Why men lie And the women cry?

Allan & Barbara Pease

C Allan and Barbara Pease, 2003 translation Jorgesen Pedro Junior preparation of original Regina da Veiga Pereira Review José Tedin Pinto Sergio Soares Bellinello cover and illustrations Mattievich Silvana graphic design and editing of kernels Marcia Raed photolite RR Donnelley Latin America - Premedia / Dip Print Cromosete Gráfica e Editora Ltda CIP-BRAZIL. CATALOGING-IN-SOURCE. National Union of EDITORS OF BOOKS P375P Pease, Allan Why men lie and women cry? /

Allan and Barbara Pease; translation of Peter Jorgensen Junior. - Rio de Janeiro: Sextante, 2003. Translation: Why men lie and women cry ISBN 85-7542-063-1 1. Man-woman relations. 2. Sex - Differences (Psychology). 3. Sexual role. r. Pease, Barbara. LI. Title. All rights reserved by EDITORA Sextante / GMT EDITORES LTDA. Volunteers of the Nation Address, 45 - Gr 1404 - Botafogo 22270-000 - Rio de Janeiro RJ Te!.: (21) 2286-9944 - Fax: (21) 2286-9244 Customer: 0800-22-6306 E-mail: atendimento@esextante.com.br www.esextante.com.br 03-0645. CDD 306.7 CDU 392.6

Contents Introduction Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Chapter 2 SEVEN THINGS THAT MAKE MEN WOMEN DEIXA IRONING BOARDS Chapter 3 Why women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Chapter 4 THE SYSTEM OF ULTRA-SECRET SCORE ruin of women as a man of the week Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION OF THE SEVEN MAJOR MYSTERY MEN Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE Chapter 8 "You think I am FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie?

Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Chapter 10 WHAT DOES THE EYES OF MEN skip the power of female sexual attraction Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN Chapter 13 When the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement Acknowledgments Bibliography

In three decades of studies and research on the differences between men and women . sharing information at conferences . even after spending a weekend fishing in the entire company. Today we know the evolutionary and biological reasons that explain why men can only do one thing at a time. we developed practical solutions to help you tune the right channel in communication with the opposite sex. phone calls and emails came from people perplexed by the behavior of the opposite sex. Why Men Lie and Women cry? attempts to answer the questions that are hammering the head of women to one in the morning. Of them also look at questions such as: "Why women do not go to the chase". The men never worry about the future until they find a wife. why cry to get what they want? Why insist on a subject to death? Why not take the sexual initiative more often? In the twentieth century and one. the disagreements and conflicts between the sexes are still so present in our lives as the first time that Adam and Eve falling out. that like to "play to pick mature green". It also seeks to elucidate the problems which the man is beat-to ten in the morning of Sunday. Why Men Lie and Women cry? draws attention to things that are beyond obvious to most . why not stop the car to ask for guidance. science can explain why women talk so much.Introduction Born naked. surveys. that want to get to know all details about the people around you and that rarely take the initiative to do sex. for they have habits and mannerisms that make women so angry and they do not know almost nothing of the life of your friends. "Why do I have to collect half of my floor to ten hours of a Sunday morning ".analyzing miles of film and recordings. in addition to our experience. when out of bed without getting themselves or their partners speak with them. Chinese Proverb Why do men lie? Why they think they must always be the reason? Why avoid it undertakes? And women. So decided to write Why Men Lie and Women cry? Catalog the forty most frequently asked questions from readers around the world demand-and we answer them by using. of the genus: "Why men devour the other women with the eyes?" and "Why are they all the time saying what I do and I think". wet and hungry. Women worry about the future to find a husband. that hate to go shopping. Then things get worse. and frustrated by not knowing deal with the situation. Today. The car-tas. giving interviews on TV. "Why do women complain all the time?". scientific studies and our current sense. writing books. research. From there.thousands of times we were asked to rate certain behaviors of men and women.

The problem is that women seemed to know what and where they were going. bewildered and confused. You can not deny that this kind of thing that most men perceive as open hostility contributes largely to the depressed state that seems to be slaughtered on a whole generation. And as few of them understand the thrill of seeing and reviewing the replay of a move. it is unlikely that a man understands that the discovery of a brand of clothing in a counter settlement is one of the most extraordinary things that can happen to a woman. During general rations. In the last quarter of the twentieth century. secretary. Men often do not seem to understand the rules of the game. Life seemed simple. as women gain more and more freedoms. Women and men were angry. You may have noticed that many women seem to have a biological need to buy decorative pillows and change the storage of furniture for men stumble when they arrive at home at dawn. If a woman slapped a man in public. in the 1960s. smarter and more fans of the cause of equality. the roles were clearly defined. The man knew what were their responsibilities and the wife knew her. while a man who did the same was accused of enemy women. Just thinking of you receiving an e-mail. the relationships and the families began to live a great tension. A woman who protest against inequality was the object of sympathy. The men are insecure about their own identity and they . his word was law and their areas of decision were clear. as many men feel left behind. everything began to change. everyone assumes that it is that is wrong.people. Suddenly. The man was the head of the family and the primary responsibility for its upkeep. the feminists have been given more say and more successes. The woman was mother. Why are things so difficult for men and women? Today. teacher or social worker. The number of copy-of disparaging about men grows every day. Since. with the Japanese heading the list. the suicide rate among women fell by more than 34%. Still. lady-ofhome. The rate of suicides among young men and old is now the largest in history. while among men increased by 16%. See the latest walks that circulated among women and that most men considered extremely demoralizing and threatening: What is the definition of a man? A support for a penis. often considering the man as the enemy to be defeated. the focus of the discussion is still the cross that women in this car-water life. be a man became an arduous task. Serials and the TV business started to show the men as incompetent idiots in front of women superior. he was the protector and provider.

these women play the roles of mother. the treacherous curves and dead ends. Today. . This we do conclude that women pay more attention to relationships than men. But things are too difficult for women. Generally. They now suffer from ulcers. It is an unnatural situation. In general.lack examples to be followed. the theme of these books are the men. the female brain is programmed to nurture. The men have the feeling that women want what they think and behave like them. fighting. providing material and solve problems. without the need for any special preparation or study. Sometimes the thing is so difficult that it is best to go right to not be seen as a failure. its way of thinking and their scale of priorities. or give the quick relationships because think of how women think and act very complicated. Only men and women assume that one day will appear a perfect relationship. And it is true in many ways. We call the other sex of "opposite" for good reason . In Britain. in complete disagreement with our basic human needs and biological. even know them all. while a man never understand any woman. only 7 in 300 students. just know a single man to understand all men. Studies offered by new techniques of magnetic resonance imaging of the brain confirms this fact. Consequently. their mistakes and what to do to improve them. is often infuriate and are getting increasingly lonely. father and provider. just as always happened with men. It is estimated that bulimia affects 4 to 5% of the university. Most marriage counselors and therapists are also women. Take care of relationships is not a natural function of the male psyche. It is estimated that 25% of all women in the western world will be standing in the single year 2020. Women often make the mistake of believing that because a man loves. As a result. healthy and rewarding. But the truth is that both men and women want good relationships. heart disease and other diseases related to stress. educate and provide love and affection of people's lives. We are all very confusing. For a woman. against one in fifty men headed by the same situation. he also has to understand it. Except that he usually does.even when they want. Most books on human relations is written by women and over 80% of its audience is composed of women. that the brains of men and women have been programmed for different functions and priorities. This book provides a map to help them move through this maze which transformed the relationship and identify the slippery slopes. about 50% of women working in the western world .we are really opposites. Man evolved with a completely different program .hunting. protecting. Feminism began calling attention to inequalities between genders and promising free women from the shackles that had imprisoned the stove. men are working or not or a little. Women of today are superatarefadas. therefore. Why men and women have so many problems? The woman developed as defender of the dam and offspring. one in five households is headed by a woman alone. It is.

Women say men want sensitive. Unfortunately. The rate of divorces in Britain. "and deals with aspects of life that most people never think or simply do not understand. if couples who did not get married. Not realize they need to be sensitive in relation to women's feelings. For other animals. At any given time. The behavior of equipment and scenarios we describe in this book apply to all people all the time. working and loving the opposite sex. If you write the words "relationship" and "sex" site on a search of the Internet. who also teaches women techniques to identify and meet the desires men. 700% of divorces begin with marriage Why Men Lie and Women cry? this is an opportunity for you to eliminate turnover a little .HELEN ROWLAND We are the only species that have permanent problems with the court. it chooses which one you like more tentacles and gives the green light. collecting and comparing information and research on the relationship between the sexes. but hard and Manly in other situations. your life must be very happy. the female enters estrus. who kill their partners just after mating. the ritual of mating and the relationship . men need to learn some techniques that will find this book. In this work trying to establish universal themes. evolved so that today we know the best way to deal with the opposite sex to have any chance to lead a happy life and enjoy a share of pleasure. and soothsayer. We. female and never considering discover is too fat. but do not want to be too sensitive. we see that most people still do not understand during a good part of the time. now exceed the mark of 50% in the first four years of marriage and. If you get along with most people most of the time. It is a simple animal with a tiny brain. it is reasonable to assume that the rate of separation among couples is somewhere between 60 and 80%. To move through this maze. know the rules and follow them faithfully. To write this book. the males approach moving its tentacles. She never accused him of not giving him attention and he is not thinking it was good for her as for him. Humans. for example.the other species already have everything planned out and is very good. not longing for a sex champion. The octopus is another good example. There are around or brother in-laws want to advise. relationships procedures are guided by the need for direct survival of each species. are infinitely complicated. The black widow. working.just do. however. traveled for more than thirty countries. They do not think about it . in English only.714 references. Men do not understand very well this subtle difference. define common problems and finally present practical solutions. comes after the Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love. Around the world Why Men Lie and Women cry? is the step that in the relationship ladder. much less the differences between male and female. however. excitement and enrichment that a good relationship is able to provide. get 36. be living together. that never discussed sex or how to get there. Whose stories are real principles apply to most people most of the time of their relationships with the opposite sex. to help them make things better fluírem.

friends or neighbors. mother.the women and men. The French will not understand anything. son. If you only speak English and is visiting France. It may be easier. The result is that our relationship with those who are coming in has improved significantly and. in English is no good asking a typical British dish. People are impressed when they see that we strive to understand them and communicate with them. The locals will love and be superprestativos.. "Will I have to change sex?" People often ask us: "You are telling me that I should think. Experience first hand We. He explains the behavior of "other sex". people like us." and "Barbara said-10. faithful love and great friends of each other. It is a book full of common sense and scientific facts presented in a well-humored and easy assimilation. the problem of communication is resolved. It is a huge gain and relief to both. cousins. profit and fun. but taking the average. it comes with an instruction manual. brothers. The allegation was that the women use the book to pursue them saying "Allan said that .. the woman will be much easier to understand and accept their behavior and mental processes. but we feel that hit most of the time with most people. in turn. wishing to provide you a balanced view of the relationship between man and woman. going very well. sisters. in general. the authors.. be impartial." Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? obtained a great success among women of all nationalities and we are well aware that some have of the gift to his men saying poignantly: "You must read . anguish and confusion of his life. even if you fall a little in the words.. Once you understand the evolution of man. But if you buy a book of translated phrases that teach you the basic words and phrases in another language. The man. daughter. Nothing is perfect. relatives. speak and act like the opposite sex?" In no event. The research we did on the various themes of this book and the very act of writing it gave us a more complete understanding of ourselves and our parents. looking as much as possible. Why Men Lie and Women cry? is an instruction manual to help understand the opposite sex and know what buttons to obtain the best squeezing result. We are also parents of four beautiful children.of the suffering. How to give this book as a gift After the worldwide success of our latest book Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? (more than six million copies sold in 33 languages to the present).. When you buy a cell phone. believes the path where the woman. they are companions. neighbors and colleagues. Not always hit. it gives you satisfaction. can also benefit from their experiences and their views. Once you learn to do this work and schedule it for the functions you want. Learning a second language To be successful with the opposite sex you need to speak two languages . some men have to be hampered in their lives. are very well married. In Why Men Lie and Women cry? also rely on our personal experiences. father.

They say a woman is great because you can talk to a person of the opposite sex without having to imagine them naked. But we doubt . follow by learning to understand. and the taxi stop at your beck.especially the parts that I marked for you read. personality and give the wrinkles price of undergarment is absolutely reasonable. They say man is great. congratulations! . because our book! BARBARA & ALLAN PEAS . leaving her injured and disconcerted. And finally . You dance with a frog in a blender opinion and is not required to have erection. Enjoy. because a slight belly and gray hair to give a certain charm. Mark the pages you want and let him read the book on the coffee table or the bathroom. Nobody talks to you looking at their breasts and you do not need to go to beauty salon to prepare for a social meeting. So if you.. is man.this! read from beginning to end .Know that is part of a minority that wants to understand how women think and act. to shop with absolute objectivity. thinking that the woman is trying to show that he is not good the way it is. Perhaps the book refuses saying simply "I do not need any of it". Maybe women would like to see racing of self-mobile. If you are a woman. can be excused by male heads when involved in its mysterious gynecological disorders.at least with regard to coming millennia. Meanwhile. " When a woman gives a gift to another a book on personal development. and men have to go once a month in a simulator of TPM. one that receives feel honored and grateful to have gained something that will help it to grow. is perhaps more prudent to ask your man to his opinion on the advice of the book. the women only speak for the business and the men only read Playboy for its literary value. The toilet seats to be set.. And be rewarded with love and affection. Maybe one day men and women may be similar. But a man might feel insulted. because men love to give opinions. reader. manage and enjoy our differences.

tease. In most cases. annoy. berate. which is why their suffering companion deserves all the sympathy. above all. especially women. Men from all over the place "to complain mania" at the top of the list of your dislikes individuals. can serve to keep them alive. a husband who has a hammer head of the wife. fix what is broken. has been enhanced by reducing the penalty of imprisonment by a judge who felt he was led to commit the violence because the woman was too morose. the male brain hears only one thing: "There she is complaining again. . not abusing the drink.and politely reminding women the way to when they forget. but men rarely see it the same way. dominate (the husband). difficult to handle. the cantankerousness can even be considered constructive. however. In very small doses. the claims it will consume the soul and can generate over time a fierce resentment. molest. is something that society sees an entirely different way. until one day the plug fall. Generally. causing him permanent brain damage. tell when it is delayed. to do regular exercises and tests for cholesterol? Demand in certain situations. who calls all the time. but it is always for the good of women. show how much they care about them. She knows that is annoying. Advice as "always check your bank! How many times do I have to say?" and "It gives you a bit more care of their appearance when my friends come to our house?" are repeated with admirable persistence and. In Hong Kong. provoke. complain and complain. does not care to continue complaining. Currish is a term traditionally used by men to describe women. Women also think that claim is how they worry about them. How they think that their complaints are justified. Currish: individuals. quarrel. The friends also did not think she is morose . Yes. dirty clothes and take towrope them wet the ground. women do not feel morose. men do not complain. they criticize. They think they are confined to their men to remember the things they have to do: meet its share of household chores. selfish. The woman alleges the man to leave a trail of chaos is where. The morose man. and are natural leaders all the time conveying their knowledge ." Like a dripping faucet. Only in the United States are more than two thousand cases per year for men who kill their wives have been arguing that the complaints brought to them. by wetting the entire bathroom when taking a shower and by spreading the newspaper while you read. but think the men can only take things repeating and repeating the same instructions. get fungus in cangote.Chapter 1 The cantankerousness When a person does not stop complaining Fiddle-faddle: annoy. In our culture. roast the patience. even if that is annoying. they see defects. bother. fill the bag.for them the man is yob. however. torment. when the woman starts to repeat his orders. take the drugs. They are assertive. irritate. Where would many men without a woman warning them not to take beer or eat sandwiches too.

he is never satisfied. It hours that I am not so. calling me saying that I have some more for others than for him. the U. If I do not clean. If I do not want sex at the time he wants. women have always appeared as a morose. If I go to clean dinner with his friends. The number of times that she was immersed depended on the severity of the offense and / or the number of previous convictions. as people who complain non-stop. Should not be so . a man who is self" Jeremy Dominated "sent us the following e-mail: "I need help from you. The cantankerousness through time Throughout history. My colleagues say that their women also complain to them all the time. and I just early for him to shut up. The time that I get at home until the time when I go to sleep. Sometimes I think that it is impossible to hit.The cantankerousness women vs The whining of men The women complain. " Third woman: "So why do men say that women patience to roast them with their complaints? General laughter. she was sentenced to "chair of immersion. If the charge was proved. its objections and complaints. Until the nineteenth century. Be listening to the complaints it causes me stress as a violent headache that starts in the car. and Europe has allowed the man complained about the implications of the judge or "cantankerousness" of his wife. In the literature. " A group of women we had dinner in a restaurant heard the following conversation was about their husbands: Blonde: "Yeah. month and since we got married. it is whine. but very short. but I did not believe it until I married. week. she is claiming the whole time without stopping. The woman was tied infringing on a chair hanging on the edge of a mobile arm and plunged into the river or lake close by a predetermined period of time. says: . " Morena: "Stephen is like that. Can you imagine? I prefer staying at work than go home. We have reached the point where the only communication that happens between us is she telling me all that I left to do during the day. I think his friends more attractive than him.I should drop by rejoice me to work and come home to see her. the English laws." The chair of immersion was famous in the United States and Great Britain as a tool for punishment of witches. A record of a court in the year 1592. and crimes committed small catamaran. prostitutes.S. After reading Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". on the way back. men give instructions. My father used to tell me that every woman calls and fills the bag. I am married to the Queen of Claims and not stand one more minute and its implications. Think fault in everything I do. but he insists that both the end I run better than their hearing is whining. is a morose adjective which applies mainly to old and women. he claim that I do not care for him why not take care of my appearance. It is true that women are so from birth? Please help me. The situation is so bad that I asked the boss to be working after hours. If you complain all the time.

It occupies the infringing his post With a frown on his face printed pompous. Joy and terror of the people of the village.. without reluctance. A third and fourth time. Because when you throw water on the fire. If the scold provokes discussion With obscene words or out of the question. in 1809. but you need to think really make it. the lake of our Canton The device named chair of immersion Under the cloak of the law that guides the procession. Climb even higher the blaze. Usually they do to achieve a goal.". but simply to end the discussion. You must then bring the peasant A second time to the depths. But once is not enough. therefore. never. shows how men in past centuries. England. that they tell the church to stop the cantankerousness. do what she wants. or would go to fail. driven by feelings of guilt. But if their husbands and neighbors to complain a second time. Learn to govern in the chair your language. of Leominster. Its goal is to encourage victims to meet him. Women know that claim. the wife of Walter Hycocks of Peter Phillips and his wife are prominent morose. The woman is hoisted and vocifera How ever dared no shrew. my friend. " The following poem. with a mask of iron stuck to the head with a metal bar going up in the mouth to hold his tongue. It decided. there were other possibilities. And before that to lose patience. If the wife has the audacity noisy To have the house with tremendous noise. took seriously the claims of excess: The Chair of Immersion See there.. the water breaks. Tied to the chair. You say: stop. And when the chair of immersion was not punishment enough. but that does not mean they like to be complaining. . my dear. written by Benjamin West. Some women were forced to parade through the city as a warning to other women. Termagant wives. How is currish The morose always hopes that his victim. When the fire is burning. published in 1780. dives into the tank. The last woman to go through the chair of immersion after condemned as "morose stubborn" was Jennifer Pipes. they will be punished with the chair of immersion.

relationships with people of currish can be affected. This explains why women think men in general. etc. How is the victim From a man. When cantankerousness is out of control. amnesia. computers. The more demanding the aggressor. We have identified five basic types of complaint: The Complaint Monotemática: "Kurt. and men think women talk without stopping. the censorship. leaving her alone and resentful. Kurt? Still on the floor. nor to be continuously accused of everything. And the least recognized. which only increases his irritation and sometimes their anger. the grass of the front garden is a disgusting. They recognize and acknowledge their own words. deafness apparent and remote controls. The more claims.. you said you would hang a towel. just before the summer.. I just hope that you control a drink tonight. The tendency of man is to ignore it even more. . etc. indirect and negative of the things he left behind and their defects. They mainly occur at the end of the day." as did his predecessors back to the primitive of a full day of hunting. The speed you go. "Kurt.Some women turned to cantankerousness in an art form. Everyone avoids the morose. When do you replace the lamp in the room e. When the level of complaints is out of control. homework. Ray? And stop eating the pizza . . can stop the currish resentful and unhappy. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men. the victim is more refuge behind defensive barriers that leave the woman distracted -newspapers. The only concrete result of excessive claims is the destruction of the relationship between the victim and currish therefore believe that the victim needs to defend all the time.it is bad for your cholesterol and increase the weight ." The Third Party Complaint by "Moira says Shane already cleaned the grill and they are going to a barbecue tomorrow. repeated complaints are a reminder continuous. just in time that the man needs more time to be "watching the fire. but believe that there is no alternative. we? Usually women give laughs with these reports. is more isolated." The cross complaint: "Nigel.. why do not you hang your towel?" Pause. the door handle of the room is falling and the kitchen window is still stuck. face of discouragement." Five minutes later: "And the towel. the more the victim is subject to suffering." The Early Recovery: "Dale.". . Feeling alone. she is able to completely destroy the relationship. the more captive and isolated she feels. speak little. Nobody likes to be subject to the anger contained the ambiguous messages to autopiedade. We do not go repeating the humiliation of last year. The Complaint Beneficente: "I took their medicine today.

let her be absent from work because his car is in the workshop and she has to . This explains why women think men in general. and Fiona perhaps because Andrew does not need to consult a specialist. which have fallen because of economic crisis. Can run a computer program while talking on the phone and hear a second conversation behind her in the restaurant when talking with fellow table. Areas of the brain used for speech and language. London.". she is watching TV. this also depends on Adrian. etc. Men only. The man's mental organization contains a single track. he received a response to "multiple tracks" involving eleven people and nine different subjects. The multiple tracks can occur even in the same sentence: Bill: "The Sue come for Christmas?" Debbie: "She said it will depending on how things get with the orders for carpets. It is an image of men and women were chatting and communicating with each other. Man Woman The woman has a mental organization that call multiple tracks .... and men think women talk without stopping. show (in black) the active areas of the brain used for the functions of speech and language. made from MRI scans of the fifty men and fifty women. When you open a map in the car. Institute of Psychiatry. speak little. You can clearly see that women have an ability to speak much more than men.it is a counterfeit able to keep the air four or five balls at once. 2001. and Jodi can not be absent from work . Etc. He can only focus on one thing at a time.. and I thought it was us we were and Len in the guest room could ask Ray to arrive early to.Why women are more morose? The woman has a brain structure that allows you to overcome any man on the planet in terms of falação and cantankerousness. so Sue said you could get out early for us to buy the clothes for the wedding of Emma. The illustrations that follow. he turns off the radio. the owner of the Diana. It is able to speak on various themes without any relationship with each other in the same conversation USA and five tones of voice to change the subject and emphasize issues.the boss of it is terrible! -. Bill thought it had a simple question and would be satisfied with a simple answer of 'yes' or' no '.. and Nathan lost his job and seek other. Frustrated.. can identify three of these tones so often lose the thread of the skein when they hear a woman talking. Instead. " Bill: "That means' yes' or 'no'?" Debbie: "Well. If a woman speaks when it comes to a clover on the .

One of the most difficult situations is when the man is connected to multiple tracks during the complaint. Some men. The male brain has only one track. the pressure increases to the point where the counter-attack victim. sometimes placed in positions of power. He just shut up. As it is not always possible to leave the scene. have difficulty to walk and chew gum at the same time. sometimes physically. When the phone rings. There is too much. The man can not make love and explain the same time that did not take the garbage out. causing a rough thread which can even degenerate into physical violence. putting the man . to USA to protect itself.road. he misses the way and it puts the blame for being here. initiating a vicious cycle where the fretful increases the volume of voice and the strength of their objections and claims. and the victim back further behind the barrier. That the complaint never gives too much right? the main mistake of cantankerousness is the way to address the problem. he asks for everyone to shut up talking.

the secretary can gently remind him or simply do it. It operates from a position of strength. trivial. because this drip-drip is making me crazy . petty.. and if your partner does their share of domestic work. The woman also madly in love tends not to complain. so busy arming plans to make mad love and love to be everywhere in the house. I ask? . when the relationship becomes permanent. However.." and is there outside. not to realize that there clothing on the floor and dirty dishes on .. honors and proposals. you refuse to collect their clothes .. which receives praise. She is so tied to the vision you created for your romantic partner. Missing you time and energy to it. You are more concerned with the "greater part" of his life. " This type of claim is the most inefficient possible in achieving the objectives and becomes a destructive habit that produces enormous stress. Take out the trash is not too much. the goddess of sex may become worse in the morose. more powerful. In general the groups it in a way that the male brain has limited capacity to decipher.. it can start to complain to the boss to make it more efficient in their work. Where is the worst cantankerousness? The cantankerousness rarely manifests itself in the workplace. may see the complaint as a form of continuous wear the head of "bring it to your level" and make it realize how much is missing. disharmony. "You never take out the garbage. "I did not ask him to do almost anything at home.in a defensive and blocking the absorption of the message. Its strength is of another kind: it USA your sexual power to get to your man what you want. In this stage. if you have shame in the face would fix the faucet. unless the morose and the victim have an intimate relationship. Has a more objective way to ask things. You can even get to the point that you think is capable of doing the job better than him. the doctor said I can not get passed the order weight . And as you know. resentment and anger and can easily end up in violent physical reaction. even unknowingly.. The origin of cantankerousness is the balance of forces between two people. and do not have enough force to get it to work. even essential. But when you feel more secure in your position. she ignores it. is it? . The woman happy and professionally performed rarely calls at home.. After all. desk. this is part of their work. The morose plot deals with the problem in small. To note that the boss has to do something.. whining and load of guilt that she wants to impose victim.her own clothes by the wide ground. Their "requests" are weak. the growing cantankerousness can go. For men. killing me from week to work to make this house more or less decent and you spent the whole time sitting watching TV .. The so-called "vampire" also does not usually complain. is like being bitten by a cloud of mosquitoes: bites takes over the body and can not kill them. and a very sensual.. A clear sign of intimacy between boss and secretary of the things she is claiming that he left behind. It may be that it not be given the time to complain of dirty clothes scattered on the floor . The goddesses of sex do not complain of clothes dropped by the house -they leave their own clothes scattered on the floor. pay someone to do it or get a mate to do.

suffering. The Perfect Wife. with a confusing and contained rage. culture. but feel too guilty to admit that does not like his role. however. mothers." Adam sighs. feel no forces. fretful of the comic numbers. sons. predictable and routine. or do any thing to please her. asking for recognition. It is the anguish of the oppressed majority. That is why the stereotype of morose. Why is she must be complaining because of any thing ? She is talking about "any thing" because his life has become a collection of small things. Unlike the soldier. husbands. His partner. She knows that life can be better. silent. Nobody feels the need to complain.the prisoners of the household. A professional woman radiates strength material and mental. frustrated with the only alternative to get your feet tapping.wives. is always the wife or mother . a teenage victim of constant complaints. working more than thirty hours per week. Your suffering is a kind of invisible. Your daily tasks seem too trivial to justify protests and demands for public recognition. . Do not write wins literary prize lists of great shopping. in the heart. she went through years and years of brainwashing to accept a "truth" that may not serve you anymore. precisely because nobody gives value to their tasks. also be absorbed by the excitement of the new relationship. The cantankerousness can be a call for recognition Complaining is a sign that the woman wants more: more recognition of the family for everything they did and more opportunities for something better. which is enhanced by giving their lives for the welfare of his country. family of journals felt mentally and trading of movies and TV convinced her that the ideal woman to be truly feminine is Perfect Wife and Mother. who generally feel no power over their lives and unable to change it in a clear and direct.the table . "My mother has to draw the attention of people to do all that. Both are strong. it deserves more. daughters and partners who live together. or accepting and performing the ritual with joy monotonous and repetitive domestic work and motherhood are rarely morose. Anyone can pass the vacuum cleaner on the carpet. Acaba I preferred that she not do anything. The cantankerousness always between people who have an intimate connection . Mother was not tortured (at least in the common meaning of that term) and went through great suffering. There is no Nobel Prize for the maintenance of domestic peace. but do not know how to release for you to build a better life. nobody sends write her name on a memorial in marble for dedicating his life to the welfare of the family. Adam's mother calls him. Do not want in your tú mulo the words "always kept the kitchen clean. Even if. Our research shows that women who have clear goals. E is confused and lost by not knowing what to think. Centuries of stereotypes. the same for all women. Of the genus is: ry exudes sexual power. independent and free. "Every time you wash the dishes or vacuum the carpet is the one she makes sarcastic comments to draw attention to itself. It is a difficult person to feel confident and powerful if all you did in the morning to evening is trivial. Sometimes she even realizes that his feelings are normal and healthy. The woman who regularly uses the cantankerousness.

selfish and lazy. looked at the floor. there was silence. Was it asking too much to let her pick the pizza at least once in their life? After that last sentence. to circumvent the . earn a salary significantly higher than women in the same position. if behaving as such. She. can communicate. lovers and close friends. it would not take out so often to eat in the pizzeria. usually they take in is trivialities and torment each other with cruel words. who hated capers. The more a man rebels. They think that their husbands and boyfriends act like children. In the end. and began to accuse him of never paying attention to their wishes.and deserves . Sip his wine. which carry the soul the frustrating feeling of lack of love and recognition. in their work environment.Adam is the mother of a little recognition that it begs . produce positive results and. is hugely frustrated by the fact he did not use them at home. it was starting to fatten. I Hawaiian. As your partner knows he has these skills. both come to a point where they are no more as partners. and for women. With all this pizza. solve problems. This change of attitude is the first stone in the path of the dangerous erosion of the relationship. He reacts. The whole restaurant was silent as the voice of the couple stood. the more it acts as if it were his mother. "The problem is not the pizza. She also did not want to eat pizza all the time: a rather more healthy food. But some men say that time is that it seems longer. The man." The cantankerousness usually signal that there is a problem of communication between two people. The complex of mother Many women think they are the only significant adult in the family. Many girls still grow up believing they should be nice and sweet. it is the work of the shopping and help her to cook.the quality of your life would be better-ra impressive. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you want The discussion was ugly. Here is one of the keys to reduce the cantankerousness: currish give due recognition for the performance of small and routine tasks of his life ends with the most complaints. increasingly high. and placed last in their feelings and needs. right?" He said finally. When they become adults. But rather than face it. Moreover. who feel that a little boy living with immature. The restaurant was in full expectation of what would be the response of man. Studies show that married men live longer than singles. The more he resists. "They are the last fifteen years. He has not lost the calm. ultimately. For men. He wanted pepperoni with capers. they believe their role is to appease. there is no safer way to kill the passion that's starting to feel that living with his mother. and finally back to his wife. the most demanding woman. Women who went out of control cantankerousness ESPO-ments are generally solitary and disappointed and mothers. The problem is that often the woman is tempted to treat your partner as less capable than a man and a boy taken. This tendency is especially common among women. to the menu. It was absurd to say that the ruin the pineapple pizza. Everything started because of the pizza that they would choose.

he is trying to tell you something that you're not listening. to the refrigerator will get another beer and put it on the couch to see football on TV. physical or verbal abuse. such as infidelity. boredom. depression and cantankerousness are the result of communication problems. that does not mean they are getting properly convey their messages. When the two go of it. make your gargling with halitol. Before he had chance to say anything. " For many women seem to say that much more difficult than hitting mouth publicly because of the choice of a pizza. She thinks that yawn and say "I am so tired. Instead. I never know where you are! Dinner was cold .words actually said.the excess claim ineffective. but in recognition: "I am not happy with this life. not as a complaint. I turn myself and have a time just for me. someone who will never meet their expectations. then you take a week at work to stay with them. When a woman learns to direct and calmly say what you want. she launches the attack: Sue: "You do not have account? Why is it so late again. Even if you talk enough. The woman generally expected to intuitively know the man she would like to say different things than they actually want. sleeping with her. the man will brush their teeth. Neither will it hit him with her complaints concerned the same problems he used to have with the mother when I was a teenager. If your wife is always complaining. does not listen because it does not submit the problem as they should. Almost all the problems of relationships.. Daniel is late in coming home from work and his wife Sue is waiting with a few guy friends. One night. You. even if you think "My wife does not feel more attraction for me. I work late for us to have money and comfort to you .in the arms and seek reconfortá it maybe even with a session of sex. I feel suffocated. I want to get away from it all for two weeks. Rarely a woman asks: "Why did he not speak more with me?" The man. It is the head that his wife is speaking in code. Solutions cantankerousness: say what you feel A man will never tell you who feel diminished when you criticize his behavior. women often address his men in a wrong way. using indirect language. I think that I would do very well and feel that.. communication has improved and the need for cantankerousness . the man mutter. in turn. the man responded more positively.problems and be nice and warm. wear something more comfortable. Many women have difficulties to say. E is silent. in turn. Complaints in only mask a bigger problem of communication. cuddle ." never discussed the problem with it.you just think of you all the time! Daniel: "Do not shout me. What do you think that I leave the children with my mother for a week. he is finding it a failure. And you will never feel that you sexually as uninteresting as his mother. but that is not enough!" Sue: "You really selfish! How about putting his family first for once in your life? You . I am much more happy and enjoyable to live. Women have to understand that the functioning of the male brain is comparatively simple and that people rarely can guess what your partner really want wives and beyond . pass deodorant. and therefore will continue talking until you hear. Seated alone in bed. I think I'm gonna go to bed" and stay away. When you discover that you do not trust their ability to make right decisions. You're complaining and exaggerating as always. As we said. the woman ends up giving up and falling asleep with a feeling of rejection and disaffection. in return.

She can use the technique of "I" instead of using the word all the time you. communication is interrupted. I like you the truth. preventing the situation is clear. the first thing you should do is avoid Sue left for him. putting him on the defensive. speaking as softly as possible: Sue: "Daniel. I am crazy for concern with what may have happened [consequences].You know very well what is your problem! . The technique of "I" lets it communicate your feelings about the behavior of Daniel. Here's how Sue could handle Daniel. leading Daniel to adopt a defensive behavior. thinking that it is just a morose unbearable. When that happens. Sue expressed hostility of indirect way." Sue (furious): "Ah. You only know me complain all the time. Is there a problem.Are you always running away! The language of "you" is to attack.You are a selfish! .never do anything in this house . " Daniel: "Sue. I'm beginning to think that you are not interested and do not like more of me. I do not want you to feel well. increases and clarifies the sincerity of the sentiments of all. you are arriving late all week and I do not call to warn [behavior]. You know what your problem is? You're always running away from things. right? Acting that neither child again. I never want to talk about them!" Instead of reporting what is really felt through a direct quotation. you're seeing someone? [Interpretation]. And (I) am not seeing anyone. sorry. I have worked so much. This technique allows you to keep a normal conversation with your partner without fighting. So I am saddened [feelings]. and (I) promise that from now on ( I) I will call you every time you have to stay at work until later. [I] am so tired I need a tempinho for myself. They are simply left to say really how they feel. I rest. I have been so busy at work lately. I'm getting stressed. When I come home. Once you enter Daniel with defensive position. The technique of "I" has four parts. without judging them. It is almost impossible to irritate anyone .You are acting like children again! . I'm not avoiding you. honey. Here are some of the phrases you type. and always puts the other on the defensive. It describes the behavior of your partner. Solutions cantankerousness: the technique of "I" To get the attention of Daniel. then it is well! Go to mosey out soon. used by Sue. your interpretation of this behavior. It ends with a discussion . I thought you were not feeling well.I expected to do everything!" Daniel (away): "Get off my foot I am dead. your feelings and the impact that such behavior has on you. Sue repeated the same message all the time and Daniel was always silent.You do not have account? . And their problems only tend to worsen. Neither of them is listening or watching. " The technique of "I" is powerful because it reduces the attitude of defense. leaving Daniel deeply angry: . It is as if Sue was a sponsor of the finger in accusation Rist.forever.

Solutions cantankerousness: Leave the man watching the fire for about thirty minutes When the man returned to the original cave. Parents influence the child's pattern of behavior. is more emphatic and angry. children trained to be responsible for repeating the call and. Then the child begins to suffer because of this breach did not really think anything wrong. not with the child. of course. Enter then the consequences of disobedience." Sue: "Honey. without speaking. however. the choice is their own. per-sweaty and even require certain behaviors of the children for their safety. this is a vicious circle. want to talk immediately. For you. Thus. The parents currish / disobedient children can be easily corrected for. after a full day of hunting to feed the family. and if they do not meet. the proper way and the tone of voice appropriate. Daniel: "Honey. Tell your children that you will seek the cooperation of them once. Solutions cantankerousness: Who trained who? Part of the responsibility of parents is to remember. Be firm with yourself." there is no discussion. addressing the problem. to regain your energy. I need to talk to you about what happened today. Statements like "I" work best when they are expressed appropriately at the time. The more you repeat and calls. The more you get frustrated with the contempt it. Most women. if one parent at home or a mother complaining all the time: the naughty child or the mother or the father morose? The correct answer is: the father or mother. sometimes take a deep breath. When can we talk?" When Daniel agrees with a particular time (and respect) and Sue hold while he "looks at the fire. I had a really long days and difficult gives me half an hour for me to build the dust and relax. wait until your anger placate the other to be able to hear. responsible. not only with their children. she learns that it is not necessary to answer the first call. the messages of Daniel and Sue have been clearly communicated. I promise that after you talk to. If the pattern is reminiscent of the parents. Here is how to apply this technique. no tension and no one feels intimidated. Everything that you need is discipline and firm . in fact. The same happens with a man who arrives late to his work: one needs time to recover. their well-being and success in life. insist and ask several times before answering the child.with this technique. What began as a simple request of "Come dinner!" becomes a war. Is confused and frustrated. therefore. But where in the exercise of that responsibility becomes a cantankerousness? And whose fault is that. . Prepare to not give a specific situation for thirty days without faltering.with yourself. In the above example. plus the child resists. needed to be about thirty minutes looking at the fire. think he does not want the requirement is met.

So you just collect the used towels because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and why do you think. which is probably a small price to pay. The same technique works with dirty socks. With this technique. I want you to get your clothes dirty on the floor of the room and put in the basket. confusion and protests. He used to say that would take the garbage after dinner. Week after week. on top of the wall in the dog house or under his pillow. and the person still doing the same things-sa.train them If you find that is complaining all the time with a person. Go ahead and take to end its purpose. not to mention it will have a happier home. It may seem cruel. The behavior of children is the direct result of train-ing given by parents. but forgot to do it. you will get it because they do not like to mess in the bathroom and that violates his right to a clean house. Say. if you do not get. if you follow collecting things from around the world. When the violator is bathing. Solutions cantankerousness: a case study with children Cameron. you become the coach and not ° trained.it simply endure their complaints. which they must be totally responsible. but you are teaching responsible habits. nobody will get and no more dry towels to use. And the future partners of their children will not complain of their bad habits. that means that they trained you to do what she wants you to do." It is here that the self and firmness comes into play. or after we finished the movie. received the task of taking out the trash every Wednesday night. the laundry will accrue and will not listen to complaints of lack of that dress. it is creating the rules and you are obeying. The whole family was no longer believing-not endure the complaints and more feel the . The mother stopped asking and started to complain. the smell of spoiled food in the house would be as if the trash pile.preferably of different colors each child and / or adult of the house and tell them that this is your personal towel. So you no longer train for another person. However. In other words. for better and for worse. thirteen years. Who will give first? If you sell and collect the clothes. If you do not put there. What happens here is that the other person knows that in the end you will end up taking the towel . will discover how unpleasant it is dry with a towel wet and smelly. Do not complain to them . Tell them that will put the towel in the yard of the offender. has chosen to continue being a person trained and lose the rights to the claim with any person to leave the clothes scattered on the floor. for example. it will not be washed. that a thousand times you ask someone not to leave the wet towel on the floor of the bathroom.For example: "Jade. If you have self discipline and strength. or so leave the bath. Here's how to reverse the situation: take a clean towel . and complaints are no longer needed. underpants and anything that you do not want to see play-of the house. otherwise you will continue being the person trained. vol-ta to the point of departure. Say. Two or three times just to be trained to collect it and hang your towel. for example. Tell them that if any dirty or wet towel is left on the floor. The first time you apply this tactic will be laughter. that the next time this happens you put a wet towel in the bottom of the broom closet.

smell of garbage. But Cameron was not there either - he simply forgot and it mattered little to the complaints. Finally, the mother of Cameron has realized that the son was trained to the claim and decided to react. He said that as he did not meet with their responsibility to take the trash out, the whole family was suffering with the smell of spoiled food. And the consequences stated that he would suffer for their disobedience: the garbage that was not carried out would be placed in your room. Since he is not bothered with the smell of spoiled food, no problem would have to sleep with her. The thing was submitted to a fun, relaxed, nonaggressive. The family could hardly wait for the night of Wednesday. As usual, Cameron forgot to take the trash. The following night, when they pulled the sheet to lie in bed, he found full of rotten garbage. The fourth fedia! The cost of this lesson a few sheets were dirty and smelly that Cameron was forced to wash - he knew the consequences. But never forget to take the trash. Construed as a morose If the victim is honest with itself, assuming that there is any truth in claims of morose and recognizing that cantankerousness is usually a cry for recognition, the problem can be quickly transformed into a situation where everyone wins. To feel more important is the need of human nature. The researches have shown, many times, the people who work all day, have their contribution and their efforts recognized, less demanding than those that spend long periods indoors, isolated from other adults. Similarly, the owners-of-house that they do not really like, they feel proud of keeping a home clean and comfortable, to prepare a good and healthy food and give affection to your family, also do not usually complain - since receive the gratitude and recognition due. The people are generally morose performing repetitive and monotonous work or who suffer from being isolated at home. For some women, to wash clothes, clean the carpets, make the beds, do the shopping and cooking, not seeing more sense in that form, can dull the mind after a year or two. If we add to this cocktail ill-bred children who break in ten minutes the work of a whole day, we have a person who will use the cantankerousness to draw attention and try to make other people feel so unhappy about it. When the foundation of the claim is true, the victim must accept its share of responsibility for cantankerousness. The cantankerousness is the result of lack of communication. The challenge of the victim To achieve a situation where everyone wins, both parties need and want to divide the responsibility for change. The victim of complaints must recognize and accept that it must contribute to the solution of the problem. The tendency of the victim is to develop an aggressive behavior or silent, which makes things more difficult. She ignores the morose, yet tries to scream louder, leaving the room or the house and invents excuses for not answering their requests. The victim does not reflect on its share of responsibility because they are infernizada the claims, and puts all the blame on the morose. The only way out is to stop and make a self-assessment, seeing cantankerousness in an application for relief:

- Do you hear the other person? - You understand the frustration of another person? - You show superiority, making it feel devalued? - You acknowledge the achievements of another person? - You refuse to divide the domestic work because anyone who thinks the money should be in a good home? - You are quite lazy and useless? - There is a deep anger that feeds the poor will understand the problems of another? - You want to be happy? If you really want to be happy, feel able to sit with the other person and talk about the problems of you? The challenge of currish If you are morose, I stopped to think that the other may be unable to meet their demands? You are behaving as if the mother authoritarian one? Requires that it meets their requests and complaints promptly, regardless of his needs at that moment? You repeat all the time their demands? - If your answer to any of these questions is yes, sit down with the other and report them using the language of "I". - Tell him what you're leaving you frustrated. - Make an agreement of the best times for their requests. - Stop being is repeating. - Afirme their needs and feelings and listen carefully the response of her husband. - Try to know his opinion. Maybe he has a better idea. - Avoid accusatory phrases such as "You", which produce resistance in the other. - What is the solution or the consequences in case he does not change their negligent behavior? - What are you doing to improve their self-image? - You always rewards that achieves your goals? - You want to be happy? For many people, demand may become a habit, a means to communicate makes them people who sulk, unhappy and resentful of those who should be a daily source of joy, warmth and support. But things need not be. Following our simple strategies, you can build a future much more happy and loving both.

Chapter 2
SEVEN THINGS THE OUE -MEN MAKE DEIXA WOMEN IRONING BOARDS It is not easy to say the number of annoying characteristics that women look for men, but the letters we received from more than five thousand readers, we came to the seven questions that women are more often about men. - Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? - Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? - Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? - Why do men insist on leaving the toilet seat raised? - Why do men create problems for both go shopping? - Why do men have very unpleasant personal habits? - Why men like coarse jokes? These habits of men that women classified as "bad" belong to two categories: those they learned in its creation and those related to programming of the brain But both men are capable of solution. Everyone can re-educate, just how to do it. Why men offer solutions and give advice all the time? "My husband is annoying me immensely with his mania of wanting to find solution for everything. He lives giving me advice on how to deal with all problems of my life - even if I do not want, when I just want to talk about my day and my feelings, it is stopping me to say what I do, think and say. He is the best to solve problems when it comes to "things" - dripping taps, lamps burning, defect in the car and computer and stuff -- but when it comes to hear me, he just does not work. And if I do not follow their "advice", he is bored. Karen 'Almost Crazy. " To find out why the man insists on providing solutions for any situation, it is necessary to know some characteristics of the mode of operation of the male brain. From the most primitive ages, the male has evolved as a hunter. The ability to reach moving targets, essential to all they could to feed, was his great contribution to the survival of the human race. He needed accuracy to achieve the prey and eliminate the enemies that it disputed the-ate of and threatened his family. Consequently, it was developed in his brain an area called "visual-spatial" that allows you to achieve success with all his reason for living: to reach goals and solve problems. The men became directed people to the results and measure success by their own achievements and the ability to solve problems. In short, men are defined and self-assess according to their ability to solve problems.

Here is the problem of the majority of couples: the night." he shouted back as the door knocks. It is because he does not pay attention as she is saying and he is angry because she does not accept their solutions. That's why he rarely speaks about the things that concern. but unsolicited advice. When a man seeks advice from another man. Every man thinks he is the only person able to solve their own problems and therefore did not think to discuss them with anyone. The man whom he calls opinion. incapable of solving their problems. Why women are annoyed with the solutions male? The woman's brain is structured for communication through speech. he feels as if it considers that the declaration incompetent. especially if part of a woman. but he thinks she is bringing him to solve their problems. feels honored with the query. He thinks that is caring and loving when seeking to resolve the problems of women. She thinks it is irrelevant or is ignoring your feelings by not listening. She just wants the man to listen with interest. because he thinks it should solve its problems alone. Case study: Sarah and Andy Sarah had a rough day at work: the head was marked up. is beginning to offer solutions. much less asking for solutions.The man is valued by the results it is capable of achieving or the precision with which it has a zebra on the move. she usually wants to talk about the events of the day and share their feelings. in turn. Most times. She feels that her world is falling apart and want to talk to Andy about it when you get home. a lost wallet and a broken fingernail. He only ask for help when the other person feels the need for a specialist opinion. For men. are not welcome. seek advice is a demonstration of weakness. she was criticized for an administrative error. She prepares a nice dinner in the expectation that will have a long and frank conversation . "If you do not want my opinion. it is not looking for answers. "do not ask!" Each thinks the other does not value what you are saying. He loves providing solutions and advice to others. So when a woman offers a board that no man has. but he thinks she is asking you a solution. and the main purpose of speech is to talk. that gives the board sees the query as a compliment. "Why do not you shut up and listen". and believes that it is making a smart strategic move. she strongly urges while directed to the port.

but he really needs a time to solve their own problems.. this is a very common scene.while eating. He thinks: "Great! Fifteen minutes of quiet before eating. Tomorrow you go there and He says that this deadline is impossible. he will need to adjust it or ask someone to help you with the two projects. She wants. Andy feels devalued and confused. Call telling him that Sarah had a bad day. injured and disarmament. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wanted to know that I had not finished the new advertising campaign. He listen. I already have enough problems that. I leave and I do not know that hours back! " For men and women around the world. In the end. and you get to say everything I have to do. which will have to address before returning to work the next day.. honey? " Andy: "Well" Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life. then changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to examine the problems of last minute. He comes home. I think not stand this anymore . by the way.. you have to do is defend himself. that make you feel loved and understood and to convey the conviction that she will be able to solve their problems. tell him you can not finish the two projects at once and ask which of the two he wants first. Sarah. When I tried to explain that the campaign does not was ready because I am still working on the project Seinfield. I want to go. (getting danada life) . knowing that you will feel much better. I will talk about their problems. his mind still working on finding solutions. he stopped saying that I did not want to hear excuses and I wanted to campaign on his desk before I close the business on Friday. "Sarah thinks:" Great! Fifteen minutes to go before the dinner conversation. honey?" . On the way home. because Sarah rightly criticized its greater ability to troubleshoot. She can open the heart with someone like her. It gives a look at the food and says the dinner will be ready in fifteen minutes. But Andy also had a difficult day.. "Sarah:" How was your day. It gives you just hear me? I'm full of men who always know everything. gives a quick "hi" to Sarah goes to the room and watch the news on TV. When I came to work in the morning. I am not holding more! Andy (still with one eye on the news) "You are not holding more what?" Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem. Can you believe it? He just does not hear me . I get another person to listen to me and it will not be telling me what I did wrong.. Solve them yourself and stop complaining to me... As Andy could have dealt with the situation Let's rewind the tape and see how Andy could have prevented a very bad night. Sarah: "How was your day. " Andy: "Saraaah! If you do not want my opinion. Then I said I wanted it ready by the end of the week and that he was scheduling a meeting with the client on Monday to see the work.. " Andy: "Look. Closed the business with several important problems still outstanding. yeah? So Fuck you. always fix myself!" Sarah (almost crying) "Oh. you take care of your dinner. " Sarah (getting emotional) "I can not believe what I hear I am talking to you on the head that is giving me orders and I do not listen. which he said it was urgent. is simple . and I would not finish the two projects in this period. Sarah feels abandoned. It will be nice and friendly.

I love. I'm so stressed that I want to go .. When I tried to explain that the campaign was not ready because I'm still working on the project Seinfield.. And Sarah. " Andy (with an expression of interest) "Honey. The woman. " By not offering solutions. you need to establish a relationship with the man. he said snakes and lizards in my work and wondered why I had not finished the new advertising campaign. But in the middle of my explanation he simply stopped telling me who did not want to hear apology and wanted to campaign in his desk on Friday. What do you mean?" sarah: "I think about it this evening. When I came to work this morning. before the end of time! Can you believe it? " Andy (showing interest and resistance to give advice) "Looks like he is really creating a very difficult problem for you . because it will give you all the attention during the dinner.. Andy now has time and space "to sit before the fire and think of their problems.. I want you to tell me everything that happened. but then I started to explain that the campaign was not completed because the project Seinfield consumes much time. When you want to do business with the opposite sex Men and women do business on a very different..." Sarah: "Okay . I call you when dinner is ready. avoided the usual discussions and felt happy with herself and with life. I have some work to solve problems in the morning. but I will get better after that they can think a little. I'm too tired and stressed. but give me some fifteen minutes for me to solve my problems at work. I am not holding more! Andy: "Oh. but I was very happy to be able to tell you . I changed the subject and said that I see the six-afternoon on Friday to deal with any last-minute change. baby. but that something terrible! Does he not know that you get a lot of work? You look so stressed . Many men have a mistaken understanding of the behavior. . You want a drink now?" Andy: "Thank you. baby." When asking for fifteen minutes and get them." Sarah: "I had the worst day of my life.... before starting to deal with business. Andy avoided a discussion. my baby. giving Andy some time to himself. I feel much better now ." Sarah: "He just listened ... Some come to believe that she is giving you chat for sexual reasons or. I really would like you to help me find a solution. Here's how the dinner was: Sarah: "My boss is me creating the biggest problem.Andy: "It was good. She is going to wreak and feel better about life. and is reliable. Thanks for listening to me.... Then he told me that she wanted ready at the end of the week and that was scheduled with the customer to come in Monday to see our work. up early in the morning and if you have no good idea. assume . Sarah feels confident and happy.. and when the two parties do not fully understand what that means. Over dinner I heard her with attention and affection. your business relationship can be financially disastrous. talk about various subjects. honey . which he said it was urgent. at best." Andy (hugging her) "What a hard day you had." Sarah: "You do not know how I'm stressed! Well. got a drink and not just sleeping on the couch alone in the room. sometimes in a very personal level to see what kind of person he is.

he will know how to behave. The most likely is that it classifies as a man who does not listen and that it shall give due attention in the business of making Jun-ments. but now using . Defining women: Apparatus used to switch a channel of the TV to another. listening with empathy. in a state of trance. For thousands of years the man spent the night watching the fire after returning from the hunt. even in business. not recommended. Definition male: Apparatus used to scroll through all 55 channels every two and a half minutes. For men. When both parties to understand. The modern man still looks at the bonfire at the end of the day. The companions asked him never to speak or participate.that the long-term business relationship leads to a much more consistent. For a woman. In short. become more prone to make . The lesson here is simple and definitive: for men. we need to talk. just ask: "You want me to listen or want me to help find solutions?" Depending on what she says. especially when the woman appears worried. The man needs to understand that. the man is satisfied and knowing exactly what she expects of him. make it clear what you expect of the man who is wreak. And the woman needs to understand that men feel uncomfortable discussing personal matters and therefore prefers to go straight to business. In heaven. Solution When the woman speaks and the man does not know if she is asking for solutions or just bubble." With this approach. this is an efficient way to relieve stress and recharge the batteries for the activities the following day. women want to be heard. Why men are walking by the TV channels with the remote control? Remote control. ask.that she is asking for advice on how to solve their problems. you just want to listen. it is easier to deal with a woman when she first establishes a personal connection. Then they feel entitled to offer and say what she should do. but a woman can interpret them as evidence that the man is not ready to hear her. the best and simplest is to tell the man: "I need to talk to you about several things. Shall treat him with reserve. councils are perceived differently by men and women. giving advice is be attentive and show love. He sat among colleagues. How to avoid discussions with the opposite sex When a woman is tense and worried. To humans. and if not sure of what she wants. every man has three remote controls and the toilet seats are always raised. In general. The woman is suffering very much. leaving him confused and Rally against the bad with the operation of your business relationship. I do not need solutions. and was long periods without communicating.

each waiting his turn to be walking by the canals. It is therefore a way of relieving stress as well as browse the Internet. her face. dresses like tango. The woman needs to understand that looking the fire is the way that man has to relieve stress and therefore should not take that attitude in personal terms. Women around the world have a particular aversion to the male habit is changing the channel. which is one of the explanations for the fact that the number of men who watch the TV news to be six times higher than women. because he thinks his mere physical presence is enough. whether he is also emotionally present. The female brain. This basic difference between the sexes is a frequent source of problems. asking: "What was the last thing I said?" To his frustration. she likes to relax watching a television program. capable of dealing with several issues at once. books and remote controls. Concentrate on one thing. it analyzes the problems of each program and reflects the respect for reasonable solutions. was not really listening and analyzing what she said. Just remember the words of it. she is more resentful. watching television is a totally different process. however. noticed an antenna driven by solar energy on top of a hut in the village.the problem remains concerned your mind. engage in any of these activities does the smallest difference . which exists to meet two main impulses. repairing the car. from multiple tracks. look at the problems of others without feeling responsible for them allows you to forget their own worries. She suffers from the man's apparent inattention and disinterest as the person interprets it. Secondly. For men. in front of the TV with a remote control from hand to hand. As the mind of man is only able to do one thing at a time. The man suffers from not being able to enjoy a moment of idleness. the man likes to forget their problems seeing the problems of others. when we were in the remote Okavango Delta. They want to know what is going on television. he is interested in getting the fastest possible conclusions. watering plants. north of the Kalahari desert in South Africa. Once. more man resists. he is usually able to tell. When he speaks. Because the brain oriented to solving problems. sex. is something each time. When a woman is concerned about a problem. The woman accused the man tends to be kilometers away when she tries to talk. That leaves the confused. but with the brain occupied in the task of reading the newspaper. The more he resists. The men did not want to know what is going on television. The woman. How he responds to what she speaks. however. doing gymnastics or the option almost always favorite. Through channels. The more the woman insists. make it talk about a variety .newspapers. the man to forget their problems and feel at peace with himself. We entered and saw a group of drugs Kalahari. After a long day. The woman tries to talk to the man just in time when he is reading the newspaper or surfing the channels. even after having tried to offer solutions and be rejected. He heard the woman's falação. preferably a novel filled with scenes of emotion and relationships. she likes to predict the outcome of situations and also to attend to business. The woman's brain is structured to interpret the words and body language of actors. She needs to talk about the problem to get some relief.

calmly.the sense of direction has never been a need or part of their job description. He would go to the pillory than admit to a woman who is lost. The man. The most plausible explanation for the sense of direction for men is the highest concentration of iron in the right hemisphere of the male brain. present and future-feeling. to locate the car in a large park-ing and to resume a place where it once. During this period. all at the same time. This is therefore the key to teach man the way a woman. they learned the art of maintaining the sense of direction and recognize the ways to hunt for great distances without losing the direction of home. must understand that women need to talk and unburden relieve stress. This explains why more than a third of men. without worry to reach solutions.of things. This is the same ability that men use to find the place where he was sitting in a football stadium. it may disappear forever. The silence of the man does not mean he does not love her. she was able to locate and find the way home. If you are a woman. past. pointing to the north within a radius of 90 degrees. is not alone ventured beyond the horizon. that the troubles and ask him to please not do so when she is watching your program. on the other side of the avenue. defenders of nests and offspring. it is likely that it arrived. especially if it has no intention of getting a .000 years. If he says "go to where the street has a huge tree. Why men do not stop the car to ask for guidance? For over 100. Solution To solve the problem of remote control. Men never lose -only discover alternative destinations. For men. is sitting in the passenger seat and just go through the same garage for the third time. so they learned to be guided by landmarks . Means that he wants a moment of quiet. that is lost means that failed in their ability number one . Seeing a tree. then go toward building a pink next to the National Bank. Females. a lake or a mountain.find the path. it is important not criticize him or give advice. something that only one in five women is capable of. in turn. they feel pennite magnetic north. And if not advance. it should tell the man. men have used the space component of your brain to track the prey and hit the target. when entering for the first time in a room without windows. But if he says "take the third exit to west on Highway 23 and walk five kilometers to the north". it should consider the possibility of buying its own television set and go see your program in another room.

he still lacked two things to be split between Adam and Eve A. The women always felt. all public restrooms have separate facilities for men and women. but the men just sit in 10-20% of cases. are buying something. who immediately was urinating on a tree and draw a picture in the sand. but in bushes or supported on objects. When the download was invented at the end of the nineteenth century. But the practice of going to the bathroom in groups remains among women. when they go to the bathroom.. While you're in the bathroom. You never hear a man say: "Hey. Why do men insist on raising the leaving the toilet seat? By the end of the nineteenth century.foot. he has time to ask for guidance. "I think you can keep it. smiling: "Multiple . for safety. Solution Buy a map or a guide and leave it in the car. could stay. I took another woman. had to go alone and defend itself in case of need. the toilet cubicles were in the back of the house. You do not want to come with me?" Men. a wall or a tree. When God finished creating the universe. here is the other thing. leaving many people very angry. he explained. Men never urinate in bathrooms. with seats for women and set the wall urinals for men. The man. I'm going to soak-ro . Why do women never take the trouble to raise the seat to the man? In Sweden there is an article of a law requiring the man to urinate sitting in public restrooms. Fred." "Thank you. however. Then God gave to Adam. that the modern habit inherited from their ancestors. and told God that if Adam wanted to do so. is severely criticized. you can tell who is affectionately distressed to reach the destination and ask him to stop. outside.. That is why we rarely see a man urine in the open. pretending that. but the slope. A rapid and safe emergency strategy is to tell you that you need too go to the bathroom. but be sure to hear it. Eva smiled. Ask you to information. Then God sent to Eva "Well." he said. which require a stop. was an instrument that would allow its possessor to urinate standing up. When a woman went to the bathroom. And God saw that it was good. Why are four million sperm needed to find and fertilize one egg? Because no one likes to ask what is the path. the man has to lift the board not to wet the place where the woman will sit. The modern homes are designed and built to accommodate men and women equally. to be politically correct. Today. depending on the relationship of trust that has been built between the two. benevolent. The offer was excitadíssimo and begged God to the left for him. the bathroom has moved into the houses and public establishments. but men are at a disadvantage because the restrooms accommodate domestic needs especially women. preferably in a gas station. Or maybe. never lead a support group. But when you forget to below her back." Eva replied "Who are you?" And God replied. At home.

may be remembered. If it is the bathroom at night and sit again in the wet board. the four in the afternoon of day 24. one can enjoy the standard of cleanliness and hygiene that you like. It is said that the Prophet urinated standing up once in life. the man does not give the slightest importance to the fact that the seat be raised or lowered. The life of primitive man as a hunter gave him a sort of "tunnel vision" that allows you to move directly from point A to point B in a straight line. . The ziguezagues between shops and kiosks that women needed to consider a purchase as a successful man leave extremely anxious. just for new household rules. and even then the penis to urinate over the roll of toilet paper in the left leg of the pants or on top of the shoe. " Indeed. shopping is one of the favorite ways of relieving stress. a garden where it was impossible to sit. it kills me while I'm asleep. His task will be washing the bathroom. instead of asking politely .one for him. and still alone on top. And I am convinced that this is a small price to pay. because of this. the ideal solution is to buy a house with two bathrooms . Why do men create problems both for shopping? The great advantage of being human is we can buy two.or below it herself .Orgasms. my wife decided I train now. He is able to buy Christmas gifts for the whole family in forty minutes. This is clothing to last more than five years. or fall into the pot for that. I have no permission to urinate as a man on foot. If this is not enough to convince you. For most men. because any change of direction requires a conscious decision. I left the seat up. I speak seriously. The reasons for this are clear to anyone who has studied the evolution of different male and female brains and understand their respective schedules. three shirts. there is not enough to trust him. look perfectly in the middle of the toilet. For most women. It requires that I sit urine. but may be upset with the woman if she require authoritatively that lets you down. on the contrary. And the best is that. one for her . perhaps decades. "After 28 years of marriage. without having to worry about the other. so calm and firm. The British psychologist Dr David Lewis found that the stress that men experience during the Christmas shopping equivalent to a police dealing with an angry crowd disorder. the book takes him more. Solution Ask the man who sat urine may cause some problems.or reforming the current home to create an extra bathroom. shopping is an activity located in the same plane to take of the prostate with a doctor of cold hands. If the man refuses. Maybe this can make sitting more attractive? If you are to them. a belt. three ties and two pairs of shoes in less than eight minutes." One of our male readers wrote us to say as he and his wife faced the problem of the toilet seat: "Women need to understand that the penis has its own designs. To a man. a suit and two shirts last for years. which means spending a day on the floor cloth to clean all the drops lost. Thus.which absolutely does not compromise the masculinity. The man can get a cabin bathroom (where all the urinals are occupied). a pair of shoes. in the Islamic world that millions of men sit to urinate every day .

Men like to be in control and therefore to "guide them" using their ability to space curves.as you zigzag the gondolas. how you feel that day. defined goal or time limit. however. skin and eyes. and again at the end of the day with little to show. For men. But there are ways to help the man to have a positive feeling about it. when shopping. and then go home empty-handed. and the limit of time is not important. Women shop the way their ancestors catavam food: going the whole day with other women for a place where one is reminded of have seen growing plants tasty. who is leaving and who will do . They spend their days going from place to place in a nonstructured. Ask the man how to get in the shopping cart .The woman. He forgets what she asked and returns home with a couple of "gifts": the product of his "hunting". maneuvers. they always go home the same items . the idea is inconceivable. and returned home. The male brain is structured to focus on a single task. the fashion. the supermarket zigzag loading a list. but they affect the health of them. speeds and stuff. That is why when you ask a man to buy milk. Always ask what he likes to eat and buy him his favorite foods. so you need the encouragement. There must be a specific goal or guideline. they feel satisfied because they had a great day. Give him clear objectives .brands. challenge you to find the best prices and praise him when he gets results. flavors and sizes . the color of hair. smelling. For a man. She dresses carefully in accordance with the time the season. which means he failed.this causes it to again use their spatial skills to find the answer. Even without finding anything worth the penalty to take home. just give cheiradinha the clothes you left in the back of the chair. Polls show that not only the men do not like to shop. Today it is exactly so that men like to shop. How do supermarket Let the man pushing the cart.the kitchen cabinet of a single man has ten packages of pasta. bread and eggs when returning to work can happen to bring him sardines and light mayonnaise. feeler. colors. zigzag with greater tranquility in a mall crowded with people. with his peripheral vision more broadly. Women.give the man sizes. At this point the reader may be impatient and was saying: "All this because of some shopping?" Remember. the place where you are going. buy the memory and examine all the stuff you seem interesting. shopping is not part of the programming of the male brain. but men prefer to go straight. fabrics and price ranges and send it to the game. due to the stress they cause. nine cans of tomato sauce and very little thing. Leave a full day with a group of peers with no clear destination. How to buy clothes The same principles that apply in the motivational-supermarket's worth of clothes in the shops too . Men have evolved as creatures that kill their prey. . no route. Consequently. feeling and showing all the things that are as speak with each other on a lot of issues with no relation to what they are doing.

therefore. the chickens how to move the food Cisca. ALLAN PEAS Even with these strategies. If a woman asks the man to buy something for her or to get a particular article. noun. reach a maximum of thirty minutes. Why men are so unpleasant personal habits? Everywhere. the woman must provide a magazine to read it. but the studies do not support this thesis. wear old underwear and rub the bag. it is important that you remember: the concentration of most men in a shop has. they perceive a female habit offensive. it will find that you are fat. One explanation for the way men shop was developed from studies with chickens. the man feels anxious because he knows that will never have the right answer and is therefore wrong and let the woman boring. The other ate the seeds of all colors without any order. If I drop it buys. If it takes more. At the top of the list of men habits that women can not tolerate are: take meleca nose. masculine: a source of entertainment. Solution Give the man a single thing to do at a time and not try to convince you that you are saving a lot of money buying a larger quantity. Although it is a sign of good health and nutrition. So save you the question. bang release is an act universally . First ate all the red beans until done. something that has a horrible name: fart. If you catch a smaller number. burp. Flatulence: noun. Men are more tolerant in accepting what they consider bad habits women and provide care in less detail than women.What can be said of a man well dressed? That the wife chooses their clothes well. self-expression and male entertainment. by far. while the man waiting outside the fitting room. feminine: an embarrassing byproduct of digestion. the chair-thebored-husband. When received male hormones. women complain that men are much more unacceptable personal habits than them. then all yellow. It is less likely. I always secure her hand. is what is commonly called the drop bang. Never ask him "You think I am better with the blue dress or the gold". In general. The advantage of being a man is not to leave the room to fix the private parts. smell. she is accused of suggesting that fat. When trying clothes. you must give the exact size of clothing you want. But number one.

vegetarians deploy more puns. Never shall it be the man eat food producers of gas less than two hours before bedtime. Sharon was obviously found guilty. In addition. Solution One obvious remedy is to prepare healthy meals with less genera-producing gases and offer the man a cup of mint tea after the meal. cabbage. garlic. beans. To hear noise or feel the smell of fart. women emit 1-1. If it does not comply with this standard. The air is trapped in the digestive system and. although most is belch. but drinking during a meal dilutes the digestive juices. encourage the man not to drink water during the meal. seven. the rest goes to the large intestine where it mixes with other gases and is ready to explode in the most unusual." Sharon decided to establish the room and the kitchen as "prohibited zones of bang. As a result. so nobody knew who was.3% of men acknowledge that drop puns. enough to fill a balloon. Flatulence: the facts While 96. It was washed with more expensive.until the big fights happen. beer. But if he insists on eating quickly and drop the boom all the time. Food reactions Foods that produce gas are more cauliflower. it is always easy to turn and fight for the dog with him to scream. you may need a more efficient tactics. fruits and vegetables in general. While men emit an average of 1. only 2.5 liters of gas per day. It is important that the woman tell the man with the greatest possible objectivity and . such as carbohydrates and proteins never join in the same meal. drop bang for fun is a practice that begins more or less at ten years old when the prestige of children is measured by the ability to release various kinds of puns. broccoli. increasing the likelihood of releasing gases later. Before. The main causes of excess gas is too much talk and talk during the meal. is imitating voices or blue flare launching the fourth with the aid the lighter. The humpback is ranked second. Among men. eat slowly and do not see TV during the meal. Nigel thought it very funny . Nigel released huge puns in public places such as department stores. she benefit from a bag and roll of toilet paper for everyone would hear: "Does this help?" The mascots also solve the problem. eg diu-to warn you that at least two minutes before the release will feel when a bang. Food combinations also give good results. onion. When the surrounding is tipped for the couple. but with much less odor. See the example of one of our readers.5-2.1% of women will admit it someday. why was all red and with an embarrassed air. bread. Among the products that reduce the amount of gases produced by the body are the chips of coal.5 liters of gas. a minute ago. Chew the food well." When you were in a public place. he released puns in bed and called it the "test of true love. Every time I went with Sharon. to prepare "in desgasificantes and products made of mint and ginger.disapproved by women. flour. The men released about twelve puns and women a day. At home. Find an example. instead of coffee. no problem.

evident in children from birth. to make the championships enchain bang and grooms in the light poles. or the deal as a reason to laugh. step by step. none of these things is not remotely funny. Make love to the two in the morning. Examination of magnetic resonance imaging show that men laugh most of the things that stimulate the right side of the brain and that it gives to women the exact opposite. in turn. Men love humor and jokes that have a logical. The female humor involves people. Because no man would do such a face on purpose. What you want . The University of Rochester. Here are some jokes that stimulate domestic relation Cère male-ber: 1. admit the truth about a matter in question. it can. not give them names of estimation. Other chimpanzees that warns of the danger. claims to have discovered where is the male sense of humor . What is the perfect lover? . which means that if for a moment she experienced a reaction of fear. Why men do not simulate the orgasm? . What can you say to a man who has sex? . she laughs. extending over four kilometers. The male sexual organs are hanging right in front of a vulnerable and weak (additional proof that God is female) and are a source of fun and free for men. how much this habit to bother. but do not know the names of the children of your best friends. . third. enjoy a much more enjoyable sex life. Why men like coarse jokes? The humor has to man three main purposes: first. relationships and men. mostly nuns. When you deliberately frighten a child playing hide-andseek in the first reaction is her cry of fear. then turns chocolate. With the terrorist you can negotiate. as among monkeys.it is located in the frontal lobe of the brain above the right eye. 2. rushed away to a tree. But women never make jokes with them. For most women. 2. throws her head down and produces a sequence of sounds very similar to human laughter. with some unpredictable conclusion. The male brain has an amazing ability to store and remember jokes. when can escape from a lion. the laughter indicates that she knows it was only joke. A woman can make it clear that the boom in the bedroom . The female sexual organs are capable of astonishing feats of human reproduction. are certainly protected and. The laughter is an extension of crying. gaining prestige with men to have a good repertoire. to help deal with tragic events. For example: 1. and terrible events male genitalia. USA. 3. and crying is a reaction of surprise and fear.especially in the double bed . Men find very funny show in the ass for unsuspected group of older women. Why the name men give to their own penis? . if progress. Why do not want strangers to take their key decisions.serenity. second.it takes all the desire to have sex. Some men are able to tell jokes that you heard in the fourth grade. The laughter has its roots in our remote past when it was used to warn other people of an imminent danger. What is the difference between a woman in the TPM and a terrorist? . The chimpanzee.he is sleeping. A major difference between the sexes is the male obsession with jokes about tragedies. Caring for food with the aim of releasing less gas. When the child realizes that the situation is not threatening.

a kind of "cheap" natural. strengthen the immune system. activates the immune system. seem ill more frequently. The basis of many jokes is a disastrous event or painful experience for someone. but men account. 73 wives. the September 11 or the hunt for Osama bin Laden. the laughter turns into crying.The jokes are as important as a means of communication among men. you usually cry. and even violent when they drink vodka or gin drinks. the arteries dilate and the muscles relax. in general people cry. Think the last time that someone told you a joke that made you slip in uncontrollable laughter. But he says he hates the Americans because of the excessive way of life they lead. When the person know it's reality. another Body natural tranquilizer that relieves the pain. The more difficult it is for a man talk . Here lies the difference between men and women with regard to dealing with serious emotional problems. The laughter and crying are closely related from a psychological and physiological. that when a tragedy happens global. And that is why. Endorphin is a substance whose chemical composition is similar to morphine and heroin and has a soothing effect on the body. research has shown that the positive effects of laughter. As the jokes and humor relieve the pain The laughter and crying instruct the brain to release endorphins into the bloodstream. That is why the cry is often the extent of access of laughter. The mood cure. releasing anesthetic produced by the body. This explains why people rarely get sick and happy that the unfortunate people who are complaining live. At the end of a meeting of great laughs. In all parts of the world. networks of e-mails from around the world are literally flooded jokes sent by men. laughed and released endorphins to the selfanesthetize. stabilizes the wrist. "I cried from laughing so much!" The tears contain encefalina. alcohol or sex. But knowing that it is not a real event. protects against diseases. Cry when we have a painful experience. The laughter anesthesia the body. After the laughter. which explains why the general well-adjusted people laugh and most unfortunate that people become even more unfortunate. without showing any emotional blow that can be seen as weakness. If it were a real event. Many people get the similar effect of laughter with drugs. enhances learning and extends life. How did you feel then? That feeling of tingling was from the release of endorphins to the blood system. The laughter is a predominantly male to deal with emotional pain. Women deal with disasters and tragedies openly expressing their emotions to other people. Whether the death of Princess Diana. They tell jokes as a way to "talk about the event. the male brain enter immediately into action. but someone who can not accept it may start to laugh. the breathing is deeper. 28 children and more than 300 million dollars. assists the memory. Alcohol loosen the inhibitions and makes a person laugh. releasing endorphins. and the endorphins and encefalina help in self-anesthetize. when faced with a serious emotional crisis such as death. começaríamos to cry immediately and the body released encefalina too. Osama bin Laden has 53 brothers and sisters. while promoting the immune system.

it will invariably create their own collection of jokes. The man who asked you to stop improper wisecrack may feel publicly humiliated and be challenged from the other even more offensive. we chose not to hurt. If he persists. How to re-educate the man The training of any person . And choose to offend the world says you are unable to deal with the problem addressed by the joke. and the counter attack of the joke does not become more intelligent. analytical. are able to discuss details of their sex lives with friends without the help of any joke. . Despite the jokes. Other people may not offend you . Women live behind the things that the children leave the house. In any event. As the men rarely talk about his sex life with men. You can choose to feel the rage of traffic jam. Do not be offended While there are Irish there are jokes about Irish. this observation may be more difficult. boys grow up with few skills and domestic skills and a low degree of understanding of how to relate to a woman. cease to be victims of traffic on both of rabies. we laugh along with the British. however. things go sour. You want the behavior that rewards and punishes as either.about an emotional event. maybe find a solution to the problem. the more he rirá if you tell a joke on the subject. Miff is a choice. You can choose to feel offended because someone told a joke that says that everyone in your country is stupid. At the beginning of a new relationship. as the mother. Women. but your anger will not make the traffic flow. If it's a good joke. And no man who finds the mother sexually attractive.blame his mother The female brain is programmed to create and nurture the children mainly. What about Asian. acting as a mother all the time.if you choose offense. your clothes are. As a result.to do what you want to do it is always the same. Do know any more light?" Or you can ably deflect the subject. conniption and leakage. If you are capable of taking a calm. they tell jokes as a way to discuss her. as cruel and insensitive as it may seem to women. And where there is a tragedy. Maybe we should use the following tactics: "You are a great counter jokes. They feel attracted to women. That does not mean they are really stupid. give them money and protect the bitterness of life. We are Australian author living in England and the English are all the time telling us jokes about Australians. will nourish you and serve you. using the knowledge acquired in this book to check if all are in agreement with the differences between men and women! Learned behavior . tell him so firm and gentle you are not enjoying it and want it to stop. most women assume this role. just go do something else. Portuguese and feminist. preparing their favorite dishes. on the grounds that the traffic being stopped. A social occasion. As already suggested. especially if you are the host. but when he realizes that may become permanent. It is important to understand that women. eventually playing the mother figure and man react with screams.child or adult . If a man insist wisecrack unfit at or in the wrong place.

If they ignore your request. If you intend to re-educate your man. you have chosen to accept that the role of substitute mother's will and to comply with this role. a caress or a "thank you". tell him I will put them in a de-finished cabinet. the care is not a behavior "natural" for them. miff or frustrate yourself with them. therefore. When he needs pants. you will discover that it can be fun to have a man around. When he need them. or were born in Trieste or in Timbuktu. But if you continue to collect and save his stuff. judgmentalism or aggressive. And when he put the things in the right place. Thus. The secret is to administer the men of his life. Some women are horrified at the idea of thanking a man for him to do something as simple as collecting their own clothes.is the man to drop the clothes or wet towel on the floor rather than put it in the basket of laundry. Maybe. instead of discussing. because that will only reinforce the behavior you do not want. the next time you ask women to the seven things that men do leave them mad. but it is important to understand that men have not changed as guardians of nests and. if large tools or unfinished projects for the house. Who knows. because it generally produces a negative effect on men. but their brains work the same. the problem is his. will you train it. How they interfere with their right to live in a clean house. explain politely that you would like the clothes were put in the basket to be washed. When you understand how the male brain. they may fail to mention or three. the sexes will be able to live happily ever after. not yours. reward their contribution with a smile. explain that you will put them in a plastic bag in a closet or under the bed. culture or religion. If the mother of a man not trained to do these things. collect the clothes and the towel. resisting the temptation to save his stuff.you can change the skin color. Men are always the same . The key problem is to announce its intentions in advance and avoid being sarcastic. shirts or towels washed. Similarly. you know where to find. . Do not place them in the shop or anywhere that is convenient for him.

once I die. The daughter: "If you really like me. For humans. wail. shed some serious and humorous on the differences between the sexes and what you can do about it. but there are times when people cry to manipulate the emotions of others. trapped between three women who mourn.husband. I am old.Chapter 3 WHY Women cry? The dangers of emotional blackmail Poor man. reaching for his time in the nasal cavity. the tears serve three purposes: to help clean the surface of the eye. whine. Sometimes the cry comes as direct response of the heart.only the names have been changed to protect the guilty. even if they are not aware of it. howl. the channel is the lacrimal drain. child. each with their particular complaint. This chapter will help you identify the people who use such tactics to manipulate you or trick you in order to obtain what they want. spill or blubber. gave me a new bike! The mother of salt / and gave her one! ! The woman: "You forgot the anniversary of our marriage! Our relationship fell na. the excess of tears that can not be drained by the lacrimal channels rolls by side.. We now examine how the emotions can be used to manipulate people and make them sell. whine. distress signal in emotionally charged situations. Crying is a behavior that we have in common with other animals and that starts at birth. women are more likely to use the tears as a weapon of emotional blackmail. but humans are the only ones who cry with emotion. you do not love me more! "The old mother:" No need to worry about me ..to act in a different way than would like. sick and then. The tears are secreted by a gland located above the eye and removed by two channels in the internal corner. The goal is to force the other person . .rotina. The lacrimal gland is the tap. excrete chemicals generated by stress. " So far. Although men occasionally do this. lover. Why cry? Cry: yell. Emo-tional circumstances or afflicted. It is a mechanism of control that can be deliberate or unconscious. wail. whine (the dog). parent or friend . whimper. All stories are true . leak. She also cries to look sorry and receive more lenient a punishment for a wrong action.

and friend plays the role of parent helpers. For women. 2. The body seems to use this function to eliminate the toxins of stress. we examine the mechanism of manipulation. By transmitting weakness. especially for other women. is a sign of confidence: the crying is the baby. 3 . by which it assesses their needs.from another person by threatening to reveal something that . because the whole process rolling. The eyes glow when a person feels an intense emotion. The tears contain an enzyme called lysozyme. is stimulating feelings of affection and protection. Most women can identify seven different meanings in the crying baby. especially in the presence of other men. to manipulate emotion. Let's talk about criminal blackmail. Wash the eye: The lacrimal gland discharges fluid inside the eye and lacrimal channels act as drains to drain it to the nasal cavity.usually money . containing the different proteins that serve to clean the eye. Cry used to remove salt and other impurities from the eye. for some women. those who roll the sides. Rarely you see a man cry in public.Flag emotions: Seals and sea otters cry when emotionally shaken by the loss of their young. The human being is the only land animal that cries of excitement and. he encourages other men to attack him. which makes people want to be touched by other people and acaricides. The seals and sea otters do not use tears as a tool of manipulation. That would explain why women they feel better after "a good cry". The prime purpose of crying in adults. however. is placed at risk. The crying and the emotional blackmail How to blackmail Now you know the purpose of crying. a process known to us all. where someone tries to extract advantage .Why women cry more than men? Cry since born. The tears act as a signal to the other emotional embrace and comfort those who cry. even seem to be no reason to do so. which is consistent with the emotional reactions of the brain most powerful women. yes. Crying is a way to achieve what the child wants. The lacrimal glands of women are more active than those of man. Reduce stress: chemical analysis show that the tears of stress. a natural body of anesthetics that act as shock of emotional pain. Humans. behavior perpetuated among adults. the man who shows emotion. Familiar cry has three purposes: 1. display their emotions. The tears also contain endorphins. and encourage the production of the hormone oxytocin. but the amount of tears is not enough to roll the face. This is what happens when the light reflects the tears of parents proud and passionate lovers. which kills bacteria and prevents infections in the eye.

From that day. acceptance of the demands of the blackmailer. the mother of Rosemary and daughter became seriously ill understood. went hand in the eyes and deep breath. When we sat at the table. Greg asked what was wrong." Greg was furious when his wife told him that story. but I know what you think of the idea of her live with us. I take care of her. the husband of Rosemary. and her mother did not like each other. "No." "But Rosie.will harm the victim's life. That night. Greg hugged her and she begged him to say what was the problem. Is it something so bad?" Between tears.The agreement. she put her head between his hands. but not ." Greg held the hands of women. Frankly. that would invite the parent to live with them.Continuity: the inevitable continuation of exigêncÚs. made a special deal in appearance and prepared the favorite of Greg. "It's Mommy. Rosemary should be having an affair. I give a way. the relationship with the parents of Greg finally turned sour. you did nothing." she replied. Case study: Rosemary Greg. Greg. I am afraid of you getting angry with me and not stand that. "Tell me. she told Rosemary that one of her friends had seen Greg with another woman in a bar. Greg. "I do not know how to say.The victim: someone who has a sense of guilt or obligation. pleading.. served him a glass of wine and asked how was your day. Took her to the bar to present it to the owner. . .The blackmailer: a person who knows the weak point of the victim. The emotional blackmail The emotional blackmail happens when a person threatens you emotionally close to any punishment or subtly insinuated that you will suffer if you do not agree with what she wants. Concerned.Resistance: the victim's initial refusal to cooperate. . Do not worry. I will try to understand. Rosemary shake." suggested Rosemary. I tried all possible solutions. what? Something I did?" Rosemary shook her head with a sad air. "Rosie. "tell me what happened.The threat: exposure. One day. no. . That is therefore the main ingredients of blackmail and criminal actors: . . punishment and loss of something of great value material or emotional." he begged. The mother thought that Greg was not good enough for his daughter and was always trying to create problems for the couple. Two years later. "I feel terrible.. When he came home. Greg. "No. But how could imagine what the reaction from Greg." she said with soft voice and hacking. please. who was combining a party-surprise for the anniversary of Rosemary. with heavy heart. she knew he was calm and relaxed. This person knows their innermost secrets and vulnerabilities and USA that knowledge to make you comply. Greg was starting to become distressed. Rosemary prying eyes at him. . "No. "We are not owners of each other. It is I" And off to cry.The requirement: the payment in exchange for silence or cooperation. all is well. . "It probably is a co-worker. She is very patient and I am worried." Greg began to think the worst. she shook her head. Excuse me. Between tears. carefully chose the moment to present it. After dessert.

The strength of the initial refusal to cooperate Greg.. In general.he felt weakness and feeling of guilt when his wife was emotionally distressed. The threat: the implicit refusal of love where Rosemary not get what they want.they always end up manipulating to achieve their final goal. To obtain your agreement. Greg agreed to a trial period of a month. . your relationship with the blackmailer will never be the same. they have a incontomável need to be loved. Continuation: the inevitable discussions and in tears. The blackmailer: Rosemary . Both Rosemary as her mother knew that once she enters the door. You end up agreeing to something not wanted to do.with partners. Its function has always been to nurture relationships . But the consequences of emotional blackmail is always destructive. rather than say it directly at the risk of a refusal to listen. more commonly. began to feel guilty. I do not know what to do . Men and emotional blackmail Men are. It is inevitable that you will be felt by being placed in this situation.. and this is killing me . They prefer to ask directly what they want.found. should not be prepared to make that sacrifice for it? Is this not true love? Marriage is compromise? And started to feel selfish and petty .realized the weakness of Greg. And Greg knew that every time he protests. children and other family and social groups . maybe that person who never seems to say exactly what you want . Greg was flatly refused to consider the possibility of bringing the parents to live with them. The people who are emotional blackmail. Perhaps a situation similar to that of Greg.. but .. it was your mother I know. The story of Greg and Rosemary has the typical ingredients of blackmail in which a person tries to emotionally manipulate the other to obtain a personal gain: The victim: Greg . and he would feel sick. The agreement: Greg yields to the demands of Rosemary. it would be virtually impossible to go back. Everybody knows at least one person who has used tactics of emotional blackmail to force them to do something that they initially refused. Oh. who developed the role of peace keepers tend to say exactly what they want when they want something. The pattern was established.and their brains are structured to make them work. If he really loved Rosemary. It is important that you identify the people in their relations that use these tactics of manipulation to get what they want. The many lack the self-esteem necessary to consider worthy of the object of their desires. Defenders of the nest.exactly as Rosemary thought he would stay. But after two days of tears of Rosemary.thinking about Mom alone. by far. relatives and friends. In the end. Initially. without anyone to care for her. often. people do not believe that their relatives and friends use this type of strategy on a conscious and deliberate. Women. most frequently the victims of that the villains of emotional blackmail. there would be tears and accusations. The requirement: the mother of Rosemary go live with them. the blackmailer makes you feel bad with yourself and guilty of resisting. the emotional blackmail to get what they want. Greg. Use because. " And started to sob. Whether you realize it or not.

"Sorry. I really like . Damian . I love you. In the course of history. Turned to Erika and began kissing her and rummage in his shirt." But Erika did not seem convinced.. this is the time. Men are also emotional blackmail. immediately. there are some situations in which men often resort to emotional blackmail. meanwhile. I like you the truth. Damian. He liked to Erika and I have sex with her but the girl resisting.. Damian was getting impatient. I never felt this for someone else. May propose to build an annex in the house. Case study: Damian Damian came out twice with Erika. We give it so well that I want to show you how much I love you. The male brain functions are much simpler with regard to emotions. And a third. but was rejected. I just want to know you better. She has helped to unbutton it and started to caress. And their brains continue to evolve that way. sorry . After five minutes. He could not understand why. and usually women consent. If a man wished that his mother would live with him. The boys. I do not feel ready. I know. after a dinner theater and much more expensive than Damian wanted to pay. Without enough force to impose their will. So it is not contained and asked what was wrong. I only make love with you. As Erika said that he liked it. But it is too early. For me. thought it natural that she wanted to make love as much as him. spend the weekends away and so on. We only went three times. but in much smaller scale. you know you want. And twice in the match led a long and deep kiss before she desvencilhar of his arms and leave the car running for home. he stopped the car park in a poorly lit and turned off the engine. women had to rely. Be patient with me. The men use the direct approach and well structured to achieve what they want. Women prefer to emotional blackmail. In general. the use to convince girlfriends to make sex with them. the men preferred the direct approach.. and this would be the maximum of their manipulation. taking into account the pros and cons. However. "No. In the third meeting. for example. The trend would come right in the matter and discuss it frankly." Erika. sweetheart. When the time comes. or subtly asking that everyone agree with what they want. but I do not want. men require. please. I like you the truth. "Erika." Damian whispered in his ear: "Come on. The same happened a second time. to buy your partner a bouquet of flowers before you ask. in his stratagems and his cunning to get what they wanted. he tried to take the shirt of Erika. hire an escort to take care of mother. for centuries. moved away. men always occupied positions were always more powerful and more open master-mind of women.The blackmail seems to be the easiest way because it allows the person to avoid the confrontation.. When hunting.

" Damian was crestfallen.. A relationship that starts well is doomed to failure." "When we fuck. I was a complete idiot." Children: . I love you. I'm sorry. I always hated. But when he said that does not support the idea of being hurt again. But if you do not feel the same.. Here. " Erika Damian just having sex with that night. I thought that you feel for me what I feel for you.. When Damian subtly accused it of not liking him. The emotional blackmail rife in families and is a practice that is transmitted from generation to generation. I regret. Erika was the victim and sex." "I will leave you without a penny." "If you love me. Erika was increasingly upset. parents or friends.." "I will disinherit you." It seemed so upset that Erika could not avoid a sense of shame. He knew exactly what were the weaknesses of the Erika and struck without mercy. Damian left implicit threat "that was ready to end the relationship if you do not get what they want.. "No. Sometimes employers can be." Damian shook his head. And their relationship lasted two weeks. the requirement. but I am not prepared. "No. but that is how I feel. children. As expected that two people build a relationship of respect and mutual trust based on the manipulation? The emotional blackmail is not destroyed immediately combated. Erika. Women hate men see emotionally disturbed. it would not have reacted as reacted. It is better if we separate. Damian.. I think you're a great guy and I spend more time with you." Ex-partners: "I will lead you to stick to family. Used to see men as strong and infallible creatures. Finally." And got the key to the car to start the engine.. I thought that things were going well between us." But Erika. "Because . Damian was the blackmailer. I just need a little more time . though no longer absolutely clear that he liked her. do it for me. I have hurt before . What's wrong with you?" "This is what people who love to do some the other.. husbands or wives. This leaves the way open for Damian to want sex all the time you see. and it is natural for a man wanting to express love physically. If I had said so directly. We forget that this happened." Lovers: "Everybody does. "No. look.. that awakens their maternal instincts and desire to help them get rid of pain. then it is better to give people a longer time while I'm not too concerned . sad. But I see that I am completely wrong .. Common tactics of blackmail emotional The practice of emotional blackmail may be lovers..you. women are deeply shaken when they see a man collapse. Here are some of the threats or punishment typical of the emotional blackmail that it may sound familiar: Parents: "After everything I did for you. You will never see the children." "Of course you do not love me. I like you. she stopped resisting and was blackmailing left to do something not wanted. it is clear that you do not feel for me what I feel for you. Damian. Erika began to feel that perhaps the only way to convince you were agreeing to have sex. parents." "Why are you doing this to me? You are blood of my blood!" Husbands / wives: "I can not believe you're so selfish!" "You do not love me.

. It is not fair. "Look. the children of Julia also blackmail. mother. saying they were on a tour of the school. Children learn early that the emo-tional blackmail are a way to get what they want particularmen when you live in a family where parents use blackmail." "You like more of my sister than me. "you know that we have a lot of home for duty to do. Julia felt guilty for that. I never had money. This is the guy they like most of the children you love me." argued Bemard of fifteen years. The children then did exactly the same." "If you do not take care of me. I would go with you today." "I'm sure the press will like to know that. indifferent to the arguments of the mother. In addition. or in any particular activity that kept distant. In this scenario. Parents who routinely try to blackmail your children must be prepared to see the spell turned against the magician. They must take the consequences. End of story. but I have this great work of geography to ."All the other parents do this for their children. "Oh. he does not listen to what people say." "You've heard of sexual harassment?" What the blackmailer is saying is: "If you do not behave the way I want. You do not remember what he did for you when you were small? Mimava account and would take you two. Julia felt powerless and trying to exercise a moral and emotional pressure on children. was also a specialist in blackmail. If I do not do well. Instead of arguing with them calmly and coolly." "I though ." "I always did everything for you. " The children can master the art of manipulation. Note that I have ne-le vai from the final average. my situation may be difficult. I can never go out with my friends. of sixteen years. you should not be doing your heart with us. you will need a good lawyer. I would have done it for you. will suffer the consequences." But.I have been adopted. "And there is very flat in his house. Every time I visited the uncle. "But mother. or simply instruct them to do what felt right." "Do not you have to me and a little company loyalty?" Employees: "If you say goodbye. because they had already learned the game." "Make sure your name is never a list of deals. I get sick and end up in hospital" "Do not worry about me . We do not want to go. It has nothing to do. but spent everything I had with you." Employers: "You are only making things more difficult for their coworkers. Do not I deserve a little fun? You do not want me to be sad. "He is alone and wants to see you. he asked the children and she felt obliged to lie." In-laws: "I leave everything to a charity. he is completely deaf. How children feel relatively powerless because of their age and size. Case study: Julia The more grown less if the children of Julia had to go visit Uncle John. he is getting old and I do not know how long it will live. she used the emotional blackmail.I am old and will die soon." she said. do you?" Katie." "I never thought I would disappoint me so much. or busy with their tasks from home. But look how you treat me when I need. blackmail seems to be the most effective and easy to get what they want. You want us to be disapproved. who was sick." she told them." Friends: "If the need were you.

At the end of their number. He heard about the lack that he did. "Hey. saying it had made a big mistake and would like to meet with him to talk. Convince the mother of Stephen's family to seek Camila to tell them he was concerned about the state of it and ask them to give him attention. Began to call his mother. and shouted. he begged to go home. Then she called saying that he would be killed. But when Stephen's mother began to talk about his new wife. Stephen did not know which direction to take.. Well . There was no chance of him returning to it. He felt powerless in the face of her tears. he turned to the group of children that applauded. Camila was mad with rage. but everything was finished. but would like it to be ahead and build for themselves a new life. but nobody gives it much importance. agreed to is Stephen. kids! If your parents did not give a pound to put on my hat. but had agreed to the separation at the time. She simply believed that after one or two weeks alone. his new girlfriend. never really believed he would remain firm in that position. Camila is angry. The quick action of Chrissie prevented that Stephen was caught in the trap of a relationship that he wanted more. Camila still regularly visiting his mother and talking about the "good times" of his relationship with Stephen. But Stephen had changed. Stephen began to call for more problems in the hours. but had no more emotional ties. you do not like you!" Did eighteen pounds. The closer the relationship. day and night. Camila was well-humored. Phone begging for him to come visit her. crying and saying that his life had been finished without him. Then Stephen encouraged to write a letter to Camila saying you felt very strongly that. Chrissie was able to understand the emotional blackmail of Camila and I knew that Stephen was the innocent victim. Like most women. Case study: Stephen Stephen was five years ago married Camila when they separated amicably. But Camila is not complied.Adults who use emotional blackmail create children who are even better in practice. and guilt is the most powerful weapon of blackmail. bewitched. Tried in vain to comfort her. which had met someone else and that I would be happy Camila too. Camila secretly believed that he could never hit the step and sooner or later would see how his life was empty without her.just like when they met. She knew his mother liked her as a daughter and had been razed to the separation. . Chrissie and Stephen were married the following year. Chrissie. he may return to Camila therefore been very frightened with the threat of suicide. Stephen simply had not noticed that Camila was deliberately using the emotional blackmail to have him back and had no real intention to kill. The more a person is allowed to emotional blackmail. Chrissie is not involved. Luckily. Reluctant. Camila still enjoyed and felt affection for her. Stephen thought it was an amicable separation. Everyone felt sorry for her. One day we were watching a street artist in London. attractive and loving . the more it will take a standard in the future of their relationships. Stephen did not. but said he felt very. thinking that would be responsible. But there appeared another woman. asking for news. saw what was happening and was in charge of the problem. Camila. the greater the sense of guilt.

and now he wants to a berth in the marina. used. I never imagined that one day you would deprive them of spending the weekends with us. she decided to try a line: "Bob. and you postpone the purchase of new boat for a year. Finally. almost fainted. as anyone who receives a demand for ransom or a direct threat. "But Bob. Been researching and said he could buy exactly the boat I wanted at a reasonable price. Exhausted.mostly women faced with the emotions. Irene has supported more than one situation. I was thinking about the boat. Women know this and use for their own benefit. There are many things we do at home. you only think of you. " Bob made a bad pass Irene piece in the three following days. When other people . and should have left it clear. Bob bought his boat . "We can not buy it now. me. Return to work full-time and everything would be fine." he said. Irene was the victim of blackmail. but they will end up having problems. Men deal with facts. "Here you come again thinking only in yourself.The fault places the victim under great pressure. He knows it will. She knew that Bob could drag it forever and the boys were increasingly distressed with the tension in the house. but used to refer to the demands of others and left to state their wishes only to keep the peace. the majority simply does not support. Men can be tyrants too emotional to get what they want. was concerned with people. When Irene knew the price. it will use the same tactic again. all together as a family . me. "Do not you think the children? It is you who always cares to know where they are and what they are doing. Nobody likes a cynical take on another person. Men like to direct discussions and arguments about which is the best time. and who knows if I bought a smaller car. Irene discovered a solution. The men are not accustomed to dealing with their emotions and do not much idea of how women deal with emotion. . They also need that boat! " After two days of tension. Will never passes through your head that I have my needs. which produces a beer hangover less angry. because the old was exceeded. I work hard the entire month to earn money to support this family. We just pay the enrollment of children and you promised I could buy a new car at the end of the month mine is a broad-old who lives breach." Bob was naughty." he said with a voice increasingly angry." Bob remained insensitive. is used to refer to male rulers. One day. The essential ingredients of the criminal and emotional blackmail are exactly the same. Stephen was convinced from the outset that no-that would return to Camila. never putting their needs above the needs of others. because they will be able to do water skiing. It was a happy and loyal person. and I m always done that on your own. We must give a fun for the kids on weekends. Irene. Bob. It was quiet and generous. " Irene was crazy. her husband was very demanding and jealous. " Bob does not move: "No. but it is important to remain firm in what you want. Bob announced the desire to buy a new boat. figures and concrete realities. we could have both. which political party is the best policy to govern the country. "I. Case study: Irene Irene was a wonderful character. "I do not believe what I hear. I am stressed all the time and my fishing to Saturday is the only opportunity I have to relax. We spend more time with the kids. we can not buy the boat now. but this tactic works better when their women are kind of sensitive and quiet. In a year the boat will be more expensive and also is a good idea to buy a boat this summer.

Do not try to understand how you feel the blackmailer. The resistance: the attempts to Irene to demonstrate that the requirement of Bob was not practical. If you are a victim. because it enabled. The threat: the guilt of contributing to the deteriorating health of her husband. the blackmailer feel powerless. can be modified over time. if she is not satisfied. The only way you lose that power is showing weakness. it will gradually lose the self and will be forever deprived of the ability to assert itself. The first thing to bear in mind is that the blackmailer need your agreement to something. Whenever father and mother give to an attack of anger of the children are planting the seeds of an emotional blackmailer. and offer an alternative. The submission: Irene just giving. Without their agreement. that is.The victim: The sense of obligation to his family. which was built in the course of time. Blackmailer usually nothing more than false Roughnecks. they knew it would work. People always treat us the way we allow them to handle. increasingly unfair How to deal with an emotional blackmailer People who practice emotional blackmail often strong opinion and resolution u s.all of them character-specific. this is rarely true. have an attack of anger. it is important to consider in deciding whether to agree with it or will do something about it.are like emotional blackmail fanfarrões children and rude and should be treated as such. This change of behavior requires persistence. If they give in to blackmail. imme-diately. in any way accepted any portion of blame for the situation. In many ways. and extending the tension in the house. Why can not argue with the objective to discuss the situation and negotiate their options. Do not ask the blackmailer to reduce its demand and. egocentric and without feelings . patience and a firm purpose. The emotional blackmail destroys the self-image of victim. Never forget . But while giving the impression of knowing exactly what they want and are prepared to do what is necessary to get him. and have a desperate fear of losing what they already have. Usually accuse their victims of being selfish. to allow the children fell into bad company because of the husband was being selfish. which allows the blackmailer making new demands. If you think you are a victim of emotional blackmail. Make its demand and. they look like rude children. his love for children and their desire to maintain a happy home were the vulnerabilities of Irene. The requirement: that Irene agreed to purchase a new boat. But the behavior of the blackmailer. Be ravaged by insecurity. Therefore. in reality it is you who has the mastery of the situation. you have to prepare for a battle long and hard. the fear and guilt. Continuation: the recurrence of the tactics of blackmail on the part of Bob for the anchorage and the marina in other situations. The blackmailer: Bob knew all the secrets and feelings of Irene and know their weak points. His self-image is poor and does not support the rejection. .

When the blackmailer is also in the dark Sometimes the blackmailer is not aware of what is doing. because anything you say will not be able to it.Remember: you are being the victim of blackmail and that what matters is how you are feeling. Avoid countered with threats. Never attempt to counter-blackmail. you can modify the behavior of the blackmailer. respond with silence." . In his book. Beware. Just say: "When you want to talk." ." . especially 'the victims had the courage to talk about what was happening."I think we need to think much about it."I regret that you feel as you prefer."I see you are not satisfied." ." . it is usually then that the victim assigns. When the demands. The rape was the biggest taboo in the country. We on this later. threats and accusations of a blackmailer to start well. then practice them until they become part of you.train him."Obviously you are angry. and few people. insults or attack the vulnerabilities of the blackmailer. The situation must be resolved . Do not fight or argue with the blackmailer . quit the conversation civilized and go.but only if the blackmailer is ready to discuss the problem in a civilized and rational. but you still need to save the appearances. how it emerged and strengthened further as it became a reference for many other women who . but at this point there is no negotiation."You're obviously disappointed. The blackmailer feel helpless and hopeless before the: USA. At that time. What can you tell a blackmailer . Blackmailer meet people who do not retreat." . do not argue. but we will discuss the issue when you calm down. it is essential that you have a stock of ready answers. With such a strategy. I'm available" And stand away. If the blackmailer demand make you feel uncomfortable. but that is how things are. setting its borders and keep it firmly within them. Charlene speaks of the terrible effect that the episode caused it. knowing that the goal is just to give you some relief."I see things in a different way." The refusal to show weakness or immediately negotiate almost always produces a period of silence or the petulance blackmailer. speak of 'his good qualities. Maybe they did not occur naturally."Well. A South African journalist Charlene Smith wrote a wonderful book about the night he was raped at home and helped the authorities to prosecute their abusers. the choice is yours. During this period of silence the blackmailer. South Africa had the highest rate of rape in the world: one for each 26 seconds. Reaching a compromise.

the woman left the university. demanded that her husband bought a house in another place and left to care for three children and the house. she was amazed with the reaction of the writer. though not visible to the naked eye. especially her husband and children because they felt unable to protest and resist. "But why not. to help break the vicious circle of self and autopiedade. It was easy to fall into the role of blackmail. He begged her to be his guarantor in a loan to purchase a car to work because. when he discovered that he was an incorrigible liar. "I'm not asking just for me. And if the husband had stayed at home that night? And if the children had not left? Perhaps the rape had not happened. . I am asking for both of us. 'psychologist or psychotherapist. initiating a vicious cycle that becomes increasingly difficult to hold.went by the same trauma. blind with love and afraid to lose him. It paralyzes the victim. When contacting Charlene. But one that tried did not get its support. stricken by the frustration felt unable to help her to recover. as the blows that she applied to his family were much more deadly. You can request the support of a friend of women's confidence or call a good adviser. the house was leaving her husband and. Sometimes it is necessary to use someone who is outside the sphere of emotional blackmail. "The addiction of Mary autopiedade made a slave of his attackers. Later. "We are talking about spending the rest of our lives together. the blackmailer can ruin the victim emotionally. unconsciously. In these circumstances it is much better for the victims of blackmail out under domestic and seek help." he said. After being raped. she agreed to sign your name on the dotted line. Charlene said bluntly that she was using the emotional blackmail to make the family suffer as she had suffered. It is very likely that this woman had no awareness of emotional blackmail to be doing with your famI1ia. In the limit. "If you really love me. The fault is usually the most powerful weapon of the arsenal of the blackmailer. and asked that money in the God-given and everyone was too late. I had enough credit. In the end. psychologically and financially. When your heart becomes a life sentence When you are first subject to threats of emotional blackmail. as I said. They were prisoners of a sense of guilt for rape." The victim may be. perhaps best finish all at once now! The discussion was dragged for weeks." said Charlene in Proud of Me (proud of me). free from emotional. If you do not trust me to make a simple loan." he said. Initially. passed the consequences of emotional blackmail to other family members and friends. "She was playing the abusive behavior of their abusers ment of another way. A well known to our family by the groom was troubled to \ join him in a business transaction." He used the phrase "After all we spent together. for our future. that's the least I can wait" as a weapon to finally oblige it to accept. The attacks of them were obvious. an incompetent who could not stop two weeks in the same job. do this simple thing for me. she resisted. The children cared for themselves.

The threat of losing the love of women is easy prey to blackmail. wherever it occurs. abandoned the happiness of parents to care for elderly and debilitated. is always per-versa. now she suspects of every man that approaches. Yielding to emotional blackmail. but firmly resolved to fill them with guilt when they were thinking about leaving them to build their own lives.Why give the blackmailer. still paying. But it is never too late to change the situation. Parents also can inflict lasting scars on their children. Anyone who has ever been in the role of victim may be imprisoned the rest of your life and see all the missed chances to find happiness. So if after reading these stories you recognized the role of victim and cry so that she knows the reason. but was long ago. service by service. . As the groom. With the children. And what is more sad. The emotional blackmail. by sense of duty. she ended up drowned in debt.that they follow certain careers. love and joy of living a life without guilt.are authentic and often subtle emotional blackmail . the child will feel forever prisoner and felt with his parents. Everyone has heard of women who. with no regard for specific talent or the desire of the child. How many parents pushing their children . the emotional blackmail tends to vary.

and Mark Kelly led a perfect life. to take care of me and that part of family life that I need without being charged. is not Mark? And I think I will never understand. step. It is as if not existíssemos. I drain the family to work for the week full and you are never satisfied. What do you mean with 'I do not take care of you or the children? See our wonderful house... Mark had a very good job.. not know the existence of that system and may be disapproved without ever coming to understand that it is wrong. lived in a lovely house. Between four walls. but the place inexorably.. Kelly . work and work.. like most men. One night when the issue arose of legal separation. I am tired of being mother and father to our children. all this I offer to you and them! Yes. cook. Forget about me and the children and never do anything for us.. were confused. both agreed to consult a therapist for couples. but so that people can live well and have everything you want. Women are not aware of this process. however. you know I love you .Chapter 4 THE ULTRA-SECRET SYSTEM THE WOMEN OF SCORE How to ruin a man of the week For the rest of the world. The number of points that man accumulates with his partner directly affects the quality of your life. most at least. and we were at the end of their list of priorities. When a man and a woman decide to live together.. the excellent school for children . was not the slightest idea that Kelly wore a special female scores to rate their marriage.. While love. The men see only the general framework Men prefer to be watching the "framework" of . Both calculate that the other will continue giving what is already giving that behave the same way as their parents. organize your life and take care of our family .. I need a man I want... I do everything for you. Es-Kelly was happy to go to a therapist. or that fits the stereotypes of marriage that everyone knows. desperate and afflicted with constant fights. I work hard. " Mark (shocked): "Kelly .. Tell me when was the last time you said you loved me .. you still complaining . " Kelly (angry): "You can not even understand. The men. " Mark (surprised): "I can not believe what I hear. not understanding what happened. And all you do is work. Here's what they said to the therapist: Kelly: "Mark is hooked on work. and every year spend holidays abroad. but in their hearts they thought things should resolve themselves. When was the last time you emptied the machine to wash dishes for me? Do you know a place to wash dishes? Tell me when was the last time you took me out to dinner. their relationship was problematic.. Mark agreed. their three children were happy and well adjusted." Most men absolutely do not realize that women maintain a system for scoring the performance of its general partner. Wash. We work. The problem was that Mark. the clothes and jewelry you USA. in general do not discuss the last details of the contribution of each of the relationship. Kelly always seemed boring and Mark was perplexed.

not by size. allocate points according to the size of the action or the present. the score-draw will do. In other words. Regularly present shows with a single rose that is always in the forefront in his mind. gets a point collects his laundry or says he loves the woman. secretly. and he is surprised and upset with their accusations. While unconscious. she continues giving only one point. If a man keep a score. A single rose is clearly intended for her. For him. If a man buys a rose for your partner. the man is not knowing when the relationship is tie the score. it would reach this point. regardless of size.life together and giving a small number of large contributions from that tangle with a number of contributions that appear less and less important. quality or the result of a single action. for example. man can not have the custom to give his partner often. why women take a variety of small decisions about the intricate aspects of a relationship practice. They simply do what they do and never think to maintain a system of scoring. while a dozen roses can be interpreted as decoration for the house. A woman can let it get to 30 to 1 before starting to complain. but when it does. They are still doing things for the man because they believe in the end. The woman gives a point for this action or.one for each day of work. The female brain. men are not the slightest idea that women attribute points in the relationship. If he gives you a bouquet of six roses. This difference is the cause of many misunderstandings between men and women. no matter the size. is structured to fine tune. the points are allocated by the number of shares held. The woman keeps the score and never forget. the woman gives points to every thing we do in the partner relationship. then won six points. When he thought that the score was 3 to 1. For example. But 95% of all points awarded in a relationship are the things that happen or stop happening every day. it gives you a point. it just something great. Then the man she accuses of not doing anything. Women keep lasting memories that accumulate points for years. If the man also had a point system. would find that the more important the larger the share or more points this should be allocated. if the man paints the house. . you will certainly score more. As most women know. also wins a point. but the point of view it is only five . working five days a week is worth at least thirty points. Similarly. had complained of being too giving and require that the score was tied. He was not the slightest idea of the existence of a problem because it also maintained a system. If he buys her a new car or a diamond ring of your dreams. in turn. In general. that your partner will thank and support them retribuirão. But if he buys a rose every week for six weeks. And suppose. men always thought it is paper size. It really is that women feel and think.

Working late worth five points per night in his opinion. thought it would at least ten points . They had also to record points lost by irritating things that your partner do. and when doing a test like this tend to have good behavior. for it was only a joke. this was a difficult task. One point was assigned for each of the small-contribution and a maximum of thirty points for a major contribution to the relationship. she thought he care more for work than for her. but only gave him a Lorraine. Not that I have forgotten. Our experience with Brian Brian and Lorraine was a financial operator who worked long hours visiting client's building and your business. His wife. Lorraine. took the house and cared for their two children. The woman usually gives to man a single point for each task home run. despite having ." Brian thought that the more work in the office. If he had called to say that I loved her and miss her. "Good idea!". We suspect that this is due to two reasons: couples who live together have a tendency to ignore the negative points or relieve the other. and call again when you arrive. but working overtime in fact meant he had less time to stay at home doing small things. is that it never happened that the head of the woman praising the food could render points. for thirty days. but she only gave him four points. and he was proud of what he has done. normal. is the frequency. Brian was five points by helping the child to assemble an aircraft. and therefore lost points. Like most men. Brian won important points by small actions such as "give me his coat because I was cold. We then ask that they meet every day. a car-so score of the contributions that have believed in that relationship and estimate the score that thought should receive the other. During this period could not discuss among themselves or how or when the points were allocated. mark at least three points.a third of your score staff to work five days a week . men give more points than women to work physically and spatially linked. She said. He thought he was earning extra money for a better life and that she admired for that. For him. chocolates and champagne for her. which required skill. the more points scored. when Brian praised by Lorraine she prepared a dinner some night. This list indicates several things: first. She tends to put more points for small tasks. because the brain spatially oriented. For example." without realizing that this small action to surrender points. In see-ment. "You go to the sink and I am dropping puns on the couch. For example. Both are described as a happy couple. When bought flowers. he is not remembered for having done the praise and not to put it in your list. personal and intimate than the big tasks. she gave him three points. You may notice that none of them reported many negative points. We present below a summary of the partial results after thirty days. or that the activities had generated. He just thought it was "taking care of it.because they cost dearly. Brian ignored the fact that small things mean a lot to women. In fact. which for Lorraine earned only one point. but he was not aware that there were some marked. He asked.To the woman that matters is not size." Why not try to change position tonight? ".

pa-ra them and discipline them worth one point each. and Brian was working late. "I'm not morose. the resentment generated is the same on both sides. Lorraine stayed at home feeling aggrieved and resentful. that experience was a chance to open eyes. for the simple reason that she never said anything about it.thirty points. To Brian and Lorraine. Brian had given a weekly average of 62 points given to Lorraine and an average score of 60 points. but thought perhaps the stress of the many things she had to do. so that gave him an overall score for their efforts . He acted as if everything was perfect in the relationship and was not the slightest idea of how Lorraine felt. but I get reminded all the time. and twenty times in the two points that took the initiative in sex. He felt happy with the fact that scores of the relationship is very balanced. while Lorraine is re-hurt the performance of Brian in public. The monthly score of Lorraine The list of personal activities of Lorraine was four times longer than Brian. reading. cooking and making beds all worth one point each by the time she performed. The reactions of Brian and Lorraine The weekly score of 30 points less to Brian explained that ants within a resentment of Lorraine from the previous year. Brian was devastated with the result. Brian never becomes a routine of Lorraine. but he never does what it has to do. These lists also show that when the man and woman having sex or not. Therefore. wash the laundry. to bath the children.often heard his mother and his grandmother say that. giving the majority of them a low score. She described every detail their activities. send birthday cards. shopping. Repetitive activities such as collecting the dirty clothes and wet towels on the floor. for being at work all the time. What started almost as a diversion to see how men and women attach points revealed a potentially disastrous situation. thinking he was doing what she wanted him to do. Lorraine was granted an average of 78 points. a year before. pay bills. but Brian has a weekly average of only 48 points. take care of dogs. " Complaints of Brian concerned things that Lorraine did or failed to do for him. Lorraine He felt a little distant from the birth of last child. go to the bank. Aspirate the carpet. plan family events. giving the same to you to work fifty hours a week. he began working late. to make more money and give more comfort to the family. watering the plants. Lorraine won three points for massage the back of Brian one night. . At the end of the experience.

their quality of life will have a better extra-ordinary. if each one is available to hear the honesty of the other reasons. After evaluating the results. They forget the good things that you did the previous week. just as did Brian and Lorraine. support or advice. But if he is aware of the importance that your partner gives small things and try to do them. becomes distant and angry and the couple's love life begins to wither.it better. sometimes more. to meet you and understand . Giving flowers. That is how things work in the male world . unless someone specifically the piece. If this happens.The solution for the woman The woman must accept that the male brain is programmed to take care of the general framework and that the man believes that mark more points doing big things. the partnership is intended to be a source of joy. If the woman you think the score is for the partner. you can use the test as a guide that brings you the happiness . Women always remember. it accumulates during the long periods and never forget. We offer the test as a tool to encourage dialogue. If the communication between partners is always the intention to adjust the relationship and ensure mutual harmony . It should also encourage the man to take small gestures like that. She is able to refuse to have sex now because you yelled at her two months before. Along with his partner. Marilyn Monroe Men are not programmed to offer help. give unsolicited advice is to say that the other person is incompetent. the man has to ask what she wants him to do. That does not mean that man should work less. do they think there is no problem and that the relationship is going well: The men have a short memory. as the salary to bring home or paint the room. All men are equal. If you do not ask. is unlikely to say.people expect you to play.rather than a pure exchange of accusations. From a man. So she will not be resentful if the score is tie for him. Only the guys that are different for us to distinguish one from another. The solution for men The woman not only to the point. If you think that is against. but forget also the positive things you did for them. put things in place to help in the kitchen and use halitol account both. and reward him for that. happiness. Remember that a woman gives a point for each activity that executes man and a score more by small things that involve emotional support. and record scores for ten days all contributions to the relationship. praise him the look. Take the test now The most effective solution is to maintain a permanent communication as sincere as possible.

the score can vary and things are irrelevant in a specific context to acquire another value. he even knew that women had a score. purchasing a home. use the test to keep the dialogue essential to any relationship that want to grow up happy. to bring up what he values.you want. but most men know not. in which none of them feel resentful or used. A difference in score of less than 15% shows a very balanced relationship. A difference of 15-30% shows disagreements sufficient to cause ten-sion. Like most men. Brian's answer was "Huh? Score? What is this?". Women understand that. financial situation better or worse . Lorraine immediately understood what we wanted. and more than 30% means that someone feels unhappy in the relationship. and show the things that give you more pleasure.a new child. When there is a change of situation . doing things that (a) partner (a) assesses to equal the score and reduce the tension. The scoring system used by the opposite sex is not better nor worse than his. . Abstract It is understood as the measures the other things. When asked to Brian and Lorraine as part of the experience. Make the test scores from time to time to ensure that the scoring is balanced. The partner with the score needs to balance the negative contribution. is just different. Above all.

remember the problem in the bunker. When Julian came home at night... his wife Hannah was eager to learn how it was: Hannah: "So how was your day?" Julian: "It was good. They just work differently for women. Why are men so by sports fanatics? 7. The truth is that men are not illogical." Hannah: "He did not say? You mean not asked?" Julian: "Well. Why men can only do one thing at a time? 6.. Here are the seven most frequently asked questions: 1. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? Julian Ralph did not see a year ago." Hannah: "How is Ralph?" Julian: "Fine. Why do men feel the need to always be with right? 4. the last trip abroad that he had to close a deal." Hannah: "His mother is still doing chemotherapy?" Julian . as they often think. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? 5. About what men talk in the bathroom? The problem of women is that they try to analyze the behavior of men from a female and are quite disconcerted. the children and family of Ralph.. how will his newly married daughter?" Julian: "Well . Why do men avoid commitment? 3. he did not say anything . for sure he would have told me." Hannah: "And how is his wife after a week in hospital?" Julian: "I do not know .. received numerous letters and emails from women that I asked more about the differences between the sexes. but if there was a problem.Chapter 5 CLARIFICATION THE SEVEN MAJOR MEN OF MYSTERY After the success of Why Men and Women Have Sex Make Love ". and knew the make and year of car that Ralph was thinking of buying. Why men never know anything about the life of your friends? 2. but knew virtually nothing about the esposes.he said...." Hannah: "So . Julian knew how many strokes each had. But I did not .. " And so it was. no. and decided to spend the day there playing golf together. the hole-in-one that he almost succeeds.. not sure . Was aware of the struggle of Ralph with the camera site because of its real estate projects.

.To find women . and generally does not bind on feelings and emotions. people talk about work. sports. or that his wife was elected Citizen of the Year by the local community. women are invariably surprised by the fact he go home without knowing anything about the personal life of anyone. they can not do both at the same time. It is not lack of interest in friends. When a man is watching the fire with a drink in hand. as I said.5%. Men relieve stress releasing the brain to think of something else. cars and women. a brand new repertoire of great jokes. is because he is watching the fire. playing cards or watching football.To drink alcohol .the results. Rarely talk about people and their emotions. Unlike women. When talk is about facts . say..To relieve the stress .. When the man comes out for drinks with friends after work.. fishing. The man knows all the jokes that his friend told him.5%. the only circumstance in which a man talks to another about personal matters is when you have a problem that can not . the other to understand intuitively and leave quietly. however. Who was that you found . How they were?" When you talk. . The men did not expect that men talk much and never insist on talking. Imagine that the friends he wanted to know something. This is because a drink with friends is just another way to look at the fire. No need to talk if there is no will.5. solutions or answers to questions or to share information about things and processes. A study by the University of Leeds investigated the reasons why men go to the bars after work: Why men go for a drink? . but does not know that he separated the women. . He had.know anything more about the girl child who lived in Bangkok. Men can spend hours together. not to mention much.85%. Speak one at a time because their brains are organized to or speak or hear. The male brain is fully dedicated to the "end-mind". but. Nobody says: "Tell me co me was the day . or that of his brother Ralph had a diagnosis of Parkinson's disease. When a man is not talking with friends and it does not mean that they fought.9. Solution The man does not understand why the woman wants to know every detail of the lives of their friends and acquaintances. playing golf.

Sally is cut into tears because he thought that she and Geoff were going very well. That is how things work in the male brain. The story of Jodie Jodie was shocked by Geoff not have asked for Sally: party but a "piranha faladeira" called Mary. saying he had really liked Geoff and I know him better. Then. That night. Geoff also called for Jodie to say the same as Sally. They left in the three weeks following the end of the film and were one or two times every week. Jodie seemed a little cold. because Mary was a fun person. . Men do not understand the concept of relationship the same way as women.and months that he was not the route. Then Geoff decided to invite Mary to the birthday party of his best friend. career. she was not seeing anyone else. she should immediately tell. The following week. Despite never having talked about a unique relationship. He realized that there was something wrong but had no idea of what could be. but Geoff was not the slightest idea that they had a special connection because it had never been spoken. he asked council to a friend. Then. Ask women. They are very fun at the party when he saw Jodie Geoff. But left the matter there. it was the signal for Sally that it would start a relationship with Geoff. Approached it and presented it to Mary. Why do men avoid commitment? Commitment: verb. as a last resort.a really fun person . The story of Geoff A month had happened. The next day. Geoff accepted with joy. rather than be given by Sally gossip. Mary was the lifeblood of any meeting .resolve. . verb. and Geoff realized that she did not like Mary. so she invited him to go to the beach and then dinner. For Sally. Sally called for Jodie and thanked for having made them. relationships or the whereabouts of family members or people in your social circle. male: not crush other women when in the street with his wife or girlfriend Case Study: Geoff and Sally Jodie thought Geoff and Sally would make a beautiful couple and arranged a meeting for them to meet. The two had a great night and exchanged phone numbers and is combined again. Jodie called immediately and told Sally to what Geoff said. female: I want to marry and form a family. Geoff called and asked for that he would see her that same night. the time spent together indicated that they now had a connection. As was expected. When Geoff hung. thought. So if you want information about health. That left him confused. whom everyone liked. do not expect that men give the answers.

well. Wanted their freedom. It was the first time spoke about his feelings realized they were going in completely different directions. wishing that she had prepared his favorite dish. How can he be so stubbornly loyal and devoted to a bunch of players flustered and not necessarily bright. So they decided to remain friends but that would not further to bed . "How could you do this to me?" She whimper. fox and geese. that the survivors adopt the widows in their haréns. Only 3% of animal species. for example. Geoff felt she should be in the TPM and the weekend that the crisis had passed. made sense that a male had ten or twenty females. There was little to offer because many men died in hunting and war. Mae West The woman believes that she is "out" with a man for some time and none of them are . Was reasonable.. The brain of most species. They had choice. which also increased the chance they could pass their genes. The man is able to hide their emotions and feelings of the woman he loves. seek a hospice. Therefore not argues that unfaithful men claim that they could not avoid. since it could only birth to a child at a time. especially when it lost. but is visibly emotional and passionate when your team plays. Women often admire that men may have an almost religious feeling with a soccer team. it is something that is programmed into his psyche. He spent the following three hours trying to explain the problem with Sally. If you want a faithful man. is not programmed for monogamy. But Geoff was not ready to take it. But we differ from other species in the sense that our brains evolved and developed large frontal lobes that enable us to make decisions about what we want and we do not want to do.. But when Sally opened the door. but had no sense that a female had ten or twenty males. are monogamous. it was decided that Sally. not only with him. he does not know which are not there with him and not show or a tenth of that devotion to her? During almost the entire time of existence of the human race. saw that she had been crying and I was bored with it. maintaining a commitment at least until your child is self-sufficient. but they are rarely willing to invest the same amount of emotional energy in a relationship with them..think Sally went with other guys.Cards on the table Geoff was eager to review Sally. Sally wanted a compromise with Geoff. including humans. the males are polygamous for the sake of survival. Was speechless. This is why men delay to the maximum 'commitment to take the woman and are so difficult to maintain a monogamous relationship. therefore. From the survival of the species. For women. ".. and then in front of our friends How long are you going with it? You like it? Sleep with her? Me responds!" Geoff was not believed in listening. He had never previously aware that they were only a couple .

is that most of them is not very sensitive to the state of mind of women. because now it is who controls the handcuffs. instead of just waiting timidly to the man understand the situation. will always be a pedestrian. You can also say how good sex and agree close. She must learn to be honest and direct. now they are dating. attention and much sex. as happened with Geoff. not have to be accountable for their actions or justify their behavior. Remember. friendship. she needs to say clearly that the man of her point of view. The man tends to be direct and make a woman know whether or not a special and unique relationship. they now have a special relationship. where there are no rules. sex and someone to take care of you. not to speak when not to. The only way to live life in complete freedom is alone in a desert island. do not want to give up anything. There are several ways to do this. this is a strange concept.otherwise. it grabs you by the balls. Otherwise. When Sally has complained about "What were you thinking?".if you want love. The answer would be: he was not thinking anything. now they are dating. They have not the slightest intention of stealing the freedom of man. Having a relationship is to take driver's license. "When you undertake." they laugh. A relationship is nothing more than a negotiation with rules . Solution The idea of establishing an ongoing relationship potentially never passed by the head of Geoff. he speaks of freedom to come and go as you want. Not only is it men do not know read my mind. If you have difficulty to speak directly. men avoid it because they think that compromise the woman will steal them the freedom and they will end up weak and powerless. like Geoff. and how many women want to have. and not trying to understand them or being sensitive to their emotional needs. must learn and respect the rules of the road . When the man says that commitment means losing freedom. however. What women want in return is love. the more likely it is that the plug does not fall. Never assume therefore that you are having a special relationship before discussing it with someone else. What most men think It is a universal custom among the men playing friends saying that the marriage or the permanent relationship with a woman one of them is a clear sign that the life of the unfortunate end. he wants love. In short. exercising its right to clarify the situation for two and choosing the type of relationship you want to establish . When a woman suspects this. But for most men. men have evolved hunting animals and making war on enemies. you must give something in return. If you want to go. A woman should ask what your partner feels it and wants you to go to the relationship. Pressed to explain. To be frank it is a sign of respect. because there is a special connection. "You can say goodbye to 90% of your sex life!" And also the warning in general welcome the singles: "You have to ask permission even to sneeze. And respect is what the woman must have by itself. Repeat: men can not read minds. At the same time. dedication and loyalty." In general. saying for example that is happy to prepare a dinner for him. it can play.with other people. it is difficult to know what specifically is he talking about freedoms. he wants everything.

and men usually are defensive or aggressive before the mere suggestion. are always behind solutions. to resolve what is best for her. Jackie announced that Dan had made contact with a financial adviser to have an accurate assessment of their household finances. usually a man less and less important. Zorro. One day. These super-heroes as partners seem to prefer a dog or a horse.three months later. the more likely it is that he is offended. Dan saw the thing in a way completely different. rarely fail to fulfill its task. You imagine that she is trying to say that it is not so good way. never meet them or say they are wrong. leaving the relationship under huge stress. That is why. Dan thought. not cry and be good at everything they do. when a woman asks the man is saying or doing. all male loners who never complained of problems but. because animals are loyal. she thought he was not able to do their own accounts. This subject has been a source of major disagreements between the two. The differences grew . the heroes of boys rarely make a mistake and never show weakness or emotion. he reacts defensively. His models are: SuperMan. or call a technician to fix the tap. Like most male stereotypes of books and movies. Case study: Jackie and Dan Jackie wanted to stop working and have a son. And. as if she were weakening or denouncing their incompetence. To seek a financial adviser. He might not hesitate to give her a book of recipes for a birthday present. Dan could not believe what was hearing: Jackie wanted someone else to solve their problems! Obviously. of course. we need to examine their education. When the child reaches adulthood. As we have seen. I hoped he was happy that it is taking responsibility to look for someone who could work with him. but if the woman gives him a book of this self-help. or a therapist. is conditioned to think that not being able to do something or solve a problem means to be a failure as a man. In-a-Ledger. The comics also depict the macho tough guy as a person endowed with huge muscles and possessor of a voice rough and deep (much testosterone). James Bond. they separated. Batman. was an assistant who had more problems than anything else. The heroin is usually a Barbie with anatomically impossible breasts. when it appeared. Go to a seminar on relationships. is what happens when a woman wants to ask the way. make it clear that she thought he was wrong about the household finances and seek counsel to prove he was . reducing the pressure on him. and very rarely a woman. Some of them had a partner. The man finds hard to say "Sorry" or "sorry" because it is wrong to admit. amounts to a humiliating admission that he is wrong. Spider-Man. If different from his. Their eyes. rather. Why do men feel the need to always be the reason? To understand this characteristic of modern man. but Dan felt that they were not financially prepared. Jackie wanted to help Dan. Married me with Mr.with your partner. Boys have to be tough. Not only knew his first name was Always. reliable.

and all laugh of contentment. you are the best ways to discover! You do not trust me? The most common phrase of men whose actions are challenged by the women is: "You do not trust me?" When you hear that phrase. we'll have to present a paper stapler moved the battery.Like any other staples. When the man hit the woman should welcome it. the size of a miniature television. Why both men are interested in "toys for boys"? When our friend Gerry made birthday. but he sees trying to say what is wrong and is unable to solve things yourself. Instead of saying what he did wrong. For example. When the visiting friends. Had a transparent plastic box. but the signs of these streets are very confusing. He led three batteries that need to be replaced throughout the week. instead of blame him. but all that did was put staples into sheets of paper . it would be good to say: "Honey. " In other words. you can be sure that insulted the manhood of man. saying not to drink too much. He complains of being all the time trying to control it. the stapler is round. It seemed something of a space shuttle exit. Any woman that does not visit a minimum for the stapler. If he is angry with the neighbor's dog barking at night. I feel better if we stop to ask someone here what is the right entry. And is so offended that she begins to think that perhaps it is really kind of controller.incompetent or insufficiently reliable. he protested: "Do not trust me?" In all these situations. . But Gerry was crazy with joy with the aparelhinho and said that sometimes when you wake in the morning and through the stapler on the table. the man thinks that women's council to hear tantamount to hear what is wrong and does not deserve her trust. should make clear what she is feeling. instead of saying "You never know the way and we always come back!". the woman should avoid driving to it in a way that it felt wrong. afraid to fight there. giving the impression that considers incapable. She can say "You're doing fine. he responds: "You think I am not able to deal with this problem right ? If you are a party and she warns. which left see all the gears and discs moving inside. Solution Since the man in general have these characteristics. dear. only to see and hear the movement of the gears. When he arrives at the destination. can not resist putting in four or five clips on a sheet of paper. the woman is the problem for you. says it will complain and she asks you not to do it. the answer it is the same: "I was just trying to help!" She thinks is showing love and concern for him.

Due to the propensity of the brain space men. On Saturday afternoon (after the game). The following images show the areas of the brain . they leave unfinished projects around the house whole. rifles with telescopic sights night.which are active when a person from USA spatial skills. Areas of the brain used to play football. the men's space needs can be frustrating for women because. mechanical. aircraft. computer spreadsheets. Boys are boys from the shops.the parts dark .. electric trains. nuclear. the man who refused the help of a firefighter to repair the defective vessel closes the record and dismantle the facility. cars with panels complicated. portable GPS devices. space and anything that has the remote control. drive cars. Men love the challenge to build models of sailing vessels. back up and operate mechanical. It is about 45 minutes walk by the store.is the brains of the hunter. examining all the toys that might have space. build or do work. Projects Do-You-Even The whole bunch of products Make-You-Even faces towards the space area of the brain male. Fofinho was so that I could not resist." It is easy to explain why the sexes react so differently to these things. At home. Institute of Psychiatry in London. 2001. shelves and anything that has a set of instructions. men and boys are fanatics for anything that has buttons. The space industry of the brain that is used to estimate speeds. have lights blinking and the battery is moved.. If the washing machines come with remote control. In general. it is likely that men are interested in to wash the clothes. angles and distances . Female Male Call a fireman without first consulting the man of the house can be interpreted as a serious insult. and thus meet its space needs. Men are the agents of cars and stores equipment and products Make-You-Even where they can find things to do. just because ". they do not just fix the broken things. The hardware store has closed and he could not open the . engines or movable components that make sounds. as the concentration of the average man has a range of nine minutes. but most do not know where you are carrapeta old. motor boats. but get angry when you call someone suggested to complete the work. This includes all kinds of video and computer program. Then go home and find that size is not one. But it is the male equivalent of the tendency that women have to pay exorbitant prices for imported teddy bear. try a drill pressure and finally find what appears to be a carrapeta of appropriate size. Find out what appears to be a carrapeta spends and goes to the hardware store.They all admired to see the excitement of men with a aparelhinho so expensive that only runs a task beyond the trivial. tests one or two mechanical Sanders. as they are indecipherable.

the excellent performance of that natural ability.of "toys for boys" . probably miss the exit. but 99% of all patents . . it is as if he had salinhas throughout the brain. percent of the technical experts of the world are men . Seeing the images of the brain of a man who reads.are recorded by men. Their hope is that it is a problem to be absolutely clear. you will discover that he is almost deaf. The only difference that exists between men and boys is the price of their toys. it should tell you what it considers necessary. if he is just calling a fireman. each with at least one primary function operates independently of the rest.registration until the issue is resolved. though not the slightest idea what you are looking for. portamo. even during the commercials. you run the risk of injury. There is a lesson here: always give the man a toy of this spatially related. A woman should never call a fireman. Most women do not understand why men seem able to do only one thing at a time. the corpus callosum. nobody will ever be able to bathe or use the private sector. If a woman can read while listening or talking. is on average 10% thinner than the female and carries about 30% fewer connections between the two hemispheres. Never give you flowers and nice cards. financial consultant. why can not the man? Why he always turns off the television when the phone rings? Women around the world complain in unison: "Because he can not hear what I'm saying while reading the newspaper or watching television?" The reason is that the human brain is compartmentalised and specialized. Remember: never talk to the man when he is doing a beard. Thus. She explains that men lower when the radio or read a map when they march to the defendant in the car. The cable that connects the right and left hemispheres of your brain. Instead. The response of readers to this issue was so overwhelming that we will summarize it here it again later. unless you hurt him! And do not try to resolve any issue while he attends the TV. will find that solved the problem myself. In simple terms. technician or any computer in space qualified man before consulting his own man. these things mean much less to him Why men can only do one thing at a time? In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? Presents a thorough study on why the male brain is so singularly focused: what it described as "single track". builder. This concentrated focus allows men to become great experts. If the car makes a strange noise. Understand that mentality "one-thing-in-every-time" is one of the most important things a woman can learn about the men. If you are working with a sharp tool and the phone rings. If he is in clover road and someone directed him to speak. because in most cases. ask your opinion and give it a run. Today most new companies are founded by women. he raised the hood and will take a look. That is what gives the approach "one-thing-of-every-time" to everything he does in life. Ninety-six.

'f women swap their dolls for children. even while it is active sleep.even the men hunt and women also care for children. but men still kicking balls. The brain images show that the woman's brain never shuts off. They verbally insult the referee (although the referee can not listen to the l) when disagree with a mark: "You think this is missing? Your asshole You need glasses!" Can remember the scores. men caught in groups while women receive food and care of children. . In reality. the angles and directions of the ball. you better go outside dining. In business. But if a man is following a recipe to prepare a dish and you want to chat with him. the goals they most marked and tactical errors they committed. Between 1800 and 1900 were invented almost all modern sports with ball. crawling and using their spatial skills to get food. the modern replacement of the activities of hunting. following a new recipe and watching television at the same time. never ask questions to the man during sex. and they urram of pleasure when the striker is the goal. It is as if the woman was in some way genetically apparently with the octopus. man may again be a member of a band of hunters. makeup and to listen to radio as a live-voice speech. is always given to man to do one thing at a time. His brain calculates the speed. recalled with vivid detail goals in marked departures held for many years and almost come to tears when discussing what the player should have done and the result which should have had the game. nothing much has changed in thousands and thousands of years . The sports to which man is part of a group of hunters. fantasy that he is giving himself to the mark and kicks goals. The best strategy. chasing. and then pass to the next question. there was one man in the country who do not know the color of escalation of the team. She is able to talk on the phone. The woman's brain is configured to perform multiple tasks. Why are men so by sports fanatics? For thousands of years. if you want a good result free of stress. As a devoted fan of your soccer team. You can turn auto-mobile. Seeing their heroes in the field.The man has two times more likely than women to engage in a car accident while talking on a cell phone. As adults. And most important. most women can do many things not related to each other at the same time. This is the main reason why 96% of personal assistants of the world are women. discuss an issue at a time and adhere to it until all these men are satisfied with the solution. After that England won the World Cup of 1966 against Germany. The girls use dolls as a practice of caring for children and the boys kicked and pursue balls as practice for hunting. As we have seen. The men ran. The men are so excited when they watch football because they feel as if they were playing the game. therefore.

"My wife told me that if I drop the obsession with my soccer team. get involved. it does not happen in your work. conversely. who they like and dislike. About what men talk in the bathroom? We answer the first question male universal: "What women talk together when they go to a public bathroom?" The answer is: about everything and about everyone. but they still do not know the names of his nieces. come to bend and give the impression of feeling the pain of fighter hit by a low blow. and he feels victorious when your team wins. and . moves. The second option is to use his obsession for sports as a positive opportunity to be with their friends. which rarely occurs in their affective relationship. Add to it or use the time to do something positive for yourself. Do not fight the sport or hobby of your man. The place where they are compared with others which have been. Learn what it can about the interest and become understood. They are so obsessive with the steering wheel. she leaves. you have two options. shop or start your own hobby. When watching the struggles of boxing. Speeds. I will miss her a lot. Men may be taken by intense emotion when watching sports. neighbors and the door or the date on which commemorates the Mother's Day. nephews. First. Solution If your partner is a sports maniac or a hobby. If you still do not find interesting but want to follow it is always possible to find other women in the same situation and make new friends. which can spend hours on end in front of the TV watching other men guide car race.their primary brain skills started to be largely superfluous and the women are attacking from all sides. " The world has now become a confusing place for men . with family. angles. changes in motion and stationary are in motion to reverse the sky of every man. Sport is an activity in which man can feel again a member of a group: there no one criticizes or tries to modify it. This explains why men engaged in activities which are repetitive or just those who give more importance to sports. who are friendly and attractive men. It is also why men prefer to buy a new set of golf clubs than a dining table is very necessary. too. The men no longer have any clear model to follow and clear specifications of what is expected of them.This is a formidable skill. discuss the clothes they are wearing and the other. Go with him to an event and you will be surprised to see the amount of other "widows of the sport" that also attend and enjoy the social aspects. Drive car is almost entirely a spatial ability. those who consider their work exciting and rewarding are less interested.

put a stop to go to the bathroom. Are rarely hear a fart in a female bathroom... to more important and profound conversations. I never talk to strange men in bathrooms of post road. and still do not know what got into me when I decided to respond with a constrained 'All right! " The other guy said.. 'So . In cabins. while women prefer large vain to talk and move objects from one booth to another. to get away from those who arrive. and God help the man that the plague! Women sit in the pot and talk with other women through the wall. 'Listen . with two vessels in each of health. If there is a row of five urinals. 'Hey. how are you?" Like any man. the conversation is minimal. Never. Bathrooms are a network of women in waiting rooms and counseling centers where you can meet new people and interesting.. traveling to the North! " Oh I heard the guy say. Let us return now to the original question: what men talk in public restrooms? The answer is: nothing. The fourth man generally feels better to use the booth to be standing next to a stranger who can look at it. Do not talk to other men when they are sitting in the pot. the first in choose in the bathroom farthest from the door. and when it happens. They do not talk. asking the odd passing toilet paper under the door. I went to the second. While retouch. looking at the front. In the men's room if no one bothers with it. nervous. said:' The same as you . and never talk to strangers. Scarcely had I sat when I heard a voice coming from the booth next to saying. Never. but. What comes then choose which is further away from the first man. came to install booths in the bathroom wider female. Never. Here is a letter from one of our readers shows the reason that men of silence that reigns in the bathroom of men: "During a trip. Men urinate in silence. Even among close friends... the culprit is hiding in the cabin to check out. The motto of the men is: "Better death than a visual contact. Men never talk to strangers in public restrooms.'." . your eyes will never cross. England. ever under any circumstances. cosmetics divided up among themselves and even with strangers. because it has an idiot in the booth next to answer my questions! " Men also have a territorial ritual to choose the urinal. I have to call you later. and when urinate. As the first booth was busy. and two women is not uncommon-they share the same cubicle in order to continue the conversation... Absolutely nothing.any personal problem that they or friends are living. like an idiot. A nightclub in Birmingham. men prefer walls of floor to the ceiling to limit the interaction with neighbors. what are you doing? " I thought: 'How strange .. and chooses the next which is midway between the two. Any woman who seems distressed receive group therapy .. discuss techniques and different types of makeup products.

But if on the one hand the parents is a problem in the marriage of many people. taking the blame for more than a third of the separations." warned the king's advisers." The wise king did not hesitate: "The man must marry the daughter of first wife." The dragon enter the scene Probably the mother-in-law jokes inspire more than any other category of the planet. when asked what should be the maximum penalty for bigamy. And if the man makes a woman happy. The first woman agreed. it is unlikely that parents cause problems." said Solomon. is to see her daughter happy.provide all three. It is worth recalling that Lenin. many times. the king decided that the couple was cut in half so that each stay with their part. Problems with parents not dominate the lives of men. but the second said: "No." Difficult in-laws are not a problem for most men. But almost no jokes with in-laws . "Today I received an email warning that my parents had died and asking if I would have to bury. Our research found. the most likely cause is the refusal of the father in giving of their precious "princesinha. And when the man has problems with in-law. The parents of a man can claim him. or simple megeras nosy. "Yes. the mother of the man is the real danger. An old Polish proverb says: "The path to the heart of the parents is the child. ." Most men know that. What most of the mothers of the wives want more than that any thing. I answered: "Sure . "this shows that it is the real parents. De-because of the stories they hear. said: "Staying with the two parents. a founder of modern Russia. irritated him. cremate or embalm. even irritating. it is usually the mother of women the major cause of problems. do not run blood! Let him to marry the daughter of another woman. and are always characterized witches co-mo." "But she wanted to see it cut in two. but most men do not come to disappoint them.they are not cause for laughter.Chapter 6 THE OTHER WOMAN His mother Two women were presented before the r ~ i Solomon dragging a young man proposed marriage to her two daughters." What is the difference between a mother-in-law and a vulture? The vulture waiting for you dying to devour your liver.

divorce. invasive and possessive. And she replied: "Because I was not with her face. Can cause unhappiness. Anita This led to the point of collapse. A search of the University of the State of Utah. which refuses to cut the umbilical cord with your child. Polls conducted by the University of Utah shows that more than 50% of marriages are real problems between the husband and mother nora. yes. After examining each one carefully. I believe it cost to the teacher. a brunette and a redhead. He said he wanted to know if she was able to guess which of the three women was his future daughter-in-law. After living six months with you. generous and." They are not all bad Clearly. Arranged a dinner. Actually. The mother asked why he brought three. the problem is you. Transformed all the rooms. in the worst cases. A man met a wonderful woman and her boyfriend was. the parents of the wife. you have no respect for women. that same night to his mother to know. You are so thorough that it is me crazy! In my home was never like this. affectionate. ultimately. Although not all parents are given by the fame." "How did you guess so quickly?": He asked. cook. Anita: "Tom. clean and working all the time.a blonde. I can not live with you more!" Tom: "No. let's talk about your mother. the mother replied: "It's a redhead. Case study: Anita and Tom They had been married only six months when cracks began to appear in your happiness. He left his clothes and playing space-lhadas the towels on the floor. You think the woman has to wash. neutral. The parents are often responsible for defects and emotional problems of their children and Norasia.His mother . Anita thought it was becoming impossible to live with Tom. not all parents deserve the reputation of evil. that the other 50% are seen as helpful. The crisis involving the parents of women often seem impossible to manage and insoluble. she mimou you. My mother never complained to me or anything that I did! " Anita: "So okay. rather than just one. you can be absolutely disastrous. Your . in home pen. But came together with three women . move. you are a pig.the burden it The real tragedy of most families are caused by the mother of the man. anguish and. which shows that about 50% of parents are seen as the creators of the case also shows. Anita. for many parents Norasia a nosy.

The son and daughter-in-law must face the situation in a mature and open. When the marriage makes the situation more. it is as if two women disputing one man. dependent. Why be parents is sometimes difficult? It is important to be aware that parents occupy a difficult position. Case study: Mark and Julie Mark and Julie decided to marry. Receiving little information. selfish and emotionally unstable. But instead of criticizing and blaming his mother. Suddenly. The mother wants to be involved in their children's lives. etc. She felt used and offense. Life today is increasingly .mother and I created a monster I'm no longer tolerate this. to help her choose the wedding dress. But the children rarely talk to their mothers about what it is. cooking and go for them. The parents are often put aside after the marriage. one. This can create jealousy in the mother's partner. to protect them. detached and friendly. It is normal for a girl seeks the support of the mother. when in fact they are creating a serious problem in the future relationship with their wives. possessive. The complexity of the situation lies in the fact that there are three people involved in this relationship. unless he has developed a strong relationship with Nora. This is a really complicated problem for the partner. But for every problem there is a solution. believing they are showing them your love. Julie and her mother Sarah was not talking about three years ago. the most effective in this case is training him to do what she wants him to do. independent. Shortly before the wedding. but Julie found her mother with the help of Mark and they resumed their relationship. because having her along as it is a good strategy. It is now an adult who should be responsible for their actions. especially when he is single and her life is dull. two or even three people can be jealous. immature. about every little detail. All three people can be emotionally balanced. because the Norasia usually maintain close ties with their mother and talk with them regularly.. How is the mother around the nora usually forget that the mother of your husband is so important to the family unit as its own.. The parents are always connected to the child. France was no longer needed and was put aside. So Julie is highly supported in France. Just be willing to resolve it.everything we have done with his own mother if things were different. the parents begin to feel excluded from the new family and the child may find that the only way to participate is forcing way and is doing this. not the parents. mother of Mark. Due to a disagreement. " Tom: "What my mother has to do with it? Why did you change the subject? Why not stop blaming everyone except yourself?" Many mothers spoil the future at a very early marriage of their children. In addition to washing. or at the other extreme. Is he eating right? Is that his house is well cared for? Etc. The girl almost always strives for the love to build a good relationship with the mother of the boy. the menu of a wedding party and all arrangements of practice .

Richard. Diana liked that Richard knew him. as he liked the tidiness of the house. but the two sides need to understand and find solutions to ensure the happiness of all. Richard and Diana Bernadette had just over forty years when the left-of Mari. For Bernadette. Perhaps it is difficult for the next generation deal with their parents. In business. But thought it strange that her boyfriend not to take his place. for example. Logo Bernadette began openly insulting Diana when Richard was not around. Diana tried to be friendly. But she still had her son.she thought . but Diana found that it simply needed time to adapt. He drank more and did not de-link the minimum for the family. She created with all the care. now was the time to take account of it. because neither of them had parents. "I was late!" She said to friends. with less time for human contact. to be clear. so completely unexpected. When the ceremony was. cities or different countries. Parents need attention and the children need time for their own family. nourished and loved since birth. But the last generation only knows the phone and personal meetings to communicate. Bernadette appeared almost every day. Bernadette was not particularly receptive. to repair the tap to talk about a problem or to take her shopping. Soon after. . Only presented to his mother after the announcement of the engagement. we use the mail to meet the need of communication. Case study: Bernadette. Bernadette thought Richard was not interested in girls.over-charged. and when the big wheel is complaining with her husband. only for sex.would be difficult to find a woman equal. She is holding waiting for the world turn around. it takes some effort to maintain unity in family life . The madcap who sometimes left him were. and even in daily life. The problems began when she and Richard returned from honeymoon. Richard was now fully at its disposal. telling everyone what you thought would not last. Bernadette denied. but Bernadette phone every night to stay talking long together with Richard. but eventually grew tired of listening Bernadette tell you how to prepare the favorite dish of Richard. She asked when he would come "in house" to paint it. accusing it of trying to create problems between her and her son. to take care of the garden. I used to laugh when the future mother-in-law commented that perhaps they are not ready for non-marriage and could change your mind at any time. and put the fault in almost everything she did. Richard knew that as she created. The view of Diana Adam and Eve were the happiest and luckiest couple in the world. Bernadette became a problem. Diana began then to avoid the parents. comfort and emotional support for this . Their demands seemed to have no end. without any consideration for the needs of Diana. Diana has realized that it had inherited from a mother-in-law Hell. How many parents are required to change a light bulb? A. He was a good boy of 22 years and watch it. When family members live in distant neighborhoods.

Diana began to feel excluded. It became obsessive with Travis. Bernadette was the first to offer to help by washing the clothes and taking care of the baby. made his bed. Instead. but he said that Diana was being possessive. Bernadette was soon back to life nora physically every day. Create a child was a novelty for Diana. Women do this naturally. Bernadette was him taking his own son. Filled it with care and affection. The wife must have sufficient wisdom to take control of the situation and ensure that problems are dealt with between it and the parents. Richard thought he was just working hard all day and still have to resolve disputes between your wife and your mother when you get home. but she was crazy with their explosions. When Travis was born. More than once Diana tried to discuss the problem with Richard. He loved the woman. Once Richard and Diana got married. preparing their favorite dishes. collected and washed their clothes and not criticized because it felt just wonderful what he did. helping in something. In the end. It was a burden. immature and ciumenta. The man may feel happy to have two women disputing its possession. And started to think that life would be less complicated if I went back to single. Bernadette took account of the situation. Travis was the first son of Diana. only. The views of Richard Richard lost his father to divorce. The mother always told him that his father does not provide for anything and now he was the man of the house. constantly criticizing Diana. Diana and tired of discussing it in a anger deaf closed.Two years later. With male your brain programmed to problem solving. and continue to need in the modern world. everyone wins. as it feeds his ego. and that his mother was only trying to help. to overlive in caves. it is that would see her on weekends and helped with the house. . and Diana felt prisoner and unfortunate. What is the difference between a pit-bull and a mother-in-law? The pit-bull just dropping you. Solution Nora and parents need to build a loop to run their lives. Bernadette lived with and was discussing it with Richard complaining. Nora and parents need to adjust their relationship without involving the son and husband. just at the time he began to relax. But Diana did not seem prone to a little or ask advice. Bernadette was always around. and so Richard thought that the advice of his mother would be fundamental. but things were definitely more calm at home. The last thing that a woman needs is a complaint that her parents with the son. putting it in the neck all the time they were together. It became possessive for Travis. When this is true. to have a life free of stress. helping with the baby. But there was one problem: every night his mother call him a lengthy conversation. selfish. but Diana seemed so enciumada of the husband's relationship with the mother that no longer appear. but he thought the mother should be feeling alone and that he had a responsibility towards her.

through whom she controls Diana and Travis. . is the big wheel that as a matter of survival. When problems appear since the beginning of the relationship. later is very difficult to establish a productive discussion between the three parties.My mother is alone and it is up to us supports it. . In the case study above.the son and daughter-in-law.You have a long life together. the problem must be resolved by the parties most affected . The best time to cut the umbilical cord is birth. If the answer is "Yes". will pay a high price later.Both recognize the existence of problems? . What is important is that in that relationship. If during the time of her dating book all their attention to the fiance. is my responsibility to help her. leaving the part of parents. leaving not intimidate. staged in families around the world. for this to see how a person with life itself. Bernadette apparently has no problem. . In this stage. for example. first questions they need answered are: . not simply as the wife of the child. not matured. . just in time for this-we enjoy our moments of family living. generally immature and unprepared for the problems that inevitably arise. . but Diana did not care about that. As. but Diana refuses to divide Travis and receive useful advice on motherhood. and Diana does not understand that as a child. husband and wife. must take the initiative to build the bridge. She had permission to continue controlling Richard. in turn. When it leaves the problems of marriage take root. when you know the future mother-in-law. .Bernadette interfere too much. Diana could write: .Bernadette arrives without warning. The problem therefore is Diana and Richard. husband and wife should sit down and put on paper what they think is the problem.This is a common tragedy.They want to solve the problem? If the answer to any of these questions is "No". The difficulty is in fact a big wheel. .Bernadette call every night.My mother makes me feel guilty when I do not answer your requests. when all I want is to be with them. take our privacy and in-progress plans are constantly perplexed. It is important that she spend some time just for parents. but also not wanting to impose their views. . .My mother is not a man at home to do small services. could write: . Richard. that because it is not enough time with the family.I do not understand why my wife and my mother is angry all the time. wanting to dictate the rules in our house and the creation of our son.My mother tries to help Diana. Richard never cut the umbilical cord that connects to your mother. happy and loving? . it is advisable to couple therapy.Bernadette does not respect my ability and hope that it meets Richard as a child. Hardly one of them will accept what he seems to be an alliance between the other two.Bernadette requires too much attention to Richard. He actually "still" have not left the house. she combines sympathy and firmness. a person be more girl.

By not putting limits on Bernadette when the problems started to appear. such as joining a club of retired. Must thank Bernadette for attention. Quite understandably. to excursions. Know where to go.Diana is also responsible. but said that she and Richard receive guidance of pediatricians to the development of Travis. How to set limits Establish rules and set limits means tracing lines that should not be exceeded. but here is a question of limits. it actually allowed the parents invade your marriage and your family. on the border of privacy. the most important of all. have a group of reading. If Richard and Diana have limits in their marriage. as Christmas gift or birthday. in agreement with Diana. Richard. Bernadette must be trained. and generally believe that the family members are only trying to help with his advice. Richard really has responsibility to help the mother. doing courses and voluntary work in hospitals or welfare organizations. When set limits. having lived always within limits set by other people. We need to know that she should call before they appear. say. is important to Richard and Diana show a real interest in "new" life of Bernadette. but in agreement with Diana. after which he must tell Bernadette that has things to do and say goodbye. The problem will diminish significantly if the visits are only permitted where previously combined. Richard and Diana do not have of it and left to set limits when they married. Inexperienced. Set limits and be firm are two key lessons that the newly married couples need to learn. ten minutes. is that it needs to encourage the mother to develop activities outside the family. lines that they can not overcome. Bernadette did not exceed a limit set. With regard to Travis. then why not put limits on Bernadette too? Diana says Bernadette arrives without being asked and without warning. by her . Diana has to be firm. and they intend to follow it. however. people know that their transgression will bring problems. Maybe the solution would get a "factotum" and give him the phone Bernadette. must limit the duration of phone calls from their 'mother to. It is natural that Bernadette would Richard take care of the problems of her house. they do not understand the risks. are not firm in setting its rules. Bernadette feel rejected and hurt. Me and my parents were happy for twenty years. Diana should explain that she and Richard need a time of privacy to relax and take care of common projects and unannounced visits that may interfere. The three should discuss the matter in a time when emotions are low. but this is a problem that it must overcome. as the visitor is a person dear. therefore. albeit unintentionally. This is a trap in which young people often fall very easily. Until we know it. Richard and Diana might even offer to pay for services for an entire year.

"When I die you will be sorry."After everything I did for you!" . through words and attitudes. while building a life. None of this is easy and requires a lot of the couple's determination and persistence. I discussed the matter several times."I feel so alone now. We need to keep it abreast of the family." . after a single week she would be 105 kilometers away. Just as the couple set limits and make the meet.own gain momentum. but Richard and Diana have to say."You are selfish . You've seen flying snake? Then try playing your parents through the window. a solid and enjoyable adult relationship can develop. Reactions are predictable. especially if the reaction is stronger than expected." . only work if you allow. ie taking care of Travis. Bernadette will be boring at first and probably react with emotional blackmail and statements such as: . only reaffirm that the path that is decided then. the two problems can be solved."Do you not care more for me. I examined all the possible reactions and are prepared to deal with it. make it clear." . Maybe even threatens disinherit them. It is important that they continue taking care of Bernadette and supporting it during this phase. But you know what is right to do what you're doing. that the affection is preserved. If sympathy and love to face the task of setting limits to Bernadette. encouraging it. A person can only make you feel guilty if you agree to accept the blame.just like your father. It is vital that during all the conversations. If you could convince your parents to walk fifteen kilometers a day. It is not easy. There will be tempting to abandon it. however strange it may seem to Bernadette . mature and happy. The next stage of the reaction of Bernadette is probably refuse to help. They have to explain or justify their decisions. whether to live an independent life. there is no aggression. it is only to ensure the happiness of the three. if we are committed to maintaining a harmonious relationship and happy." Such tactics. but they should not do it. Richard is resolved to maintain her marriage and awareness of evil that causes the interference of the mother."Who else can I use?" . . which are emotional blackmail.

And the modern woman. when you leave to hunt or fish. To rub it to remove the dust. Why women never go to the chase? 5. "You freed me!" Said the genie. The following is the brain images of men and women talking. men. Why women exaggerate? 4. or a specific purpose. The dark areas are the parts . Why women want to know the smallest detail? 'Why do women talk so much? The huge capacity that women have to talk is something that most men are extremely difficult to understand. avoided talking to not scare the prey. When you engage in any activity. Meanwhile. Women do not need a reason to talk. therefore. Why women talk so much? 2. and when caçavam fishing. these secrets are both a source of amusement and confusion. But for those who can meet them. They speak to be connected. appeared a genius." The archaeologist thought for a moment and replied: "I want a bridge with a Autopista connecting England to France!" The genius goggle and mutter: "Hey. You idea of the distance that exists between England and France? Is an engineering impossible! Make another request! The man reflected for a moment and asked: "I wish I could I communicate with women. man. we present here only a brief summary. when to collect leaves (shopping) and still talk all the time. These are the questions: 1. Why do women always want to talk about problems? 3. we collect and record answers to research on how men and women to communicate and use the science of human behavior to explain their differences. we check each item with a woman next to you. I just leave the lamp." The genius pale and asked: "One or two tracks?" If you are a man. To most men. we are able to reveal the intriguing logic that lies behind the five men most frequent questions about the way women are communicating. "I will grant you one wish. Men evolved chasing moving targets. so as to remain united. Consequently. The modern man also. a new level of relationship with the opposite sex comes up. this is one of the most important chapters of this book.Chapter 7 The Mysteries WAYS OF WOMEN LANGUAGE An archaeologist excavated a ruin when topou to an old lamp. women did all the time. Searched men of different nationalities and races. I'm tired ground. For over a decade. Women evolved together with other women and children in and near the caves. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? we treat this issue in detail. But it is very likely to feel skeptical about some of the things that will read. not speaking much. The ability to build and strengthen intimate relationships was crucial to the survival of each.

No wonder that women always complain that the man to break inter-and not to let express their views. a form of retribution and a way to connect to another person. The men use the speech and language to communicate facts and data. Areas of the brain related to speech and language.of the brain into activity. This creates serious problems of communication with women. . the man gives the impression that always wants to be right and it is always wrong. The reaction of the man before it is asked "Why do not you say it to her when they were together?". Put simply. it simply does not speak. As I said. without effort. The brain of man is set to the solution of continuous problems. For the women. six thousand to eight thousand words spoken per day.two to four thousand and you understand that the ability to speak of women cause so many problems between couples. the man tends to think that a woman discuss their problems because they do not know how to deal with them and "all the time is interrupted with solutions. The women's to processes. If not. not to ask for solutions. Unfortunately. data and solutions. dyslexia and serious. the man who was asking opinion feels honored and offers its solutions. 2001. Compare it with the average daily production of words of a man . when either communicate facts. if she feels attracted to you if she likes you or saying you want to feel accepted and important. it does basically to create a bond with another person. Man Woman The brain of man is oriented solutions." that is. A worker exhausts its production of words in the middle of the afternoon and go home to find a woman who still has four to five thousand words to say! Two women can spend the whole day together and then still speak for a full hour on the phone. the man only speaks to other men about personal problems if you think that the other has a solution. Most men "only speak if you have something to say. about ten times. The images show how the brains of women is widely used for the functions of speech and language. As already explained. however. When a woman speaks. From a woman. because the "conversation" of women is completely different. it speaks to you. to offer all the time. In Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? show that the brain of the woman can produce. Institute of Psychiatry in London. Have a brain that is not strong in the skills of speech and language responds to the remarkable extent of gender differences in rates of problems in speech: the stuttering is a disorder three to four times more frequent among men than among women. share their emotions and problems with someone is a demonstration of confidence in the person.

in almost all of the time is not to seek solutions.the men usually see the "peace and tranquility" obtained with the silence of women as a prize. If you have an issue to deal with it. The best way to punish the woman the man is talking to him without stopping and changing the subject is. he apparently can forget their problems. Women use silence to punish men. one could say to each other how you feel and go learn about the differences between genders and the specific characteristics of your partner. mutual remarks to lose the character of criticism and complaint and will be key ele-ments in the construction of mutual happiness. Focusing on other things. without interrupting to offer solutions. When either forget a stressful day.fortunately not . Your brain allows you to track only concentrate on the news. stomach ulcers and heart attack . or when either punish them. The content of conversation with people is not important. mainly due to their greater ability to deal with stress. The danger is that the internalized stress can cause diseases such as diarrhea. but never too often.if she does not like or do not love a person. It is never too often: when two people are aware that they want to invest in the relationship. Already suggested before. Why do women always want to talk about problems? Women on average live seven years longer than men. The opposite is also true . want to talk to your partner. The purpose of it is if you feel better about your day and connect to you . constipation. stress man stops talking and will sit alone "in front of the fire" to find a solution to your problem. The solution for men and women Ideally.it's showing that you trust. When not occupied with another activity. is direct and clear.When you make personal confidences. especially when used with other women. When you. The problem is that men love silence. on TV. she is not complaining . browse the Internet or mount an aircraft to turn off the problems. one at a time. if she does not agree with what this person is saying. she stops talking. ask them explicitly to reserve a time for that and tell him that he only wants to listen. It is important to understand the man that the main objective of the "conversation" of the woman is talking about. it is the participation that counts. water the garden. woman. The silence as a form of punishment is an effective tactic. Without any aggressiveness. Only thus creates intimacy and complicity. With men in general it does not work . the man thinks or does something else.

Solution We to assume that the more men and women are aware of their differences. The problem is that the female brain is programmed to enhance processes. Enjoy going to rock your thinking about something else. Talking about your problems is your way of relieving stress. Women like to thoroughly discuss all aspects of their actions and feelings. is a mystery. while] and thought they always came back to the same issues. My husband and I decided never to sleep before resolving our disputes. Not . PHYLLlS DILLER For men. talked and talked about the issue at stake . A man who did so would give other men the impression that they feel incapable and are looking for solutions . Men tend to retreat before that approach..all at the same time. Lisa wanted to reduce their level of stress and was anxious to reach a satisfactory decision for both. go to sleep and forget it. addressing them in various ways. So she talked. There are two theories about arguing with a woman. Rodney Dangerfield Women believe that everyone is talking about feeling better. remember that she needs to talk to feel better. So when the woman started to teased a problem that seems not to sense. Ask her if she wants some help and put themselves available to advise her when she wants. he had already discussed everything that had to discuss and was happy to leave the rest divergence. They always kiss and make up before going to sleep. especially late at night. Joe could not handle it. He would prefer a thousand times and have a fight. None of them works. The problem was that Lisa had been created believing that the couple should never let anyone waiting for the next day. and yes-go by making a possible solution. Case study: Lisa. the reason why women love to discuss all the details.until it lead to another thread. The men believe that talking will only make things worse.. it would be readily available. It was common for discussion is to drag well after midnight. In the evening. the easier it becomes the relationship. Women deal with stress talking plenty about their problems. Prefer to discuss the issue and resolve it quickly. Joe and discussion of midnight Lisa and Joe discussed much when they went to live together. Listen to it with the greatest possible solidarity and tell him you are there to accept them as needed. One night we were agreed for six months.

Examples of female exaggeration: "I asked you a million times to collect their wet towels. it only needs your love and genuine care. but does not give us a little talk about this later?" This way of addressing the problem is more respectful and has much more chance of working than say nothing and simply wait for the woman to say end all you have to talk. saying that it does not always defend himself and giving examples: "This is not true. If the problem that the wife brings concerns the relationship of you and you in fact does not feel able to discuss the l-on time. because as your brain thinks things from facts and data. so fancy it much more than the man on the lives and relationships. But also meets its limits. if he disagrees with the woman in front of friends. Say. For example. He exaggerates the importance of their work." "You always hope that I do all the work of the house and take care of children at the same time. The woman's brain is focused on people. In general. she will say later: "You always reduces me and never let me have my own opinion. Exaggerated words and emotions is a normal behavior to be perfect for women who talk among themselves. you always do this to me!" He probably will take that complaint to the foot of the letter." "Do not talk to you anymore!" For men. She exaggerates his feelings and the other when it comes to some personal matter or what someone said. but this issue is too big for my head today.minimize the impact that certain events can cause it. Moreover." "When I saw her with that dress. sweetheart. At that moment. women like to dream that a leading man of TV to ask for a memorable night. One of one hundred things that women wish men knew: what it said six or eight months is unacceptable in the current discussion. the performance of your car and the amount of beautiful women who left. these fantasies and exaggeration that makes the conversations more interesting. it interprets the words literally. Why women exaggerate? Both men and women exaggerate. I did not no time last night and not do for months!" She replied recalling . even that invariably end up falling by the timid and puny boy he met at the homes of friends. I thought it was going to die!" "You always do this to me. ask to be sensitive if it can leave the matter for another time. the excesses of women can be frustrating. The difference is that men exaggerate the facts and women exaggerate the emotions and feelings. I want to discuss it with you. The exaggeration makes it more exciting to talk about relationships. the size of your income or that of fish caught. for example: "Sorry.

your offense. He mumble "Thank you".a beautiful pair of gold cufflinks. I had some suspicions but did not mean anything yet.. That day Luke was football with friends and I have fun with some friends to assert that I did not see since we have decided to live together. The language of the body reveals the emotional state of women and is responsible for 60 to 80% of the impact of their conversation. When we arrived. the conversation was really difficult and not a little interesting. Mae West on men. I knew it would be a romantic dinner and was excited. She was exaggerating his emotions and he. It was as if it were a hundred kilometers away. How a woman can fool yourself When the woman recall a scene in your head. around eight hours. She communicates with a scale of five tones. but decided to wait to get home to talk. I gave him a special gift . Saturday night. She sends much of what I mean by tone of voice. times and places where he eats the same. Luke went straight in the room. For women.the days. women always seem to be moving his arms and using a variety of gestures and facial expressions when speaking.. turned and was watching the TV. The letter from Jessica shows as: "Me and Luke agreed to meet for dinner at our favorite restaurant. Decided to have coffee at home. without giving me the slightest attention. During the dinner. But for her the most important is not the offense committed. Most messages are not verbal. His eyes seemed to say that everything was over between us. The humor of it was so strange that I thought he was punishing me for having arrived late. but one at a time. the woman also uses the body language to send and receive information. challenging in terms of facts and data. We spent the whole morning shopping. so that the time and I lost a little late. I was giving treatment to the ball to imagine what could be. because it does not consider that issue with the woman is decreased her. Now I knew we had a serious problem. then lunch and take coffee and we talk about a million things. When I arrived. I started to think that something suspicious was that I had some time . looking out the window. All that she wants is that he values in front of friends. I want a million . mad to see Luke. including the phone. it may appear that the memory is real. In the eyes of men. but men are able to identify only three. Sorry for the delay. said he had an excellent day out with friends and show what was purchased. put them in the pocket and was sitting there without saying anything. he was sitting. He is hurt and angry. the emotions and feelings are what counts and tone of voice and body language are the main channels to communicate them. Despite his ability to speak. The trip back was silent.

it was in the kitchen and told me: 'In the team meeting today. even if internally you give some discount. Sometimes a man feels as if I had to guess what the woman wants. " 'What?' I was surprised. with a tone mad. women understand the need to exaggerate the emotions and feelings and not take the literal meaning.. 'she said not to eat the salami? " 'She's not you. I promised myself that the next day would face the situation and demand that he tell me the truth. moreover.. I went to bed. She does this constantly.he should have another woman. must realize that. Luke came to bed and also surprised me want to snuggle. It is able to develop four or five different lines of thought simultaneously with ease. Why women never go to the chase? For men. is thinking it and not want to tell me not to hurt me. Then.. while she continued to where he had stopped.. I said: 'Later I need to go to the hardware store. will eventually disqualified!" Solution If you are a man. I was so upset and stressed that hours spent awake.was true . that bitch of his work beyond the mini-skirt! I saw the way she moves the chair every time he passes by it. This apparently vague manner of speaking is known as indirect language. .Debbie. where the exaggeration may be cause for much confusion and damage. 'I do not want you to eat the salami. while carrying a basket of laundry to the garage. Yesterday. but to me and my two children that causes tremendous brain damage. And I was also becoming clear who she was . Not resist to my caresses. she should try to be objective and limit the exaggeration. This step is especially important when it comes to business. Listen to the truth of it. All your friends seem to follow his reasoning. or be able to read her mind. telling me what your supervisor told you. and this time I put the clothes in the washing . They must think I'm blind! Well. But then he just turned and was sleeping. as the man takes things at the foot of the letter. trying to find the sequence of the conversation. help her to relativise without saying what she should think or say. " I stopped with the stupid guy. Then cried to sleep. The woman. It took the largest iron if continue. Ten minutes later. Never call your partner in "queen of the drama" not a correction in front of others. while I turn to follow.. I was sitting there in the room with him about fifteen minutes until no more endure.' replied my wife. my supervisor said . I will use it later. and made love. And he thinks I'm an idiot. " What Luke was really thinking that night: "My team lost. women seem to prefer to be making rounds to go right to the point. This letter from a reader and shows a woman can feel the man: "My wife goes on whim indirect speech. How can a woman be so smart as avoada when talking? Today. for example. I thought the end was near. " I was working in the garage half hour. not eat the salami.. as tenderly as possible. Who is the other woman? He loves you or is just an adventure? Why men do not tell the truth? All I know is that it can no longer live like this . not noticed how he looks at her with that stupid smile.

machine, in one move boxes, cleaned a shelf and made a list of arrangements for next week. When she went in the house said, without stopping what I was doing: 'Why? " 'Huh? Why what? "I asked. 'What do you need? " 'I do not need anything! What are you talking about? " 'If you do not need anything, that is going to the hardware store? "She asked, crossing his arms with that guy sulk in'0 - that-is-what-you-are-arming' that most men married knows. However, this matter was already closed for me for a long time, but for my wife is absolutely natural to resume a conversation for over an hour, if it finds that the matter was not resolved. I think she is convinced that I did not hear, and I'm half convinced that she is right. I try to understand later, after I finish my salami sandwich. Frustrated Raymond. "When a woman speaks, the language generally indirect USA. That means what it implies or infers that the things. When women use indirect language to each other, rarely there are problems - they have to understand the sensitivity real meaning of what is said. But this language can be disastrous when speaking with men, who use the direct language and interpret the words literally. As I said, the male brain evolved as a mechanism to focus single requirement of the hunt. The men find disconcerting the apparent lack of structure and purpose of female conversation and accuse women of not knowing what they are talking about. They respond saying things like: "After all, what are you talking about?", "What is the conclusion ", or the interrupt saying," We already talked about this a dozen times, "" How long it will last yet? "and" This conversation is very complicated and will not lead to nowhere. " The language in indirect business The use of indirect language and multiple tracks in business can be problematic for women because men have difficulty to follow the conversation. The men, in order to take decisions, must be submitted to ideas and information that is clear, logical and organized. Women may see their ideas and rejected the requests simply because your boss is not the slightest idea what she wants. Marie was a classic victim. After six months of negotiations, Marie had the chance to present the new advertising program for your company to a major customer of the financial industry. The audience was composed of eight men and four women. The account to be won worth two hundred thousand dollars and she only had thirty minutes to sell her story. It was the only chance of winning the title. On the day of presentation, so well tested that could sleep up to, Marie came properly dressed, with a number sober, hair done and makeup light and natural. But soon after starting, she noticed that the men looked as if they were not understood. Given the impression that they were judging negatively and losing interest in the presentation, she began to come by several shortcuts, adding unnecessary details and returning the slides already passed to show how they are related to each other. Encouraged the women with smiles, faces and vocal expressions like "Uh, uh," "Right!" and showing an interest. Encouraged by the female reaction, Marie began to turn his speech to them, unintentionally ignoring the men. The entire presentation has become an exercise in juggling. She finished and left, convinced that he had done a good job. and was eagerly awaiting the answer of the company.

This was the conversation of men executives during the coffee, after which Marie left: Director of Marketing: "You have some idea of what she was talking about?" Executive Director: "No. .. it confused me. Tell him to send the proposal in writing." Marie "multitrilhou" submission using indirect language with a group of men who wanted to hear a presentation objective, and lean in his logic. The executive met and became involved with questions, but no man wanted to raise their hand and admit that there was not understood. The woman needs to understand that man, when you can not follow what she says, prefer to pretend it means to go through stupid. Only it is not convinced. When a man can not keep up the discourse of business of a woman, he pretends to understand. The woman must use a direct language, with timetables, schedules, deadlines and conclusive answers. Should be direct with men in business by addressing an issue each time, with beginning, middle and end, without getting lost in shortcuts. Marie is still waiting for a response ...

Case study: Barbara and Adam Barbara went to shop with friends and wanted his son Adam, aged 16, clean the kitchen. "Adam, you can do to please clean the kitchen for me?" She asked. "Hum .. s ...", he growl in response. When she resumed the tour, the kitchen remained the same. Barbara was angry with her son. "But I would clean up before leaving at night", he whine. The problem was caused by the Barbara. She used the language indirect assumption that Adam would understand that when she returned home with her friends, the kitchen should be clean. She asked: "You want to clean the kitchen?" No boy "or" clean the kitchen. Adam can not. A direct request with a deadline, as "Adam, please clean the kitchen before I get back from shopping at noon, would have guaranteed a better result.

Children do not "want" to do household chores, they need to be directly instructed to do them.

That night, Barbara said to Adam: "I would like you to look for an hour before going to bed." Indirect dis-course that works with girls but with boys it is useless. The brain of the boy heard that his mother that he would do such a thing, but it really was not instructed to do it, does. Direct instruction with a time limit is the only realistic way of dealing with men. "Adam, I want you to go to your room and study for one hour. I will give you good-night before you pain-mir." Direct instructions leave little room for communication problems. Moreover, men enjoy clear instructions. Women fear that the direct language is too aggressive. You can even be, when used with another woman. With men, however, the direct speech is perfectly normal, because that is how they communicate. Solution For a woman: With men, seek to use only the direct discourse. This does not mean being aggressive. You may well say, calmly and affection: "Let's make an appointment to talk? Feel that we need solve some problems." And remember what we said before: when speaking of problems, makes clear that it is as you see them and feel, which does not mean they are exactly that. Do not extend to others and gives space to listen to what your partner has to say. Listen to the truth, not defend themselves or challenge immediately. In the beginning may seem difficult, but over time this practice will bring you the desired results. You'll have fewer misunderstandings with men of his life. For men: If a woman is talking and you have difficulty to follow your line of thinking, start listening, without offering solutions. If anything, give it a time limit: "I watch the news of seven, my good, but until then I'm all yours." Again: try to show you their own limits and their way of being. Once you have the precious chance to go is knowing better and respecting their differences. One of our readers sent us the Dictionary of Women Indirect terms that appear during their regular discussions. "Good" - The USA women at the end of this word in any discussion that you believe to be the reason but want the man shut up. "Five minutes - I mean, about half an hour. Equivalent to five minutes when the man is watching a soccer game and the woman asked for a favor. "Nothing" - means "something." "Nothing" is usually used to describe the feeling of the woman when she is willing to strangle the man. "Nothing" usually means the beginning

" Do not ask what's wrong after the "audible sigh. seasoned with a lot of "Aahs".." The next time it will allow you to make sex with her will "one day". "raised eyebrows" and an "audible gasp" final. At some point in the near future. followed by "Nothing" and "Fine" and she says she will explain the reason in "five minutes". wanting to know every detail. -Audible sigh means she thinks you an idiot and wonders why it is wasting time by discussing with you "Nothing. "Okay" is often used with "Fine" and in conjunction with "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows). "Robert.of a discussion that will last "five minutes" and have undermined with the word "great". "Nothing important .means that she wants to think before you return whatever you have.. "Thank you" . she insisted. you will be a big trouble. She will tell you that is" good "while playing their clothes through the window. what he said?" She asked.She is not questioning the validity. okay. If you do not speak the truth will win in a final "OK"." because it will say "Nothing. "Robert? You do not see from the side! How is he?" "Good. We were talking .It is said in a tone of challenge." he said. details are irrelevant. "Really?" . is simply saying it does not believe a single word of what you say.The woman says that when you're really upset with you. He answered. when it has plot is planned. the split detail each point of the conversation. "Please" ." "So ." He hung up and continued reading. shows a basic brain differences between men and women. listened for about ten minutes making occasional grunt and said: "Yes. which has dealt before..is not an application is an offer for you to talk." You should receive a "Go ahead" (raised eyebrows) in a few minutes. after the woman said "nothing..At the beginning of a sentence. and the highest is the sarcastic "Really?" it. For example... is great. This situation." "Go ahead" (with normal eyebrows) . Why women want to know the smallest detail? Josh was reading the newspaper a night when the phone rang. "Aah" generally means that you have been caught in a lie. And he was asked him as an advocate of it. "That is what he said after ten years? What is great ". And do not try to lie more to get an escape because" Go ahead "(raised eyebrows). "All right" .. "Who was that?" He asked his wife Debbie." Josh replied that defeated tone that men have when trying to read the newspaper. "Go ahead" (with raised eyebrows) . The woman thinks when a man does not speak . You offering to explain and receive a "Please. a former schoolmate. The woman is giving you the chance to invent an excuse or reason you have done what they have done.. Means that you put the hurt and the next step will be an "audible sigh. He is nice .means "I quit" or "Do what you want because I'm not there. when a cool head." "Aah?" ." The more you apologize. For men. "Aah? I talked to his brother about what you walked by last night "and" Aah? You expect me to believe ".

The man thinks the woman speaks and other torments so many questions. You also know where the friends go on leave and the children are doing in school.. His survival depended on their ability to connect to other women. is that with the long-term survival in their minds. But you know very little about the personal life of any person in the group . ask if it is available. meets its limits. . need to understand that the woman needs to know details and personal information is programmed into your psyche and aims for the survival of relationships Therefore.. look you give more details than usually and do not fidget with their pe1fun-tas. yes . ah.. have already decided how to defeat terrorism and how England can win of Germany in football . tell your partner that is willing to tell her what happened. Tell us what you feel and hear what he feels. Things that seem important to you may be irrelevant to him. And if. especially in a business meeting.. the woman involved to secure for itself a narrow circle of friends who take care of it if your man does not resume the hunt or the war. feel that he is uninterested. I discussed what are good places to fish. because for women the words are used to unite. women know everything that each member of the group. you will be a great year. their dreams and goals for the year.. And if you are female.much because he is not interested in it. their health and status of their relationships. Men know what new "toys for boys" bought the other men. try to avoid the excess of detail. already see the new red sports car from Bob. are doing. Thus. knowing that men and women are structurally different. and the latest jokes. when you talk to the woman. they want to know how each person in your group and how they can help. being precise and succinct. they do not cease to be . in reporting events from the others. After a social activity. which means knowing all the details and is actively interested by the situation of each group member and their families. or family.. you should 'go to the chase.their wives saying all the way home.just listen to it with genuine interest. Remember once again: you need not worry about giving answers or provide solutions .. At home. Solution If you are a man. well. Invite her for a long walk and let her talk. Women are programmed to know all the details Defender of nests and offspring. It is not that women are curious .. do not feel offended. The group of friends was his insurance company.

what would have happened? If you tell the exact words that go through your head. Adam. You must see the reason for your bad breath and why not cut the hair of the nose?" "This meeting is organized chatíssima you. Why not put a bra or seeking a new plastic surgeon?" "Hi. Maybe you have not told her husband that found a former boyfriend and that his heart shot. His female instinct tells you that something is wrong. Most of the lies that we are soft Lies. Or that . You may have exaggerated a bit to complete a loan application form or request for jobs to provide the best. but you do not know what it is.he prefers to hear him personality. as often prefer the subtle distortion of the true facts and stark naked. When you sold the car. how people react? One thing is certain: you would be an insufferable person. but you know he has a picture of it in the drawer of the office. Proverb If you had told the strict truth to all those who interacted in the last week. What mind? Everybody lies. Most lies are the first meetings. Always tell the truth . those that exist for us to live jun-ments without violence or aggression. Mary. you did not mention that the neighbor cat up and sometimes the smell is unbearable. do not want to hear the truth about him . action by which a person is to deliberately deceive another person. Imagine the following situations: "Hi. His girlfriend called in last minute canceling the meeting with you and an excuse that it seemed in tatters. You distrust. no one notices it or he has a size suitable for your face. Because their sinuses are fallen. If you have a nose too large. may have ceased to mention that leakage of engine oil to speak of the excellent conditions under which he was. probably would not have any friends and possibly more would be unemployed. There is no one interesting beer is hot. When announced to sell the house. when all want to make the best.Chapter 8 "You think I am OUE -FAT CLOTHES WITH THIS? Why men lie? The new man in your life that really is all over with the former." When was the last time you lied? Well. as you may not have lied.then quit running. but left to say or tell something that would have caused suffering to the person. You would be wrong? Lie: noun.

caught in the web of obligation. is armed and behaved is thinking only in stimulating the sexual part of the brain of Dennis. pants high heels. is decorate. In polite language. was impressed with the way Dennis get the scenario for the night: half-light. put a pair of long earrings and a bit of French perfume behind the ears. glorious. she realized that he was using to shave lotion that she said that he liked. he presented with a beautiful bouquet of flowers and led it to the table. in short. hearing. To sit.are all lies. in turn. smiling. They were talking a little about her work and the events of the day. makeup is carefully chose a sexy dress. Stephen King We lied for two reasons. was based on lies and deceptions. looking at the eyes and encourage her to talk. Parents lie to their children about sex and teenagers lie to their parents about sex. most people feel guilt. Research shows that 30-40% of patients get relief with placebos . and it is not easy to hide. Friends and lovers. Fortunately. Only enemies tell the truth. touch and smell . This whole assembly was a fine trick. Dennis wanted sex. All night.sight.so different from others she met. And I was experienced enough to know that building the scenario the way they mount. Sheelagh. not to lie. Free sex with no inhibitions. you raise the level of testosterone. Case study: Sheelagh and Dennis Sheelagh was asked by Dennis for dinner at his house and decided whim to impress you. both would deny. And assumed that he felt exactly the same for her. On entering the dining room. But if faced with this basic fact. lit with candles. where it served a glass of champagne. this scenario is called a romantic dinner with candlelight. When he arrived. Give the name you want . half-light and soft music were not part of the normal lifestyle of Dennis and the usual topic of conversation was his sport. of course. Everyone constantly lied to each other. remorse or discomfort when you lie. Sheelagh felt completely overwhelmed by the caring and sensitive man . But in reality it is a complete fabrication of lies half on both sides to try to gain personal advantage. and strongly. With a little practice is to recognize the behavioral signs we learn to lie and decodes them. Did you not concealed from the other lipo or prosthesis that did that to put the body shape? Ever not lied about your weight and your age? The list of large and small lies is endless. or is lying. It was the lights on the hair do hair. a soft background music and fire burning. But we can say that everything you said and did that night was in search of personal gain. Champagne. Dennis listened attentively.were excited in the highest degree.the group of friends who would just be reducing the lunch spicy brunette who works in the next office. obtaining a gain or avoid pain. making it possible for a person know if the other is telling the truth. the chance to get to Sheelagh what I would be much greater. All your senses .

Types of liars "Natural liars" are people who are fully aware and confident in their ability to deceive. Invent the people intend to destroy the character and reputation of their victims. the lying does not count as a lie. even if they are inverídicas also benefit as the rivals of those affected in the world art.technically lying. and when he met a man who seemed loving. parents who were themselves taught them to lie to prevent the . this time by an act of concealment. ra late because the damage was enormous. When the truth was restored. To tell her friend Margie who was seeing this man. In general. or as safe prescription drugs . This type of lie is an intentional act. He was lying heroically. sensitive. he was a notorious playboy. War then moved to avoid it. through another friend. This is the case of the German farmer who hid Jews from Nazis and denied to the authorities. can spread the false information that its main competitor is in financial difficulties. The malicious lie is the most dangerous. for example. War. was single mother. business and politics. One company. for example. and do as little. making it the guarantor of a loan and giving it the default. The malicious lie has two main forms: concealment and falsification. but if War took the decision not to warn it would also be guilty of lying. was delighted. he misappropriate information.embraced with a smile-tooth Margie. a person who could not trust. C mo already said. intelligent. The medical mind that the patient in the bed of death to raise her mood. A month later. People in evidence as actors. left little. discovering that War was over. A known God. In the blind. who.Types of lies There are four basic types of lies .placebos .the Branda Lie. Malicious lies are motivated by revenge or to gain advantages. Say. politicians and richies are the main targets of malicious lies. A couple had their school and its reputation destroyed because they spread the rumor that sexually hurt the students. she gives him in the face of the neighborhood shopping center . fun and is interested in her. in fact. not an accident. it is not an uncommon political rumors spread that an opponent has his inappropriate sexual behavior. Similarly. The fireman who rescues a child from a house on fire and mind to it saying that their parents are and is protecting it for some time to suffer an even greater trauma. the Lie Branda is part of our social fabric and prevents us from ferirmos and insult each other with the truth hard. heard. because the intention of the liar in this case is hurt or take advantage of victims in their own benefit. cold and painful. that a man cheating ex-girlfriend. In forging a inverídica information is presented as true. sorry. The journalists who offer the stories to newspapers and magazines sensational. Margie War gave false information on the character of a man. The Lie benefit is used by people with the intention of helping. with results to be devastated and durable. The lies and malicious misconduct tend to be used as weapons in competitive situations. Lie beneficial to the malicious lies and malicious lie. Nobody could blame for not warning Gerris Margie because Margie may not believe. to get him out of the rival.

The truth will free him. doctors and businessmen to raise the successful. even when they are evident to friends and family. Studies and experiments show. For those liars. These poor creatures spend their lives indiscriminately telling the truth about everything. The most common objective of Romantic Liar is starting money. the only limit is the imagination. The offices of the therapists are full of intelligent women and full of resources Romantic victims of a Liar. was persuaded by the parents that it was impossible to lie. She is blind to the lies or deny. Who minds the most? Most of the women has to say categorically that men lie more frequently than between them. the woman usually does not the slightest idea of what is happening. The "liar non-natural" is the person who as a child. but what they want to believe that it is like the truth. and sexual interest. but will save you a far greater suffering in the long term. pretending to give in return love and emotion. MAL Pancoast One of the most dangerous lie that a woman can find the way is the romantic. because it would inevitably discovered. When a Romantic Liar enter into action. right? Why not do the same with a prospective partner? The advice here is: always check the history of any product you want to keep for long. politicians and spies. vendors. offending and creating problems for everyone they know. The emotional damage and loss of self-esteem often far beyond the material losses in these cases and may leave a woman emotionally marked: it will hardly believe any man. People say love of truth. while others are masters in pose of lawyers. merchants. repeating that "I never lie. actors.terrible punishment that would apply if told the truth. that men and women lie in equal Others . however. Many natural liars take advantage of that ability in adulthood become criminal lawyers. psychological and financial. Consequently. as the biggest talent is his ability to live a lie plausible enough time to its victim fall in love. Some returned in this type of experience. seems to learn nothing suffered. Romantic liars can appear anywhere and go in and chat on the Internet. It can be painful discover its faults. but first it will screw you. Even smart women be fooled by a Romantic Liar. they can cause enormous damage to women's emotional. If you lead the department of personnel of a large company would want to know as much as possible about a person applying for a position of trust. where most people mind and anything." annoying. sex and other benefits of women. Romantic Some liars are specialists in hiding who are married.

"Once and for all. He will say that the clothes are "interesting." tell a lie as indirect "I do not know what to say.it is always good. They do not lie anymore. has nothing to gain by telling the truth. Women lie to keep the relationship safe and have great difficulty in lying about their feelings. What 's wrong with that?" He says she is a friend from childhood and .propose What varies is the content of the lie. The woman mind to make the man feel good." Sex is one of the constants of life of man . The men lie to avoid discussion and to say. it is highly likely that he is lying. The human mind to do good. to defend themselves from charges of women. This is the main difference lies between male and female. but lie differently. Women of the m general. especially because it usually sounds "Eooo a xtô bêbadu. Due to heightening awareness for women's body language and vocal signs. Common lies that men tell women "I'm not drunk" a lie is easy to get. and men for doing good. In an extreme case. They just continue to get caught. and only will if forced to give their opinion. If a man says that sex with the ex was a drug." or simply saying that lie loved. "The sex with my ex was a drug. men are caught much more frequently.women lie as much as men. as if you were deeply offended. And they say that sex with ex was better than with you. The evidence is clear . the man moves away to not have to lie. Under the same circumstances. lying also likely to leave you angry.except for being really drunk. no matter where or when. tend to lie to make others feel better. The woman said that a mind was wonderful clothes for someone. And in those cases where the man mind. I never trance with that woman. which leaves the impression that lie more. such as smoking two packs of cigarettes a day repeating that it is not biased and can stop whenever you want." The man who betrayed a lie until well beyond any evidence because. The main question of the men who do women lie is: "What it was good?" The most common form of lie is self-deception. There is no reason to say that a person is not drunk . even thinking that the person was like a sack of potatoes. "She is my friend. or convince themselves that a calorie dessert not affect the system. in his head. most women know very well that he is lying. Even become aggressive. a man is able to say it is vice-director of a multinational distribution of food when it has a business of supply of pizza at home.

in general if they can get along. sad. The purpose of man hunter was always reach its target accurately and not talk to him. If you see or not these tracks. so do not want you to go eat with us. but will not have the slightest difficulty in lying to the enemy if captured in war. Try to disguise these tracks creates an emotional issue for the majority of us. Most women have less difficulty to lie in the face of the man . therefore. she is sick and wants me to go visit her. The man has on average 4 to 7 of those points. she is going through a difficult situation and I want to help. more tracks will be left by the liar. Most men do not think that guy has a dog required. " Why not stick the lies? Most lies can be detected because. A husband has difficulty to lie to his wife if he really loves. she does not feel anything for me. For the same reasons. is another problem. in danger. the woman's brain is organized into multiple tracks.whether friendly or aggressive. If the man wants to lie to a woman. The "hypersensitive" female has two goals: defend its territory against foreign and communicate with the children. involve emotions that flashing red lights as verbal or visual. disease. Must be able to rapidly assess the attitude of people who are close to their nest . she is just needing a friend to talk. she is vulnerable. signs and changes in body tone. She knows I tell if a dog is happy. angry or embarrassed. sorrow and joy. advise him or try to understand it. Here is the key to duck-logical liar: he has no emotional connection with anyone. fear. in general. But keep away from you and not to let her know. The closer a person. it is best to do so by telephone. without being caught. and respond to a large extent by what is known as "female intuition". The woman must have ability to look at their offspring and immediately identify the pain. On May the lie and the more emotions involved. Why women are so good at catching lies? Most men know how difficult it is to run even a small lie to a woman face to face. so that it can handle more . Without these techniques of survival. because your brain is more developed for spatial tasks than for communication. the woman is able to read the emotions of animals. These points are used to decode words. the more difficult it is to lie because of the emotions involved. The man needs to reach its target accurately and not having a conversation with him deeper and full of meaning. MRI scans of brain show that a woman has from 14 to 16 key points in the two hemispheres when communicating face to face.who have no other interest in it. As I said. lie is easy. hunger. Other variants include: "She is lesbian. she needs to tell me something very secret.

The FBI agents learn to analyze the "micro-expressions" .information at the same time. while the men often forget their lies. a survey of 2002. The man with the brain of single track.the subtle expressions. and colleagues from the State University of New York in Buffalo. showed that a significant number of people in the range 15 to 30 years is prone to lying. Women not only have a greater ability to detect lies as they have greater ability to save them as ammunition for future discussions. for example. you are informed at once and let go. that Bill Clinton lour for a split second before answering any question about Monica Lewinsky. . stealing The younger the person. but also that they are often negotiating more perceptive than men. 3. Why do women always remember? Erik Everhart. If it needs. There was. About 33% of secundaristas and 16% of students admitted having stolen goods from a shop on the previous year. and the girls.the part of the brain used in language and the storage and retrieval of memory . The woman's brain is programmed to read the signs when they happen. plus the left. For that use the slow motion.092 adults. We search for 3243 students from secondary school. The hippocampus . more prone to cheat. people who are lying. Read the mouth and eyes of someone requires a more refined analysis than judging the emotions of the face piece. making them better able to understand the state of mind of people. and 16% of secundaristas said that it had done at least once. call her or send her an email. fleeting.630 students and 2. found that boys and girls from 8 to 11 years of age using different parts of their brains to identify faces and expressions Boys most use the right side. which explains not only why they are much more difficult to deceive. assistant professor of psychology from East Carolina University. Sixty-one percent of secundaristas and 32% of students admitted to have circumvented the tests at least once in the previous year. swindling. fraud and stealing. giving women greater ability to recover memories of things loaded with emotion. Young people are more prone to lying. in the forms and job interviews to get what they want. A third of students in each group was told to put lies prone in the curriculum vitae. Women are very good at remembering what was the lie that those who counted and counted. It is very difficult. Advice for men Do not waste time telling a lie to a woman face to face. Found that this difference helps the girl to detect subtle changes of facial expressions. This gives you the added advantage of knowing how to read the physical signs and hear what is being said while speaking. lasting from a fraction of a second. about nine thousand adolescents and adults from all over the country. so many physical signs. In the United States.is full of receptors for estrogen and grows more rapidly in girls than in boys.

The second reason. "What is the reason for the fight?" Asks the father. "I never lied!" The boys were put to cry. symptoms that reflect a real change of values in these societies. too hurt or vengeful when he hears the truth. "Who gains from the biggest lie the dog. "We're doing a competition. never know what the other is really thinking or feeling about them. The most disturbing was that 73% of those surveyed in the range 15 to 30 years said to believe that "most people cheat and lie when necessary to achieve what they want. Why the lies of friends and family hurt more ." "That ugly thing!". but the bribe the guard to watch traffic. is that the behavior of these people makes the others lie to them. almost forcing the others to lie. 'No'. Asked the student. Unfortunately. as they themselves are liars usual. The children hear from parents that honesty is the best result. I avoid at all costs. that the severity of punishment is a major stimulus to lie and one of the main reasons that children grow as stubborn liars. will say. If you are a person who offends easily." The survey found that 83% of secundaristas and 61% of university lied to the parents during the previous year. Many of the behavioral patterns are liars down during childhood and youth. If you ask the children to tell you the truth. these are symptoms of great moral crisis that rages in all societies." Based on this study. and adulthood are triggered by figures of authority. The researchers found that the dishonesty and other unethical behaviors were less common among people over 30 years and lied that the two sexes in equal proportion. you got it!" Ambiguous messages about the lie that children receive has a major impact on their behavior when they grow up. assume that all other people are. People find this for two reasons: first. It is different than being instructed to pretend to like the gifts that have won or give a kiss on the annoying aunt who will visit them. more likely. When someone reacts to what is said so aggressive and emotional. why did not the duty of the house. we could say that Americans are a bunch of liars and fraudsters. it is a duty of kindness and just education. the teaching is lying to protect themselves." replied the boys. "Great. The father responds. When all the known lie to you Some believe that we should not trust anyone and that the world is full of liars. for example. Most parents do not realize."I can trouble for something I did?". The father is approaching heatedly discuss that next to a puppy. apologize: "Dad. replied the director. but similar studies conducted across the West showed the same trend. If people know that you are angry. people flatter you do not like to give excuses to justify a lack liars or cancel an appointment. In such cases. then the sanctions because the truth is not in line with its expectations. because they will distort the truth to avoid reaction.

The lie of a close friend also hurt. But the habitual liar not hesitate or forget. the liar's voice becomes more acute. sister or child. the used car salesman will lie to us. no. father. Consider the example of a person who combines is with you and not displayed. The liars leave the lies out of its references to themselves and avoided using the word "I". In the end she will betray an excess of confidence in the performance. they instinctively seek to distance itself from them. Ask liar to repeat what you think is a lie. How to read between the what is said . because the person will be our brother. They prefer to say "I do not trance with that woman" than "I do not trance with Monica. then ask them to repeat a third time. generally the third response is not accurate and the story seems a little different." Liars do not hesitate Ask a person what she did last weekend and she will probably think a bit before saying something like: "Ah . Clues to unmask a liar How people feel uncomfortable with the lie.. If later the demand and it says "My car broke down and had no cell battery. I saw my brother after lunch. the more we trust it. the more open to it. Then give a break to the suspect to let him think that made it.. sister or child hurts more than told by an acquaintance. for that before-I had to go get my car in the workshop .. mother. but tends to be forgiven. aah . Who does one turn is two If you think a person is lying. A lie told by a brother.. A malicious lie told by her husband. if I act like every word. just leaving to find her. people usually stop and change direction to try to put things in order. due to the stress associated with the lie. As he does not expect this repeteco and is more relaxed.. The FBI recently discovered this valuable clue.. we surprised him with it and can choose to not see him ever again. because the closer the person." The liars also avoid using the name of the person involved in the lie. at least for a time. " To recall the events of the day. His script is perfectly decorated and rarely does it wrong. analyzing the words of suspects who had alibis false. but that person can be eliminated from our lives. I i in my brother's house after breakfast and then .. Furthermore. He tested his mind many times in the head and is generally able to perform without error. in principle. cause more suffering to a lie. Good liars are able to make a second version identical." you instinctively distrust most of what she said "My car broke and I could not call you because the phone's battery was weak. wife. because the feeling of betrayal is more pro-fund and you do not want to remove this person from your life.The more intimate the relationship. brother or sister hurts deeper. At the other extreme. we know that.

it is more clear that a contract gives you the possibility to interrupt the conversation past the time stipulated. ." When you hear someone say "only" and "only" should think about why the person tries to minimize the importance of what you're saying. There are people who exclaim "Bullshit!" when they hear a fact which seems extraordinary. if so. that phrase alone is not evidence of dishonesty: it must be interpreted in its context. $ 9. or what he is saying is not worthy of credit. Do you lack the confidence to say you feel? Are you trying to fool? Or are you wanting to escape from their responsibilities? Of course. I love you.You already talked with someone who seems less convincing as this? Examine some common words and phrases.95" and "Only U. "I only take five minutes of your time" is the USA. Here is a list of terms commonly used by people who want to convince them that speak the truth. honest. "I just wanted to say I love you" mask the need for love is shy to say "I love you. indicating that the person may be trying to hide the truth or convince you of an emotion that she does not feel. try not to eliminate them is liable to generate mistrust. "I am just a human being" is the motto of those who do not want to take responsibility for their mistakes. some honest people have the habit of using those words repeatedly. but should pay attention when you hear "just" and "only". She argued. he makes his observation with a "Trust me." "Without doubt" gives reason to doubt and "Without a doubt" is definitely a warning sign.00 for entry" is used to convince the consumer that the price is insignificant. saying that was just expressing surprise. because they give the impression that the listener is unable. The words "honesty"." "I'm not kidding" and "I would lie to you?" are other versions. not mean that it will not believe what is being narrated. "sincere" and "frankly" indicate that the speaker should be considerably less. however. For example: "Frankly. when in reality they want to force you to believe what they are saying." The force with which the person who says "Trust me" try to convince the other is proportional to the size of the bait. this is the best I can offer you" is sometimes translated as "might not be the best that I have to offer. To feel that you are not believing it. If the person says "You give me five minutes?" and you agree. "Only U. trustworthy and decent credit need not convince anyone of it. but who knows you believe?". you will do what I want. However." And no woman believes the man who says "Just a friend. $ 40. not a rule.S. A friend was my ex-beats the classroom at the college to respond with "Bullshit!" the statement of professor of religious sciences that had more than a thousand shrines where the Virgin Mary operated miracles. which will sound false. Unconsciously do this by introducing a true statement. Remember. But who has not always meant well. "Believe in what I am telling you" can mean "If I can make you believe me. "I love you" is easier to believe than "Honestly. honest and sincere than states and can be sign that he is lying. and oblige him to answer "I" to every request. who will hire you for a full hour. "Only" and "only" The words "only" just "are used to minimize the meaning of words" which are then to relieve the guilt of the speaker or p ra blaming the other for any unpleasant consequence. "You understand?" or "Do you understand?" at the end of the sentence are irritating mannerisms. Who is being honest. Pay attention to your speech to see if you USA often these words and.S. but in the end thought that it was untrue.

Answers like these are given when the person is calling and not to respond directly to a question. When a person is caught distorting the truth."Why would I lie?" ."I do not belong to this type of people. When the person is in a situation of stress. They live their values in a way that is visible and that gives them credibility. This is most noticeable in men than in women. breathing and perspiration. These machines can now be seen in programs of the TV interviews in which the American guests also tend to prove the guilt. their speech tends to be dotted with uhms."I never I would be such a thing." ."You think I would be able to do such a thing?" Some people try to use the organization to which they belong."As a member of ."I have no reason to lie. have received or honor the traditions of his family to convince you of their honesty. the pulse and the relative volume of blood is the most famous of lie detector."Trust me."To be absolutely frank / honest / honest with you. except when determined by the judge.. There are also physiological differences between people that may be source of errors in the polygraph test." . blood pressure." It can also be a matter of uncertainty." . Liars experienced less anxiety show that beginners and are sometimes able to pass the test of the polygraph. Studies show that 70% of the amount of voice crotch when lying. but the fact is that people of character do not need live testing its virtues.. which measures the breathing apparatus.height." . Paying attention to vocal tracks There are three characteristics of voice capable of delivering a liar . because they have the brain less . speed and volume. You may recognize some of these phrases: ." . Conversely. Recent studies show that the accuracy of the new computerized polygraph is close to 100%.. The polygraph."Frankly Speaking."I'm telling you the truth. and hem breaks because there was not enough time to test the lie. tension causes a tightening in the vocal chords that makes screechy voice and can increase its speed and volume. When a person speaks the truth. speaking more slowly and reduces the volume of voice. AHS. the liar that calculates the lie to ensure their effectiveness." . no change occurs in these indicators. a lie is detected by the physiological effects that are manifested as the increase or decrease in heart rate. ERS. while honest people may be intimidated and lied to eventually classified as roses. When the person is wanting to cheat. Getting lie with the computer The progress of technology of computer generated three interesting ways to detect liars. The polygraph is not accepted as evidence in court. innocence or the fidelity of their partners." .

scratches his neck. The male gestures are easier to understand because they are more extensive and frequent: rubbing eyes and nose. exaggerate or lie. they believe their lies. but there are some signs you can see when someone is lying. and others. your facial expressions are asymmetric. and it is likely to be hiding something. There was. without displaying too many signs of the stress. When someone rub the eye. pulling the ear and bring the hand to the neck. The fake smile is generally slow and asymmetric. pull the ear. In the book. irritation or fatigue. take your fingers to rub the nose or mouth. your smile is crooked means. Both men and women take much to hand to the face when in doubt. Keep in mind that they are not satisfied that the person is lying.equipped to control the language. Interpret the whole Never interpret a gesture alone. When the person mumble a reply to a question directly. but there is something she is not saying. nothing guarantees that lying. When people try to show that they do not feel emotions. feel insecure. suspicious. however. like politicians and religious fanatics who. is usually rapid and symmetrical . may be itching. "believe me". it is reasonable to assume that you are listening to a lie. This is true for children educated in Western culture and European. Mothers them said "I know you're lying . most of the time. When it comes to lie in general at least three signs. discussing the matter extensively. "to be honest. There are people who lie comfortably. it does not show signs of fraud. The smile that accompanies a true statement. Smile Men and women smile the same way as when they lie and the truth. Is in the eye You probably learned to believe the liar never looks in the eyes. that Bill Clinton touched his nose and face 26 times when answered questions about Monica Lewinsky before the grand jury.the left side of the face mirrors the right side. they show that it is experiencing some kind of stress. If someone rub your eyes. If it touches the face several times and at the same time says "trust me". In other words. for example. Interpreting body language In our book The Language of the Body body showed signs that represent more than 60% of the messages exchanged between people. But most of the liars give many signs.

Talk soon. open your arms and tilt it back. Add involuntary facial movements. Use the technique of self: "I felt a lack of your call. trigger the left side of the brain and generally look to the right. without further difficulty. 7. 2. 4. Mimic the posture and his movement to establish a communication and make it more difficult for him to lie to you.because you can not look in my eyes. he will feel uncomfortable. Mispronounce or mumble the words. A liar think doing so is not lying. It is a subtle form of intimidation. Sit in the chair higher. 6. recalled when a real event. Never say what you really know . experienced liars can maintain eye contact when they lie. and a signal is almost impossible to disguise. Crossing your arms or legs. The deft. 9. In simple terms. If you get close." "I am sad when I think you're seeing another woman. skillful liars look to the left. Do not accuse. Shake your head indicating "no" when they answered "yes" and vice versa. you lose the chance to be knowing the truth. The brain tries to prevent the face of information. Liars just want to finish with the conversation. Descruze legs. The invading his personal space. but is a strong evidence of cheating. Deepening the pupils 6.a sign of growing tension and dryness of the eyeball. 9. "Open up" to the truth." In the latter case. this does not apply. and when invented a story. 2. The direction where to move the eye of the person when it is a question you can also help you identify a liar. but record the suffering that their attitude question to you. Smile with the lips closed. 8. 4. 3. look liars left to right. Signs that denounce the lie in men 1. 3. If you react negatively or with much emphasis. It is important to note if s eyes blink more often . because it shows which part of the brain they are using. resulting in forced eye contact. Pretend not to hear or say that law did not understand what he said. 7. As not being a victim of lies 1. Aggressive questions as "Why do not you call me?" and "Are you seeing anyone?" may cause the liar is to secure its position and not improve anything in your relationship with him. 8. Not maintain eye contact. Always leave an exit for him to go back and tell the truth. In addition. Stay calm. Try making it easy to tell the truth. Demonstrate warmth and laughter too. 5. It is an instinct for defense. Give it an "exit". This observation is not without errors. Do not show surprise or amazement. . trigger the right side of the brain and look to the left. He wants to make you like it to believe it.does not show that you know they're lying. is where it will look. 5." In cultures where maintaining prolonged eye contact is considered an ill-educated attitude and aggressive. 10. His eyes fitam the void. If the room has a door. Hide your hands. Men find it easier to lie with your hands in your pockets. it is possible to continue denying it. It is the forced smile used by both sexes for fake sincerity.

the more likely it is to confess everything and. If he thinks you miss the hook. Give him one last chance. we asked our readers to send us the 9 phrases that men hear when they hide what they really want: dictionary of language patterns of male The men never understand women and women will never understand men. Ignore the lie and say "What can we do that does not happen more?". Finally.10. And that is something that men and women will never understand. at worst. to find a solution to not having to resort to lying again. .

based on responses from the male brain to certain forms. but elegant. At the first meeting. or jump down. 1. 3. A short clothes. b. The influence of personality traits on their attraction to men will be discussed later. textures and female body language signals. with comfortable shoes. c. 65 to 80%. b. Casual. Created then this test to give you an idea of how they look. less than 65%. appearance and presentation. c. what is your attitude? . Tiny shoes. proportions. c. The test relates only to their physical shape. 4. High heels. This is a test to see how a man to evaluate the primeiva finding the time or were looking at his picture. Which of the following attributes best describe your body? a. not too flashy. Terninho a stylish and well cut. Their ratio is: a. sizes.Chapter 9 THE TESTING OF WOMEN'S SEXUAL APPEAL How do you make people work? Take the test When the eyes of a man found the trellis in a room. Modern in short skirts and high heels to show the legs. fair and low-necked to let that show their physical gifts. with and without straps. Athletic / strong. 5. the proportion is 75%. With trousers or a long skirt. but with elegance. c. Skinny / straight. A long and undulating clothes that cover all problem areas. b. how you dress for the man trying to impress? a. how he reacts to you? This is something that every woman thinks: what is the first impression of a man when he says the first time? Most women want to know to what extent are attractive to men. Heavy. For example. Fashion shoes with medium heel. c. 6. It is a guide to the impact that you cause or ceases to cause a man when he sees for the first time. b. What type of shoe predominates in your wardrobe? a. more than 80%. b. colors. 2. if your waist measures 75cm and 100cm his hip. When you are chatting with an attractive man that stops leg bigwig. which would you prefer? a. If you could buy a new clothes regardless of price. Measure your waist and hips and calculate the proportion waist / hip dividing the waist by the hip.

If your friends would describe her face. as he seems? a. Soft / smooth. If Picasso was painting you would like? a. When you pass your hand in the stomach. Compact / muscular. 9. 15.How would you describe the your neck? a. Colors and styles are in fashion. b. Protuberans / round. Full. c. b. Looking over the shoulder. How you dress for the evening out with friends? a. hands on hips and lips exposed. b. If you ask a stranger to describe your ass. is the language on the lips. Infant / big eyes. Elegant / powerful features. What use . Stay near him with the legs unfolded. Smooth. lean hips and the caress your body to draw attention to it. 13 . b. 14. Inclined to the front. c. Back arched. You're going to a dinner in the light of candles and want to be sexy. b. thin or athletic. My face is my blade. 8. hips recline. c. With an outfit just to highlight the silhouette. Plump. I use much makeup.a. thin or thin. c. If you were invited to pose for Vogue. Round / in the form of a peach. c. which would pose? a. c. Natural. Lean / angulosa / muscular. 11. the rear tilt and throwing a kiss to the camera. c. b. thick and strong. b. Heavy load. Long. Describe your makeup: a. 7. which he say? a. 12. 10. regardless of day or hour to get the best appearance possible. c. b. Curvilinear. With a bra to lift the breasts and let the shows the neckline. but sincere. Move the hair. say: a. c. Short. b. Average length and thickness. Try to make it sit so that it can not see his body. With loose clothes that do not give any idea of the body that is underneath. with hair pulled to the top of the head.

Carefree b. c. Neutral / natural color. Always remember to two things: their personality traits may. b.lipstick? a. Medium. 17. 100 points or more: The goddess of sex When the men see. Small as a button. Greater. 18. You choose: a. modify that image. How would you describe your appearance a. Long before diamonds. Earrings with stones of medium size and pretty. Earrings of pearls and small diamonds. As a cartoonist designer? a. You can use the earrings you want. Elegant Your Score Now calculate your score and see where you are classified in terms of its appearance shows that of their sexuality. Pedestrians stop to work to work and . 16. Middle c. And you can improve your appearance. You're getting dressed to go to the Oscar party. Sexy c. b. b. Look at his nose in the mirror. As a man describe his eyes? a. Bright red. in the medium term. Your Hair is a. Almonds. c. The color of fashion. c. Short 20. b. c. 19. they are immediately gaff. Small / tight.Comprido b. Large / child.

If you got 78 to 99 points. at least in principle.whistles when you pass. however. will have even more spectacular results. Sign in to an academy to improve the form. Men feel women inevitably attracted by clear signs. 66 to 99 points: Miss Elegance Most women are in this squad. Why not work with it . You can improve your presentation without compromising their beliefs. will make you feel more beautiful and healthy and give you a great pleasure to live. know that if we really invest in their physical appearance. The problem. just needs some work areas to achieve what men want. for example. and it is being right. The attraction that you will hold on men is just one extra! You can also disguise their physical imperfections dressed up in a way that emphasized their strengths. Less than 65 points: Let's whim? You probably believe that personality is more important than appearance.to improve their appearance. Means that you are reasonably successful in making men feel attracted to you at first. knowing that so attract a greater number of men and have more chance to choose? The next chapter will show you how to become more attractive and why most men babam by women with lower QLS and not look twice at you. You might say that is not interested in men who are no longer hypnotize by physical appearance. If received 66 to 78. . The next chapter will show you the reason for their success and how to further improve its score. Men like to see it and deal. You are really an expert in the game of her sexuality and never missing program. But why not invest in their physical as well as invest in the intellect? Both of them are its aspects. become more attractive to men. is that even the most sensitive men and intelectualizados are at the mercy of biology.whatever you dislike .

Daniel could not explain his feelings and was blaming it for having touched on the subject. People who know are up to 90% of their opinion about us in the first four minutes and assess whether we are desirable in less than ten seconds. For the first time. do not shave and wore clothes that for Daniel. There seemed more care with the look inside. But began to irritate the fact that she is working to produce. money and energy. therefore: beauty and physical attraction and personality or .Chapter 10 OR AND MAKES THE EYES OF MEN JUMP The power of female sexual attraction Case Study: Kim and Daniel Kim and Daniel were already leaving a year and had decided to marry. Kim felt that now was as a married woman need not impress anyone and most especially if store was loss of time. began to show cracks in the marriage and he started to notice other women. Left to makeup. Both loved the relationship and thought that the other was the ideal partner. Daniel liked to see Kim always went out together when stowed and thought that her appearance was a clear signal that he had made the right choice. But understanding how the process of attracting and employing some simple strategies in your favor. Kim left like her mother. there are patterns of behavior constructed by the waste needs of our ancestors. Like it or not. Daniel thought that maybe she was going through a difficult period at work and once again take care. This is a line of evolutionary psychology that says that in the brain of each of us. In his office. the physical appearance affects our ability to attract and keep a partner. and Daniel was leaving to look for her to do sex. you can easily become more captivating. The ancestral biological signs of gender that we explain the working of the subconscious level. which. And found that the husband was much more frivolous than she imagined. do not deserve any effort on her part. At home after work. and when left with friends. In this chapter we will examine the ingredients that make men and women desirable and attractive to each other. What is more powerful. where all were well stowed and makeup and flirting with him. She was angry. This behavior he said he and his friends were not important. in addition to raising their self-esteem. no makeup and the hair drained. It boiled inside. she always was in slippers and bathrobe. Kim now is related to a group of women who think men are all us idiots. But Kim soon began to neglect when left with friends. who met at work. She said they liked to wear for him and especially how he looked when she arrived. Six months later. As men are visual creatures stimulated by the appearance of Kim was a discouragement. That does not mean you can not succeed with the opposite sex because it is not equal to Cameron Diaz or Brad Pitt. Daniel has been living with Kim and Jade. Four years after the marriage. did not understand why he could not love her the way she was. Daniel decided to confront the situation and told Kim how she felt. while at home was a tragedy. contrasted with the appearance of Kim. Kim changed. which is why we have to react to them.

the answers to these early signs of attraction are programmed in the brain. kindness and talent. put aside the theories of romantic love. intelligence. but like it or not. Perhaps it is politically correct deny the impact of attractiveness in our decisions. Analyzing the results of Canadian federal elections of 1976. the ideas about what is politically correct and personal subtleties. you want to have sex with her. that make it desirable to the potential partner. In both sexes. Attractive to people better jobs. Bill CIinton is proof. Subsequent research revealed that 73% of voters denied categorically that may have been influenced by the appearance of the candidate and only one in eight voters are willing to at least consider this. the attraction occurs in the biological. This explains why many women tend to feel attracted by older men. tangible and intangible. And to be as objective as possible. change things. Messages are encoded and sent to tell others whether we are or not suitable for their purposes. without even know it. have more credibility and even more permission to break the rules than their less attractive correlative. in turn. is an attractive man who is presented as biologically able to provide you with food and safety during the creation of children. Ashmore. The good news is that we have control over many of the determinants of our appearance and we can if we want. You can choose to become attractive. higher wages. For men. Women like older men because they have more experience and more access to resources. without being aware of it. . The biological purpose of beauty is attracting for breeding purposes. when the woman displays the skills that allow you to pass their genes to the next generation. and Longo Makhija) show that we automatically assign positive traits such as honesty. the University of Toronto found that attractive candidates received a number of votes in two and a half times larger than the non attractive. This means that they decided their vote on a subconscious level. The theory of beauty Every person emits signals. What the science says Polls (Eagly. the evidence still saying that our brains are programmed to respond to the physical appearance of the other. the people of good appearance. The evolution shaped our brains so that the good appearance is a sign of healthy person and relatively free of diseases. Beauty and sexual attraction is essentially the same thing: the original meaning of the paplowing "beautiful" is "sexually stimulating". the subtext biological basics. For a woman. Tell a person that she is beautiful or attractive is to say.intelligence? They will be examined in this chapter.

developed to attract the attention of man. classify each part of the body in a ranking of attractiveness and explain the reason for his influence. Sick sinus . The man of the twenty-first century or the same immediate things a woman as their ancestors. Today the look emphasizes youth and vigor: the competition of beauty were created exclusively to promote an image that reflects the attractiveness of women's health. we discuss the non-physical factors related to the choice of our partners. but as you see. At the end of this chapter. Factors that drive men in order of priority 1. Based on these results. the criteria for male choice of a long term partner are not the same. even politically correct in the twentieth century. To display photographs of women "beautiful" to heterosexual men. his face lightly colored and an air of delicacy and fragility. Sexy mouth 3. In the last sixty years. In the next two chapters you will know the results of 23 studies and experiments showing what men consider attractive in the body of the woman and vice versa. is something very different. Keep in mind that we are considering only the physical and geographical characteristics of the body. almost all studies on the attraction reached the same conclusions that came painters. Athletic silhouette 2. The wife is chosen for his virtue.which encourages more men The "point" considered the most appropriate for the western woman in the nineteenth century was a pale complexion. as if assessing a potential partner through a photograph. researchers from Massachusetts General Hospital found that these images activate the same parts of the brain that cocaine and cash. however. poets and writers in the last six thousand years: the body and appearance of women have more attractive on men than their intelligence and capacities. Speaks to the things we pursue in attracting someone before you hear the person talk or even to know who is. We will examine it further. a concubine for her beauty.The woman's body . Chinese Proverb What makes a man attractive to a woman. It is understood that the body of women has evolved as a permanent sexual signaling system.

because fat is an extra helping of breastfeeding successful. one of the biggest sex symbols of the world. use it to extend its advantage. Arched back 12. Since humans began walking upright. Whether they are the size of watermelons appear limõezinhos or . Why men have difficulty maintaining eye contact? Because the breasts are not eyes. Stimulant 3: Seios tired The breasts of women at the peak of their sexual and reproductive capacity . Most of the time the breasts of human females are the one clear purpose . were round and fleshy buttocks that played the leading role in the attraction of males. . Long hair 9. giving you a rounded form and has no relationship to milk production.most men are passionately interested in them and are crazy for a groove.from eighteen to twenty-five years of age . Most men prefer a woman more fleshy than the lean. The nipples of women without children are pink. Few women know that Marilyn Monroe. Most of the breast consists of fat. Small nose 10. Dresses sutiãs cleavages and raise the breasts emphasize the signal to create a groove that mimics the buttocks of women vis-tas behind. Elongated neck Men prefer to look the brain because most of them see better than thought. Stimulating 1: athletic silhouette the first item in the list of men is the women's athletic silhouette. Long legs 5. was 44 and had dummy and thick legs. Round hips / waist fine 6. females that covered the back. Lack of tummy 11. Eyes attractive 8. however. A strong and well formed body is a sign of health and ability to tip in-breed. to escape the danger and to defend the nest if necessary. When people went to four. Are those that appear in the center pages of men's magazines and in ads that exploit the fri-appeal. Some women are horrified when they are submitted to the meaning of that groove. Others.sexual signaling. Buttocks hemispheric 7.4. the breasts become larger.are the favorite of men. All research shows that men like breasts of all types and sizes. Vulva arqueada 13. dark-brown. have to attract the male that approached the front. and the mothers.

Even in the cold days. For a woman. The high heels are. abortions and surgical extraction of ribs. a step to stardom. women unconsciously choose more revealing dresses and high heels. wear high heels and short dresses to give the impression that they have longer legs. I decided to get in shape. That is why long legs have always been associated with a powerful sexuality. Later adopted the corset to accentuate the hips and flatten the belly. the article by fri-appeal more efficient market. The principle behind the legs of women as sexual sign is yes. a stairway to heaven.Stimulating 4: Long Legs The vision of a woman with legs that seem to end in the axillae in men leaves a lasting impression. When ovulado. and this proportion does not change much in small children. In the nineteenth century. compression of organs. Roseanne Stimulating 6: Buttocks hemispheric . Babies born with legs cur-ing for body size. Perhaps this is an important lesson for parents: lock their daughters the fourteenth to eighteenth day after the menstruation! Stimulating 5: Round Tables / Cintura fina For centuries women have used every kind of contraption to tighten the belt with the aim of obtaining a per-made for hourglass. tilt the buttocks. the arched back. came to suffer deformities of the chest wall. Men like women who wear high heels: they enhance the sexual profile of women stretching them to the legs. women increased the size of the hips and buttocks with pannier to flag potential getter. Most women unconsciously understand the dynamics behind the legs extralongas and since teenagers. thus demonstrating their readiness for pregnancy and procreation. reports. Studies have shown that the length of dresses and height of jumps varies with the menstrual cycle. Legs extralongas become powerful non-verbal signs to tell the men that she is sexually maturing and is already able to procreate. reducing their feet and pushing the pelvis forward. by far. because the attention is attracted to the area where the right leg and left it encountered tram. learn quickly how the thing works. The more legs you can see the man and the more long-gas they are the sexiest woman you think. Never heard a man tell a woman she has beautiful long arms. The form that was chosen to round. pies. In search of femininity irresistible. the legs grow rapidly. breathing problems. For men. But when the girl reaches puberty and the hormones begin to flow on his body and transforming her into women.

young women began to make plastics and liposuction to reduce the size of the buttocks. deposits of fat around the belly. They start to lose interest when the proportion exceeds 80% or is less than 70%. have not most of the reproductive organs. geo-metric shapes and angles. buttocks cram the quaver and the floor. the more attractive. women with waist thinner were the favorite. The jeans also became popular because it accentuated the buttocks and give them a look round and firm. Women who already have a hysterectomy. protruding rear. which can still be seen in some tribes of southern Africa. and no belly is a clear sign of non-pregnancyboth for and willingness to male suitors. to show accumulation of fat around the uterus and ovaries. the lower. women had to keep the whole body covered in public. The buttocks of women store large quantities of fat to use in feeding and food reserves in difficult times. went out of fashion in the second half of the twentieth century. Ask any woman to assume a vertical posture and sexy you'll find is the preferred ." Stimulants 11 and 12: back arched and vulva Curves and arches indicate femininity and fertility. usually accumulate as men. so similar to the hump of the camel." In the nineteenth century. Professor Devendra Singh.The men believe the buttocks round. In the groups below and above the weight. 'why there is no fat around the heart. Sculptures and paintings of the Stone Age abound in images of women with large. Marilyn Monroe cut two centimeters of the left heel of his shoe to accentuate your grinder. showing them to groups of men asked to classify them in terms of attractiveness. ie your waist measured 70% of your hip. led a test that used images of women beneath the weight above the weight and normal weight. like to women curvilinear. brain and testicles. Women whose ratio exceeds 100% arouse little interest. That is why the academies and salons of yoga around the world is full of women doing abdominal exercises to get the perfect stomach type "table of my house. When the excessive fat. Men around the world. peach-shaped. The greater part than the back of the woman is closer to that of man. a formation known as esteatopigia. evolutionary psychologist at the University of Texas. The mother-nature usually deposit the excess fat away from vital organs. associated with neglect and poor health. therefore. which invariably attracted the attention of men. Stimulating 10: Absence of belly Women have a more rounded belly as men. wider. A woman with healthy and fully capable of giving birth has a waist-hip ratio of 70%. Hindquarters protruding is an ancient sign of female sexuality so revered in Greece that a temple was built in honor of Aphrodite Calipígia. masculinity. Throughout the story. even when the weight of women was very large. High heels were with the woman hunch. The most remarkable discovery was that experience that men have to share waist / hip 70% the highest score. Young people who wanted to capture the attention of men recreate the appearance of a large back-ro wearing pannier. "the goddess of beautiful buttocks. The additional bending of the buttocks and back tilt pushes the breasts forward. a non-verbal indicator of low fertility. The women of normal weight with pro-hip-waist portion around 70% were the most attractive. this pro-portion always showed a great ability to catch the attention of men. and lumbar spine more arched.

men like a grin and an air vulnerable. with both arms supported them to occupy more space and increase the chance to draw attention. These signals cause reactions in parental brains of men and a powerful desire to touch. The base gives the skin a uniform appearance and no stains that signals youth. All races prefer faces that emerged ability to play healthy.children should have a touch. Look at how many these days use plastic surgery to try to conserve or restore the youthful look. good health and good genes. The woman's face is a screen on which a daily basis it paints a picture of me before her. this often cause great anxiety with regard to aging. The bright red lipstick is one of the main signs that a sexual woman can use.position of the hook-up back and quaver of the hips. embrace and protect. and state of sexual arousal. ask any woman to be on foot and make a sexy pose. This is known as "eco genital". And to the face of a woman is generally classified as "beautiful". thick and strong to protect them from breaks during the hunts and battles. As the face attracts Our interest in human faces attractive is something that seems to be part of our psychology and does not depend on cultural backgrounds. Exciting 2: Boca sensual Humans are the only press that these are the lips on the outside of the mouth. Men like their women to wear lipstick and makeup by artificially give the signal that they are interested or feel excited for them. Flesh lips and big eyes on the size of the face. For thousands of years. delicate jaws. is also expanding and is filled with blood. And always had a single color . because they have the same size and thickness. That made the neck longer and thin women a powerful sign of differentiation between the sexes that men like to kiss and see adorned in jewels and cartoonists exaggerate to emphasize the femininity. The women's favorite features are the small faces with short jaws.red. invented the first beauty salon in six thousand years ago. PICASSO The excitement of women's sexuality can cause a flushing in the capillarity of its sides. It is always the favorite color of every woman who poses for sexual symbol. the size of the ear it was the indicator of sensuality. Above all. that bond still . The blush is to recreate that effect. a reaction that sends powerful signals to men and that observers began to develop when we began to walk upright. was used by Egyptians as an eco genital permanent. If you do not believe. The lipstick. Stimulating 13: Neck elongated the neck structures evolved in males as short. For women. protruding apples. the formula is clear . The zoologists believe that the woman's lips moved as mirror of his genitals.

but it is important that women understand the effects that these signs have in exploiting the men and romantic meetings. Stimulating 7: Eyes attractive In almost all countries. The plastic surgeons usually modify the nostrils to form an angle of 35-40 degrees to the face. large eyes are considered attractive. Over you-do. Excesses may send a wrong impression to customers and cause of male rivalry in female clients. Eyes that look great on the lower face in men inspire feelings of security. When a woman finds a man attractive. Stimulating 8: long hair If the person never cut his hair. and the blondes are the genuine public also laurels. as some women believe to be ugly without makeup and use it as a mask to hide and not as an aid to make their faces more seductive and mysterious. They interpret as a sign of fertility.is this the real reason for the greater success of blondes? The blond hair is also a powerful visual indicator of women's youth: it darkens after she gives birth. which explains why men find "strangely attractive" women who wear contact lenses.all with the purpose of creating the illusion of sexual facial signs. even the actors are doing operations for the reduction of nose in line with the new image of the androgynous man of twenty-first century. Blond-haired women have a higher level of estrogen that cute. something that only men seem to understand. in 1920. The blondes are also in front of other things. The men feel more attracted to women who use natural rnaquiagem than by women who seem to have been molded to reap the bricklayer. The blondes have 140 thousand yarn hair. giving them that look childish.exists in parts of Africa and in Borneo. the industry of perfumery and cosmetics reached a total value of more than 50 trillion dollars a year . Our tests with computer images show that the longer the earrings of women. The feminists might say that these are good reasons not to use cosmetics or earrings. Will never see a female model with a large nose. if their pupils dilate and mascara. The makeup enhances your eyes and look the child rearing. Today. Contact lenses give the illusion that the woman's eyes are shining and the dilated pupils. the cute 110 thousand and 90 thousand redheads. he would reach about one meter long.214 British men. a woman who wants to be taken seriously in the workplace should use less eye makeup and lipsticks colors more subtle. Unfortunately. asking them what kind of hair seemed more . Stimulating 9: Nose Small Small nose is another reminiscence of childhood in men that produces feelings of security. most men give their sensuality. The modern woman gets the same effect using long pending. eye liner and shadow to artificially create the impression that she is interested. Similarly. we have become so unaccustomed to see faces clean. which immediately attracts the . We did a survey with 5. Women began to use modern cosmetic when. among the tribes Kelabit and Kenyah. the men show a preference for women of color and clear eyes. creating characters of large eyes and small nose to win the hearts of your audience. Bambi. Barbie and Minnie Mouse have small nose. The cartoonists exploit this feature to a large extent. Since then. joined in greater numbers in the workforce.

it allows women to overcome further demonstrate the success. The result was predictable: 74% think the long hair of women more sexually attractive. They believed then that could be free of oppressive obligation of having to always be beautiful for men. never knows if she does cook. The costume gives it a professional position of equality with men and women of business and. The key to a successful clothing business is simple. Styles as punk and grunge came as opposition to the use of clothing to attract men and to show the world that men and women could be equal in regard to appearance. when you see a pornographic image of a woman. but through paintings. The feminism that said women dress to attract men is not more important . In remote times. The artists who carved. emaciated-looking. secondly. her jewelry. play piano or fight for world peace. her hair and clothing to ensure an image of credibility.sexually attractive women. 12% of women prefer short hair. This appearance has little success with the heterosexual men. power. In the case of the Miss Universe. the other has no choice. over 70% of the audience are formed by men who want to see women showing signs able to stimulate the reactions of their ancestral brain. use the black lipstick and nail until the display dark olheiras as if they were doped. The lessons to be learned here is clear: the woman must use when long hair and want to attract men hair short or pulled back in working meetings. The modern woman has two basic codes of dress: clothes and work clothes of non-work. Women must understand that the men crawl the Internet in search of shapes and curves that appeal to your brain. painted or drew pictures of naked women were almost all men. Considered that the long hair gave the woman a sensual delight and the short hair indicated a more serious approach to life. reliability and integrity in business? If you are a branch . The impact of women's clothing on men The discussion of the effects of women's appearance requires some understanding of the history of clothing. In business. The link between attraction and pornography See pornography is an activity almost entirely male. It never occurs if it has a nice personality. He is attracted by the shapes and curves and the virtual suggestion that she is able to transmit their genes. women wore it for the reason of all: to attract men and other women overcome. The men of past generations would also like to feast your eyes with erotic images of women. who rarely attend the fashion show. Until the beginning of the feminist movement in the 1960s. a sexy appearance may be disadvantageous for women in a position of power or in a branch where men predominate. the importance and attractiveness of what the dresses. the clothes of women emphasized their physical skills in order to attract the attention of potential suitors. long hair and bright and showed a healthy body well nourished and have a history of health of its carrier and its potential for procreation. Ninety-nine percent of pornographic sites on the Internet are addressed to men. A man. however.the inner beauty now had more than the appearance. For centuries. and the vast majority of images of naked men to be homosexuals. How does the person you want to influence you waiting for? How should your makeup. This code antiatração of clothing has evolved to the point that in 1990. an idea that attracted millions of women everywhere. the models begin to have no female bodies.

in it is necessary to men sell their expertise and management, most signs of attraction that we discussed are inappropriate. However, if your business is selling the very picture female - cosmetics or clothes for example - many of the signs we discuss can be used successfully. If you have marks or scars, a birth defect or a feature that really does not like, is perhaps the case to a plastic surgery. Most people who have expressed satisfaction with the outcome. In a typical week, the average person is exposed to more than five hundred images of human beings "perfect" in magazines, newspapers, billboards and television. Most of these images is the product of technology, such as airbrush, highlight of makeup, computer graphics and effects of light. They rarely show the real person. Do not compare with the images of women's magazines. They only make you feel ugly. Plastic Surgery Today, an increasing number of people are opting for plastic correction (correction sounds better than surgery) to improve the appearance. In the United States alone, more than a million people are treated under the knife every year the main reason that people choose this path is to improve self-image and self-confidence, increasing capacity to deliver the signals discussed here. The celebrities are the most common patients. The fix plastic is not new. Centuries before the liposuction and breast implants, had padded mesh for men with calves too thin, iron corsets for women and pudgy pannier for them to increase the buttocks and hips. King Henry VIII wore a padded zipper to increase their virility and small Syphilitic and compete with the French royal. The it was decorated with jewels and emblems. But it is important to understand that plastic surgery does not make you a better person or more beloved, nor solve the problems of life. The only person who thinks you look for is probably a problem with their self-image. It is not the type of person with whom you should want to connect. The other side of attraction Why Men Have Sex and Women They Love? records the results of a survey of fifteen thousand men and women about what they seek in a partner. The relationship is: What men look for in a partner A. At first sight: 1. Good appearance. 2. Well-turned body.

3. Breasts. 4. Buttocks. B. In the long term: 1. Personality. 2. Good appearance. 3. Intellectual capacity. 4. Mood. The A shows what we already know - men are visually stimulated beings who enjoy looking at attractive women. Most women understand the science and research has proven many times, but not "politically correct" recognize it. The feminists in general abhors the idea of a woman be judged by their physical appearance and classified the men of superficial and frivolous. But that does not change the fact that the first reaction of these women is overwhelmingly visual. A list of the items are visual, so you must remember that it is making its debut presentation of. But this is not the case with the B list: a "good appearance" is the only visual item that men seeking a partner for the long term. As the visual signs are so important to man, he unconsciously USA the appearance of women as a measure of respect and love she has for him. He thinks that if she spends time with the appearance, it is because they feel attracted. One of the major complaints of men in actions of divorce is that the wives after the marriage, left the appearance disposed down the drain. They say they used the appearance to attract them and then thought it was no longer necessary. Most men are disappointed with the only woman who dresses for work colleagues. Women, however, have difficulty to understand them here, for not bind with the same intensity to their love appearance. For a woman, have sense of humor does not mean tell jokes. I mean laugh of his jokes. Solution It is inevitable: their appearance influences the response to treatment and the other given. Also influences their self-image and behavior. Most components of their appearance depends to a greater or lesser degree, of their actions. There are courses of clothing and etiquette to learn to walk, sit, talk, dress, makeup on and so on. The bookshops are full of publications on the subject. Department stores often offer free makeup they teach the customers to choose and apply cosmetics. A good hairdresser can you recommend the best way to get the hair, the beautician, from skin care, and dentists, to fix their teeth. The weight is also subject to control, because a competent nutritionist teaches you good eating habits and exercises in a gym will give you the way you want. If you absolutely must, have to make a new nose, increase the breasts, remove the signs of aging. In the XXI century there are few legitimate reasons for you not get the look you want.

The sexual attraction is 50% what you have and 50% what people think you have. Zsa Zsa Gabor This research shows two things. First, men focus on visual images in his first encounter with a woman, and overall appearance is more important than the body beautiful. This means that the way a woman dresses, the makeup and style are worth more points than quilinhos the most, some small bones and sinuses. Secondly, the long-term man is more interested in personality, intelligence and sense of humor of the woman, but a "good appearance" is still high on their list price. The good news is that you have a broad control over most of their appearance and can change things to fit.

"You will still love me when I become old and white hair?", She asked. "I not only I love her ', he replied," I like to write. We are not suggesting that women should have the obsession with appearance as often occurs, but it is important that it strives to have the best appearance possible. There is no ugly woman, woman is lazy. HELENA RUBINSTEIN Above all, you can become more attractive is developing intellectually and emotionally. There are women who, although they are not physically beautiful, become so interesting for its human quality, his gift for communication and intelligence, leaving behind many of the sex goddesses. Men may rave bold with breasts and women with biceps of steel, but the polls show that in the end, the related-ments have more to do with spirit than with the matter. The key ingredient is the flame inside that comes from self - sexual, emotional and professional. In other words, make it an interesting person and they will not realize their physical imperfections. Abstract It is fact that the woman's appearance can attract or repel the man in the relationship. Many women are angry with this. You think this is an unjust man in gray and wrinkle-be distinct and mature, and the woman in the same situation, just an old. But this is the case. No additional tapir is bored with it and look if the complaining that you can not change. So the men - and women - think. Do not fight it. Manage its consequences. If you are dissatisfied with some aspect of their appearance, change. You have the resources to do so. And if not to attract a man, do it by yourself.

Gentle / kind. c. Redondo. c. Take the test 1. Compromised. What do they respond? a. but I prefer to work part time. Rectangular. c. c. Below average.If you ask women to describe their ass. b. Small and compact. 2. b. c. . For example. In the form of "V". divide it by the hip measurement and then multiply by 100. What is your response? a. You asked women to describe their mouths. 100% or more. In the next chapter you will learn all the secrets about what women seek to be a real man. 4. After doing the test. Your income is: a. Heavy load. Reasonable for my age and experience. they say: a. their proportion is 85.or are you indifferent? You are attractive or repulsive? Take the test now to see your score with women. Lean or without ass. Freedom of compromise . Neutral or down. 100% monogamist. Happy. The test records the points you receive . 5. 3 .in physical and non-physical every time a woman knows. You go to the TV show "Meeting the dark" and a candidate asks you to describe your body type. Their ratio is: a. c.the open relationship is the way of the future. b. ask their friends to take notes for your answers and compare the result. You think the man should be: a. but think occasional flirtations contributing to the ongoing relationship. b. Significantly above average. b. b. Less than 85%.Chapter 11 THE TEST OF MALE SEX APPEAL How is your concept to women in terms of attractiveness? They feel the irresistible . 6. Take the measure of your chest.8%. if your chest measures 91 cm and 106 cm their hip. 85-95%.

b. 8. c. c. Not important. b. Can be the joy of the party. You will know immediately. 9. 11 . c. As a woman describe your eyes? a. Almost the whole. b. c. Jogging and tennis. His thighs are: a. Muscle / angles. b. Shirt and jeans with tennis shoes. As you have hair? a. Distant / cold. seem appropriate to my face. If a woman is distressed. Small nose and chin.Size is paper? You think for women the size of the penis is: a. b. which will feel? a. Average. A smooth surface. c.7. 15. shoe leather. for example). Solid nose. I need to improve on that. 13. Kind / gentle. 12. . A well defined abdomen. b. protruding jaw. if a little talk with her. c. You probably notice. Fun / malicious. You have been invited to a party and heard that there are many women that you are to impress. sad or anxious: a. Bald head or scraped. b. Very important. b. b. Relevant. a. 10. 14. Describe your chin and your nose. How is your sense of humor? a. You probably will not notice. c. A barrel. Plump. I am a goner. If a woman passes his hand over her belly. Look in the mirror. c. Social pants and shirt. Long / thin. How to dress? a. c. More or less half (large entries.

But careful not to make their appearance too perfect. c. need not improve much.16. You have a reasonable ability to use their skills to attract women-the women. Be beard of three days. Just take a look at the questions that not many points scored and read the tips of the next chapter. you have a base that needs to be quite worked. 47 to 89 points: A cat Most men belong to this category. I understood in my area. Being with his face and shaved. b. Do you ever: a. 17. Send them the right signs and how to enhance their skills to attract them. What is the extent of their conversation? a. 46 points or less: A cat pooch Seu Placar Questão Pontos A Pontos B Pontos C 1 7 5 3 2 9 1 O 3 3 7 5 4 3 5 4 5 3 1 5 6 1 9 4 7 1 4 5 8 3 5 1 9 5 3 1 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 . They do not want selfish men. The next chapter will show you how. I know a lot about people. c. Your Score Question Point to Point B Point C 1753 The 2 9 1 3375 4354 5315 6194 7145 8351 9531 10 3 5 9 11 3 7 5 12 1 5 4 13 5 3 1 14 5 1 3 15 1 9 7 16 3 4 5 17 9 7 3 Now total the points and see the ranking of their sexuality 90 points or more: A Gatão Wow! You can consider a magnet for women. E is close to 47 points. Use beard. Reasonable coverage. which for most women is a discouraging factor. places and things. b. because they may find that you are superficial and obsessed with itself. If you are close to 89 points. No woman wants to compete with its partner the mirror.

that are laughing.You might ask why women are fleeing from you. you can learn most of these things. For you. the friends are more important than women. Fortunately. they are sensitive to their needs and have ambition and talent to move up in life. Think about how women will see the fun of your life looking for you in a different way! . and console is saying that man prefers women beer is BOIOLI. If you want to become attractive to women. will need help! Women like men who have personality.

In Pennsylvania. The concern here is that attractive people receive more favorable treatment in court. able to obtain food and protect the family. as I said. however. with members of the same size. 1990). Hardness means that the partner is taken. just as the symmetrical flowers are more attractive to bees because they have more nectar. They look for faces . but the woman in the XXI century and more than their ancestors: a man who wants also to meet their emotional needs. In Britain. This is totally different from how men see women. Since the beginning of time. the male sex appeal is more basic and direct. 1991 and Downs and Lyons.and no bodies . the attraction for women firm and symmetrical men may vary with the menstrual cycle. sending messages to men about women's ability to be a carrier healthy and successful in their genes. Very little has changed in that respect. therefore. Judging is attractive only by the appearance (which is what we are doing here). When the probability of conception is highest (more or less in half of the menstrual cycle).such symmetries as indicators of youth and health.Chapter 12 WHAT TO ATTRACT WOMEN The first thing you will notice in this chapter on sexual attraction to men about women is that it is half the size of the chapter that deals with female stimuli on men. she feels attracted to men with characteristics Manly and harsh. This is because. An es-all done in Scotland found that the type of male faces more attractive for women varies according to the phases of the menstrual cycle. The female sex appeal is a complex and sophisticated.even unconsciously . in search of two basic requirements: hardness and softness. women tend to choose men who invest in the relationship and the creation of children. If you ovulado. women are more prone to choose a man hard and for a symmetrical relationship of short-term. the female body has evolved as a signaling device sexual. which started before their . The symmetry of the human body is more important for women than facial symmetry why the champions of boxing often attract beautiful women Among humans. a study of the attractiveness of 74 men accused. As partners in the long term. are symmetrical or not. One way of identifying these characteristics is the symmetry of the human body: the left side of his body should mirror the right hand. What the science says Polls conducted in the United States show that attractive people earn 12-14% more than their fellow non-attractive (and Hammermesh Biddle). Wuensch and Moore. resulted in minor penalties and fines lower (Castelloe. Your brain has. bringing them the chance of survival. women are attracted by strong men and healthy. the symmetry plays a significant role in female choice. DNA tests show that 10% of babies born in marriages are not children of the partner. But both sexes see . must have virtues that provide the best possible genetic he-rity for their children. It seems that the wife chosen by their ability to from the pain.symmetrical. and the symmetrical animals tend to live more than non-symmetrical. but was looking good genes elsewhere.

Lack of tummy. Narrow hips and muscular legs. the results would be significantly different. 6. The bigger the breast. A study of the damages awarded in negligence cases found that. 7. Women who use the professional environment Epaulettes are seen as more positive. The male breast is enlarged to house large lungs. showed that attractive defendants received sentences not only lighter. often copied by women in search of affirmation. Hair tired. Exciting 2: Chest and shoulders and long muscular arms The upper body of the male hunter is large. 11. The men developed such characteristics to carry heavy weapons and take their prey home. Chest and broad shoulders and muscular arms. 4." and the . Nose and strong chin. 1978). they put their hands on hips. Athletic body. but looking on the bright side. 10. This explains why the biggest cheats people are almost always attractive. extending in the hips. But when the victim was more attractive to the accused. There is another reason that the shoulder strap give status to men. The sexual responses of women are caused by certain visual aspects of the male body. This may seem dispirited. providing a better distribution of oxygen and allow them to breathe more efficiently by running or hunt. while the body of the woman is more narrow in the shoulders. 3. just to make it a conscious decision. Where she has curves and softness. Beard of three days. these signals also stimulate the brain of the woman when she evaluates potential partners. when he had better look to the victim. 9. if members of the courts had the power not blindfolded to see the accused.623. which indicates the potential of man to get food and defeat his enemies. When modern man reaches his goal. 2. close to the height of the hip. the average compensation was $ 10. because it is the opposite: it has the shape of an inverted V. Even in our age of supposed gender equality. in the form of "V". Kind eyes. 5.051 (Kulfa and Kessler. but had two times more likely to escape the prison of the defendants non-attractive. The main factors stimulating women 1. the man has angles and strength and it is this difference which is so attractive. The evidence shows that. where large breasts and biceps topping are of little practical use. The V in also attracting a woman. since no one has the possibility to improve their appearance. Sensual mouth. in order of priority. Stimulating 1: Body athletic Topping the list of female attractive male body is athletic-looking. Small and firm ass. his chest still "full of pride. To appear wider in the shoulders and occupy more space. the average compensation was $ 5. A strong and athletic body is a sign of good health. more respect and be a man requires. becoming more attractive to other people. Large penis. Here they are.trials. Broad shoulders are a male character. 8.

In the case of monks. Beat naked buttocks is a practice that attracts long sadistic and masochistic. and many men and women to consider a sexual stimulant. because the weight of the man can cause him discomfort and hamper their breathing. The ass has always been the object of jokes. The male baldness is inherited and its cause is the overproduction of male hormones. About 50% of women give high importance to the fact that humans have an abundant mane. Small and firm buttocks indicate greater chance of conception. . Women are certainly attracted by a male torso well defined. which give the best shot and shot. In the Middle Ages was thought that the hair had magical powers. The hairy armpits were always a feature heavily male. Why then the women are interested both in the ass man? Why do you feel desire to move your hand? Why look like photos of a man with beautiful butt? Small and firm buttocks are the favorite of women worldwide. Men with flaccid buttocks fat or have difficulties with these movements. and therefore more ability to the role of provider. For a woman it is not ideal. which however is a low priority for others. and discourages the kind Arnold Schwarzenegger. So that we could stay upright and walk on two feet. Stimulant 3: Bunda and small firm The male monkeys do not have protruding buttocks and hemispheric-only humans have. when a woman knocks on the buttocks of the man. In other words.boys still associate the upper torso and the masculinity formed. The armpit hair retains the smell of the sweat glands segregated. the gluteal muscles of the thigh had a tremendous expansion. it really is encouraging to have an erection. tending to throw the whole weight of the body of the woman. A look athletic. The same happens with the breast and pubic hair. The men have forearms longer than women. healthy. The secret lies in the fact that firm and muscular buttocks provide vigorous forward movement during the sexual act. many of which find attractive calves head or scraped. which contain a musky pheromone that stimulates the brain of women sexually. The redness of the buttocks is similar to the state of women's sexual arousal and stimulation of nerve endings on the buttocks is transmitted to the genitals. hair on his head has always been considered a distinctive male brute force. A head full of hair always represented the strength and power of man. shave the head was seen as a sign of humility before God. Men with small and firm buttocks indicate a greater chance of working more efficiently. to stimulate. a part of the body usually treated with humor and disdain. so that the attraction has on women. Samson lost his strength when he had his hair cut. Stimulating 4: Hair tired Throughout history. why cut it fuses in camafeus to save and use in religious ceremonies. but most do not like the genre "muscle-man" because you think that kind of man is probably more interested in their beauty than in her. but few are women who understand the reason of his magnetism.

were seen as less powerful and less well-paid." "delicious." "inviting. men tend to use words like "wet. one is bald. Found that the more bald man. This is due in part to the solidarity of women with the discomfort that baldness brings men and partly to the fact that baldness is a sign of masculinity. The down chin is associated with fear and perplexity. and so remain today as powerful symbols of masculinity. We have experience using computer-altered images of male head with varying degrees of baldness. "protectors" and "loving." "sexy. Many men suffer from baldness. which show the volunteers asked to say that the impression caused on the desktop. women rarely do. that myth is not supported by research. we found that only men have the bald jokes. The women use to refer to their perception of the attitude of man. For others. Since the times of Rome. which makes the baldness a sign of exaggerated masculinity. real or potential. disabling certain papillae capillaries. The tired men with hair on the other hand. The masculinity transmitted by a head Calva accentuates the difference between the sexes and is therefore a stimulus for many women. The only thing that the nose has in common with the penis is the way he stresses on the front of the body. is filled with blood in the state of sexual arousal and its temperature has increased by about six degrees. "sensitive". the chin and face strong was formed to protect the man on the face of blows during the fight and hunt. the greater the impression of power and success that it transmits and the lower the resistance potential of people to their authority. Due to higher levels of hormone. Men with high testosterone are more and more protruding jaws. Stimulants 5 and 6: Boca sensual and gentle eyes To describe the lips and eyes of women.the only safe way to prevent baldness is castration before puberty. For some. however. Push the chin forward is considered a gesture of defiance." But words are not used in the literal sense to describe the physical observed. is that the nose of man. Here is an additional . the size of the nose of the man is associated with the size of the penis." "succulent" and "erotic. But they must take into account that compensation for baldness is the enhancing of its aura of masculinity and power.They irrigate the hormone system. and is not popular among women. the same way as the penis. to describe the mouth and eyes of men. A head Calva is therefore a powerful showcase of testosterone. During the search we did for our book Rude and Politically Incorrect jokes (Jokes rude and politically in-correct). it is a sex machine. using words like "tender". Stimulating 7: strong nose and chin the nose. Rather than see her as a weakness and something to joke. however." Women. many women feel encouraged by it and even like to kiss or fondle the man's shiny dome. men Calvos are generally more aggressive and more sexually excited than their fellow non-Calvo. "attentive". which is not recommended. and feel frustrated because they can not do nothing about . What was discovered. generally located at the top of the head.

Stimulating 9: Lack of tummy In remote times. with the bulk of its sensitivity in the first 5 cm. The wide hips mean that many women have difficulty in running. because it showed that its bearer had resources to eat as I wanted. while women look beyond. In a happy relationship. This view was constructed by fitness centers and equipment manufacturers. obtaining information about their attitude. but they are sometimes taken to mean that the ex-partners have small penis as a form of revenge. a prominent gut is seen as a sign of neglect and little regard for the health personnel. Most animals have little or no white in the eye. The truth is that a man with an erection of 8 cm is able to do better service than a man with a 18 cm. a large belly was a symbol of status. because the ankles and feet out from the side to balance the weight of the body. Stimulating 8: Hip close and muscular legs The powerful legs and angles of the human male are the longest among all primates. The white of the eye is an auxiliary communication face to face. As the eyes. The great North American neuropsychology Davendra Dr. . But how could not postpone forever. trying to convince us at all costs that can not live without an athletic abdomen. where food is abundant. because she was sure that his penis was too small. the size of the penis was attached to the power of man and his skill as a lover. in search of excitement. men who have a ratio waist / hip of 90% are more attractive.proof of the difference between the sexes: men see the characteristics in themselves. For thousands of years. Well-defined abdominal muscles have never been the object of special admiration in male anatomy. The euphoria of some women to see men of large penises seems more a reaction to the male's apparent that what the size of the body can actually accomplish. man is the one who has the biggest penis. The legs of the man is attractive to women only as symbols of power and resistance men. because the shorter penis may reach the right place with more precision. Singh found that for women. the women have more white than those of men because the female brain is configured as a communication tool next. In the separations painful. nose. Stimulating 10: Penis large Among all primates. but that power is more head than in the sexual organ. a woman rarely takes into account the size of the penis. The erect penis measures 14 cm on average and the vaginal canal of most women is 9 cm long. Despite the members that can be digitally magnified view web sites in the penis longer officially registered media 36 cm. when food was scarce. In modern society. and the foot size of the penis. eventually inviting her to go to their apartment. because the seekers are the bodily signs of other animals over long distances. The boy was terrified the first time that would have sex with his girlfriend. which allows the person to track the direction of gaze of another. The narrow hips allow men walk long distances quickly in hunting and persecution. and there is no relationship between the size of the body.

intelligent. it does not take a look as an indicator of the feeling he has for her. The majority of women agree. humorous. Stress and illness diminish the level of testosterone. the faster they grow. he finally put the erect member in her hand. while all attempts to sell women pornographic images of men failed. 5.Arriving there. robust and masculine. but strong. caring and communicative. Stimulating 11: Barba for three days Man is the only primate that have significantly longer hair on the face than in the rest of the body. They want men to be attentive. Mood. . rarely gives greater importance. he lowered the light and began to strip. Unlike humans. " The change is not programmed women to sexually excite the vision of the male genitals. wishing she did not notice the size. Consequently. contrary to what occurs with men. The woman must understand that their appearance is important to humans and can even seriously affect the relationship. What women look for in a man: 1. the beard of three days is a powerful visual sign of masculinity often used by men to compensate for your face kid. Women. If the man is wearing badly or starts getting paunchy. she said. standing or lying in front and back. 4. that Tom Cruise is much more sexy than with beard shaved. Personality. even if the woman does not like. which is why the sick man is not stressed or need to shave so often. only have a list." I do not smoke. Men need to learn that the woman measures the depth of the relationship by the attitude they have with it. Intellectual capacity. Then. for example. The woman wants a man who is loving. carefully. Healthy body. The higher the level of testosterone of men in a day. 2. but in general this is not a priority. The male pornographic magazines show women with their legs fully opened. But the man who returns to noon a shadow of five in the afternoon gave the impression that he is crazy for action. Are only successful with the gay audience. began Despi her and stroking her. Sensitivity. loyal and understanding. 3. The men have two lists: the first sight and of seeking a long term partner. however. This fundamental difference between men and women involved much frustration and misunderstandings on both sides. she sees him as a bonus. Nervous. If the man has a beautiful body. The hair of monkeys and chimpanzees have the same length throughout the body. Are the male hormones that cause the growth of hair of the face. What women want the long term Here is the result of research on what women expect to find a man. thanks'. "No.

because he already has boyfriend. he believes. If man is able to make her laugh. This will allow you to talk to women about a variety of subjects. in its first meeting in less than ten seconds. by Barbara de Angelis. Then. Buy books that speak on how women think and feel. The woman begins and ends the selection of the partner with the same list of criteria. The man need not be a millionaire.except excuses. Do not complain . Enter for a course that allows you to expand your knowledge.The problem is that it can not have it. you know talk about many issues. which brings you more satisfaction and you better realize their potential. Do it for yourself and see how it will look more attractive to women. there is no school that teaches it.just do it! . you need first of all work their techniques of communication and relationship. but have plans and goals and be committed to them. seek a better job. Even the women self-sufficient and financially independent feel attracted by men who have as good protectors and from the pain. You need to listen with interest and empathy that women have to say. Women are attracted out by men who show be going to the front in search of a better position in life. Solution To make a man attractive. Polls and surveys have shown how important it is to man the physical attractiveness of women. But for the selection of a permanent partner. it is sensitive to your needs. therefore. The dance has always been a preliminary demonstration of erotic female. And finally Book to a gym and get in shape. you will never miss program. he USA a number of different criteria. this is pure practice. but their physical form and appearance are crucial to his work and social position. has plans to progress continuously and is still on top is straight. The woman who likes her man is attractive. Are extra. if necessary. registration is a school of dance as soon as possible. Change the cutting of hair at least once every three years and look for wear clothes that promote their appearance. There is some reason why man has not or does not do the things you want in life . We recommend our Why Men Have Sex and the Women They Love? and What Women Want Men to Know.

Would spend the days in an idyllic paradise . is so full of titles about financial independence and retirement plans-ment. the number of people about to retire grows at a speed amazing. The number of people living. Financial institutions operate in heavy selling of private pension funds. the average life expectancy worldwide has increased by more than 50% . 76. the rate fell from 9: 1 to 4: 1 since 1952. the effects of retirement on relationships and how to deal with women partners. more than a billion people have at least 60 years of age.from 46 to 72 years. the melancholy of retirement began to weigh. Who had not achieved financial independence. Graham came to understand a.Chapter 13 OUANDO the hunter Hang The ARC The retirement In developed countries. Between the 1940s and 2020. Within each person there is an elderly couple thinking: "What the hell happened?" Developed countries are now obliged to devote an increasing share of their budgets to maintain and care for its population of elderly. In 2010. Before 1940.25. Graham Graham thought retire and go live on the beach as would enjoy permanent vacation. Many countries have adopted compulsory contributions to the system of national pensions. continued working until death or were sustained by children. swimming. In the United States. or live in poverty. for example. not only a larger portion of the population is enough to retire. eating out. Governments around the world face this problem continuously. second. The life expectancy of Japanese women born in 1993 is 82. have at least 10 years after they retire doubled in the last 60 years. And in the first few months was exactly what he did. Japan will have less than two people working for every retiree. but the problem is the relationship between the number of contributors and the pensioners. a problem compounded by the fact that the Japanese live today more than all the peoples of the world. Thanks to advances in medicine. the psychological effects of retirement on men and.taking sun. difference . In the year 2020. only a small portion of the population lived beyond the age of 65. how to live long after they retire. The shelves of bookstores. But there are two problems which do not give due attention: first.51 years and for men. But little by little. sleeping late and relaxing.

the experience of retirement is remarkably different in the two cases. Important . Felt lack of professional involvement with people and the daily mental stimulation that he provided. Now.between taking a few vacation days. When the hunter stops hunting During at least one hundred thousand years men agreed in the morning and went out looking for food for their families.find a target and hit it edible. Ruth was free to do what he wanted. For some time he remained in contact with colleagues at work. As for most men. Now. The male contribution to the survival of the species was clear and simple . On the beach. For over 40 years he wakes every day knowing exactly what had to do. But due to their mental structures and specific priorities. was horrified irritation. When I worked. Little was. it was assumed that the psychological problems associated with retirement were the same for both sexes. Suddenly he was aware that jumping from a train at work to express a tram pulled the donkey on the beach. The call that he expected the company to continue providing its essential services such as special advisor never came. Much has been researched and written about the problems faced by retired men. but little research is done on women retired and not working because they have the task of caring for a pensioner. he had the feeling of having nothing to do.now was the Invisible Man. Gender and retirement The way men and women deal with the approach of retirement and old age casts light on the difference between their mental structures. At work he was known and respected. to attend many meetings. Every time you hear your name yelled at her husband. for the first time. Occupied an important position. had less desire to do. And started to worry about the problem of how to fill all this free time. as we said. but not talked to anyone about it. As women constitute 40 to 50% of the modern workforce. Lost prestige. For many men it is an unavoidable disaster and may even contribute to premature death. his wife. Tired to take sun. train new employees and solve the problems of the world. but nobody knew him or wanted his opinion for anything. but the calls were rareando. Instead of juggling with two or three problems to gain time. embedded in an intense training schedule. and enjoy them for the rest of life. With a sedentary lifestyle. more and more attention. Graham began to fatten. Before he was Dr. Now had to take care of Graham every minute of your day. work outside the focus of the life of Graham. His favorite refrain was: "What is for lunch?" Before retirement. Therefore. the stress was of another quality and was mixed with depression. was a kind of stress stimulating. to get on her and tie her life. eighteen months after the dream retirement. Graham suspected that their health was suffering. nadava little and rarely was concerned with something in the garden. he cooked the issues now to fill the time. The relationship began to suffer from pressure. One day. Suffering acutely this abrupt loss of identity. the evolution . Graham began to ask for Ruth. Graham suffered a heart attack Fulminans.

such as no longer required for anything. is the huntress of the brain. Plus. London. sitting on a beach far away where nobody knows or gives a minimum. programming. show (in black) areas of the brain active space. Both involve the main aspects of the game. The modern sports are a way to replace the hunt. yet clearly set is literally idle.work and sport. as we have seen. video equipment. He is all dressed and has no where to go. the advancement of agricultural techniques has meant that hunting for food is no longer be a priority. 2000. Female Male The ancient hunter was compulsorily retired At the end of the eighteenth century. made from brain examinations of 50 men and 50 women. they not only stopped be required to reach moving targets. pursue. playing sports with ball and reach moving targets. These are the areas used by modern man to work as park running aft. distances and spatial co-ordinates.track. So the century desferiu men on an even greater blow: the retirement. is obsessed by work and the small sports. To deal with the frustration of no longer be prompted to chase and hit targets. This helps explain why the image of the female brain shows a minimum level of activity in the space.their role was to ensure the survival of the next generation. We therefore repeat. unlike women. with areas of strength capable of dealing with these tasks . the two men embraced replacement . The areas of the brain used for hunting Institute of Psychiatry. read maps. that most men.achieve a zebra color-surrender to 30 meters away was never part of their responsibilities. the . With it. and aim to achieve the target.of male preference brain areas enabling it to perform this task with success: those used to measure speeds. angles. 90% of all modern sports with ball rise up between 1800 and 1900 as a substitute for the hunt. women evolved as a defender of the nest and the offspring . ride on motorways. The female brain evolved. Consequently. And here lies the great problem of modern man retired: your brain of a hunter. Also. In simple terms. . therefore. The images below.

they ask how could give an account of what they worked. in general." she told a close friend. seemed all the time in a bad mood. the way the company was doing well without him and low frequency with which co-workers to use their experience and their advice. was inside mope at home if it has been discarded. Consequently. but with so much time together for the first time in our life . It was as if he had not entirely of his life. Studies on male and female figures show that 70 to 80% of women say they have as the main 'focus on family. I would never do anything. once you finally retired. We heard from several women retired to their current life is so busy. The only thing I hate is having to go home at the end of the day. women. Men value the achievements. want to help you. learned to play tennis and attend classes in art. exhausted when you get home. They just "follow your life. with retirement. Jennifer knew he was depressed but could not convince him to express his feelings. way-too Janda. relationships. And although they were already married for 25 years. "I love to be retired. But little by little grew into a resentment Jennifer: Peter was making her so unhappy retirement on his own. we see very little in common. I feel sorry for Peter." The men are always defined by their work and their achievements. Then came for a course in Italian. Spent increasingly less time at home. But remember.You realize that you retired when you know all the answers but do not have anyone else to ask you the questions. need to combine work with education of children. Worked as a nurse almost all his life. It would be almost like a second honeymoon. Jennifer had sometimes the impression that the husband did not know well. The children were finally married. Peter and Jennifer Jennifer wanted much to retire with her husband hold. attribute value is the quality of their relationships. Nadava with a group three times a week. which left little time for herself. It started out more with friends. How women deal with retirement. Also. a stressful and poorly paid job with few opportunities for professional progress. women tend to move smoothly toward retirement. she felt free. she thought that time would have to meet again. women keep their retired social circles constructed over the years and have facility to renew them. Initially she stayed home with him. and the lives of Jennifer and retain only the two was. They can spend the extra time doing the things that have always been challenges to take or which never had time to work. She received her retire with genuine emotion. It would be an opportunity to do everything I always had the dream-. Today I do not know if I have . "You know. He had been always working hard. Now. women. Now. Unlike men.

He has so much knowledge and experience that the employer-only benefits and may not pass without his talent. And do it with great joy. He seems to always be "getting in the foot" and wanting to take her life. leaving little time for fun." says St. "here is the sky. we could have arrived here ten years ago!" Why men can not cope with retirement? The loss of work is not the main cause of all the stress when the man is retiring. Peter. the man turns around. One day. to the wife. "Your bitch!" He Berra with it. indignant. some clubs go to the elderly and enjoy the entertainment that they failed during the period in which the job. "But the cost to enter partner?" Asks the man. "If you do not wanted to eat healthy food and we exercise. Peter. There are no calories in the sky. And it shows a fabulous mansion. Even those who did not like his job very still want their "group hunting" the call to continue the task. people cling to the idea that becoming consultants. Here is the sky. Can cause fights.the identity. When this happens and he notes that the company can move very well without it. they will still be important parts in the gear. St. "But how will this cost?" Asks the man. When retirement approaches. "But we only eat food without fat. the two die in a car accident. no milk products and low cholesterol. the common man is denying that his life is to quit. "Nothing. no long hours of work. it seems envy the happiness of women and blame them for their misfortune. The identity of women is . Some return to school. Unable to face the situation." Then shows them a wonderful golf course behind the mansion. "It's free. full of delicious dishes. Otherwise." says the man. treating it as if it were one of its former employees. "Nothing. The man likes to think its "hunt group" still needs him. Many women retired to join interest groups or develop new habits. There were a couple of 70 years who always had good health because of the insistence of women with healthy diet and exercises. together with household chores. The woman whose identity was also strongly linked to work performance may experience a similar feeling. low salt. You can eat as you like which will still be thin and healthy.love and no more if I stay with him. Be "available" to return to work and solve problems whose solution depends on their knowledge and experience. It's free. On the one hand. come with solutions and advice when she is not interested. And often. without feeling idle and useless. the shock is very intense. At the door of heaven. Peter Ihes presents its new life." replied St. A step that seems worth it. "Do not worry. and will call him to continue working. " Dealing with a retired man is often one of the biggest problems that women face. It is the loss of something much bigger . tears and even separation." When I heard it. others spend more time taking care of others. Here is the sky. with a variety of creamy sauce. The choices of women often involve interaction with others." And finally leads to the local restaurant and it shows the menu.

the things not done. particularly finance and planning of social activities and family. grandmother. He relaxes in food. The result is a life apathetic. and sometimes all at the same time. Barry was always fascinated by the idea of retirement and to spend any time with their children and grandchildren and traveling with Yvonne. starts to drink. the woman continues with the other facets of his life. First. friends' friend. The sudden loss of friends and colleagues. some men think they will be quiet. felt. lover and wife at any time. however. Signs of trouble are usually the first indication that stage of depression is ongoing. even drugs.multifaceted. can become permanent. The retired blame others for their suffering: his partner and family becomes much often the target because "not understand how I feel. to 50 years. above all. But the retirement of Barry . this rarely happens. their status and sense of importance can quickly lead to depression. He now wants to be the chief executive of the family. These intrusions can be unbearable for your partner. companion. She can spend the money to bring home. unhappy and. In other words. per-der vitality and become inactive. to take care of the family. the routine that meet their days. The woman never retires. Depression can get without being noticed. Sometimes it is thought. the woman retains its identity. This anger is sometimes discharged as the desire to disappear. The feeling of uselessness and rejection can lead to decreased libido. the anger. if not overcome or dealt with the help of a professional. and in some cases. For most. Start the denial is complete by the depression. But unless they have been carefully prepared. data and figures loved and was very successful in the management of time. Master of himself. Retirees who do not plan their lives are constantly ill. In most cases there is no drama. shorter. and the fights start to happen. The new generation has its own ideas and solutions and whether they feel free to implement them and test new ways of solving things. especially the way they are made. the direction of the house. and if everything goes well for the acceptance. Always addicted to outside research. When you decided to retire. Why do so many men down the hill so fast? In the period following the shutdown. he thought the best in the industry. It simply gives continuity to their things. deepening the table. the retiree was disappointed with his new life and starts to retract. being mother. Barry and Yvonne Banyo is described as counter to 20 years and 25 have worked on their own. Flu and disease is less frequently. lady-of-home. When its role as provider end. It is essential to identify the depressive stage which. The loss of identity is for the man in many ways similar to the death of a loved one. Many often the removal of what they see as an old employee is a relief. by not calling him to provide advice and feel a victim." Blame the ex-boss for not having him ready for retirement. was owner of a successful company. things rarely remain at that stage as the honeymoon.

Barry re-collect information on sutiãs with employees and customers. He supervises and gives orders. hits the wood. After looking puzzled for the door and asked: "Who is it?" The negative aspects of retirement When the couple starts to fight because of differences of ability and the different roles that each plays. on time and lasted a lot of other statistical data. Then started to leave the house to escape the domain of the husband. Asked the husband. "Barry needs to get a life of its own. Barry wanted to know the reason . When Yvonne was a store that was not on the agenda.quickly turned in the worst nightmares of Yvonne. For Yvonne. She loved to shop. "My memory is perfect. I control everything the woman did! Offered to take the family's finances and gave Yvonne a budget for food. for lunch and dinner." E has two batidinhas on the table. "Now I'm in the middle of something and forget what I was doing. Yvonne felt in an inter-in a concentration camp. "and I want my life back!" A retired couple was sitting on the dinner table talking about old age. The anger and resentment began to grow inside her. Most of it was wasted money. why you asked to organize a calendar hourly.so he is not annoyed with the waiting -.the man feels rejected. Not only. I wonder why she spent so much on things he thought unnecessary. "I never had this problem. That was crazy leaving Yvonne. Barry thought the days of Yvonne would be much more beneficial if they practice an effective management of your time. A woman can get hurt with it seems an intrusion on what for it is a happy and orderly.she has not had chance shoes and enough clothes? Reached the height of the monitor Yvonne buy a new bra. "is forgotten. misunderstood and devalued. sitting on the "seat-ofhusband-bored" on the outside of the taster. leading to . That day she did not buy any bra ." said the woman. but decided that Barry would shop together. beginning at 8 am." "How?"." she replied. alone. it was great." The man grunt: "No. "The worst. Things can be much worse. and that there would be an agenda setting out advance and where would they would buy. Barry found that his wife only needed two sutiãs." he insisted. I never stopped by something. After examining them. "Then yesterday I was sitting in the car asking if I had just come to go somewhere or had just arrived home and was out of the car. Barry now wants to be the chief executive's home. absolutely curtailed and controlled by a manic husband and authoritarian. "One day. and when they manifest . While Yvonne tried to quickly sutiãs . he wanted to know where every penny went and why. I was thinking at the top of the stairs had just arrived or are on top was starting to fall. last week." The woman smiled with sadness." "Hum!" Said the man." she said to friends.decided to return later. Despite not having problems with money.usually in an exasperated . Perhaps the first time in life when she see her husband every day for breakfast. requesting it to many tasks and too little working in the service of the house. high price. there is the danger of starting to feel incompatible. Sutiãs discovered how each of the search was the ratio of quantity.

Are aware that you are investing in their well-being in their self-esteem. have better health and will live longer. now. read all the books that are accumulated on your bookshelf. you must be aware that their identity can not be linked predominantly to the industry professional and receiving the approval of others. The man is 30 to 40 years of his life in a rigidly structured and oriented goals. therefore. His retirement. A plan of action The right time to start planning is many years before retirement. which includes study. Start to develop them as far as possible. it is likely that the period of retirement is longer. look for a nutritionist to set a pleasant and healthy diet. The identification of these stages is crucial. more will live better and the quality of your life. But do not spend it all as a mere obligation or an activity for only the time to fill vacant. with the increasing trend of early retirement. ride a bike. mainly because. Health The time of retirement can be used for an investment in your health. find pleasure in activities independent of the professional activities. walk. Men who survive the first three stages of retirement generally ultimately accept this new stage of life and take on the challenge of planning a new life. listening to music. . In Western society. Start thinking now as I have had time available. increased life expectancy and better health. To begin. take up a hobby. resulting in loneliness and misery. do the exercise that gives you great pleasure. Make a complete check-up. dance. There is a huge range of alternatives for pleasure waiting for you. the life expectancy of men that the retirement is not an occupation that the interest is on average five years. learn a new skill. develop a circle of friends outside the work environment. which is giving a gift that could not be granted for lack of availability. Multiply your interests in the life of work. . If you find difficulty. and the man who is not planned for retirement can take many years to overcome them. Men engaged in activities that stress and to do nothing to retire early die. it is good to resort to professional advice to ensure that it perpetuates the negative attitudes. develop a talent that remained unexploited because you were absorbed in his career.separation and even to suicide. The higher the frequency with which they work. swim. The possibilities are endless. Studies show that the earlier you plan your retirement. need a bit of quality. useful and happy. The critical difference between these two periods of the life of man is that in retirement he is fully in control and will take the decisions that affect the rest of life.

Thus you will discover where your talents can be applied You should see his retirement as you would with any large project. Explore these possibilities with the knowledge they have of each other and love each deserves it after so many years of companionship. It is important that you find in that field feel better and more useful. openness. specializes in dealing with the men retired. the social work community and gives an immense sense of satisfaction and self. the activities that could develop. The sex in old age will be a continuation of what was in the life of the couple. children in orphanages will bring you a surprising bonus. Whatever has been your path. Start searching now. Gender A happy and healthy life also must include a satisfactory sexual life. But Dana was alarmed to see the sadness of Paul with the forced retirement. targets and deadlines. despite the limitations that age brings. Discuss your plans with your partner. Paul and Dana Paul was account manager and his life was always full of goals. it now had time to do things you always wanted and wished to share their happiness with Paul newly discovered. because the sex life can not be separated from the rest of the relationship. chat with friends. The retirement offers this space to search more and find a group. His wife Dana to retire three years before and wanted by the retirement of her husband. But when he was 57 his company bought and he became expendable in overnight. He began drinking too much and was depressed.Social Work and Community We can assure you that few things to remember as much as the dedication they need. What is important is that these limits are treated with honesty. The consultant helped Paul to understand the reasons for that and he showed you how to . She was quite enjoying his retirement. affection. And remember: the whole body . Talk about it with the greatest possible openness. He thought to retire at 65. seek help if necessary.not just the genitals . The simple act of visiting patients in hospitals. because she is the person who will share them with you. discover new incentives. browse the local church. or activities that develop their spirituality. and that is linking to an institution where they feel affinity with the people working there. You may need an initial effort to overcome the resistance. you must have skills that can be used or passed on to others. the places that I would know. giving new meaning to life. Dana decided to seek professional advice and then persuaded Paul to seek a consultant. but once started. a belief. elderly in rest homes. The substantive requirements of day-to-day that differ in size so essential in humans and responds to your deepest desire. Start to write down everything that interests you. Aware of that will mean this new phase of life in terms of living in order to for problems that arise Spirituality It is also time to devote to a field that may have been ignored in the years of professional activity: the spirituality.can be a source of pleasure. which would examine the materials. You can not imagine how delicious the experience of returning to college where you will live with younger people and discover how the experience of life taught him.

manage this new phase of his life. most of his pension and Dana would be sufficient to cover its needs until the end of life. They are so busy they need a detailed daily schedule. understanding the strengths and weaknesses of each other and being able to make the relationship a source of joy. How was a member of golf club. Use these tools with wisdom and love. except for a small excess of weight and pressure and cholesterol slightly above normal. Paul and Dana are healthy and happy. In the group that began to attend prayer. which led them to meet new people. Paul felt a great weight had been removed from their shoulders. Came to a club of excursionist and began to make trips extended several times a month.decide what to do for the rest of their lives. Paul was always concerned about the welfare of young people and understand the problems they faced when they lack family support-ing. but not for extravagances. He was also part of a group of craft and came to a course in writing. They needed a plan that took into account both the needs of each. adjusted and successful. The retirement is revealing the happiest time of their lives. Today. because I wanted to write. aware that they had available to devote to a social work. Dana. but I would like but never had time to practice regularly to mind. Found that its greatest achievement was to have created four children happy. We firmly believe that the tools presented in Why Men Lie and Women cry? can help all men and women to live lives more intimate. enthusiastically recommended by friends. the consultant reassured Paul. Dana has played tennis once a week and it was on the board of the club. enjoy life and help others. Enrolled in a class of tai-chi.which could take twenty years or more to be completed. The third was to travel with Dana relax and plan the rest of their lives. because had the start-to plan your journey . Then decided to seek a way of advising the youth to become an advisor to young people. decided to open a current account that you bring an additional income. in turn. Good luck to you! ******* . together with some savings and investments. The second was to seek a financial adviser. A specialist taught her new diet and prescribed an exercise program. as the couple. sensual and rewarding. This time when the men and women are more together than any other in their lives is very important that they have learned the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women cry? Because only then will live happily in peace and with love. In examining the financial part. Paul play golf sometimes. They have done a detailed budget and noted that the guarantee fund of Paul. After all the advice. Paul accepted the challenges that it presented the consultant. Decided to change the eating habits and started walking every day for at least 45 minutes. The check-up showed that Paul was well. The first step was to complete a health check. decided to try. The finances were sufficient to cover expenses. offered to cooperate in the newspaper association of residents of his neighborhood. The next challenge was great . He and Dana went on holiday with a good state of mind. As Paul was an excellent account-pain and liked to teach. happiness and fulfillment.

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