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Library N. Professor Paolo Mantegazza Founder Pathology. Senator of the Kingdom of Italy A translation of of Love text The Physiology from the Italian American-Neo-latin New York. . of the and General of Anthropology in first Museum Ethnology and of Anthropology Italy.The Book Love of By Prof. Dr. Y.
He Italian Monza deputy to the Italian1 Parliament elected 1865 Senate. "Human are "Head. and the brilliant U -rifei. Copyright. of Milan at Hospital Pavia. The American -Neo 19 17. The Physiology "Elements of Sorrow." popular into almost in Nature. travelled He was born in at Monza India at extensively appointed of General Europe. -latin by Library . and He anthropologist. and In at surgeon Pathology Professor Superiori. as ' ' subsequently is the author of being many " the well " known Physiology "Pictures works." Hygiene." where His have have books most Europe. Professor he was 1870 the nominated of Anthropology He Istituto the Italy." (Human etc. and America. was Italian physiologist in 1831. Mantegazza authorities with most the greatest European Italian writers. the for 1876. of The of of Pleasure.PAOLO MANTEGAZZA. was di Studii Florence. founded in He from to first and Museum Anthropology Anthropological in and Ethnology Society. every they and been reached ranks translated an language Paolo medical enormous circulation." Ecstasies.
" .i Evil Sources Love in The First Weapons of Love " Courtship . 133 C3 ] . . ...CONTENTS CAGE roduction: fIXTR" CHAPTER ter General Physiology of Love . "-" Boundaries the of Love " Their Relations to 122 Senses Their Relations of Love Boundaries tjtfi Other Sentiments Jealousy " to . 107 118 ix Sublime Puerilities of . . 89 "^ii How viii Love is Preserved and How It Dies \ . . y Morning Crepuscules of of Love " Good pm^^es^ \_4.\v i^rN. The Depths and the Heights Love of Love . ^---^ i Love in Plants and Animals 29 The . 64 iv Modesty 72 v The Virgin 79 Voluptuousness vi Conquest and . . .. 94 .
155 Xiv in Sex Age 158 v xv and '65" xvi Love of in Relation Ways of to Temperaments " " the Loving 175 186 Love xvii The The The The The Hell of Love xviii Degradations of 198 xix Faults Rights and Crimes Duties Love of Love Love . . Boundaries of Love" ^xii xin . 211 xx and of . 219 xxi Covenants of 227 C4] . .-Their Relations to Thought H5 in Chastity Love Love its Relations to Love . . .CONTENTS CHAPTER PACK . . .
world of wonders and sentiment. while our ism.FOREWORD Mantegazza is to Physiology is to Astronomy what Flammarion The two great masters head a brilliant galaxy of writers on natural phenomena modern who draw their material from science and mould it in an esthetic form. mind most beautiful is the representation of the sun in the image drawn of Phcebus crossing the heavens in his flaming chariot beautiful for the intellectual by fiery horses . discloses to the minds and infinite of the elect the flowery slopes of an unknown or on kill sentiment. outward appearance. barren of idealScience would teach us that she herself does not benumb reaction the contrary. Science and Poetry. . it is as if. measured in the finitude of our reason.their having once satisfiedtheir scientificcuriosity as to physical had been fascinated and inspired and human phenomena. yet change It seems as if these elect minds. gravitate toward a life of facts and order. but. of the mind is it to think of the immense n s 3 . and rising above the facts to the evanescent and laws of nature and melodious world in a harmonious of imagination. they offer us their work unity of two seemingly opposite and irreconcilable elements an " the real and the ideal. I dare say. by a generous law of to generation seems and equilibrium. to their they proceed to an ideal synthesis in which the various elements retain their substance. but still more body of fire. which. So it must be that those who have attained a high place in intellectual life will gladly replace the old conception of intense and more with a new physical and human phenomena representation. To the uninitiated is loved in the infinity of our sentiment. by irresistible love of creation. After the most minutest skilfulanalysis of the scientificelements components. And thus.
and whose existence and fantastic speed in the space of the heavensare divined only by the abstraction of our faculties in an infiniterepresentation of the laws of physics.stripped him of all his tinsel and garments. to have been reserved to the seems genius of Paolo Mantemasterly inimitable. made of us. but immensely more poetical is the sciously conception of a telepathic force within us. He has snatched way unimitated and Love from the Olympus of the gods of old. more larger than the earth. the origin and the development of the sentiment which underlies the into principal phenomena of human existence.and which indissolubly binds together the individuals and the generations. and revealed him as part" flesh and blood of way. Poetical is the vision of a goddess of Olympus descending to earth unknown. and with this great he subject dealt in a man. conintegral part of or unconsciously created by us. with another human moniously being whose spirit is harattuned to ours. which came being with the first twilight of organic life. powerful and antagonistic. our and carrying to a man asleep the message or the image of a dear. gives us a work in which are and the poetical conceptions tion the scientificfoundaunited in such wealth c 6 a . more rational. mountains and valleys. By a new no and yet which we Mantegazza human conception of love. an our cate psychical organism. in millions of men at the same time. distant person. task of dealing with the natural history. more less poetical than the classic representations to have been accustomed from times immemorial. from the clutches of classic literature. oceans and deserts. in a The gazza. and yet than hundred hundred million miles million times millions of other unknown to star millions of times smaller naked eye celestial bodies to our most powerful telescopes. The impersonation of hatred and love by Fury and Cupid is much less poetical than the conception of an explosion of psychical forces.THE BOOK OF than than a LOVE a a energy darting from a star more distant from our planet. and by which we instantly communiover hills and dales.
hatred among furexpand or be altogether eliminated. of the Italian lanThe task of the translator has thus been made doubly more difficult. passions may gain . the fundamental be changed or destroyed. Such is the translation of a beautiful Book of Love offered to the American public at a time when all the evil passions the world. either the substance or the representation of the author's idea. nations.FOREWORD of colors and harmonies that its reading. The evolution of matter dominate intensified or disappear from struggle for life may become classes. both in the literary and the philosophical field. and degradations of hatred are unleashed over mind today. the world .and it opens a new horizon to the idealization of human feelings. is incomparably superior to our best fiction. often it has been preferred to sacrifice the turn of the English phrase to that of the corresponding Italian. rich with true and romantic charm. discoveries and events. unlike countless love writers and poets. and possibly incur the imputation of exoticism. Mantegazza. while time and evolution relegate the In striking contrast human to race of the most fearful cataclysms of the memory tuting elements constithe icy page of history. but with a powerful drill that penetrates into the lowest strata of the earth and reveals its deepest terrestrial composition. as subtlety and the original language of the book has guage than the English lanartistic abandon Rather than run the risk of betraying would allow. used all the wealth of his literary training. races may deepen. carried by enthusiasm in the innermost research of facts and by admiration for the beauty of his Mantegazza has subject. In the pursuit of his aim. with the trend of the human of a what a meager chance is awaiting the contemplation with a bond sentiment whose mission is to tie all humanity of affection ! And yet. approache his field not with a hoe or a plow to scratch the surface of the ground. Love life cannot human long as the laws of affinity and will continue to exist as being at his birth and by the human procreation seize the him even after his death. It is a daring deed. skilfully and lavishly drawing upon all the resources guage.
proudly throbs of our heart. fair. kind.with glassy eyes shall see the last sun descend forever. of the extenuated race one lone mind. poet. C8] . Er. our crimes. generous. up to the very in the words man of the and one woman. ' ' Fate. in cruel. livid. clasped together in the supreme fate of creation. and. our threshold of the great oblivion. when. deceitful. and weak. highest aspirations of soul. procreatorand prince of all affections. Occasion. at once proud. Chance All things are subject and Change. in the wake of the departing warmth.THE BOOK OF LOVE may learn td ther ascendancy over humanity. among the ruins of the mountains and of the dead woods. a king and a miser. Time. to these but eternal Love. avaricious. innermost we shall always lay. the sweetest ecstasies of our despairs. or humanity control them . Be. our the and the joys. our tears our or in shame. our convulsions. all virtues rich and in all sins." At the feet of him. in the words of Shelley.
as thousand as a to fruit. and hurry away precious booty of forbidden of life. artists.TO I have THE READER powerful and at conceived love to be the most time the least studied of human the same affections. . and element of health for the to me individual and for the generations. To study which races phenomenon a gigantic power among various moulds and itself in ways an in various epochs. know it too often only through stealth and shame. Surrounded lized and hypocrisy.snatch morsel now and then from conceal it love as a as a the flesh of the great god. philosophers.civi- by a triple forest of men mystery prejudice. legislators. The as a Author. has appealed great and worthy undertaking. a Poets.
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however. is also the most every form of generation. reducing life to its simplest and most essential form. and the deeper I cast the sounding-line into the dark abysses of life.white corpuscles every Nutrition is a generate hair. from bacteria to man. epithelia and and yet every day we leucocytes: this is an evexy-day generation in the body of one A nail fallsoff. real genesis. betraying the truth. one C13] . that to live means to generate. and that whirlwind which absorbs and which so rejects. to reproduction of an organ. But in one of our an entire organism. Every living body is perishable. We generate children similar day. We lose hair. If. I wished stillfurther to simplify my idea.grow all creatures which. a new takes its place: this is the man. assimilates new atoms and repels old ones. offspring we see re: this is the reproduction On the other hand. I would say without fear of Many. but before dying it has the power of reproducing the form that has made it capable of living. and die on the face of our planet. epithelia. repeated of an a mole which within an is on our nose organ organism.the more I am Convinced that this definition faithfully depicts the most striking characteristics of years ago come to life. and which clearly represents the eternal picture of life in all its faithful representation of manifestations. ourselves: this is the reproduction of the true generation.INTRODUCTION GENERAL PHYSIOLOGY OF LOVE I wrote that to live means nutrition and generation. and in the great chemical laboratory of living beings we have at all times before our eyes the reproduction of histologicalelements of organs and individuals.
in the last analysis. and here we see a broader genesis by which from the reproduction erating of a cell through another cell we gradually pass to the genof an organ. and to that of reproduction. The world of living beings is a gigantic tree and from its trunk shoot forth the branches of classes. the cell.orders. generates the individual. so that the live molecules of yesterday dead today . by nourishing itself. species. living among beings with each other a part of their own matter other. of a species. On the other hand. mum vivens which. but of these small individuals generates within itself The world many cells. the highest branch of the tree of living beings. and of the most we give the essential characteristics name of death to D43 . males and females in continuous succession interchange part of their matter. one species another species . partakes of all. nobody can tell what most genesis of atoms it induces within its own The mysterious ganism. organs. To feed themselves and to generate. on elementary form of lifeis not. of an individual. species. the true prisince at a lower stage we find the protoplasm. and of one great organism " matter which each ourselves we exchange the same tion.true organisms within greater ones. and those which are alive today will be dead are tomorrow .is an intimate and very mysterious generation. which. passing from one organism to anlife. organs. which are the individuals . of us in turn contributes to the work of apparent destruccalled nutrition.species. remoulding their primitive forms. Cells generate cells. simple or- live without a continual protoplasm cannot exchange of matter. On the branches leaves grow. designated as generation. and man. each one generation. seaweeds live on mushrooms. of a race. therefore nutrition also. by scission. The most and. On the to acquire new seems energy and new hand. herbivorous feed herbs. sant incesof living beings is but a great laboratory of prolific. Evanescence of forms is one of livingbeings.THE race BOOK OF LOVE generates another race. one carnivorous animals are continually exchanging devour herbivorous. An intimate brotherhood makes us members the placenta of living beings. however.
When the dangers for the individuals generated increase measure. of the classes. This is the most general principle and includes all possible kinds of generation.INTRODUCTION the falling of every leaf from the tree of life. a thousand manners In means of protection than are needed. To be born and to die fecunditynd mortality are so a closely connected with each other that we can consider them Apart from the manner " " as the action differentaspects of the same phenomenon.instincts and defensive organs. drops some leaves every day" hair. One would say that the life of an individual is only a moment of the great life of the species. there is a certain glance. while it is governed by the laws of preservation. if this preserve the species !" Such is the eternal cry of nature.passing from one organism to another.and this may seem. most amount of fecundity. reproduction increases beyond and reaction of life. living beings generate so profusely that one species pansion. of these which often produce a secretive substance and fall with it. the of species has a hundred bulwarks. there is an amount of life which passes away. and destruction mows at the same as Ci53 . in which life is transmitted. "Let the individual perish. epithelia.cells. more alike must obey. like the circlescaused on the smooth surface of a lake by a handful of sand thrown upon it by a child. also.of the kingdoms of living beings .oaks and mushrooms If the individual is protected and possesses preservative. in cases the individual sacrificeshimself congreat many sciously. did not struggle among themselves. Before dying. down the excessive time. at first whimsical. from that of scission to the highest form of sexual genesis. alone would pervade the earth if the various circles of exfalling in with each other. Man. which men and infusoria. it is a spark which shoots off intermittently. fact. safeguard. or provided that before death he transmit life to others. Powerful a i and irresistible s the tendency to generate. a part of the preexisting form animate remains to rethe dead form and follows in its turn the parabolical cycle through which the mother form has passed. is unwittingly sacrificedby the laws of nature.
in fact. is one of those that rule with the most inflexibl tyranny the elementary phenomena of reproduction. however. is much more If all species were equally prolificand had a life of equal length. intricate. If danger is reckoned as a constant quantity. through its simple organization. inasmuch as but vary in opposite directions. then parasites and in enemies of the over-expanded species. on the contrary. should oxen multiply in the same ger proportion as infusoria.THE BOOK OF LOVE it is food that is no number of those which are born.the entire species would die of hunweek. it must countervail this weakness with reaction. as well as the highest and most man complex phenomena of hulove.simpler and better known.and does consist of two factors (faculty mainindividual life and power to multiply it) these factors . This most simple and sublime law. on the contrary. If. would ever attain that age.generating intensely. not one of them. perhaps. is littlefitto resist danger.it should then diminish its fecundity proportionately. cannot Ci63 . and even if they could live fifteen or sixteen years. which. they would all be deof mice were before another generation could be born. Now longer proportionate to the new-born. as happens with many other forces. surviving all dangers. stroyed as slow as that of man. Now these forces must vary inversely. capacity for resistance should be equal in to tain all species.be reduced to a question of space and food. the duration of life tablish and the various degrees of fecundity serve in turn to reesIf the reproduction the equilibrium by Other ways. the individual must preserve itself and generate other individuals. If the individual. increasing destructive forces turn. And on the other hand. The Malthusian problem. mutually. The and the protective balance. the problem would. reestablish the equilibrium. which Herbert Spencer read in the great book of nature. In order that an organic form be preserved. but. high qualities give it a great capacity in a for self-protection.
" The individual disseversinto two independent. will reduce all the various genforms to these few : The or Separation Scission. who requires the third part of his average life to reproduce himself. and then. hands as there are men on produces but one offspring. If all the individuals generated should survive.in which generator. made form of genesis. dinary. capable of scission after twenty. process of multiplication is not scissiparous. and Eschricht reckoned at 64. A young Gonium.000. dealing here with the with forms as in generation. namethods of transmitting life are manifold. erative general physiology of love. and after nine long he sees is worse. If.000 individuals in four days. This is the most simple  . you have there a giant of fleshthat requires thirty years of its life to become fecund. reproduces the parts. In other cases. and.produce in the course month 268. after a long gestation. Another microscopic animal can produce 1 70. since ture in no other function has been so inexhaustibly rich but we. and each of these.000 individuals. the but endogenous. And above the elephant you find a giant of thought.four hours. can produce in a week 268.435.000. by scission. An African termite lays 80.INTRODUCTION In the Diatomacece the fecundity by scission is gigantic: Smith reckoned that a single gnat could create a thousand million individuals in one month.456 individuals equal to itself. from the minute microscopic creatures exposed to every if.000.000 eggs in less than a day. Man.000.000 eggs in twenty-four hours. a of a would. The Paramecium the entozoon of an insect lays 8.000 the number of eggs in the adult female of an Ascaris lumbriGordius " " coides. but the reproduction is always extraoras with the Volvox. months generates one child only . what down before they are able to half of his offspring mowed bear flower and seed. you pass to the elephant.from these danger and which consume matter very little in your living atoms of which you could gather as many " earth.000.
destroying its are dissolves in its offspring. of an individual that generated. the other the fecundating element. We have be of any service to the egg. but merges into them. embrace of two hermaphrodites which interlace a quadruple love." Within an individual many parent generates through special organs and without "The dissolving in its offspring. separate and 1"1 . separated from the generator are eggs. and. Man loves in twain . which is sterilein itself.THE BOOK OF LOVE distinct from the other the function of reproduction is not functions. the element but if both do not come in contact. the new being is not the sexes quite distinct. other. seeds. Strange to observe. but one of the produces therefore. and. for its own account. like the other superior animals akin to him. insects.but enclosed within a single individual. Each. of Dioecious Sexual Generation. as fecundatory paranymphs. must combine with the generating elements. yet in his inmost tistoo. or birds. and by such union they may produce the new creature: two individualities. however. Endogenesis. erative becomes complicated and divides into two laboratory so " parts. produces A duplex a seed which cannot " fix themselves each upon a single individual. the parent opens. the father and the mother. and the appearance of winds. the genMonoecious Sexual Generation. The genera- function is already marked and distinctin a laboratory dividual of the elements of the inwhich detaches and prepares some that they may reproduce it. we behold an individual that generates an egg which cannot be fecundated by that individual's seed. perfect organbut in every case these are always elements evolved tive within the generator through special organs. viduals other indiformed. resolves these problems a most singular generation. the generating organs. Finally. he presents a dioecious sexual generation. own individuality. The individuals generated and isms.the male the sum of and the female. but although. one of which brings forth the egg. A step higher. The individual by itself alone generates other individuals. prepares destined for the reproduction of the individual .
it is the whole individual that generates. we and scattered all through the mass of our body the faculty to generate. organs are brought through all the forms of generation laws by which nature rules the same Gradually new forces appear and new manifest. an organ of the individual. When the science of the future will permit our posterity to connect mentary of nature.INTRODUCTION he also possesses the endogenous genesis and the genesis by scission. a molecule to the flash of the most sublime genius. D93 . and again two organs in separate individuals. While the pathology of love.and presents in this regard the remains also of the elementary forms of life enclosed within him.then perhaps the firstorigins of love will be sought in the elementary physics of dissimilar atoms which endeavor to find each other and combine. and The positive with opposite motion generate the equilibrium. and we. recognize in man the two distinct and woman than ever laboratories which prepare the seed and the human egg. shows the last declining remains of a promiscuous her- imagination. then work. in an uninterrup chain of facts. sues we In this rapid course delineated the see forth to represent the subdivision of First. sexes causes to divine that in more complex creatures may be than two. like the amoeba. while. the highest of all living have in our protoplasm creatures. in many cases of lasciviousmaphrodit ness. us more a forerunner of science.the unity of the plan is more other functions. from the most eleall the phenomena from the simplest motion of to the most complex. then again two organs in the same individual. and generation presents a deeper subdivision manner as in the cynical or skeptical of work. In the many forms of genesis. of them reaching and monstrous as base and brutal as the most the suprasensibleand some us repelling atavic regressions. in the same distinctionsbetween platonic and sensual loves and in the we most daring polygamies of soul and senses perceive in the distance other lights which disclose to the horizon of new some generative possibilities.
new and electricity. by flashes of genius. is not the union of those two molecules. it is carried forward a with a movement hundred times more irresistible and powerful through space The first and time. powerful as to oppose and even that is. and in these with conjunctions. heat bodies are formed. accompanied by a hurricane of passion. dated the fecun- poet and the metaphysician may define love in whatever manner they choose. m6tion represents the narrow lifeof the movement That forward C203 . originated in the ovary and in the testis. which we call man and woman. notwithstanding And in the all the adverse forces of heaven and earth? manner same as the molecule of potassium snatches the oxygen away from water with a great development of light and heat. by infinite glittering of flames and pandemonium of physical and psychical forces accumulating. rethat Nature renews obtained.new equilibriums her forces and. it seems juvenescing. battling and equilibrating are around that point where a man and a woman attracted human toward each other. to the matter kindle and reardor? Do we not perceive a rejuvenate the torch of life? particular motion. great development of light. prepares loves. There is only one definition for scienceFXbve is the energy which must bring in contact the egg can with" the seed. And atoms herself for new combinations and new is not love perhaps the combination of two dissimilar which seek each other and combine. so that the generative gemmulae produced in the slow laboratory of two different organisms reunite in that nest which egg must The is the maternal transform into a A womb and where human being.THE BOOK OF LOVE electric body seeks the negative. and while each individual rotates. the preservation of the individual. the acid seeks the base. accumulates as centers such energy in the nervous eventually to bring the masculine element in contact with the feminine. without be no ovary and without testis there lover"} which is called generation is so destroy the minor motion.
generated in another of two When laboratory. at first thought. genera But let us set aside the words and genera. inor affinitive classes. difficult if we pass to different fecundity will be more . haphazard. instead. and encloses and preserves them in itselfin order to pour them into the bosom of other elements. genera. while. too great similarity why we may and too great dissimilarity. in which the generating atoms. Sex. the opposite sex. that is. but of different races. No sooner has same the manifested itselfin animals than we have in individual.INTRODUCTION individual and is protected by egotism. the sex generative elements. or study their in spontaneous loves. so and dividua gather together brothers. it will in most cases become impossible. it is probable that the diversity of their gemmulas is greater. and let us. cousins. if we pass to different species. That is the rea- between C21] . but in two distinct laboratories. If in individuals closely resembling each other. and love defends it. similar but not equal. atrophied breasts and deep moves : they do not generate voice remain sterilewith a robust man because they have too close a resemblance. we combine the generative elements. appears to us as one of the deepest mysteries of life. the second is the great life of the species. in the order of their degrees place them of similarity. therefore. we would find cases of sterility beings too similar and in beings too dissimilar. of the same in line. which. our museums the world that we may let us have not the same value as we assign to them in and in our books. which. we stillwill formation probably have fecundity. in order to combine. Should we try to couple them. That is the reason a woman see with a mustache. orders. the two generative laboratories are separated in two distinct organisms. The most superficial study of the generative function is to sufficient convince us that love is always a phenomenon of high chemistry. is nothing but a laboratory which attracts the elements generated by every element of the organism.generation these two opposite poles. species in nature. must be neither too similar nor too dissimilar. nephews. take from of the living a handful of animals.
besides. and. of iodine with bromine. This impossibility is one cannot of the most powerful means of preserving the living forms. will bring together those adaptations and those creature enjoys the possibilvictories through which the new ity fewer dangers. in those conditions which a living being has come existence. extremely varied. cannot grow and multiply by feeding on herbs. therefore. which is the offspring of another that has gained its flesh with herbs. Try the combination of sulphur with phosphorus. Nature too said to living they are beings : " If you wish to love. or fecunthat are too similar cannot concur laws of elementary unsatisfactorily. The fecundity of two different organisms is. of many and Two victories over exterior elements. be neither too similar nor too dissimilar. of resistance and will meet with It is much forms too dissimilar easier to explain why love each other. different but susdiverse give a greater number of of being summed.THE why because son a BOOK OF LOVE : dog and a cat are sterile they do not generate. when and in a certain way. When are useful to their out of the struggles it has yielded to external agents of life. observe the ardent loves of chlorine and hydrogen." Germs Let us try and discover the reason of this law. it transmits itselfto future generaenemies tions in that form and nature which are the fruit of a long reason. of potassium and oxygen.perhaps through the same bodies to repel physics and chemistry which cause other bodies equally electrifiedor with which they have too close a resemblance in their physico-chemical characteristics. an of resistances energy bearing in one direction. on the other hand. it is the sum ceptible all of them equal. an and successful battle. while two quantities. a greater possibility of living An individual is the sum and resistingexternal enemies. Imagine for a moment except that feeding on meat should be grafted on to organs and tissues C223 . date in fecundation. Precisely for the same herbivorous animal. the result of many infiniteadaptations to the ambient which surrounds it.but not enough to impede generation. dissimilar. resistances and have. individuals dissimilar.
and you will have a pallid idea of the frontiers which this ardent. and of Heine. love is simply function which. is nothing therefore but the unavoidable necessity for male and female to pour into the crucible of generation elements that can combine. Think passion called love seeks to conquer. which in fact resolves itselfin a slow mutation. it is the complement of complements . From lafvs step of our studies the same which govern generation. Love is the sum nor oT~analogous but not identical forces . and olfactory nerves which find leaves and flowers delectable! The apparent stabilityof the species. forming a homogeneous and compact the elementary physics of generation you may jump to the most ardent sympathies. Love is such energy the lowest grades of the most automatic instinct it haps ascends to the highest regions of the suprasensible. While in the field of chemical facts generation marks the highest point of molecular chemistry. it is the square of squares. to the juxtaposition of human characters in the nest of love. in the psychological . What disorders would not arise ! A fragment of carnivorous animal closed up in an organism which has teeth to chew herbs. We nor alloy. intestinal tube to assimilate herbs. reappear in the high spheres of love. must barone not be barously shatTsee at every mutilated and disrupted so as to have one part of its limbs sent to the laboratory of physiology. and the other left in the library of the philosopher. For us. multiform poles. and you will see that the same law rules all and each of these factsx*Neitker too similar too dissimilar. tenacious. to be understood. gastric juiceto digest herbs. and perdistant no other psychical element reaches to more that from of the shepherd of the high Apennines who loves a to goat.INTRODUCTION the organs and tissues of an herbivorous animal. or the so-called physicallove. metals that can fuse. who in the clutches of death wants be brought to the Louvre to see the Venus of Milo once more. violent. it toleratesneither subtractions 7 divisions.
quiver and vibrate passed through thousands and thousands of existences and and thousands of If love is the warmest is also the richest. it is always the highest ings. of all riches. the forests. by consider the son in scission or by endogenesis. Love is is man the force of forces. every flower and every fruit. and within us. every martyrdom and every lewdness. all the living beings which have on this planet. In all forms of generation. it makes its appearance when Love him. the most human. or with far Adam. we behold the generated preserve a part of the last or of the firstgenerator. or firstfather of unites all living beings. whether we comparison with the father. of every firmament. whether agamous or sexual. beholding the flowery meadows. Take as the starting-point the Adam of the Bible or the Adam of progressive evolution. every balm and every poison may be brought to the temple of love. born without gentle feelwe who were except men in every human sky love is the brightest star .THE BOOK OF LOVE fieldlove reaches the loftiestsummits of the ideal. from the firstto the so that the motion communicated last generation is transmitted without interruption. Everything human be carried away in can . Every vice and every virtue. is at the bottom of every desire. every throb of the heart carries carries its fire. it its altar every faculty of the mind its tributes. it contemplates a quantity of matter and a quantity of life pass from one to the other of those organisms called individuals. strongest. it vanishes when age has weakened it is the joy of joys. For every life extinguished a new life is born.the swarming of animals. To and the most human of passions. cries "O Mother Nature!" out with emotion: science answers in accord. the divination of the poet who. the richest of passions. it is the It is the strongest. sun every horizon of pleasure . the clay breathed into by a God or the Darwinian ascidia: each one of us has stillwithin himself a material part belonging to the firstman brotherhood so that an immense all men.on If aim. every shame and every heroism. who occupy the loftiest as To place among the molecules thousands loves.
as fore and too weakj and just the savage falls on his knees bethe lightning and weeps. more powerful and more dangerous. and more than once man regrets that he possesses but one life to offer as a holocaust to this god. even man. which understands and directs all things. opprobrious punishments the jurieslways cancel. Our laws canare so perfect that many must not not love. too powerful in idly.INTRODUCTION the whirlwind of love . which he enters nearly thief and from which he emerges Our legislation on love is a nearly always as an outcast. us on our of the small wire of the conductor. and a dense fog of which a ignorance surrounds the temple of love. it also must be governed by science. is terrifiedbefore the unexplored hurricane of this sovereign force. In the delirium of voluptuousness and in the storm of desperation. the civilized today. or flees. And yet this gigantic force is the least governed of all the It would seem before it man feels too small that passions. which. he lets himself be carried away by a force which he considers superior to reason. comparison with his weakness. timlaws which he violates every day. or a flower of its garden. and we laugh at the millions of celistraw bates titution. we disguise it with the garments of the buffoon and the prostitute. and as we always as a look love in the face. gilds the ornaments sphere women and transmits our thoughts from one hemito the other. and very many love. This other lightning. wretched connubiality of hypocrisy and lechery. and while we all weep over the few victims of know not how to hunger. and acknowledges his powerlessness and his ignorance. who know nothing of love save masturbation and prosor less In the presence of love we are stillmore the basest brutishness before the most powerful of savage human forces! Yet love also should be conquered like all other forces of " and without losing a fraction of its energy. also. we shrug our shoulders at the hundreds of thousands who die in celibacy for not having been able to gather the for their nests. The lightning fear is guided by which prostrates the savage in the dust of nature. explodes in the hurricanes of C253 . In his codes he writes.
the most powerful of civilized forces. no other can the greatest voluptuousness with the greatest virtue. of transmitting civilization to posterity of combining in the spasm of an embrace. "26] . guided and reduced to a the human live force that can be measured. the most precious. Love should be the dearest. of generating the good of future beings through the joy of the living ones.THE BOOK OF LOVE heart. weighed and governed. No other passion can claim supremacy solve the sublime problem where it appears. must be studied.
LOVE IN PLANTS AND ANIMALS .
gentlemen. and psychology are for these gentlemen nothing but different metaphysicians. and under the motley appearance of the form reWe are going to seek the only law that governs them. which. something capricious and morbid which. But man does not himself with beings that are he came . they are the hysterics of thought. The true metaphysics. he does not degrade himself by scenting the earth from which you. by the continual comparison of man and beast. of the smallest with the greatest. say we have lower himself by comparing the matrix from which been moulded and which is ever the frame supporting us. O super-gentlemen. cussed. these are psychic maladies not to be disa new but cured by contempt and ridicule. prostitutes us. in the limbus of living beings the crepuscules of the highest head modestly before the Bowing our human things. and sends us a forms of back with insanity to the bestialOlympus of men with flesh of the human grafts set on the animal members and of According to those most exalted and superson cilious of God. brutalizes us. if this word has stillany meaning. and all adorers of the past cursing every day and every hour the modern mania human things to living beings and call comparing strange aberration of the human mind . also you. which disappear with the generation them rise from the corrupt entrails of the that has seen human family.CHAPTER LOVE IN PLANTS AND I ANIMALS Arcadians. are of for anathemas against this absurd and sacrilegious profanation Comparative anatomy. was parisons created by modern science. C29II .God. physiology of the man. by the boldest comof the simplest things with the most complex. extracts the subtile from the veals subtile.
and all the splendor of a nuptial robe. How many treasures of esthetic force in a lily and in a rose ! And all that luxury to do honor to the love of a day. fly. surrounding the nest of love with a large profusion of esthetic elements. how many flashes of passion. where life reconcentrates its best part to renovate itselfwith a new impetus. the love of an hour . feeling with ashamed of ourselves. like an economical housewife. inexhaustible conception of mechanisms. lavishness of artifices. and gigantic pomp. Our pride will find sufficient satisfaction. seeks the useful and often is satisfiedwith the necessary. the most varied tints of the painter's palette are interwoven. nearly always. removes the attritionsand through the simplest ways attains her aim.after so many comparisons. more loves of plants and of animals. to screen' the virginal kiss of an ! anther and a pistil And jumping from the lily and the rose to the summits of the animal world. a thousand beautiful than human times more industry could produce. among the blossoming beds on a spring of a garden. and no other phenomenon of life can resemble that we are first among of generation in profusion of forms. It which renews the flower that. but satisfied that ^^Xb all living beings. how many splendors of fancy. day. the most gorgeous luxury. the most exquisite beauty of form.THE BOOK OF LOVE simplicity of laws which of forms. what an interlacement of elements. in realizing govern and control such a wealth to the reality of things. the most inebriating seductions of perfume. admirable spectacle of nature is more splendid. One would say are that where the reproductive gemmulae attracted. and. there new and strange energies are the forces of nature appear with the most developed. she simplifiesthe mechanisms. Nature. In every other function.' is around . let us~ return nor neither dejected having known how to read the notes of harmony written in the world of dwarfs and giants. she exhausts every resource to prepare a feast for the life itself. Nature than that of the fascinating music with a less number could not write more of notes. But she is not content with the good and the true for generation. to a garland for the kiss a man make Run. of and a woman.
entire forests love at one time. and tinges dust. and for miles more and miles they fillthe air with voluptuous murmurs. on the wings of with the warm. diffuse everywhere an amorous. many plants. and the atmosphere is exists all pervaded inebriating sparks which. and everywhere a warm circumfusion of pollen.in the somberest darkness of mines and in the infinitesky. in every fissureof rock. love of in a thousand ways. so that in every part of the globe. voluptuous wave. wet carpet your of vallisnerias. the animals interweave their loves. and you will immediately see the air darken with a cloud of fruitful dust. and in every hour of the day and of the night. spores and antheridia will tell your flaming heart that in the world of plants. what a fecundity of pollen and seed! Shake with your hand a or single branch of the juniper of the blossoming pine.but in many of them silence does not prevent tender blandishments and fervent embraces. and among the stamens of the enamored flowers. in the deepwaves and in the drops of water oozing from of the ocean. in every cavern of mountain. and the than once wanton rain washes and purifies the atmosphere. blossoming pines.LUVii 1JN FLAJNTij AJND ANIMALS among the thousand amorous corollas of the flowers. always cold. shake boughs of the cypress the severe and of the pine. every ray of the sun warms and contemplates millions guides the of embraces. the winds and of the insects and in the rays of the sun.in every clod of grass. plunge feet into the soft. always The immovable. in every bed of seaweeds. love of flowers is mute in the soft perfume of their corollas. while every ray of the moon intimate blandishments. let your eyes penetrate into the humid recesses of the barks and the mossy labyrinthsof the granite. itselfall with the amorous in the shade of the And or without jealousy rancors. nocturnal lovers to a thousand more If it is true that a leaf falls from the tree of life every sec- "313 . they flame up in the calyx of their loves. among the perfumes the corollas and the emeralds of the seaweeds. convulsions in their flowers. but what a profusion of embraces. the glaciers. Often they love have only once a year . do the winds carry clouds of pollen.
THE BOOK OF LOVE is borr a new gemma ond and dies. If the anatomist and the physiologist discover in the stud precious material of generation in the various animals some to mark the highest laws of the morphology of the livini beings. wher every atom of time buries an atom that was living once. is of a nothjng. where the mal and female live and die fettered to the spot that saw thei birth. it is the male that seeks. conquers keeps the prey. thi earth is all a nest of love. then at every moment how many embraces. Glance over the pages of Darwin's work oi to forms. for. and the harmony of th perhaps. This is the firstdogma that gov ems the religion of love in the entire world of the living and when all high races look with contempt upon the womai who attacks and the man who flees. in which every zephyr carries t our ear a sigh of voluptuousness. it is the virile element that is always carried there where the germ awaits it. adapted than love 1 contemplate the unique type and the infinite legion of it admire a unique conception developed in a thou sand differenttongues.annot evade c forms of the living nature all the summarizes s" " C32H . a dream of the ancient poets. sexual selection and you will see how many weapons natur has given to males to conquer and keep their mates. it is the pollen that goes in search of the ovulum the ovulum that awaits the spark that is to fecundate it In the most simple of animal forms. the psychologist finds in the loves of brutes sketchei has gathered under hi nearly all the elements that man No function is more robust wings. women and pistils. they only protes against the violation of which Man men one of the most tyrannical law and mollusks. No sooner has sex made its appearance than the mal quickly distinguishes himself by his aggressive character With few exceptions. bu ether. if our planet is a vast cemetery. the sum of all the kisses exchanged among the living crea Jures. Evei in plants. for every new and for every gemma born how many loves ! The flowers planted in the groum as the noblest form of the cul cemetery appeal to me of the dead.
Darwhen kept some place for a Do them. and there was never a bastard among men we not also find among splendid examples and do you not recognize it of the most faithful monogamy as the social basis in almost all the superior races? The antelope of South Africa has up to a dozen mates. most splendid and impudent. The chaffinch. men. from the secondary to the last. nor is death for love an exclusive priviThe few and coarse passions of animals are of man. e win quickly returns to the dear nuptial bed of his spouse. are seldom unfaithful to their mates. But than a hundred.and" that he is precisely the first because under the bark of his individualityall the forces are gathered him. C333 . and males on whom love must be imposed? Have we not libertinism at the very all the side of chastity? Have we not in the world of man lasciviousness. and the within same phenomenon his loves. in a rare whim.LOVE IN PLANTS AND ANIMALS that we are frequently tempted to affirm that whatever of human is in him is the greatest synthesis of all the minor forms of the living. amorous practice of various human common are scenes fiery. and although h the male. all the infiniteforces which he has drawn from the great womb of the living beings and which he has centuplicated with the all carried as a accumulations of his hundred civilizations. holocaust to the altar of generation. Pigeons. And temperaments. and the Antilope saiga of Asia more have We not the small and hypocritical polygamies of modern society. pigeons of differentbreeds shut up in the same long time. animals. of the as in very many Orientals? Have we not in man. while man carries to it all the ardors of his rich nature. of all the ardors. even we observe in the psychical elements of intermingled with the most varied breeds. females who submit to love as to a duty.cruel jealousies bloody "battles and to men lege and brutes . all the possibilities lewdness of the animals' world? Several fulmineous forms of love which last no longer than the flash of the lightning not infrequently occur among long-lasting kisses of many insects are an as the cold.and those. may break the vow of fidelity.
falls from in the contests of amorous than once song, more the tree on which he is singing his erotic hymn, smothered by pulmonary a poet beholds the as many apoplexy; just lyre of his genius and the chords of his life break at the feet In the silence of the shady thickets, the nightingale, of a woman. dies with love and fatigue, and exhausted, swoons fortunate rival for having been unable to vanquish a more dreds in melody and strength of notes; and hundreds and hun-
of times, in the somber labyrinths of life,the human lover dies in the battles of an unhappy love, and he too dies because he could not sing louder and sweeter than his rival.
female only; no is coquetry peculiar to the human in the world will ever be the equal of a female canary woman in the wicked art with which she resists the impatient ardors
of her companion; and the thousand travesties with which in the feminine world a "yes" is concealed under a "no" but pallid imitations of the refined coquetry, the simuare lated flights, bitings and the hundred thousand the amorous
of cajoleries the
world of animals.
As to the estheticelements which nature has lavished upon the loves of living beings, they are such and so many that to the richest palette would be insufficient depict them or the poet's words my
in the garden, lying down upon a wall so low that I can voluptuously scent the soft aroma of the earth damped by a storm ; I have no rugs under my body or pillows under head; a slate, furrowed and shining, is my bed. With my hand extended above the wall, I am nipping the one petals
flower, while with the other I am frightening the ants which hustle about in the sandy path. All at once, two littleshadows, two brown sprites,pass before my eyes and facing me, in the middle of the path. They are two alight, children of heaven, all wings and all beauty; the organs of terrestrial life are reduced to a thread, but a thread that
sucks the nectar from the flowers, and four gigantic wings to conquer the skies. Their hours are numbered ; they must love and die, and nature made them warm and swift for
intense love : organs of
greater than the venter, organs but of beauty greater than the entrails. They are butterflies, I know not their names, and I feel disappointed. I look them for me: around in vain for an entomologist to name
does not feel that he possesses a creature unless he has sprinkled it with the ink of his dictionaries. They will die, as far as I am concerned, nameless; and in vain will they
gates of paradise, to enter the place where dear Can you imagine ever and beloved things are remembered. As in having loved a woman whose name you know not?
so religion, it is in love: baptism is the firstand holiest of
But these butterflies love each other without baptism ; they frolicking on the pebbles of the path, and running after are each other. They do not suspect that the greatest tiger of our ing planet is watching them, and that a great lizard is creepthe little wall and turns its head to lips with its forked left and right sullenly, licking its own tongue and anticipating the savory taste of the delicate flesh They are too happy to think of of those pretty creatures. down
that surround them; and life and love are flowers which are picked in the midst of hurricanes and battles. They have found a stalk of withered grass which, under the footsteps of many pedestrians and in the sand strewn by the That gardener, has succeeded in living and blossoming.
microscopic bush is an entire world for those two lovers, and female resorts to it as to a defense against her sweet the little from blows assailantand runs around it like a child who flees by running around a table. But, after a few impatient circumvolut tree and with the lover jumps over that little
A pinch of golden his wings shakes those of his companion. dust spreads through the air, and a slightly spiteful shrug, a voluptuous a rebuff and of quiver close that firstscene female seems love. At times the little about to yield to the impatient embraces of her companion; and when he, with
the trepid anxiety of him who is about to grasp happiness, is his very close to her and on the point of touching with loved the velvety body of his bepubescent and loving antennae one, she fliestwo yards away, and he after her and The again and again is met with mockery and
heat increases and the surcharged desire has become as ardent The coquette has turned her back to her as the sun.
opens her wings slowly in order to show the splendor of her gems, her silver^ her velvet, in all their and having shown them, she folds and raises her pomp; wings and instantlyhides all the most splendid dress with
is the male
seducer, as with a littlebound, which resembles a flight,he places himself in front of his companion, and in turn opens his wings, showing his thousand colors and the is charm of his golden eyes. But too restless the impatience ever of those two lovers who exchange their firstkisses. Whohas witnessed but once the caresses of two butterflies can certainly imagine how the angels love; but does any planet shelter a human in heaven?
that lives with wings
near c to each other, so those two butterfliesome to jtouch, to kiss with their antennas; then in a wink
bounds upon the other and with a leisurely, sweet, prolonged fondly they kiss each other with their wings. And caress, then they repose, as though they wished to relish the sweetness in which the wing caress, of that grand and voluptuous of the one softly and slowly kisses the silk and velvet of his
wings which with a each other in a perfect of
sensual must be the caress of thousand scintillating papilla;touch
in this intermingling
juxtaposition, yet and
and velvet do not lose one single speck of that golden dust which adorns them I Many and many a time I saw those happy creatures prance kiss each other ; many a time I stood ing around and with beameye, envying that angelic kiss of two wings. Man may, indeed, envy the butterfly which in its rich loves of glittering inspirationputs to shame our corporeal embraces. Two crea-
yet clothed, passionate and chaste, that love but once and one creature only, that kiss on earth and unite in the skies; that, inebriated with the nectar of flowers and the rays of the sun, caress each other with their wings and fall in love with such beautiful hues as Titian and Rubens strove in vain to obtain from their art and their chemistry; two
life in a long love and from the that abandon spasms of a leisurely embrace return to nature their bodies extinguished by love!
After long kisses and many caresses, my two angels exchanged a last,more ardent rebuff,and then away in the sky to relight the torch of lifewhich was soon to be extinguished in them. Sighing, I followed them, now united in a whirling flight, lostin the until they were do we not also love in that way?
of the skies. Why
neighbor's roof the firstrays of the sun have stirred tawny and corroded the tiles, up an infernal racket. Among by the black wartwort, there are some soft cushions of moss, and on the eaves, with edges frayed by rust and twisted by On
the alternating of sun and ice, grows some grass that, more frugal than an anchoret and happier than a king, lives on light and dew. On those tiles and on those eaves all the sparrows in the neighborhood have their rendezvous; and, mingle sprightly, petulant, noisy, they pursue each other, interwith their wings, and clash, peck, play with their monious littlefeathered bodies. They speak a common and inharto narrate language, but they seem the dreams of the night, and to have many and important things to tell ing; shrieks, another warbles, a third is chirpbecause they have slept well, is still. Happy not one having already forgotten yesterday, and unmindful of today, they are basking their feathers in the firstrays of the sun,
and, beaks hidden under their wings, waging war upon There are some importunate acarus. small and some
he looks to the right and to And. and at short distance they both face and defy each other. and. they hurl at each to me insolence and tenderness other a world of words which seem time. utters a cry of to be a conquest which in force and petulance already seems tionary cry of victory. perthey are even varieties of species. The one whines. the other shrills. without moving from his place. happy creatures I behold a sparrow of a deeper black. all kindred chattering and enjoying to humiliate one and elate andifference of caste seems other passion of them and com. with an elongated body. no infirmity produces pain in some in others. Frequently he stands and more upright on head.vain complacency. delicate and pretty. and. perhaps. his a child about to have his height measured. at the same the one implores. a darker chestnut hue. he is already very close to her. the left with an air of indefinable. lo ! among his neighbors he sees a female sparrow. like his small legs. without approaching. but in this moment themselves together. It appears to me that in the sparrow's dicsparrow sees that sound must be a word with great significance and important consequences. those dear and happy hypocrisy of compliments. carried into effectthe republic of Plato? But. to the naturalist age and sex. here is neither etiquette of rank nor Have they. his body. and the black with slight variations haps of hues indicate. She has hardly reached it when the male overtakes her.THE The BOOK OF LOVE gray. twittering in different voices. the coppery. of a plain gray color. But the bold lover impatiently flies his insistent. high-chested than the others. the other commands. She for the ivory hand of a lady to to have been made seems gent hold. lo ! in that crowd of thoughtless. and frequently the like the prating is so closely intermingled that it seems C38] . stretches his neck. No young sparrows. her and. thrusting out her loving head from that nest of intelliThe impudent folds that is the hand of a woman. after her and repeatedly renews petulant cry. because the pretty littlefemale with a short flightleaves the noisy crowd of her companions and draws near to the edge of the roof. but the little female fliesto the roof of the house on the opposite side of the street.
And strength seems him very soon. Behind her she has not an where projects inch of space left: she must either fly away and lose. with short leaps that seem steps he pursues his companion. or capitulate. confused crying. running to an eave. But the bickering appears to have fatigued them. like a flash of lightning rebuff which seems ardent. the female concedes the crowning voluptuousness to her companion. oh the extreme commingle. piqued. perhaps. already tired of so many refusals. But. Already many battles have been fought between the two lovers. who withdraws to a corner of the roof it over the street. and the pretty littlefemale withdraws. intimate. little bodies come warm brink of the eave. and the male is now cided de- prize of victory. why does wanton seems a desires so she call him almost cannot when simulating stand that war he. with There. why does she And not open her wings and fly away into the infinitesky? if she does not love that too obstinate persecutor. and as if sliding down on those tiles. fulmineous love. to seize the sweet her lover. her little body suspended over the abyss. a love caught a C39] . indifference or vexation? But desire any longer. if this be really so. to and a hasty retreat. clash. and a sweet inspiration and attend an over the abyss of space.LOVE IN PLANTS AND ANIMALS sound of one instrument. and the female raises her voice louder and louder the more at intervals. the anxiety to escape and to defend herself from female sincere in that winged little that I almost begin to believe that she does not want to be loved that morning. The two her with his beak and shake her with his into contact. measured as they are by male and female with steps and leaps . for the warbling and shrieking begin anew. flies to the top of the roof. Nor is the insolent lover satisfied with his voice. but runs by leaps and flights peck his companion . but does not succeed in drowning so close robust and courageous voice of the lover who is now to her as to touch wings. Fractions of an inch seem to have become infinite space. looks up at the sun and while the male new to be restored to awaits strength. a continual clashing succeed each other at brief intervals through the mossy labyrinths of that roof.
Howof those domestic animals which most resemble us. more admirable than how to perpetuate life. with a adjust second shiver they absorb slowly. are only poor specimens from an immense collection. the duets of canaries. many loves of living beings may seem Nowhere does Nature embraces. philosopher. the sublime embraces More than one maiden had in these pictures of butterflies. then. and hospitable tree their happy some their strength for new The two lovers fall in away they fly to hide in lassitude and to restore new battles and loves. the too obscene intercourses especially from littlegirls. which. dren. unique in interlaced around the union of essence. the most rigorous morals in the world and the most puritanical modesty would be unable to hide the kisses of doves. and they would find subjects for profound meditation and a strong incentive to The Only in the eyes of the hypocrite inspiration. tints and in the most singular designs. the most varied assumes forms. doves. amazed and languid . and These two pictures. ever. they rise slowly and stare at each other. rich in the wannest In no function does life multiply its forces as in love. I have rapidly sketched from nature. lesson of love . the artist. corner a C403 . they their feathers. disarranged by the embrace. with a shiver. of the idiot brutal battles or lascivious or manifest herself inexhaustible. amorous had caused her heart to throb. more more powerful. slowly the last quaver of the vanishing voluptuousness. as far as possible. the poet.THE BOOK a OF LOVE swoon. canaries. and many years before the of nature her first lips of a lover taught her the life in two. which are the queerest phenomena the sexes.should study with interest the thousand ways in which living beings exchange the germinative gemmulae. It is where she teaches the living from the eyes of our chilwell to conceal. disclosingto her butterflies in the realm of infiniteand glowing mysteries.
The is truer.CHAPTER MORNING CREPUSCULES AND OF II LOVE OF THE GOOD " EVIL SOURCES LOVE A human does love tive made in rich and powerful natures. the father of all light. On the other hand. of that being a man being the skies is to rise. There. they shine like serene and palm rays of a light that later will be ardent and disappear. C4i. more innocence of childhood sincere and deeper even than is supposed. but sufficient warn the must day. a vague. flashes which noiselessly illuminate the clouds and then leave them darker than before. They appear and child is ignorant of the secrets of love.| . they rise spontaneously in of the heart of the most unconscious innocence . where the sun of the infinite azure of of a low order or of a simple nature feel the energy of that new not sentiment called him until the development of the germinarise within glands has marked in him the character of the sex and or a woman." The greatest star shine some sun the most beautiful among all the beautiful things of the skies. like flashes of lightning. one notices a rosy tint lightly projected "There on to us: the horizon. and lasts limpid and adamantine asserts that no when it has been splashed with the mud of social corruption. A vulgar and it coarse every day when malignity repeats a blasphemy They is ever fascinating. many years before sex has impressed its deep mark on the organism. tion appear without being invited by the precocious corrupbooks and of neighbors. mysterious boy toward the attracts the young and chaste sympathy young girl.and I have studied with warm and constant affection firstcrepuscules watched with religious attention the of that other sun which we are now studying in this book.
unwitting love.THE The BOOK OF LOVE rosy lips of a child may repeat. a microscopic scene was. and the spray of a The fountain will be sufficientto wash the trace away. the neck of a littleboy as haughty dark as a pirate. deliriousjoys. she would tell him that and she loved him very much. I remember . suddenly a young a thouboy beholds a littlegirl among a hundred. like domestic thieves. a jest learned by chance from a maid-servant libertine. history. which time the caricature and the miniature at the same may' seem having seen an angelic of a sublime picture. whom on C42] .blonde as an throw her arms around brigand and littlething would as a and rosy as the aurora. And the impudent as him with kisses. with an expression of lascivious malice. a future. embrace. However. to " kneel the carpet which that woman treads that woman they already distinguish above all the creatures in the whom they dare already to place on the same level as world. often ignore the fact that in the multitude of their adorers babies and who kiss in there are boys so small as to seem secret the flowers that have fallen from their bosoms. or from a In the infantile songs. and an instantaneous littlegirl. that she wanted to make of him bridegroom. seemed to be the wife of Potiphar and was nothing but this sudden movement of affection between two children of different sex conceals sometimes a true and real passion which has haughty jealousies. and tears a sighs. of a chaste Joseph who did not know what woman and in the innocent ardors of a childish a Lilliputian woman who. sand among sympathy tiesthe rosy knot of a nameless affection. who furtively and the littleroom The mysteriously. steal into that shelters their angel to kiss her bed. an angel.but that stain does not penetrate into the crystalline nature of the child. and he would disdain cover ear of wheat and resent these cajoleries. beautiful young girlswhom a kind or a cruel nature has destined to arouse at every step of life a desire or a sigh. her little A reversed world. in the noisy and turbulent games which form the delight of the first age. as just the wicked is to deny all virtue. of an innocent. malignant rabble is wont to doubt of the innocence of others.
the soft cheek of a ten-year-old girl. after a long too far removed insolent. loudly. whom he had loved when still child. is unconscious of a littleheart that beats loudly. with two blue streamers. how often. of the cause of his flush. And how often a woman who playfully runs her fingers through the locks of a boy laying his head upon her knees. dying man could link the last kiss of lifewith the first noisy. and certainly the battles of youth often cause them to be forgotten. before he ever a knew she was The trembling lips of the even a woman. clumsy kiss on by the tortures of a hundred passions. a flower carried away by the turbid torrent of years since. which gild some ful of the most beautihours of our child-life. could press the hand of the only woman he had loved. very fortunate mortal. an had appeared under the pick of the graveantique cameo And a digger. after having lost faith and love. the storms of the future. when they hear them mentioned and skeptical have only words of contempt and gestures of pity for what pleased to term infantile lullabies to be relegated the horrors of the witches and the caresses among of the And yet how often these fleetingphantoms announce nurse. reveal a deeply enamored nature they are and and weave the first threads of a long fabric of deliriousjoys Some very. These rosy phantoms. in the dusk of the early evening a last rosy flash of sunset awakened a dear memory. on his torments! death-bed. among that picture was ruins and dust! childish love. And without trying to reach this loftiestsphere of an ideal from our existence. And many. but from burning with a fire of which he himself is ignorant. buried life hardened many throbbed and old man Before the weary eyes a a little straw hat had passed. a limpid ray of light had illumined a picture all life and all beauty. but in the depths of the heart what an abyss of dear memories had opened in an instant ! In the night of the past. to last only as long as the seem come from morning twilight. unconscious. when the child raises his curly head.MORNING CREPUSCULES OF LOVE their mother. but which is love. under those caresses. and the heart of an tear ran down his wrinkled face ! C433 . with slippery memories hearts.which does not congestion.
from its firstand most indistinct appearance. They love. disclosing the juicy and delicate flesh hidden in it. ask a Julycyclamen why and run away. of genius. is not always ungrateful or cruel. my boy. after all. impertinent little beau? Because that littlegirl differsfrom all^he others. the equilibrium of opposites. on the smooth. At that time. fruitful and impatient. Then. round. smooth sheds its childish skin.he will blush storm. longs to give her flowers. if you ask the littlegirl. in ordinary men. If you ask a boy why he loves a littlegirl. a deep sympathy of different natures. Ask a precocious rosebud love and they know not why! why it wanted to bloom in March. the complement of dissociated things. and In passionate men light of love they know not why! the first because Nature. instead of awaiting the warm and voluptuous air of May . fruit called littlegirl also then.THE a BOOK OF LOVE but preserved by the friendly hand of memory. rises when forth under the rod of that a new want springs magical is puberty. that little.do you allow yourself to as men be kissed only by the lips of that dark. from every of the fruit which was developed muscle of the virile organism.her face will flush They and she will answer with a sublime impertinence. which. transformer which Aside from a deep nature. They love soon consumes them. which the masses will never And why. the recomand irresistible . a void alone can fill . and an entire life will be for them too short a day to satisfy the intense thirst of love which because they love much. pubescent. from every sound C44] . this sentiment. because that dark lad is unlike any other boy Love. monies. " it did not await the cool breezes of September to perfume the mossy bed in which ithad made its nest. is selection. most prepotent of the affinithe ties of attraction ! the _J precursory crepuscules of natures most powerful in love.C position of discomposed forces. often conceive that conceive at thirty. my pretty girl. appears sooner. at ten years of age. do you prefer that littlegirl to all the others? And why. roundish surface of the infantile is formed which woman crevice opens . the harmony of harthe most gigantic.
feels more of the time. timid. this cry answers. more in need of love. of day. and almost unknown him acquainted sooner only too often precocious vice makes he is chaste. from every pore of the young girl who has become a crater of burning desires. it dred reserved. When raging virtuous and impassioned. wide strokes of the man. that he can create them and transform a worm The maiden in her dreams. from every quiver of the hair which makes her proud. with the accents plaintive lamentations : A woman! To of wrath and comer. The And if I have referred to more woman is because she. from every hair that makes its skin hirsute. The fust love is not slow to appear. pen how the necessity of loving makes itselffelt to most men.arises a cry which demands : A man! passage of the fatal bridge that separates adolescence from youth is one of the epochs most burdened with anxieties. with voluptuousness than with love. somber. the first It is impossible for certain natures to resista long time the tortures of robust and vigorous chastity: the frail human shellwould fallto pieces if it persistedin keeping imprisoned fresh. most merry with convulsive joys. and for this I call it. Love is such a magician into a god.I shall illustrate perhaps. which announces innocent than we are. all for the battle. she has a greater fear of him. all gigantic. times more more more deeply the shudder to her the appearance of the new god. there rises a powerful cry in the which demands loudest tone : A woman! And from every flexuous limb of the girlwho has become a woman. demands of nature. in a work which I am preparing on the ages of some I shall here describe with few. by looking at the pictures in C45H . to man frantic.MORNING CREPUSCULES OF LOVE of itsstrengthened voice. he too. and yet a hunmost to woman. he also feels the same tumult. which stirs his soul. melancholy. alas ! only too often. it. she does hot know his nature. Nature conceded common resources chaste. and if than the neophyte who appears on the horizon lacks more an two-thirds of the desired virtues. all ready accumulation of forces. the hystericalperiod life.
he is an egotist. he is arrogant. all locks of hair. she who wakes us from the dream of the night is the provocative. The desired by her was an angel. instead. distinct and strong as they are. divinely slender.And. through the space of heaven. far from having winged feet. which is million of hunger and a penny of bread. eternal smile wreathed in an aureole of light. who smokes much and slanders women. his hair is already turning gray. she pounds the floor with pattens that seem to be soled but she is a woman. had fancied a winged man with nothing earthly and material but two lips to kiss.for he will love but her. ardent youth has launched to the skies. She should have been all eyes. already he may be " a perhaps husband and a father but he is a man. a soul ardent as fire and an innocence that falls upon the summits the snow of the Jungfrau. and.THE the church and BOOK OF LOVE walls. too.and the hebetude of his stare seems mental sentilanguor to her . to a golden region. And the youth. The quivering of the wings and the velvet of a kiss were all the voluptuousness which the chaste virgin ever thought of dreaming . who alone How much poetry that will know how to make him happy. and for her he is the god of poetic . to her his illness and appears he is robust. with mustaches. strength . with feet which would hardly touch the earth. instead of this angel. had dreamed of his angel. when he sang the 1"1 . stout maid-servant who by her contours only. but to her he is passionate . all light and warmth. and instead of wings she has two sinewy arms and two hands hardened from the use of pot and broom . And which she knew neither name. and so much the better. and beyond it. with iron " Anything is good nearly always a How of that enamored vulgar is the object thoughts! The heart of a grocer in the body and enough for a firstlove.an obscure and infinite mystery of nor confines. nor form. he is ill. all love and object all ether. who would gather under his large folded wings within the domestic the soul of the young girl and carry it away. young girl's of a porter! But he is pallid. as pure as shows nothing but that she is much of a woman. she beholds a man in trousers.
perhaps more of two lies. and even when we have been forced to use all the artificesof the galvanoplastic to gild our idol. thinking of the bluish paleness of a elegies ! Woe. with the accent acquired from long practice " I love you !" Woe. and one can love but once.knows how to warm the innocent youth at the fire of new voluptuousness ! Then the fire is kindled.all the cravings of the Be sincere with the firstkiss. the flames spread. that is often the sum hypocrisy. C47H . the very firstthing we say is a lie:" I love you above everything in this world . alas! these firstloves which I have just described. chief joy of life. Let us be sincere from the very first steps in our that in modern studies. if to the inexperienced maiden the aged libertinesays. but it too closely resembles. sacred and more ardent . Before you have answer with a sardonic. all the expressions of affection.MORNING CREPUSCULES OF LOVE How exciting form of a strong peasant woman! many has he not wept. the first and in a kiss. for hypocrisy is the wood-worm society cuts into and corrodes the highest and strongest tree in the garden of life. if you desire love to be the lies. is sealed. I shall love you forever. Do not swear yourselves perjure before you know what truth is. yours is the firstlove. natural that it should be the greatneither true nor just falsely. if seduction accompanies choleretic working-woman all this texture of lies with which too often the firstlove builds its nest! Woe. even when the bellows of imagination have worked to inflame the firstlove. most idolatry. To the the indifference of tomorrow will eternity of your vows. and the first object loved is placed on the altar with vows fealty. The first love is not unrestrained always born so evilly. but because it is the firstit is nor est. You are vow my first love.not a shameful trade of voluptuous Yes. The original sin of love appears to us with its firstcry. which down to the last generation of the answers loves of those two beings will seal with an everlasting mark heart. : satisfying her old appetite with unripe fruit. and of eternal perfumed with the incense of the maddest. mocking grin. do not the one._if the lascivious old woman. the only love." And a second the first.
and. during the firstdays do not swear. however high sentiment can ascend. so called has many crimes and If your love is chastely clasped that pedantic and hypocritical biped victims in modern society than made more many maladies of body and mind ever did. if the increased progress of true instir and healthy democracy should eliminate from juridical of the oath. children and elders at the same time. and the one and firstand only love. feeling hurt by my cynic advice. and that. that love is a dream. As for myself. I would wish that the man An and the woman who love each other should never swear. less* nity adjuration and a caress more. if you are among the very few who. what a delight ! An eterless. so the first. you will sing in every tune that virtue does not exist.and a longer caress. Well. If they will read the pages that follow. the Arcadic varnish which makes us us see to look polished and brilliant. are . feel the strength to follow it. as Rarely is the firstlove true love. and perhaps it is firstlove for both. value the stillhas terrors for and if word of an honest man. you will forswear a god whose temple you have never seen. firstdreams of youth. wjth hands much do not pronounce and lips modestly much conjoined. they willclearly see that no one more than I intends to elevate love to the most serene regions of the ideal. if you still then. The tripleand thick skin of hypocrisy that enwraps us from infancy. two : a You man and a woman perjury the firstbook of an author rarely is the true expression of his genius. in the first in the first have found the angel seen in their man.THE BOOK OF LOVE really loved. thousand and thousand times blessed I The fidelity the future will cement for life the virtues of of woman or your souls. I. ' ' any other words but these : Let us love each other !" If you are among the few and happy mortals who will love but once. the better. what voluptuousness! Nor tutions the formula should chaste and chosen souls throw my book away. like many other dogmatic formulas you. nearly always forbid true nature of things. the and in love we are all C483 . and you say that you love each other. which delight man. also. One is weak from excessive youth as from old age.
body. of symquivering wave pathy. that not all enter by the great highway of nature. in turn. but so many are those who throng and Crowd to enter there. laugh and weep together! Two sense. they are because the original sin of their loves condemns dangerous life sown ness. The of all our institutions. but through the true sources secret gates and a unhappy them to oblique ways reach their aim. From to C493 . est sincerity alone can cure us of this malady. gaze at. a melancholy vaticination of life lived but better still. every social class . To see. two exterior worlds. J and run togetherin one heart. with despondency and bitter- All the natural flows of the true and great love collect in They are drops which slowly trickle into the one source. but which interweave in two. but one that by which unite around a unique center. a shiver of sympathy ran through the sails and the felt shrouds and caused them to creak simultaneously. but organisms. it has become an integral part of every fiber of our hearts. it does not spare the highest and strongest natures . only and true source the beautiful words of human most beautiful among speech ! To suffer together. of love? Which are the paths There should be an only that lead to the sacred temple? source. the wind propelled one near to the other. depths of our ^ is Cl~Sympathythe of love Sympathy. which is civil rather than national. an only path. of the framework Which are counterfeiters. where all expect the greatest joy. they need.MORNING unmistakably CREPUSCULES OF LOVE the greatgreatest liberty. to feel. ITwo solitary ships in were the desert of the ocean plowiirgthrough the waves. to each otherJVA spark shoots forth from desires: such is the firstfact of love. and cast out a hawser which pressed by a common they shall that moment should tie them together. and there they gather and form rivulets and streamlets that. because it penetrates every race. two nerves various ways carry various sensations. collect in the channel of our veins until they effuse as the warm. to desire the contact of two unknown each other .
waters. genius and character exercise very little influence CS03 . Woman has within nevertheless. and where a real deformity appears. expose themselves to the same plow the same land. in the sentiment of by the which we desire the beautiful which is satisfied object the four definitions of love and are about to love. in the greatness of their position. Love is the or suggest this idea cupidity of embrace for the pleasure of those who covet a particular beauty. if elevated by a gigantic genius and an impassioned heart. the that it may survive the old and weak elements? beautiful custodian of germs. but in the attitude of their expands characters. and long and sigh for the same The most rapid and ardent sympathies have their sources in the admiration of form. and mediocre forms can. they possessed a fascination which belonged.THE BOOK OF LOVE dangers. what is love if not the choice of the beauty.there are three which express Love is a desire of beauty . or as an esthetic malady. the vestal of life. is immediately affected by the beauty of virile forms can also love a man merely because he is handsome. and but in her and is much higher. to the world of beauty. the selection of the best in order that it may triumph over the mediocre.must be more not loves in her the form above all other things. and man Woman prodigy of heroism. " What is love if better forms in order to perpetuate them? :fjj jJAnd. still excite ardent passions. But these are always unstable sympathies. enjoyed voluptuousness of being loved . and character frequently than is the and genius will seduce her more The ugliest men case the superhuman with men. that is to say. In love. Among that Tasso was wont to discuss. or lives only as a than we. a power fascinated by something that shines or flashes or thunders. love is dead. the field of sympathy herself such of transmission of the germinative elements and such an accumulation of beauty as to be capable and the beauty of her comof doing without the power panion but she wants to feel conquered by a superior force. a selection of youth and strength in order Woman. . in the power of their genius. Love is the union through pleasure of in fact.
to see. unknowingly.MORNING if they do not assume CREPUSCULES a OF LOVE beautiful form. despise the beautiful as a vulgar fascination and of dull and clouded minds. by dominating intellect. heart. some tues virthat bear a deep sexual mark. equally as if it came warm and penetrating. or ambition. or the insuperable cleverness of affection. There may be a philosopher boasts of having loved a homely but intelligent who but let him search the depths of his and sensible woman. And when she happens to love an ugly man.by dazzling is conquered by the power of some Sex is too great a portion of the economy virile mark. to desire each other at once and to embrace with such a look from above . to admire. To meet suddenly. all beautiful and all femiwoman. hazthe most game chosen form of beauty. ardent symardous fortunate combination in the great. be convinced yet that beauty is should not and the supreme inciter of every amorous sympathy. It rarely happens that two of life. of form was seduced by the form. seek. let him study the sources of his love. and this is always that some the paper dikes of one our sophisms and our a flashesfrom the eyes of a man and of a woman who meet for the firsttime should kindle This is the ideal of the most fire only. In other words. of a character or of an intelligence. and he will find that he admires and loves in his companion those virtues ness essentially feminine : the flexuous grace of tenderand the kind intelligence of the heart. or the coquettish forms of a refreshing which are and modest intellect. one pathies. by virtues that bear a deeply either heroic between if reticences . nate domiancLesthetics This is not and govern all amorous phenomena^ enough : even those who believe that their judgment in making a selection soars to the loftiest spheres of the ideal world. the proud despiser nine. involuntarily. of life to be eliminated from our calculations by our caprice. to blush together and to feel all at once that two hearts beat louder and mutely make this sweet C513 . too large to be dammed and love is a stream and directed courage. to feel inundated by a gaze. let him remember love is the passion of youth.
even in the space of bliss. they say to each other. also may a sympathy thousand victories. while the other hardly begins to stir. Woand proudly the spell of the most ardent sympathy.refuses the too intense light and protects her heart with all the refrigeratives and sedatives at her even under Man has already said to woman a hundred times command. he acknowledges his defeats. so to the highest summits frequently that nascent sympathies proceed that the one has already carried a man of desire and passion. and if an most instantaneous love unexpected satisfaction desire.THE confession: "I BOOK OF LOVE " love you. fleeing from each other. with the flash of his eyes : ' ' hardly dares to say : Perhaps I will love you !" And away run those two happy beings. the other only faintly vibrates. It is true that love is not a battle but a long war.love may sometimes resemble a glosudden rious rape rather than a true and real passion. until the supreme languor of a long battle is smothered in two harmony. and when the first victory follows a is followed mineous by a hundred. trembling. so different reserved to woman from ours that she cannot feel with us the same sudden and Man hesitati says everything with a look. the fultake deep roots in our hearts. The is not the most durable. unviolent emotions. pervade us all intensity with and rallying after nearly every struggle. Even when two loves are called to high they will soon spread when and fortunate destinies. and you are mine!" joy too rare. man. until the sympathy of the one equals that of the other. a task is their robust wings together in the vicissitudes of love. too beautiful. It happens more all this is a mortals have unequally. which the longer they The energies of amorous last the larger they grow. with a sigh. the one already throbs. at the same time with the light C523 . notes which vibrate together with the sweetest while. may and reach the ideal perfection of coupling of twinkling extensivehess. "I love you!" and to nature ' ' Thanks !" repeat with another sigh : desire. lowers her eyelids. follow the laws of elementary physics governing the forces. one which few known and few will know. " I love you !" The woman.
All other affectionate ferent difsentiments arise in a manner from love. unnatural origin. whose nature it is to be born amidst thunder as as long and lightning. may have come ence. an or of pain. which the sources of love. of the earth do not attend the birth of the new ness where nature does not rend the air with a cry of voluptuousdeceive me: a friendship.as gods or demons should be born. and a very good those ways that lead to it through of paths. And thus. and the Prince to light with the assistance of an of Affections cannot come intelligentand affectionate midwife and the domestic cares a coruscation of the skies and a trembling of relatives.revenge. however. vanity. Princes into the world like the masses come cannot . but does cast forth now scintillant and then more flashes. affection.if he feels her by any other name day that he loves her. well constituted destined for a prolificexistence. such as gratitude. we have arrived at those frontiers which separate the only legitimate way by which we may enter the temple from oblique and unused love. to the worst of a time. which. lust. loves that rise slowly. because woman many give that name to true. real loves. Where love . Friendship can be a source one.^In ordinary cases. approaching CS33 .MORNING CREPUSCULES OF LOVE of those stars that never set and that of the lightning flash that plows the skies. and those of the nature of lightning last lightning. but I shall certainly not christen the new-born with the sacred baptism of love. no one can into existsome sort of a sentiment. slowly die away. a healthy love. compassion. should begin with a violent shock that measures the depths from which the warm sympathy sprang forth. whether born and suddenly or slowly. The most perfect love is a sun that f never sets. talk to her and perhaps live with her without calling but that of sister or friend. such love resembles those tropical some house. during a long When' one has been able to see a woman but it is always leads step by step pathological. In all cases. naturally. fruits grown in our climate by means and hotof manure friendship is possible between man Whether and is an old problem which will never be solved.
friendship becomes love.THE BOOK OF LOVE the threshold of desire. perhaps. C543 . this kind. but they always have a cold skin and a somewhat lymphatic hue. of friendshipithout love between man w men and women can and woman. However. I shall say that their affection is no longer that but that of two neuwhich exists between man and woman. the most innocent of desires may arise in them. because from the lymphatic they cod-liver oil as well. oscillate suavely and lingeringly in front of the temple without ever entering it. It is by a conventional politeness that to these loves we give the name of friendship. one can any form of mild affection pass to love. who love each other and who have never a kiss from each other? Yes. both physical and If friendship unites two eunuchs of more than half of man. held back. sometimes. How How many are these moral eunuchs? many love without desire? Count them and then I shall be able to tell you how many are the cases. in an to cruel mutilation. that I may not to go on beating about the bushes without attacking seem and solving the question because I find it difficult. a hydropathic cure. and I will certainly not condemn such innocent falsification but a true and real friendship. as long as the most chaste.Are there in this sublunary world a man and a woman glad to see each desired even other. nevertheless. then. by the rigid hand of duty. that distinguish this serene is not possible except on sex affection between one : man and every sexual mark in the two And the elimination of the condition obliterate beings that have shaken hands. and more therefore much easily from that friendship between knowingly man and woman admitted by us as possible.with all the specificcharacteristics woman. I wish. and. From They require restoratives. tral beings. well ascertained. are friends and I admit the possibility of the psychological phenomenon of friendship between two persons of different sex. those two angels. . Long-lasting and healthy loves may arise in this way. long as a single desire of the as individual is such a moral.to be more so explicit. that it destroys other's person is possible in them.
and it no is necessary that another love descend upon them to soak like cake dipped in wine. and he told the truth . but love out of is easilymoved . they often ask of men what is love.not out of when a man lewdness but of pity. you have helped out of her poverty. too.jfYou. whose number is much greater than supposed. you. old bachwho believe in the love of the grateful chambermaid. which is almost the same. There are men and women cold and equal for all. That mild and sweet affectionwhich is love out of gratitude not be confused with that commiseration which must women especially feel for those who love them desperately. and compare the descriptionsby others to what they feel in their hearts. tutors. really love. she cannot look on Woman pitvTl cally apatheti- suffers. it may be a good guide. but thisgoes on one condition. like the naturalist who turns and turns an insect in his hands. that one should arrive first and the other joinhim afterward. who believe in the love of the orphan girl whom elors. you. Their them. that is to say. and finallyexclaims : "It really sympathies books and are seems to me that this insect is the Amor I. and frequently yields. who believe in the love of a pupil. on the main road of symmeet otherwise they would never O pathy.and to whom they often concede not love. more. If gratitude takes you by the hand and leads you on the road of sympathy. ." vents mologists of the entoFor all these gentlemen. but nothing who very much resemble temperature as cold-blooded animals. the verse of the poet is most true. They know not how to love of themselves. which have the same or the ambient that surrounds them. mate remember that gratitude alone did never generate a legitilove. this ' ' Love who to none beloved to love remits" sang the poet. to saturate therii. that betweeVthe two who love each other there shall be no other difference but in the length of the step . do love. compares it to the pictures before him. but can generate little heat.MORNING may CREPUSCULES OF LOVE also pass to the scrofulous stage. which is also coupled with the legiti- CSS] . and they always love out of gratitude or compassion. gentlemen. A common variety of kind of loves is that which originatesfrom gratitude.
The woman who. may suffer the most excruciating pain. in Compassion is the benevolent chord which vibrates even natures brutally egotistical while in woman. love. calumniate her who love out of compassion. sighs and suffers for her. rich in so many Woman. and if they can live long in a mild climate. who really loves for the firsttime. This is the essential character of compassion. but woe sympathy should awake in her heart. sometimes concedes love. but more frequently concedes can himself without affection and through pride. may believe that she loves truly may to her.keeps him always in a state of so subjection. his tributes of blood and of ardors. however. They strongly resemble the verses of him who is not a poet . the god of firedoes not pervade. has not yet experience love other than that inspired in her by comany passion. that true equality can never exist between the one who inspires compassion and the one who feels it. it leads us to even when. unfortunately. who demands his rights. ment. and long and thorny paths. All loves out of compassion are forms of -affectionate commiseration.and is ready. tender and mild. man a often takes advantage of this later. deceive herself. to Man.THE mate BOOK OF LOVE pride of being able to transform a wretched being into And happy man. by narrow. and be made to fight the bloodiest struggles between duty and passion. has made him happy. they do not know the sacred agitation of the sibyl . and lack the highest notes of passion. if a real and warm and deeply. affections. too. . as we shall see further on in the course of our studies. between com- nsen . however. is. does not inflame them. weakness of Eve and wickedly abuses it. it can vibrate until it tortures her. this is always under the influence of its bastardly origin. of its own nature. This sentihowever. and the poor creature. they can. to him who weeps. and by placing a hand on him who suffers. that she may make a comparison between the true love and the false one! The weak little plant of an affection long guarded by commiseration will fall and be carried away by the fury of the impetuous stream. be suddenly overthrown by the appearance of the true god. together with voluptuousness. of benign protection.
The woman loves us in that way has always who her heel heads . who waives the primacy of conquest is a lion that allows his mane to be shorn. in turn. Hence many challenges sent and taken which lead oftener to a conquest of bodies than to true love. revenge or lechery.MORNING CREPUSCULES OF LOVE miseration and love. as would the mordant pungency of cheese is passionately fond of this too old. as curiosity is man. always a mild and disguised form of May eunuch. woman's in the face of nature we commit an act of cowardice and invert the most elementary laws of the physiology of the The man sexes. is an immediate catch the cold. rather than by compassion. but I would prefer to be loved by caprice. The great woman-lovers. who have long sinc~e renounced the virtue of sublime love. one of the strongest threads in the psychological web of wofruit may stimulate the appetite of a palate too dull. and you may find lesson in voluptuousthem ardently wishing to give the first ness to the innocent as well as to the most cunning most difficultand subjugate and oldest libertines. and although the sweet pressure of a little foot may be as dear as the caress of her hand. solely to tie chains to their triumphal chariot a new with amorous slave They neatly always like to conquer the a new victim. and different characters. wild A alternating of sour and burning tastes. lonely fishwho lives in the most dark recesses of solitude and chastity. And the daughters of Eve. the goad of morbid curiosityhas its share in this choice of victims. very willingly persist in throwing the baited hook to herself to be loved. fortune protect you all from love out of compassion ! A stillmore turbid source of love is vanity. of this succession of inexperienced in love and men men only too well versed in C573 . are accustomed to conquer all the conquerable solely for vanity's sake. that she has never a woman on our permitted stimulus of sudden ambition to the man who knows that he is strong and adores the daughters of Eve. a Samson with clipped hair. to hear that is very beautiful and chaste. I know only too well that among the thousand forms of cowardly love there is also the cowardice which begs love on bended knees. Besides vanity. the frivolous woman tart.
daily the puerile ostentation of those of his loves which had the bastardly origin of vanity. true upstart that he is. in the midst of luxury and pleasure and in the most kick you out of his presence when you manner. and will the satisfyhim that he pleased for a day. courteous a man brought and a woman leastcan afford it. does not humiliate him. when vanity alone has together. a year woman who. ological excluding lust. that he sought her love only to adorn stead. It is. woman. she has desired to be loved she is about to dismiss the blandly. and lechery may go so far in these natures as to cause even them to love through mere curiosity of the unknown. with very refined and generous tact. she succeeds with subtle art in substituting a sincere and warm ambition that had inspired the passion for the narrow attack and the conquest: one of the thousand proofs that CSS] . feigned to love him. a month. No sweet man victim of a a feelshumiliated in thinking that he was the if caprice . The friendly enemy not perceiving it.may. always a love that resembles the rich man who was born a peasant and.THE BOOK OF LOVE it. and love her for herself. How often has he reached the lowest stage of cowardice by casting up to the woman who blessed him with love. perhaps. pretends not to understand that she is desired and loved solely out of vanity. inwith another trophy his triumphal chariot ! Woman. will give him a testimonial servant who which makes him happy. however. which is not always necessary in these pathAt any rate. almost always. and gradually succeeds in making men for herself alone. a posthumous sympathy and a may awaken a real love with healthy members long life. To be born well is really the first lem problife in all cases. And other times. and democracy itselfcannot succeed of in overthrowing the ancient aristocracy unless it can boast of a legitimate and noble birth. and we rarely see him renounce who accuses Man. even tastes. of vanity his female companion. or loved him very " " of vanity alone. out even even when when has wearied her. all feel dejected made the target many of a vainglorious speculation. shows of tener than the latterthe most grotesque and clownish forms of that sentiment.
is reduced to a skeleton which is lust and a poor.MORNING woman CREPUSCULES OF LOVE is superior to us in sentiment in the same degree as we are superior to her in mental strength . like the eagles. may the most see her victim snatched away from her by the firstcomer. may. and to every day of their lifeis a difficult and rare conquest. and after having brought into play all the witchery of body and heart. which for very many is all they think of love. which is a form of hatred. Even perfidious cunning of the arts of pleasing blunts against insurmountable difficulties. spring found to be sweeter the splendid garments of imagination and heart. Loves born of lust are the most difficult preserve. it can perform the prodigy of being born of lechery. the prolificmother of most vulgar loves. face a new guilty by flaunting in the latter's finding it in one day. or better.were born on the highest rocks of psychology. ardent. to seek it. of love out of rewho acts as the callunfortunate paranymph bird of a degraded passion does not always perceive the the trap. allows himself to be loved. Nude love. and often amuses person who pretends to love him and those who unconcern- The C59] .but the glass that satisfies it is always made of the most fragile crystal and may at fall and be shattered into a hundred pieces. Lust is. to wish to humiliate the love. by incestuous any moment Revenge. loves. What ! conwretched thing ! A practice of lasciviousness Woman verted into a cup which we prefer to any other because we have long been accustomed to satiateour thirstout of it. this sentiment is to many only the necessity of drinking at a than any other. a stepmother of love. at times. nay. to have been possessed before having given the kiss of love I What ignominy! What baseness! And yet love is such a magician that. there is the source venge. To be deceived and to know it. become a mother. stripped even of the robust fleshlent to itby the sentiment of the beautiful. Love may be warm. one of the thousand proofs that woman always endeavors to elevate even the basest loves. nuptials. while we so to force under the often want Caudine Forks of voluptuousness even those loves which. woman. thirsty. To without have possessed before having loved.
but I would feel satisfiedif I had important ones. conquered. do not realize that we are actors in a comedy staged to humiliate him or her who is loved always and more than In some ever. and the cure as to on a level with a quick and perfect that we are is impatiently paid and impatiently taken a physician who leave of because his services are no longer required. and belong heart. In an analytical work. lust. and it does not permit us to see that. It frequently occurs that the love is not one. desired. and a new on the ruins of the old one. in other to the ugliest pathology of the human instances love out of revenge becomes. so that it would be difficult fiber or whether the new-born is a legitimate son or a bastard. instead. a and violent affection. perhaps. I certainly do not claim to have studied all the pure and impure sources of love. and while. however great may be the care exercised in order not to detach adherent it is next to impossible to avoid breaking some things. fortunately for us. through the virtue of either or both of the lovers. the unconscious minister of the justice love. to state fall in with compassion. very humiliating cases we serve as rubefacient we and so sink so or a low poultice be placed leech. becomes.THE BOOK OF LOVE edly witness the shameful spectacle. however. in the period of a day we have been seen. but the desire for revenge may. vanity. like mustard expense is who have become acquainted in such a strange manner. inflated with pride. touched upon the most and outlined the afterward of this sentiment. genealogy destroying anything. These. Thus. first the physician and of and to the woman love arises the lover of the offended. A slight but sincere sympathy may be associated with great vanity. we display our feathers like a peacock. or is formed by the source of collecting of various streamlets. but double. a true and real love which cures the old wound and opens a wide horizon of happiness to the man effected at our immediately dismissed. and it may then be said that he who was to be the revengeful executioner. are the most unfortunate cases. may meet at the same warm C603 . time and fecungratitude. Vanity makes us blind.
The excessive disin the age of the lovers. but out of a strange resemblance which the latter bears to a person long loved and. thus it happens that one may love the daughter after having loved the mother. and this element ical alone would sufficeto allot a place to them in the hierarchscale of nobilityX The influence which the first origin exercises over Loves than ' ' once lasting and so prepotent that more affections suffering from a dangerous illness recovered so love is suddenly at the tender remembrance of these thoughts : You really loved me one day of your life. in which one has and there have been cases loved even proport three successive generations." ' ' You are mine by love and nothing else. loses his dignity." "And Often yet I loved you!" a man born in the highest place and of noblest blood sinks gradually into the mire. in some as may a with And so it happens survived the shipwreck. larger the part played in them by sympathy. but in those poor shreds I have always found something that had remained intact and revealed its ancient and noble origin . Sometimes a human being loves another not for the latter's sake. such traces of his ancient origin voice.MORNING date a CREPUSCULES OF LOVE love which later may flow limpid and pure in itsbed. I would. muddy was an although its source stream. his fortune. perhaps. exhaled even to place gives to those loves a character that induces me them at least on the frontiers that separate physiology from ical. I have seen loves sold and bought again. term them "physio-pathologthe of mixed origin are the purer and warmer." pathology. up in the gutter. therefore. already lost. in the majestic refined taste. and with my own and passed through the hands . impure. of a hundred hucksters at the public auction of vice and infamy. even the most and behavior. I have seen passions dragged in the have tattered and foul. well-born love. superficial appearance of manners yet if you observe him attentively you will certainly find in tone the nobility of some of his gesture. like a velvet rag picked mire of abjection. a certain mummy vium effluby the most carefully embalmed bodies.
recognize love in our own important for notwithstanding the fact that it is much more happiness to know whether we are loved than to realize our that we really are in love. affinities about to become loves. but we cannot so manifold cast any blame upon it. and even the cases. The heart beats more clouds pass sky some quickly than usual. And love. growing friendships. and the human eye may be easily deceived. it is always easier good diagnosis in many cases. are all crepuscular things faintly delineated on the gray horizon. To distinguishin others the true love from the mendacious. assumes for us to make a and varied disguisesas to render it difficult However. while in order to explore your own to J^. love begins When we the rose-water bath of our modern doubts as to the may entertain some realityof the passion before our eyes. but will we have a we it If the heart is forced to answer.THE eyes BOOK OF LOVE fabulous resurrections that seemed to think of the miracles. and redemptions that caused me divine intervention and of the galley-slaves too arcadically witnessed I have rehabilitated through philanthropists. or when one C62] . in these most powerful microscope cannot distinguish today the egg of the lion from that of the rabbit. One truly loves when to the agonizing cry: "A man! A " !" a friendly distant voice replies: Do not weep . perhaps in the distant mist and evanesce behold. One loves when one involuntarily has on one's One lips one name only a hundred times in a day. you may be helped by this physioheart psychological essay. a lightning flash. may. or fine weather? storm solemn mistakes as the make the same meteorologists in their almanacs or from the university chair. at times. One loves when the desire of the beloved is placed above everything else. Embryos in their firststage are all similar. home than in that of others. am attention to the phase of your sentiments will suffice. and in the serene in the deep azure. Incipient sympathies. I woman scant " here !" One loves when. too. hears loves when one suddenly blushes or pales if he or a name the familiar swish of a garment that approaches. after hearing that voice. the cry subsides and the deep void of desire is filled.
| C63H . nor quieted by ambition. to abandon us. in every and when one to pronounce beautiful enough?" of the organism. deep commotion that something great and unusual is in us. One loves when one's eyes are always fixed on one point of the star-map where the creature dwells ries who has become half of ourselves. "Can abyss of one's own loved?" One loves when in every fiber of the heart. must carry away with itself large piece of bleeding fleshand tortured nerves. the love a that. that does not even lose itselfin the dreams of the night . One loves when one hur' ' Am I to the mirror at every instant to ask of oneself. word which one was pronouncing a hundred times before. the sap of life is stirred and rushes intimate. restlessly explores the I be conscience with the query. us with thrillingvoice warns penetrating. This is the true love.MORNING ceases CREPUSCULES a OF LOVE. so that an through every vein and every nerve. nor cooled by distance. as though God atom had visitedus. that is not appeased by lust.
To or much desires. gemmulae have prepared and made ready to call and attract each other . The part assigned to is simple man and requires only strength. be avaricious when everything She must collect all her meager urges her to be generous. strength to defend a gate vigorously attacked. curtain-walls and and overthrow. it does not suffice that the powerful energies of have accumulated.CHAPTER THE FIRST WEAPONS OF III LOVE" COURTSHIP that high chemistry be subtle and mysterious must which unites the germinative elements of two organisms of life and generate a new different sex to renew organism ! It does not sufficethat in the calm and long silence of thirty or How forty years. the mission difficult task of defending herself. ramparts. intellectual or made yet always of attack and seduction. To the human has been assigned . and cry out rather. All this long activity of nature has prepared things in order that the great phenomenon may occur. half lived by a man the and half by a woman. barricades and lunettes. She must repudiate what she . nature has assigned a task difficult more and cruel. to let herself be defeated slowly and chastely. moral. she must struggle against the voluptuousness which invades her. it still does not suffice sexual affinities that a sudden sympathy shall prepare the spark and the conflagration. to the human female. physical or by many complex elements. the other hand. on woman. repel him whom she loves. all the intricate system of fortificationswhich woman self to defend hererects against man an energy . but the atoms that seek each other and ardently desire to unite long oppose each other in order to rekindle the ardors must and male the aggressiv centuplicate the energies. to assail one after the other. exact sacrifices when she would ask only for kisses.
it because we seek in them." and the other antwo swers. In Paraguay. she wants her comwoman our tastes. a most impatient young man. and. from the most tender to the most impassioned. but and the instantaneous ardor of a battle will suffice.but all may be reduced to this general formula. The she would like to press sweetly battlesof desire and coquetry. race Every day the most beautiful half of the human throws in our faces the rude accusation that we are much less exacting in that.THE FIRST WEAPONS OF LOVE" COURTSHIP aloud. a good mother and a good nurse. there invari- loved. the fundamental lines of the physiology of the sexes. the one says. and C65] . more for the good voluptuousness prepares the future generations come female. in two months. with sobbing voice and tyrannical accent. If certain conis exercise so great and immediate a sway over us. and invert their amorous arises a violent disorder." When the sexes exchange and tactics. the than it seems. And the beautiful Creole. Even when the sweet chain of sympathy prepares a sure love for lovers. the differentmissions in the amorous assigned to each of the two sexes tours strategy require that this should be done. "Immediately. impatience and reticence are fought in the various countries and in the various epochs with widely differentstrategy and tactics. and virtue and esthetics are submerged in the same shipwreck. satisfiedwith the external forms. would repeat in every key. unwittingly and involuntarily. good mother and the good nurse. to believe himself who had reasons their strategy ably missions." that Paraguayan tion girl was evolving the philosophy of seducand coquetry. "Later. we rarely seek to determine the substance. does not seek a fecundator only . where laxity of customs prevails. would reply for ten You have known me smilingly: "But why today? In this artless reply days only. who this one word: "Today!" knew nothing of Darwin and sexual selection. To fructify a human the flash of a desire. of ardor and modesty. And it is natural that it should happen this way. who shall beand the better. perhaps. "Wait !" to him whom to her bosom.
we read the inexorable laws which govern it. Much of this elementary strategy was lost in the stormy vicissitudesof modern civilization . the protector herself as to the of her weakness . This is how. every hour. in a hundred ways. ambition. but she does not Even succeed in finding the kernel of the thing. in the initial web of love. many a time the ardent rays of a thousand desires have showered upon her. perhaps. we go on gleaning from the fields. powand ardently hers. it is necessary that man and woman should court each other for a longer or shorter period of time. they must reconquer each other every day. she wants the man erfully who will be lastingly. virtues. For some been aware that she is young and beautiful . purpose? He must know at her command numerous adorers would all young. through multiform hypocwe fall at her feet. After having their physical. just as modesty. shall build the nest: is he an architect? He shall defend it He shall train from rapacious animals: is he courageous? and enrich his children : has he talent. it is necessary to scrape off much varnish and snatch away many rags in order to touch the robust members of the risy. with the seductions of the heart. moral and intellectual been rapidly conquered through their glances. They should show to each other. nevertheless. how clearly nature explains to us the inevitable fickleness of human males. picking from gardens and orchards and roaming through forests and over mountains. primitive passions. she wants to assure deep energy of the passion of him who says he loves her . tenacity of wants to time she has all this. From morning till night. and robust . all our perfections. their polygamic wanderings and their unreasonable requirements. beauties. handsome a man want . It is necessary that the great god should receive the homage of all our beauties. all our C663 . chastity and the are the faithful guardians of sublime reticence of woman the destinies of the future family. she The man sound the abysses of heart and mind.THE panion to BOOK OF LOVE be the defender of her future children. grace and talent. in the rarer and more fortunate cases of two lovers suddenly and simultaneously struck by a sympathy equally warm and energetic.
to say to the puppy which jumps to catch the cracker from arts with which ' ' higher. is yours!" These reciprocal seductions especially succeed where dissimilari deeper between the two lovers. who feels sure of being already loved brings to the altar a fresh sheaf of corn ears. fiery is the battle between Longer. In many cases the intriguant holds desires. or from any other difference of must some importance between the two that unite to make one individual. too. and for themselves alone. he also approaches every moment fruit. beauty." the young girl seems "Higher. every flower. ' ' and exultantly exclaims : This. The daughters of Eve never regret the time lost in the firstfights prepare the most splendid of love." off a step further every day "the aim of his warm ing and while the avid and ardent hand is on the point of pickby an invisible and cruel fruit. One hundred volumes not sufficeto describe the craftinesses with which man a woman's woman conquers love. more persistent. and always repeats: carrying a new "This. It is then necessary that the increased energies of the one should conquer by degrees the treasures of the other. not only do long wars victories. and who sighs and of the entire world to the man cry the women asks for their love. doubting that he is the god of his companion. a new treasure. sublime profusion of riches and forces! The woman. and richer is the trophy of victory." cry and should Higher. the door of the temple. but the firststruggles are of themselves. Sublime contest of homages and tributes. and every fruit which our hands can snatch away from fruitful nature. is yours 1" And man.THE FIRST WEAPONS OF LOVE" COURTSHIP in order to carry to the altar of our idol every leaf.more desire and conquest. a better part of love'sparadise. whether proare ceeding from differentsympathy. too. higher. still her rosy hands . this is withdrawn the higher. and a long C673 . although not. also. to enumerate warms the hundred thousand tepid sympathies or carries to delirium a great passion. age. still hand. so that the differencesmay vanish diminish and an equilibrium be brought about without or which would perfect love is impossible. a fresh bouquet of flowers.
* battle of enticements. on the contrary. Coquetry is only a form of this art of seduc- ogy. however. no whether Above all. hensible true love she wishes to entwine a cases. is one immortal new and every day it grows afresh with new ardor and yearning. you may the blest. coquetry has only itselffor aim. To satisfy it. share the passion or not. Self-esteem. coquetry is a vice. and every day advancing. you must redouble your arts of strategy and tactics. and broader sense and for Darwin. and you will choose the best among the best. defending you have the brilliantbut dangerous mission of yourselves from a compact phalanx of adorers. Much more natures that it springs up and it is so deeply rooted in some before puberty and disappears only with death. coquetry. True and deep passions ignore impatience and weariness. proffer your hand toVthosewho have long waited and long struggled. The first and the desires of libertinism. they leave the disputed fieldstrewn with corpses . in the less reprewishes to be loved by many. and when you. by using this word in a much all animals. frequent in woman. plays in it a part so great that its history belongs rather to the domain of pride than of love. and and conquest] belongs already to the fieldof patholit is also seen in man. If you are really powerful. tired in turn. victory cannot fail you. is called by the English-speaking people courtship. around we a new new matter woman garland of sympathies. and. (When the conquest is made. or conquest of love by nature's law. of itsmost useful tools .THE BOOK OF LOVE string of easy conquests is not worth one fierce and bloody If. the need of pleasing is one of the most fundamental elements of love. has impressed upon it the precious and wholly tion m scientificark.it is necessary to awaken daily desire in those who have already been vanquished. and. and passions in those who have not been conquered yet. however. While the heart is given to one C68H . physiological seduction lowers its weapons and withdraws. Train your impatience and kill the to withdraw are the pallid loves weak with time. rest assured that you are among Physiological seduction. fighting every day. O daughters of Eve. Physiological seduction is a necessity.
seek it elsewhere.THE FIRST WEAPONS OF " LOVE" COURTSHIP alone. bring into play the subtle arts of the diplomacy of cannot coquetry.the laughter of the masquerader . Readers. The virtue of the the coquette is like that of the asbestos. then coquetry can be said to be most means pure and most holy. for you have taken the wrong road to Where you are. by a true and strong passion. True love. sighs perhaps. if you have the misfortune of loving a coquettish forget that coquetry belongs to the history of never woman.pyrotechnics. absolute. complete possession of all the beloved. the tintinnabulationof the fool's bells. half-chaste kisses and semi-libertine caresses to those she does not wish to lose as adorers and whom she deems it opportune to keep " in bondage. because it cannot have the patience to study them.and the huge task of pleasing many wearies the sentiment and breaks the vertebras of character in such a way as to make impossible the development of any sincere and ardent affection. nor has he even read a page of the physiology of the human heart. or the sublime palpitations of the companion of coquetry. go and it. torn. perhaps. as it were. anatomical.in questions of love. guilty of no other wrong than believing mendacity and treachery impossible. have fallen but once. because it has been promised to all. but do not seek ardent voluptuousness. while they hurl anathemas at the woman who seeing many women may. and if you thirst for love. The most indefatigable coquettes and the most wornlove . : t692 . also. which does not an affection which never was seek voluptuousness only. but the full. acrobatism. tying them to herself with the subtle but strong In the gravest cases the heart cannot be thread of hope. Every day the moral sense rebels at out selling smiles and desires every hour and. the lust of sentiment. she dispenses smiles. it is a virtue entirely physical. given to any one. and with love which does not burn them. not falling flirts never to be virtuous. and if. posing as Lucretias. do seek play and folly. it does not possess a shadow of and he who values moral sense.which resists1 fireby its fire-proofnature. impunely playing with lasciviousness which they do not feel.
to tease him and to enjoythe superhuman voluptuousness of placing her foot on strength. who is the weaker of the two. and feels the rough skin of his herculean nature when the man body. who is the stronger of through which affections enter. threatens and prays . debase himself. after having tossed his leonine hair throws himself habitually at the feet of the woman and begs an alms of love. lightning she wants only to be the Franklin of the human it to herself and conduct it along the most and to attract " in the dust. Natural seduction is the art of making allour values well by presenting them with the best possible apappreciated pearance. "Lion for all. It is a genius that knows not how to adapt itselfto the domestic cares of the home life. and. it does not know the game of chess. When a difficult problem belonging to the moral world Don . perhaps. is the most famous chess-player ever known. Before throwing himself down nor does he he must have shown flashes and thunder. loves to disarrange with her gentle hands the mane of the king of animals. he obeys"one of the most inexorable laws of nature and does not appear a coward. and from strength derives his most irreseductions. fulminates. And woman. . pleads for love. he also feels caressed by the soft contact of a woman's nervous as though redoubled . overthrown. and when man. knows how to win battles. it overthrows .feel changed into that perfect being which is the sum of a man and a woman. it but is wrong in one thing only : kills.THE or BOOK OF LOVE the calmness to learn them. weeps. and both.who any attention on the buttons of the uniforms and on barrack Love shines. lamb for myself!" such is the man who claims a woman. And when grace has conquered strength the daughter of Eve feels complete . on of the sexes. thunders. to feel it This quiver underneath and be able to say: "It is mine!" is one of the most general forms of the reciprocal seduction his knees and.but does not waste a general. regulations. in the fullness of bliss. we betterourselves as much as we can. It curses and blesses. knock at the door Man. on the contrary. To please. Coquetry. wounded. made beautiful by nature and art. sistible the two who love. subtle wires of her organism. weeping.
which the most manly than ever in order to seduce and conquer the love of the daughters of Eve. of our desires.the most powerful. violence.never an Adam. but. pin . talent. aU^otriers? is seductive above ^alTotJiCTs? BeauI^^raceJTriect WrncIT are the virtuesjthatake a m marTiascTnating . higher and higher. there should ever remain a female. Which woman foolish and the most mysterious things in the world. the most ardent that of loving and being loved. the only way to resolve itis that of simplifying it by leading it again to the broad highway of physiology. seduction is a rape of voluptuousness. trying to follow blindly its laws in the human world : there is art. To read and re-read the great book of nature. Without love. she may the bottom.if she likes.^bflxe Strength. so that woman. after having stripped her hero. but in his loves let him always be as manly as ever. seem there sympathy. vanities. This is manifest at every step in our studies on the are the elements that make a sentiment of love.a tamed lion or a roaring lion. when it is inspired by a true and treachery. or a bargain in mordant itis either a crime or a vice. when it is the alliance of all our forces guided by the most legitimate. never great love. may always find Seduction is never baseness. and spur his talent so that it may throw its treasures at the feet of his idol. to the greatestsublimity which human hands and poet's wings may attain. may torture his ambition in order to bend at it under the heel of love. Woman may dress. and under the wings of an angel and a cherub there should always be And man an Eve. he may be a hero martyr. taken back to the virgin source of the physiology of the sexes. there is an opening through which we see much of the light of future progress. courage. must Man make himself more the type of their respective sexes. and woman in order to must always make herself more womanly And both must refineand elevate please the sons of Adam. There is seduction.THE ElRST WEAPONS OF LOVE" COURTSHIP to presents itself us.never or a tyranny. assume with the fireof all her physical and moral seductions.with all the allurements us ers adorn her hair with the fragrant flowall the classic graces and consume of sentiment. Spartacus or Caesar. of art .
and has its principal in those powerful energies which. resisting. though a part of the energies develop in the reciprocal approaching of the which it seems to keep them apart. perhaps. it is. but the aim of these resistances. very many the male. of these pretenses of modesty is to excite the male as much as the female and to make the ground better fitted for fecundation. to have tendency to frustrate its supreme end. And this is probably an irreflective. must strate demonrelight the torch of life. born of love. it is of those sentiments which I term acquired or secondary. Animals to us some rudimentary forms originating from modesty.CHAPTER MODESTY IV the physiological of the psychical phenomena because that phenomenon difficult study of which is more is very indistinct and vague. I must admit it. Modesty extra-current . I. themselves when offering a females. selfa " " esteem one and love. too. sought by sacrifice to voluptuousness. At first it seemed to me a sentiment that rises within us in childhood as and during adolescence. It is possible that animals conceal a act. as spontaneous egotism.have changed the idea I firsthad of modesty. form . and because. because it is very variable in exacting in some the different races. through the various periods of life. automatic conceal Many of them of fear which rises before the aggressive demands of the male. hiding that which they desire to concede. therefore. but. through a battle or source a choice. and. although prepotent and most one Modesty is of its forms. I became convinced that modesty is taught first and learned afterward. later. is an of love. begin by fleeing. seems sexes.
would attoo much attention from all and excite perturbation in males and in females. for whom the anatomy of the organs and the defensive mission in thebattles of love make the actions of modesty more spontaneous and natural. And to the human female. nature has assigned her characteristically a the same mission. knowing that in those supreme moments they are exposed to every attack . making hundred times more modest than the male. because woman is to repulsive periodical infirmitiesand man shows The firsthand brought by woman to cover subject tract which.at the same time as the firstforms of coquetry. born in this way. makes modesty which dangerous and almost impossible. therefore. and that also in the human be more sion. to use better expression. this be so. independently of their greater psychical development. not to say all. were naturally forced to become. Modesty. living together in the family or in the tribe. in the we this sentiment appears firstin the female. by men they reach puberty. is perhaps born spontaneously. too. It is therefore natural that almost form of all. or the thousand offensive and defensive vicissitudesof love. Man then and woman. parts which the male wished to see gave origin to the first energies of the sentiment of modesty. however. because the aggressive misis reserved to him by nature. races of the earth present some other genital phenomena race the female should modesty. t distinguishhe special importance of copulative organs. at least in the last battles. is taught. would not know it. as the latter cannot. its limits of themselves. or. Modesty. but until the psychology of brutes is so limited that among them also the first will be allowed to assume light of modesty has penetrated. which arose. the most modest animals. until other things. in superior animals also.MODESTY their loves from our sight to protect themselves from danger. then we will If find justification fact that. Hence modesty elevated natures. or the aggressive mission of the male. together with many to children. by heredity in the more perfect and is taught to those who.and we determine a in such a way as to circumscribe it within the purely genital D3I] . modest than the male. if not concealed.
The true sentiment of modesty our actions of animal defends from profane eyes the organs and the mysteries of love and those parts of the body that are directly or indirectly esthetic needs which behold almost all races conceal first the genitals.THE field or to widen BOOK OF LOVE boundaries. then the entire trunk. in many places. and finally the head.and white cloth. We yields the place to the requirements of course of social inter- jealousy. the arms. the legs. physiologically. the breast. according to the traces of modesty and the greater or less development of this sentiment. in our own countries. or other psychical phenomena. The the amorous Sherihat prescribes that Turkish women the should cover back of the hand.or the sentiment of the beautiful. but here modesty or related to it. marked by the various fashions of dress. should be sufficientto persuade us that these two true elements often accompany modesty. The married women for many years they cannot see their male relatives. of modesty is among the most changeable in form and degree. to which. semi-modest and modest. an which show C743 .hiding from the father-in-law and the mother-intheir faces even and law. even it beyond they go out they wrap themselves in a when live in strictseclusion. The Armenian women of the population of southern India cover in their own their mouths wherever they happen to be. ourselves. Its ethnical history is written in the volume which I have dedicated to the ethnology of love. and that they stop from the knees down or from the breast up and not according to the national mode of dress. We must not confound with true modesty those other compel us to conceal some repulsive life. afterward the sides.they do not belong. He who mistook these conventional elements for modesty could write the great psychological heresy. Modesty is unlike intelligence. homes. selected from a thousand that be quoted. that this sentiment had its origin in the custom of covering the body. but permits them to expose the palm. find that the boundaries of accessory and conventional modesty are. We. And might examples. It will sufficehere to point out that I divide the nations into sentiment The immodest.
when a virgin and as pure as crystal. the queen of its most elect forms. if we shadow of modesty. while men of great inteland lofty passions admit that they hardly feel a however. admires the flowers of a garden. Woman is the vestal of modesty. deprived of of the treasures of love. and is like a man the olfactory sense. . generally before dawn: women but the men go into the water separately from the in any case. The Malaysians are were none very modest. refines and presents more importance to the growth of the moral and intellectual of a may say high order. . it is a sentiment which in superior natures of serving gestures depossesses infinitemysteries. possesses intact the entire treasure of the most exquisite chaslove. people. words a virtue prize. take off their chiHpas. she loses some Wandering through the garden of P5 3 . The Tehuelches of South America bathe very often. glances which and sighs which deserve to be immortalized by the pen of an or semi-modest artist. a physical self-respect one of the panion of the highest order. are much in the matter of modesty. And the Japanese. she tity. Faithful compsychical phenomena love. ineffable delicacies. are a paradise. like all psychical phenomena of a delicate forms proportionately grows. He who possesses the immodest nature loses more than half of the Fuegian or the Japanese who. they are very modest people who never. and. therefore. of generation . and take human neglect masses. an extra-current of the great fundamental phenomena advanced in Modesty modest. but the Greeks and the Romans Without leaving our own too much so. The nations which are the most civilization and morality are also the most is one of the most elect forms of the seductions and the reticences of love .it cannot be considered alone as a dynamometer of progress.MODESTY ascending and regular progress as we gradually proceed from the lowest races to the highest . race and times. we have women themselves to who would die rather than subject inferior to them an ligence examination with the speculum. In the higher races. with a civilization a hundred times superior to that of the Tehuelches. a few exceptions we groups in great that modesty.
in the exciting and wearing races of a thousand loves. We remain astonished and moved at such a power cate.and. it is a sentiment that can inspire only noble things and prepare us for sublime joys. Respect that clod of sacred earth. which you so brutally have stripped of all leaves and reduced to desolation ! Modesty is never excessive when it is sincere. Modesty has such power that it can elevate ignorance and simplicity to the highest spheres and encircle with a halo the most common loves as well as the most esthetic energies as roar of the most brazen man and hide with an impenetrable Without veil the most immodest secrets of the animal man. virtue is not all dead and resurrection is stillpossible. this sublime wizard will cover body with a mantle that will make it invisible and a nude exalted. it preserves them always fresh and always young. Guardian brow of a woman. it is possessed of such to smother with flowers the most bestial and priestof love. you. any need of cloth or garments.her companion It very rarely happens. and she loses more . modesty brings forth new and ever virgin flowers before the steps of the two lovers.THE BOOK OF LOVE helps her if of its gems. Texture that con- Den . even life. so fragile and deliof resistance in a sentiment that seems And as long as a corner of sacred earth remains to woman upon which a humble flower of modesty grows. it is never too exacting when it rises spontaneously from the heart of a lofty nature. to disperse the treasure. we see with infinite incapable diamonds flash. elevates and sanctifiesit. even wonder in the filth of libertinism. Parsimonious trainer of the forces of love. and when the firstvirgin flower to fall from the the firstkiss causes impenetrable to lust. loses all the wealth of modesty with which nature has enriched her. Even in the most gay and libertine that a woman.which the fire of lust was some simony could of destroying and the mud of amorous not soil. causing it to direct its eyes upward. however. it follows it at every step and defends it from the mire and~from the fire. do not pluck that humble and last flower of a garden. Bow your head before this flower. jeering deniers of every feminine virtue ! you. insatiabletormentors of lust.
and then we trust them to the hands of the dressmaker. two woman. and not a conventional hypocrisy. so that our it may be all sincerityand delicacy. If the sentiment of modesty were would be the most faithful companion great virtue. more infidelity. adding together the two very different classes of women. Tartufes on a reduced scale. loves are killed by immodesty than by and. as clearly as possible. but the cup is held by the hands of modesty. it of voluptuousness. teach our young girlsto lower their eyes before the glance of him who seeks and desires them. the greatest generator of exquisite joys. and we may be cynically immodest We with the body as fully covered as an' onion. balsam that stops every putrescence. who it. where the ballet-dancers from the waist down and the ladies are are more than nude up . and refine it. that. the lips are burning not a and half open to the most voluptuous kisses of the sweet liquor. and above all to little girls. and in the chalice the liquor will last forever. which finds in itself the sources of of renovation and perpetuation. glass that covers. Admirable prodigy immense an wealth. modesty is the most powerful preserver of the affections. so nude from the waist immodest halves of the may easily have one teach our daughters we We all nude and all immodest. may while with the other we go on exploring lasciviousness. perhaps. Now the cup is full.with one hand we hide our face. to conceal even the foot from the eager eyes of man. and mould in an alluring way the contours True which innocent youth still left chaste and modest. stupendous spectacle of the most gigantic of forces confided to the hands of a child who guides and governs it1 should teach modesty to our children. that she allotted perfect with her sartorial art the too modest curves by nature. An ardent thirst and inebriating cup ! What an but what danger of satiety! joy. and then we take them to We We may the theater. As . be chastely nude.foaming with lust .MODESTY ceals.so that the thirst and renews with the suavest art satisfies the lips eternally remain half open and thirsty.
THE long the as BOOK OF LOVE this profound of our marrow hypocrisy continues to penetrate into modern society. modesty. paid to virtue. and we wait until the epoch of transition is shall then feel that we really are as virtuous as pretend to be. D"3 .we are entitled to class ourselves proudly among the modest nations. with all the unchaste chastity that forms our distinction. let we If it be true that hypocrisy is a homage us past. will not be fluence very sincere or will be able to exercise only the weakest inloves. nor do I toward elevating and refining our know whether. too.
In this book. on the contrary. according to the grammar. the impenetrable veils insufficientto push to folly the deemed of modesty. is an entire world. has left to the torof our has carved her in the secrets of the the civilizationf our times sacrifices o mendous obscure and trethat sixteen long not 'enough not years should be required to turn a child into a woman. to any of the many tyrannies of the will. so that to write its story is to write the greater part of the ethnography of love. may adjectives be either masculine or feminine. were to impatience of desire. All this still seemed little avaricious H793 . to a prejudice. we will confine ourselves to consider the virgin. enough that all moral bulwarks which keep us far from the tles. but of this innocence. however. of love. of the most strategy and tactics of defense. ment Nature. although he may boast of having thousand impure never than a folliesand justas nature maternal bosom. or of lust. in creating the human virgin. since Nature with her violated a vow or made to a caste. or of this ignorance. their adoration. pitfalls may have made him more courtesan.CHAPTER THE VIRGIN V Since.. it consequently follows that man also be virgin. and as her on the altars of greed. but between his and woman's virginity there is an abyss which we in vain try to sound. he bears no trace in can his body and often neither in his heart nor vice with its thousand subterfuges and in his mind. she is a temple to which peoples from their all parts of the world bear the tribute of their religion. temple of love should fall only through long and cruel batmeditations one It was problems. The virgin female. A virgin male is a man who does not know the mysteries of the embrace.
for the first time!" mine forever!" "Mine!" mine cson . bound together to conspire against human happiness time to prepare the most ardent voluptuousand at the same ness. when the long coquetry of refusal is wearied and modesty blushingly to relish the delights of an anxiously withdraws to a corner hoped for defeat. through a torture.Cruel mystery! The poor creature who shall be a mother and the empty and vestal of the temple of the family. And yet there. as his brain could comprehend. because the virgin is Profound mystery! There. you will love and be a mother with great happy pain !" And happy because she belongs to one man. among those torn petals. as the sweetest fruit in the nurse orchards of life.closed. it is true. threshold.THE and BOOK OF LOVE other cruel nature. but beautiful and' as the dawn of spring. on that they find the angel of sorrow. but there. have arrived through a thousand obstacles and a their rendezvous. virtue. the woman who in the long sleepless nights of adolescence had imagined love as the most fragrant flower. very threshold. love and the sense of ownership have found themselves self -pride. a terribleangel with a sword of firebars the " entrance rose The and says to you: "There is a virgin here!" is near to your lips. two natures widely different. and when your "yes" is answered by an"yes. she must behold in her bleeding hands the delicate petals of the first flower which she picked in the garden of voluptuousness. and through a wound. as though nature from the firstkiss had reminded her : ' ' Daughter of Eve.and yet so ardently enamored. warm cent with innohas erected a temple where the three most blood. at that the thorn of a rose. because she is possessed and does possess. at the doors of the sacred temple. but to impress a fragrant kiss on it." when barricades and bulwarks fall. fury. man formidable passions of the human heart receive adoration. There passion. and there he has accumulated as many elements of idolatry. all collected in the chaste involutions of its hundred small leaves. there. they must attain joy.you must let your lips bleed.must reach the goal of her desires through pain. for them to thousand battles: there was together the cup of voluptuousness . justthere.
suspicious. What a tangle of mysteries and injustices! perhaps. queen beautiful. it is the adoration virgin. the priests have fled. and blesses her for having known how to bind a covenant can ever of faith which no one used to give the morgincap to the bride immediately after the firstnight of matrimony. The thorn beside the rose.which love. are we not Longobards. we promise to all our young girls a morgincap to induce them to guard intact. the firstembrace . young.hurling anathemas and invoking the vengeance of their god upon the head of the victim. the idol overthrown. esteem. the veneration. were in the world of exorcism but irsia .one more formidable than the other. The temple has been than a human nothing more violated. The Longobards stipulating beforehand the conditions of a gift too sure although which they were of not deserving. until the firstlove. However. in the apotheosis of delirium and in the quivering of the flesh. civilized man. And avaricious. yesterday. the a of all. an the most tomorrow. gives thanks to Nature for having come and borne testimony to the purity of a woman. the goal of all desires you may foolish ambitions. the firstvoluptuousness pain. angel . you are . and this famous gift. but you are are thousand theories to explain the virgin. the sacred will. the destiniesof the lives of future consecrated by a first a I really feel as if I and necromancy ! The poet finds not one. Now. Some had the malicious historian) the good shrewd spouses (adds violate with impunity. often equaled the fourth part of the husband's estate. a entertain a pure as you were female. the prize of virginity. jealous. pride and the sense of ownership utter in unison. unit for all the series. nature wished to consecrate a There is kiss. the temple guarded by the wings of an angel. you as saint. to incarnate in anatomically the first a physical fact that tremendous unit which is called the first love.THE VIRGIN Three cries. With that veil intact. This supreme day of the official sense of morgincap is a husband .there is a virgin for all human to be vastly different things : to be the firstmeans from being the second. you may become If that flimsy veil is rent.
one of the greatest physical disgraces of our body will be eliminated. every effect must organ must cause. every "why" must be answered by a "because. beings marked from the firstkiss. all spasm and sweetness and an infinitemystery which covers with its crepuscules one beautiful scenes of the human of the grandest and most world And : such is the virgin of the poet.THE BOOK OF LOVE '. at two smaller ones." The the rejects shadow of virgin is for me an inceptive angel . the moralist. sacred than closed ones. descend from the pedestal of the idol to us or a thousand times more than any C82n . " future faith. the most beautiful. we. a admonition sure a that love will lead us to a thousand sorrows. she must love embrace much. but I believe that the best. groom guarantee of the honesty of the bride given to the bridein the most a precious pledge of solemn manner. a step further. all women the most virtuous. of everlasting domestic happiness. the most poetical of Open temples are. and a mystery and a sanctum sanctorum help to elevate and revive idolatry. The more the living beings elevate themselves. blackball her. A virgin is a creature who does a great deal more of good if asked to vote for than evil. and we shall have three organs and three apparatus. she is the first a future separation of two things which are stillbrutally coupled in us : the organs of love and the organs of a bodily function. I do not know whether or against her. and very few among the men. The prohundred reasons tection kind of virtue consecrated by a material defense. virgin of the theologian. And is not love the greatest of idolatries? . But the naturalist shakes his head and there is the virgin of the poet and scoffsat the virgin of the theologian. too. finds in his theological theories a for the explanation of the virgin. other least she must desire at much. Every have its have its function. would would vote with us. they subdivide their labors. always less them would side with us. A virgin is woman an ours . and in a creature the more higher than love will certainly have a determined and reserved From the "cloaca maxima" have arrived we ground.
avenge itselfby making the man say it to cause some one . An angel yesterday. Have an immense love. Even the dreadful trepidation of finding the temple violated holds us to us. temple. and divides with her companion all that she has. a friend. may human may the woman a cuckold dignity.all that she desires. at very short intervals we the ineffabledelights. centuplicate for us the sweet joys of a firstembrace. insulted. sobbing with joy and "I am sorrow: thine.THE and come VIRGIN from the altar and tread the vulgar ground of earthly life. a mother. fascination of primitiae. I have forsworn the religion of my dreams. of which. an immense sympathy for And yet. all that she feels. there are men who dare accept the sacrificeof the virgin without any right to be priests of love. and the and of being the first teacher of the art of love. And there are men who bite and defile her with the slime of the viper. had already given her heart and all her affections to her god . who a woman. that thou mayst carry me aloft on the wings of thy genius. And knows that she is a virgin will too. I have clipped my wings. her lover to tear away her wings and becomes she allows again a woman Priestess of niveous a in order to be a wife. she burns on the altar of love the robe of the vestal and cries. senses and sentiments. I was thy virgin. a hundred times miserable wretches ! Amidst tears of shame and humiliation. that I may be nothing but thy Do not deceive me. And the mystery of the unknown. and I companion. shall be only thy wife. I have burned my temple.and if she has the fortune of finding it equal to the immensity of her affection she feels one of the greatest ecstasies that can vibrate simultaneously She and thoughts. suspended over fathom the immensity of her sacrifice. Miserable. we me !" must who will read these pages to turn pale with animosity. sound the somber sorrows. that I may live only in the temple of thy heart. all thine! Is there anything more that I can give thee? Tell me and I will give it to thee. today she gives him the seal which attests the possession of nerves her entire self . dream of an infiniteadultery . to descend the abysses of desperation and voluptuousness.
of being understood by all.THE a BOOK the OF LOVE profaned virgin reascend to at the sacrilegious profaner of the temple. may heaven. and many and many who weep through in tenderness of heart and soar very high. a contortion may. with my own eyes. acknowledge lives. brutally throw upon the most delicate scales of the world Let philosophers and sentimentalists the sword of Brennus.so of the people.a blow. and as I contemplated the littlecreatures I was distressed by the thought that. and physics. some littlegirls who lacking that seal with which nature seems to consecrate the virgin. proud and happy to be able to solve a question of virtue with the eyes and with the hands. howthe great inconvenience. -solve a problem over And which the minds of many thinkers were hard at work. The anatomical fact which constitutes virginity has. And these poor girls will some does not practise such an imposition even when anatomy upon a woman. and may be lacking in women who felt the breath of man.thinking that the woman and empoison their own defeat whom they have chosen for their companion at the altar of love. proclaim him the most dastardly. stop wondering the presence of the brutality of a fact. in the most C84] . a fall. and may scourge him. tie him to the great pillory of ridicule and. even anatomically. had already sacrificed Science openly affirms that virginity. . has many varied forms. hurling anathema majesty who has dared to ask of heaven an angel and of man a horde of sneering demons a virgin. with its resistances of elasviolated women and geometry with its diameters. though having kept virtuous day be unavailing for them and innocent. a large part of civilized men are common people. from this point of view. in the loudest ! voice. that the mass prattle at will about virtue. virtue would some in the presence of an ignorant and brutal man. the last among men ever. In vain day be as pure as an angel. I never have myself were seen. In my medical capacity. for the common or purity of heart and the frontiers of people there are but virgin women ticity. may the juryof entire humanity rise with the full vated of its omnipotence and spit in the face of the ener- thousand times.
have you feminine honesty. the still chaste maiden may feel pure and proud of herself and raise her head high. an instant of morbid artifices of lust? A moment curiosity. How many domestic many how many a in this way! How misfortunes have happened firstnights of love have become infernal nights. No .sus- calumny. in early childhood. and later.THE VIRGIN innocent way. may violate the palladium of anatomical virginity without dimming in the slightestdegree the mirror of the heart .when the mysteries of love or words unknown jestof a in the dictionary of too precocious boy. and ties have been dissolved by a a picion. and that. before becoming ignorance and must struggle with her own one a bride. who with so brutality pass your judgment upon thought of the thousand young. not knowing that she does not possess the star of physical purity. a little civious girl. but it is not all the woman. when they should have been a garland of ! the purest and most sublime joys How many existences have been cruelly empoisoned fleeting than the cloudlet through the elasticityof a veil more that dissolves under the firstrays of the sun ! And all of you.the las- shall be unveiled. great thing. and. when vice and libertinism are the posthumous lechery of a wretched old man. Often. it is the largest diamond in the it is crown of youthful virtue. aggressions which a must pass through. Nor is this all. beautiful and courted ever and woman others' she lechery. and yet with studied lasciviousness and virginity is a preserved intact the physical seal of virtue. jurors of assurance much and hearts and virginity. before and after. with the surprises of the senses and with the. break the fragile seal which for many is the only and secure guarantee of virtue and purity. prejudice.cunning of weakness. were never How pure except in many wretched women the maternal womb. carried their virginity to the altar of the official C853 . as pure as rock-crystal. not all the virtue. full of profound wisdom and prudent libertinage and weary of carnal infinite art first lust. through the lechery of a hundred lovers.may dim but not stain the virtue of a woman who can be.
not all improved. ten differenteditions. no scandal !" morals which teach the bride: "Above wax. Now. who never to whom the Longobards could never have awarded the prize debasement of the morgincap! Virginity exists. but always correct and revised. M undus vult decipi. but it does not begin and end with an anatomical condition : it is also virtue. then. it manufactures a chemical and physical virginity for your convenience. are the morals of this hypocritical century: There is the virtue of Virgin first. such is the perfect'woman The excessive.perhaps after having hurled an insult at the pure and virtuous girl who lacked only a seal. The anatomical fact must be accompanied by on . brutal and : of our times ! bestial importance lovers have been tricked into applauding the purest virtue. this advanced an is civilization all at your service. prudent afterward. like a registered letter refused by the post-office clerk because it lacked a drop of sealingoften have I wept in wrath. and calls to its aid some acrobatism. on given to virginity by modern society has created the infamous art of times virginity has had manufacturing virgins. the pure and e holy woman has loved. indeed 1 A diamond times into the mud and a hundred times picked up and A piece of flesh preserved pure Beautiful gem! washed! in a prostituted body. Of the virtue of a woman you have idea utterly physical and chemical. a flower grown on a clod of earth in And men the midst of a fetid marsh! often picked that flower with sacred devotion and kissed it and adored it. it existsin the sanctuary of civilmorals.n eye to the keyhole later woman a ' ' These." ! An eye on the seal first. heaven knows how acquired ! The new virtue. listening to mothers serve teaching their daughters this one dogma of virtue: "Prephysical virginity!" How often have I cursed modern all. and many five. it exists in the physical nature of the human female. How then.THE BOOK OF LOVE dred fallen a hun- love ! Beautiful treasure. hocus-pocus and natural magic.rgo decipiatur. but whose heart is virgin. Curse. the of this hypocritical time could not be more cynically avenged. while the idioticmass of husbands and two.
which perthey need. The virgin knows that she is all inbecause she. want purity of heart. to the man be can they do not love. She knows no lasciviousness. at an impertinent tact. give them. not one gem only./Tell them that to the man they love they should give everything . and that the future of their love will depend the preservation of the centuple virginity enclosed in the one conceive her. and desired by many. she an impure at word. perhaps. be opened only with a knife. any fissure of her heart. because no profane hand has ever penetrated into the sanctuary of her purity. with the purity of which the senses are the we judges. but who never belonged of blushes shining varnish of virtue. tell them that kiss they owe to the first all their treasures untouched.when you teach your daughters what a treasure virginal purity is. it is incumbent on us to crown the C873 . at a too ardent gesture. if only her heart pulsates faster at the or She is a virgin because she is modest. she knows everything. she is a virgin and modest because she is a woman. she sight of a man. she is a woman social mud who was loved. together haps with a lesson of anatomy and physiology. on which foot of marten no and no wing of insect have ever rested. who were virgins. pressure of the hand. tell them that a woman And physically a virgin and a prostitute morally . She has not opened any part of her robe. too. cave never explored by human treasures. but she blushes for wisdom as well as for ignorance. has had longings and desires. she knows that she is pure. any tabernacle of her never She is white as the snow of the Alps. She is a creature can whom no has ever soiled.THE VIRGIN the moral fact . a lesson of high morals.but has to any man. The human virgin. you. the virgin of the is not the virgin of the savage. mothers. with a virgin as the masses should love her first sad mystery. If nature. nothing. she is pure as the water which spouts from the granite in a foot. no art hiding vice under a given her heart to any man. is ignorant of everything. is modest because she is a virgin. an oyster that civilizedman. has prescribed that woman on love with much pain. the adamantine transparency of character.
of Murillo and of Correggio. amidst tears of a first defeat. and that the after the hurricane of conquest there may be announced bright calm of a day all beauty and delight. That this ideal sublime creation of the human mind. that one can be a virgin and a mother. to consecrate the purity of the virgin with the affections of the bride. by gazing at the Madonnas of Raphael. should shine the light of the sun of love.THE virgin with many so BOOK OF LOVE many perfumes spouse. all illumined by the iridescent light of the rainbow. perhaps. to create an ideal of perfection in which the two chief virtues of woman should shine. as another creature can be a a virgin and a courtesan. so that she may appear to us like an angel of Beato Angelico. perhaps. wished. in offering to man virgin-mother to worship. has been C88] . to scent her with so of grace. where. to suggest. will be clearly proved by the influwhich she has exercised upon Christian art. as to turn a martyr into a happy task to elevate the physical virgin to a very high region of purity and grandeur. and ence not a riddle or a myth. It is our flowers of virtue. The Christian a religion.
chaos in which angel and brute join to individuality vanishes for a moment embrace. the physiologist loses the thread of analysis. the dream of every and delight of virgin and rage of every lust. to die of pleasure to end his life with lasciviousness. chaos in as to mingle. in which every human force holocaust to animal fecundation. a tremendous and thing is the embrace of a man who and a woman love each other! So tremendous that. and human give way to a fantastic monster. and where the great ones Tremendous Voluptuousness! word the most ardent scene too are submerged.CHAPTER CONQUEST AND VI VOLUPTUOUSNESS elevates his loves to the highest spheres of the ideal. which concentrates wherever an organism is born or destroyed. which is born. if he can be called the most sublime lover on the terrestrial planet. he can also boast of being able. Certainly. of the senses. half half god and half demon . formless chaos. the torment is the greatest pleasure of the voluptuousness every man. before this hurricane the painter lets the brush fall from his hand. alone among the living creatures. and the philosopher is bewildered by the ferocious grandeur and the brutish sublimity of that act. he can boast of having had from nature the largest man If cup at the banquet of voluptuousness. chaos from man and half a man woman. from which flashes radiate and where elements quiver and earthquakes rumble which and thunder . The avowed or secret aim of every love. C893 . but it is also the deepest abyss into which vulgar seems to be offered as a loves fall at every step. that recalls of life and the greatest chaos. senses. confuse and good and evil are so near in close melt together.
she seduced Justinian. After the mention of a narrow The her form. she most ungratefully murmured against the parsimony of nature. wishing fourth altar. of Sicily." (Gibbon.THE BOOK OF LOVE justas the cry that generated another chaos arose light.After exhausting of sensual pleasure. I open the book of human deeds and read : ' ' from In Sardinia the San Luri belle killed with her exuberance of of carnality the young King Martin II. Viscount "The Empress Theodora was the source of such exquisite were delight that it was said that painting and poetry incapable of delineating the matchless excellence of scribe satiricalhistorian has not blushed to dethe naked scenes which Theodora was not ashamed exhibit in the theatre. the Roman "The god of love. p." ("La Itinerario in Sardegna. Empire. which she wore. subjecting his dynasty that part of the island which was stillfree. sustained by the spiritof many young wo- (Bible.. when he himself was killed turn by the belle of San Luri. 270.) Marmora. insatiable author of much good and so C9on ." years old. to girdle. on which she might pour libations to the After having the arts a been possessed by everybody. who made her his wife and called her a "Decline and Fall of giftof the Deity.) These few general way to examples will be sufficient delineate in a the frontiers within which human ness voluptuousso an struggles. In 1409 he had Brancaleone Doria and the a splendid victory over the House gained defeated in of Narbonne. as none could appear stark naked in the theatre. and Hermippus five* men." etc. Procopius adds: draireTrraucuta. the Aragonese king with the fury of her kisses. modern Judith. of Aragon. him who gave the last blow to the to independence of Sardinia.") old age of David was warmed by the young lived to be one hundred and Shunammite. who.
the lame. in the eyes of science it is nothing but ' ' the most powerful of chemical affinitiesomprehended by c the most perfect of living brains. the giants and the dwarfs. wherever a man and find themselves near desire each other. within the damp walls of the prison and in the deep mines where the rays of the sun never penetrate. it is most true that in the same fused in order to at least are unit of time ten . in the forest and on the sands of the sea-shore. as that is not love which is ridicuLust and platonic love are maladies termed platonic. on the swift train and on two camels crossing the desert. incapable alike of chastity and courage. quivering.CONQUEST AND VOLUPTUOUSNESS much evil. of seek each other and are reciprocally attracted. conquest without possession of the thing conas just there can be no love without voluptuousness. like the deaf-mutes. cences retiof the C91] . drag a wretched existence in the limbo of basaffections. or monsters There is no Take quered. And yet. of love and are possible. the flower from the tree. they kiss and joinand. a woman and can voluptuousness wreathes its garlands and says to the man " Be gods for an instant !" : and the woman There is no love without voluptuousness. If it is true that at every second a leaf detaches itselfand falls from the human tree. and of all those amorous hypocritically stop at the threshold a you will have faithful image which temple and. hut of the savage and in the gilded halls of the prince. Often duty must be stronger than love. restore one of the most prodigious equilibriums of nature and generate a man.existences relight the torch of life. of vice tardly and virtue. to they would certainly be sufficient send the world through infinite In the space without the aid of the laws of Newton. even too prevalent.nay. and when love gathers them by millions and millions. on hay and on the glaciers of the soft cushions of new-mown the Sorata. the fruit from the flower. the deformed." Prepared in the slow laboratory of a man tensely life inthe gemmulae and a woman. and if all the gigantic forces which are condensed in those aggregations could be summed up. but voluptuousness lously alone is not love.
even lust is virtue . when it seems in its purest and simplest forms. love in the name name of the most sacred of rights. and after bitter tears and vows of virtue. With love you cannot is jest. of sentiment and of intellect. in the of the gods of Olympus. extinguishes all fires. any compromise impossible. if you can love. love must be conwith a cruel and incredible torture. are beautiful intoxicates itselfwith all inebriations. one enclosed between two infinities. with all languors. as inexhaustible as the sun. demand to be everything many to your not companion. but it is better be heroes of duty than brigands acquitted for lack of If you truly love. after long sentimental tirades on platonic love. high and low. it is immoral even With love. it will never it to live for millions of centuries. lasciviousness. then love in the name of the most powerful to of nature. Leave aside all amorous hypocrisies. even without love is always hygienic. proofs. calms all morbosities. of languor. culbe everything to somebody. and. but every great and true idea is the joy of our relishes simultaneously all the joys of the voluptuousness senses. often despised. despicable always. all forms of virtue are the delight of the sentiment of the good . do not try to divide the indivisible. do the attempt to overthrow the omnipotent. all hunian flashes. to win over invincible. sink from hypocrisy into hypocrisy and down to lasciviousness ! How with your reticences and hope of winning guilty lovers did not wish sin and had vice. Voluptuousness. and immodest the studied casuistry of theologians is than ^more the most ardent kiss ever exchanged between two lovers educated by a long experience of embraces. Break down the tree that you cannot tivate. Volup- . thought. of desire and the other be all known by the human family. All forms of the were as conquered by the blandishments of art. have I beheld. Voluptuousness is penetrating as light. did not wish guilt and had prostitution! All or nothing: such is love's command.THE BOOK OF LOVE quered and. leave aside the casuistry. the worst of human your compromises How many with conscience the Goliath of the sentiments. the principles of honesty forbidding.
but not dead.CONQUEST tuousness AND VOLUPTUOUSNESS light which gilds every it object strikes and encircles it with a halo of celestialiridescence. the painter. you must swim.your voluptuousness be chaste and modest . the joyof Love guided by the hand of Chastity. fireenclosed in alabaster. voluptuousness is in every quiver of the skin." that representation. in every shock of the in every kiss of 'the flesh. must you must quiver. for voluptuousness is in a is every contact of quivering robes. if you still have an instant to devote to prudence. that this priceless treasure. that if you wish that your lips be eternally thirsty. H93] . enamored and jealousHercules chisel. but not fall into convulsions . because verily I say unto you nurture she may restore it to you with that in modern society there is often more pudicity in the lowest of courtesans than in some whose married women nuptial education has been imparted by an aged and libertine husband. Nor is the embrace of love alone voluptuous. tasted voluptuousness only out of the one cup of Venus ! Let him take lessons of woman. but not drown . let him go to Athens study the beautiful. Modest voluptuousness. There is no worse enemy lust.and you unbounded should respect it as a palladium of domestic happiness and it in your daughters. abducted by the wave. the sculptor could conceive ' ' this divine group. Lovers joys. no sister more faithful than of voluptuousness than chastity. brush and or thing as an altar. you must be in the grasp of death. would as a be holy led by a child ! who love and possess each other. whether due to pen. lovers whom voluptuousness inebriates every hour. a lesson in virtue and a great work of art . the sun . was given by nature to woman. of glossy hair . If the poet. A Boeotian in art. remember that voluptuousness should not be the bread but the wine of love. Unfortunate he who has nerves. wisest teacher of every exquisite and sublime sensuality.
future. as well as beads. the reached by few . The stimulus of the flesh announces in him the dawning of sentiment. are H94] . and the or autumn. according to the manner him to solve it. who. while hundreds and of thought. set a pleasure enjoyed. the desire that dies and another that is born.is satisfied and falls asleep. it seems darkthis is the way in which many skinned men. many white-skinned who nevertheless believe that they faithfully love one woman at a time. and the garland gentle remembrance hope of a sweet of a gratitude for the greater joy for the greater beauty and new and great love. to which a new bead is added for every desire satisfied. he virtuous man Oftener than or a polygamist. through fault of the trees he sprang from or his own. The history of their love is a necklace of Venetian nations love. and if the hues of the glass corpuscles are not too diverse. The most summits of your passion will then acquire flowers and perhaps stimulate a true sublime heights of sentiment. one may have before his eyes a pretty ornament that majr spangle the Between you can neck of a decent virtue and an honest passion. lives on the bestial frontiers of the human is like the brute for which love is a desire that rises. a will be a monogamist through habit or a libertine through caprice. in which circumstances force and.CHAPTER HOW LOVE IS PRESERVED VII AND HOW IT DIES The man through kingdom. If his affection for woman is not a passion of spring and intermittent love which it is always an erotic dies every time a need is satisfied and revives with every renewed desire. obesity of the flesh puts an end to the passion of love. The desire may have the same new : person or another as its object this is for him a secondary and merely accidental question.
HOW hundreds LOVE IS PRESERVED AND HOW IT DIES sands of lowly sheep ruminate on the plains. A love must be either very weak or very brutal if it withdraws from the struggle before victory. Finally. passion remains in a condition of desire.vigorous and as As long ardent. as long as force is potential and is not turned into a product.therefore. of the Alps two lone eagles represent the world of the living. And love. Love. with all its omnipotence. even rocks and two feelings of voluptuousness. for pleasure. it is indispensable to act the great secret of protracting the existence of love. favors which mark a a from time to time she concedes to the conqueror continuous continual renewal of ever ardent desires and or later. love is not only preserved but increased . it when love is so base as to be only a thirst embrace. cannot evade the physical lowed laws. melts in a single crucible However. that is to say. And who can say that seldom dies with the first a woman he has entirely in one night of love? possessed C953 . and as it happens very seldom that the small and great a woman yields everything at once. and millions and Upon the sapphire summits millions of ants are swarming. although a most powerful affection. preparing a new spark in ceive such a short time that it should be nearly impossible to perany interval between the two sparks. another be accumulated. of revivification love. always follows the laws of elementary physics. energy lastsand sentiment lives. and every spark that springs forth must always be folin such a way that while a part of the force is transformed into labor. All the art of preserving love is.where thouand thousands of bees are buzzing. reduced it to spring up to this alone : to preserve desire and to cause as even again almost immediately after it is spent. and one embrace two volcanic makes two lives one. nd the struggle has not a become a conquest. To transform stitutes the intermittent electric current into a continuous one con- by a period of repose. which govern all the energies centers and which we call sentiaccumulated in our nervous ments. sooner the day of the wished-for victory arrives. provide for her happiness in and not in vain does woman asking for time and prolonging the battle. As long as desire is not satisfied.
occupation of new charms are ers. a year. psalms of death and together bury the remains of $love inexorably which. no energy is increased without one transformations If man sympathy. in rare an last for the entire period of human cases. their lust. and then. but into the cup of love. The hour comes the cup of lust no longer contains a drop of nectar. as well. and the norththe scatters over winds wrinkle them.THE Human BOOK OF LOVE such and so many. they may. a month. and our esthetic needs so exquisite and ardent. and no miracle in the world can save it from a certain death. very slow. no heat Let them sing the can spring forth from their contact. was to perish with it. The energy of in voluptuousness and beauty. and if in some The when. ten years . and not only are forms C963 . if nothing is left. fortunately. no light. denatured and counterfeited. no of equilibrium and woman and decompositions of affinities do not revive an affinityof combination can take place. their art of loving. and in the sweet provinces love is preserved or revivified. various treasures of beauty and sensuality of two lovthe art of loving. that even the acquisition of voluptuousness alone is.love is dying. youth. kept alive by voluptuousness alone. blows of time. Men. mark the limit of duration of those loves that derive their energies only from the worship of form or from the ardor of cases that duration is longvoluptuousness.it never is infinite. the other one is withered and the strength is spent. No force in the world is produced without the transmutation of matter. and the storm beauty. This is the most general way in which vulgar loves die. Those loves may last hour. that the silent hunger age. spices and drugs and philters are poured. a day. so neglected even after Ovidius' times. and with incredible art repair the ravages of daily adulterated. and the duration of their life can be calculated with fair precision by weighing the beauty of the two lovers. the hour comes ground the rosy petals of human lasting. and do not fall without a struggle under the especially women. passion had its only source when has vanished. alas ! the ern wing of time smites the fresh cheeks of youth. their youth.
it is now light. it was hour. you who behold with horror the gradual extinction of that fire which for so many years has warmed your enamored members.of the various smiles. It was was as nude as and chaste as an Uranian Venus. when love has its origin only in the desire of bodily form: it sinks to a question of hygiene. and when the heartrending cry which invokes the stimulus of a desire will not be answered. you will tellme that a man C973 . As long as you can. and of the sensual moveof the body.HOW LOVE IS PRESERVED AND HOW IT DIES may receive the stimulus of an artificial appetite. it transforms itselfinto a problem of taxiand preservation by chemical process ! It is necessary ertine to study the antisepticirtue of deliberate refusals and libv would reticence . but. intermittent. to what a low level the art of preserving love has sunk. prepare for the funeral psalmody. Women. perhaps. it is still and always love. it is now love of every clothed and immodest as a courtesan. in now much reticence and so much tinkering. I dead. therefore. You see. if you were happy through beauty alone. To these baseststudies we have lowered who would so gladly have wished to soar aloft with us through the numberless spheres of the beautiful and not only embrace the world of exterior forms. to meditate upon the economy of energies and visitthe pharmacy for the purpose of discovering the aphrodisiacal virtues of the various ments silken fabrics. when all is said. it a Bengal stilllives. Long lasts the battle before defeat is acknowledged and love changes its nature but a volcano. it now prefers the twilight. it impunely defied the rays of the sun at midday. to reach . love will not be then.arouse a desire in the flaccid flesh of your lover. with the galvanism of lust. like the tertian or the quartan . but also the infiniteworlds of sentiment and thought. to submit lust to a chemical research and fatigue to a physiological investigation. remember that that fire will"be extinguished spite of so with the withering of the last attraction of your body. and soft blandishments and morbid temptations of the flesh substitute the ardor and impetus of passion. that I aspire to an ideal love. You will tell me. dermy nearly say. the woman impossible. it is periodical.
physical elements. can they not be loved? Certainly. so In rich in many but the hundred relieved only by forms a of moral and intellectual beauty. shall they not love. how are be called beautiful? Perhaps not ten in a can many women hundred. Thus. remembrance. the yearning for possessing the treasures of sentiment and thought of a creature who is all ours.THE BOOK OF LOVE for forty years of with a good constitution can be handsome his life. may seem to us a worthy triumph of a long and splendid life of love. soft shade of sex. and all the others who in various degrees are removed from the type of perfection of form.let the beauty of thought appear to us in all its brilliant so majesty. and. no disease in him who would procreate men: this is hygiene. and every healthy woman offer the cup of voluptuousness but how many men to man. if we suddenly loved her for the beauty of form. A spring and in a summer of forty years. nor should love spring from the source of voluptuousness alone. another twinkles. too. and we all should desire a love lasting as long as life and which shall be buried alone in its grave. ending with a mild autumn. can and should awaken ardent and tenacious passions that do not vanish with the sun of youth. we now love and C983 . No deformity. and that woman. a which a sweet very high aim. and when that of the form begins to fade. later still. the beautiful does not end with the exterior form. and whom. is entitled to thirty years of beauty and ten more years of gracefulness. let moral beauty shine in all its power. And then every healthy man can the thyrsus offer to woman can of love. handsome. man. and from the slumbering desires of the senses we feel a stronger yearning awaken. perfect love should be born of the contemplation and adoration of every type of beauty. that while one star disappears. And I am with you if you mean the common loves of the common people. intimate friendship prepare the last twilight of old an and age. but we must have a high. a suave reciprocal gratitude. so that a love which should last but these thirty or forty years would still be a most beautiful and most enviable thing. while love can dispense its delights to every man and every woman.
by fleeing. the thousand dangers of the death of sentiment. and those that have risen the movements highest descend the most rapidly. ecstasy and apotheosis lastbeyond a very short flash of a few instants. and at the last hour of extreme some new conquest to make. Our study on love in old age will complete this picture. Sublime triumph of human nature. More than gers.HOW LOVE IS PRESERVED AND HOW IT DIES will continue to love for her beauty of kindness.but ideal for the heights attained. has left behind itself. All passions follow in their a parabolic line. sexual by origin. the beauty of mind unite in an embrace. Intermittence is one of the most inexorable laws of the and nervous system. the with all the beauties and graces of the human longest life will not sufficeto satisfy our desires of possession. in which ray of light shines on love each other the silvery heads of two old beings who still because they stilldesire each other and because heart and exhausted. and danany passion. and greatness. ideas. certainly one of the most beautiful and seductive in the great museum love : a picture which we should of all desire to represent in the late years of our life. and feminine kindness can be adored by us. the void while the accumulation of most sweet memories fills which youth. When the sources of love are many. Even not only the beautiful female. hence the weariness so quench close to strength. love presents these phenomena other and it is impossible for all to make voluptuousness. voluptuousness which forms which is buried. while a warm love survives the senses is mute. and everything that a human being can boast of beauty character and thought have a profoundly sexual type. justas virile courage is admired by the sweet and When we have loved in a woman tender nature of woman. but a whole nature imbued Eve." C99 3 . the tediousness that follows enthusiasm. culture. while one dries up lacks a flow of water to another swells so that love never its insatiable thirst. and some old age we have still desire is reawakened. and he who would increase enthusiasm "Only breathe the life of kisses and of sighs.
" brutally opposes the holy and noble aspirations for a higher participation in mental work of woman he cynically sends her sentence. which keeps pure. would arrive the hour of dislike then you would curse the vanity of love and .THE BOOK OF LOVE before dies consumed by his own dying. but subjugate And to our advantage. and when signs his own back to the bed or to nursing cares. what is worse. but this polygamous civilizationis merely tolerated. not considered equal to us. he resigns himself to man The who knowing only the coarsest and most brutish part of the joys ertine. greatness it is enough to see it even and human like the promised land. This is perfect love. and for you. can approach it. unaltered. beholds love dead fire. like an orphan taken from the street and living with the members of a family but not forming it. too. between voluptuousness rebel we them . descended from the heaven of tire you. If the concubine has become a integral part of an new also to enlarge the field of A of our voluptuousness. sow joy and suppress tediousness. and. nor can it is conceded to us to direct them Between ecstasy and ecstasy we can thus it is in our case. and for human from afar. A few reach it. our joysand increase "freedman" of modern C1003 . happiness many. cannot at his feet. has been repeated by which. and from too ardent and sensual contemplatio can we repair to the cool temple of thought to together. and voluptuousness we can suppress weariness and pick the flowers of sentiment. as the poet says. which. "is always beyond the mountain.by transforming the female of the gyneceum into the mother of a family . however. brilliant as a diamond in the tormented sand of a river. We must elevate in order not only to fulfil an act woman more and more of but justice the value great step has been made in this direction. this meditate and remember is ideal love. life.would down. You may be the strongest male and the wisest libbut Venus herself. of love.reciting the litany of lamentations and disappointments execrate the ideal. We against the laws of nature. from Adam all those who know not how to love and are bestiallyignorant of the laws of the economy of strength.
abdicating her omnipotence. not. taneously. virtue is the fruitful mother of other virtues. instanlike the porcelain bowl. in the meditations and struggles of life. and because.that precious element which only If from woman the daughter of Eve can give us. and she will place her greatness at your feet for a kiss. between some guished. that every poi. make her great. Fear place her foot upon the neck of man. of which we see only a part. so that. she will never because she loves him too much. which falls from the hands of the inexperienced servant and own by its nature created. to become a be compelled to amputate the better part of herself. quite extinembrace and embrace.and only with death is extinguished. beautiful and brilliant. ever produced by chastity between two creatures that love each other without beyond having the fortune to participate in any treasures It is opportune to remember those of the senses. love is easily pretyrant. invincible. most a noble and delicate creature. who nine shall think and feel as we do and think and feel in a femiway. relations of habits. bound together by the three Where man are and woman natures served of sense. perishes as it was It is not so when voluptuousness is all. sentiment and thought. or nearly all. then the easiest way to preserve it is to keep always drops of desire in the cup of love. beshe may become a woman. then sow sentiments and ideas in her. voluptuousness is never giving a deeply sexual character to the common intercourses. of love. a female-man. to put it in a better way. she would and without any need of artifice. very old but always new. make her strong. and bringing to us.HOW mother. and she will use her strength to enrich you . warm. She is like the bee that changes sugar and nectar and the fluid of every flower into honey : make her wise. LOVE a IS PRESERVED AND HOW IT DIES great step stillremains to be made in order that come or. and love lives in them.i . thus completing in us the aspect of things. and wisdom will be transformed into caresses. Some fortunate individuals ask with astonishment why their tenacious. love should ever cease. you want nothing but the joysof love. conversations and family This is an indirect but sure advantage.
in our In love. the blood which gives life to her. loves more Woman than we. untired study of the heart. Never should "no" at least once. make together a voluptuousness. love which is her dearest treasure. I pray and entreat and human them to close conjure hands and their rosy lips the lips of with their white little the human family. We. too. If the women ing who will read my book should learn nothbut this one thing. splendid bonfire of their affections. and for a caress shower Woman is an old teacher of they will receive ten tomorrow. if she joins the fruit for the dreary winter. and bury the "yes" Let them say of the friend under of flowers.of their the thousandth renewing. Every denied today. which is the air she breathes. again. love.THE The BOOK OF LOVE preservation of love is one of the most sacred rights or duties incumbent although we cannot refuse upon woman. and let her use this practical wisdom in preserving sacrifice. They will the thoughtlessness of her prodigal companion! fears. if she she say "yes" before having said truly loves the prodigal friend. but she foresees. presurmises. she is a good provider. too polygamous. are too light-minded. compensated a hundredfold. alas! too soon. : such is the childish appearance at once of many virileloves. edition of the story of the grasshopper and the ant. let her be the stewardess of love C1023 . I would believe that they have had for the tediousness which they may for not having have experienced. to want all and easy virtues for us. by a deep. reserving the desire for other sacrifice will be supplications and other battles. and. however. with impunity to take an active part in this mission. too exacting ' of love sudden desiresto find prudence and economy To see all. With the "no" man who and a "no" too ardently begs their love. she should save for the days fall from his hands and of famine the crumbs which now which today he despises. while she picks the flower for the joy of todays knows how to preserve in Woe to her. to touch all. and I shall be happy written in vain to promote the welfare of the dearer part of a justcompensation by a long the right given to me and troublesome experience.
sympathetic natures more more than beautiful ones preserve love. contemplating. and a genius that has more tive spirit than grandeur : such are the great preservathan beauty preserves love. The infiniteis the only thing that man never see tires of loving.HOW as LOVE IS PRESERVED AND HOW IT DIES fecundate she already is that of the household. but also of preserving great passions. a deep and tender kindness. a flexibility that retains strength. the true. veils and mists. can an seduction than authority that be made to smile. measured. a certain reserve of manner and forms are also indispensable if sublime loves are to last. more heat. leaves and in sense. preserves vulgar loves. justbecause it is And it is in love: the so to the evening twilight and never entirely of the mprning : reveals itself such is eternal and immutable love. a certain chastity of sentiment and thought. kind natures than genius. If genital chastity is the virtue which. so that no sooner into intimate contact with them than you find yourcome women who at C103H . neither weighed nor love we beautiful. let him conquer and let her keep the booty. beauty of grouped under the name crepuscular that has more grace than splendor. The man must his wife nude. wit more firstsight do not make any great impression. let man and woman preserve. better than any other. the good of the creature whom be infinite. that dies stand- like the ancient heroes. There are men and than grand ones. to have a hook and but on every hair of their head they seem have you in every pore of the skin a leech. and you will be behold in them all those exalted virtues which may A politics. powers of love. that fears frost of winter or hurricanes of summer no ing . or measured studying.because they must not be seen. and a nature that is smiling rather than laughing . Study the fortunate men who are not only capable of arousing. nor should the woman behold ever her companion nude before her . weighed must A sun that passes from the crepuscule by us. Grace more because it has more crepuscular hues. flowers must shade the man sentiment and woman never and intellect.
Physicians remark that apparent death is much more frequent in cases of hysteria. There is for love. weeps.as though a gigantic polyp had seized you in the absorbing coils of its manifold tentacles. here I am !" Very rarely does love die a violent death. like any other malady. syncopes and nothing through senility and after long frequently commands not to love him or her occurs wounds. a real death and an apparent one . alive but believed neurosis. awaiting a beneficial rain to denies this virtue in love. alive than before . because love itselfopens every coffin. and this. is one of the usual mysteries of the heart.a desire could life was not to life the apparently dead comes again. the latter curable. really and truly dead. suddenly has seemed base and infamous to us . the former is inexorable. by having How as as recourse ledge. but only latent. has ever been to rise again. A nerve seen was stillsensitive. but does not want C1041 . as no dead. unlike thousand the all living things. the burial is less dangerous. it is then natural that many to be dead. not every clod and appears to you saying: "Do weep . In our case. catalepsy and in all forms of loves. as for any other organism-.may die provisorily and desiccate. grapnels and absorbed by a thoucupping-glasses. love also has swoons and syncopes and. have been interred through a most cruel still be resuscitated.every grave. there is no galvanism to awaken no wave the heart. heralded probably more a miracle. But of blood to rouse slumbering nerves. however.THE self seized by a BOOK OF LOVE sand. despairs. Duty who ruptures. for often has a extinguished. then restore it to life. and cases called overturns by that more. like the rotifer. Love is dead without possibilityof resurrection when. with the exception of Lazarus. to skill and know- love apparently dead resuscitated as live ever. since an organism more cataleptic hysterical than love is difficulto find in the entire t and more world of the living. and ' nervous. name are Real death illness. btftlove. more mistake. to sentenced to death. Whoever believes that love is baser than the rotifer and has never known the most elementary physiology of life and affection..
to guide it. the fogs of November frost of December. from the spring of youth to the border of the grave that it may choruses of admiration freshness. darkness. When we shall once and forever have ceased to call love that which is the desire of the flesh and the pride of possession. amid and adorned with flowers of eternal the beloved one belongs to the other sex: loves of the entire past be forgotten ? How but how can we can the suddenly niosj . and the Prince of Affections will die. believes that it has disappeared from the face of the earth. neither of the two lovers remembers that die. Perhaps. as has happened with illustriousprisoners plunged into the stillnessof a castle. without food. a lingering death. without light. convulsed by a prolonged agony. until at last. it is as useful an achievement as to become rich. to sow the path of our life with love and desires may be the splendid pride of every living creature. it is because it was seems not true love . If the appearance of a new on the path of life creature to kill love violently. and the healthy and robust. as in other cases. many miracles will at last be simple physical phenomena. the battle will be relentlessand long. it defies hunger. LOVE IS PRESERVED AND HOW IT DIES Sent back to prison. obscure mysteries will To cause love to gush forth from the rock of indifference is a fascinating prodigy. and many be exposed to light. It is as beautiful a thing as to create a work of art . it dies a merciful death. and and if it really were such. it is as great a feat as to reach glory. but love lives in those depths groans. in some very rare cases. to preserve it pure and bright. that sentiment will appear to us as beautiful thing. but several times already I have made clear to the reader what I think of sexual friendships. with him who feels it. is one of the highest ambitions to which we can aspire. The public.HOW die. but does not die. to rouse it from its slumber is a explained as very desirable power. to bring it impunely through the cyclones of life. like the Mexican victim. perhaps. but to cherish the conquered love. cold. It is said by many that the most natural way for love to die is to transform itselfinto friendship. greater and more a much more honorable than is ordinarily supposed.
back to the laboratory and I will send this psychical phenomenon of the physiologist.that he may study it together with the unconscious and reflected motions.if are man a man and a forget that they and woman. C1063 .THE BOOK OF LOVE years of of the many friendly visit custom of woman can obliteratethe ardent remembrances love? If for a dead love the sweet can be substituted. affection deserve? what name gular will this new and sinPerhaps that of automatic habit.
Star two that glitters in the infinity of the ideal. lover to exist in the most and spouse on earth. while it seems light. virgin and father in heaven. it its of projects roots into the most intricate mazes the rocks. are ents vulgar talare perturbed. root that dissolves the stones in the infinity of depth. agitated and renovated by the of men to evoke from the abysses contact of the new god.CHAPTER THE VIII HEIGHTS OF LOVE DEPTHS AND THE flower that opens and shows its cheerful thought ever petals on the border of an abyss. While its aspirah tions to ask of heaven space and carry it aloft. it is things never eye of the observer new How the most daring and the most fortunate of excavators. it is inmost in us placed among on the summit of a mountain. of life. all the phantoms of all silent passions. things and reveals to the astonished strange and unknown before conceived. and the most ethereal. is the most human of passions and althe divine passions. luxury. If to live means beautiful form of life. where pearls and corals It is a diver that brings to light intermixed with mud. love is whatever is divine in human No one will ever be able to say where love penetrates when it liftsthe bottom of human nature. the same to my mind : there is love. which always seems recurs to live see a Whenever I between infinities. accompanies man of sensuality . how many D073 . it reaches all altitudes ways and all profundities. Thought below.then love is richness. it guides the poet when he strength in the valley when he plunges into ascends to paradise. all dormant many simple natures of young girls. splendor the hot sea beings. eight and depth. who seems ideas. into the most somber mysteries of the abyss.
with our growing to manhood. The phase of puberty deserves to be dealt with separately. So it is with man. although such transmutation hardly affects his epidermis. which had not been seen before. animals change color and feathers. but sinks into the veins and the meanders of his physical nature. not all the resources Not all human of beneficial to the good. that he already loves.they become winged messengers of the skies . a tremendous profound earthquake warns " love. or arm selves themshape. if caterpillars.THE BOOK OF LOVE heart and thought! The deep simmering of psychical elements love almost always announces the at the contact with birth of a second moral nature and. and while that he must mothers behold with affectionatetrepidation the rounding of their daughters' form to womanhood. obtuse. Puberty declares us in a state of war . another profound him earthquake In warns the girl that she must season love. we are armed if we have reached it.and while. phantoms of revelry [1083 . they become carnivorous . Of our birth we are always ignorant. specters of crime and vice. therefore. that she already loves." While the common people judgefrom the hair on the face and from the deepened voice that a boy has become a man. every vigor refines. if the earth is their habitat. forces and energies prepare and grow. they become many the loving clever singers. revivifying life. adorn themselves with new with new weapons .marks in it. and a new era "to of our death almost always unconscious. love calls are mind if we into action bad elements as well. For the first time. love calls forces and energies into action. love calls us to the battle. granivorous. armed and combative if we have reached it and are in love. forces are good.they are metamorphosed into butterflies. Defenseles have not reached puberty. it will suffice here to remark that every force redoubles. with the nuptial robe they assume different habits and singular abilities. from the deep abysses of the moral man.mutes. between the be" and the "not to be" only one third and great thing is possible "to love. and. they are transformed into skilled architects .
and prison appear. In defective organisms, predestined for the prison or the madhouse, together with first love often the first crime or the first mania reveals itself. To the great summoner of profundity and sublimity every human element ' ' answers, Present" ; and the sudden anger in natures erstwhile firsttears on faces tillthen smiling, the first mild, the poetic outburst in natures hysterical paroxysms in
hitherto utterly prosaic, the first body that seemed to have no a nerves, the firstambitions in the most timid youth, the first meditations at the mirror, the first impulses, the first war declared against an invisibleenemy, the first follies, the first flashes of genius, the firstlies and the firstheroisms, are all
specters called from the abysses by the magic wand of by the greatest sorcerers, the sorcerer among of conjurer spiritsthat the blessed age of wizards and exorcisms might
have boasted of. The man because for the first who loves is twice a man, time he feels not only that he is alive, but also that he has the power of creating living beings, of procreating. Nor is
blood is half of the sole generator, because in man's future creature, and the seed of a second existence within doubles us and makes us almost as proud as the ancient
God entrusted, as to a tabernacle, the prophets, to whom A man supreme truth, the prophecy of future events. who loves has within him a part of that which will live in the
future, the fruitful germs of a new While all the psychical forces
at first contact
distinct stillconfused and insentiment, Love will
in procession and muster them under his orders. beauty must transmute itselfinto flowers for a garland, lend its fire, every energy must don every passion must them
the livery of
supremely strong'; strong, but only one cussion; no but subjects, only one tyrant. No objection, diswhere love is present, who would give suggestions
counsel? 0 virgin and rising forces of youth, bow your head before your god; splendid beauties of human nature, Are you not satisfied lay your tributes upon the new altars.
with the glory of doing homage to love? Rarely does avarice find place in the first and deep meditations of a heart in love, I something but the question is continually repeated: "Have I really given my else, something better, to offer? Have whole self to my king?" A most singular and heartrending voluptuousness of love is to feel that everything leaves us and that we no longer belong to ourselves. It seems as though were we witnessing in which we behold limbs, organs, a satanic phantasmagoria
affections,thoughts fleeing from
running madly new center, where a new organism is being moulded Even time appears to be ours no longer, remains.
longer measured by the watch, but by the impatience of desire or the flashesof voluptuousness j thought, too, no longer belongs to us, as it is tyrannically ruled by image alone. To find ourselves again, to remember that one
since it is no
have stillintimate relations with the
go and seek another creature who has robbed us of everything. Hence a vague unrest which invades the body, the senses and the thoughts of every lover ; hence the undertaking,
the new god who Every hair, every pore, every nerve, us. every part of the epidermis of the man who loves sings and says to the universe Day and the living: "I love, and who loves me?" of
all the nature of a lover tone. sings its note until another song responds in the same Not a moment of peace, not an instant of truce, until the new energy has found a sister energy. Love is like the sea : here it is as calm as the surface of an Alpine lake, still and
for the ablest dissembler, to conceal invades and penetrates every part of
night, in the calm and in the storm,
smooth as a sheet of lead; but there, among the rocks or upon the coast, it is eternally in motion, and, roaring or sighing, howling or caressing, agitates with incessant motion the land it kisses. Man and woman who meet and love the sea and the land, which are perpetually at war a war
bitter, tender and
merciless. Look at that young
girl seated at the window,
piece of white linen which she is sewing. How attentive between one stitch and she is to her work ! She seems, another, to be meditating on the solution of the quadrature of the circle,so absorbed is she in her arduous task. But if I only could write the volume of thoughts that pass through
her brain between
! stitches She is fishing in the deep
" abysses of love. And at a short distance thence, she unaware of it,a young too, is at the window, his hair disheveled, his hands man, firmly thrust into his pockets, his breast swelling as by a
has been staring at the sky for the last hour. Is he meditating, perhaps, upon the tremendous problem of the liberty? Is he, perhaps, proletariate or on that of human threat. He
No; he, too, is fishing in of glory, of wealth? the deep abysses of love. Woman dives deeper and soars higher in more than man the regions of love ; society generally withholds her from the field of action, and an infinitetime is left to her for penetrating into the abysses of the heart. How cent often an innoyoung girl,who, perhaps, hardly knows how to write,
long hours feelsin her imagination the sweetness of kiss which lasted but a second; how often she is tortured of whole night by the bitterness a cold salute or of less, rude word ! Here is a deepness of sense which, nevertheis nothing in comparison with the queer and transuba
stantial process of sentimental analysis with which woman a pulverizes, analyzes, distills look, a word, a gesture. Hide, chemists, your ignorance before the profundity of the to her the spectroscope analytical art of an enamored woman; pathic instrument of prehistoric science; homoeois a coarse
draughts measured part of
are poisons; atoms worlds; she has A billionth centuries before Thomson.
diluted in an ocean of voluptuousness milligram of rancor is detected by her process of analysis ; an atom of indifference in the lava of desire is instantaneously traced by atory. the thermo-electric apparatus which she uses in her labor-
She is a priestessof the ideal, of the infinite, the of be religious many incommensurable, and will continue to
in centuries after man will have buried the last god. Even love, the infiniteis insufficientfor her. Love always elevates the lover above the average man; and as his increased strength makes him capable of greater and more undertakings, the horizon widens before him more because he
one sees men
of us has a of the ideal ; but rabble and genius, prose and poetry, always raise themselves, by the action of love, to a world which is beautiful, more serene than that in which we nobler, more drag out our daily uneventful existence. How many vulgar,
and things from a greater height. Each different capacity of soaring to the regions
despicable natures are redeemed by the action of love; how many inert intellects are guided through the paths to glory; pus how many of the vulgar herd reach the height of the OlymAnd still of thoughts with the aid of a loving hand!
is daily repeated, that science and glory must, guard against love as against a bitter enemy, and the who loved examples are pedantically quoted of great men the ignoble proverb
but art land to chastity alone owed their greatness. Strange disorder of ideas, in which hygiene is confused with morality, healthy chastity with the incapacity of loving ; but a man in sense and sentiment will always be elevated by love, if he
does not make an unworthy creature the tion, of object his affecif he does not confound love with lust. For one genius killed by love, you have a hundred to love their owe who greatest inspirations, who drew from it the strength to live, who blessed it as superior to glory, who in it alone found the fresh wave that tempered the burning ardor of enthusiasm beast to and passion. It is an old habit of the human
its feet the rind of the fruit from ! has just sucked the last drop of juice If love does not work in all creatures the same
miracles if it is not always a virtue that elevates expect, which we to the level and refines,it is because we have lowered woman lasciviousness, because even feel we, civilized men, of our for her
desire than esteem,
lust than love.
for the ideal, and, like all looks upward faith. Her with more
In a magnificent painting by Schoeffer. attracts her irresistiblyo higher and higher altitudes. Beatrice above. her eyes turned to heaven. it is the by faith. seems to ' ' say to him : Upward.by that faith which lifts lacuna which must be filled deeply feels and so so the mountains. if we were to launch only into those enterprisesof which we are sure ! More than three-fourthsof the great achievements would never have been lation.and she would t have helped had not made of her a Woman feels the sweet concubine or a good housewife. handsome by her sublime imprudence and at every step of life. and if she is not supported by the robust arm of her lover. us also to soar if we has assigned the task of indicating the high aim. she will become easilyprostrated and To her nature sit down to rest on the path that leads upward. by that ardent faith which woman is possessed of and which makes her strong in her weakness. arguments that induce one to believe. contemplates her and is inspired by her. without the strength of hoping. Dante is standing below. aspires to every sublimity. to us the duty of accompanying and sustaining her. fascinating. upward 1 There it is where we shall go together !" Nothing is more contagious than enthusiasm. Woe to us. sustained only by love. if before preparing for an undertaking we should be obliged to weigh with mathematical precisionall favorable . performed. guides us fresh strength. when he was of his religion. There is always an element which evades calcu- and it is in the capricious hands of destiny. onward !" And with her tender litto say to us : hands ever she draws us upward. and Beatrice. seems " tle Onward. Dante gazes at her.THE DEPTHS AND THE HEIGHTS OF LOVE exquisitely sensitive nature. open to the raptures of enthusiasm. she is always full of faith in great and beautiful things. even when she would When Christ made faith the corner-stone and lends us her appear fatigued. he said that with faith we could move the mountains. and which woman :"3] . more irresistiblehan the enthut nothing more siasm Without of woman. and unfavorable probabilities woe to us. inspired. easilyinflamed by the warmth of poetry.now now affectingby her youthful enthusiasm. ideal. but she has neither courage nor strength to ascend. perhaps.
and you will often see them die before producing the fruit of their gigantic. they would have soared still point of view which nearly always escapes the synthetic survey of man. who. proud.. without the aid of woman. and the chivalrous element. when are sold in houses of prostitution or at the counter of it has become fashionable to blush at owing one's matrimony. she is intensely ambitious. after having read the book of history and the book of the human heart. haughty. higher. she discovers many hidden elements of things which we. and thrones and politicalpower. were In heroic and chivalrous ages this was a beloved woman. she will always have her revelations. In small and great things. had they been guided by a loving hand. unaspiring for herself. Love is a second sight. or commerce. if necessary. you should never fail to consult the woman who loves you. into1 the knowledge of human nature. for the man she loves . will always have something new to tell you. but I most solemnly affirm that. and helping us with the and woman a hearts. do not see . reached the prodigious heights of fame . whether about a book. women publicly proclaimed and boasted of. through excessive haste or excessive pride.ambition into the disheartened. and through the action of love you will feel . only woman and love can give them that energy which they cannot obtain from the stimulus Eve knows how to infuse faith into the of self-love. or poetry. civiland martial crowns. vanished and its place was taken by the cicisbeism of our CH43 . alas! sank and perished together with many other evil things which we back again. she assists us in penetrating more deeply into the substance of every problem and. above all. glories of art and won through the ambition lent or inspired by science.THE tenderly infuses into our BOOK OF LOVE may point at the most celebrated eunuchs of the heart. skeptic. forces . after having consulted science and art. or a work or industry. experience and imagination. woman of art.elevated. or a law. Some men of talent lack the coefficientof ambition to ascend. strength to all. Chivalrous love would not like to see come a glory to woman. today. You sees things from light of love.
THE DEPTHS AND THE HEIGHTS OF LOVE great-grandfathers. it may so happen that in that moment creatures will forget that one of them is a Then feminine nature shines man and the other a woman. the higher we soar in the regions of the ideal. is washed off. they contemplate and admire.hey drag us to folly or to t If a desire continues durable and pure upon martyrdom. The more ballastlove throws away which keeps it near to the ground. but . social scrofula disappears and all human soil fleetinginstants Women. from that source of with all the halo of its celestiallight. already These love without contact. genius may draw its greatestenergies. they lead reaching the extreme limits of human possibilities to delirium. men that statue as a fantastic monument erected by the morning Not knowing whether it is an effect clouds of the mountain. This ballast consists all of lust and self-pride. to self-sacrifice. is certainly a voluptuousness the greatest of the sexual world . In the rapture we feel when inhaling the pure air of the loftiest mountains. and without two any need of platonic love. and thus in love we may feel so carried away by the fascination of the ideal as to desire a man's so debasing loves.and it is duty to help us throw it out of our car. natures undergo the influenceof refinement in that pure air. of the mist or the imagery of a dream. The pure and intimate communion ment. of thought and sentiwith nothing of the senses but two clasping hands and two pairs of eyes which blend together. only too rare. love and is not perturbed by the highest summits of human from beneath will contemplate the contact of matter. She should woman's not assist with her lasciviousness and her vanity in further brutish and vulgar. are sublime derangements of the brain. Then coarse poetry. the spiritwithout the matter. we may sometimes forget that night is drawing near and home is far away . you should take advantage of those family and urge it on to higher to regenerate the human ! destinies The influence of the ecstasy of sentiment on man among DISH . while today in the limbo of a new rising generation we feel that we begin to discern the germs of a more beautiful epoch for the amorous life of man.
the social parasites. in that conquered Hercules there is still brute. To ment. for you have creature. their smiles should be the heart. a useful deed! your love be the highest and dearest prize to every ambition I True. wish to be strong in order to give you all our strength. desire the conquest.all the fiends of the moral on world. whom the fateful gift of beauty. for of triumphing genius and magnanimous genius and beauty are the most sublime interlacement of forces. let him have no cup but that of the coarsest voluptuousness . and your angel will fall at your feet. every kiss of yours may the human family owe a great attainto every endearment May of yours. still. should preserve their treasures for the strong and the immortal . direct it to the beautiful. let then. Let us.imploring of you the kiss of the tersoon restrial You are omnipotent then. find no bosom of woman which to rest their heads ! As the Church once would banish excommunicated persons. bread. Who crime. Silence the beast by running much of the human summon your slender fingers through his disheveled mane. the debased. disarm the man who too often wounds the coward find no woman who loves him. let the ignorant. you are stronger the lion at your feet . no shelter. but only to place it at your feet. forth from the depths holy energies. or strikes. you are weak . it should so be so that they could find no with moral monsters : let them be banished from the region favored with nature of love ! And the elect women. is strong. of crown Cue] . and if man Guide it toward the since his strength is all for you. In that lion with a subdued voice at your feet there is still much of the beast. she is horrifiedat the very thought of crime. she fears strong. noble inspirations and which roars a we we thirst for the ideal. We wish to be great for your sake. good and the better. one of the most splendid pictures human ture of the naliving beings.THE BOOK OF LOVE is of shorter duration than on woman. but when you are desired you are very dares assert that he is stronger than the "no" What phalanx attempts to advance when the of a woman? ' ' finger of woman Stand back !"? : threatens and commands Woman sins at least four times less than man.
and fruits drink from the rays of the sun the sweetest and most inebriati voluptuousness. no miasmatic exhalation ever attain. sends up every to the branches of the robust tree every sap and every energy . profundity becomes blended in the ecstasy of an ardent contemplation of the beautiful and the good. and there. every throb of energy. cnn . in those regions full of light and heat. ask of themselves: "And what is God?" sublimity.no atom of dust. high in the air. There. leaves. and which no worm of the soil. and man and woman. after having spread the minute fibrilsof its tiny roots into all the deep fissuresof the human world and absorbed drop of liquor.flowers.THE DEPTHS AND THE HEIGHTS OF LOVE Love.
which. Furthermore. images. the youngest of human of the robe of childhood which in his caprices and in his follies. in northern countries. his games full of grace and strength. No religion ever had more senseless idolatry than Love. in which it was strips of the wrapping Like so Love. childish because. carries remnants he has just discarded. caress. today he defies he will with tears imheaven with closed fists. sects and. now a coward.CHAPTER SUBLIME PUERILITIES IX OF LOVE volucre from the inthe butterfly. altars. insignia. protests against the severe worship of certain religious even Love. then sympathy timid. tomorrow plore Love is childish because he is a child. no Cii83 . In he surprises you with his violence. delights in the of the idolatry which is most pomp characteristic of the south. when just emerged of the chrysalis. canopies being a and tabernacles. incense. unleashing a hero. in his blind idolatries and in his childish sorrows. stillbears on its folded wings some long enveloped. now all powerful. demands great admirer of churchly gorgeousness. Love is puerile because he is also so religious to as to be superstitious and subject all the nonsensical ideas that may pass through the brain of a timid and ignorant woman. then he awakens for his weakness. tinsel. Now your most passions. he is more dithyrambs than often lyric than epic. and agitating in a convulsive kaleidoscope all the images of thought. you would say that you behold before you a child genius. and writes more stories.more poems than philosophical treatises. then all the impulses of the moral world. a childish because he is a poet.
invisibleGod of nobler religions. of nature or imaginaAnd to love. also. more altars and more priests.every worship. everything in which the dear image is reflected.SUBLIME PUERILITIES OF LOVE gods. All these become an of worship. Who the adoration for a rosebush from which she had plucked a flower. and. or the thought of the beloved. the horrid and the graceful. tribute to a creature of earth or space. man most erects his altar. w boundary he raises himself upon the altar and casts avidious glances into the darkness of the unknown. all all the human loves carried into the farthest regions of the ideal. and there he is suspended over the abysses of noth- In that darkness live all the infinities. Full of faith and fears. and the idolatry for a petal which she had scented . and has reached field. from the fetish of the savage to the omnipotent. To that altar he often he prays and adores at the same brings the amber and the coral gathered on the sea-shore and the gold found in the sands of the stream. on his knees. the eye. everything is holy that has been touched by the hand. Love would himself have invented idolatry if this had not had an infinityof other roots to sprout from through the human brain. good and holy above everyis the creature whom he loves. world. thing solemnly asserts that beautiful.at the furtherof the human world. the gods. where no form appears to him but the expansion and the reflection the rays of this of ingness. He accepts every belief. foolish and who does not remember the thousand various and relicsof love? In the reliquary of love have found a place the beautiful I had a and the grotesque.desires. more Olympus had feels. loves very much. on his knees. Not satisfiedith this. time. To love.he always the furthermost boundary of the human erects an altar with the richest and most beautiful material man When his command and there. the most beautiful flowers of his thought. and offersall as a tion. C119] . all is transformed into a magic mirror in object does not remember which we contemplate our god. prays and adores. the poetry found at in his erratic wanderings through the heaven of the ideal.
We. and which was for him the only relic his desk for long years the skull There are those as his dearest companion. If every beautiful woman could know all the kisses. that. No woman ever was as beautiful as the image which her lover sees in the calm of his solitary adoration. kissing and contemplating a thread of silk which she had hel/1in her hands. Who all those rays end. where the heat of so many motions accumulates. all the insensate acts of the on of love. or pictures upon the black ground of a night of dreams. what transardent desires that extend on woman. where such a scattered force gathers again? If it is true that nothing is lost of all that is takes place in so many in the infinite void of space? Modesty imposes a great sobriety of behavior formation generated. Another of his sweetheart kept idolatry of love? . however. but it is a comparison. she would presentva C1203 . a comparison which would often be dangerous. greater and more beautiful than the reality of things. She conceals from our eyes the intimate adorations. the revels of the heart and the most strange hysterics of sentiment. a dress. who have slept for months and years with a book. if the magic brush of imagination did not also by the eye and overcolor the beauty of the things seen caressed by the hand . give vent more j describe the scenes a beautiful and fortunate woman should which she has witnessed in her youth. always less enamored often a tyrannical reserve. which sions deluthe lives of artists and poets with sorrow. all the caresses.THE BOOK OF LOVE friend who used to weep for long hours with joy and emotion. at a sign from us. And who can enumerate a shawl. Sensations accumulate such mysterious and deep energies in the brain of man. all the ardent tendernesses. she would certainly feel proud that she possessed the power of calling forth so many knows where energies from the world of the living. they can all spring up and erect an edifice before us. all the hymns offered to her by the multitude of men who admire and desire her. all the sublime puerilities. freely to our effervescence and if than she. often sows and even crimes.
orgies of fancy and hurricanes of the senses. a collection which would combine the grotesque with the sublime. folly with passion. hiding our puerilities profane. abdications of common sense. she covers from queenly mantle. sake. impudent threats of death and impossible fasts. our for honor's she is merciful and modest . sudden abandonments dignity. us of her with a corner the eyes of the C121] . and often from our own. and how much baseness has woman to witness ! Fortunately for us. of one's stupid sacrifices of one's own personality. how many carand bacchanalia.SUBLIME PUERILITIES OF LOVE collection of caricatures before which all others would grow dim and mawkish. humiliations worthy of a Franciscan friar and braggart rodomontades. How nivals much misery.
you know less is important for what it then.and drunk the water of every spring and every stream . country. and with it sense. must instant and fuse together the have most varied. every force of the mind is an instrument of love. but if you have not sketched the confines of than half its history. and all things act and react reciprocally. Every interlacing of factors and instruments. Love. without marking the point where its indicountry A cannot ends and the influence of the neighboring country begins to be felt. as indented as the coast of Dalmatia It is a land capricious. passions and thoughts. in this world can another. adjoins near a Not one. You may have trampled every clod. So it is with love. numberless 1:1223 . in turn. every passion. irregular. of causes and effects. which has frontiers as vast as the human world. which is but the kiss of two creatures germs who blend for an of their power. wandered through every path. Everything is and what impunely be it. it radiates its penetrating light to the furthermost confines of the world.CHAPTER BOUNDARIES OF LOVE. TO THE AND X THEIR RELATIONS SENSES be surveyed without tracing exactly its boundaries. into all countries. which by the supreme right of existence requires the contact of two different natures. bends in a thousand different ways to senses. scented the soil of every field. and while this gigantic power warms and agitates the inmost fibers of the human organism. It is a continual sense.changeable. which projects adjacent into close and complicated contact. but this. sentiment and thought come or to of Norway. without following them in their capricious and vidualit serpentine lines.
the pen of the writer would slip into the fieldwhere science becomes lasciviousness. sight reveals and charms. be entrusted to the clinicof pathological Of the other four senses. as well as in human natures of a low and bestialtype. Perhaps man C1233 . however.too. which takes no part in the pleasures of love. hearing impassions and can conquers. for this glorious lacuna leftby modesty in the fieldofrhuman knowledge. and twinges with delight. with the exception of taste. the other senses also add their flowers to the garland of love.to mark the confines. touch has the psychology. greatest part in love. hearing the smallest. without any scruple. to embrace her passionately. The senses. a million notes would be insufficientto express all the harmonies and melodies of amorous contact. that physical love is a sublime form of contact and touch. without departing from strictscientific truth. We easily have a comparative idea of the various parts which the four To senses take in love by comparing these four moments: see the beloved woman and gaze at her for a long time . in thinking that where poetry taminated. Touch conquers. It could even be said. I regret at times that one of the greatest poets did not sing the sublime voluptuousness of love with such loftiness of style as to leave his pen unconwould like to know also the limits of the genius of lust. and as the most voluminous dictionary in the world would decline to enter upon such an undertaking. sight and smell range between the two former in very differentdegrees. In inferioranimal forms. love is nothing but touch and contact .BOUNDARIES OF LOVE to relations the sense of touch. smell cherishes and inebriates. of ours. A thousand. except in peculiar cases. differmore in the nature of the joys and sorrows with which they take part in the greatest of human passions than in the various quantities of elements which they yield to love. a hundred thousand. to hear her voice without seeing her. to inhale voluptuously the aroma with which she is wont to scent her robe. but ascending to the high spheres of the animal world and of the human microcosm. which can. of this human norance but I find some consolation for this sublime igpossibility.
made oversensitiveby voluptuousness. an unknown man. Woman may delude* herself into believing his hand has that she is unblemished by man's contact when but touched the hem of her garments or the leather of her is always a shoes. two feet that come A molecule of a man touch impunely a who loves can never of hair that touches his love . with a second kiss. will transmit the innate of life. A hand that clasps one. is always moulded for it by its anatomy. that we may find ourselves carried into the sphere of love. but when skin has touched skin. gradually. in contact are always two sparks that fly. touch a molecule of a man with that of a woman and the two molecules will not be what they were before. and the Adam. Sublime science. every molecule individuality carries that returns to the spheres of its own away something that does not belong to it. when a finger has touched a finger.THE BOOK OF LOVE contact current kept silent and science inactive.uncontrasted and uncontrastable possession. pour all the nectar of the chalice of voluptuousness into the lips of the daughter of Eve. in love.definite. touch always keeps the character Touch. where an intimate of two kisses creates a new existence. love. always deeply sensual. positive. and the thousand contacts can. Touch is always the act of possession. which was never written on papyrus nor sculptured in marble or bronze. Touch soft iron with the loadand you will see it magnetized . two a mass fires that blend in two of hair means streams of voluptuousness rushing into the bed of one river. and will love ! From the purest caress on a mass of hair to the greatest hurricane of voluptuousness.and leaves with stone the other something of itself. while she has entirely passed into our we the woman molecule of the woman the contact may be more who returns ' C124I . in love. but is transmitted in the flash of a kiss through thousands of generations that loved. steal so much. and although rapid than lightning. transmits to the new together with the sparks all the treasures of past voluptuousness. a mass a hand means. son of science of love. something is already lost of that waxy spreads upon the virginal fruit still varnish which nature preserving the perfume of the tree that nourished it.
From handclasping to the kiss the path may be to perform a dangerous hundred very long and endless. even the insuperable heights of voluptuousness. believes she has remained a virgin after a kiss given Whoever and returned is a hypocrite. in exquisitely elevated natures a contact is more because it radiates rapidly. It is typical of this most powerful passion miracles a day and thus arrest voluptuousness at the lastboundary of kissing. but adroitness and fortune are necessary to make it possible to stop there for a long time. every definite boundary has vanished and everything is possible. Even in touch love has but two principal even stations before the goal is reached.BOUNDARIES OF LOVE sphere. do not let your adorers go behandclasping . Not in vain the modest woman trembles and rebels innocent contact. as in a abysses of infinitebeauty. the of object our love.into the field of voluptuousness. Every sensation of touch. by the barrier of a handshake. into that of the other senses and that of Vulgar natures begin where refined natures end . but remember that a kiss returned is a bond. at every means a boundary that is eliminated between two properties. unless you intend to change your name. the bold and uncouth rustic ration throws a kiss to the girl and embraces her at the firstdeclaof love. handclasping and kiss. and in elect natures it is so prodigal of joyto lovers as to excel. held back and while too elevated natures live long 'together. you may in rare cases arrive at the kissi that you may receive . in love. it means the loss of a property. of course.it sounds at a stroke the is suspended. never. It is not hypocrisy alone that makes modesty more exacting in higher races . the delirium of possession. sentiment. What one contemplates with Sight possesses everything save C1253 . studied reticence of lust may still leave something to conhave the dangerous fortune to be O women who yond beautiful and to be desired. but beyond a kiss given and returned. in extensity if not in intensity. which you should never tremendous sign. over which halo. like him who believes that the quer. and rapid and penetrating as it is. " Sight is the first messenger of love.
Touch likes to remove it contemplates. and while it refines desire and frees passion from the coarsest lasciviousness. compares and controls with incredible agility all the elements of the esthetic for its light illumines world. This. penetrates through opaque bodies and makes them transparent. measures. all thought.it may so happen that the firewill spread from the high spheres of the esthetic ideal down to the vile and brutish instincts. When and conquers. sight need not divest the and woman object every shade. through the divine lines that enclose our treasure. eye which rests the rays of its light illumines it. every emotion of love is rapidly transferred to . is illumined in turn and shows The of two brilliant stars exchanging beautiful. Sight is made to accompany delicious excursion. divines. at the little vortex of a curl or at the pass opalescence of a nail. all psychical No possesses this gigantic other sense energies of man. happens in all men of a loving eye to us the phenomenon their lights and on a base type. analyzes. a thousand times in a minute. the animal instincts and the The eye is the lower passions to contemplate its panoramas. the highest regions of the ideal.it elevates the faculty of elevating us compelling the minor to man who love to the highest spheres of human the veils that cover the possibility. in fact.THE BOOK OF LOVE ties the eyes of love from head to foot always ends in two infiniinto which desire hurls itselfwith frenzied audacity and us in that insatiable curiosity. all passions. they also attain the the eye admost mires sublime summits of ideal beauty. If one does not lower rendering themselves more the chaste eyelids. senses. The eyes of love have all the virtue of the telescope and the microscope. it can also compel us to pass and re- with vertiginous speed. and while it sees it also surmises. beautiful. it invites to the picture which it draws from nature all senses. inspects. first minister of the mind. and as it can tarry long and suavely at a dimple of the cheek. and while not a single curve of the thousand labyrinths through which the mobile feminine beauty seems to nutter and flicker can escape them. threads its way through the most intricate folds.
how many months.sad day of our life have been enabled to see all the But to the esthetic treasures of succeeded in adding those of art. Perhaps I will some if I attempt to write a "Physiology of Beauty. in ' ' order to say again. the eye has love for a companion it finds each other.BOUNDARIES OF LOVE the regions of touch. to eyes to roam sity study every flower. on the contrary. kiss and fecundate where love and beauty meet and. In the last day of his lifethere is always some "unknown land" which the eye has not yet discovered or sufficiently xplored. the angelic creature !" A chaos of sensations. a sight has ever some in the world can always world to conquer. how many poems of delight. the most powerful king can always know the extent in square miles of his but he who loves a beautiful creature dies without having seen. but how many days. to include a number dominions you. a region to explore. we have added of to our forms such and so many beauties that it is easier to day imagine than to enumerate them. I intend to point out the general laws which govern the Here I must only describe the confines esthetic world. When new a world to contemplate in the cerulean star-thistle firsttime in her which our sweetheart interweaves for the D273 . and with the thousand artifices garment and ornaments. in turn. do. What inten- enraptured. In elect natures. five or ten years after : Oh. the angelic creature !" Nature was very generous in distributing attractionsin the bodies of and woman. beauty to discover. The richestman count the dollars and the stocks he possesses. enamored of voluptuous analysis. the latter widens the limits of its : dominions infinitely greater in esthetic ful combinations.a world of beautiful things have surprised. how many years will be required for your through the thousand paths of that garden. And e intimate difference which distinguishestouch this is just the from sight.every petal of each flower." in which. While the former has well determined boundaries and a definitetask. man man and the short. forms of human nature. always vanishes before we beauty. In a flash of the eye you have seen a beauti' ' being and immediately said : Oh. contemplated or admired all.
on the . and a glove. fault is not of the eyes. ardently. a naughty relief to her raven continent. If I wished to indicate by an ideographic sign all the varied and essential parts which the sense of sight assumes in love. in the arsenal of her garments.THE BOOK OF LOVE golden hair. that too see. us Sight is the only However. but and we not only contemplate to admire and to enjoy. also to discover. and. how many thoughts find in the one whom we intend to make ours forever. I would use the figure. The man voluptuousness who loves a beautiful laughs compassionately at the polygamist pasha who woman beauties of the to find the hundred needs a hundred women human Venus. can we beauty is such a powerful tyrant in love that it forces us under its yoke and usurps the rights of the highest to needs. to pardon every crime. evokes before the eyes of a hundred. However. above all. a winged messenger. sense which. and may cause most this ridiculous and farcical hallucinations. and with the right directing our gaze toward of Mercury. Nature defends and protects the beautiful everything else. apron in the crimson geranium nificent which gives a maglittle muslin locks. which loving care of the forms in which germs are moulded into living bodies. of nature. proceeds to effect moral and intellectual discoveries in the person beloved. to accept the most but of the senses. in the thousand of her flexuous body.and the fascination of beauty may impel shameful in us the compromises with our conscience. a sort of above that desire has such a with the left hand leading Voluptuousness the earth. by the flash of the eye and the throbbing of the facial muscles. perhaps because it is the crucible in which the good and the true are melted together. which too may become a new or cruelly and too tightly squeezes a rosy littlehand. undulations her lover not with a in the variety of her smiles. in love. but a thousand women. all beautiful differentbeauty. may enclose in the nest of its littlebuttons of mother of pearl so beauties as to stir our senses or infuse an unknown many new into us. how many affections. and the beautiful woman. A beautiful woman who is desired seldom seems us frivolous and heartless.
chastely reveal their sex. as that of a girl bathing. such as are be termed lascivious may phenomena. hearing has a tender. most impassioned Man have each a peculiar voice. other sweet things: "I am alone. the sweetest. "I am beautiful. frightened by the rustle of the leaves. I etc. so while it delights us. and the and woman . the true and tender company the sublime. where in holiest and most live the good and the beautiful. The voice of which throbs with excitement and emotion* some women . before trustlooks around little foot to the wave. while the heart to throb with woman's virile timbre of his voice causes feminine deeply sexual desires.BOUNDARIES OF LOVE highest regions of the ideal. if we set aside the prominent part it has as an instrument We are not to discuss here music or the of thought. canintelligent. affects us deeply and lastingly."but it can say. I want I await you ardently. say. affectionate We would say that it stirs affections. many The very much of a woman. part. who. I am languishing with love. I am I am a woman. I desire much. pitates of their voices.and always brought to us by some sounds which (the swish murmur of a silk gown. etc. small but interesting part in the story of love. them to vibrate with. but the purely Hearing yields some very sensual. There are some the most suavely do their notes penetrate into the greatest depths of the heart. of certain waves.) rare exceptions. you at once." . and resembles a caress by the wing of a swan voices that cannot be heard with impunity. beyond the idea it represents. it perturbs and confuses us. her as though not sound of the voice. where are preserved all the variform archetypes of sublimity. and the heart paling violently. pleasures almost tactile. a Hearing has through value of ideas communicated sensual influence of the ear in amorous words. the warbling of some but beyond these notes. am alone. the sexual character of the feminine voice affects man. predisposing birds. Man through the notes and woman.
fascinates and conquers a and we are unable to discover the cause of such We feel ourstorm selves roused by a few sounds. reconquered. tle. may be a powerful excitant in inferior races. in love. by the omnipotence of chemistry. delivers us. is never forgotten. long since forgotten. of every leaf. And this influence of the voice lastsa long time. We have brought into our power the essence C1303 . with imart. the pudent repugnant smell of many enamored animals. against which rebellion is impossible. it surprises. the violence of we touch. or in the lower type of men of high races. and we feel ourdisturbed. bound.THE The BOOK OF LOVE seduction of the voice has some of the characteristics attributed to ancient sorcery. Hearing will cast its fishing-line than one love has been waters of our affection. the wings of the wind have carried to her nostrils inebriatesand fills her with voluptuousa perfume that ness. In the animal world perfumes are often the more direct and in amorous struggles. hand a voice seems to us of a mysterious power which demands and foot. of every bark. and. and more a resuscitated miraculously from the coldest ashes by voice which we had. perhaps. in the most refined natures. After long years of silence. More than once have resisted the seductions of sight. the perfume of every calyx. into the arms from us the blindest submission. dear Love has many mysterious relations to the olfactory sense. surprised. we know how to reproduce without having recourse to the power of life. the selves wind carries to us the sound of a voice. and even before powerful instigators the female has seen the companion by whom she desires to be conquered. but the voice conquers us.often survives love itself. contempt. but it exercises. almost humiliated at being vanquished without a batcarried off without our consent. as in the firstday into the deepest of our love. and the fascination of us. by means of every petal. mixing the odors of flowers with exciting aromas. indifference. a few words. a powerful influence even This sense of perfumes which we have conquered from nature and which. the work of a witch.
BOUNDARIES we OF a LOVE essence so have concentrated in few drops of much centrate olfactory voluptuousness as warm spring could hardly conin a flowering meadow Now or in a tropical forest the deep and intense voluptuousness of perfumes is the daughter of a remote atavism which makes us susceptibleof the sexual exhalations of many living beings and. they mysteries of the senses. and perhaps a few will be women able to tell you.a sublime scene of love. titillating nd morbid wave of odors no longer a his strength in relation to a chaste and robust virilmeasures ity. can have a C1313 . last drop of juice. Ask why love perfumes so much. Ask the art of the perfume-maker. to It is difficult remain a long time in the warm atmosphere of voluptuousness without sacrificinga great part of those noble forces which are destined for higher attainments . more than anything else. after having mixed a hundred essences of flowers and leaves. and by abandoning them or to the savage woman who anoints herself from courtesan. Ask many oversensual men and they will tellyou that they cannot visitwith impunity the laboratorieswhere essences and perfumes are you will see that such a made. If you study the expression on the face of a woman who is scenting a very odorous flower and feels as though inebriate picture resembles. and this explains why no impassioned mania for perfumes He who plunges into moral influence over us. but taken from the organs of love of some animal. it gives relief to and improves all those perfumes by adding an infinitesimal quantity of a matter. but squeezes from the fruit the and in delights. the tepid. the rapid convulsion of weariness imagines new debasement and the contempt for But between this human to the perfumes there is an abyss. or will answer with a blush. And if by a long experience they have already learned the most subtle all the finestarts of coquetry. fetid in itself. will tell you that perfumes are a powerful weapon in the of them possess an irresistible arsenal of love and that some charm over the senses of man. and it will answer that. no voluptuousness than smell. solely for has more intimate ties with animal sense this reason.
THE BOOK OF LOVE reason. C132H .hyacinths and narcissus. we a throw away. and around our weave the garlands we with her flowers joysdo not deplete her inexhaustible gardens. is a sin could be Do you ever believe that love gathered in a shower of violets. through the petals of a rose. Do you believe that a kiss given to that one you whom love and who is yours. head to foot. between the crepuscules nally of two sighs. without any much of dear and sweet voluptuousness which and enjoyed cultivated by us without any offense to morals. could be called lasciviousness? Nature is eterof lust? rich.
most perfect love that a man desire or dream of. bright flame. When an moment affection approaches love it is together. can ever . while the heat of voluptuousness is flamingwithin her. when it comes like and draws them into the orbit of its movements. of the voluptuousness of love. one is standing. attracts thing that. when they come eliminate each other. wavers and disappears. most constant. each controlled by certain laws in its a own sphere . while neither matter nor force sight of the common be destroyed. lasting as long as life. too small fragment of cosmic matter which.CHAPTER BOUNDARIES OF XI RELATIONS TO OTHER LOVE " THEIR " SENTIMENTS JEALOUSY In the Apollo room in the Vatican you will see an ancient bas-relief representing two bacchantes with the Dionysian thyrsus . near sentiments are forces. is such a in contact with them. having come The to the sun. they conglomerate or influence which exercise a mutual a so to disappear from the powerfully influencedby it as to seem people. in comparison with all other sentiments. the These two are other falls exhausted from intoxication. lust transpires on her face. an ardent energy. and at which. Love. and a bull is beating his horns against her legs . now struggle that conquers. from time to time. then affectionate blandishment moments that restrains. or causes them to deviate from the line followed by them before. is attracted and devoured by that body. then calm possession. it rules. are kindled the sparks of a desire that flaresUp. but they are also the two most elementary forms of the sentiment that bind man Now to woman. race can of superior is a hot. The most sublime. she bears the thyrsus. but can only change in form.
the tortures of childbirth. at perpetual . his eyes gouged . for victory must be laid. even the most generous ones. because we seek in it the greatest volupbut love and egotism are two affectionsthat follow j us to love andifferent orbits. since a even the martyr satisfies very high need of a generous sentiment. every hoped for glory. Apart from a few elect creatures to woman. science? Does not woman long illnessof gestation. If by egotism. while the latter makes us love ourselves and tends to preserve the individual. too. war the contrary. all riches desired. in the intoxication of struggles? And how many love.if he be a healthy man. of the bitternessand the thorns which they are sowing in that moment . Many Love is. but as long as he has one limb intact. We may thirst for wealth and glory as but in the background we behold the the greatest of joys.. that love is the most egotistic tuousness of sentiments. every flower and every fruit of the garden of life must be laid at the feet of somebody. And uses we do it to embrace the female in an amorous not. I do not speak of woman.THE this every day. on animals prefer death to abandoning the faithful companion. could be considered as forms of egotism. with egotism. the supreme joysof the creations of thought are permitted. for instance. every satisfied vanity. the pains pf nursing. love represents the greatest of energies. to have his limbs amputated. her. perhaps. the crowning of every edifice. glory.we mean the desire of satisfying a need. Even the toad suffers himself to be tortured.and this somebody is- ni34u .since the former causes other many subject creature the preservation of the and has as its object species.yet it pales before the brilliantlight of the Titan of the Affections.'they are preparing for themselves? Even the most and loves a whom sires deperfect egotist. outline of a feminine creature at whose feet the trophies of because. the anxious cares of domestic and educational think. burned. then all the sentiments. BOOK OF LOVE On very fallacious arguments are advanced It is said. by an inexorable law. offer as holocaust to love offer to love the wealth. and although the latter is a gigantic affection. the history of sorrow which.he clasp.
perhaps. It often oc- that a man. as a so clude sacrificemade to the god "Myself. and every one ardently. the most prodigal and most splendid of the passions that tribute which they cannot refuse to themselves. too. covetous lecheries of old age. but such cases are very rare if they last the whole curs life. we pass. love is for all and always the highest promise.BOUNDARIES always a man. ish and. the most inebriating of loving a enthusiasms of love. From the grave. The gods of every Olympus also have and there are feminine forms for the males the cradle to and masculine forms for the females. Read vulgar revelry and there is ever an Eve." is." I do not deny that in some human monsters egotism. we fear longer able to love. a transubto tell me stantiation of love. come anxiously hopes that the hour. rare when they last for a shorter period. the burning pages of the mystic writers. he too pays. and you will be able if all that fantastic world is not. with the firstwhite hairs. trained to and living in the most sordid egotism. life ends must The OF LOVE fireworks with which every festivity of be a woman. They are ignorant of the most sublime joys.and becomes expansive with her. prodigal. falls in love when old with a poor young girl. of the holy voluptuousness of a age. through the feverhysteria of early youth. Between the automatic lust of adolescence and the studied a sexual form. The tocsin of old but for every age age begins to sound when. or in a mystic but amorous ecstasy. things the best . the minute will never for him in which he shall be compelled to say the tremendous that we are no words: "I cannot. bottom of every at the always on the horizon of every sublime glory To love and to be loved is of all human in the world of the suprasensible. at one time and in a very ridiculous way. and even the religions of every country have always promised to the good and the believer an eternity of love in the harem of voluptuousness. powerful as to exlove . love is the sweetest joy. but in . generous. to the deep passions of virility . the debt which nature in vain claimed from him during his and denying selfishmanner. young and mature Great egotistsalso love.
love and you man's egotistical love. five offenses given to five different sentiments. The physiological study of jealousy if would be sufficient. in the latter a generous one. it grieves us to be robbed of our books. love have been the offended C1363 . to demonstrate the queer confusion of language in relation to psychical facts. to be more specific. the friendly timent. employed to express the chemical composition of bodies. our country. One would say that it is the language of the alchemists. sendevotion to our country. or. Jealousy really property applied to love. signifiesa pain of the sentiment of love. our father. We may beat or kill a man friend. in fact. that he garden.energy developed by the The paternal. It is not sary necesto create a new energy or a new word to express this because he has brutally hafred. our sweetheart. our offended our son. should be hated. they love in If you wish to study the physiognomy their own of way. same mechanism. the most legitimate of all hatreds. our It is the to injury touches our sweetheart.THE woman BOOK OF LOVE than oneself . the most is natural. man with that of a young wocompare the love of an old man : you will have in the former ah egotisticaltype of love. compare with woman's more will find it easy to penetrate into the mysteries of this part striking contrast. our dearest thing. of psychology} and if you desire a more that the differences may be represented in a bolder relief. who races. of possession and that of self-esteem exercise upon love. the filial.' then. or of the flowers of our It is natural. "nd is to the importance given to jealousy sufficient prove this. one would believe that we it were stilldealing with the "nothing white. but always hatred aroused by grief. this jealousy but a form of hatred." the "philosophic ' ' tetrascelitetraoxicoquindodeca" of our good wool" and the are ancestors. And. but they also love. More complex are the influences which stillneeded.the sentiment caused by the offense done us through the infidelityof the person we love. The child scratches and bites him who touches or spoils its fruits its toy. This in all times and in almost all pain is natural in all men. the sentiment.
is a nations. OF a LOVE and or new blows of a centrifugal hatred. why should there be jealousy?A may every one "Woman is the Bolivian woman once cynically told me: Throw a stone into it: will. beak" . should we create a new ousy? jealsentiment All sentiments. cup out of which drink. injured. woman woman If jealousy. it was simply asserted that an be committed? insult to the flag of blind and led us to commit love is offended. then. but she can be given away without either disgrace or jealousy.BOUNDARIES in us. to repel those who have offended them. water? between identical things I" In polygamous man races. but sexual intercourse. like a horse or a dog. and why. the hatred that an animal manifests toward any creature which interrupts it in its loves? Well. only can be jealousin polyanlegally. the contrary. But in these various cases. self-esteem and property. we Is it jealousy. races Only in the higher and monogamous the sentiments of a love. are all the phenomena of jealousy reduced to this When as the instinct is satisfied. . forming triple armor incite us to defend her "with claws and around our woman. was the presence sentiment deemed necessary in order that the crime we have responded with might Certainly not. with death. promiscuous there can be no are and woman is considered woman common property. as to lead to assault or assassination . for many savages. and C137] . we give the name of "jealousy". to tell me a minute afterward where the stone broke that to make distinctions You are very foolish. consisting of the union of three sentiments.you be able water of a stream. and to this unyielding body. when satisfied. All injured sentiments lead us. to endearments. With various alone can be jealous is a property like any other. to be of assistance to those who have " had rendered us violence. dric ones. It was said that the had aroused such distress in us paternal affection. when our country given on us these satisfactions. hence she can be voluntarily offered to the friend or to the guest. you man. to harm those from whom have received that pain. the unions single form. then. lead us to close friendships. to whom love is nothing. They do not want anybody to steal her.
the grief of injured love. the triple combination of three say. mother.THE here we BOOK OF LOVE have same a name. we discuss at length. after having confused three different things. second psychical form. loves country. If by words were the sorrow take place if mean jealousyou y caused by not being loved or by being deceived. to offended. and always in of are jealous and vain. cannot witness without sorrow an But if by jealousy offense offered to son. a ganizat called jealousy special psychical individual orbecome suspicious and tyrannical by which we not though toward reason And we the person we love and whom offend without any we and from whom withhold all legitimate liberty. discussions. that form of tyrannical suspicion which tortures you mean the person possessed by it. Let us proceed to other. self a pathological sentiments -pride. constitutional suspicion. elementary Under the analysis.then I shall tell you that we very well can and should love without ever feeling that jealousy. then every heart that loves must be jealous thus. in order to decide whether all men " " whether whether to measures jealousy anyone can love with an exact ruler and love without being jealous vain. whoever . which centers the person beloved or possessed. not : not say puerile. the most grouped. possession and irritability suspicion. arid name shall understand of single effectiveenergy. (3) A sorrow (4) An habitual. that is to love. such a coarse by grief. and each that we an can be even jealous without we a loving. The only common ties among these psychical phenomena are these : that all apply to a love offended. for an injury property . and that they an are all accompanied empiricism. Such empiricism ! Is this not actual C 138 3 . to wit : (1 ) The sorrow single sentiment. country. of a dissimilar phenomena are (2 ) The sorrow born of the sentiment of self-esteem. or alleged to be on caused by a love offense . which would previously defined. we as have already excessive. son. mother. another thing called such confusion were by the But.
look for some occasion of sorrow deeply more and regret. in Amerthe most jealousf all are the Brazilians. and becomes necessary in all countries where polygamy prevents man psychical phenomenon. her. force of love by the unreasonableness of suspicion. that which called all volatile bodies "spirits. parts of Spain. May a benign fate keep it t cure. o The common people will certainly not be persuaded by the and will continue to measure my psychological analysis. according to the special constitution of a In any case. to taunt their lovers with this many because you are not do not love me foolish plaint: "You How can you love me if you do not feel for me the jealous. Can anyone love anybody on earth are Certainly not." and the oxide of zinc "philosophic wool"! As i jealousys not an elementary but simply an empirical mixture. and where the husband. finding it strange and against nature to be too happy. You should love your companion in love in the same fear must not be the wrath and if you fear to lose him. Italians.it is very difficulto 139 IT 3 . and yet we own than one's children? not jealous when others love them. ica . and.Spaniards. that Vain counsels ! of the inquisitor nor the clutch of the miser. merely because he is rich and powerful. and father and mother fondling them. that in some to me. heaven knows many for how centuries. with it. and dear and lovely women will continue. It seems has not a clear historical origin. perhaps.BOUNDARIES OF LOVE alchemy. as I learned. cases an ethnical character. sublimely vie with each other in adoring and manner . selects his wife and forces his love upon Oriental nations is proverbial. The jealousyf many o and from perhaps monogamous with polygamous however. is Words Jealousy one of the most thrown to the winds! if one is born constitutional psychological maladies. and. ethnical forms. often uttered by slightest jealousy?" happy creatures who. it has many and varied physically and morally satisfying a woman. Portuguese are very jealousand. above race. Foolish lamentations. in Europe. but assumes jealousy contact through peoples become jealous in Sicily and in certain as ones. all.
disappear at will Self-esteem. society. deeply and sincerely. the path cannot must not be a long one . of our joy. and to love and esteem our companion. as it has already largely declined in Jealousy. he investigatesthe past. and that the highest and noblest creatures have always loved The day when we perceive that we are no without jealousy. but they should die in a hurricane in a battle. What a hellish life! a hundred times better not to love than to love in this way. of love. worm Let woman that woodof let the husband or lover to be a slave or a freedwoman. indifference a kiss. the jealousy-mad. they should not drag a or miserable existence between the courts and the prisons. the present and the in future. cease cease to be the proprietor of a woman. when when matrimony the choice shall be always reciprocal. a frank answer . let suspicion or love die. let love die without are longer loved. when we From suspicion to condemnation replacing it with jealousy. love which is jealousy. besides. it transforms the man who loves into a policeman. monogamous poisons all shall be but the sanctificationof love. between sincere lovers. and all those lepers once. suffering. when in the moral relations between the two sexes all trace of hypocrisy shall have disappeared. C1403 . deceived. The punishment men of the few jealous with exquisitely gentle heart should be this: to know that those who are as as jealous they generally entertain more self-love than love.will continue to decrease in the future. always armed. he seeks the lie in a caress. in the man jealous And It is love he always fears hypocrisy. of which it enriches the treasures. A or hundred feverish times better a lightning that kills consumes us than our jaundice which sources the stamina of the lives.THE from you! BOOK OF LOVE It poisons the dearest joysof life. doubting. is the surest guarantee of defense against that sordid parasite. pours its gall into every drop of water. and acquittal. To know that we are loved. into every mouthful of bread. to a frank question. penetrates every pore of the skin. independent of jealousy. die a violent death. has many legitimate No relations to love. is always spying. esteemed. with alert ear and prying eyes.
that is to say. and of the moon life. relish the secret joyof knowing that the world can. and we were have seen by what paths one is led to therefore obliged to consider friendship. man. then. just as men oftener than a war women through pure vanity. Lovers and sweethearts. which I wish all the daughters of Eve who shall have deserved love should feel. undertake of conquest. but when love disappears we can no see the minor sentiments take its place. the light that wanes. which can humiliating others and without any shadow of rancor. off love. strength to be delighted in without these joys. and when she radiates such and reserve an the apathetic. knows how to say countrenounce delicate reserve things silently. and all other tender affections can longer be seen or felt. and that of the minor stars are invisible. less with admirable art. however. OF LOVE no a woman by most in the world. we In that study love. knowing that he or she is loved noble creature. belong to the history of pride and vanity. solely as trophies of war. incapable of loving. may conquer men women. D413 . objects and it is natural for human vanity to seek those things and to appreciate and utilize them to humiliate those who have Vanity uses love. and many them not. other sentiments as sources compassion and many have relation to the But all endearing sentiments may Prince of Affections.BOUNDARIES man. when love glows above the horizon of friendship. aureole of light as to dazzle the adorer With the majestyof a queen and the and without opening her lips. Woespecially. she is proud of a noble love. we however. It is almost always beyond human envies us. as a pretext . choirs of adorers and famous beauties may be of luxury. take the place of love When the sun shines in the heavens. and if a prohibits our heralding our good fortune. All these of love. compassion. I am loved!" Holy and justand ' chaste pride. in the same way. and we have already dealt with them in our study on the sources may. can help feeling proud. of a woman. she can say to all: "Envy me. facts. as are horses and palaces.
woman for the pure and virgin oasis in who loves him. it pleases "Before the inappellable rudeness of this explanation what can science say.THE Esteem. strip her before the world.some of the generous impulses of the thief are preserved for the companion of love. what can morality suggest? Science recognizes the fact and explains it. great man. at me. and we can have immense esteem and deep for the most veneration for the most despicable man. through crime or basehas been banned from civilizedsociety. that is enough. aromas and seductions of strong in the world is entirely wicked.. we love him? Why love her . It has been said with much more was truth that no woman ardently loved t. and the same may be saidof a brutal or stone tiful who feels himself incapable of loving this beauness. beautiful courtesan if the object "love is a disgrace in everybody's eyes.for certain natures. bestowed upon a creature who little thing wizard that transforms and beautifiesand magnifies everyhe touches. and some of the ferocious kindnesses of the assassin. a woman of the street or abject if accused of loving a debased or silly woman. some which his love is lying. abject. conreserved cealed possesses. and this sentiment must be really gigantic if it conquers human conventionalities.han a homely us criminal for any reason. spat upon by public of contempt. vulgar prejudices and the most persistent habits. A creature spire despicable in every respect must please us very much to inwith love . What stood in need of loves. veneration BOOK OF LOVE and all other analogous sentiments may be companions of love. Because do we love her? And why do us. but only too often they are Love is deserves them. set in the pillory of universal hatred? We we does it matter love him. No brigand ever no often deep and ardent. ever. and this love. A man. It does not reflectmuch honor upon most wicked woman. and lacked illustriouslovers. No man C 142:1 . saying : ' ' Let him dare throw the first woman. like ancient Phryne. blushing with shame. could often. ilous intoxicating poisons.has in his heart. he still has some untainted place in his soul for the beloved one . creature !" And the man who. all the perand bitter. but it is true. a us.
perhaps. morality erects a when. love must not only be the companion of The woman we our voluptuousness. and impudently parade such love. We can raise. in the end. the holiest and most inviolable laws of beauty and honesty. as though intending by our arrogance to impose silence on indignant decency. Love without esteem and a crime which breeds other crimes. memory of the mother. hen bold and insolent. the most ardent we must erect a temple to the most voluptuous joy. but our arms will tire and we will roll into the mire. and. affection. with our own ments decorate his tabernacle. like an ancient alchemist. but also the mother of our children. which. execrate the name When pride has lost its keenness. bold avengers of public contempt. we permit no gentle creature to approach us who could inspire us pure and noble affection. Woe is a crime " to us Liars in our own paramour! eyes. who will curse our wicked loves.are the healthiest and most enjoyable. transmutes the vilest metals into liquid gold and discovers the only diamond buried in the sand of Science. together with our idol of a day. acknowledges are only too frequent. in which we can worthily n 143 3 . we dare boast of loving a vile creature. we defy. loves must be the husband and the father a woman the man of the family. We should not consecrate the blush of our face in that of our children. we t and proud. first. that they Where science is still and humiliates itself.and all encircled and hidden by mire. end by becoming truly ribalds. natural sentiments.BOUNDARIES OF LOVE Such is the omnipotence of this sentiment. like normal situations. the vilestcreatures on the shield with a of pride. Human passions may try many stunts and tricks. admits loves without great alluvium! esteem.but. or by our insolence to act as pedestal for the offended its head and flagellates. of the father or the and will. to us if we shall and the hour of revenge has passed. alone.for an instant. bowing its head with a blush of shame. hands. and with our most sublime sentihim. then. woe find ourselves alone with estimation ! a creature whom we cannot hold in If Love is really the holiest thing of life.
lives a scrofulous and rachitic life. we would see the human family regenerated in the course a we see men generation. Shall this eternally be a dream? ways alto make threaten and assault men them better? Shall we to cure men not have a medicine less cruel than sorrow of vice and crime? ni44n . should be worthy of its Nothing but noblest things should touch it. Men we should vie with and women. which. If love is really the most precious gem. no heat should warm it but that of the kisses of caress two loving lips. each other in gleaning fields and gardens and in bearing to love every gentle affection. for the hell that threatens. no be exhaled near and roses.while we it with the most aromatic leaves and the most god. every impulse come of lofty ambition. and breath. we should enclose it in a casket which. man possible that man but a modest one. when coupled.every noble aspiration. educative Shall we energies. Love born among crimes and turpitudes with thorny shrubs and thistles. of a woman. we would then substitute as the caresses the kisses of a man. like every organism born of evil. no contents. for richness of material. be- the step-parents of every love without esteem. educated through voluptuousness. should with sandalwood hand but that of an angel should it. unless perfumed it. of would If woman For the prison that terrifies. Lust and pride.THE BOOK OF LOVE adore him is a as a nest woven should weave beautiful flowers.full of sorrows and calamities. artistic skill inimitable esthetic conception. should concede her love only to the honest and if it were loved no woindustrious man.
prosaic and mute their prose and taciturnity when the season of loves is past. an ardent creature. once verses and fell on his knees at her feet. before having loved. As but they are men.CHAPTER BOUNDARIES OF LOVE " XII RELATIONS TO THEIR THOUGHT for very different reasons.exhibiting some of its rarest. as occurs with comes every other energy condensed in our brain . which he covered with bitter tears ! and 1:1453 . living between his nels. varieties of flanchocolate and his nightcap. often a woman. and then only to fall back into the previous lethargy the moment they are left without the stimulus of desire. flares up in contact with the new sentiment. plodding until death. a victim of love. poetry is the song of spring. too. full of imagination. Many awake except by the kiss of love. be an ally now First instrument of seduction. emits its feeble trill. little flightamong the bushes of the garden or the orchard. most torpid intellects do not exquisite fruits. from head to foot. in the May of their life they have only a smile of poetry.then falls wingless on the highroad. once seen to persuade herself that the man finds it very difficult who today is all prose. lasting as long as the petals of Their cold and indolent imagination indulges in a a rose. they return to and. thought revives. wearing seven loved by one wrote using ten different kinds of lozenges. they may continue to possess a woman. and while it bemay. How who has been ing of these spring lovers and who remembers havhim. Thought purer. rise above themselves when called upon to oiler an unusual tribute on the new altar. it strengthens itself. being poor in moral energy. For very many. but healthier brains. and now to the external form next of the body.
The influenceof love upon the forces and forms of thought is twofold. BOOK OF LOVE their loves a instead. derive from stimulus to the works of thought. without having had at least a great capacity for loving. and have a stronger power when the artist. The to transform into them. artists companion and and writers of the world had love as its first inspirer. so that love seems and intensifies genius. Very be a poet or a great artist without having can rarely a man loved intensely. at every song of the lyre. and genius dyes with splendid hues every amorous manifestation. and therefore difficult f no question. a whole host of winged geniuses. the flower conmost denses Thought. it especially rejuvenated excites the imagination and refines the aptitude for those reproducing the beautiful. and without this sentiment their names supreme of art.THE More fortunate men. angel more inspiration of genius. in a few words. Chastity. A chaste genius which loves is a legion of fighting forces. and even statesmen continual and powerful be studied in their works. no irresistibleorce can oppose it. of love. might be totally unknown love that is born in a ways sublime brain accumulates gigantic forces. may conceal love. it warms mental aptitudes that generally reach their climax at the same age when love manifests its greatest energies.alimposed by great passions in their firststage. refines to us. And with C146H . just harmonious notes for its companion. at each change of love. but down in the depths of the heart some images. rising at every than a woman. the head of the state is a woman. and is derived from self-love and from the psychical nature of the person loved. and reviving or kindling the sacred fire an The genius of many among the greatestpoets.the poet. resembling have sway. Being a sentiment born during youth or during old age. poets. offersto it the richest as the enamored bird sings its tributes of its energy. These influences can upon the lives of many artists. to reshape and renew itself at each different which seems phase of passion. when the companion tiful all its perfumes and the fascination of its most beaucolors around the nest in which plants love. at every touch of the brush.forced or voluntary. and chastity.
Fear in all its forms desiccates the mouth and the pharynx.ransformed. perfumed letters. intensified. art. which is the effect only of the peculiar nature of the feminine mind but also by the stimulus of the powerful excitement created in woman of love. adorned with all itssplent dors. it is incitinginfluence. " Was it not Balzac who said : It is recognized that in love "? have some 'esprit' all women The eloquence of love. in the daily pyres of stroyed. to manifest his many In the numberless hecatombs. ambition. and many are made physically unable of mucus a violent mental peras when manner to speak. Nor does the creature loved and new but from the enthusiasticeloquence receive only the tribute. goes the stimulus of self-esteem. in the same turbatio disconcerts ideas and words. science open to him two avenues energies . to woman. she loves more and better than we. A long experience in every country of the world demonstrates in the epistolary over man the superiority of woman style and especially in love-letter writing. which gratitude is expressed by that creature. on the contrary. tion which in the satisfacthe person loved finds always new incitement of pride of incentive to work. and she uses and abuses it in a surprising new manner. commonplace loves.BOUNDARIES OF LOVE thought. are most and commonplace. manifest that the latteralso feels the same tongue finds splendors of and the most modest and stillest with form and savoriness of styleunknown to that day. a real song of a gifted mind in love. A letteris nearly always an exchange of affections. like all things human. no literarypath is open other than amorous correspondence. so that eloquence is C1473 . feels the intimate relations between more than man and woman not Man when a thousand affections. is not contradicted by the timid and often dull silence declarations.real treasures of art are being dewhich the conflagration that consumes so many volumes of words and phrases.the first which invariably accompanies the first should be saved from skirmishes. has a hundred different ways of exerting his talents excited by love. suspends nearly instantaneously the secretions and saliva. for the always dominates every field of good and evil.
The woman loved by dimly cerned dis- by Leopardi is not Vittoria Colonna.possibly interrupted only by in love. Laura is not Beatrice. or a picture . but many human brains sublove. but he has felt and interpreted love in cases a way entirely his own. and pours out into he suddenly becomes a new space or on paper the rivers of a fieryeloquence. Brains better organized are one can our of the heart with a book. Happy love. and the statistics in the hurricane of an unhappy of the hospitals for the insane always show a large number cured of the great sorrows of cases of insanity produced by love. which stillremains to be done. fallsfrom the hand of the happy of the dithyramb never on the contrary. and the woman became and which in some epoch. in the stage of attainment. disconnected phrases. a affection vibrates with the. continually infusing new moments Even during the intoxication. as it is usually termed. Not only has every poet and every left in artist (and I consider the writer the greatest of all) his works the imprint of his loves. notwithstanding fluence the very beautiful things written by many upon the inof love in art. notes of sorrow. while in the secrecy of the domestic walls are concealed many other brains withered or fallen into lethargy through unfortunate loves. psychology. raises all brains above medium temperature. to mouldings of the draw the comparative psychology of celebrated loves and of types of art" is a gigantic labor. sublime elegy may be produced as the outburst of thought j become poet or insane. the style of a school or an loved by Byron is quite differentfrom the woman Burns. however. That man so mute has hardly returned to the quiet of his solitary room when Demosthenes. which a few before would have proved so opportune and so beautiful. in which the the amorous " C1483 . writing in these pages a modest essay of general physiology. the thyrsus energies into them.THE BOOK OF LOVE reduced to an absolute silence. or a merge musical creation. To study the influences of the times and the mind over the particular loves of great men in a few words. and have am I neither the right nor the strength to undertake the work of literary critic. mortal who loves or hopes to be loved. or. When.
then the individual rebels against the excessive tribute paid to the preservation is diseased and the of the species. Chastity is an almost entirely hygienic question. can always so bear leaves. love and labor do not oppose each other." exclaims the Dhammapada. namely. well regulated that we. ' ' Lay waste the entire forest of concupiscence. nature stills even the pain of weariness. No. as many too exacting or hypercritical moralists are continually repeating with too rigid severity. For me it will suffice to have prepared in the present essay some materials for this work of the future. flowers and fruits. the influence exerted by the psychical creatures who love each nature of the person loved. provided we do not sacrifice ers flowthe fruitto the flower and do not imitate the monstrous petals or seedless fruits.not one tree alone. virtuous.and here we should mark the place where the hygienic branch shoots out from the great trunk of No embrace has ever debased thought when physiology. and we have stillto study its second manifestation.BOUNDARIES artist. and science utters the ' ' concupiscence" it writes cry. the psychologist and hands in order to produce OF LOVE man should join a work worthy of the subject. you same you shall have felled every tree. Love ceases to be an impulse for thought and becomes its firstassassin. When branch. and after the sacrifice love man is as happy and intelligentas before." In our organism every function the more precise term is. Then the animal man has fallen into libertinism. the literary voluptuousness was only love. nature never moral man punishes him who wisely obeys its laws. like the citron. pure. since. not only when it isv unhappy. I have previously stated that the influence of love over thought is twofold. of in the blessed languor of a brief repose. but instead of the word ' ' lust. Two C1493 . but also when it sinks into the mud of lust. cut every can then pronounce yourselves free. but when lasciviousness is stronger than sentiment and the animal man regrets having given too much of himself to the future. Wise with over-expanded chastity is the ablest administrator of vital harmonies and energies.
the manner of impossible. not to think as they think. on the contrary. not to write as they write. The style of certain writers. These magnetic brains combine with the seductions another and most other amorous powerful one. carry away some of imitation. so other talents. A most peculiar and little studied influence of fascinating talents is men add to their other admirable qualities the power of conquering the. the theories. ing with them. in solitary loftiness. since no two identicalcreatures. that of subjugating and bending the mind of the person loved. howtastes of man. no two identicalbrains.THE other are BOOK OF LOVE bodies differently electrified. who for the most tenacious opposers of the ideas of others. Some to be magnetized. one exercises an influence of attraction greater than the other. but feels no attraction. the intellectual that a greater attraction betokens a greater mental force. seem strongly do they adhere to men and things. easily follows the ideas. two But. thought of Livwhose minds are stronger and swifter than theirs. contact. original but if rigid. ever. It is like a star. too cold and too distant for us to desire. . than it receives. of fascination. continually exchanging in order to reestablish the currents of energy equilibrium of forces and obey the law of universal affinity. It is not always true. not to acquire certain psychical tastes which constitute their delight.rude and without any weapon of conquest. Thought may be robust. and the person loved contemplates it with admiration. it becomes seen some in women. it follows no that. their contact more dangerous and richer in elective affinity. breathing their moral atmosphere. of the two thoughts brought face to face by love. and when we approach them. we feel ourselves absorbed and. two identical sentiments ever exist in nature. it lives alone. so that to the sweet chain of affection is added the chain of thought. and consequently one of the two gives more Generally the stronger mind exercises a greater fascination. and as the mind of the latter more man is oftener greater than that of woman. after their influence of contagion. since some peculiar characteristicsof certain intellects render them more fascinating. even C1S03 .
and morality. Man. and the masses. It is not only the robust and attracting nature of human who their various influencesin the struggles of love. and often unalways they are unknown known to the artistand the poet who was subject them. the more one one yields to the fascinationof another's brains that measures is disposed to abdicate ideas and esthetic tastes in order to assume own one's the ideas and the tastes of the person loved. awkward. although with different frequently said the same thing in this book. that she has moulded her thought on that of her friend.and if warned by criticism. man hardly acknowledges this. The more high influences of thought to be differently loves. the more one loves. She sacrifices much more feels more D5in . the more one " deeply the influence of a virilethought. and only mine!" exclaims the man or a caress? loves. Woman always confesses. and only his!" always sighs the woman words. and frequently with pride. constantly repeats in every tone that woman thinks always like her lover . seek it in mysterious causes and in evolutionsof art and science. for us : woman ally generand little most honorable for woman talent. proudly in politics. In the history of arts and of literature. and I must.they have The style and manner natural source. have who loves . "His. in our case he fails to mention a reason. mind. instantly than we ever could love. raven mention a more humbler but of these influences is nearly always omitted because nearly to the biographer. by this he deludes himself into believing that he affirmswith' the most eloquent proof the uncontrasted superiority of his However. labyrinths of hair. origin of these estheticmutations. religion. rebels and feels hurt by such an odd accusation. but it is the degree that causes the and the caresses felt. not but because she loves us only because she is weaker than we. or the hand playing among the curly. instead. while.BOUNDARIES OF LOVE certain painters have unconsciously yielded to these slow investigatingthe and mysterious influences. How and when to should the king of the universe ever change the style and the direction of his thought through the influence of a kiss "Mine. changed when the head was resting on the bosom of a blonde friend.
and.the other gives more than it receives more receives. which is the fusion of all human elements. they both must To the direct a molecular modification of their movements. one than it gives. change will see how inexorably thought must think in two. we see the concubine even and in the wife. the selection in the sweetheart of selections. The one gives much. whom This differencewould be sufficient demonstrate that. but they both alter and exchange influences and energies. to in the psychical evolution of the two sexes. and and when you we C152 3 . undergoes the influence of the victim. feeling very happy. the tyranny of habit. the epicurism of the compromise of ideas of conscience. be the reason follow the orbit of the same they cannot planetary the system. man and willingly even self rarely and with -pride difficulty but beautiful. "She is silly. indeed. however powerful one may be in comparison undergo. senses a woman or must we cannot not hold in estimation. say. the tyrant. and the other gives little. as we outrun her in inteldevelopment. woman is ahead lectual of us in the estheticof sentiment. because she can seldom love without We. Woman has already attained perfect love. and many other minor causes. in their contacts. allow ourselves to love with all our esteem. influence of love add the automatic power of imitation." makes this sacrifice. Whatever insults it every day ? And how Socialism be for which a brain in love bends its love companion with a larger power of influence. " can oftener than we : How we Woman. and the highest talent does not disdain to pour out the molten metal of its thoughts into the mould of a Venus who hardly could be called heavenly. says be respectable if he a sacred is always right for the if it is his religion?" Man thing woman who loves him. with the other. on Democracy cannot the contrary. In matters of disciples oftener than masters on the field of are "love we sentiment. This is a consequence of the most elementary laws of physics: two loves and two brains are two systems of forces . too. Two thoughts cannot impunely be enclosed in the same atmosphere.THE BOOK OF LOVE to love.
Against it love is powerless . or later. hence the inevitable death of a love which should have submerged only with the last plank of shipwrecked our ear. may life of love prolong the " sooner voluptuousness only. constituting binary bodies. If our robust brain can elevate in some it has only the strength to walk slowly . but those feel it most to the energies of sentiment or are and origins are nearer interwoven with them. composed thought. and these change more frequently than philosophical theories or the method of There is a certain architecture in our brains that study. the impairment of lofty intellects and the disorders of weak brains. proof of crass pride and ignorance which we be contoday may shall bitterly expiate. if we tented with the beauty of form. hence the veiled polygamy of hypocritical. but it is also. an incontrovertible of pride.a weary and sad exertion.we destroy every hope of common shall find on founded ourselves in the presence of this horned dilemma: either to horrible amputation of intellectual dual thought renounce life or lower ourselves more every day in order that the voice of a person who speaks in a subdued tone may reach " " continual toil. petulant that it wants to jump while itslegs C1S33 . Religion and morality are more of affection and easily modified than esthetic tastes. We must all inexorably yield to the influence of thought little measin love. in which. even when the of forms and a certain community of affections rouse the sovereign of sentiments. furthermore. woman certain intellectual antitheses between a man and a are enough to render love impossible. our so society. because. a Hence beauty. more ignorance. the day will come. violently To scorn influences of love over thought may be the fruit sympathy frequently. comforted later by coquetry.BOUNDARIES Not OF LOVE the influence of who by contacts all intellectual phenomena undergo love in equal measure. when the great disparity of brains shall intelligence. modern impatient that it when because it is so are still tied by the sacred straps of the middle ages. and if robust youth. because it is profoundly wants to run. constitutes their framework and can be destroyed only by death or insanity.
but it be excessive. be wretchedly dissolved. in the continual efforts to equalize them. a great part of love may should never C1543 . in the sorrowful struggles to reach them. lowering the level of our thought and wasting many of the nobler forces of human progress. because. we must always descend from our lofty plane.THE ure BOOK OF LOVE the smaller one of the person we love. A certain disparity of levels is inevitable.
jump of on a tree where. of the eyebrows of your sweetheart to relish the long memories lightning flashes of love. and boundless temple. then in the shadow of the hair. or in the desert of grass called the Pampas. since chastity is a negation of love. he. and in any case." utterly useless in a question of hygiene someone chastity. among the soft carpet of a light of which he went the labyrinths of the knotty roots. to brood voluptuously over the long and fiery suns absorbed. Repose you. and the most enthusiastic sun seeks always the friendly shade could whisper Let the enemies of what chastity is. but also a wise and powerful ness creation of new energies and infinite poetry.CHAPTER CHASTITY IN ITS XIII RELATIONS TO LOVE This chapter may to many readers seem psychological or a work. and allow us. also. must love a tranquil shade from which to contemplate without injurythe distant splendors of the supreme father of every energy and every heat. or of his horse. Even in the desert of sand called the Sahara. he can slowly drink in the in search . Voluptuousthunderbolt. dashing the leaves against the ground that nourishes is a hurricane or them. too. man feels the necessity of resting in the shadow of his camel. Chastity is the shadow among the adorers of the of love. or those who do not know this chapter. or meadow. but always a superior force which brutally rends and brutally bends the tree of life. to say at least what shade means. in my ear: "Non est hie locus. rethe sultry air of the battle and restores calm to every Chastity is a D553 . when we speak of light. in which the fresh freshe silent atmosphere dries the sweat of the struggles. which will be among the shortest in the book. of the Chastity is not only repose.
while a littlechild. obeying an amorous voice and not the rod of the schoolmaster of old.the fondling hand of the Thus must mother or that. deliintolerant and often not very chaste prude. the chair. quivering but subdued. read the same fruit of their first loves.cleansed of all mire. a most holy worship of the noblest joys of thought. it may be carried away by the maelstrom laugh and smile. Self-imposed chastity is a hidden form of onanism. and inebrietyends quickly and. generally. prays real temple in which the animal man god that he may make him an and invokes an unknown angel .lowers its eyes. The free and sweet chastity of two lovers is a most wise lust. of a cruel mutilation. caresses with its hair the soft knees.of the father will silence him. let itself of voluptuousness into a revel of unrestrained dances. one of the most precious gems that can of life. and love is purified. desire long remain under restraint at the feet of the two lovers. on subdued without violence but without hesitation by when chastity. an unchaste love may be happy for a time. No more odious virtue exists than chastity taught by the cate. sitting on one you ever book together. the evidence of something lacking in a man. a love always armed and always cheerful . but itis always inebriatedlove. like an enamored long neck and warm swan fondled by the gentle hand of a nude but chaste woman. and soars its wings to the highest regions of the ideal. Have noticed two lovers who. an education of senses and affections. The chastity of two lovers is a collects himself. which sacrificesthe daily bread to the banquet . bows its head and kneels before the statue of love. Chaste love is ardent but serene. very badly. disease or mania. love. Desire. no more more sublime virtue than chastity taught by love and An immodest by the noblest facultiesof the human mind. a sapphire illuminated an by electric light. or of a violent amputation. sits at their feet" chattering and that little angel raises its head too petulantly prattling? When or screams too boisterously.THE BOOK OF LOVE turbulent and stormy brow. Blessed are those who know how adorn the crown splendors of a Sardanapalian H1563 . and.
is nothing else than self -idolatry. and to leave a desire always lighted. sincere chastity." teach chastity to us. but also. you who have the "intellect of love. at the bottom. to educates and etherealizes. do not belong to the history of love. however. place among the rarest and most valuable things in a mutory Not one case in a hundred of those upon which his- imposed by an has bestowed veneration" deserves the praises which are habitually offered to them. Prize dearly this delicate mission. perhaps. true. they are. they are clouds that rise without shape heart. rabid concentration of forces to reach lofty or insensate ever. " hands. as sterileas the sands of the desert. or even by egotism. by a misinterpreted virtue. deserving a seum. and to discuss them here would entitlethe gentle reader to whisper in my ear a est hie locus. a chastity a which." second time: "Non DS73 . The fruit which human iron will. In many cases. is one of the most precious secrets for reigning eternally. because to its fruits. Through an ignoble you will be the first love into enjoy and vulgar calculation. is an admirable thing. Other chastities therefore. women. that they may not hurt their own your calculation is groundless. are false virtues. and and without aim in the imagination of the human Be that as it may. you prefer to disarm your lovers in order that they may not strike other victims than you. There is an absolute chastity imposed by the cruel laws of sects or of society.CHASTITY to IN ITS RELATIONS turn TO an LOVE be chaste in this manner.and energy that who find in it the greater coefficient of noble ambitions and magnanimous purposes ! And you. and a flower in your garden always untouched. for whom cult this holiest of virtues is diffito acquire. because many of these forms of chastity are false. or easy through impotency. From the nausea of satiety h more infidelityas sprung than from the prudent restraint of desires.howgenerally beneath its desire or expectation.but this is not the place to speak. voluptuousness reaps is. for being always loved. And there is another absolute chastity imposed by ambition. they vanish without leaving any trace. ends. and nature wreaks its vengeance in a thousand ways upon those who outrage it. of it.
but rendered figures of passion. He we made ourselves big? God . sing : Listen to two spontaneous cries. so has He made Have bigger than you. one so variform by the two different natures called Adam and Eve. and for this we do And the "As men sing to the women : us has given us with two hands. Even if it were not so and from the beginning we had overburdened you with work. and I may try it some it sufficientfor me here to sketch in a general way the two sexes we could in essence. stillwe would not be your equals. will be forever true. to not plough the ground. nations distant and well-nigh uncivilized. they will eternally innocent reproach: this exchange and counterchange And the lament as I love you!" you do not love me our planet a man and a woman. because woman will never In be capable of loving like woman.CHAPTER LOVE IN XIV SEX degree of force. uttered by two "Singbonga from the beginning has made us smaller than you. and man will never a complete essay on the comparative psychology of the two delineate the distinctive characteristics of day ." us with one . and you will find the very first lines of a physiology of the sexual characters of love. same manner. be virile love and feminine love. and woman but they will never Man can love with love in the the same shall live on "Ah. since to the altar of their passion they carry two greatly different natures As long as there beside their different genetic missions. have some The Munda-Kols of Chota Nagpur popular songs difference between man and which express the psychical The women woman. therefore we obey you. love like man. To you God has given with two hands.
strength is the criterion of hierarchies. the difference in the rights and joysof love is between man and woman becomes little more immense. where woman For this." into big and And flying to a a very distant land. God sends us war piness will die. Solomon used to cry pi man.which man allows his companion in the world of love. is uncertain and lust is ardent. hence an ever increasing usurpation of joys and rights by the strong as we descend to the lower strata of humanity . perhaps. hence civilizednations continually struggling to divide good and evil in sexes. If you do not obey now the word of man. Where joys and muscular sorrows. falls and woman. echo of this wild cry of nature. a more the two which so still tween equitable proportion beunfairly share light and darkness. you certainly disobey the word of God. where it constitutes the firstof human forces. polygamy necessity of the moment. and woman vokes acquiesces in or init. chorus in which chorus of young alternates with of sturdy youths." men: Rising from higher and an the Munda-Kols races. of rights and duties. let him put the butt-end of the gun to his cheek and cry: 'Come to me. however. and joys animal C1S93 . but monogamous morally lower than in a wandering tribe of nude is the companion of the labors savages. in which man proclaims his strength or imposes it. O maidens !'" march The and we "You do well to love us. The woman women: "Let him who wants to be loved by a with his weapons . sold or killed according to the Setting civilizationaside. He himself has made us bigger than you. exists where morality guarded as a treasure of voluptuousness. and woman than a domestic which is bought. and keep at least the memory of the hapthat you have given us. Hence the very unequal part of joys and sorrows. women we find a Kabyle a song. civilized and we more the Kabyles to the always find.LOVE Himself has divided us IN SEX small.
we Neither civilization in any of its celestial inheritance. every heat that warms Us. I will speak of rights in another chapter. I would say fifth. If anthropology should and intellectual elements put in our hands man all the from which separate then science could most safely establish in its laws ger the right place for each sex. if we life with a should poison the source of human to us. here we is. "Tola mulier in utero" most sacred of rights! For woman. this in the palace of the prince.the uppermost necessity. has given woman the greatest part of love. abuse or imposition from any quarter. and if this difference could be expressed with figures. the legitimate mother of every human But moral woman. and all her organism and her psychology by the influence of love. the mother. to love and still to love is what have retained of our. Only de Stael's could write Mme. nor customs impositions of tyrants. must remain within the confines of physiology. sublime words: "Undoubtedly. woman or gives all of herself to man. as wife. will have some to conquer her place in the sun. she physician. In the rank and fetid hut of the Eskimo. woman her by nature. legislaor should be.THE out in his harem: BOOK OF LOVE Among us. first as daughter. here also she is a legitiday pretender who. of were that we allotted one Nature love's territory. thinkers of. and here also she can without: "And the oppressed who await their scruple class herself among mate or "jacquerie" their constitution. if we woe pseudo-education. every delight of our soul. should deny Eve the love is the first. as She is the great placenta of human beings. Woe to us. are softened and moulded Van Helmont but said too rudely. varied phases. nor in their numberless forms. love. which still tion. then as lover. in the mysteries of nature. by right or might. bosom from which we draw blood. voluptuousness. Woman . to who will find me a strong woman?" does not play in love the part assigned also.all epochs applauded the aphorism of the Dutch physically desires for long time. or one fourth at most. without any danand customs of usurpation." a woman most nor power of genius could alter immutable law.
all calling her "mother. C1613 . slow and warm. woman in her nurses bosom an angel who always ardently desires and who does not quench in her the affection for her companion. for a woman. thunders and vanishes. and every little root of her sentiments. And if you do sensual women. realize the happy dream voluptuousness which. changing its form. it is only a sweet episode. nor ardor wither. its fruitful rays remain. the probas joy cannot lem must wait can however." which has the meaning of of life. after the sun hidden in the earth which it has warmed. But while for many men be she the most libertineamong the is in love. and inasbe measured or weighed yet. the fluid that flows in her through every vein and moistens every fiber.languidly and voluptuously. and turn it into enjoyher conquest a every warm lightning that flashes. petals' of a rose fallen from the flower of her beauty. every hour. even has disappeared. and she absorbs it. she the man. Nobody. him. so that when she is deprived of it she is like the tree shattered by the hurricane and which sees is a every leaf wither. her her joys. voluptuousness bued passion weary her. and as the years moulds nourishes and caresses her loves transformed into a pass she sees herself. equal in both and. who are bits of her heart. group of littleangels who dance around her. nor . the love of is a ray of sun which. lasciviousness and sensibility being sexes. from her hair to her feet. every flower fall.LOVE IN SEX and scented atmosphere in which she lives as in a nest ." From the ardent embrace of the man to whom she loves she flits the endearments of her little dren childoes not fatigue." that wo- has received from nature a larger cup to drink at the much inexhaustible spring of the voluptuousness of love . is eternally voluptuousness is all that renewed. The love of man "placenta possesses for long time and can day. woman penetrates her heart and fecundates her . thoughts imbibes and feasts upon it. without of a Eve can thirst much longer than man. her flesh.imwith love. for its solution a long time still. experiencing fatigue. so that. deny that. she is all. which I expressed man several years ago in my "Physiology of Pleasure. Many have contradicted my opinion.
woman man wants wants. men nament who can love and invite them to a singular love toura believe such . to love. If i poor.man. satisfiedin all her desires . ask them whether they would accept an eternal and faithful love without voluptuousness in exchange for most women voluptuousness without love. deformed creatures as to astonish and horrify us. "lam Do not ask woman why she loves. Has Caesar . ten. perhaps five. amid the storms of life. above all.a husband. The firstwoman love her husband. and wowhole civilized world and assemble all those." while man when needs only to loved. send heralds through the men. This is another difference between man's loves : and woman's essential to be loved. For every hundred who will vote for love. more pansive Little she demands of her companion. ' ' Mysteries of the heart. of to feel that she is needed by a comfaithful arm panion of man. am things. remember that woman to lean all' upon the all. does not very natural thing. to be warmed by the spirit. She can love such ugly. in O you.oppressed by the brutal whims of a lover. caressed by the sweet affection of." expand his chest and say. that creature can only be hers. the second loves her lover. When brilliant light which comes woman loves she almost never doubts of being loved." you say. she wants to be the of whom she wants firstfor someone. illumine him with the from her heart. Certain it is that perfect love is the sum of these two most beautiful The sentiment which than in man. "A burns in her is more exactive. and you may see another happy in poverty. but often woman is satisfied able to exclaim. to be proud . she will know how to adorn him with the flowers of imagination. "I love. all of you who have studied the heart of woman the most abject places and believe that you are making your happy because you give her luxuriousness and companion to love above wants gold and dresses.men will decide for the sublime refusal of the embrace. "I love" I loved".THE not BOOK OF LOVE bold assertion. 'because she is too rich and her affection is too strong to need the support of self-esteem to fight the battles of life." I say. You may behold a woman unhappy amid the splendors of luxury.
woman being. and when woman An the characters are inverted a most disgusting spectacle takes place and we behold a caricature. she can love the ugliest. In order to love. derive an esthetic element which astonishes us and invitesus to meditation. Pardon my it. we who is the true and great priestess allow woman. the proud faith the of infallibility. C1633 . immeasurable conqueror. softness and sentiments which should be found in woman only. love may be. At times. roar be will' a pet doubted she rabbit caressed in the bosom of a child. strength crime in the man she wants to have for herself. from the unusual combination and men of figures and strange coloring. she believes she can . our However variform the sexual elements of heinous sin because is modern civilization stained by a most of love. but her love will be reciproaloft the prey cated. The ardent faith of the neophyte. however. Women of manly inclinations love manly. Man pardons everything else. or an eagle that carries in its claws . man often lowers even the highest loves. but do in his loves is more man is more of of a brute than of an angel . but the psychical forms may. most deformed of men. a monster. or even a crime. So it is with woman's at she will creep like a reptile. Woman carries even luxuriousness aloft into the big lowers even affection into the regions of sentiment. every word. more rarely in man's. human essay on of an angel than the comparative psychology of love cannot be written unless based upon a complete physiology of the two or Every thought. or like a lion which wants what it wants. We are again in the domain of pathology. the feet of her companion. because it is too true : cynical phrase. and even most wicked. She man she touches. are virtues that are woman's arrogance of the fortunate frequently found in more loves. every gesture of man sexes. of docile disposition manifest in their loves sublime tenderness. woman needs only find talent. man mire not reject a of lasciviousness. in love receives the imprint of the sex.LOVE ever IN SEX of winning a battle? Has Napoleon ever doubted of being immortal? love.elevatesevery loves the beautifulabove all and heat even the ice.
science. we interfered there. instead of being welcomed station. in gilded halls. After having robbed to her that she must only her of nearly every field of human activity. only too well justified. just the equilibrium as But every injustice must is reestablished every time it has been disturbed. are. we have quests granted to man all the energies of sentiment. And when this poor prisoner. setting up the posters of our restrictive regulations and erecting the laws: "That flower-bed is reserved. the morbid thirst for gain . tyrants in love as well. be necessary to give and loudly proclaim that it will soon woman what belongs to her. too. and. thus. representing love. when she proceeded to cultivate the garden in her own way. the equality of rights in the affections as well as in the family. slave who murmurs and flower must not be picked. C1643 . No " t conspires against us. glory. and who possess the orchard and the field. us. and the continual deceptions. to woman have refused every nourishment of heart and thought. all the consmall tributeand we of genius.our of slaves. We have for ourselves ambition. the ice-fields of the Alps and the water of the Thus we have a woman ocean.aglio onspiracies and palace plots.THE but a BOOK a OF LOVE trivial part. every day evidence that we erect upon a false foundation the edifice of family.the meadow the forest. thus we have made sterileand barren the garden where a proud and noble lady would have splendidly glorious could rest from our received us. have a woman prisoner or slave who reclines her head on knees our we our We have measured the bread and wine and weeps. we have kept the lion's share both in voluptuousness in the free choice of the sovereign affection. where we by a lady of labors. the free choice of loves. wished to pick the flowers and the scented herbs of her garden. and be paid for. that fences of our The selecthoroughfare. d of her life as the jaileroes with the thief. c ser.we have left the garden of love to her as her only possession. all the victories of passion . with all the ardent curiosity of her nature." tion by of the plants to cultivate must also be made by us. her only solace. brilliantly decorated with gems.
" cosmos less the woman" "I have a been able to pass woman an entire day without embracing and without any fervid aspiration for . and a youthful imagioutbreaking of the inflaming the firstfevers of lust. The first. Side by side with the most ideal and automatic nation.the maddest a In youth. the most fanciful vows of an infinite without limits of time or space. the cosmos. we have inWe have seen outlined the firstphases of Love. thousands of dangers which threaten health and morality at the same time. in the diary of the boy who is about to become a man. firststorms of life find a friendly hand as a guide and solace to preserve them from.CHAPTER LOVE AND XV AGE volunta studying the morning crepuscules of Love.. the exerting himself between swaddling clothes of infancy and the firstweapons of arrogant boy warrior armed with a wooden sword During the age of adolescence this sovera pop-gun. we and aspirations for chastity may read these vows for you : which I literallyreproduce here ".. however. the impetuous Happy those who in the the tender and fragile organism. him timid and spasmodic.impatient acts of lust in adolescence are generally ing followed in elect natures by a period of reaction. like and hysterias. firstlusty actions . Tremendous the woman dilemma less the of life. agitates and shakes aspirations we find. durof chastity are made together with which heroic vows Just at extraordinary endeavors to learn to hate woman. eign affection shows the most sublime puerilities. that time.
It is a sovereign for a few seconds. The most of Creole embrace in the world. An historicalfact and a proverb embodied in the Council this truth in two great monuments: the youngest of Trent those who voted for celibacy were of priests. is for you the outward manifestation of pleasure in its most attractive aspect. and tends to draw into its whirlpool all your activity. and the French language has a proverb which says : "If youth but knew. could age but do!" a vote and a " tion reproducis reiterated in all D66H ." few expressions a are but the thousandth psychical phenomenon which men they pass from the threshold of adolescence into when the gardens of youth." I took a seat near a Creole young lady and found her beautiful. I thought of a paravoluptuous. for all time. but from a mass a a of ruins and ashes to rebuild These state is a hopeless task. but in these common moments the least noble of your powers wants to." "Instinct. is not worth the cosmic synthesis as it to men. and yet I have passed do without the evil-born race ' ' Try very happy day! of Eve.only for a few moments. no fruitful of useful consequences than the sacrificemore disdain for this voluptuousness. and can." I have conceived it and as I will expose pleasure is shorter than the erotic delirium. "It is only one of your faculties and that which you "No have in with the lowest creatures at the bottom of to be the the series of creation. dise delights in looking at her. the firstand. and wavered. however.THE BOOK a OF LOVE and her. it is easy to destroy. inebriating. of your ego. fireand ashes. but who has power who rules only enough during the period of his reign to destroy half of brands the state and leave his throne upon a heap of ruins. and this faculty wants first. with the fury of its power. it is only a faculty of yours. take great part of yourself.
and endeavors to delude himself and with respect to the danger that threatens him. Rarely a braggart is strong. lively force. . death often says that he feels very well.in love. an ever but definite energy. force is always calm. and a frequent intimation of one's own energy is nearly always a The invalid who fears symptom of decline and weakness. and love is the property of youth// energies of sentiment.Others A young man is. which absorbs and are moulded pools. the older they are. the quicker they go however deep at their amorous undertaking. and w sterilityhich has its seat in the brain and D67H . trembling when in the sanctum sancof the temple. the same because tru time. ready to spring. A young man with a good physical constitution belongs All the entirely to love. all the powers of thought at that age by that sovereign affection. and sprh\ forth from the deepest roots of the human heart. He is a ripe and fragrant fruit.but the rude contacts of the gardener and the store have not deprived him yet of his untouched varnish. but he stilltrembles when the currents of the god pass through his body and cause his is a priest initiatedinto the mysteries torum. and there is an amorous can a eunuch because even in the heart. one Before our eyes we have of the most sublime pictures of the moral world: the mum of pride. even before being asked about his health. carries away everything into its hot and turbulent whirldoes not love at twenty. always more timid than an adult or an this fact originates from so many and old man_"jCnd in many to occur as mysterious causes animals as well. He has foregone the useless and too unequal struggles against love and flung himself into its arms. He too virile expression of strength. A young man. but still and a gentle and sublime timidity tempers in him the nerves to vibrate. but. Birds. the maxiapex of beauty without the mannerism of strength without a shadow of convulsion. He is less than a eunuch who love. a serene ready for action and reaction. it leaves us calm and serene. among others. Exuberance of forces prepares us for the battle. his love may be.LOVE AND AGE proverb deserving a volume of meditations. stilltrembles.
a gigantic and fruitful possibility polygamy.holy monogamy all sides enormous obstacles. conventionalities. J At twenty. ___ should possess the physical energy to love a and even the most modest maiden finds in the airjjit every step. however. poem. of man and woman are. which is more does not than any lack of functionsl^lf. wings . these two must ask permission of prejudice. hygiene. what affinity intense. in the deep shadow of a mysterious alder he has sung to her his tenderest song and infused his love into her. be born with singular perOne must one religion only. and the young girl adores the angels whose flutteraround her virginal bed. one temple. versity from the first steps in love. morality. how Eve more loves Eve. steps. will find flexuous branches and soft moss No need of civil matrimony. opposing the first has found his Eve .Notwithstanding. essentially monogamous. energetic. finance. .how many abysses! Adam loves Adam . one hundred women. Yet against this virtuous. The nightingale has seen and loved his modest companion . happy in their love. Today they sleep. One god. he loves the picture a woman encounter he loves the heroine of a story or of a or statue of a woman. how many enemies. twenty. Adam but in the embrace of those two lovers. of D68] . formidable rise on move there saries adver- against it from every quarter. a man at in the social world. and there is scarcely one chance out of a hundred that the answer will be a "yes" from all these superior authorities that have the right of vetoing their affection. idolatriesthey are stillmonotheists.THE BOOK OF LOVE humiliating than any mutilation of organs. Eve has seen her Adam . . and the than one man at a time young girl who already loves more have been conceived in a bawdy-house by the kneading must to be polygamous of the blood and the flesh of a bacchante. many barriers. religion. a spark darting from her contact with a man. and above all. of religious matrimony.. in their robust and in their most senseless youth. unfortunate creatures hypocrisy. what can be more simple. and tomorrow they to weave their nest. what inevitable than their affection more union? Stillbefore they can embrace each other.
however. the most journey virtuous lovers. the ideal of morality coupled with the most urgent needs of a heart and senses .and. thus he strives to preserve his heart pure and to erect one temple only. pure. The very firstcompromise with his own conscience on the youth. very few have they killed. from the decomposition of the two contrary spring motions. of art. when prevented by part of a pure and enamored is that of decomposing love society from being monogamous. and a thousand compromises with conscience stain in its swaddling clothes the new-born love. are continually looking forward to C1693 . it finds the sharp rocks of social obstacles. raises a mass of foam and withdraws of finance. and after a few skirmishes and And lamentations every one adapts himself to this compromise and tries to make himself as comfortable as possible. occurs and this phenomenon powerful and hardly issued from the hot bosom of nature. into sentiment and voluptuousness. born of a union which lacked the would consent composit contrary forces there arises a dea transformation of energies. like a wave. as though in an uncomfortable carriage in which one must for a long time. in love when. Would fortune that in that firstshock love should ! Tears have blessed thousands of suffernothing but sorrow loves and bathed them in a sweet dew. while sacrificesare offered to lust on the hundred altars of the wandering Venus. splintersand mud scattered by the turbulent clashing of so many forces and resistances. breaks against them. humiliating it under the shame of an original sin. But AND woe AGE to the man who shall rely to have his nest prepared ! The morrow upon nature of his loves would be cursed by hunger .LOVE financial matrimony. From the clash of two dragging away a congeries of stones. of movements. to the most stillthis decomposition of love seems a miracle refined and most virtuous lovers a very wise move.all of them ruthrock of social resistancesmany new less. virginal. The most considerate. and scrofula and rachitis kill his children. But in the dashing of the first love against the cruel forces.
without chills. less are thunderbolts young man is not very jealous earthquakes. Do not lie. being in her thircall a blush on the face of a woman He neither measures nor already loves too knowingly. but in the sky . tween in the meantime we justgo on belie. pick all the flowers of a garden over which no winter breeze ever blows. can to the most artificeof chemical science that preserve a blooming rose. in your life: nature concedes a day of be gods at least once spring even on garland there is no no a miserable creature and weaves Remember. since they will not know the richest and most splendid treasures of youthful love. he is in any case. who. he is too a the loves of A young man cnon . it is a feast where weariness. . corollas blossom. do not seek your love in the are Those mire. Inhale all the perfumes. and then abandon your heart and senses to the wave that carries you to paradise. the head of the lowliest of men.THE BOOK OF LOVE the fortunate day when all hypocrisy will be eliminated and physical and moral loves united will give them the right to build a nest in which sentiment and voluptuousness will keep faithful company. recklessly. but he is chaste and knows so pure as to of lasciviousness. fatigue and delusions are unknown. easily to this young men ignominious science with their concompromise and degrading cruelly punished for their crime. be recklessly rich. weighs . burns his incense to the goddess. the heart to the wife of another.splendidly. and who has ever dared to reduce to a mathematical formula the force_pf a thunderbolt or the kilogrammeters of an earthquake ?vAnd or so. He May. and where for every petal that falls a hundred new Be rich.do not betray.without sorrows. coffer in which an hour of sunlight can be kept. His love is a sunny day in The without clouds. a And reticence and a the body to the courtesan. who adapt themselves too. He livesbecause he loves. than the adult and the old. fortunate young man his who has not subjected love have described loves to the process of decomposition we ardently. He is sometimes very little ties. and he loves because he lives.
His joys are scarcer but they are more precious. in richer exquisite tastes belonging to the world of thought. no needless ideas. a golden ray of sunlight rests on his brow like a halo of bliss. Rich in memories. forthe flowers nocence stillenclosed within the untouched and thorny calyx of inand ignorance . savory by certain economy almost verging on avarice. the adult is the most skillful. He knows that his hours are numbered and follows with a caress every coin he spends. with passion. before parting with it. O happy youth I If the young man is the most J timidity. he is essentially than in the days eclectic. the adult has become civilizedfrom long experience most and is clothed with the blandishments of his artTyHis spontaneous sympathies are for unripe fruit. The use and abuse of lifehave somewhat dulled his spirit.too happy to doubt . There is no tomorrow for him except under the form of a continuation of the happiness of today. and when health and freshness of heart do not desert him. the most ardent "lover. and in good faith believes himself to have always loved his goddess. no sudden explosions of desire oppose any obstacle to the blissful perfection of his loves. as the philosopher of old used to believe in congenital powerful. he does not remember the past. because rendered more a of youth. He is the ablest.he bestows upon it a look of affection and regret. He believes in inborn loves.*almostextinguished the flames of passion. he concentrates all his cares. but no excessive impatience. . the widow woman and the matron . and. but he likes to love the independent as well. besides.he has no time ! His lips are wreathed in a perpetual smile. he can a for awaken ardent and lasting passions and preserve them is bent on inquirin long time.the wisest master of love. i^The youthful lover is a nude and often ferocious savage . even when he did not know her. loves with He shrewdness. but also more delicate. he is a hundred times more libertinethan the youth. but poor in hopes. Woman much less than man and if she about white hair and birth certificates. patience and attention on the present.LOVE AND AGE confident. with a most subtle art.
Man grows ignorant and very young people seldom wed without exposing themselves to the most serious dangers. old later than and two of thirty.full of tenderness and generous love impulses. of the age of her companion. This characteristic tends to deprive mature and most voluptuous expansions. love the most characteristic And when poor nature. pasthat which he could not obtain by humility. A mature on the contrary. of some is tempered in adult man by a deep and hidden mistrust of iimself. with religious fidelity. often. loves with modesty. medicated by art. are sion. The man who is growing old is the trunk of a tree on The woman D72H . she willingly forgets half a score of years. conditions being equal. the most conspicuous mark. genius.and often from the humble position of a beggar of alms. woman. *" asks for love on his knees. with avaricious sagacity. with a reserve grace and delicacy.demanding man. to of the warmest cool down the volcanic explosions of youthful love . and none faithful in love than he. he often implores with a tenderness so to ardent and a tone so supplicatory that it is difficult answer made alternation of an authority that teaches and an authority that implores gives the adult hue. prostrated in the dust. he leaps The to his feet. but knows that young man he is legitimately entitled to it.THE BOOK OF LOVE only feelsthat she is loved deeply and ardently. but the ity paternal affection. and not only through egotism does the bridegroom seek a bride a few years younger than himself. has succeeded in with a continual refusal^^^JThe attaining love. with the force of beauty.also. the precious affection firmly fixes itself on it and thrusts its roots into the deepest recesses of the heart. for the young woman In the love of the adult man one feels always a benevolent and sympathetic protection. is more The adult has tenacious passions. he is the best husband. has lost many rights.and his requests full of with greater constraint. with deep tenderness. an almost paternal affection. which might easilytend to become authorand eliminate the perfect equality between the two lovers. and more.
robust and vigorous that it rarely dies all at once.go on rubbing their extreme cature. powerful lovers maintain ghosts of desire yet some decrepitude and. with their ossified hands they strip of leaves the rosebushes and purchase at fabulous prices an "I deceitful than Tartufe. bigotry. however. and from which every gust of nvind detaches a handful of yellow leaves. lust becomes so Man. to the expectation of an inheritance. the cruel domestic inquisitions and a posthumous. warmed by the stiflingatmosphere of vice. to their last breath. like eels. . more love you" icier than snow. The lust of the old man. worthy of Tiberius and Caligula. Most a ostentation of forced continence or unfortunate is the poor young girl who must have as confidante of her firstloves an irascible and bigoted old to love is a synonym of lechery and affection whom Less monstrous a sin. condemns those old men because in all times and in all countries the last spark of lust serves to light the bilious taper on the altar of superstition. ridiculous mummified modesty will then poison the existence of the intolerant old man. and love in give out in the distance the stench of the manure raised. is a tree unheard-of forms. ability probAnd until their frothy paunches in the hot mire of the lowest social strata . and less cruel is the deformity of a Chinese foot than the contortions which a youthful love ant must undergo in the hooked and yellow clutches of intolerwoman. It is an inexorable law which to mystic and wrathful meditations. then upon the ruins of love rises an implacable hatred for those who love and are loved.but they should be given that of erotic mer- which of prostitution of innocence to the calculus of or of life. is like a mushroom produced by the fetid artificesof horticulture and bears fruits assumes lasciviousness. When the entire tree is dead. who himself upon the young people for his avenges misfortune in not being longer able to love. It is then that the economy of the adult turns into real avarice. Nor can the name of love be given which they were to those lusts.LOVE which AND AGE every day a branch withers. there often remains and in the old man flourishing the only branch of lust.
every right of conquest having been to the highest spheres of the ideal abandoned. try you. if he caresses of a woman.. warm imagination again at the ardent fire of others' loves. without any offense in words or acts. and. but with sweet satisfaction he can say : " I.THE The man BOOK OF LOVE of high type. too. venerable old man. too. under the childlike or compassionate his eyes will fillwith tears and. love soars world and becomes a sublime contemplation of feminine beauty. can love until old age. too. have done my duty . or the startling sensuality of the status of Phryne by Barzaghi. Even the which is ever loved. and. and follow my example !"  . Whether before the maiden and heroic greatness of Joan of Arc. I. but then. can the old woman the old man . is a believer.he will invoke the benedictions of Heaven on family. the most "beautifulhalf of the human fourteen or at the side of a calm love a young woman. because it is never can. do yours now. feels moved. white-haired old man without offending the modesty be his any more. perhaps. a suave of joys remembrance possessed for a long time and ardent aspirations for an ideal If even attained. but their love should be a serene also can love a young man contemplation of the beautiful. hearing the lively prattling of a girl of even a and plump matron. have loved without sowing the seeds of remorse for my old age .. lust being spent. without envy and without regrets.adore in her the most splendid affection the curls of his cold manifestation of the esthetic forces of nature. caress of her who cannot with paternal Eve.
satisfy their rage by and. and which I have expounded of my works. The lower we descend from the branches to the trunk. the more the elements diverge and differ. it follows loves differ more than hatreds. small and large. of motion. physical and moral chad^ak a Against this impotency cW lo\"f ""*" a requires. more than the that human manners of eating. psychology await from the progress of modern physiology the elements to as science dety7*rin5. as loves in his way we bring to love the greatest possible tribute of psychical elements. that temperaments medicine. when Every man whichJ^hysiology *'. I have changing the -"T dividual constitution": innocent revenge powerless to changing its name. or a Don Juan. pro"m" "f change own of all men who. thing. of will.jnir t0 tnat a tested. the more human resemble each other. the human individual. Ask a woman of easy virtue.how many are of loving. and that hygiene. Not everybody has accepted my shall I not repeat in but all agree with me in the belief standards of classification.CHAPTER LOVE IN RELATION WAYS XVI TEMPERAMENTS" OF THE TO OF LOVING these pages for the hundredth time the as they were described by the ancriticism of temperaments cient in many Schools. and they both not only will answer but will add that that every one loves in a different manner. themselves are so extraordinarily different that the manners calling all these most variform ways of loving by the one elements to the loftiest the methods name sentiment excites repugnance. the higher we ascend branches of the tree. of the same It is true that some authors have amused themselves by ens] . have had their time.
" OF a LOVE "nervous "sanguine a love. or fifty at the latest. a prurience that stands somewhere between pleasure and bother and which can be morally cured by only one This medicine." a phatic "lym- cent love". so completely obliterate these arabesques that not the least trace of them is left. but I#n. even quantifies with all that world of mysteries and passions which they found described in many books and heard from the friends. withd|ichological the most important. may seem Now. capable of loving. it is also say. The cases of the Roman are mosaic-maker sufficientto classify the innumerable tints that an expert eye succeeds in discerning . It is. and more than once. is sometimes medicine. so they say. all those men are petty and weak lovers. worse than the disease.^*Wii"ralmost the skeleton of the phenomenon should grasp it eagerly. all light when vidual question as to the quantity of love which an indimay feel is the ea^^W'l^olve.which love. have asked themselves seriously. Even when. but these pictures are innopastimes. at and it is necessary to reflect length C1763 . but who will give a palette so gigantic that I may me spread on it all the polychromic mixtures. the most if possessing^ lofty mind and a gentle heart. a caricature physiological study. perhaps. arabesques traced on the epidermis of human nature. woman.THE describing a BOOK love. all the simple and compound the proteiform iridescencesoffered by the human it strikesthe powerful prism of love ? The colors.it would it all forms of love. mouths of some were although I have striven to contain it within the limits of a an exaggeration. at forty. unacquainted as they whether they were Many men. as the and we thread which guides us through the labyrinth of these studies. instead of the caricatures of temperaments. visible. it is also one of . and the schools of psychology and literature." "hepatic succeed each other. To those men enamored my book. we should succeed in delineating a true family of human be very difficultto class under thousands and thousands of color constitutions. of nature. To them love is an intermittent prurience that begins at eighteen years and ends. problem there is an element of any inft is the simplest.
without tides. avoid the trouble of directing her gaze toward her loyer or opening her lips to say "yes. to apply then and there Cm] . do love ! it cold love (call what you will) does not exclusively belong to the male . to leave to others every labor of conquered timidity. cannot woman. need not in the slightestway. and truly may tie them to this companion whom love. every strategy. its most perfect forms in Man. . These unhappy creatures have more to ask than one reason of themselves whether what they feelis love. they may find that this so animated object. too. petty compels him to attack. if she be born a eunuch." To let herself be renounce the mission of assault. that is. it offers.LOVE IN RELATION TO TEMPERAMENTS and with great care whether preference should be given to that prurience which poets call "love. then. calmly. on the contrary. if she so attack her companion wishes. no storm. every tactic of moral violence to let the others struggle for herself alone the voluptuousness of slightly and reserve opening the door herself be loved! voluptuousness what or even What lettingothers open it! To let esthetic. in their own way. these gentlemen. frogs. which loved will be enough. what carnal prurience. or Peaceful love. full of sentiment. develop heat : well. will you explain to me what this love is!" The moon radiates heat. she can." dictionaries When these eunuchs of the sentiment of love prefer the woman. like ourselves. prudently. liowever weak a lover he may be. which must lead him to conquest. would take the libertyof a restlessthrob. And if the heart. a calm lake without tempest. no and of soft undulations wonderful warmth of sweet for the future of a passion which has never responsibility been confessed. then. on the contrary. declare that war sex.heavenly beatitude.of injured modesty . How many romantic delights in these few words ! To letherself be loved ." or to that other load which naturalists call "the female of man" teous and the cour"woman. too. caresses! And. suavely. is also tolerably pleasing and congenial. but.although more rarely. Woman. and a thousand ' ' to inquire of true lovers : reasons But tellme now. and a sweet and tender habit of benevolence they love.
like the octopus. and. grown and dead in the saline depths of a tropical sea. they love the firstcomer. they They have with the mind. which mark the extreme degrees . while to a few giants nature concedes the sad gift of a twofold thirst for affection and voluptuousness. where. where every metal is the maximum to a is organism volatilized and the entire human into a red and incandescent vapor that burns transformed lovers. they are when they succeed. through sophisms. Between Among these two poles. and all of them with the senses. but oftener they precipitate quickly into polygamy. sweet paste? Oh. a true love . these polygar who love only with the heart. and on the sexton who will nail down the cover will love even the cold coffin which contains their morbid flesh. soft. love. why can we not reduce love cataplasm to problem of hygiene and regime? From this zero of the amatory scale we gradually rise to degree of the pyrometer. disbut not wearied. since they were closed in the maternal womb. than they are loved. they love the next comer and. others mists there are some only with the senses. there are in whom men every affection takes a sensual and women and love absorbs them like a sponge born. who will love. reticences and compromises with love this one with the heart. perhaps. although rarely. in being satisfiedwith consecutive loves. who There are tremendous everything it touches. then. why did not heaven make us out of this of aroma. sucking succulent flesh of the feminine cosmos.THE a BOOK OF LOVE bring it back to its duty. Having neither to whom time nor patience to wait. have loved before they were men. they stretch many forth their numerous. but too frequently they a first forget the names of such loves and use them to designate too different lovers. form courage they lend their affections and their imagination . too. they remain with always loving more Happy their thirst forever unquenched. an only love. arms to reach the hot. blessed. and modesty to justify the perpetual ice. that other one conscience. there are women who have loved. when melted and they are men no longer. and virtue to apologize for1the absence Oh. avid.
the sentiment we are now ent a differwhich studying together assumes character. almost as immutable as friendship . and honey. and who may even swoon It is a . a tendency to old and serene being disconsolate arid mournful.the women numberless Arc. plods the innumerable mass of those are neither Don Juans nor chaste Josephs. which. it is capable an expansiveness which. binary compounds of love and pride. Besides the variform force of humble. of love and a grouped many other minor elements. to philanthropy. It is a love that is frequently constant and trustworthy. it has. egotistical. tears are always ready to gush forth at the firstimpulse of joy or . however. and in lingering kisses more esthetic forms are found in the sudden battles. of love and egotism. if not querulous. according to the passion which predominates in the individual and by which love is marked as proud. it has shaded outlines and littlerelief. ardors of voluptuousness in a most sweet sea of milk and outbursts of affection sorrow ful. more frequently felt by men of mild and gentle character. sobs or weeps too often. there are of love" "constitutional form from nature.LOVE of amatory men IN RELATION TO TEMPERAMENTS who intensity. readily exculpate from a certain weakness whom without making herself ridiculous. jealous." I shall try to sketch some of them Tender Love. Tender love is suppliant. Its most we woman. Emotion surprises them for the slightestcause . a perennial compassion and an inexhaustible tenderness drown declarations of love. Nevertheless. lachrymose and faithit often touches the boundaries of sensual love. love is of love. evangelical love that delights more than in caress than in a kiss. And around these vain. however interminable. although with less energetic affinity. and it sighs. us of wonderful in a Christian. tillform s homogeneous whole that might be called a "temperament or a vanity. furious. but never enters that sea under full sail."TbSs. to forgiveness. is pregnant with intense joy and sweet solace and predisposes to universal benevolence. who are neither Messalinas amorous nor Joansof needs.
and while one adores and is absorbed in admiration in the temple. it forgets too frequently that the human a god comprehends male. It never 1 1. often modest. the goddess a human over the warm wave female. " This is one It is the most sincere and most powerful of loves. and its ardors are indicated by too deep a lies. ible high. the soil in which germinate and grow the various forms of contemplative love. it lives on ecstasies and contemplations and.80^ . the most ebriatin of the most ardent. the lover places his idol very high and prostrates himself before it. It is a lofty love" too lofty. because it satisfies one sistible of the most natural and most irre. Contemplative love lives on the frontiers of pathology. love of simony and Disillusioned and betrayed. but its foundation rests on a shifting needs of man ground: beauty. esthetic sense. the warlike and rapacious love profanes the tabernacle and carries off the god. most intenacious of lpves. when they themselves are only too guilty of having bitter disappointments. fanatic and mystic persons. Germans love in this way. an irresisttendency to inertness and limited genital needs constitute. sorrows caused their own and their own Sensual Love.THE BOOK OF LOVE ture^ and lymphatic crea- Persons with fair complexion. because nature can neither be This nor offended with impunity. because it springs from most fruitful and spontaneous source of sensual affections. it does not wrap itselfin the hypocrisy. it has Contemplative Love. Conlove is situated in the anterior lobes of the brain . " A something of the mystic and the supernatural. it affects but slightly the somber depths of the heart and hardlyskims of voluptuousness . forgotten and properly belongs to Arcadic. sublime forgetfulness makes of this love the greatest cuckold ever known. note: desire. entirely hundred cloaks of amorous Brazen or tender. nude and. they accuse falsehood. making of the creature it loves a god or a goddess. templativ lavishing upon it every kind of adoration and incense. in its nudity. but is nude.
just it accepts volupas nausea. it is also a sublime artist. provided it gets it. Born in the lowest depths of it rarely rises to the high spheres of the the animal man." lousnes caleven and which is applied to this love is stronger than it should be. but in painting a inclined to exaggerate is irresistibly psychical picture one more relief the coloring or the outlines and give the subject development of the sense Abnormal than it has in nature. a burning thirstthat seeks the cool water of the Alpine spring . it And all possible ways. however. no heroism . This love is generally masculine : in women. without love. if youthful strength does not accompany it. indefatigable in voluptuousness. it usually slides into lasciviousness. borrow it. but it accepts it also through this way. rather. Let its insatiable prurience be but appeased and sensual love will act as mediator or pander for the loves of goes even so far as to thief and forger with the same others. it is. tuousness It does not matter to sensual love whether voluptuousness is reached by the sole moral path of love. rash to the point of insolence. buys love. impure to It accepts a bone to gnaw.LOVE insatiable or IN RELATION TO TEMPERAMENTS satisfied. it may emit high musical notes of tenderness and show warm and fascinating tints. and down.to commit forgery. Ferocious Love. ideal and knows no dignity. decline of each force. where it sinks deeper each day that passes and with the From voluptuousness ' to voluptuousness. it seeks it by it conquers. always itself: the tremendous attraction of two great and opposite organic units . become usurer. steals. it is often suppliant to the point of baseness. the most vigorous clash of the two most gigantic forces in the world of the living. licentiousness always dons a splendid robe of sentiment hides its too insolent nudity. amplified by conceit and joined impetuosity of character : such is the most natural I class under the common all those violent loves which a certain source name of . no delicacy. down it plunges until it reaches the filthof domestic libertinism or that of the wandering Venus. It is inexhaustible in discoveries and inventions. Perhaps the term to of ownership.
instead of a love. insatiable even does not calm triumphant after possession. and war as woman the prey belonging to the strongest and also was most audacious. great. it often becomes rugged and have loved our most remote ancestors must even brutal. As it is easy to imagine. of being loved than C1823 . but woman. in all the pomp of its happiness. " suffers a sting it froths and swells like a snail or a basilisk and shows the dual nature of its energy in all-its nudity. a hatred had come ence. it never unrestrained confession of beatitude or bliss. And this original sin follows it through life. When proud love is satisfied. We see this love distributehandshakes with such strength that we say they are tetanic convulsions. but as soon as self-love Proud Love. Venus nor disarmed would represent this love in all the sublime greatness of its forces. and behold it as a tyrant without jealousy. kisses that seem bites. Even in the few moments when this affection is entirely betokens it nor does it abandon itself to ah happy. occasionally attached she is to her lover. for the same reason that the rustic never admits that he admires new and Proud love thinks more great things. feels this cruel form of love ." Its birth is nearly always like the eruption of a volcano and accompanied by so many storms and fitsof affection and such clashing of energies that one would into existsuppose that.and ends of only with death. too. the more him and the deeper she she torments plunges the claws of her passion into the depths of his body ' ' to feel its heat and to say with voluptuous fury : This. sublime love. man generally is the one who loves ferociously. If kindness of habits or the patient file of education doesnot succeed in smoothing and not its angles. who continuously bathed in the blood of hunt and stained their hands with blood in love as well. and the more too.embraces that look like homicides . because voluptuousness fidelity always satisfy it.THE ' ' BOOK OF LOVE ferocious love. it may apwhen it is pear as a pure. So of the caves and the palisades. is mine !" This form is a binary combination of one part of love and ten parts of self-love. fury without we a anger.
tion but as a right of its own dignity. It exacts fidelity. but it is so irritableand such a grumbler that a Because mosquito would annoy it and a pebble in its path cause it to cry against misfortune and treachery.because. like all human the goal of affections. or pardons such sins as the world does not become It is a sterile. at the and murmurs slightestsuspicion. It is a love that can be sincere. the French mauvais coucheur. this form of love is often confounded with the preceding. susceptibil and fear stop it at every step. Rich in exactions and poor in consideration. which. but never reaches it. which quickly becomes tiresome and not as a dear reciprocaoften disgusting.LOVE IN RELATION TO TEMPERAMENTS of loving. It is a love a caress. requires infiniteattentions. it creates its own lens of the most unhappy imagination. it is the most jealous loves and among of the most the poorest in sweet abandonunhappy. it swells up with pride if fortunate.it is never but expects it as a right and a duty. extinguish itsflame its lips. " aware of. ceremonies. Like the Epicurean of old. formalities. Excoriated Love. besides the natural misforlot of every daughter of Eve which are the inevitable troubles and enlarges and every son of Adam. I compare this affection with a St.weaken its arms when hardly lighted. it cannot sleep unless a folded rose-leaf is placed in its bed. to be approached.because suspicion. of its origins. sickly love. barren. but it is still more unhappy and rightfully belongs to the pathology of the heart. it always speaks of rights and often does not know of duties. them with the C1833 . Even in the most and secret intimacy it never unfolds its thoughts for fear of ridicule of spoiling a crease of the starchedpaludament in to concede the first which it has wrapped itself. tender and passionate. and easily of affection. It also seeks. brambles and over obliged to walk among I have given and for this reason rocks bristlingwith points. among ments ingenuous voluptuousness. freeze the words on in the embrace. It is perhaps the would call it un amour Bartholomew most tunes wretched of loves. it the strange and new name of excoriated love. its aspirations.
if caressed. are but rarely found in nature in a simple state. ti non per far a I'amor!" ("Johnny. Even in the ecstasiesof creation it would ask of the Creator why He had made the light so soon or so late. honey into wormwood. into poison-ivy. faiththat at least once and passionately loved. it suspects that the caress may have had a second end in view. those. Even a " the most fortunate creatures. a artificial tmosphere. but are complicated other. Whoever is loved by these unfortunates has always the right to address them with the of Venice to the unhappy and mad words of the courtesan ti xe fato philosopher of Geneva: "Zaneto. a third too violent. it murmurs nourishment into venom.THE Excoriated love is a BOOK OF LOVE fatal stillwhich transforms rose-petals into fetidness. of voluptuousness.aspire to a love more perfect even those who possess measure just than that which they feel and better than that which they receive. Zaneto. The perfect harmony of one love lacks a note of sensuality. It is one of the most admirable triumphs of the amatory art to find a fabric so fine that it can touch the excoriated flesh of those poor unfortunates. Johnny. you are not make love !") And yet these unfortunate creatures love deeply. a veritable treasure : a real mine of resources for the psychological thinker. that of another a Ijone energy . and may create made to love. aroma because the If kissed. and live without cursing life.in and interwoven with each ized sublime love can be idealin the regions of thought of our brain. one is too restless. and it is the enviable glory of powerful lovers to cure and win them over to the point of making them confess fully in their lives they were truly. kiss was too violent or too cold . forming a thousand pictures for art. of another the manner a in which the type of too languid. which I have poorly outlined. loved ardently and faithfully. in which they without groaning. of torments loves like another and no man No man loves perfectly. who know they are of sentiment and of poetry. and when this thirst for the ideal does not induce C184] . and for them an be able to move coughing. breathe without These forms of love.
matter and force. drives forward men and bliss of today expects a tomorrow. the heavenly regions of the ideal those regions where numberless targets are gathered at which are family of the human aimed the glances and the arrows as " " have all at once been closed to us. and in the burning sultrinesslooks forward to aspire to with eager anticipation to the cool it is spurred by that impulse which things. law. richer in splendors and with ardors.LOVE us IN RELATION TO TEMPERAMENTS should not complain. At early dawn love awaits the promise noon. too. D853 . light to the blind. it would desire be simply because lifeis spent in us . we because love. If this unquenchab thirst for the better should cease in us. must obey the common us ever warmer of a warm purer regions. which compels to violate the compact of fidelity. and the intense voluptuousness for more twilight of the evening. if the irresistible for a higher love should cease. it would be simply because.
and as deep as the ocean's abysses. in its varieties as rich in afflictions infinite as the grains of sand in the ocean. the richest in joys be the most fecund in sorrows. is for those who of our sociologists. If you have already passed your thirtieth year. all the tortures Of the bones which are scattered every day sentiment. homicide in cemeteries and hospitals a much greater were are in the summary tics statisAll this.CHAPTER THE HELL XVII OF LOVE and tortures. to be. and suicide. love evinces all the notes of affliction. the ity. to the certain consciousness betrayal. family passes the long path through which the human of on on this planet. and with licentiousness cures heals every malady of the heart and drowns all his sorrows from in his libertinism.its Pain. many and insanity count number left by love . from the impatience of him who for unexpected instant awaits his beloved. has reserved its greatest bitterness. all the torments of the senses. betrayal with betrayal. inflexiblefrigidwas to the fleetingbreeze of lightning. you I certainly have C1863 . He who in love a question only of regime and hygiene recovers sees of victims than reckoned conthe loss of his sweetheart with a tear and a new quest. love with heart and mind and not with senses only. more evanescent From a suspicion than a more word rapid than the in the written of an soft sand of the seashore. so most warmest cruel torments for love. neither strength nor courage sufficientto the reader into the lower regions of the amorous accompany hell. of course. to the prolonged desperation one of him who can no longer wait. And so it to turn into the most passion was to precipitate itself into the somberest the deepest was depths .
half surely must have among the memories of your past some hour of desperation and some sleepless night which make you shudder only by recalling them ; you must have suffered compared to which Dante's infernal region will seem blooming flower-beds to you, and you must imagine that nature rarely torments one man with all the tortures of the amorous sorrows passion. In human nature some make
the heart incapable of sufferingcertain others, and the morbid rage of jealous pride protects us against the bitter sob
as generous sorrow, just the chaste reserve of a modest deprives us of the possibilityof sufferingthe ardent nature thirst for certain pleasures.
If you wish to open just littlethe door of this hell, if a you want to sound its abysses with a passing glance, imagine side all the hopes, all the voluptuousness, all the nesses, riches of love, and on the other all the fears, all the bitterall the miseries. And after this cruel exposition of the joysand sorrows of love, you will not have ended yet,
because the fields of sufferance are The than those where joy is sown. is one ; the tortures of a man woman
physical possession of a beholding the fruit near
without his being able to touch it are thousands; and this example will sufficefor all. Thus, as the antithesisof life is death, in its presence all the arrows of our pride lose their sharpness, all our hopes In the delirium of passion and pride we all repeat hundreds of times: "I would have her dead rather than belonging to another" a thousand times buried, but not unfaithful." And frequently the man who
his lips livid and his hair standing on end, stains his hands with blood by plunging them into the bosom of a victim. Folly and delirium ! Hurricanes of the ture heart where love and hatred, pride and love, crime and torBut clash and blend in the tumult of a dreadful storm. love, which truly loves, infinitelove which transforms man
utters this blasphemy,
into the half of a creature that suffersand desires,ideal love that few feel and few see dimly in the twilight of a supra-
sensible region which
greater torture than the death of the beloved. let indifference, contempt, hatred, betrayal come,
Oh, yes; but that
may live. Let others have this creature whom believed to be ours, have into whose veins we
blood; let this temple, perfumed our poured with the incense of our thoughts, with the durable love of all our ers passions, become the temple of another god; let our flowbe trampled upon, pur crowns broken, ourselves driven by the rough broom but let the away of the sexton, god live who
there, let the idol of our life shine on sojourns like a fugitive, despised like a criminal, Dejected
vituperated like a spy, in the cold and distant solitude we drink drop by drop a bottomless cup of gall, and every drop is bitterer than the last; but we know that she breathes the
air of our planet, which is inebriated by the same
that she know that
the numberless shadows that wander through the the spaces of the invisible there is a creature around whom air becomes mellower and the light brighter; that there are
certain clods of earth which yield to the weight of a body love lives,hope we that we love. No; as long as the woman does not lose all its feathers, and far, far away, less tangible than
the regions of heaven, inconceivable than eternity, it stillsoars zon, horion our lives and perhaps not believed, not confessed, but it still
cowardly in the humid
stilllive and she is dead; when we are still to live, to breathe, to eat, and she is buried
wooden coffin; when all the world is dead; when the joy of a thousand still exists and she flowers that blossom in every ray of light, the trills of a thousand birds that sing of love, the groups of the fortumiasma
who embrace each other, and the benedictions of so happy creatures are nothing but a frame to a gelid many void, a dark world; when we remain suspended between an infinityof joythat was ours and an infinityof sorrow that is tomorrow ours "and as long as we are so and shall be ours
supreme joy of life,as the most then we may understand how man
sublime of human prides; in a flash dream of the can great voluptuousness of mingling his bones with those of another creature; then we can understand how imagination
smile at the idea of the embrace of two corpses, of the fusion of two ashes, of the resurrection of two existences extinguished in the perfume of two flowers grown upon a human grave and which the wind blandly brings together that they may kiss again. In the silence of the cemeteries there are some flowers that kiss each other and to which, perhaps, from under the earth responds the quivering of certain bones; there are certain
planet, which closely pressed against each other day, which death cruelly separated and which a second cause survive, it is beus,
death has reunited forever. And when we a new organism has been created in
longer what we were yesterday. The thoughts of the past, the limbs of the past, all that we were yesterday is dead, dead forever; from the withered trunk of our existence,
science, duty, friendship, paternal
branch to shoot forth, which reproduces the passer-by, seeing the same ancient tree; and the common fruits,believes that only flowers, the same leaves, the same
cause a new one
corpse is buried there
sorrows on one
but he is in
condition only : to accomplish the tomorrow miracle of dying today in order to be born anew but with a new life'.And for the honor name, with the same remain the faithful and silent priests of the vanished god, like those Peruvians who, on the summits of the Andes, amidst the eternal glaciers of the Sorata or of the Illimani, stillworship the god of their
is the proof of understand certain sorrows lofty mind ; to have experienced them is the glory of a martyr
exalts and purifies us.
cause I feel very sure that many who weep for love, either betheir love is not returned or because they fear deception have not already been deceived" or because of "if they
their bitter disappointment when they found that they had burned their incense to an idol of clay or a statue of marble, will repute my description exaggerated, yet it is nevertheless
be pallid picture of a sorrow which pen of man will never able to portray from nature, but succeed only in divining from afar. To many death, the absolute evil, in the presence of which every hope perishes, seems preferable to the torture
that threatens lifeyet does not kill,which opens the wounds I wish and hinders the work done by nature to heal them. have the opportunity of that these gentlemen may never making the cruel comparison for themselves, of experiencing assimilated anatomy of two great sorrows, one of which is termed death, the other desperation. If they truly love, may they die earlier than their beloved ! This is
the effects of
the sweetest blessing that I of my book.
from the pages
passion so fervid and so deep that we must not if it has abrupt convulsions and sudden swoons. wonder Accustomed to dwell always in lofty regions, to have but
for nourishment, to vibrate with the highest notes of sentiment and the delirium of the senses, it may instantaneously become possessed, when it least expects
it,by unreasonable fears,idioticsuspicions, inexplicable restlessness. By this I do not mean diffidence,jealousy, disgust,
or weary libertinism, bitterdisappointments, but a vague and shapeless fog that invades the heart which, by feeling too deeply, has become languid and congeals the nerves exhausted
which intense bitterness.
teria excessive quivering. It is an indefinable hysfrom a slight disorder may develop into a most
love, whatever the source of the heart from which it springs forth, is always followed by the shadow of infinitefear. You adore your child; you have leftan him in your garden, intent on fillinghis little as rosy and fresh as cart with sand ; he was him; as bright as the sun that gilded his the flowers near curly locks. Now, while you are seated at your table, you have wished to call him, I know not why, perhaps to hear the
for five minutes
And then. to some In this field of evil. they fear wormwood. imbued everything." these unfortunates (we have already described them) love is with so much bitternessand surrounded by so many nettles that it actually resembles a bramble. even for all they wish to keep under watch in so many tabernacles and under so many seals that they are very fortunate when they j they can find and relish it! From a jealous eremiad fall into an hysterical soliloquy. only that littlehoney that love has the blows. In the kiss they suspect ice. Of these and greater follies we are given a sad spectacle every day called by this name sentiments. by that love of loves which alone was as the prince and god of all the amorous Neither the most patient and long observation of human phenomena nor the most lively imagination could enable us to divine all the petty tortures that lovers inflict selves. they pass everything through the sieve.THE sweet HELL OF LOVE sound of his silvery voice . but you. they pulverize everything. you are afraid to rise and wish to defer for a moment the spectacle of a cruel loss. and have hardly emerged when gloomy meditation on the infidelityof man love-letter. looking for the mite or the poison.phrase For the cat may be applied: "Clamando miser e amat. fastidious. your skin in a perspiration. that a snake had bitten him. melancholy. scrutinize everything. all thorns and Suspicious. upon themsome obey that cruel law which. He is utterly absorbed in the ponderous care of his wagon . of the impulses they feel only the shock. and he does not answer you. is everything. temperament individuals the of Linnaeus concerning the loves of . and again silence. that he had fallen in a swoon who knows the fantastic " With your visions that have passed through your mind! heart throbbing. has decreed that no one shall be happy on this perhaps to planet. have imagined that he was dead. flying in a few seconds over a thousand miles of thought. according to persons.in the caress indifference. These creatures they fall into the autopsy of a from a IT1913 . You call him again.
There is no case of aversion and loathing run through her entire body. D923 . and even nature should make them a gift of a Venus draped by the Graces.somber.no lSw.THE were BOOK OF LOVE if under an unlucky star. by the special nature of his aggressive sex. despise to abhorrence a man man who cases is near to her.were by a cruel nature.sheds beast that strikes. because bitterness is on their lips certainly born and not in the cup of love. with grief in many she must. submit tp his caress. that which a woman must suffer when compelled to submit to the caress by this the she does not love. no caress force him to accept a caress which to him is repugnant. among the greatest that the human heart suffer. I intend to speak of torture bitter. In this bites. she and Frigid. and which assimilatesthe prostitute to the martyr.almost exclusively reserved Man.invading even in the world can revive it. senses must the last intrenchments of love. accord to a man money or a surprise of the senses has sold her to him without love. may be as cold as ice. because law. and no There is perhaps greater torture than relegates it to the criminal code and the prison. then entirely. For if indifference. These sorrows. case we would have a human the blood of a poor creature who swoons with terror or struggles powerlessly in the clutches of a tiger: they are sorrows which belong to the story of terror. In him voluptuousness do without love. and yet in many in very can. for woman. can in which the ancient theory of freedom of the will shows its ridiculous falsityas plainly as in this. however. to the bloodiest I intend to speak here of the pages of supreme tortures. feel chilly shivers Woman. must be spurred to the embrace by a sudden enthusiasm. or an Apollo with the brain of Jupiter. they would stillbe always unhappy. contempt permeate him passion. and physical love has a joy that is can to sufficient conceal mercifully all his lack of sentiment and hatred. deep as caresses that a woman must infinity. hate a to the desire of death. I do not mean of a man whom brutal violence that assimilates an embrace to homicide. human or divine. his can be clouded by intense lust.
if she stillknows what modesty is. by the perverted tendencies finds herself led of our moral education. to have loved and to love.if she stillremembers to that " drinks drop the trepidations of love. rto~be leeches truly this is more cruel torture than the inquisitors for a lonely invented. it is really too great a sorrow ever " " weak creature mass ! What of meditations. she looks on which burns but does not warm the sublimity of enthusiasm only as the culmination of ridicule discerns passion. the greatest joy gives place to the greatest shame. what abysses of desperation are  . she perceives impetuosity. The immensity of prostitution is avenged with an infinity of outrage. pollutes her. horrible fear of dying before having loved . inch by inch. to have for years and years of the promised land conquered it. on the contrary. after all this. to be at the gates of paradise and inhale through the portal its inebriating perfumes and then. touches simply prostitutes. she . But when. through the of adolescence . ocean a brutal force which debases. an sees. if she does not yet possess that skepticism which heals the heart or that cynicism which shields it. the daughter of Eve is brought to this sacrifice of the body by the tyranny of the law. to become conscious of having been transformed into a vessel " the thirst.its light. when she cruel misfortune through ignorance or through the fault of others. infinity of repugnance in an of When nausea woman ! fault. to be aware of a volcano in the heart. then. but finds it simply grotesque. the holiestthing is plunged into the most fetid mud . to reveries of childhood and the rosy aurora have felt an immense. with its flashes.THE HELL OF LOVE her heart and hatred on her lips. instead of love.she beholds the ardor of that man her . and for her it is nothing but violence .to feel in the bosom a roaring beast which satisfies like magnesia or a part of the regime of a man. she cannot has fallen into that mire through her own be more cruelly punished. its perfumes. then that poor woman by drop the most cruel torture that any creature can endure . then she passes through a long and merciless agony. she smells. To have dreamed of love.
More than one than one assassination was adultery. and a part of happiness is always among the unknown tities quandetermined by chance and not by reflection. discussed. more enwhen man.believed to have in his arms More than one embrace has generated twins.THE BOOK OF LOVE caressed gathered in a few seconds in the hea"d of a woman by a man does not love! What lence. remember that for many love is the firstand the last of passions. man new and a new only the death of the one who hates can extinguish.d find in which matrimony ism only an association of two capitals or a mechanfor reproducing the species. could not become robust if he only should live in a climate. dertainly among the thousand millions of human beings who tread this planet we could and should be able to find the woman who would be happy with us and Unfortunately. hatred.and remember women. Hence even rapid and exacting in its desires to make such a C1943 . too search for the most fortunate and wisest creatures possible. eagerly advised women to avoid! Often does a man press to his bosom a he too heedlessly and whom prostitutes. since it often survives the death of its object. O men.while the victim meditates a long. an. the first creatures that for very many and the last of joys. you who see in love a cup to empty. could be fitted with the electric light which modern science concedes to us. life is too short and love is make us happy. whom you neglect and nature so perhaps despise. tempering the bitterness. who rachitic limbs. There is. And I believe that can the same apply to love. a creature. vowed in that moment creature who does not love him joying a happy the supreme bliss. no unhappy be relieved by another nature capable of mending the shreds of the heart. straightening the born weak or sickly. eloquence in siwhom she that silence which Ovid. cruel revenge. a tenacious and bitter hatred. There is no man. If we could dedicate half a if Diogenes' lantern century to the search for the right woman. conceived. be supplied with food and surrounded with the physical and moral atmosphere that agrees with him. the libertine. love is all that its distresscould not of life.
I because she oftener than we has address myself to woman.love. fraternal. degree. no wounding of self-love is possible. are peculiar to the love of loves. a fortunate coincidence which gilds with the To same is most a beautiful rays the happiest hours of life. Even upon it touches. the ridiculous always runs parallel and very near to the sublime. the awakening of one who slumbers. so that a of the two and is communicated It is an generates caresses. at the same in the moment. Woe. spark draws a spark. the least unscrupulous or heedless movement tact. because you not at the proper shield them love! time and place how to close your eyes or with the merciful veil of your hand or your "195] . because panion she has her hand suavely ready to aid. but the least inadvertence.in these firstskirmishes. the most grotesque desires you should throw at once the mantle Every threat of ridicule then vanthem. wherever love and. the opportunity of healing these unsightly wounds. wounds self- the most impatient. the most ridiculous. a harmonious note which calls from a bough to another bough . a flutteringof wings. and never permits them to unite. if your comknew should blush through your fault. but it is always the invitation to a rendezvous. with it. filialand paternal loves. however. thirst arises in one to the other. of these partial incompatibilities would require the moral analysis of the entire man. of his social vicissitudes. ishes of love to cover like vapor. and still are not happy because characters fit each other on many sides of the human polygon but not on all. The study of these contrasts. In all other cases. feel at the same hour. may bring the two elements into conand the ridiculous. a caress invitation of lips. but it can never be the bread of a daily bliss. In these invitations. Love stands between them. it is true. some of them. but spring from all human tions affecand poison friendship.THE many HELL OF LOVE and beautiful natures are tied by love-knots. the stimulus of a desire or the thirstfor a caress rare thing. hile many do all w of those sorrows not belong solely to love.
the stings. fiercebattle. or because woman by prompted perception that the too exacting demands. against them. a because too exacting modesty lose or conquer : but many fleewhen they should not . of senses and of intellectman than to possesses a when it is always the bitter sap of sorrow. In every field of sentiment. and enjoy. the torments of love should be deeply studied because they always move side by side with joy and voluptuousness. than DM] . so that at the end bless love. The ardent and impetuous heart is not a source bitterness of greater amorous burns within it. by standing one's ground senses. just does not always know how to reconcile the inequalities of the much bitterness. selfish love and not by love. should be allowed to starve! By fleeing one may lose or conquer . may has perfumed thorough knowledge of man. their names are countless.THE How BOOK OF much found LOVE rancor and spite.the bitternesses. which. great experience can defend so a fortunate as not to stumble of our career sorrow. * we slight flowers. one may and love often lies blood. more. tortures. recede.how repels a too live ardor does not decide with wise of temperament. though with some our life with its most beautiful I have alluded only to some of the torments which populate the hell of love .the wearinesses. The on the ground drenched with its own the spites. the influence virtues of a noble and generous character in all its strength. how on the blooming paths many nettles and thorns are because delicacy of sentiment of the most fervid passion. us from them. cut from which oozes after a long. but their number is infinite. when the calm light of reason base actions accompanies sublime incapacity to commit when the the perhaps. much greater possibilityto suffer bliss is attained and the veins are anywhere. and very few are Much luck. many stand firm when they should flee hence many defeats which disappoint both conquerors and conquered.in which we defend ourselves with Here also" and here all the weapons of nature and art. else" the. weight of mental is revealed in all its power.
even of hearts lose their bitternessin the calm blue ocean small of a when character which is all sweetness they have and sympathy.THE HELL OF LOVE desire for the good. D973 . when we enjoymore the pleasure we give than that which we receive. Weak and defective natures are strengthened and straightened for support the robust column of an the rabid rancors affectionate and noble nature.
In man. because it so pathology of its own. while in men even whose souls have been kneaded with sludge it becomes the greatest coefficient Love. has a of vice and crime. that is to say. may compromise with his a question of love arises. hausted the energy of the genital organs. dear. disease that should receive the care of the physician or the hygienist . and conscience when many. impotency and prostitution. who endeavors In the very simplest organism of inferior animals every love ceases disease or a wound desire of has exwhen age. that in a general to me. be reduced to two principal study of physiology they can forms. they are of every size and adapt themselves to the infinitedegrees of human baseness. like all other sentiments. widens its sphere of action as to enclose a larger field and has more incapable of a prepotent needs to satisfy. guilt. The degradations of love of sand in the sea. instead. many blemishes stain the texture of the noblest and loftiest Love wants to possess us bound hands and feet.and natures. it is not only a case which requires the attention of the legislator: but it is a Impotency is not only a moral studied by the psychologis to outline the natural story of love. this is an to lose all that he holds most inexhaustible source of disgrace. as many as numberless as the grains love's own delights . even though about Love. a superior pathology.CHAPTER THE XVIII OF LOVE DEGRADATIONS being the most powerful agitator of human elements known. It seems however. shame that must be thoroughly . A man base deed even though dying of hunger. mean are as cowardice and great crimes. stirs the slime which is always found ever that was in the noblest natures.
THE DEGRADATIONS OF LOVE irresistible and bestial needs are so teeming with psychical elements of the moral and the intellectual world as to survive the disease of the organ. while our rachitic civilization makes by hundreds with cuckoldly ornaments low world of wandering obtain the exact number of these "half -men" them to their inexorable files. and the marmoreal statue of adolescent virginity "199!] . nude but innocent love. is all sentiment or thought. it. they are specters that belong to the These poor limbo of the most transcendent pathology. more consented unwittingly to an infamous compact by which a man and great wealth in exchange offered her a great name loved her. much more than feminine virtue and patience could tolerate.be it enough know the semi-eunuchs who fill the sanctuary of the family and the loves. Nature's whole love. And the believe himself a hero or a martyr at that age? his precious prey. very rare . In the fecund generator of many other minor shames. pariahs of nature are. Statistics. cannot and for consign us to numerous that they are many. but also a function of reproductive Martyrs and saints could life.no amorous note arises in the eunuch. An innocent man loves the most can without being aware of his manhood.and endeavored to warm caresses. true love. than one woman of early youth.a need of the senses. if the phantoms of a strange lasciviousness are noticed wandering even here and there. or womb. desired her. Sometimes of owning it without having the right to enter being and did confess his the eunuch was not an chaste and cool dawn could not possess her he wished to as nature abject did not shame before his betrayal. but for a " yes. but the majority men Every mutilation of love is a shame and the most martyrs. but the innocent maiden And who does not understand and accepted the compact. tions mutilate themselves and die in the beatitude of their mutilanot does not consist of saints or of . fortunately. and a woman die of love although knowing nothing of the existence of the True it is." The wretched man to possess man commanded own the temple and feel the emotion woman. however. very many. inundated her with eunuch embraced her with his impotent sterilekisses.
what a fruitful How affections. do not accept any compact involving a mutilation of love. that in vain she was a woman. woman No. generous women. Sentiment can be such a great part of it as to conceal voluptuousness in the can most secluded recess of a hidden region. you impose upon yourselves. they may reply with a nod of the head and without moving lips: Is it not true that you their ja would prefer C2003 . man. nobody is stronger than nature. and. to be spared blushing. and love attacked and seized virtue. and should love." a mother love is not all senses and all lust. why make a martyr of her ? Do you want to be the executioner of her whom you say you love? you. And if you have found a heroine. a cruel. the virgin realized that she was a woman. Later on. real eunuchs. painful stab in her her : ' ' You. teachers you think that you will make of every kind of sacrifice. perate smiling perhaps. how many ! contaminated source O not felled it despairing and imploring. passion. many brigands spring from this stream of bastards. will enter the sanctuary of sanctuaries. will try to smile. do hope to be loved by a woman posed on you have imwhom infamous contract ! No virtue. deep. will heart will warn become only through a crime. who can elevate noble women. be happy self without voluptuousness if she only feels her"a loved : but she wishes to love. quarter-eunuchs. half-eunuchs. and sworn powerful of domestic misfortunes. incomprehensible emotions. no oath can resist an the sacred laws of love . to the highest regions even the lowest. No. and in good faith was broken by the most the covenant you. to her. the tabernacle of maternity. can heroism the martyr. with the palm of sacrifice tightly pressed to her bosom.THE BOOK OF LOVE trembled with new and." even I appeal to all the daughters of Eve. happy an outcast of nature. the sublime mission of redeeming a desman : but I assure you that neither virtue nor sacrifice nor And that formidable cry of the universe of stifle While the living that wants you to be wives and mothers. Eve and daughter of Eve. only through the door of domestic treason. You.
times to be loved by
of chastity,rather than to be profaned and satiatedwith lust at the hands of a eunuch ? Is it not true that above all "an to have for support that firm column you want called honorable man" ? And certainly he is not an honorable man
who claims the possession of loved by her when he is not a
forty, at fiftyyears of age aspire to have a family, after having dragged their half-virility through the lasciviousness of prostitutionand the dainties of the erotic kitchen, should never suppose that lechery can
They can prostitute take the place of true love in a woman. their spouse, but they can never make her love them earnestly and deeply. They are foredoomed by the inexorable laws of nature to figure largely in the population of cuckoldom.
lovers, it is only
thunderbolt on the head of disease, a misfortune that concerns
the physician and the pharmacist ; but when it precedes love, it is cowardice, degradation, infamy. The honest man
it should never attempt to conceal it from himself or justify; love, a thing that he should either courageously renounce does not concern him, or expose the sore and ask the armed hand of the surgeon to cut and cauterize it. Let him become a man again, and then see if he can aspire to the delights of sentiment. farm.
farmer, he should possess
The complicated mechanism of our social organism, in the manner same as it offers to the thirstof ardent youth voluptuousness love, imposes on many lovers, with a more without
Here we cruel amputation, love without voluptuousness. have the two chief sources which of the thousand sorrows ness human society prepares for those who love: "Voluptuous-
without love," that is, all the degradations and shames without voluptuousness," that is, all of prostitution; "Love the tortures of enforced chastity. Between these two hells the enamored youth remains a long time suspended, until, to
into a somber avoid death, he takes lechery and imagination hide in the reedy old boat and flees away with them to
marshes and among the miasmas the degradations of love, and
of self-abuse" the lowest of
place between impotency and all enjoys the Olympus of love, he must its degradations.
occupies prostitution. Yes; which
also submit to all
In the book which I will dedicate to the hygiene of love this problem will be thoroughly studied. Here I shall refer to it only so far as it concerns the physiology of sentiment.
It is painful to admit it,but it is true: our modern society has rendered love so difficult many unhappy creatures as to
make them pass under the Caudine Forks of this cruel dilemma: either to buy voluptuousness and counterfeit love with it, or dream of love in the mire of solitary lasciviousforced to become In one way or the other, we are ness. in counterfeiters and to blush for ourselves at the manner
which we satisfy the most powerful of human needs. Solitary love is not only a sin against hygiene, and
which kills health and vigor, but it is also an offense against morals, a poison of happiness. He who repeatedly falls into the crime and is frequently obliged to blush, tarnishes more dignity, weakens the every day the limpid purity of his own strong spring of virile resolutions and becomes a greater self coward in all the battles of life. While he blushes for himhim to a and curses himself and the love that condemns in the than ever continuous debasement, he blushes more
presence of the woman he becomes of whom
the wave of love at later succeeds in loving, has spoiled the purity of his tastes and his aspirations and in the arms of a woman who loves him complains of the solitary twinges of a morbid voluptuousness, like one who, having burned his mouth with the pungent tastes of pipe and brandy, can no longer relish the flavors of pineapple and strawberry. Love is the greatest of conquests, the sweetest of delights, to renounce it in order to replace it with the joy of joys; degradation is worse
he does not feel worthy and of whom less worthy at each fall. He poisons its very firstsource and, even when he
Better crime, it is an infamy. times chastity with its sublime tortures, prostituthan
tion with its filth. True and complete love is a splendid banquet under the fragrant trees of a garden, amidst the glitteringof the chalices, the harmonies of music and the witty jestsf friends; solitary love is a furtive meal with o
bone picked up in the fetidness of a dunghill and gnawed in the dark. Prostitution is, after solitary abuse, the greatest degradation
it should be said at once, of love, and, what is worse, necessary one in modern society. Tibullus hurls at it
"Jam tua qui Venerem docuisti vendere primus es, Quisquis infelix urgeat ossa lapis !"
("Whoever thou bones!")
pleasures of love, may
firsthast taught to sell the ill-boding stone crush thy
/ This imprecation, repeated by all moralists of every succeeding age, could not prevent for one day the sale of love, and
demonstrates he wrote
that St. Augustine
sounder philosopher when
meretrices de rebus humanis, turbaveris omnia loco, labe ac dedecore libidinibus; constitue matronarum
things, and you the prostitutes out of human will disturb the whole world with lust; put them in the place of wives, and you will defilehome with disease and
written but this sentence, I would proclaim him a great psychologist; in a few words he has shown all the sides of the tremendous problem, given a lesson If St. Augustine had of toleration to the intolerant, of social science to economists, centuries, his words are as true, and today, after so many profound, inexorable as when he addressed them to a world
solved by fleeing from
philosophers physicians, many yet many burning questions of modern attempt to solve the most society after the manner of a child who by closing his eyes believes that he is fleeing from the dog that threatens him. To Dr. Monlau in Spain and Dr. Bergeret in France, who and
thought that they would be able to save society by abolishing prostitution, I replied in a few words which I wish to save from the shipwreck of the newspapers in order, to gather them in the shadow of this book : wondered at finding philosophers who in Fichte or in Kant study man without having ever touched his palpitating body, or examined any of his
fibers with the microscope; who advise the legislator to destroy in the social organism, with iron and fire, that livid and cancerous spot called prostitution; neither have
I given the alarm or extolled it as a miracle when I heard invoked against the houses of ill fame by the auto-da-fe moralists who have had the rare fortune of having been
born without the sixth sense, or the still rarer merit of it with the extinguisher of an iron will. But smothering when I hear these intolerant cries from the mouth of a physician, I shake my head diffidently,and with a compassionate
voice I ask myself: Has this moralist actually seen and cut into his cold and rigid flesh on the chilly marble slab of the anatomical cabinet? He who hurls the, at prostitution, is he really the physician who anathema 'Is he really a physician? in convulsive delirium a man
kind link between
only a defendant who in him considers only an unhappy creature to heal and help ?' "These trious and other questions I addressed to the illusSpanish physician Monlau when he proposed to his
government fame; and
the legislator,who in to punish, and the philanthropist,
the absolute suppression of the houses of ill then I had the pleasure of seeing my poor words printed in the progressive Spanish medical journals. Now I make the same reproach to Dr. Bergeret, who, in
pray. devour But between the solid bridge of a wise criticism. faith in books has more school for the inquisitor'sstake. that man not man you ought to be able to whom understand if it is true that you also are made of the same Your morals are those of the inquisitor who dough? he cannot burns the sinner whom convert. if himself. those of the surgeon who barbarously amputates the merciful science. went so far as to fling the anathema against that caustic wound which civilization has opened in the diseased flesh of the modern social organism. in preservative medicine than in prisons and halters. in Germany. fili mi?' of sician phy- h}stime and lurid stories of what occurred in some And who does not know similar stories? Italy. wherever the eyes of the authorities cannot penetrate into the most secret fissuresof the social edifice where lie concealed the lurid parasites that sting and find them deploring the evils that are the eration results of clandestine prostitution and destroying all tolon this ground there is an abyss over which the physician and the legislatorshould not pass on the waxen but which should be crossed wings of an Arcadian flight. you say learn vice in the houses of ill fame.THE one DEGRADATIONS on OF LOVE prostitution in the country places and small towns of France. taverns. with a wiser and more Modern civilization substitutes the should preserve. he member which. daggers. us.more as C2053 . then. we can ink in narrating villages of France. poisons. gets drunk and prostitutes itself. "Then.without pharturers would there be no poisoners. with a of his memoirs a ' melancholy : "Bergeret lost much sad air. and I. without manufacbayonets would* there be no and of gunpowder And who. We have them in in every country where humanity loves and suffers. my dear moralist. that men over macists without taverns would there be no assassins. firearms. repeat to the French Tu quoque. they are as has only as those of the legislatorwho false and coarse the prison and the scaffold for the education of the guilty. my dear theorist. but. is the cause of the existence of wars? houses of ill fame.
with many curious bones and many scrofulous tumors.THE BOOK OF LOVE as the social imbued as it is a poor creature with evil humors. the low and the very low. too. the government of public health. Alexander Severus - collected through taxes on houses of prostitution to be paid into the treasury. We will close the house of voluptuousness when every a man considered There are will have his nest and love will not be crime any longer. this new rebuild them. everywhere women C206H . then we will close and the organism shall have new this wound. . until we as than in the surgeon's knife. but we also find. has the high prostitutes and the very high. Not in all countries are prostitutes cynically named according to the price they ask for their favors. every country. ' ' This is why and we with which save the life of a diseased organism. "And believe me. even moral. but everywhere mani" hierarchy of vice and a scale of lechery. With Juvenalian did not want the money Brazil devotes to the regulation of vice the money received from the sale of decorations and titles nobility. we will kindly cauterize its flesh to keep it alive. to blood into his flesh. while no civilizednation is without prostitutes. stillpreserve the cautery of prostitucare jealous wish to guard it with the same a physician keeps a precious wound open to we blood. to divert into more ignoble parts those acrid humors that would poison the sources of life." some savage races among which prostitution is unknown. O egregious colleague of the country beyond the Alps. when life shall be no longer threatened tion. in Persia. as long And long shall succeed with the tonic cure of education in renewing the blood in the veins of this old invalid and in pouring his bones and his nerves. used it for the maintenance sagacity. We find of who sell themselves. ''the twenty towhere they are termed "the fifty tomani" a tariff is the index of the etc. as. his of the theaters and the minister. organism is diseased. together with many other ones which are stillbleeding. and Ulpian. on the most the contrary.
he obtains levels all virtues and concedes the maddest polygamy. that society is everywhere ashamed of this stain. Unfortunately woman can and bread at the same always sell five minutes of voluptuousness without love. and there one sees the nude and chaste statue of Love dragged in the fetid bog by a frolicsome tipsy everything. man how to love. Procurers and procuresses hasten to the market of lechery to test the fleshof the precious victims. Without hunger. Such is the love that modern civilizationoffers to all those hundred thousand pariahs who cannot find the straw not to weave the chaste nest of the family. and a mysterious mephitic air hangs heavily over the simony of love. A thousand muddy streamlets carry their tributesto prostitution but at the first source is one and powerful : cause the . And the joy she sells is paid for the requirements of beauty. and panders and bawds. And prisoners in the same gloomy atmosphere are martyrs norance of love and nymphomaniacs. without desire. keeping within the shadow of the law. to all those who canmake a vow innocent maiden of chastity and do not wish to deceive or an steal another man's woman. C 20711 . prostitutes the most forces of thought and affection. according to the infamous art with which she knows how to feign pleasure and counterfeit love.all the bloody carrions of the great social battles. in man imperious appetite for voluptuousness. food. to fatten the lean and buy the plump for according to the higher bidder . licentiousan or ness time. luxury.THE to our DEGRADATIONS OF LOVE honor. of savory without the necessity of overcoming modesty. in those dark haunts of licentiousness. loses the holy poetry of the heart and the mysterious gigantic quivers of sentiment. she can sellherself with disgust in her heart and hatred on her lips. in woman an imperious want of bread or licentiousness. fashion. victims of hunger and of igfallen angels and foul demons. forgets There. thirstless. conceals and does not mention it. all the lowest strata of feminine society. conceal in the lurid or gilded prisons of prostitution that quivering herd of youth and shame. and money crowd. he partakes he becomes intoxicated.
then we against such impudence. but it should be watched tenderly as in a hospital. faith betrayed in the house of a friend. it should be tolerated and pitied. which all may hope to attain. that deception. therefore. such sacrilege! The as a cure. It should not be permitted to grow. to cover and paint . that in the passer-by it may than lechery.the legislators with their elaborate dous chorus to sing hosannas to this stupenEither a starving family or solution of the problem. the infinite joysof a virgin voluptuousness. the phildirges. either children cast into the depth of misery or famy. And when a sincere moralist or a true philosopher attempts to cut the bark away and show to us through a littlefissure flee horrified and clamor how deep the decay is. To reach this sublime goal. paths of society. proletariate or incodes.what a horrible spectacle should we . The sale of love should neither be family.writers and teachshould raise the level of general culture and teach the elect the paradise of chastity. as we already tolerate and pity many other maladies of our social organism. Stupendous dilemmas society with numberless horns and sow If a thick bark of hunger and corruption everywhere hypocrisy did not cover the rotten trunk of our modern behold! civilization. alas! the And libertine will never be able to understand). to hope at least to attain it. to parade its lurid sores. deal with prostitution government malady to be treated. not because there is any hope of but because society owes to every sick person a physician and a bed. nor proclaimed as a feast of the human officially because it then overflows and inundates all the suppressed. the economists with with their tearful their wise reflections.THE BOOK OF LOVE Our civilized anthropist society can really be proud of this. so awaken compassion rather ers while the state keeps a good vigil. to itself with tinsel spread. should.we love the hundred must above all scrape off from modern C2083 . can a joinin degradation crown our or crime. preserves for and true love. which contains a treasure of delights for the future of him who waits (this. prostitution.
a woman who should must hypocrisy. they can write such a book as this in England nine editions. modern society. a morality that should teach us never because more from love. This book was a distressing surprise to me. without fecundation. of hygiene and even of religion. but at the same exalted. but immediately. not have teach We love before voluptuousness. And this physician must be a less hypercriticaland time more less exacting morality. to be chaste in in order to possess her some day. demands a physician to cure its sores. but we have concealed too much and have been silent too long. England. infected with so much prostitution monogamous and adultery. conquered in the same or the prostitute. and incessantly proclaiming itself while it is largely polygamous. or at leastless soiled with filth loves virtuous and more and lies. they should be taught that it is a sublime delight conceded to the good and the noble and is to be Not the manner as glory and wealth. I believe it my duty to affirm that society is thoroughly diseased and (I say it loudly)hould be cured. to concede free.because of the impossibilityfor most of the people of morally satisfying one of the most powerful When needs. at the first dawn of youth. most " is the only remedy against the proteiform corruption that invades modern society. joysand the most watchful C209-] . and that chastity is to separate voluptuousness the most beautiful and holiest of guardian of love. s Yes. when an honest physician can intercourse.but a chambermaid modest and pure girl should be the firstteacher of love. human . one of the honest and wisest physicians of London most published a book that has already reached the ninth edition" in which he frankly dared assert that free love. to cleanse it from so much degradation.when Malthus finds such preventive and devour calmly discuss an eloquent who brings his theory from the and daring commentator field of economy into that of morality.THE coats of DEGRADATIONS we OF our LOVE children learn love as a crime in the house of vice . In the puritanical country in the world. us our sires de- conceal and believe that we are able with silence to suppress the passions and suffocate the desires.
they feel too great repugnance to deThey to the mire of the simony of voluptuousness. having The in these once C2103 . because they love. and where they breathe a purer air and cull the most delicate and beautiful flowers. spheres in which they dwell. not times. and because.THE BOOK OF LOVE even entered scend the paradise of love. should exert all their faculties with all their strength in too. may elevate themselves to the high order that the masses. elect never prostitute themselves.
and they often acquit the man who has turned chaotic mass in which murderer for love. In none institutions is such impenetrable of the human darkness as in the field of love. The inciteto prostitution is considered a very serious crime. tolerations and cruelties causes to stumble at every step and. where an intricate mass of reticences..but in actual life adultery is the most common known. that amorphous of adultery. it is not only tolerated. some cases then. contradictions. you Willfind several columns bristling with figures indicating the large number of suicides and homicides for love . but most venial sin ever ment feted and almost accepted as a social institution." If. scattered here and there. you consult the gloomy volumes in which man gathers the statisticsof his crimes. and but rarely. probably the times: "Love fault what is the most common same reply will be repeated a hundred is inconstant. always deal very leniently with crimes for which the code would send the culprit to death or to prison for life. but many legislators sell their daughters to a rich husband who love her. what is worse. The jurymen. is a written law that adultery is a crime to be punished with the gravest and penalties. common sense It offends and wounds the sentiment of justice. or on of the laws worthy he is rambling in a [2113 . And is this adultery with the force of irresistible not Man prostitution? which he has imposed is either not himself. and solves every idea of right and wrong disand vanishes. you will find no records of inconstancy. never cannot will love her and will drive her to necessity. on the women other hand. love is a liar.CHAPTER FAULTS AND XIX CRIMES OF LOVE If you ask a hundred of love.
but he is winged and lives only on later he forgets his proclamations. he will return there soon and forever. if infamies a duty on a and bastards are born from the obscene nuptials of gold and vanity. and above all leveled by the common yoke of the other affections. heroic. that lives on bright light and as creature a :2123 . strength . but he is chiefly a hypocrite.j?ase_. has " but one right- arrogance. born in Olympus.THE BOOK OF LOVE labyrinth of maniacal vertigo . A moment braggardism than ever that he is an animal and shows more of the soil. Man is a littleof all this. injustice and dies of it injustice. And yet love may erous. he is either an arrogant blockhead or a shameless liar. I class that crime among the most inevitableeffectsof instantaneous hatred and natural revenge . covers hiding. and that. instead of affectioncontempt springs up. possess all virtues. couid be justand hence measured on the scale as the other ^sentiments. the prosecutors.because love acwas absent.enly that same He has supposed for a moment than in any other. too. kind. love. when I see it breaking with furious rage the iron bars of the cage in which a cruel code of laws has imprisoned it. InJoyehe lies more f r^uently^r^more_brjj. He proclaims solemnly to the four winds that he is a son of God and that he inhabits the earth by chance and temporarily. holiest affectionsof the heart. and he who can prove an alibi is at once quitted the most cruel and most stubborn of public When I see love kill dignity. I remark tha'tlove cannot be ordered for a fixed hour like a dinner. friendship.and instead of love hatred is born. He is a god on vacation who condescends to play and eat with the peasants. he sees the painful contrast between what he has himself and goes into said and what he has done.I acquit it instantly because love is not a by wild beast that can be shut up in a menagerie. it may be merciful. his ideals. but free as air. Such is the eternal formula of his eternal contradictions. genbut it can never be just born in injustice. when love is imposed as girl. love has nothing to do with it. it possesses only one weapon When deceived love arms itselfwith an homicidal knife. it lives on .
and then we shall attend to the rest. it is a liar in law and in life. and then we shall see what remains sound beneath in that dear. In the codes. the " is falsehood. most For me hypocrisy is a chain that ties and chokes love in modern society. I may have a Scipionian mania. the fixed idea of a delenda Carthago . a thief. devours. forgive justice all. of this poor creature. "What ' ' in turn. opinion. and you complain because the mad creature bites ? and kills This is admitted to be true by universal consent . a sympathetic weakness. a hundred times a day. sincerity.FAULTS burning suns.a traitor. and I dare affirm that the only fault. love is today a liar from head to foot. it is at a weakness a dear. the only anchor "Sincerity. forgive always. it swears In my liar when other crimes besides that of lying.solely because it is a liar. you have made it furious with your own violence. it is unfaithful." All the faults of love are all lies.for the most rigorous individuals. a liar when. on AND CRIMES OF LOVE the aroma of the forest and the fragrance You have made it hydrophobic with hunger of the meadows. almost all the misfortunes of love are the offspring of untruth . it pronounces the words eternal. in the paths of life. and inequality between what the laws loves are capable." I will ask but the most infamous of love's lies. finally. adultery is nothing is. of salvation for betrayed loves?" nothing but sincerity. nude and virginal love that Let us firstsave the life Mother Nature has conceded us." C2133 . we shall find out whether it has other misfortunes. even where human should rise in all the solemn as there is an immense to grandeur of its majesty protect the most sacred rights of family and society. and thirst. men require and that of which human shrug their shoulders and forgive. love is often a crime. are but if I should have to answer the questions: "Which "Which are the happy loves?" the true. eternity. eternally. the great loves?" a I would reply without hesitation: "The sincere. whether it can commit and when it forswears. disgraces it. the only remedy for unhappy loves. commit only crime which this sentiment can Let us begin by freeing it from the leprosy which infects. and.
because nothing so boldly generates infinityas does armed desire. that. perjured C2143 . that the hasty and imprudent vow is a fruitful father of lies and most fruitful grandparent of infidelity true.but few can get a branch or a leaf of the sacred tree. she will love. while timid.does not love yet. and even out if his loves were amorous remorse all honest. that she has not yet consulted her heart. never Sometimes lies are himself. honestly. from the firstday she loves. lies less than we do. We all anxiously climb the mountain of the ideal. The less one swears. but he has never lied. Man often uses the "eternal oaths" as weapons of seduction. is loath to inflict cruel wound on the companion a who stillloves her. frequently than we. and Apollos. the eternal loves. It is only eternity and too however. the sexual relations a character of tender reserve and delicate serenity. never trayed be- told through compassion. He has loved much and fleetingly. months. and during the life of love she is less unfaithful than we are. Man^inJbisfirstdeclaration. Venuses.. that she. and if a holy horror may deprive fiery accent and some amorous speech of some inebriating expressions. others. and parades them at every hour as a measure he of the bottomless depths of his love. swears instantly. woman. but sometimes swears expansion of it with virile while it gives sincerely. and anybody. Now. and endeavors with a mighty effort to deceive herself and him. perhaps. frankness can give all loves the Some baptism a frivolous man die withcan of honesty. and woman.THE BOOK OF LOVE At the risk of seeing many disciples and many masters of love smile skeptically. as are geniuses. some of them are as transient as the ephemera. more answers modest. more the less one forswears. are Very few loves of the lower orders last years. I will say at once that woman. even when quite sure that he loves. for which long is the life of a day. until through habit of hypocrisy she succeeds in feigning a love that no longer exists. swears an eternity of infinite affection. more reserved. striving in vain to keep alive a more dying love. it nevertheless stamps dignity which makes it blessed among women.
False and cruel is the pity that causes to simulate a us is greater than that love which no longer exists. and at last became transformed into a crime. unless voluptuousness is reduced love two human to a plain question of hygiene.do not . even vestals of the family. all the warmest and most powerful of human affections. love. The lie at firstwas merciful. to see the blooming tree of a happy passion felled by a sudden hurricane is the rending of a heart that breaks in a day under the shock Of an atrocious blight . a leper is who dies in the fetidness of a hospital. as a Love killed by violence remains stretched on beautiful as a thunderstruck angel. How so together.FAULTS AND CRIMES OF LOVE from lie to betrayal the road is short and slippery. No sorrow upon us . the soul. although capable of killing. lovers or husbands. without swearing eternity or infinity. to be loved means have become a living part of another : the lie begins when. leaving no was a a corpse slowly corroded by phthisis and trace whatever of the time when he. but these sorrows do not debase us. as it love means to the other. self-love. to creatures at the same time with that sentiment which pis] . scrofula.instead. lasts eternal and infiniteas long as two human hearts throb intense that it poisons all our beautiful. and memory wreath for him and with the most precious and balsams preserves him from putrefaction. are pierced with a hundred stabs at the same _ time. tremendous humiliate the ground weaves aromas us. never when it is suggested to you by pity. how and gall. which deception inflicts love of ownership. one cannot were. It is hard. and. cruel. young and robust organism. a horror to himself and to the others . in two parts. Love is a whole that cannot be divided without being killed. Love killed by the lingering tabes of a secret betrayal. and. No . too. is divided or the woman the man with cynical licentiousness. and the pain is life with wormwood sublime is a love that. self-esteem. then it grew into a habit. how beautiful is liveson faith and liberty! To a love that needs no chains and to be all of another . and the body is given to one. companions of voluptuousness or tell an untruth.
The compact violated in the firststeps of the life of love is a murder and prepares the career ated of a brigand tolerby civilization. it is like the grapes from born nude and as free as the air . can say. it does not ask for passports. another to deceive a virtuous woman. belongs to man. but here we must point out the stem from which they hang. Woman Love is the son of the most free belongs to woman. oppose your powerful attraction. the mayor of your town. because it passes with impunity through all the police lines. it apselection. in the C216-] . I hold in much higher estimation a ' ' woman who. it is born when it wants on the plains or on the summit of the mountains . selif you possess this virtue.THE BOOK OF LOVE for its superiority over all other affections is called love. and nature and men will bless your selection. in so far as the law is concerned. To betray a virgin is. that leaves in you an eternal bitterness. If you truly love. a question for the public prosecutor or foi once. if you are worthy of each other. and consecrate it with the that love should make when it would close itself only vow in the temple of the family. one to lie to a frivolous coquette. man pears and as it wants. Further on we shall outline the rights and duties of love. free and pure." than a bigoted betrayed her duties as a an venial tine old liber- and another to betray a faithful husband . at most sweai swear never no human force can but the first and last oath that will unite you in wedlock. their stalk. study true love. Men and women. if your love offends no superior duty. Read and read again all that I have written on the firstloves. without betraying both. swear dom. you should seek and love each other . after a long career of facile loves. Lies are all infamous. to betray her without dishonoring infamy that poisons two existences and her is an anonymous two loves. I have matron never loved two men at the same who boasts of having never spouse because with wise and cautious lechery she knows how to sell voluptuousness without seriously compromising the property reserved for the husband. but in love there are perfidious: it is one thing to deceive and some some time.
to become a friend to him whom we wish to betray. it does not want loves so amply polygamous. eternal lie in love that excels all lies. and it can be done once. every homicide. a crime which. love with the wife of another. to cover him with the mantle of our benevolent protection. protected by the law. or to let oneself be seen by her husband. seek. avoids prison and scaffold only because it takes the simple and easy precaution not to be termed adultery. disgrace to one's name it means and to that of one's children. study each other. it wishes to if an littleand is none It matters of its concern To astute libertine spends his youth in filling families with C2173 .however. and. but so piously cautious . cherished by consuetudes. but never swear. every rape: a There is. the gravity of the scandal. to embrace publicly the wife of another. modern behold publicly any nudity civilization does not wish to be believed moral.FAULTS woman an AND rancor. above all. there is a perfidiousness that outclasses every assassination. ten times without the or the esteem perpetrators losing either the love of women expenseand " of men. To introduce ourselves into the sanctuary of a happy family. it does to be disturbed in its not want any scandal . with the thousand pitfalls of moral violence to open for her an abyss into which she will fall. to journey prison or to some other rigorous penal institution. wives . feted by our infamously hypocriticalcustoms. lie to the maiden who at the dawn of never youth demands of the firstsun a ray to enlighten and warm her. twice. Modern society particularly recommends prudence. CRIMES OF LOVE Love.a betrayal that surpasses all others. according to the circumstances it means a and. respectful and respected whatever . is called aSultery. to acquire with the first conquest the impunity of a long series of crimes and open in the family a large spring of gall that will poison two of three generations : to do all this without these in our century are without danger. the consolation of unhappy termed the deeds of astute men. to seduce slowly and pitilessly the wife of another. be seized by a vertigo of the senses. with surprise.
awaiting the day when he can trayed abandon the bewives for a convenient marriage. Basnames and surnames. officersclose their eyes and do not see. no foot with a sharp stone or a piece of poisoned glass ! Make the name of father ! a senselessword. to take good care of the keyholes and listen attentively to the footsteps of those who walk in the apartments. spread mendacity deception in all the paths of social and civil sow and life! Disseminate lies and scatter deceptions everywhere! See to it that there shall be no wall against which to lean. sons onward ! For heaven's sake do not bother with your whims and your embarrassing declarationsof foreign merchandise. to make no noise. Onward. why are you such an idiotic to wish to awaken them with your imprudent cries? tardize onward ! The meshes of the law are wide. The flag of matrimony covers crowd as Onward. It is a private affair with which husbands and wives should occupy themselves It is recommended to do things nicely. he must individually. that of mother a blasphemy families. very wide . shut and do not hear. the born of a legitimate couple are legitimate. all contrato try to establish one's paternity is prohibited. The meshes of the law are wide.falsify road that can be trod without the injuring C2183 . The their customs ears himself.THE BOOK OF LOVE bastards. be more than an idiot who falls into them and cannot extricate band.
greet each other as friends.but your that tempers the ardor of the enamored tears should not be cursed by a lie.a betrayal. to render infinite freedom sweetness betray me!" much its law. to heaven. joy. that govern it are as simple as the simplest law of elementary love for love. the tears of regret paradise with a blasphemy or a remorse for what you have lost can be the dew of a summer night corollas. to unite. physics: to attract. having without an the torch happy hours that your love has conceded you. and draws all its beauty and strength from the The laws of the horizon in which it moves. bless the is make us only a contact of hearts and thoughts . or expecting to find the perfumes of the rose and that glaciate the head and the the cedar in the frigid zones feet of our planet. for sweetness.CHAPTER RIGHTS ' ' XX DUTIES me AND OF LOVE Love me ! You must love !" This is a cry of sorrow but that often man utters. and oftener a forsaken woman. Lovers. you have descended from it those who give us happy: such so C219] . if in your embraces you have not rekindled of life. Love bursts forth spontaneously from the huheart. however. ascended angel .make happy If love were to give joy to those who if. have always the right "You to hurl into space another cry of sorrow: must not hand the cup of Better to snatch from one's love and shatter it into a thousand pieces than stealthily to pour into it the poison of betrayal or the wormwood of man indifference. it generally is a vain cry. memory . an insult. thought. To demand love as a right is one of the greatest follies it is like asking poetry of the slave of . and preserve in the most precious casket and among the dearest things the Never close a day of of the time that is no more.
THE The only right in a " BOOK OF LOVE " You that "of not being deceived has its counterpart loved." forever. faithful. Man licentious brutal. constantly tender and modestly virile. And the numberless stratagems with which the tepid. If it is true that man attacks and conquers.you will be loved On the very firstpage of every code of love. assigns to woman has nearly of being the vestal of that firewhich man always been the first to kindle. I would always "Not to be loved is always a great write this sentence: dred you will find this sentence written in a hundifferentforms in the pages of my book. more than woman.. aroused the sleeping. more of voluptuousness. if you know how to preserve it. made hungry and thirsty him who had the happy misfortune of overgorging himself at the banquet is. How many "2203 . more unfaithful. do not be so brutal as to record the embrace among the rights and duties of love. quickness of mind. caused the she warmed wearied to smile. voluptuous grace of movements or the affection of virtues of the heart you have awakened affections. and is daily repeated by those Boeotians for whom and female. much less a tribute a exacted with the rudeness of tax collector. polygamous. This is perhaps the most formula that expresses the differentmissions which common man our She jealously conceals and woman have in love. cannot it of existence and feast ordered for a stated hour. fault. Ask the most fortunate of women if she has not often felt impelled to reconquer a love that threatened to fly away. by nature. duty" that of making oneself bevery simple love. By all that you hold most sacred on earth. and it is her duty to make him monogamous. more capricious. This is written in the code.to companion to keep it burning. it is also very true that nature difficult the more task of keeping the conquest. To us to 'kindle the fire. Voluptuousness floats on love is but the union of male should be inebriatingfoam that the quivering wave of passion and i falls irresistiblynto those abysses where man a be overflows and loses the consciousnes believes in the infinite. at the beginning of every gospel of two lovers. but through beauty of cannot command form.
a lost. punished in the same are the the accusers. the measure. should never be on the lips of two lovers. die together in an ocean of sweetness. and the sentence of amorous been pronounced by all civilizednations and always in the was This unanimous "manner.or the querulous and tender lamentations. I see looming up the horns of Balzac's tawny moon. which would assume and tread the ground with the iron boot of an alleged right ! No . consent not imposed by same before the legislators the arrogance of men. unanimous consent Sincerity and fidelity. which are after all an identical thing and constitute the entire code of love. and the words right and duty should be debarred from the amorous vocabulary. No . are many many jurors betrayal has already lawyers. the sin of infidelity in Adam is not the same and in Eve: in the latter it is a times greater. they are already in serious danger of being vexatious investigation should at every hour cast the shadow of doubt upon the faithfulness of one's companion. a thousand. but I have a deep horror of these discourses every question about right and duty. No ! a Are the rights of love equal in man and woman? I say so in a loud voice and after the thousand times no! firstwhite hairs and a wide experience permit me to believe that I speak without anger or love. the latter would have the right of feeling wretchedly loved or at least cruelly loved. When time dark appear on the horizon. I do not fear sudden anger between two lovers. Who ever loses his time in discussing the beauties of the sun? Who doubts that air is necessary to live? When certain things begin to be discussed. and if continuous.RIGHTS delicate loves were AND DUTIES OF LOVE ' extinguished by the sacrilegioushand of an the air of command arrogant desire. who alone were in the courts and judges the forum of public opinion. I always see at the same clouds massing. but man ' hundred to be a right and and woman before the courts differtoo greatly If the code is one. No . C2213 . As all parties are equal. suavely struggling against each other. the embrace is not a right and much less a duty : it is a of two powerful energies that seek each other through infinitespace and.
ask only one from her we exact only one virtue: fidelity! Pray. work. fidelity. everyone ignores him. does not want him. for in her weakness approaches grace. one of the institutions on which our century seems to pride itself. he is a of all the warrior perpetually under arms. ambitious.THE this unanimous consent BOOK was OF LOVE a dictated by profound recess deep consciousness by a more of social necessities. he' must be ignorant and timorous and still loved and esteemed be by all. if she does not earn forgive we even And amusing beloved woman Of her we thing: with work.he is branded as a coward. he must himself. a statesman. Defender of the weak. of the poor. her bread 12223 . and of all the battles of life. woman Woman. he must hold his head high in the face that all men dogma is can and superficialjustice which asserts How false this equal before the law. a soldier. he must be strong. on the contrary. he must himself into the inglorious and tremendous battle of epidemic. for the welfare of his country. of the shipwrecked. against his family. she of fire. From man society exacts a hundred differentand difficult virtues : he must give his blood for his country and the sweat of his brow for his family and for society. of contagion. and it is so to us to take the faint-hearted dove to our bosom sweet can and comfort strength ! her with blunders are our courage. A physician. society despises him. defend her with our when pronounced by the beautiful lips of a ! We forgive her if she very rarely reaches the height of genius and more rarely than we attains the average height of the great intellectual minds . a lawyer. that descends into the inmost roots and subtler justice of things to find the of that awkward are be sufficientlyroved by the history of the jury p system. he must not allow himself to be corrupted by the seductions of vanity. can be a coward in the face of fire. gold throw or resist the temptations fight against of gold and ambition. natural of murderous defender of the female half of the human species and individuals who are of no value to society. her if she has no profession. and should he neglect one of his duties.
once vanished. virtues. worthy to be our companion ? If she is beautiful. Woman may be humble. is it. for the name we are she bears. as we are the heroes of all the battles of life. created sciences. on what side does the scale of the balance fall? Certainly not our side. by the special mission which his sex imposes on him. subdued the lightning. but she should be faithful to him who loves her. if she is graceful. Are we. tyrants? we we for which the duties and woman. she should be the heroine of sentiment. but must resist the seductions of defiant glances and the corruptions of gold and vanity. We are dragged into a hundred From victory over the senses. and which. is exacting with her whom do everything. She is the vestal of our heart and blood. our glories. of love are differentlydistributed between man Man. are and which he can satisfy with the unknown his love. for the honor of our children. leaves behind not even a sudden neither praise nor t justifyhese sudden surprises of the C223] .perhaps. on her but one: us a thousand that of seduction. we are gifted. Without losing fleetingthan the lightning flash. there are imposed dangers. invented arts. she should assiduously and faithfully watch the sacred fire of fidelity. for dedicate all our so our labors? aggressor and has organic necessities which to woman. to whom we whom thoughts. She may yield to everything. ignorant. then? What What is the too much? difficult acter struggle that shall give her also the mark of char- and make her equal to us. from her but one: Are we battles. a caprice more I a pinch of ashes. he may have rapidity of lightning. we are strong .our dreams and But there is another powerful reason too love much. For her We have conquered our planet. is her duty. she has only to gain us the world expects a hundred faith. This virtue only we ask of her . While fighting in one fieldfor her. destroyed the beasts of prey.RIGHTS O most AND DUTIES OF LOVE gentle and divine companions. But neither beauty nor grace nor wit is sufficient for a man on to deem himself civilized. tremble at every leaf that quivers. at every wing that vibrates in the air. that it may not die out through neglect or be overthrown and extinguished by the hurricane. then.
allows herself to be caressed. and she is wholly conin the delights of letting herself be loved. caprice of the senses social and religious impediments that she must really be C2243 . Very weak in the attack. while are we the firstto seek the opportunities of sin. languidly and voluptuously concealed in the foam of her shell of love. woman awaits him. she is forin the defense. Nor would a woman commit less of a sacrilege in turning from the defensive to the offensive. much shrewdness she defends her weakness every day. This is one insidious sophisrhs. defend herself. must of the virile sex. but it is also one of the most of the Man attacks and assails arguments of defense. She loses sumed nothing in the struggle for conquest. the sorrowful virtue of virginity. Man loses a great part of energy in the tooth that bites and in the claws that firmly hold the prey. but they are light clouds which no sooner appear than they are dissolved in the deep azure of the skies. BOOK OF LOVE these passing infidelities but I describe them because . because he is a man simply and could not wait for the seductions to him without condemning to come himself to be a eunuch and without inverting the most elementary and most weakest inexorable laws of nature. also may midable she desires. like the snail does in the spires of its labyrinth. and. the arrow man who darts the first of love is a warrior who with wise prudence prepares the weapons for the long battle that Man begins with "yes" and "I will". Not in vain has nature made us the human female a virgin. and has in herself so much energy as With to stop and disarm a legion of combatants.THE senses. telling us even when that seductions wage war upon her from all quarters. Woman have caprices of the senses." is in her harassed by so many physical. and denied begins and ends with "no" The sudden and "I will not. Woman draws in her horns. profaning her sex and violating nature in that which it holds most sacred and immutable. instead. and do not become ardent desires until Woman is silent the human claws press and condense them. The woman who yields to the firstamorous pruriency is a Messalina . I find them frequently in the aggressive and petulant nature Woman.
C2253 . mirror of a sworn but a few moments afterward a new kiss. Nor does society measure human guilt only according to sorrow a the reckoning of the natural right. theft. another sudden infidelity. let her discuss the natural right. much less woman herself. To woman yield she must have had a long struggle against nature and society. but proudly recovers a robust resumes a runner who with energetic steps the space lost his way and hundredfold. by speaking of seduction and violence. Let woman never nor spoil the often very just. from the lips caprice may be a blasphemy that breaks forth deterged by a wave of of a saint. her complain aloud because in the human organism she is the left side. even patricide and incest. because there she is let on the ground of truth and justice. the pungent of intensely and makes impossible for long years. but which is immediately pregnant with aroma ardent and revives love holy prayer. to a swift assault which perhaps does bruise the epidermis of his heart. Have inflicted you thought of the various consequences of a caprice of is guilty? For or a woman infidelity. of the law of retaliaof the irresistible tion.RIGHTS more AND DUTIES OF LOVE than an Amazon Everything incitesman even to overthrow them in a single dash.of an immaculate and sublime love . laws and religions offer her a thousand alliesfor defense. according as a man man the caprice of an hour is a stain that tarnishes the bright faith. the right to love and to be loved. the weakest. Let her rather speak impulse of vengeance. but never ask equality of punishment for sins too disparate. every crime. perhaps more The amorous perhaps forever. the more ever severe the punishment by society. of her unless she should need this faith to justify own sin. stumbles it is the weakness of against a stone. which profane herself she defends. but the more it offends human crime generates and the more needs. more remorse. and not once in a hundred times she can say without touching the frontiers not of prostitution: "I had a caprice." No one believes in the efficiency overbearingness. are possible " but not cause. Let her demand the least honored and the most oppressed. In love every fault. fends everything defrom these caprices.
poison the wave of milk and honey of an a generation of fraternal hatreds. woman a monument of infamy that time will never "2263 . of entire family. in man a wound stain. in man the remorse of an hour. thing and gall. In man such a caprice is a with wormwood by a pin. sow infinitesorrows. in man woman a hurricane that fells a whole a misdemeanor. in woman a felony. in woman the caries of a bone.THE The amorous BOOK OF LOVE caprice of a woman may in a single instant procreate a bastard. in efface. in man forest . in a gangrene . in woman a leaf that falls. inundating everyoverflow into a vast field.
the sale and purchase of voluptuousness cannot found a fameven a tribe. a combination of new relations. perhaps a nation. where they phantoms bury the old mother alive. with a sea of blood . or a Prostitution also is a compact minute.CHAPTER THE COVENANTS XXI OF LOVE voluptuousness given and returned. even silent or hour an sworn.a people. may in family. Woman. it means self responsible to nature for the weakness of one creature for the future of the being and the violence of another. even terest where morality is only indefended by strength and sacrifice is a folly.to defend. but to possess each other a long time. the interweaving and untying of instantaneous knots. but is. after having given themselves only a Love is not to each other. ily. a deep modification of the manner single instant have created a love is fecundation as In man. to unite the members love does not mean of two bodies in a single knot. a of existence for a man and a woman. that may In any last case. or celebrate victories and vintage there love is bound by a compact. above all. the interweaving of two existences. but is always a compact. fecundated. the woman can neither flee nor defend who nurses creature . well. and to to hold onedesire. to protect each other . have procreated together and brought into the we whom world. but a compact between two creatures who. the woman when C-227] . where of religious sentiment scarcely exist. and the loosest libertine and the wildest savage feel other needs than that of fecundating a And to female: they feel the necessity of loving a woman. Even in the lowest races. is for nine months weaker and more who is in travail is a wounded vulnerable .
cubinage.THE BOOK OF LOVE herself.to give place to a polygamy more or less slips and races. It is the sale of voluptuousness. and if nature. finds himself to be a man when his companion cannot be a woman. will of the social vaults. where the compact of love has but one moral form : matrimony . wretchedly constituted. the lower or concealed. who has loved a companion very weak. and. whom who often dwell merrily under one roof without being in the least jealousf one another. and the man-child is for a long time defenseless and The man. con- have already studied prostitution.here that even custom w morality and religion do not lend their valid support. and it exists to prove with most "228] . and he then fecundates other females. only too a new creature to be generated through a often cruel. This is the simplest form of the nuptial compact. anonymous child of be cast by society into the most obscure corner vice. While the savage female leans affectionately and he often confidingly on the male who has made her fruitful. monogamy falls. however. the possession of bodies without love. The very weak man female. namely. rape. acknowledged We. prostitution. which is found in many of the lower nations. who are added to his possessions and he protects with the same tion devoand affectionwith which he protects and defends the first have but one can woman who was his. even then. for one day becomes for a long time her friend and protector without ceasing to be her lover.forget and allow to die. causes We purchased embrace. the swindling and deceiving of nature. Prostitution is a safety-valve only too necessary in our immoral and hypocritical society. or he must often do without her. while it has various forms that belong to the world of pathology. must occupy ourselves ordy with our own society. that creature will enter the world with the mark of infamy on its brow. where the things lie which we wish to efface. A polygamy limited to a o few females is the most common form of human society in and our organism is so imbued with this in the highest forms of civilization. because the strong have more men than one and the very strong have many.
Even this greatest of the crimes of love we have been compelled to discuss : secret agreement two traitors. of who. that does not admit of the one nor in the leg or of public confession. because if it lasted eternally. imperfect societies. It is an upstart who can dress well. When one or of ity. who assassinate in the dark and conceal the victim in the wide folds or the deep fissuresof our written codes. often even ridiculous creature. refrains from assuming all moral responsibilignorance or skepticism.and even among us. in the shadow of a social and holy compact. lowers the level of the spouse and elevates that of the chambermaid. a right which not even C229IJ . who begs pardon of the public and is ashamed of himself and weeps when caught in the act . through sluggishness. concubinage has an obscure and even ful shameit is domestic lechery which has become a habit . Only too often. abdicates the supreme primacy the nude husband and father. when. is a form of matrimony which lacks only religious and despicable for its origin than civil consecration. who is merely tolerated. We have also dealt with rape in the house of others. however. Born : mustiness of between the and the nightcaps. It is a vulgar pickpocket. it would be a true and proper marriage. one for all these reasons. it debases love to pygmy proportions. It is more for the^ nature of the compact that binds it. but knows neither the inebriation Turkish babooshes the pungent remorse of the other. it has a tinge of prostitution and rape. and hides like a wound a false tooth . that very many cruel eloquence that many men should not love. it is something low. sealed by the faith of two lovers. violate the faith of the family and bastardize the world . between the afterdinner yawns and the advices of the hygienist.THE COVENANTS men OF cannot LOVE love. plebeian and shameful. supported only by the word of honor of love each other. origin : two Concubinage in many creatures who it is a vulgar custom that has a periodical type the kitchen or stench of the hospital. vile contract of the thief with the procurer. a despicable. but smells of the stable.
THE BOOK OF LOVE . ambition. and it has sufficient power to free and wise long as we deny a conjugal preserve that happiness amidst the greatest domestic storms. and cannot love with any other compact than matrimony. of a who aspires to be called should be monogamous.for the as for the man as much woman . is the of on which the most splendid temples of sacred corner-stone happiness are erected. with cruel art.proscannot titution I its degradations and vile infirmities Public with sort opinion. But love is nude to be and wants to be clothed. ized civilhis consecrate a the typical selection. be sentenced to prison. in the open country. l Neither do I believe in sudden and irresistibleoves. it should be the selection of man. should flagellate of love.pillory this bastard compact of . how different are the women too. to whom on condition that he will regularly report to the police.and wants straw to weave nourished and protected from the winds and the frosts. who. without the nest. we never right of selection as man The common ness consciouswill be able to elevate matrimony. books should scourge and place in the. in two creatures that they have chosen each other freely and that they love each other without any bond of interest. A hundred times better. No . and showing to them at every hour. any pressure of authority. can be the avengers these amphibia of these social degradations. wish to erect a temple to Love. concubinage. who. And than the laws. laws. in modern society a liberty is granted sort of convict freed on parole. matrimony is love and should be nothing except love. a very free selection.conof ridicule and opprobrium cubinage. for lack of proof. denying them caresses and esteem. one becomes of brigand allowed at large. denying it all assent. more voluptuous The man aromas tic of true love from the daily slop of domeshigh race. a cannibal will relinquish. amid the frosts of misery. nor in the future happiness of a married couple who. consent and toleration. selections. deny the young As long as we woman education so that she may choose well . love C2303 . of prejudice. love is delicate. Matrimony should be a free. as her the same possesses.
" Free selectionis the best guarantee of faith . she may perhaps know with what infamy a family may become sullied .and should have bread and wine to keep alive the little angels that will bloom in its garden. Diffidence gives one a pessimistic idea of the virtues of always in arms how weakly they resisted mothers. No at the adulteress no wife can like a dragged to the altar. less sincere. it is the only touchstone by which the true natural rights of mutual has the right to cast the first one stone fidelity are tried. but" I. more than once repeated to herself: "I will not sin. But in any case. more should be more false. and you will to see guard that with such sentiments the fortress you wish will very rarely capitulate. could sin with impunity. Without leaving the domestic nest. stirs up in many frivolous and touchy natures the desire for spite and revenge. and this in itself is on to sufficient cause transient desires to vanish. too. even though she should not love the official a society is spouse. Perpetual diffidence false alarms. she has. All these reforms which elevate matrimony will be C2313 . while it invigorates many true loves. if she. even chaste and ingenuous maiden is dimly prescient of certain things which she dares not acknowledge to herself. our authority should go no further than temporizing. less hypocritical. instead of rouses many strengthening the forces that should defend virtue. we should never impose anything lovers except patience. because she is not ignorant of the fact 'that in marriage she will find an immense liberty. and to prepare for it the education of our daughters frank. perhaps. and always. was be condemned if she was forced to sign the compact and a victim and a slave instead of as a woman must lover. she can stilllove and be loved. selection should be free. ignorant. is much more The free selection of woman important in our society. Teach your child modesty and personal dignity. perhaps they remember temptation and they try by every art to1 avoid it. All this should be known by our young girls. perhaps she also divines that. When the entirely saturated with adultery and hypocrisy.THE COVENANTS OF LOVE is fruitful.
who must be raised from the low level where modern has stillleft her. THE END society C232] . through greater respect for the liberty of woman. through morality strengthened by science arid not by fear.THE BOOK OF LOVE but slowly secured through the progress of education and customs.
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