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Empower your child with an ‘education for life’
Leverage and Increase IQ and EQ What, Why, How to optimize schooling Structure, Process and Principles for ‘educating for Life’
Empower Your Child With An ‘Education For Life’
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Part 1 ME, an Individual 1.. 2.. 3.. Understanding Our Needs.................................................................... 14 Understanding People........................................................................... 23 Know Your Weaknesses and Limitations.............................................. 28
Part 2 Leverage Processes (MEganize) 4.. 5.. 6.. 7.. Decision-Making.................................................................................. 36 Learning. ............................................................................................... 48 Change.................................................................................................. 58 MEganized Leverage............................................................................ 65
Part 3 Systemic Issues 8.. 9.. 10.. 11.. 12.. Structural Drivers. ................................................................................. 80 Our Real Problems. ............................................................................... 86 The Strategic Change Cycle................................................................. 99 Culture................................................................................................ 106 The Three Ps in Strategy.................................................................... 118
Part 4 Schools 13.. 14.. 15.. 16.. 17.. “As Is” Symptoms................................................................................ 135 Optimum Structure. ............................................................................ 144 Optimum Balance............................................................................... 149 Ownership.......................................................................................... 154 Strategic Learning Cycle. .................................................................... 157
....... 20....................................... 206 A Synopsis................................................................................................... 21.............. 22.. 24............. .................................................... 200 Simplicity..................................................................................... 169 Skills Focus................. 181 Leadership........................................................ Defining Your Future........................................................ 19................................................................ ............. 23..................Part 5 Your Family and “USA Today” 18................................. 216 ................ 160 Homeschooling.. 183 Challenges........................................
You. I completed my financial qualifications in accounting and later earned my MBA via Thames Valley University in London.Introduction It is a privilege to be able to publish this work that will hopefully change many lives for the better. there was no real alternative. and then in one of the worst-performing school areas in the country. My background is strictly business and sport. including the Comrades Marathon (57 miles). cricket. starting with my daughter Megan. It is written with a top-down perspective using my Christian faith as my wind. which I have found hardly ever translates into the most 5 . Homeschooling became a “no-brainer” when we found ourselves in the USA. So I have worked “in” a variety of business structures and “on” them. I was schooled at St. I have admittedly made a few mistakes along the way. After that I spent a year as a physical training instructor in the army before going to university. I was an all-rounder at school and played soccer. in using this book. Alban’s College. my education and experience as my sail. Professionally. which now has a poor schooling record. rugby. I worked as a VP of Finance and VP of Operations and then changed direction and moved into software solutions as a Business Analyst. I have been placed in the unexpected position of having to homeschool my children. I played first-class cricket for about five years and ran a few marathons. will hopefully reap the benefit of not making the same mistakes and thus minimize your learning curve. Peter’s Preparatory and St. While studying. After we had spoken to a few parents and teachers in the area who were very negative about “the system” in general. hockey. and squash. though I dabbled in music. then Coopers & Lybrand. I am committed to giving my children the best education possible. before settling down to raise a family. and a number of outstanding references as a rudder. I studied part-time while working under articles for an accounting firm. Perhaps you should know some facts about me.
Over the years I have attended homeschooling talks and promotional conventions and done my share of research. We cannot afford to be slack without paying a penalty. Hopefully this book will equip you not only to equal but better any institutional education currently offered. Our livelihood is becoming increasingly precarious in a global economy. and to optimize our intellectual capital. only to be more convinced that my approach was a more efficient and effective way of giving my children the opportunity of having the best “life education” that was possible. I am sharing my experience and more with you in this book to give you a heads-up. and entitled society with no moral fiber. but I believe in quality long-term investments. Our education system. it is critical that the bigger picture is understood. lack of funding. In order to truly understand what your children’s education requires. We even experienced the “private school” encounter for a year. This will further place downward pressure on our system’s educational capability.Peter Jennings expensive option. to leverage their learning capacity and brain power so that they can survive and prosper. So you have probability in your favor should you choose this route. These new skills are a change in mind-set. outperforming both private and public schools. I am frugal by nature. dependent. not harder. and violence are becoming a way of school life. cheating. So far it has an excellent record. These are critical years. Homeschooling will become a necessity in our time. and a head start. is facing serious headwinds. and the results show. to leverage our learning capabilities. In many ways we have been able to minimize the impact of our decline in productivity through technological advances. The choice and opportunity for the individual to excel is fast disappearing in favor of a mediocre. I expect the public school system and tertiary education to change dramatically due to declining standards. We need to equip our children with better thinking skills. and budget cuts. with an out-of-control government in a twentieth-century mind-set. as with the government. The key has to be change. but those advances are now shared across the globe and are no longer exclusive. Not only can you make an informed decision as to your choice of education for your children. Low morals. but you can also have a clear picture of the situation we face. offering only limited value added to comply with a deeply political agenda. We need to incorporate many of the skills that have been around for a while but have never been allowed into the controlled environment of our school system.” without any real change. For years we have been preaching “work smarter. leveraging our 6 .
capability, and are best mastered early on. This is the process I have called MEganizing. MEganize is my life’s work in a book. If you study it, work the principles and processes suggested, it will take your thinking, your life, and the lives of your children to the next level.
I believe in reports of the individual, the writings and words of great thinkers, and how these concur with reliable evidence and personal experience. These are the true reflections of reality.
MEganize is a new approach on how best to educate your child going forward. Based on the precepts that we underestimate their capacity to learn, it looks at introducing critical learning tools at an early age. It is a book for all parents to read, assuming that they want the best for their child’s “education for life.” We need to pay attention to our public schools and understand what the fundamental issues are. Our scores on international tests show that we have lost our edge long ago. The system isn’t working, but they continue to test Einstein’s theory of insanity: more of the same. MEganize explains why this is and what we can do about it. Taking a new approach to school, redefining our mission allows us to explore new ways of educating and new but proven processes to follow. MEganize is all about empowering our children to learn more efficiently and boost their overall intelligence. Although most of these concepts have been around and proven to work for many years, these leveraged skills have never been accepted into the rigid school structure. MEganize looks at defining a best approach with the objective of improving our children’s capability and skill sets. For those who are intending to homeschool, and it may soon become a necessity for many, MEganize provides a fairly detailed plan from a top-down perspective of what to do and how to do it better. Without getting into the detail of syllabus, the fundamental structure is set out, together with weekly motivational charts, timetable guides, and reporting requirements.
Motivation and leadership style is essential in schooling. MEganize provides a guideline from which you can build the right platform to get the best out of your teaching time. America is on a downward trend in virtually all aspects. This book will reveal why this is happening and how we can revitalize our heritage and protect our children. “Metanoia is an ancient Greek term that translates as ‘repentance’ in theology, ‘correction’ rhetorically, and ‘the process of experiencing a psychotic break-down and subsequent positive psychological healing’ in psychology” (Wikipedia.org). We are rapidly approaching this phase in our education system, and government as a whole. We will need to be less dependent on our government, more independent on our own resources and specifically in regard to the future education of our children. This book will help you prepare.
an Individual .Part 1 ME.
and social needs. What makes up the individual? There are four parts to our psyche. and “otherwise.” This translates into a difficult child. but by design. Our education should similarly try to meet these needs. Eventually individuals will lead our nation. 12 . So we will start at the beginning. By knowing our options. We need to understand our weaknesses and our preferences as well so that we have insight into what makes us and our children tick. we will fail at the finish. This is the basis for creating a balance within our lives. to that add Luke. Anyway. a natural healing specialist for psoriasis. which all require to be met in order for us to function properly. your watch in the washing machine. As a toddler. specialists’ visits and medication. Luckily. A rough start to life for anyone. Understanding the contributing aspects will evolve throughout this book. although the toxins left in his body affected the skin on his scalp like a really bad dose of dandruff or psoriasis. we could not solve the problem. A Parable Luke was born with meconium poisoning. This of course got him into a lot of trouble as he was always “disobedient. In frustration. I realized that I was losing him. Individuals make up a family. Your car keys put who knows where. the more aggressive he became. it was detected and diagnosed correctly. helped us cure this through diet—within days! He did this without a physical examination too. Quite amazing. If we get it wrong at the start. physical. Aren’t all kids (boys) a real handful from two to four? Anything goes. some of them will get to lead society on a smaller or larger scale. Dr.” By the time he was four. John Pagano. These are our spiritual. The more I scolded him.Everything starts with the individual. mental. but he spent the first two weeks of his life in ICU. we have more control to reflect objectively and make the right choices in how to facilitate their education. Stones are left in the tumble dryer. What is important to note is that neglect in any one of these parts will result in a breakdown of functioning. He recovered normally after that. demanding. and the next month on amoxicillin. After exhaustive doctor’s visits. Luke was always very independent. not just by default.
He still gets into trouble and is punished. which he loved. My “style” was all wrong. That was not in their heritage either. There are a number of insights from this story. this is. never told me that they loved me. But we did play. So I backed off. This did not mean that he got his way. I had to earn his love. I started telling Luke that I loved him. though not much as he was still young. This was not my strong point. My wonderful wife. I had got into a negative cycle. has taught me and changed me a bit. I made up Noddy stories at night. sensitive boy. 13 . read The Kazdin Method on how to manage rebellious children. and that I was proud of his achievements. but as a parent these become irrelevant. First and foremost. The ability to adapt and grow is a sign of intelligence. and saw the light. we must understand our child’s needs. He didn’t want anything from me. father. To this day I find it very hard to say “I love you” or express my true feelings. He has mellowed as well and turned out a really sweet. In order to lead. The change was like night and day. This opened my mind to the possibility that I was the problem. My background was old school. I had to conquer this inhibition with my children. but it meant that I had to show him that I care. An important lesson for Dads. happy. My parents. we must first serve. We need to conquer self. It helped me to realize that it was my behavior that he was learning and reflecting back on me. although very loving and kind. as they were both “orphans” in some way. Today I am much wiser. who says it often. We need to work it out and change to meet our child’s needs. and played a bit with him. but this “Victorian” mode was transferred. and he often tells me that he loves me. I never felt unloved. that he was my most precious boy. but an obvious note is that we all have some kinks from our childhood. I had to change. Stronger Sons.MEganize! I read Better Dads. but the way I do it is different. Anyway. and friend. I then decided that as a leader. I don’t recall being hugged by them.
or try to change the recipe.Chapter 1 Understanding Our Needs “Only when we see the interrelatedness of our needs do we become empowered to fulfill them in a way that creates true inner balance.” (S. Covey) What is life? It is about meeting each other’s needs. We learn so that one day we can add value to society so that we can then qualify for our partner for life. 14 . That’s the recipe for the cake. no matter how you want to garnish it. deep human fulfillment. not pay attention to the main issues. and hopefully leave a legacy. This is where it all goes wrong. health becomes a resource to accomplish worthwhile purposes. There are so many distractions in our age of information overload that it is easy to get lost in arbitrary detail. Work has meaning. Meeting these needs is core to our motivation. get married and have children and raise them well in relative comfort. relationships have depth and growth. and joy. It’s time to get back to the basics and refocus.
A. D. Recognition Recognition is a core driver to fulfilling our needs and thus our prime motivator. If we don’t get input or feedback. Murray’s book Explorations in Personality as well as an exhibit from Harvard Business Review by Fredrick Herzberg displayed in Organizational Behavior (1987). These are generative in that all of our needs evolve from these basic drivers. to listen to us. all we want is for our parents to watch us. As children. 1. Central Need Factor This diagram is an adaptation of Clayton Alderfer’s modified Maslow’s need hierarchy. People want recognition. In order to get to fundamentals. and to appreciate us. This can come in 15 . Huysamen regarding motives listed from H. this need is incomplete. Even when we are in our last days. This was combined with certain factors quoted by Dr. we hope that our parents would be proud of what we have done.MEganize! Fig. with the central need of recognition at the core. our needs must be simplified into the lowest common generic terms. This is a deep-seated need in our souls and applies generally to our lives.
It merely requires an objective process by which you honestly share with each other what’s important to you and then get to work. Also. Similarly. and vice versa. they will quickly try to fob off the work. it helps to understand their personality and it will help you to grow closer. This does not mean unloving. Often we look to meeting the needs of our spouse. we often fail to recognize that we are all different but still try to relate everything through our perspective. That’s overcompensating and can be insincere. teachers. I make this point as I believe that this miscommunication is a source of many marital problems—and children thrive in a happy family. In fact.” and “Well done” are the foundation words for life. or walking around behind him as if he is a superstar. we need to show recognition to our children by looking at them in the same objective way. We just need to understand the criteria and process so that we can look at it objectively.” Men (S types) especially make this mistake.” “I love you. these simple acts need to be expanded in terms of the time and attention you give to your children’s schoolwork. is the distinctive advantage homeschooling has over any school. they will strive (and be obliged) to achieve your recognition for good work. especially in the first few years! It’s about acknowledgment of each other’s worth. If you try to fob them off. That’s overindulgence and the worst thing you could do. and even think that we’re doing okay. Recognition is not about awards or slaps on the back. It’s also not about giving the child all that he wants. If your children are at a school. We fail to recognize all the work that happens at home while we are out scoring goals. but use our own “frame. but at home. contribution. taking pics at every opportunity. Seek first to understand. People have different needs that they need to have met.” “I’m sorry. and should more than compensate if you lack proper education and teaching skills. the fact that you are their main source of wanted attention or recognition. The thing about running a household is that it must all get done in a demanding and chaotic environment. It is important to find out what expectations and needs your wife has of you. and role models (you are all of these). As parents. This is a subtle thing that most husbands forget. If you spend time with them. don’t abdicate yourself from facilitating their “education for life. a simple “Thank you.Peter Jennings many forms. This. Don’t make assumptions or react emotionally. and acceptance where it counts. This is why women have grown to have good organizational skills. I know I did.” These are our four basic needs that all depend on recognition: 16 . Then we wonder why it all went wrong. I believe that we will all try to make the “right” decision as we see the situation. This simple concept can be life changing.
This is the start of their spirit of independence. Allow them to undertake projects of their own.” We need to think along “educated” lines so that we can make the right choices.MEganize! 1. and so will our reactions. Independence (Power of Choice) When faced with similar circumstances. it becomes obvious that we have many options open to us. The reason for this is that it threatens our control or comfort zone in a situation. and it starts with you. We. we all tend to make the same choices. and the desired output. our perspectives will change. and their reluctance to take orders. we see our little ones do all sorts of crazy things. but it is totally inefficient. By understanding our options. Often as parents. They just need to understand their options first and which is the right way. One of the obstacles we face in teaching our children is their inclination for independence and freedom of choice. This must be foremost in your mind when educating your children. give them more leeway. as herd 17 . Let them explore within your structured guidelines. The problem is that this “control” feels good. Just make them define a desired output and make sure it adds value to their mission of “life-learning. then do. As their leader. and then this becomes a behavioral habit. Choices should not be reactions. Teaching is not about talking all the time. It is critical that you allow them to experiment and discover. Control (Self-Actualization. This is true learning. Our behavior with our children is often a negative reaction. My conviction is that generally children will choose to make the right choice if provided with the right values and structure early on. 2. This is one of the fundamental issues to learning. you provide the structure. and they will ultimately be ready to face the world responsibly and make their own decisions. the vision. This is how universities have run for centuries. This is discussed in part 2 in detail. Part of the MEganizing process is that we “think. they will switch off. This is unnatural and will over time frustrate your children to the point of total rebellion. Parents have the pleasure of having to face the rebellion of their two-year-olds as they explore everything whether or not you allow them to. Your goal should be that they take ownership for their learning. especially young children. If you talk to them all day. They must make it happen. They cannot engage in a passive environment. This way they will learn responsibility and risk. something that is natural and good. As they get older. We try to protect them from themselves.” As we consider how much “freedom” of choice we have and pursue the principles and processes behind them. Mastery) We all dislike change.
If they spend their time competing in sport. hope. they like and need structure and leadership. Just keep focusing on the goals (vision). Teach them values. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children. give them some leeway to explore on their own. but the risks are much lower. But by then. Traditional schools do not cater to the development of these until supposedly college years. not the problem. Hopefully.” and “understand the process” are the start. We all learn from our leaders or role models and love them for it. They will enjoy the independence. The cart is before the horse. Sometimes the positive areas can lead to negative behavior. As parent. However. the 18 . If they spend time practicing music in a band and get to play some cool jazz. Give them the relevant structure and explain how to think about working through things. Slowly delegate their work to them. process. The formula for accomplishing this is to provide a lot of structure (control) early on in their schooling. If we let our children spend time with rebellious. teacher. like to be settled and move along according to our plans and expectations. We are all suited to different skills in various fields. Divergence comes first. there is no time to explore or diverge. The first phase is where you work with them. they will end up being competitive and wanting to do better. giving them ownership in meeting their goals. We are social creatures. This drive can be managed. As they start to grasp the tools (computer and programs). These are different mind-sets. Hopefully. which is a fulfillment of the “conquer self ” maxim. but it cannot be ignored or controlled. you are worthy of that title. We need to work toward giving our children sufficient skills so that they ultimately feel in control in their lives. Mantras like “do what you can do first. Children love to feel in control and dislike it when they are controlled. and process. they will pick up on that culture. structure. and role model. 3. attitude. and faith. and output. So often we look at those who have achieved high levels of skill in whatever form and take for granted the years of practice and dedication behind them that brought this to fruition. Peer pressure is a powerful force that entices children to stretch themselves in whatever direction. our behavior needs to be more supportive than directive as they get older. The desire to achieve and the perseverance to succeed are fathered by humility. unambitious kids.” “focus on the solution. This translates into self-mastery. Belonging (Affiliation) The sense of being part of the herd is one of our animal instincts. that’s what they’ll pick up on.Peter Jennings animals.
Meaning (Common Values. It is the start to our thinking. 19 . we become desolate and careless. but it is profound in its truth. temperance. Based on my experience. but it takes more than that. 1) Glorify God with our thoughts and actions. If we have no meaning to our lives. This is why parents should try to keep their children active in various activities that help to meet their psyche needs and add meaning to their lives. This could just be to your children and spouse. then his school. but we are also alone. but usually it extends beyond that. We need to accept that reality. Uniforms used to fulfill that role to some extent. love. these simple dicta fulfill this void: We have three reasons to live (behind everything we should do). You had pride in your school and felt part of a whole. as did “houses” that competed against each other. Most children go through a period of feeling as though they don’t fit in. Meaning is fundamental to our spirit. Ultimately. Most of us want to know why we live and what our purpose is. prudence. We need a rudder to simplify our thought and decision process. It is critical that we establish a sound sense of meaning that can be held up to the rigors of life. Most of us understand this when we have children. What is sacrifice? Sacrifice self. We should live a life of sacrifice. These have various formats. If all these needs are met. He must feel part of both but be given room to be himself as well. It may add security to their ego. and working on projects together. It is the dedication of our lives to the service of others. This sounds trite.MEganize! values that you have instilled into them will help them to make the right choices in a bad situation and avoid weakness traps. but these in my opinion are the most relevant: humility. 4. Value Added) Meaning is core to our structure and values. hope. Parents must be empathetic to this and compensate by talking about shared goals and vision and plans. The child’s immediate herd is his family. faith. It added camaraderie and created bonding. giving them direction in a seemingly out-of-their-control environment. the chances of the children not feeling that belongingness are slim. Belongingness helps to create an identity of who they are. fortitude. How do you do this? Learn the seven heavenly virtues and apply them to your family life. we are all part of a herd. or help just being a part of it all.
tidiness. friends. This starts with tidiness and being action oriented. This is a challenge for N and P types as they struggle to converge. Structure first. our lives are dedicated to working for and growing our family. These values include honesty. In these cases there is no need for any recognition. kindness. The sole purpose of a salesman or politician is to get you to believe that you have a “relationship” in order to earn your trust. you will attract true friends and be loved by your family. By understanding the principles of time management. Recognition is an integral part of how you show your love and appreciation to family and friends. These are the instruments that we need to be successful in all aspects of our lives. we can develop a strategic perspective that helps us to understand the real issues and how best to proactively make the right choices to solve them. This is where the old handshake comes in. So how do we add value? By giving more than we receive. 3) Work for your own happiness (health. wealth are part of this). Again. Relationships imply trust. what this means is that we must add value. By holding to these values. Working to a routine will leverage your use of time and maximize output. loyalty. This sounds like a paradox. Where it is. Ultimately. Treat this with the importance it deserves. and hand over control. 20 . It becomes a self-sustaining drive that reinforces itself with each generous and conscientious action. 2) Love your family. Instead of reacting to situations and problems. This is the core to productivity and prosperity. show some recognition. Get it done without procrastinating. Organizational skills are the foundation for productivity and getting the job done on time. We each need to develop our own vision for our lives and to live according to a code of values. Beware that you don’t trust where it is not earned. trustworthiness. a routine will help overcome this. This is where all our time and money is going to be spent.Peter Jennings Really. we can be productive and successful. Many of our encounters are “one-offs” or a mere transaction. If we spend our lives trying to meet our own needs. diligence. We should pursue our goals using a structure that will give us a high probability of success along the process of life. we will never be happy. and generosity. Who else should you show recognition to? This depends on whether it is a “transaction” or a “relationship” type of interaction. This requires having a high set of values that shows them your commitment.
and role models. the result will be confusion. If these values are taken away and replaced by arbitrary laws that are inflicted on him at will. If these are taught at home. then life happens. Balance applies to all things. marriage. through their humility. A child who is given a strong sense of values will make the right decisions on his own with minimum direction. This is what he becomes. ii. with the specific proviso that you finish each of these before taking on the next. However. teachers. not just attending to psyche. The “programming” is done in his early years by his parents. Without a strong sense of values. nonreligious readers will understand the context of this and. career and savings.” i. allow their children to have the choice to decide their faith. but so often we are gung ho on specific things. There are distinct stages in life: education. This does not 21 . Our lives should have a strategic plan.MEganize! We need to be conscious of what creates real motivation = joy = recognition (from others) and reward (yourself ). and how we spend our time. Values are our unseen codes that are more powerful than any institutional laws. Hopefully. This is what he experiences and learns by. much like a project. These should be treated as major projects. but what we eat.” it means that this has been transferred to “routine. When I refer to “completed projects. and finally retirement.” That’s a cynical view that assumes that we have no control over what happens to us. John Lennon is supposed to have quipped. This seems obvious. how we behave. But at least teach them Christian values and expose them to the structure that will transfer these values into their being. They will then become people of character and you will be proud of them. will trump the immediate desire to break the plan. Values Christian values are the only defense against all the temptations of life. they are cast in stone and require a miracle to change. you can have an overall plan that helps you to think rationally when emotions are high. If you do try to run any of these major projects concurrently. and no true sense of value. the values component. Once these values are set and owned by the child as he grows older. frustration. showing no tolerance or temperance. family. Balance One principle that we should work on is balance. “We all make our plans. your child will be lost. Values must be real and not arbitrary. which is that of living a life of sacrifice. you risk increased stress at best and the risk of failure at worst. They form the heart of our culture.
and follow it. your choices will improve. 22 . This is not a science. However. There is no need to get lost in long discussion or illustration. However. These topics have been briefly addressed with relation to the individual. The nature of meeting needs was stated in the beginning of this chapter. In so doing. and soft on what we expect from them. Hard versus Soft I think it was Jack Welch of GE fame who said. our relationships and productivity will improve.” Parenting is always a combination of these two aspects. and I cannot give you a matrix or a diagram to reflect the combinations. The principle of leadership is that you offer them guidance and structure and gear them to achieve desired goals. if you are mindful of it. there will be no produce. and families are always too busy to reflect on any detail or to consider personality preferences in all instances. Integral aspects Our needs are simple. The “soft. You will see these recur in different aspects in this book. Make them stretch. We need to tend to each other’s needs. hopefully providing you with an in-depth illustration of why we do what we do. and so will your children’s performance and self-esteem. This can only happen effectively in a family. and how to make a positive change by applying principles and processes to our problems. Develop a path. “Be hard on things.Peter Jennings mean that you need to be wishy-washy either. Learning is also about a balanced approach. They are simple and will help you to form a structure that will expand to all of their engagements and support them and guide them profitably for life. This does not imply that we need to learn everything either. This means staying involved. It takes specific attention by choice to refer to these fundamental issues. This is the “hard. Teach these to your children. It takes determination and commitment to stick to our “inner path” when there is chaos all around. and lift them up when they fail. but they are complex in that they are usually unspoken.” strategic part.” operational part is to always encourage them. Balance should be planned into your schedule and life rules. but often we get it wrong and are hard on our kids. Apply them as the basis for all your choices. Without a farmer. Quite the contrary. This is a simple concept but hard to live by. make them feel competent. So what is the solution? Focus on the three dicta of life above. a cobbler’s shoe is always the worst worn. soft on people. They are principles to the growth and prosperity of your family. We need to sow the seeds and tend the crops.
we need to work together to ensure that a job gets done and that we coexist contentedly. but it is superficial.Chapter 2 Understanding People We have never been taught people skills. These differences have been called personality types. We are different in a number of ways. or in society. 1. Children are labeled and compromised in order to ensure that one size fits all. When a child learns to look at people objectively. They are all similar in structure. and that is your personal choice. and we need to get a grip on this to be able to teach better and help them to learn better. Only by being able to understand and interpret people objectively can we get onto their level and interact with them productively. and the overall ability to understand people at all levels. and ultimately leadership. When this comes to a work situation. learning styles. This puts him in a position of control. Myers-Briggs Type Indicators (MBTI) I have found that using the MBTI system allows us to increase our communication and empathy skills. he loses much of the focus (and thus insecurities) on himself. This is an example of empowerment and recognition. Our complexities have been simplified into categories that explain our behavior. Our common response to people is based on impression and emotion. It offers a clear ground for recognition and an increase in 23 . This ignores the very basis of learning and individual needs. The same applies to our children. This can be positive or negative. or thinking styles. Our schooling system has “no tolerance” for differences.
Extroverts require more hand-holding. but I would urge you to read a relevant reference book to gain insight into this subject. Quite often they will be self-starters and happy to work through things themselves. This is to my mind the foremost indicator for learning preference. to what we know of today as the Myers-Briggs Type Indicators. resulting in an introversion. this can be avoided. Role reversal helps children learn by “training the trainer. � Introvert (I) or Extrovert (E) types relate to where our source of energy originates. By minimizing any ongoing negative confrontations. Here is an outline. Once you understand which one your child prefers. you can better understand and facilitate their disposition to different areas of “school. praise. and someone to listen to them! They are not good listeners. This is a great way to start the learning or memorization cycle. Let them show you. With this in mind. although this can change. the other logical and convergent. the second to our energy source. while iNtuitives are divergent and tend to rush in and not finish.Peter Jennings our emotional intelligence (EQ). Some children don’t like to make mistakes. you can better guide them through their learning experience and later into a suitable career. There are four types that will dominate our learning performance. His work was expounded by two women. attention. This creates a block or introversion that is best overcome by allowing a nondirective environment 24 . The first pair relates to the information-gathering function. possibly through fear of being told off. These are the major personality traits that relate to learning: � Sensor (S) or iNtuitive (N) types relate to the information-gathering function. These are pretty obvious to work out but can change. so don’t waste too much time talking. Carl Jung suggested that human behavior was predictable and therefore classifiable. Often schools can take away personal confidence through teasing or bullying. The key is to orient the introvert to a suitable quiet environment and supporting structure for learning.” The pressure is off them while they are still learning in an active way. This is an advantage in homeschooling. Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers (both NOT psychologists).” Sensors prefer factual data but often fail to see the bigger picture. which then becomes the habit of choice. There are sixteen possible personality types based on four pairs of preference alternatives. One is creative and divergent.
Theusen adapted) The other two personality types are: � Feeling or Thinking types relate to the decision-making function. � Perceiving or Judging defines your lifestyle orientation. Take careful note of these differences. “Judges” think they are always right without listening to alternatives (convergers). They like harmony and avoid confrontation. Fear of failure is common in most of us. “Feeling” people are concerned with emotions and wellbeing. Four Learning Types Matrix (Based on the MBTI structure: Kroeger. while men tend to be “thinkers” and make decisions without considering the people aspect. while “perceivers” are divergers who struggle to make a decision. Ensuring a balance of these is essential in decision-making. Fig. 2. We need to build confidence in our abilities while allowing acceptance that we all make mistakes. Women fall into this class predominantly. which translates into sympathy. This translates to a more empathetic perspective.MEganize! where games are emphasized. 25 .
This is critical in the hiring process! If you split the axes. O. Team Learning Styles The Balanced Team Learning and Decision Styles diagram below reflects a similar picture. Tilden Press 26 . Donovan’s J Whole-Brain Thinking. or the “other half. Fig.” But this can create communication problems and misunderstandings based on different perspectives. Overall. It’s often just a personality preference you need to get to grips with. If they have different personalities to you. Theusen’s Type Talk. This deeper understanding will help to build your relationship and minimize conflict. The same applies to your relationship with your children. This shows the personality profile suited to each quadrant of the Strategic Change Cycle. you must accept them for who they are to avoid ongoing confrontation. Wonder & P. the team composition within an area of a business should be comprised by that type of person. Balanced Team Learning and Decision Profiles Broadly based on J.Peter Jennings Very often our personality types will be different to our spouse. The reason opposites attract is to create a balance. It is this strategic perspective that allows you to solve the conflicting issues. This is by design. Ballantine Booksbooks (1984). we can look at them objectively and work within those constraints. By understanding each other’s preferences. although expressed in different terms. these are the key preferences or thinking styles. Kruger & J. 2. 3.
The smaller the team and the smaller you make the “cultural” differences. each person will naturally develop a thinking style preference. your child should develop all aspects but will tend to have a preference. Optimum team size in my experience is between four and ten people. The key to optimum team performance is not only a job-suited style. A. 27 . and learning generally. Ultimately. On the vertical axis. a small team also functions much better than larger teams. In simple terms. A parallel can be drawn with the MBTI types. So. while the left half are left-brained (logical). Rowe & J. where cultural differences exist. This is the Team Performance Principle. If you split the operations up. Do not confuse these! The bottom half represents problem-solvers who make things happen. Diversity in thinking styles is the essence of good decision-making. while the top half are those who are more reflective and analytical. This leads to a bias. don’t make assumptions as if they are on the same page and have the same values. the right quadrants are right-brained (creative). The basic difference is divergent (N) versus convergent (S) thinking skills. Obviously. good decision-making and learning requires a balance of thinking styles. you still need both left-and right-brained as you do for the strategic side. while the bottom half represents those who can make good managers and focus on reality. The lack of a foundation for congruent thinking among different cultures adds to the complexity and thus inefficiency of a good decision outcome. This is a state of perfect balance. Boulgarides’ Managerial Decision Making. Both of these are necessary in coming to conclusions. This preference will define the best career path and help to design his advanced curriculum from the age of around thirteen.MEganize! (1989). not diversity of cultures. the better and more effective the result. It is better to break groups up and then compare results than to lump everyone into the same pot. The top half represents the strategic thinkers and leaders. This is naïve and dangerous. Prentice Hall (1992) as published in Organizational Behavior.
or we converge on the wrong things to satisfy our “needs.” I’d be able to buy a car. and genetics all prove that we have the same basic codes in various forms that are scrambled to give us our unique qualities. If I had a dollar for every time I have said “focus. We allow distractions to dominate our lives. This allows us to look at fundamental similarities. get overwhelmed. we take on too many projects.” Learning should be divergent and can be challenging and exciting.Chapter 3 Know Your Weaknesses and Limitations The sciences of psychology. The issue with this is that we fail to converge and focus. and never take them to completion. if not eradicated. Concentration is an important factor. online. This impacts our productivity and output. If we add up all the time our children spend watching TV. Hopefully. etc. or playing video games of any sort. the probability is that they spend more time doing that than working on their curriculum. Our basic needs make these stimuli irresistible. anthropology. you can develop much of the core skills and values before peer pressure and the absolute need for “coolness” take over. Our minds need to be disciplined to reduce any distracting noise. More must become less. It is critical that the level of these addictive nonproductive time wasters is minimized. ever changing world. The problem is tying this in with social needs. Divergent instinct We live in a divergent. In our drive for diversity and even knowledge. In a divergent world. including sport. This translates to wasted time and wasted money. 1. 28 . we need to focus on convergence.
Not an efficient ratio at all. 2. Kids don’t need them. We rush through things. This is confirmed in the coaching principles. It might take more effort and cost some money. some empowering. Make each lesson count. Based on our scorecard. so work on this. no texting or cell phones unless essential. the better.MEganize! House rules should govern these activities from the outset so that the rules are laid in concrete. still very connected to nature (as part of the animal kingdom) and have many instincts that operate subconsciously. This is the proactive route to take. � Our learning is very visual and less hearing based. along with reading and visual tools. Make each day count. No online accounts. This is true education. Repetition is the mother of all learning. make it count. Don’t waste the time you spend risking having to come back to it again. � Our brains can only handle a few variables at a time at a conscious level. Knowledge requires change or it will be lost. Change takes time. Our conscious brain can only effectively focus on one thing at a time. No TV before 4:00 p. especially school. If your children have a structure where they are productive most of the time. � Also. Perhaps we got high marks for a test. you forget 95% of what you have heard. 29 . Some are limiting.m. but keep them focused on learning life skills. � The key is that we are all programmed from an early age. we can’t think and do. Slow it down. thinking that we know them. Some natural tendencies As humans. and we operate mainly on an emotional. Did you know that the dung beetle navigates using the Milky Way? We are. When teaching. (You might have noticed this with your child!) The rule of thumb for learning from listening is that within the first twenty-four hours. The earlier you start. bringing about real change or growth. then this is not an issue and you can be more flexible. it is important that listening skills are developed. it is important to consider that visual learning (images) is better and that action learning is best. we believe in our superior intelligence. Play Nintendo in the car only. This is why we must practice “process” by which means we teach our brains how to think before reacting. I’m not so sure. reactive basis. However. however. so it’s time to move on.
as it opens up Pandora’s box if given the opportunity. This applies to meeting our needs. � As “animals. Creatures of habit Elephants. This can empower them and liberate them to a true freedom few people ever experience. Daily routine. The way we study. whales.” we tune out frequently heard “noises. we need to feel accepted. travel thousands of miles each year as they migrate out of instinct that has built up over generations. We can override our natural tendencies with routine and effort. we take drugs or alcohol. Lowest Common Denominator (LCD) to meet needs It is human nature to look for the easiest way to meet our needs. if kept strictly and is balanced. can become a lifelong friend. we cheat. If we want to seem smart. It has been shown that the brain stores most of the information we see. If we do not have our needs met. the whole group will adjust downward. Our current system only recognizes symptoms of conscious learning. If we can see a shortcut. Schools have adjusted their standards down. really! Don’t nag or caboose. We are also creatures of habit. The story about the camel in the tent starts right here. 3. so we join a gang. and think are all habit based.” so do children. without any set of values. we often choose the easiest. This could be seen as a weakness. most readily available means. Not every student can be an A or a B student. as we are slow to adapt to change. LCD or the lowest common denominator applies to all walks of life. This inner weakness can become a source of strength and include the ability to adapt. among others. and birds. All we need to do is create the neural pathways and connect the dots to our subconscious mind by making it meaningful. we can build these into our children at an early age. then this creates an opportunity for them to be met elsewhere. It is a matter of structure and leadership from the start. If we feel despondent or lack recognition. the probability is that we will try it. and it has affected everyone. If we allow our standards to lower. By looking at these in some depth and learning the best processes. and vice versa. We are all lazy by nature. At school. Sadly. This is one of our glaring flaws. the better. So the less said. 4.Peter Jennings � There are two levels of learning: conscious and subconscious. Perhaps only 5% to 10% of them should make this 30 . The individual is part of the whole. read. Each year we are amazed at the regularity of the same family of swallows returning from the south to their home under our deck. and habit is a strong force that we can capitalize on.
we get the illusion that we have made it or know it all. Students do not understand that self-mastery takes many years. This is the stretch culture that should be maintained throughout school and even afterward. Confidence and competence “We associate confidence with competence. It leads us to thinking that we can be independent and not listen. We cannot get stuck after the first few years. and how to get there (process). but it’s very common. by providing the right structure. This happens with youth especially.MEganize! category. This can be a painful process in severe situations. This is of course an illusion. we can obviate any LCD drift.” where the student needs to know where he is (reality). and to start believing in whatever gushes out of our mouth. 100 representing complete agreement. In our school years. There is an area of “creative tension. Change is a confrontation with our subconscious programming. we avoid change. The corollary to this is also that we relax if we believe that we are clever. and the reality of the change. but generally it is just a minor adjustment. where he wants to be (vision). Our opinions 31 . Often bright young students get overconfident or even arrogant.” (Russo) There is almost no correlation between confidence and competence. This will reduce stress on the child and minimize distraction of new surroundings. In fact. Again. on a scale where 0 represented no relation between accuracy and confidence. as they can compare themselves to younger kids and seem like a genius. Once we learn something. In a recent study. However. 6. It creates conflict with the reality we believe in and like to see. we go through several stages before we get to accept the change. 5. so our culture encourages confidence. Learning by definition is change. Outside of routine activities. This of course takes its toll as they lose their edge and hardly ever make it up again. not strategic. however. or are placed in a position of leadership. Resistance to change Our habitual instinct makes change a potential threat to be avoided. This is true operational thinking. It requires the highest standards and a conscious decision not to lower the vision. We go through a process of denial. One of our pitfalls is the tendency to become boastful and arrogant. we need to learn how to cope with change and build this into our learning capabilities. the average correlation was only 7. or get good at something. change should be minimized.
A wise man will realize that the more he knows. math. Paul Geissen talks about the importance of having the mind of a beginner. we need to have structures in place. This is a complex situation that cannot be accommodated within a one-size-fits-all structure. limits our assumptions. Keep the praise specific to the tasks or goals achieved. Music. then we have to focus on fundamental change within our system to meet the needs of our children and to provide an optimal structure for their excellence and self-mastery. Do not overpraise your children or tell them how brilliant they are! You are giving them false beliefs in your words. we need to be mindful of our strengths and weaknesses and optimize them. with as many as sixteen personality types. Don’t give them false feedback. This relates to the first quadrant of the Strategic Change Cycle. and all the elements that ultimately lower standards. The goal is to show a real reflection of the work done and keep the student honest and therefore humble. It keeps us humble. This is why we need to know what we know and what we don’t know (Confucius). There are a minimum of four learning styles. school incentives. If we are to evolve or increase our potential in any way. is filled with pitfalls. the less he really knows. which transform into disciplined processes that guide us through these problem areas. In order to overcome our weaknesses and maintain the required balance and focus. we must be right. including the scaling system. They are not wise and will not achieve mastery until many years of learning and practice. Our psyche is made up of four key components where all “needs” should be met. Overconfidence leads to assumptions and wrong decisions. 32 .Peter Jennings become fact. This is why homeschooling outperforms school systems despite the lack of traditional structure. If we are to build up a sustainable advantage that can compete against the high work ethic of the orient. and creates an ever-inquiring thus open-to-learning mind. and foreign languages are good disciplines as they keep us real. Wrong! This is why the education structure. We assume that because we all agree on something. The best way to improve our learning capability is to MEganize. Conclusion: All in all we are fairly predictable creatures.
Part 2 Leverage Processes (MEganize) .
” then rationalize our information based on our set of values and beliefs (paradigm). ignoring or discounting even the most compelling evidence. Covey) This leads into understanding how we think. This leads to “operational” or symptomatic perspectives. and what we do leads to the results we get in our lives.” (S. According to Dr. Over time we convince ourselves of our belief system. Once defined. First Quadrant Drivers (Senge adapted) 34 . This is the only sustainable gateway to personal learning and growth. Process can be trained into the subconscious to leverage our thinking and learning capability. this represents how our thoughts are structured. Fig. We set up “filters. Peter Senge. it takes a major upset to revise our filter system and our belief structure. We need to accept that our thought process (subconscious programming) is defined early on in life. 4. This leads to fixed paradigms and of course the “boiled frog” syndrome.“The way we see leads to what we do.
But it doesn’t have to be that way if you define these structures for your children. This is why our public schools are proliferated with political groupthink. these structures are formed at an early age. These are the programs that define how we interpret information and how we make decisions. they have the leverage to guide their children to the right values. which defines their values and belief systems. 35 . The first quadrant of the Strategic Change Cycle is discussed in more depth in part 3. At an individual level. If the parents are dedicated enough.MEganize! The concept to grasp is that our thoughts are derived from systemic or generative structures. structures. and processes.
yet we have never been equipped to make them. There is a definite process to decision-making that is unnatural to us because of our instinctive preferences and social habits. as there are many pitfalls. 36 . have total control over our decisions. Companies and governments repeatedly go through the same unproductive decision-making process.Chapter 4 Decision-Making Our lives are full of decisions. The result is often disastrous. Unless we have studied and mastered this we will continue to risk destroying what we have spent our time and money on. we apply the least discipline to our decision-making. and as we. with the result that they either shoot from the hip or make no decisions at all. As individuals. our thinking style becomes a habit. more than any organization.
There are a number of meta-decision questions that should be asked. there is no effective decision process that is followed. Much like cycles can show the full cause and effect. Debating conflict is a non-team-based process. These are: a) Meta-decision This is a top-down perspective of the problem. Schoemaker). Most importantly. Common Paradigm Pitfalls (Based on Robbins. Both of these processes are “operational” by definition (see part 3). and outputs are often watered down to such a degree as to have no impact at all.MEganize! Fig. 5. In fact. no compromise can be reached. even though the situation might require urgent action. There are five distinct steps in strategic decision-making (Russo. the meta-decision should refer to the drivers that have leverage or maximum impact. but specific general ones are: ○○ What are the leverage points to this problem? ○○ Is it necessary to make a decision on this? 37 . studies have shown that this has the opposite effect. Russo. This does not produce strategic decisions. so nothing is done. where there is a winner and a loser. In many cases. The reason for this will become apparent in part 3. Senge adapted) An example of “control-think” decision-making is to implement gun control laws to curb violence.
We also don’t assess the potential risk or downside. How complex is it? How long will it take to master? What will the benefits be? How can you best define an output? Will it have a potential lifelong benefit? b) Framing Framing defines the perspectives from which you address the problem. Part of the educational focus must lie with identifying these relevant processes and applying them to the particular problem. Trading is in itself an excellent example of following a decision process. take the time to assess it. When deciding how best to educate your children. How many parents will admit that their child’s school is below par? Gathering intelligence is part of the learning process and an essential part of decision-making. when you embark on a new subject or topic. Quite often there will be a process or formula that can address a particular issue. solving the problem is confined to asking the right questions. Making investments is a good example.Peter Jennings ○○ How is it best to go about framing this decision? ○○ Who is best suited to work on setting this up? ○○ How does this problem relate to the bigger “cycle”? From a learning perspective. 38 . Usually. not convenience or hearsay. especially in issues of the heart. Often we make assumptions and frame our problem with the wrong perspective. Understanding cycles and fundamental solutions can help with this. c) Gathering intelligence This is the divergent phase referred to as “projects. believe what we want to believe.” Keys are to look for disconfirming evidence to overcome assumptions and overconfidence. where people are so confident in a stock they forget to think about the potential of a loss and where to cut it by using a trailing stop or stop loss. you need to establish the facts and make a decision based on reality. We often. if not always.
I believe that a CRM type of profile should be developed for students in assisting them on study paths. What seems obvious also is that we will take corrective action when we do get feedback. a good guideline is that around 70% of the time should go into the framing and gathering information (diverging). This is convergence and is the real work part. The current schooling system is lost in its bureaucratic analysis paralysis and unable to review the negative trend objectively. the “CRM” or “Customer Relationship Management” software has become a big focus. Also. there should be different “teams” used in the two main processes. This balance reduces the risk of rapid convergence. then extracting pertinent information that you need to know. This is the convergent part of the decision-making process. When looking at the decision-making process overall. It cannot be a one-for-all system where the growth of each individual is neglected. Sadly. We need to work on the whole process to build up our overall competence. while S types would control the converging or 39 . but converging is the S types’ forte.MEganize! d) Forming conclusions A systematic approach to coming to conclusions is better than using emotion and intuition. e) Learning from feedback One of the main defects in an operational mind-set is that we fail to look for feedback to confirm our decisions. and styles. N types have a problem with this. More recently. with the rest into the decision-making (converging). Apparently it is not.” All learning is a process of divergence in acquiring new knowledge (projects). It requires a different thinking style to be able to extract the relevant facts and formulate a conclusion. N types should dominate the divergent team. It is only in the last thirty to forty years that businesses have started to focus on customer relationships. learning issues. I believe that they have generally missed the boat in that the original concept was to produce meaningful feedback from customers for the purpose of learning about their preferences and whether their strategic marketing plan was working. This inability to make a decision is called a “paradigm gridlock. These two terms have been described in the first chapter and form part of our thinking style.
These happen in the first quadrant of the Strategic Change Cycle. Rowe and J. As part of the handover. some N’s from the divergent team should carry through to the final stage. 6. and structure. the learning process is in fact one of decision-making. Learning from feedback is the last but again strategic quadrant that we continuously ignore. Russo) In any school environment. He will spend a few minutes with you discussing your problem (symptoms) and decide on medication right there. The meta-decision is related to “vision. The doctor assumes that he is right. Forming conclusions happens in the third quadrant and is convergent by nature. these are never discussed in detail with you. Boulgarides’s Managerial Decision Making: Robbins. and most importantly the medical reps. just in a different context. Quite often the doctor will not even ask for additional tests. The process is the same.” while framing is usually culture oriented. If the tests do come back.Peter Jennings decision-making. values. Gathering intelligence is project related and happens in the second quadrant. There is little or no learning through feedback in the medical profession other than perhaps the science handed down by the universities. medical journals. He seldom asks for feedback about whether the medication works. The Learning Process (Based on A. Missing Feedback Consider your visits to your physician. when most 40 . Fig. It also is reflected in the Strategic Change Cycle (part 3).
Medication prescribed is usually no cure. because there is no solid proof showing their effectiveness. Schoenbaum. so the treatments being prescribed may actually harm you in another way—and possibly even more seriously. my children have had similar inconclusive experiences.S. take these tablets for the rest of your life! I fail to understand how they (medical practitioners) can demand such a premium of our hard-earned income. worries that “the majority of surgery we do for symptom relief is only effective because of the placebo effect—with significant potential of harming the patient” (Forbes. 2003). and I have yet to be “cured” of my ailments of high cholesterol and blood pressure. Stephen C. with a high-tech health-care system that costs the nation $2 trillion a year. research chief at the U. In fact. “According to Dr. And we assumed someone was in charge! It is all a matter of balance that must be ensured within the “structure. Dr.com. there is little or no evidence that many widely used treatments and procedures actually work. Hmmm . especially if it holds the answer to a more 41 . 27. although there are always exceptions. “We don’t have the evidence [that treatments work] and we are not investing very much in getting the evidence. When it applies to sickness other than treating infections. Business Week said that “even today. but they are not being recognized by “the system” for obvious reasons. .MEganize! of the time he is just treating symptoms. The bad thing about the medical health system is that there are cures. Aren’t you amazed that there is no form of guarantee that comes with their exorbitant fees? I believe it’s generally a collusive money-making racket. who has spent much of his controversial career proving that the practice of medicine is more conjectural than scientific. Natural medicine is not as profitable. just an alleviation of symptoms. com October 2006). or treatments your doctor recommends on faith alone. while N types prefer the natural path. My suspicions were confirmed. citing figures between 20 to 25 percent. Nelda Wray. surgeries. What a ticket! Here. most drugs have negative side effects. Eddy. Department of Veterans Affairs.” says the executive vice president of the Commonwealth Fund. Oct. Stated another way. Other doctors and health-care-quality experts who have endorsed Eddy’s work say the percentage of medical treatments that have been proven effective is shockingly low.” (theTrumpet.” The way I look at it is that traditional doctors are S type thinkers. only 15 percent of physicians’ decisions are supported by solid evidence. . so much for the FDA and the Hippocritical Oath. you must take the benefits of 75 to 80 percent of any medications. Dr. My main reasons for this opinion are that I have seen the difference they charge if you have medical insurance or not.” Most people would probably be shocked if they knew how many treatments have no scientific proof that they actually help patients.
bordering hypertension. and breathing was a bit tight. The cardiologist (after a five-minute consultation) told me to take 81 mg of aspirin daily. by the sounds of it. Then the penny dropped. I have had a few family experiences where traditional medicine has failed miserably and the natural approach produced amazing results. 195/110! I nearly fell off my chair. which I enjoyed daily. Within a few weeks. and did the ECG. These medical practitioners do not practice any learning by feedback and are content to prescribe by the book of symptoms (much like a pharmaceutical sales representative). I had also acquired an espresso machine.” right? They took my details down. and it pointed to a gastric problem. I found a natural medicine site that talked about a “fundamental solution. My most recent experience will give you an example. It was the most impressive medical report that I have ever seen. Anyway.” That was enough for me.Peter Jennings fundamental treatment! Common diet is one of the leading issues in disease control and even cure. then go for a nuclear stress test in a few weeks and come back to see him. caffeinated. I had an annual checkup. The leading question now is whether these costs will be covered by our medical insurance. I sent off some samples and got a full physical evaluation by using diagnostic equipment. which was putting pressure on my circulatory system. my blood pressure was down to 140/85. I thought I was in for a heart attack. I went on a detox program and cut out the caffeine. By using a proper decision process. I cancelled my further appointments and got off the aspirin. I was suffering from an overdose of caffeine! My system was in a state of shock. About six months later. and it clocked around 150/90. My first thought was to go to a local practitioner. so I ended up at the cardiologist. Within days (after some withdrawal headaches) I was back to normal. try to get a personal reference and do this first. I was eating healthily. only a little science. Since late last year. took my blood pressure. Everything looked fine. I was drinking about six large cups of tea a day. but if you use due diligence. this doctor was able to make an accurate diagnosis. It didn’t. so I thought that it would improve. After doing some research. I know that sounds harsh and that the medical profession 42 . Traditional medicine is all a groupthink mind-set based on poor decision-making skills and. This is not to say that all natural remedies will work. I checked my blood pressure levels at the local Kroger store. An aspirin a day I heard could have serious side effects. I thought I would get a second opinion. See a “specialist. there is a good probability you will have greater success with certain “dis-eases. If there seems to be a reputable natural solution.” My advice is to keep an open mind and go through the decision process. but fortunately they were unavailable. I had been getting mild discomfort in my chest. My blood pressure had been going up fairly consistently over the past few years.
the old school system is fast becoming redundant as a learning center. If the decision-making (or learning) is based on a proper process. Overconfidence can make us think that we have all the answers. Give them a 44 . if you pay attention. it will be more reliable than gut feel or emotional flail. Then double the answer. Subtract 6 from it. there is choice in everything we do. This realization can be profound. This is when mistakes are made. This is dealt with under Systemic Issues in part 3. This is common when we hold an important position. even some research. The benefit of being able to pursue some different interests is that it will indicate their preferences and. I don’t know what your age is. “I’m not happy with this aspect of my life. and that’s how old you are! As part of the information-gathering process (chapter 2). Make it count! If you stop to think. goal-setting will change your life. so use it or lose it. This is what this book is about. then do. Process versus emotional assumption “The key issue isn’t getting the right facts. can direct you toward preparing for their best career options. We can choose how we learn as well. but suffice it to say for now. Add 3 to the result. but I can calculate it for you with some help. In learning. Take the first digit of your age and multiply it by 5.Peter Jennings free! With sites like this. but challenging the right assumptions. but this defines what output we can derive for our twelve or so years of learning. If you’re on a treadmill and want to get off it. there is no reason they should not succeed. Ego. It is a privilege. ii. It may take some initiative. we need to remain humble. and time limitations can lead us to taking shortcuts and making assumptions on which we base our opinion or decision. Add the second digit of your age to the result. One of my mantras is “think. This leads to the important process of goal-setting. If your choices are made with the right principles and values in mind. it is important to be realistic about how you build your decision. peer pressure. The story about the cardiologist comes to mind.” and you start thinking. Making the wrong assumptions about the true cause of a problem will lead to a wrong decision.” (Russo) An old math trick is a nice way to illustrate the power of process. Suddenly you think to yourself. or there is no one to challenge us. It has to be realistic (but not too realistic). but how many children are misdiagnosed with ADD? That has become an easy category to place children with different learning styles.” Choice is part of the thinking stage. make a choice.
We took the time. We only learned symptomatically. always look for. Remember that groupthink or paradigms exist at national levels. Ask any novice investor! In a schooling environment. but it doesn’t bring about change.” but when tested we fail miserably? We are prone to project what we think we can do based on what we have done. The head of the home has the power to set the tone and pace. Symptomatic learning gives all the appearances of the process. Instinct and emotion are the roads to despair. Senge talks about this in depth. How often do we think “I know this. did the listening and repetition. What we want to avoid is symptomatic learning. Why not? Because we did not complete the learning cycle. Could we speak Mandarin at the end of it? Of course not. minimizing the risk of emotional or instinctive reaction. It is based on recent occurrences. iii. so he will get them from somewhere. This is commonly called anchoring. and completed the course.” This is simple overconfidence. Why not? I have heard it adds to the schools’ income from ADD subsidies! So the answer here is to look for a process that works and use it. Fundamental versus symptomatic Most often we look to previous experiences and instinctively make assumptions based on this. and they are seldom to your advantage. especially during the MEganizing stage. We recently spent many months working on a Mandarin program. which we then associate as being the “problem. The child needs these mental models. this will become second nature and optimize your productivity for life! Processes increase our output and our intelligence. This is a fundamental problem with our schooling process and is explained in detail in parts 3 and 4. largely because of the media and the leadership of government and controlling bodies. Let it rather be from you. School and learning itself must be a process. and apply the process. learn. but by applying specific processes over a period of time. This is why 45 . These are just political manipulations of your mind. we did that stuff. Here is an example.” These are symptomatic solutions and are doomed to fail. They define the mental models. to define the values and mental models that the child will use for his life. It facilitates an additional level of thinking in background mode. This ability to define mental models is true of any leadership situation. “Sure. especially in a family. It is far better to use a poor process than no process. Facts cannot produce change. which infiltrate society at every opportunity. and reference has been made to this concept already.MEganize! symptomatic solution and damage the children’s potential.
Covey refers to the “what you sow you will reap” principle. or at least limit them. and more so in larger 46 . If we believe. or if these occur over an extended period. and refined sugars are prime disease contributors and that excess caffeine can result in a heart attack. Understanding cycles helps to see the whole picture. the strategic definition of values. with you as parents and the choices you make for your children. but the real meaning is that it is a natural rule. I believe that most of us will do the right thing if we understand what that is. there can be no correlated feedback. This leads to the metaphor of the “boiled frog” syndrome. does not detect the slow change in temperature until it is too late. Cycles. . “The boiling frog story is generally told in a metaphorical context. but when we don’t experience the consequences of many of our decisions. customs. all of which go into making a paradigm. The word can be used in different contexts. you will not get paid (or do you?). don’t expect crops. with the upshot being that people should make themselves aware of gradual change lest they suffer eventual undesirable consequences.” (Wikipedia. . and thus no learning” (Senge paraphrased). thinking that we can get around them. It usually starts in the first quadrant of the Strategic Change Cycle. wouldn’t you? iv. We know that. Another term for this human tendency is the “normalcy bias. principles are basic truths that are hold for everyone. you won’t get work. The funny part is that we have been trying to manipulate these principles. It is a good illustration of how we do not see. Cycles are discussed in depth under Systemic Issues in part 3. beliefs. If you don’t sow seed. It’s like finding out that an excess of dairy products. If you don’t want to work. don’t you? If you understand that if you make simple changes you can secure a better education for your children.” This applies to all of us as individuals. where you can change the situation and where the fundamental problem exists. When you join the dots. it becomes easier to identify the areas of leverage. You change because it’s the right thing to do. principles “The most powerful learning comes from direct experience . processed grains. over time. We don’t join the dots between cause and effect. The frog. you would do them. like gravity. If you do not learn. You give them up. or remember the facts. but we look to a more recent occurrence. It is important to understand what a principle is. when placed in water that is gradually heated.org). our values can change. This is a definite natural law.Peter Jennings fundamental change starts in your home.
Why? Because we make decisions based on our “normal” experiences and don’t think strategically. this slow deterioration is slipping under the radar. or should I say here. directly and indirectly. Only 20% of the Jews left Germany before it all went bad. I doubt whether anyone has sought to fix it either. No one is taking this problem seriously. Even though all the evidence was there. and then over time. Even though our lives are dedicated to our children. We make many decisions or laws. as the situation deteriorates as a result.MEganize! organizations and government bodies. I don’t believe that we can ever truly manage these variables or try to analyze the what-ifs over time. Look at our education system as a prime example. Situations deteriorate as a result of the control paradigm—think Germany before World War II—and few of us actually see the writing on the wall. in this book. 47 . the majority didn’t believe it would ever happen. we wonder why or how this happened. But the solution is there.
If we do not. where skills and knowledge are abundant. This is the engine of a country and virtually ensures prosperity. So in the bigger picture. It is providing suitable skills that will enable the child to compete and thrive as an adult. This brings economic growth to the country and increases the welfare of all. What should we learn? With the almost instant availability of facts (not understanding). Why should we learn? Innovation and productivity are driven by intellectual capital. There are only two positive ways to do this: through innovation and productivity.Chapter 5 Learning What is the desired outcome of education? Education should be measured by the skills and abilities (change) that are imparted. Our society has evolved into a world economy. the need to learn an abundance of these is unnecessary. Key to our growth (and survival) will be to be able to complete. we feel unfulfilled and never achieve true happiness. learning brings happiness through personal fulfillment. which leverage a child’s potential for success. adding value to society. We are all given capabilities or gifts. It is our purpose to find out what they are and to use them. Both require high levels of 48 .
” It is only once we understand what we should learn that we can address our optimization. What skills do they possess that are not taught. It is how these are managed to the advantage of the country that creates our sustainable advantage. Both are outcome oriented. These may be exceptions. Senge wrote. These then define the direction for the future. This is seldom a good strategy. I believe that we will see just how readily systems citizenship develops. systems based education system. The truth is that schools don’t really teach anything except how to obey orders. “If we can succeed in moving toward a learner-centered. China has undoubtedly defeated the rest of the world in excellence in low-cost manufacture. How best do we optimize our capability? Dr. So what is our core competence and how can we avoid the LCD adjustment? 1. and many now come with political agendas. It now has a dominant market share. Gatto) 49 . but not in my experience. and how ineffectual the traditional classroom. Each country has its core skill sets or capabilities. if we wish to go head to head. we can stay ahead of the pack. However. Objectives Education One of the paradoxes I have found is that many successful business owners didn’t go to university or college. No one believes anymore that scientists are trained in science classes or politicians in civics classes or poets in English classes.” ( J. teacher centric model of learning actually is. and how can we optimize this within our schooling system? Beware that universities are not a panacea! They are also part of the structure we have inherited. It has created the lowest common denominator (LCD) against which we will need to compete. This may be a natural consequence of globalization to an extent. This is not quite what you intended as an education or wanted to pay for! “I’ve noticed a fascinating phenomenon in my 30 years of teaching: schools and schooling are increasingly irrelevant to the great enterprises. and we would have to reduce our standard of living (wages) to compete.MEganize! skill sets.
so should education. ¾¾ Learning must be output and/or skills related. these should be checked to ensure the correct understanding before being transferred to routine where the change becomes permanent through ongoing revision for a few months. This can be skill based. can be addressed more efficiently by practicing the learning skills with speed reading process. for example. We need to be able to recognize what principles. Learning is a process that we have ignored. and comprehension improved. the principles and process confirmed and worked through. Literature. we can quickly establish what subjects should get priority. our learning will fail to produce the required results. The throughput should be greater. I believe that a lot of the fuzzy stuff we should pick up along the way. there needs to be a concrete objective. If we skip any of these. but the emphasis should be on how we solve problems. processes.Peter Jennings Process When we look at a focus on skills and output from a top-down perspective. In goal-setting. The main concepts of this cycle are as follows: ¾¾ Learning must produce change. but this should not be the focus. or formulae can be applied in which situation. When the initial concept is understood. The Learning Cycle The Learning Cycle clearly shows that there are four quadrants to learning. ¾¾ The four phases of learning should be managed as a project. 50 .
This of course is the prime focus of going to school. Our paradigms of teaching go back centuries and have never been challenged. This implies a need or purpose for the knowledge. Understand the Process Learning must always start with the first quadrant. Now would be a good time to do this. Only if we learn with a perspective can there be any output. 7. combined with personal experience: 51 . Casual learning is different and happens by experience. How to learn! We are never really taught how to learn. The Learning Cycle 2.MEganize! Fig. Amazing! Because of this “no process” approach. we need to review how we learn and what we learn. These are some of the highlights proposed by some of the teaching gurus. yet no one ever thought of teaching us the process of learning.
Association—e.1415826 uses number translation technique with just a simple easy-to-recall sentence. not your eyes. Work to a routine that focuses on your goals. and to-do’s. Set long-term goals. Doing so guides daily decisions and keeps you motivated and focused.Peter Jennings These are the best learning tips I can offer: � Define and work toward your goals. then break them down to short-term milestones. 52 . then make sure that you produce an output. Avoid clutter. Plan your time. Refer. Goals must be written down. Build them into your priority routine items. Prioritize your non-routine tasks after you have done your routine. Be specific. social vs. Make sure your overall goals are balanced: Academic vs. Biv. This is another MEganize process. Make sure that you hit your goal list daily. colors of the rainbow = Roy G. KISS. Keep an (one) Anki notebook (or permanent binder per subject if you want to store paper) on your desk. Goals must be achievable and measurable. Remember to practice TRAF (Toss/trash. spiritual vs. The value of pi=May I have a large container of coffee=3. This is usually a summary ready for Anki input. resulting in the operational completion. Either show me a worksheet that you have worked on. Keep the main thing the main thing. but not completing the cycle. Routine always gets done first. Have a place for everything. family.. If you are learning. � Practice memorization skills. Simple systems are essential. Know how you are going to commit your time. and keep it there. Learning is practice. Plan/record all important dates and occasions. projects. or your Anki update. exercise vs. Transfer summaries out of this to Anki. File).g. Use this to remind you of deadlines. Keep an or(e)ganizer/calendar. This is the handover to routine that is often missed. � Get organized. then projects. hobbies vs. Concentration—see with your brain. Action.
1 lb = 4. you will spend your time looking for misplaced items. Use your senses when learning. The house or peg memory system (500 BC) is the method used by most scholars of old. Memory techniques will improve your retention and speed. Stay ahead of the game.45 after school. Use as many senses as you can. A good rule is to have a quiet area for focus subjects (math. but do the same thing in the same place every day. which is self-reinforcing.e. Make study time a priority. Have a set time/routine to study per subject. you will be treated better and be happier. By being successful. otherwise. Create pictures in your mind and link them (the link system). Be disciplined about this.. Don’t try to converge and then diverge at the same time! These are separate thinking styles. when. Be specific about what. Keep it fit. Memory is a muscle. and where you study. “A change is as good as a holiday” applies to where the children work.” i. then take a quick break for five. Remember that these skills are largely to help get it down or organized in your mind. discussion subjects) Use best processes. Anki or using the process of repetition is the routine practice that makes it part of you. then work again for twenty to thirty. When you study. Create your cycle of success. science. Speed reading will help manage your time and increase your productivity. Work for twenty to thirty minutes.MEganize! “You are going to pound a boy called Newton at 4. This means no distractions like TV. toys to fidget with. You still need to practice it to get it into your subconscious brain. Tips: 1. � Work to a process. You will probably forget your pegs after a while. Learn to skim. Keep them moving between lessons. music.45 newtons Make outrageous images. This 53 . Stick to it. Anki) and a common room for more social activities (music. either make notes or highlight or verbalize what you are learning. Reading by itself is passive and unproductive. Work actively.
This is largely why schools used to be split. � “Wrap it up and take it home. Get started on time. 4. Summaries are a way of defining for your brain exactly what you must know. Once you start. 54 . who tend to be kinesthetic (E).” Usually. Learn from your mistakes. Review your tests and rework the wrong answers. Review these files on a routine basis to ensure retention. the best way is to get someone to look at it for you. There are a number of models to use to get a frame of their best learning style or personality. and reflecting (I). Don’t look for a good score and move on. Use it or lose it. It’s like weeding. This often relates differently to boys. One of the common problems is incomplete work. This is the feedback you want. like a pseudo marking or evaluation.Peter Jennings will optimize your periods of alertness. it goes quickly. Create a sense of reality before you make a final decision. Routine builds power and excellence. the more you focus and absorb. When you are researching or reading. Keep key data in a memory bank. Don’t let yourself get up for any reason! 2. This is practicing the strategic stage of feedback! Everyone has a different learning style. This is also a great decision-making tool. The journey of one thousand steps begins with the first. Always make a list of objectives for the day/lesson and follow it. versus girls. discussing. (Anki or Memory Lifter are good tools to give you realistic feedback.” (Paul Geissen) Don’t forget to converge. The more involved you are. Weeds always looker bigger than they are. This means accomplishing routine items.) Learn from feedback. This is the lesson of kung fu. After this. and is a strong argument in itself. but pull out easily. Do “quick wins” first. This is taken from your summaries. Then “Anki” it. Work with a purpose. Find your child’s best mode and use it wherever possible. We like to feel that we are finished when we are not. make notes. mainly from poor convergent skills. The best way to finalize this is to give it a “point of reality. who prefer reading. 3. Practice makes perfect. Keep it real. you can work on the important projects.
By establishing a routine. ○○ Science—learn the main industrial chemical processes that are used today. Smelting. music—start off by copying an expert. over time you will improve your technique and get into a rhythm that starts to feel good. Read it. ○○ Investing—find a few reliable resources and take the best information from them. 55 . etc).” This is what he is talking about. You can do the same for your kids. Bootstrapping eliminates the noise. and retains the core wisdom of the human expert. Here are some examples of where you can use this: ○○ Speed reading. not only in running a marathon. you will achieve nothing. Don’t start at the bottom if you don’t have to. Keep your goals clear. summarize it. This is what has made China what it is today. Structure first. but then it becomes who you are. Rhythm is like a long-distance runner. Before you know it. product. From the time he puts on his running shoes every day. fractional distillation. stay focused on your routine.” It takes time. memory training—go straight to an expert’s book. and then use that to outperform or improve on. and electrolysis come to mind. but in his lifestyle of training as well. you must become. These are some factors to consider in applying your routine. and work it. ○○ Art. you seek to build a model of an expert using their intuitive predictions (or process. “In bootstrapping. and copy their best attributes. Moreover it produces a standard procedure for judgment” (Russo).MEganize! Get into a rhythm. he develops rhythm. Covey refers to “keeping first things first. and then make variations. The structure will help you learn quickly. If you flit around. These should be learned well. improve on them. This is a top-down approach. skill. you have accomplished a lot without much effort at all. ○○ Education—look at countries that are achieving excellence in education. as much of our economy revolves around these simple chemical processes. and make them for less in a few months. fermentation. We need to establish a healthy balanced routine in our child’s life from an early age. Gary Player once said that “before you can be. They take innovations from the West that took years and millions to develop. All you want to do is to learn the process. Teaching tips: ¾¾ Use bootstrapping.
(Excuse the pun. ¾¾ Multilevel. and EQ. world countries. ○○ Children’s memory is strong when young. sequential. output oriented. yy Sensors are more logical. and foreign languages. The balance and power bases are the same. skills orientation. This includes the table of elements. Even if they do not understand. yy The extrovert wants attention all the time (looks for things with his mouth). This includes the child’s learning style. rah recognition than introverts.) ○○ The two relevant Myers-Briggs types are: � Introvert versus Extrovert. This is an extension of the top-down approach. etc. They need more rah. yy iNtuitives are more abstract puzzle solvers and divergent. they can learn much of the structures around which knowledge revolves. practical people. They are more boisterous. Your child then learns a principle. MBTI. problem-solving. ○○ Try to apply a core process to a range of applications. financial formulae and equations. ¾¾ Gear to child’s capabilities. which he can use elsewhere. yy Introverts will be inclined to learn better by themselves. multifunction approach. � An example is to link the balance and movement of tai chi and/or karate with tennis and soccer. IQ. � Sensing versus iNtuitive. 56 . interests. Don’t waste their time on learning historical facts! ○○ Boys are more active and less inclined to learn than girls.Peter Jennings ○○ Use principles and processes that you know and apply them to life situations: decision-making.
� When learning to read. It is usually better to work a few samples repetitively to learn the process than doing many examples. ◦ Learn. laws. but it must be done. ¾¾ Kung fu: Excellence with humility ◦ Overcome restlessness. and in so doing we learn very little. Their eyes will subconsciously read while listening. The word curse is thereby design). 57 . � Apply the 3-4-5 principles to solving personal problems or to direct behavior. focus on the drivers. and use for a lifetime. and spelling. ¾¾ Important areas: 80:20 rule ○ Many subjects are based on concepts. or even to projects. Understand the process first then go and practice it. � Another is to use subtitles in the children’s movies. Your teaching “management” revolves around applying these. ¾¾ Less is more: Know what you know. This will improve their reading. get them to play a game where they have to read. vocab. ○○ Instead of trying to learn a lot of facts. ○ We try to learn too much.MEganize! � Use the Strategic Learning Cycle and the Strategic Change Cycle to analyze or categorize historical changes or analyze economic problems. Spend 80% of the time working on these. Know them well. Work on the basics over and over until you can do or speak about them with confidence. probably less. Low effort. and meditate on the 3-4-5 maxims. and even watch a favorite in a foreign language after a few repetitions. Help your children to extract key information to learn in the early years. Your brain will recall the English. This creates a clear structure to follow. and principles. These comprise the core to the knowledge and around 20% of the content. high output. This is multifunctional learning through experience. (I have no solution for cursive handwriting. learn. repeat daily.
If we understand the process. we lose some of that fear of the unknown. The Project Learning Process (Based on Eddie Obeng’s Project Classification) 58 .Chapter 6 Change We all dislike change. It is a simple process. which in turn will transfer it to our subconscious brain function. 8. 1) Change Process Fig. This diagram shows the project change process. or should. Learning is essentially a change process of starting in the “fog” and working through the stages until we can do it “by numbers.” This implies a transfer to routine. but we often get waylaid or take shortcuts. until we look at how instinctively we react. All learning goes through this project or decision process.
and get new ideas. “Paint by numbers” is the final stage. This is the essential balance that is required in learning. The first step is to have a plan to get out of the fog. Marriage is said to be the attraction of opposites. Consider the “fog” stage. It is more structured and operational. Each person will naturally develop a thinking style preference based on their exposure. “monkey see monkey do. 59 . Convergent thinking is required as well as creativity. marriage. Repetition of learning is part of this change process. Over time this will happen instinctively or at a subconscious level. while divergers (N) are reluctant to converge. even though they might not be sure how. Convergers (S) are reluctant to diverge. where the process and skills are in place and performance is done quickly. and life.” Structure first: copy or learn from your teacher/mentor/parent. which is where you are now and where your child is when he/she is born. This leads to a bias. which focuses on how to do it. and so production is merely a matter of using the given process and putting it into practice. It is the creation of a “project” environment where ideas can freely assess which are the better options. This “Quest” portion requires a different skill set that is more focused and skills oriented. The aim should be to teach and practice the process whereby all thinking styles are included so as to minimize the bias. We can also never get to the next step. All learning and decision-making follows this process. My experience has been that we instinctively know which of these two we are and look for the other to complement us. research new material. resulting in no learning or action. All new projects are divergent. business. Sometimes we can get sidetracked and forget our purpose. Both play a part in learning. where the leaders establish what has to be done. In working to a “structure. as they are the only source of reference. Converging is the process of summarizing material and working examples. We have to look for references. Each stage should be a milestone. Decision-making skills are critical here to avoid the many pitfalls we are prone to.MEganize! This simple model is effective in understanding how learning works and how learning relates to the strategic change model.” you build in a balanced learning process and excellence. Knowing what to do is the next step. This is how he/she gets a grasp on concepts. We should be able to learn how to flip-flop between the two by choosing and then focusing on the right process. This again requires a skill set that that is convergent and action oriented. The main difference is divergent (N) versus convergent (S) thinking skills. and in life. we move on to the “Movie” stage. Once we know what to do and understand the concepts. The baby mimics the parents.
Peter Jennings Why is this important? In order to think strategically. 2) Creative tension This is a term used by Pascale and Senge. As a parent and teacher. true. The last and critical part is to use this information until you know it (Paint by numbers). seeking relevant information from a few select sources (Quest). The first step is the meta-decision. Call them what you like. as you need to for your child’s education. This is a principle in contrast to our illusion-based control paradigms. i. it will be correctly understood and the results will be as we expect. This should be a balance between creating an exciting but challenging environment with a culture of agreed norms. The irony of the old-school rules and government laws are the same. Children need rules and structure for a secure positive environment. Keep them stretching. It is impossible to motivate children based on some distant possibility of happiness. Routine becomes a guideline. you need to be aware of approaching subject learning in a similar manner. Only once that is complete do you move on to the convergent closing of the learning loop by summarizing key points.. Rule aversion Notice how you flinch at the term rule. Rules and routine are also four-letter words to them. or a top-down perspective (fog). Then you must go through a divergent process. The culture in a homeschool is complex as you are acting in a number of roles. the goals and enthusiasm toward achieving those defined goals must be kept in the forefront. if ever. You need to maintain that creative tension in your children. There are times to push and times to relax. It’s like a running program. run for a while. This is seldom. Walk for a while. they are critical to providing a structure from which to grow. You cannot enforce a strict program with children.e. rules become a positive culture. bearing in mind that our brains can only do one thing at a time. It refers to the desire to get to where the vision or goal is and the motivation to get there. However. We have become so rule averse because our society is driven by rules from all directions. We believe that if we say something. you need to apply this process. you are posed with a “fog” situation and need to know what and how. Now is a priority for them. you cannot control people from a distance. Control must come from within at the lowest level. How much worse does this get at higher levels? 60 . entering them into knowledge-base (k-base) (Movie). This is where paradox must come into play. then rest. Even more importantly. This is creative tension. and even at an arm’s length is hard. Miscommunication often occurs in the closest relationships.
to diverge. Stick to it. These are some rules to ensure a balance: � Minimize change or intervention. The guideline is that you have designed the routine based on sound principles and that you achieve your goals by following the routine. the culture will be accepted. 4. 1. projects.e. Work toward a goal or purpose. then what is the point? Learning thus requires four steps. Keep him/her informed. We need to learn the rules before we play a sport. and act on them. and decision-making. � Plan change using long-term goals. Learning is a strategic building process where today’s foundation become tomorrow’s mansion. As previously stated. This defines what to do. 2. The outcome should be to change our approach to problem-solving. the letters before we read. personal interaction. use them. Effect the change. this translates into your role as a facilitator. to swop subjects around. Take action to produce an output. Once this is established. Less is more. learn them. Learn how you can continue to improve by real feedback. Change is disruptive. but more a built-in structure to accommodate change. Change Learning is a process of change. 3. If we do not change as a result of learning. Practically. Simplify them. Research as to how best to achieve this. This builds character and teaches them to do what you should rather than what you feel like from an early age. This is the process. Manage expectations. but 61 . i. Your child doesn’t like surprises. This does not mean a lack of structure.MEganize! The only way to define the rules properly is to establish the right culture and values from an early age. Build structure into your learning. a paradox of life is that our routine needs to incorporate change. � Structure before diversity. You must have a goal before you can act on it.. Structure is the generative basis from which your child will grow. Learn the process and laws or rules involved. Get the basics down first. Children will always look to change the routine. The 3-4-5 maxims are the foundation for this (part 3). The objective of learning is to increase our understanding through memorization of key facts and processes. Proper training should change our brains to operate on a higher plain. Don’t change for the sake of change. internalize it.
Bargaining. Values and beliefs are the most difficult to change. These have been programmed at an early age and form the basis of our reasoning. Anger (I’m not doing this. even with convincing facts. 4. In order to implement the change. This is why it is imperative to get these two issues clear from the beginning of a child’s life. it is more readily acceptable. as this is distracting and confusing. This process is similar to the one proposed for learning. If there is a gap here. This is an emotional response and will vary. The principles and approach are the same. Do not change for the sake of change.Peter Jennings know what you know. 62 . and handed over properly to operations.) 5. Continuous or incremental change is based on this principle. there must be a clear communication of the vision and values behind the change. clarified by the implementors (projects). These are the stages you need to manage to get through it: 1. The key? Hold on to your vision and values. It’s too hard. culture. Acceptance 3) Resistance to Change There are a few levels of resistance that need to be addressed in order to accept the change. Beware of too much diversity or detail. Projects (change) must be implemented on a staged and controlled basis. Vision and culture must be communicated and reinforced throughout. What’s the point?) 3. I’ll try it. This can be ongoing and result in backsliding. Change must be minimized (simplified) by the strategists. People resist change. Major change must be in line with existing vision. These are usually substantial. and structure. Denial (It’s not in my routine. Other kids don’t do this!) 2. Depression (Okay. This translates into strategic thinking (to incorporate change) and operational thinking (to incorporate routine). Strategic change occurs as changes to the first quadrant. Each project or change introduced will be met with resistance. This ties in with the learning approach through routine. The operational perspective on change is that it should be minimized. the risk of failure increases substantially. using the same method (Anki or similar) to review and practice recall. The need for a change culture should be built into the program and mission statement. If change is in line with the individual’s beliefs and values. Many projects have failed due to these factors.
A loss of trust or betrayal can be significant in a child’s life. Changing course in life is acceptable if we are continuing in pursuit of our vision and goals. but it requires emphasis on the first quadrant of the Strategic Change Cycle (part 3). and invariably the motivation for working for a specific company is lost if our vision in that company changes. That said. the right culture and values. continuous changes to their routine will also lose your credibility. It is a simple concept. it will never be accepted. then we need to provide a structure that offers optimal support to meeting these goals. This reduces the fear of change and the reactive negative emotions involved. unfreeze. we can see similarities and cover a range of disciplines using the same process. refreeze” when making major changes. include change into their routine. If you feel that you have made a mistake in your approach and want to change the way you do things. If we have a clear strategic vision. This book will hopefully give you an edge on that. In the children’s mind. Just as we don’t like leaders that flip-flop all over the place. This is the reason that the predominant number of mergers and acquisitions fail. They get confused and lose their trust in their leader. constant changing of rules is very disconcerting. use Lewin’s three-step change model: “freeze. We all know what it’s like to be promised a bonus and then not get one. First. especially if these changes include their values and belief systems that they have been taught. For children. we all experience changes that are beyond our circumstances. 63 . a good time for the refreeze is after a vacation. On a smaller scale. manage their expectations. or necessary as part of daily life. This way we can determine true principles and apply a grand-scale learning approach. There are two rules for this. Second. This is “simplicity beyond complexity” (Covey). Learning is one of these. neither do they. Be gentle about giving the children notice as to what to expect. Cultures are different. 4) Managing change Change should be productive. If change contradicts our first quadrant. These situations can be hard to accept and results in substantial fallout.MEganize! Why should we use different processes for each discipline? By applying a top-down perspective. but you may want to read it up. Be consistent and keep your word.
for now. 64 . sick. Let me walk you through it. If you are trying to lead a horse (donkey?) and it refuses to budge. Are you in a strange environment? Check for overtired. MEganize your response. Look at the bigger picture. Minimize your pressure. Step 2. If they push through. give praise and recognition! � Fear? (I can’t do it!) Usually. When did they last get any recognition? Have you been distracted? Focus on the now situation as above using either diversion or assurance to solve the problem.” So often we get wrapped up in what’s wrong. Go through a decision process. Have a 1-2-3 process that you work through when you meet resistance. diaper.Peter Jennings In the heat of the moment There will be times when your children hit a wall. Step 1. This is their position. Use the art of distraction. but the show must go on. Step 3. instead of being proactive in trying to find a solution.” Encourage them to ask for your help. you will teach them how best to manage it and overcome any negative resistance. Pressure always meets with resistance. Instilling this simple mind-set will change your child’s outlook for life. By setting your children up to understand change and including it on a planned basis into your routine. hungry. “I can’t do it” should meet with your “Sure you can. � Resistance? (I won’t do it!) Their little minds can get into a loop. thirsty. Let them ask you questions or you play the game to see what you score. Divert it. There could be a number of environmental reasons. One of my mantras is “focus on the solution. then come back to it. try a carrot. So what do you do? These are some options. Sometimes small problems seem impossible and they react in fear or anxiety. or even better do something else for a bit and come back to it. what works is just to sit and work through it with them. Role reversal also helps.
we can train our subconscious to add an additional level in background mode to process that information based on best principles and practice. He is also homeschooled. These are not necessarily gifted children but rather just focused on the right direction. This is an added level of thought process that exercises the brain in coping with variables. have shown their superior intellectual capability. Our neighbor’s son. There are a number of examples where children. I developed a similar game using foreign languages. “He could 65 . Kim Peek. what is helium multiplied by tungsten? Quite amazing for a ten-year-old who worked this out on his own. Speed reading merely utilizes the speed of our eyes and brain effectively and is purely technique. both directly and indirectly. Sometimes he will do arithmetic using the chemical elements (transposing) instead of using numbers. He knows his chemical elements so well that he refers to them by their atomic numbers. the savant that inspired the movie Rain Man. is very interested in science and collects chemical elements as a hobby. I recently found a really good and original example of MEganizing.Chapter 7 MEganized Leverage What is MEganizing? There are many ways to MEganize the brain. a friend of my daughter. given the opportunity. For example. By focusing on specific processes. The subjects contained in this chapter are known to directly improve our capability to process information efficiently mainly through either translation or transposition. There are cases of people with brain damage or abnormalities that have been able to perform amazing skills. had nine thousand books entirely committed to memory.
These are two different rhythms and are very difficult to do at once.Peter Jennings speed through a book in about an hour and remember almost everything he had read. and how to work a computer.e. without any real teaching. basic reading. There is no reason why they cannot continue to learn at this pace to the next level. This also sends a negative message. So what should the next level be? One of our weaknesses is that we react both emotionally and instinctively to situations. Two hands playing different notes. memorizing vast amounts of information in subjects ranging from history and literature.org). general communication and survival skills. It is the subconscious mind that is able to process information at lightning speed with great accuracy. Paul McCartney and Phil Collins manage to keep the beat on bass or drums while singing. playing lead guitar and singing.. This is the power of our subconscious. Our schooling totally ignores the training of our subconscious. Once children have gone through the enormous learning curve of learning the alphabet. all in the first five to six years. “It’s too hard.” or “Who cares?” and that becomes the culture. seldom making mistakes during these complex procedures. This is where the real growth and change resides. to avoid work. without looking at the notes.” This symptomatic reaction ignores any reasoning or process that has been undertaken to solve similar problems. It is the development of neural pathways or highways to manage the situation efficiently without conscious thought. Learning is a privilege and fun. i. At school we start thinking. 66 . ugh. The punishment should rather be isolation (not cruelty!) for a while. How is this possible? The answer is of course practice. but this is where the powerhouse is. but it goes deeper than that. creating a breaking system and mental blocks to learning. Many negative suggestions influence our thoughts and attitude. basic arithmetic. My reasoning is that all this learning happened before they got to the school environment. music and dates” (Wikipedia. often to the tune of the “herd. at least one language. geography and numbers to sports. I am always amazed to see musicians perform without so much as looking at their instrument or making a mistake. Eric Clapton at sixty-four sounded better on stage at his age than I have ever heard him. there is a sudden shift in gear to slow. Sportsmen are able to perform amazing shots or passes in the face of strong competition and fatigue. Our instinct is to “punish” our children by giving them extra schoolwork. as it is hard to test and a challenge to develop. Doctors perform operations while working long hours.” or “That’s schoolwork. These examples give us insight into the potential power of our brain.
There are a few reasons why it is good to start early with definitive subjects like music (transposition) and foreign languages (translation). First, it shows the standard of excellence required clearly. Also, it teaches us how to go about the process of learning. Lastly, and usually in a short space of time, it gives us the confidence of undertaking a new project by being able to deliver a final product. Of course, this is also the time when the child is eager to learn new things. Training our children to harness some of this “super brain power” is what I call MEganizing. It is the next crucial step in our children’s development that has been totally ignored. Another facet to this is learning to “focus on the process.” This reduces any stress on the subject matter, which should be learned almost by coincidence. This “double loop” cognition process will enhance our overall speed and facilitate our learning faster and better. These are split into two skill types.
This concept has been marketed but has little scientific backing. Nevertheless, I believe that thoughts and opinions are processed by exposure. There are certain mindsets that you would want your child to learn as a foundation. They include: • Faith (Meaning and values). There are many Christian song CDs that sing about the Bible and God’s word. Children love them. Youth ministries are also great to get into. All this sets their minds in the right direction and is core to their long-term performance and structure. • Hope (Stories of kindness and temperance). Fairy stories are good for this. Rituals like the tooth fairy, Easter eggs, and of course Christmas all make up a hope that lasts. The best hope of course comes from a stable, loving family. They all gear us to our faith in God through the hope of and belief in eternal life. • Perseverance (I think I can). The story of the little train that could is out on DVD. The book is best, but so is repetition. Try to establish this in their daily activities. This may only seem like a story, but my point is that teaching simple thoughts lays down a track that will then become self-directing. This is the power of values. There are other reinforcing messages you might want your children to hear. Look for stories that reinforce these. If you can actually show
them just one or two ways of doing this, they will pick up on it. Some suggestions are: • a feeling of self-worth; • kindness and sharing, especially toward animals and children; and • the rewards of hard work; the “little red hen” comes to mind. The emphasis is to shield the child from negative influences, bad behavior, language, and negativity. Get them to feel positive about themselves, loved, understood, and considered. Check their happiness index by the way they go to bed and wake up in the morning.
1. The programming of a translation ability so that the brain adds an additional function between the thought and reaction process. Examples of this are: a) reading music while playing; b) translating foreign languages to and from your own; and c) applying memory techniques to factual learning until it becomes second nature, building the memory muscle. 2. The use of superior processes or models to improve our productivity. This adds an additional layer of intelligence and requires holding variables in “RAM” as it were. These include using: a) Models to translate information to arrive at a conclusion. Using the MBTI system allows us to increase our communication and empathy skills and overall ability to understand people. b) Speed reading, which is simply a process that we need to practice. Increase in speed and comprehension is a standard result. c) Problem-solving models. They help our brains to sort through information logically in order to arrive at reasonable conclusions. d) A decision-making process. This helps us to avoid common pitfalls in our natural tendencies and to arrive at reasonable decisions. e) Specific processes to convert common information into an output. Mental math or math-magic is a good example, or the simplex method (Danzig). Over time these will sink into the subconscious and undoubtedly become part of an integrated intelligence. Setting up these routines and practicing
them, building them into the daily routine will create useful lifelong skills that enable super performance. Double loop refers to both the brain performing additional background functions as well as learning by coincidence. What I mean by this is that if I say we are going to learn to spell, then that becomes the hard thing that we focus on. If I say we are going to learn a foreign language and as part of that you will have to spell English words, then spelling is off the radar, but you will learn to spell by coincidence. (Is spelling so important that it deserves extreme emphasis anyway? Bah!) The key is to focus on working on the process. Establishing the neural pathways depend on quality, not quantity! This translates into less is more.
What is leverage?
Leverage can be defined as implementing the maximum amount of change with the least amount of effort. “Mechanical advantage is a measure of the force amplification achieved by using a tool, mechanical device or machine system. Ideally, the device preserves the input power and simply trades off forces against movement to obtain a desired amplification in the output force. The model for this is the law of the lever” (Wikipedia.org). An excellent example of this is the trim tab on a ship. Another would be having a bit on a horse. “In finance, leverage (sometimes referred to as gearing) is a general term for any technique to multiply gains (and losses). Common ways to attain leverage are borrowing money, buying fixed assets and using derivatives.” (Wikipedia.org) There are two most noteworthy forms of financial leverage that are important: the degree of operating leverage (DOL) and the degree of finance leverage (DFL). Leverage is a wonderful way to make a profit, when the going is good. It allows the maximum return for a minimum of investment by using someone else’s money. The DOL for instance = (profit before interest [EBIT] and tax + fixed costs)/EBIT. This translates into a lower cost per unit, provided volumes are high. The problem with this, and all leverage, is that the multiplier effect works both ways. When times are good, profits are increased beyond the normal realms that would be possible without capital or loans. When the situation is reversed, losses are multiplied. Many companies have high leverage, which means it uses loans to finance working capital, usually equipment. PIMS notes that historically, companies with a high capital structure do not perform as well as those without. High leverage means high risk. Our whole structure is based on leverage.
This translates into bigger is not always better, and the risks are certainly higher. These are considerations in decision-making regarding your own finances. By taking on too much debt, many families have lost their homes due to ignoring or not understanding this principle. The lack of process in these cases has been devastating. Sadly, I believe this applies as a principle, and the US government will find out the implications of unserviceable debt when the world economy has a downturn or simply loses faith in the US dollar because of the government’s reckless spending. We are over-leveraged. In education, leverage would be classified as any process that would increase skills productivity or learning ability of the student over and above the average. This is the purpose of MEganize.
When should we learn what?
A baby’s mind is full of inquiry and needs. This creates a high level of motivation to learn. As we get older and grow more independent, our motivation for learning is either lost or transferred. Young children are excited about learning. Their memories are probably performing at an all-time peak in the first few years. This is the time to focus on learning structure.
Fig. 9. Life Learning Progression
Our education should be structured to the development of our thought process. These stages should not be missed, as they are the natural progression of mental development. This diagram shows the general education orientation. From the age of around six to seven, a child should have mastered the basics of the three Rs and the native language. This amazingly rapid progress then tapers off, but unnecessarily so. My experience is that children can learn
some advanced areas at an early age. My daughter knew every country in the world and the table of elements by seven. She could read by age four and play the recorder at seven. The point is that they are not stupid at this age! These are a number of skills that can leverage our IQ by training the subconscious mind. The major value-added ones are:
Music surprisingly is very math oriented. You will find many star classical performers are convergers and left-brained. The pitfall in music is the diversity available. The temptation to half-learn a piece is great, but that achieves nothing. The output remains at zero if you cannot perform it. So during “school” practice, it is essential to work one or two pieces only until they are mastered. The mastery of these will improve technique and overall skill, thus effecting change. In a similar vein, the ability to transmit visual instructions quickly to both hands is an advanced level of coordination and brain power. My favorite tool for little ones (4+) is Piano Wizzard, which is a nice way to get going without spending hours working on the tune. Your child will probably enjoy the puzzle type play aspect while increasing his thought processing power and getting a feel for rhythm. It is also an excellent introduction to arithmetic. This is only an introduction to music, but that is not the main purpose of the exercise. The benefits of music in training our brain are not widely understood. Doctor Shaw recently published Keeping Mozart in Mind that details his research, which is very positive about the impact of improved capabilities as a result. Here are some points on this: (www.childrensmusicworkshop.com/ advocacy/gordon.html) “Keeping Mozart in Mind includes key information about scientific research studies that have shown some remarkable results, including: In March 1999, Neurological Research published the latest study headed by Shaw, reporting that second graders who played the piano and the S.T.A.R. o interactive game developed by Matthew Peterson saw their scores rise 27% on proportional math and fractions tests. In February 1997, a study from Dr. Shaw’s laboratory, published in Neurological Research, announced that six months of piano keyboard training caused enhancement of spatial-temporal reasoning in preschool children: they scored 34% higher on puzzle-solving tests. In November, 1993, Dr. Shaw and Dr. Francs Rauscher published an article in Nature. It announced that a study done with college students showed that listening to the Mozart Sonata for Two Pianos in D. Major (K. 448) caused a subsequent enhancement in reasoning. This ‘Mozart effect,’
as coined by the media, created worldwide interest. It quickly became part of the popular folklore that was referred to in comic strips, advertisements, music CDs, and more.” Excerpt from the Preface: “This book is our story of higher brain function: how humans think, reason, and create. It is based on a structured model of the brain that Xiaodan Leng and I proposed in 1991; it demonstrates how music is a window into higher brain function. This book is not about music, but about how music can help us understand how the brain works and how music can enhance how we think, reason and create. We are at the very beginning of this quest: much additional research remains to be done. However, I believe that we have made considerable progress and that all the pieces of the story presented here fit into a coherent and compelling picture.” There have been similar findings published in Neuropsychologia. “The Suzuki Method was conceived in the mid-20th century by Shin’ichi Suzuki, a Japanese violinist who desired to bring beauty to the lives of children in his country after the devastation of World War II. As a skilled violinist but a beginner at the German language who struggled to learn it, Suzuki noticed that children pick up their native language quickly, and even dialects adults consider ‘difficult’ to learn are spoken with ease by people of 5 or 6 years. He reasoned that if children have the skill to acquire their mother tongue, then they have the necessary ability to become proficient on a musical instrument. He pioneered the idea that pre-school age children could learn to play the violin if learning steps were small enough and if the instrument was scaled down to fit their body. He emphasized on playing from a very young age, typically starting formal instruction between the ages of 3 and 5 years old and sometimes beginning as early as two years of age.” (Wikipedia.org) Today music has become a childhood culture in Japan. Music develops the brain and adds harmony and meaning to a child’s life. The reasoning is all the same and corroborates my MEganize principle.
ii. Speed Reading
The same applies to speed reading. Many classics and reference reading can be covered in the daily practice sessions. The key is to keep applying the process/program until it becomes automatic! The eyes and brain like speed, especially images. Remember that the thinking can take time, but then the practice goes quickly. Think (projects), then do (operations). These are two distinct functions. There is software available for this at www.speedreading.com or use the book by Peter Kump. This is an excellent learning leverage tool and is worth spending both the time and money to do it properly.
Memory training merely requires focus and effort. There are two or three main methods that you need to master. This also creates a double-loop learning process, where ostensibly you are practicing memory training, but actually you are learning a lot of the factual structure by “coincidence.” So there is no waste of time. In fact, you should increase your output quickly as you progress. One example of this system is used to recall long numbers. It is a simple phonetic table that links the numbers. Applying the “code” enables you to form words or sentences that trigger or translate back into the number. The same method of learning is used as it does the same thing in your brain, i.e., translates (Lorayne). As you practice this process, having broken it up into steps similar to the above, your ability to perform this quite complex task will become second nature, thus achieving both excellence and change. So the learning process must be specific. As with goal-setting, each step needs to be planned with specific objectives in mind. In the homeschooling environment, you can be flexible in your timing on this. Some will go quicker than others. Most often it can be fun, yet the potential rewards are far greater than learning a few facts, soon to be forgotten. “Brain-training efforts designed to improve working memory can also boost scores in general problem-solving ability and improve fluid intelligence. Fluid intelligence draws on the ability to understand relationships between various concepts, independent of any previous knowledge or skills, and to solve new problems. The research shows that this part of intelligence can be improved through memory training.” (Research by University of Michigan, 2008, www.sciencedaily.com) This process, as with the other MEganizing disciplines recommended, brings about a change in the thinking process, resulting in an increase in IQ.
iv. Foreign Languages
“According to the American Council of the Teaching of Foreign Languages there have been many research projects and tests run over the years to see if the learning of a foreign language by young children will impact their cognitive skills. Foreign language learning correlates with better cognitive abilities that in turn translate to higher academic achievement on standardized test measures.” (www.actfl.org) The goal in foreign languages is to establish the mind’s ability to translate from a multiple database, i.e., five to seven languages. It is not to learn a language. Unless you live in a country that speaks another language, it is
That sounds easy enough. these languages become “fully integrated. and the difficulty in learning a language. The key is recall speed and getting the basics established. and another two on Mandarin using Pimsleur. We spent over two years “learning” Italian using the A+ method. You may find that your child is gifted in languages. read the Spanish through a few times with the English. even though my daughter spent a term preparing for a short presentation in Spanish to show that she had mastered something.Peter Jennings virtually impossible to become fluent in it. let me describe how we are going about one project.g. The second is the art of mastery that we have forgotten. This becomes your anchor (master) or source of reference to the other translations. I hope this opens your mind to the possibilities. there will be no learning and certainly no change. It can take as little as ten minutes a day.. The language gained is a wonderful but “coincidental” skill. Also. and walk the walk. let me explain further. with the goal of learning two pages for the year. It takes a lot of effort and repetition before you know the answers instinctively. In software terms.” The first is easy to work out. We are currently working on learning the basics of five languages. Without that. there is little motivation. After all of this. 74 . The key to all learning is repetition through routine.” This is my top-down memory process using foreign languages: a) Read the English version through a few times. I’m sure you will agree when you try this with your children. i. We learn languages the same way we learn songs or nursery rhymes. Nevertheless. Before you shoot this down as ludicrous. none of us could conduct an introductory discourse in any of the three languages. but one in memory. My method is the same way your child learned to talk. e. This is a memory lesson using your own language as a peg. It is repetition that forces its way into our subconscious. It’s the Pareto principle.e.. learning only two to three pages. Start small. so the exercise is the creation of a complex set of neural-pathways that interact with each other. This all shows the flaws in our learning process. b) Learn one language set a week. repetition of phrases. Before getting into lists of things to do. Remember that the goal is to MEganize your brain. Forget the grammar too. The point is that it is not a language-learning exercise. The exposure is all important. I have limited our term’s languages assignment to one page. right? The principles are the same: “Less is more” and “know what you know. My daughter wanted to learn Spanish and so attended that subject at her private school for a year and then spent more time in a Spanish language class. The focus is on the process. but that is different. I will continue to show you how this works and lead you to a clearer understanding of how to break down the learning process.
e) Then move on to the next language and repeat the sequence. or extend these into additional two pages. Not a bad output for a few months’ work. b) Give the English and ask for the answer in any defined language. This is primarily intellectual. it is a great way to work the brain and a wonderful skill to have. Kump) This statement is essential to understand how we can leverage our children’s learning by using the “bootlegging” technique. v. and to some extent French. Just the way we all learned to talk. Give the English and ask for any of the other languages. c) Then set the question in any language and ask for it in another. you can then decide to continue this summary form into other languages. your subconscious will have been trained and you can move on to page 2. As you achieve proficiency. d) Once this is achieved. making them easier to remember. start a random selection. you can start using these words or phrases in everyday situations. Once you have completed all the languages in about four to six weeks. are quite similar. (It took us a month to learn 80% and another month to finish off. In developing a skill. Either way. Keep it in mind. you will know around about a fifth of these words. This is another example of how a top-down. Once the basic foundation is laid. integrated approach is better. This is done in three steps: a) Take each line at a time. This establishes the master link. no spelling. right? No grammar. Spanish and Italian. 75 . Once you have completed this two-page exercise. Once this has been achieved. sometimes you must practice without an intellectual understanding because that comes only when you can do it.” (P. You will find that there are similarities between the languages. Most languages use around 800 words regularly. adding that extra dimension to making life interesting. true to Pareto). Process Focus “Conceptual learning is mainly a process of developing an understanding of a subject and can often be done through listening and/or reading. switch to asking for the Spanish until 90% competency is achieved.MEganize! c) Work on linking the English to the Spanish by giving the Spanish and asking for the English.
principles. There is no right or wrong or judgment part of this. Using the MBTI classification is a basis for an objective evaluation of people. and structure behind them. Try to find the best one or two models per situation. but it’s merely an exercise to translate mentally certain attributes based on the given criteria. This has not been tested. If practiced using practical situations. The more models or processes you use to analyze situations. we can develop our capability by increasing our capacity to process information at a subconscious level. Conclusion: By using specific processes or skills.Peter Jennings There are a few suggested ways to enhance your child’s overall capability based on the defined goals of this book. This creates a thinking process on two levels. This is MEganizing. but to master speed reading and comprehension. Two of these processes are the MBTI classification to enhance general people skills (EQ) and the decision-making process. for example during history. The only way we can optimize our capability is by training our brains at all levels to function and integrate MEganized processes at a subconscious level.” 76 . it offers a substantial insight into why certain decisions were made and makes them easier to recall. These can be incorporated into your daily routine much like the foreign languages. While most of the above ostensibly lead to an increase in IQ. That doesn’t mean using a few models to look at one issue. with a clear set of values (3-4-5) as a foundation. not to read history and literature. This will help with a different perspective while providing the structure with which to review the situation objectively. but to read the music. The emphasis is not to memorize a song. but it is based on my personal experience. not to learn a lot of facts. but understand the concepts. more acceptance of each other. but the key is to practice the process. it is considered that both decision-making and using the MBTI program will improve EQ. and less “noise. The consequences of equipping children to better understand themselves and their social interactions will undoubtedly lead to better coping skills. as this concept is new for use at schools. There are a number of aspects to consider. the better. Decision-making also requires that you use a process in making decisions.
Part 3 Systemic Issues .
This “betrayal” had a huge impact on him. There were many boarding schools in those days. After the war. their salaries were lower than the market rates. She qualified as a midwife and signed up when war broke out. Her father was a British settler. My father. but they never breathed 78 . she went to Edinburgh. They would not pay for his university. Scotland. As government employees. Betrayal cuts deep. they lost him when Veronica was eight. later to become an architect. was born in 1919 in Magaliesburg. my mother never mentioned her. Our holidays were meager but adequate. Veronica never forgave her mother for giving her away. he made his way through technical college and was employed as a draughtsman. to train in dietetics. who he met after the World War II. This must have cost a small fortune to them. he was apparently the naughty one. she decided to put two of the children up for adoption: my mother. similar to Veronica. He loved animals from an early age and was caught smuggling a piglet into his bed. and once I believe she went to visit her. Even though I understand that she lived nearby as I grew up. Veronica was adopted by a wealthy family in Dordrecht. but I was left to wait in the car. for which he got a hiding (with a leather belt). Mr. and the culture of saving and frugality was ingrained into them. My Dad always had savings for the odd emergency and was always there to help out without any fuss. The second of seven children. Henry. His childhood was spent on their farm. Transvaal. A family of six. his parents told him to leave the home at sixteen. This became her lifelong profession. However. but because of the Depression. Veronica did well at school and went on to train as a nurse at Groote Schuur in Cape Town. Money was scarce then. That’s how we grew up. Despite his hard start in life. She spent most of the war as a Captain attending the wounded in Egypt and later Italy.Another parable Veronica Brownrigg was born in 1918 in a small town called Dordrecht in the Northern Cape. my parents sent me to good private boarding schools from an early age. Her mother remarried soon after. Veronica. and sent to EUNICE all-girls high school in Bloemfontein. van Aardt. Although he was an excellent scholar. but they did so for two of his younger brothers. and the eldest. Neville Bertrand Jennings. despite this very average lifestyle. Her early years were hard.
though not ambitious. who had so little to start with and yet left so much behind. The point is that my parents lived frugal lives. we all were required to go for an early morning skinny dip at around 6:30 a.” Competition was bred into us in every way. they never had to discipline me or punish me. Sport was compulsory for all. At first break. They didn’t have to send me to good schools. 79 . We said house prayers every night and communion on Thursdays for those who were confirmed. they were living examples of God. I owe much of the wisdom I have gained to my parents. but they did. What better way to glorify God? More than anything. they lived a life of sacrifice. although in some ways flawed. before breakfast. Interestingly enough. or to eat out at restaurants. we all did a fifteen-minute physical training exercise by “house. I am grateful for that. As a result. As junior boarders. although my relatively “soft” upbringing made me averse to physical labor. attending all my sports matches. They are still my inspiration as always being committed. In their way. They were humble and kind. but they didn’t.MEganize! a word about it. but we never wanted for anything. In everything they did. even though my school was about thirty miles away. I have always been responsible and diligent. They were always there for me.m. Although I did the odd crazy thing in my teens. I’m sure they could have afforded a fancy car. I was my own master from an early age. Enough about the schools. Although not avid Christians. their culture and faith were solidly compliant with the principles held dear by Christians of old. showing me His qualities that I could aspire to. My schooling was Spartan but fun. This was a simple structure enforced by a rather fierce-looking headmaster whom we all feared but never actually got to confront. they never judged me or tried to control me.
Too often they are so busy “doing” that they don’t “think” as well. In this sense structural explanations are inherently generative.” If you focus on small things. Because of our nature of wanting a sense of fulfillment and recognition. Urgency blinds us as to what we really want and need by distracting us into a short-term problem or need. They need to understand what they are doing from a bigger perspective and focus on core drivers. Senge) People do what managers manage. 80 . Try to remember four or five new and unrelated things to buy while shopping at a new supermarket. then that will be the focus and extent of our thinking. The concept of what is important is lost in creating the sense of urgency. The mind-sets or culture of many businesses are geared to rules and following procedures.” (P.Chapter 8 Structural Drivers “The reason that structural explanations are so important is that only they address the underlying causes of behavior at a level at which patterns of behavior can be changed. this devolves into an urgency paradigm. Children get confused if you ask them to do more than one thing at a time. Why? Because “people do what managers (parents) manage. It is important to understand that our capacity to follow many orders is pathetic. Leaders create our culture. Our conscious brains can only handle a few concepts at a time. This stifles the human spirit as there is no shared vision or values. We. Businesses are the same. as adults. also have this problem.
rudder (conquer self ). So what is the key driver to this high level of success? In one word: culture. This enables ownership and thus empowerment. This empowers people to get their job done without too many rules and regulations. This helps to focus on important issues from a top-down perspective and sets up a culture that requires minimal confrontation. Focus on the output. define their actions. The ownership then passes on to managing the output instead of the task. and map (value added) on which to manage your children. honesty (trust). Homeschooling requires that you examine your actions and words. This is a huge responsibility for the parents. So true empowerment involves two steps: � First. Their (your) focus becomes our (your children’s) focus. their thoughts become their destiny. and both support each other. fortitude (confidence). and make their decisions based on the various output ratios are far more successful (Price). and once instilled into their little brains. but it’s also an opportunity for you to grow as a family. and value added. business. these are totally in sync with Christian values. Empowerment. requires a high level of trust and trustworthiness. as these will be mimicked by your children. These provide the wind (recognition). The power of thought is built into the culture surrounding the child. good or bad. This is essential for a fully functional. Of course. They become your gift or curse to themselves 81 . recognition. This translates into the fact that our leaders define the structure and culture. consideration (empathy). for instance. and act as a guide for them for the rest of their lives. and society. simplicity is best when in the training years. This is a broad term that incorporates values like tidiness (organization).” Businesses that focus on economic value added. the whole perspective changes. hope (attitude). “Do as I say. Pascale). and the thinking of how to get there. not as I do” will undermine every effort you undertake. � Second. Your actions work into their thoughts. to allow the individuals or teams to operate independently based on the paradox (principle?) that improved control comes from decentralized or local control (Peters.MEganize! If instead you look at an output ratio. People do what managers manage. A top-down style is empowering and meaningful and totally opposite to the “as is system. however. These can all be captured in concept in three maxims of life: conquer self. However. and these three concepts can be used as links to all the detail in a true top-down way. successful family. diligence (perseverance). to initiate a change in perspective to a higher level of measurement. for instance. etc.
Forget about the education. They are your legacy. refining. Our manufacture has been outsourced to China. and beliefs. “Above all things. not just service. If you are not honest and truthful. The USA is around 95% service oriented. I believe. you will lose your children’s trust. This poses two questions: � How can we create our own culture within our family? � How can it coexist within the broader and largely opposing culture of our country and the world at large? First. however. government corruption. Each family develops its own culture.Peter Jennings and the world. Truth has become an abstract concept until you have to teach your own children. this is everything by comparison. � A moral base that is suitable for prosperity. This will ensure a generation of sufficient exports to fund its imports and thus balance its trading account. as this is a shield against illusion and its insidious related traps. which will impact their faith. So many broad cultures can exist at a level confined to customs. We need to focus on adding tangible value. This requires a focus on strong family values that are able to acquire wealth and be independent of government aid. Currently. then a routine. Then it becomes real and. The key is to be honest with yourself. or mining. Each area and people has their own culture. There are. obvious. then the belief to act in that thought (faith). rituals. These would include: � A value-added economy by which the economy is self-sustaining with at least 50% of its GDP related to manufacture. and crime are third-world 82 . we need a nation of strong character. You could call these cultural drivers. which has weakened us strategically. as this is by definition truth. It is important to have a strategic plan for a fulfilling life. even though they live in the same country. cultures that exist on a national level that are either positive or negative for the purposes of overall prosperity and growth. Set high standards of honesty. Always start with what you know. to define culture in detail would be complex and unnecessary. This plan gets translated into a structure. First and foremost. You must face reality. Dishonesty. This is what you can control. and ends up as a planned thought in your children’s mind. unto thine own self be true” (King Lear). Each step or decision starts with a thought (hope). Make sure you learn the right things that can be trusted. we have a negative trend both on the family side and on the government handout side.
This is true freedom. or not recognizing it. Sadly. not isolation. even though I love rock and roll. It is in fact just a bigger perspective of the same picture. Usually. is worth nurturing. So a driver is a key function that works as part of an integrated process to ensure or manage the outcomes. Form your own reality based on truth and family values. This “freedom” is a selfish. � A safe and secure environment where families feel free to pursue their business without hindrance. It is my view that there is broader culture that is particular to your area or state. This sadly means a selective avoidance of many of the popular but negative influences. It is in this context that you must try to create and maintain a strong positive family culture. Just in the same way as you suffocate bad behavior in your children by ignoring it. and then there is a country culture. I believe that a strong positive American culture still exists. The thing is by focusing on drivers. Democracy has been used as a means of mass thuggery and theft. Our values and top-down drivers based on reality are lost in trying to enforce rules and ideologies. Avoid them! My list includes public TV and any mass media or government-related programs. In business there is the DuPont RONA model. you are cutting out micromanagement and focusing on what really counts.. Micromanagement is for bureaucrats who don’t understand what they are 83 . Pornography and child abuse are also negative drivers. it has been the vehicle for a number of negative forces. The best is to avoid any aspects or social contacts that have a different value standard or moral base to that which you hold dear. they want to impose their reality on you. The “freedom” that they cry for in Africa. the more distorted reality becomes. so this should be with external sources. These are all now rampant in the USA (and Britain). Economic value added (EVA) is a more recent and efficient model that looks at shareholder added value and its components. A family. Invariably. means chaos and poverty. Teams and social bonding are what make society work.MEganize! cultures. A company without employees is not a company. e. and now here. which is made of various drivers. but there are many negative aspects that are structural (government based) and gaining momentum. If I said “rock and roll. Governments do not fall into any social category.g. asset turnover. not the individual. the more they legislate and control. now dangerous.” you would probably laugh and recall the ’60s and ’70s and how we all felt that “what could be wrong with this”? It’s just music. Guard your values and know your virtues. corrupt notion that is insatiable and unsustainable. profit ratio. Protect your children from distractions that suck them in and do not add value. nor a team a team without players.
and although we may not retaliate with the source. The apple and the tree There is a Law of Attraction. and even with your spouse. It may not be to you. This is the theme of Les Misérables. Then make sure that you manage according to those drivers. The same applies to negative actions. The prime tools for this are the I Am/Can Goals Scorecard and the 5Ps Weekly Achievement Chart. Focus on these entirely. If you are a fish-wife who complains and finds fault with everything. they will be transferred. also known as the Law of Reciprocity. If you manage on a top-down principle basis. leader. Pick on the dog. It leads to meaninglessness and urgency-driven mind-sets that are destructive. and the dog will pick on the cat. Success in life is made of a number of key skills. This is significant in that this reinforces that sharing the same or similar culture provides the ideal working or learning environment when optimized. Remember. they will return that kindness. usually in a loud obsequious manner. and the responsibility for our lives is: “Between stimulus and response there is a 84 . they help to identify and manage the whole by looking at a few indicators. you will have a shared vision. We should not prescribe laws that contradict these principles and instincts for they will be counterproductive. you will see this in your children. The process of coaching and the Kazdin method illustrates this well (part 5). These seem to flow through us. In our case. Parenting and homeschooling is a huge responsibility for you as teacher. One inspiring quote that has stayed with me relates to our choice. If we are positive. and individual ownership. we will attract positive friends and do positive things. If you watch closely. A corollary of this is the ripple effect or what I prefer to call the Law of Equalization. and role model. This principle also translates into facets of our lives. then your daughter will over time show these same characteristics (and your husband will become elusive and bad tempered).Peter Jennings doing. The important lesson that we can learn from models is that first.” You are now the manager. Examples of these are included later. Like attracts like. However. This means that if we do something positive for someone. but it will happen. This way your demeanor is mimicked by your children. the drivers of our culture at home are the 3-4-5 maxims. It must be integrative to the subject or situation. “people do what managers manage. also known as birds of a feather. the model should incorporate the big picture before you should rely on it. This helps consistency and routine and manages expectations. These can be drivers within your education profile. clarity of direction. This is a natural instinct.
85 . but by remembering this. and expected. and hardworking. In that response lies our growth and freedom. but make sure it is rational. this will be a challenge for you. If he is kind. tempered. If he is bad tempered. hopefully you will follow your process and respond with love. the family will end up the same way. Think and then do. that will rub off too. kindness. considerate. fair. Remember that the father usually sets the culture of the family. In that space is our power to choose our response. and wisdom. The leader sets the tone and direction. Of course sometimes there must be a form of punishment.” This profound truth clearly signals the importance of our thought process and leads to a strategic orientation.MEganize! space. Many times you will want to hit the roof (or the child). As a parent and teacher.
Now the loss is too big to bear. when we have severe symptoms that indicate that we are ill. He waits. Einstein was talking about a paradigm when he refers to “the same level of consciousness.Chapter 9 Our Real Problems “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. even if it means a “step change.” An example of this is an emotional investor. Can you think of any examples of this? How about ObamaCare? 86 . thinking it will reverse in the right direction. It’s illogical and poor decision-making. because he thought it was a great idea at the time. After investing more than he should have. even though all the facts point in the other direction.” (Albert Einstein) I believe that Mr. sometimes the fear of the potential pain of treatment will make us procrastinate until it is too late.” 1. In order to survive. so he can’t bring himself to cut his losses and hides his head in the sand. However. the stock moves downward. This is purely emotional and a bad decision. it motivates us to action. Can you see the links? Sometimes we believe in or stick to something. Symptoms Usually. It moves down further. hoping against hope for the best. we have to be proactive.
USA relative international scores Public schools in general are now high-risk areas.gov). doubly so as we have the finest school facilities.Globalreportcard. (Read: we would score this percentage in these countries. The US ranked 25th out of thirty-four countries in math and science (www.huffingtonpost. The USA scored these relative percentiles in 2009. (See www. and even Singapore. 87 . In the same test.com). Students in Shanghai recently took international exams for the first time and won.9 million reports of student crime (violence or theft) in the US. Crime is in our schools. The level of bullying was reflected at 28%. Gatto) We have a poor school academic record with a low probability of success and no turnaround in sight. During 2009/10.) It is nothing short of pathetic. This equates to 40 per 1. the US ranked 25th in math.MEganize! a. and 14th in reading. This is an interesting correlation. 17th in science. Teachers have been threatened (7%). Here is a snapshot: International tests in 2009 revealed that our standards are approximately half of those of other first-world countries. while 4% were physically attacked (NCES.000 students.org) Our scores in US would be x % in these countries Math Reading Singapore Finland World 26% 46% 29% 41% 44% 55% Table 10. Education in the USA “School is a 12 year jail sentence where bad habits are the only curriculum truly learned.” ( J. there were an estimated 1.ed.
) It is ironic that Britain used cocaine to pay China for tea. It contains the same cancer-causing chemicals found in tobacco.” This excludes other forms of sexual exposure and abuse among children! This is an epidemic! Violence in schools. insomnia. including aggression. According to the Drug Enforcement Administration. Sexual abuse at schools by adults/teachers. Over 60% of those using marijuana from under fifteen went on to hard drugs like cocaine. Gun control is no solution to this.Peter Jennings Drug abuse has hit an all-time high. and schizophrenia. the facts state differently. psychosis. plus 15% of trauma patients from car or motorbike accidents. 40% of male arrests were tested positive for cannabis. There is a high risk of student pregnancy.com states: “If these numbers are representative of the student population nationwide. suicide. an estimated 1 in 4 sexually active teens contracts an STD and teenage pregnancy is 2 to 10 times more prevalent in the United States than in other similarly developed countries. or STD. and the tar and carbon monoxide inhaled are three to five times more than cigarettes. thereby crippling the moral fiber of China for centuries. Is there any need to go into more detail on this one? Perhaps it is enough to say that there have been around five school shooting incidents every year since 2000. 4.” (Wikipedia. and more than 3 million have experienced sexual touching or assault. “Sexual activity is much more common among 15 to 16 year-olds (41%) than 13 to 14 year-olds (14%). An extract from an article in www. depression. While many refer to this as a harmless herb. and lung damage. HIV.5 million students currently in grades K-12 have suffered some form of sexual abuse by an educator. Sixty-seven percent of teens have used marijuana. Marijuana residues stay in the body for weeks.org) 88 . Every year. There are psychological effects as well. (Note that marijuana has been legalized in two states. and now this has come full circle.slate. There have been studies that link this drug to brain damage. anxiety. Hopefully by now that is obvious.
Reinhart).7 million new venereal infections in 89 . M. US Public debt. shadowstats. Our Society “We’re on the road to nowhere . wealth—. estimated to reach $20. An article researching this subject in the Washington Post.org).usgovernmentdebt.MEganize! b. What amazes me is all the time spent focusing on tweaking gun laws when this situation exists! It certainly points to a lack of visionary and strategic leadership.childhelp. Sexual abuse.com) How come no one knows exactly how much this is or at least to the nearest trillion or so? The debt to GDP ratio is over 102% (at least). “Once government debt is greater than 90%. state and municipal debt is over $2.4 trillion. the average growth rates decline by 4% per annum” (Rogoff. insolvent states (www. “Children are suffering from a hidden epidemic of child abuse and neglect. and happiness-destroying outcomes. says.5 trillion by the end of 2013. Society Society as a whole is crumbling. Or is it more like $80 trillion? (www.” Can you hear the music yet? A quick Google lookup and you will get a clear but bleak picture of where the USA is headed. sadly with unpleasant if not deadly results. .3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States involving nearly 6 million children (a report can include multiple children). The politicians certainly won’t take credit for this catastrophe! This is however their structure we live in. all symptomatic of a control paradigm. Every year 3. . about 15% of GDP.5 trillion. we take no action to prevent it.com) In 2012 the federal debt stood in excess of $16. The United States has the worst record in the industrialized nation—losing five children every day due to abuse-related deaths” (www. but because we don’t look at the bigger picture from a strategic perspective. In addition to this. there were 19. According to new data released by the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. These promiscuous values lead to all sorts of health-. Short-term pleasure is a flaw in our society. Child sexual abuse is a tip of the iceberg and leads to a broader picture of lower morals.
and lung disease (#3). and cancer—are highly correlated. This has reached epidemic proportions in the USA. Diabetes ranks 7th on the death list. The fundamental solutions to our major medical problems can be avoided or minimized through a change in structure. heart disease. Over 10% of the US population have been diagnosed with diabetes in some form. as it absolves us of any responsibility.” (wiki) Since 1980. However. as a parent or homeschooler. This leads to a number of diseases—actually sicknesses—that cost our country billions. Diabetes. Obesity and sickness. up from 20% in the early 1990s (NHANES).197. indicating that the causes are similar. heart disease. heart disease. you can make a change and avoid these high probability risk factors by a change in structure and focus.000! This is a pandemic! Incarcerated Americans. specifically diabetes. All of these are of course related. No one wants you to see the bigger picture. and obesity. 90 . It makes sense to me. and it is estimated that another 25% are undiagnosed. bringing the total number of existing sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in the US at that time to 110. Of course this may not be in the best profitable interest of many organizations. the level of incarceration has increased by 400% with over 2 million people in prison. cancers. but the norms of society suggest that they are unrelated “diseases. Disease is something that happens to us. The US has the highest level of obesity in the world. It’s that boiled frog all over again.” and we ignore them until it’s too late. if not the same. Thirty-five percent of the US adult population is obese. and the direct and indirect cost to society. ¾¾ and reduced physical activity. Sickness is something we can avoid. Add another epidemic to the overall symptoms. and many related illnesses all stem from a poor structure. obesity. The real problem lies in the structure of our society with: ¾¾ the consumption of high-calorie. We like to call it by the first. cancer (#2). low-nutrient foods. Let’s just treat the symptoms.Peter Jennings the United States in 2008. and thus the probability of our illustrious government making any meaningful changes is minimal. “The United States has the highest documented incarceration rate in the world. after heart disease (#1). It has been shown that these top killers—diabetes.
These are purely structural issues. The picture is clear. All are necessary to meet the needs of the whole psyche. Not only this. Life as a single parent is very stressful. Who can challenge this legalized monolith? Ironically. drugs. academics. or the terrorists. and I believe that the same applies for children with single parents. There are at least two specific health aspects that you can control: diet and exercise. as is the notion that it is all okay. No one will be held to blame. it is not. the accommodating method of placating our children has led to them running riot and their performance proves it. The responsibility and accountability for our children’s education is far removed from any sense of reality. but we can still get off. (Does the government do anything other than make laws and spend money we don’t have?) It’s all very frustrating. based largely on emotional immaturity and the inability to solve problems and adapt. treating the symptoms but exacerbating the problem. This all paints a bigger picture of chaos. and we can solve them. In all my school days. obesity. and vice versa. making decisions that are sure to benefit us now. We are a short-term society. This runaway train cannot be stopped. so why waste time on them? Focus on what you can control. but we have no control over those issues. Well. There is a paradox somewhere between short-term pressure that leads to long-term growth. This all goes back to a lack of discipline in the early years and being overindulged 91 . often at a premium. they are labeled and worse. diabetes.MEganize! Chaos unlimited We spend so much time concerned with what the government is going to do. It is an enormous task to manage children without any real break. We must accept that the road down which we have gone. If anyone stands up for change. Divorce too is a selfish act. Our children are being penalized while under the illusion that they are getting the best. and all hands seem to be dirty. but the financial burden of a single income lowers your standards and options dramatically. and extramural activities. or the economy. These statistics are growing. there was never an incident of ADHD. we will remain on this treadmill. both at government and school levels. as everyone wants to please everyone else and not be held accountable. There are no leaders. etc. is going nowhere. Perhaps it is necessary to note that America in general is compounding its problems with the increasing rate of single parenting. One of the problems with kids getting into all sorts of nonsense is that they have too much time on their hands. on the verge of an abyss. As long as we are given the idiot’s choice of voting for “a” or “b”—both of which mean the same thing. They must be kept busy in sports.
the better. or should we call it by its real name? A quick note on HPV. On visiting our excellent pediatrician we were told that they are now vaccinating girls from age nine. or genital human papillovirus. if any. or the last known effect. with a number of possible reasons. We need to understand these cycles and how they work in order to solve the fundamental problems and not just look at symptoms. The risk is too high and the reward minimal and very short term. Our society is very biased toward popularity and knee-jerk reactions. Although there are no symptoms. as apparently around 25% of girls are now sexually active at that age. They will not solve problems because it is not in their best interest to do what is right. Husband and wife must meet each other’s needs. There is a fundamental solution. I believe that the more holy we treat our marriage. Neither is it in yours to do the same.Peter Jennings to the point where your needs are more important than the family as a whole. This can be called by whatever euphemism you like. It is. just an illusion of love if you really think about it. just what seems right. however. It breaks one of the motivations for life and is damaging all around. In a report called “The Great Crossover. actions that result in predictable outcomes because of principles involved. they will never address the real issues. is “focusing on the problem” and will result in a symptomatic solution. The risk of unwanted pregnancy or STDs can ruin many lives. Democratic governments are flawed in their need to be popular. increasing by six million a year. either as a result of low esteem or poor family coherence. Where is our society heading and why? The Control Cycle Things happen in cycles. This includes being faithful. however. it is known to cause cervical cancer. We could say: Is this really the culture we want for our children? Why doesn’t this hit the headlines? That. even before we meet our life partner.” the level of single mothers in America has now jumped to 48%. and thus symptomatic. The solution? First. Premarital “relations” are generally a need for recognition. which is the most common form of STD: About 20 million Americans are infected. 92 . and if their decisions and position are based on what is popular with the masses. but it is a strategic disaster for those children. Corrective measures (to control) are often taken for the wrong reason.
They explain this at a personal level. 11. As corporations grow bigger. This culture pervades the organization. Peter Senge and Steven Covey both refer to the concept of addiction and the illusion that we have control. There are three reasons we instinctively fall into these traps: � We are creatures of habit and tend to get stuck in a mode of thought or paradigm. ignoring the market reality in which it survives. thus creating a cycle. Rules abound until no one has the apparent authority to do anything. Leadership is lost in the mire of bureaucracy. This clearly shows that the output is one of illusion. We are all attracted to the illusions of this world. urgency becomes the motive for everything. Reality exists only in the numbers and the boardroom (or should that be the senate. as are the first quadrant drivers that are critical for sustainable growth. � We need to be part of the herd (recognition). so this need for control increases. Dr. � We like to feel important and needed (recognition). The only decisions that are made are to make more rules. where no value is added.MEganize! Fig. The organization becomes lost in its own world. 93 . In their continued search for meaning. except the numbers also seem to have become unimportant?) The thing is that illusion becomes an addiction and it feeds on itself. The Control Mindset The above diagram reflects the control paradigm. They appear in many ways.
It seems almost as though it were formulated with us in mind. now feel it here. This ultimately creates confusion. It looks for quick fixes. explains how we fail to see the root (fundamental) causes of problems. By understanding how cycles work. The fundamental solution to our situation now becomes obvious. There is so much to get through! What a rush! Hey. The more division within the people. 94 . and we see it all around us. see the Muslims. We react. dividing the people instead of uniting them. The focus is on interstate championships. competition with other countries will unite us. While it is good to have interstate matches. � suppress conflict. � and is driven by urgency. especially if it is urgent and people are dependent on us to some degree. In a control-mind-set environment. Remember the Germans. the more the government can regulate to control the situation. values. it looks to gain power. as it gives meaning to our life. these stem from the first quadrant of the Strategic Change Cycle (chapter 10). Our time is so important. Normally. Isn’t this our government all over? Dr. We enjoy any situation where we feel needed. We reflect many of the criteria depicted. An example of this is the lack of true international sport in the USA. In a desire to solve problems. The control paradigm tries to: � eliminate risk. One of the symptoms of a control paradigm is that the focus is inward.Peter Jennings No surprises there. can you pick up the kids? Beware of this! It’s the Nintendo game all over again. author of The Fifth Discipline. This event-level thinking leads to short-termism. treat the symptoms. shared vision. and decision-making are absent. people have to schedule a time to talk to us. honey. it is hard to see outside. Once inside it. we can interpret the problem and find a fundamental solution to solve the problem. This is the box. Meeting deadlines gives us a rush of exhilaration. There is a tendency to make work the main focus. This translates to conscientious behavior at the workplace or being patriotic to a country. even the so-called World Series. There are a few cycles that illustrate this point. Perhaps you will see some more obvious home-based similarities in the Poverty Cycle below. The box represents our paradigm. Peter Senge. not outward. and people create things to be important with a fraction of the picture in mind. Why is this aspect missing? Why do we emphasize sports that no one else plays? There are better examples. only to find the problem reappearing somewhere else.
Make the comparison. or at least has lost our great advantage. The Poverty Cycle The USA is in the strategic stage of the Poverty Cycle.MEganize! Large corporations that are struggling to make profits always look to cut costs first. Not just any culture. The facts bear evidence to the validity of this Control Cycle. All for short-term benefit! Our personal and national savings are nonexistent. the means often justifies the ends. And we still vote for them! 95 . In the need to create a control paradigm. Leadership always excels over management. The more control aspired to results in less control in reality. “In most of the industries we’ve studied.” However. 2. Know these cycles and look for the signs. What we can take away from all this is how to avoid setting the stage for a control paradigm. Everywhere we look. It’s ironic that the results of all this have actually been to the detriment of all the individuals. The solution to all this is found in the first quadrant in the Strategic Growth Cycle. Leaders who have these tendencies must be treated with caution. They have used (stolen?) most of our internal funds like our virtually bankrupt Social Security. It’s insular and unrealistic. and how to avoid or recognize it where it exists in the world. out of control. Our debt (overseas borrowing) is growing by the hour. We have played our last poker hand. So are their control decisions. almost scientific way of evaluating a situation. Values decline and dishonesty abounds. The irony of the public school system is that many of the rules and regulations have been devised to benefit the individual. netting a negative 24 percent by the end of three years” (Reichheld). Our non-strategic. or a minority. “the Wall Street Journal found that downsizing companies outperform the S&P 500 only slightly during the next six months following news of restructuring. The point here is that culture is core to our survival. the government is legislating more control. and unlimited trade. We have in our overconfidence given away or sold much of strategic advantage and now face a new reality of poverty and limited infrastructure. They are a clear. having sold most of our wealth to China through outsourcing manufacture. then lags badly. They view the world from inside their boardroom. internal politicking has brought us to face potential ruin. the companies with the highest retention rates also earn the best profits. open credit. Putting our trust in establishments of this nature is risky in the long term.
China. Let’s see what the “boiled frog” does in reality! This is why you are considering homeschooling—or may have to homeschool—your children. My first thoughts went to Zimbabwe. possibly reintroducing the gold standard. and so will its buying power and value. The reason I refer to countries and corporations is not a diversion from the subject. Inflation could skyrocket and we will see a new reality.Peter Jennings Fig. The principles are all the same. This helps to interpret what is happening and what should be done to correct the problems. Now I see the USA more and more. 12. Productivity is still declining. but if we are proactive. Much like our schools. The 96 . facing our illusions. Without the US dollar as the world’s reserve currency. and European countries are looking to create another monetary base that is more reliable and equitable. Confidence in the US dollar has decreased over the years and is on the way to reaching terminal velocity. This is a strategic or step change. What you need to do is to compare the Poverty Cycle with the Strategic Change Cycle. The Poverty Cycle We are seeing signs of this control strategy working its way through the system. I first saw evidence of this cycle when doing my MBA. It is purely to show that the paradigms start at the top and pervade society. Russia. we can rescue the situation before we hit the wall. its demand will disappear. Reality will bring it about eventually. what is needed is a change in the first quadrant.
fully integrative perspective. for now. etc.” Think about the school marking system. ¾¾ “Becomes the primary focus and absorbs attention. don’t expect a job. With high levels of stress. control environments and urgency addiction have a high level of correlation. control. ¾¾ “Exacerbates the problems and feelings it is sought to remedy. ¾¾ “Provides an artificial sense of self-worth. If you don’t learn. Illusion has many forms and is now the name of the game. food. intimacy. don’t be surprised when things get tough and you’re out of cash. Decisions are made within this framework. and no learning from previous endeavors. but lower standards. it’s reality. leave me alone with the doom and gloom stuff.” In Senge’s terms.” The symptoms of addiction are important to list here because it goes to the core of why we as individuals can’t think strategically anymore. everything is short term and urgent. music.” Better marks. If you are not honest. there is a negative correlation between a control paradigm with levels of paradox and shared values. power. ¾¾ “Temporarily eradicates pain and other negative sensations. If you don’t pay your bills. Managers drive this. If the students are getting good marks.” so it enhances the need for repetition. It is just that we rarely look at things from a top-down.” Think about the inconsequential content that fills the minds of our children. this is a “symptomatic solution. which results in what the people or workers experience. and accomplishment. security.” I’m having fun. In a business. or even a show of hands at a meeting. the focus is on meetings and monthly targets. TV. The emphasis is on rules and on transactions. sex. people will not want to associate with you. why try harder? Nobody wins except maybe the teachers. image. usually after a short discussion. then habit. If you don’t save. The Urgency Paradigm In a control environment. no correlation.MEganize! fundamental issues are the same. not on relationships or principles. there is a positive correlation with a control environment and failure! This has the effect of creating what Covey refers to as “urgency addiction. The addictive experience: (extracts from First Things First) ¾¾ “Creates predictable reliable sensations. Meetings are seldom documented or followed up. no one will give you credit. computer games are all dominant factors in our children’s lives. plastic trophies for everything and everyone. It’s not doom and gloom. no process.) More importantly. (Maybe not so ironic when you have the Control Cycle in front of you. 3. 97 . Staff are stressed and overworked. Ironically. which leads to routine. scaling. There is no research.
however. or jobs are done somewhere else. are the same. So skills are imported. These are describing the urgency addiction. Conclusion: Any decisions that originate from a control paradigm cannot by definition be successful. but these are not the only problem areas. Only by addressing the reality on which to base decision-making can a positive fundamental strategy produce change and worthwhile results. The results. We are all caught up in some meaningless activity that brings us short-term pleasure only. leaving levels of education unacceptable to employers.Peter Jennings ¾¾ “Worsens functioning. 98 .” The standard declines. as they originate from a basis of illusion. creates loss of relationships. which we confuse as being productive. and productivity and creativity are negatively impacted. These are all obvious if considered in terms of alcohol or drug addiction. but it applies to the bigger control paradigm in which it exists.
All of this is relevant to you and your family. as these are our habits. Decision-making is fundamental to our lives and everything we do but is never taught. By looking at business issues. 99 .’ The problems with high level leverage changes are usually highly unobvious to most participants of the system.Chapter 10 The Strategic Change Cycle “Systems thinkers refer to this principle (structure) as ‘leverage.” (P. much like the workings of the ‘trim tab. Our business processes reflect our personal processes. we can get an objective insight into our lives and how we think. Senge) The Strategic Change Cycle includes all the key aspects of decision-making as well as the business process that should happen but is hardly ever completed.
We have become excellent in this efficiency in many ways. I have seen prosperous companies change into a negative spiral as a result of this.Peter Jennings Fig. Intelligent people do not 100 . The problem is that many softer issues evade them and they do not have the vision required to be a leader. This could also be explained as the difference between being effective and efficient. However. or engineers. We have reengineered almost everything. managers will default to refining the operations. Our systems are automated to an nth degree. As I have said before. the strategic perspective is our weakness. The result is a focus on nitty-gritty and a devaluing of the individual performance. 13. Our culture has become one of routine. and this is where the bigger issues are lurking. while the bottom is operational or routine. This clearly has its weaknesses. They are focused on fact and logic. It’s time to work on the system. where the focus is on working in the existing system. and so our thinking is limited to the lower half. commonly accountants. Strategic versus Operational Paradigms This divisional split in the Strategic Cycle is fundamental to our problems. The Strategic Change Cycle There are a few ways to look at this cycle. Many a manager has been promoted to a leadership position. The first is to understand that the upper half is strategically oriented. and our technology advancements to support productivity have been ahead of the pack.
country) and micro (individual) environment. in the second quadrant. As part of the learning timetable. Companies do not generally understand that the Pareto principle applies to people as well. The two are separate disciplines and should not be mixed. Note: It is important to understand the inherent evils of these two perspectives. there is nothing left. Key to this is that these quadrants are dominated by the applicable learning and decision profiles. These are very different in themselves and are referred to throughout.MEganize! accept being devalued in any way. This is why as companies grow and as more rules are put in place. the core of the company who are forced to comply move off. it is likely that nothing will change. Projects are always underestimated in terms of time and effort required. The model is based on a number of disciplines. When these people leave. Routine (operations) is essential in the memory and excellence process. This is explained later in this chapter. These two mind-sets must not be confused. Projects (new initiatives/subjects) need to be taken in stages. you will run out of time and have to cut corners to finish in time. Inevitably. Often there will be a core of around 20% of the people responsible for the life of the company. expectations. Strategic orientation focuses on the first and last quadrants. Operational orientation revolves around the lower half. (Refer to the Balanced Team Learning and Decision Profile). 101 . it is phenomenal what is achieved in a limited time span. This is through the power of process and subconscious performance. With the wrong mix. When you consider various specialist functions or production outputs. Projects implement strategy. Operations are generally routine processes and can be completed in far less time than we think. and tasks should be run separately according to their own rules. the essence is to have the right people. We can also see that this lower half is split into a combination of projects (design) and operations (actions). The diagram is logical and speaks for itself. We overestimate our ability and underestimate the complexity. especially if they are successful. This cycle is principle based as it reflects both the macro (organization. This draws a parallel to Atlas Shrugged. routine versus project assignments have been differentiated. Both require different structures and cultures. They form the divergent and convergent part of learning. They should in effect create a perfect balance. which adds to its validity. For instance. then apply the right process from which you will improve productivity. and even cultures. Repetition at regular intervals will vastly increase your productivity and competence. Projects are the start of a change initiative. then incorporated into routine when completed.
and this concept and process should be built into our learning system. and even civilizations are slow. We tune out of most of these stimuli. This is known as the “boiled frog” syndrome. � Most decisions are emotionally based. Each of these requires different perspectives. Learning and change are not needed when everyone is in a comfort zone. First Quadrant There are four sections to all learning. and we live safe and highly structured lives. This loops back into Strategy. and thinking skills. There are a number of strategic areas that our children need to be educated in. Risk is ignored in a perceived safe society. our illusions built on a control paradigm. business. usually a symptomatic response. thus directing change. This is the first quadrant. Many of the subjects that I would like to include to address these issues can be considered 102 . We hear what we want to hear. I have touched on a few concepts that will hopefully have opened your eyes to some of the shortfalls in our current approach. The crux is that we need to think strategically in order to survive and prosper. so strategic thinking is lost. � � � � Strategy or “what” to do. We are spoon-fed by the media and large corporations. � Our level of thinking is thus operational. Projects or “how” to do it Operations or getting it done Feedback or learning by our mistakes. Always try to refer to the relevant cycle when looking for answers. This means that we tend to react to situations of change. Essentially this is the disconnect with reality that results from our biases.Peter Jennings Cycles are more likely to reflect the fundamental problem and are strategic by orientation. This is a natural way of discounting some of the many inputs that bombard us. History has shown that change is inevitable and that most people. countries. It is a low-risk environment with few real problems. structure. The same four cause-and-effect sectors should be the basis of all cycles. and the filtered information that we build around our belief system. choosing the ones that reinforce our beliefs in our comfort zone. and progress in general. even too slow to adapt in time. Our weakness lies above the horizontal line for two reasons.
which happens with self-fulfillment and leaving a legacy.MEganize! advanced. i. process. Sadly. Leadership. Encourage it and then channel it. perspective. This is your role for your children: to inspire them with a vision and then equip them to best fulfill themselves in order to be (happy). I have seen a number of companies lose their founder who had the initial vision for the company. we believe that we were created in the image of God and that he has a specific purpose for us. and in the meantime expand their minds and understanding of the bigger picture. and Principles What is vision? It is a perspective of where you want to be in the future. and concept only.” The becoming is the lifelong journey that should be filled with joy. The Bible says in Proverbs 29:18 that “Where there is no vision. wealth. you can set up your child with the right skills and attitude to give him/her the highest probability of success. we should wish the best for our children—health. The right-brained or S-type people can manage reality. confusion. Imagination and meaning starts very early. As a leader in your home. you were introduced to the concept of cycles and the cycle of strategic change. and rebellion. 103 . They are logical. This will leverage their brain capacity to know what is available should they need to draw on it later. culture. This passion sits in our soul. If you apply best practices.” Leadership without principles and vision is worthless. and happiness. Who you are makes you happy ultimately. As parents. Many don’t even have formal qualifications but are very successful despite this. In this chapter.e. with their feet on the ground. Vision is the beginning of strategy. By focusing on proper generative conditions. Visionaries are usually not great public speakers or debaters and often appear more than normal. You may have a vision for yourself on what you would like to be in the future. structure. a. and challenge. Vision. The N types can see options and possibilities. you will get positive responses that will translate into correct practices and then strong habits. bear in mind that the aim is to introduce structure. your function lies within the first quadrant. these people are hard to replace and the company often spirals downward. you must become. waiting for us to embrace the challenge.” As Christians. However. you will increase your leverage and reduce the risk of problems. vision. Understanding the power of cycles. “before you can be. A vision is the beginning of “the fire within you. the people perish. as it defines the “what” for the future in holistic terms. A leader without a clear vision (and the right values) cannot lead. This old saying misses the truth about complete happiness.. and to really know these. However.
The structure must fit the vision and then accommodate the culture to best fulfill the purpose. � Start the day right (rested. One of the obvious scenarios is a “projects” structure. Because of the “fog” or “quest” type need. and diet).Peter Jennings Their subconscious can assimilate more with feel than logic. The first step is to define a mission statement that sets the stage for what your vision and goals are. exercise. The latter are the better leaders. like tidiness. Routine is by far the best structure and optimally owned by the student. so I’m not sure which comes first). the former better managers. I am sure that you have had the experience of being focused on a large project. Goal-setting is a core driver for any real achievement. This adds meaning and motivation for the children and gives an intrinsic argument for learning. This is normal. and establish strong values for life. positive. so it is hard for us—and children—to be totally involved in “projects” and to tidy up. I use these terms loosely. and output oriented. Once this is complete. Goals keep things personal. However. Projects should become routine. but it limits your responsibility to teach and increases your child’s responsibility to learn (see appendix for an example). Structure is your base or constitution that is designed to keep you on the straight and narrow. Not only must this be based on agreement. A few principles to work with are: � Work first then play. Then it becomes real and something he/she can carry into life. Learning and the education process need a core structure that defines how you are going to learn. Structure All cultures require structure. It is critical that you work through (and explain) this process in discussing the term’s goals. (Projects or N type people also tend to be untidy. and they could just be a few lines and part of your morning affirmations and prayers. 104 . The result is usually that routine tasks are neglected. This defines the how we get things done. Obviously. b. � Routine before projects. it must make sense and be based on what is best for the student. That is not to say that any structure is adequate. aligning them to your (their) vision. your whole concentration is absorbed by it. Any project or learning needs substance and some kind of approach. draw up a project charter or code of conduct. or your culture.
105 .MEganize! c. This requires a chapter of its own. It is the subconscious programming that helps us to deal with decisions and find meaning in the chaotic world around us. Culture (Values) Culture defines how we think.
achieve our vision. it provides a clear. � Three Maxims for Life ○ Conquer Self ○ Recognition ○ Add Value � Four Maxims for the Pursuit of Excellence (kung fu) “Self-Control” is the fifth but is covered under Conquer Self ○○ Character (do the right thing) ○○ Etiquette (manners maketh man) 106 . lose your temper. and goals. agreed. You then do not have to nag (caboose). and feel self-fulfilled. 5! Learn these and use them. for the same reason God gave us only ten commandments.Chapter 11 Culture Culture is there to optimize the soft issues that will enable us to fulfill our destiny. More importantly. non-arbitrary behavioral boundary that you all have to stick to. This is a control illusion. It’s as easy as 3. change your mind. cause confusion. you instill the correct thought process in your children’s mind. mission. it needs to be simple. and ultimately create a negative cycle that will break down your communications and ultimately destroy your relationship. However. It is impossible to manage your children’s (or anyone’s) behavior on an exception basis. By defining the guidelines and then managing the interpretation. 4.
Plant the right thoughts and concepts. This also acts as a consistent means of correction rather than some arbitrary “just because I said so. You and only you have the responsibility for your life. so walk the walk. ○○ Presence—focus on what you are doing right now. Frame it properly. Teaching these mantras requires a more in-depth understanding of the concepts. Jennings—adapted) ○○ Purpose—make sure that you know what you want to get out of what you are doing. ○○ Playfulness—enjoy what you are doing. your soul. Get involved. but nature is more powerful. Your example is significant. so clear guidelines should be set and followed. Have faith. K. Remember that thoughts are the start of everything.” “Above all things. Try to understand who you are and what you want to be. Three Maxims for Life (in more detail) ○○ Conquer Self—“That which I hate. Two minds are better than one. so it is necessary to go into some detail of the what and how. may happen. Today many areas seem to be gray. So where do we start with this? The seven heavenly virtues have 107 . no one cares whether you succeed or not (except perhaps your family). I do. Don’t try to jam it. Link it to your goals. Don’t dream or worry about what is going to happen.” The latter will lead you down a slippery slope. The reality is. They may pretend to reject or ignore them. focus on learning the main points. etc. Leave that to Bob Marley. and the choices that you make along the way.MEganize! ○○ Effort (give 110%) ○○ Sincerity (don’t mix work and play) ¾¾ Five Ps to Performance (from Dr. Don’t do it alone. Teach your children responsibility and ownership. Don’t set it up as hard work. So instead of trying to teach your children too much (by talking). Then train them to do one or two things that will help them to experience the concept and so begin the line of thinking that will expand along over time. Many people blame circumstances for their failures. ○○ Process—always try to apply the best process to leverage your productivity and reliability. know thyself ” (Hamlet). We all have to face our own destiny. ○○ Participation—we work better as teams.
you will give depth to it by pointing out to your children which virtue is relevant. By teaching our children these simple but critical soft skills. thoughts. The virtues require meditation. known as the root of all virtues. ¾¾ Love. If people are given knowledge. ○○ Recognition (what we must give) People skills have never been taught at schools. People can look for recognition in different ways than how we give it.” ¾¾ Words of affirmation ¾¾ Quality time 108 . Some are purely good manners. which is the inspiration of sacrifice and the foundation of a productive society. These needs can be divided into the five “languages of love. while he needs others. or for the same reason. which is the ability to govern and discipline oneself. and humble. but others are more involved. is the quality of being modest. ¾¾ Faith in God. ¾¾ Fortitude. It’s all about the right structure. These are the virtues to focus on (see the table in the appendix): Read Romans 7:15-21 ¾¾ Humility. This concept can resolve many of these problems.) This negative cycle can erode the marriage. or the combination of the desire for something and the expectation of receiving it. Small leveraged changes can change it all positively. ¾¾ Hope. and often a good dose of humility. Recognition or the lack thereof is the key to most relationships. A husband and wife often fail to connect on many levels because of this. and feelings. showing moderation in actions. It takes initiative to change this. ¾¾ Temperance.Peter Jennings survived centuries and provide a wisdom-based foundation that is reliable. from whom we derive our faith and meaning in everything else. showing strength in tough times. and vice versa. yet these form the cornerstone of success and happiness. they can generally work out their own solutions. Knowledge (understanding) is power. The high percentage of crimes committed within family circles shows that there is a huge disconnect. Guys usually don’t get this! A wife needs certain things to feel loved that he hasn’t even thought of. and if used as a guideline by the parent. especially in a family. which often go unmet as a result. primarily before God. and general interactions. There are different levels of recognition. (The guys aren’t always to blame. relationships. respectful. they will be more productive in their choices. ¾¾ Prudence.
109 . we need to adopt a team culture. It is our team principle that we should not ask someone else to do for us what we can do for ourselves. We can spend our lives complaining about the problem when all we need to do is focus on the solution. ○○ Adding Value As a family. As fathers to our children. their source of everything. This is the same in life with one big difference: there should be no slackers (unless they are unable). much as a man must love (recognize) his wife. and fundamental understanding. don’t complain when your children would prefer to play Nintendo or Mindcraft instead of spending time with you. God wants our recognition. create us in His image. and vice versa. we have similar expectations. God did. not subjective. This can be a reflective response as a result of. It is important to practice and/or show recognition in everything we do. Seek to understand first. We are their meaning. strategic thinking. and work toward common and personal goals. although later on in life it might be more efficient to get an expert to perform certain required tasks for us. Understanding the Myers-Briggs profiles can also help enormously. He would not have mentioned this for no reason. a lack of recognition by their parents. cheer each other on. but there is the implication of a cause-and-effect situation over time. so feelings and pride are of less consequence. after all. While there is surely an excuse for this. or perception of. This is true recognition. When this does not happen. God has set us up through a simulated structure (marriage and family) to understand Him and what He is and what He expects from us. So often we want to watch a movie. This applies to school and family environments. The consequences of not giving Him His worship and praise will result in your failure. so hurry the kids to bed. Ultimately. Remember that our children desire our recognition. The outcome is now objective. So recognition is one of the foundations of our success or failure. both from introspection (what you can change) and understanding others (what you probably can’t change). Children are often accused of switching off to their parents. I’m not saying that this is a one-to-one result. the consequences are that your life becomes meaningless. Be self-reliant. We help each other.MEganize! ¾¾ Receiving gifts ¾¾ Acts of service ¾¾ Physical touch You need to be sensitive to this and make the adjustment.
This could be seen as manipulation by the critics. . Character trumps intellect any day of the week” (www. righteous character . This carries though to perseverance. We eat too much anyway. So being aware of this. TheTrumpet.” (Wiki) 110 . “In Chinese. This is also scriptural. It is a means of determining whether a company added value to its shareholders and is ultimately creating sustainable growth. everyone has a driver or motivator.’ or fu.Peter Jennings Adding value for children starts with doing something to help around the house. not based on what you feel like at the time. “God’s desire is for people to work to develop a holy. which to their mind is arbitrary because of their bounded knowledge. It’s all about recognition. Productivity (added value) is the only way that we can achieve sustainable growth over the long term. Character is what makes a good man. who has enough inner strength. give them a generic concept that they can interpret and place a reward (in moderation) if they do it. Keep away from food incentives. let us focus on it and incorporate this concept into our children’s education and way of life. Tom Peters spoke about the “golden banana” award as being more effective than financial motivation. So much of our focus is on routine nonproductive services that do not add value. and refers to any individual accomplishment or skill cultivated through long effort and hard work. what will get done? Adding value is not just an arbitrary term. ‘man. This said. Find out what it is and use it. a particle or suffix that can mean ‘intensity’) can also be used in contexts completely unrelated to martial arts. Four Maxims for the Pursuit of Excellence (Kung fu) These maxims are used in the karate world but are also a great set of maxims to cover a good work ethic. Instead of nagging them to do this or do that. If we do not motivate. This is core to our problems in the USA and why China is outperforming us. That is what we should be endeavoring to do. but accept it as a paradox. working through problems and tough times.com). kung fu (gōng meaning ‘work’ or ‘achievement’ and either fū. The meaning implied stems from a financial model (EVA) used to measure the performance of an organization. ¾¾ Character Always do what is right. .
You cannot talk and learn at the same time. By command. do. as you can remind them to focus and/or make the lessons interesting. etc. It is their time/life to use or lose. although not acceptable. Stretch. is permissible only if it is a scuffle or managed as a fair fight. Don’t threaten. I urge you to use them in your schooling. Insist on energy! Make it happen! By using my recommended routine. (Don’t take this literally. Without this. Anger. ¾¾ Effort Most kids just go through the motions at school. boys will be boys. It is great to want recognition all the time. then learning will be an ongoing conflict and will be unproductive. it becomes a real task to keep them from interfering with each other. he is powerless. and fighting. It is important to stress the first maxim of “conquer self. Sending him to a reformatory or suspending him from school for a year is adult 111 . Certain behavior has to be strictly managed. but this is not fair to the others. rudeness. The teacher must command respect. As a coach. Of course there is always the threat of no TV or a few minutes outside.” Recognition comes at the end of the lesson when you review their work. Stick to the time limits and see how much they can do. Children must learn to contain their frustrations and deal with them according to the given structure. The mind has to be switched on and motivated to learn. talking. or any form of rebellion should be shut down. I imply deserve). This is much easier to do in a homeschool environment. ¾¾ Etiquette/Self-control This is a code of conduct that relates to the student-teacher and among students. Learn them by heart if you can. not yours. However. I certainly don’t buy into the “zero-tolerance” rule.MEganize! There are three character poems in the appendix. This will not produce any growth. effort is taught in the Power 1/2 Hour and can be carried through the day. He/she is there to provide the structure for the child’s learning experience. They capture the heart of the meaning and will remain in your child’s thoughts for a lifetime. While I subscribe to corporal punishment. If you teach a few children of different ages at home. you must help them to realize that learning is their responsibility. It requires effort to get through it and to optimize your time. The best example of good etiquette is found in a reputable dojo or martial arts class. Of course this assumes that the teacher has the authority to demand respect. This teaches respect and should help at school. Punishment by a dose of non-recognition can be effective.” You could say: “Keep your mouth shut while your eyes and ears work. If the child cannot accept this.
However. they are guilty of distraction. Almost everything should have a process. Headphones work for the older kids to shut out the young ones. Or you can set up a room divider to separate the desks and take away visual contact. The best option is to reinforce their work. Think strategically by asking yourself. then share it and enjoy. ¾¾ Presence—focus on what you are doing right now. This is a sort of meta-decision. It worked well in my day. Five Ps to Performance (in detail) ¾¾ Purpose—make sure that you know what you want to get out of what you are doing. This is a hard one to manage. 112 . a child is a child and should be taught tolerance by example. Everything we do should be linked to our vision and goals. may happen. Sincerity is also a sign of respect and good manners. Boys are physical and have a natural instinct to determine their “alphaness. ¾¾ Sincerity Kids muck about whenever they can. Another way to approach this is to review the questions at the end of the chapter before plunging in. They are also best taught by men as they reach puberty. you will be using active reading. This creates a purpose. this is just another reason for separating boys and girls. then do. It is the most important P to this group. Anyway. This discipline early on will provide the right structure for strategic thinking and will MEganize your brain. holidays. There is always something to giggle at. Christmas. Sometimes you can adjust the structure to eliminate interference. where you create points of interest or questions in your mind about the material. When you get down to reading it. and the system “sure ain’t workin’ now. having established a purpose. Don’t dream or worry about what is going to happen. One of the key learning points is to skim before you start. even though sometimes the detail seems unconnected. Otherwise. This is the second step.” Boys must be kept on a short leash generally and kept busy competing. “Why is this relevant?” or “How does this help me?” ¾¾ Process—a lot has been said about this already. as you want school to be fun(ish). If the joke relates to what they are doing.Peter Jennings punishment. etc. Think. Link it to your goals.” Cheating is a far worse crime.
waiting for a call. make sure they all contribute. The world is dominated by extroverts who talk until the cows come home. This is a challenge. drama. It also takes the pressure off. Another common scenario is when your children hit the dating age (around sixteen). help him/her to work on this as early as possible by signing up for singing in the choir. ¾¾ Participation—a child must learn to participate socially and in learning. This is real. This results in an unbalanced situation. 113 . we need to stay involved with the child’s work. Sadly. If your child is shy and introvert.” However. Many quizzes can be made into a form of game. and your life.MEganize! When you are young. a pretty girl. or even selling cookies for the girl guides (especially if she is a girl). If there is more than one student. This becomes a habit and you end up always doing something else instead on living in the moment. Getting playful in the class environment is hard. The best way is to ensure that all are involved and that the quieter. The tone of school needs to be one of interest. This is not what I’m referring to. not dogmatic. Usually they will be incapacitated for hours. your circle of influence. Make it a point to focus on areas you can control. there is a tendency to daydream. where the loudest or most indignant get their way. ¾¾ Playfulness—a child must play. as this brings joy.” Sometimes children will learn just as much if they are asking the questions. or preparing to go out. but that is out of your control. go with them rather than say. these are the people who usually run the companies. As a teacher. apply the same rule. Focus on the present. A child gets overexcited when playtime comes around. This is easy to achieve in a small-team environment. like get “three in a row” to win or “you ask me first. Encourage their participation in getting the work done. “I have to study. The rest will happen whether you like it or not. when it is time to study. or just a lack of motivation. This could be about an imminent match after school. This is nervous energy and must be controlled. Learn to take it as it comes. Sometimes we are let down. your goals. When your friends are going somewhere. even days. It can also be an excuse not to engage. then at least you will not have wasted time worrying about something that did or did not happen. and joy adds meaning. more reserved people get to feel comfortable in sharing.
1996.Peter Jennings Loyalty and trust are two sides of the same coin. From The Loyalty Effect: The Hidden Force Behind Growth. so must you set the same expectations from them. and Lasting Value by Frederick F. then the probability is that it all makes sense and that they are in fact right and true. all rights reserved. Just as you must be trustworthy to your children. Reichheld’s Loyalty Cycle depicts a positive cycle. There are principles involved that can be life changing and business changing. contrary to widely held beliefs and practices of old management styles. This is a slightly adapted diagram from Reichheld’s book The Loyalty Effect showing the MEganize Strategic Cycle Quadrants. It is also the cornerstone of another foundation of our society—marriage. Profits. Loyalty is one of the cornerstones of a positive culture. Teal. If these principles tie in with the rest of this integrated concept. While we live in 114 . Harvard Business Press. This truth is usually confirmed in God’s laws and principles. Fig. The real truth does not lie in perception but in what actually works. The key is of course understanding the right drivers (best practices) and the big picture. Reichheld and Thomas A. The Loyalty-based Cycle of Growth Reprinted with permission of Harvard Business Publishing. 14. Copyright (c) 1996 by Bain and Company.
and actions. Or should I say has been? Nevertheless.” This implies that God’s Word is synonymous with His being. a reflection on our greater paradigm that seeks to minimize the value of people. so must we show mercy and forgiveness to our children. This way trust has become an intrinsic part of our culture and is a cornerstone to our success as a civilization. Our faith in Him has been based on the promise of eternal life through Jesus Christ. so do we look to our Father in heaven. The parallels will astound you and highlight the pitfalls of a “control” system. This breaks the relationship. A breach of trust is a serious offense. Your wife places her trust in you to provide for and protect the family. words. Originally. “ownership” if you will. Just as God is merciful to us. There are. This means that we must bear the consequences of our decisions. Please read temperance into consequences. yy Also. A small rebuke from a big person is usually a big rebuke to a small person. wisdom. This book is the proof of what we have come to disregard as nonsense.MEganize! a time of company disloyalty. The consequence of this in a family is devastating. Values are everything. however. if we are not repentant. the principle of trust is like a chain. the 115 . then we are in rebellion and the relationship is not restored. and the Word was God. the concept of trust is based on our Christian and Judaic belief in God and the fact that we can rely on Him based on His word. The chain of trust and loyalty is broken. Trust Trust is one of the foundations of our Western culture. this book proves beyond any doubt that the principles of applying loyalty in general pay off handsomely. Similarly. and ultimately eternal life. Isn’t that what we are looking for: A principle that reflects the truth and will give us sustainable growth and wealth over the years? “The result is that generally accepted accounting principles actually hide the value of a loyal customer. and the children look to both parents to nurture them and keep them safe. and the Word was with God. an impressive feat of concealment given what loyalty can do for the great majority of companies. protection. two provisos: yy Despite the fact that we can assume forgiveness. your trust is in God for guidance. As a father in the family. Just as a child trusts his parents to take care of him. save for mercy and forgiveness. there are still consequences. God has given us the freedom of choice between good and evil.” We focus on the measurables and don’t give any credibility to values. The Bible starts with “In the beginning was the Word. which make all the difference behind the scenes.
the probability of success must increase. In terms of disloyalty. proven processes. Also. an increase by 5% in the last five years. By understanding the nature of cycles. there has been a declining trend toward getting married. As usual. which is a major lead in defining our culture. around 50% of marriages now end in divorce. Lies and deception have become commonplace. despite the Bible’s strong declaration of God’s abhorrence of this.Peter Jennings consequence of our rebellion at the heavenly level is unthinkable. trying to eliminate God from our structure (constitution and law courts) and our culture (schools). but it seems that this is the logic commonly used. failing at school and suffering from emotional and behavioral problems. and models all provide a structure that you can use forever. Meaning is core to structure and values. but the real challenge lies with you. A rebellious spirit cannot bear anything but rebellious fruit. to your spouse. If you are faithful to God.” Today 41% 116 . Our culture. has become one of manipulation and deceit. To compound this. By basing this on the right principles and processes. The once strong Protestant foundation has dropped from 53% to 47% in the last five years. let us look at some interesting statistics on the trend in family life in the USA. over 50% of births to white women under thirty are out of marriage (NYT).” Impact of disloyalty The spirit of rebellion is strong in many ways in the USA. The number of Christian believers is rapidly dwindling. Cycles. especially by our leaders. What happens to our society when that meaning is lost? Your immediate thoughts probably go to your children who are disobedient and are sometimes guilty of lying or even stealing. Your immediate reaction is that that does not make a good case for marriage. God hates lies. There are no Protestants on the Supreme Court today either. yet we continue. Twenty percent of American adults say they have no religion. and to your children. as our meaning for existence disappears. Look it up. research has shown that “children born out of marriage face elevated risks of falling into poverty. The fundamental problem will become clear. your knee-jerk reaction would be wrong. Why all the examples of cycles you may ask? The answer is wisdom. the chain can be restored. We are now officially on the brink of being disloyal to God and trying to make our laws in contradiction to His laws. Over the last forty years. we can design a complete integrated learning program for your children’s education. This top-down approach is what Steven Covey called “simplicity beyond complexity. Today.
lower education levels. lack of prudent government. sickness and disease. and the general decrease in our faith in God seem to be happening concurrently. kindness. which is really the bottom line. We need to strive to hold our values high and work on our virtues. it is not your needs that are important in a family. I wonder if this is a fundamental issue. Those who remain single for twenty years have an accumulated wealth of around $7. this whole breakdown can be resolved by focusing on our three life maxims. but on real added value processes and innovation. At home. Husband and wife must work together to get things done. yy Recognition: Showing each other respect. yy Add value: Our focus must be on this in our daily works. and support is key to any relationship. Also. I find it interesting that the decline in family values. the resulting chaos for the children. it is the reward of loyalty and trust. Look to the 1st Quadrant for the solution. our sustainable growth lies not in money supply based on arbitrary services. Accumulated wealth. Each day must count at school by adding something of value to your knowledge. yy Conquer self: We have many temptations open to us. almost in a cycle—the Poverty Cycle. It appears that married men are also more productive. As a nation. Divorced couples for more than fifteen to nineteen years have $21.000! It is the leverage effect all over. teamwork in a family is critical. adding to the child’s development of self-esteem and confidence. but most importantly. earning around 11% more than unmarried men. Ultimately. Of course the most important factor is the children.200. also shows an interesting picture. and those who stayed married over $125. Please research this topic. and I urge you to read Better Dads. Fathers play a key role in the development of their children.400. The words to give and not to count the cost are core to this concept. The pieces certainly seem to fit together.MEganize! of single-mother families with children under eighteen live below the poverty line versus only 9% of married couples. Have you changed your mind yet? This lays a foundation for failure of society as a whole. but what is good and righteous in the eyes of God. This is the team culture that is so important to understand. Stronger Sons. 117 .
520 civilian deaths.910 civilian injuries. $6. fire departments responded to 370. we continue to prescribe building tinder boxes. We can create a control system where a paradigm is enforced. One of the founding thoughts behind this crippling syndrome is to defend your ego. Personal agendas. hold on to your job. Ever heard of bricks? They are eco-friendly and don’t burn.Chapter 12 The Three Ps in Strategy 1. made primarily of flammable materials. This is a prime example of a trapped paradigm that exists despite so much obvious evidence of a structural problem. even to the detriment of your company or customer or country.000 home structure fires.000 homes are destroyed by fire. Over time we develop a process by which we interpret the world and its problems.” (www. We ignore feelings and emotions.nfpa.org) This has been the average for the last ten years. Management and parental tendencies are still operating under the scientific method of management. The result is an illusion. “In 2011. U. This way we become limited in our ability to be objective and realistic. protect it and entrench it at any cost. but the realities of the world and the principles of cause and effect will unfold. These fires caused 13. With all the building codes and safety regulations. Paradigms are our view of the world. The saying that “perception is reality” refers to this concept. and politics are major blocks to fundamental solutions.9 billion in direct damage. Paradigms Every year around 20.S. We focus on things rather than people. We filter out information that doesn’t meet with our approved criteria. A trapped paradigm is one of the biggest barriers to problem-solving and creativity. empire building. 2. and we 118 .
specifically that there is more control with greater decentralization. This is not a question of capitalism versus socialism either. and styles. In Japan their system of honor requires leaders taking personal responsibility. Many paradigms that we held sacred have been blown out of the water. and many still exist today in homes and schools. Large companies lose the spirit of ownership and entrepreneurship and then fade in their bureaucracy. Paradoxes are significant in maintaining synergy. Reichheld’s Loyalty Effect shows the true cost of management’s downsizing. It was here that various paradoxes were made apparent.MEganize! expect either the big stick or the carrot to be adequate to get the results. Profoundly true! These are all indicative of paradigms that take a long time to break. Deny. rightsizing. This was further upheld by Pascale in his study of the Japanese business culture. deny. They are necessary to include in your structure to ensure balance. There is no real motivation for them to learn whatever is put in front of them. 119 . It’s a question of size and leverage. Why do a third of our listed corporations fail every thirty years? Yet we still swear on capitalism. or higher? Motivation—the desire to perform—is the foundation of all learning. This corroborates Tom Peters’ example of one of the key paradoxes that states that there is more control when it is decentralized. It’s always a case of bad management decisions. They do not see how learning this is going to help them in the future. reorganization. return on sales declines with increased investment). Honda. as they were never part of the decision-making process. Management/leaders always seem to avoid taking responsibility in the west. aptitudes. takeovers without any respect for the employee and how this actually hurts the business. Bravo! This demonstrates integrity and selflessness. They do not own these goals. Tom Peters referred to this in the ’70s with his groundbreaking book In Search of Excellence. and so there is little buy-in. prescribes breaking up larger businesses into smaller ones. S. Profit Impact of Market Strategy showed that there is a negative correlation between capital intensive investment and profitability (but the fact is. which has largely been lost. Also. Can you see the parallel with the schooling system and even the government? Bigger is never better. deny. Kids are not treated as individuals with their own learning preferences. but usually the buck is passed down the line. Johnson is also made up of 126 companies. C. why should they work hard if they know their grades will be elevated to pass. acknowledged as one of the best-run companies in the world. They can be seen as the spirit of the law (as opposed to the letter). The problems and answers to our current situation lie in this paragraph. as so many twist the law to their own pervasion (or perversion) of the truth. as there may have been expansion but not growth through productivity.
Be aware of them. when your children scream for the TV and you say. The key is that control circumstances are unreal and do not bear worthwhile fruit. or read a story. “Let’s go for a walk. and homeschooling offers you a great opportunity to create a “positive life paradigm” for your children. especially academic information. Paradoxes What is a paradox? It is a seemingly contradictory statement that may nonetheless be true. I try to enhance them and incorporate them into the MEganized process where children should learn most of it anyway. Skip that.Peter Jennings Time to break another one! Another paradigm that exists is the holiness of the much of the same curriculum that has been used for the past century. This focuses on real learning and real change rather than the classical grammar school approach. The issue with paradigms is that they are essentially created by the culture and set of beliefs and standards that we are programmed with or we experienced as a child. I believe that learning through general interest is better than learning for a test. By then the train has already left the station.” providing the standards are high and the processes efficient. and focus on the real meat.” It starts with saying prayers together at night. more skills related. The answer lies in coaching and a team-based culture. or do some ABCs. and you should avoid a control style of teaching. as well as Christian- or values-based parenting. These years are critical. This is the subconscious logic and process with which your children see and adapt to the world. The crux is that these early years are so formative that we cannot wait until their teens to start the program. 2. No TV until 4:00 p. The fact is that world education is becoming more outcome oriented. and check your own. The concept of “less is more. The key paradox that exists between the Projects functions and Operations is shown in the table below: 120 .m. If you are participative. is paramount. Enough about paradigms. So much detail taught at school is irrelevant and arbitrary. but rather. that will follow. It starts at two. I do not discount the older practices. active in your role of adding value. It starts with the first quadrant and you as parents taking ownership to lead. Mere exposure to various topics will produce as good a long-term benefit as the learn-test-move-on approach.
more control is needed to make sure that the strategic objectives are met. Principles Principles are laws that apply under any circumstances.” People rarely are able to think at both levels effectively (see MBTI). This may be true. If you are a believer in Jesus Christ and the Bible. We need to think on these two levels: one based on reality (decision). he must regard himself as greater than he is. the divergence needs to be limited. This could be referred to as “keeping your feet on the ground and your head in the clouds. Thus. how can you live a life of sacrifice and also strive for your own happiness? This is a good example of maintaining a balance and the need for paradox in most things. 3. but it also may be one of these paradox things. i.MEganize! Strategic (Projects) “To know that we know what we know. the other on hope (implementation). Often your children will think that you are contradicting yourself. The opposite applies in a routine (operations) situation where the mundaneness becomes too focused and demotivating.” Goethe yy Activity type Convergent yy Leadership style—Less control Table 15. otherwise it will run away with itself.. Core Paradoxes yy The paradox here is that in a divergent environment (projects). For instance. projects.” Confucius yy Activity type—Divergent yy Leadership style—More control Operations (Routine) “For a man to achieve all that is demanded of him. then this should make even more sense. and that we do not know what we do not know. This leads to living a life of sacrifice. so individual expression and control is important to retain both meaning and a sense of achievement. This does not mean a lack of structure. but more a built-in structure to accommodate improvement.e. But we are also subject 121 . yy A paradox of life is that our routine needs to incorporate change. yy Another key (Christian?) paradox is that we need to help others in order to prosper ourselves. We are all subject to the principles and laws that exist. This makes sense especially where the Internet is involved.
and it’s a good way to get going and score quick wins. Set a limited time to keep the mind engaged. Our basic nature and destiny are part of this whole. The crux is that the two are different. where the concepts are worked to bring about excellence and change in the student. This is natural. The project time is thinking time. This is what evens the playing field. But boredom with routine can be a problem. Make sure that the intelligence learned is used. what is the motivation for learning new skills? (see the Strategic Change Cycle and Learning Cycle diagrams) Notice how your child is thoughtless in many ways. routine functions must be done first. It is all normal. (Don’t load them with your chores!) A corollary of this concept is just as important. it will create confusion and increase stress. or have a competition. Self-absorption. is not healthy. requiring different thinking skills and personality 122 . All in all. The fact that this is the opportunity to get it done before doing more exciting stuff (diverging) is another incentive. doing the routine stuff first is a good life rule. so let it be. The productivity level is high on routine tasks—another reason to do it first. Routine is there to build it (the knowledge obtained from projects) in. Start small after about five. In order to optimize your time. exploring new areas and getting your mind around new concepts. This is usually easy. Projects are there to introduce change. “One thing at a time” is a house rule! This has been discussed earlier in this chapter and elsewhere. so it is important that you start giving them small jobs that are low risk. where they become the owners of that function and add value. So you will notice that projects and routine are separated in the timetable. These are the significant principles relevant to learning and productivity as a whole: a) Routine versus Projects The culture and mind-set of learning new material (projects) is different to repetitive practice (routine/operations). as his brain is so involved in doing what you tell him to do and trying to make sense of what is going on (projects) that his focus is all in one place. The principle of what you sow is what you reap is fundamental. however. One of the learning points is that the brain can only perform one task at a time. Irrespective of how we try to control circumstances to manipulate events. If you give your child more than one instruction. Routine is “doing” time. You don’t need so many laws and prescriptive social actions.Peter Jennings to the laws of nature and science. or rebel against natural laws. otherwise. This total absorption points to convergence and will later translate into ownership. these endeavors will ultimately fail.
This is divergence and should be stopped. 123 . c) Top-down approach So I am a firm believer of a top-down approach. Then it gets to one cup a day. even though there is no focus on an output. the child may like to fool around on the keyboard when starting with Piano Wizzard. For example. How do we achieve this? Through proper motivation and process (see 5Ps for Performance). It could be small things like drinking one cup of coffee after “giving up” caffeine. and capital into the endeavor. The old saying of “abstinence is easier than moderation” is true. This principle applies to all aspects of life. Gary Player said that when his game went down. It offers knowledge that gives insight into the detail. Hopefully. Learning needs to incorporate both divergent (projects) and convergent (routine) skills without mixing them. We need to instill the desire to perform before investing time. as the chances of using that specific detail in your profession or life is minute. It gives wisdom that can be applied in life. and you’re back on the wagon.MEganize! types. b) Structure before diversity There are a number of situations that will arise where this principle will be useful. We often forget how we get drawn into bad habits. A bottom-up approach is like the tail is wagging the dog. effort. Sticking to the program is essential. where the alternative does not. Routine offers an essential balance to reduce the risk of urgency drift or compulsive behavior. Before long you have forgotten about your original lesson and why you did it. Give up the bad things and never look back. It is empowering for the individual. The process is to learn the structure. This has been reviewed already. whereas the other way around does not. you can see which is which. otherwise. while your output becomes the diversity. d) Motivation High levels of productivity are our only means of employment growth and de facto in improving our education. The key to learning is to work the process to produce an output and bring about change. even golf. he practiced the basics. the child is encouraged to believe that it’s okay.
and the first must be managed before attempting the second. Sort these out first. lighting. Maslow emphasized the importance of self-actualization. According to this list. People are insecure and will go along with the regime just to fend for their families. Did you get that? Eighty-five percent! Most of the underachievement lies in the external factors.) These are the two steps: 1. which is a process of growing and developing as a person in order to achieve individual potential. lesson program. adequate sleep. On a larger scale. right teaching style. not with the individual. These relate to Herzberg’s hygiene factors and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.Peter Jennings Research in the USA showed that 85% of the factors resulting in employee demotivation were in the work environment (Huysamen). However. The hierarchy of needs is more complex. going through the list should be simple enough regarding your children. facilities. Remove extrinsic demotivators. the Georgia teachers complicit in the cheating scandal could be a good example of this. This is a dangerous situation and can be used as a reason for committing crime. Many of us now are lower down on the list because of increasing unemployment and even eviction. This is devastating to the individual and will impact society. our social behavior changes to a point where we have no respect for others’ property. Hygiene factors in a school or homeschool environment would include study area. So the ability to truly become an individual only comes after all the other needs are met. and any block here could be determined with the help of a psychologist. At an individual level. When we have no homes or employment. diet. where unemployment is a result of poor economic policies. lack of distractions. air quality. so there will be a strong correlation in what happens in the business environment to our schools. as their absence will adversely affect performance. the thought patterns and decisions are from the same generative essences. 124 . adequate exercise. (Remember that in a cultural paradigm. our security is threatened. It is critical to understand that there are two aspects of motivation. This is why your children need to be fulfilled in order to enjoy lifelong happiness. and most probably a lack of recognition. we just have to look at the poorer countries where fear and insecurity are high on the agenda and the atrocities that occur on civilians. This aligns with the social behavior of control countries.
still so often forgotten in the bureaucratic mind-set. but this is not a panacea. Rewards help here. as they are immediate. b. Removing demotivators first The business approach to people management. without overindulgence. All needs must be met. There are three key motivators. 16. Peer association and competition. Recognition and positive reinforcement are the strongest strategic motivators. i. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs 2.MEganize! Removing these demotivators is significant in solving an individual’s and even a country’s problems. This would be how you motivate your children. but simple. Deadlines help to get that final spurt to finish a project or master a subject area. This involves a few simple steps. 125 . Fig. a. This can only be done in the presence of economic activity. whether direct or indirect. Install intrinsic motivators. This complexity can be overcome to some extent by the need to conform. should be that of a team culture. have a major influence. c. Not easy. Motivation is about meeting the higher needs of the individual.
then focus on providing the right environment for learning. yy Manage expectations. They are old souls in a new mind. Their age is just an illusion.e. waiting to be shown the way. Here are a few critical structural items that could leverage your children’s performance. and want to feel needed and appreciated. but I know that taking 126 . The responsibility for completing the assignments must always remain with the student. Eliminate any demotivators. So it must be with your children. Acidity certainly increases the risk of gout and arthritis and other diseases. ¾¾ Diet yy Managing your body’s pH level is critical to your long-term health. It is up to you as their leader to walk them through it. want to be productive. i. Kids do not understand what they should be doing or why. trust and openness. Take the personal aspect of being a parent out of the equation. Do not mistake this as an opportunity to inflict them with “my way or the highway. yy Avoid negativity or anger. This applies to people in any situation. How many companies haul their staff over the coals. ○○ Being creative in how you facilitate stretching to meet goals..” Kids and people generally want to excel. This implies less talking. but from the environment.Peter Jennings yy Think of yourself as a coach. Structure and Productivity As said earlier. I am no doctor. This implies that your work is to help with the process only. ○○ Become an effective listener. Key aspects of coaching include: ○○ Building and maintaining the relationship. Your children are no different. the majority of adverse productivity issues stem not from the student. Your goal should be to change yourself to do this right. Any situation that threatens or limits the perception or reality of having basic needs (physical or safety) met will result in demotivation and unexpected resistant behavior. possibly threatening them with firing and setting unreasonable goals? Those that do don’t keep their best employees. This destroys trust and motivation. yy Think motivation. Take yourself out of the equation.
(You can also use small amounts—1/4 tsp—of baking soda daily. Balance is everything.) Obviously. and doctors and allergists. of course. By pure coincidence we looked at humidifiers. We were at the point of considering selling our house to move to the coast.MEganize! apple cider vinegar alleviates arthritis. My five-year-old son has been on antibiotics at least twice a year for chest or ear infections. music. The house looked like a tissue morgue. The children had itchy eyes and ongoing coughs. Talk about a “boiled frog” syndrome. air purifiers. robotics. It’s a great example of how we ignore things that we cannot see and focus on the problem. This could be studying claymation. it is better to balance your diet with green vegetables. Each morning we would wake up with a dry throat and runny nose. Diabetes is also a result of a high-carbohydrate diet. Our home was so bad we considered paying $10. (Watch portion size too when it comes to a healthy diet. our home was visibly less dusty and our allergies were gone. Being part of a herd and doing something cool is paramount. will prescribe medication until the cows come home.) See below for a quick guide. 127 . Sadly. The children were always below their best. most schools don’t use them. ¾¾ Air quality in the house yy Allergies are fast becoming a pandemic. ¾¾ Outside competition yy Outside reference is key to motivation. and ionizers. or just being in a math class with others of a similar age. This is one of the most productive mediums we have today. It also shows how we tend to look and pay for symptomatic solutions rather than trying to identify the fundamental cause by using strategic thinking. There are pH saliva strips available.000 per person for a course to isolate the triggers and develop immunity drops. ¾¾ Computers with a DSL line yy Many of the educational programs today are online. which is acidic. A week after installing these.
¾¾ Eat a balanced diet.com. it rubs off on everything else. My references are from a qualified dietician ($200+ fee). ¾¾ Managing their progress using the weekly achievement chart yy This is one of the few chores.diabetesreversed. and the chances are you eat the same way everyone else does! Here is a quick summary of the dos and don’ts of eating healthily. ¾¾ Your focus: encouragement and leadership yy This is your challenge. Also see www. Feedback is essential for learning. yy Encouragement is one of the team spirit basics. don’t just ignore them. There are three easy rules to follow (with some key pointers). Increase your standards. When a child is excited about something. The leader must drive. They will love you for it. eliminating “killer foods. a natural remedy program ($40). I recommend the latter options as a more complete source of reference. Goals need to be split up into tasks and assigned properly. and give direction and criticism where needed. just an overview. Work on the weaknesses. yy Outputs need to be managed and rewarded where necessary. Teach them that rewards are due to those who work hard and achieve their objectives. show confidence in his team. but any rewards and prizes for excellence become the focus of their agenda. Diet It is necessary to deal with diet in more detail. Here is more detail on the “A” items. Please note that this is not an all-inclusive list. 128 . as well as my own experience. and Esselstyn. for in this process you are giving them the ultimate recognition. Do your own research.” Make sure you include protein in each meal. Assume that your child is pre-diabetic. as this is the prevalent situation we live in. Make sure you give both positive and negative feedback.Peter Jennings yy Sport is an excellent medium for motivation and meaning.
600 for an adult female. boiling is better. cheese. Don’t start or end the day with sugar! 129 . All high-fructose corn syrups. All dairy-related products with high fat or cholesterol content. Ignore sugar. Splenda. Don’t miss meals.. ¾¾ Keep to the right portion size. Processed and refined grains. Slow cook is better than broiled. as this is included. yy Fifty percent of the meal should be non-starch vegetables. This includes all food groups. Avoid high counts. Divide this by 15=1 serving size. especially breakfast. white pasta. Truvia. ¾¾ Eat regularly. Sweet Fiber. yy Limit carb intake to two to three servings per meal. yy Avoid “killer foods. e.a. Low GI foods will release glucose more slowly. Boiled is better than fried. Rather use Stevia. not just carbohydrates. and butter. yy Slow cooking. ice cream. Watch the carb count! yy Drink one to two liters of water daily. Read up on this topic. and around 1. Watch the glycemic index.k. white rice. How you cook your foods can also reduce the AGE content. anything more than 2. 1. Fast foods will have high AGE counts. white sugar. These include sodas and fruit juices. The label will show grams of total carbohydrate. white flour. Avoid trans and animal fats. Eat something every four to five hours.MEganize! yy Eat high fiber (+3g) options only. limiting carbohydrate intake. white bread.” including: Aspartame and sucralose a.800 for a male. yogurt. milk.g. The rule of thumb is three main meals and two snacks in between.5 grams of fat per 100 calories. yy Your total calorie intake per day should be around 1. yy Super foods include coconut oil. nuts (unsalted). This includes meat. These include cream.000 for a ten-year-old. Avoid advanced glycation end-products (AGE).
This neutralizes static dust that floats around. yy Ensure the air is above 35%-40% humidity. You can get whole home options or smaller varieties. Hopefully they will have learnt good judgment and prudence from your example. that if we work ourselves out of a job by any means we will advance in our journey as well. This will ensure clear air and reduce allergies to a minimum. Of course we hope that if you practice a conscious “good air” program. runny nose. but less than 80%. It is illogical to learn arbitrary facts if the probability is low that you will ever use them. and usable. I have always suffered from hayfever. but not anymore except for the occasional Claritin in spring. ii. yy An optional extra for hard floor homes is a Roomba. which I reduce generally to air quality. we can control the air quality with a minimum amount of effort and cost. Great product. Sweets are treats (rewards) only. if not totally! This is my experience after many years of specialists and medication. which has improved greatly and keeps dust to a minimum with little effort. If it gets too dry. In our home. your children will in turn avoid commonly used “bad air” products like cigarettes and marijuana later on.Peter Jennings One of the mantras I use for my kids is that “abstention is easier than moderation. I work under the philosophy that the size of the cake is not limited. yy Avoid eating chocolate! Somehow this stimulates the symptoms of allergies. Air Quality The other high-level killer is lung disease (#3).” Stay away from all sodas and cookies. You will then assume you have an allergy and take medication for the wrong reason! yy Install ionizers to introduce negative ions into the air. practical. which I have had too much of. This falls within my definition of a fundamental solution. This implies that 130 . etc. Try these solutions: yy Install air purifiers (HEPA). Install intrinsic motivators My core belief in empowering our children stems from my learning experiences. your nose will run and your eyes itch to induce enough moisture for your body’s needs. Our learning must be more definitive.
however. I do. However. It also offers a top-down empowerment that allows for ownership and ultimately recognition. So often we continue in a blissful state. our curiosity creates a need. This is not positive and is unlikely to inspire your children. In these cases. and government grants and subsidies should be minimized. the real possibility of something bad happening is the best deterrent for staying within the limits. So the future of our further educational institutions is at risk unless they change their model. Look for ways to inspire your children using imagination. if you are overweight. This I believe is a compensating effect where other needs are not being met. leading to the inability or refusal to change. Time will tell. This is an important process to teach your children as it is a life skill. Motivation begins with understanding that which creates a need. life goes on with the same meaning. when we are exposed to new aspects. Even in cases when faced with diabetes and even death. refer back to a) and seek help. I believe that the cost benefit of nonspecific university education is not justified. This will happen anyway in our great contraction that is inevitable. but the size and cost of the general facilities are unsustainable from fees alone. one of the Ps to Productivity. Based on my experience. even though we may not be happy. although it is an easy way out for the teacher. There are a few key disciplines to ensure that you get down to the job and get it done efficiently 131 . Ignorance is bliss. Yet we cannot muster the desire to change until there is a catalyst. Avoid motivation through fear. role models. e) Output oriented One of the structural drivers in order to add value has to be a first-quarter focus on the following: yy Goal-setting Goal-setting drives Purpose. This need should inspire us to learn more so that we can achieve or get satisfaction or solve a problem. yy Productivity Many books have been written about productivity. there is no will or motivation to help yourself. you may want to lose weight but somehow lack the motivation to give up the carbs. If we are ignorant about something. For instance.MEganize! the learning institutions have nothing to lose by changing their approach if they are adding value. The process of goal—setting is summarized in chapter 5. believe in using fear to ensure good behavior. and even reality.
Project management or convergent skills are critical to minimize this risk.Peter Jennings such as avoiding procrastination. and prioritizing. effective things. This applies to routine subjects only. Get the right people to do the job. form conclusions (converge). Many adults have never been taught the principles of time management or goal management. we are usually none the wiser. Time management is a core driver to completion and excellence overall. 132 . yy Time management “Anything less than a conscious commitment to the important is an unconscious commitment to the unimportant. which adopts a strategic perspective. Add this up over the year and you have a failed subject or two due to lack of time management. However. By teaching time management skills—how to research (diverge).” (S. At a higher level. then you move on to the next subject and finish the unfinished task in free time. There are a few major points that you should work on that can be applied for life. is the ultimate goal for a productive environment. Covey) Proper time management will dictate that you focus on getting it done during the assigned time. The importance of the individual is paramount as are the principles of “decentralization provides more control” and “structure before diversity. However.” These are illustrated throughout this book. Projects are generally loosely managed because of their explorative nature. MEganize takes this to a new level. define the right processes. A systemic approach. True productivity comes from leveraging your capability to perform faster and more reliably by doing the right. and allow for real decision-making. If you do not use this approach. Projects should be more flexible and allow for total immersion. If you do not. the typical divergent nature of those in projects can result in no closure from addressing moving targets or looking at too many variables. and build these “rules” into the teaching process from an early age—you set your child up to a clear advantage. This is a combination of process and built-in intelligence that applies the relevant process subconsciously. These were never a curriculum subject throughout our education. productivity comes from team alignment and following the leveraged processes in part 2 using the appropriate thinking styles and culture. you will never get through the day without missing subjects along the way. working to a strategic routine and process. so unless we have read about it.
The benefit thus helps the teachers get through their stuff. Work sequentially. ¾¾ Do projects last. File). If they want to play Nintendo. If goals are balanced. “Let’s have a game of tennis. Do it once. ¾¾ Make sure you produce an output or ¾¾ Work erratically. ¾¾ Work to a process to complete the ¾¾ Half-finish a task. Many old school structures actually do some of these. Refer. Work the process. you lead them in the right direction. 133 . Use headphones to cut out noise. ¾¾ Work to a system. Keep them busy! Guide them toward their goals. and decision-making into their structure and syllabus. ¾¾ Work in different places. stick to a routine. you should be able to motivate your child to pursue these around the clock. games.MEganize! Do Don’t (Time wasters) ¾¾ Based on your goals.) In this way. etc). Twitter. TV. say. but they fail to teach the children the process and so don’t accomplish the required change. never revisit. ¾¾ Do the important subjects/tasks first. ¾¾ Have too many files. and then enjoy it. which is toward meeting their goals. notes all over the place. (They can suck up ¾¾ Let other distractions keep you from your time. You will probably learning cycle. Do it have to start all over. They will get it. ¾¾ Practice TRAF (Trash. time management. result.) your job (e-mail. ¾¾ Let clutter take over.” (Our rule is Nintendos stay in the car. Table 17. properly. Get organized. Time optimization and organization are your best leverage tools to productivity. accept it. Action. Use a k-base (Anki). Play with them. Don’t be apathetic and let them choose how to spend their time. They are core drivers to your (and your child’s) success. Build goal-setting. If the children don’t understand the principles or the importance. but that’s all. Set a goal and do it. It takes your initiative and leadership. Work on them. place. Time Management Table These are all common pitfalls. why should they pay attention and use them for themselves? Teach it! Make sure they understand why. ¾¾ Leave your things/books all over the with set times. ¾¾ Set aside “power” time for quick ¾¾ Build up piles of papers that you will refreshers. arbitrarily.
Senge) . for learning also involves a fundamental shift or movement of mind.” (Dr. P.Part 4 Schools “To grasp the meaning of metanioa (MEganize) is to grasp the meaning of learning.
we have few. 1. with the possible exception of application-based sciences. At the very bottom!” ( J. if any.Chapter 13 “As Is” Symptoms “We live in a time of great school crisis linked to an even greater social crisis. Gatto) Some schools are already closing in a number of states due to budget deficits. It looks as though this trend will continue as long as our government structure is top heavy and continues spending more than it earns. In short. Any qualification received as a result of a multiple-choice exam is worthless. We have “done” many subjects but cannot be specific as to what the reasoning is or how to apply the knowledge. Perhaps this is a good thing. There are two major pitfalls in our society and thus in our education system. By the time we finish high school. I have seen 135 . The results of years of study are generally reflected only by the lack of funds in our bank account. Now is the time to prepare. Budget cuts are inevitable. Our nation ranks at the bottom of the 19 industrial nations in reading. additional skills that we added since our early grades. Lack of Skills Output We have created an illusion of learning and fail to change in accordance with our new knowledge and economic demands. it’s mostly a hoax based on the fact that there is no real output. as alternatives will surface and probably be a better solution. writing and arithmetic.
You should know the real extent of your commitment and hopefully not overcommit yourself to too many projects. As defined in the Project Stages or Learning Cycle. Copying is not the same as interpreting. as we never look realistically at the feedback. you will notice that we only complete the bottom half of the cycle. not wasting time of unnecessary divergence. which is the reality of where we are. This represents the lowest level of learning. Passing a multiple-choice questionnaire (that we have practiced for) has us believing that we are done. We have to learn to “face the tiger”. studying for an exam. and interpretation and application skills will be negligible. and commit our work to memory. The change always happens within the “operational mind-set” that can only find symptomatic solutions. We rush through everything. I would remind you of two principles to accent in your teaching approach: “Know that you know what you know. we don’t look at our failures or mistakes so that we can learn from them. This method of learning leaves little understanding in the student’s memory—and even fewer facts. learn from our mistakes. 136 . By rushing through our subjects or work. It’s the “urgency paradigm” through and through. Sometimes the questions are geared to what we know. We rush to impress but fail to learn.” and use it. you will be more careful about what you learn. we often do not progress past the second stage. having only piles of books and notes and a student loan as our evidence of study. No Strategic Orientation We fail to complete the sign-off stages. This does not achieve the required change. and “Less is more. This further lowers the bar of excellence. Sadly. true to our operational mind-set. We can go through our lives repeating this unfruitful approach. If you refer to the Strategic Learning Cycle (fig. and moving on to new material. often these notes tend to be reiterations of themselves as we continually try to get there but fail due to our lack of knowledge of the learning cycle and the discipline to complete it. never really achieving our goals. which is our method of teaching. Now where’s that plastic trophy? 2. The reason for this is the cramming effect.Peter Jennings many institutions actually spending time with students preparing for multiple-choice exams. 7). not what we should know.” If you adopt this approach. This is a sure and common setup for failure. thus facilitating change. achieving little but feeling great. You can teach any monkey to mimic you. With these facts in mind.
excellence. like social studies and literature. Surely.MEganize! These are the keys to our reflection and our paradigms that are flawed. having a sound knowledge of the core principles and processes covered and when to apply them. should be a minor focus after the basic structure is known and should be easy to assimilate either through casual reading or process practicing. why learn it? If you have learned a range of skills covering the 3x3-tier subjects (fig. you will be in a better mind-set in choosing your learning material for your children. 19). thus missing the crux) ¾¾ learning a subject all at once. If you do not anticipate using the information. All that is left is the specialized knowledge that you will need for your profession. then you have been successful at schooling. without going to university. Let us look at more concrete concepts (or is that an oxymoron?) Because of our own imperfect experience. However. your ability to get through more and better will be enhanced. there is no change) ¾¾ a lack of enthusiasm and meaning (motivation and meaning are core drivers to learning) missing three “life principles” and meaning around 137 . we need to understand and overcome the structural pitfalls that prevail. this includes the basic concepts. structure or process. with the commitment to not waste their time and the assurance that what they are learning will or should be valuable to them in or for their lifetime. Of course. we should have some skills after spending twelve years of learning! The non-science material. It is my opinion that we should be in a strong position to work after leaving school. learning is about change. foundational facts. and application (we can’t think and do at the same time) ¾¾ learning in a demotivating environment (shown to be a major cause of demotivation) ¾¾ a lack of expectation of excellence or mastery of key processes (the brain does not optimize itself. thus inhibiting change (must emphasize the last quadrant) ¾¾ learning by listening (we forget 95% within twenty-four hours) ¾¾ learning at the teacher’s or other students’ pace (results in distraction or non-completion) ¾¾ learning from the bottom up (trying to learn too much or unnecessary detail. If you can accept these things. if you truly MEganize. Perhaps the content of these is even unnecessary when you apply the principles and processes learned. These include: ¾¾ not learning the best processes of learning (we don’t care about student productivity) ¾¾ lack of feedback.
which is contrary to nature and God’s design. The principle of what you sow. Groupthink becomes an illusion when out of sync with reality. it becomes difficult to refute or even to see the nonsense in it. though the temptation for diversion is great. Many have said that reality is perception. the reality is that we are all subject to groupthink and. because these governments are politically correct (“democratic”). our media and government stay silent. Entitlement is a powerful force but ends in violence and poverty. and because we fear the label of racist. However. We are not born equal. like now in the Western world. ruling as tyrants without any consideration for their people. leaving the successful demotivated.” or “capitalist” in order to get power. used with discipline. 138 . Lowest Common Denominator As we start our new millennium. Emotions and beliefs become subjective. but not in a world where principles of nature abound. then we lose our direction and choose the wrong paths to follow. So often. we fall into a “strategic drift” where we are totally out of sync with reality.” “American. may well be capable of similar acts. Try to avoid or shortcut this and you end up realizing the illusion. which to my mind have been outdone in Africa under the “new management” programs. Class learning can be disruptive and negatively impact the drive to learn. we have seen that democracy is turning society on its head. especially minorities. Africa bears witness to this.” “racist. Some are already feeling the results.Peter Jennings which the motivation for learning revolves. While the new leaders cry “freedom. We are all unique. they themselves subject their people to chaos and fear. The poor want equality. If this truth is stolen from us. Nevertheless. and even unbelievable. ¾¾ a work or study environment that limits our performance. as the pendulum swings to oblivion. unpalatable. The situation we find ourselves in now actually makes your challenge more urgent and meaningful. While Russia is forgotten. So democracy fails.” “colonialist. and because these are adopted en masse. you will reap is reality. Witness this cruel misrepresentation indeed. which it usually is. There are many instances where people have accepted paradigms or groupthink that are devilish. We think of the atrocities of Stalin and Hitler. These have all been “stolen” by the politically oriented bureaucracy in the efforts to make all things equal. given our own unique destiny to fulfill. put into similar circumstances. Computers. are a great source for study and information. which may be true in the marketing world. Egypt is our most recent example. Quite the contrary.
the more 139 . It has happened before. and provide the structure to meet these four needs. has become a society of illusion. the recipe for mob rule is ready. This is the tail wagging the dog. We address small issues and forget about the bigger picture. but rather for the maintenance of making the children feel good about themselves. we need to be able to see these perspectives and try to look objectively at a situation. decreasing our values as a nation and our currency. without death. The camel is in the tent. With the wrong culture and values. The government is deceitful about its finances. as must schools. and it is here now. how can they form part of the cycle? Remember the four parts to the psyche. Strategically. Government must be holistic. I have seen it happen in Zimbabwe. Democracy can only work in a Christian culture! The poverty cycle will be enforced if we continue down this road. and increased promiscuity. Meaning and values are systemic to our actions. Our leadership must address all of these within their structure or it will lead to dysfunctional behavior. It’s a recipe for disaster and could lead to the downfall of our country and democracy. If our beliefs and values are not part of the 1st Quadrant. This is the argument to start over. our weaknesses. So What? At home. thereby securing government incentives and job security. drug abuse. which turns into strategic drift. and South Africa. This is difficult because we all fall into our own comfort zones. The education system has done that. Our schools are marked by violence. diabetes. and when the demands of the lowest educated are in the majority. You cannot separate spirit from flesh.MEganize! Why is this all important? America. The individual becomes the whole. There are those who believe strongly in the separation between Church and State. a strategic view. We continue to pass laws that treat the symptoms but fail to see or solve the fundamental problems. The control cycle has run its course. Obesity. Mozambique. This was referred to in chapter 1. and rule is by what I call the Lowest Common Denominator (LCD) factor. low performance. These are all symptoms of our illusionary “control” system. like others. Perhaps more so. There are many indicators of our “groupthink” systems. Our system of enforcing political correctness with overregulation has eroded honesty and reality. The “boiled frog” syndrome is on us now as never before. The more we understand how we think. however it is the leaders (government and the law) who create our culture. the schools care little for the achievement of the excellence. both in education and our society. Strategic perspective is essential to ensure a constant reality check. and heart disease curse our nation. we have failed. and work on a process to overcome these. cancer.
and our performance has followed in the same direction. stay away from them. we live in a divergent mind-set. If we mostly eat processed foods. strive for whole and fresh produce. In education. and one would have thought things have improved. It is change. both from his thirty years of experience in teaching and from his recognition for excellence as the “New York Teacher of the Year. to work toward real solutions. If the divorce rate is increasing. (Although in this case. The concepts and principles of this book run through every aspect of life. This reality shift is what you will experience when you start homeschooling. Swimming Against the Tide So what action can you take? How do you respond to the bigger picture? Is any of this relevant to the subject of schooling? I think that it is important to interpret our problems by looking at current paradigms and then work against them mainly to ensure balance and reality.” The book was written over twenty years ago. Today. By building your children’s education to understand them. Then you will have a key. However. the financial grip held by the federal government makes it 140 . If. work hard to keep your family together.. so the probability of success is optimal. Look for the problems and relate them to a paradigm. i. If the standards are being reduced. It is your task to set it all up so that you will succeed the first time.Peter Jennings we will benefit. we are further down the same road. for example. to create a structure that helps us to overcome our weaknesses. Performance John Gatto defined the schooling experience very succinctly in his book Dumbing Us Down. TV. increase yours. cell phones. and the hope is that your children will be enthusiastic about this opportunity. If the focus is on media. so looking at the problems and understanding the common mind-sets can help us see the real issue and help us to think strategically. People who have the resources are scrambling for a better solution. If we live in a fast-food mind-set. focus on convergence. I believe that his reflection of the situation was expert. etc. Everything is related. work on a natural home-based diet. Work toward convergence for the students and divergence for the teachers. the problem is too much divergence for students and centralized control for teachers. the converse would not apply). you will give them strategic perspective from which to interpret and solve the problems that lie ahead.
Cycles tell us the truth because of the outputs over time. especially Zimbabwe. so the principle remains strong. as it was known before. soon to be lost. is now under the threat of demise too. The one leads straight into the other. Racism is just another excuse for disrupting the order. But that made no difference. Call it a lie or an illusion. ii. the result is the same. I have seen this destructive process work its way through a number of corporations and countries. Their communist-inspired Frelimo rebellion has now earned a once-prosperous country the title of one of the poorest in the world. Everyone suffers. they are almost one and the same situations. under the new “democratic” government. is a prime example. Of course the media and world sentiment made it all a lot easier. When the control mind-set is looked at together with the Poverty Cycle. Rhodesia. The economy has been destroyed and any food is a luxury. How can this be possible for a nation with pride. the “program” is clear. And so the examples continue throughout the Southern African countries. Our knee-jerk society and government style is based on finding symptomatic solutions. Africa. boasting the highest crime rates in the world. Control Structure This is where the fundamental problems become obvious. As we saw in part 3. When we ask why.” These are not rights but privileges. What will happen here? What is so interesting in the business world is that most companies that downsize never recover (Reichheld). we are at the bottom of the industrialized nations in regard to education standards. look to the answers of this book. Mozambique is another. was once a stable economy with low crime and equality. But this is all rhetoric. and still “nada. There was no racism there. In fact. funded by our trusting taxpayers.MEganize! extraordinarily hard for private or charter schools to be financially viable. the inhabitants now have nothing. This is true of the countries that 141 . South Africa. Please note that many of these revolutionaries were trained in Russia. which claims to be the economic engine of the world. Even medicine focuses on alleviating symptoms. the goal being to destabilize the area and spread the ideology. The freedom cries of “white oppression” are now met with the arbitrary rule by the ruthless dictatorship of their new “democratic” leaders. This culture pervades every aspect of our society. and which holds the luxury of owning the world’s reserve currency? We have the best facilities in the world. In trying to gain control over the country. but we have short-term memories and fail to join the dots. The cost of a non-Christian culture is taking its toll there too. and why shouldn’t they? You’ll be back again soon when the symptoms reappear. Let the results speak for themselves.
The labor unions create a huge bottleneck in job protection. yet we try to hinder its growth and prosperity. Budgets not needed will be defended in case they are taken away. to toil and not to seek for rest. doesn’t it? But that’s the same concept as innovation. We need “to give and not count the cost. and usually with negative and opposite results.000 a year.” but we have this paradigm here too. We can look at them and say. At the time of writing. should lead but cannot control. “Fools. People try to ensure that the company can’t fire them for whatever reason. It is the law of unintended consequences. we run the risk of losing it. If you do not agree with me here. If we try to hold to something dishonestly. Yet this is not what our purpose should be. That seems ludicrous. Automation and innovation are to be avoided. like schools and parents. this shows how control structures try to manipulate situations. The fundamental motivation (problem) behind the recent cheating scandal in Georgia was for the schools to ensure that it continued to receive government funding based on its good results. If buying a Roomba floor cleaner at home saves you time in cleaning the floors. Ignatius of Loyola). This misaligns the natural order and results in a slow death. save that of knowing that we do Thy will” (St.Peter Jennings decide to overthrow everything that they have worked for. It’s a principle that applies to everything. Any change that impacts labor negatively is stonewalled. to fight and not to heed the wound. How could this type of incentive structure ever provide a better education? Again. Many still believe that computers stole jobs. The damage to infrastructure and credibility is almost impossible to recover in a lifetime. Of course no one takes responsibility. This is disloyalty! Our goal should be to work ourselves out of a job. Many state budgets are running at huge losses. which apparently averages around $75. There are many other skills to learn and ways to contribute. I have read about a number of schools closing down in Chicago and Philadelphia as a result of the unaffordability of teachers at their union rates. should you complain? No. We expect the company to give us loyalty. think about this. now insolvent. Governments. Stockton in California. Use your imagination. It frees you up to pursue other activities. They see it all as job depletion. Their mind-set is that manual labor is what creates jobs. is in the same situation. At a Personal Level Probably one determining factor in this insidious cycle is the concept of job protection. The downturn in the economy 142 . There are governments in Africa that don’t want to promote these growth-creating drivers. It’s a visual perception that is short sighted. There will always be work in some form. not to mention the fixed pensions.
but if you slack off during the week. Hopefully. you will find that there are many other reasons for distraction and the productivity will show. this “metanioa” may just be a blessing. The response: “Please go in your break time. The mind-set “the weekend is my free time” is an illusion. However. then you will work when others are playing. say. not a possibility. Why do I mention this topic? We need to instill a strong Christian work ethic in our children.MEganize! will inflict more budget cuts. There are occasions in the classroom where you can emphasize this concept. school has already started and your child thinks he needs a drink. You have to eat and mow the lawn over the weekend. We have to add value. you will be prepared to homeschool. This is a probability. With unions in place. our schools will close. Another example is if homework is due. then you must make it up! It is output that counts. and on Friday there is a stack still to get through. not the time you sit at your desk! If you play when others are working. everyone will be affected. For example. on Tuesday. It only becomes free when everything else is done. No one owes them a living. 143 . The weekend is a great time to do it. Why do you want to eat up my school time?” If you do not use this approach. right? I do not think that weekend work is a good habit.
it’s necessary to remove any existing structures.) My perspective is then to serve students and families. with the objective of preparing your children for a happy and successful life ¾¾ Help you to cope with the many challenges that you will face in homeschooling. start early. my intention is to achieve at least three objectives: ¾¾ Provide you with a new perspective of what children should be taught and when and why this is so ¾¾ Give you insight and structure so that you get the best out of your schooling time together. but get on to the fast-track so that you can start right. which is geared more to homeschoolers and potential homeschoolers (which many of us may be).Chapter 14 Optimum Structure In looking at an optimum solution. So here goes. and not go gray in the process. As an introduction to this part of the book. 144 . (This is not to say that schools cannot adapt. The early years are the critical ones. you will not have to struggle through only to get it right by the time you’re almost finished. Hopefully.
now working for a good company as an apprentice. It is a “soft” immeasurable variable. Many. if we recognize this as an opportunity. ○○ One of the ignored drivers is that of our subconscious brain power. if not most. My second perspective is that of my son. 145 . Education must be toward life competencies that are real. without extra conscious effort. Many have tried to identify what success factors make a good person/ employee/student/leader. and it is suggested that it only accounts for around 20% of the whole. we can develop our children’s education along a few tracks at a time. having excelled at a specific science at university. However. however. This will enable him to cope with the emotional loss of his first team members. This is financial independence. the IQ increases. and awaiting promotion. IQ is not the main indicator. His overall competence and leadership style virtually guarantees that he will soon run his own business. These include a balance between: ¾¾ IQ or intelligence quotient. This is spiritual independence. IQ was thought to be pretty much set at birth. with the expectancy of soon buying his own home. ○○ IQ relates to our ability to manage variables and apply or translate them. He drives off in the new car he bought himself. recent studies have shown that by practicing certain games or routines. There are other “soft” applications where we do the same. He has found his soul mate and formed his own team. math and science applications are processes that we need to be able to apply. Where is the best place to start? I would suggest a start from a conceptual perspective. so we discount it. This is emotional independence.MEganize! Key Success Factors The goals of educating your children: The vision I have while educating my children is that of me climbing a mountain with my young son at hand. him looking to me for direction but working hard to get to the top on his own steam. My last perspective is that of my son coming to visit us at Thanksgiving and Christmas with his beautiful wife and child. These are all core to our processing power and can be greatly developed. aged in his twenties. like reading music and foreign languages.
though not consciously. This all leads to good people skills and hopefully an increase in our EQ. ○○ How you see your role in life using: leadership skills motivation problem-solving ○○ How good you are at building and maintaining relationships. People skills are important. which can be done with proficiency at home by applying simple principles. ¾¾ Skills focus. There are five skill sets that make this up. decide on our preferences. ○○ How you manage yourself in difficult situations. which could be called character or values. These include: Fact-gathering using speed reading Memory 146 . It also helps us to understand others and to work effectively with them. ○○ How self-aware you are. This is a passive context but important in problem-solving. When studying the Myers-Briggs Type Indicators (MBTI) and the philosophy behind it. we can also train ourselves in key skills that are known to drive success. ○○ How you understand others. giving us control over our choices. or your level of empathy. This is usually an area of interest and can be done effectively by studying models like the Myers-Briggs Type Indicators and using them in social encounters. These preferences are excellent indicators as to what general career path to follow. and interaction ○○ Negotiation and compromise ¾¾ Personality preferences.Peter Jennings ¾¾ EQ or emotional maturity. socialization. and can also be developed. Another effective method is feedback. it is stressed that we effectively. it empowers us with a tool for understanding ourselves. Lastly. These include more active skills like: ○○ People skills. More significantly.
” Innovation can provide some relative advantage over the short term but is not sustainable. The same applies to children. all we need to do is to ensure that “hard” and “soft” skills are balanced and that anything we invest in is relative to our goals and will be useful and usable in life (see chapter on focus in part 5). the greater your return. out-performed their counterparts in the public schools by 30 to 37 percentile points in all subjects. These are all Christian values. on the average. is the secret to the first hurdle in productivity.” If you focus on the output. They want to see or feel the results of their work. never-ending objective. ○○ Ultimately. “In 1997. ○○ “People do what managers manage. wishy-washy. MEganize aims to increase our intellect in all these areas. Growth is ensured. This high-level definition is a good place to start.657 families was released. It was entitled ‘Strengths of Their Own: Home Schoolers Across America. yy Productivity ○○ “Productivity is the only operational means of growth in a first-world country. kindness. achievable goal.402 homeschool students from 1. A Clean Slate with New Focus yy Output oriented When you invest your capital that you have worked hard for. excellence. you expect a return. The more “value” you add. “Process. your rewards in life are as a result of your output. perseverance.’ The study demonstrated that homeschoolers. not some arbitrary. and loyalty.MEganize! Organizational skills Good values like honesty. the work remains in focus and in perspective. a study of 5. ○○ Homeschooling is the best. A significant finding when analyzing the data for 8th graders was the evidence that homeschoolers who are homeschooled for two or more years score substantially 147 .” however. most productive educational process option. In order to complete a “what-to-learn” scenario. Not only that. team spirit. defined outputs become a specific.
yy Values driven ○○ Strong values are core to our success.Peter Jennings higher than students who have been homeschooled one year or less. Homeschooling offers the ideal environment for the child to do what is interesting. The new homeschoolers were scoring on the average in the 59th percentile compared to students homeschooled the last two or more years who scored between 86th and 92nd percentile” (www. This is what we need. loyalty. If a child owns his education. Poverty can be directly related to the rapid increase in single families.Hslda. using his own style and time scale to create his own boundaries.org). If it is thrust on him in an unwieldy fashion. Hopefully. and customer service (values) have been shown to outperform their opposition and manage sustainable growth. the “freedoms” of promiscuity or divorce might seem like the best solution. Diligence. but the risks and long-term implications are disastrous. This is one of the values that you must strive for while being mindful of your leadership/teacher role. Yet our government uses every opportunity to degrade family values and integrity. ○○ Risk reduction is critical. and responsibility are values that are critical to success. Companies that have a strong sense of vision. ○○ One of the drivers of productivity and learning is ownership. Christian values are the only defense against all temptations of life. It is a self-owned set of principles that provides direction that requires little control or direction. Crime and poverty are on the increase according to the no-principled outcomes of a control structure. honesty. our nations were at their best when we accepted God as the head of our country and followed His principles. The decline in loyalty. the same will apply at family level. Short term. and commitment goes directly to our lack of moral fiber. If we reflect on our history. 148 . perseverance. he will work at it. we can see the risk scenario we face is real and precarious. trust. he will dodge it. There are too many laws anyway. You cannot devise enough laws to minimize the possibility of a bad judgment call. Surely.
They also recognize faces by recording visual information associated with them. the Organizer and Project Starter are make-it-happen type of people. Balance is important. there are great similarities. and make good managers.e. iNtuitive (right) are a major factor. Right-brained people are more creative. You will find that iNtuitives like to work “on” the system i. lawyers. Sensors prefer routine functions and are happy to work within the system. again emphasizing that the sensor (left) vs. There is no one way to teach. doctors. However. classical musicians. like change because they are visually and physically oriented. There are no black and white versions in principle. the right brained are more people oriented (iNtuitive). and the left brained more task (Sensor) oriented. They adhere to rules and like structure. sequential. while on the other side there is a more reflective thinking style. chemists. 3) offers a slightly different perspective on learning styles. If you take the Operations perspective. Vertically. If you compare this with the Myers-Briggs types. The point again is that your children will have preferences and you need to be sensitive to their predisposition. Understand your child’s preferences and gear their academics in a suitable direction. Tests have shown that either the left or the right part of our brain dominates. and accountants. you must keep building on the weaker side. 149 . just stronger and weaker preferences. in projects where there is less structure..Chapter 15 Optimum Balance The Balanced Team Learning and Decision Profile (fig. Left-brained people are logical. Get to know them and adapt your structure around their preferences.
it takes a firm hand to get any output. This is the preferable route. Initially. usually by about ten years old. and you might have to give up the reins at some stage. your child can work largely under delegation and coaching. and we devolve back to our base instincts. morals declined. An outline of possibilities within these headings is set out in the appendices. especially specific subjects where he/she has to think. Values declined. The first is to allow children to pursue their own direction at their own pace. Christian values have held the Western empire strong for so long. It is just that the spirit of independence will want to breathe. If you start with the routine structure early enough. Those ethics should remain. It all depends on how “hard” your hard is and how tolerant the child is. and delegation = ownership. those that changed an empire so many years ago and have brought about civilization. The Four Teaching Styles Progression (fig. commitment. there is a risk in that the more dominant leadership will at some stage result in a rebellion of sorts. Life becomes meaningless and arbitrary. The 3x3-tier high-level structure is set out in table 19. the optimal is to preserve the relationship. The second is for the not-so-motivated or relax-oriented student. the amount of direction (hard) needed will be significant. If we choose not to place in their minds the purest of virtues. We must believe in something. Teaching Style—Hard or Soft? Trust. 2. Because the values in our 1st quadrant 150 . Obviously. Optimizing Four Psyche Elements a) Spiritual Spiritual needs have been the source of man’s inspiration and even a primal need since time first began. This void has to be filled. This I believe will not be a major issue if you have laid a strong cultural foundation. That was the start of the decline. then the lowest common “demonator” will rule. and standards declined. as the drive comes from within themselves. This is great when you have a few children to homeschool. this should not be a problem.Peter Jennings 1. making all sorts of critical errors that affect them for the rest of their lives. Today our children are lost. Later on. We have denied our children their spiritual needs ever since we took away Christianity from our schools. 21) shows the progression from the “fog” stage to routine. You have two roads to follow.” The child will accept these routines over time and even get to like them. otherwise we have no compass to distinguish right from wrong. Sometimes to get a child to do schoolwork. Here the routine and goals are “imposed. However.
If you are not a believer.MEganize! have been removed from the ‘structure’. Again early exposure is essential. and cultural foundations must be in place. Empowering our children to gear themselves mentally is our challenge. The tone is set by the media. 1). These early experiences somehow define the wiring of their brains. once you have covered the basics. and later in work achievement. Further to that. This non-value-added focus is because of a lack of “1st Quadrant” structure. then avoid any personal instruction. However. who then set the stage for the men to impress them. The basic 3-4-5 principles are good for spiritual and character development as a basis. and you into His. as this brings God into their lives. Perhaps it isn’t that easy. however. Homeschool offers so many options for your child to follow. Daily prayer with them is also a must. until he demands to wear his Batman cape to bed! As laid out in part 1. My two-year-old son woke up in the middle of the night saying. learning. Motivation. Chocolate. Sometimes we might need to let them grow into a subject.” Amusing perhaps. We need our children to strive toward excellence in sport. there will be no solution to our problems. The problem is which to choose. As long as we operate a sausage machine. we want to achieve. an affiliation with a Christian church body will do wonders for your child’s outlook as will going to church as a family. like music. our culture has weakened. structure. Scooby-Doo. However. but watch the change in your child. but we have missed the boat for so long. it must be meaningful and interesting in order to be worthwhile for us to learn. and that is how they continue. We are intelligent creatures with a strong need for stimulus. which impacts the girls. the structure these days sets the level of achievement at bravado and breakdancing. and now we face almost certain decline. Even from an early age. b) Mental Our need for learning is built into our psyche. we identify ourselves with superheroes. “Batman. ignoring the individual needs of our children. Spiderman. look for one or two value-adding areas that your child might be interested in and see how it goes. Women (girls) have a potentially large effect on young boys’ direction and 151 . However. This sounds obvious. Obviously. I believe that you should read Bible stories to your children. c) Social Our social need for “competence” or “to be great” in our own right is significant (fig. as this gives them depth to the nature of God and what He expects from us.
Peter Jennings motivation. we are starting to play rugby and soccer. it’s healthy. Furlough days are union—based. The one error is commission. Interschool competitions should be jam-packed every weekend and even on Wednesday afternoons.” so you should do whatever you can to ensure they have one or two friends that they can spend time with. We get it wrong on both sides generally. Sport is the best way to create team spirit and to satisfy our need to be great. For this reason. these can and should come mainly out of capital development and nice-to-have’s. Often introverts are left out in normal circumstances but manage to thrive in sport. but social interaction is a concern. they should be taken out of the picture as much as possible. All children want “special friends. Early socialization is critical. Why are American schools limited to such a few sports? Millions of dollars are spent on infrastructure. Enough has been said on this. the threats of social negativities are not a problem. When the school gathers to support the “first team” play. if you want your boys to be men. This is usually done under extramural activities. Why should the children pay the price? In a homeschool environment. The more sports offered. but only on a few select sports. 152 . Why also do we not play sports in which we can compete worldwide? Thankfully. the better the chance of the individual finding one that he can enjoy and excel at. Our social needs to be part of the herd are also significant. the other omission. A year or two in a local church pre-school is a perfect start. Recognition. Diet This is a two-edged sword. team spirit. d) Physical i. and it meets one of our core needs of recognition. but not headcount. that should be enough. After that group interaction once or twice a week is adequate. let them grow up first. Competition at all levels helps to meet our social needs in many ways. Girls. It’s exciting. starting at around three. This is what boys (and men) live for. even salary cuts. but it is crucial to our improving overall capability. there is also a “oneness” created that helps fill any gap of loneliness or difference. Our schools have lost this focus. and even association are satisfying. When we do face budget cuts. We eat and drink too much of the wrong stuff and not enough of the good stuff. If the children are involved in group activities. excellence.
and not enough time socializing and playing sport. which are nature’s way of giving us a “high. This becomes a habit and an insidious cycle. Sport in some form must be an important part of school for everyone. this has been reviewed in some detail. This is where we find deviant behavior as a way of meeting unmet needs.” The only side effect is that we feel the need to repeat the process. or inertia.MEganize! ii. It is a need that is not being filled. This will result in poor health and introversion. which over time will deteriorate into depression and social incompetence. Americans are becoming more polarized and secluded than ever before. Does anyone enjoy gym time? 153 . We spend too much time watching TV and playing video games. Also. Comfort zones like this. We must remember that exercise produces endorphins. Please don’t suggest that gym fits this bill. It won’t work because we are all different. Exercise “A healthy mind in a healthy body” is a wise motto. we have got both sides of the sword to be wary of. thus isolation. This is the opposite of the intended effect of the control paradigm decision of creating a one-size-fits-all school system. As with diet. is never a good thing.
Please allow me to remind you of the symptoms of a non-Christian culture. 154 . kidnapping. It appeals to base human survival instincts of selfishness. Privileges must be earned or they will be taken for granted and considered rights. the less we feel the need to do to earn our keep. You are too rich. you are not Muslim. not by our own doing. This is instilled over years through the right structure that is applied using the right values. If we have rights that others do not have. then it cannot be a right by definition. and the more we feel entitled. burning schools.Chapter 16 Ownership 1. We are on the tipping point. etc. sexual abuse. Culture Individuals must own their Christian values. We must understand the difference between a right and a privilege. We have our privileges by God’s grace. and a general disregard of other people’s rights and properties. Make sure you earn it. defiance of authorities. you are Christian. We confuse the two and create our own problems. vagrancy. One of the key milestones in the degradation of America was the legal abolishment of Christian values being taught at public schools in the ’60s. value it. The more this happens. you are black. the more we feel entitled. The problem with a negative culture is that it feeds on itself. and protect it. We have very few rights in this world. Once in place. Chaos and sadness are just a few steps away. you are white. Do not take our American Christian culture for granted. The culture becomes all about me and my rights to the point where the rights of others are disregarded under any excuse. it becomes an insidious cycle where no one wins. These include riots.
on the other hand. It’s a croc. 155 . We are now faced with our own terrorism. Homeschooling allows you to get this right fairly easily through structured discipline and by following the teaching progression. It is difficult to understand the secularization of our public schools when our pledge of allegiance includes “one nation under God. from within.” Perhaps this is just another way to get our buy-in and assume that the government will submit itself under His guidance. whether you are a believer or not. They are just going through the motions. always acting for our benefit. Again. Remember. Private schools. If you fail to do so. your sacrifice may be for nothing. We are now faced with a fear of sending our kids to school. violence. The “spirit” has been lost in both teachers and students. not from the outside. People put their heart and souls into private schools to keep them functional. When you will not let your child ride her bike down your street for fear of something weird happening to her. Good values lead to good options. look at the consequences. Decentralization Just as diversity is a key driver in an economy. We cannot rely on the government to solve these problems. which are almost totally subsidized. stuck in the middle. Guards are in place to protect the teachers. So here we are. even scared of letting them walk to the mall for fear of sexual predators. We all know that monopolies are bad business and are illegal under normal circumstances. That is a control illusion. even gun controls at schools! What!? These are the consequences of a society without conscience. and apathy. guards to protect the kids. This is an imbalance all because there is centralized federal control. 2. even though the parents probably pay more than their share of taxes. Laws will have little or no effect.MEganize! Today our schools are full of drug usage. knowing full well that they will get a paycheck or their grades will be “gr8. do not have this luxury. with the desire to create an egalitarian society. Make it simple. While government uses subsidies to wield a big stick. but even worse. which lead to good choices. you know we are into that negative cycle already. so does this principle apply to schooling structures. The problem is that it can get worse. we have seen how the result is usually opposite to that intended. So they end up having to pay a double bill while the public schools get a freebie and all the facilities.” This war on Christianity is subtle but powerful. A huge amount of unnecessary funding goes to public schools. These are our problems. we cannot rule society (or our children) by a plethora of laws. It’s time to take ownership. keep it Godly and principle based (3-4-5).
Centralization has failed. Ownership of decision-making is core to its effectiveness. Not only are the facts more obvious. We must be able to own our problems and take responsibility for our decisions. Decision-making is best performed at its lowest relative level. This completes the feedback quadrant and the full Strategic Change Cycle. 156 . Many corporations have flattened their structure to ensure that management is not too far removed from reality. This is an old principle that has to apply to schooling. Our situation has to be turned on its head. but the level of responsibility is more direct.Peter Jennings Honda has already been mentioned as to how they split up their companies to keep them vibrant and competitive. again.
7) is an adaptation from the Strategic Change Cycle. If this works for a business. 157 .Chapter 17 Strategic Learning Cycle The Learning Cycle (fig. What is important is that you understand that we are talking about a cycle that involves certain principles. then it will work for you. adapted by orientation only. This diagram should make it easier to understand the concept of the learning process.
Learning is working the process of goal-setting. decentralization. Don’t fall into the “control” mind-set! 158 . Remember the paradox of having “structure” while empowering your child. This helps the student with motivation and. The results over the years in many countries have shown that this leads to failure. Only through radical change. If you are setting the goals. outperforms all school options. without any structure or “teaching” qualification. as it is strategic in nature. Goals must be specific. achievable. measurable.” It is not a grade. It is essential for the homeschooling parents to understand that they need to provide the structure that used to be provided by the schools of old.Peter Jennings Output Oriented As the rest of the world is moving to outcome-based learning. relating to the first quadrant and generative to the child’s approach to life. This is why homeschooling. and written down. Goals produce a defined output. It’s that simple. they must be shared in advance in order to get buy-in. Conclusion: The foundation of our society and schooling system originates from a “control” paradigm. taking ownership of the task. and is entrenched in our growing centralized government. This is in line with the principles of goal-setting. it is important to define what this means. and a strategic plan can we address finding a fundamental solution. an activity. or a course. How can this be? Much like the facts that the leaders of many businesses are successful without any specific education. This is as important as what they learn. more decentralization. “An outcome can be demonstrated and evaluated and supported by a range of capabilities. and more balance. more importantly. this paradox is best resolved with more chaos.
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constantly upgrading change (knowledge) into routine activities. This requires structure and process. Data and facts will not facilitate real change and growth.Chapter 18 Defining Your Future 1. Tests and exams are superficial. Ongoing change. the change has to be more dramatic. If you have wandered off the beaten path. I do not want to waste their time learning irrelevant detail that will never be used and thus soon forgotten.” Lack of strategic orientation and feedback will result in the illusion of having done something constructive. they do not grow the student sufficiently.) Usually. Real growth comes through focus. This is why you must have a clear plan and stick to it. I want to prepare my child for life as part of their education. Although I do realize that awareness is important. is acceptable if you have been correctly aligned with a realistic strategy. Your Options Key to learning is to effect change. (As a general principle: minimize change and manage expectations. kids will take the correction. and although they increase awareness. a “step” change. as we have. to put it euphemistically. and reality of true responsible learning (that happens in homeschooling) with resistance. As a homeschooling parent. The complication is how to build all the needed skills into a daily routine and consciousness and to optimize the learning process. routine. After many years schooling in a poor learning environment. there are many subjects that are not taught but which 160 . or continuous improvement. discipline. and excellence in value-added skills and knowledge. what is needed when you start to homeschool is a “step change.
and we need to use the most effective mediums of communication. logic. Some of this will be genetic. except to refer back to your schooling. and synthesis. and usable skills. culture. feeling. You think you know what you want to do but have no idea where to start. a zero base. I also want to stretch their brainpower to where we know it can go. we must educate ourselves as to the best approach and practices to teach our children. Traditional focus is on many “so what?” subjects or topics that we never need or use again. The brain advances in definite stages: memory. the only true 161 . Similarly. and processes that are the core drivers to learning and excellence in the real world. Why shouldn’t you and your child use them as well? Our traditional approach assumes old-fashioned mediums. But beware! We are limited by the “bounded rationality” of our own experience and the existing system. And then you begin to analyze just what you learned at school and start thinking that maybe there is a better way. You really need to decide whether your beef is with the school structure (how) and/or the syllabus (what). then the chances are that you are also at a zero base. The learning process should align the subject matter to these phases. However. Homeschooling offers an open book for the development of your children. it’s a wonder I can think at all. analysis. a crucial step before diving into the detail. Teach them advanced subjects. structures. concepts. this is referred to as the meta-decision. Your leveraging of this is what creates productivity. Remember what Paul Simon had to say about high school! “When I think back on all the crap I learned in high school. proven. First and foremost. It is then more a subject focus that I believe is critical. the many years of traditional experience should not be lightly discarded. without extra effort. Your limiting factor is always going to be time. My assessment of the “as is system” is that it is so corrupt and fraught with problems and obsolescence that I believe that is it better to start thinking from scratch. It is important to have a balanced approach while becoming aware of the child’s preferred style and working with it. and principles or on the development of our brain to process complex issues by applying learning processes and routines. The goal of this book is to provide a solid framework of the vision. Knowledge availability and simplification today should allow for increased productivity. hence the start-from-scratch approach.MEganize! can offer better preparation. but these should be limited to core concepts and drivers that they can learn by memory or intuition. Most of these have been tested.” We can do better. we all develop a preferred learning style. Early exposure is key. If you are new to this possibility. In decision-making. relevant. My sincere belief is that both are defunct to some degree. while some learned. and taught at the highest levels. facts. Focus must be on real. Understand the concepts and apply them.
Standard syllabus with a better structure. dedication. Standard syllabus with poor first quadrant (structure). The budget per family is still only from $200 to $2. Schooling Options 162 . As parents. It is pointless to decide on homeschooling. pause and have a look at what is available and most practical. Internet.000 p. and money are limited. This is the best option if your time. SWA online is limited. you hopefully want what is best for your child. it is better to compromise on volume. Good options are South West Advantage or A Beka.a. This will set you back $12k+ a year and a fair amount of your time.Peter Jennings means of growth and sustainable advantage. Both have good textbooks. Before you jump into the deep end of homeschooling. It requires more of your time. less is more. Costs should be limited from $50 to $1. competence.. but you introduce focus—or skills-based subjects that take your child to a new (better) level. Know what you know.a. These are your possibilities: Public school Private/charter school “MEganize” Homeschool using traditional syllabus Homeschooling using your own “leading edge” syllabus This is a good “middle road” option. leveraging their IQ. and creativity to design a study program that takes the best options. This is a higher risk but has a higher reward potential. depending on your extramural options. Then you have to follow through with them. only to waste a year for whatever reasons. In your desire for excellence and practicality. Table 18.000 p. This will include some textbooks. Apologia also has excellent material. after initial setup costs of a computer.
and there will always be underachievers within a society. Teachers need to be freed up to teach using their own initiative. Our education system is now ranked somewhere in the middle of the world. What is more significant is whether the whole ship sinks! 2. but that success rubs off positively on the rest of us.MEganize! It is strange to me how many “brains” are imported from all over the world. Reinstitute basic Christianity into the public school culture. That is life. Split the schools between boys and girls schools generally. where the tail wags the dog. We need to focus on winning as a nation. We all need to be “under God. 3. This will meet many unanswered needs and add meaning and conscience in the students’ minds. Not everyone can be a huge success. but we (the government) still want to sacrifice the achievers for the benefit of those who could not muster the effort. We sacrifice the many for the few. increasing the overall standards. and it is fair. The state or an external body will set examinations for final exams. it is all political. not the girls! Competitiveness is a huge motivator for everyone. We have given it all away. This will correct much of the crime and deviant behavior that we are now experiencing. More control exists in decentralization. 2. Eradicate the federal monopoly on education. We live by our choices and by the legacy of choices made by our parents. especially after elementary school. not continuously split between whimsical ideologies. The Way Out a) A Different School System Here is my ten-point step-change plan to revitalize our education system: 1. States would provide broad outlines of subjects and materials to be covered. even after the playing fields have been over-leveled. These should be geared to specific academics and even coordinated with local universities. Education is a prime driver of any country. The country needs to be united in its belief in the system. Boys need to become men and focus on their schoolwork. There will always be achievers. and our economy is no longer the growth engine that we were once proud of. but especially 163 . There should be flexibility too. The problem again is that these outcomes are all based on illusion. yet our school systems are set to lower standards to ensure better general public self-perceptions. Again. Decentralize schools to state levels of control.” This can be a simple acknowledgment by saying the Lord’s Prayer at assembly.
men should teach boys. which it should. I believe this system is used in Sweden and now to some extent in Louisiana.9) Elementary school covers the basic cognitive skills (4-7). Schools need to be limited to a maximum classroom size. gearing these institutions to broad individual orientation. Minimize the assumption of competency and confidence. 8. This also means the children should not be fed or prepped for tests. Again. and even cricket at schools. lower grades. or homeschool. 5. This would be more effective in reducing bullying and teasing with the resultant rage we have experienced. in middle and senior school. soccer. Gun control is a symptomatic solution. 7. This adds meaning to children’s lives. and number of classes per grade. 6. Many students are practically oriented. institution. Consider introducing games played internationally like squash (racquetball). This will save taxpayers money if homeschooling becomes more popular. left for the highest level only. As and Bs must be rare. Allow small school 164 .) Different schools would specialize in specific skills fields plus offer core academics. and no sliding scale. They should not be penalized for this. hockey. This minimizes individual differences within the “team” and adds to the security of being one of the herd. This should be awarded to the select few when their achievements are recognized at state level and above. Reintroduce sports for all programs. (Parents should leave the education to the teachers. Focus the “aggression” outward. This creates a balance in meeting their physical needs. Provide the families with the option of where to educate their children by assigning them a coupon that can be transferred to any school. Interschool competitions should be at all levels. 9. Allow for technical schools. Of course there should be the ultimate recognition for excellence. This reintroduces the old “trade” and “grammar” school concepts. rugby. and common causes break down barriers among the children. Tests should ask the tough questions. Make sure the competitiveness is geared toward value-added goals. Reinstitute distinct uniforms by school. All children need to be active and feel part of a team. Specialized advanced skills (13-17). Increase standards. MEganize leveraged skills (8-12). This will increase real competitiveness based on “customer” feedback. the average marks should be Cs and Ds. boys. Mostly.Peter Jennings 4.) Divide the schooling into three phases (fig.
but these ultimately result only in blocked. There can be no justification for any inflexible protection of teachers or in any industry. New skills and approaches will require new teaching skills. The trap of falling into a “control mind-set” is too great for anyone or group. as this would lessen our need for them. catering for coaching as well as teaching. 10. If private schools work better. There should be no discrimination between charter schools. b) A New Form of Federal Government It must be obvious to everyone that our system of government is flawed on many levels. They also inhibit the best teachers from being employed. Why should public schools that provide the lowest level of output get all of the taxpayers’ contributions? It’s another form of double taxation on those who are prepared to make the sacrifice. Right now there is no incentive for the government to resolve any issues. Teachers will need to double up on their activities. or compromised solutions. there is no true representation. Every four to eight years. as we have seen. Now it’s time to move on to be the best we can be with our real brains running the country. our country is open to the whims of overconfident yet incompetent ideologists. There is a missing balance to the structure. There is no accountability. and those who do not perform from being fired. A number of schools have already closed in Pennsylvania and Chicago due to the salary squeeze from the unions. These have outlived their purpose and are now a hindrance to change. and there is little continuity. 165 . then the “free market” should decide.MEganize! incentive subsidies only based on sports and academic achievement as recognized by external bodies only. one of paradox. We have addressed the main issues. The fundamental problem is the level of involvement of those working in the federal government system. The two houses are supposed to balance each other. but the workers are always the ones who suffer the most. costing the taxpayer huge amounts of money. New cultures will require a new breed of committed teachers. We don’t have the time or the money to pursue these non-issues any longer. private schools. The problem with unions is that those who lead them have nothing to lose. and the level of thinking will always deteriorate to operational paradigms and symptomatic solutions. and public schools. especially based on the overall schooling performance. unions need to be disbanded. This outcome invariably is not strategic by nature. symptomatic. Of course.
” I believe that if we took a vote with “no confidence” as a political party. These I believe are the most relevant fields from which the members should be selected by their peers: i ii (S) Defense—an accomplished or retired strategist (N) National intelligence—CIA experience with foreign cultures expertise (ex-CIA Director David Petraeus?) iii (N) Business—people-oriented leadership and strategic thinking (ex-GE CEO Jack Welch?) iv (N) Governance—people-oriented leadership and strategic thinking (Rudy Giuliani?) v (N) Business—systems thinker (Dr.Peter Jennings No one trusts the politicians these days. There is no logical selection process based on specific criteria or qualification. “no confidence” would win. this is my broad proposal: 1. principled economics strategist (Kenneth Rogoff or Joseph Stiglitz?) 166 . appointed by their peers are nominated to a federal strategic governing body at a mediocre salary. They flip-flop in their “principles”. The reason for the position must not be out of want for money or power or fame. They will consider and coordinate matters of strategic relevance only and remain at a low profile. All should have practical experience and meet stringent criteria. A team of eleven Christian Americans comprising the top of their fields. appoint their associates despite obvious incompetencies. Wayne Winston?) vii (N) Christian leader with strategic perspectives (Gerald Flurry?) viii (S) Devil’s Advocate—a proven gifted generalist (Rush Limbaugh?) ix (S) Science—a renowned scientist or engineer x (S) History—a proven political historian with a focus on strategic issues and leveraged drivers (Ann Coulter?) xi (S) Economics—a proven. and rule based on party inclinations. Peter Senge?) vi (S) Financial—mathematician. We often hear that “the system is broken. to direct the country strategically for the benefit of the country as a whole. complex decision-making (Prof. to create a structure with balance and accountability. The question has to be “What would work better?” In order to break away from the smallness of ideologies. with one rotated every year after that. These eleven will serve for three years. not of interest groups that offer voting rights or backhanded political funding. It also appears that there is no trustworthy leadership left in the eyes of the people.
Meetings should be managed by the best facilitator and decision-making process coordinator (Dr. We need to make a profit not by selling our precious resources. Democracy then remains real and local.” Budgets must be balanced. The Federal Government will have limited funds available to them allocated as a fixed percentage of total revenue by the states. Revenue will increase at state levels. The Federal Eleven will manage the performance and feedback on which plans work and those that don’t. The states can then apply proven “best practices. who in effect report to them. firmly based on liberty. The objective here will not be to replicate federal structures but for the individual states to manage their budgets and work within their limitations. Each state will develop its own strategic economic sustainability plan to be presented to the Federal Eleven. The system is “broken” is all that we hear. Christian principles.MEganize! The objective should be to have a split between iNtuitives (possibilities) and Sensors (practical). . They will work in line with the United States Constitution that has guided this country throughout its history. Streamlining and productivity will come to the fore. Each state will develop its own strategic cultural and social responsibility plan as above. Their goal is primarily to ensure that the first quadrant is sound by managing the fourth quadrant. 2. and value must be added as a nation. 4. The current federal government operational structures need to be disbanded and redirected to the individual states. Each state should elect its own leader. This is based on the principle we have established that there is better control “at source” or with decentralization. who then reports to the Federal Eleven. This will provide the best platform for good decision-making. but we continue to do the same. Top-down indicators should measure the effectiveness of specific decisions and projects over time. especially at this level. allowing them to work to surpluses and invest these wisely. left brained (past) and right brained (future). Decisions must be recorded and evaluated. They should have a minimal amount of resources and meet quarterly or as necessary with state governors. but out 167 3. and the pursuit of prosperity for all. They will review the feedback on various outputs of the states and decide what action needs to be taken. but they will still direct and coordinate strategic areas and projects. Jay Russo?) Due process must be managed. These will be realigned and optimized so that there is a team learning throughout.
We must control natural resources and strategic gateways. These are fundamental solutions. No grand.” It is time for individuals to express their consciousness. It is the power of One. only proven leadership. Once we understand the problems and have sound decision-making process and principles. You can make a difference. we can arrive at the right conclusion. It will ensure that we develop strategically as well as economically. expensive and non-value-adding rallies and fundraising. It’s a huge change. Why is all this included in this book? Because it all starts with the individual. less disruptive future. this is the only way our country can now survive and grow toward a brighter. We must be strategic in our perspective for the benefit and security of our country. but it starts with a vote of “no confidence. We must retain the world’s highest intellectual capital while protecting our strategic competencies. This is extortion and a waste of taxpayers’ money. Financially.Peter Jennings of our human resources and skills. Political rhetoric is meaningless and without substance. The principles and process that leverage our personal performance must work by definition. There must be no party politics or politicians at federal level. 168 . This system will guarantee that the country develops best practices and that governments have accountability and continuity.
Chapter 19 Homeschooling How do you get to give your children the best “education for life”? Homeschooling is the best option by far right now. skill demand. They will have similar ambitions to ours. We live in a world where being productive is critical. and earnings potential. My experience has shown that our children (who have our genes) will generally have our inclinations. Why would we want to limit excellence other than to dehumanize the individual? These people will one day help to lift this country up. and core subjects. If an artist or musician feel that art is a good main focus area. “structure” as it were. or electrician. In the years of old. I don’t think this is a problem as long as we double-check our plans. thus hard 169 . let it set the standard. soft. This didn’t always work in their best interest. but it did give them a better start to life. This gives me a different insight to a doctor. The syllabus should also be balanced between hard. and computer technology. families generally handed down their trade to their children. The statistics have proved it over the years. finance. A syllabus should always have a general focus that does not limit the child’s options too much but rather develops his/her intellect along specific lines as an extra. author. My experience is in business culture. it would be wise to look at the general success rate. It makes sense that we use our skill set to define the best path that we know for our children. If this is the ultimate form of education. even rewarded. This mark of achievement should be recognized and encouraged. lecturer.
We need to understand why this happens in order to bring about the strategic change in the first quadrant. yet we are all ill-prepared to undertake them. They provide a structure for both yourselves and your children for their whole lives. We are all trying to multitask. First Quadrant Solutions “Systemic solutions” address fundamental problems. and provided a sense of humor to see each other objectively. As a starting point. We need to create synergy by aligning aspects that are long-term drivers to our curriculum. Our brains require food. a) Divergent. The first quadrant is usually the source of our mind-sets. but as we know. Ignore them at your peril. This will reduce the stress on everyone and increase focus.Peter Jennings subjects or skills are more relevant than ever. Independent Nature The best show I have ever seen was “Defending the Caveman.” which depicted the difference between the focus of men (the hunter) and the divergence of women (the gatherer). It was brilliant in defining the generic difference between husband and wife. My criteria for this are broad. Have a clear vision and plan of where you want to be. which decide our outputs. We also live in a world where team-based collaboration is seen as the best approach. 1. People skills are an essential once you achieve a high level of skill competence. This divergent versus habitual concept seems diametrically opposed. to prosper and be happy. paradoxes are real and needed. We are constantly looking for 170 . and decision-making are so important. There is always resistance to a new leader or new ideas. Our lives generally these days are very divergent. These concepts and principles have been introduced as a background. Habitual. This I suppose comes from our instinct to seek new pastures or food while maintaining order in the herd. Work to the principles and structure as unraveled in these chapters. and there is so much interesting stuff around. So homeschooling is not all about the right textbooks and nurturing. I recommend drawing your own mind map of the subject areas you believe are essential. and I feel a strong need for life skills to be part of the package. Problem: One of our inherent weaknesses is the need for stimulus. financial understanding. This is where we need to look to find and address the real problems that create unfavorable outputs. problem-solving. Is there anything more important in your life than to provide for your child’s success? Do this well. We are divergent in nature. Relationships.
Everything must have purpose in order to be productive. This keeps our minds focused on longer-term needs. So we need to train ourselves to compensate for these limitations. which are strategic in nature and offer better returns on our efforts. b) Resistance to Change I am always amazed at how quickly little ones work through the change process. We need to meet both divergent and habitual needs in style. e-mails. The older we get. sugar. we get hooked on these inputs and dislike change. where the consequences 171 . We adapt to our surroundings and get comfortable. Sound familiar? Solution: A clear first quadrant is essential from the beginning. This does not mean there should never be any relief. The most obvious examples are bedtime and bath time. Hint: Watch the gravitation toward TV. until you want to take them out. or our current form of this. computer games.e. Our tendency to develop these “addictive” tendencies is huge. Use the Pareto concept. Learn 80% in 20% of the time.MEganize! the exciting or interesting. etc. Setting a positive culture and routine from the start will minimize any risk of bad habits developing. This tendency to gravitate to the lowest level of entry continues into adulthood. Spend 80% of your time working. 20% generating and relaxing. Nintendo. fast food. carbs. The point is that we can get into destructive routines that start negative cycles. the TV. the suggestion of either one will invoke an outrage or serious negativity. This is part of our nature. This gives us a fix. In a short period of time.. Problem: The other major pitfall is that we are creatures of habit. Then it starts again. This results in a lack of focus and is very unproductive unless we train ourselves to seek the needed inspiration within the goals that we pursue. This is why we love stories. Other forms of this are texting. especially when the path offers least resistance (i. Solution: This is best accomplished by following the first quadrant and aligning our routine to our goals. they are as happy as a pig in mud. Plan this into your structure and routine. the harder we are to make changes to our bad habits. Usually. once they are in the bath. a stimulus but does not usually add value. no effort). our nemesis. etc. Switching from focus subjects to quick bursts of diversion to other relevant topics helps to minimize our need for stimuli (not just any diversion). However. The problem with these stimuli is that they are divergent and do not add value. and we don’t change much as we get older. We generally look to the lowest form of stimulation to meet our needs. browsing.
) Culture is built into your home and children through “soft” exposure and “hard” structure. taking ownership. Test it. soft on the child (empathy). Healthy routine. I have to repeat this. Horsemanship is also an excellent way to teach your child good leadership skills. One of the natural instincts we all have is for self-determination or freedom of choice. This can be a huge demotivator in a homeschool situation where the student is under the whip all the time.Peter Jennings of these “vices” can be less forgiving. Mr. i. Use loose reins when they are working with you. It is the 172 . As change is inevitable. and values need to be defined early on (from the start) and included in your schooling structure. Translated. it’s also unproductive in teaching your children to make the right choices for themselves. Be hard on the routine (things). This is a reminder of paradoxes already mentioned. even ludicrous on the surface. life skills. focused environment. It works at every level.e. this is the key to our solving our fundamental problems. However.parellinaturalhorsetraining. which incorporates the philosophy of yin and yang. So a routine soon becomes who we are. (Of course N-type people are much more open to change than S types.com. the concept of planned change by introducing new projects into the daily routine helps to minimize this natural resistance. c) The Importance of Balance The concept of tai chi.. You will get real insights into the parallels between teaching (leading) your child and training a horse. Both soft and hard are equally important in providing a motivated. please research Pat Parelli on http://www. we dislike being told what to do. President! As a side note on leadership and training. defined values. By creating a structured environment with clear. Better control comes with decentralized structures (Pascale). Structure is simply routine and consistency. may sound irrelevant to include here. Not only is this micromanagement style destructive to your relationship with your children. with only the occasional adjustment to stay on course. believe it. It’s just like riding a horse. the constant “in your face” correction and manipulation is avoided.
constant flow of energy between “full” and “empty,” hard and soft. It relates to the balance between discipline and encouragement, between hard and soft skills. It explains that sometimes we need to see or feel the “risk” before we commit to doing what we should do to avoid it. It is also the endeavor to achieve perfection over time using focus and patience to master a particular skill. These are the eastern attributes that have made them to become the new masters new masters of manufacture, and world leaders in education. Tai chi, I might add, is a wonderful form of exercise that you might consider. It is part of the eastern culture and epitomizes the spirit of kung-fu. On a visit to Taiwan a few years ago, I was amazed to look out of the window early in the morning to see young and old in their hundreds doing their ritualistic exercise. It is a great life skill that has many longevity benefits as well as an exercise in memory and coordination. It is also a form of meditation or quieting of the mind, an excellent preparation for getting into a learning frame of mind. The schools in China, Japan, and most of the eastern countries are avid in their practice of martial arts. This instills discipline, focus, memory, fitness, and respect. As you get older, your weaknesses will become obvious the more you are “out of balance.” An unbalanced exaggeration or excess in any of the MBTI traits will become an obstruction to your growth in career and relationships. It is important to try to develop all these skills when young. Work on subjects to have times of introversion and extroversion, to be divergent and convergent. If you are too divergent, you will lack attention to detail, not finish projects, and be generally disorganized. If you are too convergent, you will tend to be over the top on many things and end up as a workaholic, neurotic, or worse. The way to accomplish a true balance is to ensure that specific tasks each day address one of the disciplines (virtues). This way each variation becomes a strength and the child is more flexible and balanced overall. For instance, the “Power1/2 Hour” teaches convergence, which translates into focus, excellence, structure and routine, and ultimately change. Divergence is found in taking on new projects. This overcomes fear of change, builds courage to take on new challenges, and increases adaptability. This process, when treated in a cycle approach, becomes the foundational structure for learning. (fig.7) Tom Peters and Steven Covey referred to the “Things versus People” paradigm in arguing against the scientific method that has been ingrained in our culture since the 1920s. These soft skills are values based on many instances, and Reichheld’s The Loyalty Effect supports this change in mind-set. Undoubtedly, they are discounted because of their lack of measurability; however, the marketplace is learning that good people are the core to a good company and people skills are essential in a collaborative environment, hence the increased level of women in management positions. Both hard (STJ
types) and soft (NFP) skills are needed for a true balance; otherwise, you could end up with great social schemes but no budget or practical means of implementation (NFP), or an army full of potential deserters (STJ). See the appendix for an outline on MBTI. Of course “balance” doesn’t only apply to the learning environment, but to all sections of the life perspective as well. A holistic view is important, nurturing all four aspects of the psyche in your child’s routine. This was explained in part 1. If any of these needs are not being met, their performance will be undermined. Our spiritual needs (Christian values) and physical achievement have been neglected. The results or symptoms of this are reflected in our rebellion against authority and tradition and the increases in obesity and related sicknesses (see part 3). If we continue to ignore these, and the importance of balance, we will never change the course in which we are headed.
“The purpose of any organization is to make ordinary people achieve extraordinary things, but in reality most only allow even extraordinary people to achieve ordinary things.” (Peter Drucker)
Homeschooling: A necessity of our times?
Before you delve into the detail of homeschooling, you need to have a general awareness of the world in which we live and the challenges facing you and your child. We need to understand where we are, the state of the nation as it were. How good would a top-down perspective be if it didn’t start at the top? Our prevailing culture is showing symptoms that we must be able to relate to in order to keep our children from falling into the same predicament. After all, isn’t this one of the reasons you are considering homeschooling? This is a foundational point to grasp, as it will apply to many of the problems you face and will face in the future. By understanding this, you will be clear as to the solution and direction you need to lead your children into.
Structure Before Diversity
It is a common concept that parents should allow their babies and toddlers a large degree of latitude in behavior, dismissing much of it as, “It’s okay.” From the moment a child is born, it is looking for ways in which it can survive and get what it wants. There are no boundaries, no limits. If left to this style of learning, self-indulgence becomes an overriding factor. Once
established, it is hard to change. Our development goes through stages. If our thinking at a subconscious level is set early on, then it’s going to be a huge upset to work this out of our system later on. Just as we must learn to crawl before we walk, and walk before we run, so must we learn our ABCs before words, and words before sentences. These rules apply to any aspect of learning. Values and structure have to come first. We need to instill these from the beginning. Don’t be slack with your children. Be gentle, but not careless. Humility is a foundation for learning. Covey used the phrase “seek first to understand, before trying to be understood.” As we become confident, our arrogance increases to a point where we believe that whatever comes out of our mouth is the way it is, irrespective of whether we know much on the subject or not. This is a huge flaw in our decision-making process. Our learning structure must reflect that sense of humility as a student. Just as we need to be humble in our relationship with God, so must we search for ways in which we can improve. So it is this spirit of humility that will lead us to real wisdom. Assumption and lack of knowledge have turned many critical points in history. “Overconfidence in your judgment” and “shortsighted shortcuts” are two common decision traps (Russo). A few examples of this come to mind. One is the story of how Britain’s “assumption” cost them the war of independence. The story goes something like this: yy Shortly after taking command of the army in June 1775, Washington discovered that he only had enough gunpowder for each soldier to fire a handful of bullets. Nevertheless, he set up an array of cannon in the hills of Boston around the British camp. The British, assuming the obvious, decided to withdraw 10,000 men and 200 warships without a single shot being fired (Beyer). yy Another is a quote from Newton Baker, US Secretary of War in 1921, reacting to a claim that airplanes could sink battleships by dropping bombs on them: “That idea is so damned nonsensical and impossible that I’m willing to stand on the bridge of a battleship whilst that nitwit tries to hit it from the air.” The concept of using a “process” in decision-making is illustrative of how important it is in applying the principle of learning structure first. We can easily agree with the basics of how we learn to walk or read, but then we do not apply the same logic to the rest of our learning process. Nearly every skill requires a process. This is core to minimizing our learning curve, increasing
our productivity, and MEganizing our brain. When you teach a subject, make sure that you define and learn the concept, laws, and processes first and foremost. Know them, learn them, and apply them. Use these processes to learn topics and interpret topics relative to the structure of decision-making, people types, and other relevant disciplines. Work the process, not the facts! It is in this way that we leverage our skills and overall competence. Do not have the arrogance of the uneducated who assume everything is easy or whimsical. “Oh yeah, man. Sure, I read that!” The focus is always on excellence, output, and skill. Know what you know and what you don’t know. If you work on this principle, then you can improve your focus areas to areas that you need to know and base your decisions and thoughts around those using considered processes. One of the textbooks that I enjoy is Apologia’s Exploring Creation with General Science by Wiley. Their framing of our scientific discoveries is unique and most revealing. Much of our technology today rests on one of the most enlightened periods of our Western civilization. The intensity and depth of invention and creativity that occurred during the Renaissance, known as the “Golden Age of Science,” is unprecedented. One of the outstanding facts is that most of these scientists were avid Christians. Much of the assumption that led to their discovery was based on the authority of the Bible. Their achievements are quite remarkable, considering the time in history and their limited means of that age. This emphasis changed away from the “Biblical orientation” as “science” developed and man’s “logic” prevailed, but nothing really significant has altered our understanding since then. Perhaps this is another link to our problem today. Evidence, for what it is worth, certainly points that way. A Christian culture is a top-down process that eliminates the need for detailed bottom-up laws and regulations. A simple guide in values is worth far more than laws that no one understands or cares about. Who can enforce all these laws effectively? The answer is no one really. Apart from the fact is that our jails are already full (of unproductive people who should be serving the public and adding value). This is why our children have lost their way. Christian values are the foundation for a positive prosperous culture.
The Process for Modeling Culture
With the understanding that your example is of prime significance for your child, there are specific ways to create a positive culture.
Visualization is also a good motivator. While the S personality types will enjoy a productive routine. Remember. While this is not meant to be a detailed description of goal-setting. but it is the strongest vehicle to motivate and achieve. This results in wasted time and projects with no output or achievement. We have so many distractions that we get on a divergent high. It has become an addiction. Obviously. Make them realistic and achievable. ○○ First. ○○ Working your action list to build in new projects that are aligned with your goals. ○○ Prioritizing these and coming up with an action list. the N types will try to disrupt it with distractions (see chapter 19 for a basic routine). If you miss a deadline. Don’t take on too many projects. This keeps the focus and motivation toward your own desired path. there are rules and process to goal-setting. We are too quick to jump off one thing into another. less is more. ○○ Creating a master plan of the steps involved for those areas that require your action. ¾¾ Routine “I achieve my goals by sticking to my routine” is a daily mantra.MEganize! ¾¾ Goal-Setting (a core process) This process is underestimated by those who have lost faith or lack perseverance. ○○ Building these into your routine. 177 . with the effects of caffeine. the basic ingredients include: ○○ Starting with a dream list or a long-term view of where you (and your child) would like to be ultimately and what you would like to do. Focus on practicing repetitive skills with the idea of mastery. we have to overcome our restlessness. then reassess the reality and persevere. ○○ Having an I Can/Am Goal Visualization Scorecard posted at your desk stating “who I am” in terms of goals versus achievements. Give yourself deadlines. In fact. start with one at a time.
“With each new project. and project team formations. Let’s not lose that strength. This is the first project change. you must be trustworthy and consistent. It should incorporate key skills and best practices. you may and should show the virtues of compassion. motivation. Homeschooling is like creating a new organization. This is the “quest” stage. At the start of the homeschooling process.e. you are forming a “team. The new “team” gets working together in the “movie” stage. Set the right rules (structure) from the beginning and keep them. As part of this. Some resistance is inevitable. this will be more pronounced. kindness. structure. It is a must to get the first quadrant (“Strategy” below) clear in your mind. The faster you get a strong trust relationship going. action. we must design our routine to include “projects. Always stick to the program. temperance. ¾¾ Change through projects. but expect the same adjustment every time you introduce a new project or team member. Above all. Also. You must have a clear plan when you start. “Be tough on things. etc. problem-solving. ○○ Norming is where the change process is accepted. Innovation is one of the core competencies of the West. the better for all.” (Tuckman) ○○ Forming is a polite introductory phase.. and creativity is a core subject. vision. being strict about enforcing the change. i. how to manage the various perspectives and processes. you will lose credibility and momentum.Peter Jennings ○○ Second. soft on people. understand the concept of balance and the paradoxes that should always exist. It involves people. etc. Roles and expectations need to be defined.” and team dynamics will apply. This is the “fog” stage. This leads to: ○○ Performing at optimal levels. as the leader. Understand and manage these. ○○ Storming is where the pressure to perform creates some conflict. there is a social and an emotional engagement process that occurs. there is a paradox here-in that as a leader.” 178 . With a new environment and vision as a homeschool.” Balance is the objective. where everyone is comfortable with their roles and tasks. Even though a “step change” requires a firm commitment. We need to have a basic understanding of what this involves. If you chop and change what you do and how you do it. Be slow to chide and swift to bless. key skills and processes of life and business need to be taught at the school level so that they become intrinsic to the child’s overall competence.
a. tempered. not flushing. so the “change” impact is minimal. There is a fine line between being a dictator (which is more natural for Dads) and a fun-to-be-with kinda guy (a. The key is to make it real and get them involved as quickly as you can.” you were given a “drill. This is still a great system at schools. but be realistic. the access to information. feet on the chairs. The common problems may reside in your leadership style (culture). just before supper. It is essential that you visit these regularly and keep yourself on the straight and narrow. and it is hard to evaluate your own performance objectively and with any insight. they were still the law. Often a good means of getting acceptance of the ground rules (structure) is to include the whole family. like leaving shoes or dirty washing around. All of us have experienced the lack of interest inspired by some lecturer who drones on about some meaningless arbitrary subject (see effective coaching). Even though sometimes the “laws” were arbitrary.k. sticking to the routine/timetable. and you can also do this at home. Always try to keep things positive. and consistent. At school we had a clear set of punishments.” This meant doing fifteen minutes of gardening in your own time. or get a reference from an overachieving family. Pick a few rules. If you were caught breaking the “law. and it gets them to expand their awareness. Take on one at a time. a role model as it were. Manage their expectations by working to the same methodology every time. while you are there to facilitate it on a personal level by an effective teaching method. Try to focus punishments on correcting weaknesses. you visited the housemaster after breakfast for three “cuts” administered to the rear. and not closing the outside doors. It’s a great way to solve your common gripes. but it also helps children to think about circumstances other than their specific focus. Moms). you provide the structure.MEganize! So punishments promised should never be as harsh as you might indicate. This system kept us out of trouble generally. However. fair. ¾¾ Motivation Motivation can be adversely affected by the following: ○○ Performance barriers that reside within the structure In a homeschool environment. or is it vice versa? The essence is that the structure and culture impose the discipline. If you accumulated three drills in a term. or even the environment. or just use this book. as the example shows. The good thing about 179 . punishment should be expected. glasses on wooden tables.
can reduce the probability of success drastically. Initially. Students need to think in terms of goals and use the goal-setting process as the basis for their motivation. As they achieve certain goals. pride. Work through the change cycle and adapt your style accordingly. If you put them down. These ongoing messages that you send them day in and day out are programmed into their being. These qualities. Hold the vision and manage the dynamic tension. they will not have the confidence to achieve.Peter Jennings homeschooling is that you seldom have the time for lengthy discussions or lectures. beware of confusing this with making everything too easy. deceitfulness. Other aspects have already been alluded to. This falls under the “Conquer Self ” heading. or foreign languages. although in this case you have to help doing the conquering. 180 . insubordination. They must be identified early on and “managed” out. stubbornness. Remind them how clever they are (not how stupid). table of elements. they might be intimidated by some of the “big” subjects like world geography. their confidence in their ability should increase. if let to grow. The key is to take one mouthful at a time. inhibition. etc. fear. ○○ Personal barriers All of us have flaws: laziness. Again.
culminating in a skill. It takes years to achieve any level of proficiency. In each subject of our curriculum. Defining a curriculum from a zero base is a critical part of the process. these are the skill zones required to achieve your goals. The old grammar school education is outdated. The skills table below gives you a high level definition of what you want to achieve.” Working through the process and learning the structure at an early age is paramount. be wise to ensure that your areas are widely used and accepted practices. their dreams. It is essential to begin your process at this high level rather than jump into the detail. and of course your direction. Knowledge is now so readily available the emphasis of learning must change. and innovation are now prime objectives. but what you can do.Chapter 20 Skills Focus There needs to be an objective to each goal. It would. just to double-check your thinking. which is going to involve your efforts for a few years and endure for your children’s lifetime. you may have a different perspective and bias toward your expertise and research. and that is dependent on your children. Refer to the statement by Kump and the Chinese approach called “bootstrapping. There is no best way if you follow the principles. where concepts. Your plan as 181 . It’s not a question of what you have studied. productivity. The best road to a solid skill set is “structure before diversity. Obviously. there should be a defined output. however. This is no time to get whacky! Broadly speaking. so the choice is critical.” The wisdom we gain by doing or copying is greater than by reading about it. There are variable paths that can be used to meet these. There are so many subjects and a limited amount of time.
as they are not based on opinion. only concepts. Secondary data is information processed by others. which is accurate and in context. This can become a bad habit and end up as procrastination being an adopted personality trait. Hold them to the discipline of not getting distracted or diverging during focus time. That is primary data. If there is one word I use the most with my children. 182 . then by experience of others. however. 3x3 Skills Table: Main Drivers of Productivity There is an old concept of the difference between the circle of influence and the circle of control. This ties in with learning. We have learned that we learn by experience. This can be translated into primary versus secondary knowledge. it is focus. This also ties in with my principle of structure before diversity. We learn by our own experience. Beyond our circle of influence. How can we form any opinion or make any real contribution until we have a fundamental (not basic) understanding? Focus. Skills Table: Main Drivers of Productivity Soft Skills 1st tier 2nd tier 3rd tier Meaning Self-Mastery Communication (People) Hard Skills Math Science Tools (Productivity) Core Skills Logic Process Application Creativity (Design) Table 19. principles. This is the reason that during the MEganizing stage. we have no control. secondary knowledge should determine our confidence” (Russo). only using secondary sources to confirm or disconfirm our conclusions. These can be considered primary and principle based.Peter Jennings it evolves in your subject choices should refer back to these drivers to ensure that you remain focused on them. It is thus important to focus our learning on primary information using defined processes to accomplish this. Diverging becomes an easy excuse to avoid schoolwork that is not considered too interesting. does have further relevance in studying. and processes should be learned. “Primary knowledge determines the direction of our opinion.
including: ¾¾ A focus on the first quadrant. Some are compliant and ready to please the teacher (girls generally). As they are averse to change.” This takes time to get into and.Chapter 21 Leadership One of the important concepts to grasp as a leader is to manage your children’s expectations. This includes hands-on attendance to the lessons as well as using the Kazdin method-based Weekly Motivation Scoreboard (table 23). This translates into goals and culture. The old adage of “Under promise and over deliver” is worth applying with your children. There are other benefits to this type of structure. everything is a “project. Give them early warning about changes so that they are prepared. and that is why it is still used in private schools around the world. You will save yourself a lot of complaining this way. Boys tend to have excess energy and a different learning style than girls. is hard to get away from. ¾¾ Recognition. but others are less compliant (usually boys). This translates into proper performance management. Set high standards and expectations. At an early age. once absorbed. They each require a different culture and focus. They are no different than we are. 183 . This is also common courtesy. The desire to perform requires effective leadership (from you). This is one of the reasons for having separate boys and girls facilities. a good way to maintain motivation is to manage their expectations and keep the changeover positive. Different children have different temperaments.
○○ A goal can be overwhelming for a young child. Hard skills are not everything. understand the fundamentals and change them. young and old. As your child’s leader. ¾¾ Relevant competency development. attitude. This is the crux of this book! Just as values should translate into how we behave. These words are specifically mentioned. knowledge. Remind him of the amazing things people have done. including: ○○ confidence ○○ consistency a cool head ○○ trustworthiness and respectfulness (not necessarily demanding respect) ○○ focus on key elements ○○ knowledgeable 184 . ○○ Competency includes skills. desire. if not daily. Any weakness could result in them not being successful. ○○ Work on the processes and build them into what you learn. and structure are involved and motivated about what you are doing have great decision-making skills are a team builder have a strong character.Peter Jennings Try to align the chart with your defined goals and refer to the goals regularly. ¾¾ The continuous improvement of how we do things. behavior. and willingness. 21 below). Make sure that you break the elephant down into mouthfuls and conquer these one at a time. These need to be nurtured. you will need to adapt your style in order to become just that. ¾¾ Adapting your style to suit the student’s skill and willingness to perform (see fig. defined processes should translate into how we think and respond to situations. values. If something is not working. This requires that you: yy yy yy yy yy have a clear vision.
“Let me help you. give feedback. The diagram and table are a guideline as to how the teacher should manage the child by adapting his/her leadership style to suit the occasion. “Let me watch you. Without a Christian culture. 21) shows how you can and should change your style from a more controlled approach (task) to a relaxed mode (relationship). Work through examples.” Look for a game to practice the skill or concept. and work ethic. and vice versa. they will soon degenerate into barbarianism. Learn basic structures. Style The Four Teaching Styles Progression (fig. Go through problem areas. ownership. Keep going! You’re getting it. to express themselves openly with no restriction or consequences. Explain in one or two ways. No output really. The output and learning are increased through action orientation. Do examples. Get into the process and concept clear. Understand the process. you’ve got it! Table 20. By George. Leadership Styles Style Telling/directing (This is phase 1. Offer recognition.com/ trumpet/weekly/TW20130209.” Encourage Mistakes are okay to learn. how to learn properly. Mark.thetrumpet. Goal Go through the motions. and how to follow instructions. This is not acceptable in most circumstances. You can do it. Excellence. Let us not forget Lord of the Flies! If that is too abstract for you. Go through the logic and steps. This teaches trust. Your brain is so powerful.) Suitable for ages 1-5 Participating Ages 6-9 Coaching Ages 10+ Delegating Focus on “Let me show you.pdf on South Africa! 1. depending on student readiness.” Get the process clear. I told you that you could.MEganize! There has been a tendency to allow children space. Your brain can do it. Do a few examples. The principle of “structure before diversity” is paramount. Leadership Styles 185 . “Show me what you have done.” Check for demotivators. children have no idea what acceptable behavior is. Just give it some time. See www. and if left to their own desires. The child must be taught how to behave. Read this in combination with the Change Process diagram in chapter 6. have a look at crime statistics in South Africa in the wake of a pagan government and their “new” culture.
Adjust your style as shown in the adapted Hersey’s diagram. Beware that you stay in the middle of these extremes. how you start is how you finish. You will find that you will have a general style per the shown age groups. 186 . ¾¾ Focus more on teaching in the early stages and then gradually hand over. You might find that some subjects can even be delegated at five or six years old. my children get a sweet. Reward excellence (100%) at any time. Delegating Delegation is a finely balanced skill that lies between micromanagement and abdication. This combined approach is shown in the diagram below: Fig.Peter Jennings Your teaching style can change as you go through a lesson. ¾¾ Make sure that you follow the stages of project development. Each time you assign a new task. then per project. Normally. you need to do the following: ¾¾ Make sure that you have reviewed the material and that it is relevant and achievable and aligns with your goals. When this is achieved in the routine stage. 21 Four Teaching Styles Progression Broadly based on Eddie Obeng’s Project Progression 2.
he/she is rewarded with a red/black mark. and motivation. If the child has forgotten. You must have given them the inkling that they can push their luck. then this is a reminder. We as adults know all of this and assume it to be common logic. a week. given the right vision. which is reflected on their scorecard. will enhance the learning process to produce real lasting results. it is often a structural issue. If he breaks the rules. If the child still refuses to cooperate. If they are told what to do. The stage is then set. and a month. This should be spaced from short times after exposure. diligence. Don’t set the wrong precedents. yy Work only a few of the same examples repetitively to learn the process (where necessary). tiredness. but children also want to do what they want to do. It is very hard for a child to learn what to do and what not to do. etc. Learn the process. Anki it ¾¾ Learn/work examples using process yy Review Anki as setup in the repetition algorithm.. which you will do for the first few years. This becomes your tool for managing motivation. These are repeated every morning in “assembly” at 7:40. then examine your style and attitude. but it is not. before taking other steps. ¾¾ Incorporate the new skill into the routine. outcomes expected yy Review material + another source yy Summarize material. Best learning requires regular repetition to increase the level of retention. then a few days. and pocket money. ¾¾ Concepts and definitions yy Define scope of project. It is recommended that broad rules be established to define the overall culture (to simulate the maxims and virtues). This provides a peg. structure. the probability is that they will do it. The five-stage approach to introducing new projects (subjects) is based on a combination of the project process and best learning methods. sickness. Gentle but firm redirection is advised. structural issues. If things start going wrong. as they will feed off them to your dismay. after two to four hours. objectives. It is my firm belief that every child wants the appreciation and recognition of his/her parents.MEganize! ¾¾ Make sure the output remains the focus and that the learning process is followed. It is much easier to manage the culture if you set the right expectations and understanding. This approach. Anki should normally be the final transfer to routine. then after a day. together with other learning and memory techniques. There is so much going on. 187 .
yy Have someone check your knowledge. so does coaching provide a framework around which you can manage yourself and improve your output in teaching. It focuses on supporting positive outcomes. monkey do. ¾¾ Check/test work performed yy Rebuild your knowledge from your own memory and examples. Doesn’t all knowledge applied and principles used increase the probability of success? So it is by learning how to coach. and structure. values. 3. Think. “I am part of all who I have met. It is a MEganizing structure you can follow in your daily activities. yy Formulate it into a presentation using Prezi/PowerPoint.” said Tennyson in Ulysses. The best part of this process is that it reduces your responsibility by lessening your risk. respectful approach. That is the truth. By this I mean that you need to check your assumptions on how you should behave in order to lead your children effectively. I see how much they learn from copying. The key aspects of coaching can be summarized as follows: yy yy yy yy It is an effective. Coaching When I watch and reflect on my children’s behavior. then do. It is facilitative and places the responsibility of performance on the student. So how do we harness this to our children’s advantage? We have to provide the right vision.Peter Jennings ¾¾ Learn/do own practice examples yy Work other examples to ensure the process is correctly understood. especially in a homeschooling situation. They mimic us. It builds the relationship to one of trust and openness. and then their friends. ¾¾ Teach/present method yy Be able to discuss and teach another student your knowledge on the subject. Often that means that we need to change ourselves. It is always good to look for disconfirming facts that test your “holy” ground. thus increasing your ability to understand and work with them. I found many parallels in the principles of coaching. This is how we grow. Just as the Myers-Briggs analysis will help you to see people more objectively. Monkey see. etc. then they mimic each other. 188 .
if not the reason. mainly through: ○○ more listening than talking. yy It gives you freedom of flexibility to work with the student and suss out what works and what doesn’t. Why? Because we have empowered them to the illusion that they are satisfied without us. and ○○ emphasizing empathy. We offer them so much and try to give them all that we can to show them our love. Many cases of child molestation. Sympathy is where we take ownership of the problem. This is the confusion between empathy and sympathy. offering too much of the latter. not sympathy. not our own aspirations or experiences (boring!). like controlling or dominating. ○○ focusing on the student entirely. and focus are all personal attributes. but they will not face the reality of taking responsibility for themselves. we need to become effective coaches. As homeschoolers. This is a subtle but devastating error that pervades our society. We confuse empathy with sympathy. where the responsibility stays with the child. The one outstanding feature is that many of us need coaching in order to perform. We almost smother them with our care and protection. Look at some of the amazing things many of us achieve. This is key. It is not natural to our instincts. we have become very emotionally involved with our children. do their homework. kidnapping. Society allows us to do it. All this does is foster false expectations. and worse (and other crimes) end up where the perpetrator is deemed “emotionally unstable” and therefore is only remanded into a mental institution for a while. This requires us to change. As parents. yy It helps the coach (parent) to inhibit instinctive negative behavior. not sympathy. This is evident as a phenomenon when we look at the symptoms in society. and even listen to parental advice. How do they get there? Commitment. tidy their rooms. but it is a proven process. Coaching is an impersonal way of providing leadership. Our children become reluctant to help around the house. Some additional areas need to be addressed: Show empathy. Consider how much potential we have as individuals. passion. I’m sure that you will agree with the symptoms. which I 189 . We need introspection via feedback that is objective. even encourages it.MEganize! yy It helps us (as parent) limit our input to what is necessary.
It is a great way to confirm that a process is valid and works. This empowerment table reminds me of the table of “People versus Things” from In Search of Excellence. If you can determine the fundamental drivers of success and relate those to principles. yy Define what behavior you want. or devolve your own. and reinforce that. I would like to simplify much of this in a table form. and process are the core drivers in achieving this. I have stressed the significance of principles. Let your negative emotions show. Define the culture. We then become more effective leaders that they can emulate. mostly. Rather than try to explain specifics (you should do your own reading on the detail). Empowerment Table Dos—Empower (Teach ownership. Try to control or dominate. yy State clearly what behavior or output you want. yy Provide an empathetic structure that will facilitate achievement/success. it is good for us. We must be people oriented (which a control paradigm is not). leveraged processes. This will give you a quick guide as to what to focus on. Don’ts—Control (Don’t make them learn) Caboose. but not necessarily why. If it is good for them. More reminders lead to shutting off/filtering out noise. 190 . Structure. The Kazdin method is very similar to the coaching principles. yy Listen to them carefully and guide them through. Offer options when you are instructing or setting a structure. Take responsibility for their tasks/ objectives. yy Speak calmly with warmth. Start there.Peter Jennings believe forms the structure to all productivity. Isn’t this what we want to teach our children? We want them to move away from their primitive instincts that we so easily fall into. yy Provoke learning through insights and questions. remember? These are two correlating or synergistic principles from disparate professions. No anger or wrath! Focus on what they’re doing wrong. Structure first. values. Arbitrary rules breed rebellion. Talk too much. and systemic solutions. then those should become your source of reference on which you design your processes and structures. process) yy Issue clear positive instructions of what you require.
attitude. Abdicate your role and responsibilities as leader or teacher. This will encourage them to challenge you on everything. yy Work on rewarding good behavior. Work on arbitrary things. Stay involved as a coach. Take it personally. yy Focus on their interests/topics of the present. Focus on one mouthful at a time. Explain your motives. yy Stick to a routine.MEganize! yy Reinforce any sign of positive compliance. air. yy Give clear instructions (without blowing their mind on the whole task). yy Prompt them with good behavior and manners. Understand the drivers. yy Hold on to your vision. Be too sympathetic. yy Make it goal oriented. Take on too much. Expect your children to know too much. (Senge) yy Have a clear plan and know how to get there. This creates security and productivity. Learning is repetition of examples. Empowerment Chart 191 . “Show me again!” Ignore or alienate unacceptable behavior. Get into a punishment style of leadership. destabilizing. You are on their side. yy Observe balance and moderation in all things. yy Work the process. yy Work toward achievable objectives. Make it count. Beware of adjusting your vision downward. and standards. Chop and change at your whim. Be wishy-washy about what has to be done. yy Delegate. Be hard on your children. and sleep. exercise. Coach them. subjects. yy Watch basic factors: diet. mostly. Be rigid in your approach. hygiene. Allow overindulgence in anything. Be manipulative. yy Be tough on “things”/tasks. Try to look good or know it all. yy Have a clear goal/reward system. yy Be empathetic. or lose focus on the goal. and reward them for completion. React to bad behavior. Change is unpleasant. Ignore environmental factors. excellence. Table 22.
There is as usual a paradox here in that we expect that by being nice to our children. If you are too concerned about your relationship with them. Sadly. the goal is to mold them into people of character. and as the student applies himself over time. your style can relax more into a relationship type one. It is part of the balance process.Peter Jennings Obedience Obedience is essential if society is to live in harmony. Your job is to make it happen. as you are a close team. They should never feel that you don’t love them. By providing a consistent positive structure whereby children are given focus and recognition. then you will probably do them a disservice in homeschooling them. Remember that it must always be “relationship first” within the constraints of consistency and structure. Kazdin talks about starving bad behavior. they will love us more and it will improve the relationship. Leadership doesn’t mean that you give them what they want. Dads are there to provide the structure in a family. Dr. it is stressed that your anger must be controlled. Well. A puppy that is left untrained can one day turn on his master. and it is hard to separate your hats. Structure first! The hard part of tutoring and being a parent is that you feel the need to love and comfort your children. It must be clear that as a parent who is homeschooling their children. there is a paradox to this. Obedience to parents starts at home. The Four Teaching Styles Progression shows how you can and should change your style from relationship to task and vice versa. walk away. values. Therefore. they will respect and love you more and thus improve your overall relationship over the longer term. In principle. resulting in an unhappy parent-child relationship. so it is with children. Sometimes a good smack on the diaper is recognition enough to put an end to tantrums and bad behavior. and a little fear of authority is not a bad thing. this is nature. but ignoring your children can only aggravate the situation if what they are really looking for is recognition. Usually. However. and worth. This implies that initially you need to be more task oriented. Beware of being slack with your children. If you cannot control your temper. this is a strategic strength. Dads will tend to have a short fuse and may get angry. 192 . and ultimately we need to obey God. then we have to obey the law. Do not accept tantrums. Short-term gains often lead to long-term losses. This is flawed and incorrect. Fairness and firmness are character strengths and will help to establish you as their leader. It’s the camel in the tent story. proving that he is trustworthy and capable. Unacceptable behavior is just that. This can turn into bad behavior and turn into a negative cycle. Rebellion is a result of allowing diversity before structure. the need to work together is strong and the desire for the children to please is strong.
you want to keep it simple. as is arbitrarily finding fault with everything they do. This is a valuable tool that feeds into your required reporting as a homeschooler.MEganize! You must not betray their trust in you either. as longer-term goals are not that significant in the minds of the youth! In the homeschooling environment. or a better term. If they do not achieve 193 . This is in effect their curriculum. Lead by example. We can learn a lot from their enthusiasm and love. Here is an Excel version of the 5Ps Motivation Scoreboard. The winner can get slightly more reward. They do not hold grudges and are always available to forgive and forget. There is so much going on that you have to remain focused on a structure and routine. though. Incentives are not enough. That way you will refrain from abusing your power. their career. Remember that if you go overboard and break your rules. acknowledge this to yourself and minimize your interaction with the children. This adds meaning to the daily grind as well. Watch for blank spots. we work for money (and self-fulfillment). The main focus must be to motivate. An important part of that routine is to motivate your child to focus on the right things. It also sets out a basic routine structure. The “Kazdin method” “People do what managers manage” is an old and true adage. Use it as an incentive system. so you still have to push it all through. you will get out of it. The amazing thing about young children is that they are so forgiving. Losing your temper is one way of achieving that. this is an effective tool as well. you should apologize to them. Pocket money becomes a by-product of good work. Each day the points are added up. What you put into it. Restrict your criticism to conforming to the maxims and the school rules. The concept of training children for life starts by teaching your children to think of school as their job. Such is life. Don’t let the crazy “school marm” loose. This is geared to recognizing good work and penalizing bad behavior at school. If you are having a bad day. Ultimately. Each lesson or planned activity receives a point. Make sure it all happens. The system works on points. 5Ps Weekly Motivation Scoreboard The most effective method to get the work done is to follow up the routine with a Weekly Motivation Scoreboard (Kazdin based). both a minimum and a maximum. If there is competition. The table I use is weekly based. Focus on creating the right structure for your child. The children have a target number of points to achieve.
Peter Jennings a minimum. e.. 194 . but also be firm. If there is any obedience problem. and you would set yourself up for being bullied into submission. but these are goal oriented and should be left alone. they do not get a reward. Sometimes this could indicate that you are being too tough on him/her. there is a bonus. there is a red/ black mark given to them.g. Ten red marks in a week cost a privilege. It is sometimes tempting to take away something that they really enjoy such as soccer or karate. for any reason. If they achieve a maximum. Check your level of fuzzies and recognition first before looking to punish. it must not be given back. unless all else fails of course. The important part is to be consistent and to practice temperance. you should look for external possibilities. Once a red mark is awarded. If a child is misbehaving out of the ordinary. You have to stand your ground. no TV/Nintendo for a week. That would show weakness. Three red marks cost a point.
5 Ps Motivation Scoreboard 195 .MEganize! Table 23.
” Toddlers don’t get the meaning of a negative (don’t) and thus get confused with the message. Sleep is essential for the brain to cope. Don’t be negative.” The problem with coercion is that you will get tuned out.m.” say.Peter Jennings This is often the case with extrovert children. Refer to the teaching styles progressions (fig. They crave attention.m. Meats and carbohydrates are acidic. “Focus on the solution. like “Another Brick in the Wall. This should only follow a good breakfast such as oats or high-fiber wheat. but in the early and growing years. or coach will try to inspire people to get going. A good manager. If you allow young children to stay up late over the weekend. trainer. but a wholegrain sandwich is fine. start. Teaching by coercion has long been the norm. This is the “balance” in a balanced diet. try not to say. this will make sense and easier to accept. When they have a problem. “You’re an untidy slob. Get yourself to reinforce good behavior and verbally reinforce it by keeping it positive. and avoid using negatives. so recognize one or two words and take it from there. Instead of saying. Dieticians allow for up to six small meals a day. not the problem. It’s hard to think when you’re hungry. This translates into a lights-out time of around 8:30 p. eight to nine hours is about right. you will see the negative impact on Monday morning and into the week. although there are times when this leadership style may be necessary. If you are an introvert. not the problem” is a lifelong mantra. while fruit and vegetables are alkaline. Children vary in the amount of sleep. help them through it. How often does your toddler do exactly what you told him not to do! Children generally are not good listeners. This optimizes energy and concentration levels.” When your child does something wrong. and they will conform eventually. to 196 . this will seem uncomfortable. Once you have studied the MBTI. Although snacking is a bad habit. with a 6:00 a. children often need something by 10:00 a. We assume it is obvious. but negatives are not in their vocab yet. NB: Our bodies need to be slightly on the alkaline side of the pH scale. Normal cereal does not fill their tummy for long. Watch the portion and keep it balanced. A smoothie or some fruit is the best option for a snack. you will have more time to play” or “Tidiness pleases God” or “Strive to be tidy and organized. It has been tested that memory works more effectively given good sleep. Stay away from the bad stuff already mentioned. “Don’t do that.m. 21). Drinking water only during school should be the norm. Even songs have been written about it.” These constant reiterations of the expectations will sink into their programming. “Focus on the solution. “If you are tidy.
You are there to guide him/her and show your child how to avoid the potholes in the road. err on the side of discipline. Guide him/her gently. If you want to look at children’s behavior philosophically. but don’t break the child. spoil the child. then conquer them. Again.” I believe that the Bible was being figurative. While I believe that the odd early “smack on the bot” can help resolve some issues. Identify yours. faithful. Be gentle. the less inclined they will be to disappoint you. Just set the pressure on the goals. so a small correction will probably suffice. you must always bear in mind the image your child has of you and your responsibility to live up to that. As a baby. If you can’t control yourself. or a micromanager looking for constant fault. loving. then don’t do it at all. The fundamental trick is to set the structure and culture to be coercive. and our reluctance to take orders. God is not an army sergeant. some crazy beat his two-year-old child to death quoting the scripture. not on the child. “be tough on things. he sees you as God. We all have our weaknesses. generous. The first is our natural aversion to change. My opinion is that verbal abuse is as bad as physical abuse. Your child should see God’s qualities in you: kind. The principle that we should work on is balance. patient. they will lose their respect for you and tune you out. soft on people. The second is our inclination for independence and freedom of choice. If you verbally abuse your children and scream and shout at them. You will never entirely motivate a child to enjoy learning. this being our prime goal.MEganize! strive for excellence. you should not be surprised if your child makes mistakes in trying to learn the ropes. This is a weakness in your self-control. so conquer it! Stick with your rules. and consistent. or a workaholic. but then motivate and encourage within that. “Spare the rod. We have to remember that we are dealing with two huge obstacles in teaching our children. wise. 197 . This is your challenge. just. The “rod” just means discipline and balance. Even then the damage is usually done.) The more love (soft) and structure (hard) you offer. Remember that pressure makes diamonds. Recently. (The only time children need breaking is when they have been badly taught and you need a “step-change” to correct them. Punishment This deserves its own heading. even in the odd whack.” If you are going to err. as people go crazy on either side of the spectrum. and God gave you your gift of a child that you can raise him in His reflection. nor can you get away with never coercing him/her.
Tone it down! “Positive psychology is to build resilience. Put value on quality time. Consider your punishment. Be generous with warm fuzzies. Read Better Dads. “Blessings and curses flow from generation to generation. This way they pick up our bad traits. you have the power to fix yourself. i. Many of us had imperfect childhoods that have left a mark on us. yy Remember that we are all tuned in to exaggerate negative comments in our minds. 198 . Solve problems together. promote adaptive coping skills. you need to: yy yy yy yy yy yy yy yy yy yy yy Instruct calmly. not the time taken. Once you realize that you have just been badly programmed. Develop rituals and routines. Plan down time.. Praise him for taking his time-outs with good humor. Build competencies.e. Have a plan. Monkey see. Take care of yourself. Acknowledge them and move on. Connect with the family. The useful effect of punishment comes from the moment of taking away. ○○ Don’t punish when you are angry. ○○ Don’t punish by banning any task/habit that you are trying to foster. Listen to your child. Be consistent. ○○ The ratio of praise to punishment should be around +15:1. Encourage social interaction. ○○ Use negative points. ○○ Time-outs of two to five minutes are good. don’t react. Stronger Sons for inspiration. a positive culture. and teach effective problem solving.” so strive to be perfect. monkey do.” (Martin Seligman) To achieve this. Kazdin has certain recommendations for how to go about this (paraphrasing): yy Punishment should be brief. Encourage compliance. Dr.Peter Jennings The sad thing perhaps is that our children mimic our behavior. yy Avoid arbitrary punishment. Abusive children often become abusive parents. Chill outs for all.
MEganize! These points are taken from Dr. This is a serious enemy in the USA right now. confusing sympathy with empathy. The other side of the spectrum is overindulgence. which can easily be solved in schools with my new approach. but much has been said on this. The other is a lack of cohesion and isolation. Kazdin’s book. 199 . Look for your top three weak areas and work on them. in which areas we err the most.
So you must change yourself from within—to conquer self in the truest form—in order to lead. It requires that you must change yourself for the better. So how do you do it? The answer is to become all of it. We have established certain laws and principles that we can rely on or believe in. So it is with all new projects. it looks impossible. etc. and how do you get your vision for yourself? We always start with what we do know.Chapter 22 Challenges Circumstances vary from home to home. how do you overcome your mind boundaries. When my children tell me they can’t learn “Chinese. so you have to switch hats. If this changes the culture or feel of your leadership style. like Mandarin.” 200 . your inhibitions. your cultural paradigms. coach. but without a role model or trainer. This will be your foundation. Being a teacher. your limitations. This is easier said than done. The writing is weird. and marriage to marriage. A hard assignment. and the pronunciation is unnatural to us. So you need to become this three in one type of person. It is easier to pull a rope than push it. When we start to learn something difficult. the children will get confused and perhaps distrust you. I cannot talk for single parents.? Where is the place to start. as the homeschooling option will probably not be open to them. and parent gets confusing. The roles are different. What you have to do is have faith in your ability to adapt and to learn. A donkey must lead the cart. The concept of change being difficult is understood. Here are some ground rules that should be applicable to most homes. and I cannot see how one person can manage all these variables alone. Having more than two children is also a challenge. to become that role model that you need to be.
○○ Read a story to them at bedtime. (Please do not nitpick!) 201 . It is like trying to reorganize the system of public education. This is part of a business strategy approach. If something is not working. dismantling it brick by brick and then rebuilding it. or ask someone to be brutally honest with you. Get your mind right. yy Be positive in your outlook. This is your motivation. but you have control over your actions and reactions. Remember that you cannot control what others think or do. Know Thy Self We need to examine ourselves first. Do tai-chi. Be proactive in your Christian spirit. Listen to them (sometimes). don’t blame others. controlling. or tennis. Work on the basics: yy Read. Recreate yourself. fat. You could try to go back and analyze all the good or bad things that you have done and find a solution for them. I believe in steps. Spend time with them. There are two approaches to this. 1. We need to be able to assess ourselves objectively and honestly. ○○ Pray with them at night. Look for the solution and work toward it.” Know your strengths and weaknesses. Know that you must change to fill your new role and that you need to change for your sanity and your child’s future. etc. so you want to get it right as best you can. Smile. talk nonsense. This is an impossible task. Sadly. This is hard to do. You have to suss it out for yourself. no one is going to tell you that you are too talkative. so here we go. and meditate on the heavenly virtues. What you have to do is start from a zero base. Focus on the solution. attitude. Remember that your children will be a reflection of you. Try to do at least three things a day that adds value to their lives. be cheerful and encouraging. learn. although many miss the subtleties. With focus. ○○ Play a game with them during the day. know thyself. and application. or swim with them. This won’t happen. run or ride bikes together.MEganize! I tell them then how come ten million three-year-olds in China have already learned it? It’s all a mind-set. “Above all things. yy Don’t make assumptions. play soccer. you can learn almost anything. think too much of yourself. Try to understand them. pickle-ball. lazy. As you might have noticed by now. and be aware of your weaknesses in them. yy Show your children that you love them by showing kindness and patience.
Here are my top few pointers: yy Never ask kids what they want to eat. Covey said. There are ways to minimize these as a family. Offer them A or B. Your new awareness will allow you to be sensitive to problem areas and allow you to change over time. yy Have a clear vision of what you should be doing or how your homeschool should be running. Keep this clear in your mind and pray and work toward it. then learn (then read them again at least once) about the principles that you should be following as coach. doing the right thing (routine). “Why don’t 202 . It will also avoid many complaints like. By applying the truism concept of “abstinence is easier than moderation. yy Have a routine and try to stay with it.” you will avoid many pitfalls. Some of these thinking books are included in the references. look at this” or “Daddy. and that is that.” yy Have agreed chores with your spouse. help me. Follow the process. not always the comfortable thing (divergence).” yy Learn the basic processes and incorporate them into how you teach. Our nature is to drift into chaos. parent. Have a vision of your children being happy learning and being successful. and there are many distractions from the never-ending demands. we work better if we have specific assignments. It is easy to backslide. 2. Family From a more practical perspective. Learning is your best means of change! Our paradigms are all flawed in some way. You may make mistakes. We need to revisit them. This will end up driving you insane. or to the fast-food outlets. husband/ wife. “Mommy. yy Read. and teacher. Mommy.Peter Jennings yy Learn the 3-4-5 maxims and apply them to everything. Keep to specific times. “Start with the end in sight. then challenge them. We need to work to stay on track. yy Make sure that your husband/wife gives you some time off so that you can regather your sanity. yy Stay away from all things unhealthy or risky. This synergy will ensure a fair spread of the workload and minimize confusion or tension in the leadership. but this book will have helped you to avoid many. This will also give you time to get things done that are hard to do when you have an ongoing stream of. In the heat of the rush. it is grueling work coping with a few children and taking care of all the housework. There is little time for yourself.
croquet. The discipline of doing the right thing is a key value to look for in your spouse! Character is what you should marry. the “nice guy” must always reinforce the “bad guy. yy Do the right thing. Manage expectations. let alone agree on how to raise your children. All you are doing is working the cycle based on agreed principles. This can be a deal breaker for a marriage. You must speak with one mouth to the children. do things together. otherwise. The spouses must act as equal partners in offering feedback if you need to rethink your approach. or if you find yourself caboosing. it ends up as a personal argument and turns negative. or if one is trying to keep the kids eating healthily and the other takes them for ice cream. A good example of this could be if the Dad is spanking too often. This openness between partners must be objective. or the Mom is shouting at the children all the time. Children get a wonderful sense of security seeing their parents playing or doing things together. so make sure that you get this right before you tie the knot. these should work themselves out over time. However. yy Agree with your spouse on the culture that you want to raise your children under. The rules and principles must be the same (derived from the shared set of values and beliefs). This works well. then talk to each other about it. Forget your childish pride. The best way to ensure this is to marry someone of your own culture and background. This is the Team Performance Principle. This type of problem-solving process is what should be taught in school level. must allow for the paradox of one parent being the disciplinarian (Dad) and the other showing empathy and offering the right direction. but it is better to agree on the rules up front. and sorting out the piles of washing.” If you have a difference. 203 . cards. however. Many divorces are over ridiculous things that have been allowed to fester over the years. This. and be clear about expressing yours. this is your life-partner! yy Wherever you can. it becomes a mission in itself to adapt to each other. What fun is there in doing it all alone? If defeats the purpose. This sounds like another paradox.” the ongoing mess will increase your stress level and steal your joy. A marriage is a team of two. without the children. the definition. you will do less work and be able to relax more. If you get “into the weeds. If you start off with different cultures.MEganize! you do the dishes sometime?” In a good relationship. mostly. Our favorites are pickle-ball. The crux is that if you stay on top of things. and the spirit.
so then it will be seen more objectively. It’s about what is good for my family.Peter Jennings yy Avoid too many projects or you will end up living to work. I have time to look at strategic issues. The rule of thumb should be one at a time. sometimes frustrated with our progress or with the material. This is why they are multitasking organizational masters. We need to adapt and fit into the role best suited for ourselves or the situation for the benefit of the team. Isn’t this the culture that we teach in team sport? It is fundamental to our culture of sacrifice. having Moms as the breadwinner. such as retirement planning 204 . No wonder they sell happy pills! My point here is that a family is a team. The housework is of course a whole “nother” issue. I became the stay-at-home Dad. KISS. This took a number of years to adapt to and accept. When you sign up for a team. The routine of cleaning. and the never-ending handholding can be tedious and restraining. Home Dads One important family aspect that needs a mention is the situation where Dads find themselves at home. is hard to adapt to. All was good. In a personal perspective. Nurturing probably does not come naturally for most Dads. Let me refer to this as a personal experience. We struggle through our school days. Prior to moving to the USA. but the feelings involved are deep-rooted and can be a source of personal unhappiness and trouble for the family as a whole.. As the situation matured. See if you can accommodate it into your routine before taking on the next. I am fairly well educated. I have realized how underappreciated our wives have been over the years. I choose to see this role as God-given in many ways. as I set out in the introduction. By default. I’m not sure if I am comfortable with it even now. it takes sacrifice. driven by your love and commitment for the betterment of the team. washing dishes. etc. I can get involved in raising my children which is a huge privilege. we decided that homeschooling was our best option based on a number of criteria. So be it. It has been a great role reversal therapy! All in all. Always look to return on investment in terms of new projects. Not everyone can play center forward. This is a delicate topic. this isn’t about me. I held senior positions and was the main and sometimes sole breadwinner. In a real environment. When we moved to the USA my wife held a position in an American company. but it’s one that I am fully conversant with. the productivity or ROI comes out of pleasure relative to the effort and cost of the upkeep. However. 3. It is easy to talk about this change. perhaps the Dads can’t get work or Mom has a better job. it is a thankless job with very little outside stimulation.
Often we just need to get our minds right by looking at the situation differently. I hope that offers a new perspective. and even do some writing. you will add value and keep the core to your family’s happiness. Work on making it happen by thinking strategically. think team. N types are potentially better leaders and better with children. I get to serve my family. That sounds like another paradox. This is true balance. A family without a Dad is no family at all. but this is the best choice for my family for now. I think the key to making this all work is that Dads must maintain their role as head of the family. We all want to be the hero. Maintain your vision for your family. while the N type makes the ideal homemaker. while Moms make the decisions. However.MEganize! and investing. as it takes two to make the best decisions. Think support. By keeping it positive. you will find that the breadwinner will usually be the S type personality. It’s not my first choice. Work to keep each other happy. 205 . so Moms need to play a crucial role in keeping the status quo. but isn’t it true? This is not a case of principle of course. The best is to accept the situation for what it is and not get bitter and twisted (self-indulgent?).
There is so much going on that you have to remain focused on a structure and routine.Chapter 23 Simplicity In a homeschooling environment. getting through their curriculum.. defined outputs. and “I Can/Am” Goals Scoreboard. you want to keep it simple. An important part of that routine is to motivate your children to focus on the right things. The prime tools for this are the weekly achievement chart. Fig. i.e. Performance Reports Flow 206 . 24.
This is a good motivator and a strategic lesson in planning with action. One of the key steps in the Strategic Cycle for Change is the handover across the line from “Projects” to “Routine. 3rd place Kumite Top goal scorer 2012 5 5 5 10 10 10 8 10 5 5 6 5 10 10 3 songs Intermediate band Page 2 400 wpm 20 numbers Practice Review Practice Played in third concert 100% for page 1 Started M L Progress next due M L Next Step Achievements So far. 207 .” This is a common problem in life. “I Can/Am” Goal Visualization Scoreboard This also reminds you of how many balls you have in the air and not to take on any more before you finish some of these. Achievements on completing a level should be celebrated. so good Table 25. This can be supported by role models in that area. Make sure that their goals are linked to their dreams. One way to remind children of their goals and where they want to be is to have a “one day” list pinned on their wall.MEganize! ¾¾ “I Can/Am” Goal Visualization Scoreboard The “I Can/Am” Goal Scoreboard gives us a visual of our goals and achievements and an understanding of how long it takes to complete a project. Skills I CAN/AM MEganize subjects: Play keyboards or guitar Play a wind instrument Speak five languages Read fast and recall Memorize numbers facts Program in sequel Know some math magic Fly planes in simulation Balance: Karate black belt Play soccer # Completed 1 5 5 1 2 1 6 Purple Next season Green. but it’s an important discipline to complete the learning cycle.
. Watch for blank spots. I believe that you should cover this material by the time your child reaches the age of twelve or thirteen before getting into high school subjects that converge into the child’s career choice. the less stress.e. This is essentially the introduction of new projects for the first ten to twelve years of your child’s learning life. Use it as an incentive system. i. the next step is to plan the subject overview. Incentives are not enough. will leverage your ability to focus more on teaching than continuously organizing and reorganizing. the next step would be to design a timetable to introduce/schedule all the required materials. The principles of minimizing change. so you have to push it through. During this time. Routine Rather than give you generic descriptions that you will have to interpret for yourself. and “know what you know” (or less is more) should be paramount. completing projects on a staged basis. There are six parts to each day. Make sure it all happens. reference materials. If you remain focused on covering the core issues using the 80:20 principle and the recommended learning routine. 208 . The power of routine. After deciding on a program of subjects that you believe will best suit your child. I have heard many a homeschooler talk about a relaxed approach. The timing of these will depend on your child’s ability to learn and the variables involved (your ability to teach. based on time management principles and best learning practices. ¾¾ 5 Ps Motivation Scoreboard (Table 23) This chart is essentially a list of subject areas required each day. These are defined under Routine below.). An example of this has been shown earlier in this chapter. the only way to approach this huge task is to optimize your routine. In my opinion. Routine and relaxed may sound like an oxymoron.Peter Jennings Once you have defined the important elements your child needs for success. the more routine. but it isn’t. etc. This is a valuable tool that feeds into your required reporting as a homeschooler. You can’t do both at once! 1. facilities. Plan and then do. Draw up a plan and try to stick to it. It is the operational process by which you are able to meet your goals. allow me to introduce my recommended routine structure. There are a few major categories that I believe are significant and which are the bases for the design. you should hope to cover all the essentials before they are exposed to the system of SATs.
Math and science come first. 4. It is a reminder of the power of routine and kung fu. This comprises core concept definitions and principles to be learned through the Power 1/2 Hour. Reminder of “meaning” with prayers. Daily exercise should be part of this. highlight key points. The principles behind this routine are also a good basis to apply throughout life. Anki (or Memory Lifter) In general.MEganize! 1. including sport and hobbies. goals. logic (math and science). you will have to work through most of the work with them. 2. Once they have a routine. social studies (history and geography). as you are minimizing change and managing their expectations all at once. children like routine. The object is speed and excellence. The outputs must be aligned with the bigger planned achievement or output for the term. 3. This makes a great “break” where you can do stretching. and update Anki. This should follow an order by priority. including literature. It’s quite a long process. Having a basic routine is time efficient. Projects that are new subjects and MEganizing by nature. and affirmations of process and culture. but it is up front and will pay dividends. skip. The concept is the same for all subjects. play tennis. 6. 5. General subjects. Have a look at first level of the MEganize foreign languages summary in the appendix. an Anki summary is the desired output for a lesson. practice some karate moves. You need to show them how to learn. Also. and people skills (communication). Routine subjects that are an extension of existing knowledge. 209 . 2. music. As young children cannot summarize or identify concepts and processes. Extramural activities that are essential for balance and sanity. which is a focused effort to practice and revise a few learned skills quickly. etc. they are empowered and can assume ownership over time. It’s a good kick-starter that works on focus and effort. and you will not end up in an asylum from trying to juggle too many balls in your head at once. This is an example of a convergent outcome. etc. These must be defined and shared at the outset. Power 1/2 Hour. It can also be a completed worksheet or an online score. It’s a one-time investment. This involves music. Everything should be goal oriented with the objective of excellence. It also keeps you involved. This builds the brain and brings about subconscious learning.
In the early years. can be used throughout your life. Once you have summarized your section for the day. This sets up exam-type answers. Anki is freeware that helps the student learn through repetition. It is a reasonably simple but powerful tool that I believe is a must for the student toolbox. you have not produced the required output for that lesson—if summarizing was the goal. If not. 210 . Successful habits and learned processes should be built into their routine and thinking. You cannot learn it all. they should have been exposed to them already. and keep the rhythm. This is an important start to the process of converging.Peter Jennings Based on memory tests. This helps the child focus. plus a MEganize revision session. Make sure that the information going in is correct and worth learning! Keep it lean. Knowing up front what these are is the real trick! By the time you get to them. test. with discipline. read up on the core materials. a half an hour is all that you need as homework. Listen. Build your own files up. This means that you should plan ahead. but then this becomes a k-base (knowledge base) going forward. The correct learning process is thus critical to facilitate. as the data will not be sorted the way you want it and there will be too much in it. and this will build up your own knowledge base and learning culture. Normally. summarizing. This is much better than trying to keep a whole lot of paper notes in order! My general assertion is that if you are not writing—highlighting. For the first few years. and move on is an absolute waste of time and produces no change and minimal retention. It can take a while to get the data in. get motivated to get it done. it also helps memorization. then build it up to a thirty-minute session a day. children over five will manage thirty minutes. we lose 95% of what we hear within twenty-four hours. or doing examples—then you are not working. Spiraled learning and repetition of concepts are critical. but you should ensure that the students learn to summarize and that you review this with them before putting it into Anki. enter it into Anki and your “paperwork” is done. and usually only around 7% of a book has actual content that you need to learn. One of the advantages of Anki is that your facts have to be framed as questions. A number of references have been made to this. learn. Start off with one or two subjects. Note: A tip is not to download an existing Anki file. In your Power 1/2 Hour. try to hit one subject every ten minutes. this will be your responsibility. I believe that this is a life skill that. Summaries are critical in understanding key points and concepts. and use them.
(Do 3-5 subjects x 5-10 minutes once or twice a day. Link this schedule to current projects or goals/skills. 3. Practice should cover one of each type a day. and core.com) Shapes Memory Puzzles Rhymes ABCs Learn to read Beginner Logic (SS) Foreign Language Geography (SS) Multiplication. Sample Anki Review Schedule Note: Bold shows core 3x3-tier subjects. 211 . i. The algorithms can help you to systematically revise your material.MEganize! Set up an Anki (Memory Lifter) review schedule. yy Registration/notification that your child will be attending homeschool. Admin Department of Education Requirements Different states will have their own regulations.. However. It should be accomplished by the end of July usually. soft. There are two formalities to comply with. This can be done online in Georgia.) Toddler (Starfall. I suggest that you use generic tags that you can use for all subjects. it seems better to review all information by section repeatedly for a period. com Table of Elements (SS) Values Vocab/spelling Learning basics Grammar Intermediate Logic (SS) Foreign Language Geography (SS) Math Science History People MBTI Life/meaning/ time Memory Advanced Logic (SS) Foreign Language Anatomy Math Science Finance Negotiation Decision-making Leadership Table 26. Memory Lifter is better at accommodating this. hard.e. Try to cover this and the previous term’s work. Anki uses a tag system that enables you to define sections of work that you would like to focus on.
Either way.” Every three years. 2012. It is a summary of the weekly chart. like Georgia (see below). The recommendation is to take on special interest projects while continuing Power 1/2 Hour and MEganize routines during this time. The Georgia Department of Education (GaDOE) developed a web-based system to efficiently comply with the new homeschool requirements. you would want to keep your own spreadsheet as above to record school attendance per child. move the responsibility of homeschool reporting from local school systems to the Georgia Department of Education beginning July 1.gadoe. only need a once-a-year schedule. This is the attendance schedule I keep for the DOE to comply with their regulations. 212 . Some offer online monthly attendance updates. It is called the Iowa Test of Basic Skills. . and our annual school attendance relative to Japan and other leading countries is way below average. Please be advised that the GaDOE web-based system is not affiliated with any vendor offering services to homeschool parents/ guardians. but it shows that the children have completed the required number of school days (180) for the year.Peter Jennings yy Attendance updates. Additional information about homeschooling and how to submit homeschool documentation is available on the homeschool webpage. Parents/guardians are strongly encouraged to use the web-based system to submit their homeschool Declaration of Intent and attendance records as doing so will save time and resources for both the parent/guardian and the GaDOE. then you may want to enter subjects covered for the day. while others. your child needs—is required—to undergo another standard requirement to ensure a minimum of compliance. If you are using the 5P Motivation Scoreboard. The GaDOE web-based system is located on GaDOE’s homeschool webpage at http://www. You could do this more often if you prefer. Note: Our current summer holidays are far too long. This would be for your information only.org/Curriculum-Instruction-and-Assessment/ Pages/Home-Schools. . “House Bills 39 and 706. although you want to aim higher than that.aspx . passed during the 2012 legislative session and signed by the Governor.
MEganize! Fig. Attendance Report Sample 213 . 27.
and money down the drain. an unfinished project. Be sure to walk down the road first.com * ABC puzzles ABCmouse. Find out exactly what you want to achieve before spending the big bucks. The result is demotivation. An example of this would be your decision to study a foreign language.com Math Shapes puzzle Lego (big pieces) Learn numbers board Adding board Science Muzzi/similar PBSkids.com* Multiplication.org* Skills Other ABC writing boards Sheppard Software* PBS Kids Play Socialization (5+) Excel/similar math Multiplication board Sheppard Software* Linguanaut. “What are my specific goals?” So you go and spend a lot of money on Rosetta Stone or Pimsleur. and the onus is then on you to protect yourself from spending a lot of money without having a specific plan. you should have a clear picture of what core references you need and what to avoid. “Don’t buy it until you actually need it.com A Beka: Writing Khan Academy* Khan Academy* Memory & Grammar IXL (optional extra for revision) A Beka Pre-Algebra SWA Conversation () Speed Reading (2) (6+) D’aulaires: Book of Greek Myths Children’s Bible Children’s History (4) Anki* or Memory Lifter (10+) Table 28. Age (1-4) (2+) (3+) Communication Starfall.” Once you have read this book. You can get through the first seven to ten years on less than $150 direct costs a year! These are the resources that I have used and found functional. Early Resources *—Free 214 . Of course you listen to the media first instead of asking yourself. exceptional.com* Kids encyclopedia. but deciding what resources to use. Resources One of the frustrating aspects of homeschooling is not only what to teach. My rule for this is. only to find that it is a huge mission (What! Not in ten days?!) with no tangible results. and cost effective. The homeschool fairs are for the uniformed.Peter Jennings 4.
MEganize! South Western Advantage (SWA) has brilliant reference textbooks for the entire curriculum. It is always best to have at least two references to a subject. It’s expensive up front but worthwhile.org and you’re almost there. Add to that khanacademy. SWA is a good core reference. 215 .
You also now better understand the bigger picture and the main factors and structures that create problems in our lives. but this one becomes a commitment to yourself and your child. Enjoy the process of change within you and your child. and nonproductive. with the objective of preparing your child for a happy and successful life. but the sacrifices are all yours.Chapter 24 A Synopsis When we set out. admittedly for money. ¾¾ Help you and your child cope with the many challenges that you will face in life. 216 . Hopefully you can now make a wiser decision on how best to proceed on the subject of education and decide to MEganize your child. Most people sacrifice their lives to an organization. One benefit of applying this book should be to reduce your stress levels since you know what to do and are confident that you are applying the right principles and structure. This is a choice only you can make. ¾¾ Give you insight and structure so that you get the best out of your schooling time together. Trying to “think and do” is hard on the old brain. There is no better way to spend your time. but that money is spent on the children anyway. You are now free of much of the thinking and many options open to confuse you. the goal of this book was to achieve three things: ¾¾ Provide you with a different perspective of what children should be taught and when and why this is so. Homeschooling is a rewarding option.
Money can always be made. As a fundamental driver. probably even a crisis. Life will carry on. Lastly. we don’t believe that our situation is a problem. we never really latch onto something. I have faith in the power of One.MEganize! Your success has one output that will best measure how well you are doing (not your kids). and this is the hardest part. For everyone who exalts himself will be humbled. the production capacity. “I tell you that this man. we still believe the media as to what really matters. The media have such a grip on our perception of reality that if it doesn’t make the news. they understand the cycle and treat you with the love and respect you deserve. However. self-gratification replaces decency and the lives of the innocent are placed in jeopardy. Even though you may have a relative with diabetes. we face a huge financial restructuring. sympathy replaces empathy and individual needs and crimes become societies’ burden. With all our money printing by the government. rather than the other. Second. went home justified before God. then you have succeeded. This book is more than about our schools or homeschooling. For if they see you humble yourself before God. a Christian culture of value-added productivity through learning is our only true hope. If our symptoms are not highly publicized. If your young children hold out their hands to you at bedtime and ask you to say prayers with them. The doors to teaching and learning then open up like never before. the impact of a non-Christian government is more frightening. When fear rules our lives. A strong conscience is worth a thousand laws. and even the resources. I cannot help but wonder whether this book will make a difference.” (Luke 18:14) As I write this last chapter. and get the insights. the parents actually have to buy it. read it. What we learn and how we learn has to change in order for us to regain our competitive edge. These are the outputs of a control environment. They now have all the skills. We 217 . There are so many books to read. Today we are the laughing stock of many Oriental countries. it can’t be important. When the individual spirit is lost with no pure meaning. In our divergent society. We just keep moving on. We give them control. It’s all so controlled. However. and rebellious children who care more for their leisure time than a career. The probability is low. When Christian values are lost. readers need to take action on it. First. a parent who died of a heart attack. then all that we have gained will be lost and we will be ruled at the whim of our controllers. and he who humbles himself will be exalted. MEganize has to be well marketed and distributed. They have outplayed us in a grand strategic game of chess. This is significant but not a catastrophe.
The time is now. Practice these principles and processes. Rome burned while the politicians were still debating over irrelevancies. Look at any successful business. and two million laws. Custos Veritatis 218 . but confident nevertheless. Forget about them. We have to learn by our mistakes. Don’t give them control. If our government and schooling system don’t change. Try to regain perspective through this book. Team decision-making and decentralization are the new and improved process and structures. bankruptcy. The time for debates is over. Start with yourselves and your children.Peter Jennings are left with a large government with no record of success. It has given us nothing but weakness. It’s time to pray for change and take action. no bank balance. Politics as we know it must end. We are reeling on the back rope. Empower your child. we are doomed to internal politicking and illusion until our demise. and look for ways to upgrade your children’s capabilities. Rekindle your Christian faith and values over and above pop culture.
....... 211 Attendance Report Sample.... 16............................................................................... ............................................................................................ 5..... 26 First Quadrant Drivers..... 21......... 206 “I Can/Am” Goal Visualization Scoreboard................... 24.... 25.................................................. 185 Four Teaching Styles Progression... 2........ 12............... 8..................................... 6............. 9.......... 186 Empowerment Chart........................... 213 Early Resources.............. 19............ 37 The Learning Process...... 51 The Project Learning Process........ 195 Performance Reports Flow.............................. 100 The Loyalty-based Cycle of Growth................................................................................................................................................ 15 Four Learning Types Matrix.................. 10............................................. 27.............................................. 13.............................. 133 Schooling Options.............................. 7........ 25 Balanced Team Learning and Decision Profiles............................................................................................................... .............. 23. 70 USA relative international scores........ 162 Skills Table: Main Drivers of Productivity. 87 The Control Mindset...................................................................... 15.............................. 28.......................... 20........ ...................................................................... .......................................................... 18........................................................................................ 17. 96 The Strategic Change Cycle................................ 125 Time Management Table..................................... 191 5 Ps Motivation Scoreboard................................................................................................................. 40 The Learning Cycle................... 182 Leadership Styles...... 207 Sample Anki Review Schedule......................... 93 The Poverty Cycle.. 3............... 11.............................................................. Central Need Factor....... 114 Core Paradoxes...................... 22...Figures and Tables Page 1................................................................................................................... 14............................. 4.................... 58 Life Learning Progression....... 121 Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. ................... 214 219 ................... 34 Common Paradigm Pitfalls....................... ......... ........................... 26...... ...
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art. Where to start 1 Skill 2 Type English: Vocab. 222 . affirmations MEgaMemory Meaning Creativity. geog) Process Application School prayers and Kidsofintegrity. (SS) Communication Anki. Prayers. affirmations For languages P2 .org Type Talk (Kroeger. memory Starfall. ABCs Communication Pictures. Quick start MEganize subjects guide from the 3x3 tier Skills table.com (SS) Music. and/or EQ. follow MEganize timetable Communication Learning (process) MEganize Memory (process) The Memory Book Math magic Project process Movie-making Math Magic Breakthrough Rapid Reading Khanacademy. Prayers. IQ. puzzles Piano Wizzard.com Foreign languages Communication Prayers Muzzi Italian/Spanish Subject Age 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 12 Memory (chem.Theusen) Decision Traps Process Application Computer skills (DIY) Tools Speed reading Programming MBTI Decisions Problem-solving Tools Logic Communication People skills Process Process Decision-making Math problems All these subjects must generate a real basic skill or enhance productivity.Appendices 1.com For languages P1. puzzles Sheppardsoftware. Build them into your Power ½ Hour routine.
hard on things/ time) • Character (stick to your Christian values) - I will always try to add value in all that I do using the key ingredients to maximize my performance (55 Ps) • Purpose (intention) • Process (best way) • Participation (connection) • Presence (newness) Playfulness (joy) This is how I work I understand that this is my life. with a mind open to learning. I am responsible for me. The Bible says what you must be firm with me. I am your greatest helper or heaviest burden. My thoughts become automatically. Show sow you will reap. Be easy with me and I will destroy you. and practice “kung fu. Affirmations and morning prayers This is how I think I will live my life with positive thoughts and attitude. This will be done through a focus on the three maxims of life: - I will strive to conquer self by meditating on and developing these heavenly virtues: - I will look a for ways to show recognition through my: • Sincerity (focus on present) • Effort (get into it. that my goals. to serve and obey God. of all failures. self and become a true master Those who are great. train me. alas. and decisions today will determine who I become tomorrow. actions. and be firm with me. though I • I will not procrastinate. now. I will obey them and learn from them. I will endeavor to attain my happiness through the pursuit of a strategic plan that I believe in. Who am I? I am habit! 223 .” and I will to me. then finish it) • Etiquette (manners and courtesy. I will seek to serve my family and those whom I love with my works using consideration and compassion. • I will strive for balance. I have of my destiny. You may run • I will follow the rule me for profit or run me for of “structure before ruin—it makes no difference diversity. my words and my actions. Take me. I will reap the rewards I am managed with care—you later. knowing that I am only a student. I choose to me exactly how you want work hard and smart now. I can control my thoughts to conquer I am the servant of all great people and. I am not a machine. made great. • I will stick to my planned work with the precision of a machine and the intelligence routine. listen to and learn from my teachers and parents. I am I understand that if I work hard completely at your command. • I will seek wisdom as well as skill so that I will become a master of my own destiny. and after My thoughts are under my enough lessons. with no fear. I have made failures. • I will think (plan). of a person. to work for His glory in everything I do. obedient to my teacher. apology and thanks) • Self-control (soft on people. then do (work the plan). Routine—My greatest companion (Unknown) I am your constant companion. excellence. and I will place the world at your feet. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. Those who are • I enjoy learning new failures. something done.” • I will be tidy and organized.MEganize! 2. I will seek to live and learn in Godliness. things. I will do it control.
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting. If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you.Peter Jennings Building the right character There have been a number of books and poems written that are famous for illustrating the concept of character. don’t give way to hating. Or being hated. If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim. broken. The river of death has brimmed his banks. to labor and not to ask for reward save that of knowing I am doing Your Will. 224 . An hour to play and the last man in. And I thank Thee for Thy keep. Lord. Thy blessings more Care for Mom and Dad the same. teach me to be generous. to toil and not to seek for rest. Watch this night well over me. Grant them. But his captain’s hand on his shoulder smote “Play up! play up! and play the game!” The sand of the desert is sodden red.— Red with the wreck of a square that broke. Or the selfish hope of a season’s fame. Teach me. And the regiment blind with dust and smoke. to give and not to count the cost. Lord. And yet don’t look too good. If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster And treat those two impostors just the same. Ignatius of Loyola) Dearest Lord. If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools. Lord. nor talk too wise: If you can dream—and not make dreams your master. And it’s not for the sake of a ribboned coat. Psalm 121 or Psalm 23 Bedtime Prayer Time has come for me to sleep. teach me to serve You as You deserve. Learn these for a start: Vitaï Lampada There’s a breathless hush in the Close to-night— Ten to make and the match to win— A bumping pitch and a blinding light. But make allowance for their doubting too. take them all away Look upon me in Thy grace Make me pure before Thy face Care for children sick and poor. and Honour a name. Or being lied about. And England’s far. don’t deal in lies. But the voice of schoolboy rallies the ranks: “Play up! play up! and play the game!” 3.— The Gatling’s jammed and the Colonel dead. And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools: Daily Prayer Morning Prayer (St. This I pray in Jesus’s name. They are well worth learning. to trust in Thee. These all provide wonderful images that conjure a set of values in a child’s mind that can last a lifetime. If— If you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you. Or watch the things you gave your life to. Please. to fight and not to heed the wounds. Many sins I’ve done today.
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you. And lose. Amen. and sitteth on the right hand of God the Father Almighty: from thence he shall come to judge the quick and the dead. dead. His only Son. Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it. the Maker of heaven and earth. suffered under Pontius Pilate. the Father Almighty. the holy Catholic Church. He ascended into heaven. 225 . If you can fill the unforgiving minute With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run. was crucified. and buried. Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch. the resurrection of the body. I believe in the Holy Ghost. the forgiveness of sins. And none that hears it dare forget. but none too much. born of the Virgin Mary. and start again at your beginnings And never breath a word about your loss. He descended into hell. If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew To serve your turn long after they are gone. and the life everlasting. This they all with a joyful mind Bear through life like a torch in flame. The third day He arose again from the dead. If all men count with you. the communion of saints. And—which is more—you’ll be a man. And falling fling to the host behind— “Play up! play up! and play the game!” If you can make one heap of all your winnings And risk it all on one turn of pitchand—toss. and in Jesus Christ. And so hold on when there is nothing in you Except the Will which says to them: “Hold on!” If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue. our Lord: Who was conceived by the Holy Ghost.MEganize! This is the word that year by year While in her place the school is set Every one of her sons must hear. my son! The Lord’s Prayer Credo (I believe) I believe in God.
routine Provides way to manage expectations. for their contribution to where we are today. by God’s grace: Help wherever they can. This is not a union. Set same expectations for your child. Ask your children to say grace at meals. This must be done in their own time. there. for their sacrifice. As part of school. bedtime. What you do is for yourself or your family. Read about the middle ages and how people lived. Say grace at meals. Be on time for your appointments. minimizes change Gives child security. 226 . Avoid the “weekend excuse” for not doing any work. Always be on time. Easter. and Christmas reserved for God. Virtues Humility Gratitude Shows respect for others To God for all we have. Set the example. Try to “add value” to those around you.Peter Jennings 4. Keep Thanksgiving. of where they are and how much work it took to get Say please and thank you. not yours. Remember those before us. avoid time wasters during class. for the little we have done What children should do Examples of how to transfer ownership Timeliness Shows respect for others Sets up structure. feeling of control Work on time management Understand time principles. A guide on how to implement the seven heavenly virtues: What parents should do The quality of being modest and respectful Make your children aware Say grace at meals. doing small chores. and output is what counts. Say please and thank you. etc. start school movie time bedtime time. schedules: wake-up time school time playtime Set time limits.
but girls do it too. using best processes keeping a “beginner’s” mind Perseverance in any hobby shows how you improve by practicing “kung fu. The ability to govern and discipline oneself by reason Get into the habit of: learning.” your child Manage exceptions.” and God. more is less recycling Ask questions: Avoid doing crazy things that may be fun What are my plans today/ but dangerous. this week? Eat healthily. What can go wrong? Have a savings goal and Am I working toward my work toward it. Learn about God and what he expects from us. your of building trust. dreams/goals? Spend your money on How can I save? (time. not the problem. Learning Offers hope and meaning to life Increases self-esteem Provides foundation for self-actualization (happiness) Provide structure and direction. and of “fear” the Lord. but not miserly being focused on what you do: Less is more. coaching: Stay within limits of part of the balance guidelines. Work toward agreed goals by: sticking to a routine enforcing principles and process of learning completing assigned work learning. He is our ultimate teacher. too critical. unreasonable). facilitation. energy) 227 . Sets up relationship delegation. A trip to a prison shows consequences of rebellion. Show respect to parent. and teachers. although it is rebellion against you and God that you want to avoid.” Memory training is fun and requires constant “process” drills. Attitude is everything. money. so pay attention! Prudence Think strategically. for you to educate Understand “why. Create the right learning environment: Remove demotivators/ distractors. parents. controlling. Best for boys.MEganize! Obedience Understand the essentials Be obedient to God. Enforce principles and process of learning. using decision-making process on key issues thinking ahead being frugal. Focus on the solution. (You are God’s image for your child.) Don’t give reason for rebellion (overbearing. relationship Expect obedience. Provides the structure Promote it. A great example of this is by taking martial arts “tiny tigers” course. “teacher. goal-related things.
Do not physically abuse your child. Control wants.). Act in love. Cycling or cross-country running is a good test. Keep your commitments to others and to yourself. Control anger. and feeling. Physically. Fortitude is showing strength in tough times. Abstinence is easier than moderation! (TV. Understand the bigger Learn about: principles picture. (Don’t have Show kindness to animals the it’s-not-my-job and others. Temperance Guide your child’s time. Show recognition. Fortitude Show endurance with commitment and joy. Work from a top-down basis. otherwise only weekends Drink water every day Balanced meals (veggies during p. /fruit. 228 . otherwise. Get into the habit of: Working the vision. Show love through affection—hugs and kisses—and action.Peter Jennings Stick to the plan and how to get there (routine).) Start small. Staying with it. most lessons should have a goal. this is learned in the teens and up. you will break all enthusiasm. goal-setting process Knowing the required process Work to a schedule and stick to it until your goal is completed. Work to a routine/ timetable. Visualize your best vocation.” Be honest. elderly. Observe balance in all things (diet. Stick to the vision and practice balance. National routine for life. Each week. after fruit/veggies One soda a week Nintendo in the car only TV after 4 in winter. Love Help out. activities. Take on tough goals with courage (not too many!). cycles world events Work on setting up a Read science. Context makes it easier to understand. Do not lose temper. Show moderation in action. etc. sodas) Avoid non-value-adding activities. thought.m. animals. Do not be spiteful and negative. excellence. Finish what you start. Share. “Face the tiger. Work the process. then the process.m. a. Sacrifice own desires for loved ones. shelters. Understand the concept and principles. Inspire love by: appreciating God’s gifts to us showing gratitude for his love showing love and taking care of children and animals offering service to others. Don’t complain about problems and pain. Geographic magazines balance. Control time allocation. One sweet a day. Don’t be afraid to ask or confess or apologize. Learn how to attitude) train your dog. etc.
Look for ways God answers prayers. Dream together and work on your dreams. Go to church. Share your faith when appropriate. Pray for others. Focus on dreams and goals. Inspire hope in God’s promise of heaven. Never threaten the family’s security or your marriage. Take tickets in the lottery. Prepare for Christmas. Say prayers. Read children’s Bible. Have little surprises. Secure the family.MEganize! Hope Is the combination of the desire for something and the expectation of receiving it Keep your promises (positive ones). Plant seeds. Plant things (that grow). that promise. Pray often. Pray in the morning and at bedtime (see appendix for examples). Inspire faith in God and his Word. Faith 229 . Plan your vacation together. Focus on dreams and Promise a reward and keep goals. Give to or help the poor or aged. Talk about being in heaven together one day.
Entschuldigen Sie bitte. Scusami!/Mi scusi! (to ask) Permesso (to pass) Dove posso trovare il bagno? Quale è il suo nome? Nothing much. comme-ça. mir geht’s gut! Und dir/Ihnen? Gut/ So la-la Wo hgen how! Sheshe Ni na? Wo hgun how. A dopo.Peter Jennings Foreign Languages Table—Beginner English Hi! Good morning! Spanish ¡Hola! ¡Buenos días! German Hallo! Guten morgen! French Salut! Bonjour! (also used in the afternoon) Comment vas-tu?/ Comment allez-vous? (pol) Je vais bien. Solo un poquito. Estoy bíen ¡Gracias! ¿Y tú? Bíen/ Así así Danke. Sie kennenzulernen! Cosa c’è di nuovo? È un piacere conoscerti!/È un piacere conoscerla (pol) Non molto. Nada. Mama hoohoo Shunmuh shr sseenwan? Ghun cowshing renshr ni (Hěn gāoxìng rènshi nî) Mei yeow shr may tai toe da Whey how chien. See you later! Good-bye! Do you speak English/ Spanish/ German/French? Just a little. Ni how ma? I’m fine. grazie! E tu? E lei? (polite) Bene/così e così. (to pass) Où sont les toilettes? Comment t’appelles-tu? Italian Ciao! Buongiorno! Chinese Nee how! Neen zow How are you? ¿Cómo estás? Wie geht’s dir? Come stai?/ Come state (polite)? Bene. Tsai chien (zài jiàn) Ni hwe shwa (ying yu/ portonghwa) ma? Chi-ow ee dee-n dee-n Ching wan (Qing wen! to ask) Dway boochee (to pass) Shee-shouw-chien tsai nar li? (Xi shou jian zai na li?) Ni jeeow shanma ming zuh? What’s new? Nice to meet you! ¿Qué hay de nuevo? ¡Tanto gusto! Was gibt’s Neues? Schön. Excuse me. A plus tard! Au revoir! Parlez-vous (Anglais/ Français)? Juste un petit peu! Excusez-moi. ¡Perdone! Where is the bathroom? What’s your name? ¿Dónde está el baño? ¿Cómo te llamas? Wo ist das badezimmer? Wie heißen Sie? 230 . Arrivederci! Parli (Inglese/ Italiano)?/ Parla (Inglese/ Italiano)? Solo un po’. ¡Hasta luego! ¡Adiós! ¿Hablas (Inglés/ Español)? Nicht viel. (to ask) Pardon. merci! Et toi?/ Et vous? (polite) Bien / Comme-ci. Quoi de neuf? C’est un plaisir de vous rencontrer!/ Enchanté! Pas grand chose. thanks! And you? Good/ So-so. Bis später! Tschüß! Sprechen Sie (Englisch/ Deutsch)? Nur ein bißchen.
nueve. seis siete. sechs sieben. huit. ocho. three. cuatro. cinco. trois. Here you go! Thank you (very much)! You’re welcome! Good night and sweet dreams! Spanish ¡No (lo) sé! Sí/No ¡Que aproveche! ¡Salud! Uno. due. four. sei sette. cinq. quattro. woo. shr Wo ai ni! Gay nǐ da Ssee-eh ssee-eh Boo ssee-eh Wahn ahn. dos. tres. five. neun. two. Shway guh how jee-ow 231 . deux. zwei. ten I love you. vierr. sih. otto.MEganize! English I don’t know! Yes/No Enjoy! Bless you (when sneezing) One. cinque. drei. dieci Ti amo!/Ti voglio bene! Eccolo! Grazie! (Molte grazie!) Prego! Buona notte e sogni d’oro! Chinese Wo bu chu (zhi) dao! Shr/boo Sseeang-sheow (Xiǎngshòu!) Shàngdee bǎ-yò nǐ! Yi. jee-oo. quatre. sun. liu chi. acht. diez ¡Te Quiero! ¡Aquí Tiene! ¡(Muchas) gracias! ¡De nada! ¡Buenas noches y dulces sueños! German Ich weiß (es) nicht! Ja/Nein Guten Appetit! Gesundheit! Eins. zehn Ich liebe dich Bitte schön! Danke/(Vielen Dank!) Gern gescheh’n! Gute nacht und träum was schönes! French Je ne sais pas! Oui / Non Bon appétit! A vos souhaits! Un. bah. six sept. neuf. tre. eight. fünf. dix Je t’aime! Tiens Merci (beaucoup!) Il n’y a pas (de) quoi Bonne nuit et fais de beauxrêves! (fayduborev) Italian Non lo so! Si/No Buon appetito! Salute! Uno. leaung (ar). nine. nove. six seven.
138. 173-4. 149. 81. 137. 130. Katharine 24 business processes 99 C caffeine 42. 46. 133. 41. 228 Balanced Team Learning and Decision Styles 26 bargaining 62 bedtime 171. 201. 58 child abuse 83. 25-7. 229 belief systems 34-5. 112. 103. 192 Anki 52-4. 151. 88. 110. 187. 107-8. 55. 191. 21-2. 39. 21-2. 115-16. 121. 149. 223 bootstrapping 55. 217. 24. 102 belongingness 19 betrayal 63. 176. 60-1. 190. 197. 56. 196-7. 207 Alderfer. 71-6. 164-6. 141-2 air quality 124. 43-4. 127. 197. 177 Africa 83. 216 Christian culture 139. 97. Newton 175 balance 12. 63. 185. 17. 126. 122. 173. 54. 95-6. 201 choices 6. 181 brains 29. 84. 181. 217 232 . 62. 176. 178. 57. 209-11. 52. 226. 177 cancer 90. 78 Bible 67. 5961. 68-9. 120 anger 62. 214 arrogance 175-6 arthritis 126-7 aspirin 42 association 52 B Baker. 206 achievers 163 addiction 93.Index A abuse 88. 185 breadwinner 204-5 bricks 118 Briggs. 65-6. 146. 82. 163. 228 sexual 88 acceptance 62 achievement chart 128. Clayton 15. 82. 111. 139 capabilities 7 capital 69 capitalism 119 change 31. 89 China 49.
202. 116. 107-8. 202 diversity 27 E education 5-6. 112. 107-9. 174. 142 divergence 18. 203 Feeling 25 foreign languages 32. 170. 158. 139. 10. 123. 199. 52. 81. 42-3. 45. 138-9 depression 62. 139 control paradigm 47. 163.MEganize! Christian values 21. 189. 49. 191. 89. 108. 228 competence 31. 223 Clapton. 91. 21. 48-50. 117. Phil 66 commitment 20. 173. 91. 204-5 father 13 federal government systems 165. 101. 185. 76. 200. 67-9. 147-8. 30. 138 empathy 81. 113 F . 81 Empowerment Table 190 Explorations in Personality 15 Exploring Creation with General Science 176 extroverts 24. 178. 148 Coulter. 227 denominator. 70. 197 disloyalty 116. 139-40. 189. 81. 164. 160. 186. 41. 184 confrontation 25-6. 43. 39. 140. 216. 73. 79. 132. 136-7. 31 Control Cycle 92. 101. 176. 63. 228 framing 38-40. 22. 132. 150. 69. 82. 167 feedback 15. 108. 115. 12. 185. 145. 167. 25. Eric 66 class learning 138 coaching 188-9 coercion 196 coincidence 67. 158. 173 D decentralization 119. 172. 123. 54. 217. 229 family 5. 173. 56. 218 decision-making 36 defined processes 184 delegation 150. 187 failures 25 faith 18-19. 153 diabetes 90-1. 176. 138. 121. Steven 93. 136-7. 227 democracy 83. 117. 167. 154. 43. 16. 96. 167 demotivators 125-6. 180. 79. 136. 176. 131. 97. 124. 16. 204. Albert 86 emotions 21. 82. 190 control structures 141-2. 225 fortitude 19. 163-4 Einstein. 21. 146. 148. 160. 146. 150. 217 empowerment 23. 39. 70. 88. 127. 23. 70. 217 diet 12. 102. 128. 126-8. Ann 166 Covey. 67. 12. 136. 81. 155. 104. 67. 172. 56-7. 95. 176 233 discipline 36. 138-9. 117. 87. 57. 73. 189. 180. 115. 228 diligence 20. 97-8. 127 Collins. 145. 39-40. 31. 162. lowest common 30. 214 forgiveness 115. 45. 78. 148. 81. 128. 118. 85. 151. 19-22. 98. 155. 179. 152-3. 178 competitiveness 163-4 Conceptual learning 75 confidence 25. 93-5. 182. 81-3. 217.
22-3. 172. 50-1. 186 K Kazdin Method 13. 180-1. 113. 126. 67-8. 196. 20. 134-7. 81. 107. 147-8 234 . 144. 222 memory training 73. 147-8 hope 18-19 humility 18-19. 106. 149. 198. 142. 147-8. 226 Huysamen. 66. 92. 191-2. 81-2. Fredrick 15 homeschooling 5-6. 110. 15 I M independence 17-18. 117. 32. 114. 183-4. 60. 119-20. 46. 52. 79. 95. 70. 173-5. 166. 207-11. 120. 189 Introvert 24 iNtuitives 24. 229 McCartney. 200. 84. 27-32. 108-9. Rush 166 loyalty 20. 16970. 73-4. 133. 132. 30. 64-5. 48. 131. 42-6. 56. 158. 128. 197 individual 12 innovation 48. 223. Neville Bertrand 78 Jennings. Carl 24 marijuana 88. 37. 147. 227 L leadership 18. 122. 103. 158. 196. 183. 147. 34-5. 117. 93. 45. 145. 112. 181 instincts 29-30. 170. 200 learning 22-4.Peter Jennings G Geissen. 136. 160-2. 39-40. 21. 216-17. 56-9. 117. 61-3. 103. 209. 96. 24. 45. 185. 67. 191-2 Leadership Styles 10. 97. 133. 50. Megan 5 Jennings. 55. 108. 40. 84-5. 142. Paul 66 meaning 19 MEganize 7. 228 goals 17-18. 174. 177. 223. 192. 228 kung fu 54. 189. 99. 214 Jung. 116. 75. 227 mental models 45 meta-decision 37. 161 Metanoia 10 micromanagement 83. 179. 84. 133. 190. 74. 176 Limbaugh. 112. John 21 leverage 6. 178. 137. D. 30-1. 69-71. 114-15. 13. 147. 63. 153. 216-17 honesty 20. 177. 112-13. 227 learning cycle 45. 48-53. 168. 175. 16. 203. 180. 157. 138 H habit 24. 9-10. 73. 155. 101-2. 227-8 Herzberg. 227-9 groupthink 45. 66-7. 76. 104. 122-3. 121. 178. 134. 60-1. 175. 57. 32-3. 133. 36. Paul 32 generosity 20 Giuliani. 119. Rudy 166 goal-setting 44. 130 marriage 21. 84. 192. Peter 5-6. 73-4. 193 kindness 20. 99. 148. 207 Lennon. 167 J Jennings. 59.
122-8. 192. 147-8. 32. 18. 76. 171-3. 155. 227 obesity 90-1. 115-16. 165. 72. 150. 100-1. 209 Myers. 20. 178 rhythm 55. 30. 99-100. 120-2 opinion 19. 131-3. Isabel 24 Myers-Briggs Type Indicators (MBTI) 23 O Obedience 192. 147. 104. 45-6. 66. 209-10 private schools 6. 111-12. 48. 87. 60. 174. 96. 66-7. 196. 21. 127. 130. 142. 106. 14. 83. 191. 81. 227 Peters. 157 235 prudence 19. 182. 226-8 rule aversion 60 . 137. 192 repetition 29. 163. 72. 118-20. 64. 103. 53. 139. 108-11. 197-8 R Rauscher. 181-2. 191. 97. 210 routine 20-1. 85. 60-4. 70. 139. 67. 79. 140. 71-2. 202 Peek. 190-1 projects 101 sacrifice 19. 64. 121. 160. 141 Power Half Hour 111. 119. 123 Poverty Cycle 94-6. 93-4. 97. 54-5. 60 motivation 10. 174 operations 27. 162 punishment 66. 187. 80-1. 131. 62. 89. 74. 108. Kim 65 peer pressure 18. 46. 214 Sportsmen 66 Strategic Change Cycle 26. 62. 44. 57. 137-8. 119. 197. 31-2 self-worth 68 Senge. 216. 165. 53. Gary 55. 137-8. 210 resistance 31. 45. Francs 71 rebellion 17.MEganize! miscommunication 16. 151. 95 P S paradigms 34. 41-2. 111. 63. 101. Tom 110. 179. 38. 147-8. 206 Skills Table 181-2 sleep 124. 45. 122-3. 110. 115. 204. 193. Peter 34. 226. 92-3. 22. 92. 124-5. 28. 41 self-esteem 22. 227 public schools 6. 93-4. 150. 121-3. 155. 173 Peterson. 117. 101. 53. Stephen C. 117 self-mastery 18. 170-1. 154-5. 117. 208 Organizational skills 20 overconfidence 32. 51. Matthew 71 Player. 104. 192 relationship 20. 206-10. 52. 74. 173. 67. 20-1. 74. 131. 177-80 Mozart effect 71 music 5. 63. 113. 100-1. P. 152. 166 sensors 24 simplicity 81. 108. 66. 96. 177-9. 35. 44 peg memory system 53 perseverance 18. 40. 44. 227 recognition 15-16. 80 Senge. 151-2. 224 Speed Reading 53. 94. 183 productivity 6. 71. 160-1. 23. 177. 28. 35. 86. 32. 68. 228 Schoenbaum. 140.
87-8. 105 Suzuki Method 72 symptomatic learning 45 T tai chi 173 teenage pregnancy 88 temperance 19. 131. 111-12. 108. 178. 103-4. 151. 67. 106. 132-3 top-down memory process 74 transactions 20. 62-3. 194. 60. 93-6. 148. 34-5. 146-8. 31. 61-3. 97 trustworthiness 20. 40. 59-63. 37. 166 Wray. 158. 101-4. 116. 160-2. W. 145. 89-90. 34. 115. 191. 155 virtues 19 vision 17-20. 104 time management 20. 35. Nelda 41 236 . 178. 16976. 178-9. 190. 228 tension. 228 W Winston. 175-6. 181-4. creative 60 thinking 6 tidiness 20. 67. 184 U urgency addiction 97-8 V values 17-21. 171-3. 138-9. 109-10. 112.Peter Jennings structure 17-24. 80-3. 81. 100. 192-3 subconscious programming 31. 44-6. 161. 184 violence 6. 139. 81. 21. 115-17.
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