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Lesson 5 - Abigail: No Victim of Circumstances
Posted: 30 Oct 2010 05:00 AM PDT Introduction: Think about the people who seem to get along with everyone. What allows them to get along? Is that something you could possess? What they have is called "emotional intelligence," and you can learn to have it. Our lesson this week is about a smart, beautiful, practical and emotionally intelligent woman named Abigail. Her story introduces us to the Bible-based rules of emotional intelligence. Let's plunge into our study of the Bible to learn more! 1. The Main Characters
Read 1 Samuel 25:1-3. What do we know about David, Nabal and Abigail? (Samuel is
David's primary witness that he has been anointed to be King of Israel. Now Samuel has died. After Samuel's death, David immigrates to Maon where Nabal lives. Nabal is rich. He is also mean and surly in his business affairs. Abigail, Nabal's wife, also lives in Maon. She is smart and beautiful.)
Do you know beautiful and intelligent women who are married to rich and surly men?
How does that work out?
The Business Dispute
Read 1 Samuel 25:4-6. Assume that some young men come to your door and say, "Long life
to you! Good day and good health to you and your family!" What would be your reaction? (I
Does David have a moral claim on Nabal's profits? 4.) 1.) 3.would think. Does David have a legal claim on Nabal's profits? (No. How would you like to give us some money for that because we see that you are cashing in on your business profits and no doubt you are in a good and generous mood?" 1. Would you think you were being visited by the Mafia? 2. If David's men can make the trip to collect their claim. That gives David the moral argument that if his men had not protected Nabal's animals. Let's jump ahead to gather a little more information about whether David and him men have a moral claim. "What are you selling?") B. David's men protected them. What is Nabal's answer to David's request for part of the profits? . Nabal would have lower profits.) Read 1 Samuel 25:10-11. why didn't David show up months before to enter into an agreement with Nabal to protect his animals in exchange for some of the profit? D. Assume that some immigrants come to your home and say "We did not mistreat your employees or steal your stuff. Let's consider this message. What do you think "a wall around us all the time" means? (Nabal's shepherds were in the wilderness where they would naturally suffer some loss from the hostile surroundings. (No. Read 1 Samuel 25:14-16. Does David have a "feel good" claim on Nabal's profits? C. Read 1 Samuel 25:7-9.
Re-read 1 Samuel 25:8. There is no need to insult . Why do you think Nabal misses the main issue? (It could be because he assumes that David helped protect his herds.) b. Notice that when we skipped ahead. Read Proverbs 13:16. David asks Nabal to talk to his shepherds to get accurate information about his request.) a. surly and mean come as package in some people. but David has no authority to enforce his claims. Or. as mentioned in the introduction. If Nabal knew from where David had immigrated." How would you rate Nabal on his emotional intelligence? a. What counsel do we find about decision-making? 2. specifically. Did you know that most employees get fired because they cannot get along. Nabal decides to give David nothing because David is a nobody. What. He does not discuss the main issue . we found that Abigail does that later. it could be that Nabal is not only surly and mean.1. Let's explore this a bit more. on what basis does Nabal make his decision? (It is a very odd bit of thinking in today's business world. is called "emotional intelligence. not because they are incompetent to do their job? 1.has David performed services that deserve payment?) a. Has Nabal done that? (No. would it have made a difference? E. Stupid. he is so stupid that he cannot arrive at the real issue. The ability to get along with others. is Nabal doing that is emotionally unintelligent? (Most of what he says is simply insulting David. Not having any first-hand information.
Is David showing emotional intelligence? 1. Read Proverbs 12:16. David's Response A. Read 1 Samuel 25:12-13. Why do you think that the servant went to Abigail? (No doubt because she had some sense. I'm going to assume that he is not involved in some sort of shakedown of Nabal. Read Proverbs 18:19. Proverbs 24:19 and Proverbs 19:11. Let's read some Bible-based principles of emotional intelligence: a.) B. How is Nabal doing on the Bible-based rules of emotional intelligence? 3. I think David is reacting to the insults. and the fact that God chose him to be the future King of Israel. Is David really like the Mafia? 1. Read 1 Samuel 25:14-17. Proverbs 20:3 and Proverbs 11:17. Instead. Why do you think he has this reaction? (Because of what we know about David generally.) 2. Abigail's Response A.David in making the business decision or in giving a reply.) . What does the Bible say about David's emotional intelligence? 4.
What does Abigail understand that Nabal does not? (That the insults towards David are the problem.1. Abigail is showing David's importance by giving him many gifts of food. and not the safety of the servants? (Nabal has insulted David by not giving him any food. But what you have in mind is simply . Nabal would not have taken Abigail's advice. She is doing all she can to show that David is worthy of praise and honor. What point is Abigail making with the food? 1. the Mafia? Those herds are ours and I'm willing to pay for your help. Why does she ride along behind? Is this for her safety. "What are you guys. Consider that the servant is telling Abigail what to do.) C. Proverbs 13:10 and Proverbs 19:20.) B." he would simply have abused her for her actions. What do you think about the fact that Nabal doesn't take advice and Abigail does? (Read Proverbs 12:15. Read 1 Samuel 25:18-19. she showed emotional intelligence by taking advice. She showed further emotional intelligence (Proverbs 13:16) by seeking to act based on knowledge.) a.) 1. Proverbs 21:24 and Proverbs 9:7-8. Read 1 Samuel 25:23-28. Is it good or bad that she did not tell her husband what she was doing? (Read Proverbs 18:1. Could Abigail have reasonably said. If you were Abigail. The fact that Nabal never takes advice is further evidence that he lacks emotional intelligence. She rides behind so that David will see the presents first. Should she be insulted? 2. As a "mocker. Abigail could have been insulted. would you ride toward David or would you gather as many of your possessions as you could and ride the opposite way? 2. Instead.
Reviling him would be a big mistake. . Friend. Copr.criminal!" (Read Proverbs 11:2 and Ecclesiastes 10:20. 1978.) D. Pray for the guidance of the Holy Spirit as you study. J. copr. Read 1 Samuel 25:36-40.) F. Cameron. Next week: Uriah: Faith of a Foreigner. How does the story end for the emotionally intelligent wife and the emotionally unintelligent husband? (Abigail trades mean and surly for the next King. Quotations from the NIV are used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers. 1973.) E. Suggested answers are found within parentheses. 1984 International Bible Society. Bruce N. unless otherwise noted. It seems to be a pretty good trade. have you considered whether you act in an emotionally intelligent way? If not.D. Abigail showed emotional intelligence by being humble and by avoiding giving insult to those in authority. How has Abigail's emotional intelligence served Abigail? (It arrested David's anger and brought out David's own emotional intelligence. David was to be the next king. Read 1 Samuel 25:32-35. why not study Proverbs to increase your emotional intelligence and increase your success in life? 5. The prior argument would express pride. 2010. All scripture references are to the New International Version (NIV).
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