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Learning from our mistakes; solving infant eating issues.
Learning from our mistakes; solving infant eating issues.

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Published by: New Life Mission Canada on Jun 18, 2013
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Repentance, Mistakes, and Victories

12/07 I’d been told long before R was born that I needed to read Babywise by Gary Ezzo and have Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg on hand for reference. But I had just started reading Husband Coached Childbirth while in the hospital so I obviously never had time for the postpartum books. I looked in the hospital library but of course they only have donated books and perhaps no one wanted to let theirs go bad enough to leave it there. I didn’t have time (or energy) to walk a mile to the central city library to pick them up. So I ordered them through the internet hoping they would be home when I got there. For some reason the order didn’t go through and the books didn’t show up. I didn’t take the time to do anything about it. Things were going pretty stable anyway. We sort of settled into a routine that seemed to work. I fed R when she was hungry and let her sleep in her peach box when she was sleepy. Her wake times varied infrequently. A week past her due date she started sleeping through the night on her own. But in November things started to get a bit chaotic—especially when she was colicky and wanted to suck almost constantly. I indulged her and let her sleep as long as she wanted and then eat as much as she could. I was still breastfeeding with bottle supplement. On Tuesday morning, December 4th, the old borrowed breast pump died. I would not be able to get another for at least three days. Oh dear! I had been building my supply and freezing for the upcoming days of working cattle. I was surprised that she pretty much kept a regular feeding schedule and was content with only breastfeeding and no bottle. I guess I just hadn’t had the courage to quit the bottle although I could have any time after she finally figured out how to eat properly about a week after her due date. So the pump dying was probably the best thing. Now I was forced to go total natural and discovered it works well with much less risk of overfeeding. I was hungry for haystacks so I prepared them with beans I had in the freezer on Wednesday. Very delicious. . . . until about 3:30 Thursday afternoon when R started screaming. She didn’t quit until midnight. The same thing happened on Friday but I was so dense, I finished the leftover haystacks that day. After another 1am bedtime I realized it must be colic so I pumped and dumped and used up the refrigerator stock. We had a nice nap Sabbath after all. Sunday I ran out of back stock and she wailed again. Mom R got the bright idea to give her peppermint tea and “cook” her under the infrared hot house. What an awesome relief. At the same time I had started reading Babywise, but found the book so poorly written I could hardly stand to read it. Couple that with the stress of colic and lack of sleep. If the book weren’t borrowed, it might have landed in the woodbox! The male author is far too concerned with irrelevant issues and spends the first several chapters comparing his method to other methods of raising babies with statistics and other proof that his is better. He hadn’t told me what his method was yet and I was tired of digging thru mulch to uncover the roots.

Finally the chapter beginning on page 107 I began to figure out what principles he advocated. I realized that I had some repenting to do as to how much I had let R run her own schedule and leave me wondering each moment what to expect for the next. But I was much confused as to what truly applied to my baby and what didn’t and how to begin making changes and implementing. Sometimes things worked and sometimes they didn’t. Particularly because he went by age on all his charts. R was premature so exact age according to normal charts is hard to calculate. Her crying about my attempt to make her follow a prescribed schedule really got on my nerves. I got so frustrated I didn’t take the time to read any further. Later I skipped over and read the last chapter “Principles for Starting Late.” “#1 Make sure you have read and understand the entire contents of this book before proceeding any further. #3 Start the process of change when your baby is healthy. #2 Be prepared for some crying . . . #6 Don’t feel the necessity to check on your baby every five minutes while he or she is crying.” Grrrrrrr. So I did the wrong thing again. Especially #2 and 6 didn’t make much sense to me since God answers us whenever we cry. He doesn’t just leave us wailing helpless and hopeless in pain. In the day when I cried thou answeredst me, and strengthenedst me with strength in my soul. (Psalms 138:3 KJV) I cried unto the LORD with my voice, and he heard me out of his holy hill. Selah. (Psalms 3:4 KJV) In my distress I called upon the LORD, and cried unto my God: he heard my voice out of his temple, and my cry came before him, even into his ears. (Psalms 18:6 KJV) O LORD my God, I cried unto thee, and thou hast healed me. (Psalms 30:2 KJV) Then they cried unto the LORD in their trouble, and he delivered them out of their distresses. (Psalms 107:6 KJV) Finally Secrets of the Baby Whisperer arrived from the library. Excellent writer. Very readable book. Very understandable method. Principles to implement from page one. My style exactly. And no, it is neither beneficial nor necessary to just let baby wail for extended periods of time. I can communicate with her and she can communicate with me so that we can both understand and work together on the changes. With this and peppermint tea, we have hope of making a real success of life now, although I have still made some mistakes in my exhausted frame (or lack) of mind. I think that the books do advocate the same principles—but from very different philosophies of how to relate to babies. Tracy Hogg doesn’t bore you with statistics or proofs that her method is better. She just illustrates it with stories of how it worked in various types of families so you can see what will work in your situation and what won’t. Babies are individuals and every family has its own context to work in. The principles are biblical and the same across the board but the application varies according to the individual. I love it. Now this book I may need to purchase of my own cause I won’t want to return it to the library!! Last night we read Isaiah 66 for worship: “Rejoice ye with Jerusalem, and be glad with her, all ye that love her: rejoice for joy with her, all ye that mourn for her: That ye may

suck, and be satisfied with the breasts of her consolations; that ye may milk out, and be delighted with the abundance of her glory. For thus saith the LORD, Behold, I will extend peace to her like a river, and the glory of the Gentiles like a flowing stream: then shall ye suck, ye shall be borne upon her sides, and be dandled upon her knees. As one whom his mother comforteth, so will I comfort you; and ye shall be comforted in Jerusalem. And when ye see this, your heart shall rejoice, and your bones shall flourish like an herb: and the hand of the LORD shall be known toward his servants, and his indignation toward his enemies.” (Verses 10–14)

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