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In this book. This book is written specifically for the college guy.The College Guide To Dating .Second Edition Preface: This Book Is Special Welcome to The College Guide to Dating! I’m glad that you’ve taken your future by the reigns by deciding to get this part of your life handled. Most of it is crap. You’ll learn: • • • • • • That meetings girls on campus is so much easier than in the real world How you meet and attract the girl your classmates are drooling over What locations on campus are ideal for meeting girls How you use Facebook to get dates How you get those late night pick-ups right outside your dorm How you efficiently design your room to get a girl relaxed and into your bed You’re going to gain the power to pick and choose what girl you want and what you want to do with her. You’ll be surprised at how much better the rest of your life will become with women in your life. This information doesn’t exist anywhere else. 3 . For simplicity I use the word “dating” to refer to everything from picking up girls for a few hours of fun to serious long-term relationships. you are going to learn the specifics of how to meet girls in college. Some of it is really good. Do you want a long-term relationship or a one-night stand? You’ll have the skill set to get both. There’s a lot of stuff on the Internet about how to pick up chicks. written by people who will never be able to date a girl they are satisfied with. but not for a college environment. Having the skills to attract the girl of your dreams is an extremely powerful tool.
............ 14 Body Language ................................................................................................................................. 25 Pretend You Have to Leave ..................................... 20 Step 1: Meeting the Girl .................... 14 Practice Will Get You the Girl ..........................................................................................Second Edition Table of Contents Copyright Notice ................................ 4 Introduction ................................................................... 21 Conversational Anxiety ........................................................................... 20 Appearance ........ 2 Preface: This Book Is Special ...................................................................................................................................... 13 Her Friends Count . 7 Part 1 .......................... 3 Table of Contents ........................................................................................................................................................................... 32 4 ...................................................................... 31 Step 2: Attract the Girl.......................................... 12 Internal Sources of Pressure and Influence............................................................................................................................................................................... 17 Voice Tone ......... 9 The Primitive Girl Brain.......................................................................................................................................... 23 How to Start the Conversation .......Getting the Girl ............................................................. 27 Your Body Language (The Most Important Part of this Section).................................................................................................................... 9 College Social Pressures ........................................................................... 28 After You Say Your Starter ........... 12 External Sources of Pressure and Influence ... 27 Tests....The College Girl’s Mind ....................................... 12 She Wants to Work For You .......................................................................................The College Guide To Dating ...................................................................................................................................................................................................... 18 Part 2 ............ 22 Where to Start the Conversation ................................................................................................... 20 What Type of Girl Do You Want? ........................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ 18 Conclusion .............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 14 Relationship Categories of College Girls.........................................................................................................................
............................................................. 72 Predictability....................................................................................................... 69 When You Meet Up .......................................................................................................................................................................................................... 85 Analysis ................................................. 36 Qualification Response Stories .......................................................................... Now What? .............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................. 39 Step 4: Bonding with the Girl ............................................................................ 73 Taking Her Home ..................................................................................................................................................................... 68 You Got the Number...... 67 Setting Up a Time to Meet . 81 Your Outlook ...................................................................................................................................................................... 65 Getting Her Phone Number .The College Guide To Dating .........................................................................................................................................................................Getting Yourself Together................................................................ 72 What do I Say? ........ 50 Meeting A Girl During The DAY .................................................... 79 Part 3 ....................................................................................................... 70 Mindset........... 82 Constructive/Deconstructive Questions .... 78 Dealing with Discomfort She May Feel ......................... 82 Drilling Down To Fear's Origin ................................................................................................................ 60 Meeting A Girl At Night ....................................................................... 81 Create a Positive Mindset...................... 64 Getting the Kiss.................. 35 Step 3: Qualify the Girl ............................................................ 50 Meeting Girls At The Dorm ............................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................Second Edition Teasers & Soundbites ........................................................................................................................... 87 5 .......... 42 The 5 Attraction Switches....................... 42 Location Specific Techniques to Meeting Girls........................................................................................................... 61 Step 5: Escalate Sexually ............................. 86 Your Style and Its Importance ...................................................................................................................................................................................................... 74 Dealing with Roommates ......................................................................................................... 32 Jealousy ..................................................................................... 81 Gatsby’s 10 Laws of Getting the College Girl .............................................................................
...........................................................................The College Guide To Dating ...................... 92 Relationship Status ....................................................................................... 88 Your Living Space & How to Leverage It ... 92 Facebook Communication ..................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................... 90 Part 4: Bonus Chapter – Using Facebook ......... 91 Facebook Strategy ............................................................................................................. 91 Profile Picture ...................................................................... 92 Message Structure ......................................................................................................... 95 6 .................................. 88 Seize the Moment ........ 93 Chat Structure ................Second Edition Wardrobe Necessities ...... 94 Putting It All Together ................ 91 General Pictures ............................................................................................................................................. 93 Sample Messages ................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................ 91 What’s On Your Mind .............................. 91 Facebook Profile Basics ........................................
I knew if they would just give me a chance. Expect some early successes. There may be times when it seems like you are not as successful as you want to be. listening to self-mastery tapes. The end result of my multi year journey is this book. This book is a powerhouse of great ideas and techniques. no matter whether she is a sorority girl or hot nerd. I’m very proud of it! Now don’t think that just reading this book once will make you a master with women. and if they’d like to watch a movie in my dorm room wasn’t working. In my spare time I go to movies. I mean. 5’ 7’’ tall. I could never figure out why girls couldn’t see the great guy that I knew I was. But years passed and that chance never came. get her number and date. from starfish to chimpanzees. “Is there something wrong with me because I didn’t know how to find a girl?” Asking girls where they’re from. I wondered. what they’re majoring in. never joined a fraternity. I went out and used the knowledge in real life. don’t play sports. but like everything else. I kept having this same thought over and over after everything I read – every other species seem to instinctually know how to mate. However. I figured out it wasn’t my fault that I didn’t “get it” naturally. they would see how great I was. I finally got so fed up with all the lonely nights and boring weekends that I decided to change my approach toward women BIG TIME. I started by reading as much as possible about women’s psychology. and was never popular or well known. I developed a guideline that allowed me to go out with girls who are 9’s and 10’s (10 being the hottest girls in school) on a daily basis! I’m not rich. I’d spend way too much money and usually wouldn’t get a kiss. I had almost no success with women. After learning a lot of useful information. I’m going to tell you about myself. When I did go out with a girl. takes time to perfect. In high school. I can walk up to any attractive girl.Second Edition Introduction Before you take the steps towards dramatically increasing your success with women. Don’t worry about it and KEEP WORKING. The guys who are born with the ability to meet tons and tons of women naturally are rare. you should see results almost instantly. Unlike animals. I am an average looking 21-year-old guy. then a dip as you start to take in what’s 7 . After many months of practice and hard work. and taking psychology courses at Cornell.The College Guide To Dating . and hang out with my friends. it felt like total luck. 95% guys need to LEARN the techniques. and a little scrawny. But no matter the time or location. humans aren’t born with the instinctual knowledge of how to meet women. read comics.
I know what you are feeling! It seems like a huge undertaking. I was worse. I present to you – The College Guide to Dating. That’s right buddy. and excited to meet girls! If I could do it. then significant increases in results.Second Edition happening. or hit movie night on Friday. happy. the three step approach always works. sex. But will you really like her or will you be settling? I used to be terrible when it came to dating. Next. your efforts will pay off tremendously. Maybe you will. read in coffee shops. That’s why other students trust me as their guide. Now. 8 . I’m going to talk about techniques for building a strong relationship. You are going to be confident. You’re going to have it. and you’d rather sit around and assume that sooner or later you will get a girlfriend. Whether you like to hang out in the quad.The College Guide To Dating . without further babble. I’ve been in the slums but lifted myself way out of them. drink at fraternity parties. Then we’re going to talk about the three-step approach to getting a number and arranging the next date. I’m going to teach you to escalate into sex. No matter how bad you think you are. I have no doubts that you can too. Finally. With work and patience. I am going to teach you the step by step approach I used to handle this part of my life. The book will start with some background on the brain of a college girl – giving you the insight you need to know what a college girl really thinks and feels.
“It’s 2009. they’re still wired to be attracted to the things about men that would have made survival possible just 500 years ago. There are no countries. or governments.000 B. you might be thinking.” You’re right. Our emotional response system. Survival and reproduction refers to a woman’s desire to survive by having food and shelter.The College Guide To Dating .C.The College Girl’s Mind There are a lot of forces that affect a girl. The Primitive Girl Brain In the present day. You’re stuck in the tribe you’re born into and you follow the rules set down by the tribal leader. financial. You weren’t trained to find her attractive. Like all human beings. or the way we respond to the environment. government. you see an attractive woman naked and you feel sexual desire. It’s a part of who you are. Your tribe speaks a different language than your neighboring tribes and you communicate with them through drawings and hand gestures. Modern systems – technology.000 years.Second Edition Part 1 . Well. when men refer to their relationship with their wife as “conservative” they are referring to men working and the women staying home and 9 . There are behaviors and emotions that all humans feel that have become part of us over hundreds of thousands of years of evolution. whether in college or not. The entire globe is populated with small groups like yours. All girls. You are living in a small tribe of 100 people on the harsh plains of Europe. So even though girls around you don’t need a man to survive any more. Reproduction means that women are attracted to men who can give them healthy and successful children. women still ARE dependent on men for their survival. are instinctively attracted to men who have certain attractive characteristics.C. Women want men who will improve their chances for survival and reproduction. laws. And in third world countries today.000 years ago. Getting from one tribe to the next is an extremely long and potentiality deadly trip. change faster than our brains evolve. It may surprise you that humans are extremely old computers wired for a primitive world that no longer exists. this is true for girls.000 B. Let’s take a moment and teleport back in time 10.. Similarly. For example. roads. she is a slave to primitive elements of her psychology. is the same as it was 5. etc. it is so 2. why does a woman need a man to survive? That’s so 2.
Incidentally. A good hunter increased her chances of survival. What’s that? You’re not rich and powerful? Your dad isn’t the CEO of a big company? That’s okay.000 B. but their need for a man who will increase their chances of survival is just as relevant. This is why in high school the jocks got the hot girls.. A family cannot take a stroll over to the local supermarket and pick up groceries. this is why I always keep food in my dorm that I can quickly cook up for a girl. Woman don’t look for men who can hunt (at least not in modern parts of the world).Second Edition taking care of the house and the family. there are no supermarkets. It’s not surprising that the best hunter is usually in good physical shape. and fame. Without a doubt.The College Guide To Dating . Even today good physical shape is more attractive than being unhealthy. they starved. They are usually in the best shape and are usually the tribal leaders at school. Mix three types (no shrimp). then add a little salt and pepper. The best hunter was the most valuable person in the tribe.C. 10 . money. Woman are hard-wired to be attracted to men with a high survival value. and she’ll be bowled over. This is not a recent dynamic. Make an omelet for a girl at 2 a. Women could not survive without men. What’s that. You will learn to communicate these things without actually possessing them.m. What’s important is you understand how you would act if you were. Over thousands of years. In the current day some obvious signs are survival are power. a woman wanted a man who was a good hunter. Families ate because men hunted. which became a sign of high survival value. Good shape became a sign of a good hunter. A good hunter had high survival value. Now you know why. He ended up with the best woman. Killing animals with spears takes physical and emotional strength. So back to present day. The message she’s getting is– ‘yes. no eggs around? Ramen noodles will do the job. After getting back from a date when you’re in bonding – more on that in a later chapter – cooking up a snack appeals to her on that primitive level. In 8. She learned to be attracted to these things on a primitive level. Tell her some stories while you’re cooking. If her husband couldn’t get food. evolution made this part of a woman’s brain. there is food in his cave’.
When you pick a girlfriend. You’ll be doing all the things a primitive tribal leader would have done. Most guys think that women are attracted to height. They’re confident in their abilities and their mannerisms. There are 5 personality characteristics you will convey that will radically increase your reproduction value in the eyes of a woman. I know lots of struggling actors who are broke and unemployed.The College Guide To Dating . We’ve all taken biology class so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that the reasons humans have sex is so we can have kids and our species can survive.Second Edition For example. as successful and powerful men do. and live on couches in crummy apartments. it’s not off. You’ll finally pick up that 9 or 10 that every other student doesn’t even have the balls to speak with. Your reproduction value. have few clothes. But they meet hot girls ALL THE TIME because they act like things are happening for them. stories. in a woman’s eyes. she’ll feel your S&R value. is the quality of your sperm. penis size. While men are typically attracted to women based on her looks. build. They’ve made it their heads. and behaviors show this. Now. and you’ll have her turned on. here’s where attraction gets real easy. Your girl won’t know it’s coming and she’ll have no way to turn off her feelings for you. We are going to call these “Attraction Switches”. Using the 5 attraction switches. They live in their own compelling realities. You will learn to create your own compelling reality. they are NOT your most important asset. women determine a man’s replication value by tuning into his PERSONALITY. When a light is on. you will be able to convey a personality that will drive super strong attraction. Your PERSONALITY is. When a girl is picking a boyfriend. When you convey high survival and reproduction value (“S&R value” for short). They can barely feed themselves. It’s a strange concept. Flip all 5 switches. she has to pass your physical standards. let’s talk about reproduction value. looks are not nearly as important as his S&R value. and looks in general. but even though these things can be a bonus. and she will love you for it. a woman will have NO CHOICE but to be attracted to you because you will have flipped her switches. Now. I’ll talk about these 5 switches and how you use them in part 2 of the book. but it makes sense. and smart. strong. The guy with the 11 . She wants her kids to have the genes of a man who is healthy. By using the tools you will learn in this book.
or maintain a long-distance relationship Friendships Social Commitments – Student or Religious Distance – They may be far away from home Academic Children Food & Weight Internal Sources of Pressure and Influence • • • • • • • • • Mental Issues such as Depression or Bipolar Disorder Loneliness Horniness Desire to Fall in Love or Get Married Stress Addiction Fatigue Low self-confidence Desire to conform All of these affect a girl’s decision to have sex with you. find a boyfriend. even if she has a boyfriend. You do not have control over any of these except relationships and social commitments. she will hook up with you and even leave 12 .Second Edition PERCEIVED highest value in the eyes of the girl will always be the guy with the hottest girl. If she likes you more. Girls have multiple sources of influence and pressure in college. College Social Pressures The college girl not only has these primitive elements of survival and attraction in her. but she must function with a host of college-related social pressures. You can pursue a girl.The College Guide To Dating . External Sources of Pressure and Influence • • • • • • • • • Parents and Family Financial Relationships – They may be under pressure to get married.
you can ask what she is doing on a particular day and help her plan. and you should not assume that because a girl kissed you. though they may not want to sleep with lots of guys. It is a comfort building ritual for her. As you go through the courtship process. This is why girls you do not bond with might kiss. This goes for the hottest girls around.The College Guide To Dating . or have sex with you one night and not return your calls again another night. regardless of the number of guys she will sleep with. the girl is going to feel very strong emotions. she will sleep with you. their internal wiring prevents them from sleeping with lots of guys (though there are girls in college who sleep around) due to a fear of pregnancy. Girls do not like being called sluts and they go to great lengths to avoid feeling like sluts. Moreover. but she will never know for certain until you actually have sex with her. Girls enjoy kissing. college girls love sex. you get her number. fool around. Remember. a woman who earned a man’s attraction by doing things for him was more likely to keep him. While girls like kissing and love sex. examine this list to see if the reasons are here. She will constantly be observing you to gauge your interest in her and evaluating and re-evaluating the reasons why she likes you. girls do not like having their sex lives exposed and they do not want anyone to know they are having sex. Even though we now live in the modern world. she needs that man to hunt and protect her from other men. If the girl has a busy schedule and never has time to meet up with you. This should give you some perspective on why girls flake out for unexplainable reasons. In primitive times. They want to have lots of sex and. they want to meet lots of guys. but she does not call back. All girls will work for you when you reward them.Second Edition him for you. She Wants to Work For You Why does getting a girl to work for you make her more attracted to you? Evolutionary psychologists (people who study why humans behave as they do) believe that this is an evolved behavior. They enjoy flirting and they enjoy kissing. you will give her lots of signs that you are interested in her by rewarding her. That said. For the college girl. During the courtship process. women are still wired to work for their man. It was not good to become pregnant in primitive times when there was no man to take care of you. a simple kiss on the lips in harmless. 13 . If you had an amazing conversation with a girl.
If she is in the middle of a bad break-up and you meet her when she is surrounded by friends who know and like her boyfriend.) If you are going to be like 90% of the guys that approach her. You should take this request seriously and oblige. Relationship Categories of College Girls Before we go into the actual things you will do to meet girls. When a girl realizes that you appreciate these issues because you seem to intuitively “understand women”. she will do so. That is why girls hook up more during Spring Break. good looking girls get approached a nauseating amount of times per day. (If you don’t believe me. Think about it. College women sort men into four groups: • • • • Serious Relationships Relaxed Relationships (Casual dating/one night stands/friends with benefits) Friends Without Any Sexual Attraction (the fun friend/the friend who listens to her problems/etc…) Not Interest at All I’ve confirmed this information with dozens of women I’ve met in college – it is accurate. she may not sleep with you or may ask you not to tell anyone before she does.Second Edition Her Friends Count In college and in high school. their guy friends. The question is. she won’t. how do you become one of those elite 10%? You’ll know soon enough… Body Language 14 . she will be more attracted to you and assume it is because you are pre-selected (more on this later). If a girl can sleep with you without her friends knowing.” It’s that simple. girls rely on the opinions of their girlfriends and. let’s finish understanding the college girl’s brain.The College Guide To Dating . If you are going to be one of the loser guys like the average college freshman (who make up 90% of the population) and not follow the tips in this book. what makes you think that she is going to respond positively to you? The fact is. to a lesser extent. ask an attractive female how many guys have hit on her in the last few hours. you are going to be in the group labeled “NO INEREST.
Keep your hands by your side unless you are searching for a wallet. Whenever you are walking or standing in line.The College Guide To Dating . Likewise. etc…Seriously Hands by your side – This takes some getting used to. Or think about the mannerisms of generals. Don’t keep your hands in your pockets. Women can read you like an open book. Walk with your head up – Never look at the ground when you are walking. Many experts agree that body language makes up for more than 90% of communication between people! I don’t think that great body language alone will get you laid (because you have to bond with her). cell phone. keep your hands by your side. ever – this is one of the most obvious signs of insecurity. He’s a master of dominant body language. The best way to learn great body language is to watch confident and powerful people. I’m going to give you simple techniques to demonstrate confidence.Second Edition This is one of the most important section of the book. because if they picked a weak husband. How do you think Alexander the Great stood when he addressed his troops? Though nobody can teach you positive body language through a book. indifferent. Since you want to give off the same impression. Christian Troy from Nip/Tuck is the epitome of powerful body language. mimic them. By studying your movements for a split-second. Check out George Clooney walking the red carpet on YouTube. imagine how a primitive tribal leader would’ve moved. You’ll notice that when you’re talking with a woman. you will notice that they always have their head up high and shoulders back. If you watch a president or somebody with power. it’s a sign of confidence. happy. 15 . They had to get good at reading a man’s body language. your results from everything else will be significantly reduced. but I do think that poor body language will prevent success. or unsure. nervous. Presidents always do this. This isn’t a coincidence. they would seriously hurt their survival chances. she will be listening to what you’re saying and watching how you move. Women are approximately ten times better at reading body language than men are. but is necessary and powerful. If you don’t get this right. On the other hand. you will see a difference in the way women look at you in mere days once you apply these. women can tell if you are confident. scared.
Girls are always watching! When you get up from your seat or site down. with your hands comfortably by your side. Guys who go through life without smiling don’t get laid. Same for the girl. 2) you walk into class smiling confidently and looking up. When A-listers walk into a club. or walking to campus. smiling is a reward system. when you’re at a bar or a party you need to walk around the room with a smile. walking into class. Watch one of the popular or successful guys on campus who is great with women and notice how his movements are leisurely and deliberate – again. it then becomes a sign of insecurity. Always turn your head slowly. and hands buried in your pockets. Imagine two scenarios. girls will want to know more about you. really slow: there needs to be moderation. that’s fine. move slowly. Similarly. each time you do smile. This gives him a mysterious personality. expressionless. have a confident smile on your face. If you don’t smile often.The College Guide To Dating . She knows she is doing something right because you are rewarding her with a smile. 1) you walk into class head down. but people should know that you’re having a good time. Imagine talking to a hot girl and after a few minutes. Make your movements slow and calculated – When you move slowly. You feel great. she smiles at something you say. If you are #2. the recipient feels like she is being rewarded. Let me get one thing straight here….there is the James Bond type of no smiling and the unhappy/no sense of humor kind of no smiling. like you just had amazing sex with a model or negotiated a million dollar deal.Second Edition Smile when you’re in life –Women naturally poll men visually for their emotional state when you walk into a room. How you enter a room is important. If you are a happy person and like to smile. slouching. they’re always smiling. #2 makes a much STRONGER impression on the girls looking at you. looking around the room and not at your seat. I get into the reward system in another book. see George Clooney. Keep eye contact and never look at the ground – one of the most common signs of insecurity is avoiding eye contact. It doesn’t have to be huge. You should always keep eye contact with the person 16 . For my more advanced readers. which is most often a good thing. If your friend calls your name. They will be wondering why you seem so confident. Now don’t go ahead and be really. After all. you demonstrate that you are not nervous and in fact are very comfortable with the situation. turn slowly. Whether you’re at the cafeteria. aren’t you always enjoying yourself! Don’t smile too much after you’ve introduced yourself to a girl or when you’re on a date – If you smile all the time. This allows you to drive her actions along a certain path. but smile a lot when they are on dates. In this case I am referring to people that don’t smile a lot in everyday life. 007 doesn’t smile often.
Relax. They’re defensive postures. take up a good amount of room – It is very important to make a girl feel comfortable around you. If you do this. if a guy and girl get to a bar at the same time. hold it at your side. If she doesn’t feel like you are comfortable with the interaction. If you’re walking around campus holding a drink. Puffy. so it seems as if you’re checking to make sure she is good enough to be in your company. Trust me.Second Edition you are talking to. extend your hand and wait until she takes a few steps towards you. This is a very bold sign of confidence. you are showing that you are not tense about the situation.When being introduced to a girl. When a girl picks up on this. they don’t fidget. Don’t cross your legs or fold your arms. Donald Trump. sit with your legs open. Also. Practice walking around your room in a confident manner. If she’s out of reach. even if the seats suck. she will come. The best way to perfect your body language is to practice it. don’t lean in towards her and certainly don’t step towards her. you’re a high value guy. talking too fast. And now. Ashton Kutcher. keep your hands on the counter. knees in line with your shoulders and feet flat on the ground. she will feel comfortable too. but don’t slouch. a girl will pick up on it instantly and your chances with her will be diminished. Think about how you walk. banging your foot against the floor. and you know you have the right to space. and constantly playing with something are all signs of nervousness. considering that most guys can’t look a girl in the face for more than a few seconds.The College Guide To Dating . It may sound silly but it’s actually 17 . palms down (Incidentally. In class or public places. When you shake hands. especially if you notice her peeking at you in class. shake her hand and say “Hey”. then she will become uncomfortable. Make sure to give her some time to look at you again without you looking at her. a great line to use next to a woman at bar “hey. Tilt your head up slightly. who gets served first?”) When sitting. Practice Will Get You the Girl The title says it all. don’t stare at a girl because that gives the impression that you are creepy. in her eyes. By taking up space when you sit. I see guys doing this all the time around campus. Brad Pitt. You don’t want to look like you’re hiding or uncomfortable. If you’re ordering at a bar or counter. Don’t fidget – Tapping your fingers on the table. How do you think a girl would perceive a guy who looks down at the ground when he walks? Probably as weak and insecure. Have a relaxed handshake . hands comfortably on your thighs or the desk. you have control over yourself.
food. no problem. Every time he reached for the knife. Remember. Conclusion So you’ve got the basics.Second Edition very important. These men have high S&R value. voice is a big turn-on. GO! You will see results from changes in body language alone in days. get your wingman or friend to help you kick it. money. You will show women that you have S&R value using the techniques in the next chapters. and utensils. Looks. and fame. you have to practice! So get up. drinks. If you have a bad habit. stutters. right now. I pretended to be his date. Voice Tone Women pick up information from your voice tone. Spend some time in the self-improvement section of Barnes & Noble and pick out a CD that speaks to you. resonating. 18 . she will take this as a sign of nervousness. On one date. he ended up cutting a French fry 50 times. Since you want her to feel comfortable. you have to maintain a slow and clear tone. It was time to teach him a lesson. Remember: • • • Women are instinctively attracted to men with high survival and replication value.The College Guide To Dating . My friend had a serious problem with cutting food into really small pieces when going out to dinner. We staged a mock date to correct his little problem. If a guy speaks too fast. and take a few laps with your head up high and your shoulders back. I hit his hand and he had to give me a dollar. If you think that you need some help improving your voice. or pronounces words unclearly. If you want to get good at it. I’ve spent more hours practicing alone than you would believe. are only a small part of S&R value. she will become nervous also. when a woman feels that you are nervous. I sat him down at a table with the whole nine yards. We frequently update the College Student’s Guide To Dating blog with information about women’s psychology so make sure to check it every couple days. Towards the end of the end he stopped reaching for the knife and I made thirty dollars. There are a lot of really ugly men who have gorgeous women. A very deep.
or nothing. • • • And now… the step-by-step guide to dating. The only way to get better is to practice! Voice tone is important. friend. women will become attracted to you without knowing why and they won’t have a choice about it. Body language accounts for more than 90% of all communication.The College Guide To Dating . 19 . Girls will put you in one of four groups: long term relationship. You need to make sure that yours communicates confidence. short-term relationship. Make sure that you speak slowly and communicate that you are completely in control of the situation.Second Edition • Attraction isn’t a decision! If you act and talk the right way.
if you have a crooked nose.Getting the Girl If at first you don’t succeed. glow in the dark rings. You don’t have to dress in expensive clothes. getting a job. At a more rural school a nice t-shirt and a pair of slacks might be the norm. that doesn’t stop you from dressing nicely. Experiment with a few bracelets.. See where I am going with this? Here is a list of things that you should do. With an interesting item they can ask “Ooooohhh!! What is that??” Let the games begin. If you don’t have a lot of money. If you are shorter than the average person. it followed this process whether you realized it or not. Have an interesting story about the item’s origin. If you’ve had past relationships. You’ll find more style tips on the blog. For example. and see what works best for you. Just because one part of you may not be perfect doesn’t mean you can’t perfect other parts. The process looks like this: Meet Attract Qualify Bond Escalate Sex This is it. In NYC.. • 20 . Just like getting into college. we need to talk about your appearance. necklaces. and your achieving goals. Step 1: Meeting the Girl Appearance Before we go any further. Wear one piece of interesting clothing or an interesting accessory – this will allow girls who are interested in you to start a conversation. but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t look as good as possible. dating is the outcome of a series of necessary and predictable steps. I told you that good looks are only a small part of a woman’s attraction toward you. they have nice clothing for cheap. but you should dress in nice clothes that match and are current.Second Edition Part 2 . Girls get nervous starting conversations. This is all you have to do get the relationship with the girl of your dreams. Good style is different depending on the campus.try something new. good style might mean a Calvin Klein dress down with Express jeans. go to the gym and sculpt yourself a nice body. take a trip to Macy’s.The College Guide To Dating . hats. sometimes you will end up spending some money on clothing. • Dress nicely – To look sharp.
list a few of the characteristics of the girls you’re going to meet. It didn’t matter how hot she was. 21 . Brush your teeth twice a day – No one likes people with bad breath. stupid comments. Don’t be like the guy in my 8 a. Take a trip to your local cologne store and spend some time finding something that you like. etc. Maybe this is an opportunity for you to meet new women… Shower daily.m economics lecture whose breath smells worse than a NYC subway station.The College Guide To Dating . I left her in the park because I couldn’t take the stench. you will reach the moon. goatee. For about $70 you can get your teeth professionally whitened. If you don’t have the cash. “Aim for the sun. • • • • • • • • What Type of Girl Do You Want? When you have high expectations. Always cut your nails – Remember how I told you that women notice details? Well they notice nails to. This is one of the few characteristics that you CAN change about yourself. Always have them cut and cleaned (get a manicure if necessary). Shave daily– Unless your look involves a mustache.” For those of you who are interested in attracting a particular type of girl. I once met a girl in the park who ended up having bad breath. Take the time to get in good shape – You don’t have to be a body builder to attract females but do your best to have a decent figure. Trim your nose and ear hair – Women don’t like hair anywhere but on your head. or whatever your favorite barber shop is. un-interesting stories. you achieve great results. you should complete this quick exercise. so change it if you have to. Get good smelling cologne – women love when you smell nice.Second Edition • Get your teeth whitened – Yellow teeth are a turn-off. and do it. You’ll be able to get away with more mistakes. Like the saying goes. buy whitening strips. I personally use Acqua di Gio by Armani and Jovan Musk by Jovan. Then take a trip to Super Cuts. and awkward silences the better you look. Ask a few girls in the store what they think smells nice. It will take under 10 minutes and will give you the perspective you need to tailor your needs. Get a nice haircut – Ask some girls what they think would look good on you. because even if you miss. Stubby facial hair usually isn’t attractive. So what type of girl are you trying to get with? One who will have sex with you? A longterm relationship? Marriage? To make sure that you are saying and doing the right things.
etc… is to talk to her. If you think that she wants a guy who knows how to have fun. Citysearch.com has reviews on the latest cultural happenings. and physical escalation is by human interaction. I have a friend who sleeps with about one new woman a month just meeting on them Facebook. Conversational Anxiety The first step in getting a girl’s phone number. then you might casually mention that you used to promote for a club and that you love throwing themed parties. it will become fun! Also. When women start responding positively to you. you can tailor your stories and appearance to convey attractive qualities. 22 . then you might casually mention your skydiving trip in Vermont or your adventures backpacking through Europe. use of intentional pauses. ask yourself. ask your female friends. So you might be changing your answers in the coming days. but that’s because he spent a year of his life getting good at doing it in the world. I can’t stress this enough: girls love to give advice! List them: • • • • She wants a guy who… She wants a guy who dresses like… She wants a guy with… She wants a guy who makes her feel… Now that you have a better idea of what attracts her.The College Guide To Dating . if you’re reading this and thinking “I’ll just try to meet girls online”. dorm room location. voice tone. Online dating is useful. “What characteristics would attract the type of woman that I listed above?” If you aren’t sure. If you are trying to attract an intelligent girl interested in traveling then pick up an issue of national geographic and find three interesting stories. email. this is not going to work. Why? Because the only way you can improve your body language. you won’t be sure what will attract her until you actually meet her. but not as the way you learn how to interact with college girls. If you listed a guy who is adventurous and athletic. I promise you will find that talking to girls will get very easy. Of course. You will learn how to use Facebook as a complement to meeting girls in this book. I hope your heart didn’t skip a beat when you read this. very fast.Second Edition • • • • My girl has… My girl likes… My girl is… My girl does… Next.
Where to Start the Conversation A school campus is an easy place to start conversations. we’re very curious about other students. A lot of guys are gripped with fear when trying to talk to a girl. he will continue to have anxiety. saying “hey” and walking away before she responded. I was able to focus more on what techniques I would use to generate attraction. This will prevent you from overanalyzing the situation and from building her up as an untouchable goddess. Considering that we’re students and we’re broke. This game is fun and it works. The next day when she’s wondering about you. it will be so small that you get past it like jumping over a puddle. we’re part of the same tribe and all have an interest in learning more about each other. We just started talking. The difference is that successful men ignore it and pursue the girl anyway. “I don’t know how we met.” When I started approaching women I was so scared! I was worried about seeing the girls around campus. You just happened to talk with her because she was nearby. I suggest bringing a wingman along for support. A few nights of saying “hey” led to longer conversations. It will make her feel like the interaction is totally natural. check out our blog for more on Facebook. People will ignore each other when walking down the street in a big city. My wing and I will play a game called “Show Me The Money. No matter how successful a guy is with women.Second Edition Once you can meet women in the world. If I started a conversation then he’d give me $20. This is “Conversational Anxiety” and is completely normal. When talking to girls. I started out by going to a bar or club where no one knew me. As students. Soon I was able to carry on thirty second conversations and eventually 30-40 minute dialogues. worried they would tell their friends about me. While it will never completely go away. humiliation or not knowing what to say. 23 . But on campus. Wondering what a wingman is? Check out our blog. worried that their guy friends would find me and beat me up.” If my wingman starts a conversation then I’d give him $20. start the conversion within 2 to 3 seconds of seeing her. she will tell her friends. walking up to a girl.The College Guide To Dating . When my mind wasn’t totally consumed with fear. I knew I had to get over my anxiety. It could be the fear of rejection. This is called serendipity and it’s a powerful aphrodisiac for women. the risk of losing money is a big motivator.
POOL. Shields are at low power during the day because girls are not in the mindset of having to fend off guys. When you start talking to girls. she will make a wisecrack or even negative remark to you. By having a shield. Once you get good at this. Other places to meet girls on campus include the QUAD. Strategies for these locations are below. and she said (in reference to my friend) “He’s right there. You’ll learn to disarm her shield later in the book. you may find that they have a “shield”. They are at an even lower power at a campus school because a campus is a place of safety.Second Edition When you talk to girls. When you first say something. For starters. she will assume that you aren’t comfortable around beautiful women. If you let her shield affect you. Remember. there will be four opportunities: • • • • A girl who is alone A girl with other girls A girl with other guys A girl with both girls and guys On campus. like big cities. In a later section. approaching groups will become easier. You can break up with him now. GYM. you will have to get the girl alone at some point during the interaction so that you can “bond” with her. it’s easiest to talk to a girl who is alone. you will specifically learn what to say and do when meeting girls in different locations on a college campus and how to lower her shield. Shields might be up a bit higher during the day in places potentially hosting weirdoes. 24 . approach girls who are alone. If you are approaching a group of people. is it okay to break up with someone over text message?” I was next to my buddy. ACADEMIC CLUBS. they get approached dozens of times a day and they cannot be nice to everyone. “Hey.” Shields are a natural defense mechanism for attractive girls. and the LIBRARY.The College Guide To Dating . they are instantly scaring away the weak guys. She will not give you number in front of her friends. This happened to me the other night when I asked a girl outside a dorm. Everything described in this book will work for a group of people.
don’t smile as often.“Yeah. Here are a few examples: Prepared Starters for Night: • “You TOTALLY remind me of a Spice Girl.. They’re training wheels until you can clearly recognize and manage the opening of a conversation. college in a city. your starter shouldn’t be anything too crazy. Always start your conversation with a SMILE! In that first split second she sees you. I’m going to talk with you about how you make friends your “social circle”” and you can use this to dramatically increase your results. “So are you one of the normal people or one of the crazies?” This one is good for a sports game. It might take you a few months before you get over your fear and really begin to enjoy the interaction. A situational starter is one that you create based on the situation you are in. A prepared starter is one that you’ve created before you speak to the girl. a bar. Don’t be concerned if you feel like they aren’t your words.. After that. parents day weekend. can you puh-lease stop staring at me? I know I’m hot but I am NOT just a piece of meat for everyone to look at. This lets her know you’re in a positive emotional state. And now.onto starting the conversation. city at night or a place that can potentially be filled with strange and interesting people. Type them into your phone if you are having trouble remembering. This means you’ll be prepared to start a conversation regardless of where you are.I know which one you look like” she’ll usually respond with “Which one!!” Don’t tell her. I prefer situational openers but I recommend memorizing or creating 5 prepared starters. It relaxes her and lower sher shield. There are two types of conversational starters – situational and prepared. Change the subject. A girl isn’t going to sleep with you because of how you start the conversation. If you’re approaching the girl on campus and it’s DAYTIME.Second Edition After I go through the four stages of dating. I have feelings too!” Then • • 25 . The starter just gets the ball rolling. you better have a smile on your face.The College Guide To Dating . (look as if you’re thinking really hard). talking with girls is a real thrill. How to Start the Conversation Once you get the hang of it. More on what to say after the starter below. “Excuse me. I still have them in my iPhone just in case. Soon you’ll talk to girl you’re not into just because you can.
Second Edition fold your arms like you’re upset. but he still wants to move things to the next level. I noticed you from across the room and had to say Hi. Do you think most girls would date a guy who did?” “Who do you think would win a fight. go ahead.) “I told you that you NEED to shower at least once a day. Or sometimes if a girl accidentally brushes by me. Michelle Obama or Sarah Palin?” “Girls opinion.” “Will you please stop touching me!” This needs to be said with a smile and works best at night. You can do this two ways. men or women?” “Facebook or Myspace?” Situational Starters: • (You see someone trip. • • • • Prepared Starters for Day: • • • • “I read an article today that said 10% of men sleep with a teddy bear. How did you get in here?” • • • 26 . and acting like the thought just hit you) How would you rate yourself. is the line for the beautiful people?” (she reacts). you’re totally the type of girl who still falls out of bed at night. “Hey. (Something smells bad.” This is advanced and takes proper body language. “I usually wait in the A-lister line. This is powerful because it lets her know that you know what a creepy guy is like and you’re not one of them. I’m Mike. So seriously that you couldn’t possibly be so serious or like a drama queen. Who do you think cheats more. (big smile)” (serious face) “But seriously. I will yell “stop grabbing my ass!” Walk right up to a girl and say “Hi I’m Brian. do you think it’s important to be a good kisser in a relationship?” (she responds) “My friend is always complaining that his girlfriend is a terrible kisser.” (You see a really creepy guy.) Turn to the girl next to you and say “I don’t know why you’re laughing. on a scale of 110?” (she responds) “Pshht.) “Hey I think your boyfriend is looking for you” while pointing at the creeper. are you sure people weren’t just being polite when they told you that?” “Are you the type of person who can take a compliment from a complete stranger?” (she responds) “So am I.) “Hey.” (Waiting in a line. I wanted to know if there is more to you than just your looks. showering once a week isn’t enough. (pause.The College Guide To Dating .” (she reacts) “I’m just messing with you.
Second Edition See that. shit. skank. Subconsciously she will register that you need to leave but will never bring it up in conversation when you don’t. This is to make her feel comfortable (she won’t feel like you are going to stick around forever and bother her) and it will also convey that you are a busy guy with lots of things going on. Mapped out. piss. don’t swear unless you are talking very passionately about something. Whenever I’m with students 27 . People who are unhappy or angry do. you want to give the impression that you have to leave. For a list of more conversation starters.The College Guide To Dating . Never use these words in conversation because they gross girls out – fart. All of these bring value and joy into a girl’s day. Not only did I give you a good amount of conversation starters. Also. Cool guys don’t swear a lot. whore. the flow looks like this: Conversation Opener Mention Leaving Your Body Language (The Most Important Part of this Section) This is 10 times more important than what you say. visit the blog. One of the mistakes guys make is to master the conversation and ignore their body language. let’s continue going through the model. slut. puke. Girls won’t sleep with a guy who isn’t happy with himself and his life. starting a conversation isn’t so hard after all. I’m also going to teach you how to start conversations based on your location. Some things to say: • • • • • • “I have to go in a second…” “I have to get back to my work…” “I’m heading out in a minute…” “I have to go feed my cat…” “I have to scrape the barnacles off my whale…” “I have to go read to the blind…” You then continue the conversation. Pretend You Have to Leave Within 20 seconds of starting a conversation. cunt. burp. Before I do that.
They probably didn’t get too close or invade your personal space. If you’re sitting. which made you more willing to answer their question. Tests Hot college girls get approached a lot and they need a method of sorting guys very rapidly. I often find that it’s how they’re moving or sitting. So guys. I f you are starting a conversation at the library. computer lab. you will not turn to her until she turns to you. they always think it’s what they’re saying. cafeteria. 28 . you are just saying these things because she happens to be there. scare. Their feet and body were probably pointing in the direction they were moving in. This.The College Guide To Dating . to a girl. You feel uncomfortable and start wondering how and when they will go away. This is a reward to her. or coffee shop. I’m begging you now. This means that the interaction has to feel natural. and bars. they also use a large number of tests! I don’t mean that they literally give you a questionnaire but they will try to surprise. you and I know you’re a good guy. so don’t be all up in her grill. As if their super human ability to read men wasn’t enough. Note that these tests almost always happen in the first 60 seconds of an interaction and they overwhelmingly happen in night venues like parties. read this part carefully. Don’t make her feel that discomfort or the conversation is over before it began. If you’re standing. you will not turn your body to her until she does the same too you. The best way you communicate this to her is in your body language. When I watch them. Done correctly. she doesn’t. Reference the information in Part 1 for general body language techniques. Make Like You Are Asking for Directions. in turn. Think back to the last time someone on the street asked you for directions? They only spoke to you because you were nearby. From her perspective. your body language will make a girl feel this comfort and pressure to answer.Second Edition and they’re not getting girls into conversation. Remember. you will not be tested as much. made you feel like they were not going to harass you or stay with you for a long time. Ever had a homeless person come up to you for money and get in your face. clubs. or dominate you. You would probably have been willing to answer a second question because you didn’t feel crowded. but at that moment you start talking. Earlier I talked about serendipity and how important it is to girls.
Why are you dressed like that? (Disgusted face) “Why are YOU dressed like that? We deft can’t be friends now.” “You remind me of <and they will insert anybody>” Or girls will draw attention to their bodies to see if you react. It’s because she can tell by your response if you’re a cool guy or not. Imagine that she was a 5 year old girl doing this. I have a boyfriend. For example: • Who ARRREEE you? “Wow are you always this feisty?” Put your hands close to your chin and PLAYFULLY air punch her twice like you’re a boxing kitten. you’d laugh and tease her back.The College Guide To Dating . Watch her pupils dilate. Would you get mad? Of course not. The way to respond to the test is to not look or act flustered.” Move onto next topic before she can respond. It’s a remarkable ability that women have and guys don’t. Tests come in the form of: • • • • Asking certain questions Making demands Whining and throwing tantrums Commanding Why is she testing you? Good question. You can also prepare a few clever responses for common tests. So ignore it and make fun of her for trying to test you. She will feel a spike of attraction when you do this. Women will continually test you from the moment you approach until you have sex and even into a relationship. That is the same dynamic here.” ‘Can you buy me a drink?” “Sorry. • 29 . Here are a few common tests I’ve encountered: • • • • • • • • • • “Who ARRREEE you?” “Why are you dressed like that?” “Are you gay?” “Get away from me. I won’t be able to take you out in public. Move onto next topic before she can respond.” “Are you trying to sleep with me?” “Hold my drink for me.Second Edition Testing doesn’t stop after the first 60 seconds.
” Answering questions like that is a bad idea. look at the cup. I had an experience where a girl asked me if I’ve ever cheated on a girlfriend.” She testing you here to see if you’re attracted to her. In her brain. Do you like your water straight up or on the rocks? (Never buy a girl a drink unless she buys the first round) Sorry I have a boyfriend – “That’s cool. look back at her. If she keeps asking then say. T hen continue to the next topic of conversation. but your friends paid me to talk to you.” How do you think the average college freshman would 30 . I responded with “Aww. Now that she realizes you aren’t going to tell her. • • • Have you ever been in a situation where a girl asks what seems to be a trick question that you don’t know how to answer? Guess what. are you a fag hag?” said over the top. Laugh out loud.” Are you trying to sleep with me? “Sorry. you wanna know because you are planning to ask me out tonight. there is this guy Greg that I haven’t seen in a while. I would never do that. I won’t tell him you’re flirting with me. You need to wine and dine me first. Not so long I was having desert with a girl named Britney when she said. inside she’s dying to know more about you and you are spiking her attraction for you. so she knows you like her just because of her looks.” She will probably drop the topic.Second Edition • • • Are you gay? “What is it about me that attracts you?” or “Oh my god.Look at her. You wouldn’t let a 9 year old girl boss you around. Recently. I have an iPhone” or “Understood. Get away from me! “I want to. I don’t care how much you fall in love with me.The College Guide To Dating . How’d I answer? Most guys would probably say “Of course not. Girls LOVE this chase. Don’t take the drink Can you buy me a drink? – Sure. let’s go visit him. You need to remain cool and unaffected. aren’t you!” Another acceptable response is. “Hey. and you can’t let a 19 year old girl do so either. if you want me to be your boyfriend then you should just ask. She is now chasing you! Women also test your ability to say NO by making demands. Each girl is different and wants a different response. I’m sleeping with Scarlett Johannson next time I see her. questions like these are usually tests. Believe it or not. if you get flustered or discouraged she’ll lose interest right away because she hasn’t told you a thing about herself yet. “Listen.” The key to answering these trick questions is to answer them indirectly. some of them outrageous. she will continue to pursue you because she wants to know more. I’m not the type of guy who will give you a night filled with intense orgasms on a first date.” Hold my drink for me . “listen.
“Harry. he would be thinking. In addition to the other three types of tests. girls don’t want a guy that is like the other 95% of the population. “NO. you become one of the 5%.whining. as she admitted to me in bed that night.” Inside. “I don’t want to go to some guys house at all. Don’t yell at her and say. “I am here to spend time with you and not some random guy. Remember. “Hmm. she wants to be led. Guess what.” By now you should be learning that this train of thought is wrong. she will lose her attraction toward you. By not giving her what she wants. actually I think that we should sit here. then we are going to have to end this early. if a girl ever makes a demand like this. semi-joking tone. As soon as you give her what she wants. I think you’re the long lost fourth Kardashian sister” in a semi-serious. If you want to go visit Greg.” and move to the seat right next to where she pointed. If she says. Like I said before. give her a little laugh and say. “Oh. Now remember. Turns out that in my case there never was a Greg. She doesn’t want to boss you around. If you hang out with an attractive girl. the poor baby’s mad because she can’t get what she wants” or “oh my god you’re such a diva. let’s sit here. but they are.” Say it in a calm but serious voice and don’t act mad or upset. It would be a major turn off to her if you went. But if she says lets go. WE WILL SIT HERE!” You have to speak in a half-joking. when you say things like this. You have to be friendly yet demanding. They want something different. Ahhh…. women will also try to boss you around. Most attractive college girls are used to getting whatever they want. whenever they want. she simply asked to see how I would answer. then I guess I have to go because if I follow her around enough she’ll realize that I like her. She will only stick with the guys that don’t give her what she wants until she has earned it. this is a test. Just make sure that she knows you are not going to tolerate her ridiculous demands. You are a busy guy and don’t have time for games. Be careful with these women. I want to spend time with her. you will notice that she will whine and badger you until she gets her demand. Believe it or not. you may not think they are testing you. you can’t be serious and uptight. After You Say Your Starter 31 . half-serious tone.Second Edition respond? “Umm…well ok if you want to. Women do NOT want to be superior.” I’ll say.The College Guide To Dating . That’s because guys have been bending over backwards for them since junior high. Don’t be hostile when you make these comments. My favorite technique to stop a girl from whining is saying. you are the one that has to maintain control.
I’m giving you the ADD TEST” (put out your hands) “Put your hand on my hands and look at me for 5 seconds.” (If she is slow to respond or acting like she has ADD) Playfully knock on her head and say “hello. You’re going to start the conversation off with a few backhanded compliments. Regardless. With time your teasers will entertain her and build attraction. these lower her defensive shield and make you a CHALLENGE.” “Don’t get fresh. These are called teasers. I WILL put you over my knee in front of everyone. I’m calling E!” “You have a piece of fuzz on your face. Here are a few teasers that you can use: • • • • “You’re from one of those rowdy countries. Your delivery of the teaser might not be perfect until you get a good deal of practice and they might make a girl feel insulted or insecure. You so have ADD.” “I bet you’re pre-law. I bet you’re the long lost 4th Kardashian sister. this is very powerful in meeting more girls) you may already have attraction. you’re going to spend the next 5-7 minutes generating even more attraction.” Then I’ll point to her nose and say. Step 2: Attract the Girl Teasers & Soundbites You’ll know that a teaser is working when it makes her laugh. dress.” • • • • • 32 .” Teasers communicate that you are not a loser guy who doesn’t have the balls to tease a girl. It also communicates that maybe you’re NOT interested in her.The College Guide To Dating . I often say “That’s cute. girl. Girls like a challenge. Let’s talk more about the 5-7 minute of the attraction phase. body language. If you can do that then you’re ADD Free. If you use a teaser and a girl walks away. aren’t you.” “You’re feisty. you offended her. I bet your parents were ninjas. I can tell.” “You can’t sit still. and your social circle (if you have a girl out with you. Combined. your nose wiggles when you talk.” “You’re an L. This is a natural part of your learning curve and will go away as your practice more. is anyone home?” If she’s not paying attention to you or easily distracted.Second Edition Depending on your starter. You have greedy eyes. “Oh my god. A really hot girl might take 3 teasers to convince that you are not like every other guy. “Talk! Come on say something! Aww.A.
If she has a friend with her.” “You know. You want to be a big time Columbian drug lord.thats really interesting. wouldn’t you” Alright. (she will laugh and play along). You and I would never get along.” Teasers should not be thrown back to back. We’re too similar. There’s more to life than sex you know. Her number is gone. They tell me a lot about you. including my mom and my sister. right as you are about to cross the tracks the train WHISTLES AND HONKS really round. we are going to do a little visualization game I learned about in Psych class. I can tell. I saw the prop plane parked out back with your picture and “free cocaine” painted on it. point to her friend say. check this out. how many flowers do you pick? (let her answer) Whoa these are all really interesting answers. “is she the muscle?” The girls will laugh and want to continue to talking with you because you are bringing them social and fun value. How far away is the train? (Let her answer) Ok. fight. Is that NORMAL? You would totally do that. Later on in the night my boys and I are heading out and I go to call my friend Stephanie. I can tell you right now. Later on we are back at my place with a few friends smoking my hookah when she asks to see the pics. Here are a few I use: • “So what do you want to do after college? Wait don’t tell me. You have to mix it up with what I call “sound bites.Second Edition • If she hits you. So I give her my phone. Very interesting…Alright. you are freakishly strong. (you wait for her to say something like “what does it mean???” THEN you tell her what it means. train heading your way. I’d probably end up divorcing you and taking all your money. our whole relationship would be fight.” “Are you a jealous girl?” (she answers) “O. I want you to picture that you are in a field and there are train tracks in front of you.. I bet you crack walnuts open with your bare hand. I was in the quad/library/park with my friend the other day and we were taking pictures on my phone. Her number is gone. You head toward the tracks. make-up sex.K. You look to the right and you see a big. loud.” • • • 33 . We’re both type A’s. T he girl deleted EVERY number in my phone that was a girl. You see flowers that you are just dying to pick on the other side of the tracks. do you cross or do you turn back? (Let her answer) Wow. Alright. I go to call my friend Jackie. you’re on the other side now. “Wow. What do you do.” These are short statements that can entertain or challenge a girl.The College Guide To Dating . make-up sex.
o The flowers represent how much emotion she pours into relationships.Second Edition The closer the train is the bigger her barrier to getting close to people. She doesn’t do CRAZY things too often. He says that you go into cow fields really late at night. o • • Check the blog for more teasers. Technically she and I are still dating. If the train is right in front of her. she let’s people into her life all the time and has a lot of close friends. If the train is far away. you will find yourself getting comfortable saying things that today might feel ridiculous. She told me that you guys get really bored on the weekends because there is nothing to do. then she has a few people she’s close with but she always remains guarded. crouching so you don’t get shot by the farmers. Accuse her of being a sex freak and tell her you’re not going to take any part in her sexual escapades (If she tells you she is from a weird state/city). use the alternative version. If she runs across the tracks.The College Guide To Dating . She has had fights with her parents and isn’t good at taking orders. They do some really strange stuff on the weekends. Is that what you do? Do you crawl around fields looking for cow poo?” You know. One day her family just got up and moved. As time goes on. “OMG I had a friend from there once. o (Flowers Alternative) If you feel comfortable with the girl and she has a sense of humor. If she picks a lot of flowers. Regardless of how many flowers she picks. I never got to say bye. you really look more like a “Mildred” than you do a (enter her name here). it means she’s a rebel. She listens to her authority figures and does what she’s told. You should be 5-7 minutes into the conversation when you’ve used 2-3 teasers and 2-3 of the sound bites. we really shouldn’t be talking. you tell her that the flowers represent her sex drive and she picked a really big amount of flowers. If she doesn’t pick a lot of flowers. looking for hallucinogenic plants that grow in cow poo. o If she turns back when she hears the train’s whistle. 34 . it means she has a lot of love in her life. she’s really guarded and doesn’t let people into her life easily. It’s funny I used to date a girl named Mildred back in kindergarten. Mix and match from the teaser/soundbite list. When she gets close to someone she loves to do things for them and she loves to feel connected to other people. it means she’s not a rebel.
she will be more in love with you because she earned your attention. (In an accusative tone) Isn’t that SO. you never answer directly. You want to make sure that I’m going to be making a lot of money when I graduate. slap you. she is probably feeling attraction for you. when a girl starts asking you questions about yourself. When she answers. and she starts talking to another guy while you just sit there. If she thinks that she is one of a few girls pursuing your affection. etc. At this point. No attractive woman will have sex with you unless she learns at some point during your courtship that you’ve had other women in your life. or what dorm you live in She touches her forearms or legs Incidentally. She wants to know you’ve had other women in your life. where you’re from. laugh.” The updated flow looks like this: Conversation Opener Mention Leaving Teaser Soundbite Teaser Soundbite Soundbite Qualification Stage Jealousy You absolutely need to use jealousy if you want to get a girl super attracted super quickly. Look for some of these things to be sure she’s into you: • • • • • She’s laughing at your jokes She’s facing you She tucks her hair behind her ear She starts asking you questions such as your name. age.Second Edition You’ll notice that as you tease a girl and throw these funny soundbites at her she will giggle. you ask her something first. Have you ever been out with a girl. College girls in particular are very competitive because of close living quarters and the limited pool of guys. If they think another girl is interested in you. where you live. major. The first time she asks for your name. So you can respond to her questions with “Guess” or “How old are YOU?” or “I know why you want to know what I’m majoring in.. touch her hair and be in a really happy mood. Jealousy is a slap in her face that screams “I LIKE THIS GUY!” It’s also your opportunity to reassure that you are desired by other women and aren’t a loser. they will work harder for you.The College Guide To Dating . friend or otherwise. hoping and waiting for the conversation 35 . you can answer her question.
After the spin.” (let her respond) Then take her hand and spin her. and as they invest energy in talking about how they are good enough for me. she’ll know that you are interested in her other qualities in addition to good looks.The College Guide To Dating . She assumes that everyone only talks to her because of how she looks. It’s especially good to go out to the bar or party with a friend who is a girl. Step 3: Qualify the Girl I used to work in sales. This will be enough to generate jealousy in the girl you are interested in. or hug you.Second Edition to end? Remember how good it felt when the guy went away? Women feel this too. they become more interested in my product. The best way to build jealousy is by having another girl talk to. Most girls aren’t used to talking about their best qualities. you can use the girls nearby. During the day it’s harder to build jealousy because there are not that many people in your immediate vicinity. There might be a girl walking by. tell her you and her would never get along because you know that she is secretly a paparazzi trying to take your pictures. You TOTALLY remind me of a SPICE GIRL. and reward her for her answers. Since most guys are losers. This process is called qualification. Within 7 minutes of starting the conversation you will move into phase three – the qualification phase. kiss. so you need to give them a way to qualify themselves to you. Once you qualify her. Use a high energy conversation starter like “WOW. Before I began selling the product I would get the customer to explain how my services could help them. Not many guys have the guts to take the conversation in this direction. but on a stronger level. she never gets the chance to talk about her good qualities. where a girl will tell you about her good qualities. I would ask “Do you think that you are right for our services?” They respond. 36 . With practice you’ll notice that girls actually enjoy qualifying themselves to you. Ask her to drop by when you’re conversing with a girl for just a minute and give you a big hug and kiss on the cheek. but the chances of that are limited. During the night time there are plenty of girls close by and you can use each of them to build jealous. If you don’t have a girl with you. where your girl tells YOU about the things that make HER good enough for you.
It’s important to “reward” 37 . For example.. but so what. Here are a few qualification questions that I use: • • • • • • • • • • • • • • If you could wake up anywhere in the world tomorrow. where would it be? Can you cook? What’s the craziest thing you’ve done recently? Do you have a secret superpower? What do you think about men wearing pink? You’re obviously cute.and don’t say princess!! Is there more to you than meets the eye? Why did you pick this school? Do you want to travel after college? Are you adventurous? Are you open minded? In general. What’s your most intriguing quality? What do people compliment you on the most? What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone? What did you wanna be when you were little. you can follow “Are you adventurous” with “Ohh really??? What’s the craziest place you’ve ever had sex?” Now let me ask you a question. you start with the light ones and then get deeper as qualification goes on. Qualifying is as easy as asking questions. By qualifying them. If you’re having trouble conceptualizing this.Second Edition Girls want you to have standards. you are about to learn how to make qualifying themselves to you easy. Now. They want to know that you aren’t going to sleep with every breathing object. You can use some of these questions to begin talking sexually to her. Have you ever met an attractive girl and within seconds started telling her great things about yourself so she would like you? You were qualifying yourself to her. how would you like to qualify yourself to someone without getting any positive feedback? It doesn’t feel good. here’s another way to think about it.. you are showing them that have standards and that you are used to being with girls and knowing what you want. Now imagine if she liked the things you mentioned and went out with you because of them. there’s a ton of cute girls here.The College Guide To Dating . You would feel that she likes you for who you are.
“that’s awesome but it’s too bad we wouldn’t get along/can’t be friends/can’t date. you would respond with “wow really? I love Irish food. If she tells you that she loves to cook Irish food. Rewarding her is very simple.” You get the idea. a mermaid huh. It makes her want to chase you even more. skip the takeaway and include a statement of interest instead. and it’s getting better.” “My impression of you now is different than when we started talking. After she answers your questions. I didn’t expect that from you.Second Edition the girl after she qualifies herself to you.The College Guide To Dating . if she tells you that she wanted to be a mermaid when she was younger. We can’t go out because I’ll always wonder if Ursula is watching me. +5 cool points. A statement of interest is basically a summary of your qualification 38 . The third time you’re going to qualify.” (pause) “You know I got really scared watching that Ursula woman. Maybe I won’t have to divorce you. you’re going to have to take the reward back. in an excited and interested tone. After you reward her. I guess you’re cooler than I thought” “You’re definitely a lot cooler than I thought you were” “You’re keeping me interested. reward. I guess you’re cooler than I thought. I call this a “takeaway. Now I’m going to throw in one final twist.” Trust me when I say that this drives girls wild and spikes their attraction to you.” I know this might sound confusing. then takeaway 2 times in the qualification stage. (pause) But my ex used to cook Irish food and one time burned the corned beef when she cooked for my family! Would YOU burn the corned beef?” Then move forward… As another example.” (she asks what it was) “It was kind of neutral. respond with one of the following: • • • • • • • • • “Wow that’s cool!” ‘That’s really interesting” “You’re a really interesting girl” “I didn’t expect that from you. reward. You’re going to qualify. you can respond with “Oh wow. I’m saying.“ “There should be more girls like you” “You’re cool.” And continue forward… See what I’m doing here? I’m rewarding and then disqualifying her.
They will also need to activate at least one of her attraction switches. Here are a few statements of interest (SOI’s for short): • • • • I have to say you’ve really impressed me. Fat girls need to compensate for their looks by developing really interesting personalities. “Hear me out. I realized that qualifying her needs to come off very naturally and NOT like a job interview.” The flow looks like this: Conversation Opener Teaser Soundbite Teaser Soundbite Soundbite Qualification & Takeaway Qualification & Takeaway Qualification w/o Takeaway SOI Bonding When I first started out interacting with women I got the question “are you interviewing me?” a lot. If nothing else. Qualification Response Stories These are different than the stories you’ll be telling in the bonding phase. Where you a fat girl in high school?” (her response) “Most girls in high school who are pretty don’t ever develop a personality because everyone likes them for being beautiful. My stories are fun and don’t get serious. After many weeks of practice I came up with a solution – responding to her answer with a seemingly improvised minute long story. I like it a lot. 39 . I’m going to be adding more levels of details into the above flow.” I’ll talk more about them shortly. As we go through the rest of the book. You’re really growing on me. We’ll be calling them QRs for short. Most of the time I will improvise my stories because it’s not possible to know how a girl will respond to your qualification questions. You’re going to act really impressed with everything she’s told you and tell her that you really are interested in her for characteristics other than what she looks like. You’re the only girl in here who has awesome an awesome personality. I call these “Qualification Responses.The College Guide To Dating . I think we are going to make great friends I never ever expected that you were this awesome little girl. They are short (2-3 minutes long) and meant to show that you are actually listening to what she is saying. That’s a compliment.Second Edition stage. You must have been a fat girl because you have a great personality. I think I’m the luckiest guy in this room.
If I didn’t help him he was going to fail. There’s a time and place for this but it’s not when you first start talking. I remember one time in Econ my best friend had a previous copy of the exam and brought it in during the test. He basically would have destroyed the curve if he didn’t have the worst luck in the world. you’d probably get caught and both of us would get an F (takeaway).” Her: HAHA. If girls had goals growing up then we wouldn’t have so many Paris Hilton wannabees (reward). So here’s an example: You: “You are definitely the coolest girl that I’ve met in the last 15 minutes (this is a transition from attraction into qualification). I wanted to be a marine biologist. I just thought it was cool that stuff lived in the water. Well I appreciate the 40 . What did you want to be when you were growing up. and don’t say a butterfly (next qualification question). When he went to drop off the exam he picked up the old exam and handed it in along with his new exam. current events. It’s nice that you have a heart and care about other people. I basically saved his semester.The College Guide To Dating . Me: Why? Her: We had a boat and we were always around water. Her: A butterfly! Yeah! No just joking. Of course the professor was really pissed and since he never admitted to the crime he made everyone who scored over a 90 take the test over!!! I could never be an economist because it’s way too boring (end of the SBS). the weather. or your insecurities.Second Edition There’s no discussion of politics. You: Wow that’s really impressive (reward). You: There need to be more girls like you around. religion. You’re SOO FUNNY You: So what’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for somebody? Her: Well. I’m just letting you know now that I am not going to let you cheat off of me. the economy. one time I let a kid cheat off of me in Physics. personal information.
Very soon. I love a girl who loves to travel. maybe I’ll let you come on my boat while I travel the world. I’ll drive and you can study the sea life (SOI calling back to what she wanted to be when she was growing up. then move on to the next one. If you and I are still friends 5 years from now. 41 . and we’ll help you put them into words that resonate with college girls. You’re actually a really interesting girl. one coastal city at a time on my boat. Just get practice.The College Guide To Dating . You have interesting things to say. This shows that you are listening to her). (takeaway) Her: Yeah right… You: I love boats. I recommend using my stories as training wheels. Do you like to travel? (qualification) Her: I love traveling! You: What kinds of interesting places have you been to? Her: I went backpacking in Europe for a year and visited Florence and Rome and… You: That’s awesome. My dream is to travel the world. Don’t get caught up on the fact that they’re not yours. After you can tell these. Here’s an updated flow: Conversation Opener Teaser Soundbite Teaser Soundbite Soundbite Qualification & Takeaway SBS Qualification & Takeaway SBS Qualification w/o Takeaway SOI Bonding Now you will learn what happens after you’ve qualified her and given her a statement of interest. ahhh it’s going to be great! (end of sound bite story). Ibiza. Roma. Until then. I’d visit Barcelona. I need to see your boating license and a valid birth certificate. (no takeaway this time) You: You know you’ve told me some things about yourself that I never expected. Valencia. Napoli.Second Edition invitation to join you on your boat but I want to make sure you know how to drive that thing. check out our blog to get help telling your own. you’ll understand how to tell stories and tease women in a way that’s stimulating for them. I’d live in each city for two weeks. Cape Town.
She will not worry that you will rape her when you’re alone because you haven’t done it to these other women. The 5 Attraction Switches There are certain things about you that you want to get across to a woman to flip her attraction switches. 42 . You are comfortable being around attractive women. The five I talk about below are the most important. she will feel that she is really getting to know you.The College Guide To Dating . Getting a phone number is good. she will have no choice but to be attracted to you.The essence of pre-selection is conveying that women are interested in you and that other women have already selected you. She will feel that you like something about her other than her looks. Follow my logic here . Again. Being pre-selected also communicates that you are unaffected by her beauty or by female beauty. Pre-selected by Women . Once these switches are flipped. I’ll explain how to use them in stories shortly. After a handful of interactions. I’ve included stories that demonstrate high value characteristics about yourself in an interesting way. To start. making her attraction to you deep. doesn’t mean she’ll do it again unless you’ve bonded with her. her attraction for you will increase. Just because you make out with a girl. 1. We bond to increase our chances that she will call you back. We’re going to start by talking about the five key attraction switches that you should try to include in all of your stories. As you tell her about yourself. More importantly. or even sleep with her. and ultimately have sex with you. be willing to kiss you. By bonding with her.Second Edition Step 4: Bonding with the Girl This is where you really begin to build a strong relationship. but from psychological literature and study of females in other species. a girl will know that you have good qualities. but getting her to answer your calls is another story. By conveying that you have slept with beautiful women and have them as friends. But you should use these for now so you can see the results. They come not only from my extensive experience. these are just training wheels. the same way that the people in your life who care about you call you back. Take a moment to read through them. you will use your own. she will be more likely to answer your calls and see you again.men who have been with a lot of women must have good qualities.
People do not follow just anyone. she wants to know that you will protect your children. they are not “in your face. Examples of your 5 key attraction characteristics are part of your stories. Jjust as importantly. You might be thinking. you’ll be able to demonstrate attractive qualities. it shows that you have standards. you will protect her. “I really don’t have any of these qualities. Virgin Airways. 4. I’m a strong advocate of “fake it till you make it. I’m thinking “wow this isn’t safe. 3. Think about Richard Branson (the guy who started Virgin Records. and drive into us. Leader of Men .” Using the tips you’re about to learn. and a partially inflated blow-up doll. When you convey that you are making things happen. Back then there were no police. Deep down. If you were really desperate. it means that you are a capable person who get things done. Currently we are all relatively safe compared to our situation 5. 43 .” That’s ok. It’s also the reason you pretend you have to leave early on. so the person they do follow must have high social status and a high value. there were limited rules and fewer ways to defend oneself. Willingness to Walk Away – When you’re willing to walk away from something. He is able to build companies using his intellect and hard work. A woman’s primary means of defense for herself and her children wasn’t her cell phone or her pepper spray.The College Guide To Dating . but you have to show ambition and foresight. You don’t have to be be CEO. I saw clothes.This quality has its roots during tribal times. Controlling Your Destiny – Girls find it sexy when you are in control of your life and your future. This is usually conveyed through body language but can also be used in stories.000 years ago.” Some cab driver is going to get turned on by the blowup doll. it was her man. Virgin Mobil and 360 other companies).A leader gets other people to follow them. The key to telling stories that show your value is to be subtle. you’d want anything that gives you any attention. That’s all great except the back of the truck was open and all of the guys stuff was falling out. there were no guns. My story is below. a woman wants to know that you get into a relationship. Protector of Loved Ones . My friend Monica treated me because I helped her brother with his resume. You can use while you work out your own. S o I told Monica to move away from the street. Having standards communicates that you have CHOICE and choice means high value. What’s your story for how you got to where you are and where you’re going. He has the strength to inspire.” Here’s an example: “The other day I was walking back to my apartment after watching that awesome new film XXX. lose focus. Anyway I’m walking back with her and this Uhaul truck is driving by and stops at the red light.Second Edition 2. cabinets. Beggars can’t be choosers but winners can be.
This means girls must want to be friends with you. cabinets. this huge 50-inch flat screen T. lose focus. this would have been a field day for them! New wardrobes. I’m thinking “wow this isn’t safe. let’s dissect this story. But it’s much more than that. I saw clothes. Humor isn’t necessary as an attraction switch but coming up with a funny last line will build attraction). gives me the finger. this would have been a field day for them! New wardrobes. and drives off. “The other day I was walking back to my apartment after watching that new awesome new film XXX. If there were any homeless people around. And when he’s about 15 feet away from me. I went up to the Uhaul driver and told him through the window “yo dude you’re stuff is falling out of your truck. That’s all great except the back of the truck was open and all of the guys stuff was falling out. Let’s take a look at it again with the hidden attraction switches in mind. You’ll find that many weeks after seeing a girl she’ll bring up a detail in a story that you forgot about. and drives off. this huge 50-inch flat screen T. If there were any homeless people around. gives me the finger. Being the nice guy that I am. electronics and sex toys!” Ok. see if you can find a few in the next story. Girls will always pick up on the little details. and a partially inflated blow-up doll. He turns to me.) Anyway I’m walking back with her and this Uhaul truck is driving by us and stops at the red light. So this seemingly funny and entertaining story is embedded with three attraction switches.Second Edition Being the nice guy that I am I went up to the Uhaul driver and told him through the window “yo dude you’re stuff is falling out of your truck. electronics and sex toys!” (You finish off with a funny hook line. My friend Monica treated me (Pre-Selection: This is conveying that you have a friend who is a girl.” Some cab driver is going to get turned on by the blowup doll.V falls out and shatters all over the street.” Just then the light turns green. She will automatically assume that you have other friends who are girls) because I helped her brother with his resume (Leader of Men: This is conveying that you are smart and that people come to you for help.The College Guide To Dating . It’s a funny story about a Uhaul with tons of stuff falling out of it. 44 . It’s also showing that you care about other people and will spend your time protecting their interests. And when he’s about 15 feet away from me. and drive into us. He turns to me. Now that you have a better understanding of what a “hidden” attraction switch is.V falls out and shatters all over the street.” Just then the light turns green. but you should cover all five in the 34 pre-written stories. You don’t have to have every attraction switch in each story. So I told Monica to move away from the street (Protector of Loved Ones: You’re thinking about her safety and are smart and quick enough to take her out of harms way).
The other week I was having a get together at my dorm with some of the kids on my floor. That was like double the price they were in the supermarkets.) “Oh really. I went to a private school that was strictly against any sweets. I was making about 20 bucks a day in CASH.Second Edition “So what did you want to be when you were younger? And don’t say princess. that’s interesting. but can you find the embedded switches? “So what did you want to be when you were younger? And don’t say princess. but apparently our school does NOT. I went to a private school that was strictly against any sweets. It could be anywhere from a 30 second to a 5 minutes response. Stephanie is gonna be pissed if they take away the birthday present she got me. When I was younger I always wanted to start my own business. I was rich! I still have some old friends sending me messages saying that whenever they see a red backpack they think of me selling them candy! That was my first little business.” (Let her answer. When I was younger I always wanted to start my own business. I was a rebel and sold bags of M&M’s for a dollar. Needless to say he got expelled.) “Oh really. But anyway I have a lot of respect for entrepreneurs. The other week I was having a get together in my 45 . I remember when I was in 6th grade I had a little red backpack that brought to school packed with candy. “ At first it seems like a story about a guy getting caught for selling drugs out of his dorm room. I was making about 20 bucks a day in CASH. that’s interesting.” (Let her answer. I was determined to start making money on my own before I graduated from middle school. I’m thinking “damn. I was a rebel and sold bags of M&M’s for a dollar. but apparently our school does NOT.” Turns out the agents weren’t coming for me. and if you’re good maybe I’ll tell you about some of the more recent ones. I was rich! I still have some old friends sending me messages saying that whenever they see a red back pack they think of me selling them candy! That was my first little business. and if you’re good maybe I’ll tell you about some of the more recent ones. All of a sudden we see three FBI agents running passed our door. But anyway I have a lot of respect for entrepreneurs. That was like double the price they were in the supermarkets. This guy on our floor was growing and running a really profitable drug business right from his dorm room! He had a safe in his closet filled with pounds and pounds weed. That’s when I made the call to Pablo to shut down my drug smuggling operation in Columbia. I remember when I was in 6th grade I had a little red backpack that I brought to school packed with candy. how did they know that I have a stash of Baileys’ Irish Cream under my bed.The College Guide To Dating . It could be anywhere from a 30 second to a 2 minute response. You then build the tension by telling her you’ve started other successful businesses but refuse to tell her unless she’s a good girl). (In Control: You were determined to make things happen and you did.
” This isn’t disqualifying her but it is teasing her and increases the sexual tension. That’s when I made the call to Pablo to shut down my drug smuggling operation in Columbia.Second Edition room (Leader of Men: You’re having a get together in YOUR room. give her another SOI. I like you. I’ll talk more about teasing later. This means that you are leading the interaction and have a group of people who enjoy spending time on your terms) with some of the kids on my floor. Stephanie is gonna be pissed if they take away the birthday present she got me. you could say “Uh oh. Many girls are insecure and if you disqualify them too much. When she is contributing as much to the conversation as you are. This is not to say that you can’t tease them.The College Guide To Dating . I’m afraid you’re going use me in one of your experiments while I’m asleep. She’ll assume that this was an ex-girlfriend. then she’ll assume that you have a high S&R value). but I suggest you take the time to come up with your own. and you’ll have an original story tailored to you. And you’re just gonna have to deal with that. for security reasons of course. (Hook Line) You can use the stories that you find in this book and on our website. If this girl buys you presents. how did they know that I have a stash of Baileys’ Irish Cream under my bed. you should each contribute equally to the conversation. Needless to say he got expelled. For example if she said scientist when you asked her what she wanted to be when she was younger.” Most girls don’t come prepared with stories so you can use the same qualification questions to get her to open up about herself. the more you’ll see which parts work and which don’t. You don’t want to disqualify her anymore. at approximately a 50/50 ratio. I’m handcuffing you to the bed. The more you tell the story.” (Pre-Selection: She’ll know that girls buy you presents. The bonding stage will consist of a back and forth between you and the girl. I’m thinking “damn. Say “You know what. At this point. All of a sudden we see three FBI agents running passed our door. The difference is that we will not be using any take-backs. they will really think that you aren’t interested in them. Turns out the agents weren’t coming for me. Think about one or two things that happened to you that were mildly entertaining. You’ll probably edit the story 5-6 times before you’re really happy with it. add in a couple attraction switches. Here are a few other stories you can use: My stories… 46 . This guy on our floor was growing and running a really profitable drug business right from his dorm room! He had a safe in his closet filled with pounds and pounds of weed.
So the koala passes out and falls out of the tree. Now that Australia has so many tourists. the other half is just bare. even their architecture. the Brandenburg gate. The boys rented bikes and we round all around the city. Everything about Germany is so much different than the U. There were parts of the wall completely blown off from mortar fire. You can learn something wherever you are. I think it’s really important to keep an open mind when you go to new places. As I’m looking around I notice that half the building is covered in really thick vines. Kinda like the whole in the middle of a donut. The part of the building covered in vines is original. So the koala bears climb up to the top of these huge trees.The College Guide To Dating . It was such an amazing experience. the koalas are falling onto people who are taking tours of the conservatories. So koala bears love to eat eucalyptus leaves. You know. It was one of those “UH HUH” moments we have. eat the eucalyptus leaves and fall asleep while they are climbing down. It turns out that this was one of the only buildings that survived WWII. Have you ever been to Australia? (her response) “Do you like to travel?” (Her response) I went to Germany last summer with a group of my close friends. it was real and had real effects on the world. it was just a story. but until that one moment. Anyway she was telling me about this new problem they are having with Koala Bears accidently knocking tourists unconscious. I recommend you bring an umbrella. Anyway.BAD KOALA!!! If you ever go down there. The people. sort of. it was really amazing.” Don’t even ask me what billabonk means. I stood there and I understood how devastating and scary the war must be. The leaves only grow on really tall trees.. the girls spent their time shopping in East Berlin. the other part was blown to shreds by an American bomb. The brick still had pieces of the bomb wedged inside of it. When I got closer to the original building I was really amazed. the eucalyptus leaves make them really really sleepy. The building really struck me. There was shrapnel and bullets. Can you imaging having a koala fall on your head?? Awww…cute koala…AHHHH. the Berlin wall. (it means making passionate love by a waterhole). I couldn’t tell why at first. That 47 .S. it’ll make you think twice about visiting the Aussies.. their mindset. WWII wasn’t just a story. so I’m leading this bike tour that we’re having and I see this really old looking building with a public courtyard. Of course. So imagine you walk into the courtyard inside the outer walls of the building. The problem is. the pre-war buildings. It’s so entertaining to talk to her cause she uses some really strange words like “yabble and billabonk. the embassies.Second Edition Koala Bear So I was talking to my friend from Australia a couple days ago and she told me the funniest story. we read about WWII in high school. We saw the Sony Center.
” (her response) 48 . however. He was like Hue Heffner of that street. And she’s yelling “you aint never gunna get non of dis again. Are you going to try to come after me with a cane when you’re mad? Are you going to try to come into my apartment and spray paint my walls? Cause if you are I’m gunna make like a tree and leave. try to see the silver lining in every cloud. Anyway. Homeless Person The WEIRDEST and CRAZIEST thing happened to me when I was visiting NYC. is this like UFC live or something.Second Edition courtyard really touched me. Maybe if you’re good I’ll show it to you. I had to check it out. This guy was homeless but was still able to pick up women. If you can think of something you get +5 cool points. I saw this really drity looking woman swinging her cane at this really really dirty looking man. Think of something positive that could come out of this situation. he’s such a great guy. Of course most of the girls there spoke about 4-5 words of English and had a very hard time completing full sentences. It turns out that they were both homeless people and she was his girlfriend. He even made me do these exercises where he’d tell me about a person’s bad situation and make me find 5 good things that came out of it. he was sleeping with ALL the homeless women on the street.” My dad/mom/uncle taught me to think positive when I was really little.The College Guide To Dating . My ex-girlfriend was one of the alternates on America’s Next Top Model and she invited me to their little casting party. I have a really awesome picture of it on my computer. When the time comes I’m gonna take good care of him too. About two blocks from my hotel there was a big crowd in the middle of the street. it’s got two layers of cardboard lining. I do. and not just that. Hmm…ok…a women just had her laundry stolen. Wow. At some point I got fed up with the “conversations” that I was having with these models and decided to go back home. you aint never gunna touch these boobs again!” It was so funny coming out of this women who obviously hadn’t showered in weeks. I thought. here try one. Tyra’s actually a really nice person. “Hey check out my house. he must have some really good pick up line. She found out that the homeless guy was CHEATING on her. She paid for my hotel in a really nice area of the city. I love him for that.
“Miguel. the person who stole the clothing was probably really in need of clothes. You’re a positive thinker. He used to wear these bright Hawaiian shirts and gold chains. I had made friends with the motel owner. Finally. I told him. and maybe now he and his family have something to wear. I went there last summer with my ex-girlfriend.The College Guide To Dating .” My Last Trip I often tell this after I’ve asked a girl where she wants to travel too. He connected me with a friend of his who owned a private beach.” Of course. It was gorgeous. because when I travel I don’t like to stay at the same places everyone else goes to.Second Edition “Nice job. that I rented a jeep and negotiated a deal (leader). “I want to go back to Costa Rica. now I’m going to give you the formula for meeting girls in the most popular campus locations using the first four steps of the method. When I travel I like to have little adventures. So I called the guy. negotiated a great rate. and the next day I rented us a jeep and drove us out there. I was ready for an adventure. We’ll be Sherlock and Watson. The way I see it. he knew just what to do. I can’t even describe how beautiful the place was. I want to have an adventure. The first few days were really relaxing. from meeting them to 49 . All the girls did was tan. Next stop for me is backpacking through central America. you can be my new sidekick. is that I mention my ex-girlfriend who was an aspiring model (jealousy). It even had a naturally heated pool. Sherlock only buys one plane ticket so when we’re traveling I’m going to wrap you in bubble rap and pack you in my suitcase. I’m even thinking of doing one of those 2-week long volunteer trips in Guatemala. who was getting started in modeling. We were on this beach with the clearest blue water. this guy named Miguel. but these girls were tanning addicts. One of the reasons this story appeals. I booked us this out of the way hotel. and that I like to have little adventures (fun). I don’t know what is with girls and tanning. Here’s an updated flow: Conversation Opener Mention Leaving Teaser Soundbite Teaser Soundbite Soundbite Qualification & Takeaway SBS Qualification & Takeaway SBS Qualification w/o Takeaway SOI Bonding Story 1 Her response Bonding Story 2 Her Response Bonding Story 3 As promised. You’re Watson. by the third day. and some of her girlfriends.
bonding with them. After the location specific techniques, we’re going to talk about escalating your relationship physically.
Location Specific Techniques to Meeting Girls
What you expect out of an interaction depends on if you meet a girl during the day or at night. If you meet during the day, you should not expect to get her back to your room nor attempt a kiss. However, if you meet during the day and continue spending time together until night, or you meet up with her later that night, then it is okay to get her alone and escalate to sex.
Meeting A Girl During The DAY
There are two scenarios to meeting a girl during the day. You have different aims with each. • • She is alone She is with friends
Do not be troubled if you’re a few minutes into a conversation with a girl and, when her friends show up, she suddenly cuts the conversation short and bolts to be with them. It happens. Chances are she has a boyfriend and doesn’t want her friends seeing her with another guy. So if her friends come over and she does not introduce them, you say to her, “Hey, introduce me to your friends. It’s the polite thing to do.” She will then introduce them. You then ask “So, how do you guys know each other.” Now you will have vital information about their relationships. If they ask you how you know their friend, you say “I was minding my own business and she started following me around. Does she always do this?” At this point, you should continue talking directly to the girl you like. If guys are part of this group, you shake their hand and say “nice to meet you”. Other than that, you don’t have to talk with them, unless your girl is pulled away. If her friends are curious about you and join the conversation, you rely on your sound bites. Talk to the group while teasing the girl you like. You can talk for 15 minutes, get her contact information for a “party” or other event, talk for a few minutes more, then leave.
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At this point, she and all her friends will be dying to meet you again. Sometimes, I’ll text a girl within an hour or so of meeting with “Is it too early for us to have casual text? I mean, we did just meet.” There are two optimal outcomes when meeting a girl during the day. • • Get a phone number and set a time to meet up later Move from the location you met to another location for a mini-date
If neither happens, you want to get enough information to give her a call or friend her on Facebook. Before the conversation ends, mention that you plan on adding her as a friend on Facebook, otherwise it will seem like you are stalking her.
Indoor, You’re Sitting - Library, Study Hall or Room, Coffee Shop, Cafeteria or Similar
Freshman year I never had much success in these locations. I would casually look for a seat near a hot girl, sit near her, and start a conversation. Sometimes I accomplished my goals, but often I got a short response and vibe that clearly said “I’m busy now.” I had all but written these places off when I had an experience that made realize how efficient they are to meet women. I was leaving the library one day, when a girl sitting at a nearby desk said, “Hey, what time does the library close?” I knew right away her talking to me was a sign of interest, so I carried the conversation according the approach you read about earlier in the book. Within a minute, I was sitting with her, found out her logistics, and we left together for coffee. Why was this a revelation? Because in these locations, it’s not the girls sitting that you want to speak to, it’s the girls WALKING BY that you want to start a conversation with. When I realized this, I began having 10 interactions a day. What’s more, because you’re in a café or library, you can meet women while completing your coursework. The approach below works for one girl. If there is more than one girl, you will have to keep them both occupied until one leaves or you set up a time to meet with them both later (i.e. invite them to your party or event). If you can’t get any alone time with them, don’t stick around for more than 10 minutes. Your path:
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Conversation Opener Mention Leaving Tease Soundbite Get them to sit Soundbite Qualify them both QR Story Bonding Story 1 Get Contact Info to Meet that Night Leave When you leave, tell them you’re meeting your friend Becky to look at some of her modeling shots because she always wants your opinion. Now get the contact information of the girl you are most attracted to. That way you can continue your interaction through texting. After you leave, the girls are going to talk about you for 20 minutes and tell all their friends about the interesting and mysterious guy they met that day. Onto the details of day scenarios.
Step #1: Pick a good seat.
After you get the girl attracted you, you are going to have her sit with you. Whenever possible, you want to avoid sitting across from her, because this is a confrontational situation (remember this for all of your dates). Moreover, you can’t make any physical contact like a pound-it or high-five. Put your bag or jacket on the seats you don’t want her sitting in, leaving the one to my right or left open. Otherwise, she will naturally sit across from you. Your ideal situation is:
You also want to sit in the higher value seat. You should be facing the rest of the room while she should be facing the wall. If sitting across from you is the only option, then
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you want to keep the initial conversation to less than 20 minutes, bond, and then suggest a new location. If you’re periodically asking girls questions as they walk by, it won’t look strange to people nearby. And even if it does, you shouldn’t care. Once a girl agrees to sit with you, ALL the other girls in the place will be jealous and want to meet you. All the guys will be envious of your perceived superpowers with girls. If a girl is walking by and there are no seats left in the cafeteria other than yours, this a great time to ask her to sit. You’ll say to her, “Hey, you can sit here. You just have to promise not to copy my homework.” She’ll laugh, and to maintain her comfort, you’ll reaffirm with “I’m heading out in a few minutes anyway.” You said you’re leaving so now she can sit comfortably knowing you won’t be following her around the rest of the day. If you recognize her from class or somewhere, don’t mention that. Let her bring it up, and never act excited when she does. When you meet some random guy from class, do you get excited?
Step #2: Keep Strong Body Language
When you start the conversation, never lean into the girl(s) or shift position to speak with them. You’re voice should be loud enough that someone standing directly behind her can hear what you’re saying. If you can’t hear her, tap your ear and say “I didn’t hear you” WITHOUT leaning in. She will repeat herself and she will probably lean in this time. Until the girl(s) sit with you, you will never lean forward or shift positions (exception if you need to move something for them to sit down). On a sub-conscious level, they will be processing this and it will build attraction for you while increasing their comfort. Lean back in your seat without slouching – this is the ideal position. You are relaxed and comfortable in your own skin, totally cool with the fact that you’re talking to hot girls. Don’t cross your legs. They should be open, knees shoulder-length apart and feet flat on the floor, no fidgeting. What I do to burn that nervous energy is wiggle my toes in my shoes. No one will notice. Don’t wear headphones, and don’t have headphones hanging around your neck. They are anti-social. Resist all temptation to check out her body. This is subtle, but it will make her feel comfortable. Remember, you are not physically attracted to her at this point. You just have a question for her, the random passerby.
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It’s okay to wear sunglasses and to keep them on when you first start the conversation. After she engages in conversation for 30 seconds, you can talk them off. She will perceive this as a reward for speaking with you and it will build attraction.
Step #3: Start the Conversation Naturally
Remember the importance of serendipity to girls. They must feel like it was just dumb luck that they walked by you when then did and you decided to speak with them. Don’t watch the girl approach you. From the time you look up until the time you deliver your conversation starter, less than 4 seconds should pass. If you’ve done everything right up until now, imagine what’s happening from her perspective. She’s walking through a café or library and notices a cool-dressed guy sitting like an alpha male. To her pleasant surprise, he looks up as she’s about to walk by and asks an intriguing but harmless question. How exciting! It’s okay to start the conversation if she’s wearing headphones. She will remove them to answer your question.
Step #4: She Sits With You (If She Is Alone)
Within two minutes, you should have enough attraction to get the girl(s) to sit with you. If you don’t think she’s comfortable enough to sit or she truly has to go, you want to get her email address so you can friend them on Facebook. If she sits with you, continue talking. Don’t assume she has other plans, because if she did, she wouldn’t have sat. She’s interested. Once she sits, the model is the same: Sound Bite Qualify & Takeaway QR Story Qualify & Takeaway QR Story Qualify w/o Takeaway SOI Bond (10-15 minutes) Move Location (more on this in the next section) If she resists going to the new location with you (she may have work to do, she may be meeting a friend) then tell you’re going to a birthday party later on during the week and “if you promise not to embarrass me, I’ll invite you along.” Once she agrees, hand her
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your phone and she’ll know to put her number in it. Continue to talk to her for 5 more minutes before leaving. End the conversation with “Ciao” or flash the peace sign. I never say “goodbye” or “see you later”. I do something unique.
Step #5: You Go on a Mini-Date (If She Is Alone)
Once she has given you reason enough to find her interesting, you will invite her with you to your next location. It could be a coffee shop, the school bookstore (“Hey, I have to find a book on relationships for class, come with me. We can be detectives together. Like Sherlock and Watson. You’re Watson” Or, I’m going to <insert café name> they have the most amazing lattes. You should tag along.” Remember, you are cool guy who wouldn’t let some random loser interrupt your studying session unless that person was interesting, so you qualify her just a bit with these statements. Another great place to go is the nearby convenience store. If you’re broke, buy a pint of ice-cream. Now you have an excuse to swing by your dorm because you “need to drop it off” or “put the ice-cream in the fridge so it doesn’t melt.” Now she’ll come back to your room. Unless you are certain that she will go for the kiss, this isn’t the time to escalate physically. By letting her see your room for a few minutes, then telling her that the two of you are leaving somewhere else, she’ll be very comfortable when you bring her back later. She’ll also think you’re different than most guys because you didn’t come onto her or show any sexual interest the moment you were alone together.
A girl is in a library for a specific reason and there’s pressure to be quiet. A girl leaving the library is more likely to leave for a mini-date than a girl who just picked books of a shelf. She walks by, “Do you know when the library closes?” (she responds) “Thanks. Hey girls opinion on something before I get back to my work…” “Hey, do you know how to reserve one of the private study rooms?” (she responds) “Okay cool. Last time I walked into one without booking it and saw my TA doing naughty things with a classmate. Do you think it’s coincidence that she got an A?” Flag her with your hand as she walks by as though she’s a waitress. “Excuse me, can I get a Corona and an Atarol”. (she responds) “Oh I’m sorry. I thought you were the
they will feel uncomfortable talking to a guy sitting by himself. and if you’re with a friend. girls opinion on something. You use one the conversational starters from the previous chapter. you follow the same flow that we described in part three. Because she’s in the middle of saying something. you can sit with me.The College Guide To Dating . so she knows what to do. In addition to conversing with women in line and women who are passing by. you can interrupt her by putting your index finger over your mouth and saying “Shhh!” as though she is being too loud. hey. “Cool. and are carrying unstable trays. a soundbite. The best place to meet a girl is on line. If you are alone. you will say “you seem pretty cool for a library junkie. I don’t recommend trying to stop girls who are walking past in the cafeteria. a tease.” (she laughs) “You look like you needed a good laugh. she will comply. and girls feel pressure to socialize with their peer group. You can find more tips on wingmen in the blog. 56 . are hungry. and keep talking the whole time until she’s settled and comfortable. after your tease.Second Edition library waitress. you can talk to food servers. your friend will have no idea what you’re doing. then gesture for her to sit. you can sit as long as you promise not to copy my homework. then I have to get back to my work…” After these starters. Girls are typically there to meet friends. Or.” Another place similar to a cafeteria is the food court.” Gesture where to sit.. so long as you keep talking. a cafeteria is a lot like high school. In the library. You can move things out of her way. How’s your studying going?” (she will give you logistical information). then tell her where you’re going to sit and if “you promise not to shoot spitballs at me. Cafeteria Depending on your school. Here it is again as a reminder: Conversation Opener Mention Leaving Tease Soundbite Tease Sound Bite Qualify & Takeaway QR Story Qualify & Takeaway QR Story Qualify w/o Takeaway SOI Bond (10-15 minutes) Move Location (more on this in the next section) Then you get her to sit with you.
but get this…” Follow up with an Opinion Conversation Opener Tease Soundbite Get them to Sit • In all locations and scenarios.” You can also use a standard opinion opener.like through a text message” “Hey guys.The College Guide To Dating . You wouldn’t get upset if you asked someone for directions and they walked past you. so don’t be emotionally affected. You’re an amazing cook” (she’ll usually respond with “I didn’t cook it.. 57 .. If you have your laptop or phone. If she walks away and doesn’t acknowledge your conversation starter. you were just asking her a situational question because she was there.Second Edition Flirting with a server: “This food looks great. Maybe she didn’t know you were actually talking to her.. because she and I are just friends and I’m not the booping type. Maybe her boyfriend is at the next table.. Maybe she was late for class. I have to get back to my work in a sec. Make sure the next girl(s) didn’t see your other conversation starter fail. You guys seem cool. If you keep talking about “whether or not your friend should break up with a girl on facebook” she is going to realize that you really don’t have anything else to say to her. Your initial conversational opener should not last for more than 30-45 seconds. here are some of my favorite conversation starters: • “Hey. Remember. Is it okay to break up with someone over Facebook?” (she responds) “I think my friend Mike has been watching too much MTV because he wants to do it over Facebook. (look at your laptop as though you were just IMed) my friend Becky just told me she’s going to boop me? Do you have any idea what she means? I think it has something to do with SuperBad” (they respond) “Good. Just get back to your laptop or book.”) “So you just carry/serve it here and take credit for it? That’s just sneaky. you want to get off your initial conversation opener as soon as possible. girls opinion. Maybe you didn’t get your body language right. don’t look disappointed or follow her with your eyes. More girls will walk by to speak with momentarily. These are great places to meet college girls who are intellectuals or introverts. But I think he should do it in a more respectful way. Coffee Shop Most campuses have coffee shops or cafés.
you probably don’t have in iPhone either. You can also make friends with a few people who don’t intimidate you and organize a study session before a big assignment or exam. “Cool. Invite the girl you’re after to the study session and casually mention that you are the one putting it together. “What do you think about the professor? He/She kind of reminds me of you” or “Listen. Tell her she can come. I have to get back to my business plan anyway (build intrigue). Macs are more female friendly. The last thing I need is another girl doing that. but they have to go. this is playful and fun and you are challenging her just a bit. but because you seem nice. Anytime you lead people to do what you want them to do. and either say “I promise I won’t” or “I can’t make any promises.” Either way. but for reasons I haven’t figured out. I’ll make you a deal. it’s fun and she’ll give you her full name. she feels less pressure and is more likely to join you. You are SO 2007. When you tell her you’re organizing and it’s happening whether or not she comes. You just have to promise me that you won’t get drunk and write crazy messages on my Wall. the girl will perceive an increase in your survival and reproduction value. I think this is because you are teaching them something. Girls hate tech talk. talking about how great Macs are and the features you like is always engaging. Girls know they are not technologically inclined and are willing to laugh at themselves about this. It’s key that you tell her not to do something before asking for the email address or she will probably not give it you. Computer Lab 58 . For example. “Geez. If you started the conversation.” I have said this countless times with much success. If she has a Windows computer. Class You have every excuse to start a conversation in class. I don’t know you but you look smart.” Again.” This is playful and fun. you can playfully tease her for not having a Mac. get their email address so you can friend them on Facebook. She’ll laugh.The College Guide To Dating . Facebook strategy is described in Part 4 of the book. I’ll friend you on Facebook.Second Edition If you haven’t bought a laptop yet or are considering a new one.” She will laugh. but she has to promise not “to install a secret spy camera on you so she can see your answers during the exam. You do my homework and I’ll pay you in chocolate chips cookies.
Just look over your shoulder. As she completes paying. Cafeteria The only difference between standing and sitting is that you’re going to have to lead her to your seat. If she’s stayed with you this long. Once you finish paying. Come join me. but this is an interesting conversation. then say your opener. I’ll then turn to the girl. This will put pressure on her to follow you. My routine is logging on to YouTube.com. you want to get her attention with your voice. She’ll get a laugh and I’ll continue on with the conversation. mention that you have to leave soon and invite her to join you. Study Hall. When you’re standing. After you’ve gestured or taken a few steps to YOUR chosen table. Coffee Shop. you’re always leading the interaction. Here’s one of my favorite conversation starters to use in line: 59 . bench. Unless she has to go. Continue your story.. the girl could be standing in front or behind you.youtube. she will not want to be rude. the Flea Market Montgomery Rap. If she’s in front of you. Don’t lean in if she’s in front of you and you don’t turn around if she’s behind you. and she usually will. When starting a conversation with a girl in front of you. you want to step in front of her and begin walking toward your seat.” Then I’ll play the video. “I’m leaving in a few. My favorite “http://www. I’ve had girls respond to me by showing me videos that they like. she is interested. etc. but you have to promise not to eat my food. so she will stand and listen. It’s that easy.Library. you need to begin a sound bite that will last the length of your time to pay. Standing in Line . It’s okay to touch her briefly to get her attention.The College Guide To Dating . Sitting in front of a computer gives you the power to get very visual with your opening line. but without learning towards her (this encroaches her space and will make her feel uncomfortable).Second Edition My favorite place to meet girls on campus is at the COMPUTER LAB. and say “Have you seen this? My exgirlfriend just IMed it to me. stool.” While you’re saying this. It feels like serendipidity to her. You’ll need to keep her interested enough to stay with you while she pays and while you pay.com/watch?v=FJ3oHpup-pk” . Touch the outer part of her arm above her elbow lightly with the back of your palm for a second. it means that she’s going to pay first. and finding a really quick funny video.
you inevitably meet everyone.V. Then I’ll say “Apparently they refused to let anyone into the dining hall until the university offered a major in circus entertainment. Every time an adult film award winner thanks her family for her success. you should get 5 people over. Orientation is one of the easiest times to make friends. you are in a position of power. Meeting Girls At The Dorm I’ve had a lot of success meeting women at my DORM. Here’s how to use the dorm as a powerful tool in your toolbox. 2 guys and 3 girls. notably friends passing by. you take a drink. Park or Similar Outdoor Location If she is alone. It also gives you the excuse to knock on doors inviting people to your party. Some fun themes include a toga party. and the same approach works for an apartment building. the MTV movie awards. o A low energy event. you get the idea… see our website for more using your room as a social base of operations. Meeting girls in a dorm is especially easy during the first few days of school when no one knows each other yet. you want to get out of the quad as soon as possible because there will likely be interruptions. Psychologists say that 5 people can 60 . everyone needs to take a drink.The College Guide To Dating . Get people together to celebrate an event that you’ll be watching on T. “Heyyyy…you seem really familiar…were you one of the clowns?” This line can work anywhere on campus. Every time a certain team fouls. not necessarily the dining hall. Throw a themed party – people love parties. As the host. You might get people together to watch an election. Quad. or March Madness. a handcuff party. a white trash party. American Idol. When you host a party. CEO’s and corporate ho’s.Second Edition I’ll turn to a girl and say “did you hear about the clowns that took the dining hall hostage last weekend?” I let her respond. every time Simon insults Paula. Have some fun rules set up. A little later I break down how to get women into your room: • Have a social event. The Orientation Strategy pamphlet on our website tells you specifically how to capitalize on this. There are two kinds: o A high energy event. It doesn’t matter what she says. Make it interesting :-) At a minimum.” Then you look at her really suspiciously and ask.
Be known as the guy who has the best poker games. On that primitive level. You don’t want to come into a group of dancing girls and ask “Hey. Once you get a reputation for throwing fun get togethers. Have a lot of guy friends – Having guy friends will bring you more girl friends. Take a leadership position – I was the president of my dorm. you are communicating to girls that you are a LEADER. Needless to say I ended up sleeping with her a week later. The very first girl I really liked freshman year stumbled into my dorm room looking for a vacuum. 61 . Be known as the fun room – when people have fun in your room they’ll keep coming back. build bonds. people will flock to you. Perfect if you want time alone with one of the girls. I’ll start the conversation off with “You guys TOTALLY remind me of spice girls!” If girls are getting a drink at a bar. drink. • • • • Meeting A Girl At Night The way you start a conversation at night will need to be more HIGH ENERGY than a conversation opener during the day. play Halo. Think of each of your friends as a potential funnel to bring new girls into your life. When you are seen as the organizer of an event. I had an excuse to start conversations with anybody. girls will be attracted to your ability to lead people and create a fun environment. and have a great time. And you might just use this as an opportunity to invite people to your room event. Don’t like Halo? Get a poker game going. Enforce the open door policy – you never know who’s going to be bored one day and stumble into your room. opinion openers are O. This will be intriguing to women passing by. I remember having a crush on this sexy little blonde girl from Colorado who lived a few doors down. just make sure to have a smile on your face and look like you’re having a GREAT time. You don’t have to be the president to get results.The College Guide To Dating . and she’ll assume that you are not socially savvy. One day I knocked on her door and introduced myself as the president of the dorm and I wanted to ask her a few questions about what she thinks I could improve about the building. You want to come in with one of the night time openers we mentioned above or start with a tease.K.” Your energy level will be much lower than the girl’s. I loved hosting Halo parties in my room.Second Edition converse as a group comfortably or split into smaller groups. This benefited me in two ways: I was seen as a leader. what do you think about guys wearing pink. Usually dorms have “floor ambassadors” which give you a free ticket to knock on anyone on your floor’s door. Every few days a few of us would get together.
hook-up. and she would be right. She’s thinking to herself. do you?” (if she responds positively) “Okay cool. Park. The only difference is that her friends may test even after you’ve gotten past 62 . Regardless of whether you escalate to a kiss. dance. you are so adorkable…” On to a SoundBite. get drunk. Also. or Similar Location chapter when her friends approach. We can be friends. or Similar High Energy Location The biggest challenge is that girls will be out with their friends. and you will have deal with interruptions. she is not going to meet up with you or take your calls after the night is over. Note – this is a pretty advanced opener. and have a good time. Your course of action is to use the techniques described in the Quad. girls don’t necessarily want to bond with you. Why else would he call me?” I’ve made out with girls in 30 seconds and had sex with them in 2 hours – it’s not a surprise that I never spoke with them again. Mostly her friends coming in and out of your interaction. and your results will vary accordingly. “I never really got to know this guy. You can escalate with her physically because she’s looking for physical pleasure. you don’t mind handcuffs. Geez. if you don’t bond at night. You could be 10 minutes into a conversation with the girl of your dreams. she will know it’s because you only want to have sex again. So if you’re calling her the next day. then her friends will show up and whisks her away. and will feel like a slut the next day.Second Edition My favorite conversation opener during the night: “Hey. She will not have a connection with you. girls opinion…. is it okay to lock your girlfriend in a cage when she’s bad?” (she responds) “My girlfriend is being naughty. Concert. but he wants me to go out with him again. They have no mercy. If you don’t think you can pull it off. or sex. He must want sex. you have two options at night: • • You follow the steps with bonding You follow the steps without bonding At night.The College Guide To Dating . Party. kind of like you would be…I mean. feel free to get creative and try out your own. It’s your decision to bond or not at night. Another difference with a night scenario is that you can expect to physically escalate the relationship within minutes of meeting a girl. However. use the prepared openers that you’ve already read about. They want to go out.
I’m sure this is gonna end up in divorce. you deal with the tests using the same guidelines we talked about earlier. Get out of the bar or club and go somewhere low key so you can continue bonding. Next. When this happens. You’ve taken her to a quite place within the bar or party so that you can bond with her. corner of room. I never tell them where it is. hit them with a soundbite. you say to them. So now I’m going to tell you the easiest place to meet a girl and get her back to your room. so they’re not worried about you taking advantage of the situation. See the blog for more tips about late night dorm game. Plus. mention that you have alcohol in your room that you HAVE to get rid of by tomorrow. you only told them it would be five minutes. Here’s the flow: High Energy Conversation Opener Mention Leaving Tease Soundbite Tease Soundbite Soundbite Qualification & Takeaway QR Story Isolate Qualification & Takeaway QR Story Qualification w/o Takeaway SOI Bonding Story 1 Her response Bonding Story 2 Her Response Bonding Story 3 Move Locations Isolate is what you’ve already done. you want to continue with the same steps as during the day with the addition of Isolate and Move Locations. Once you’ve bonded.” Now you have passed their tests and got their permission to talk to the girl. Ready… It’s right outside of your dorm at night! Girls are coming come drunk and horny and their rooms are 30 seconds away. invite the girl and her friends back to your place for an after party or the the pizzeria for a late night snack. I tell girls I’m going to the “Gatsby Lounge to smoke hookah”. you want to move locations.Second Edition your girl’s tests. but it’s gotten me the girl many times. if you’re cool with it. Open with two teases. “listen your friend and I kinda like each other. so she is comfortable leaving her friends. but right now we’re gonna go sit over there for 5 minutes (couch. Now. When they get to my building. Logistics can’t get any better. Gatsby’s lounge happens to be the name of my apartment. If you’re with guy friends. they will laugh and come in. Girls will come to your room for alcohol. table. Once her friends like you. then qualify and takeback twice. It’s a cheap trick. etc). 63 .The College Guide To Dating . just that’s it’s very exclusive.
You should do this after you are sure that you have established attraction with the girl. Now let’s talk about the most pleasurable part of meeting women . but I can tell you have a little naughty side too. for more advanced indicators. You and I would never get along…we’d just end up doing the CRAZIEST things.escalating into a physical relationship.The College Guide To Dating . You have the prepared day/night/situational openers in the section called “How to Start the Conversation” and the location specific examples we just talked about. A good place to start is by asking “so what’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done? Something that you wouldn’t want your parents to know about. or at dinner. Step 5: Escalate Sexually During the day. The other day I saw two people having sex in the common area. What do you think about sex in public? 64 . you’re going to start escalating 15-20 minutes into the interaction.” Here are a few other questions: • • • • • • • If you were a stripper. you can check out the blog. You’re going to wait until you hang out at a party. You’ll do this by telling her stories and asking her questions.Second Edition Now you should have a really good idea of how to meet women wherever you are on campus. Escalating physically means you’re going to have to guide her into a mood where she’s thinking about physical pleasure. you’re not going to escalate physically. You should also make changes to your lifestyle to incorporate the dorm room techniques above. I mentioned the most important ways a shows she likes. The rule of thumb is – start escalating after your second bonding story.” This usually generates a sexual response. If you met the girl at night. Another common line that I use is: “You are totally a good girl. what your stripper name be? When was your first kiss? How many boyfriends have you had? How old were you when your parents gave you the birds and the bees speech? What turns you on about a guy? So what’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done? Something that you wouldn’t want you’re parents to know about. a movie.
but you’re really turning me on right now. The point of asking the escalation questions above is to get that first kiss physically. If you meet her during the day in the quad you probably shouldn’t be asking her really sexual questions.Second Edition • I was reading Maxim the other day. Do you think it’s important to be a good kisser in a relationship? Are you a good kisser? (she says “yes” or “I think so”) Well let’s find out. you just have that look in your eye” and continue the conversation. women like to kiss. and it’s non-committal. Did you know that the average age a girl loses her virginity is 15? How do you feel about that? I lost mine at 17. what about you? When’s the last time you were really turned on? Have you ever watched porn? Are there any fantasies that you haven’t played out? What’s the craziest place you’ve had sex? • • • • You get the idea here…as she talks about sex. Just like everything else.The College Guide To Dating . she thinks about sex. (If she says “no” then you say “I didn’t say you could. Try again in 5 minutes) I don’t usually kiss a girl on a first date. Like I said. on a scale of 1-10. If you meet her at night at a party or at a club. Here are a few: • • • If I were to rate how good of a kisser you are. A woman 65 . Getting the Kiss Women love to kiss and it emotionally bonds them to you. It’s fun. getting a kiss is quite natural. there are soundbites we use to make the kiss seem natural. When you follow the flow from meet to bond. I’m trying so hard not to kiss you right now • • These five are all I need. then all questions are fair game. I can tell. it’s important to calibrate what you ask depending on when you meet her. Again. She needs to be thinking about sex to want it. you want to kiss me right now. how would I rate it? (she answers) Well let’s find out.
Second Edition can be out with her friends. she’s one of those Rockette people in Vegas. you’re more likely to kiss her before I you get her number. well check this out. I actually introduced the two of them. and they won’t think she’s slut. how good of a kisser are you?” (her response) “Well let’s find out…” Sweet…. do you think being a good kisser is important?” (response) “Alright. I think that kissing is really important and since she sucks it’s eventually going to drive them apart.The College Guide To Dating . My friend is always complaining that his girlfriend is a terrible kisser. really nice girl. He’s already talking about moving in and buying a dog. Anyway he wants to take things to the next level with her. she’ll be waiting for you to 66 . and she’s more likely to give you her number after you’ve kissed. kiss a guy. In fact. Here’s an example of how I start escalating the kiss… “Hey. If you meet a girl at night. Personally. Here’s an updated flow: During the day: Conversation Opener Mention Leaving Tease Soundbite Tease Soundbite Soundbite Qualification & Takeaway QR Story Qualification & Takeaway QR Story Qualification w/o Takeaway SOI Bonding Story 1 Her response Bonding Story 2 Her Response Bonding Story 3 Move To A New Location Bonding Story 4 Her Response Schedule To Meet At Another Time 5 Minutes of Conversation Get her Contact Information 5 minutes of conversation Leave Escalate on the next date (if it is nighttime) At night: High Energy Conversation Opener Mention Leaving Tease Soundbite Tease Soundbite Soundbite Qualification & Takeaway QR Story Isolate Qualification & Takeaway QR Story Qualification w/o Takeaway SOI Bonding Story 1 Her response Escalate Verbally Bonding Story 2 Her Response Escalate Physically (kiss) Bonding Story 3 Move Locations You may be wondering why I’m telling you about how to kiss the girl before I tell you about how to get her number. What do you think?” (her response) “Are you a good kisser?” (response) “On a scale of 1-10. The fact is that there isn’t a linear relationship.
she will return your calls. If you meet her during the day. class starts in a few minutes. and after an hour of conversation.Second Edition take it. Do you have one of those cell phone things?” Once you have her number. Then you’re going to learn how to make the numbers “solid. What’s your number?” “I have to get back to my friends now. Out of the 5 or 6 that he meets with. within 5 minutes. Girls give away their numbers for many reasons. You can ask for her number during any part of the interaction. to get the number: • • • • “So you definitely seem like an interesting girl. Let’s exchange contact information. continue talking to her for 5 minutes. If you spend 30 minutes bonding. you’re more likely to get her number than to escalate to a kiss. Getting Her Phone Number I got numbers within 30 seconds of meeting a girl. you say “I don’t know about you. but it was nice talking with you. First. Sometimes it’s to get an ego boost. gets 25+ numbers every weekend. After you get the number. This simple step will dramatically improve your chances of getting a solid number. and sometimes it’s because they want you to go away. I don’t pick them up. Not all of the girls whose numbers you get will actually be willing to meet again. she knows it’s you when you call and it also lets her know other people are calling you. 2 or 3 out of 67 . He invites them all to lunch but only meets with about 5 or 6 of them. I’d like to continue this conversation another time. So I’ll call you now and you can put me into your phone. One of my friends. but when I get calls from numbers I don’t recognize. a 6 foot tall body builder wrestling team member. If you promise me that you’re not secretly an escaped felon. sometimes it is because they like you.” You can save me as “Amazing (enter your name here). you’re going to learn how to get the number.” “I’ve really got to get going. let’s exchange contact information.” First.” “You’re pretty cool.The College Guide To Dating . The girls I spent more time bonding with ended up returning calls more often. but let’s continue this conversation another time. Now let’s talk about getting the number. but you’ll be more happy with your results if you wait till after you’ve spent 30 minutes talking. he only gets 2 or 3 over his apartment.” This way.
“Ok. It could be at the quad. at lunch. Why don’t you join me? I think you’ll enjoy her work. she is more likely to agree to see you again. set up a time and a place to meet. I haven’t had a chance to go yet but I’m planning on going next week. she is way more likely to show up. Getting the phone number is step 1. I am more exciting. she’s really talented. Next you have to find a way to get her to see you again.” (You’re Busy: When you make plans. she’s really talented.” Let’s take a closer look at what I did here… “Did you know that our school has it’s own art gallery? Yeah I didn’t know until my friend had her work’s work was featured there. then tell her when you’re free. at a bar. “I’m busy Tuesday and Thursday but I’m free on Wednesday.The College Guide To Dating . No touching the paintings though…” (her response) “I’m busy Tuesday and Thursday but I’m free on Wednesday. etc… When a girl is talking with you and feeling the emotions of attraction toward you.” He’s giving up too easily. Keep pushing the 68 . You make plans to see the girl in some SPECIFIC time and place in the future. But you CAN take steps to increase the number of girls who you will be successful with. “Ditch those plans. at your dorm.) If she responds with an “I already have plans. You are going to show her that you are a fighter: answer. “Did you know that our school has its own art gallery? Yeah I didn’t know until my friend’s work was featured. So BEFORE you get the number. never mind then. (Pre-Selection: This doesn’t necessarily mean you’re preselected by women but it shows that you have talented female friends). Here’s how I suggest a time to meet up. in the library. arrange a time to meet up again while you’re still with her.” the average college guy would answer with.” Most likely she will not ditch her plans but at least she will think that you are exciting. If you want to play like the pros. No touching the paintings though…” (Teasing: you’re telling her you want her to come but you’re also qualifying her at the same time and making a joke).Second Edition 25! This is not because he does something wrong. you always tell her when you’re busy.. I haven’t had a chance to go yet but I’m planning on going next week. Setting Up a Time to Meet This is simple. but because girls will be girls and there is nothing we can do about that. Why don’t you join me? I think you’ll enjoy her work. after classes. When you get her to agree to meet you again while you’re with her.
In the time you were apart. or be really tired. had fights with girlfriends. Now you’re going to learn how to keep in touch via telephone. Call at some point when you think she’s free. getting the phone number is natural and easy. So you have the number and hopefully planned a time to meet in the future.” Once she gives you her phone number. You can be positive that when you contact a girl for the first time by phone. This is exactly why we set up a time to meet. Once she has already agreed to meet. Otherwise she’s going to think getting her number was your goal all along. I like to text a girl about a day after I first meet her. “Ok I’m busy at night but I can do the day. you call. “I’m still a little concerned that you’re going to try to experiment on me when I’m sleeping. you do too. You’re going to have to re-attract her all over again. The reason why we only text three times the day after is to show that we are not needy and are busy doing things that don’t involve her. “Hey little shrimp. You Got the Number. “Friday during the day or at night?” (I’m free during the day).” Then I’ll follow up with a commonality that we both shared. her emotional state will be different than when you were actually talking with her. it’s your shrimp daddy”’ or “you were the cutest little attack ninja I met last night/yesterday. she is less likely to cancel regardless of the emotions she is feeling after she left you.” Keep the entire back and forth conversation to a maximum of three messages each. she could have been stressed over an exam. I would go so far to say that communicating via phone is an art.The College Guide To Dating . 69 . (mention when you’re busy)” Once you make plans to meet. Now What? Just because you have her number doesn’t mean you’re home free. “Ok let’s exchange numbers so that we can find each other. Setting a time to meet up is important – do it as often as possible. this is usually after dinner between 8 and 9. If she takes 40 minutes to respond. The next day. I’ll text her something funny like. On campus. never refer to it as a date. It reminded me of you.” If we both enjoy tennis then I could follow up with “Hey I saw this girl miss ten balls in a row on the tennis court this morning. Take at least 20 minutes to respond to each text. Also. talk for at least 5 more minutes.Second Edition conversation: “Well when are you free?” (She says Friday).
Choose a place where you can carry on a conversation and avoid date-like activities such as dinner and movies. I just saw the CRAZIEST thing EVER. If you think she forgot who you are then you probably don’t have much confidence in yourself. If she offers to pay for something. When You Meet Up Check yourself! Is your hair done nicely? Are you fingernails clean? Do you smell good? Did you shower? Do your clothes match? Did you brush your teeth? Is your breath minty fresh? How is your posture. You can call me back” Or “Jeanine. When she thinks back on your time together. Talk about meeting up ten minutes into the conversation.. so now we have the date (ahem. I’ll call you later. it’s Mike. she’ll ask herself “Have I spent enough time with this guy to sleep with him?” Spending 3 hours at 4 locations will give the impression of more time spent together than spending 4 hours at one place. If you have already made plans. meet up) scheduled.The College Guide To Dating . it’s Don. After you make the plans or confirm them. If possible. follow with “Listen. take her on three or four “mini-dates” throughout the day or night. this is your chance to confirm them. creating a deeper bond and a deeper sense of comfort. let her.. You are NOT going to believe what just happened to me. In those last moments before she sleeps with you. spend 5-10 minutes building her emotional state through teasing and soundbites and bringing up your commonalities. tell me now so that I don’t waste my time. So if there is even the smallest chance that you aren’t going to show. I leave the same message almost every time. are your shoulders back and head up high? Now you should plan for logistics. (high energy) “Sarah. Good. Now you will learn what to do when you meet up. or the locations you visit during your meet up. she’ll remember a range of places and emotions.” This shows confidence as well as scarcity.” When she calls back or if you reach her without getting to voicemail. it implies that she might have forgotten who you are. If she wants to split the cost. Logistics. agree to it and don’t make a big deal 70 . then use a routine similar to the one I wrote about above.” or “Hey Jeanine. is key. leave a quick message. Call me back. If you haven’t already set a time to meet up.Second Edition If you get directed to voicemail. I hate when people are flaky. Don’t mention where you met. Keep your spending under $20 for the night.
For most guys. Pick a place where she isn’t likely to be disturbed by friends every few minutes. Move to another place. You don’t want to be the guy who’s just roaming around the park without a destination. If she doesn’t like the location. I’ll pull away. Have a few locations picked out before the date. I tell her that this whole experience is really turning me on and that she smells great. Then I’ll pull her into the bookcases and make out with her. It’s just one less thing you have to worry about. A woman’s emotional state is fickle. Let’s go. Know where you’re going at all times. and since we’re only 5 minutes away from my place it’s easy to get her back – “I know this 71 . After the museum. By the time my last mini-date is over.” She will follow you. After about a minute. and brushing against each other. look her in the eye.m. She can feel completely turned on one minute and totally neutral the next. The library at my school has a museum that is dimly lit and usually has interesting artwork. “I’m in the mood for my favorite ice cream. The first mini-date will be about 30 minutes from my place. It’ll also reduce your stress level if you know what you’re doing ahead of time. She isn’t going to make out with you in front of people she knows. Craft your choice based on your commonalities and the ability to constantly make physical contact such as holding hands. At any moment she can be ready to escalate things physically and you don’t want to be an hour away from home when that happens. it will show in your body language. It’s also a few steps away from really isolated bookcases. the ultimate purpose of the meet up is to have sex. and the final mini date will be 5 minutes away. she will take notice. If you don’t like the location. high fives. the next mini date will be closer. She will lose attraction for you if spend a lot of money on her. and say “So do you try to take advantage of a lot of boys in the library?” Then I’ll go back in and kiss her.The College Guide To Dating . After another minute I’ll pull away and walk back into the museum.Second Edition out of it. You can be sure that at this point she is really turned on and you have a good chance of getting her back to your room or to a more isolated location. it’s usually about 1a. you have a big obstacle to overcome. If you do a good job of selecting places you like and that appeal to her. continuing to spike attraction by teasing her while kissing her and throwing in a few sexual innuendos. I’ll walk around the museum. Avoid sitting across from each other at a table. I’ll usually take a girl on three mini-dates.
” I know that you can get any girl you want. Throw in a few comments which make her realize that you are the one in charge. Use the questions that I wrote about above to build the sexual tension. but at the same time defend her from bullies. This way.” Mindset During the first conversation. hookah. “you are not like the other girls that I date. I’ll take you there. You are definitely more engaging.The College Guide To Dating . You have to tease her but make sure that she knows that you still like her. If you promise not to embarrass me in front of the owner. even if you don’t. “do I look too trashy in these clothes?” she is definitely expecting a typical guy answer like. Here is a good example: If a girl just happens to say. If you get 10 points you get the prize. You just moved up a level in my ‘potential date-o-meter’. bond over your commonalities. “You know. If you get a slap on the shoulder or a friendly “OMG!” then you are on the right track. It is also important to communicate that you are not intimidated. “what do I talk about?” Think of the date as a very long bonding phase combined with sexual tension escalation. now that I think about it…you do” with a smile on your face to show that you are just playing around. 72 .Second Edition awesome little lounge with great music.” You should say it in a tone that states. your date is lucky to be eating lunch with a guy of your caliber. +5 cool points. “Your ability to engage me in a conversation is definitely a positive attribute. Remember that YOU are selecting her. “No honey. and build the sexual tension. You can accomplish this by saying something like. Here are some topics of conversation that you might be able to find commonalities in: • Hate/Love Celebrities – women love to talk about the latest celebrity gossip. so read perezhilton. What do I Say? One of the most common questions people ask me is.” You and I will answer. you look super classy. and on the date. Since you have such a close relationship. You’re going to want to take the time you have together to convey your high survival and reproduction characteristics. and cheap drinks.com before you meet up. you don’t feel or act nervous. Good…now onto the date (ahem…meet up)…. It’s only 5 minutes away. Act as if your date is a friend that you have known for many years and are completely comfortable with. your mindset remains the same. you can poke fun at her.
Here they are: • Loneliness – If you ever tell a girl that you are lonely. always did nice things for you and never complained. and learn about hers However. if you talk about being depressed then she may call an end to the date sooner then you thought. or drink the same drink on every date.The College Guide To Dating .Tell stories about your friends that illustrate their fine points. very quickly and rapidly lose interest in them. Girls do not want a guy that is lonely because that means that he is needy. girls do not want needy guys. People get used to things very. • • Predictability Ahh…predictability. always gave you massages. Depression – Once again. They want something NEW and EXCITING. there are a few topics that you should NOT talk about. Telling her that your ex left you will only make her want to leave you. but find out if she’s a fan of a local team and talk about the fun sports stories you had Music – Ask a girl what her first concert was and tell her about yours Movies / Plays Travel – Girls love to travel and love a good story Classes –Gossip about your professors Ethnicity – Talk about how your identity is important to you Relationships with family – Talk about the importance of family Mac or PC? Friends . Ex-Girlfriends – This is a big one. You know that new cell phone that you bought? How long did it take 73 . This shows her that you have been pampered in the past and expect to be pampered by her as well. Predictability is the one of the most common mistakes guys make. Don’t tell her that they ditched you because you were too this or too that. That’s right. it will be the last night that you see her. You will have more success breaking into Fort Knox wearing a bright orange jumpsuit than in your relationships if you plan on being predictable. keep it to yourself. Guys and girls both want EXCITEMENT! Girls do not want to go to the same place.Second Edition • • • • • • • • • Sports – don’t bore her with details. If you were depressed in the past. Don’t talk about your ex-girlfriends unless you have something positive to say about them. talk about the same stuff. eat the same food. What you should talk about is the fact that your ex always made you breakfast.
” Do you see what this does? It shows that I have other things to do and she is not at the top of my list. Put yourself in her shoes. so before she says more on the topic of this mysterious girl. When she is alone. Don’t get too caught up in this conversation. while acting confident and calm. then a comedy club. or go to the bathroom. (pause and look at your watch) I have to get up early tomorrow but you can come in for a few minutes. I say “Well. girls get used to guys in the same way . “Oh. If she gets the feeling that you are not completely comfortable with the situation. When she is at my door. PLEASE. Receive a “surprise” call on your cell phone. I always pretend like I am doing HER a favor by letting her into my room. she wants to hang out tonight. I don’t really care what you do outside. this would certainly set her straight. Three words…Don’t seem needy! If you seem like you need her to come up.” in a friendly/joking tone. Don’t act strange or nervouse.The College Guide To Dating . Act like you do this all the time and its completely normal. If you were a girl going into a guys room for the first time. she is going to get freaked out. which is why this works well. do you wanna like come up to my room to watch a movie or something?” Lets compare this with what you and I are going to say. Don’t be predictable. Give her a tour of your room and then let her hang out alone for about 3 minutes. but I told her I’m reading to the blind. then go to a club on the next. she needs to feel comfortable with your room/apartment/house/ etc… unless of course you want awkward conversation and no chance of getting anything more that talking. “Um. When you get back into the room. The average college guy would say something along the lines of. Taking Her Home Trying to get a girl to come up to your room is usually the most exciting and nerve wrecking part of the date. 74 . but wait at least 3 minutes before going back in.you have to mix things up. she has time to get acclimated to the new surroundings.. then a jazz bar. Pick up the phone and walk outside. If she previously had any feelings that I was a needy guy.Second Edition you to get used to it? A day? A week? Maybe a month? Guess what. a restaurant. Ask her if she wants anything to drink or munch on: have some drinks and snacks ready. Once inside. then she is going to leave. they never stop calling!” She’ll laugh and ask you who it was. wouldn’t you feel a little nervous? She probably will. just some girl I met a while ago. divert her attention onto something else. talk to people. say “These girls can be such a hassle. If you go to a movie on one date.
She will not be receiving any instant gratification. Each step you take is more sexually intimate.you can have the same effect just by talking to them. One of my favorite techniques is called two steps forward. call her out on it and say “Are you going to join me or just sit there and think about me all night?” Once she’s comfy on your couch. then take one step back. If you leave it in a place where she is sure to see it. She’s expecting you to continue escalating. and even magic tricks. one step back. When you take one step back. After taking two steps forward. turn on a DVD and get comfortable on your couch or bed. You also do not want to give her what she wants.The College Guide To Dating . She needs to really want it before she gets it. she’ll have no choice but to tempt you into taking more steps forward. but we know better than that. I’ll put money on her leaning in to kiss you or hinting at you to kiss her again. all the way up through sex. We know the value of having her chase you. For example . The key here is to take two steps forward. If she is. After 15 – 20 minutes of conversation. stop and just hold her hand. she will bring it up and you will have something to talk about. stop and then go to the next step: then… 75 . Think of the time from kissing to having sex as a set of stairs. In fact. these are only props . spend about 5 minutes watching the movie and then move onto the next step… How do you know when to make your move? How do you know when she is ready to be kissed? Well…that’s what I am about to teach you.if you’re kissing and playing with her hair. Do this for the progression of the escalation. I’ve used mystical books on palm reading. handwriting analysis. Of course. she will be turned on. If she doesn’t join you. learn a few simple coin or card tricks and watch as a girl’s eyes light up as you perform them. Here is the progression that will guide you: Watch the movie for about 5 to 10 minutes: then… Reach out for her hand and softly massage it for about 3 minutes: then… Touch the tips of her hair for a few seconds and look to see if she is enjoying it.Second Edition Keep a conversation piece in plain site.
then… I don’t care how hard she throws herself on top of you. then… 76 . say “mmmm. someone can’t control their hormones.The College Guide To Dating . do the same thing. you smell so good”: then… Lean back and watch the movie for a few minutes. Right when you feel her about to return your kiss. (while doing this. then lean over and kiss her gently on the neck for about 20 seconds. lean over again and gently kiss her on the neck for about 1 minute. Go back to watching the movie: then… After another 3 minutes. Control Yourself! Now you have to wait for a sign showing that she wants you to continue. If you are no longer teasing her then she becomes less stimulated. If you go from one step to the other to quickly. all you have to do is ask. then… Once you start making out. Then continue kissing her on the neck and shoulders for another minute. If she puts your hand on her breast. lean back in disgust and say. Slowly make your way up to the lips.” This command is definitely new to a girl. starts taking off your clothing. so you are sure to stand out. you are no longer teasing her. “wow. then… Nibble on her chest and neck for 2 minutes while avoiding what you really want to touch. then you’ve got your sign.Second Edition Start caressing her hair again.” then… After another 2 minutes. or mentions why you aren’t taking anything else off. then… Continue kissing her on the neck and shoulders for another 2 minutes and then slowly take off her shirt. be sure to take your time with everything. you have to resist making out with her until she asks for it. Except this time when you lean back. say “Since you want me so badly.
She should be able to make you feel great and she deserves the same luxury. I am sure that you know what the next step is…that’s right…getting laid. After about 2 minutes. You don’t want to push her beyond her limits. It’s important to be able to please a girl sexually just as it is important for her to be able to please you. If you avoid it. upper body. Keep teasing her until she begs.The College Guide To Dating . and then slowly working your way up to two. you will always other chances to 77 . By this time she should be moaning like crazy. then… Continue by taking off her bra. Remember that if at any point your date tells you to stop. continue to gently kiss her and run you fingers everywhere except for her private areas. Wait for another signal. then stop. then… Keep running your hands all around her body and use your mouth to gently suck on her nipple. Hooper or another type of “Sex for Dummies” book. If you want to learn to be a great sexual partner. If not. stop and say. then… Take off her underwear. then… Wait for another signal. Remember to avoid touching anything private! Just imagine how much a girl wants you to touch her at this point. gently suck on it. tease her a little more by fingering her for another minute. then… It’s time for your first big move. you have to beg.” At this point she will be begging. Don’t bite it. If you play the cards right. Do this for about 30 seconds. then… For about a minute. You are going to start by fingering her with one finger. and outer rim of her underwear. then she will become incredibly turned on.Second Edition Take off her pants but leave the underwear on. “if you want me to go any further. Run your hands gently on her legs. then pick up a copy of Great Sex Games by Anne J.
She will ask you what is in the bag but do not tell her. please do not interrupt”. But I counted you twice because I like you. One option is not to escalate.244.The College Guide To Dating . If you expect your roommate to return.” Another consideration is what you do when he is home & will not leave. and tell her to wait outside my door (or a lounge or lobby if you have one). Instead take her hand and tell her to follow you. write “studying for exam.Second Edition take her even further. then read palms. You can meet him another time. If you share a room with someone. She is not going to ask “when is your roommate coming home?” because she does not want you to know that she is thinking about sex. think it was not meant to be. drinks and snacks. I put a condom in my wallet at this point too. I would take her to my floor. a piece of paper. I took girls there. but after a fun day together you tell the girl you have to finish a paper and will call her again soon. take out the paper and marker. its just the way that they are and that doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with us. I’d come out moments later with a backpack filled with a laptop (with funny DVD). scotch tape. She will either laugh or say “how many girls have done this with?” You respond. playing cards. a marker and my palm reading book. If I knew I would not have the room to myself. Dealing with Roommates If you have your own room. at this point. “6. The brain of the college girl may. When you start the movie. you cannot escalate sexually if he is there or if she is concerned that he will return. You end the night with a passionate kiss and say “listen. Remember what you read earlier about serendipity.” 78 . She will probably ask you about him indirectly. do not escalate until you know he will be away for the two to three hours. where I would play cards. “I think he’s on a date and will be gone for a while. Most girls won’t have sex with you on the first date. then watch a movie – all the while escalating to sex. It is not easy to do. I like you and you’re just gonna have to deal with it. If he interrupts when you are at a critical point in the escalation.” Then you meet up and go through the process again. I learned that there was a study lounge in another dorm with a couch and decent view of the campus that no one ever visited. and tape it to the door. you can skip this section. She will just ask a question about him such as “where is he from?” When she asks about him you answer the question and then say. she will feel like a slut and maybe even leave.
Be cool and relaxed. the golf course. Tell her you’ll call her later and send a funny text the next day. In her mind. don’t show any frustration and act as though you don’t expect to continue hooking up. 10. You’re trying to reason logically in a highly emotional moment and it will turn her off. pull back. there were no condoms. show her how into the moment you are. If she is still resisting the third time around. She evolved to think twice before consenting. leave the bed again. a private library room or to a rooftop. Having sex meant getting pregnant. be cool. you probably won’t get any 79 . such as a quad or park. it’s natural for women to resist.000 years ago. Dealing with Discomfort She May Feel When you escalate. you no longer need to worry about where to have sex. Research suggests that women initially resist sleeping for evolutionary reasons. she’ll worry that the moment has passed. If the weather is warm. you respond with “I know. You can communicate openly about whose room you sleep in. this time for a longer period of time. Be sure to bring a blanket to sit on. You’ll have to start the whole process again. kiss her lightly on the forehead and get up to check your email (“oh crap. More on specific text messages to send in our blog. Chances are. we should stop” and keep going. If you return and she is still acting weird. If she chooses to leave. Don’t talk to her. You can bet she has never had a night like this. the pond. the river. If she continues to resist. from arranging a time and place to meet. the gorges. the football field. If you get resistance when you’re about to have sex. Saying “No we’re not” doesn’t hit her on an emotional level. She’ll either stay the night or leave. you can also have midnight picnic somewhere. They don’t know you and need to protect themselves.Second Edition You have to find a place on your campus where you can use this routine or a similar one. one second. If she says “We’re moving too fast”. Once you have had sex with the girl. and will WANT you to come back. If she comes back again. even if she acts weird. a building you know is always abandoned.The College Guide To Dating . Other places where you can take a girl include a garden. I suggest you tell her you had a great time and you’re ready to go to sleep. the lake. 10 minutes later she’ll be comfortable and ready to have sex. I forgot to email my professor”) or make some tea. to getting her back to your place.
This happens to me sometimes.Second Edition resistance. 80 . Sometimes you will work for the girl you like.The College Guide To Dating . Don’t be phased.
These are your outlook. you can mention these as some of your core beliefs. Gatsby’s 10 Laws of Getting the College Girl As I went about meeting college girls. traveling. 81 . I take my education seriously but I don’t stress about it and I don’t feel the need to complain about being overwhelmed. You should absolutely enhance these three as you’re improving your body language and conversation starters. It wasn’t until the end of my journey that I realized I had learned the 10 Laws below. You have to take this section of the book as seriously as you did the other parts or your results will be reduced. I have no doubts that I’m going to kick ass in the world once I finish school. Within weeks you will see results. the more you are able to teach her.Second Edition Part 3 . and interested in the world around him.When you’re bonding with a girl and telling her what’s important to you. your style. I can’t wait! 3. or meeting new people. HINT . I’m not afraid to leave for a new location when school ends. I CAN’T STRESS THIS ENOUGH. and they were the foundation of my new outlook. I’m not intimated by being on my own. I realized that there were a number of unspoken rules that I was following to be a desired college guy. Here they are. there are specific aspects of communicating who you are that are equally important.Getting Yourself Together You have just read the culmination of four years of hard work. This is because then more you know. Apply them. Now that you know what do with the girl. 2. Your Outlook Girls want a guy who is positive. The 10 laws are: 1. Re-read them every week. These rules had become a part of me as semesters passed. and your living space. confident.The College Guide To Dating .
the fraternity guys. 7. The typical college freshman asks himself questions like “why is this happening to me” or “why do I have to go to class?” or “why is my life so bad. etc. If you give it enough time. I took the time to understand what the root of my fear and frustration with women was. I’m not going to stop doing them for anyone. I don’t label other types of students and I appreciate them all. When I started improving this aspect of my life. I’m always loyal to them. but I will gladly involve someone in them.The College Guide To Dating . even if it has to make things up. his mind will find the answer to these questions and will tell him why he is forced to go to class and why his life is so bad. I am not intimidated by popularity or status. It is so intricate and complex that no scientist is even close to figuring out how it works. I can talk with them all. As people go through their lives they are constantly telling themselves stories about their own lives. I’m so content with my life that I don’t feel the need to complain about my school.” GUESS WHAT. 6. Completing the exercises below will help you overcome the main fears and doubts you have about yourself. One interesting activity we all do without realizing it is constantly asking ourselves questions. I have my own interests in addition to school. The soccer team. I have my own style and I care about my appearance. Constructive/Deconstructive Questions The mind is a very powerful tool. 8. I bring this up to show you that many people are the source of their own failure. your mind WILL find the answer to your questions. I have a great group of friends who I have chosen to let into my social circle. I realized that my fears were illogical. I know what celebrities are doing and I appreciate that this is important to girls. and I put them ahead of girls. How can he expect to improve if the only thing that he is hearing is why he is doing something wrong? For someone that is 82 . They are doing their thing and I am doing mine. Create a Positive Mindset Thinking positively is really important. the cheerleaders. 5. and our subconscious mind is constantly answering them.Second Edition 4. I never complain about my friends. they were a set of rules and assumptions I had been told by society. It is a supercomputer capable of miraculous things. 10. 9. I’m interested in pop culture.
So it is very important for you to ask positive and constructive questions so your mind can answer them accordingly. 83 . Now let’s look at the answers that your brain will give you when you ask the SAME question constructively: it now goes “what can I do to become successful with girls?” • • • • • I can go to the gym and work on my appearance I can read about what attracts women. Will you take 5 minutes to make a list now? What do you think you can do to become more successful with girls? I still make these lists. I use this technique as a stepping stone to all my selfimprovement tasks.Second Edition looking to improve their life. I can work on my personality until it becomes magnetic I can ask successful guys for help and study how they attract women I can ask my ideal woman what she thinks is attractive and become it And the list goes on and on. you will begin to feel better about yourself instantly. Great! Now that you’re asking positive questions. “why am I so bad with girls?” • • • • • I am not good enough for them I am not smart enough I am not good looking enough I am not tall enough I am not rich enough Asking yourself a deconstructive question will reinforce bad results. asking negative/deconstructive questions will destroy their chances.The College Guide To Dating . Check out some of the answers that your brain will throw at you when you ask yourself the very common question. • • • • • . and not just for meeting women.
” Do you see the difference here? As you hear yourself asking deconstructive questions. I usually have 5-6 bullet points per answer.The College Guide To Dating .” You should change the question into. “how do I make girls like me. Here’s an example: Change “Why can’t I meet girls in class?” to “How do I meet girls in class?” Answer: 84 . Turn them into positive questions and ANSWER the positive questions.Second Edition Below are a few common negative questions that guys come to me with. I also listed their PROPER positive counterparts: Deconstructive Questions Why do I always fail with women? Why is finding a date so hard? Constructive Questions What can I do to succeed with women? What can I do to make finding women fun and easy? What can I do to make talking with women fun? Where can I go to meet attractive women that I like? How can I make myself irresistible and get laid whenever I want? How can I improve my personality to make girls attracted to me? “What can I do to make starting a conversation fun?” Why am I scared to talk to women Why don’t I ever meet attractive girls? Why can’t I get laid? Why don’t girls like me? “Why am I so scared to talk with women?” Do not to use negative words in your questions! Changing “why do girls hate me” into “how do I make girls not hate me” isn’t good! You are still using the negative word “hate. write them down (I had two pages worth).
Use the space below to list them: • • • • • I’m scared to approach girls… I’m scared of failure… Now. ask yourself “Why” • I’m afraid I’ll get rejected because I don’t think I’m good enough 85 .Second Edition • • • • • I can memorize or create 3 prepared openers for the classroom setting I can get to class early and take a seat next to a girl I like I can organize a study session and invite her to it I can use my telekinetic powers to get the professor to make the hot girl and I group members I can make friends with her friends. I felt a sense of hope that I never felt before. Drilling Down To Fear's Origin In order to get rid of your fears when it comes to women. ask yourself “Why” • • • • • I’m afraid that they will reject me… I’m not sure why I’m scared to fail…maybe because it will make me feel bad Keep drilling.The College Guide To Dating . It was the first time I knew that I could take control of my life and find a path to happiness. first we need to find out what they are. Have you REALLY gone through the exercise? When I first did this. So if you didn’t take this seriously then go back and do it! It’s important. for each of your fears. I had a path to success. this way I’m more likely to get introduced to her in a smooth and natural way Good! Check out our blog for more on self-improvement. Again.
Well guess what. I can make interacting with women fun and exciting. Let’s take the second example. A guy is scared of failure because failure will make him feel bad.Second Edition • • • • Keep going. Using our own logic. He’s associating failure with negative 86 . The good news is that the reasons for your fears are often irrational and has absolutely no basis in reality. ask yourself “Why” • • • • • I don’t think I’m good enough because I don’t know what to say and I don’t think that I’m good looking (End Of The Drill Down) I think that failing will make me feel insignificant because I equate success to feeling good and failure to feeling bad Analysis As you drill down you’re going to notice that your fears have very specific reasons for existing. This fear is SUPER easy to overcome. regardless of how I look. In this case the guy is scared of approaching because he fears getting rejected. Repeat your concluding sentence over and over until the fear goes away. “I know what to say and I know that if I flip the right switches a girl will have no choice but to be attracted to me. Your fear can no longer exist. It will. The real reason for being scared to approach women is because he feels he isn’t good looking and doesn’t know what to say. He thinks he’s going to get rejected because he doesn’t feel like he is “good enough. I promise. There is logic behind your emotions. Now we’re going to take this fear and create a concluding sentence. a girl will have no choice but to be attracted to you. we’ve eliminated the reasons why your fear exists.” Write this statement down next to your fear. the fear of approaching women.” He doesn’t feel like he is good enough because he isn’t good looking and doesn’t know what to say. If you flip the right switches.The College Guide To Dating . Let’s take the first example. you just read an entire book on what to say and you know that looks are just a small portion of her attraction to you.
Think of the guys you see them with.Second Edition emotions. Think of all the really hot girls you see at school. you will associate your interaction with POSITIVE feelings. I can tell you right now that each of those guys has a sense of style roughly equal to hers. I regularly meet guys who absolutely refuse to change their style one bit and I get lots of questions about how to dress. Your Style and Its Importance Style and fashion are POWERFUL WEAPONS to be used when meeting college girls. Success makes me feel good. girls will love you and they will start conversations with you because they will be 87 . the girl you are interested in may be preppie. but if you do not. EVERY INTERACTION IS A LEARNING EXPERIENCE. how much many parents have) of the students at your school. If you nail style by dressing in the latest fashions with a great hairstyle and popular labels. you can easily get any girl. guys have more trouble making changes with their dress than with anything else in this book. There is a correlation with your style and the attractiveness of women you will get. you should consider the importance of style and dress and you should make changes accordingly. Moreover. if you have no interest in style you can limit your options in terms of the attractiveness of girls who will be attracted to you. sorority. As soon as you see every interaction as a success. Our concluding sentence is “Every one of my interactions with women is a success because every girl I talk to will teach me something about myself. Drill down all of your fears and you will see that they can be turned into positive statements and positive emotions. Are you one of them? Is the thought of buying new clothes and getting a haircut from a stylist making you uncomfortable already? You are not the first. you are limiting the types of women you can get relative to how you dress. Even though style is so critical. But if you are stylishly dressed. Your style does not have be the same as hers. Here is the deal with style. goth. If you dress better than most girls. and therefore every interaction is a SUCCESS. and the socioeconomic (that is. How about this. If you approach the next few weeks of your life as a learning experience. hip-hop. etc. all of these girls will be attracted to you.The College Guide To Dating . What is stylish will vary some based on your location. ethnicity.” We’ve destroyed two fears in a just a few minutes. Also. You do not have to make any changes. punk.
Girls complimented it all the time. if not all. Armani Exchange. having this lineup will serve you well. Labels and style are important to girls. She is speaking with you. You can read more on dress at my blog. • • • • • • • • 5 pairs of stylish jeans 5 T-shirts 7 long sleeve shirts 1 blazer Boxers or boxer-briefs. They pay attention to the clothes other people wear. Wear sunglasses during the day when you are outdoors and it is at least partially sunny. Your Living Space & How to Leverage It 88 . T-shirts with color and imagery are to be worn. Abercrombie & Fitch. Banana Republic. It was their conversational starter. Two pairs of sneakers coordinated to your shirts A belt with a flashy buckle Do not wear an old backpack around campus. are fashionable labels. If you wear a hat. so she gets to see your eyes. Wardrobe Necessities If you don’t know what to buy or how much. It was nicer than every other guy’s bag. and American Apparel right up through more expensive brands. Buy a stylish new bag that rests over one shoulder. Zara. and definitely do not wear it over both shoulders like you are in elementary school. Once you begin talking with a girl. Girls don’t know sports team and don’t care what team you support. take them off as a reward 2 minutes into the conversation.The College Guide To Dating . Hip and trendy means all of your clothes were purchased within the last 12 months or sooner and most. Do not wear sweatshirts (unless it’s a hoodie) or sweatpants. No tighty-whiteys Colored socks. These include the Gap. Rock N Republic. H&M. These are the basics of style and dress. make sure it is stylish.Second Edition curious about you. Ed Hardy. I splurged on a faded black patent leather over the shoulder bag in college.
You can easily have the most interesting dorm room or bedroom. When girls enter a room that looks like it belongs to an older man. Always take compliments in stride. do not leave it lying around anymore.Second Edition An appealing living space will get you more girls and will get you girls faster.The College Guide To Dating . • • • • 89 . If you share a room. These are the same things I have in my room. New sheets color coordinated with your comforter. Word will get around that you have a nice space and women will come up with reasons to come by and they will complement you on it. Here is your room checklist. Be sure to occasionally release her hands. • 3 pieces or more of coordinated art or photographs –Make sure you have a story to tell for them. A simple “thanks” will do. Girls were always comfortable in my room and I stood out from everyone else. Have two pillows because she will be wondering if she can sleep comfortably in your bed. Once you have slept with the girl. followed by the joy that you are touching her again. It will give you a reason to touch her hands without her feeling uncomfortable. A book on palm reading – I have one called “Life’s Little Guide to Palm Reading”. I had the best looking room and was fashionably dressed. Most guys rooms and apartments look the same. but it will make a measurable difference. you can either take care of your side or get your roommate’s permission to make changes to his side. Sodas or beer – If you can make gin & tonic (one part gin to three parts tonic) plus a lime wedge. Along with having female friends and being fashionably dressed. It was the last thing I did when I underwent my transformation and I saw a difference immediately. then take them again. you do not need to. Like improving your style. they feel a spike of attraction because they perceive value and security. it is the third most important thing you can do that does not require practice interacting with girls. You are tapping into their desire for survival. This will build attraction when you bring the girl back to your room A piece of girl’s jewelry – I leave an earring or barrette around to communicate pre-selection. Many guys do not want to improve their living spaces. A second pillow will also communicate pre-selection. even better. She will feel a sense of loss when you do this.
please. She wanted me to kiss her SO MUCH. unless you want to be pissed at yourself for letting an 90 . a great way to bond with a girl when you are alone is to have her type her home address into Google Maps so she can show you where she grew up. please. When the moment is gone. She was dying inside. We clicked really well and I could tell that she was into me. At this point I was mad at myself for letting the opportunity to take our relationship to the physical level vanish. I felt like such a coward. The point is. Let me give you a really current example.Second Edition • An interesting item you got while traveling that you can tell an SBS about. Why? Because of serendipity. Point out important locations from your neighborhood and describe them passionately. This will fill her with positive emotions. Then you type your address and show her where you grew up. it’s gone and you don’t know when you will get it back. waiting for me to make the move. It was obvious that she was into me – I could tell based on how she talked (flirting) and her body language (rubbing up against me and hitting me on the shoulder “Like OMG!”) We were in the room for about a half an hour before she said. A picture of friends from home An air freshener A nice laptop or monitor if you can afford it • • • Incidentally. and a car that would not start. I wanna show you my new goldfish. The story involves a crazy shop owner.” When we got to my room. I have a ram’s horn that I bought while traveling the Mediterranean. but for her it needs to feel natural. Seize the Moment What I’m about to tell you took a lot of time and gut-wrenching pain for me to understand. I am meeting my classmates for a review. You’re probably willing to make out with her anytime. If at any point on the date you are in the moment that beckons you to lean over and kissing your girl. please. I met a nice girl while eating a late lunch (5:00 PM) at the cafeteria in a dorm. I told her “If you’re not busy. If you don’t.The College Guide To Dating . you will regret it to no end. do it. On the way out of the cafeteria. “I’m sorry but I have to head over to the library. my ex-girlfriend. I failed.” There was nothing I could do except let her out. it happened to be completely empty (this is rare considering I lived with two roommates). Lunch usually lasts me 20 minutes but this time Stephanie and I talked for about an hour.
Second Edition opportunity go. age 5 or so. change it. Before you contact girls. If it is a headshot of you in your room alone smiling into your webcam. I suggest making these changes to your profile. to show the girl you’re a real person and one picture of you in a suit. “It’s like catching lightning in a bottle. not what they do. It’s common that people regret what they don’t do. so she knows you can dress for important occasions. make the move. while looking over my shoulder at the camera and cocking my eye. bring a camera with you everywhere you go and start taking pictures. because it’s not coming back. General Pictures If the girl you met was attracted to you. she is going to look through every picture you’ve posted. Profile Picture You should be somewhere interesting or mysterious in your profile picture. and WITH OTHER GIRLS.” So do me a favor and don’t be afraid to make the first move. You can use Facebook to meet girls as well. Post as many pictures as possible of you doing things. being with friends. If you don’t catch it the first time. You continually increase the number of girls you have as friends (which means you are pre-selected) and you can use it to set up dates with girls you have met. Your profile picture should convey mystery and fun. Part 4: Bonus Chapter – Using Facebook Facebook Strategy Friending girls on Facebook accomplishes two goals. 91 . You should post one picture of you from early childhood. As my mentor says. If you don’t have any pictures with other girls. You can never have too many pictures of you with girls. but that is not covered here.The College Guide To Dating . In mine. just as look you at the pictures of girls you are attracted to. Check my blog for more on Facebook. Facebook Profile Basics There are four elements of your profile that the girl you friend will check out. I’m sucking on a lollipop in a club. too bad.
There are two ways you will communicate with a girl on Facebook – message and chat. I found that if I waited more than 72 hours.Second Edition What’s On Your Mind You should change your status every 2 to 3 days and each post should mention something that you recently did. “is riding high after an all-nighter” and “is about to record some killer drum tracks. you should friend her within 12 hours or she will lose interest altogether. Girls will wonder why you had an all-nighter and who you bought tickets for. Here is where it gets easy. Facebook Communication If you are friending a girl on Facebook. hate school. Lastly. Otherwise. 92 . Your posts should convey action because you are busy doing things. Relationship Status Leave it empty.” These show I am doing things. or are looking for love. remove those. This suggests you are looking for a girlfriend and therefore are not a challenge. If you are at a small school or will see her again.The College Guide To Dating . Either way. it means that you either did not get to a point in qualification where she was comfortable enough give you her phone number or you did not have enough time to get it. then you can wait 24 hours. My last three posts were “just bought Phantom of the Opera tickets”. the girl may wonder why you are not doing anything on a weekend night. Do not type “Single”. only 20% of the girls who accepted my friend request responded to my messages. if you have posted messages on other people’s profiles asking them to contact you. Message and chat structure follows the normal attraction process. Do not send friend requests on Friday or Saturday night unless you go to a school where it is common for people to be home then. Do not post status updates that are negative – such as you are bored. are unhappy. You do not want the girl thinking that you ask people to hang out with you.
First you send a message. you message her based on the time it took her to respond to your post. such as “I totally saw you drop your food in the cafeteria again… is that like 3rd time in two weeks…” or a simple “think you’re gonna pass the physics final…”.The College Guide To Dating . which other girls will see. so don’t get drunk and post crazy messages on my wall. Sample Messages “Hey. this is a turn off. you should post a leading question on her wall. If she ignores your first message.” These messages subtly qualify her. This convey neediness and desperation. while making it seem like you are a high value guy. She will think you were a faker when you met and she will ignore you. You ask playful leading questions so you stimulate her emotions and also because she will write on your wall. she gets boring messages like these all the time. They should be conversation in tone.” “You seemed pretty cool when I talked to you earlier. If you do my people will take out a restraining order and you can’t come to any of my parties.. From her point of view.Second Edition Message Structure Your messages should always be short. If she responds to that. you post a message on her wall three days later. If she ignores. Never send back to back to messages. Admit it…you’re paparazzi! I know you’re gonna get filthy rich when you sell those pictures. I saw you hiding in the bushes last night when I got home. Never post “hi” or “what’s up” or “call me sometime if you’re free and we can hang out”. I knew you followed. It builds jealousy and shows that you are pre-selected. If she ignores your message and post. Moreover. assume she has lost interest and move on. The message structure is… Tease (see samples above) (she responds) Short SB + qualification (she responds) 93 . but I will never talk to you again. never more than a few sentences.
Any longer and she will begin to wonder why you do not have anything else going on. “Cool. “are you studying or hacking into the Facebook accounts of your ex?” or “you are always on Facebook.Second Edition Reward.The College Guide To Dating . I bet you’re on it in class too?” After that. Girls hear that ALL the time and these words do nothing to attract. because I’m leaving mine at home.” The qualification questions should be light and fun. If she won’t give it to you.” (you tease) (she responds) “My friend cooked lunch and one her friends looked like you. For example. keep it light any playful. Chat Structure Always open chats with a tease.. Chats should last 5 to 20 minutes. (she responds) “But she chewed REALLY loudly and complained about everything. (she responds) You say. Remember. Takeback + Qualify (she responds) … go back and forth two or three times … Reward + Invite her along with you to something you already have planned (she responds) Get her phone number “in case something happens”. Don’t say how excited you are to meet. You don’t have to respond to her messages right when they come in. They need their rest. “Hey. She will be more attracted to you if she feels like she is chasing. I met your evil twin today. if she keeps messaging. don’t meet up with her because she will flake. qualify.” (she responds) 94 . c ya later. or bond her to you. you are a busy guy out doing things and lots of friends message you. Don’t bring your entourage. it’s been a crazy week. Never with “hi” or “what’s up” or “it was cool to meet you”.
95 . I rarely tell a girl that until we are on the way. but always be the one who ends the conversation. If you’re a good little ninja.Second Edition “Are you related to her?” (she responds) “Ha. You do not need to follow it exactly like this.” (sexual tease) (she responds) “If the Iranians tried to kidnap me. Never openly make sexual comments or compliment her beauty. you’re funny.The College Guide To Dating .” Tease SB Qualify Reward – This is the basic structure of Facebook chat. (reward) I bet you’d be the good twin if she was your sister. Do not end the conversation immediately after she agrees to meet up. Putting It All Together Congratulate yourself for completing this book. and don’t forget you numchuks”. Within a month. They love the mystery and being surprised. For example: “it’s 4 am and you’re still up. and you did not even tell her where you are going. Are you still thinking about me?” or “you’re fiesty… you’re like a little attack ninja” (tease) (she responds) ”I’m gonna get you a red spandex ninja costume. As the chat progresses. your teases and qualification questions will turn slightly sexual. You have just made plans to meet up with her. You’re going to see some amazing changes in the coming weeks and months. would you karate kick their asses?” (qualify) (she responds) “You’re awesome. Within weeks. Simply use the structure as a guideline and it will drive her crazy because she will be chasing you. you’ll be kissing girls. I will take you somewhere special tomorrow” (reward) (she responds) “Meet me in the quad at four. you’ll have gotten your first phone number. This was the first step. Chat for another five minutes.
P. I read every email I get.S. not a poet.Second Edition As significant time passes. You’ll need it to keep track of all your dates. You can email me at gatsby@collegeguidetodating. 96 . Also. let me know if you find a typo. You are finally ready. where you will suddenly see a new piece of the puzzle with girls and get insight as to what you want and don’t want.com. so go out and get them! Continue to check out the blog and interact with other students who are taking the same journey. I want to hear what you have to say and would like to hear your questions/comments.The College Guide To Dating . Buy yourself a planner. you will have periodic leaps in understanding. I’m a lover.
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