Daytime Pick-Up Revealed

The Art of Meeting, Connecting and Seducing Women In Coffee Shops, Malls, College Campuses, and Anywhere Under the Sun!
2006 All Rights Reserved 

IntroductIon A Word on consIstency GettInG the Most FroM thIs MAnuAl WArnInG!

Table of ConTenTs

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Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle 8 WhAt Is dAy GAMe? 8 An eye opener on cold ApproAchInG 9 WelcoMe to WoMen’s everydAy reAlIty 10 creAtInG A vIsIon 11 ActInG on your plAn 12 4 steps to IncreAse the eFFectIveness oF GoAl settInG 13 IntroductIon to the 8 essentIAl dAyGAMe FActors 14 Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS FActor 1: Inner strenGth FActor 2: IdentIty FActor 3: lonG terM And short terM vAlue FActor 4: eFFectIve coMMunIcAtIon FActor 5: eMotIonAl connectIon FActor 6: coMFort & trust FActor 7: loGIstIcs FActor 8: InvestMent Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS, rAcking up dAteS, And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndset For MeetInG WoMen Where to Meet WoMen Be In tune WIth the enerGy level crAsh course In stArtInG conversAtIon WIth WoMen BreAKInG doWn the opener deAlInG WIth contInGencIes GIFt shIFt theory the pInG ponG MetAphor 

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Go FIrst prIncIple poWer tAlK WhAt to do AFter InItIAtInG the conversAtIon you Must creAte A connectIon hoW to AnsWer lIGht rApport QuestIons BuIldInG suBstAnce: ActIve lIstenInG, FIndInG her core vAlue, And leAdInG WIth your pAssIons leAdInG WIth your pAssIons A couple oF eFFectIve conversAtIonAl tools here’s A conversAtIon I hAd In the pAst BuIldInG FAMIlIArIty & suBstAnce the Art oF GettInG phone nuMBers & settInG up dAtes 8 tIps For An unForGettABle FIrst dAte on creAtInG A sexuAl vIBe When & hoW to KIss her FroM coFFee shop, MAll, superMArKet to the BedrooM: the nAturAl proGressIon Words oF WIsdoM WrAppInG It All up

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I learned the natural [**hard?**] way. I want you to succeed now. I’ve piled up all the useful information that I’ve discovered in my pursuit to perfecting daytime pick ups. streets. I really had no other option. I knew I had the passion and motivation to get this part of my life handled. regardless of age and experience. Back then.000 pages filled with discoveries. and tactics on meeting women during the daytime. and college campuses. Over the years. Worst of all. would understand. by choice. Anyone. at that time. I came up with over 2. I’ve compressed it all into this book. After thousands of interactions and years of going out to the malls. with the right combination of passion. It didn’t stop me though. dedication. theories.InTroduCTIon First of all. can benefit from this manual. quite frankly. hanging out with guys that were good with women. coffee shops. I don’t want you to take a year to see results. It was a long and painful process but. I’ve developed a step by step system that will allow anyone. or workshops that focused on daytime pick-up. and trial and error. I want to congratulate you. I know there’s a lot of information out there and. I just needed to know how to operate in the field. it can be overwhelming. even my 8-year-old cousin. there were no resources on meeting women outside of the “bars and clubs” context. I had to learn how pick up women from scratch. There were no gurus. So I came up with a manual that anyone.000 pages? Yes.  . beaches. What you’re about to read is a product of years of trial and error. Rest assured that your dating life will take on a positive spin after you’ve absorbed and integrated the information in this e-book. and perseverance to become successful with women. books. videos. In the process. 2. You’ve taken the first step toward improving yourself. I learned from my past failures.

this book isn’t some magic pill that will solve all your problems overnight. consistently. would you be willing to experience a slight inconvenience and break through your comfort levels to achieve the lifestyle of your dreams . and choose wisely. and the best coach out there. I promise you won’t regret it.  . You have to desire success and do whatever it takes to become competent in this area of your life. I’ve talked to hundreds of people who have successfully transformed their dating lifestyle.There’s a catch though… You have to want it. passion. and without excuses. and drive within yourself to see this through. You’ll need to take sometime to try out the tactics that you learn. without fail. it’s all worthless. Now. they each followed their pre-determined plan. This manual is my helping hand to all those guys who want to learn how to successfully meet women during the day. It doesn’t work that way. relax. and you will not be figuring out this part of your life forever . but without consistency. Eventhough they were from different walks of life and trained differently. I want you to sit back. You’re about to begin your journey. So now. You must find the determination. Day in day out. the best system. there was always one common denominator. You can have the best techniques. then when will you? Treat this like going to college to get a degree. Over the past three years. and keep an open mind. You won’t be in college forever. but you will never reach it unless you consistently exert the effort to put one foot in front of the other.only a few months! This is a short-term challenge to you! Ask yourself. First of all. There are many ways to achieve your goal. make a stand. If you don’t get this part of your life handled right now. a Word on ConsIsTenCy Do you want to know the secret to seeing results fast? One word: consistency.or will you continue to be an “average Joe” for 70 more years? Which path will you take? It’s time to make a decision.

It’s a repetitive process that will propel you toward success. Read through it once or twice and absorb whatever you can. I want to know what you think. Most of them. Read. You need the right information and the ability to put that information into practice. would when you’re trying to develop a skill. It’s similar to learning a sport. or just a simple “Hi” note if you will.I want you to approach this as you. comments. Don’t ever. Keep practicing. I will spoon feed you with knowledge on daytime pick-up but that won’t be enough. you will need in the Let’s Rock n Roll!  . and integrate the information you learn. The more you practice. ever be satisfied with just learning this stuff. reading. Come back and read the individual section from time to time. GeTTInG The MosT froM ThIs Manual There are two things that are directly correlated to your success. Treat this book as a reference or encyclopedia. You need to practice several times a week. if you want to become competent. Some of them will be helpful to your current situation. complaints. practice it! Don’t go jump right onto another book or program right away without practicing the things you learn here. You can drop me a line at grungey10@captivatetoconnect. You need to go out there and practice the things you learn. I’ll constantly be throwing new concepts at you. so be prepared. absorb. and using it until you have it all down! Please feel free to e-mail me with your ideas. the better you become.

. let’s learn how to be successful with women during the daytime. I will have my attorney contact you and make you regret what you did. www. and none of this book is to be considered legal or personal advice. distribute.captivatetoconnect. Now that we’re finished with the warning.  . or create derivative works from this book in whole or in part. When you purchased this book.WarnInG! This book is copyright 2007. or to contribute to the copying. Neither www. or creating of derivative works of this book.” I expect you to abide by these rules. nor Captivate to Connect. or distribute all or any part of my book or this web page without permission. Count on it. I regularly and actively have my team search the internet for people who violate my copyrights. com. By purchasing this book. It is illegal to copy. All Rights Reserved. You are responsible for your own you agreed to the statement on the bottom of the homepage of my website that stated: “©2007. with all rights reserved. you agree to the following: You understand that the information contained on this page and in this book is an opinion. distribution. LLC assume any liability for the information contained herein. steal. and it should be used for personal entertainment purposes only.daytimepickup.. If you try to copy.

outside of bars and clubs. and have the possibility of starting a relationship with them. supermarkets. shop. I’ll discuss some interesting things about the different steps before the approach. It’s not luck. they are rare. Thousands of women go out during the day to run errands. they roam around malls. and how I’ve used this information to solidify my game and make myself more successful with women. it’s a skill set. then that’s normal.Section 1: the FirSt Step to Meeting And dAting More WoMen thAn You cAn hAndle In this section. get them on dates. The question is. then day game just might be the answer. Why? Day Game is the ability to meet any woman. What exactly is your reason for buying this book? Tell me. beaches. Did you want a girlfriend? Did you want to expand your social circle? Or did you just want to have new dates every single day? If you answered yes to any one of those. The best thing about it is that YOU could potentially monopolize and have access to ALL these women if you knew how. I have yet to meet someone who knows exactly what to do and how to do it when he sees a woman that catches his eye. I’m sure you wanted to accomplish something. I’ve met a couple of men that can pull it off. as most may think. have fun and a whole list of other reasons. ”What Did You Do About It? Did you start giving second glances? Scratch your head in awe? Smile at her as she passed by? Or did you just look down as she walked by? If you didn’t do anything. build an emotional connection. WhaT Is day GaMe? Have you ever experienced seeing “your type” of girl walk down the street? Most likely you have. and coffee shops every single day.  . and believe me. relax. Have you ever stopped to wonder how many hot women you see everyday? Women of all types of beauty are not hard to find.

let’s get back to my story… After failing to produce results in my job. What does sales have to do with being successful with girls? Everything. Now. Several years ago. do you want to sign up for our service today?” yada yada yada. If selling something was possible without building a relationship with the customer. It rarely worked because I was already asking for the sale before I even got a chance to get to know the customer. more often than not. Communication is key in everything that we do. I’d always be shouting “Hey sir. I’ve spent a couple of months standing inside a phone booth in the middle of a mall.What if I told you that it’s possible to approach these beautiful strangers and have something positive result from almost all of your interactions? Would you think I’m nuts? an eye opener on Cold approaChInG Cold approaching is walking up and talking to a complete stranger. the one thing that’s similar with salespeople and guys that are successful with women. I’ll talk more about this in the upcoming chapters. I’ve had a history of being a salesman. and that’s when I learned something… If my initial approach was unique. Heck. But. Remember the time someone tried to start a conversation with you? What happened?  . I didn’t even know their name. and it did make sense. then there would be no need for salespeople. I learned that building a relationship before asking for the sale was a must. they’d just continue walking. then people usually gave me a bit of their time. If you think about it. I tried and experimented with a lot of different techniques. Occasionally. trying to get people to buy our products. people would stop by for a minute to check out the things I had to say. I should know. is their ability to communicate with people.

What does that mean? You’ve got to approach her in a way that she’s not accustomed. If you can relate to this scenario then. It’s probably one of the most crucial moments of the interaction simply because it opens the door for escalating the conversation. Then the conversation comes to an end and you either say “Nice talking to you” or just simply turn around and carry on with your business. They’ve developed tolerance to men and the ability to be emotionally detached from the interaction. WelCoMe To WoMen’s everyday realITy Women get approached or hit on all the time. Make or Break Moment The first couple of seconds after you meet a person is what I call the make or break moment. The first thing you need to do is find a way to bypass her social filters. How often are you approached by a homeless person asking for money? How do you deal with it? Are you polite or do you brush them off? I’m sure it comes to a point where you just have a set of prepared answers that you say when you get the same question.. Looking back. It’s not their fault and I certainly don’t blame them for being rude sometimes. 0 . isn’t it” Chances are you reply with some sort of answer. depending on your mood.. Your goal is to get her into a state of mind where she’s susceptible to be led.You probably heard them open with a familiar line like: “Hey what’s going on?” “Nice weather…” “It’s a pretty long line. why did you talk to that person? Was it out of politeness or were you interested in getting to know them as a person? Chances are it was out of politeness. There are a lot of whackos out there.

You have to set a goal for yourself. when you first start out. You’ll find it very useful on your journey. there’s one thing you need to do first. open the door for you a little bit. Most of the people you meet out there will have a very short attention span. if you’ve got your whole presence and communication skills down. then by the end of this section. I’m going to go with the assumption that everyone’s time is special. will be focused on perfecting the first few minutes of the interaction. If you want to be successful with women. So I want you to take sometime to answer these questions.  . If it’s something you really want then you WILL achieve it. you should have one.It’s like going to someone’s house and pushing the doorbell. It’s always a good feeling knowing you’re working toward something that will benefit you in the long run. Women will usually. If you have a vision of what you want your life to be then that is your incentive to work harder. A lot of people out there are like chickens running around with their heads cut off. there are no second chances if you mess it up. Just because someone opens the door. CreaTInG a vIsIon Do you know where you’re heading? If you don’t then you might want to start brainstorming. Goal setting is very important for various reasons. But don’t expect them to be all over you after you’ve initiated the conversation. A lot of your time. That’s your window of opportunity. It motivates you and keeps you on track. It gives you an overall direction so you know where you’re going. It will be your first road block to success. Most women will give you somewhere between three seconds and three minutes to captivate their interest. If you don’t have one. Don’t skip this part. They have no goals set for themselves. That’s just setting yourself up for failure. it doesn’t mean you get to go in and do whatever you want. We all have things to do and people to see. Have a pen and paper ready.

What’s in it for you in the long run? Like. Once you’ve figured out what you want. I know it’s a good feeling to have so much information that your brain begins to swell. the next step is to stick to your plan no matter what happens until you start to see results. and monthly goals to ensure that you’re constantly improving you skill set? How much time and effort do you need to put into this? What strategies do you have in order to stay consistent and committed to getting this part of your life handled? That’s just for starters. One piece of advice though: Information isn’t power. These questions should aid you in coming up with a solid vision of who you want to be and what steps you need to take in order to accomplish that.• Realistically speaking. aCTInG on your plan Okay you have your plan. weekly. what do you really want to accomplish? You’re obviously investing a lot of your time and effort into learning how to be successful with women. in 10 years. it’s potential power. where do you see yourself? What kind of person will you be by then? What kind of girl/girls will be with you? What’s your lifestyle going to be? What’s the difference between who you are now and who you want to be? • How long do you think it will take you to accomplish your overall goal? Have you set daily.  . now what?! Anything on paper is just writing unless you put it to work.

I’m also going to work on the different aspects of my life so that I become relationship material. If you haven’t done this by now.4 sTeps To InCrease The effeCTIveness of Goal seTTInG Know exactly what you want to accomplish. For example: “In six months. For example: “I was able to talk to several girls today. It was fun but I just can’t seem to get her to open up to me. I’ll try to go on as many dates as I can so I can get experience under my belt. I’ll be able to hold a conversation with a girl for 30 minutes. For example: “In order for me to be able to date three new girls a week. I shouldn’t commit the same mistake again. I will surround myself with the kind of women I’d like to date and learn how to be comfortable in their presence. I’m going to look for resources out there that will solve the problem for me. then don’t continue reading. Or I can look for someone qualified to help me out. I need to interact with seven new girls three times a week for six months.” Or “If I want a hot girlfriend I should be more experienced with hot women.” 2. I’ll make sure to implement the things I learned right away. After six months. Put the book down and start working on it. and has a kick ass personality”. After getting advice. 1. I’ll make sure that they can give me personalized and individualized attention. I should always be pushing the interaction as far as it can go every time. Get all the right information that you need in order to get this part of your life handled. Devise a plan on how you’re going to accomplish your goal. every single week” or “I want to have a smoking hot girlfriend that’s half my age. What steps are needed in order to accomplish your plan? How long is it going to take and what does it require of me? Make sure to always stick to that plan.”  . I want to have the ability to date three new girls that I meet in the mall. Make sure you use this information as a guideline and makes sure you’re on the right track. I should get my skill set to that level. and schedule a date with her at the end.

In order to efficiently improve your skills. I suggest that you spend some time mastering EACH section of the book. This month I got eight numbers but none of them called me back. Here’s a QUICK PEEK at what’s coming up. You should be able to analyze yourself and construct positive criticism. and date the woman of your choice. The 8 Essential Day Factors are structured in a way that helps build you up.  .. then slowly focuses on the techniques and tactical part of the interaction. InTroduCTIon To The 8 essenTIal dayGaMe faCTors I’m about to provide you with the most comprehensive information ever available on how use the 8 Essential Day Game Factors to dramatically increase your success with women.. find the strong and weak points. This is the only way to keep progressing. I’ve identified a total of 8 Essential Day Game Factors that must be addressed if you want to maximize your success rate! You must first understand all of the factors and how they affect your ability to meet. Review all your results. then make the necessary adjustments. I got five numbers and out of those numbers. For example: “Last month. three girls called me back. connect. starting from your core. The main goal of the upcoming section is to provide you with a comprehensive foundation for daytime pick-up. You see. So I need to review all my interactions and see where I’m screwing things up.3. Did I build enough emotional connection with her? Did I convey my personality well enough? Am I giving up easily without following up? If so how can I improve my skill? I should try calling her more often…” This is a very simple structure you can use in order to assess your progress. This is an essential skill to develop.

FACTOR : INNER STRENGTH We’ll start to build you up from the very core of your personality. I’m confident that by the end of this book. you’ll have a basic understanding of what inner strength is and how you can use it to gain an unfair advantage over other guys. I’ll explain to you the importance of long term and short term value and how it affects all your interactions. I’ll go over the key concepts of identity building and how to effectively communicate who you are as a person. I’ll show you where most guys fail and how you can avoid most of the pitfalls out there. I’ll discuss inner strength in depth and take you step by step so that you can develop a solid foundation . I’ll teach you the same principles that I only teach in specialized 1 on 1 VIP seminars. I’ll only be throwing stuff at you that I know you’d need.  . why they can’t keep a woman in their life? It’s because they don’t develop the ability to convey their identity. FACTOR : IDENTITY Do you know why most guys fail to keep a woman interested in them? Or even worse. FACTOR : COMMUNICATION Communication skills separate the beginners from the pros. A lot of guys don’t know the proper way of communicating with attractive women. I’ll show you exactly how to communicate with women. Don’t worry. FACTOR : LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM VALUE This chapter is guaranteed to raise a few eyebrows out there. They lose a woman’s initial interest due to their lack of communication or ineffective communication.

This chapter talks about the things you must do and avoid. FACTOR : LEADING & LOGISTICS If you haven’t learned yet. Look no further! In this chapter. FACTOR : COMFORT AND TRUST Most guys just don’t know how to build comfort and trust with the women they meet. let me be the first to tell you… Logistics is one thing that you do not have full control over.  . I’ve compiled the most comprehensive approach to increase control over the interaction and decreasing the number of women flaking on you.FACTOR : EMOTIONAL CONNECTION Emotional Connection is what I like to call “The Heart of Day Game”. I’ll show you specifically how to get the girl from the mall to your bedroom! FACTOR : INVESTMENT In order for anyone to be successful with women. he must first master the art of making her invest in the interaction. In this chapter. This is my favorite part of every interaction and you’re about to find out why! I go over specific time-tested tactics that I’ve used to establish a long lasting emotional bond that gets her to dream about you even after you’re gone! This is a very effective tool that increases the chances of you going on a date with her! I’ll go over the proper way to build an emotional connection and the opportune moment for you to start engaging her in this type of interaction. I’ll give you a couple of tips on how you can maximize the effectiveness of the interaction by utilizing our logistic planning method. I’ve decided to just go all out and reveal four major investment categories.

things would have been so much easier for me…” So save yourself a lot of time and read and understand this section first before you go onto the next one. I just knew that I had it in me to succeed beyond a shadow of a doubt. I mean. Until this one day came. I just accepted it. I used to think to myself. How were you able to handle it? Back in those days when you were stationed in Iraq. I was the same as you when I first started out. I always wondered how he was able to do it. I had that choice. “What does this guy have that I don’t. have one thing in common. So to make a long story short I asked him “It takes a lot of guts to do what you did. I had two choices: should I go through all of this hardship. and end up to be a better person? I chose the latter. A lot of successful guys.Section 2: the 8 eSSentiAl dAY gAMe dAting FActorS faCTor 1: Inner sTrenGTh I know that most of you just want to learn what to say. It’s that bright light at the end of the tunnel. I don’t blame you at all. I know. and be the same person I was to begin with? Or should I just barrel through this period with my head held up high.. I hadn’t seen him in years because he was stationed in Iraq. You want to know what happened several years later? I sat down and told myself “If only I just build up myself first. in other words. I’ve tried to put my finger on it in the past but it took me quite sometime to figure out what it was. It’s the driving force behind all their successes.. I knew there would be a lot of people who’d be negative about the experience. what were you thinking of?” He replied: “All those days I spent there just help built me up as a person. “the lines”. Most people probably hated being there.” I really thought I would never figure it out.”  . My friend and I were just chatting about life. cherish every moment of my journey. This is the one thing that fuels them day in and day out. Failure just wasn’t an option for me. be negative all the time. we both have charismatic personalities and great sense of style. There’s something about him that makes him complete as a person. I admired this guy for his strength and courage.

Contrary to popular belief. You’ve Been Programmed to Fail with Women and You Probably Don’t Even Know It! We all walk through this world with our beliefs. Not only that. we’ve been programmed like robots to act in a self-sabotaging way toward women. There are a lot of factors that have molded us to be the person we are today. not well built. Let’s take on the subject of appearance. probably since we were little kids.I suddenly had one of those “Light bulb popping up in your head” moments. Examples of such factors are FRIENDS FAMILY SCHOOL SYSTEM SOCIETY MEDIA CULTURE ENVIRONMENT WOOOOWW! That’s a lot of factors influencing us. we live in a society that’s driven by money. Love makes the world go round and money keeps it spinning… For the most part. appearance isn’t everything. Let’s start out with media and advertising. You can still get laid even if you do not look like the guy from the cover of a fashion magazine. or not tall. they set the standard of what is cool. Let’s take a good look at magazines for a second. What we believe in is a product of the things we were exposed to all our lives. and desirable. You can make a beautiful girl with an outstanding personality fall for you regardless of your race! All of this may be hard to comprehend but it will make sense to you in a minute. These beliefs have been integrated into our being.  . power. The ones on the top set the rules so that everyone can follow. This is true for both men and women alike. These moments don’t come to me that often but whenever they do. attractive. Sad to say. or fame. You can get a girl even if you’re not rich. they always hit me hard over the head.

He’s rich. and rich! IT’S TIME TO RE-PROGRAM YOURSELF TO YOUR ADVANTAGE! Have you ever heard of the saying perception is reality? Your thoughts become your words. famous… He even has the fastest car around. I need to buy everything she has and be like her so I can be hot too…” Same thing for a guy “Oh. Anyone armed with the techniques and philosophies I’ll discuss in this book can attract the kind of woman that’s usually reserved for the good looking. famous helps but it’s not the only way. tall. Your words become your actions. The truth is… YOU DON’T Yeah being rich. be this. and join this…” And whoever said advertising wasn’t effective? What actually happened was that the media brainwashed people into thinking that they need all of this in order to be cool. The average girl would think “That’s the girl that everyone in my school thinks is hot! She’s skinny and she wears (Insert brand name of clothing here). both the man and woman in this example end up concluding “In order to be desirable. and up to date I need to have this.Who do you see on the covers of popular magazines? I’m sure you all know the answer to this one: Celebrities Attractive and fit people Rich people And everything else I forgot to mention Am I the only one that sees what’s going on here? Where can you find the hottest men and women? Usually on the front of a magazine. Your belief becomes who you are. he has this sick ass watch. cool. tall. famous.  . where there sculpted bodies are exposed and their stunning facial features modified to intimidate almost anyone. that guy has the hottest girl I’ve ever seen. and…” To make the long story short.

the faster you’ll get to your destination. If only I could snap them out of their trance… but then again. After I talked to the guy and realized everything I just told you. You’re just going to be a better version of yourself.What if I told you that everything that you believe in. 0 . and went on a journey to seek the truth. Ever since then I began seeing some amazing results from all the interactions. This is where everyone should start regardless of their goal. And that’s when it occurred to me that… YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE. but the sooner you start believing. What if you can reprogram your entire self. BELIEVE! I’ve learned a couple of lessons that I will be sharing with you. BELIEVE. because by reframing some self-sabotaging beliefs. you’re not going to be someone you’re not. These have been very useful for me and hopefully will be for you. You have to live up to your full potential. Change will not occur overnight. Here’s how this works. I’m just sharing with you everything that’s worked for me and the thousands of guys I’ve trained after I discovered everything I’m about to share with you. only if you really really believed in it. struggles. becomes who you are? Would you believe me? You better. that would be too idealistic of me. my whole world changed. you too can be successful with women. literally before my very own eyes. I adopted bits and pieces of his philosophy in life. back to my story. I’ll be discussing 8 Inner Strength Lessons that I’ve found to be very useful in my journey. It makes me sad to see all the guys out there that are still walking through life brainwashed by society. Don’t stop reading until you start practicing and believing the 8 Inner Strength Lessons. For the next 30 days. and relationships that I’ve had. I will also provide you with exercises so your belief is reinforced with real world results. I want you to go over this chapter again and again. Alright. so you can move through the world naturally attracting people in your life? Before I hear any objections.

Got that memory? How does it make you feel? Have you ever surprised someone with something really special before? What did you feel like before you gave it to them? Felt good didn’t it? That’s how you should feel before talking to anyone. I don’t know what to say” speech playing in your head? Let me ask you this. next time before you talk to someone. You’re doing them a favor by talking to them. then it will be valuable to others. how can you be so sure she thinks that way if you haven’t even approached her yet? Okay. people were hanging off every word you said. I want you to remember the times when you made several people feel good about themselves. how does that change the way you act toward them? Try it out. Starting now. TRY THIS OUT I want you to start looking back and remember the times where you were indeed valuable to other people. The time when you were relaxed and comfortable with yourself. but I’ve approached girls in the past and they’ve shot me down more times than I can think of… Just because you had one bad meal in your life doesn’t mean you should stop eating right? Every girl is different. I’m sure there’s a time in the past when you were yourself and everyone just loved you.  . Every situation is different. If you believe that everything you say or do is valuable.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : MY PRESENCE ALONE IS VALUABLE TO OTHERS Have you ever had the feeling that you’re not worthy to even talk to someone? Have you ever hesitated to approach a woman just because you had that damn “Why should she even talk to me? I’m not her type… and besides. imagine that you’re about to give them a million bucks in the next five minutes. The time when. I want you to believe that your presence alone is valuable to others. Try this out. all of a sudden.

 . You do not need anyone’s approval before you do something. you just probably stood up and went straight for the rest room didn’t you? Another example is the very famous Bill Gates. Always say what’s on your mind. You do not need permission to dress in a certain way. Here are some tips you can start integrating in your life: • It’s always better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. And you can get away with it. Do you think he ever asked permission if he could start up a business and drop out of school as it took off? Nope. You have permission to be the best that you can be. Don’t ask anyone for permission just do it. Don’t be afraid to spark tension. Don’t be afraid to state your opinions just because someone else thinks otherwise. You already have it in you. Don’t wait for others to tell you what to do. Remember the time when you were in grade school? You had to ask permission every single time you went for a trip to the rest room.INNER STRENGTH LESSON : TAKE WHAT’S YOURS! NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR WHO YOU ARE AND THE THINGS YOU DO! YOU ARE YOUR OWN BOSS! There’s one thing that you will realize later on… You can do anything you want. Well. I want you to live life like you own the world. whenever you want. It’s about time to free yourself from the prison that your mind is in. Don’t look for others to make decisions for you. wherever you want. Next time you go out to the malls and you see a bench with an open spot. just go ahead and sit down. we’ve been programmed by society to look up to others for “permission” to do something we want to do. and never looked back. You have permission to change your beliefs. You can do them yourself. Always voice out your opinions. • Make your own decision and take your own stand. You have permission to go after the things you want in life. Once again. he just had a plan. Everything is yours. So what do you want to do? What’s stopping you? You are your own boss. And you have permission to date any girl you want regardless of what anyone says. if you don’t agree with someone simply say “I disagree” and leave it at that. executed it. by the time you got to college.

stand tall. TRY THIS OUT Let’s start out with simple exercises. • I’m not trying to impress you. background. Wear an outrageous piece of clothing and when someone give you a hard time about it just smile and say “Thank you”. You’ll notice that people will begin to respect you more because you’re upfront.• Learn how to say “No”. don’t hesitate to just smile and take the spot first. Just try saying it. Don’t ever change just because someone else wants you to. One motto you can use is “I’m not trying to impress you… And you sure have to do more than that to impress me”. When you’re at a party and someone asks: “Who wants such and such drinks” Don’t hesitate to raise your hand first and say “Over here”. You wouldn’t want to be known as the “yes” man. If it will compromise you or for some reason you just don’t feel comfortable with it then say “no”. Be proud. Don’t be ashamed of your past. If it’s reasonable and you’re up for it then say “yes”. It’s hard to get used to saying “no” but you have to give it a shot. It’s not that bad. and don’t bow down to someone just because you perceive them as being better than you. and someone gets there the same time you did. or status. The next time you’re about to line up. This boils down to being who you are despite what other people think.  .

Or maybe it was what everybody wanted at that time.  . It seemed just like yesterday. Maybe because it looked cool on television. It All Started When You Were A Kid “There are two great moments in a person’s life: the moment they were born and the moment they realize why they were born. I don’t really know. the stories you tell.faCTor 2: IdenTITy Do you know what people think of the first time they meet you? Do you know the first thing that pops up in a woman’s head the moment you approach her? Do you know what she will think about the minute she gets home after meeting you? “Who in the world is this guy?” So let me throw the question at you… Who Are You? Trust me. I wanted to be that guy that rocked people’s world with his guitar. Your job is to convey your identity all throughout an interaction. So what exactly is your identity? Continue reading because this whole chapter is dedicated to the subject of identity.Mark Sanborne So What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? When I was seven years old I wanted to be a rock star. all of these play an important role in establishing your identity. and the way you present yourself to others. when I’d just jump off the bed with a broomstick trying to mimic Slash from Guns n Roses.” . The clothes you wear. They are trying to form a picture of who you are as a person. Maybe I wanted to be a rock star because I’d be famous worldwide. Why did I choose that as a kid? Beats me. every single person you meet will wonder who you are. I wanted to be that guy in the spotlight that made people jump to the beat of his melody. They ask you questions for a purpose.

peers. Then out of nowhere someone started playing my song on the radio. We were born to experience life and with that experience we grow and we learn. I realize that each and everyone of us had dreams when we were little. I’m an artist! I’m a musician! I really did achieve what I wanted when I was a kid. I had no other choice but to listen to what everyone said. Not that thinking it’s a bad thing. If there’s one thing I want you to accomplish after you finish reading this book. Becoming a musician was a dream. Success is in already inside all of us. We were all created unique and special. and teachers. when I was a kid. So let me ask you this: What did you want to be when you were seven years old? How to Discover Who You Are I’m not going to keep you waiting any longer. Michelangelo. I didn’t stray away from it. I was easily influenced by my parents.The truth is. once said “The Sculpture is already in the stone” and I never forgot that. all he had to do was to chip away all the unnecessary stuff. That’s when it struck me. we just need a balance of both. I believe that the person we want to be is already inside of us. I never really thought about it until three weeks ago when I was in a car with a bunch of friends. Here are several ways to discover who you are. One of my favorite sculptors. you’re better of just having a 9-5 job where you can make a constant stream of income” Unfortunately. I want you to pull out a piece of paper and jot down some notes. It means that every single time that Michelangelo worked on chipping away pieces of his sculpture. he was already done before he started.  . Now that I look back. We become better versions of ourselves. You’ll need some time to work on this. As a result of growing up. then this is it. It just put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. I thought I would never be an artist because of what everybody said to me… “Being a musician won’t get you anywhere… It’s useless. It really came from the heart but at such an early age. This is a very important section in this book. Yes. the product was already finished. we tend to stop feeling and just start thinking.

and traveling. dating.. think back.• What Did You Want To Be When You Were Seven? Come on. business. and write it down. Read it as often as you want for 30 days straight. indeed. You could probably never stop listing reasons here. Be proud of who you are. No one can see what you write. What are the things that you value in life? What are the important things? What do you stand by? What do you fight for? • What are Your Three Biggest Accomplishments? By listing them. What makes you smile? What are the things you look forward to in the day? What’s your reward after a long day’s work? • Write Down Some of Your Main Theories. So how is this useful in social interactions? Simple. Write it all down. It will reaffirm in your mind that you. health. When you’re finished writing. • Make a List of 15 Goals For Next Year. Don’t be afraid to let everyone see. and Philosophies in Life. • What are the Three Things You Like About Yourself. Sky is the limit folks.  . It’s always good to be mysterious but you should also find a way to convey your identity all through out the interaction. you’ll discover what you’re passionate about. I want you to post it somewhere you can see it everyday. Most men end interactions without really conveying their identity. Don’t force yourself to finish all these exercises in a day. Beliefs. • Make a List of Everything You Want to Become. and the things they believe in. No one will judge what you write.. But please try to restrain yourself. relationship. Embrace it with both arms. It always feels nice to remind yourself who you are. I only want you to write down three. It can be a big or small goal. • List 25 Things That Make You Happy. It can be related to fitness. Some exercises will take time to finish. are talented. the things their passionate about. I want you to write down everything. This leaves women with a blank picture on their head of who you are as a person.

travel. talk about the things that are interesting to you. It puts you into a positive light but it’s still not enough to get you into any kind of relationship.  . Discuss your perspectives on life. art. It provides them with a window to your being and this makes you interesting. Bring her into your world. try something new. Do this at least every two weeks.So. Invite your friends along and have a blast. TRY THIS OUT This weekend. Discovering who you are and the things that make you tick is something you should work on regardless of your goals in life. You need to provide value. and anything your heart fancies. Remember. I want you to do an activity you enjoy doing but haven’t done in a long time. what do you do when you run out of things to say? An effective strategy is to just talk about something you’re really passionate about. If you run out of things to do. music. Give her a taste of what it’s like to be in your shoes for a minute. If you’re enthusiastic about it then it becomes interesting to her. Having this knowledge of yourself is so important especially when you’re interacting with people.

it boils down to one question Are you an asset or a liability? It sounds so ridiculous but it’s true.faCTor 3: lonG TerM and shorT TerM value So. After all he had balls of steel for doing that. communication. you must first understand them. women usually pick the guys that can provide the most value to their life. I hear that you want to the secrets to dating women of particular quality and beauty during the daytime… In order to learn how to communicate with women. Just last week. If these girls got hit on twice when they were with me. then I wonder what happens when I’m not even present. and all the others I’m about to discuss. How Women Decide If You’re A Contestant Most women have several choices of men from which to pick. appearance. waved. We smiled. and a salesman pops up out of nowhere and asks one of the girls I’m with “Would you like to go out on a date with me?”. Anyway. Value is broken down in to the categories: short and long term value  . Let me start out by giving you a glimpse of what it’s like to be an attractive woman. we weren’t mean to the poor guy or anything. Value is determined by a lot of things such as social status. I was walking in the mall with two girls. I think that’s what he said. Then I suddenly realized something. personality. So why should she give you the time of day? What is in it for her? I hate to phrase it this way but at the end of the day. it was hard to understand him with his accent. and took off. In this society. lifestyle. It’s no secret that women get hit on all the time.

Now let’s go into some examples of how you can cultivate short term value. If she perceives you as being more valuable than what she’s currently doing. They’ll call you and even pester you to hang out with them. Let’s say you see a pretty woman as you walk into a coffee shop. comfort. stop. The fact that you’re educated. Intelligence is another tool you can use to captivate a woman’s mind. All you need are a few interesting topics in which you’re quite familiar. You don’t have to be as smart as Albert Einstein. People tend to gravitate toward people that make them feel good. There’s one problem though. It doesn’t specifically mean that you have come up with something super original. Once you find a way to provide these emotions. • Develop your own signature presence . It’s the moment when we shut the whole world off for a second and connect with ourselves. Become unique. happiness. then she will go out of her way just to talk to you. someone’s doing exactly what you’re doing. It’s addictive. she’s busy reading something. You’ll notice that women want to be around you more often. It happens most of the time. etc. If you can share your ideas with her passionately. Do you remember the last time you shared a laugh with someone? Now. That’s the power of short term value. in fact you don’t have to be smart at all to pull this off. just thinking about that moment…. Communication is a tool you can use to your advantage but that’s in another chapter. Laughter is a good feeling. This is done by conveying a rich and textured personality. Almost like a drug. Some ways of doing this are the way you groom and present yourself. Your job is to provide positive emotions like fun. in my experience. • Laugh. How did it make you feel? See my point. So the key is to be unique in that given environment. you’ve got the ability to hold someone’s attention and  . You will get far with humor. • Let your inner teacher shine. You want to be able to laugh together. excitement. Laughter serves two purposes: Builds attraction within a girl and creates an unspoken bond between the both of you. There’s a big chance that somewhere in the world. Laugh with them… If you have the skill to make women laugh. then you’re already ahead of the game. you’ll instantly be magnetic to women. Do you have what it takes to get her to want to slam her book down and just talk to you? It’s not impossible.Short Term Value & Ways You Can Build It Up! Short term value is determined by the experience you give women the first time you meet them. • Always provide positive emotions. Laugh. then BAM.

Lead the conversation. For example. Happy. Take her by the hand and make it easy for her. Lead the interaction. joyful. decision. 0 . Let’s go”. Wouldn’t you? • Decisive. If you expect her to lead and even make the first move. Just remember. Joyful. These positive emotions bring value to their lives. traditions. the possibilities are endless. Never say “I don’t know”. Always make it a point to be a decision maker. • Classy. Don’t believe me? Did you know that romance novels account for majority of the sales in bookstores? And that’s why women just love a guy that can give them the romantic fantasy. It’s also an advantage if you’ve done some traveling. “You’re so F****** money and you don’t even know it man”. You can go on with this. Teach her a couple of things about your culture. as my friend Rish would say. and Enthusiastic. Cultured and Worldly. Don’t be afraid to take a stand and follow it up with an action. Always have an opinion. • Romantic. when she says “Where are we going?” say “We’re going to grab some ice cream. They want a man who knows what he wants. If she says “I’m not sure about this” say “You’re gonna love it. Your job as a man is to lead the interaction. Women love romance. Always lead and reassure her that she’s safe with you. a few fun games you probably learned as a kid. Women constantly test for this. language. I know it’s easier said then done. If you can be a substitute for a romantic novel then. Women are drawn to guys that are happy. This is usually learned through your family and the people you’re surrounded by. and a plan. This can be conveyed with your attitude and the right assertiveness.interest. and a handshake. and enthusiastic. Instead of saying “Do you want to come?” say “Let’s go” instead. teach everyone something. Are your outfits coordinated well? Does your belt match your shoes? Do you understand poetry and the different works of art? Do you know the best restaurants in your city? Do you understand the world of fashion? Do you know a couple of classic movies? If you’re equipped with this. then you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. Classy defines someone who has high standard of personal behavior. trust me”. If you step into that role she will allow you to play the role. Show ‘em what you got! • You are the leader. a trick. then it will be very hard for women not to notice you. If you want her number then just ask for it. share your knowledge with the world.

Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something in life. I can always tell the people who are ambitious from the ones that aren’t. That’s why you want to give her the best option so she can make an educated decision. Coming up in the next couple of chapters. The whole courting process is very similar to sales. As hard as it sounds. It’s hard to explain over in text. The only difference is that you’re not selling an actual product. Sounds like a sales pitch right? Right. It’s time to rediscover and redefine yourself. Remember. Do something new every single month. Make it a routine to continuously be learning. a girl decides if she wants to see you again. I think this is one major factor for women who are looking for a commitment. Your long term value is responsible for keeping a girl hooked on you. Stay tuned! • Dare to Dream. The most obvious one is the way one talks about life. continue the relationship. There are a lot of ways ambition can be conveyed. And don’t forget to make it an interesting book.  . YOU ARE SELLING YOURSELF! Here are the features that you can add on to increase your long term value • Become a renaissance man. but it’s sort of like a gut feeling. A renaissance man is considered a man at the centre of the universe. these are the things that go on behind closed doors. Do something adventurous. • Emotional Connection. Make your life an open book. They smell this quality a mile away. You have to walk a little bit to get through the door and make sure that you stay in it. Now it’s time to cultivate your long term value. Women crave men who are ambitious. From experience. Here’s a short description I found on the internet. Short term value opens the door to her life. or exciting and live to talk about it. Lean more toward the energy that they give off. Pick up a book every two weeks and read it.LONG TERM VALUE & WAYS YOU CAN BUILD IT UP So you’ve learned how to demonstrate short term value. dangerous. Boredom is the enemy. limitless in his capacities for development. or go on a date with you when you’re not there! These are the times when she probably evaluates you as a package and sees if you’re worth it.

It’s not good to be too unpredictable either. Sex releases endorphins and it relaxes the body. Don’t you wonder what women are trying to find out when they ask “So. It’s not a prerequisite for her to date you but it plays a huge role if you want to have a smooth long term relationship. I can’t count how many times I’ve heard that phrase from women. Being predictable takes the excitement out of a relationship or interaction. This is similar to being confident. Unpredictability is the spice of life. Firm and Strong. Do you listen to her when she opens up to you? Do you act as a protector and make sure she’s always taken care of? Do you steer her around corners when you guys are walking around? Do you make her feel comfortable at times when she’s not? • Assertive. All I’m trying to say is that women screen the men to see if they are relationship material. This is conveyed with the way you speak and carry yourself. Women are sexual beings just like we are. • Self-assuredness. You need to be able to support yourself and show potential for becoming financially stable one day. and handsome”. now how do you respond to it? Do you get all offended and convincing her that you’re a cool guy deep down inside? Or do you just accept it with a smile. They get all excited when you do this. Do you assert your wishes on others? Do you make sure that you’ve got everything under control? Do you bargain your way into getting something you really want? Do you take a stand a support it fully? • Sex God. Women like men that can give them a wonderful experience. At times be romantic and shower her with attention and the next day treat her like one of your buddies. say “thank you”. It’s fun.  . “I want a guy who is rich. what do you do for a living?” They’re trying to get a glimpse of how much money you earn. It’s good to create a contrast in your personality. They enjoy sex as much as we do. This can be demonstrated by the way you treat her. and move on to the next topic? • Keep ‘em Guessing. • Tenderness and Sensitivity. It is no secret that women love men that are great in bed. I’m not saying that all women are gold diggers.• Financially self-sufficient. tall. How do you move through the world? Are you afraid to take up space in the world? Or are you comfortable in your own skin? Do you let bad criticisms get to you? Or do you accept them confidently? A simple test would be a woman giving you a hard time about something you either wear or do. They also like men that know exactly how to press their buttons and provide satisfaction. I hate to admit it but money is a deciding factor in the dating game.

I want you to take a good look at yourself and your life. By now. you can have the best line or script in the world but if you can’t present it well. big goal concepts. it’s useless. Remember.  . then take a week to focus on this specific quality. TRY THIS OUT Read through this chapter again. you should have a killer understanding of inner foundation.These are some of the essential components to building long term value. and a couple of helpful tips. That’s the reason why communicating effectively is a topic I spend several hours teaching at the workshops. If you’re below 3 in one of the qualities I outlined here. You at least need to be between 3-5 in all ranges in order to be successful with women. When you’re done. if you’ve been doing everything right. Now go through each quality I mentioned in this chapter and rate yourself from 1-5 (1 being the lowest and 5 the highest).

Hot Stuff.faCTor 4: effeCTIve CoMMunICaTIon Your communication skills will either make or break you in your quest for success in all areas of your life. Average Guy General Scenario: Mr. I have to rush back home because I left the light on my boyfriend’s room. but it’s a key ingredient my friend. she got him all excited in less than a second… Contestant # 2. Mr. he wants her. I didn’t even notice the time. I almost forgot. Plain Jane starts to slowly face away from Mr. She sees this average looking guy. Plain or Hot Jane Scenario 1: Ms. he notices something moving from his side. Wow. nice hair. Hot Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. Deep down. you need to be able to communicate effectively. She stands up and leaves the coffee shop with him. That’s all it is. Average Guy’s hormones go wild. Two minutes later. probably not. Plain Jane is ordering a drink at Starbucks. He started out as a stranger and left like her lover. there’s more to it than that.Ms. She heads over to the table to sit down. And then. It was nice meeting you though.Mr. Next thing you know. In that moment. Mr. Hot Stuff makes his way to talk to her. he walks toward her and starts talking. Minutes pass by. Let me give you an example. a body to die for. He starts getting excited or nervous and he knows why. that was fast. and a Mona Lisa smile. He looks over and notices big boobs. Average Guy is innocently looking for clothes to buy. So what was the component that determined success and failure in each interaction?  . Ms. describing a movie you watched to your friends. She’s enjoying the moment. Contestant # 1. tata!” Scenario 2: Ms. He seems to carry himself well and has a good sense of style. He’s smoking hot. she deploys her killer line: “Oh. Hours pass by. You must develop strong and effective communication skills in order to get what you want in life. I’m not going to sugar coat it. or instructing a cab driver where you want to go. Actually. After three minutes of boring conversation and ineffective communication. That’s the secret to success beyond your wildest dream. She’s excited but she’s not going to give it all away because of that. She sees this guy. Whether you’re working on presenting an idea to other people.

make sure your order is so clear that you won’t be barraged with questions after your order. The Communication Equation Individual + Effective Method of Presentation + Powerful Content of Presentation =Effective Communication TRY THIS OUT Go out to a coffee shop one of these days and order your favorite drink. You are what you communicate. you can live the most interesting life in the world. • What you want. • More dates and maintain relationships easily. Just try it out for fun.. • Women to feel exactly any emotion that you want them to feel allowing you to control and predict the outcome of your interactions. Now the next time you go out. For example: “Hmmmmmm. with no whip cream. Just think about it. Most guys I’ve met always ask me for the techniques I use to start conversations with women. No one else will find out all these positive things about you. When you know how to communicate well you can get . decaf. and how you want it • Your message across clearly for anyone to understand • Recognized for your ability to comm-YOU-nicate who you are. when you want it.Effective communication. Does the barista ask you any questions afterward? Good. and your values in life. I’m in the mood for a caramel macchiato.. One of the most common question I hear is “What do you say to her to start the conversation?”  . to go please. it’s a really cool exercise. Then hand out your cash or card. Presence is Everything I’ll share something with you. You can have 99 good qualities about you but unless you know how to effectively communicate them... Remember what she says. your beliefs. it’s useless.

 . Having said that. Have you ever heard the saying “People buy you first before anything else”. joy. I noticed that some techniques worked better than the others (more about techniques in the last chapter) but there was always one thing common that made my approach work. sit. here are six helpful tips to increase the power of your presence: • Learn how to smile. Are you comfortable with the way you stand. A genuine smile can take you a long way. It really does. Smiling makes women feel comfortable. It worked because of the way I presented it. This helps to get your message across more effectively. • Fashion. How’s your vocal projection and delivery. Holding eye contact builds trust and comfort. • Facial expression. I guess the saying “The eyes are the windows to the soul” does have meaning. Did you know that there is a way to use eye contact to increase the effectiveness of your communication? It’s very important to hold eye contact at certain points in the interaction. And believe me. when I say a lot. fear. Facial expressions are used to convey emotions like anger. It makes a big difference. sadness. how relaxed you are. I found that saying to be true. disgust. I mean a lot. Your facial expressions can communicate messages of their own. It’s all about how you present yourself.I’ve experimented with a lot of conversation starters in public places. How stylish are you? What kind of fashion statement are you making? What can people tell about you by the way you dress up? Does your style leave a good or bad impression on others? Do you command attention? • It’s not what you say but how you say it. or walk? Are you relaxed and calm during most times? Do you lean back when you talk to her? Do you move unnecessarily during the conversation? Your non-verbal communication is the window to who you are. Along the way. and how you carry yourself. Do you slow down your pace when you’re emphasizing a point? Do you use pauses to amp up the tension and intrigue? Do you speak loud and clear for people to hear? Do you speak from your diaphragm or nasal? Do you eat your words? Are you relaxed when you speak? • Body Language. Practice using a variety of facial expressions when you tell people stories. rather than being all serious and mysterious. They categorize you based on how you stand up. There have been several studies shown that women prefer men that smile while initiating a conversation. and surprise. Women are masters when it comes to reading body language. It eases women up at times when they’re nervous. • Communicate with your eyes.

Next time you’re in an interaction. Thou shall not have thy hands inside the front pockets. The  Commandments of Effective Body Language 1. will provide women with enough information to categorize you based on the impression you just gave them” Have you ever thought about the things you convey about yourself based on your body language? Did you know that women can tell if you’re confident and cool or nervous and inexperienced just by the observing the way you walk. At low points step away a little bit. If you stay to close to her. Man starts to smile nervously. and slowly get closer at specific points of the interaction. Try mixing it up. then it won’t feel like it’s a conversation. At the same time. So here’s to a good first impression. you slowly start to feel more relaxed. If you’re too far from her. don’t move your hands around too much when you talk. Thou shall not stand or sit too close or too far from her. 4. 2. placing your feet up on chairs. At high and fun points take a step closer or move your chair closer. even if you’re nervous. chances are she’ll be nervous too. the way you walk. talk and carry yourself? I think that body language is the biggest giveaway when it comes to revealing who you are and how you feel. Man starts to make unnecessary movement because of the extra energy he feels. Experiment with it. I’ve had success with starting off at about 3-5 feet away. If you’re nervous all throughout the interaction. man tends to change his behaviors and act way cooler then he really is. Men tend to easily get intimidated with women that are way above their league. right from the bat. When woman gets close. and leaning against the wall. It’s really funny to watch. Thou shall relax and lean back. Thou shall not shake or move a lot in the presence of an attractive woman. just lean back and try to be as relaxed and comfortable as you can. It usually goes like this: Man sees attractive woman. then she will feel very uncomfortable.  . 3. I feel comfortable when my hands are out of my pockets. I’ve discovered that when you assume a relaxed position. That includes doing things like slouching. For some reason. Man gets very jittery. and the way you move through this world on a daily basis. Never have your hand inside your front pockets when you initiate a conversation with anyone unless it’s below freezing and you don’t have any gloves.Body Language Tips for Day Game “Your body language.

I used to lay down flat on the floor and take deep breaths. For some reason. Have you ever been guilty of standing up too straight while you’re talking to a woman? Similar to how you would stand and act if you’re talking to an authority figure? Most guys take interactions with women too seriously. Your voice tone probably changed. talked. relax. The exact same thing I did every time I experienced a mild confrontation. it helped me relax more. and eventually make a shameful exit. It shows people that you were emotionally affected by it. If you’re guilty of this. And the more I started acting that way. I’d stutter. I used to be that way every time I thought I got rejected by women. and moved slow. Women are human beings too. become jittery. I modeled this behavior after guys that were naturals when it came to dealing with women. Everything changed. For example. They took their time almost like they owned time. Thou shall mirror her body language. They’re not some sort of super human goddesses from outer space you know? They do the same things you do. Thou shall not stand up like a soldier. when I’m calling up a girl for the first time. They just exert more effort and time into looking good. the more positive responses I got from women. 8. Thou shall walk and move slow. Everything they did was almost too smooth.  . The way you stood up probably changed. They’re shoulders become tense and they act all stiff to the point that they make themselves nervous. Mirroring her body language is a technique used to increase rapport and comfort levels. 5. Have you ever been in a situation gone bad? You probably didn’t notice at that time but everything about you changed. They stand up so erect that it’s almost too funny to watch. They walked.Do whatever makes you feel better. Not good. I’ve learned that if you keep your composure and act as if nothing happened then you end up maintaining control of the situation. Thou shall keep thy composure at all times. 6. 7.

. Relax. Relax.. Take a deep breath. Relax. I offer positive and fun emotions.. I bring fun and excitement to everyone I meet... It’s sad and I see it happen every day.. Be comfortable.. Don’t tense your shoulders up. My presences makes people feel better... I’m the sweetest and coolest person you’ll ever meet. At the same time I know my boundaries and I won’t be taken advantage of. Be comfortable.... But once you betray my trust. Here’s my view of the world: “I am a man.....TRY THIS OUT Lean back.... It makes me happy.. Give Before You Take A lot of people are used to taking things from the world and from people.. Hands out of the pockets.. that’s a different story.. I talk about my life experiences and my view on things because I just want to share my life with other people.. Don’t be too stiff. People that just keep asking question after question without really contributing toward the conversation. Inhale.  . I move through the world with something to offer to everyone.. Those one-way friendships where people just call you when they need something from you. People that just ask favors all the time. Your job is to not be one of those guys. That’s the reason why women instantly open up to me when I initiate a conversation with them... Slow and confident movements. Feet spread apart.. And make sure not to fall asleep. I’ll take care of you and make you feel like you’re part of my family. I’ve been guilty of this as well.. I just like to give.. It happens so often that it’s become normal.. Be comfortable. I am a man and I have something to offer the world…” That’s how I view the world.. I give without really expecting anything in return.. Exhale. It’s also the reason why I can give a woman a compliment without seeming like I just want to get in her pants..

So if effective communication opens doors for you. TRY THIS OUT Effective communication will open doors for you in this life. You should learn to cultivate it. It’s rare. then do you know what makes you stick in her mind? Endlessly? 0 . And you’ll soon realize that it opens women up to your ideas and messages as well.That’s the reason why I am who I am right now. I am focused more on giving to people rather than taking anything from them. People sense this quality.

I’m about to tell you why. He’s actually much rarer than a really hot girl that has it all together. This guy is usually submissive in a relationship. Let me tell you a little bit more about me. she’ll be able to make him change. He’s more sensitive than most guys and actually shows his sensitive side. Growing up. And that’s because they can’t live up to their role of being a man. I’d like to call this the heart of day game. A man who is masculine and knows how to communicate with women. This always keeps her on her toes. Women wish that these guys would just stop for a second and actually take time to show her how much he appreciates her. So why are women attracted to guys that act like jerks? Women are attracted because they don’t acknowledge her as some sort of higher being than them. Almost to the point of “I’ll do anything for you. Certain profiles are assholes. Now let’s talk about the guy with a feminine profile. bikers. I grew up with four little sisters. in the long run. At the same time. Men are usually too masculine or too feminine.faCTor 5: eMoTIonal ConneCTIon Now we’re getting to my favorite part of the book. They usually fall under the extremes. frat boys. The ratio of girls to guys in my family is about 14:1. She hopes that one day. It rarely happens though. women crave the feminine side in men. If it does. Let me explain. Women like men that can act like men. He is rare in this society. I never really had a strong male influence in my life. even if you treat me bad”. I also happen to be the only guy. and I had to work on this aspect later on. That’s off the wall. He rarely has control of the things that are going on in his life. Guys like these usually worship the women they are with. That’s 14 girls for every 1 guy. it’s done in little quantities but never enough for her. It’s hard to find guys that are just right in the middle. you need to cultivate both your masculine and feminine side. Somewhere along the road. Women are attracted to the two profiles but there’s a flaw that exists in both. women lose respect for this type of guy. gang members. How to effectively build an emotional connection. In order to be successful with women.  .

But guys like that are just hard to find. Someone who sees them for who they truly are and at the same time treats them as an equal. Someone who takes the bull by the horns and at the same time cares if she’s comfortable. not just what they said they wanted. Looking back. I became familiar with the way a woman’s mind worked.Women look for men that are strong and at the same time gentle. If you want proof that the above statement is true then I double dare you to show it to ANY of your female friends. back to my story. Come on. Someone who treats her like a woman and the same time puts her at her place when there’s a need for it. you first have to understand how they operate. I understood what made them feel comfortable. Do it. they also have a physical side. I learned how to communicate with them effectively. Women have two sides to them… A logical side and an emotional side Oh I forgot. And most of all. women dream of guys that have cultivated both masculine and feminine sides to them. and how their minds works. Her logical side makes all the decisions but there’s a much stronger side that can completely override it… it’s her emotional side.  . I learned what they really wanted in a guy. I learned how to build a long lasting emotional connection. Someone who can make her experience a variety of emotions and at the same time give her a chance to do the same. Ideally. Someone who has firm beliefs and opinions and at the same time is open minded. Understanding Women In order to become successful with women. I was very fortunate to be surrounded by women early on in my life. Why they do the things they do and why they act the way they act. Anyway. It taught me things that I never knew I knew. it will be another fun experience for you. the things they want. but that’s not until later. If nothing else. I unconsciously learned how to be comfortable around women and vice versa.

She’s been exposed to movies about love and destiny. it’s the other way around. There are tons of emotions that take place prior to it. And it all began when she was a little girl. I’m going to give you a sneak peek at a place within women that they don’t want you to know. And now I’ll reveal to you the Equation for Getting Any Woman You Desire! Logical Connection + Emotional Connection + Sexual Connection + Proper place and time = The Perfect Seduction. That’s probably the same reason why make up sex is better than regular sex. the perfect guy would come along. That’s why most women read romance novels and watch soap operas. and fantasies.Women want you to believe that her logical side is in control but in reality. date. she was probably exposed to all these romantic Hollywood Disney movies. I’m going to take you through a journey that’s about to open your eyes to the world of women. the heart will follow. Every Woman Has a Fantasy Let’s rewind. this is the natural progression of all my successful interactions. A guy that would sweep her off her feet and appreciate her for who she truly is. They enjoy experiencing emotions and they communicate with it. the body will too…” Looking back at my experiences. and not long after that. They are filled with emotions. shhh it’s a secret. dreams. This just encouraged her to believe that one day. It’s a place full of hopes. Drama is also something that certain women might be addicted to.. Women are emotional creatures. That’s the same reason I believe that “If you can captivate the mind. There’s one thing I want you to know before I give you all the techniques and tactics to meet. Growing up. A guy that will come along and push all her buttons making her cherish  . That’s because there’s emotion involved in it.. and keep women… And that’s the fact that. A place that’s been buried deep down inside that’s probably never been forgotten.

Some women forget about this side of themselves usually because they get really hurt from a certain experience. A guy that knows what to do and how to do it. Maybe a relationship gone wrong or just a really traumatizing experience. They do it because it works. A guy that will take her on a memorable experience. They’ve probably had a rough past. And Spiritual Level + Appreciation + Comfort with Presence + Commonality and familiarity + Shared Emotions = Long Lasting Emotional Connection  . The Hidden Formula For Creating An Emotional Connection Man Opens up + Woman Opens Up + They Connect on Surface. it satisfies her. and famous. Then she grows up and begins to realize that not everything’s perfect. These women are what we call the “Hopeless Romantics”. They go after the rich. She learns and begins to grow.the experience even more. Most of them just end up being disappointed. Chances are they probably get into relationships hoping that someone can fit that role.. That causes them to protect themselves by acting “bitchy”. It’s because they’ve been hurt before. just like what happens when kids find out that Santa Claus isn’t real. Deep. Everyone starts out as a hopeless romantic or they develop it later on in life. Some women actually ended up holding on to that dream. These women constantly wait for their prince charming every single day. Not everything turns out to be the way you expect it to be. Anyways. This is when they just start to settle for anything else out there. Core. This causes them to toss away that dream. hot. and go for more superficial things. But at that moment. This explains why women may act bitchy at times. Maybe it’s not exactly what she wanted. or available guys that probably can’t give them what they need. This is at the deep core of every woman.. but it kept her busy during that period of time.

You can see her face either light up or the other way around. this will help a lot in building a connection. You automatically become special once she’s shared this with you. That’s why it’s important to become comfortable with sharing your life experiences with other people. Everything she says is gold! Later on.  . By telling her a secret. Relate with her.Crash Course: 8 Killer Strategies in Order to Build an Emotional Connection 1. It’s always better to relate on the deeper topics. Most guys just relate with her on a superficial level. Once you do a good job at describing the emotion. She’ll feel like she knows you better. Just learn how to keep on talking and sharing your experiences. you can almost see it. Especially if you know exactly how to tell her how you feel. It’s important to emphasize and describe exactly how you feel. Everything you do. will set up the stage on how it’s going to be. You’re setting the standard here. Open up to her. Tell her something that nobody knows about you. You’re vulnerable as well. 3. early on in the interaction. 5. Whether you’re telling a story or just explaining your current mood. It’s an important skill to be able to describe an emotion so effectively that she begins to feel it. and then give your answer. You have to know how to relate with her. Tell her how you feel. don’t just open up to her. you also want to encourage her to share a secret with you. it takes two to tango. it shows her that you’re just a human being. You must tell her in a way that she can understand. build an unspoken bond. It’s what I call the “Go First Principle”. Always be leading. and the things you value in life. Wait for another 3-5 seconds before you interject. beliefs. It solidifies whatever connection that’s present. 2. How do you expect her to open up to you if you don’t do the same? One way to help her open up to you is to do it first. Share a deep experience. After all. As an exercise. Lead with your personality. just keep quiet and listen. It adds depth to your personality. Don’t interrupt her when she begins to open up. Same thing when women ask you questions. At the same time. The emotion in this scenario will. When she pauses. So the next time a woman starts to open up to you. 4. once again. 6. pause for a bit. It makes you look smarter. Shut up. That’s right. Of course. Most men focus on logical stuff. it will give you a better picture of how you can effectively seduce her. This makes her feel super special. Open up to everyone you meet. Practice being social. and vice versa. Once in awhile I like to add “I can’t believe I’m telling you this… I don’t even tell this to the people I’m close with…” This little piece gets the message across. Sharing a deep experience will encourage her to do the same. you just build an unspoken bond between the two of you. don’t talk. she actually gives you the winning cards that you can use on her.

. I’ll just let her talk. If you’re good at connecting with women. let’s say she talks about how much she just loves to dance. More about this on the last section. For example.  . You’ll notice a big difference in your interactions. Instead of telling her “That’s so cool.. What I’ve found to be very effective is to hold the “Me too” for 10 minutes or so and later in the conversation. I’ll just casually slip in a story about how I won a dancing contest or something like that. then later on. in your head. I’ve noticed that most men are eager to say “Yeah. If not. then you’re ahead of most guys out there. Pacing and Complimenting. Kill the quick me too. TRY THIS OUT Play back the last conversation you had. I like Pearl Jam too” I’d rather play my Pearl Jam CD when she rides in my car. It comes across as if you’re trying too hard to be similar with her. 8. I’ll start to talk about it indirectly. if I’m also into dancing. make a conscious effort to actually implement them the next time you’re out. ask yourself if you were implementing the concepts covered in this section. Now. Are you aware of the value of building an emotional connection now? Do you know that there are two things that you need to add to the equation in order to build the ultimate bond? That brings me to my next topic. me too” whenever the opportunity arises.7. or let her discover it on top of my CD player. even let the subject drift off. Another example: Let’s say she tells me that her favorite band is Pearl Jam.

In order for her to go anywhere with you.  . women just need to be extra careful nowadays. a loud booming voice. why should I talk to him”.. she must be comfortable with you. her peer group and the competition. Let me share with you a quick story on how I discovered this key element. She’s probably by herself. So when you walk up to women in this setting the first thing they think about is “Is this guy cool enough for me to talk to? There are so many guys. show up on a date. it’s a whole other story. looking for clothes. here are the facts. During the day time. and some serious entertainment skills. In the bars and clubs you have to deal with the music. Well. That’s why it’s so important to take her on an. With the different crimes out there.faCTor 6: CoMforT & TrusT There are a lot of differences between learning how to meet women in bars and club as opposed to public places. she must at least trust you a little bit. it’s a date right on the spot. or even answer your call. So you’ll have to equip yourself with a unique style. Whenever someone talks to her she instantly considers them a stranger. Who says you need to wait a couple of days before you take her out? Taking her on an instant date will dramatically increase the chances of her picking up your calls and going out with you later on. INSTANT DATE That’s right. And do you remember what your parents told you about strangers? Don’t talk to strangers. loading up on gas. the drinks. She’s a woman and you’re a man. When you’re in a bar or club. or shopping for groceries.. So what factors do you have to address when you’re planning to meet women in public places? COMFORT AND TRUST In order for them to call you back. it’s a social context. strangers can be bad. You can be anyone dangerous and she wouldn’t even find out.

she starts fixing her bra in front of me as I was talking. my legs are tired. shortly after getting inside her car. Let’s go to Starbucks and get something to drink. I’m really thirsty. had a slim figure. I’ll probably tell you what happened. Fifteen minutes passed by and she said. I looked her up and down. It was to start a conversation and stay in for three minutes. Are you ready for this? While I was chatting with my buddies. “Hey. In my mind. To cut the long story short. Three minutes passed by. she was the one who took the bull by the horns. I remember my goal for that day. “Hey. considering it was my first time trying to meet girl at malls. to get our blood to circulate throughout our bodies…” Then while we were walking. I ended up kissing her. Apparently. I went out with my buddies to go learn how to meet women in malls. is history… If we ever meet one of these days. I slowly stopped her from walking and we ended up chatting for a bit. She was about three inches taller than me. I complied. come with me”. only if you promise to keep it to yourself.  . She kept on leading me and I followed. It was on. I was doing pretty well. Little did I know.A few years ago. we ended up talking about her place. And then all of a sudden. I noticed this tall brunette girl. My heart skipped a beat for a second. this was the day that changed my life. I keep kicking myself in the foot. I would have been very happy if I got to hold a conversation for three minutes. Anyways.” Another 20 minutes passed by and she said “Let’s go for a walk. let’s sit over there”. she lived like five minutes away from the mall by the ocean. In that moment. Then she pulls off her killer line “Hey. I hit the five minute mark. and a cute semi angelic/naughty face. I left my cigarettes in the car. She was in a business outfit and had some shopping bags with her. And the rest I would say. Looking back at that interaction. after a bit of conversation she said. I was completely clueless at that time. I still couldn’t believe it though. but now that I look back.

Somehow it creates a new environment for the both of you therefore making it easier to talk about other things. you significantly increases the chances of her calling you back and going out with you. That means. • Gives you more time to get to know her better.Of course. is to create an “Our World” vibe. Helps you reach your goals faster. You’ll play on a different level. When you first meet her. They say things like “We should hang out sometime” and “Yeah. When you go on an instant date you become a potential partner. It’s like going out on your first date right there and then. It’s really powerful. you should give me your number”. So it’s your opportunity to prove to her that you can be trusted and that she’s safe with you. Most guys just go for her number. That bond is unique for every girl. Them”. Forget the concept of getting her number for now. It helps you get through conversational stalls. At least try to. It creates a shift in the atmosphere. More time means getting to know her better and vice versa. having a shared bond between the two of you. • Helps you get through conversational barriers. take her on an instant date. Your primary goal when you start talking to a woman. she puts herself in a position where something bad can happen to her. let’s go”. • Shift from “You vs. that’s how her mind processes it. It keeps you moving forward. When you’re at a high point in the interaction (Example: she’s laughing or there’s a good vibe) just say: “I’m really thirsty. With a little bit of tweaking I’ve used something similar and have experienced unbelievable results with it. Let me give you the benefits of going on an instant date • You get to hit two birds with one stone. It gives you more time. I stole my whole script from her. you’re a STRANGER in her eyes. At least. If you play your cards right.  . You’re still a complete stranger. you can tag along. When you get her on an instant date. • It separates you from all the other guys. When she takes the chance and goes to coffee with you. I’m going to grab a drink real quick and since you’re fun. you officially are operating on a different level. • You keep the interaction moving forward. • Chance for you to show that she’s safe with you. • Decreases the chances of flaking later on. You’re not like that. regardless of any technique you use. Me” to “Us vs. TRY THIS OUT The next time you’re in a conversation for more than 10 minutes.

so let’s say you’ve done a great job at interacting with her. Probably you’ve passed the test with flying colors and you even have a lot of inside jokes and secrets.Ok. 0 . What’s the next move? You’re supposed to be in tune with the environment because it will help you figure out the best logistical approach you can use to escalate the interaction further.

Bring protection. Know exactly what to do before you even go out. 5. Don’t ever sabotage your success by not being prepared. and me. Is your place classy or trashy? Does your place convey what you’re passion about? What does it say about you? Do you have clean sheets or dirty ones? Do you have dirty clothes all over the floor? Does your place smell good? 6. when I discovered that. And this is true especially for the beginners. Have a pen and paper with you. What if I told you that… She would have gone home with you only if you were prepared?! Won’t that piss you off? Sure did piss me off. Have a plan before you go out. just in case. Pick five places in your mall that you will take her on an instant date. Know your location well.  . Make sure you have a clean place. How will you take her on an instant date? What will you say to get her number? How do you get her back to your car? How do you get her back to your place? 2. That’s an advanced topic though. It was the painful truth. 3. you want to exchange contact information with her. a guitar. Have some pillows and blankets at the back of your car. Always have a pen and paper with you. You’ll never know where you’d end up going. here are 0 Golden Tips To Help You Master Your Logistics 1. Women will judge you based on how clean your place is and how creative you are with it. a beach. With that in mind. Remember. You can also string along and take her on multiple instant dates.faCTor 7: loGIsTICs Do you know where you’re going? A lot of guys don’t go out prepared. Not just give her number or take her number because it limits what you can do. A nice little fold up sleeping bag that fits two people in it will do. a blanket. 4. Enough said. The BEST experience in my life involved a girl. Your place will say a lot about you.

you might say something to turn me off and I’d be running for my life” or something to that effect. Again. Talk a little more. 8. then give it a shot! 9. When you say “Let’s go” start to walk in the direction you want to go. This last piece of the puzzle is probably the most significant topic in this whole book. with the guys that aren’t. it might only take three minutes… who knows. This will all make sense to you sooner or later in your journey. Always assume that she’s up for it. After we get some ice cream for five minutes. stay an extra minute or two. Almost as if she’s expected to follow you. always be prepared for contingencies. don’t wait for her to ask. Assume first.  . Instead of saying “Can we…” say “Let’s go…” This little trick might make all the difference in your interactions. Tell her where you want to go. If you’re dropping her off at her house.7. Be prepared for contingencies. Don’t ask just lead. I’m in a hurry. When she says “Uhmmm. Women will sometimes refuse to do what you want them to do. 10. I need to do my shopping” say “That’s cool. Don’t give up at the first sign of resistance. Always be leading. It’s what separates the guys that are successful with women. you can go on with your shopping… and besides. It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission. Stay in there. it all boils down to being prepared. Get to know her and spend a little more time with her then try again. The point is. It’s your job to lead the interaction. Don’t be fazed by it and don’t walk away. stop for a second. Next time you feel like walking a way.

Use it wisely. In my experience. so use this stuff carefully. and get her to be part of yours too. How much time does she spend with you? Do you see each other often? Do you spend some time talking with her on the phone? Does she spend a lot of time winning you over because you have standards? The more time a woman spends with you (Talking on the phone. Time Investment. Physical Investment. dreams. hopes. It’s smooth sailing from there. sex opens up all the lines of communication. it becomes a lot easier. Once you’re passed that level. Another way to get her invested in you is to be physical with her. Social Investment. She gets more and more invested in you every time she opens up. You’ll start to realize that you can actually just relax and appreciate her company. Here’s a list of the different types of investment a woman makes and how to get the most out of each and every one. This goes back to building a solid emotional connection. the higher the chance of you getting what you want out of it. values. is to be a part of her life. Do you remember the last time you worked hard for something? How did it feel in the end? How satisfied were you when you accomplished it? This is the same emotion that women feel if they’ve worked hard for you.) the more she gets invested in you. make them work for it. Talk about her passions. etc. This stuff is very powerful.faCTor 8: InvesTMenT Do you know how to make someone want something? How do you make someone value something? Simple. Sex is the biggest investment. It makes things so much easier for the both of you. I don’t advocate playing with women’s feelings. The more they invest in you. future and share your view in life as well. The best way to persuade a woman to do something is to make her want to do it. Emotional Investment. hanging out.  . Have you met her friends? Do they like and approve of you? Has she met your friends? Do you go out to social activities often? Do you have any mutual friends? They key to getting her to invest in you more.

After the weekend. Here’s what he told me: “Right now. lines. Before the workshop. it’s what makes or breaks you. She’ll ignore me. I’m not even qualified to talk to her. You’re your own worst enemy. rAcking up dAteS. that’s your own self. Mental barriers are very strong and. Yes you would get results instantly! But that’s not the real challenge. she’s way out of my league. You heard me right. I’ll be sharing with you the proper mindset that you should have before you go out there. I don’t want to talk to her. and all the tactics to meet women is easy. She’s not even going to give me the time of day. I don’t get as nervous as I used to be. And getting phYSicAl KIller MIndseT for MeeTInG WoMen I just got off the phone with a student I had last weekend. And besides I’d have to try hard to entertain her  . Yes. I felt like I wasn’t worthy to talk to them. I have nothing special about me. I used to think that women wouldn’t want to talk to me. I enjoy talking to people. Here are the things that you should not think about: “Wow she’s so hot. Come on. in my experience. something clicked inside of me. Everyone else will see that I am talking to her and they will think that I’m a loser. And most of the time. Since then I’ve been more relaxed and comfortable meeting women. The hardest part is going against everything that is preventing you from achieving success. regardless of where I am. laugh at me. and think I’m weird.Section 3: putting it All together: StArting converSAtionS. My whole view changed and I think that it had to do with the way I viewed things.” Here’s the truth… Practicing techniques.

you just have a couple of minutes to convince them to even hear you out. It’s a like a foreign concept for them. where do I want to meet women?  . I’m everything and more that a woman can ever ask for. Here’s how you should think and feel about meeting women… Ok. It’s impossible…” I’ve heard that objection more times than I can count. Looking at things in a positive perspective will get you far. You can see them crossing the street. I walk through this world as if I own it. I live my life for me…” Where To MeeT WoMen There are dozens of places during the day time to meet women. They’re completely clueless. I am who I am. I just can’t be myself and get her to like me. You will never run out of women to approach. I seriously doubt it. I don’t seek approval from anyone. I am a man of purpose. imagine that you possess a winning combination to a lottery ticket. People’s reactions toward me don’t define me. The one ticket that will probably get you set for life. So how does this apply to approaching women? Here’s how you should think… “I am a man of purpose. I am doing them a favor. I make them happy. you can take me or leave me. I live life to the fullest without apologizing for anything I do. Now you’ve got to ask yourself.and be really slick and smooth. either way I’ll still be happy. then she doesn’t know what she’s missing. or playing in the sand. My own values and passions define me. If she rejects me. Women are fortunate that I give them the chance to get to know me. Here’s more. shopping for clothes. Any woman will be fortunate to get to know me. Every time I talk to women. Your job is to give the ticket away to anyone… But here’s the catch. The best part about it is that women are everywhere. that person doesn’t know what a lottery ticket is. I take pride in being me. The first step to being successful with women is to look at things in a positive way.

How loud do they speak? Do they command respect in an interaction or not? When you discover this. etc. coffee shops. TRY THIS OUT Go to five places this week (coffee shops. and pretty much everywhere.) and observe how people communicate.  . take advantage of that. If you want smart girls then hit up the library. So the key is to be aware of the social energy in the place that you’re in. If you’re approaching a woman on the street then you can get away with speaking a little bit louder. bookstores. supermarket. So to avoid unnecessary complications. and match it. streets. Did you know that the ratio of women to men in yoga classes is like 15:1? Well. then that’s a different story.In order to figure that out. parks. beaches. you need to figure out what type of women you want to meet. you must be aware and in tune with its energy level. General places to meet women are malls. Violating energy levels puts social pressure on the woman you’re talking too. Now. just be in tune with the social energy level of the location. then join a yoga class. And she might not be used to handling it. If you want spiritual girls. let’s talk a bit about specialization… If you want girls that are into health and fitness then go to the nearest gym. be In Tune WITh The enerGy level In order to be successful in approaching in various public places. When you’re approaching a woman in a library. college campuses. imitate them or slightly be more animated/energized then they are.

I would slowly walk in her pathway so she would be forced to come to a complete stop. Confidence begins to radiate through every part of my body. my heart pumps faster. It’s basic law of physics: An object in motion will stay in motion unless an outside force causes it to stop. If she’s walking to her car. Tension begins to fill up my body. Here’s how it works. I run after her and tell her to stop. Let me give you some examples. If she’s sitting down I make sure to sit down as well. But here’s the question. make myself comfortable. she will stop. I act like she dropped something on the ground.Crash Course In sTarTInG ConversaTIon WITh WoMen Let me make something clear… There are dozens of ways to initiate a conversation with women. Whenever I see a girl I’m attracted to. say something situational. ask their opinion. This is a very important step in my overall structure and let me tell you why. and I slowly make my way towards her. The first thing I do is get her full and undivided attention. and so forth…. I needed something that I could use anytime. If you pull this off correctly. After a little bit of tweaking. no matter where I was. I make sure to grab one and place it right next to her. You can tell jokes. If there’s no chair beside her. So after I get her attention. I found the perfect opener for daytime approaches. and then deliver my conversational opener. There are no possible excuses in my mind. I want to meet her and I will meet her. What’s the fastest and most efficient way of initiating conversation with women? I was looking for something that cut right through the bullshit. If you don’t command her full attention then she won’t process your verbal communication effectively. They all work… I’ve tried them all. I say something like:  . If she’s walking the opposite direction. I suddenly feel the ball of energy inside of me.

Women love guys that know what’s going on without a woman having to tell him. honest. Step : Tell Her the Reason Why You Are Attracted to Her Honesty is the best policy. and sincere is the way women like to be approached (CAVEAT: If you do it right). When you use this approach. The only reason why other men can’t pull this off is because they’re not coming from a place of power. Not because you want her to feel obliged to be nice to you. you instantly demonstrate that you’re honest and sincere. It makes her more comfortable. I found that being upfront. breaKInG doWn The opener Step : Pace her ongoing reality Pacing is an essential skill that you should master. only build your credibility in her eyes. Sets up the proper foundation for the interaction right from the beginning. Tell me about yourself” She smiles. By addressing potential objections you demonstrate social awareness. I use this to overcome any objection that might pop up into her head.“Hey… (pause) I begin to smile as my eyes are locked on her eyes. Now let me break down the opener and explain to you why and how it works. Every time you say something that she agrees with. she gives you a silent nod. I continue with “I’m a complete stranger and I know this is really random but… I was just passing by… and I saw you standing there… I just wanted to tell you that you are… Really… Really… Beautiful. Tell her you like her because you want her to know. It’s like an unspoken bond.  . Saying things that she can affirm as true. Gives her a chance to agree with you. and I relax from that point forward I get to know her more for who she is. we shake hands. It shows her that you’re sensitive to her needs and that you understand her concerns. It conveys that you’re intuitive and socially intelligent by nature. When I say things like “I know this is totally random…I’m a complete stranger” it actually serves several purposes.

After she says anything that might impress you. That’s because she’s processing the whole interaction differently. Step : Give Her a Chance to Talk About Herself You want to get her involved in the interaction as soon as possible.  . After the opener. As soon as she starts answering your question. It also… • Gets her committed to the interaction. • Gets her to subconsciously accept you as a potential partner. everything you say begins to be categorized in “The Potential Partner” context. you can say “I like that. what’s your story?” “Who are you?” “Where are you from?” Letting her talk about herself gives her the chance to impress you. It makes it official that you two are in a social interaction. I’m (insert your name here)”. Since you created so much attraction. she slowly becomes committed to the interaction. This is a very powerful frame from which to come. • Gives you a chance to introduce yourself.You tell people what you think about them. this approach can be very deadly. This is done by saying stuff like “Tell me about yourself?” “I just wanted to know if there’s more to you than meets the eye. It skips through most of the games and takes you were you want to be… and that’s building an emotional connection. When combined with the proper non-verbal communication and delivery. Shaking her hand is very important. everything you say will be in the “I’m getting to know you before we date” context. Creates the feeling of attraction. Even boring rapport questions will work after the opener. This approach is so powerful that it creates attraction within seconds. Gets right to the point.

what do you do for fun? * As you can see. I have a boyfriend. and of course she wants to be perceived as classy so she will stay for a bit. Go on now.dealInG WITh ConTInGenCIes One of three things will happen. She Walks Away While You’re Talking To Her Guy: Talk. She becomes extremely flattered. you’re way too classy to be walking away when someone is talking to you. Here are some examples of how you can handle certain situations. I tell her she’s way too classy to walk away. then just walk away. But if I’m making you uncomfortable in anyway. 0 . Guy: Awesome. She’s just being polite and sticks around for a bit to see what you have to say. I also get to express my personality and my positive traits. or doesn’t give you the time of day. First Scenario: She loves it. which re-engages her back in the conversation. She smiles. Runaway girl. I also tell her to walk away which is reverse psychology and then I act like it never happened by asking her a question. depending on how well you execute your opener. I set up an expectation for her. She wants to get to know you. Talk. So what do you like to do for fun? *I’m not even acknowledging her objection. Second Scenario: She kind of likes it. The Boyfriend Objection Guy: Opener Girl: I’m sorry. Indifference by far is the most powerful way to overcome this objection. Third Scenario: She gives you an objection. Talk Girl: Talks and walks away Guy: (smiles) Oh come on now. She’s not really enthusiastic about it. Runaway girl (I sing playfully) Anyways. tries to walk away. I absolutely love the third scenario because it’s challenging for me.

then it will not work for you. Come on. I know you’re a cool person deep down inside. I know this is not who you really are. I’m Oliver. people are real. This is just a protection shield. I want you to remember this section and read it over and over again. Guy: No worries. Have you ever talked to someone before and felt like they just wanted something from you? Was it a gut feeling? How often were you right? I bet you were pretty accurate at it. So let’s give this a shot one more time. There are a lot of creepy guys out there that try to get something from you all the time. Girl: I’m Michelle. The way you think and feel affects the way you interact with people. I’m almost sure. Talk. You will get rejected by women left and right. Sorry I was being rude. This stuff is very powerful.  . doesn’t look at you. look around you. I was just having a bad day. In order for this approach to work you need to switch the way you see things. So what do you do for fun? * See how I called her out on how she was behaving? It demonstrates that I am a man who demands respect in an interaction. Now I want to share with you the Gift Shift theory. I’m not one of those guys so don’t treat me like one of them. I don’t know where you’re from but where I’m from. When you experience that situation. you must come across from a place of power and positivism. Talk Girl: Says something rude like “Why are you talking to me”. If you’re not going to be real. or something to that effect. GIfT shIfT Theory In order for this approach to work. Guy: Why are you acting like this? Why can’t you just be yourself. Grungey10: I understand. Then you will begin to wonder what you’re doing wrong. I’m just going to walk away (I act as if I’m about to leave). If you approach with the “I just want to get into your pants” mentality.She’s Rude Or Doesn’t Acknowledge Your Presence Guy: Talk.

She’s seen you in movies. She’s been dreaming about you. Knowing this information how does this change the way you’ll view your future interactions? Remember. She will only find out that it’s you after she’s gotten to know you. Your job is to give them an unforgettable experience. you’re giving that gift to her. You are a gift. you are. I want you to do this. I feel happy. That means you have to barrel through her persona. You can do it too. You have the upper hand and not the other way around.It’s simple. Yes. You’re the guy she talks about with her best friends. I know. Your job is to provide women with positive emotions. they would fall for you? Ask yourself that question over and over again. I get results because I have something positive to offer. you are a gift.  . Your job is to take them on an emotional journey with you. I feel happy knowing that I’m about to make this person’s day. Take five minutes and imagine that you’re someone she’s been waiting for all her life. She’s read about you in books. away from the world they are in right now. I’ve worked on myself to the point where I just am naturally attractive and interesting to women. I know. Am I conveying who I am in an interesting way? Is she getting to know me or am I just talking out of my ass? TRY THIS OUT Next time you go out to meet women. How would you act if you knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that if only women knew you. There’s a catch though. it sounds sappy but it’s amazingly effective. Whenever I talk to people.

The pInG ponG MeTaphor
In my opinion, conversations with women are very similar to playing ping pong or table tennis. The ball just keeps going back and forth across the table. One person hits the ball then the other person hits it back. It’s an ongoing cycle. That’s how conversations should be. Sadly, this isn’t always the case. Someone usually carries the conversational burden more than the other person does. Eventually the conversational ratio should be as close to 50/50, girl talks as much as guy does, but it takes skill to be able to do that. You need to be interesting and interested. I’ll say it two more times because it’s very important. You need to be interesting and interested. You need to be interesting and interested. Making sense so far? Were you ever in a conversation with someone who talked way too much? It’s like you were watching television because you couldn’t contribute to the conversation at all. On the flipside, were you ever in a conversation with someone who just kept asking question after question without really contributing anything at all? Well you need the balance of both. You need to lead the interaction and at the same time, get women to follow your lead. You need to help them invest in the interaction. Not everyone’s socially savvy. Sometimes, you need to make it easy for them to contribute to the interaction. This book help you cultivate the skills you need to be both interesting and interested. 

Go fIrsT prInCIple
“You must become the change you wish to see”- Gandhi In other words, if you think change is needed in a situation, think about changing yourself first before changing everything around you. I want you to look back on all the conversations you had with women that you liked. Here are some questions for you. Were you… Both comfortable, relaxed and at ease? Exchanging fun stories from your lives? Sharing secrets and vulnerabilities with each other? Speaking formally or like friends do? Able to build familiarity and substance in the interaction? Here’s my main point. If you want her to do something, you should do it first. If you want her to start opening up to you, you must open up to her first. It’s your job as a man to lead the interaction. You should lead and expect her to follow. TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation instead of asking a question, make a statement. Instead of saying “Where are you from?” tell them a story about where you’re from. Instead of saying “How are you” say “I’m feeling so happy today, you have no idea why”. See how people respond to you. 

poWer TalK
What you say and how you say it is critical when you’re interacting with someone. A couple of years ago, I remember watching a comedy show. This guy walked on the stage and started making jokes. There was forced laughter here and there but that’s about it. I ended up just looking at my watch impatiently thinking to myself “What time is this show going to end?!” Couple of months later, I watched another comedy show. A couple of minutes into the show, my stomach started to hurt from laughing, tears started falling from my eyes, he got me. I don’t remember laughing so hard in my entire life. The jokes weren’t extremely funny, it was his personality. This is true for everyone out there. Whether you’re a comedian, a salesman, a student, or a friend, people will respond to you based on how you present yourself. Here are some tips to empower yourself. • Avoid hesitation when you talk. Be firm with what you want. For example, instead of saying “Uhm, I was thinking if, uhm, we could go out sometime” say something like “Hey, I’m going shopping this Thursday, It’s going to be a blast, you should tag along”. Don’t flinch. Don’t be nervous. Say it like you would if you’re talking to your 11 year old cousin or something. • Power of ambiguity. Keeping a woman on her toes keeps things challenging in an interaction. Every other guy jumps at the opportunity to hang out with her again. Instead of giving all your cards away try using words like “maybe. We’ll see, I’ll get back to you on that one”. An example would be “Hey, you seem fun, if we’re both available this weekend, then maybe we’ll hang out”. • Avoid over politeness. Being overly polite communicates subordinate status. When you’re communicating with women, you shouldn’t treat them as if they’re a goddess from Venus. If you treat them like royalty, they will act like royalty. Treat them like you would treat your buddy. Don’t be overly polite. 

When I do.” . I want her to remember me when she wakes up the next day.WhaT To do afTer InITIaTInG The ConversaTIon A lot of guys don’t know what to do after they’ve initiated the conversation. My goal is to build familiarity and substance all throughout the interaction. I genuinely appreciate her and I am very successful at it because I believe that all women have something beautiful inside of them. I relate to her on the surface then I go a little deep and find out the things that make her tick. Then I try to build familiarity by connecting on a lot of different topics. I make her feel special for the person that she is. I just want to touch base and build both familiarity and substance with her. I want to make a mega solid impression so that she won’t stop rambling about me with her best friend the moment our conversation ends. to make it really simple. it’s a combination of two things CAPTIVATE & CONNECT Captivate her with your personality by building a connection. I want to know what makes her tick. After I’ve captivated a woman with my presence. Then we discuss each other’s passions in life and connect on a deeper level. you MusT CreaTe a ConneCTIon “It all started with our ancestors. I do it multiple times. I relate to it and appreciate her for it. my next goal is to get to know her on multiple levels. I want to find out what makes her special. What is my goal? I want to convey who I am as a person. Evolution has hardwired into us the tendency to bond with those who are familiar and wary of those who are unfamiliar. I want mutual appreciation. I don’t need to know her whole life story. What was unfamiliar was more often dangerous and threatening. over and over again. So I start out by getting to know her on the surface level. What was familiar was generally safe and approachable.Psychology 101  . Well. Let me go over my structure on connection building.

That’s the secret to a successful daytime interaction. This is what separates you from every other guy that’s tried to meet her. She wants to find out if you’re real and if you have any depth to you. The problem is most people don’t know how to convey who they are. you can build a connection with anyone you meet. When she asks you a question. It’s where the magic happens. your main goal is to get to the point in the interaction where you both can just be yourselves. Here’s a system you can use to build an emotional connection: Step 1: Build Familiarity Step 2: Build Substance Step 3: Appreciate Her as a person Step 4: Incorporate A Romantic Spin hoW To ansWer lIGhT rapporT QuesTIons A lot of people I’ve met still don’t know how to convey their personality in their day to day interactions with people. then you create an emotional connection. and let her open herself up to you as well. You need to be in that place where both your guards are down and you can just connect on all levels. So let’s break down what usually happens  . She’s trying to figure out if you have more going for you than your initial impression. If you allow this process to happen. Imagine how you would feel in this kind of scenario: A girl has been talking to a cool guy for quite awhile.I don’t care what anyone else out there thinks but if you can open your mouth and talk. There’s a time when you should answer it. There’s a time to be cocky and funny and avoid a question that’s thrown your way but should you keep on avoiding it? No. No matter what system you use. she’s trying to figure out who you are as a person. She’s hooked She becomes so interested that she starts to ask you questions to find out who you are. Building an emotional connection is the heart of daytime pick-up. It’s my favorite part of the interaction. He’s cool and interesting.

When she gets home.Scenario 1: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: whoa! We’re getting a little ahead of ourselves here. ( I talk about LA for a  . She ends up giving up and going home knowing nothing about you. and building a strong emotional connection. She may have been attracted to you at first but it won’t last for a very long time. ---------. Things are so different back where I’m from.45 minutes later -----------Girl: so what’s your story? Guy: Oh. Everything is fast paced back in LA. Ideal Scenario: Girl is attracted to guy Girl begins to ask questions to get to know him better Girl: So where you from? Guy: Oh… You wouldn’t want to know… It’s extremely cold there… Girl: Where? Guy: I live in the North Pole… It’s so fun swimming with the penguins everyday… It makes me so happy Girl: Ugh… shut up!!! No really where you from? Guy: I actually moved here from LA two months ago. appreciating and relating with life experiences. Why? It’s because you’ve only created short term attraction. being vulnerable with each other. She was ready to build an emotional connection but you threw the opportunity away. give it a few days and that attraction will probably fade away. Real and long lasting attraction comes from building commonalities. I’ve read ton of stories as a kid (insert something cocky or avoid the question asked) Conclusion: She wanted to get to know you better. we’ll get to that in a minute… anyway….

You’re not answering her question in a boring way. It makes her comfortable and easier to open herself up to you. ask yourself What makes my place different from where I am right now? What’s so unique about my place? What are the fun things to do there? What do I love most about my place? How does it make me feel? What would you recommend for her to do in your city? 2. • It gives her a window of opportunity to see how you view the world and the type of person you are.) What do you do? What are you really passionate about? What makes you tick? How did it start out? What happened then? What’s so special about what you do and how does it make you feel? Have you ever met someone that just talked about the same thing over and over again? It gets very boring after awhile.) Where are you from? When you get this question. You actually demonstrate a lot of personality by being comfortable sharing your thoughts with her • You lead the conversation. how you ever met someone cool that could just talk about anything under the sun?  . • She knows right off the bat that you’re a good communicator. Now. I was on my way to a ranch and it was really interesting. We were driving through empty green fields and… (insert semi deep and meaningful story here) Conclusion: • You stand out from all the other guys because you differentiate yourself from them.while then compare it to Tucson) Things are very simple out here. So remember: Never ever give boring answers to simple questions such as Where are you from? What do you do? What’s going on? Tips on how to do that 1. It actually gives me time to think about everything going on in life and see the bigger picture. • It sets the stage for building an emotional connection. Like the other day.

3. 6. A sentence has how many words? Do you see where I’m going here? If you master the art of conversational vibes. Come on. Give me 10 things that come to your mind with each word above. Cartoons Movies Big Zoo Water That’s all Alright. 9. she’d have one about her spider. 7. If you did the exercise. it’s included here for a reason. she’d have one too. 4. It’s called the association game. Don’t tell me you don’t have any experience with at least one of the topics I listed above. you’ll never run out of things to say ever again.Like if you had a story about your grandfather. this is what familiarity is all about. you have around 130 words. 5. Now that’s 130 things you could potentially talk about. elephant is just one word. let’s go one step further. Here’s the beauty of it. Ok. 11. Done? Here’s are the things that came to me when I heard the word elephant: 1. what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word elephant? Actually. Once you’ve mastered this. she’d have one too. do the exercise. Animals Grey Tusk Ivory Africa Jungle Lion King 8. let me teach you a helpful exercise here. Think some more. 2. 13. Now. If you had a story about your pet hamster. 12. 10. give me 10 things that you can associate with the world elephant? Take your time. If you had a story about guns. Alright. then you’ll never run out of things to say again! 0 . You need to connect on multiple topics.

Building substance solidifies the connection between you.  . Most of the things women tell you.TRY THIS OUT Next time you’re in a conversation with a woman. Another skill you should focus on is active listening. It also makes you stand out since it’s something that only close friends do.Fitness -Animals buIldInG subsTanCe: aCTIve lIsTenInG. Here are some topics you can explore to build familiarity: -Goals and aspirations -Passions -Ideal vacation -Relationships -Friends -Youth and childhood -Love -Art and Photography -Traveling -Favorite films and music -Concerts and theatres -Family . are gold. Next time there’s an awkward pause in the conversation. You see. think back to the previous topic. and leadInG WITh your passIons You now know how to build familiarity.Hobbies . once you’ve barreled through their persona. and riff on it. Take advantage of it. just pick out one word and riff on it for a minute or two. Do this until your jaw is numb from speaking too much. Use it. Let’s get you acquainted with building substance. Building substance takes the interaction to a whole other level. pick a word out. learning how to build familiarity is an essential skill to have. Women will feel like they have a lot of things in common with you. fIndInG her Core value. This tool is very powerful.

Active listening is a habit. . But what if you guys don’t like the same artist? Does that mean both of you have nothing in common? No. Once again this shows her that you understand her and that you’re paying attention to her. in your own words.Demonstrates interest in her as a person. we’re so similar”. • Shut up and listen to her. Don’t answer right away. You see. Doing this affirms your understanding and builds dialogue. in your own words. Always ask her what she means. You need to find out what is the underlying motivator that drives her to do the things she loves to do. me too. your job is to find out what makes her tick. Just learn how to listen to her completely without butting in. you should relate to them. to whoever you’re talking to what they have said to you. That’s great if you guys like the same artist.  . pause for three seconds before answering something. feed it back to her. For example a guy asks: “Who’s your favorite artist? Oh Mariah Carey. As an active listener. and how it makes her feel. Once you find these underlying motivators. Here are the benefits of active listening: .Ensures understanding of the subject matter. . as well as the foundation of effective communication. you should be able to repeat back. You have something in common with her. You should rephrase what she just told you and. • Ask questions. Don’t always be eager to fill in the silence when there’s an awkward pause. Active listening intentionally focuses on who you are listening to.Expresses understanding of her feelings A couple of basic pointers for active listening: • Rephrase and feedback. It will improve your conversation skills tenfold. Finding Her Core Value And Building A Quick Connection A lot of guys try to connect with women on the surface area. Doing this will strengthen your understanding of the situation • Summarize what she tells you. and that’s her core value.

and you probably learned something afterward. They will test you to see how you will respond. Social Learning Theory And The Power Of Conditioning Social learning theory states that we learn social behavior by observing and imitating others and by being rewarded or punished. Women will test you. not complying with your request. I want you to rewind and remember your childhood. Whenever they do something right they get rewarded. Women gravitate toward positive emotions and move away from the negative ones. Was there ever a time you got burned by something? Maybe you touched a hot stove or candle. It’s more powerful than relating to her on the surface level. On the other hand. you need to reward her for opening up to you. You should punish her for disrespecting you. You should take time to think about what behaviors you will reward And which ones you’ll punish. and laughing at your jokes. This applies to women and dating as well. Later on. You learned that you shouldn’t touch it again. early in the interaction. you just instinctively jerked your hand back.Relate to those underlying motivators. After you relate with her you should appreciate her for who she is. to see where your boundaries are. and being rude to you.  . Yes. Another example would be a parent disciplining their kids. opening up to you. let me give you an example of social learning theory and conditioning at work. So how do we use this to our advantage? It’s actually very simple. they get punished. This encourages her to do it more often. If you don’t set your standards early on they will step all over you. they’ll be conditioned to do things that would lead to them being rewarded. whenever they do something wrong. Whatever it was. But before I explain it. For example: You should reward her for giving you a compliment.

” Remember that you always have to involve her in the interaction. Involve me and I will carry them forever. It’s one of the most powerful tools in building an emotional connection. I suck her into my world. Here’s a question to help you figure out what you’re really passionate about in life. they don’t convey it in a way that’s interesting to women. Here’s what I call the life story tactic. It also builds trust. Here’s how you do it. “Tell me and I may remember. Not a lot of guys talk about the things that make them tick. Having passion is very attractive to women. The word regression means moving backwards. Before I do let me share this quote with you. and safety. If ever they do. I tell her the things I love to do and why I love to them. Show me and I will remember. Leading with your passion separates you from every other guy that’s tried to hit on her.leadInG WITh your passIons A lot of the so-called “pick-up artist” I’ve met are curious as to how I can captivate a woman by just being myself. Here’s my dirty little secret… I talk about the things I’m passionate about.  . comfort. What is it you would do for free if you never had to make money again? Emotional Connection Accelerator There are a lot of different ways to accelerate the process of building an emotional connection and my favorite one is regression. I won’t get into detail on this topic but I’d like to share with you a very effective technique to build an emotional connection. Being passionate about your passions (as funny as it sounds) is even more attractive to women.

She should know what your standards are. The end includes your present experience and your future plans.  . or sad. and future. right now. • Conversational Plowing. adventurous. meeting you” then she will walk away. She should have an idea of who you are and what you’re about early in the interaction. If a girl says “I have to go” and you say “nice. The more emotions the better. • Standard Interleaving. This can take somewhere between ten minutes to sometimes even the whole day. This is an advanced technique I use to quickly convey the things I’m passionate about thirty seconds into the conversation.Your life right now is separated into beginning. The beginning includes your childhood and middle school experience. she will not leave. It can be fun. • Identity Interleaving. The key is to exchange stories and go from childhood to future plans. This technique is very powerful and it solidifies the emotional connection instantly. middle. You should always move the conversation forward. I want you to come up with at least two to three stories for each phase of you life. Trust me on this one. she’s being rude. Tools you can use later down the road when you’ve mastered the basics. Mix it up. On the other hand if she says “I have to go” and you ignore the thread and talk about something else. and you can call her on it. She should know your rules on dating and relationships. As long as you keep talking she will stand there in front of you. You can do this directly or through storytelling. a Couple of effeCTIve ConversaTIonal Tools Here are several topics I’ll discuss briefly. She should know the things you love and your pet peeves as well. The middle includes your high school and college experience. How do you turn this into a system? Alright. mischievous. Now. you can start by asking her about her childhood or talking about yours. end. If she walks away.

A good resource for cold read is the Forer’s effect. On Storytelling Storytelling is very powerful if done right. go light again. adventurous. Always include a romantic spin after building an emotional connection.  . Here’s an example of fractionating: Talk about something light. • Preempting objections. Try searching that on Google or something. When you tell a story you communicate on both levels. etc. eye contact. romantic. Builds comfort and trust. kissing her.g. vocal tonality and projection. of course. Well if you’re one of them then you’re on your way to becoming successful. Constantly ask yourself this: What am I trying to communicate? Am I getting my message across? You want to demonstrate good qualities about yourself with the stories you tell people (e.• Cold reading. People usually don’t just go up to people and start telling stories. Telling a story builds comfort and trust because you’re opening up to somebody you don’t know. It’s a tool I use once in awhile. Tell her that you’re sad you met with no mutual friends to introduce you to each other. protector of the ones you love. This always steers the interaction toward the right path. demands respect. Say this after a high point in the interaction. Cold reading helps captivate her and builds familiarity instantly. Next. then go deeper. then make her laugh a little bit. Whatever objections she may have make sure to use them first. confident. This helps intensify the emotional connection that you’ve built. etc). story tellers. This is a brilliant way to ease into deeper topics. you need to check your body language. talking about fate and destiny. then go a little deep. They listen to what you say and how you say it. and that’s why you can’t hang out anymore. • Romantic spin. especially at times when the woman I’m talking to is hard to crack or if I’m in a hurry and I want to build a quick connection. Well some do and they’re either super social. trustworthy. and. • Fractionating. Some examples would be taking her on an instant date. or just used to talking people’s ears off. and your non verbal communication to see if you’re communicating all the right things like being comfortable in your own skin. ambitious. humorous. Why? It’s because learning how to express yourself is the first step in getting good at meeting women. then this time go a little deeper than you were before.

the presentation can still bomb. character development. you can give a guy who’s good at telling stories a very boring and ridiculously horrible story line and he can turn it in to something very interesting. Give him the best script created by the best minds in the world and when performance day comes. On the other hand. Let’s take for example a comedian and an actor. Every time you’re telling a story I want you to ask yourself these questions • Am I passionate about what I’m talking about? • Am I enthusiastic? • Am I paying attention to everyone that’s listening? • Am I relaxed and comfortable? • Is my voice loud enough? • Am I talking slow and clear? • Am I projecting the emotion I need to project through my voice? (If you’re telling a scary story sound scared. Probably the most important part of telling a story is your vocal projection and your delivery. engaging the senses.So let’s get to the important part How do you make a good story? Here are some terms that are important in storytelling and I’ll discuss only a couple of them Opening line. and emotional projection. if it’s suspense then use a lot of pausing) • Am I pausing at the right times? • Am I using a wide range of facial expressions?  . It can still suck. sequencing of events. What’s the difference between these two guys? The way they present it and he way they deliver.

) How did it make you feel? What lessons did you learn? 6. here’s a ConversaTIon I had In The pasT Grungey10: Hey. etc. Nice meeting you. I get that every time there’s a family get together..) The climax of your story. 3.) Describe what you were doing at that time. “out of nowhere”. as much as possible when you’re telling a story. Did your parents ever tell you about embarrassing stories when you were kid? Bookstore girl: Yeah. the funniest/craziest/most embarrassing/ wildest thing just happened to me yesterday/today/couple minutes ago. 1. who you were with. 4. (pause) 2. I’m Oliver. “then out of the blue”. interesting name.) Then slowly insert stuff like “and then I realized”. a light bulb just popped up in my head. Speaking of names. what you could see. 5. Now stop laughing at my baby name. It’s something they can relate too..So here’s a quick formula for a spontaneous story. Men usually communicate with logic while women value emotions more. and “surprisingly”. You want to engage all her senses. smell. Grungey10: Exactly. Grungey10: Lisa. Well can you believe that my name was supposed to be Amanda? Bookstore girl: Amanda?! (laughs) Grungey10: Yes. it gets bruised easily.. Amanda. Bookstore girl: (laughs)  . You want her to be able to relate to you.)* Then ask her* Does that ever happen to you? (throwing the ball back at her) You want to talk about emotions because you want to communicate on her level. I’m Lisa. hear. Bookstore girl: Oliver. “all of a sudden”.) OMG. feel.

Look at you. thank you very much....  . Bookstore girl: (Continues giggling) <Now I’m going to throw the ball back at her so she can invest more in the interaction> So what were you like as a kid? Was there anything your parents gave you a hard time about? Bookstore girl: Hmmmm. apparently. Hello... You know what I’m talking about right? Bookstore girl: You mean a sonogram? Grungey10: There you go! Good girl (briefly touches her shoulder). the doctor’s like “Ma’am.. it’s on the tip of my tongue.. she went to the doctor and she had this machine. and even a pink welcome banner hanging from the wall saying “Princess Amanda. your first born will be a girl”. uhm.... the one that detects the gender. she actually decked the whole room out with a “My little princess” theme in mind.. I remember him teasing me a lot about being a tomboy back in middle school. So the room was all pink! It had pink stuff toys. My mom holds me with tears in her eyes saying “Wow.Grungey10: Anyways. we don’t see anything moving down there. just for me. pink crib.. Bookstore girl: (laughs hysterically) Grungey10: No. Anyways. Bookstore girl: OMG (laughs) Grungey10: I know! Isn’t it funny? So what actually ended up happening was. Get this. Badoink!!! A moving “thing” down there?! She was devastated! I never heard the end of it.. So here it comes. we’re getting there. The moment of truth. after the sonogram.. it’s my beautiful little princess Amanda. Not so much my parents but my grandfather and I had a really strong bond when I was growing up. Say hello to mommy.. my mom always whips out the album with me dressed in a pink room all dressed in pink.. I was born and the doctor hands me over to my mom wrapped in a white towel. Hello...” Then she slowly unfolds the towel and then all of a sudden. Every time a friend comes over to the house. What happened next? Grungey10: All right. welcome to the family!” Bookstore girl: (Eyes get wide) Really?! That’s the funniest thing I’ve ever heard.. Grungey10: My mom got so excited that she started decorating one whole room in the house. Hello. this is not a laughing matter. all right... I don’t think you understand. which I do not find very funny. when my mom was 6 months pregnant.

If you have sisters then you’d know what I’m talking about. I could start building more familiarity by talking about my sisters. < I have a choice. and at the end of the day.> Bookstore girl: (smiles as she recalls) Back then I was a boy hater. try pausing for three seconds after she finishes her sentence. you see improvements in their lives. I went through that whole phase. I love going to a new place and learn everything about the culture there. At the same time. You’ll notice that women have a lot more to say when they don’t get interrupted. I can also build more substance by exploring what made her change but I chose to explore the subject of traveling.Grungey10: (nods head but keeps quiet) <It’s very powerful to pause and not be eager to fill in the silence in a conversation.> Grungey10: Boy hater? I better watch out for you now. Bookstore girl: Oh shut it (hits me in the arm). What do you accomplish when you’ve made a difference in the world? Let’s say you’re in Africa and you get to educate the kids there. <I’m going to build more substance now> Grungey10: I find it really interesting that you love helping people out. As an exercise. I might not even be safe here (smiles). Grungey10: Why would you live in Africa? Is it because you want to help out? Or do you just want to explore the place? Bookstore girl: I guess a little bit of both. where would you live? Bookstore girl: I’d live in Africa. I was also a very competitive kid. I’ve changed a lot since then. That was back then. how does it make you feel? 0 . It’s fulfilling for me. You see.> buIldInG faMIlIarITy & subsTanCe Grungey10: If you could live in any city in the world. < She gave me multiple topics to choose from. for a year. I’ve always wanted to make a difference in the world. I can pick any topic and start rolling with it. before responding to her.

. Artists are very creative. Only a few people actually live their lives to the fullest and at the same time. I love painting. You see them working with the “work”  .> Bookstore girl: Yeah. You see. or sometimes weeks to put a song together and it pays off bigtime. In the process they lose in touch with who they are and what they’re all about. A lot of people have forgotten the meaning of what it is to be passionate about something. We both put are minds and hearts into our work. At the end of the day. a day. I totally understand what you mean. They usually just live their lives with one thing in mind. I don’t think enough people appreciate you for that. It may take me an hour. I get the exact same feeling of satisfaction every time I finish writing a song. <After creating familiarity and substance. Bookstore girl. It’s something that I got into back when I was still seven.Bookstore girl: It makes me feel like I’m on top of the world. I better leave before I start to fall in love with you. Bookstore girl: That’s the sweetest thing anyone’s ever told me in the longest time (blushes). It’s something I’m really passionate about. It’s a stress reliever for me and at the same time I get to express myself through my work. Grungey10: What are you passionate about? Bookstore girl: Well. and that’s usually making a living or going to school. I guess satisfaction would be a better way to phrase it. songwriting is very much like painting. do the things they’re passionate about in life. Grungey10: You know what. It’s a rare thing. Grungey10: Bookstore girl. It’s the best job I’ve ever had. Grungey10. I just relax on my bed. This is when the magic begins. Not a lot of people understand what it takes to do what we do. They see things from a different perspective. playback the song I just made. < I’m going to start flirting and appreciating her> Grungey10: Wait a minute here. There must be a catch here. You love traveling and you’re an artist too?! This is way too perfect. They go to work or school and they change to fit the environment they’re in. I solidify the attraction by giving here a sincere compliment. let me tell you something. A lot of people might think it’s easy for us. You see a lot of people are imprisoned by their day to day activities. and for the most part they’re real.. and feel good about myself. You’re kidding right? I just have the biggest thing for artistic people.

it doesn’t even guarantee that you’ll get to see her again. I realized something very important. Well I go through my day-to-day activities with the biggest smile on my face because I get to be myself the whole day. You always want to leave on a positive note. I’d highly advise everyone to try it for even a week. I found that timing is very important when it comes to getting a woman’s number. I’ve noticed that most guys make their exit after they get a woman’s number. In their minds. This may take somewhere between 10 minutes to two hours. • You can return her number to her every time she does something to turn you off. One  . <Conversational cycle continues> The arT of GeTTInG phone nuMbers & seTTInG up daTes After hundreds of interactions. • Don’t leave after you get her number. Normally. It’s the same routine over and over again. If I’ll see the girl again then I won’t even get her number. Coffeeshop girl: I know exactly what you’re talking about. Some give their number away to get rid of the guy. I suggest staying for an extra five or ten minutes before you leave. Some give their number away with no intention of ever answering your call.face on. As a matter of fact. Some give their number away and save your number as “Weird & Creepy Guy. No matter how smooth you pull it off. Some give their number away because it’s fake. When you leave right after you get her phone number. When you get a woman’s number. Getting a number doesn’t really guarantee success. Women give their phone numbers for a variety of reasons. Then they go home and hit the sack. Some give their number away because it boosts their ego. Don’t be afraid to test new things out. Girls give their numbers to guys for various reasons. I’d like to share with you some of the things I learned. It’s actually something that I’ve been working on for awhile now. I’d like to actually get to know the girl first before I even get her number. they still have control of the interaction. But before I even get into that. it makes it seem that was all you were after. It’s the best thing ever. Do not answer”. they instantly know what’s going on. Numbers mean nothing if you haven’t done your job well.

I discovered that pacing would. If she doesn’t want to give you her number than just let it go. At this point she will either ask for my number or giggle. • Don’t try to bargain if she doesn’t give her number. If she still gives some excuse I say “Don’t get a big head now. At times when she tries to impress you. Some girls will throw your number away. at the peak of an interaction. It’s better to exchange numbers than to just give her your number. you’re really skilled at using the phone to your advantage. girl refuses. once again. Some girls might like you but forget to call you. • It’s better to exchange numbers. At the same time it demonstrates that you have standards. I’m just going to leave now. She’ll probably flake on you anyway even if she gave you her number. And some girls will simply just lose your numbers. It’s a really neat way of communicating “I could care less if I get your number or not”. would be useful after getting her number. but unfortunately I have to get going. • Pacing to avoid flaking. Some of the lines I’ve used are “Let’s exchange contact information” “Give me your number” “I really had fun talking to you.little trick you can do is to give her back her number every time she says something you don’t like. You job is to get her to want to give her number to you. then guy tried to bargain. I so have to hang out with you…” then I just continue talking about something else. you like classical art? That’s so cool. but since there appears to be an issue with it. It’s not going anywhere. • Tell her you want her number but don’t get it. That’s my cue to see where I am in the interaction. • Simple yet effective lines. When you give her your number. So it’s best always best to exchange number because it gives both of you the chance to call each other up. I just thought you were an interesting person and that you’d make a cool buddy. Guy ask for girls number. Any line will work if you say it at the right time. When you reach that point in the interaction. Guess what that does? It drastically decreases the chance of anything happening by 50%! Why. make you laugh. or after an emotion filled moment. Not unless. because not all girls will call you up. Some girls just never call guys up. I found that it’s very effective to display more interest in her. any line will work. Whenever they give me an excuse such as “Sorry. you leave it all up to her to make the move and give you a call back. I usually say something like “Wow.”  . how can we continue this conversation?” • Objection blaster. I’ve seen it happen hundreds of times. Pacing can be used to address future objections. I have a boyfriend” I usually just stare at her all confused and say “Yeah… and?”. It’s a downward spiral that leaves you lower than you were before.

you’re not some weird psychotic girl right? Cool. make sure to end the conversation on a high note” It doesn’t get better than this. Here’s a couple “You should wait at least three days before you call her. I really hate playing phone tag. I prefer to make plans before leaving the interaction.• Tell her exactly how it’s going to be. you’re pretty cool. You’ll come off way cooler. believe me I’ve tried. and on top of that you get to bowl. I’ll call you just once… and leave a message once.  . When you do answer I expect a really cool joke from you. It’s not everyday that I meet someone that I can just be real with. 80’s music. How long should you wait before you call? This sounds familiar doesn’t it? There are a lot of different opinions when it comes to the best time to call. It’s good to set up some rules right from the beginning. Go call her! And if she doesn’t pick up then call up two more times” “You should call her the day after you get her number. Then make it a point to be the first one to hang up or pretend that someone else is on the other line. trust me. Just act like it’s normal. every Wednesday. My suggestion would be to try everything until you find the one that works best for you. Have you ever gone cosmic bowling?! It’s the most fun thing in the world. “You should call her after a week or two. If all else fails. make sure to let her know you’ll be calling in the next couple of days” You must be wondering which strategy works best. • Finalize your plans before you leave. This technique has worked well for me. my friends and I love to bowl at Golden Pins. That’s it. It usually goes something like this “You know what. They have these huge crystal disco lights. It will communicate that you have a life and that you are not needy” “You should call her on the same day so that she gets comfortable talking to you. Stuff like “Ok. Tell her what time you’ll call her and how to respond to you over the phone. If you don’t have any. It really depends on the situation. you should come join us. but wait a minute. What more can you ask for? We do this every Wednesday. then you owe me vanilla flavored ice cream on a cone…” You can go anywhere with this technique. After you talk to her. They all work. It’s fun”. Listen. It will really communicate that you have more important things to do.

 . and emotional connection that’s been built all throughout the interaction. Let’s say I’ve collected around 12 solid numbers in two weeks. The others eventually responded after my follow up routine. there’s that one girl that never picks up her phone. Give it a shot for two weeks then switch. I used in the past. That’s pretty good considering the fact that I’ve only got so much free time on my hands. Occasionally. See which ones work best for you. There’s no rush to call her up soon because you’ll see her over and over again. Traditional Method Call her after three days Space your calls out and have at least three to four days in between them Ask her out on the first or second call This method works best on girls within your social circle. That includes multiple dates within that day. I would say two out of every four girls answered on the first call. Aggressive Method Call the numbers up the day you get them You can call the next day and the day after to follow up Call at unpredictable hours of the day Varying time limit on each call Ask her out later on For some reason this method worked best on cold approaches. Let me ask you this… What’s your strategy? Let me suggest this… Try everything out. in order to find out which strategy worked best.Here is a simple strategy. What do I mean by solid? I’ve spent an average of about 45 minutes to 2 hours with them.

8 TIps for an unforGeTTable fIrsT daTe
The tips I’m about to share with you are priceless. It took me years to figure some of them out. Most guys don’t know what to do on a first date. Don’t be generic. “Would you like to go to dinner and a movie with me sometime?” I don’t want to hear that coming out of your mouth anytime soon. OK? That’s what every other guy does! The last thing you want is to be like everyone else. There are lots of other things to do besides that. Save that idea for a later date. Something you’re passionate about. Are you passionate about sports? Singing? Shooting guns? Surfing? Art? Rollerblading? Anything at all? Bring her in to your world. Do the things you’re passionate about with her, on a first date. The best part about is that you can teach her how to do these things, if she doesn’t know how. Accessible- You don’t want to take her to the mountains located two hours from you. You want somewhere near and accessible. Fun & Exciting. Some of the best dates I’ve had were in amusement parks. It’s fun. It’s exciting. It provides the both of you with the same experience you can bond on. Plus, the emotions you experience will bring the two of you closer to each other. Unpredictable. Don’t tell her where you’re going. Tell her it’s a surprise. Get back to your place early on. Find an excuse to get back to your place early on. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable and to get that step out of the way. I do this by saying “These shoes are killing me, I just need a second…” drive to your house and say “Alright, I’ll give you a quick tour, we can only stay for five minutes cause we’re running on a schedule”. I go in the house, change my shoes, and rush her out of the house after giving her the tour. I don’t crowd her space. I don’t go for the kiss. I just relax and really just give her a tour of the house. This serves two purposes. Makes her trust me more and gets her comfortable in my house. Go to the supermarket. Take her with you to do groceries. Two techniques you can use. You can pick up a cookbook and have her pick up ingredients with you so she can help you cook. Another thing I like to do is to get some ice cream. Unfortunately I have to get it back to the house before it melts. AHA! Either way, you end up going back to your house or hers. 

Ideas For Second Dates Theme parks The beach Picnics Shooting range Cooking classes Sporting events Grocery shopping Flying kites in the park Comedy clubs Dance lessons Art galleries Rollerblading Go cart Wine tasting Wall climbing

on CreaTInG a sexual vIbe
Creating a sexual vibe gets her ready for the kiss. You must learn how to project sexuality. Sexuality can be projected by the way you talk, look at her, touch her, and the way you present yourself. It’s mostly non-verbal communication. This is the next level you need to master. Here are some of the ways you can project a sexual vibe. The way you look at her. Look at her in that sexual “You know what’s about to happen” kind of way. You can do stuff like staring at her eyes while biting your lower lip then looking back at your eyes. You need to be able to turn on your bedroom eyes and sexual smile in a snap of a finger. The way you talk to her. Slow down. Slow down. Slow down. Lower the volume of your speech. Try speaking like you’re saying something really profound. Whisper in her ear at some point in the interaction. The way you touch her. Hold her hand at key points in the interaction. It’s important to have some kind of body contact. Begin to face her directly. Place your hand in her inner leg and gently stroke it. Knees or feet touching each other. Stroke her hair while looking at her lips. Incorporating Pausing. Pause in between words to create a sexual and intriguing vibe. 

I Can’t Believe I’m Sharing This With You I came up with a strategy to project sexuality quickly. As a matter of fact, I only teach this in my Day Game University Boot Camp. So let me ask you just one favor. Please don’t teach this method to anyone. Ok, maybe a friend or two, but no more than that. Deal? Good, now that we got that out of the way. Here’s what I call the Airplane Method I want you to think about the two hottest women in the world. It can be an actress, model, friend, or make believe women. Don’t continue reading unless you have your two hottest women. Now, imagine that you’re in a private jet plane. You own the plane. It’s yours. You’re relaxing and leaning back with your feet stretched comfortably. Your pants are down and one of the hottest girls is sucking your penis while the other one is sucking your balls. Now how do you feel? I really want you to put yourself in this situation so you know what I’m talking about. Now let’s say someone calls you over the phone. How will you talk to them? Would it be fast? Or all slow and sexual? Here’s how I learned this technique. A couple of years ago, I met my good friend Asian playboy, who specializes in picking up women in bars and clubs. When this guy spoke, he just had this seductive and sexual presence and for the longest time I couldn’t figure out how he did it. Until one day, I thought to myself, what could this guy be thinking? I mean he gets laid a lot, and he’s good at what he does. What’s his secret? Then it suddenly occurred to me. AHA! He must be thinking about being in an airplane with two hot women going down on him. That’s probably what it is! There’s no other explanation I can think of! Thus, the airplane method was born. Props to Asian playboy. TRY THIS OUT Next time, before you go for the kiss, you should try the airplane method and talk all sexual for 5-10 minutes. This builds the stage up for the kiss. 

You should kiss her before the day ends.3 and if she’s still lookg at you. Slowly move in for the kill. Here’s a sample progression I’ve used in the past. • Three second rule. • Nothing else exists. Put her hair behind her ear and lightly stroke the side of her face. that it’s going to be a sexual relationship. You usually feel butterflies in your stomach.2. while you slowly tilt your head. Nothing else matters. then that’s your cue to go for a kiss. I make her stop to talk to me. It’s almost too obvious to meet. Women are eager for the kiss as much as you are. • You don’t need words. let the whole world just fade away. superMarKeT To The bedrooM: The naTural proGressIon There’s a natural progression of how I like to do things. Start looking deeply at her eyes. and you know that it’s time. Here are some important pointers that will be helpful for you. investment. early on. • Explore her eyes. Nobody else. First. It’s just you and her that exist. froM Coffee shop. and connection as I need before I try to escalate things further. Mall. If she’s walking away from me. don’t look away. If she’s walking. I built as much comfort. quite a number of times. The best part about this approach is that you don’t need words. I approach the girl I want right away. • Put her hair behind her ears. It’s something you’ll learn to do.When & hoW To KIss her Kissing on the first day sets the stage. if you play your cards right. There’s a window of opportunity that opens up sometime in the interaction. In that moment. you’ll start to get a feel of EXACTLY when you should go for it. Do you know that moment when you run out of words to say and your eyes are locked on hers? Next time that happens. I make sure she hears me running towards  . I want you to ccount 1. After you get into that situation.

It varies. with no mutual friends to introduce us to each other.her. We prepare dinner together. After I establish some kind of connection. 0 . I just kiss her. At other times. I ask her to sit down with me. I will not tolerate disrespect and sexual harassment especially from women. I know it’s going to be hard for you. I’m sorry we met like this. If at anytime you even slightly try to grab my ass… it’s over. I discovered that if you make fun of uncomfortable situations. but just try hard to resist the urge ok? I’m not that easy” It’s a little funny piece that takes the tension out of the scenario. Someone you can just talk to about anything and everything. and then set up another date with her. So. and shop for clothes. Tell you what. I say “Oh. Let’s go grab something to eat. After all this. I’m going to sit down over there. After I’ve established enough investment on her part. Before entering the door to my house. play arcade. You get the point. I’m hungry. I pull out my phone. I usually say something like “My legs are dying. After eating I make it a point to do other things. call it a day.” We go some place to eat. We talk more. This usually demonstrates that I’m fearless and exciting. after we buy groceries. getting ready to leave. we go back to my place to prepare dinner. punch the number 9-1-1 in and say “Look at this number. Get to know each other a little bit and begin to open up. You’re not going to be one of those awesome girls that I meet and never see again. If she’s inside her car. I almost forgot. I do stuff like walk around the mall with her. it’s grocery day today” and then we head out to the supermarkets. I knock on the window and start talking to her. Let’s go…” she usually complies. then it becomes comfortable. All these crazy things you’d do when you were young. relax and discuss deep topics is when you’re sitting down. Sometimes I even take them on an instant movie date where we sneak out in the middle of the movie and go watch another movie. I’d prefer to see how far I can take it. Sometimes. and then I stop her and make her turn around to talk to me. I say something like “I’m really glad I met you. I usually talk about deeper topics when I’m sitting down. like couples do. I’m dialing this number. It’s pretty rare to meet someone you can just be real with. The perfect time to lean back.

but I’m feeling so good. I always pull away first and give her an excuse why we should stop. We eventually start kissing and rolling over the bed. I don’t put out that easily. From this point. I hate to put you down but. I do this a couple of times till clothes start to come off.From here on I just build as much tension as I can. At the same time. At this point my back is turned toward her and I start to do fake snores. All I am is a big piece of tease”. she’s usually not sure whether I like her or not.. Here’s the key piece of the puzzle. From here we start to cuddle. it should be a done deal. Then later on in the night. and give her space to chase. I act as if everything is normal. Just minutes after it gets really hot and heavy. I play the frame that “I’m a good boy. I used to try to seduce her and touch her as much as I could the moment she walked through the door.. In that moment. see you tomorrow”. she usually ends up doing just that. I’m off to bed. I pump up her emotions by saying things like “I know what you’re thinking. Then I learned that if you just leaned back. For you. When she reaches her boiling point and all the clothes are off. and I need to stop before it gets really far”. before she even has a chance to do so. I pull away and pretend to sleep. I jump right into my bed and I tell her “Goodnight. she’s way too invested and aroused to even pull back. After that’s done. increase her desire.  . I pull of childish behavior like initiating pillow and water fights. I just unleash the beast and take full control of the situation. I treat her the same way I would treat my buddy. At this point.

and managing relationships)  Tips On How to be Happy Be optimistic and outgoing (positivism) Have close friendships and meaningful relationships (Build your social circle) Work or leisure that engage your skills (fun time) Have something to believe in (foundation) Sleep well and exercise (taking care of yourself) Having a high self esteem (healthy relationship with self) “ If you don’t know where you are going. You need to become a master of all four stages Stage 1: Becoming Social and Expressing your personality Stage 2: Learning how to make her invest in the interaction (emotional.Words of WIsdoM There are four stages you will go through in your journey to get this part of your life handled. time. physical. going on an instant date. Who you will become depends on the things you do today. social) Stage 3: Learning how to handle logistics (getting her number.  .” Where are you in your life right now? What are your goals? Long term and short term? Create a plan Don’t give up until you see results Who you are is the product of the past. getting her back to your house) Stage 4: Beyond the pick-up. second dates. you will probably wind up somewhere else. (phone game.

Balance Is Key In order to achieve happiness and live up to your full potential. you must become congruent with the three main aspects in your life: Be good at what you do Enjoy what it is you do Feel a sense of fulfillment while you do it  .

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