small cardamom which is light green in colour and the large cardamom which is dry and black in colour apart from being used for flavouring. Cardamom has curing properties too. It is very good for curing digestive ailments. ● If you eat one cardamom with one tablespoonful of honey it will not only improve your eyesight but will also strengthen the nervous system. Garlic (lasun) : Garlic has prophylactic and curative properties and is very effective in reducing high blood pressure and curing heart ailments. Garlic also renews tissues, cleanses blood and improves digestion. Cinnamon (dalchini): It is highly fragrant, not too pungent and acts as an astringent. Cinnamon is good for curing acidity, colic and rheumatism. Cinnamon oil is a very powerful local stimulant.
Fenugreek (methidana): Fenugreek is a leguminous plant. Its seeds are bitter and yellow in colour. It is used in curing diabetes, flatulence, diarrohea and enlargement of the spleen and liver. ● One teaspoonful of fenugreek powder mixed in one cup of milk taken daily helps diabetics in reducing sugar. ● To cure constipation, one teaspoonful of fenugreek powder should be taken daily in the night with water. ● To get immediate relief from flatulence, heaviness in the chest, burning sensation in the throat, take one teaspoon of the powder with a little black salt and water. Cloves (laung): Cloves, besides being used as a seasoning for sweet and hot prepara tions, are a stimulant and carmina tive. Clove oil is a very good mouth wash and also cures toothache. Cumin (jeera) : Cumin corrects digestive disorders and stimulates the appetite. It has carminative and simulative proper ties. S a f f r o n (kesar): It is used to treat fever and enlargement of the liver and spleen. It
treats urinary and digestive disorders. ● Heat saffron paste in milk and apply it around the nose and forehead. It relieves cold. ● When saffron is pounded with ghee, it is highly effective in diabetes. ● Soaked in water overnight and mixed in honey, it helps in free passage of urine. Turmeric (haldi): Turmeric is an appetiser and aids digestion. It is carminative and antiseptic and is used in diabetes. ● Put one small teaspoonful of turmeric powder in milk and boil it. Drink this milk while still hot. It relieves sore throat and cold. ● Turmeric paste applied before We bathing clears the skin.
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A lovely line blending romance and nostalgia with a futuristic element brings with it understated luxury and style... Wow, a perfect synergy of elegance and sensuality dipped in a colour palette of jewel tones!
A FANCIFUL f
Passion: A pleated dress in plum colour coupled by a fitted bodice punctuated by dazzling embellishments.
Romance: A sensational scarlet cape beautified aesthetically with a large satin bow and stones on the neckline is coupled with trousers.
Elegance: Knee-length strapless dress in black with satin belt and bow to accentuate the slender waist.
Desire: A stylish dress in walnut grey and plum with puff sleeves reminicise the romantic era of yore!
Luxury: A delectable gown in emerald green with sensuous silhouettes is beautified with stones on the neckline. The satin belt and bow enhance the beautiful feminine form.
Sensuous: A knee-length strapeless dress with sharp silhouettes in hues of sapphire blue clinched at the waist is accentuated with a satin belt.
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About the Artist Name: Manjit Singh E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org Ph: 9873918532 Art shows (Solo) November 2005 on Sikhism at Delhi November 2006 on Swami Ramdev and Vedic Renaissance August 2008 Press Club Art Gallery, New Delhi Kamayani, Ek Nisarg Kanya September 2008 Open Palm Court, India Habitat Centre, Lodhi Road, New Delhi. Kamayani ke Rang, Chintan Se Anand. Group Shows AIFCS in 2007 Epicentre, Gurgaon in 2008 Arpana Art Gallery, Siril Fort in November 2008 Nehru Centre of Art, London 2007 Upcoming art exhibitions Urvashi of Ramdhari Singh Dinkar February 2009. Group show Jehangir Art Gallery Mumbai February 2009. Nehru Bal Samiti Award Sankar’s International Children Painting competition Durga Pooja Samiti awards Lucknow Chitra Kala Parishad Award 2008 Nominated for Asian Peace Award 2008 by Artist Academy, New Delhi.
POETRY IN COLOURS
The artist creates images of words and depict them on canvas. By Our Correspondent
he heart perceives, the mind soaks up and stores, an artful metamorphosis begins – the journey becomes soulful through the aesthetic path paved by poetic thoughts that overflow onto the canvas, their true essence recalled and reflected in splashes of colour. A mix of a cascading medley of concepts and figures emerge from feelings and thoughts as artist Manjit Singh thoughtfully immersed into Kamayani , the modern Hindi epic, written by Jaishankar Prasad (1935) so well that he was successful in getting the right fragrance when he gave an enriching visual experience on his canvas. Having worked on such a great work expanded his horizon of aesthetic senses. The feat is again
going to be repeated thoughtfully recreating the images of words and then putting them on canvas for a full view of his current work on Urvashi of Ramdhari Singh Dinkar, thereby giving new dimensions to Hindi poetry too. Son of a Bengali mother and a Sikh father, he believes that he’s a human being first with a secular approach. A multilingual who knows Bengali, Tamil, Oriya, Urdu, Hindi, English and Punjabi, Singh holds women in high esteem and looks upon Shabana Azmi and Kiran Bedi as the epitome of women empowerment. A chat with this artist who is a Hindi poet also and has unique trait of creating images of words and then putting them into forms, colours and textures as per views of prof Shiv Harit, the art critic and Chairman
Utensil vendor at rest: A beautiful piece of art (acrylic on canvas) in hues of ochre. Picking up the theme from real life, the artist Manjit Singh has captured some moments of the routine of utensil vendors. Management Committee of Sharda Ukil School of Art... Excerpts from an interview: She felt so proud when my works were selected by Finland govt. (smiles). But down the memory lane ... I still reminicise one incident when I was studying in standard V. Our tenant was a good artist. Once he started painting a mythological character on a plywood. I liked it so much that I actually took his colours and brushes and tried to complete it. But, alas! Rather than making it, I spoilt it. But as they say failures are Woman’s Era
stepping stones to success that incident laid the foundation stone to my career of an artist.
A self taught artist you are! But how did you actually venture into this field. I owe my entry in this field to Savitri Srivastava, Head of Creative Art, Bal Bhawan who taught creative art to me. She is retired now but still keeps on guiding and inspiring me.
How do you develop an idea for a composition? I capture the themes and ideas from real life and then depict them. Every artist has a personal creative process. Explain yours. My initial thrust is to expose the
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material and, of course, the better media coverage. There’s a boom in the art industry like never before and people are purchasing it for investment purposes. Even the budding young artists are very talented and full of energy. Art is a pyramidical evolution. No art of any era is bad. Every artist has an individual style so one is free to paint. an artist’s emotions. He actually paints his soul. Commercialisation to some extent is fine if the quality of the work is not affected. If the essence and tenderness of art is not lost, then commercialisation is just an honour for an artist that yes he’s recognised for his work. aesthetic beauty of Hindi poetry through paintings so I painted the Kamayani of Jai Shankar Prasad and now Urvashi of Ramdhari Singh Dinkar.
Any dream you chase? I dream to reach moon and create a rational society where mind is without fear... where man is not fighting over the trifle issues of caste, religion etc. I actually want to give manifestation of my own desire of bridging all the barriers of hatred. How far is your family’s role significant in making of artist Manjit Singh? I give the credit to my wife Gurmeet Kaur. At her insistence, I once made a painting. The work was not actually of my satisfaction so I tore it into pieces. It was my wife who then didn’t let me lose heart. She collected those pieces, arranged them and got the work framed. The same painting won a lot of appreciation. That very work gave birth to my own individual style and the incident paved the way for me to create more and more. Even my sons, Parminder Singh and Jasminder Singh encourage me. Though they are pursuing CA and MBA respectively, they love to paint. An artist with a passion to delve into depth of life and express his revelations through paintings. Always learning and looking forward, he’s already on a pursuit to capture the essence of the thoughts of Harisvansh Rai Bachchan. It’s a deep desire and long wish of the artist to get the inauguration of the show by Amitabh Bachchan, the legendary We son of the poet!
What was the reason that you portrayed Hindi poetry? Wasn’t it an arduous task to understand the spirit? This is my way of paying homage to our National language Hindi and India. First, I read the literature to reach the basic theme and plunge deep before painting. It’s difficult no doubt but my sensitivity to literature and poetry as well as painting made it possible. I add tints of my own imagination and fancies in the poetry so that it may evolve into a masterpiece. And now, my work is not restricted to Hindi poetry I’m going to widen my horizon and now studying one or two poets from each state of India. Gradually, I will reach out to the other parts of the world. Your relationship with art? Art is very sacred for me, so it’s my meditation, my worship. What would you say about the commercial impact on art? Art is the outcome of a gamut of
Are you influenced by other artists past or present or do you stand alone in your vision? I’m impressed by MF Hussain and Subroto Kundu but don’t copy their work. Your comments about Indian art in present times. Any difference from the past? There’s no denying the fact that there are better techniques, better
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TO SHOW CREATIVITY
hampak Creative Child Contest ‘On the Spot Story Writing and Painting Competition’ evoked great interest when children from all over the country spent their Sunday showing their creativity. The contest was organised in two phases. First round received around more than 20,000 stories from children of 12000 schools across the country. Out of these 125 children were selected for the second and the final round which was an ‘On the Spot Story Writing and Painting Competition’ held at Rail Museum, Chanakyapuri, New Delhi. Achievers Gallary: Children enthusiastically wrote a story giving them a theme and drew a painting on the spot. The Principals of DPS, East of Kailash, Dolly Chandana, DPS International, Ameeta Mishra and representatives of Modern School, Humayun Road, Manju Mehra and Sanskriti School, Chanakyapuri, Shuchi Khanna did honours to the competition by coming as guest judges.
The first prize of a gold medal, Rs 10,000 cash and a certificate went to Dolly of DAV International School, Amritsar, Punjab. Monika Tayal of Sarti Devi Rajaram Public School Shamli, Ketki Godsey of Parachute Regiment School, Bangalore, Karnataka and Yash Chadda of Ahlcon International, Mayur Vihar, New Delhi won the second prize with a silver medal, Rs 5000 and a certificate. Five third prizes of a bronze medal, Rs 2500 and a certificate each were won by Disha Gupta of Evergreen Public School, Vasundhra Enclave, New Delhi, Subhangi Srivastav, Police Modern School, Lucknow, Shreya Jain of Sophia Sr Sec School, Bhilwara, Rajasthan, Woman’s Era
Aakriti Khajuria of Presentation Convent School, Gandhi Nagar, J&K and Atishay Jain of Mother Teresa Public School, Preet Vihar, Delhi. There were 10 consolation prize winners who were awarded a bronze medal each with cash prize of Rs 1000 each and a certificate. The winners were gifted Champak mementos and all the participants were gifted bag of goodies with participation certificates. Environment’s Children: Talking to children at the prize distribution ceremony in the evening Chief Guest, former Cabinet minister Maneka Gandhi said that global warming has become an issue of serious concern for mankind. She emphasised the need of shunning the use of plastic to save pollution and environment. She also made them aware of the hazards of the use of plastic and children’s responsibility towards saving the earth. Guest of honour at the function were mountaineer Padmashree Santosh Yadav, and famous cartoonist Padmashree Sudhir Tailang. All the participants got a bag of goddies and certificates which boosted their spirits and memorable sweet memories of Champak, past and present. We 113
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Get rid of terrorism in all its forms and manifestations.
By M Shamsur Rabb Khan
114 Woman’s Era
ike millions in this country, I do make a new resolution to initiate a new beginning. Some refresh their resol utions that they had taken last year while some try to figure out what should be the new resolution in 2009. Albeit the resolution that I took about writing a book on human happiness in the wee hours of 2008 is still incomplete. Still, I think I have to refresh that resolution once again since the bulk of the work remains to be done and I am not sure whether it would be completed by December 2008. It was not that I did not try. But how could I write about human happiness when the country witnessed spate of sorrows due to terror attacks? This, like the one I am going to request all my fellow citizens
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to take, is not a one-year resolution in fact. But before that, I would like to share some real-time examples. I asked one of my friends who work in the real estate sector in Delhi, who had vowed at the beginning of 2008 that he would work hard to get a new job with a salary hike of at least 30 per cent. He was happy to see his resolution realised in just 10 months’ time. Now he plans to repeat this feat in 2009 as well. Will he be able to do that? With real estate facing a tough time, this seems highly unlikely, yet he is optimistic. Good luck to him. Terror and economic recession are the two brutal realities of 2008. And, unlike the US, India has been a victim more of terror than recession though terror itself brings an economic halt to a great extent as it did show some downfall in the inflow of tourists in Rajasthan and Maharashtra. One of my colleagues has been failing in his professional duties all through 2008, due to which he has been reprimanded many times, and since the organization wants to get rid of him, he is all too depressed and melancholic. The other day when I tried to intervene, he grew reserved. For, a while my intimacy got a halt, a the serene-looking man looked so
expressionless. Since he was the talk of the office for all the inefficiency that he brought from the US and UK (he had studied in both the countries), we were flabbergasted at his work output. More than that, he confuses more when he communicates with us, and always comes up with an idea or solution which has no definite conclusions. But I tried again. This time, when almost all my colleagues were gone, I went to him and asked about his extra silence and alien attitude. Looking shy and introverted at the age of 30, the man raised his face and said, “Please leave me alone. I want loneliness.” He was married to a beautiful wife and had an equally pretty one-year old baby girl. Evading his response, I asked, “What is your New Year resolution this time?” “Nothing in particular. In fact, I never had one.” “Have you read this?” I asked, pointing to a saying of Dhirubhai Ambani hung right on a wooden board at his workstation, which read “I keep revising my dream, only when you dream it you can do it.” He just nodded his head, with dishevelled hair hung on his face. “My life is a living hell. How can you talk about a New Year
resolution?” His was a tragic voice, his eyes welled up with tears. I was nervous for a while, as if I had put my hands into a beehive with million bees ready to sting simultaneously. Gathering courage, I invited him to my room. I wanted know if he needed a resolution more than anyone else or not. So, what is your problem?” I was adamant. He read my face for a while, lowered his face and said: “I can’t sleep these days. I have dreams of bomb explosions and I carry the load of terror attacks every time wherever I go. The other day I was at Chandpole (a market place at Jaipur) where the bomb ripped apart many innocents this May. When 9/11 occurred, I was in New York, when the serial blasts occurred, on 13 May, I am here. Next, it was in Delhi, Ajmer, Ahmedabad, Mumbai…Where do you think I should go and live in peace? I am too scared.” So, that was the reason for this young, bright professional to be so scared to work properly, proving one of the five needs of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs right that professionals are supposed to work in a safe and secure environment? After a brief pause, I told him that my wife had made frantic calls from Delhi
WE ENJOY PLEASURE ONLY WHEN INDIA IS SAFE AND SECURE; AND WE CANNOT ENJOY IT WHEN HUNDREDS OF FAMILIES ARE WEEPING FOR THEIR LOVED ONES WHO HAVE BEEN KILLED BY THE MINDLESS MENACE OF TERRORISM.
he said his mouth was sour. More than that, I found him very disturbed in his sleep that night, restless, whispering and agitative. This was the reaction of a child who has watched the devastation on TV. Can we imagine the traumatic horror of those who have experienced terror strikes on the personal level, especially children – losing a father, a mother, a brother or a husband and
on 13 May when Jaipur was targeted. I was a few furlongs from one of the blast sites. I was lucky, unlike those who died or those who received serious injuries. India seems so unsafe these days: railway stations, malls, crowded markets, temples and hotels, etc., Besides, air, water, and land – all need to be put under surveillance. On 26 November when terrorist struck Mumbai, I reached home and found my son so scared. He was constantly watching the disaster live on TV. And then he did not take his dinner. So, emotionally surcharged, 116
wife? Perhaps terrorism is India’s biggest problem today. And a bigger threat too. This is a ‘new age terror’ that has been taking a heavy toll of this country. It hampers our economic, social, religious and individual growth. Which is why I like my countrymen to go for a collective, common resolution this New Year. From the personal to the national level, the resolution shows a wellthought-out plan that gives a whole new direction as well as dimension to self-development. But is selfdevelopment possible without national security? While many may Woman’s Era
opt for a New Year resolution as per their plans and commitments, one common resolution that we, as citizens of this country, need urgently to make is that we will not allow any more terror strikes on our land. No explosion, no merciless killings, no suffering, no pain, no irreparable loss. This common resolution is the greatest need of the hour as we can survive only when India survives; we enjoy pleasure only when India is safe and secure; and we cannot enjoy it when hundreds of families are weeping for their loved ones who have been killed by the mindless menace of terrorism. How can we enjoy a picnic dish when hundreds have tears to swallow? So, what should be our resolution this New Year? We can take a solemn pledge to fight terrorism as we had fought for our freedom decades ago, as freedom from terror is freedom from fear. And without fear, there is no joy, no picnic trip and no party. The people’s collective voice can be a tremendous power that must reach the hidden, unknown and heinous criminals in India and abroad. We can pledge to create more bravehearts like Major Unnikrishnan. We can pledge to be more vigilant. And we can pledge to be more responsible and accountable citizens. Unlike individual resolutions, collective and common resolutions can be more effective and lasting, and it would be a good idea to have a common, collective resolution this New Year that could benefit all the citizens of the country. But how? Protests, processions, writings, opinions, and awareness generation are some of the means whereby we can warn the hidden enemy as well as put pressure on the government machinery to be prepared. Above all, we can pledge to weed out corruption from public life that allows what we hear as ‘lapses’ We and ‘insider help’.
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How often do you see your crush?
a. Often, not as much as you can, a few times a day. b. Rarely or never. c. Every once in a while, maybe once a day d. Every single day, as much as possible, multiple times a day.
How often do you talk to your crush?
a. b. c. d. Very often Rarely or never Whenever you see him/her If you get the opportunity you might try to talk to him/her
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Have you ever wanted to kiss your crush?
a. b. c. d. Oh yea baby, give me some sugar. Sometimes. Not really. Yes, I dream about it all day and night.
Have you ever kissed your crush?
a. b. c. d. Maybe once, on the cheek, just a hello kiss. Yes, maybe on the lips, maybe on the cheek. Never Yes, on the lips
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Have you ever imagined having sex with your crush?
a. Not really. b. I have; but I don’t let it abuse my complete view on him/her c. All the time; it’s too bad I can’t get any d. I guess a few times
Do you like the same movies, books, TV shows, etc?
a. Yup, I’m pretty sure. b. I don’t think so. c. Maybe a few, I’m not really sure though. d. For the most part; yes; and even if there are a few that we don’t agree on, we’ll still watch them for the sake of each other.
Have you ever had sex with your crush?
a. No, but I want to. b. No, and I don’t want to. c. Our relationship is all about sex, I always need more, but I don’t know if he/she wants more. d. Yes, but we only have done it on rare occasions to show our affection towards each other.
Do you talk about your crush to your friends?
a. Of course, I’m confident enough with him/her that we can easily talk about each other to friends. b. Possibly with the best friend or family. c. Yes, he/she is so hot! d. Nope, I am too afraid to, say.
What physically do you like about your crush?
a. b. c. d. I’m not sure, I can’t explain it. Body Everything. The hair or eyes.
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Do you know each others’ parents?
a. Yes, but I’m not sure how’d they act together. b. Not well. c. Yes, both of our families get together greatly. d. Not at all.
Have you been on a date with your crush?
a. b. c. d. Never. Yes, but not many times. Once. Yes, more than one, multiple places.
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influences (oestrogens and tiny amounts of testosterones). After ovulation, the production of andro gens declines while levels of the female hormone (progesterone) rise. So rest assured. There is nothing abnormal in it.
Q & A
I am 35 years old and the mother of two kids. My problem is that whenever I laugh a few drops of urine comes out and spoils my underwear. This is every embarrassing. Please help. In some women who have had repeated pregnancies there is a weakness of pelvic muscles which is responsible for your problem. Strengthening of pelvic muscles is what is required. For this you should do pelvic floor exercises which strengthen the part of the pelvic floor muscles which support the bladder, womb and rectum. For this you may take advice from your doctor. I am 28 years old and slightly overweight. I am on diet. Though I am losing weight, at the same time I am feeling exhausted all the time. Is it because of dieting? Please advise. You are absolutely right in assessing your problem. Dieting can not only cause fatigue but also exhaustion. But this does not mean that you have to discard dieting. It is the radical reduction in calories which produces metabolic changes in the body leaving it with less energy. Prolonged dieting is going to leave you with poor nutrition. At the same time be sure you are not getting
I am 35 years old, married and the mother of a young teenager. Of late, lethargy has set in, though I apparently do not feel any problem. Please help. There can be a number of causes which range from the physical to the emotional. The physical causes can include poor functioning of the thyroid, anaemia and variations in blood sugar levels. Besides, the factors of disturbed sleep, anxiety depression and undue stress can also be responsible. You should consult your doctor in this regard who can be able to treat you after investigation.
I am 35 years old and married. Lately, I have started having a tingling and numbness in my hands and feet. Often, there is a feeling of the falling asleep. I do not know what it is. Please advise. I would not like to dismiss your problem lightly. There can be a number of causes for your problem like pressure on the nerves, diabetes, vitamin deficiency especially of vitamin B. Sometimes, calcium deficiency can also cause this problem. So it would be better if you are investigated on the above lines and treated accordingly.
I am 28 years old and a young mother. I take regular exercises but, of late, I find that it is exhausting me. Please advise. It may look strange but exercising either too little or too much can tire a person. It may look intriguing to write that too little exercise can be exhausting. This is not because of anything but for the fact that the body requires energy to keep it functioning. So, if you do little exercise the body does not function properly. On the other hand, excessive exercise will produce chronic fatigue. This can be avoided by interspersing an exercise programme with periods of rest. At the same time in any young woman, the problem of nutrition as well as menstruation irregularities have also to be looked into.
I am a 28-year-old housewife. I was feeling exhausted, so I went to my doctor who diagnosed it to be anaemia. I am surprised since I take a good nutritive diet. It does look surprising to find a person who is taking a good diet and not suffering from any apparent illness having anaemia. There can be a number of causes for this. These include worm infestation where there is a daily loss of blood. Similarly, you are losing blood during menstruation. Hidden loss of blood may not be detected in an early case of piles. So it would be better if you are investigated on these lines and treated accordingly. — Dr S. N. Khosla, MD.
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I am 30 years old and married. Of late, I have noticed that almost in the middle of the month I get heightened sex desire. I do not understand it. Please advise. This is absolutely normal. Many women enjoy heightened desire round about ovulation and then again a day or two before their periods. This is as a result of hormonal
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I am getting married next month to a very nice guy. But I am awfully worried because, earlier, I had had an affair with a college mate. It is all over now, and I am going to be fully devoted to my husband. But will my husband find out that I am not a virgin? I am 19 years old. Your bridegroom may or may not find out about your earlier involvement. If you have had intercourse earlier, perhaps there will be no bleeding with your first I am a 17-year-old girl who belongs to an atheist family. I have fallen in love with a very nice boy, well-educated and from a reputable background. But his people are very religious-minded and want him to marry a girl who will blend in with them. All this time, I am pretending to be a believer, and even accompanied my boyfriend to temples. I am afraid to tell him the truth as it will mean the end of our relationship. What should I do? You cannot build a strong relationship on pretences. When your boyfriend finds out that you have been living a life of lies, he will be terribly disappointed and disillusioned, and will surely not want you to be his wife. You have to face reality. Tell him the truth and accept the consequences. You could promise not to restrict him in any way although you have different opinions. If his love is strong , he may try to convince his family into accepting you. But definitely do not deceive them into thinking that you are something you are not. Woman’s Era
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I study in a girls’ school. I have a close friend of many years with whom I share confidences. We are both 15 years old. Recently, to my shock, she revealed that she has fallen in love with me! She suggested that we have a lesbian relationship and later live together. I am repulsed by the whole idea. I like her but not in this way. I told her this and she accepted my decision. But now, our friendship is ruined and I try to avoid her. She begs me to return to our old status but I just cannot do so. Can I help her become straight? Please advise. During puberty, when there is a sudden spurt of sex hormones in the adolescent’s body, she or he thinks amorously about even people of the same sex. Especially too, when they are in single-sex schools where they do not meet members of the opposite sex. In due time, however, their sexual preferences usually become normal, and they cease to feel such homosexual inclinations. Having such juvenile crushes on teachers and classmates is common at this age. It is a passing phase and in all probability, your friend will lead a normal life after a time. Your shock and revulsion is pardonable, but do not be judgemental or disapproving. You should try to put the whole thing behind you and continue with your friendship. You could also have a boyfriend for yourself and get another for your friend so that you will be a foursome. If, however, she is genuinely gay, you will not be able to transform her. You will have to accept her as she is. 120
intercourse with your husband. Many times, there is no bleeding too, so your husband may not suspect anything. Since you intend to be a faithful wife, stop feeling guilty over your past and look forward to a happy future. Confessing the earlier affair too is uncalled for. I am a pretty, 16-year-old girl but my face is full of pimples. Even my forehead has ugly bumps. My friends tell me that my non-veg diet is to blame for my condition. Will cosmetic surgery help? Is the treatment costly? Please advise. During puberty, hormonal changes in the body are the main culprits. A non-vegetarian diet does not play any significant part in this, though a lowfat, non-greasy diet could clear your skin to a certain degree. Keep your face oil-free with frequent washes with a medicinal soap. Don’t finger, scratch or pinch the pimples as this could lead to infection. Drink at least eight glasses of water in a day. Cosmetic surgery cannot help to cure your problem but can help to deal with the pits and scars left by severe acne. At present, you should consult a good endocrinologist who will start treatment to heal and contain your ailment.
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Anand Goswami Qualification: B.F.A. from Govt. Institute of Fine Art, Indore. E.mail:email@example.com m Solo shows LKA, New Delhi-02, 04, 05, 08 Ayya Art Gallery, Chennai, 2008. Joie Gallery Lalit Kala Academy 2008 Group shows Jehangir Art Gallery, Mumbai, 1991, 2003. Deolalikar Art Gallery, Indore, 1992. Bharti Bhavan, Bhopal, 1992. Deolalikar Art Gallery, 1994, 95. Indian Habitat Centre, 2004. Himachal State Museum, Shimla, 2004. Two-man Show Habiart Gallery, 2004. Lalit Kala Academy, 2004, 06, 07. Urasvati Art Gallery, 2005. Doon School, old Boys Society, 2006. Travencore Art Gallery, 2006, 08. Young Hearts, Bhubaneshwar, 2007. Gymkhana Club, New Delhi, 2007. Shri Dharani Art Gallery, New Delhi, 2008. Open Plam Court Gallery IHC 2008. Art Melang Gallery Art Farrago, Gurgaon, 2008. E-paintings canvasindia ISH London, 2008 Camps Artist Camp Gurgaon 2005. Artist Camp Kasauli, 2006. Artist Camp Gymkhana Club, New Delhi 2007. Collections ICICI Bank Mutual Fund Asia Head Office, Singapore. Digvijay Singh, Former C.M. Madhya Pradesh. Muffins, Janak Puri, New Delhi. Chairman, Petro and Chemical Reliance Uppal’s Orchid. Lalu Prasad Yadav (Minister of Railways, Govt. of India) Himachal State Museum, Shimla. Gymkhana Club New Delhi. Rural Electrification Corporation Ltd. (Govt. of India Enterprises) Many other private collections within India and abroad. Award Indore School of Art 1992.
An artist who brings planets closer by Sadhana – extreme height of meditation...
By Puja Sharma
n idol seated deep within a dark cave, a shrine to sit in front of you with emotions bringing your heart open before someone – almighty; figures super natural, sculptures so attractive – all placed well decorated according to the environment and value –
one gets startled to see the amazing scenario within the walls of a temple gaining a soothing satisfaction at heart. Its all brought about by people like Anand Goswami, an artist from Madhya Pradesh who got a super chance of painting a mural of Shiva in oil for a temple when he was just in class VII. His work was appreciated by all and followed by another series
of murals during his school days. It is a matter of high imagination of the artist as such that one’s heart gets attracted towards those idols which hold place in temples and places of worship. Anand’s paintings for temples went for quite some time and he started painting stainglass. Later, he joined Indore School of Art for a proper education and guidance to improve upon his creations. Anand’s belief that art comes from his ‘ inner voice’ combining with devotion to the Supreme, can be observed strongly with a blend of ‘spirituality’ in his paintings. A person who is a lone rider, going along the road of one raas and one rasta. His works show simplicity in style figuring, single piece ‘Shakya Muni’ with expressions, through his eyes prominently conveying the feelings. His hazy and blurred abstract form comes out from a brilliant and soft texture but with vibrant colours. The use of yellow and red or yellow and blue merges to give a complete different tone which are serene and peaceful. His monochromes invite strokes of one colour overlapping another. The figure in Anand’s painting seems to be very symbolic by the looks, full of emotions. It comes out prominently from the brilliant texture – a product of many transparent layers. Excellent art and expression of creativity are not a thing of the past when it comes to Anand Goswami. Excerpt from an interview: In all your paintings you have painted one figure which is abstract, and not truly visible. In some of my paintings, I painted ‘Shakya Muni’ who was a preacher of Shakya Tribe. His path of ahimsa and peace left a deep impact on my mind. In another series it is Buddha who has all the same preachings. I have brought him out through the artistic and fascinating mystery.
Do you have a concept before you start painting? I do not plan before I paint. My
imagination guides me as I start my strokes. I portray my dreams of night which I remember so well in the morning. I love oil colours and the use of gold and Indian yellow. These colours bring out a certain harmony in Planets’ reflection on earth in my work. I depict a process of meditation which heals the mind of man.
It’s true you clash with planets. Do you really have a knowledge of astrology? Well, I am a trained palmist and an astrologer from Maharishi Mahesh Yogi. According to you what is the philosophy of art? Our mind is the observer and this receiver of one follows the mind, he can create a better piece. I work according to it. Say something about the theme of your painting? Hindu mythology – The Creator – I am painting ‘deities’ and soon would be painting Ramayana and Mahabharata and not only Hinduism but the Hindustani touch in it, the Hindustani culture in truth – old themes and so on. As an artist your credit goes to whom? I never had my parents hand over my head but as I was alone I was blessed by the Almighty that I got little jobs in temples which carved a fine artist out me at an early age of life. How do you react towards criticism? I welcome the comments as these help me to think over and improve my work. Do you paint for arts’ sake or commercial sake? Well, I paint for my own sake, I paint for a prize’s sake not for labour but an appreciation must be there from others, otherwise there is no use without cheering up. Where do you want to see yourself in 10 years from now? I want to be a celebrity person – very famous and admirable. Say something for the up-and-coming artists. Practice makes a man perfect. One should never be satisfied. If he wants to be successful he should keep on practising, creating new works in the field of art. An artist must never work in groups. Art line is search, you must stay aloof – single – then only you will be successful as Art is a Worship – Sadhana – highest place of worship. We
This mural Collection by Manish Kumat architect Indore.
Katrina Kaif plays a musician and the beloved of Salman Khan in Yuvraaj.
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USICAL GIANTS T series and legendary showman Subhash Ghai’s Mukta Arts celebrated the success of Subhash Ghai’s musical extravaganza Yuvraaj at Whistling Woods. The musical celebration of this multi-starrer saw the entire cast and crew of the film descending at the venue. Subhash Ghai, Krishan Kumar, stars Anil Kapoor, Salman Khan, Katrina Kaif, Zayed Khan along with A.R. Rahman, Gulzar, Sonu Nigam and Shreya Ghoshal spoke about the magnificent music in the film. Humour ruled the roost with wisecracks from Salman, boosted by Ghai, Zayed Khan and Anil Kapoor who played along sportingly. Katrina looking gorgeous answered Sidharth Kannan’s cheeky questions with aplomb. Set in Prague and Vienna, this musical extravaganza tells a story of two brothers Salman Khan and Zayed Khan who are in desperate need of money, and have to woo
their eldest brother, Anil Kapoor to share their inherited property left by their late father. The father in his ‘will’ had left the entire property worth billions to his eldest son Anil Kapoor, who is mentally challenged for his age, and is a tough nut to crack. The leading lady Katrina Kaif is a musician and the beloved of Salman Khan in the film. She plays the catalyst in this family drama through the echo of her music. To mark the event Katrina presented Salman with the musical instrument. On return Salman gifted a painting by his good friend Rouble Negi to Katrina.
HABINA KHAN is the costume designer for Lamha starring Sanjay Dutt and Kunal Kapoor. Insiders say, “Sanjay
Kunal Kapoor plays a Pathan in Lamha.
plays an undercover cop in the film. Shabina has given Sanju a new look, that’s absolutely stunning. Dutt looks raw-rough and tough just like the way undercover cops look.” The source added, “Kunal Kapoor plays a Pathan in the film. Shabina has stylised his look and costumes accordingly. Shabina did a lot of research on the Pathans also with the kind of look that Kunal has, Shabina’s costumes gel very well with his personality.”
IRECTOR SUDIPTO Chattopadhya who is currently making Pankh for Whitefeather Films with Bipasha Basu is pretty nervous. Pankh, with its bold theme of gender identity, has already created ripples in the film industry. To calm his frail nerves, Sudipto had a special screening of the rushes of Pankh for a select few from the film fraternity and he heaved a sigh of relief when his guests stepped out of the preview theatre with a smile on their faces. Sudipto said, “I was glad that the audience could easily connect to the main protagonist emotionally. The theme of Pankh touched their hearts and that itself was a triumphant moment for me. Everyone who saw the scenes was full of praise. It was heart warming.”
Jiah Khan very sensitive on issues of child abuse. Bipasha Basu in Pankh.
ERY FEW know that Jiah was a UNICEF ambassador. A close friend of the actress revealed, “Jiah first modelled for UNICEF when she was barely six. She became a UNICEF brand ambassador once again when she was 12.” The friend said at the tender age of six Jiah had no idea what charity was all about. By the time she turned 12 she felt very strongly for charity work and thus chose to be UNICEF brand amba ssador once again.
Nandana Sen – full appreciations for her role in Rang Rasiya.
“Jiah has always believed in doing charity work and has even made short film on child abuse. Jiah feels very strongly about the issue of child abuse and aims to take active steps to put an end to it permanently”, she added.
ANDANA SEN who held a special preview of Rang Rasiya recently has been receiving compliments galore for her performance in the film. A close friend of Nandana revealed, “Her dad (Amartya Sen) loved the film. It was a great feeling for Nandana when her father congratulated Ketan Mehta several times for making a film that puts across a strong political statement so relevant in today’s time. He also felt proud of Nandana and said that it was worth flying down from China to watch the film. Meghnad Desai who was also present noticed Nandna’s performance very minutely and complimented her on the finer nuances and expressions that she 125
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gave in the film. Meghnad’s detailed remarks took Nandana by surprise. She was truly touched.” Rang Rasiya also had a screening at Galle, Sri Lanka, where Nandana got a standing ovation for her performance.
ERENA WAZEIR, the actress from Rang Rasiya beautiful not just by looks but also by heart, volunteered for the Graffiti Ball fund raising charity event which was held at sofitel London Heathrow. She was one of the guests of honour and walked the ramp for one of the best international designer’s in the world. The dress was put up for the highest auction at the event... Ferena is making her debut in Ketan Mehta’s movie Rang Rasiya, which is being produced by Deepa Sahi. The movie is based on Raja Ravi Varma’s life. ND Ferena plays the role of a journalist and the third woman in his life. Ferena has also recently landed a three-movie deal with a major studio in Bollywood. She is also starring in Sadiyaan , a Raj Kanwar movie with Luv Sinha (Shatrughan Sinha’s son). Co-stars include Rekha, Rishi Kapoor and Hema Malini. Ferena will also star in a Hollywood movie with Danis Anodic (Oscar-winning director for No Man’s Land ).. She also has a movie with Tania Chandra and Soni Razdan. The Graffiti Ball aims to raise £100,000 to support the work of the Consortium for Street Children (CSC): the only global network promoting and protecting the rights of street children across the world.
Beautiful Ferena Wazeir with a beautiful heart.
fun shooting the cover together. As she was from Brazil, Sammir took time off to show her around Mumbai... and she has promised Sammir a warm welcome if he visited Brazil. Now that’s an invitation which Sammir can never turn down it.
AMMIR DATTANI who shot glamorous photographs with a Brazilian model for a magazine cover, has swept the model off her feet.. she was completely bowled over by Dattani’s boyish charm. Sammir on the other hand found the model to be hot and sexy. “She is too hot to handle,” Sammir said grinning. The sizzling cover promises to spark off rage on all levels – national and international. A close friend of Sammir revealed, “Sammir and the Brazilian model had
AJA MENON’S controversial film Barah Anna starring Tannishtha Chatterjee, who’s also known as queen of parallel cinema, dares to put across the other side of India. It shows the insensitive wealthy Indian’s discriminatory attitude towards his domestic staff. Raja Menon’s Barah Anna is being compared to Booker Prize Winner Aravind Adiga’s novel The White Tiger. “Tannistha’s performance has drawn immense attention because she plays a central role in the film,” said Raja Menon. Talking about Barah Anna Menon said, “My film takes a brutal look at how the poor in Bombay, a teeming metropolis full of extremes, cope with their everyday problems.” ELINA JAITELY is one lady who does not believe in resting on her laurels! After the amazing response to her latest Bollywood movie Golmaal Returns, Celina is all geared up to impress international audiences too!
Celina was recently at ‘Hoyts La Premiere’ in Auckland (New Zealand) for the Red Carpet Premiere of her first international film Love has no Language along with Australian co-star Ben Mitchell and Rugby star Monty Beetham who apparently was quite taken by Celina’s Indian beauty! The actress seems to have had a lot of fun shooting with her Kiwi co-star Ben; she also underwent a 20-day training in New Zealand and Australian accents and has received good reviews for her characterisation of a Kiwi Indian girl. The movie is about a Kiwi Indian girl, basically a second generation Indian girl born and brought up in New Zealand. Marina Roy (Celina Jaitley) is torn between the Indian values of old Indian traditions and the fact that she is actually a Kiwi girl who has never been to India. A KiwiAussie boy of Maori (Ben Mitchell) origin falls in love with her and the story follows how she plans to avoid the marriage set up by her parents with an Indian boy... who is actually gay!
HE TAJ may have been built over 350 years ago but it took Akbar Khan to resurrect it with his director’s cut version of Taj Mahal – An Eternal Love Story is making waves the globe over now. When contacted at Damascus where Taj was showcased at the opening ceremony of the Special Indian Night, Khan was excited about the accolades and acclaim that the film had won there. Earlier, PM Dr Manmohan Singh who saw the film with his family presented a print of this films to the former president of Pakistan. Taj has also been adorned by two Indian National Awards for best costumes and art direction besides being selected by Dubai International Film Festival committee for a world premiere on 11 December. Recently, the film was invited by the Government of Abu Dhabi for a special screening at the Al-Dhafra Theatre of Authority for Culture and – Sudha Hariharan Heritage.
Anti-establishment art Exhibition of Luxury
Mosh, a professional fetish model, poses for attendees of Dr Sketchy’s anti art school drawing session in New York’s East Village. The school offers to art students an alternative from traditional drawing classes, giving the class to a burlesque atmosphere in which artists share their creations with friends, nothing short of the bohemian art world.
A woman wearing body paint, poses for photographers at the Millionaire Fair in Moscow, Yachts, private islands and even an Irish castle are on offer at Russia’s well attended exhibition of luxury goods and services.
Back to Christmas
The Kremlin and Red square are reflected in a Christmas tree ball in central Moscow.
Miss Russia Ksenya Sukhinova (C) crowned 58th Miss world, Miss India Parvathay Omanakuttan (L) first runner-up and Miss Trinidad and Tobago Gabriel Walcott crowned second runner up wave at the 2008 Miss world pageant held in Sandton Convention Centre in Johannesburg, South Africa.
Vijay Solanki (R) and Sanjuben Solanki (2R), parents of the quadruplets, pose with their babies and Dr Himanshu Bavishi (L) in Ahmedabad. The quadruplets were born or November 2, 2008.
A pedal-power taxi with two women in the back moves through central Sydney. A novel transport feat, indeed!
Happy with quadruplets
Australian pop singer Kylie Minogue arrived at Earl’s Court in London ahead of the Brit Awards 2008. She will be paid $ one million to perform on the sound track of an up coming Bollywood movie. Minogue had agreed to lend her voice to the film ‘Blue’ and will travel to India to record the song.
Pedal-power taxi Meal in space
Endeavour and International Space Station Expedition with 18 crew members share a Thanksgiving meal on the shuttle’s middeck on November 27.
Here is the US Space Shuttle Endeavour atop its 747 carrier aircraft on December 12, 2008 as they are towed into the ramp after landing at the Shuttle Landing Facility at Kennedy Space Center, Florida to complete the shuttle’s three-day return from California.
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A RAY OF HOPE
The doctors at invitro fertilisation treatment centres are using new technique for freezing embryos, which results in successful pregnancies. By Sudha Hariharan
r Hrishikesh Pai has been in the field of IVF for the last 14 years. He is a consultant gynaecologist at the Lilavati Hospital Bandra, honorary gynae colo gist at the Kurla Bhaba Municipal General Hospital, hon professor at the D Y Patil Medical College, Univer sity of Mumbai. He is the administrator of Pearl Family Welfare Hospital, which is one of the leading family planning hospitals in the country. He is the scientific director of three IVF units The Babies and Us Fertility IVF and ICSI Centre at Opera House and the Advanced Fertility Centre at the Lilavati Hospital, Bandra, and at Fortis Hospital, Delhi. He is one of the pioneers in the field of micromanipulation in India. He has also been instrumental in establishing the first assisted laser-hatching unit in India. The unit delivered one of the first few laser-hatched twins in India in the year 1999. Dr Pai has established the advanced assisted reproductive technology unit at the Batra Hospital, New Delhi. Dr Pai has been installed as the President of MOGS (Mumbai Obstretics and Gynaecology Society) for the year 2008-2009. Of all the topics of special interest to families, none holds a more important place than a baby. A baby in a happy, healthy family means that two people who have joined their lives together in love and respect have created out of their devotion a
new human being. A baby then is a sense of our own vision of ourselves carrying on our love, work and life into the future, eventually to be passed on by him to his own children. Conceiving and bearing a baby presents for most families no problems at all. Medical advances have been such that pregnancy, in itself a normal process , is more comfortable and safer than ever before.There are couples ( one out of 10) who have trouble conceiving. Modern science has found several reasons for this which are equally divided between husband and wife. Sometimes, it may be a simple, easily corrected anatomical defect in one or the other which prevents the sperm from reaching the egg. Sometimes, it is a defect that causes the husband’s sperm either not to develop at all, or to develop in numbers too small or in quality too poor to make fertilisation possible. Whatever the cause, medical science has made it possible for more than half of the apparently infertile couples to achieve pregnancy, provided their problems are properly diagnosed and correctly treated.
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In what should come as a ray of hope to couples unable to conceive naturally, doctors and technicians at Invitro fertilisation treatment centres are increasingly using a new technique for freezing embryos, Woman’s Era
ensuring a better survival rate resulting in successful pregnancies. Using a technique called vitrifi cation, first successfully conducted in humans in Japan, the embryos are mixed with a freezing media and suddenly plunged into liquid nitrogen. The super-high concentration of antifreeze and rapid drop in temperature never lets the water inside the cell turn into ice. Due to this sudden drop in temperature the entire embryo is turned into a glassy state, avoiding the ice crystals which are known to damage embryo survival. This is good news for the patients as the woman does not have to repeatedly undergo removal of eggs. According to doctors, they usually take out 10-15 eggs but put back only two or three. The rest of the developed eggs are stored by freezing, wherein vitrification is showing better results. Assisted reproductive technology has undergone significant advances and embryo freezing has become a widely used routine procedure that may contribute to increasing cumulative pregnancy rates from every cycle of a successful oocyte recovery and transfer. Doctors in Mumbai say that their experience over the years has shown that there is an ice crystal formation which damages the eggs in the process of slow freezing. However, in vitrification, there is complete recovery of embryos after the freezing process. The technique demands higher
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technical skills at the clinics. Several doctors who initiated the technique in Mumbai were trained in Japan. In a recent national conference on gyanaecology in Bhubaneshwar, vitrification was discussed and the cases debated.
degrees C per minute making it 70,000 times faster. At that speed of cooling and at that concentration of antifreeze, ice crystals simply cannot form.
The process of IVF or ICSI : The process of IVF/ ICSI involves production of many eggs which are subsequently fertilised in the incubator. This results in the formation of many embryos. Generally 1- 3 embryos are put back into the womb. The remaining embryos are classified into good and bad embryos based on their appearance under the microscope. The good embryos are frozen and stored in liquid nitrogen containers. The bad embryos are discarded as they cannot withstand the freezing process if the patient does not become pregnant after transfer of the fresh first-cycle embryos. These frozen good embryos can be thawed and replaced into the womb with a very good chance of pregnancy. With transfer of three embryos many patients land up having twins and triplets. The multiple pregnancies have problems of miscarriage or premature babies. Hence many units worldwide are putting back one or two embryos instead of the standard practice of three embryos and freezing the rest of the extra-good embryos. Also, every time one wants to try for a pregnancy with frozen embryos three to four embryos are thawed at a time and if these embryos withstand the freezing process they are put into the womb. If this fails to yield a pregnancy they try again with a few more frozen embryos, doing this till they either achieve a pregnancy or all the frozen embryos are finished. In recent times with more efficient ways of freezing, the pregnancy rates per freezing attempt has gone up to 30 per cent. Thus with availability of an efficient freezing programme the cumulative success rate (success rate in the first-fresh cycle plus success rate in the subsequent frozen cycles has gone up to 80 per
Why are embryos plunged into liquid nitrogen? In vitrification the embryos are mixed with the freezing media and are suddenly plunged into liquid nitrogen. Due to this sudden drop in temperature the entire embryo is turned into a glassy state without the formation of water crystals (which occurs in slow-freezing technique and which are known to damage embryo survival).
cent for three attempts) with availability of good freezing the gynecologist also tends to put lesser embryos back, thus reducing the problems of twins and triplets. There are two types of freezing, namely slow freeing and vitrification. The slow freezing is the traditional method of freezing. It is in existence since the 1980s – in this the temperature of the embryo is slowly lowered from room temperature to minus 40 deg centigrade per minute and then the embryos are stored in liquid nitrogen gas whose temper ature is minus196. The problems with slow freezing are many. Firstly, it needs a machine which takes up to nearly two hours to freeze embryos of one patient. Secondly, it is not a very efficient system as many embryos are lost during the thawing process. This in turn hampers the pregnancy rate. It is also not very effective in freezing day five mature embryos called Blast cyst. A new method, more efficient in these aspects, is the technique of vitrification. Dr Pai answers a few questions to shed light on the new technique.
What are the advantages of vitrification? Vitrification has many advantages. It does not need a freezing machine. It is also a very efficient system and the embryo survival of eight cells day three, embryos and 150 cells day five, blast cyst embryo are better than slow freezing. This results in more number of embryos available for embryo transfer following thawing. This in turn increases the cumulative pregnancy rates in IVF as compared to those with slow freezing. It is also very effective in freezing oocytes and day one embryo called pronuclear embryos or zygotes. Are there any other benefits of overall freezing? Other benefits of overall freezing – either slow freezing or vitrification are as follows: a) many times the lining of the uterus or womb is not ideal for pregnancy in the first fresh cycle. If this is the case one can freeze all the embryos and transfer them in a subsequent natural cycle when the lining is ideal for implantation. b) Also, sometimes a patient may produce a lot of eggs and embryos with resultant swelling of the ovaries. This is called hyper stimulation syndrome and in such situation it is best to avoid transfer and freeze all the embryos. The frozen embryos are then thawed and transferred in the We next cycle.
How is conventional slow freezing different from vitrification? In conventional slow freezing, the temperature of the embryo goes down at precisely 0.3 degree C per minute. In vitrification, the temperature is dropped at 23,000
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About the artist: Name: Arup K. Biswas Qualification: 1992 B.V.A.(painting) Rabindra Bharati University, Kolkata. 1994 M.V.A. (Painting) with first class Rabindra Bharati University, Kolkata. e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org Solo Exhibitions Solo Exhibition ‘Quest’ Open Palm Court India Habitat Centre will be held 1st to 6th January 2009. Solo Exhibition “Unending Quest” The Open Palm Court India Habitat Centre Delhi, 2008. Solo Exhibition, Gallery Lamere, Kolkata 1995 Tagore Art Gallery, Kolkata Airport 1992. Group shows The 7th Northern Region Art Exhibition/ Chandigarh 2007 Painting Exhibition of Junior Artists Camp at AIFACS, New Delhi 2006. 76th Annual All India Art Exhibition All India Fine Arts and Crafts Society, New Delhi (State Award) 2004. 10th All India Exhibition of Art State Lalit Kala Academy, UP 2004 75th Annual All India Art Exhibition, All India Fine Arts and Craft Society, New Delhi 2003. Two Friends, Shridharani Gallery, New Delhi, 2003. Two friends, Nehru Art Gallery, Mumbai, 2002. Open Air Exhibition Air Force Auditorium, New Delhi, 1998. Group Exhibition, Birla Academy of Art and Culture, Kolkata,1997. Two Friends, Tagore Art Gallery, Kolkata, Airport, 1992. State-Academy Exhibition, Kolkata, 1991. Awards Junior Art Camp Organised by All India Fine Arts and Crafts Society, New Delhi, 2006. Art Camp organised by All India Arts and Crafts Society, New Delhi, 2004. Delhi State Award- 76th Annual All India Art Exhibition. All India Fine Arts and Crafts Society, New Delhi, 2004.
The artist is engulfed in the curiosity to move on the journey of the marathon of quest. Once achieved, it becomes a new starting point, to chase the endless process.
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rup K. Biswas’s captivating creations bearing a physically expanded space or upper stratosphere with some tiny human figures in some works are really curious queries of mankind measuring its self, against an impersonal cosmos. This one particular self acrobatics in zero gravity, as it were, so to gain its worth by unusual or complex acts. Man needs to go far from his material or modest self in
order to refresh his own value. And this quest is to remain unending. For as long as man exists on this earth, he will remain in a deeper search other than the foraging for food and sustenance. This search is actually to search for meaning to make sense of mortal life. Yes, a higher consciousness is troublesome, it just doesn’t let the human creature rest for long according to Keshev Malik, the renowned art critic.
A piece of art from Arup K. Biswas’ series ‘Unending Quest’ The painting makes an impact by purely visual means by contrasting the macro world against the micro.
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This is, in fact, the core thrust of Delhi-based, artist Biswas’ craft. He works purposely without becoming overly heavy as abstruse, make an impact by purely visual means by contrasting the macro world against the micro wide spaces, inhabited by magnum bodies and complemented as if by speeding forward pathways, carry the burden of the artist’s theme of unending quest more patently. Excerpts from an interview with this talented artist in whom art is mingled in his blood right from his childhood:
minimised. I have imparted a 3dimensional effect in my paintings with same special materials. There is an effect of installation also in my work! I want to get connected to a common man through my art. I want him also to understand my art, perceive it through his senses and appreciate. You’ll observe a content in the space in my compositions. That’s my USP.
Personal themes and ideas that you like to depict and put forth. Life itself and the common man’s search to find the essence of life, I am on an unending quest. This quest is the curiosity to move forward and forward and hence it’s endless. There’s no vanishing point, because from the same there will be the emergence of a new starting point again. Your art seem to be affected by changes in social science and technology? Why and How? Certainty in its outward apparel. It’s surely for this that art works now come in unusual and unfamiliar forms. Easel paintings, etc. have been pushed aside to give way to video art and the Installation, etc.
How do you develop a concept? When I think of a particular thing, I keep on pondering and work on it until I have it all planned out. The whole process requires a lot of brain work since I need to reach to the depth. I want to get a vivid picture of my own thinking process and imagination before depicting it on canvas. What would you like to comment upon the Indian art and Indian artists in the present scenario. Well, every artist is free work with full freedom. He has his own thinking but yes Indian artists are getting worldwide acclaim these days. Thanks to artists like Jogen Chaudhary and MF Hussain who have given a good platform to Indian art at the International level. In the successful making of artist Arup K. Biswas, whom will you give the credit? Certainly, first of all to my mother for being the source of my inspiration, my father for being a support, my teacher Parthapatim Dev who was HOD of Art in Rabindra Bharati University, Kolkata. for sowing the seeds and now my wife and 9-year-old daughter Akanksha. Last but not least my friends for always being with me. The artist’s next solo show titled quest will be held from Ist January 2009 – 6 January 2009 at Open Palm Court India Habitat We Centre, New Delhi.
So this means art can really change unrecognisably. Well – so long as the mortal remains mortal, as a human subject, he is prone to feel his environment; so is the need for art. Art’s inner core remains for all time provocative of deep meanings. I pick up my themes from the common man. You sound really philosophical! Maybe but the same applies to all of us. We all are on an endless journey. We are in search of that terminating point and we don’t find. Do you think you are different? How! Yes, earlier I used to do figurative but now my composition is
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SHINE AND SPARKLE
As the green movement has hit the jewellery world in a big way, there will be an increase of natural beads and stones adorning all types of jewellery in the New Year. By Suman Bajpai
rends keep changing in jewellery but it is a personal choice of every woman what she wants to wear. Indian gold jewellery is famous for its beautiful designs all over the world. The intricate designs for all kind of gold jewellery are the result of the best craftsmanship. Gold jewellery is sophisticated and refined, and is a divine and precious metal that is perfect for all occasions. That is the reason gold jewellery never goes out of style. What 2008 brought new in terms of jewellery trends also holds true for 2009 as well. Unconventional pieces can make you and your outfit stand out from a crowd by bringing a note 135
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of uniqueness, simplicity and style. Since the unique and colourful aspects have been covered, bear in mind that what you're wearing should also be big, as large items of jewellery are a must the next season – rings, bracelets, necklaces, earrings, all the things a woman may use to accessorise are boldly oversized. Certainly, gold jewellery trends today are more evident than ever before. More and more people are turning their heads to the glow of the precious yellow metal which is available in various contemporary designs and patterns suiting every class of people. Gold jewellery is subtle, stylish, rich and attractive for people of every age-group. Gold chains are among the most popular accessories in gold jewellery. They can be worn formally as well as casually. There is huge variety and designs for gold chains available in the market. Box chains, Snake chains, Robe chains, Link chains, Figaro chains and Valentino chains are some kind of gold chains. Chunky chains and necklaces made from large, open links remain popular for 2009. More necklaces are layered, with links bound together into stacks that surround your neck. Some are long enough to wear as a single chain or to wrap a couple of times for more depth. Look for more
textured links, alone or combined with polished links. And don’t hesitate to clip a charm to some of the links in your necklace – that's a trendy look for 2009 and beyond. Stacked bracelets and necklaces continue to be a popular jewellery trend. Mix up metals and other materials. Wide-cuff bracelets are an option if you don't like to wear multiples on your wrist. Big earrings are back – especially in the form of large gold hoops. Concentric circles floating in the centre of an outer hoop are trend. Bigger, bolder and brighter diamonds are being used as well as black and brown, champagne, cognac diamonds. Hoops can come in a variety of different materials, such as gold or silver.
POLKI AND DIAMOND JEWELLERY
The tendency towards opulence is unbroken in this year's styles. ‘Big is beautiful’ is one principle. This is underscored by large cocktail rings, long necklaces and wide bracelets. This year, we will see a combination of unusual geometric forms or materials such as a gold-silver choker in trapezoid shapes or in
combination with precious metal and hardwood. The dominant style in chokers has a middle piece in which the clasp is concealed. A choker around the neck emphasises a woman's personality. Spirals, hoops or netting lay the foundation for attaching diverse pieces of jewellery or charms. The new year sees a lot of new trends and this time it's the polki and diamond jewellery in kundan settings that will be a hit. While the charm for traditional charms remain, people are slowly drifting from the very traditional ornaments. People don’t want that Jodha-type jewellery any more. They are looking for pieces that are contemporary in look out but have a tinge of traditionally-crafted jewels. Apart from natural yellow and white, white and pink/rose gold, gold with beaten, sand blasted, and grained finishes will be in vogue. “The unusual will make a style statement this year as the trends are changing, women want jewellery which is customised to their needs,” says designer Lina Shah. “Chunkier jewellery will set a trend this year as women would like to stick to a single piece of jewellery and would want it to be noticeable and make a statement,” adds Lina. Design trends for the year are pink and yellow gold jewellery, chunky stones in unusual settings, large cocktail rings with multicoloured stones in white or yellow gold, enamel jewellery and collages of gem-set jewellery. Also, diamond and
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PEARLS ARE ALSO MAKING A BIG SPLASH. WHETHER THEY ARE WORN IN LONG LOOPS OR WRAPPED INTO A CHOKER AROUND THE NECK, PEARLS WILL BE SEEN IN ABUNDANCE DURING 2009.
coloured gemstones studded in natural yellow gold jewellery with a focus on single colour. Innovative designs that are bold and striking yet lighter in terms of weight and Indian/ethnic motifs interwoven with a play of colours by way of enamel work or use of coloured stones in gold jewellery will rule the fashion scene. Women are picking up white, rose and pink gold jewellery. Coloured alloys such as nickel, palladium and copper are added to the precious metal to craft intricate patterns in coloured gold jewellery. In gold much more of the heritage look is very – like kundan polki is in big way. Gold jewellery stylises with the fusion look. Mina kari work is used to make
jewellery traditional but in a contemporary way to suit the current tastes. Pearls are also making a big splash. Whether they are worn in long loops or wrapped into a choker around the neck, pearls will be seen in abundance during 2009. While traditional ivory is still the most popular colour of choice, there will be many other options to choose from. These will include pale peach, pink, gold, champagne, bronze, chocolate, grey and black. One of today's hottest pearl styles is to wear multiple strands of pearls. To take your look from demure to dramatic, layer on the pearls! Multiple strands of pearls work for both day and evening. Multi-strand pastel freshwater pearls in multiple colours with a large silver clasp are perfect summer evening wear. Pearl chandelier styles are perfect for evening and long, geometric pearl earrings in white and yellow gold
appeal. Gemstones of lively colours matched with diamond accents are becoming the popular choice. Gem stones like – marbonite, aquamarine, tanzanite, tourmaline with rare shapes and cuts, rubies in marquise and pear shapes, emeralds and unusual stones of larger sizes like green amethyst – will be seen.
SILVER A CLOSE RUNNER-UP TO GOLD
Expect to see lots of jewellery made from yellow gold mixed with deeply coloured gemstones like black onyx and lapis lazuli. The green movement has hit the jewellery world in a big way. We will see an increase of natural beads and stones adorning all types of jewellery this year. Look for natural gemstones such as jade and turquoise to be a hit along with wood, bone, and freshwater pearls. The large, unadorned cuff-bracelet makes a statement on its own, cuffs sprinkled with stones and jewels of all types are also fabulous. These bold-statement pieces will take your wrists from ordinary to extraordinary without spending a fortune. Silver continues to be popular as well. With the rising price of gold, silver is becoming a close runner-up in the jewellery market. Sterling silver bears the promise of perfect purity all over the world. Silver earrings, bracelets pendants and rings in desirable designs stand out in its on genre. Silver jewellery is really classic instead of being very flashy like gold and can be worn on any occasion from morning till night. Silver stylised jewellery pieces are for those who are always young at heart. Costume jewellery adds style and beauty to you and your ensemble. Costume jewellery is made out of a variety of materials, which can be pure silver, glass beads, kundan, semi-precious stones, metal, etc. There is another trend this season – beads. Beaded jewellery is at its highest peak and the sunny summer days are an excellent opportunity to reveal your individuality, creativity and versatility We with the wide possibilities.
have become the look of choice for daytime. Sensuous, shouldersweeping pearl earrings create a feeling of glamour like nothing else! Gemstones in classic settings and vintage designs are also the hot fashion trend this season. The latest trend in gemstone jewellery is cabochons, which are available in unusual shapes such as tongue, sugar loaf, bullet, double cab and various outline shapes. Gemstone jewellery is also being paired with pink gold these days, and new combinations of coloured gems are also more common. In addition, traditional designs, especially for bridal jewellery, have a classic look with their timeless 140 Woman’s Era
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o you want to start 2009 looking good and feeling great, not worrying about your savings and investments? If you do, go out and buy gold – if you haven’t done so already! You can not only wear it and feel thrilled and elated, you can also be sure that you needn’t worry about the Sensex, the Nifty, the Nasdaq, the price of crude or bank rates! Stock exchanges may crash, the price of oil may fluctuate, interest rates on FDs may fall and EMIs may sky rocket, but your gold will retain its value! “Yes, the people of India realised how stable and dependable gold was much before the rest of the world did and that is why gold has always held centre stage for us. Individuals held and still hold much of their savings in gold and, through the ages down to the present day, the yellow metal has provided our families with
security. This is why our country alone accounts for 24 per cent of the total world demand for gold!” The speaker is G.R. Ananthapadmanabhan, the elder of the two sons of G. Rajendran who started the first GR Thanga Maligai jewellery shop in Chennai in 1964. Today, the family presides over an empire. It has four huge and impressive GRT outlets in Chennai and it wouldn’t be wrong to say that the GRT shops dominate the gold market in the city. GRT also has outlets in Tirupati and Hyderabad while another in Bangalore will be inaugurated shortly. Mr Ananthapadmanabhan goes on to give other advantages of holding savings in gold. Gold has high liquidity because it can be encashed easily and quickly. It is divisible and so is a flexible investment in the sense that you can buy as much or as little as you want and can similarly sell part or all of your holding. And, he adds with a naughty smile, the women of the house will be happy when the family savings are in gold. There is, after all, no other form of savings that one can flaunt by wearing it on one’s body, adding, in the process, to one’s status!
“So, the jewellery industry will not be affected by the financial crisis that has the world in its grip today?” I ask the urbane, articulate and extremely polite and gentlemanly Mr Ananthapadmanabhan who has studied gemology at the Gemology Institute of America and has a graduate Jeweller and gemologist degree.
He explains that no country and industry can be completely immune from the effects of the chaos in the world financial markets because of all the interconnections between countries and industries. So there will definitely be a ripple effect. But he adds that India is lucky. It isn’t too dependent on exports and has huge domestic demand for most commodities. Coming to gold, he goes on to say that even if consumer demand for gold ornaments goes down slightly because of a tight money situation, the increased demand for gold on the part of people who want a safe investment will compensate for that fall. “There is less hype these days,” he says. “But the monthly averages are about the same.” But Mr
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Ananthapadma nabhan warns that gold prices are not scientifically fixed and so fluctuations are inevitable. “Gold should be bought as a long-term investment. Speculation in gold by lay people is not advisable,” he emphasises. The GRT empire is very professionally managed and yet the personal touch is very much present in each of the outlets. As a result, while the family has diversified into hotels and resorts and also runs a school (though that is more to give something back to society), both Mr Ananthapadmanabhan and his younger brother G.R. Radhakrishnan make it a point to be present in their two flagship shops in T. Nagar every day. “The jewellery business is based on trust and a hands-on approach with customers is essential,” Mr Ananthapadmanabhan says. “Our customers must have total trust in GRT to be comfortable buying such a high-end product as jewellery from us. They must never have any doubts about our products. But this isn’t enough. We have to also make the buying experience such a very uniquely pleasant one that they will want to repeat! We have to provide them with an ambience that is reassuring and our services must make them feel comfortable. “For instance, they shouldn’t even have to worry about finding parking space – which can be a terrible headache in T. Nagar – so that they enter our shop in a relaxed mood. So we have our own parking lot and valet 146
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parking. We try to be professional and at the same time, to give our customers personal attention. “And of course, we emphasise that the quality of our jewellery is unquestionable. We work hard to maintain the highest standards and our 916 gold is recognised for its No. one purity. In fact, based on the quality of our gold, we have been certified as South India’s No. one jewellery store by the Bureau of Standards.” And, when you remember that 4045 per cent of the country’s demand for gold comes from South India with Tamil Nadu leading the way, this certificate means a lot! I had noticed that every member of the staff of GRT was friendly, polite and patient and I asked Mr Ananthapadmanabhan about this. “Yes, we train the staff to serve customers well,” he replied. “After all, where would we be without their patronage? My father frequently reminds us that everything we own, even the clothes we wear, are courtesy our customers! So we constantly tell our staff that we will do all that we can for them – and their children and grandchildren too! – but that we won’t tolerate any complaints about poor service from Woman’s Era ● January (First) 2009
customers. That and theft mean instant dismissal!” Mr Ananthapadmanabhan went on to talk about how they run their business. As he talked, his passion for his work came through loud and clear. “We buy gold though banks,” he informed me, “And we source jewellery from all over India and from countries like Italy and Turkey as well.” Most of the 18-carat gold we sell is imported. “Each part of India has its specialities in jewellery and we bring them all together for our customers to choose from. To give just a few examples, Kerala is famous for its light jewellery, Chennai for its closed setting of stones and Kolkata for its exquisitely detailed work. So we source these from these three cities. Much of our jewellery also comes from Mumbai. In this way we get the best work of skilled craftsmen from all over India. “There is also the fact that we have a variety of customers from all over India whom we have to satisfy. Some of them want fashionable new designs and don’t mind paying extra for them. Other are attracted to more traditional styles. Yet others have value for money as their prime consideration. We have to satisfy all these different people, but by having a wide array of pieces from all over India and from abroad, we are able to do that.” He smiled as he said earnestly, “Our motto is to give our customers the maximum choice at the best prices.” What kinds of jewellery are popular now? What trends does he see emerging in 2009? “Young professionals have a lot of disposable income today,” he said. “Why, new engineering graduates have starting salaries of Rs 35,000 when they get into the IT industry! And these young people are educated and have had exposure to the world. They wear not just saris and salwar kameezes, but western clothes as well. They are fashionconscious and know exactly what they want. We have targeted this 2040 age-group with a special range of
jewellery which we have called Stylus.
girls appreciate. “Look, I am not saying that platinum will replace gold in India or any time in the near future, but we are trying to promote platinum as part of what a customer buys. If he “Stylus is light and is perfect for is planning to buy ten sets of daytime wear. It is trendy and can be jewellery for his daughter’s wedding, worn for office, for coffee with friends we suggest that he buys one in and even to college. Young people platinum. If a smart young love to accessorise and so Stylus professional comes in to treat herself comes in many colours and designs. to some pieces of jewellery, we show To sum up, Stylus is affordable and her some platinum ones too. wearable! This trend for light, day“Platinum has a price spread of wear jewellery is definitely here to Rs1500-Rs1900 per gram, so many stay!” in India can well afford it. And many Mr Ananthapadmanabhan is also people are finding out – it is just not an ardent advocate of platinum. true that platinum suits white-skinned “India is discovering the virtues of Westerners better! So today platinum platinum,” he says in an excited tone. is doing very well indeed!” “And today it is doing very well. It is Thanks to this positive attitude, pure and rare and eternal. It is GRT has been declared to be the eternal’ because it is stronger than largest platinum retailer for the last even gold! Platinum jewellery is four years. And this year GRT’s classy! It looks sleek and is very platinum section received the award trendy. It has a fantastic future in for the best platinum showroom in India!” “But don’t Indians have a India too. If lightweight jewellery is passion for bright yellow gold popular with young people for day jewellery?” I asked. wear, chunky jewellery is also “Traditionally, they did and to a popular with them and with everyone good extent they still do. But that else for evening wear, functions and does not mean that platinum cannot weddings. A chunky piece is the become popular. In fact, I will go as perfect counterbalance for a demure, far as to say that it has a very bright understated outfit but, if the wearer future in this country. People are chooses instead to go over the top travelling abroad a lot and are seeing with an extravagantly elaborate, rich women wearing platinum. They note and colourful one, chunky jewellery how good it looks and so they are suits that too! “The ethnic look is also potential customers. in and so is antique jewellery,” Mr “There are also many people with Ananthapadmanabhan told me. “So NRI children. When they want to buy we have the Vintage Collection which for their daughters and daughters-in- is a mixture of both. The designs are law gifts, they often go in for platinum ethnic ones and feature stones of jewellery because that is what the various colours. The pieces are treated with a special This white gold piece This trendy lightweight has a pendant that makes process that makes stylus piece weight just six them like antique it very special. grams! jewellery. The result is a retro look that is very popular with customers.” The gemology course that Mr Ananthapadmanabhan did in America concentrated a lot on diamonds and GRT’s newest showroom in Coats Road, T. Nagar,
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boasts of an entire floor exclusively for diamonds. This showroom has won the best diamond showroom award given by DTC-De Beers for four consecutive years. “People often buy diamonds for a bride as part of her wedding jewellery. So we have a fantastic range of wedding diamond jewellery,” explained Mr Ananthapadmanabhan. “We have four themes for bridal diamonds. Timeless has traditional designs, the Regal theme brings about a elegant royal aura, the Vibrant theme brings flashes of colour into traditional designs, while the Blossom theme has a contemporary feel while being intensely feminine. “Diamond jewellery is the ultimate jewellery. After all, diamonds are forever!” Summing up, gold is an extremely good investment. It is a solid one, as events of the last six months have proved. So, all of us should park at least some of our savings and investment in gold. Buy a car and it has depreciated 30 per cent by the time you drive it out of the showroom! But buy gold and it will probably appreciate over the years – and it will never collapse and lose its value. And to add more cream to the pudding, it is an investment that women can enjoy! Should you buy gold biscuits or pieces of jewellery? The difference is only in the making charges and so it doesn’t matter too much from the investment point of view. But buy jewellery and you can revel in the enjoyment it will bring you even as the investment works for you! What pieces should you buy? You should go to a shop like GRT and buy a piece that appears to have been personalised for you, one that reflects your personality. Buy light pieces for day wear and create outfits around them! Buy heavy, chunky pieces for special occasions and wear them with panache! Take a serious look at platinum too – and you will probably find that you like it and that it suits you. Then add a platinum piece to your jewel box. Finally, pamper yourself with diamonds – but make sure that you can afford them! If you We can’t, save up to buy them! 147
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behind. With nice cuts and various designs, diamond jewellery is luring people all over the world. The sparkle in a woman’s eyes can only be complemented by diamonds. Women today want fashionable jewellery; they follow not only fashion’s runway trends, but also their fashion icons. Women want versatility in their jewellery. They want anything that gives them a feeling of change from day to night or that they can colour-coordinate with different outfits. So, whether it is a ring, earring, bracelet or necklace, it is all desired as long as it is accented with diamonds, stones or pearls. This year, diamonds with colour stones and crystals will be hot selling items. Yellow, pink and black rhodium on rubies and emeralds will rule women’s hearts this year. Coloured diamonds in warm shades of brown, yellow and yellow-orange give jewellery a sophisticated edge. The sizes of the diamonds have gone up. Designs are coming with minimalist diamonds but the basic forms are exaggerated in a simple way. Vivid colours and bold designs dominate the trend this season. Jewellery designs and colours are luxurious, feminine, and sensual. This year, designers are using a lot of open spaces to create elegant diamond jewellery. It appears in a variety of motifs from simple diamond pave swirls to more intricate diamond pave lattice-work and diamond orbs. Enduring jewe llery icons from nature continue to enchant in new variations. Diamond-intensive brooches shaped hearts or butterfly designs with lots of diamond pave will also be on top priority of the jewellery trend.
With so much emphasis on the neck, pendants are making a comeback and they're bold and dramatic like the necklaces they dangle from. Necklaces will be in vogue and are designed to make a bold statement. Look for an abundance of multi-strand necklaces and a layering of strands to create a look that will take even the most ordinary outfit from fine to divine. Look for diamond-studded, medallions and gemstone pendants to add to your collection. The latest trend in fashion jewellery necklaces is the bigger, the better. The Hip-hop culture has had an influence in the fashion marketplace with thicker, heavyweight pieces gaining popularity. Pendants, as well, are hot commodities but in multistone configurations with an organic feel. Although superlarge pendants were emphasised in all the fashion runway shows, there's still a place for smaller, more delicate pendants if bold isn't your style. This year, earring jewellery may be moving towards slinky, Woman’s Era
THIS YEAR, EARRING JEWELLERY MAY BE MOVING TOWARDS SLINKY, LINEAR DESIGNS, BUT THE OLDER STYLES ARE STILL JUST AS HOT AS EVER.
linear designs, but the older styles are still just as hot as ever. Dangleearrings and chandelier-earrings are trends that entered the market a few years ago and are still holding strong, while classic studs and pearl earrings display a timeless beauty that will never go out of style. The wrist will take on new importance this fall and winter and what better way to flatter an appendage than with a bold cuff bracelet. Not to be overshadowed by necklaces and pendants, the bracelet is a terrific fashion accessory. Diamond tennis bracelets remain the most classic and popular style and their versatility is endless. It can be worn by itself or as part of a matching set that has become all the rage this season. According to designer Sahil Kohli of Bhagatraj.S jewellers, “This year, the new trend is tennis bracelets. They are fancy with modern designs, and flexibility is the 151
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specialty. Women are going for fusion in jewellery pieces also. We will see a lot of coloured stones as she wants everything to match with her dress.” Precisely. Rings are not the only hot trend in diamond jewellery this year. There are also some great things to be said for earrings. When it comes to making a fashion statement with jewellery, women prefer to sport a glittery diamond or two. Diamond rings, pendants, bracelets et al are available in various designs to adorn
the woman at work, at a party or at a ceremonial gathering. Today, the trend of wearing a diamond ring on the right hand, instead of the traditional left hand is fast catching up. Diamond solitaire engagement rings remain popular, but lots of buyers are choosing threestone rings featuring a large centre stone flanked by a pair of smaller diamonds. And, often these stones are quite big – no minimalist looks here because it’s show time when sporting three-stone rings It’s time to be different. It’s not time to wear a classic, colourless diamond again. Now, it’s time to wear fancy colour diamonds, especially a yellow diamond. Women today are opting for alternative semi-precious stones set around diamonds, rather then going for the traditional pricier, precious stones. Sales of the traditional sapphires, emeralds and ruby stone jewellery have plummeted and have been replaced by the colourful semiprecious stone jewellery.
The consumer today is no longer satisfied with the status quo; they don't want just the round white diamond or the round white pearls. Diamonds are being colour-treated to come in blue, green, pink, yellow, brown and black. They are being cut with names like the asscher cut, cushion cut, radiant cut, criss-cut, lily cut. This season, the ‘bold look’ is in fashion, everyone wants to wear big pieces that they can flaunt. Hence it is the time to show off. What is really catching on in the Indian market is the concept of fusion jewellery. In this kind of jewellery, the core design concepts are Indian, but the styling, the finish and the metals used are Western. The preference for diamonds studded in white gold, for instance, is on the rise. Fusion jewellery, for instance, is more popular for casual or informal gettogethers or even formal ones. If you still want to go traditional, now-a-days there are plenty of designs in traditional patterns as well. The trend today is on different cuts like baguette, marquis and the princess cut apart from the rose cut which is very happening. Instead of the typical long necklaces, ‘round the neck’ pieces are in. As far as rings are concerned, the solitaires are in and the pacheli diamond bangles with enamel work are popular. Diamonds have become the preferred choice for most women and especially for special occasions like engagements and weddings. The diamond engagement ring is the most sentimental piece of jewellery a woman will own in her lifetime. Besides being the ultimate symbol of eternal devotion and the singular representation of a man’s adoration for a woman, a diamond engagement ring is truly distinctive because each diamond is different, like the woman who wears it. Bridal diamond range of jewellery consists of necklaces studded with diamonds with south sea pearls, diamonds with emeralds and diamonds with rubies. This fusion of diamonds with precious stones is the latest trend in diamond jewellery. We
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Greater Noida might be far for Delhi commuters but if the attendance at the exhibition was to be believed, it was not a deterrent to either the participants or the visitor. With foreign as well as Indian participation, there was everything from skincare products to make-up goodies. Though it was meant to be a business gathering with partnerships being forged there were demonstrations of make-up as well. Models were decked in make-up of latest styles and fads and went around the stalls. There was hairstyle competition as well organised by Wella and various stylists like Javed and Sylvie were judging the work. This was the third annual event and the grand Finale show ‘Vintage glamour’ offered an amalgamation of beauty, style and there was entertainment too. John Bailey is an internationally known name among make-up artists. He holds a degree in Theatre Arts from Florida State University. He lectures on make-up through Europe, Latin America and Asia. Jas Jhally is a name to reckon with when it comes to haircuts and hair colouring. He helps students further their careers and enhance their creative edge. Make-up and hair is big business and this annual event has earned itself a space for professionals and for the consumer to know the trends and styles in vogue internationally. The India Cup Open 2008 hair and beauty competition had various categories including Henna Art! A Lifetime achievement award was bestowed upon June Tomkyns from Kolkata for her outstanding contribution to the hairdressing industry. The next edition is eagerly awaited as it seems to get bigger and better each year.
The Kamilarov string Quartet performing mesmerising music.
With many invitees and per formers feeling insecure about travelling to India at this time, it was really heartening when the Kamilarov
String Quartet did not change their arrival plans. The Austrian Cultural Forum together with The Claridges organised a mesmerising afternoon at the hotel. The guests first met and were introduced to the performers in the beautifully kept front gardens of the hotel. Then we shifted to the ballroom where the group performed in the company of diplomats, hot eliers and Delhi’s lucky few who were invited for the Matinee. It was a special Sunday that no invitee would be able to forget. The three-piece band performed the well recognised works of Mozart, Joseph Haydn and Josef Lanner. The pieces in sequence were ‘Salzburg’. ‘Kegel statt-trio’, ‘Trio Andante Cantabile’, and ‘Viennese Landler’. The charm of a live performance is far more touching than the best quality music system playing but a CD. With the Ambassadors of Germany, Nether lands and of course personnel from Austria, Lufthansa India, more than a hundred people enjoyed the musical afternoon and then exchanged pleasantries by the poolside with the signature good food of the hotel.
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The Japanese Women’s Association teaching Indian cuisine to Japanese women.
INDIAN COOKING FOR JAPANESE WOMEN
Expatriates of any nation, while living in India get to try our cuisine at its most authentic and are then enamoured with the flavours and spices. It is but natural that they should then try to learn how to cook it. The Japanese Women’s Associ ation made such a move and combined it with the charming gesture of raising funds for the underprivileged in India. The Executive Chef Ravi Saxena along with Executive Sous Chef, Chef Neeraj Tyagi demonstrated Indian recipes like butter chicken, baigan ka bharta, shrimp biryani and various Indian breads to a group of over 100 Japanese ladies. They were excited and overjoyed to learn these recipes and surely will woo their own guests when they cook all of it somewhere else in the world. Ms. Hisaka Tamagawa, member of the Japanese Women Association, said, “Such events help build strong relations between different cultures. There are more than 300 Japanese families in India and it is very exciting to learn Indian dishes and to learn about Indian food.” After the cooking demonstration and sharing of the recipes was complete the ladies relaxed in the sun with a lavish buffet including what they had learnt how to cook. Winter is a great time to learn 160
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DELHI INTERNATIONAL ARTS FESTIVAL
Almost a month-long event, bringing different kinds of arts – shows, talks, performances, exhibitions, even films, and more were brought together under this banner. And not just arts and artists of India, but from all over the world through their different embassies and other forum like Helvetia for the
Swiss participation the very quantum of work it must have required deserves a full and honest round of standing ovation. It was definitely an ambitious scale at which this effort was mounted. Getting people from such diverse divisions as government departments, politics, business, diplomats, and of course academi cians is a daunting task. The Festival was conceived on a model of public private partnership and no less than 65 partnerships with leading agencies and apex bodies like Lalit Kala Akademi, Sangeet Natak Akademi, Directorate of Film Festivals, National School of Drama, Directorate of Film Festivals, Children's Film Society, to name a few, were forged. As Arshiya Sethi said, ‘To stand with such agencies on a shared platform is a big honour in itself. Working with so many experts in the various fields of the arts was a learning experience for me and I am indebted to all these "teachers".’ This is barely the second year and the brand DIAF is here to stay. It will definitely bring international and the best national talent on an annual basis. The almost month-long event had more than 300 events of cultural significance in different venues. The spirit was probably best showcased on the evening perfor mance of classical Oddisi dancer Rekha Tandon. For the evening the music was provided by Hans Koch who is a recognised classical clarinet player but he has now turned nontraditional by being an innovative reed-player. His sounds are unique as modern has mixed with traditional and the evening began with a video of the mundane uplifted to sublime with his music. Rekha has just returned from a residency in Switzerland (facilitated by the Swiss Arts Council) and her dance was a mix of classical Odissi style
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incorporating postures and mudras of Yoga to make it contemporary and yet totally traditional. Michael Weston is a musician from the pop world of London and in India he has promoted and documented Orissa adivasi culture, particularly the music. Together these three brought magic to the select audience of Delhi.
IFE – THE INTERNATIONAL FOOD EXHIBITION
This annual event in Delhi, with its international partici pation, is becoming very popular with the importers and the general public too. Despite quite a few cancellations this year the event took place and had a fair presence as well. If there were energy drinks from Australia there were the antipasti and other delights from Italy. Other European countries including France showcased their food and beverages. However, the real joy were the two Indian-origin women, both settled in England and both of them fully immersed in the world of promoting Indian cuisine in European world. Manju Malhi is a chef who has written books about Indian food recipes. She was invited
Ms Jagdesh Kaur of Indian origin, settled in England, at the International Food Exhibition.
by the British High Commission to showcase how to use British beer in cooking, and she demonstrated the same at the High Commission to a selected invitee group. Then there was Jagdesh Kaur, Business Development Manager of Honeytop Speciality Foods, India. She is the woman who is selling Indian breads (all kinds of naans and other curries as well) to the whole world. While Sharwood is an old name in England supplying such goodies, Jagdesh wants to woo the local market in India by making these same breads in India. Fruit juices, chocolates, all other kind of long-shelf life items were sampled and surely a few deals were struck too. These trade shows bring the different people involved in the world of food together. And most
The tourism board of Italy comes to Indian metros annually promoting Italian tourist destinations.
importantly it shows the local population as to what is happening the world over, giving business opportunities to those who are interested.
PROMOTING ITALIAN DESTINATION
Italy is a land rich in natural beauty as well as man-made architecture and arts. It is said that more than half of the world’s art treasures are housed in Italy. The Tourism Board of Italy brings an annual road show to India’s main metros. With a tagline of ‘Italy – where dreams come true’ – they have much to offer to not just the tourist but to even film-makers of Mumbai who have been going to Italy for shooting of various blockbuster films these days. Well-known regions of Italy including the Veneto, Campagnia, etc are increasingly becoming popular with Indians even for holidays and the romantically inclined honey mooners. Travel agents and airlines are promoting European destinations to India and Italy definitely leads the way. Over an Italian lunch in the mezzanine floor of Shangri-La hotel, everybody enjoyed the information exchange and hoped to do more business with the Indian traveller. – Sona Sharma. Woman’s Era
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A TEENAGED LEGEND
She augurs good news for badminton in India.
By Shivendra Kumar
ow Saina Nehwal (born 17 March 1990) needs no introduction. She has already announced her arrival by becoming the first Indian to win the World Junior Badminton Cham pion ship. This is not the only first in her badminton career. Recently, she hogged the limelight by becoming the first Indian woman to reach the singles quarterfinals at the Olympics. Currently ranked number 11, Saina is toast of a billion lives now. In 2006, Saina appeared on the global scene when she became the first Indian woman to win a 4-star tournament, the Philippines Open. Entering the tournament as the 86th seed, Saina went on to stun several top seeded players including Huaiwen XU before defeating Julia Xian Pei Wong of Malaysia for the title. The same year also saw Saina Woman’s Era
as runner-up at the 2006 BWF World Junior Championship, where she lost a hard-fought match against top seed Chinese Wang Yihan. She did one better in the 2008 by becoming the first Indian to win the World Junior Badminton Championship by defeating ninth seeded Japanese Sayaka Sato 21-9, 21-18.
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Sania became the first Indian woman to reach the quarter finals at the Olympic Games when she upset world number five and fourth seed Wang Chen of Hong Kong in a three-game thriller. In the quarterfinals Saina lost a nail-biting threegames to world number 16 Maria Kristin Yulianti. In September 2008, she won the Yonex Chinese Taipei Open 2008 beating Li Ya Lydia Cheah of Malaysia 21-8 21-19. Maria
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Yulianti had earlier lost her quarterfinal match to Pia Bernadet, Saina's semi-final opponent, thus denying Saina a rematch. Saina is the reigning under-19 national champion. Also a regular in the senior circuit where she lost to former India number one Aparna Popat, Saina created history by the winning the prestigious Asian Satellite Badminton Tournament (India Chapter) twice, becoming the first player to do so. Born at Hisar in Haryana, her foray into the world of badminton was started by her father Dr Harvir Singh, a scientist at the Directorate of Oilseeds Research, Hyderabad, and her mother Usha Nehwal, both of whom were former badminton champions in Haryana. In December 1998, Saina's father took her to meet coach Nani Prasad at the Lal Bahadur Stadium in Hyderabad. Seeing potential in the girl, Prasad asked Singh to enroll Saina as a summer trainee. Harvir Singh and Saina, who was eight years old then, would wake up at 6 every morning and head to the stadium which was 20 kms away. After two hours of practice, Singh would drop Saina to school on his way to work. Saina would often fall asleep on these journeys which prompted her mother to accompany them for the next three months. Travelling nearly 50 kms a day in order to accommodate the training
schedule, Singh eventually decided to move closer to the stadium in 1999. This, however, didn’t end the travelling ordeal as Saina was asked to attend evening training sessions as well. With the extra training sessions, travelling expenditure rose phenomenally. Added to the cost of equipment including shuttles, rackets, shoes and gutting, expenses rose to over Rs. 12,000 per month. In order to keep up with the rising cost of her training, Saina’s father withdrew money from his savings and provident fund. The tight-rope walk continued until 2002, when sports brand Yonex offered to sponsor Saina’s kit. As her status and rankings improved, the sponsorships increased. In 2004, BPCL signed the rising star onto their payroll, and in
SAINA IS THE REIGNING UNDER-19 NATIONAL CHAMPION. ALSO A REGULAR IN THE SENIOR CIRCUIT WHERE SHE LOST TO FORMER INDIA NUMBER ONE APARNA POPAT.
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SAINA’S CAREER SCORE CARD
Event Czechoslovakia Junior Open Commonwealth Youth Games Asian Satellite Badminton Tournament World Junior Badminton Championships Commonwealth Games Philippines Open (Badminton) Asian Satellite Badminton Tournament Indian National Badminton Championship National Games of India Yonex Chinese Taipei Open Indian National Badminton Championship Commonwealth Youth Games World Junior Badminton Championship Year 2003 2004 2005 2006 2006 2006 2006 2007 2007 2008 2008 2008 2008 Result Winner 2 silver Winner Runner-up 3 bronze Winner Winner Winner 1 gold Winner Winner 1 gold Winner
SAINA AT 2008 SUMMER OLYMPICS
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Points 21-9, 21-8 21-18, 21-10 21-19, 11-21, 21-11 28-26, 14-21, 15-21 167
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Deepika suspected that her ex-colleague had poisoned her husband’s mind against her. But had he? By R. N. Sharma
ver since Deepak had returned from the airport “Yes, you are right... She is Nutan,” Deepak was after seeing off his friend Krishnan, Deepika quick to intervene. “As my sister’s name is also had found him in an unusually quiet mood. As Nutan, we decided to give this Nutan a new name his wife of 6 months, she knew him now and chose to rechristen her Deepika... Deepak’s sufficiently well. She had never found him in Deepika, you see, and we are still coping with the such a low spirit. Just his presence at home name confusion for the last 6 months!” would make the atmosphere lively and Deepak had a hearty laugh in which Deepika electrifying. He would joke around, chat with his also joined. But Krishnan responded only with a parents, have heated discussions with his father, smile. Dawarka Das (on Indian politics and politicians), a “So you know each other,” Deepak added. pet subject for his father, tease his college“Yes, we were colleagues in an NBFC going younger sister, Nutan, or talk about in Mumbai,” Deepika said. her studies or friends, boys and girls or Again Krishnan responded with a warm As theirs was just walk into the kitchen to see what was smile and a murmur of “Yes.” an arranged being cooked, look around for some Deepak remembered that Krishnan had marriage, namkeen to munch or sweet to nibble. Or worked in Mumbai awaiting the clearance surprise Deepika by grabbing her and of his work permit and the visa for the Deepak’s stealing a kiss. USA. request had Deepak had taken a day off to be with Deepika had resigned her job because come after Krishnan, who was on his way to Chennai Deepak wanted her to be a housewife, their parents to meet his parents. As he had a stopover though she could have got herself for about 6 hours in Delhi, he wanted to transferred to Delhi. Her income would had spend some time with Deepak and his have been an asset to oversee the studies formalised family. He was very particular to meet of Nutan and meeting the heavy medical everything. Deepika because despite his best efforts, bills of his ailing mother, Naina Devi, he could not attend Deepak’s marriage. suffering from arthritis and Dawarka Das, a Instead of whiling away the time at the chronic asthmatic — and even regular airport, Deepak had brought Krishnan to the house. household expenses. But the moment Deepika saw Krishnan she had recognised him. He was her colleague in a nonut, as Naina Devi and Dawarka Das needed banking financial company (NBFC) in Mumbai she constant attention, Deepak had requested had worked after doing her postgraduation in Deepika to resign and she had willingly commerce. sacrificed her well-paid job without dithering for a “So it is you, Krishnan, Deepak had been talking moment, endearing herself not only to Deepak but about ever since he received your telephone call that his parents also, by her gesture. you would be stopping over here,” Deepika greeted As theirs was an arranged marriage, Deepak’s him. request had come after their parents had formalised “But... Nutan...!” a surprised and somewhat everything. shocked Krishnan exclaimed. As Deepika got busy in the kitchen, Deepak and
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Krishnan got time to exchange notes on the happenings in the intervening period. They were meeting each other after a gap of about 6 years. They were batchmates at the postgraduation business management institute. Krishnan who had always dreamt of going abroad, had decided to go to the USA. To get the green card, he had married an American girl and decided to settle there. Deepak, on the other hand, had never thought of leaving India, though he did get a couple of good offers from abroad. But he got a very good opening with an MNC in India itself. But Krishnan’s stony silence had really surprised Deepak. He had known Krishnan as a very witty and jolly man.
eepika brought coffee and snacks and invited Deepak and Krishnan to the dining table. Deepak’s parents and Nutan also joined
them. There was not much talking. Only Dawarka Das and Nutan had made some casual queries to Krishnan about life in America. But it seemed like Krishnan was not involved in what was happening around. His replies reflected his indifference. It was time for Krishnan to depart. Deepak was to drop him at the airport. “Do visit us, if you are taking your return flight from Delhi,” Deepika said. “Yes,” Deepak seconded her. “Let us see,” was Krishnan’s cursory reply. By the time Deepak returned from the airport
it was dinner time and everybody was waiting for him to join them. Though present at the dining table, Deepak was not his usual self. He had always enjoyed every moment at the dining table. He would talk about a particular dish which he had not taken for some days, a recipe about which he had read in a magazine, a TV serial or even a latest movie. A glum face or a mouth shut could never go well with his personality. “Don’t quarrel with your food,” snapped Dawarka Das as he saw Deepak breaking a small morsel of a chappati and then putting it back in the plate. “If you are not hungry or not feeling well, better go and take rest.” Deepak kept mum. “Have rajma chawal, your favourite,” Deepika suggested. Deepak looked at her but ignored her request. But he silently admired the way she had picked up the right notes about his tastes, likes and dislikes and also of other family members, in just 6 months’ time. Nutan’s liking for aloo-ka-paratha, Dawarka Das’ preference for arhar-ki-dal and rice and Naina Devi’s weakness for gajar-ka-halwa — Deepika loved cooking all these at home. “Your dad is right, Deepak,” Naina Devi said. “If you are not well, go and take rest and take some tulsi tea before you go to sleep.” Deepak excused himself by saying that he was having a slight headache. Deepika returned to the bedroom with a cup of tulsi tea after she was through with the kitchen chores and other daily routines. Also, a hot cup of milk for Nutan, legmassage to Naina Devi and medicine to Dawarka Das. “Here is your tea,” said Deepika as she came into the room, but was surprised to find both TV and lights off — something unusual. Deepak always
Deepika returned to the bedroom with a cup of tulsi tea but was surprised to find both TV and lights off – which was unusual in their daily routines.
TRICK YOUR CHILD INTO
By Lesley D. Biswas
with cauliflower, radish, and peas. For peas and cauliflower parathas, saute finely chopped/grated vegetable with a little salt and garam masala powder. Use this to fill in the dough and roll out parathas. Fry your veg parathas and win your child’s approval. For the radish paratha, grate radish and let it stand for an hour with a little salt to drain the water, then follow the same method. Boiled potatoes can be mashed and kneaded along with flour with a little salt, no water. Roll medium balls into parathas.
Encourage your child to go green.
cheese; butter for lining the baking dish and half a cup of sauted vegetables that could include peas, beans, carrots and onion. Beat the eggs with salt, and add cheese. Mix in the sauted vegetables and pour into a greased dish. Bake for 15 minutes in an oven at 120 degrees. You can also fry the egg mixture leaving out cheese and adding chopped tomatoes.
f feeding your children vegetables is a daily test of your patience…don’t despair, with a little creativity you can trick them into enjoying a healthy meal of greens without them even discovering the contents.
Hidden delight: Children often turn up their noses without even sampling green vegetables. Hide veggies so that they are lured on by the taste rather put off by its unattractive sight. Gram flour is an interesting way to hide spinach, pumpkin, brinjal and green coriander. Make a thick batter of the gram flour. For batter, take one cup of besan and a pinch of sodium bicarbonate and add salt to taste. Use this batter to lavishly coat vegetables of your choice. Now deep-fry the pakoras as a tasty snack served with sauce or an appetising dip. Yummy parathas: Dough is another medium you could tweed in your favourite vegetables. The usual aloo-ka-paratha can be substituted
Puree veggies: Another fabulous way to get children to eat veggies is to puree them. Add pureed vegetables to chicken soup. You could dabble with spinach or carrots. Another healthy soup children do not mind is mixed vegetables and chicken soup. Take 2 medium tomatoes, one-inch whole ginger, couple of peas, a few French beans and 100 gm of chicken. Boil together for 15 minutes. Separate vegetables and puree keeping the chicken whole. Add together and put back on low flame. Now add half teaspoon of cornflower diluted in half a cup of water to the soup, and salt to taste. Your nutritious soup is ready. Egg delicacies: Children usually love eggs. Using egg as a base, prepare a vegetable omelette. For this you need 2 eggs; 1 tbsp grated
Sweet delight: Desserts are a child’s favourite dish and your best bet to get them to down veggies like pumpkin and carrots. Finely grate pumpkin/carrots, heat some refined oil/ghee in a thick-bottomed pan, fry the grated vegetable for a couple of minutes or until the water evaporates, add sugar to taste and cook with milk till done. As parents, our main concern is if our child is eating healthy. To make veggies fun to eat, apply these useful tips: ● Tempt children with dips. ● Add veggies to fried rice, chowmien, marinade and soups. ● Use as toppings in pizza. ● Mince and stuff in burgers and patties. ● Cut vegetables in creative shapes and present as a salad. Kids are selective about the vegetables they eat. These tricks are sure to lure even the most rebellious vegetable eaters into sampling some of the delicacies. We
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Small, easyto-adopt ideas to make a big difference to your life.
By Monidipa Sharma
SIMPLE WAYS TO FEEL
f each day, you feel you can’t muster enough vigour to get through the day, you are not alone. Millions of people the world over, are managing fulltime jobs, parenting responsi bilities, looking after elderly parents, hobbies and social lives on everyday basis. We are frazzled bunch — and we need novel ways to fight fatigue and feel energised all day long. Here is a list of simple tips for feeling vibrant and energised every single day. Jump-start your day: Being an early bird has countless benefits. The first advantage is the extra time gained in the day. The extra hours may be used to work out, meditate, read or pursue a hobby. Waking up early usually means that your day gets a great start. As an added bonus, you may catch a glimpse of the sunrise or gaze at the morning sky while drinking your cup of tea, to jump-start your day. Stretch out: Stretching is relaxing and helps ease your shoulders, back, hips and legs. The health benefits? Greater comfort and flexibility with your own body. If you stretch properly, you will feel immediate benefits both physically and mentally. As a plus, stretching improves balance and stability and enhances your posture. Juice up: Drinking fruit juice is almost as healthy as eating a piece of raw fruit. The best way to consume fruit is with its skin on. Try having it on an empty stomach 15 minutes
before other meals. If you’re not a fruit fan but want the benefits of eating fruit, you can start eating fruit by squeezing out fruit juices and drinking it fresh. Try a power shower: Tried a power shower yet? Finish your morning shower with a one-minute blast of cold water. You may shiver a little at first, but this improves blood circulation and leaves you feeling tingling fresh. It uplifts you and invigorates you with the essence of life. Give it a go, you will undeniably feel more alive.
Eat more green stuff: You know green veggies are good for you. Try to consume as much as possible every single day to make sure that you get plenty of vitamins, fibre and antioxidants. The human body needs roughage, so eat up. Feed on fruit: Fruits make the perfect snack — they’re both easily accessible and very tasty. The majority of fruits are also loaded with fibre and vitamins. For a quick energy boost, try this simple recipe for fatigue: Slice a washed, cored apple into small pieces. Place them in a bowl and pour one cup of boiling water till the apples are fully soaked. Let the bowl sit for a while. Add one tablespoonful of honey and stir well. Eat the apple and then sip the leftover liquid for an instant energy enhancer. Just do something: A sedentary lifestyle saps your energy, but taking action empowers and recharges you.
DO YOU EVER WONDER WHY YOU FEEL GREAT AFTER A LONG RUN? THAT EUPHORIC FEELING WHICH CAN LAST UP TO 12 HOURS FOR SOME PEOPLE, HAS A SCIENTIFIC EXPLANATION. EXERCISING RELEASES ENDORPHINS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL ALIVE, REFRESHED AND ENERGISED ALL DAY.
The more interesting and exiting your life, the more alive and energetic you are likely to feel. So live it up.
Go get moving: Do you ever wonder why you feel great after a long run? That euphoric feeling which can last up to 12 hours for some people, has a scientific explanation. Exercising releases endorphins that make you feel alive, refreshed and
energised all day. Brisk walking is another way to feel alert and energised. The more physically fit you are, the less fatigue you will feel. So, workout regularly to keep fit. Exfoliate your skin: Have you ever wondered how movie stars get that glowing, youthful skin? Exfoliation is the magic word. No matter how well you wash your face, if you do not exfoliate, dead skin cells will build up. When this happens, your skin will appear dull and lifeless. You already know that you feel great when you know you are looking great. Exfoliation makes a major difference. Just try it. Catch a catnap: Catnaps are good for you. However, there’s a major difference between a “nap” and a “power nap.” The nap time that seems to give the greatest benefits and can keep you energetic all day is right there in the 10 to 20 minutes range. So how about you? Are you a power-napper? Just stay hydrated: To keep fatigue at bay, try to drink at least 8 glasses of water a day. Drink even more water if you exercise. If you can’t drink plain water, add a dash of fresh lemon or lime juice and drink up. Buy yourself flowers: The sight and fragrance of exquisite flowers can perk up even the most stressful of days. Instead of waiting for someone to buy you flower, why not pick up a beautiful bunch for yourself and inhale the multi-hued fragrance of life? Surrounding yourself with
flowers and other things of beauty is undoubtedly going to lift your spirits and fill you with joy. Wear comfortable shoes: People need to choose shoes that fit their feet, not make their feet fit the shoes. But in our fashion-conscious world, many women choose to hobble around in ridiculously high heels. The results: your feet are killing you before the day is through. Seriously — why walk through your life feeling uncomfortable? Always choose shoes that look smart but are easy to walk around in. Say yes to joy: Aim to create at least 3 joyful treats in your life every day. A treat isn’t necessarily food; it’s anything that you can look forward to and something that nourishes you physically or emotionally: a stunning sunset, a huge bowl of chocolate, ice cream, or an evening spent with good friends, all create joy in your everyday life and let you going. Sip green tea: Is any other food or drink reported to have as many health benefits as green tea? If you’re really craving a cup of hot stuff, have some green tea. Now the key, experts say, is to drink highquality green tea regularly for these health benefits. Go nutty: Keep small bags of nuts and dried fruits (like cashews, raisins or dates) in your bag. The healthy fats and fibre in this snack will sustain you longer than a candy bar when hunger pangs strike suddenly.
FRESH, RIPE BANANAS ARE A SUPER SOURCE OF FRUIT SUGARS AND CAN GIVE A QUICK ENERGY BOOST. IF YOU WANT A QUICK FIX FOR FLAGGING ENERGY LEVELS, THERE’S NO BETTER SNACK THAN A BANANA.
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Get a banana boost: Fresh, ripe bananas are a super source of fruit sugars and can give a quick energy boost. If you want a quick fix for flagging energy levels, there’s no better snack than a banana. A banana gives an instant and substantial boost of energy. Munch on chocolates: Every once in a while treat yourself to a bar of high-quality dark chocolate. Always sit down and eat it slowly, relishing each mouthful. Enjoy the feeling of the chocolate melting in your mouth. This combination of taste and texture makes chocolate a preferred form of “comfort food.” Try out something new: Learn a new skill or eat something new that you’ve never tried before. Try a new exercise class. Making slight changes in your everyday routine removes mental cobwebs and gets your energy flowing. Look at the bright side: A positive attitude, positive thinking and optimism are known to have many positive life benefits. If you find yourself fretting about an uncertain future, take 5 minutes to imagine that it will have a positive outcome. Worrying saps you of energy whereas a positive, optimistic attitude towards life will definitely keep the spring in your step all day long.
too hard, take regular breaks. Stop your task, take a deep breath and stretch. Lack of movement creates fatigue, but brief breaks keep you clear-headed and fresh. Detox with salt: A simple way to draw toxins out of the body after a hard day of labour is to take a hot Epsom salt bath. Simply massage Epsom salt into your wet skin when in the shower. Afterwards, rinse thoroughly. Unwind your mind naturally: To release tension in your mind and body, lie on the floor or your bed and relax. Inhale and exhale as you tense and release your muscles one at a time, starting with your toes and moving up your body to the top of your head. Let go of the tensions, stress and anxiety you felt throughout the day. Revitalise with a foot massage: After an exhausting day at work, or a hectic weekend of shopping, relieve the stress and pain with a foot massage. A 15-minute foot massage can help you sleep better, get recharged, and be ready for another hectic day at the work. Show yourself some love: Whenever you find yourself brooding over past mistakes, make a list of all the people who love and respect you. Remember all the things you have achieved in life, and the road ahead. Remember to count your blessings and give thanks for the good life you already have. Catch some Zzzs: Get regular, good quality sleep to ensure that your body has time to recover and heal itself. Try taking a hot bath and then retire to bed with a cup of hot milk and a good book. Just try it. A good night’s sleep keeps fatigue at bay all through the next day. Once you have tried out a few of these suggestions, consider making them a permanent part of your life, they will help you feel energised and refreshed every day. We Good luck. Woman’s Era
Rajani: I’m sure you will like Mohan. He’s a fine young man. Her father: Has he got any property? Rajani: Oh, you men are so curious. Mohan asked me the same thing about you.
Rahul: What did you get your wife for her birthday? Kalyan: She reverses more decisions than the Supreme Court and she should dress accordingly.
Raju: Who was that you were talking with outside for a whole hour? Wife: Oh, that was Swarupa. She did n’t have time to come in...
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Rani: What made you lose your hair? Divya: Worry. Rani: What about? Divya: Closing my hair. – Suvarchala, Hyderabad. A sex expert was once asked whether a rape was possible while running. “No,” he replied without hesitation. “A woman with her skirts up can run faster than a man with his pants down.”
Chill out more: Spend time outdoors every day. You don’t have to go outside for long. Just take 10 minutes to breathe fresh air, enjoy the weather, and listen to the birds. Getting in touch with nature will invigorate you.
Sangeeta had her first set of triplets. She told her friend with a lot of pride that this happened only once in every two hundred thousand times. “My, my!” said the friend surprised, It beats me how you found time for any other work!”
Breathe away stress: When you’re frazzled, take a few deep breaths to relax yourself to soothe your nerves. You can do it any time, and it becomes even more effective with practice. If you need to relax, set aside a few moments a day to practise deep-breathing to calm yourself down. Take time out: If you are working
A second-grade teacher was telling her pupils about different wild animals. In order to test what they had learnt, she asked, “Now, who can tell me the name of an animal that has horns and is very dangerous for us to get near?” Little Prashant piped up enthusiastically, “I know, teacher. It’s a truck!” – W. Jacob, Pune
January (First) 2009
A low-key romance of high-voltage interest.
By Gulrukh B. Irani
heila’s mother was an extremely practical person. She never shied away from giving honest answers to any of her questions. Sheila would bombard her with innumerable queries during her teens, adolescence and youth. By then she had been given all the information she needed to take on life as a buxom and reasonably attractive young girl. Much before she reached puberty, Sheila was aware about childbirth and all that happened before and after it. In fact, girls in school would use her as a ready reckoner on these topics, probably because not many adults would oblige by answering their curious queries.
All this was due to her mother, who was a strong believer in ‘honesty is the best policy’ and who never hesitated or hee-hawed like other parents whenever Sheila asked an embarrassing question. She was her friend! Then came the age of falling in love resulting in innumerable crushes. Initially, when Sheila fancied one boy, but very soon liked another boy better, she would feel pretty guilty for liking more than one boy at a time. But fickle in love was not what she was. On approaching her mother with this inconsistent liking of boys one after the other, her mother promptly made Sheila feel very comfortable.
Explaining to her, she made her daughter understand the basic human nature and that it was normal to keep looking and liking and choosing to prefer one boy and then very soon prefer the next one. Sheila came across many. It wasn’t being promiscuous! It was a fact, that most of the times the current favourite was not even aware of Sheila’s existence, let alone knowing what lusty thoughts she harboured for him. So it was just harmless infatuation and Sheila was free to indulge in it. Self-realisation and maturity
curbed Sheila’s list of favourites over work hours. Just like the other men the years to just a handful of boys. he too ogled her but was discreet Sheila grew up. about it. Fear and pain of childbirth had His name was Suresh and he was always held Sheila back from pretty much overqualified for his job committing to anyone. But her mother but he didn’t seem too much in a had reasoned with her telling her that hurry to reach the top of the if childbirth was so painful, then there corporate ladder. wouldn’t be so many human heads Being complacent in life was not a in this world nor would there be the sin, nor was it an unattractive trait for fear of a population explosion. It was a man who could be at the top of the a fact of life that one could take in ladder but who chooses to stay on a their stride towards survival. lower rung. One of the other bosses Matchmaking didn’t work for once asked him in jest, “Suresh, why Sheila! don’t you try for a higher position?” After having gone through so Suresh had promptly replied with a many crushes over handsome pleasant smile, “I don’t want to. If I neighbours, to classmates to did, I am sure to get that position but celebrities, it was about time Sheila then in my books it results in bonded sought her partner on her own. labour. Because, you see, when you During the course of work or are paid so much, you are expected social gatherings, many of the male to be here first and leave last to gender would gravitate justify your salary in the towards her because of eyes of the big bosses, and But then she if I did that, then I would be her ample assets on the physical front but only a reasoned on left with no time to live my few would try to befriend life, have fun and find retrospection romance,” he said looking her for her intelligence or other character traits. at Sheila. that he Sheila was quite Now that was bold, probably disillusioned with men in thought Sheila. Making needed an general. such a statement pointedly One morning, a new looking at her. Blushing opening to regional officer was with embarrassment at the let her know blatant intention he had appointed at work in her department. She had to that he found voiced whilst looking correlate with him during directly at her, Sheila was her attractive pleased that he found her without attractive but embarrassed that he had voiced it with being crass keen observation. But then about it. she reasoned on retrospection that he probably needed an opening to let her know that he found her attractive without being crass about it. How sweet! Next day at work there was a farewell party for a senior member of the staff and everyone had contributed the gift and party that they were going to give the retiring member. Sheila had had a particularly nice rapport with this member of the staff. Even though she had joined the company as his superior, he had helped her along in finding her shipping at the job she Woman’s Era
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was appointed to do. And, over the few years that she had worked with him, he had always guided her without hesitation if she faltered. So, when it was time to give a farewell speech, after Suresh had said his piece, Sheila put up her hand to request some silence. Being honest about voicing her thanks came naturally and fluently. Everyone listened in silence and at the end of her bit, Sheila had a sheen of moisture in her eyes. The retiring staff member thanked everyone and left the office immediately. The rest of the staff continued with the party.
DATE WITH MATE
Sheila was too disturbed emotionally to enjoy the joviality that the others seemed to take for granted. On the verge of leaving the room, Suresh caught her elbow and said softly for her ears only, “Come, I shall take you home.” Sheila did not protest but followed meekly. He sat her in his car and got into the driver’s seat without commenting any further. He took her home but, just when Sheila was about to thank him and get out, Suresh said, “You seem to have fond memories with your working time with Mr Das who retired today. Don’t be so sad. He will come and visit us often. I do plan on 190
Sheila was a little stunned with his short speech and asked. What are you trying to say, Suresh?” “Well, hee-hawing is not what I do, so I shall come to the point. I like you very much. In fact, I like you so much that I would like to propose marriage to you. You can take your time and give your answer, but do make it in the affirmative, because I not only like you, but I also love and respect you for the person you are. I know I may be rushing you, but if you are willing I would like to court you and woo you till you say yes.” So saying he looked at her expectantly for her reaction. “WHOOSH” thought Sheila. She did like him, and found him extremely attractive. He did belong to taking him on a part-time I too like you, the same background as she had. He was educated, basis to help us in find you earned well and, to top it, a attending to crucial matters. None of our attractive and good human being. So here it goes! qualifications can ever am more than Suresh had been replace his on-hand a little in love observing the play of experience.” with you emotions on her Hearing this Sheila’s myself, let’s expressive face and was mood lightened and she gave Suresh a tremulous give ourselves waiting for her reply. “Well, Suresh, I don’t smile, which conveyed to a chance and believe in hee-hawing him how glad she was to date for a either. Honesty is the best hear him say what he had. “You are a good person, while. We can policy. Let me tell you that you have taken me by Suresh. I am so glad that decide on surprise but, since I too like you are not an marriage if you, find you attractive and inconsiderate corporate everything am more than a little in boss like a few I have had works out love with you myself, let’s the misfortune to know. I give ourselves a chance am also pleased with the right! and date for a while. We good rapport you have developed with the rest of the staff in can decide on marriage if everything so short a time. Not often do we works out right! Is that fine with come across good people in our field you?” Suresh’s face beamed with of work, or our life for that matter. I may sound presumptuous when I say happiness and he had a pretty big please don’t leave our organisation grin on his face. He wanted to hug for greener pastures very soon. her but it might be too early to get physical. And it was inconvenient in Everyone likes you as a boss.” “Thanks for your vote of the car, so he just shook hands with confidence, but I will be more her. Sheila thought this was as good a impressed if I know whether you like me enough to consider me as your moment as any to invite him to her friend and confidant. Sheila, I have house and said, “Would you like to liked you from day one and would like come in for coffee and meet my to further our camaraderie to the level family?’ We Suresh accepted her offer! of close friends.” Woman’s Era
January (First) 2009
A peep into the fascinating world of decorative needlework.
By Kusum Mehta
n the field of ornamentation, perhaps embroidery alone can match jewellery in splendour. People seem to have a craving for embellishing a given material or object to make it more decorative. In India embroidery has a hoary past, for there is mention of needles in very ancient books. Excavations have revealed bronze embroidery needles dating back to 2300-1500 BC as also figurines wearing embroidered drapery. Similar embroidered textiles can also be seen in the ancient Buddhist stupa sculptures. Indians use all the embroidery stitches known to the rest of the world but with local variations and innovations. In India embroidered fabrics still retain the old social values, for they are amongst the treasures given to the bride at the marriage. Though certain basic embroidery stitches are common, each area has its own special styles largely determined by the environmental designs. The Haryana phulkari is of a spectacular nature. The word means “flowering” and it creates a flowery surface. Strangely enough the stitch itself is simple darning like the damask, done from the back, either
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by counting the threads or with the help of a thread line. This has to be done with unusual care for a single miss can throw out the whole pattern. In the traditional phulkari , the patterns are dispersed at intervals over the cloth. The bagh (garden) style has the entire surface ornamented by a connected pattern, with skilful manipulation of the darning stitch, numerous varieties of intricate designs are contrived through horizontal, vertical and diagonal stitches, each with its own character based on the motifs it represents, as also tonal variations in colours. There are several kinds of baghs like shalimar bagh, chand bagh, mircha bagh, duniya bagh as also satranga (seven coloured), panchranga (five coloured) and so on, each splendid in its own way. The third kind is chope where the edges are embroidered with stylised motifs of flowers, fruits and birds, along with geometrical patterns.
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Originally, the designs seem to have been predominantly geometrical but the phulkari now being produced for sale has often a lotus for the centre and stylised animals and birds worked harmoniously with flowers. Like other embroideries, some jewellery patterns are also included. The stitching is done with silk
thread, though occasionally cotton threads in white and green are introduced, and sometimes even woollen. A peculiarity of phulkari is that the fabric itself is used geometrically as an inner decoration so that the medallations, diamonds, etc., are not just patterns sewn on but become an integrated combination of colours yellow and madder brown. This is only possible where absolute accuracy in thread counting is observed. In bagh work the stitch is so refined that the embroidery becomes the fabric itself. The quality of the workmanship is measured by the smoothness at the back that can only result from the evenness of the stitches.
Such a demanding craft can only be a leisure occupation, done with devotion and earnestness. As phulkari was part of a girl’s trousseau as also worn at a particular wedding ceremony, she had to work on it from a very early age. In fact, her proficiency in this seems to have added to her eligibility as a bride. Madder brown, rust red or indigo are the usual background colours. The stitches are mainly in golden yellow or white or green. A few bright colours are introduced in the borders. The best work in phulkari is found in Gurgaon, Karnal, Hissar, Rohtak and around Delhi. Embroidery done in metal wires by kalabattu – or zari as it is popularly called – is in class by itself. The manufacture of real zari threads was once a big and important industry, which has declined with the advent of synthetic material. Haryana also produces crochet items, but they are more pronouncedly local in designs like elephants, horses, flowers, trees, We swastiks, etc.
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A mother discovers that her overprotectiveness has only nudged her beloved son towards robotdom. By Smita Shenoy
country's top medical college?" indu tossed and turned in her bed. No matter Ravi had looked up from his newspaper and how hard she tried, sleep had been eluding replied coolly, "I just want him to be happy in her for the past few nights. She had tried hot whatever he does." milk, sleeping pills, relaxation techniques and This had broken her remaining control and she practically everything else. She would fall into had shrieked, "What do you mean by that? Don't a restless sleep for a few hours and then you think I want the best for my son too? His results suddenly wake up in a cold sweat after a few are due in a week's time and I am anxious that he hours in the middle of the night. does his best." She looked across the bed to where Ravi was Ravi got up from the breakfast table and before sleeping peacefully. Men!, she thought scornfully, leaving it, said, "If you are frank enough just give them a bed and a pillow and they you will admit that you are worried more would snore away through the night. How "Why would about beating Karuna than about your son could he afford to sleep so calmly when you want to doing well." Akash's medical entrance examination slog for some Leaving her open-mouthed, Ravi took his results were due in a week? Akash was newspaper or briefcase, adjusted his tie and was out of their only son and all their hopes were other? Look at the house. Soon, she heard the car start pinned on him. They had spared no your sister. In a which signalled that Ravi had left for expense in sending him to the most few years’ time, office. But what he had said opened the expensive school, the costliest and the best she will be Pandora's box. She sat motionless in the coaching centre. She had even taken earning in lakhs chair with her thoughts flying back to her voluntary retirement from her high-paying while you will past. job to coach him and help him personally. be getting a Karuna was older than she by three For the last year, the family had had pittance," her years and was her parents’ favourite. practically no social life. All her free hours father had Bindu could still hear their comments when were devoted to Akash's studies. pointed out. she had stood second on the school in Ravi had not been involved in all this class VII and Karuna had topped the except for making routine enquiries about school in her Class IX exams. Akash's progress. His attitude angered Bindu very "You will still be second best to her, Bindu. She much and she confronted him about it at the breakfast table the next morning after Akash had left has topped while you have only managed second place," her mother had said cruelly. for his tutorials. Again, when they picked their streams of studies, "How can you be so detached about the same disparaging comments had been evident. Akash's future? You hardly take any interest in his She had gone for a course in journalism while studies. Do you not want him to top in the entrance Karuna had taken up medicine. exam? Don't you want him to get admission in the
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dismissed Akash's chances of getting a better job without giving him a fair chance. She had always personally taken care of his study schedule and made sure he topped his class. And now she was determined that he pass the indu had swallowed her tears and medical entrance with flying colours and disappointment. She had vowed to prove her become a doctor like, or even better than, worth. She studied like a woman possessed. Karuna’s son. She had met Ravi in the journalism college and it Bindu was jolted out of her thoughts by was love at first sight. He was her senior at college. the sharp ringing of the telephone. With Ravi's encouragement she had topped every Reluctantly, she got up and picked exam at the university and won accolades up the receiver. and medals for her articles. The thing she "Hello, Bindu memsahib," longed for, however, still eluded her. Her “Why do you spoke a frightened and shaken parents' praise and encouragement were not realise that voice over the phone. all reserved for Karuna. It was always I have my "Yes, who is this?" she asked. "Karuna this" and "Karuna that", never individuality "Memsahib it is me, Shantabai. Karuna once "Well done, Bindu.” Not even when and my memsahib is sitting like a statue in front of she was employed by the nation's leading ambitions are the computer for the last half hour. I cannot daily. get her to move at all. Could you please So she was not really surprised when different from come over?" her parents disapproved of Ravi as her yours. Oh, by "Of course I will be there immediately," choice for partner. the way, you said Bindu and shoved the phone down. "Trust you to choose a journalist as your can say no to She got ready in a hurry and scribbled a life partner. Why could you not choose a the girl that you note on the fridge to let Akash know that doctor like your sister did?" have selected. she would be back soon. The comparisons had continued and She took the other car from the garage had now trickled down to their children. and started out for her sister's house. Karuna lived Karuna's son Ajay had completed his mechanical only 15-minutes drive from Bindu's house but they engineering course from a top university with flying hardly met. It was Bindu who avoided meeting her colours and was working in the USA with a leading automobile company for the past six months. Karuna sister because she was tired of listening to her sister's continuous praise of her son Ajay's had also selected a girl for him to marry when he achievements. At first she had been came to India in a month's time genuinely proud of her nephew's on his holiday. feats but now it irritated her to Her parents had keep on hearing about them. Soon, she was at the house pressing the doorbell anxiously. Shantabai hurriedly "Why would you want to slog for some newspaper or other? Look at your sister. In a few years’ time, she will be earning in lakhs while you will be getting a pittance," her father had pointed out.
opened the door and Bindu rushed into the study where the computer was. Indeed, Karuna was sitting immobile in front of it with a shocked expression on her face. Bindu and Shantabai managed to lift Karuna from the chair and made her sit on the sofa. Bindu fetched some water and forced Karuna to drink it. Slowly, the colour returned to Karuna's face but she still sat without moving or speaking. Bindu told Shantabai to make a cup of strong coffee and bring it. Shantabai rushed out to the kitchen at once to prepare coffee. Bindu went to the computer to switch off the PC when her eyes fell on the screen. It was a mail from Ajay. She sat down to read it because she was sure that that was what had caused her sister to be in the present state. The mail read: “Mom! I hope dad and you are well. I really do not know how to write this but I have to, I guess. I will never be able to say this to your face because I am totally scared of you. I had thought of avoiding this e-mail but now, on knowing that you have fixed up a girl for me without even letting me see or speak to her, I have decided to write and let you know my feelings. “Mom, you have never tried to be a loving mother or even a friend. You did not even let dad and me bond properly saying that it was a waste of time to have idle chit-chats. You always controlled my life deciding on everything right from what I eat, what I wear down to who will be my friends. In fact, I hardly had any true friends with whom I could
unwind, play, chat and catch up on movies. All the friends I had were those pseudo-intellectuals handpicked by you who saw nothing beyond their study books. “I tried hard all my life to please you, mom. I even took up a subject I loathe. I wanted to be a top journalist like Bindu aunty or Ravi uncle but you forced me to take up mechanical engineering because it would make you proud to have a son in the USA. I did everything to make you happy but your demands kept on growing. You had the support of nana and nani in all this. Their never-ending ambitions made me sick. They kept on driving a wedge between Akash and me by constantly putting him down, whereas the truth is that he is a brilliant boy. “Now you are making Bindu aunty like you. The rare occasions that I speak to Akash or mail him he says that he is petrified of disappointing her by doing badly in the medicals. But his heart is not in becoming a doctor. He wants to become a forensic scientist. But I guess Bindu aunty may not allow it because she has her heart set on making him a cardiologist. Just like you wanted me to get this present job. “Why do you not realise that I have my individuality and my ambitions are different from yours. Oh, by the way, you can say no to the girl that you have selected. I have met Deborah and we are in love. She is Chinese and we are in the same office. It is just a matter of time before we marry and settle down. I will send you the details once the date is fixed. And I don't know when I will be coming down to India. Maybe in another three or four years. Who knows? “Give my love to dad “Ajay” Bindu sat still on the chair for some time, almost like Karuna was a little while ago. Is this how their children viewed them – as some demons trying to control their every breath? Come to think of it, that is what the two mothers were doing – was it not? It took this harsh mail from Ajay to open her eyes to the fact that she was dominating her son's life completely and in a negative way. "Bindu," Karuna spoke feebly. Bindu immediately shut off
the PC and went and sat by her sister's side. “Dear Diary, "I think you should rest now. Do not speak," “I do not know what I will do if I get poor marks Bindu said with concern. in the medical entrance. I have tried my best but I Karuna brushed aside her objection, am afraid it is not what I want to do at all. I want to "No, Bindu, let me speak. Let me feel for what I have become a forensic scientist and assist in solving done. Right from childhood I have been jealous of high-profile and baffling crimes so as to help my you." country in reducing corruption. But if I do not clear Bindu looked at her in shock. "Yes, it is true," my entrance it will shatter mother. I cannot bear to Karuna continued. "I always felt envious of the see the dejected look in her eyes. I would sooner freedom you got in choosing your career, your life end my life than see her going through partner, etc,. while our parents were always overdisappointment. She has a right to expect this from protective of me and deciding what I should study or me. She is my mother, after all.” who I should marry. But, unfortunately, instead of realising this and letting Ajay decide for himself how indu could not read beyond this as her eyes he should lead his life, I totally dominated his were wet with tears. All this, while she had decisions. Deep down, I was anxious that he should been selfishly thinking of how to upstage her always stay ahead of Akash and, in the process, I sister, and her son was thinking of how to please his did the same things that I resented my parents for mother! When had she become such a monster? doing. I must have subconsciously known that Ajay's Ravi had been right in saying that whatever pleases patience would wear thin one day and he their son would please him. would react this way. But to actually see it She heard the doorbell, replaced the in writing still came as a shock. Nothing diary and ran down to open the door. Her mind was had prepared me for this, I must confess. I Akash was back from his tutorials. Poor in a whirl as she think it is too late for me to make amends. thing, he looked ill with all the dark circles drove back But for you it is not. Akash still has time to under his eyes and the weight he had lost. home. Oh decide his stream. Let him become a She smiled at him and said, "Get forensic scientist if he desires. Do not stop refreshed and come down. Then we will goodness! him, Bindu. Do not make the mistake I go through the Internet to find out about What had she made." the leading colleges offering forensic been about to This long monologue obviously tired sciences as a subject." do? What Karuna out. By the time Shantabai came Akash looked at her, bewildered, for a Ajay had said with the coffee she was fast asleep. Bindu long time. Then his face cleared up as if he was completely told Shantabai to let her sleep and went to understood without words that some change inform jijaji. had occurred. He did not want to question it true. "I have to go home now. You stay with but knew it was a change for the better. her till Jeejaji comes home. Call me if you "Sure, I will be down in two minutes," need anything," she told Shantabai before getting he said, his face lit up with such pure joy that it tore into her car and driving off. Bindu's heart. When was the last time her son had Her mind was in a whirl as she drove back home. looked so radiant? Oh goodness! What had she been about to do? "By the way, any college degree should be What Ajay had said was completely true. She had enough," he continued. "But I want to do this the robbed her son of his capacity to think and decide. right way. I want to make you and dad proud of me. She had turned him into a robot that did only her Oh, dad has already got some details on this. I will bidding. And all this for what? For a few words of bring them down. We can go through this together praise from her parents which, after all her efforts, and decide." Saying this, he bounded up to his may not have come at all? They might have found room, climbing two steps at a time. some fault with him still. So Ravi had an idea of his son's objectives and aims while she had been selfishly wrapped up in her he reached home and found out that Akash had own dreams. Bindu decided she had interfered not returned. She went up to his room and enough in her son's life. She would be a silent opened his cupboard and took out his personal supporter from now – letting him pursue his goals, diary. Normally, she never would have read his only offering advice if and when Akash needed it. personal jottings but now she was anxious to find She would also get her career back on track. She out if he had voiced similar thoughts as Ajay. She had learnt an important lesson before it was too late. flitted through the pages till she came to the last Nothing mattered except the happiness of the ones entry dated the night before: you truly love. We
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little girl walks up to her father and says, “I want to grow up and be rich!” “Really... why?” “Because I want to buy everything that I can possibly buy in the whole world with my own money!” she says triumphantly. “Your money?” “Yeah!” she says positively. “Wouldn’t it also be your husband’s money?” he quizzes. The little girl is confused, “No it would be my money, but I could share it with him if he needs it.” “You have a bad attitude... you will have a bad marriage if you keep thinking this way! Besides, we will give you enough when you grow up. We will marry you into a family where your needs will be taken care of.” The girl walks away confused... “Was being rich a bad thing?” she wonders Woman’s Era
What is it about women and money? While women are excelling in every field, the subject of money still floats on shaky waters. Women in India are taught from a young age about being financially independent, but are thrown off guard when it comes to growing wealth. While on the one hand, women are told that money does make the world go round; on the other, they are told that money is what you are given to maintain the family. Although cosmopolitan cities have seen women come out of their houses and do their thing, they are few. There are pockets in society where women are still living in conservative set-ups where marriage and domesticity take precedence over everything. Sharmila, a lawyer says, “We are brought up with the mentality that women take care of the house and
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Forget traditional biases – women are more practical money wizards than many men.
By Puja Goyal
men take care of financial matters. There are some women who grow up in a broad-minded set-up but it’s rare. We hear a lot about empowerment and independence, but it’s all a feelgood factor. When I go to my friends’ houses I find that things have rarely changed... the society is such that it plays upon a family-structures mentality.” If you take a count of the number of graduating girls and compare them to the ones who finally find financial independence, it is small. “Most of my girlfriends graduating with me are brilliant. Radhika is just back from a fashion designing course in London. But she got married after the course and is now settled with a child. Her husband takes care of everything including the finances while she dictates the household,” says a surprised Seema. This is especially happening in more affluent families where it is not considered relevant for women to bother about finances. They have servants who take care of everything while they participate in kitty parties and social events. The case is quite different in normal, middle-class families where it is considered proper and polite for a girl to finish her education and get married to a well-todo man who is able to provide the basic necessities and comforts. Most societal rules superficially imposed on a family, make it almost sinful for a girl to even think of being rich, successful or wanting to hold a position of authority. For example: What will society say? How will I find a more accomplished match for
her? Wouldn’t it cause ego clashes with her husband if she earns more? A woman should always earn less than her husband, maintain a position lower than her husband... and, most importantly, not try to know her finances because it is the man’s job. There are several superficial societal barriers a woman needs to deal with but, more importantly, the eternal question is: “What will people say?” Shankar tries to throw light on the psyche of the society, “Men sometimes get insecure about their spouses becoming more successful than they are; it’s all about what they’ve been taught, instead of teaching men to take it in good spirit, women are taught that it’s better not to be ambitious about money and concentrate on so-called domesticity; I know it sounds cocky but that’s the way society works. Parents think it’s more feasible to teach their daughters to fulfil domestic commitments and not step into the man’s shoes. Besides, if you remove the father-daughter relationship, he is after all a man and he knows what another man wants; her mother in the end is also trained in the same manner. They have different dreams for their daughter and son.”
STRIKE A BALANCE
Raheem Darediya, on the other hand, thinks there should be balance and every member of the family should work together to run it. “I think both parents should control money matters. The father, who has a better exposure to the outside world, can take care of bigger expenses, and
the mother who is familiar with local markets, and the needs of her children, can take care of household expenses.” An indirect social pressure on girls causes them to have a very stunted growth in terms of self-development and they, therefore, grow according to what they are supposed to grow into instead of what they should grow into. So, why is it a sin if a girl wants to be rich? I am sure most women nursing the desires to be rich – and reading this article right now – have at some point encountered the statement, “Oh, but why do you want to be rich? Don’t we provide you enough?” Any direct answer to this without inciting an uproar is not possible. This causes most girls to do away with the prospect that they can also accumulate wealth and be rich. It is as if it were a crime to even think of it. In such a case, wanting more than what is necessary is like blasphemy. Women who want be rich are scorned. When you think rich, you become rich. As materialistic as it sounds, the truth is that money is power, and the right investment can make money grow. We do come from a society where money is a man’s turf and any invasion there is not welcome. When I speak to my father about finances, I still get the same response, “You don’t have to know everything.” Being raised in an Indian family, I’m independent in my endeavours, but there is more interest taken in the financial developments of my brothers – reason: money-making is not a girl’s turf and it is enough for her to earn only that which is
necessary for her to sustain herself. The question is: are girls really interested in money? On this, Sharmila says, “Well, look at how women and men communicate. Men talk about growth, but women are always talking about television shows. Men will socialise for networking, but women socialise for bonding. I’m more secure talking to a man for financial advice because he will know more. Women hold a secondary status in these issues...” So does a man know more because it comes naturally or because he has been trained to think on those terms? Is money-making a skill that cannot be acquired? Raheem adds, “Money-management is not a gender-based issue, it is a skill and can be acquired by anyone with correct training. Children whose parents have given them enough freedom with money in their childhood and corrected them appropriately, will turn out to be better money-managers, irrespective of their gender.”
ILLS OF WESTERNISED TEACHING
Shubhaprada Alse, who is presently studying gender differences in her MA first year says, “Westernisation of teaching has led to the subordination of women in India. It was not that bad before colonisation. I think that larger differences find their roots in smaller differences and some of them started from religion. Both men and women are equal. What was considered as a division of labour for the proper running of the family has turned to negation of the work done just because it has no money value attached to it. All said and done, I think women are doing a lot, and it’s much better now... they do have some say in some money matters now.” Women from the outset are taught to grow emotionally while men are taught to grow financially; we pass it off as a natural, biological chore. What is it that is stopping women from growing rich? Maybe it is that somewhere down the line we are told
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that being rich is not a priority for us; as a result, we are more comfortable playing various relationship roles and leaving money matters to men. Besides these, women face inner inhibitions, which curb their skills of creating wealth. In the end, women believe that, maybe, they are not cut out for it. The point is that if you’re not taught or encouraged to think about money, then you will not acquire the skills to make it. Moneymaking is not something one cannot learn and acquire, and it does not require some sort of gifted development. What it does require is a great deal of financial planning and financial thought. The more women I speak to, the more I realise that women in general are not great financial risk-takers. They would accumulate wealth in fixed deposits and gold rather than take risks in stocks and shares, etc. Most women say, “But there is no one to tell us.” Although they get approval from their family members, they are not told what to do,
assuming that it is a pet peeve which will last only a few days. There are various websites like “sharekhan”, “moneycontrol” and “ICICI”, etc. that allow you to open accounts and trade in stocks fictitiously and provide financial information, before you can start real investment. Such sites are a good way to start learning because you don’t lose anything. Taking short courses and reading books also help. You could even start off by filing your own income tax returns. Find out what aspect of finances you enjoy and work on specialising in them.
NEED FOR MORE SKILLS
Times are changing and it has become vital that women learn more than just basic survival skills. The truth is that this realisation has come across in the minds of many only after experiencing the necessity of it – instead of coming across on discovering that it is important for everyone to grow.
Women are not making full use of this opportunity and are pursuing this new-found independence in full swing. They are not only getting into investment but also creating wealth and buying properties. Many women now prefer to go to women financial consultants because they feel the women consultants are going to understand them better. “The kind of consultancy and expertise that a female consultant gives to female client is more personal and catering to her emotional, physical and mental needs. Women are more sensitive and can understand where the client’s fears and wants are coming from. There is a feeling of comfort,” says Surekha who is presently studying finance. “On the other hand, women are also known to be more careful and take calculated risks. They do their homework and it doesn’t feel like they are just doing it to get their commission. I think it could be due to the feeling that women want to prove themselves more We competitive,” she concludes.
I had just been married for 15 days. After visiting relatives, my husband and I were returning to my mother’s place. In those days, a honeymoon almost meant visiting relatives and friends. When we arrived at the bus station, it was 11 o’clock at night. We got into a taxi and reached home. I was overjoyed to see my parents. I caught hold of my bag and rushed inside. Dumping it in a corner I greeted everyone. I was oblivious to this world as I eagerly began talking to my family members. My husband paid the taxi
driver and came into the house presuming that I had carried his luggage. Light dawned on us when he asked for his bag after the pleasantries were over. His suitcase had remained in the taxi. My parents became frantic. They sent my brothers in search of the taxi but they returned after a futile search of two hours. By then it was almost one o’clock. My husband retired to bed requesting my brother to buy him a pair of inner clothing for the next day. My mom and dad couldn’t sleep a wink as they felt that my negligence would be a black mark that appeared so early in my married life. My husband refused to talk to me. When I woke up the next morning, I heard loud voices outside. I came out – lo! – Our suitcase was sitting right in the middle of the room. The taxi driver who had gone home after dropping us, had noticed the bag in it only in the morning and realising it belonged to us, had brought it straight back to us! We could not thank the driver enough.
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Count sheep? Play mind games? Wash your feet? There are many things you can do to try and fall asleep, but first, find out why you can’t sleep!
By Dueep J. Singh
HOW TO YOURSELF OF
t's true that even the healthiest of people occasionally have "white nights" when it is quite impossible to get to sleep. I recently had a night like this because my peaceful slumber was interrupted by a wrong number at midnight when a lady called Raj wanted to speak to her daughter, Pushpa. What Raj had been doing all the hours of reasonable ringing-up-yourdaughter time, I do not wish to conjecture upon. Anyway, it had hit me for six. Ten minutes had been spent trying to explain to her how to dial a number properly. The next night I was interrupted by someone who wanted to know at 11 o'clock, why I had given her a missed call at seven
o'clock! I had to waste 15 minutes persuading her that she had dialled the wrong city code. As trying to get back to sleep after such a discussion was futile, there followed another white night. Sleep is the cheapest beauty treatment one can give oneself but go 48 hours without sleep and, instead of looking bright, fresh and relaxed, you look like a wet sponge — haggard and irritated. You do not look your age, for you immediately gain 10 years of distinguished maturity without make-up. Your skin, looks like a used tissue paper, wrinkled and dry. Above all, because your resistance level is so low, you find yourself falling prey to small infections like a cold or slight fever. Forty-eight hours without sleep and I had to get a medical check-up done to get my driving licence renewed. So I took the opportunity to ask the doctor about insomnia, and how to get a good night's rest. Excerpts from interview with Dr Anjana Mehta, MD. Doctor, what is a sleep disorder? As far as I know, insomnia means difficulty in sleeping, doesn’t it? As the name suggests, a sleep disorder means that you have some difficulty in sleeping. Falling or staying asleep, going to sleep at unusual times, sleeping much longer than what is normal and other such abnormal behaviour related with sleep, all come under sleep disorders.
How many types of insomnia are there? There are different types of insomnia, Transient or temporary insomnia: Transient insomnia is a disturbance in sleeping patterns which continues for a few nights only. The cause can be jet lag, excitement, stress, illness or a change in sleep schedule. Those with transient insomnia soon return to normal. If you have a crying baby around or some construction work going on when you are trying to sleep, you will suffer from temporary insomnia. The second type is short-term insomnia. This can be a bit more serious because it continues for two to three weeks. Here, the main causes are mental and psychological, like worry about finances, change of location or job, and, in India, worry about children! Sadness about an emotional loss can cause you to lie awake at night and grieve. This will lead to short-term insomnia. The most worrying type of them all is chronic insomnia. But this is very rare!
Here, you do not sleep for weeks and weeks. I want to tell you that there is often an underlying cause for chronic insomnia. For that you have to check up with your doctor to see if you suffer from depression or anxiety. The long-term use of sleeping pills and alcohol, or a very heavy meal loaded with proteins before going to sleep, can also lead to insomnia. Sometimes, shift work also disturbs one’s sleep pattern and one becomes a chronic insomniac. Medical problems such as chronic pain or an overactive bladder and the ageing process can also disturb one’s sleep pattern.
Since falling asleep is a passive process that requires the body and mind to be relaxed, strategies which calm both the mind and body are very helpful in managing insomnia.
Can you please tell me, how many hours of sleep I really need to keep healthy. Eight hours is what an average adult needs. But some of us need 10 hours (“Me!” I squeak. I like my sleep...) Children need eight to nine hours and babies need even more. However, there are some people who are perfectly healthy, sleeping for about six hours.
Can insomnia be caused by diseases? Insomnia is often a symptom of another condition rather than a condition on its own. If insomnia is caused by medical or psycholo gical conditions, its treatment will have to focus on those underlying conditions. Only a doctor can tell you if your insomnia is due to such conditions as heart disease, epil epsy, pregnancy, menopause or arthritis. It is not advisable at all to medicate yourself with your own gharelu nuskhe or some herbal medicine because you can get addicted to them. In addition, medi cations prescribed for certain health condi tions such as high blood pressure and even asthma may adversely affect sleep. You should also identify any psychological factors standing in the way of your rest. Since falling asleep is a passive process that requires the body and mind to be relaxed, strategies which calm both the mind and body are very helpful in managing insomnia.
If I do not get my daily quota of relaxed sleep, how will that affect my health? The important word here is “relaxed”. You might have eight hours of sleep interrupted by waking up with a jerk and dropping off again. That is not healthy, relaxed sleep. Relaxed sleep is dropping off in seven minutes after your head hits the pillow and waking up the next morning at your regular time. Doctor, sometimes, sleep just doesn’t come. Can you give me some tips. I tried counting sheep, but I had to give it up, because it was making me feel even more tired. I don’t think it’s stress and there is no question of my suffering from heart disease, arthritis, etc. But I am still am deprived of sleep. What can I do? Well, if you have been sleeping badly, and you do not know any obvious reason for this, like a major change in your life or some serious disturbance and worry, it is necessary to begin to look at your lifestyle. Are you eating late? Are you stressed out? Are you missing your meals? Are you hurrying around in a chaotic manner? Well, remember not to eat much after nine o'clock. If you want to have something, have a drink of warm milk.
My grandmother advocated that we wash our feet before we go to sleep. How does that help? Apart from the fact that the sheets remain clean longer, washing your feet before you go to sleep is a sort of sleep-inducing trick. Absolutely no coffee or chocolate before going to sleep. In fact, insomniacs should stop drinking much tea or coffee. In a day, your quota should be not more than five cups, do not drink either of these beverages within three hours of your bedtime. So no consuming caffeine, nicotine or alcohol too close to bedtime. Do not watch television right before going to bed either. Is it better to rush to bed and try to go to sleep or is there any tire-yourself-out routine, which can make sleep easier? (Anjana shook her head). In fact, both of us know that anybody who is not completely tired out before he or she goes to sleep, is going to have quite a whale of a time, counting sheep. Actually, there should be a presleep routine, which we call unwinding. That is, you need about half an hour to 45 minutes to get ready for sleep. That is a time when you can go through your nightly beauty routine of moisturising and cleaning your face, having a bath,
brushing your teeth, and getting into bed with a relaxing book. The moment you begin to feel sleepy, switch off the light, and forget about your book. No three pages more! Stimuluscontrol therapy is what is needed here. The bed is for sleeping and not for preventing yourself from going to sleep by keeping awake to finish your book.
How about going out for a walk after dinner? A gentle walk is always recommended after dinner, but no vigorous exercising! Exercise has a direct, beneficial effect on several factors that affect insomnia. It reduces the effects of stress, improves mood and deepens sleep. Regular daily exercise completed at least four hours before bedtime usually improves sleep performance. Sometimes, even if my bed is very comfortable, I cannot get to sleep. What should I do then? Buy a mattress which is not too soft. Discard lumpy mattresses. See that your pillows are plump enough to support your head. Sometimes, my back aches when I go to sleep. How do I prevent this? That is a common problem. Sleep with an extra pillow supporting your back where it aches. It should be hard and not spongy. If you have a lot of back problem, try sleeping on a hard surface. With an extra-firm mattress. No wonder our ancestors were so straight-backed, sleeping on the ground or on wooden planks! Try it out, it helps. The nawaar or rope charpoy bends itself to the contours of the body without giving it support when and where necessary. So you need a plywood phatta! Sometimes, it happens that there is something very important scheduled for the next day and it is absolutely essential for me to get some sleep. And my brain chooses that time to begin acting
Relaxed sleep is dropping off in seven minutes after your head hits the pillow and waking up the next morning at your regular time.
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thoroughly active and not relaxing at all. What do I do then? For a long time, we doctors advocated mental relaxation tricks but you can try some physical relaxation tricks. Close your eyes and tell yourself that you are not going to open them at all. Breathe in very deeply, counting up to 10. Hold your breath to a count of five, and then breathe out, up to a count of 10. This is a simulation of deep sleep and you will drop off very soon. You can also begin to relax all your muscles by clenching them and then letting them go loose. Start with your feet, clenching them, and then relax. Then work up your body, then your arms and hands and last of all your shoulders. That should loosen up any tense muscles. Sometimes, I am so tired that I cannot sleep. What do I do then? Try relaxation techniques and if they do not work, get up and wash your face with cold water. Drink a glass of water too. You can also brush your hair, if you want to. Sit up for a while, go back to bed, make it afresh and then try to go back to sleep again. What do you think of sleep medications? Definitely no-no! These medications have side-effects like high blood pressure and nausea and suntans. It has happened that doctors have prescribed them for a
patient who is in pain, only to find out that he or she has become addicted to them even after the pain has disappeared. It also happens that continuous use of these medications make the body build up resistance to them, lessening their efficiency, due to which some people begin to take higher doses in self-medication.
So I got my medical certificate, saying I am fit to drive. But I am just this teensy-weensy bit sleepdeprived. So what's new, pussy cat? What I have found out from this exercise is that before trying to go to sleep, I must exercise a little, not take
naps, not drink coffee, make sure that my bedroom is calm and quiet and dark, no alcohol or smoking at all at night, (not that it applies in my case!). and eat some light carbohydrates before going to bed. That all right in the general sense. So let us see what homoeopathy has to say about insomnia. Excerpts from the interview with Dr (Captain) Siddhartha Garewal. BHMS. Hey, even the Indian defence forces believe that Homoeopathy is a genuine medical science! First of all, doctor tell me, before we get to insomnia, how does homeopathy cure a person naturally? Actually, homeopathic remedies are prepared from natural substances so that they can stimulate the body's own power of healing itself. Do you mean that I can be cured permanently by homoeo pathy? Yes, homeopathy has a better record of offering long-lasting to permanent cures, because the disease is being treated from its root. Actually, we believe that there is some affliction of the mind and body which disturbs the whole organism. So we have to provide one constitutional remedy. Instead of treating all the body parts separately, the disturbing force has to be treated. We
AN IDEAL MATCH...
Many a times I have come across this question. Who is an ideal match for you? Or how will you describe an ideal match for yourself? Parents search for "An ideal match" for their daughter. So, who is an ideal match? The simple answer to this question is that there is no ideal match for anybody. Surprised? But it's the truth. The only existing ideal match is "U" and nobody else. If you can make yourself an ideal for someone, then automatically any 230 person will become ideal for you. I had learnt this from my past relationships and my marriage that the person with whom you are related/married to, can be very different or simply opposite of you. Then after having a relationship, if you discover that this person is not your type, life can become horrible because it's not easy to break relationships. The simplest way to solve this problem is to give time to your marriage/relationship, and have patience. You have to make Woman’s Era
yourself an ideal person – and be compatible to your partner – and then you will slowly notice that your partner is also changing accordingly, and will become an ideal match for you. Don't load yourself with bundles of expectations, because coz it will only lead to depression. So, to have a healthy relationship – and an ideal partner, become an ideal partner and understand your relationship and I can assure you, you will have a wonderful life. – Shilpi Signodia
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The Bridge that United Hearts
It was not a material connection but a Faltu child that brought them together. By Nalini Sharma
riven by intense desire to witness the don’t you sleep quietly and let others do so?” gorgeous snow-clad mountains Nandini was “That is what we have been doing since we prompted to take a fortnight’s leave in the arrived here... sleeping and eating,” she retorted. month of January from her college where she “You can sleep as long as you wish. For your was working as a lecturer. Braving the chilly information, it is nine o'clock. time to get up...” cold of winter she joyfully undertook long saying which she jerked her shawl free from his arduous journey from Agra to Fakhruhi, a grip. small, hilly place nestling in the valley among the “I won’t allow you to go out in such inclement treacherous terrain of Himachal Pradesh where her weather...” he growled. husband’s eldest brother was recently posted. “Inclement, weather?” Nandini shot back. “I Since her arrival there, severe blizzards kept came here only to enjoy such weather and...and to raging forcing her to remain indoors. The white witness snowfall and picturesque bewitching natural snow flakes rained incessantly from the heavens beauty. Remember?” above. Even windows could not be opened He began to wriggle out of the loads of for fear of them getting inside. quilts. Before he could, she quickly made Hardly had Occasionally, she would peep out through her exit. The moment she stepped out the Nandini scaled a narrow chink in the window pane and sky above greeted her by showering white a hillock when marvel at their pure white ethereal beauty. flowers upon her. The whole atmosphere she heard How she longed to go out and bathe under exuded a divine aura, serenity and the snow shower! But that was not to be. tranquillity that held her spellbound. In Rahul’s voice, Aware of her intense longing to enjoy such awe Nandini gazed at the snow-clad “Wait, freakish weather, Rahul, her husband, kept peaks that outlined the horizon far away, Nandini, I am a strict vigil on her movements thinking that magnificently giving her a mute, irresistible coming. You she was bit queer. He would lie snug call. Though it was a time for hectic won’t find buried under quilts smiling smugly at her morning chores with people running your way back. errands all over the place, not a soul was discomfiture while she listened greedily to the sound of the snow storm howling All the hillocks visible save one or two orderlies or outside lashing against the window panes maidservants who scurried past her look alike...” that was sheer music to her ears. hurriedly hidden under woollens with their Eight days departed one by one leaving eyes peeping through headgear. her short of precious time that she had wished to spend on sightseeing. Weather still hostile, giving ardly had Nandini scaled a hillock when she her no respite, was a great hindrance in fulfilling her heard Rahul’s voice, “Wait, Nandini, I am mission. As the ninth day dawned, she peeped out coming. You won’t find your way back. All the as usual. To her wonder there seemed to be a lull in hillocks look alike...” the howling of the chilly wind though the snow flakes Nandini turned her head to see Rahul hurrying still poured in profusion. Promptly covering herself towards her.She called back, “Rahul, you need not from top to toe in woollen garments, she decided to come. I won’t lose my way back. Rest assured...” steal out quietly before her husband woke up. But, unheeding he bounded up beside her in As she unbolted the bedroom door, Rahul woke leaping strides with bouncy steps. Dusting snow up. Catching hold of her shawl, he cried, “Why flakes off his body, he looked around. Shrugging his
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shoulders indifferently, he asked, “What is there to see here? Only bare tree stumps devoid of leaves and flowers! Dry twigs and pale leaves groaning under our feet! Just hear the crunchy sound with every step you take. This uninhabited, dry stretch of land and ugly mounds give me the creeps. I don’t see any beauty here. If I stayed here for a few seconds more, I would either go berserk or suffer from depression...surely...” Saying it in mock depression he twisted his neck sideways in a dramatic manner. Nandini burst out laughing at his antics. “You have the gift of the gab,” she taunted, “You will go on orating non-stop and...and I am well ware of your concept of beauty. The green colour of bank notes is the most beautiful sight for you, their scent is the sweetest fragrance and nothing is more melodious to your ears than the sound of crispy, new currency notes.” Letting out a hearty guffaw he looked deep into his wife’s eyes before commenting, “Had I not been a lover of beauty, I would not have married you.” His compliment made Nandini blush adding to her joy in that charming surrounding. Shivering with cold, he took hold of her right hand and began to drag her down the hillock. At that very moment the sun emerged from behind the range of mountains producing a star-like effect lighting up the horizon. An unusual sight greeted Nandini’s eyes – the shadow of the hills silhouetted in the clouds created by the morning sun. The sunlight began to filter through the hills and through the thick growth of bare trees in its purest pristine glory. Standing in awe of the majestic panorama, she drank in the beauty of shimmering sunbeams
greedily playing hide and seek as snowflakes melted slowly into dew drops. The icicles hung like pearls from the bare branches of the trees sparkling in the golden glow of the morning sun. Feasting her eyes on colours, she stared at their beauty as if in a trance. It seemed that nature was adorned with pearly white in obeisance to divine power. The ground under her feet lay littered with pebbles, potato-shaped, small, smooth stones and big boulders – reminder of landslides long ago. Nothing could ever fill her heart with so much joy. “Beautiful! Marvellous! What a magnificent sight!” she exulted.
ahul stopped short on hearing his wife’s exclamation. But looking around, he cried in dismay, “Where? I don’t see anything beautiful...” Pointing to the branches of trees adorned with exquisite white icicles glittering in different hues in the sunlight, Nandini exclaimed exuberantly, “Look here! Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder...” She turned his face with both her hands in that direction. Crosshead: Appaling discovery Hardly were the words out of her mouth when something soft struck her toes. Instantly, she bent down to see what it was. One look at it made her shriek in horror, “Faltu! Bhaiji’s son? Here?” Both of them were violently jolted at this sudden turn of events and cried in unison as if asking the mute trees and hills, “How did he come here? This year- old tiny tot could not have tottered up there on the hillock on his own!” But their voices reverberated in the hills. Instantly picking up the wrapped tiny bundle, Nandini cradled it in her arms. Faltu’s lips had turned blue in the freezing cold and he looked deathly pale. He lay still with no movement. Putting her fingers to his nostrils, she checked its breathing but she could not feel any. Then, holding him close to her bossom, she began to rub his tiny feet to warm its frail, limp body. Man’s evil designs had
Rahul slapped Nandini so hard that it sent her reeling against the wall. “How dare you teach Bhaiji”? he shouted at the top of his voice.
Sobbing hysterically she hiccupped incoherently, “Nandini...er... Nandini found... him... on ...on the hillock...” With fear-stricken face and tear-filled eyes, Lata silently implored Nandini to tell him where she had found Faltu. In response, Nandini gestured to her husband to divulge the truth, but he kept mum as if he had lost the power of speech. Nandini was aware of the fact that Rahul, being the youngest one was in awe of bhaiji, his eldest brother, and never opened his mouth in his presence. Not succeeding in evoking any response from him, Nandini gave ack home, Rahul joined his two brothers in the him a nudge but she failed to make him open his drawing room while Nandini went straight to mouth. Lata, Faltu’s mother, in the kitchen. Putting the Crosshead: Truth unforheads tiny tot in her lap, she asked, “Where did you leave Unable to contain herself any longer, Nandini him, bhabhi? I found him lying on the top of the blurted out the truth, “We found Faltu lying hillock under a tree... in this freezing cold...” unconscious on top of the hillock under a tree when “On the hillock?” Lata repeated like a moron not we went for sightseeing... a little while ago...” comprehending. After a few seconds, as the impact Again she looked at her husband to of Nandini’s words hit her mind with back her statement up but he averted her tremendous force, she let out a highStunned gaze. pitched painful shriek. Stunned, she looked at this Stunned at this revelation, bhaiji asked up at Nandini in utter disbelief with her revelation, in a rasping voice, “On the top of the big beautiful eyes swollen due to long bhaiji asked hillock? How did he reach there?” crying. Rahul’s silence was getting on Nandini’s “He was missing since morning,” she in a rasping nerves. On top of that, bhaiji’s silly hiccupped between sobs. “He was not voice, question irritated her no end. “This oneasleep in his cot when I went to feed him. I “On the year-old,” she spoke up bluntly, “would not searched for him everywhere in the house top of the have walked up there, would he? but he was nowhere...” hillock? Obviously someone had taken him Lata’s face was washed with tears and there...” her kameez wet with milk. She looked a How did he ”Why?” he barked. perfect picture of sorrow. Instantly, she reach There was grave silence. No one dared squeezed the limp body of Faltu under the there?” answer his question. Anyone with a little kameez to her breast to feed him. The intelligence could deduce the ulterior warmth and scent of his mother’s body motive of the person who left Faltu in the desolate made the tiny tot snuggle closer to its mother and he place in the freezing cold but not bhaiji. Only a fool began sucking milk that made Nandini jump with could ask such a silly question. joy. Lata kept wailing loudly while feeding the little Since her arrival there, Nandini had been one. immensely grieved to see the ill-treatment meted out Soon, the sound of her wailing reached the ears to Lata and her son. She was already seething with of her husband whom everybody addressed as rage. Now, bhaiji’s silly ‘why’ fuelled her anger all bhaiji. He arrived at the kitchen door with his two the more. younger brothers in tow – Raman and Rahul. Seeing her husband, Lata’s wailing pitch rose even higher. xasperated no end, her suppressed fury erupted When bhaiji saw his son at his wife’s breast, his in words all of a sudden, “Bhaiji, Lata bhabhi face lit up with joy. didn’t come to this house on her own. You But puzzled out of his wits at her non-stop crying, brought her here and... and you brought Faltu into he asked, “Lata, where did you find Faltu? Didn’t I this world. You should protect them from... from...” tell you that he would be here buried under some Even before Nandini could complete her quilt?” sentence, her husband standing like a mute statue so But in reply Lata kept sobbing hysterically. He far, suddenly turned mobile with a jerk and slapped repeated his question again and again but met with her so hard that it sent her reeling against the wall. the same response. Unable to control his mounting “How dare you teach bhaiji?” he shouted at the rage, he thundered, “Cut your miserable melodrama top of his voice. “What he does is none of your and answer me. Where did you find him?” marred nature’s beauty. It was evident that someone had thrown him there not without some ulterior motive just before Nandini and Rahul reached there. Had Nandini not gone to that hillock that morning, Faltu would never have been found. The euphoria of sightseeing evaporated in an instant. Rudely awakened from her blissful reverie to ugly reality, Nandini’s spirits sagged and, with a heavy heart, she quickly retraced her steps back home while Rahul trailed behind her dejectedly.
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business. Just eat two meals a day and sit quietly in a corner with your mouth shut... till you are here a few days more... or else... I would...” He left the sentence unfinished menacingly. Tears welled up in Nandini’s eyes with humiliation and righteous indignation. Rahul’s sudden aggressive behaviour towards her shocked her immensely but more shocking than that was the vulgar display of his manliness in the presence of his mother and brothers. Yet her husband turned into a coward and developed cold feet in dread of them. How she despised his craven behaviour! The pain of being the wife of a coward was more than all the humiliation heaped upon her. Even at the age of, 38 he didn’t have the guts to relate a simple fact he had been witness to – to speak the truth.
his incident revealed the ugly facet of his character – that he was a man of straw, a mere puppet and a puny weakling under the thumb of his elders but could fly into a nasty temper to subdue his morally correct wife at the slightest provocation. A feeling of emptiness engulfed Nandini distancing her from her husband. She no longer felt the same warmth for him in her heart. This incident turned her into an unemotional robot – cold and detached from him. She loathed being his wife and didn’t feel a sense of belonging to his house. Totally detached, she withdrew to a corner. Cross head: Papa’s warming Her father’s words rang in her ears, “Nandini, for goodness sake, forget Rahul. He is not worthy of you
in any respect. There is a great disparity between you two. You will never be able to bridge the intellectual and cultural chasm. You are highly refined with great aesthetic sense. Your life will be sheer misery with this...man. You have only seen his handsome exterior but you don’t know the real man behind that charming facade. He has charmed his way into your heart with his fluent, smooth and persuasive talk because he is shrewd businessman and... and a glib salesman. He never reads the books he sells. Being an avid reader, you are well informed but he is an ignoramus. The moment you see the seamy side of his life, you will repent your decision of marrying him. He is uncultured and highly materialistic. A man is known by his roots and he can’t shake off its influence. “Seeing you hell-bent upon marrying him, I paid a quick, surprise visit to his parental home without your knowledge. I am sorry to say his people are uncultured brutes lacking taste, refinement and manners. Their language and manners are crude. I have seen their seamy side. What a sordid life they lead! Their ignorance and crudity will make you run away in disgust. Coming from different backgrounds, you will not be able to interact and adjust with each other. Don’t get carried away by his deceptive appearance. You are inviting disaster. I will die of shock if you come to any grief. It is not love but mere infatuation that will soon evaporate like camphor...once his true character is revealed. “It beats me how you, an intellectual girl with tremendous reasoning power, got influenced by...that man... Strange are the ways...” he added stifling a sigh and left the sentence unfinished. Crosshead: The nightmare begins
ut Nandini had refused to heed his sane advice and stood her ground. She was smitten with Rahul so much that she married him much against the wishes of her parents. The very first night her father was proved right. She had shock of her life when Rahul had pounced upon her body like a beast saying, “I was waiting for this moment for long...” Miffed by his crude approach, she had wriggled free of his grasp. Annoyed, he had snapped at her, “Nandini, what is the matter? Come on. You are my wife, aren’t you? Let us celebrate our wedding night...” With tear-filled eyes, she had managed to mumble, “Yes, I am your wife, not your
Nandini was shocked to see the ugly facet of her husband’s character, which pained her more than the humiliation heaped on her.
aman’s wife, burdened with the Herculean task of managing the house and two spoilt brats all alone after the death of bhaiji’s first wife heaved a sigh of relief on the arrival of Lata and promptly washed her hands of the whole responsibility and retired cosily to the sanctum of her bedroom. Lata would get up at dawn when everybody was asleep. She would do the cleaning, wash clothes, prepare tea and breakfast, tiffin for school, lunch, and then the evening meal. After slogging hard the he remembered just three days after her whole day like a slave, at 11 p.m., she would drop marriage, bhaiji first wife, Rama, had died of dead tired on the mat on the kitchen floor. That was meningitis leaving two sons, Suresh and not enough; bhaiji was there invariably on the dot Mukesh, in the hands of Raman’s childless wife. seeking her service in bed. Daily, this inhuman Their grandmother doted on them. She pampered routine was repeated. In addition, she and her two and indulged them so much that they became spoilt sons suffered indignities and torture at the hands of brats – aggressive, self-willed and wayward. After family members. She was made to pay for the sins of remaining two years without a wife, bhaiji secretly bhaiji. She suffered silently and never complained to married Lata, a young widow of exquisite beauty and a mother of two sons, Amit and Sumit by her fist her husband about the ill-treatment meted out to her for fear of incurring their wrath, further aggravating marriage, without consulting his mother, brothers her suffering. She bore her misfortune courageously. and sons. Everybody was aghast at this behaviour Bhaiji, blissfully oblivious of her plight, and hated him for his remarriage but enjoyed heavenly bliss of marital life. nobody dared to oppose him openly. If she was ever Nandini’s heart bled to see Lata’s Bhaiji was a dictator who ruled the house seen doing so, unending misery. with an iron rod by creating a fear her mother-inOne day, she asked her, “Bhabhi, don’t psychosis. Consequently, Lata and her two law would scold you think that you are paying a very heavy small sons had to bear the brunt of their her angrily, price for wearing a pinch of sindoor on anger. Suresh and Mukesh were “Woman, my your forehead? Widowhood was much aggressive, ever ready to fight while Amit better than this living death, wasn’t it? and Sumit were meek, humble and always son brought Weren’t you happier then?” on the defensive. Suresh and Mukesh you here not to Hearing her question, Lata’s fair face despised Lata for taking their mother’s sleep with but clouded over. Letting out a deep, place, refused to call her mother and to be a mother anguished sigh, she replied, “Nandini, you always addressed her in a derogatory to these two are educated, earning and self-reliant. You way – ‘that woman’ – and invented motherless can’t imagine the agony and hellish imaginary excuses to bash her sons up. children. suffering of an illiterate young widow with They considered the trio as trespassers
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prey. I don’t like your beastly approach. You should be gentle...” “Pooh!” he had exclaimed in disgust. “That is what happens if you marry a teacher. Instead of making love, she gives me a sermon. Serves me right!” Something had snapped inside her at that very moment. She felt a deep void in her heart. His rough, unsophisticated, brutal approach had completely put her off and turned her cold. She had gone into silent mode after that. At that very instant he had labeled her frigid. On another occasion, he had jeered at her, “You are like a beautiful statue with no life – fit to adorn a museum...not a home.” Her marriage was an utter fiasco from the very start but Nandini kept up the facade before the world of happy married life not to cause pain to her parents. How hard she tried but she could not be normal towards Rahul. His crudity repulsed her. Their turbulent marriage was a love-hate relationship. But now his behaviour in bhaiji’s home had revealed an even more unbearably ugly facet of his character so far unknown to her. Nursing her wounded psyche, she began to travel down memory lane. Crossroad:Bhaiji’s background
who had wrongfully usurped their home and father. The house, no longer a sweet home, was turned into a virtual battlefield. Savage fighting took place between the two warring parties – one of Suresh and Mukesh, the other of Amit and Sumit. Suresh and Mukesh would go to any length to cause the others injury or humiliation and promptly hide in the protective arms of their loving grandmother ever ready to cover up their follies and nasty deeds. Hapless Lata was too terrified of her mother-in-law to even hug her own sons, wipe their tears or heal their wounded psyches with a kiss. If she was ever seen doing so, her mother-in-law would scold her angrily, “Woman, my son brought you here not to sleep with but to be a mother to these two motherless children. Keep away from those lazy parasites you brought with you...”
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became extremely tense. No one dared to no support and means of livelihood seeing One day, she complain to bhaiji. After all, he was solely her kids starving. And...and it is a man’s asked her, responsible for the spoilt home world, isn’t it? Without a man around, a “Bhabhi, don’t atmosphere. For the first time, Nandini had woman’s beauty becomes her worst you think that you are paying dared to speak the truth in the presence of enemy. Wily wolves in sheep’s clothing a very heavy bhaiji, but in return she was rewarded with hover about ever ready to pounce upon price for a slap. her, taking advantage of her misfortune. wearing a Crossroad: Back to the present She needs a roof over her head and a pinch of Shedding tears, Nandini sat brooding husband to protect her from other lecherous sindoor on your over the events since her marriage. guys. My life may look burdensome to you forehead? Suddenly, her chain of distressing thoughts but I feel safe here and earn my living Widowhood was disrupted by the voice of the respectably by doing household chores...” was much maidservant, the silent spectator of this Nandini stared at her speechless. Lata better than this living death, family melodrama, “Saab, on my way to was right in her own way. She slogged wasn’t it? Arora’s house, I saw Suresh and Amit hard like a slave for a living and a holding Faltu in the cold outside...” respectable roof over her head. Bhaiji was Hardly were the words out of her mouth, there her meal ticket for life. Nandini’s educated, was a thunder that shook the whole building. independent mind was in utter confusion. She “Suresh...Amit...!” cherished nothing more than freedom and selfAll hell broke loose. Nandini feared the worst. respect. She would have preferred widowhood, an Bhaiji’s eyes were red like live coal. He was frothing independent life, rather than getting chained to at the mouth with uncontrollable rage. Hardly had abominable drudgery for selfish brutes. the echo of his voice died down when Suresh and Amit shot out like a bullet from inside the house and year after her marriage, Lata gave birth to a running at top speed, began to scale the hillocks. baby boy – bhaiji’s son – thereby adding to Rahul had no nerve to stop them. Raman made a her misery. The news was a bolt from the blue futile bid to go after them but bhaiji bellowed, “Stay and came as a terrible shock to all the members. here, Raman. No need to go. Hunger and thirst will They were completely taken aback by the drive them back home... then I will give them a bit of unwelcome surprise. Nandini’s mother-in-law my mind...” spewed venom in a loud, angry voice glaring at the And he left for work as if nothing had happened, newborn disapprovingly, “Faltu.” Nandini’s mother-in-law wailed at the highest pitch “The house is already teeming with unwanted beating her breast in the most disgusting manner children. Throw this faltu worthless fellow away this very moment, for you have already burdened us with and hurling choicest obscenities at Lata and cursing Faltu, “Why don’t you die, both of you? Bad luck two good-for-nothing brats,” she commanded Lata. will befall us if you stay here... any longer...” The name faltu stuck. Thus the newborn was Hungry Faltu began to cry. Hardly had Lata named Faltu by the old hag with beady eyes who picked him up for feeding when the old woman was as autocratic as her eldest son. Hapless, Lata thundered, “No! You won’t. Let it die...” dared not give the newborn a proper name. The little one had inherited the beauty and ata dropped on the floor in a dead faint with irresistible charm of its mother. Soon, it became the the tremendous shock. When became conscious centre of bhaiji’s attention. He doted on him like a she resumed doing her chores like a robot while man possessed, ignoring his two sons by his first Faltu sobbed to sleep. Unable to bear the cruelty, wife. Before going to and after coming back from Nandini put a milk bottle to the lips of the sleeping work, he was seen pampering the baby. baby. The two warring parties stopped fighting Her mother-in-law glared at her and roared, suddenly as if a ceasefire had been declared, and “Didn’t you have enough for the day from your got united against a common enemy – “Faltu the husband for poking your dirty nose into our affairs?” newborn tiny tot. They would sing in unison Keeping mum, Nandini stared at her angrily. The derisively, Faltu, Faltu, Faltu,” causing intense agony whole drama had made her brazen. No more afraid to his mother. They took delight in pinching and of these uncivilised brutes, she prepared to depart pushing the little one. They would snatch the milk from there as early as possible, cutting short her bottle from his mouth or drop it roughly on the floor visit. from its cot while the old woman smiled smugly with The hours ticked by and the day wore off but evil glee. She mounted her tirade against Lata and Suresh and Amit had not returned. It was dusk when cursed Faltu all the time. The home atmosphere
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bhaiji came back from work. As he picked up Faltu in his arms he remembered the boys. He commanded Raman to summon both of them to his presence – pronto! Only then did he come to know that Suresh and Amit had not returned. His forehead creased with worry lines, he sent his younger brothers to search the boys in the pitch dark of the thick jungle on the chain of hills. Three hours’ search bore no fruit. After 12 hours, at 9 p.m., the police were informed. It was too late. They combed the entire area, but the boys had completely disappeared. They could not be found dead or alive. A grave-like hush fell on the house. Occasionally, it was broken by the heart-rending wails of Nandini’s mother-in-law cursing Lata and Faltu. Rahul hissed in Nandini’s ears, “It is just because of you... Had you not gone there for sightseeing we wound not have come to this grief...” His words befuddled Nandini. Shocked at his blame game, she kept quiet. The mental impotency of Raman and Rahul, their inability to think sanely, blind obedience to their elder brother and refusal to see things in the right perspective, had cost them two lives. Weary of Rahul’s false accusations against her again and again, Nandini shot back angrily, “Had I not gone there for sightseeing, Faltu would have died...” “So what?” he cut her short, “His mother Lata bhabhi is alive. She can produce another Faltu again but Suresh was the son of our dead bhabhi... He will not come back...”
contention with you and turn him into an educated, cultured, self-reliant person like you...” Crosshead: Faltu rechristened In reply, Nandini picked up Faltu, and hugged him lovingly to her bosom, deliberately ignoring Rahul’s disapproving glance expressing her silent but firm consent. Then she asked, “bhabhi, What about bhaiji? Will he allow it? He dotes upon him...” “Oh, that is no problem,” replied Lata.
rue to her word, she succeeded in persuading her husband, who was completely bowled over by her bewitching, irresistible charm to let Nandini take Faltu with her for his proper upbringing. In spite of Rahul’s repeated vehement protestations, Nandini stood her ground and brought Faltu with her to Agra. The very next day after her arrival, she arranged a namkaran samskar ceremony and named him Praveen. Keeping a fulltime ayah to assist her in child-rearing, Nandini resumed her duty at the college and the rest of the time she devoted to Praveen distancing completely from her husband. She was happy with the tiny tot while Rahul was seething with anger. One day, erupting like a volcano, he snatched Praveen from her arms and cried, “Enough, Nandini, enough. I have had enough of your wilful behaviour. You are too obstinate, determined to have your own way. I can’t allow this bone of contention here in my house any more. He is creating a rift between us. You have drifted apart from me since you brought him. It is high time that we pack him off to the place where he belongs...” mit, Lata’s son was not mentioned. Rahul’s “This tiny tot is creating a rift?” retorted Nandini, senseless reply horrified Nandini. Only an “You are an expert at blaming the wrong person. imbecile could think of such an answer. You are making me drift away from you, not this tiny Nandini cringed in fear from him. Her father was tot. Your ignorance, your cowardice, your right. They had reached an impasse. There was no thoughtlessness and your uncultured behaviour are congeniality in their relationship as she and her creating a rift between us. You don’t have the guts to husband were as different as chalk and cheese. They had no compatibility with different interests and speak the truth. You are incapable of sane thinking. Your timely action could have saved two dispositions. It was impossible to live with precious lives....If you wish to win me him. Rahul was an ignoramus. His lack of Weary of again, set your thinking right...” knowledge, education, experience and Rahul’s false “How dare you find fault with me?” he culture became evident with every accusations cut her short rudely, “And how dare you sentence he uttered. His brothers and against her teach me? I am not your student. Don’t try mother were all barbarians. Their thinking again and to be a teacher at home...” was frighteningly primitive and uncultured. again, Exerting control over his anger, he came They were incapable of sane thinking. near her. Holding her chin up, he looked Each hour passed like an era in that Nandini shot deep into her eyes and asked, “Am I not house. Days dragged by. Nandini heaved back angrily, the same person you loved once? Nandini, a sigh of relief when the day of her “Had I not just say yes or no? No sermon...” departure dawned. As she bade goodbye gone there for “No,” replied she, “Not the same to Lata with tear-filled eyes, she put Faltu at sightseeing, person I loved...” her feet and implored in a voice choked Faltu would He pushed her aside gruffly. An eerie with emotion looking at her beseechingly, have died...” silence pervaded the house. Nandini “Nandini, please take this bone of
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feared that her marriage would finally fall apart. But the little one kept the house warm and alive with his innocent pranks. His sweet smile erased the frown lines from their faces. At some moments, he made them laugh together at his antics, thus taking away the blues. Time flew in the joyful company of Praveen. Crosshead: Realisation dawns Seeing Nandini devoted to Praveen, a child born not of her own flesh and blood but of his eldest brother, a sudden realisation dawned upon Rahul’s mind that he had been most unfair to her, his gem of a wife. A feeling of remorse engulfed him. He set about mending his ways in earnest, hoping to redeem her love and respect.
Seeing Nandini devoted to Praveen, a child born not of her own flesh and blood but of his eldest brother, a sudden realisation dawned upon Rahul’s mind that he had been most unfair to her.
radually, a change came over him. His attitude towards Praveen turned positive. He began to help Nandini in looking after him by carrying out various small chores like a responsible father. To Nandini’s immense satisfaction he seemed to be completely transformed into a new man exuding superb confidence no more in awe of bhaiji. A doting husband, Rahul now often gave her an adoring look that set her pulse racing. He had won her love and respect by winning himself over. Looking forward eagerly to a heart-warming reunion with him, she nursed a secret desire to settle down peacefully in the bliss of marital life. But a nagging fear kept gnawing at her guts that, thrown in the company of his elders, he would revert to his old, natural craven behaviour that she despised. Since Rahul was not yet put to the test Nandini dared not vouch for his total transformation.
One day, their phone rang early in the morning. bhaiji was on the line. He said in a whining tone, “Our mother is laid up sick in bed since you left. She can’t get over the loss of my son Suresh. I am afraid we might lose her too... Your wife’s foolhardiness will cost us her life. Had she not gone up the hillock for sightseeing that day, things would not have come to a sorry pass...” Nandini had picked up the parallel line by accident to listen to what was being said. Now, her heart began to beat wildly with fear. She waited with bated breath. After a few seconds of silence that looked like eternity, she heard the cool confident voice of her husband, “Had Nandini not gone up there on the hillock that day, your son, Faltu, would have died. Bhaiji, rejoice in the fact that she saved his precious life. And... and that day we lost not only Suresh but Lata bhabhi’s son Amit too because.... because we made no effort to stop them. Had we seen the thing in their right perspective and taken prompt action, we could have saved two innocent lives. Not Nandini’s, it is our foolhardiness that has cost us dearly...” Nandini heaved a sigh of relief and quietly put down the receiver in the other room. Rahul had emerged the victor. He had won over himself – his fear and diffidence. He had spoken the truth. Success had rewarded her courage, endurance and perseverance. She had won the losing battle. With the victory of her husband over his weakness, she was victorious. She realised that Praveen was not a bone of contention but the bridge that had united hearts torn apart. We
QUICK TIPS FOR A CLEAN KITCHEN
● Clean burnt pans by coating bottom with baking soda and covering with water. ● Add a generous amount of baking soda to your hot dishwater to help remove dried foods. ● Make stainless steel sinks clean with a little rubbing alcohol and remove spots with white vinegar. Get a shiny stainless steel sink by buffing with a little baby oil. ● To deodorise your garbage disposal, drop in some lemon and orange peels. ● Use a little toothpaste to remove black scruff marks from appliances. ● Use a soft cloth dampened with white vinegar to remove water spots from stainless steal and wipe dry. ● To remove grease from inside a oven, put a small pan of ammonia in the oven over night with the door closed. ● Clean your blender by filling it halfway with water and adding a few drops of dishwasher detergent. Turn the blender on and let it clean itself. ● Clean a microwave quickly by filling a bowl with water a squirt of lemon juice. ● It’s also important to thoroughly clean cutting boards, which trap in bacteria and germs. Sprinkle salt on the board. Cut a lemon in half and squeeze half of the lemon onto the board. Scrub and clean. ● Give your counter tops a new shine with club soda. – Anju D. Aggarwal
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A PET NAME
Pet names can lead to embarrassing situations when lovely infants become adults.
By B. Rukmini
ost of the Indians have pet names, lovingly given by their near and dear ones, when they happen to be just babies. While these names represent the form of the individual, at that stage, they really embarrass most in their adult life. Just take the names “Gudiya” or “Munni” given to a baby girl, and “Munna” or “Babu” commonly given to a boy, in North India. These names sound apt when they are babies, but become definitely discomfiting when they are called Gudiya aunty, Gudiya nani , Munna uncle, Munna chacha when they are adults, as they sound ridiculous. But once we get accustomed to calling a person by a pet name it becomes difficult, to revert back to the original name. Sometimes, we may have to face a comical situation because of these
pet names. For instance, I was “Pasi” when I was a baby, which in Telugu means infant, but soon my parents, moved to Tamil Nadu. After hearing my mother constantly uttering Pasi, one of the neighbours asked her, “Why do you always say ‘Pasi pasi’? If you are really that hungry why don’t you simply eat something?” My mother was flabbergasted, but soon understood that pasi in Tamil means “hunger.” After that, she never again called me by my pet name. Having stayed in Bhubaneswar for the last 20 years, I know for certain that most of the Oriya people invariably have a pet name by which they are called even when they become adults. I had encountered quite a few awkward situations because of these names. Almost a month after we came here, I asked the girl (she was about 13 years old) who was my neighbour, “Does your mama stay with you all? You must be close to her, because I constantly hear you calling mama. The girl’s face reddened and she didn’t answer, but her mother who was close by and listening to our conversation, said “My daughter is called Mama, it is her pet name.” It was my turn to be embarrassed. A few months after we came here, I had a mild stomach infection and so had to visit a doctor. It so happened that his residence and clinic were in the same building. Unknowingly, I entered his residence and asked the old lady sitting in the drawing room, for the doctor. She started calling, “Billu, Billu” in a loud voice and immediately a dog came out, barking so loudly that my senses started somer saulting and I ran almost back to the gate in panic. The old lady also came out urging me to come back in Oriya. I never understood a word of what she meant, and thought that somehow she was determined to 250 Woman’s Era
throw her dog at me, possibly for disturbing her. As I was stepping out of the gate, a gentleman almost 35 years old came out and requested me to come back. Seeing that the dog was nowhere in the picture, I went in, and he led me to that part of the house where he saw his patients. On the way, I explained to him that the old lady had misunderstood me, and called the dog instead of him. “What do you mean?” he turned and asked. “Yes, she called, ‘Billu, Billu’ and your dog came running out,” I reiterated. He suddenly turned his face away from me and said, “Oh, but Billu is my pet name.” He tried to sound nonchalant but I didn’t know where to hide my face!
There was another incident when I was invited to a function in my neighbourhood. It was an occasion where the newly married bride was introduced to all the relations, friends and neighbours. The lady sitting next to me (who was related to the family) was supplying the necessary information and was telling me “Piku is this” or “Piku is that” in Oriya from time to time. And all the time, I thought that she was referring to the bridegroom. Before I finally got up to leave, I went to the bride, and putting the present in her hands, I naughtily told her, “This is for you and your Piku.” “My Piku?” she sounded incredulous. “I know your husband’s pet name is Piku, you don’t have to be embarrassed. You know, I was only teasing you,” I tried to sound flippant. “But Piku is definitely not my husband’s name,” she was emphatic. Her mother-in-law who was by her side, informed me that Piku is her husband’s name, in a slightly outrageous tone. Just imagine my embarrassment at that moment! I didn’t know how to react or what to say to cover up my folly! I walked away, without a word. After a few days; when I felt I was ready to face them, I went to their
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Who is the thief?
I got married in 1962. I had no parents-in-law even when I got married. But my husband’s eldest brother and his wife, both doctors, acted as parents for us. And I maintained good relations with my husband’s relatives throughout, especially my sister-in-law, the doctor and I had a very close relationship and we were like sisters. In this scenario, I once went and stayed with my baby for a few days. One day we attended the marriage of a relative. On our return, my sis-in-law said she was tired and went into her room to take rest. She requested me to keep an eye on the servant. I spent some time in reading the paper and then went to the room where the servant was mopping. To my dismay, I found the servant was holding a gold chain in her hand. On seeing me, she was embarrassed and handing over the chain to me, she said, “Chinna amma, this chain I found on the floor. Probably peria amma had dropped it carelessly.” Later on, after the woman left, I handed over the chain to my sis-in-law and told her what had happened. Next day, the clever servant had asked her mistress whether the chinna amma (meaning me) had given the chain to her as she had ‘seen’ it on the floor. My sis-in-law told me about this and we had a hearty laugh. Probably, the servant did not know about the rapport we shared. – Savithri Viswanathan, Chennai.
house and explained the reason behind my assumption on that fateful day; and felt relieved when they laughed at my misunderstanding. These experiences have taught me to be cautious whenever I have to encounter a person by his/her pet name. But that hasn’t stopped me from being amused (privately) whenever I read something like “Liki Weds Chikki” at the entrance of a marriage hall or hear comments like “Puro Sir is really good” and so on. My confusion about pet names was compounded, initially because in
Orissa these names are entirely different from their original names, whereas in most other parts a pet name is usually the reduced or modified version of the original name. For example, Manorama is called Mano, Susheela is called Sushi, Sheela or Sreenivasan is called Sreenu, Dhiraj is called Dhiru, etc. All in all, a pet name may be given with a lot of love during infancy but to be identified by that name publicly in adult life is certainly embarrassing. It is a case of an endearment turning into an embarrassment! Do you endorse my opinion? We
ike love, choosing curtains to accent your home is inevitable and exciting but can leave you disillusioned. Has ‘choosing in haste and repenting at leisure’ hallmarked your curtain capers? An informed choice is more prudent than an impulsive one and offers some tips garnered from years of drapery disappointments. Choosing curtains can be exciting because of the plethora of choices. It is exactly this very reason that makes the decision- making a confusing and daunting task. Often, drape that seems so devastating in Woman’s Era
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Room drapes can do much more than decorate. Here is how.
By Mridula Dixit
the bright lights of the showroom doesn’t quite live up to its promise inside your house. At times the right curtain is ruined by an unskilled tailor. After all, such disappointments are expensive to the pocket and, more importantly, to the heart since a lot of emotions have been invested in choosing the fabric. A bit of homework and a frame of reference can help you make a more appropriate choice.
Purpose: Curtains have a multitude of uses besides merely covering windows. They can serve a decorative purpose, insulate your home, divide spaces, or cover ugly
The primary purpose to buy curtains is for protection and primacy.
To choose curtains to match up with the interior furnishing give a cool and cosy ambience.
window frames. Before you purchase curtains, first decide what you would like their primary purpose to be. This will dictate the choice of fabric, the length and style.
For protection and privacy: No matter where you live you will want to consider the amount of sun exposure the room will be getting. If the windows are on the east or west side of the home they will be getting the most direct sunlight over the course of the year. If you live in a hot area you should choose window coverings and curtains that minimise the amount of heat that comes into the room. This will not only make you more comfortable, but will also cut down on your air-conditioning bills. For a drawing room window that
overlooks a street or for a bedroom, concerns of privacy are crucial. Naturally, a thicker fabric or with a lining will be your choice. This will also serve to block sunlight, create a cool and cosy ambience whilst protecting your furniture from fading. On a hot and sunny day it seems heavenly to enter a well-shaded drawing room. During evenings, with the aid of some befitting lighting, the same cosy room can exude class and sophistication. Thick curtains may also cater to a decorative demand. Decorative curtains can take all kinds of forms, and can include curtains used for privacy and light blockage as well. Many people do not need curtains for these reasons but would like to add a more designer feel to their homes. In this
case, you may want to consider purchasing a simple window dressing and highlighting it with glamorous valences and scallops and tassels. Many a simple bedroom has been transformed into a boudoir!
Private and Pristine: Obviously we may seek multiple objectives. There are times when you welcome sunlight and like to see your room bathed in it during the day but would yearn for privacy after the lights are lit in the evenings. Tie backs for heavy drapes will suit you. Or else hang multiple window treatments. You can hang two rods and have sheer curtains behind a practical set of privacy curtains. Tie back the heavy ones during the day and let the sheer curtains accent the room. A sheer or
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The laced curtains give the room a new look.
Hanging curtains on rods, trying each in between, brings in sunlight and fresh air.
net curtain is one that is renovation. I love using made from translucent bamboo chicks in summer Many people fabric, such as loosely whereas they seem most choose woven polyester voile or inappropriate in monsoon. curtains over a cotton lace. Sheer Readymade cotton curtains allow a majority curtains when alternated shades and of light to be transmitted with lace can also give the other window through the fabric, with room a great summery treatments the fabric weave look. Alternating two or because of providing a basic level of three sets of curtains not how easy it is UV protection while only gives you a decor retaining maximum makeover, it takes care of to coordinate visibility through the your spring cleaning as them with curtain. Sheer curtains well!” She further other are sometimes referred elaborates that bright furnishings to as privacy curtains in colours look the best in reference to their cotton. And for special in the room. screening abilities; during occasions, one can simply the day most sheer replace the cotton curtains fabrics will allow people inside the with silk tapestries and see the room home to see the outside view whilst taking over a royal elegance. By preventing people outside the home adding a tinge of silver or gold, the from seeing directly into the home. effect can be further enhanced. Sheers are a beautiful airy addition Polyester and other synthetics have to a room. You can find sheers that gained ground in the past few years. feature beautiful embroidery on them, Self-prints, weave patterns colored further enhancing their decorative weaves and patterns are the different appeal. ways in which curtain tapestries are Climactic variance may also alter adorned. suitability of fabric. Kavita , an interior Space Dividers: You may want to decorator, advocates the use of two sets of drapes, for changes in use curtains as space-dividers and season. “That way, I not only get would like to separate your sitting weather-appropriate blinds, but also area from your dining area. In this can bring about a change in the case, you would need rods from the decor and that offers freshness and ceiling, and hang the curtains. It can 258 Woman’s Era
be a particularly attractive arrangement if you have tie-backs, so that the curtains can be opened, in which case, they provide a beautiful decorative effect. Again, you will want to choose a heavy curtain for this purpose, although in this case, the curtain should be attractive on both sides, since you will be able to see it from either side. A lined curtain may not be a good idea. You may want to simply purchase a heavy curtain. If you are not pleased with how the other side of the curtain appears, you can hang double panels, so that the decorative side is facing out on both sides of your curtain divider. You could also use strings of shells in lieu of fabric. Many people choose curtains over shades and other window treatments because of how easy it is to coordinate them with other furnishings in the room. If you have had your sofa reupholstered, you can choose a complementary fabric for your curtains. Those with allergies can go in for vinyl blinds.
Length: The length of curtains is also a major decision. There can be varied length of curtains used under different circumstances. ● For instance, sill-length curtains are ideal in cottage-style rooms with recessed windows, or
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with horizontal windows. Similarly, floor-length curtains are necessary for French windows. ● Hanging of curtains on rods can also make a big difference to the overall look and feel of the room. They should be hung in such a way as to just about touching the floor – the height should neither be too high nor too low. Curtains that look like borrowed petticoats – either too short or sweeping the floor – look like an apology. ● Curtain rods should be ideal and match with the overall style of your room as well as the curtains. Nothing looks as bad in a room as negligently selected curtain rods that look out of place in the otherwise welldecorated room. ● The rods with a brass or metallic look gives out a formal finishing. Similarly, wooden or plastic rods give out an informal finishing. ● Tacks, headings, valances, swags, tails, linings, and other accessories all play an important role in enhancing the looks of curtains.
Different dresses for different places: Some people choose to leave kitchen windows without a shade. However, a cheery mood can be ushered in with cafe curtains in bright floral patterns, lace or even the traditional checks used as tie-backs with frills. Tiered curtains i.e. multiple panels with one or two panels hanging over the top of the two base panels can help to create a layered look. Since privacy is not an issue typically in the kitchen, a light curtain is ideal for the kitchen, being used more for a decoration than anything else. In the bathroom, depending on the size of the window and whether or not there's a privacy issue, you can choose either to cover the window with a light curtain on a rod, or with a vinyl shade or half horizontal cover with lace of floral print. This can be fixed on the humble spring wire and yet add an old world charm. All it then needs is a thriving potted plant for company! From cloth to curtain: Often scrupulous customers turn callous while choosing the craftsman. Not anybody who can stitch in a straight line can make drapes. Just because you know the metric system doesn’t mean you are suited to take measurements either. Ideally first get the tailor home to take the measurements, let him advise you how much cloth you require and then choose the fabric accordingly. Good tailors also come home and do the fittings once the drapes are ready. It also helps to have 4-inch buckram linings instead of the 2-inch ones on the top so that curtain rings do not play peeping Tom. If you choose to have pleated ones do not penny pinch – go for the three pleats not two. It’s a misconception that pleated curtains require excess cloth. Instead you benefit from symmetrical and neat folds. So go ahead, make the plunge – you deserve to be house proud. Remember, curtains cover We up and hide as much as they reveal about you!
Delhi’s rising star.
RARE FEAT OF YOUNG ACHIEVER VAISHALI
By Ramesh Kumar Raja
albums on her including Maa Bhagwati Amba, Jhoole Jhoole Nandlal, Jhandewali Maa Sab Tere hi Tera to name a few, there by advancing Vaishali’s financial security. Vaishali’s Sai Surbhi video album has also been launched. She has performed at the AIMIL Jagran in 2005 and her programme was aired on DD-1 and National. Recipient of various awards and recognitions, there is hardly any space left in the shelves of her room to place anything as they are already occupied with trophies, medals and certificates. Meanwhile, immeasurably over whelmed with her talents, her school management on a number of occasions approached her mother to waive her fees but Vaishali herself categorically declined the offers terming it unprofessional. Says her school principal Dhiren M. Doshi, “We are wholeheartedly proud of intelligent and versatile Vaishali to be our student. She is also very obedient and generous to everybody. Despite being the sole earner of her house what surprises us is her ability to sponsor three deprived children. Though she spurns our proposal every time, we are always there for emotional and material help.” Notwithstanding such attainments in a short span of time, Vaishali wants to earn her spurs as a great classical singer. “I am still not perfect. I will always ensure that my effort to scale the apex of glory should continue,” sums up this young achiever We with a dream in her eyes.
ircumstances make all the difference.” This is how one can describe the 14-yearold Vaishali Raj, a 9th standard student of Guru Nanak Public School at Adarsh Nagar, north Delhi. All of a sudden, she lost her sole breadwinner father in 2003 leaving the entire family in a financial crunch. Similarly, her homemaker mother too lost hope to give Vaishali and her elder sister a better education. But thanks to Vaishali’s prodigious struggle in classical dancing and singing, everything is going on the right track, with an elevation in financial conditions of her humble-background family. Apart from dancing, she is also very fond of acting, modelling and drama, which together earned her laurels as well as financial help while performing across India and abroad in Pakistan and Nepal. Interestingly, showing her humane side as well, Vaishali sponsors the studies and basic necessities of three other underprivileged kids of different age groups, one even senior to her in class X, who mostly lives with her in a two-room rented flat at Adarsh Nagar. Says Vaishali with rare guts at such a tender age, “Initially, I started performing on the stage with my cousin brother. Then I started participating in dance competitions, with a major debut performance in the Tecnia Sur Aradhana Institute in 2004, where I won the first prize. After this I travelled across India,
Pakistan and to Kathmandu for different shows.” For a teenager who has mostly seen the dark side of life, it was a rare honour for her to be invited to the FICCI auditorium as a guest performer. She was simply ecstatic and on cloud nine. Her next achievement was when she participated in a dance competitions held at Talkatora Stadium organised by the Sindhi Academy. As usual, she won the first prizes in them. It was followed by a string of successes. Keeping her winning spree at an all-time high, in 2007, Vaishali performed at the Diwali Mahotsav at the Talkatora Stadium organised by the Sindhi Academy, where chief minister Sheila Dixit was the chief guest. She awarded prizes to Vaishali for her show-stealing performance.
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A rare bond
The PoW train to Pakistan stood ready to steam off at Faizabad railway station as I followed my husband – a captain in the Indian Army. Cradling my six-month-old son in my arms, I tried to keep pace with him. He was accompanying the Pakistani PoWs to repatriate them to their country at Wagah Border near Amristar. A unique joyful silence pervaded the late afternoon air as I fascinatingly beheld the serene faces peering out of the windows. They were, at last, returning to their homes after nearly two years of captivity in our camps. Suddenly, my husband stopped midway and taking our son from my arms, walked up to an
elderly PoW clad in khaki. As he looked down from his window at our son, tears welled up in his eyes as he struggled with his emotions. When my husband enquired as to what had upset him, the troubled PoW answered incoherently, “Whenever a child was brought to me for blessings, I always gave him some money. Today, I do not have any money to bless him with.” Hearing this, my husband slowly pulled out a 100-rupee note from his purse and said, “Sir! For the past two years or so, we have lived here like brothers in uniform. Would you please accept this humble offer from a brother-officer and give it to the child with your blessings?” Wiping his tears while trying to unsuccessfully control his emotions, the PoW took the note, circled it around our son’s head thrice and gently folded it in his tiny fist while uttering a faint, “Thank you brother.” Our son beamed the most beautiful smile on the departing PoW as my husband walked towards his compartment in the gathering dusk.
This incident is indelibly etched in my memory while our son, a combat pilot by now, flies his helicopter over the African skies as part of United Nations Peace Keeping Mission. – Usha Dahiya, Ambala Cantt.
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being. He is also a well-known screen actor. Dr Alex has been performing Magical acts for over a decade and a half and has also bagged the coveted Guinness World Record in 2005 for performing the longest magic show for 24 hours. He is also an entrant in Limca Book of World Magic which is based purely on psychology, mind-reading clair voyance and divinity. Mayalogam is certainly one more feather in Vijay TV’s glorious cap. BABU Ganesh, a master of many film trades, has now taken a giant leap, aiming to find a place in the Guinness Book of World Records. In his homeproduction, Nadigai, which deliberates on the life of a screen actress, he assumed the responsibilities of story, screenplay dialogue, lyrics, music, cinematography, public relations, crooning, production and direction, besides playing the lead role – 14 portfolios in all! The film has been made in three languages – Tamil, Telugu and Sinhalese. The theme is centred around the deaths of heroines and the screenplay has been set against that backdrop. The film has been shot in Sri Lanka too. THE Mayajaal entertainment group has come up with yet another milestone achievement. The world’s first 2D animation movie called Jai Vigneshwar has been released on the first exclusive digital platform in India. It is learnt that 150 technicians were associated with the project during its production work. The film is Mayajaal’s second animation offering and has been handled by James Clifford and Rajni. C. Leo Menezes has extended his expertise as the animation director. Ganesh Ramanaa is the scorer. The audio and video qualities of the films are excellent as the entire project has been done on a digital platform. K. Meenakshi Sundaram, the multiplex manager of the Mayajaal group’s earlier venture, Gulliver’s Travel, a 3D animation film which was shortlisted for Oscar nomination. More innovations are in We the offing, he revealed.
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substance. P. G. Muthiah is the debutant cinematographer. S. S. Kumaran another newcomer is the scorer. ONE of the most noteworthy suspense thrillers of the time is Androrunaal, the screenplay of which has a perfect blend of action, comedy and besides horror. Produced by Yamini Creations, the film has been written and directed by M. Arulmurugan. This is his debut directorial venture. Well-known producer and distributor “Getup” Rajendran is playing an important role in the film. Rajan P. Dev is also appearing in a vital role. The film has been shot in locations at Tamil Nadu and Kerala. Indian is the scorer. VIJAY TV has now created a new record of sorts by hosting a magic show, Mayalogam, in which Dr Alexander, well-known magician and also a Guinness Record holder would perform some mind-blowing acts. The versatile magician will be performing some extraordinary feats that have never before been seen on Indian television. He is actually an expert in acts of illusion, who can make horses, elephants, cars and bikes disappear and appear on the sets of Mayalogam. One other act is the cutting of a human body into two halves and then uniting them as one Woman’s Era
POO jointly produced by Moserbaer and Nesaki cinemas is one of the best films of the season, which has been written and directed in a very realistic manner. Srikanth, who has staged a comeback through this film after a long exile, has executed himself admirably. Parvathi from the Malayalam filmdom is the film’s leading lady. Sasi who churned out such hits as Sallamale, Rojakottam and Dishyum , has come up with a flick that has both style and
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Discard the beaten track, for a change. There is an enchanting tourist spot beckoning you all, which has all the ingredients of fun and flavour, spiced with adventure and excitement.
frightening spook house, Hang Glider, Crazy Wagon and Boomerang to make the visit even more refreshing. When it comes to safety and hygiene, Wonderla maintains the highest safety standards. Every ride undergoes strict, routine check-ups twice daily – once in the morning before the park opens to public and again at night after the guests leave. Bureau Veritas Certification (India) Private Limited has awarded Wonderla with “ISO 14001:2004” certification for its environment – friendly operation and OHSAS 18001:2007 for strict compliance with international safety standards in its land and water rides. As a living room seems incomplete without a family photograph hanging across the wall, the rides at Wonderla seem incomplete without the families enjoying them together at the same time. Wonderla is an exciting world in itself. For, there are plenty of facilities and conveniences. All in all, Wonderla is the best place for your excursion. Enjoy unlimited rides throughout the park with a single ticket. For further details, contact Wonderla on 09945557777; 08113 32441/2/3/4 or Mail us at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit www.wonderla.com. You can also We book your ticket online.
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Wonderla is located just 28 km from Bangalore, the IT capital of India. At Wonderla, excitement comes in the form of high thrill rides, mellow family attractions, water slides, wave pools, and awesome indoor shows like the musical fountain and laser show, virtual reality show and the extremely popular Rain Disco – a wet and wild, dance floor with intelligent ‘rain’ and laser lighting. Adding to this world of wonders, the park recently introduced four mind-blowing rides – The Dungeon Ride known as the Woman’s Era
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A RIDE FROM BOLLYWOOD TO KOLLYWOOD!
talked about Metro. Hailing from Manali, Kangana had an altogether new experience in Mumbai, not to mention her still different experience down south while shooting for Dhaam Dhoom. Though fine arts was her first choice, films have been her priority now. Back at Bollywood, Kangana has been a lucky mascot, having signed films that hold a celebrity status – Madhur Bhandarkar’s Fashion, Kites opposite Hrithik Roshan and Raaz 2 opposite Emraan. “My role in Fashion has been my dream-role which has excited me the most, and working with Madhu was such a fabulous experience as he would always keep encouraging me,” she said. Kangana, unlike the freshers of contemporary times, appears steadfast with feet firmly rooted to the ground. The unpleasant Aditya Pancholi episode, the acid-throwing incident on her sister with whom she lives, the rumours regarding her signing up projects with Yashraj Films or with Aamir Khan – all these have never touched a chord in her and she has managed to remain unfazed, though young in age. Maybe, these qualities are her strong pillars that have and facilitated her to weather tough storms on and off the screen. But she is so sure of herself – which makes all the difference. when he crossed swords (literally) with the likes of M.G.R., Sivaji, Gemini Ganesh, etc., Nambiar was treated at par with any of them and it was he who evolved and initiated a unique brand in villainy, like that of Pran in old Bollywood. In the films of the fifties in which
ust treading across the borderline of her teens, Kangana Ranaut, scouted and spotted by the late cinematographer-turned-filmmaker Jeeva who had shortlisted the sweet beauty for his Tamil film Dhaam Dhoom, is the most happening hot property of Kollywood. Having been on a roll at Bollywood with two major hits to her credit – Gangster and Woh Lahme – Kangana has a couple of awards in her kitty including a best newcomer award. As her initial films have offered her author-backed roles, Kangana is very conscious about the quality of the
characters that are being offered to her. Known for her famous curls, this slim beauty from Bollywood has virtually swept the audience off their feet in her debut film in Tamil, Dhaam Dhoom. Kangana is full of praise for Jeeva. Basically being a cinematographer, who took up film-making too, he had a lot of creative ideas. “I used to be stunned while on schedules by the way in which he would mount and execute the scenes,” says she. Kangana’s first film in the commercial circuit was Shakalaka Boom Boom followed by the much-
THE VERSATILE VILLAIN WHO IS NO MORE
.N.Nambiar, the greatest villain of Tamil cinema, who passed away recently, could be best described as a screen-villain whom everybody loved to hate! 140 During the peak of his career, which stretched over several decades in a seasoned manner, Nambiar was actually the envy of many heroes! During the fifties and the sixties, Woman’s Era
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he shared screen–space with M.G.R., he was given equal importance and in some films like Arasilankumari, etc. he got a better mileage on the screen-sequences than M.G.R. himself. Nambiar played pivotal roles in films produced and directed by M.G.R. – Nadodi Mannan, Ullagam, Sultrum Vaaliban and Maduraiyai Meeta Sundara Pandian (which was eventually M.G.R.’s last film before he took over as the chief minister). Padigooti Aayirathil Oruvan, Needikku Thalai Vanangu, Meenava Nanban... the list of films in which Nambiar proved his might as a powerful villain pitted against MGR – is indeed neverending! In all his films Nambiar has had a long and fruitful innings. Uttama Puthiran, Lakshmi Kalyanam Thirusoolam and in so
many other movies, he opposed Sivaji Ganesan. Nambiar fought with Kamal Hassan too in such films as ‘Guru’ and also played a comic character in Mangala Vaathiyam again with Kamal. Garjanai, Yejaman were a few of the films in which he co-starred with Rajnikanth. In Sridhar’s Nenjam Marapadillai, Nambiar’s villainy transverses generations as the theme was about reincarnation. Digambara Samiar is one of the noteworthy films of Nambiar in which he appeared in 11 different characters. He played a detective in that, involved in solving a murder mystery. Though he was much despised as a villain on screen, off-screen, he was quite the opposite. He led a very disciplined life and never got into
controversies. He did not have any bad habits and even carried homefood to the sets. Nambiar acted in some Malayalam movies and some television serials too. Born in Ooty, Nambiar took to acting at a very early age and acted in over 350 movies in various languages including Telugu, Hindi, Singhalese. He was also a part of Jungle an English film. Besides appearing in light–hearted roles in a couple of films, Nambiar switched to character roles in the last lap of his career. Among the villainous trio of Tamil films – M.N. Nambiar, S.A. Asokan and R. S. Monohar – Nambiar was the one at the top and he remained so till the very end. It is worth noting that Asokan and Monohar are also no more.
ne of the most versatile actors of the times is Prakashraj who has taken up yet another facet of cinema, that is film-making, besides acting. The best aspect of his eventful journey is that he has managed to emerge triumphant in both his chosen tasks – acting and film-making. Of late, Prakashraj’s name has been in the news, all for the wrong reasons. Both in his private life and professional life, he had problems, but that in no way stood in the way of his quest for creativity. As an actor, he continues to innovate and, as a producer, he continues to churn out films that are of award-winning class besides being purposeful. Like Kamal Hassan and Rajnikanth, Prakashraj was also spotted and introduced by the veteran film-maker K. Balachander years ago through his homeDuet which was production, Prakashraj’s launch pad. Prakashraj holds Balachander in very high esteem. “He is my mentor. I owe all my achievements to that great soul,” says Prakashraj. He has also worked with the other great ones like 142
Shankar and Manirathnam. As a matter of fact, it is appearing in one of the lead roles in the latter’s Iruvar which enabled him to bag the National Best supporting actor award. Prakashraj is the hot favourite of almost all directors which include new-generation film-maker Gautham Menon. He is also an accomplished actor in Telugu films. From character roles to cameos, Prakashraj covers a wide variety of roles, villain roles included. Also, Prakashraj is one actor who has never got caught up in the image trap. While in one film he plays the villain chasing the heroine, he plays her brother in the next and her father in a third – all with the same heroine. Prakashraj still comes up successfully in all the three roles and walks away with the honours. Prakashraj has tried his hand at Hindi movies as well. Presently, he is doing a film with Salman Khan. He has also done very good roles in Kannada too, e.g., Nagamandala. Woman’s Era
Mozhi which was produced by Prakashraj, was possibly one of the most absorbing movies of the times. His performance in that movie was also widely Abhiyam applauded. Naanum is one of his recent films that won laurels from all quarters. The film dealt with the emotional bondage between a dad and his daughter, with Prakashraj and Trisha enacting the respective roles
beautifully. Mayulu and Inidhu Inidhu are two of Prakashraj’s forthcoming projects. The former is a rustic village tale deliberating on superstition. Ilayaraja is the scorer for the film. Jeevan, a newcomer, is the director. Inidhu Inidhu is a remake of the Telugu superhit Happy Days. Prakashraj is one person who prefers not to have any goals. He prefers to take life as it comes and in the process give his best. Also, while preparing for roles, before the shots are called, he looks at the situation with an open mind and just goes about his job. That’s it! We
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THE POWER OF RE
Welcome to the new address of haute couture ‘RE’, a multi-designer store located at elite Breach Candy which was launched by Falguni Shah (owner) and Aditi Govitrikar (brand ambassador). RE displays creations of the most well-known designers and also introduces fresh talented designers. The store ventures into the range of evening, day and festive wear, for both men and women, making it a fashion haven for people with varied fashion sensibilities. Tastefully done up in gold and mother-of-pearl, the store displays luxury and the high standards of its designers. The launch of RE was graced by eminent personalities – Malika Arora Khan, Neha Dhupia, Poonam Dhillon, Supriya Sule, Sachin and Sangita Ahir, Dipanita Sharman, Anjana Sukhani, Anita Hasnandani, Vineet Mittal, Raj Shroff, Mridula Chandrashakher, Jesse Randhawa, Sandip Soparkar, Shamita Shingha, Shweta Salve, Rocky S, Manali Wensarkar, Talat and Bina Aziz, Rupa Vohra, former
Aditi Govitrikar, Falguni Shah, Neha Dhupia, Poonam Dhillon and Shweta Salve at the launch of ‘RE’.
Lavina Roy, Mor (Avni), Naishi Choksi, Nisha Bajaj, Saloni, and Zaee (Shamanaz Parakh) are on display. Falguni is a self-trained designer – a postgraduate in law, she always dreamt of having her own high-end fashion store. She strongly believes “if you can imagine it, you can achieve it” and she surely did.
OUR TWIN TOWERS TOWER BACK IN ACTION
The Taj Trident threw open its rooms well in time to usher in Christmas and New Year though an air of sombriety hung around. It will be a while before the heritage wing, which bore the brunt of the attack, is back in operation. The ferry service at the Gateway of India has also resumed service and tourists are trickling in once again.
PAUSE AND PONDER
Around 4,000 police recruits who had been undergoing training at eight centres across the state have been hauled out mid-way and sent on special bandobast duty to Nagpur where the winter session of the Maharashtra Assembly is under way. According to one source, policemen on the streets on 26/11 had not fired more than 20 bullets during their training and not more than 30 to 40 rounds in their entire career. Many have never handled or fired from an AK-47s or self-loaded rifles (SLRs)!
MARCH OPENING FOR BANDRA-WORLI SEALINK?
The first phase of the high-profile and controversial Bandra–Worli Sealink is all set to open next March. According to an official source of the 136 Woman’s Era
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Hindustan Construction Company Ltd, (HCL), while no decision has yet been taken on the issue of toll, four lanes of this eight-lane bridge will be operational three months ahead. All eight lanes are likely to be functional by July 2009.
MR AND MRS KARAN JOHAR – HOUSE FULL!
Nirav Parekh’s (Main Course Productions) much-awaited play, Mr and Mrs Karan Johar opened to a full house recently. The comedy in Hindi meant for the entire family viewing had talented actors like Aman Yatan Verma, Delnaaz Paul, Nigaar Khan, Kiku Sharda, Sheela Sharma, Ferdaus Mevawala, Umesh Jangam and Richa Singh. Though the play had nothing to do with the actual Karan Johar to its title, it managed to grab eyeballs! Delnaaz Paul and Aman Verma made a cute couple and were more than happy to play Mr and Mrs Karan Johar. Kiku Sharda had everyone in splits with his funny antics! With veterans like Dinyar Contractor as a director, music by Kashyap Sompura and written by Suresh Jairam, the play successfully managed to woo the audience. Theatre actors such as Paritosh Painter and Balwinder Singh Suri were the first to walk in followed by Rakesh Paul who came in with Manisha Khatwani and willingly
Team of Mr & Mrs Karan.
Dimpy Patange, owner and hair stylist, is showing the interior of her salon.
obliged the photographers. Gauhar Khan, Rajesh Khattar with his wife Vandana made it just in time to catch the premier.
Aamir Khan’s funky tatooed hair styles in Ghajini have set the youngsters in a tizzy. Almost as if to cater to this demand, a new Mecca for hair-styling has sprung up in the fashionable suburb of Bandra. Not only can you get as an introductory offer hair consultation free a trendy hair-cut, and cutting-edge colouring, but also get a hair tattoo at Hair Play the four-seater state-of-the art salon.. With a welcoming courtyard where one can hang out with friends while consulting and a cheerful and bright interior Hair Play invites anyone with
a yen for something new and exciting. Whatever your style statement, the young and energetic staff of four can deliver beyond your expectation! Hair Play boasts of hair stylist Sandeep KJ, this year’s L’Oreal Colour Trophy New Generation Category winner. Sandeep’s innovative concepts and skill won him this coveted title over hair stylists pan India! Dimpy Patange, owner as well as a hair stylist, proudly says, “The time has come when young talent is recognised and appreciated for what they do best! Within only three months of opening this salon, we have achieved so much and this is the beginning. My other stylists Nadia and Nupur too are gaining loyal patrons who keep coming back for more!” Dimpy shares this chic premise with husband and celebrity tattoo artist Sameer Patange who lists amongst his clientele Sanjay Dutt, Salman Khan, Hrithik Roshan, Sushmita Sen, Urmila Matondkar to name a few.
MUMBAI’S PREMIER CATERING COMPANY
deGustibus Hospitality Pvt. Ltd, Rahul and Malini Akerkar’s corporate house that owns and runs the highly 138 Woman’s Era
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successful Indigo and Indigo Delicatessen in Colaba and more recently Indigo Cafe in Andheri, has now launched Moveable Feast. Offering a full-service, multi-segment, multi-cuisine experience, Moveable Feast specialises in catering for weddings, institutions, banquets, private parties, or any other occasion – big or small. As Mumbai’s premier catering company, Moveable Feast is set to elevate the art of table service, taking entertaining to new levels of sophistication with unparalleled attention to detail. Moveable Feast offers an extensive and fully-customisable menu which offers a wide range of speciality cuisines, ranging from Indian and pan-Asian to modern European or American. Complete with an on-site bakery and patisserie to provide a wide selection of artisinal breads and renowned desserts, Moveable Feast redefines the art of event catering by bringing a complete range of services to every customer’s doorstep.
IT'S TIGER TIME WITH DJ DOMINATION
Asia's number one Hip-Hop DJ, DJ Domination was roped in to burn up the dance floor across five cities in
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regionalism in politics as it is not less than terrorism, as both are weakening the nation. – M. Kumar, New Delhi.
WHERE ARE PAROCHIAL LEADERS?
“Mumbai 26/11” is a horrifying reiteration of the very same fact that regarding terrorism, India’s political leadership and the higher echelons of its policy establishment are guilty of criminal laxity. Blaming everything on Pakistan and ISI is a very convenient option, but it is nowhere near the truth. To believe that there were no Indians involved in this ghastly operation is to live in a fool’s paradise. Before pointing a finger towards ISI, one may ask what has the government or security agencies done to nab the local accomplices without whose involvement the crime of this magnitude could never have been possible. Another uncomfortable question that needs to be answered is that why should government talk of drastic measures only when five-star hotels or Parliament is attacked and turn the face other way when ordinary citizens are bombed and killed in local trains and downmarket chaat bazaars? The impunity and unfailing regularity with which the terrorists are targeting India speaks volumes of our existing traditional legal architectures for dealing with the menace of terrorism. Terrorist attack in India is no longer a question of ‘if’ but ‘when’, ‘where’ and ‘what magnitude. Sadly, the national policy against terrorism has become the victim of vote-bank politics. At the moment it seems life in India is at a permanent discount. No wonder, India has emerged as a front-running soft state. – Gaurav Julka, Ferozepore.
ATIONS two TERROR INVESTIG has recently acquitted court case. These special POTA Mumbai bomb blast Gateway of the the ING CHILDREN accused in had taken place at leaving Day, National a people and of Children’s and released bomb blasts killing 50 n (NHRC) n the occasion Osman Ladduwala jail. Jhaveri Bazaar Commissio states that in India and injured. Accused about six years Human Rights report. The report children than 100 Sadhvi la have spent ra, trial of to 50 thousand report, more very disturbing to the of Maharasht is going on. Hassan Batterywa from 44 thousand another city every year In the past year, accordingmissing. From In Nashik, others accused face of terrorism lost. children went and eight go missing. yet another as Hindu children were Pragya 76 thousand has highlighted to be known more than more than 11 thousand are never traced Their case has come this Delhi alone, of these children these children India, which Do weight in one-third , who in families. More than carries much arrest spread, with their terrorism. ? If kidnapped word Hindu and reunited or are kidnapped ns stood Now the news of Pragya’s organisatio soon as the to these the simply disappear why? country. As and answers all other Hindu a Lt Colonel of al of BJP and kidnaps them only hypothetic fate of these the RSS, The name about the that the defence. There are . the doubt up in her can only speculate highlighted trial had started. queries. One Nithari confirm some connection is also being weeks now that the . During all have to Army Cases like two meanwhile has children. diversion children may It is almost has been created nce of rist Squad) the Further, their ruled out. disappeara n in (Anti-Terro organ trade. Much confusion cannot be the ATS first presentatio This with the illegal and child labour for his or her family. this period, the Sadhvi. On her world torturing her. d of the eye with great the crime the ATS of the apple in every family family interrogate A child is Sadhvi accused on the defensive. ATS is celebrated the assets of a more than court, the India for has put the Birth of childrenchildren are not Every country accusation has been tormenting consumed in fighting way, on the national assets. joy. In a has been Terrorism many lives are, in fact, its resources e Much resource bomb blast occurs, l part of alone. They responsibl 30 years. any Many families a substantiaso that they become maimed. from spends ns to national this evil. Whenever people are of children ones. Apart many is their contributio education ers and loved are lost and and time and make resource citizens the generally their breadwinn tion, much that ultimately prove nt. highlights the lose developme ions of the NHRC have nurtured over paying compensa the past three also During in investigat India But the report The report that we in have been consumed and go on in spirals. terrorists ss callous attitude these national assets. law-enforcement directionle only a few acquits an accused, of the means years towards on the working enough or four decades,end when court law and order than not, In the raises questions of the people, more often feel that it was punished. For most to there were, person agencies. t only. against which common public begins departmen actuality? If a common the about his in the police political evidence, complaint happens A shameless to lodge a But what ing to his woes. a sham. country? police station so in our will not listen complaint all of the investigat ing goes to the Why is this the policemen the working these investigat only a rough at ce with All the child missing child, they will lodge interferen clearly. great political most, nt of recovering at their is seen Or, at the to work under confusing. In with ease agencies the complaina a always have work becomes and console but then go on working agencies their again round and place As such, the earliest, that took to go again ce. yoke of an pressure. they seem an incident tied to the manager own convenien as if they most cases, like the bullock would recall child of an Adobe is formed Readers was great The circular path,in the media an image right direction. years ago. in Noida and there the kid. But two-three for the on into the to recover kidnapped only expeller. the investigati no quick-fix remedy had been on the police the police not taking is certain that pressure ely, there , who are it seems alacrity, political Unfortunat current scenario, away from with superb nabbed the kidnappers same e is taken In the its Working also But the interferenc situation. child but will ever reach all ransom. cases. recovered and until political n, no trial a hefty g to bear unless of the ordinary will have nt investigatio with most were demandin the independe . Till then, the public s is missing seriously. m We promptnes conclusion of justice. and final in the name to: email@example.com on this question Why? to ponder a physically the this pretence write of is high time right to flourish as It ility has a responsib Every child individual. It is the fit mentally this. to ensure (First) 2008 grown-ups Era ● December Woman’s
PRACTICAL SOLUTION TO END TERRORISM
Refer to Editorial Terror investigations going awry (December I) 2008. Very frequent terrorists attacks in any part of India are not now shocking, but at Mumbai it is like a War – it is other kind of terrorists’ attack where they came to fight a war! Hundreds of innocent persons died and seriously injured in most brutal terrorist attack in Mumbai at several places simultaneously which shows how meticulous plans they had in their arsenal. More shocking is the government’s soft policy on terrorism, politically – just because of vote banks country’s safety is at dangerous level as no stern action is taken and in the process indirectly terrorism is encouraged due to weakest policies and intelligence failures. Some practical measures (may be theoretically wrong) is the need of the hour, like killing all suspected terrorists who are in the jail – as often terrorists’ demand is their release by taking common men as hostages. All foreign nationals especially from Bangladesh and Pakistan must be sent back to their respective countries even if their ration cards are made, selecting a particular date for such persons to be sent back, cancelling their ration cards by suitably amendmenting the law if required. Where is the local political party of Mumbai which is after certain sections of society and wrongly feel that their local progress is at stake because of their North or South origin. It is high time to ban
effect of the global meltdown on the Indian economy. Although both the Prime Minister, Dr Manmohan Singh and the then Finance Minister P Chidambaram have been at pains to explain that the Indian economy is insulated against the crisis and that Indian financial institutions are all well regulated and their exposure to institutions like Lehman Brothers, etc. is minimal, globalisation could result in a cascading effect of the meltdown and the financial crises could well spill over to our country in a big way. India too has been witnessing a stock market crash, acute liquidity crunch which has been compelling the RBI to cut rates time and again and a palpable unwillingness on the part of bankers to lend, all factors that could be detrimental to production and might result in reduction in GDP. The Government’s attitude appears to be a little casual and it is imperative that more steps are required and initiated at the earliest. For a fast developing country like ours, these hurdles are pitfalls that have to be tackled on priority basis. – C. V. Aravind, Bangalore.
OBAMA – A HISTORY – MAKER
Your editorial American Indians Support Obama (November II) clearly shows that the world is welcoming the change. Such a significant development has created a history. Obama’s extraordinary journey to White House will definitely inspire people of all hues. His victory has raised many hopes all over the world. Looking to his manifesto one finds that he is in favour of globalisation. He has helped to create legislation regarding lobbying and electoral fraud, climate change, nuclear terrorism and the care for the U.S. military personnel to return home. No doubt, his few policies may be tough for India but he will bring a fundamental change at national and international level as he has more policy plans to bring changes for the better. Eventually, this will help India and the USA to come closer. – V. C. Dixit, Ahmedabad. 277
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A CASCADING EFFECT
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The real life story Where does Ramu go from here in (November II) issue of Woman’s Era is very inspiring. It proves that if there is a will, then there is definitely a way. Ramu’s journey from a semi-literate boy from a mean village, to a “Micro soft certified professional” is by no standard a small achievement. His transformation from Ramu to Ramudgar Choudhary in less than 12 years is astounding. This shows that hard work and dedication never go unrewarded.
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As for Ramudgar Choudhary, I think this is just the beginning of an ambitious journey – not the end because for such a hard-working and ambitious man, sky is the limit! – Subhashini Aggarwal, Deoghar.
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