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Using Palmistry to Learn Seduction.
Introduction ___________________________________________________________ 4 Palmistry______________________________________________________________ 7 Should I learn to really read palms like it is taught in a palmistry book?__________ 10 Your first palm reading: four lines and a mound. Five readings. ________________ 13 Timing your Transitions ________________________________________________ 28 Troubleshooting your delivery. ___________________________________________ 33 Confidence ___________________________________________________________ 35 When her Personal Questions Come. ______________________________________ 40 Getting her phone number. ______________________________________________ 47 Her Strategies. ________________________________________________________ 50 The Advanced Palm Reading ____________________________________________ 56 Selling-it routines. _____________________________________________________ 67 Girls you have already kissed. ____________________________________________ 70 Changing the direction of a conversation and use of comedy. __________________ 75 Using Language Effectively. _____________________________________________ 81 Female Obstacles (Chaperones) __________________________________________ 84 Male Obstacles without girl listening (a.k.a Befriending Male Obstacles) _________ 90 Male Obstacles with girl listening. (a.k.a Going Head to Head with Competition) __ 96 Your Male Friends. ___________________________________________________ 100 To go depressing or to stay positive. ______________________________________ 102 Closing words ________________________________________________________ 104 Appendix Ia: Filling out the “Selling-It” Routine ___________________________ 105 Appendix 1b: The Simian Line __________________________________________ 110 Appendix Ic: When former child abuse victims blow up in fury mid palm-reading and other tips for dealing with girls who have dark pasts that you uncover. __________ 111 Appendix II: On other methods of fortune telling.___________________________ 113 Appendix IIa: Runes for Romantic Encounters. ____________________________ 115 Appendix IIb: The Cube for Romantic Encounters. _________________________ 120
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Introduction My heart has become capable of every form: A monastery for Christian monks, The pilgrim’s Ka’ba, The tablets of the Torah, And the book of the Qur’an. I follow the religion of Love: Whatever way Love’s camel takes, That is my religion and faith. Ibn ‘Arbani, 1215. Becoming more attractive for a man is a path of self-improvement. For attractiveness in a man rests not in physical appearance so much as in the disposition of the soul and the way he moves and interacts with the world. This book is about winning girls, especially girls you do not know. Thus it is about the first, opening stages of the relationship, not the later ones when trust and mutual responsibilities play dominant roles. The book will take you through a process of change, tweaking the way you interact with women and the world in order to have you take power in social interactions, find a rhythm and peace in the way you act, and put beautiful women into your life. The path to growth you will take is that of Casanova: the action of thoughtful relations with the world, rather than the inaction and isolated meditation of a Buddhist monk. For we all interact with women we have many inner turmoils that manifest themselves in our actions. Your fears, insecurities, vanity, pride, sexual identity, and lust are all exposed by your desire to have her and your interaction with her. This book is really about becoming an attractive man. You are going to go out into the world with a curriculum, some things to say, to build confidence and learn charisma and how to be attractive. When you go out there you will be dealing with women during the early stages of a relationship; that is before the trust, mutual respect and friendship that are the hallmarks of an ongoing relationship are established. The skillset in initiating relationships is quite unrelated to maintaining relationships, meaning that the well meaning advice of people within relationships is often quite misguided. Part of winning girls is empathising and understanding them, part of it is about understanding yourself, part of it believing in yourself as a worthwhile person, and part of it being confident in yourself. These come together in the opening stages of meeting someone new of the opposite sex as it does in few other fields of life. To win girls whom you have only just met requires controlling the interaction, working it to achieve two goals: getting to know her well enough to decide whether you want to further the relationship, and interesting her enough in you to the point where the decision to proceed is mostly yours. A large part of what I am going to teach here is that you are going to learn to read palms. I am also going to ask you to tell some of my stories, and respond in some ways that I
respond. These are examples, and I encourage you to replace the material with your own stories and routines that reflect who you are once you have mine working correctly. Palm reading here is simply a vehicle to something deeper. It will never be the only thing you say to a girl, but I will get you doing it properly so that correct action and intent can flow into all your conversations with women relations and your life once you stop reading palms and return to your own topics of conversations. Palm reading has been chosen as the teaching vehicle because it encapsulates many of the important lessons in transforming yourself to a man in control of his love life. While palm reading is a skill unto itself that is worthwhile for itself and will take some learning, the ability to read palms is not the outcome objective of this curriculum. I will use palm reading to teach the following: • • • Controlling the frame of the interaction so that you are driving the direction of the conversation as a strong man rather than following the conversation to wherever it goes. The appearance of confidence that, with success will drive a change to real sexual confidence and the ability to show yourself for the attractive individual that you are. Understanding what a girl is thinking at any time within an interaction by taking feedback from the structures of the conversation. Understanding what she thinks is a skill that is useless if you do not understand what to do with this information, and this calibration to her internal thoughts and dilemmas will be moderated with building an intuition for what actions you need to take given this information. The use of lyrical language and imagery to fire passion. The tailoring of messages to your audience, and the proper choice of relevant detail to include within your conversations. Changing the tone of the conversation from just-met-you banter to the comfort and intimacy of exploring each other and sharing and understanding how a fledgling relationship moves in its dynamics. Confidently escalating physical intimacy and touch to get the relationship on physical level that involves human touch and sharing. Transitioning relationships towards the sexual. Dealing with her friends as well as your own including her male friends, and negotiating the rocky path of jealousy and possessiveness. Taking her from within her peer group within a social situation so that she can be one-on-one with you in an interaction that is simply about you and her.
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Palm reading is a tool that will teach all these things, and the lessons are designed with the larger objectives in mind. That said palm reading is a valuable skill that I am going to have you invest in learning. Once you have the skill, using it to learn the larger lessons, you will see its value for what it is, and may well decide to keep the skill in your life and continue to read palms even after the larger lessons have been learned. Palm reading as described here is actually very scientific. But instead of drawing on the details of the creases in her palm, it draws on universal experiences of childhood, 5
adolescence and early adulthood – especially the needs to be loved, to be seen as desirable, and to believe in yourself, as well as the joys and fears, achievements and pain that are part of ‘growing up’. These universals are well documented in psychology, philosophy, sociology and religion. In thinking about them systematically, in experiencing them and knowing others, we learn about ourselves as well as the others. Change does not come without hard work and practice. You will never become a good tennis player without the practice of hitting many balls and you will not magically become good with women without going out and flirting with girls. To that end, a large part of what you will learn will happen in the real world. Whilst I can explain the lessons you are to learn, true understanding only comes when you see it working, make your own mistakes and have your own epiphanies that feedback from the real world will reinforce. To that end, I am going to ask you to go out into your world to practice. Into the anonymous social situations around you. When I say anonymous social situations, I mean the places in public where you do not already know the people, and they are anonymous to you. You should go out to the bars and nightclubs, or to the coffee shops, the shopping malls, you should practice on the waitresses that serve you in your restaurants, bars and cafes, and perhaps on the attendants of booths at trade shows or even other attendees of houses that are for sale and are open for inspection. Anywhere that there is a social interaction to be had where what the people think of you is unimportant compared to what your co-workers think of you. Although you will invariably also practice within your social and professional circles, anonymous situations reduce the risks you take to nothing more than an experiment.
Girls whose religious beliefs are impinged. she blocks the rest of the world out and concentrates on what you are saying. Even girls who you would not expect to like having their palms read love it. she kisses you shyly on the cheek. Palm reading is a vehicle to talk about your philosophies on life and draw her into your worldview and how you see the world. I was once at a bar in Nashville. her blue eyes completely fixed on me. The rest of the world has faded away. Tennessee and started chatting to a beautiful Southern Belle who was there with her Church group of people. This learning to read palms will be a good exercise in understanding where you can go with general conversation with a girl to increase levels of intimacy. dreams and philosophies.Palmistry Girls love getting their palms read. She is riveted. With the girls in your life whom you know well and are comfortable. We were in a deep dance of intimacy together. In fact most of our conversations that we have when meeting new people are conversations that we have had before. You are touching her. It does not matter if they are scientists or religious fundamentalists they love it. Her eyes are as big as saucers. palm reading will become one of those conversations that you will have all the time just like “what do you do?” When you run a conversational thread often and get it polished you become highly familiar with the texture of the conversation and reading where any given girl might be in her mental space at any point in the conversation. A Southern Baptist fundamentalist who gets in the river for full body baptisms. Palm reading is totally against her religious beliefs. you spend your time talking about all sorts of things including your ambitions. or other guys surround her. Communicating at this level of comfort and intimacy is important in your interactions with women and this book will not just introduce palm reading as a conversation piece. looking deeply into your eyes. After the palm reading. For example. searching for understanding. Nearly every conversation that you have is routine. It is you and her together in a warm intimate bubble. and talking about her innermost thoughts and beliefs. She is smiling and blushing. however it was after reading her palm that she told her friends that she would make her own way home at closing time. Palm reading dives you straight to this level of intimacy when you have only known a girl for a few minutes. With that information you are in a good position to handle correctly a question like “do you just want to sleep with me” 7 . The interaction that occurs within a well-done palm reading is indicative of a larger interpersonal dynamic that occurs at the beginning of every relationship that is initiated. but she loved the experience. It does not matter that her best friends. and you can use it to jump to the sort of intimacy that she reserves for her boyfriends and closest female friends. we were explicitly together. When you sit down with a girl and read her palm. and the fact that you and her are together and on the way to intimacy is explicit. I had also introduced myself well and interacted well with her group. while you are following this course. When you are asked “What do you do?” it is a conversation that you have had often before. and you know where the conversation goes. At the end.
If you see this. and enabling you to understand other ways of doing it. When we look at a symbol (from which we get the word ‘symbolise’) we perceive its inner meaning at the same time its outer reality. When that happens. It will guide you in word choice and you will develop a skill to access past and future thoughts and feelings in your audience that you will be able to take into your general conversations that you have all the time. Hopefully. Part of what you will start to recognise with the book is the symbols that the girl is giving you within the interaction. Thus freed from reliance upon outer form. 8 . An inner balance that needs to be achieved where you are relaxed in your world and the world is easy for you. A discussion of palm reading starts in the middle of an interaction with a girl. the world changes for your presence and finds a new equilibrium with your relationship to it. It will allow you to come up with similar material on your own. by the time you have finished reading this book. The veil of separation between outer appearance and inner state has been removed. that you will notice that all the readings start to sound a bit the same. and build your intuitions for the best ways forward.throughout the conversation. These things are no different from what you want to do in any interaction with a possible love interest. 4) Get her thinking about you sexually. 3) Have her attracted to you. 5) Escalate the physical intimacy to get you and her comfortable touching each other. then it is good. There is an art to being a single man. and their underlying meanings so that you know how to deal with situations that are thrown at you. Palm reading will also encourage you to develop a vocabulary of the rich inner workings of the mind. Palm reading is a routine that changes the energy of the encounter from the high energy of interaction that comes with first meeting someone to the personal interrelation that you have with someone that you are becoming more intimate with. This palm reading routine has the correct power relationship with the world as part of it. I will give you ways to handle such situations. The outer form is simply a veil that separates us from its inner reality. the inner reality of the symbol can speak directly to us. illustrating how the mood moves. common outer patterns with larger underlying meanings. The advantage of an established vocabulary of symbols is that once we are aware of the symbolic meaning we no longer need to use our analytic mind to work it out. A well-done palm reading should achieve the following: 1) Peel away her pretences and talk about her as a real person 2) Entertain her and get her enraptured and drawn into the conversation. right on the cusp of the change. They are all somewhat generic and contain what I call symbols.
When you are there. and exert your presence in the world so that the world modifies itself to accommodate you in the room. when you go out there and read palms. Important to any interaction with women is that you are enjoying yourself. That is the only way that she will enjoy it.and I give you the surrounding routines to allow you to maintain your power even when she is testing it. the women come easily to your life. I do. you are able to have meaningful relationships with women that do not come from any sense of neediness or compromise that effects your happiness. and this in turn enriches your experience of life as well as any girl who is lucky enough to be a part of it. If you keep the equilibrium at the right point. If you are nervous or would prefer to not be in this situation. Once there. 9 . You must be relaxed and be enjoying your conversation with the girl. So. and I hope reading this book and using this routine gives you a lot of pleasure and brings rich relationships to your life. Where you get into a certain rhythm of living where you have both a certain disregard for societal norms. enjoy it. and your life can develop a rhythm of women moving through it. When you have the inner relationship with yourself correct you can enjoy the experience of being single and find a way of living that gives you joy and inner peace. you will be attractive to the opposite sex. it will be telegraphed.
Plato I am going to dive you in head first to get you started on the palm reading. Amhurst.Should I learn to really read palms like it is taught in a palmistry book? Whatever deceives men seems to produce a magical enchantment. 2 obstacle readings and 1 reading that goes into sexual themes. I understand however that you may have some objections and feel awkward about the fact that you cannot really read palms like a new-age palmistry book might teach.W. I. so your mind can be freed to concentrate on the dynamics of the situation rather than what to say next. Encyclopedia of the Paranormal. In a study by G. I have been reading palms constantly since then. and in order to learn. but rather a test of whether different practitioners confronted with the same palm agree. By the time you are doing advanced readings it will come more slowly because the readings will be yielding success that leaves you speaking to each girl whose palm you read for several hours. I cannot even identify the minor lines or remember the planetary names of the fingers. Commit to at least that now. Palm reading is not real. 10 . So the first thing I want to do is address some of your objections about actually going out there and reading palms. and count them off as you complete each. and Kelly I.. 47 – 99.). Here I am going to present you with material to say. but learning-by-doing is the best way. I present here the palm reading as a teaching aid. I have forgotten how to because I never use that information. I want you to commit to doing a minimum of 5 beginners readings. In G. 1 Dean. That is not a test of whether it actually works. This is premature before I have discussed the concepts. Mather A. 5 advanced readings. G. Many men do not have a good feel for what to say after they say “hello”. A minimal test that any reputable method of diagnosis or divining ought to pass is that of reliability. While if you want to learn to truly read palms.. I give you here just the bare bones of palm reading to get you doing it while discussing interacting with females at length and in that way I am not teaching you to really read palms like a gypsy might. relying on my content. NY: Prometheus Books. I once had the skill set to do a genuine reading. This represents a minimum and you will learn much more than twice as much by doubling those numbers. While if you want to discard the palm reading once you have learned the lessons in this book and have mastered the skill set. Some of you reading may be doing so for the understandings about interacting with women while feeling you need not do my exercises and and have no intention of actually reading a palm. myself. Stein (ed. You could easily go out to a bar or shopping mall and complete 3 beginners readings tonight. I would encourage you. That is not a large task. despite reading mountains of palm reading material years ago when I first started to read palms. Dean and colleagues the reliability of different fortune telling was tested1. Therefore. have completely forgotten all of it. I very strongly encourage you to go out and read them. Learning the entire system that those selling books on palmistry would have you learn does not drive towards this goal. (1996) Astrology.
I want to give you ideas. You may feel that you are a rational thinker. If you want to believe it. the reliability looks at if the method is systematic enough to produce the same wrong verdicts. and indicated near total randomness. This course may seem like there is memory work involved where I am offering readings to memorise.8 (a correlation coefficient of 1. only the fact that they are not “truly reading palms”. Just throw away your belief while you are learning this course. The beauty is that none of the readings is ‘correct’ or ‘incorrect’. when the test judged psychologists on their assessments in structured psychological interviews.Even if their verdicts are wrong. I will walk you through the philosophy whereby you can come to a position that you are able to read palms and still present yourself as a rational thinker who believes in science and is sceptical of the supernatural.0 would represent perfect disagreement. Further. and you should not end up with a memorised routine at all but rather a unique mind-space where you are driving the interaction by the seat of your pants. (and interestingly for astrology was 0. For comparison. That each palmist says different things does not attest to the skill of the palmist. making decisions as you go and driving the interaction from within. They each have their own truisms that are different from each other. we would have a very different result.11.1 … you would think at least they would be able to be consistent). 0. I do not believe there is any fortune to be read in a palm that contains any “truth”. That you would never believe in such ‘superstitions’. Palm reading does not do well in such a test.0 would represent complete randomness or lack of association. options and an understanding of the mechanics of an interaction. the correlation coefficient was greater than 0. the psychological profile. I do not read the palms of men (unless I have to get to their women) and I am not interested in what the palm really says. it comes from understanding the underlying ideas. But if the question were asked of the subjects: which did you enjoy more and which describes you better. the palmistry or the astrology. People love palmistry and can see their own lives in it. I only read palms in a situation where I am initiating a relationship. the reliability coefficient for palmistry was only 0. -1. I am going to hook you into this world. There is nothing there to actually read. fine. 0. Skill in palmistry is about entertainment and engendering understanding. I believe that the study does not test the right things however. and it is those reactions that you should be concentrating on. In that way. What the study tells me is that palmists are saying different things.) Against this. The etchings in her hands are not the important things. and you can be assured you are one of those palm readers giving the fantastic readings. It is not a hobby for me. The readings are measured against only one criterion: the reaction they get. In the ‘selling it’ routine chapter.0 would mean perfect agreement. learning does not come from memorising what I have said and repeating the words. 11 . in the same study. and how other people see you in the world. That is me as a sceptic.8 is pretty good. and that reading a palm is completely incongruous to how you see yourself as a person.
One that you run all the time. or a pool player you will know that there is a sweet spot on the club or cue or pool ball or tennis racket where if you hit it in the right place it makes a beautiful sound and the ball just carries beautifully. you will. One that you never forget no matter how long since you last used it. substituting lines for things you feel work better. and you can get yourself together your own that can only be an improvement on mine since my readings are those that you can fall back on should that change not be an improvement. You will find. After you have done a couple on your own. if you decide you want to retain the ability to read fortunes socially in your life. but I will make that reading as small as possible whilst still making it a foundation for the larger readings. as part of this course.However. Once you are getting success from reading palms. 12 . in your own world and completely into each other. and the readings are always good. It is when you can be yourself and the girl can be herself and you can vibe off each other and really enjoy each other. Where the two of you are really enjoying each other. have to memorise a couple of things to get out there and do your first reading. The memory load is very small compared with learning to actually read palms. One that is adapted to your style of reading palms. But enjoying each other enormously and getting to know each other better. A palm reading is part of the interaction. You ramp up each other’s feelings and it just feels good and right. you can practice moving towards the sort of language that I have presented while making it your own. Neither taking the other seriously. Something changes within you also when you hit it in the sweet spot and it is a very pleasant sensation for the player. In order to get to this sweet spot you need to find the right mental space complimentary to hers. you can run it over and over again as is. it will grow organically as you test new things and you will find yourself with a standard palmreading routine of your own probably quite different to mine (that I include in ‘The Advanced Reading’ chapter). and you want the palm reading to drive you towards a sweet spot seduction so you know what it feels like and can find it with all your interactions. and be yourself in the interaction. Similarly in a seduction there can be a sweet spot. my palm reading is a springboard from which to jump. once you have that first very small reading together. All you need to remember at the beginning is the small cheat sheet on page 15. If you are a golfer. filling in the language yourself with your own words to begin with.
or what line crosses what when. You read the palm towards your goals regardless of what the lines say. and is an exception to the rule. Examine your own palm and you should be able to identify the lines easily. I give you the drawing so that you know which line you are pointing at as you are talking about the reading and philosophies that you want to talk about. but you can start where you want with whatever routine you want once you get confident. The picture is self-explanatory. in his love choice. Traditionally if you count these lines they will tell you how many children you are going to have. See Appendix I for details). The actual lines are not important. this is called a Simian Palm. because this is all you need to know. however. A palm reading routine is a modular routine. I put this routine together through trial and error of starting in different places and inserting different modules. 1900 This is the only drawing that is important in this book. who can unhesitatingly receive the projection of his soul. The Mound of Venus is the fleshy “mound” between your life line and your thumb. Carl Jung. you will not need to take any note of which shape these lines are. Relations between the Ego and the Unconscious. This is not the reading I give to them. Five readings. and this one is just to get you started. in short. A man. or how deep they are. The advanced routine I present a little later is longer than this. is strongly tempted to the woman who best corresponds to his own unconscious femininity – a woman. (Note: if your heart and head lines are joined. I am suggesting a place to start and a place to end.Your first palm reading: four lines and a mound. I have intentionally made it reasonably 13 . The children lines are the lines on the side of your hand between the bottom of the little finger and where the heart line curls around your palm. When you are reading her palm.
and fill it out yourself in a way that is natural to you. and then at the end I have removed all the comments for easy comprehension of the text of the readings. Children lines: tell her she is fertile. The five readings do not need to be remembered word for word. and even your initial attempts should yield new relationship opportunities into your life. Summary (cheat sheet) Intro: explains the major lines Fate line: tells her that she had an experience where she had to grow up before she was ready. It will get you out there speaking to women to practice flirting in a thoughtful and constructive way. It wont be the best palm reading ever. Use your own language to describe this. It does not contain any overt sexual material. It will get the job done. It is easy. and ascribing common human conditions to her. you are actually reading deeply into your own soul. Mound of Venus: tells her that she has a caged heart and she needs to open herself up. Read through it. The introduction just explains to her the basic lines on her palm. So don’t over-think it. The comments include the back-story for you to enrich the routine by delving further into each issue with the girl if it really strikes her fancy. What it will do is teach you that even though you completely messed it up. you were not “caught” and the reaction from the girl was positive. but it does not need to be. Your first palm reading ever will make you nervous. It is a fact. Heart line: tells her that she always had dreams of a perfect-man. I will include some comments in parentheses and discussions. Without any risks you can run the routine and understand the structure of the exchange and use it to learn before going onto the other palm reading material in this book. So without further ado. Just remember the theme. 14 . Head line: tells her that she is intuitive and knows when something good is in front of her.innocuous with very few risks. The readings are just guides in themselves about how to talk about these issues. Go out and run this routine live on a girl you just met or a girl you already know presenting yourself as someone who knows what he is doing tonight! When you are reading a girl’s palm. here is the beginners’ routine: A summary of the five readings plus the introduction is below. There is an introduction and five readings to remember. Life line: tells her that it is a time of separating paths and the time is here in her life where she has to take action. It also forms the basis of the advanced reading and the first few minutes are identical.
Yours is strange because it (does whatever it does . This is your head line (run your finger along her head line. This line here is called your fate line. and continue to do that every time you point out a feature on her hand. (Twist over the palm to look at the "children lines". Discussion of the above: There is nothing to memorise at all in what I have written above. Before doing this you examine her hand closely by stretching it out to have a good look at the lines and roll it over to look at the children lines. Fate line reading Where will I start? OK.. Time to change your voice tone and make sure you are in a serious voice here as if you could cry because it is likely that you are talking about a death in the family or divorce of her parents or something).. There is absolutely nothing special in the way I deliver this part of the routine except for telling her to relax her palm.The fully detailed text is below: Introduction Do you know your basic palm? Relax your fingers.. RELAX . it sets the tone for the palm reading. Since everyone was once a child but is now an adult everyone has a defining experience where they were a child asked to act in adult ways. Don’t say anything. let it sink in). Do not be scared to touch her). it sells her that this is real and that it will have some meat in the reading and not just be 15 . important to your palm are some minor lines that I am going to introduce you to also. Your palm all combines to a single story. Yeah. (Pause. this is your life line. relaaax. you will need to use your judgment as to whether she even cares what it is supposed to look like). you can therefore thank that event for making you who you are... I know. Yeah . It achieves a number of objectives. comes up to the head line for example. just examine her palm then look at her and say) Now. and can be assured that she is relaxing internally also.. Discussion of above reading: This reading is important.. that was very difficult for you. When ordering her to do this. everything that has happened to you makes you who you are today.. That means that as a child or adolescent you had some experience where you were asked to become an adult before you were ready. Second.. your Mound of Venus it represents your heart also. You are more able to feel deeply and live as an adult because of it... It is just an introduction. The other thing that is important to your palm is this (run your finger over her Mound of Venus) . this showing of your palm is extremely optional. you will see her relax her shoulders. if it is different to yours or she does not have one … in which case the lack of one is the reason for the reading … you can briefly show her yours to show what "normal" is . so let’s start with your fate line because it is a distinguishing feature in that it (does whatever it does . that is right.. First. (Empathy on that line) However. as much as that was very hard (pause). I have inserted it so that you understand that you just explain the lines on the palm in much the same way that I did in the diagram of the palm. I'll come back to it. Just understand the basic palm and point out the lines. And given you like who you are today. this is your heart line.
and you can dwell on the pain harder by describing your own sensations (as opposed to the actual events) to deepen her into it if it feels right. You don’t gloss over it. she is doing her best to keep her composure and remain unfazed. Now. Do the exercise yourself. Now what I have done is asked you to recall the most traumatic thing that ever happened to you in your childhood.fluff. In doing so you need to go there in your own mind so that she can understand what you mean. My readings are guides to the themes of the reading. All our difficult experiences both make us spiritually richer and make us spiritually poorer. However. that is the time. A person with a unique set of circumstances making you who you are. Perhaps she is wondering if it is universal. Perhaps she is marvelling that you could see that. and not dwell on the past except in a positive way. She is not out here with us any more. You should be at ease with who you are. You need to be comfortable with your past. and that was difficult. She is not judging the palm reading. or the time she first went unaccompanied to kindergarten and was left away from the bosom of her mother to fend for herself on the Jungle-Jim. You should not expect to see an expression on her face at this time. You are who you are today. Now that is done you can go onto the light and fluffy reading of her heart line and her Mound of Venus and she will not be judging whether you can actually read palms the same. You should tell her that you couldn’t see it exactly. They have enriched your life even if they have burdened it. Think of that time for you. she is now thinking hard and listening to her own internal dialogue. In this reading. and you are sorry to hear that. she is in her own head. it gets her age regressing (going back in her mind to when she was a child). in a reading. Nevertheless. So then. It knocks her into herself. Fourth. It could be as simple as finding out that Santa Claus is not real and that the mystical world of children does not exist. You let her wallow in that hurt. Yep. This is part of being comfortable with yourself as a man so you can claim your power in this world. We are all a product of all the things that have happened to us in our lives. you dwell on it. Wallow in that sadness. that is what you are asking the girl to do. and her attention from her parents diluted. I tell you that there was some time in your childhood or adolescence when you were forced to grow up before you were ready. These things are universal. it shocks her deeply. sometimes a girl will want to tell you what that time was. You should allow yourself to come to rest internally. and just because she says she cannot come up with such an experience does not mean that she cannot empathise with the feeling. She is impressed even if she doesn’t show it. All the girls in your past have made you who you are today also. some people may say that they can not come up with such an experience when asked. Third. A younger sibling may have been born. 16 . You want the girl to deepen into the pain of that time. it is absolutely universal in its nature. so they know the feeling.
For man the Animus becomes the 17 . at some stage.Heart line reading Now your heart line. Men tend to do the same thing. The ability to love is apparent to a woman. caught up in their idea of their ‘one true love’ this Animus is out there and she is searching for him. Girls grew up with Prince Charmings of fairy tales. despite the fact that we hardly knew the little girl. we might have desired a certain little girl. When we were little.. as it can make for an unhappy life. Similarly the fear of losing love and being hurt can prevent many girls from entering into a relationship where they are prepared to allow themselves to love.. And you always thought that a perfect-man would walk into your life. innocent of sexual desire to that stage. Jung wrote that we were all psychologically androgynous to a certain extent in that no man is so entirely masculine that he has nothing feminine in him. look her in the eye and smile. and you are missing the spice of life. She was a mental construct and conformed to fit your inner ideal. This can leave them in a perpetual cycle of shallow relationships with shallow men. as much as your perfect-man could be right in front of you (be careful with the self point here) you may have trouble even recognising him and more trouble meeting him and seizing the opportunity that is right in front of you because if we look over here to your Mound of Venus . it means that as a little girl you always had dreams of a perfect-man. and men with the ‘perfect 10’ and childhood icons. Discussion of above reading: The reading asks her to recall her ideas of her ideal man and reminds her of it. We all have dreams of an ideal partner in our minds. (Pause. before we were sexually aware. The inner woman in a man is called the “Anima” and the inner man in a woman is called the “Animus”. Because it curves up to between your index and middle fingers. and they find it enormously attractive. having an ideal woman in his mind to which the real flesh and blood women around him do not measure up. You should work hard not to allow yourself to fall into this trap. then links that ideal man to you. believe and experience the world. This can prevent her from forming real relationships with real men. Swiss psychologist. In that case the desire to be free becomes shackles that inhabits your choices and movements in fact reducing the things that you allow yourself to do and effectively removing your freedom. We had invented a whole persona that felt real to us that was in fact not related to the actual person. For some girls. You should be a connoisseur of the real world and enjoy its beauty for what it is. this represents your heart also. and had dreams of being married and holding hands and being together. Men do the same. Be sure that in your quest for quality women you do not enslave yourself by valuing your freedom so much that it prevents you getting close. The perfect mate. as I said. Carl Jung has a whole set of ideas revolving around this natural human tendency to form a living breathing ideal mate in our minds. the reading just took a change of pace and she will be thankful for it) However. Jung thought differently to his predecessors and added a dimension to the philosophy of psychology by admitting inner experience and dreams as valid data from which to understand the way that humans think. You can not appreciate the real world or real people if they never meet your ideals.
you will allow yourself to love and have conversations with your Anima. You can play with the lengths of the pauses to get a good feel for how long you should leave them. friendship. and a desire for achievement. tenderness. Encouraging her to remember her Animus. emotions. When doing the self point. There are many girls out there. strength. she associates the general thing you are talking about (in this case perfect-man) with you. You do this subtly with your right hand while your left cups her hand. you. specifically. a focused attentiveness. watching her for when they are helpful. analytical thought. Especially in your dreams and fantasies.dominant personality and the Anima is externalised in our search for a mate. You smile at her with the reading in case she is pulling out what you are talking about. when not.. gauge her to see if she is sold that you can read palms or if she is still sceptical that it is a trick . relatedness. The pauses should just be heart beats … just allowing the previous phrase to sink in. 18 . The self point should be down low so your right hand does not move very much to do it. courage. A man who may not necessarily be anything like the Animus. A self-point means that you point to yourself. Jung felt that the inner male is capable of falling in love with the inner female. but she wants to believe he is. If you watch yourself or others communicate you will find we all do self-points and away-points unconsciously. I look to within myself and understand that I am capable of falling in love as much with the notion of being in love as any particular girl that happens to be in my life. The anima has the following traits: she brings the attributes of feelings. There is however no problem if she sees you are talking about yourself. vitality. This is the cocky flirting of a confident man. similarly who are in unfulfilling relationships who continue a relationship with a man in order to externalise the Animus onto someone else and project his personality onto her lovers face. then project him onto someone. creativity. and when they leave her an opportunity to break into your conversation that you do not want. gentleness. Here I am getting you tracking it to take control of this realm of non-verbal communication in all your interactions. decisiveness. The reason that you do this is that. romance. Once he had separated out these two inner personalities. commitment and fidelity. and a sense of aesthetics.. This is the mechanism of the reading above. The Animus on the other hand was more about assertiveness. even though she does not notice it with her conscious mind. intuition. if she is a little naive you can do it blatantly. If it is quiet and she is sitting in front of you and she has been being difficult with you to test your confidence and trying to keep control of the situation by putting you on the back foot. love and compassion. If she is really sceptical you may even want to point away to relax her that you are not talking about you and she can lose herself in the reading. If you are not standing directly in front of her but reading it from the side so that you can speak in her ear with loud music you can do it blatantly. although we can allow our Anima to become more dominant and communicate using her. imagination. let the perfect-man be ambiguous.
she almost always misses it. palm out like a policeman might say stop. The “but” gets her chasing you. And then you can just relax and be comfortable with yourself and everyone in your world. She goes internally “however what?” and listens closely to your Mound of Venus reading. But you know that. and touch her chest above the breast. but relaxed with your elbow bent in a subtle motion). and stop people from really getting to know you (gesture back and forth) and relax in a non-judgmental way. And you’d be a lot happier if you could not lock yourself up. Here you are saying.” It is okay if it is explicit that is what you are doing.. your fingers representing the bars around her heart). And it means that you have a caged heart. right? And you are not the sort of person that would stand in the way of your own happiness.The reading gives her the perfect-man she has been looking for and then immediately takes him away from her by telling her she is not ready. It means that you hold yourself back and don't give yourself completely to all the people in your life (wave your hand out at the rest of the world). You are selling yourself as if you are a product that she needs to buy.. You don’t need to hold yourself back and watch your manners and what is "the right thing to say". Discussion of above reading: This reading is smooth. right? And you have certain deep needs that can be satisfied. you might say “You know. This makes her both chase and be drawn into the reading to see what it holds. If you have a close look. For example. And you have trouble taking the new opportunities right in front of you.. and this especially needs to be watched when you meet your perfect-man (run finger along heart line or else self point). If she pulls you up on it tell her if she gets better light and has a close look she will see them and that you are practiced . you will see these small lines that run up and down and side to side (you say this even if she does not have any. and just insert a “but” to the end and it will get her chasing you. push on with the reading). or act lady-line and you don’t just be yourself and just relax even with your best friends. Similarly you can lay on what ever cheesy complement you like in regular conversation. Mound of Venus reading Your Mound of Venus is this fleshy area here. but it comes off as a reading about her. Now these lines represent bars like in a jail over your heart. you are a very attractive girl … but …” and she will reply: “But what?” and just be sitting there in silence waiting. And you hold people out of your life (bring your hand up . (Here you reach across with a semi-cupped hand. As in “Isn't it nice what you can buy? And all those feelings that you can get from those things. And in that way your heart is caged (touch her again on her heart). You know that sometimes you are shy. right? I mean you should treat yourself to this thing that is going to make you feel good. or scared or lack some confidence. and give yourself to the people around you.. or say the right thing. but rather let everyone else in. “You always had dreams of a perfect-man. however…” It is the however that gets her. You can negate any thing you say in regular conversation by using the word “but” or “however”. 19 . And in that way you are giving up opportunities to love the people around you and be loved. I mean you are the sort of person who likes to be happy. or try to act cool.
is being at ease with yourself in the world. You need to think of your own awkwardness as you search for the right thing to say. Then you tell her that she needs to take the new opportunity in front of her. Women have the same problems. You are someone in front of her too. even if we cannot see them. You tell her that she needs to open up more and stop pushing people away. you can just be yourself. To understand this. Then as the reading goes on you need to go into a different head space to allow her to follow. or feeling insecure that you will not know the way forward should you step into it. You should go there in your own head as you do it to remove any of your own barriers just as you are asking her to remove hers. All these things are leaving you in inner turmoil and paralysing you into inaction. not allowing them into your life. Allowing other people in can be difficult. but especially that you are so confident that you can be yourself and move through the world with ease having removed your insecurities and inner turmoil. The surface reading is true of human nature. Going there in your own head first will allow her to follow. You are also telling her to relax and be herself. For these reasons. so you are telling her that her happiness is directly linked to how she treats you right now. you might leave beautiful women to whom you are attracted to pass you by. You don’t have to worry about what your parents think.You are in the reading telling her that she does not let herself enjoy herself and that her relationships suffer as a result. For girls their relationships are all important. It means not censoring yourself and allowing yourself to connect with people. You are the person you truly are with your best friends. simply by not being ready to embrace your opportunities. Part of growing both to be the sort of person you want to be. We all have opportunities to form new relationships in our lives around us. or the desire to look cool. or even what society expects. Because there you are not self conscious and not dogged by society. This comes from your insecurities such as fear of a rebuff or fear of falling in love and getting hurt when she leaves. You could arrive as you please and leave as you please and work or not work as you please. and being more attractive to women in the process. That is not being yourself. The reading is to overcome these problems. The first step is working on reducing the inner turmoils within. In doing the reading. This means a lot of things. When you are delivering this reading. the barrier to forming meaningful relationships can be in your own tendency to block people out. The one where you are completely yourself. imagine that you had a job where you had no boss. you need to think about the way you censor yourself at the beginning of the reading so she understands the sentiment. you should go to that need within yourself. and because of that. This is a good mood to have her in with you. and this is exactly what you are asking the girl to do in the reading. That opportunity is you. or your teachers think. telling her to change the way she feels right now so that she is more in the mood where she is not being guarded and she has removed her interpersonal barriers. 20 . and become the person you always wanted to be. to have it understood.
You reach out and at the same time curl your fingers out like an open cup with the fingers relaxed but spaced. Like it is you and her against the world and you and her are in a bubble together as you point to everyone else. you are talking as if you are beside her and with her and the rest of the world is "out there". The feeling of “I am who I am. You wave your hand in a sweeping motion to everyone in the place. Again. this is the first escalation of physical intimacy beyond simply holding her hand. That is the person that you need to be around women. or ideas in your life that are outmoded (point at in direction of her friends or boyfriend). Because technically. You are holding her hand with your left hand and touching gently her chest above her breast where her heart might be with your right fingertips just for a moment. As you continue you move back to facing her so you are speaking directly to her again. Your hand is rotated to a position so that the backs of the fingers are at the top. This is not to make the path one of wanton lust and gluttony in your sex life. you are closer to the end of your life than you have ever been. and express yourself as you choose to whomever you choose.. people. From this position .. Life line reading This is your life line. The outer practice of interacting with society conquerors the inner practice of being in the world absolutely without apology and being completely comfortable in your skin. Regarding touching her chest. depending on the girl as to how long to leave it there and how heavy to make the touch. but rather a path to inner peace and selfsatisfaction where you have relationships in your life with the women you desire and can enjoy them unreservedly. When you are pointing to the rest of the crowd as in “all the people out there”. and these things are stopping you from doing all those things that you really want to do. managing personal space and gesturing towards and away from yourself will get you forming intuitions so you start doing it naturally in all your interactions. You can return to do it again every time you tell her that she is locked up. you twist around slightly so that you are looking from her perspective out at the world from the same angle she is. It is a path to being ready to accept yourself and your relationships. it is a journey of self-improvement. It talks about your course of action for a decision that is in your life at the moment. I never have a girl reject this physical advance. All these physical movements.” The journey of learning to interact well with women is more than just some tricks. You will like me and accept me for who I am. The journey from scattered ineffectiveness as a person to one who can have satisfying relationships with partners that you choose. you can use your judgment. Where you can keep the rebellion of independent thought alive. This shows a time of separating paths. I can let you in. You remove your hand again back to her hand. but never before allowed yourself to enjoy as completely as what you are about to enjoy. Old skins need to be shed in order for you to embrace the new things. There are certain things. The 21 .Living without censor and with all your power in your world intact. right now. and it is to those feelings that you need to go in your own mind as you explain this reading.
and being the person they would really like to be. projecting him onto your face. And remember when you were looking at it. given you have gone out with the objective of forming new relationships. So all those things that are holding you back. Discussion of the above reading: This reading is to do an objection strike on anything that might be holding her back from hooking up with you and a call for action. As you realise that you are about to move forward to places you always wanted to go. Now you are telling her do just “do it”. From within this context. or perhaps about her feeling that she is being watched and needs to guard her reputation or any other thing that might be holding her back like her internal hang-ups. but have never been. Most people out there are in the need of some bold changes in their worlds. you can now just take and throw away. It is the beauty of ambiguous language. you will be fired and you need the job [big picture]”. It continues more and more as you go on with life. [big picture]”. and talk about philosophies during your interactions with women that value instant gratification highly to get her off the fence of fear about doing something new. This is a time for you. Quitting your job. Head line reading Your head line tells me that you are highly intuitive and that you follow your intuition when making decisions. value instant gratification for yourself rather than holding off on your passions. you always look great in it and you love it to bits. You can and allow yourself to enjoy this moment. You should encourage her to follow the immediate gratification. or disappointing your parents expectations as to how you should act are difficult things for girls to do. You about to drink the wine you always wanted to drink. you will be not be hungry later for dinner time [big picture]”. I mean if you can think of a piece of clothing that you have worn lots and lots that you completely love. We are used to the formula of delayed gratification. and new relationships that you are about to cultivate. And as you think of that you should think back to when you were in the shop buying it. You are told as a child “Do not eat that now [immediate gratification]. But you know that deep inside there is a person in there that wants to make the change. You have just come off telling her to remember her Animus. To jump and “do it” is definitely something that she will be able to relate to. She may in her mind be thinking about her boyfriend. and that feeling of just being sure that this is right for you. and to hell with the rest. So you tell her to do it. People will externalise those fears into other reasons. All your worries fade away and in place are the pleasures of new experiences that you are about to experience. “You should not stay home from work today [immediate gratification]. and experience the things you want to. and go with the flow of the times. It is quite likely that her logic line looks like this “Go home with him and sleep with him [immediate gratification].day of your death is closer today than it was yesterday. you should. Similarly. and you will look to everyone like a slut. then you have told her not to hold herself back. The message is obvious. Fear holds people back from doing all the things that they want to do. And no matter how many times you wear it. when actively doing it. And you remember looking at 22 . the advice to just “do it” is not necessarily good if it hurts her big picture. or leaving your boyfriend.
I thought I was infertile!” She will then definitely ask how you see that. Infertile girls might then run around and tell all her friends she is fertile. then bring that feeling into the present so that she feels sure now. She might tell you that her doctor told her she was infertile. Sometimes you will read the palm of a girl and upon this reading she will say. They can on occasion. Discussion of the above reading: this reading is to get her sure that you are the one. Where you are sure that this is the right thing to do. you can just twist over the palm. You can use this to finish the palm reading at any time. It is amazing how they believe you! People believe what they want to believe. So in the entire palm reading you have now asked her to recall her ideal love. A girl’s fertility is very important to her. But obviously in my palm reading tradition. Now some palm readers who come from a different tradition to me will tell you that these lines represent the number of children you will have. It is also a good way to terminate a palm reading mid-way if you feel like it. And when you feel like this you need to trust your instincts and follow your intuition always. Because that is your intuition. or you realise that she is not interested in a continued palm reading. if there is alcohol involved all start hugging her and congratulating her as if she had just 23 . it is written in her palm. You are able to have children. and you forget what to say next. You can if you like tell her that this is the thing that all girls are most interested in. because the guy over there who reads palms said so. Discussion of the above reading: this terminates the palm reading and completely changes the pace. She asks questions because she has been snapped out of the inner lull. and if she feels sure. “Really. She will jump out of the lull of the trance by saying:) HER: What? YOU: You are fertile. You might be half way through what you want to do. I discuss how this last “sureness” reading is constructed in the “On using language effectively” chapter Children lines (Now you twist over her palm to look at her "children lines") You are fertile! (Now you drop the palm signalling you are finished. You tell her he is wrong. You explain. The joy is contagious.it and deciding to buy it. and then you have asked her to unlock herself and ready herself for new relationships and then you have motivated her telling her that she should act on her desires and now you are telling her to trust that decision. It is how she defines herself in many ways. read that she is fertile. then she should not hesitate. And as you do that you should remember the feeling that you felt in your body. Then you tell her to trust the feeling. we cannot read the future). You need to trust it above and beyond everything else (point at her friends) and do the thing that you are sure about. (HER sometimes: How can you see that? YOU: It is here in these little lines. This feeling of sureness. You are asking her to remember a time when she was sure. drop the palm and move on to some other topic of conversation.
I encourage you to do it and build an intuition for when she will accept it in regular conversation. Once out of the way you can also give her a cheek kiss as a reward for something. give me a kiss! (pointing at your cheek) Her: (comes in a gives you a tender peck on the cheek) You: Good girl … why did you do that? (pause … then answering your own question with a cheeky smile). A cheek kiss is very good at changing the dynamic between you and her. I mean that she has to make her beliefs line up with her actions. You just put her in a position where she has to make fast decisions without sufficient time to think about the implications of what she is doing. You: Must be because you like me. having just spent 5 minutes reading her palm for free. Tell her that you forgot to mention something in her palm and pull her aside again to give her another mini-reading alone. The cheek kiss is not just to be used with the palm reading. You can ask for a second or third at opportune moments. and kind of blush because after a reading like that. Also you need not only get one cheek kiss. If she rejects the cheek kiss you need to laugh at her. right” It is a confident cocky line. 24 . She has to now become congruent with that fact. By congruent. The Cheek Kiss. but why did I?” and then you put the reason into her mouth. right? The cheek kiss is an excellent litmus test also of whether you can phase shift to comfortable and deeply intimate conversation or need to continue more high energy conversations to continue to attract her to you. She just kissed you. You say. tell her she is wrapped too tight. it is true. What is she to do? A cheek kiss is harmless. Say: “Why did you do that?” and let her mind go searching just long enough to have her think “Because he asked me to. you are doing well and can relax into an intimate evening. she is somewhat obligated to give “payment” in the form of a sweet little innocuous kiss if you ask. Her actions therefore change her beliefs. It almost seems like an innocuous friendly hug where you pat each other on the back but rather it is where you ask her to kiss you on the cheek. If she kisses you on the cheek. It is because. like after you make her laugh. the routine goes like this: You: Here. no? No! It changes everything. bringing her inner beliefs in line with her actions and she has explicitly made you the man who is her ‘perfect-man’. “Must be because you like me. The next thing to do is to force her to come up with reasons why she did that. After the palm reading is an excellent time to do this. She will drop her eyes. This is escalating intimacy in a non-threatening manner leading towards a full passionate embrace. you have to find a way to get the girl back from her group and pull her away again. “Give me a kiss!” and you point to your cheek. The beauty of it is that it seems so innocuous. When this happens. tell her it must be her caged heart and continue to go with higher energy conversations.conceived. Get her mind searching.
. as much as that was very hard (pause).. The five readings without comments for easy reading. a summary of the five readings plus the introduction is below.. as much as 25 . And you always thought that a perfect-man would walk into your life. once you are good at reading palms. Summary (cheat sheet) Intro: explains the major lines Fate line: tells her that she had an experience where she had to grow up before she was ready. relaaax. it means that as a little girl you always had dreams of a perfect-man. You are more able to feel deeply and live as an adult because of it. Heart line: tells her that she always had dreams of a perfect-man.. I know. this is your life line. this is your heart line. Intro Do you know your basic palm? Relax your fingers.. The kiss is optional and you will find. at some stage. you should not do the cheek kiss line after your first palm-reading ever. that is right. that was very difficult for you. However. This line here is called your fate line. That means that as a child or adolescent you had some experience where you were asked to become an adult before you were ready. Yeah . everything that has happened to you makes you who you are today. Use your own language to describe this. RELAX . Again. that this is a routine that will almost always follow a palm reading in a case that is so closely linked that you consider it part of the routine as well as a stand-alone thing. your Mound of Venus it represents your heart also. you can therefore thank that event for making you who you are. Your palm all combines to a single story. And given you like who you are today. important to your palm are some minor lines that I am going to introduce you to also. Mound of Venus: tells her that she has a caged heart and she needs to open herself up. I do not want to link in your mind success at reading palms and the cheek kiss that you may or may not get. I'll come back to it. Because it curves up to between your index and middle fingers. Your first palm reading ever you should let the victory of having read her palm stand without the need to get the validation in this cheek kiss.However. Now. This is your head line.. Yours is strange because it (does whatever it does). Yeah. so let’s start with your fate line because it is a distinguishing feature in that it (does whatever it does). Heart Line Now your heart line. Fate Line Where will I start? OK. Head line: tells her that she is intuitive and knows when something good is in front of her. The other thing that is important to your palm is this (run your finger over her Mound of Venus) . However. Life line: tells her that it is a time of separating paths and the time is here in her life where she has to take action.
You know that sometimes you are shy. And you hold people out of your life. and experience the things you want to. or act lady-line and you don’t just be yourself and just relax even with your best friends. and that feeling of just being sure that this is right for you. And remember when you were looking at it. There are certain things. Old skins need to be shed in order for you to embrace the new things. All your worries fade away and in place are the pleasures of new experiences that you are about to experience. Life line reading This is your life line. you will see these small lines that run up and down and side to side. And you have trouble taking the new opportunities right in front of you. you may have trouble even recognising him and more trouble meeting him and seizing the opportunity that is right in front of you because if we look over here to your Mound of Venus . You can put those things that are stopping you in the same place. And it means that you have a caged heart. Like you threw away an old piece of clothing that you never wear. this represents your heart also. Mound of Venus Your Mound of Venus is this fleshy area here. you can now just take and throw away. Because that is your 26 . It means that you hold yourself back and don't give yourself completely to all the people in your life. As you realise that you are about to move forward to places you always wanted to go. This is a time for you. and these things are stopping you from doing all those things that you really want to do. Head Line reading Your head line tells me that you are highly intuitive and that you follow your intuition when making decisions.. And no matter how many times you wear it. and go with the flow of the times. I mean if you can think of a piece of clothing that you have worn lots and lots and that you completely love. This feeling of sureness. and allow yourself to enjoy this moment. as I said. It talks about your course of action for a decision that is in your life at the moment. but rather let everyone else in. and stop people from really getting to know you and relax in a non-judgmental way. And you’d be a lot happier if you could not lock yourself up. If you have a close look. or try to act cool. you always look great in it and you love it to bits. but never before allowed yourself to enjoy as completely as what you are about to enjoy. but have never been. or scared or lack some confidence. This shows a time of separating paths. and give yourself to the people around you. or ideas in your life that are outmoded (point at in direction of Obstacle or boyfriend). But you know that. Now these lines represent bars like in a jail over your heart.. And as you think of that you should think back to when you were in the shop buying it. and to hell with the rest. or say the right thing.your perfect-man could be right in front of you. and this especially needs to be watched when you meet your perfect-man. And in that way your heart is caged. You want to drink the wine that those things holding you back won’t let you drink. And then you can just relax and be comfortable with yourself and everyone in your world. and new relationships that you are about to cultivate. So all those things that are holding you back. people. You don’t need to hold yourself back and watch your manners and what is "the right thing to say". And remember the feeling that you felt in your body.
It will move you inside her personal space and get you talking much more intimately with her. You are fertile! This reading is enough to get you started and have you understand how good the routine is. Keep it short. I did not have a manual like this. You will have to do the same thing. You wont remember your second either. I want to emphasise again that you should run this beginners reading to start. It went well enough in retrospect. not about being a complete palm reading purist.intuition. Just run the above to learn. I want you to run these five readings first. Remember that this is about becoming good at interacting with women. I want you to get comfortable with the thing. don’t overcomplicate things and just do this to begin with. but had rather read a regular book on palm-reading and said to myself mid-way through my interaction with a particular girl “what the heck … here goes nothing!” and jumped in and did it. it will be all down hill. It is not controversial and it is low risk. I remember my first palm reading ever. You need to trust it above and beyond everything else and do the thing that you are sure about. After you have done the first reading. My second palm reading ever I do not remember. There is no reason that you can not do this reading tonight. There is much less memory load and for your first reading you do not want to overburden yourself by trying to do the complete reading including the 3 shells of your inner love. And when you feel like this you need to trust your instincts and follow your intuition always. There is no need to practice and get it perfect. As much as I am about to introduce a little later the complete advanced palm reading. you will build confidence. 27 . because having run one and seen that nothing bad happened. and do it more than once.
is very easy to do and is hugely overestimated. she is aware she is attracted to you. but rather that she is prepared to get to know you in a one-on-one in a palm reading with a possible romantic encounter on the horizon as opposed to free entertainment. It is after she is aware that you are there as a man. When she is there she is attracted by my definition. She should want to talk to you because you are a desirable man and a worthwhile person. This. I want you to do many beginners readings where you are not using the palm reading as the entire pretext for the conversation. I am not talking about so attracted that the decision that she wants you is already made. It is a boogy man that guys chase and chase. There is. I do not want you to get into the habit of this and before you move onto the advanced readings. most men out there have raised the bar too high on what they expect as a signal of this. You need to have her inwardly thrilled by your presence. you might want to approach a girl on a park bench or something. Offering her something for free is similar to buying a girl a drink at the bar at the very beginning of the conversation. Deciding when to use a palm reading in an interaction and testing via trial and error will get you able to calibrate to a girls headspace at any given time in the interaction which is an important skill in all your interactions and the objective of this lesson. You should not be offering her something for free to get her to talk back to you but rather be in a conversation where the two of you are talking because she wants to speak to you and introduce the palm reading in order to transition the mood. That is all that attraction is.Timing your Transitions And to the open-handed the search for one who shall receive is joy greater than the giving. to reduce the investment in your first ever palm reading. it should be her that is accommodating you. in fact. waiting too long for a sing and allowing her to get too comfortable in their presence thereby relegating themselves to ‘just friends’. When that has happened. As you reduce your inner turmoil and build your confidence it will be very easy for you too. a correct time to use it. telling her that you are taking a palm reading class and ask if you can practice on her. If anything is exchanging hands for the benefit of this interaction. However. Palm reading should be used at the time when you want to transition from the section of the interaction where you are meeting her to the part of the relationship where you are getting to know her better. Perhaps. for me at least. This means that they are waiting for some explicit signal before making their move and thus loosing opportunities. not the other way around. Kahlil Gibran. She has inwardly raised an eyebrow while regarding you as a possible interest. In my opinion. But it is easy to achieve. For offering her something for free sends a message that you value yourself so little that you need to bribe her with free stuff in exchange for her talking back to you. 28 . a practice you should avoid at all costs. The Prophet. and once achieved needs to be acted on. Palm reading is not the first thing you should say to a girl.
You come in strongly on it and it will be accepted. Getting it accepted using your confidence is an important skill. and you are asking her opinion as to what you can buy because you value the opinion.. and can walk away from her interaction at any time to go back to their table. Me: Here give me your right hand . You are then into the palm reading before she even realises what is going on. and meeting her is just something that happened. you had your palm read before? OK. this is your head line. You need to be having fun in your environment first. rather than meet women. you should not scope the room or look like you are being sexually aggressive. What that means is that the best way to meet women is to go out and not look like you are trying to pick her up. and be less attracted to you. A set of things that you can always fall back on should you not be able to hold together the conversation just by the seat of your pants. so let’s start with the fate line because it is interesting. making them harder to meet. now relax (as she relaxes her fingers) . well this is your heart line.. Or that you are shopping at a shopping centre and have a larger agenda like buying your sister a birthday present. You will often not need 15 minutes to get to a point where she is ready for a palm reading.. All people who are good at socialising have their own standard stories and favourite topics of conversation. and then the women will be attracted to you.When you enter any establishment... take a book to read that you can be pulled out of for the conversation rather than looking like you are there specifically for the conversation.. yours is interesting. and you should use your judgment as to when this time is. You should create the illusion that you have something better to do than hit on random girls. It is the look of trying that kills you. This is not a time to umm and ahh and be bashful and nervous in choosing your words. Because it comes up to the head line (or whatever it does) it means that at some stage as a child or an adolescent you had some experience . she will want it done. etc. You should always assume that she wants it done.. It is a paradox that if you look like you are trying hard to meet women.. If you are going alone to a café to talk to the waitresses. they will smell it. and I will also point out your Mound of Venus because it is important to your palm. Or you are in a park to walk your dog. With practice you will get a good feeling for it. Perhaps you are there socialising with friends. I believe that you should get together about 15 minutes of conversational material to use before palm reading. OK. You should not feel in the least bit guilty about having your own. If she refuses your palm reading it is because she smelt your hesitation and you did not come in sure enough that she wants it. An alternative introduction is simply “Show me your palm” 29 . however smell hesitation. this is your life line and wow! Look at this! This minor line is called your fate line . My introduction to palm reading goes like this: The Primary palmistry introduction Me: Which hand do you write with? HER: Right. If you assume she wants it done and act like she wants it done. Girls can.
there is no reason that he can come up with that would prevent it if it is OK with her. Until you get a 100% response rate on the primary palm reading introduction do not move over to this. Do not start doing it until you are very confident in your palm reading. The more attracted she is to you from the things you have said before the palm reading. Her: Like what? (If in a group to group before taking her away somewhere private. However. They say.Other introductions can just simply assume the sale such as “Have you ever had your palm read? No? OK. “I guess. however my most common introduction goes like this: Group Isolation Intro. You ask if they mind if you borrow their friend. once you have read one palm. He has been conversationally check-mated. lets go. you will often get her friends begging and begging to have you do theirs. They have no real choice even if they do not want her to go. be careful with this second introduction. etc.” Alternatively you can start reading the palm with the which hand do you write with introduction above. The reason you should hold off on it is you need to breed out any smell of fear in your delivery. Because about 10% of the time she just shrugs her shoulders when you go “Now I know everything about you”. The above introduction is the one that you should use. and her nonchalantness may be a manifestation of her own inner turmoil. What else can they say? Even if a guy in the group does not want her to go.) Me: here give me your palm. Me to group: “Mind if I borrow your friend for a second?” Take her by the hand and lead her away. They may not believe you can read palms. In that way it is a good litmus test of how well you are doing to this stage. Within a group when you ask a girl what hand she writes with and you look at it and drop it. About 70% of them go “why what do you see” of varying degrees of enthusiasm and about 20% go “You can read palms! Please read my palm” or something similar. then tell her that you need more light and lead her to the place that is most conducive to you and her spending time together. the more likely it is that you will get the last enthusiastic response. It is just the nature of the beast. If it is OK with her” or something along those lines. the whole group will be looking at you at this stage. Part of the problem with the 80% or so that do not beg is that they either think you are joking or they are nervous. Don’t forget that women can be shy in the presence of an attractive man. Do you know your basic palm? This is your head line. Me: which hand do you write with? Her: Right Me: (taking hand and examining it including rolling it over to see her “children lines” then giving it back to her. Now. With a cocky grin:) Now I know everything about you. You are unproven when you tell her you can read 30 .
you should be increasingly walking past the women you can have … the lesser beauty alone at the bar … to the girls you want. Often.palms. and the girls will sense this. especially at a party where everyone knows each other or that sort of thing. Using the palm reading at the wrong time is a manifestation of your inner turmoil and lack of ease in the situation. you will read your girl’s palm. and part of that is that you are doing the choosing of the women you want. That means I have to deal with varying degrees of warmness and coldness in getting that happening. and even had I not mentioned it you would have seen it for yourself. You should start the conversation with something else. If she bounces the reading with a shrug of the shoulders or something similar. often you are required to take on the conversational burden. Choosing to have the girls in your life that can bring you happiness. this is not what the palm reading is for. with increasing proficiency at interacting with women. palm reading is the ultimate excuse to pull a girl away from her friends. As much as I cannot prevent you from doing this. In fact. Girls with a lot going for them are seldom alone in social environments and this means that you are going to have to learn to interact with her peer group. You are a stranger like any other stranger she has met. I always use the second introduction these days perhaps out of habit because I mostly do palm readings as an excuse to isolate her out of her group of friends. fulfilment and love is the goal of what you are learning here. Her friends will all wish it were them that were getting their palm read by this attractive stranger. not the other way around. You should not use palm reading as an introduction. and you will then get a line up of girls wanting their palms read. This is so that I am not some cheap entertainment. She owes you no conversation and she is not interested in asking you about yourself. despite its flaws. Although it is not the best time to use the routine. This can be a good thing and a bad thing. Once speaking to her group. you should relegate the palm reading to the correct place in the interaction. Palm reading is a way to extract information about her without her volunteering. I want her to look back and remember that she asked me to do it. you should order her to see her palm and start reading it like in the original introduction. it can be used very early in an interaction. It makes it seem like some of the talk is about you. and it will be visible. Nevertheless. She is passive in the situation and will not just volunteer stuff about herself. You should not be scared of speaking to groups of people that include a girl in whom you are interested. and some of it about the surroundings. but I think I probably also do it also because I want to only read the palm after she has asked me to do so. will never do seven or eight readings in a row. because my palm readings are all a bit the 31 . I personally. In fact when she does ask you your name it means that she is now interested enough in you that she cares for your name. and as your proficiency with women grows and the lessons from reading palms seep into your persona and the rest of your conversations. some of it about her. and I am so confident in it that I can sell it. like the beauty seated at a table with a bottle of champagne and two other people. Before that she will not necessarily volunteer information about herself. When you meet a girl.
That way her eyes can move around within the space easily without refocussing and working hard and she does not have to look past a well lit area into a poorly lit area that are your eyes. I will pull our chairs around so that my knees are touching hers and read the palm facing her directly. tell her that your eyes are accustomed and you can see. I will pull the candle in a glass that they put in the centre of the table over to the side so that we can see and that is plenty of light. I will read a waitresses palm over the bar with the bar between us. Similarly. In some venues they do not have sofa’s to sit in where you can sit next to her. you can light a cigarette lighter. You should always put the candle on the far side of her palm even though it does not illuminate as well there. Remember you have already read her fate line with the hard reading so she is not sceptical of your abilities at this point. The candle should not be between you. we will need light. never put the candle between you and her. Regarding seating situations: I will read a palm in almost any situation. Now the only reading that requires a close look is the bars on her heart in the Mound of Venus reading. Regarding lighting levels: Since you are barely even looking at what her palm looks like. forcing your eyes to continually have to re-adjust to levels. and I will read it in what ever seating situation I have available. Other times. you do not really need good light. 32 .same. If the light is too low for you to actually see them. Nevertheless it is a good way to meet many girls in the situation if you want to get together enough material (like perhaps genuine readings) to do the lot. I will read them standing up. but if you do not. Tell her to trust you that they are and continue the reading. so I will pull my seat around so that we are side by side with her hand on the table in front of us next to the candle in the centre of the table. In a lounge bar. this might be a good strategy for you. if I am in a place with wooden chairs that have arm rests. I will read them sitting down. If she wants proof. I have better ways of meeting girls than that. shining the light on her palm to show her that they are there. If forced to use candles.
She will not comment on it. Do it in a way that is relaxed and does not feel slimy or as if you are trying to stimulate her. You are asking her to confirm that she did in fact have a time in her childhood or adolescence where she was asked to become an adult before she was ready. Friedrich Nietzsche. Don’t worry too much for your first reading ever. one must use the same words from the same genus of inward experience. but rather using the opportunity to tell her how to feel and act. Remember your own experiences of a similar vein. she expects you to be right. 33 . b) Slow down the delivery. Go to your own dreams of a perfect woman. But it is important to be looking her straight in the eye. It should be a monologue flowing from your lips. c) You are concentrating too hard on whether she believes you or not and whether you are accurate. and do not let it turn into a dialogue. Go to your own sense of shyness that holds you back in social situations. Slow down and explain how she feels. 1886 Now you are doing the palm reading. etc. You want her to say “Oh my God! You are right! How can you see that?” Stop it. The nature of the reading should not be something where you are looking for validation about being “correct”. You are reading her palm. She can then think deeply and allow herself to loose herself in the experience because you are not asking her to answer any questions. Do not um and ahh. just get through it. Make long pauses. But the immediate things you need to concentrate on are: a) Looking her in the eye throughout the reading. She will take the emotional cue and the seriousness and the need to cry from you. I mean you look down at the palm as you point out a feature “This is your head line” for example. Go to your own hurt and remember it. You are nervous and rabbiting through it. d) You need to go there in your mind as you deliver it. This is because you lack confidence in your readings and your inner turmoil is manifesting itself. and you should not be fishing for the reinforcement. and you have all the answers as to what it means to be her. You are therefore looking at her all the time to make sure that it is correct. ultimately one must have one's experiences in common. Beyond Good and Evil. Be confident that every single reading is spot on. Your looking for her feedback that you are correct is coming across as lacking in confidence. If you are struggling for words just stay silent as you think about it even if you are mid sentence.Troubleshooting your delivery. but then you look up and look her in the eye with your left hand cupping her hand from underneath and your right index finger on the line you are talking about. To use the same words is not a sufficient guarantee of understanding. we can continue to play with it to get you building the interpersonal skills that are the reason you are doing this.
e) Get it fluid with your own words rather than memorizing mine word for word. Important to a palm reading is that you become an authority figure. You have to be very strong, but gentle at the same time. When you read her palm, you are telling her what to think and what to remember. It will only be effective if she does what you tell her to do inside her mind like her recalling the things you want her to recall, etc. You need to deliver it so that she knows that if she does all the recalling of experiences and feelings there will be a point to the activity and she will understand something or learn something about herself. Confident. This is important and should flow into your demeanour in all your conversations. Implicit is that it is the truth, and if she does not understand, she is not doing as you say. She is not behaving. This is an opportunity to display the strength of your character and personality. Be strong. All this is communicated as sub-text to the conversation and is not out in the open. Women find a strong man sexy, so this is a mechanism built into palm readings that will assist in attracting her to you, and find out what the sweet spot feels like. Remember that part of what a palm reading does is change the dynamic of the interaction. To that end, it is important that you are moving inside her personal emotional space and changing the relationship into the sort where you are getting to know each other better. What that means is that you really want to slow down your speech and drop your voice tone from the excitable high-pitched “rabbiting around” that can come with up-beat conversation to the tone of deep relaxation. You have to become interested in the girl and interact with her in a way where you are completely comfortable. This is an experience of getting to know each other and you should soften and feel empathy for this beautiful individual in front of you. She will follow you to where you are in your mental space. The only way that she is going to become comfortable with you is if you are comfortable with yourself and with her.
Confidence The outer law (shari’ah) is my word, the spiritual path (tariquah) is my actions, and the inner reality (haqiqah) my inner states. Whoever has the outer law without the inner reality has left the right way; Whoever has the inner reality without the outer law is a heretic; Whoever unites the two of them has realization. Sufi proverb. Confidence is not only important for selling the palm reading. It is important in the delivery, and in all your dealings with women. In fact it is important in all your dealings with the world. Confidence is built by undertaking things you are not sure you are capable of and finding you get success. Just going out and interacting with women and getting success with them will therefore build your confidence. It is notoriously hard to fake, and often can be fleeting but a reduction of your inner turmoils assists greatly. When you were just hitting puberty and your body was changing shape and you started interacting with girls, in all likelihood you were not very good at it. You were awkward in your body, and awkward in your interactions. There was this vibrating nervousness in your persona that left you acting in strange ways. Perhaps you used to speak too loudly, become too excitable, or brag outrageously and make a spectacle of yourself. Or alternatively, you might have been shy to speak to them, acting as if you were not attracted to girls, and tried to act cool by ignoring them or making fun of them or treating them like boys. All this is just your nervousness and lack of confidence. But as you have gotten older, you have become more balanced internally, you are now are able to interact around women without all your inner turmoils manifesting themselves as strange behaviour. As you go forward in learning this, you need to concentrate on removing any further inner turmoil … your internal mental chatter, your stresses, your nervousness and things that betray your insecurities excess baggage and ideas that tax your thinking. In going out and practicing this, you will be working towards becoming unflappable in any situation with women, a man who is at peace with himself, and no matter what situation is thrown at you in the conversation. A man that retains your composure with good humour, and understands the lightness of the situation for the triviality that it is. You will then no longer take yourself or the situations too seriously and can relax and enjoy the interaction and your world. The first step is in reducing your inner turmoil. There are two kinds of confidence. The first kind of confidence is the one that most people think about. At a shallow level of understanding it is kind of confidence where you have your shoulders back and are relaxed in the situation. It is one where you mask your inner turmoil and act as if they are not there. That is one sort of confidence. But there is another confidence that is a different thing. It is true deep down, "I am a prince of a man" type confidence. It is the first type of confidence that comes from proficiency at
meeting new people and understanding how to come at social situations. The second kind comes from your life and your development as a balanced and happy person who is comfortable with himself and the world. This second kind of confidence is true sexual confidence. I am not just talking about just knowing you are good in bed. Or knowing you will impress her with your body when you are naked. I mean it is knowing you are good in bed and knowing your body is in fantastic shape and knowing you are as smart or smarter than everyone else and knowing you are stimulating as a conversationalist and knowing you will be a success in your career because you know you are talented. That is because the inner turmoil that these things produce in you have been completely eradicated by being at one with yourself and who you are. I mean the sort of confidence you have when even though you are in a place with the most elite girls in town, you still know that not a single one of them is above you. They are all equals or at a lower level of self understanding, their own inner turmoils causing them to trip over their own feet and be unhappy. This sort of confidence can yield a natural real womaniser. The sort of guy who can go out with a stunning beauty but still not value her so much that he is afraid of loosing her or the relationship become inwards focussed and possessive. She is just one of any number of girls that he can relate to and love deeply. The sort of guy who doesn't care because this ‘perfect 10’ who all the other guys desire, this near perfect girl, this 4 language speaking, intelligent, creative, exciting, fluid moving, pleasurable girl who leaves a track of men running into lamp-posts as she walks down the street ... this angel of a woman created in heaven is still just a person. He can have a relationship with her, but not have her on a pedestal. Girls are not attracted to guys who act as if she is better than him. She wants a guy at least at her level, and wants to even feel she is out of her depth, like she is punching above her weight with this guy. You need that sort of confidence to have fulfilling relationships with beautiful women, and it makes you very hard for a beautiful woman to replace because most men put her on a pedestal and confess their undying love. And the two types of confidence are not really related. The second kind of confidence is the one that is lacking when you excuse yourself from a conversation with the girl too early with a “nice meeting you”. It is the one that is lacking when you do not just sit down with the beautiful girl you have spoken to before and done well with because you are kind of shy and not really in the mood to introduce yourself to all her friends since it is 3pm on a Tuesday and you are not shaven and dressed up. The one that is lacking when you say "my bedroom is untidy ... I cant take this girl home tonight". It is the one that is lacking when you say, "I wont ask for her phone number, because I will see her here again". It is the one that wonders what she will think once she sees the bad shape your body is in or the pimples on your ass. It is actually this second kind of confidence that prevents you from having the really desirable girls and leaves you with the lesser beauties. Particularly stunning girls are not well hit on often ... there are not many men with the courage to actually take her by the hand and lead her away because they are worried
selfassured.. It is a pity that it is the way of the world that you will be judged by a potential mate with the interaction (and relationship) continued based on the impression you give in the first 30 minutes especially. but she is not really approached properly with a proposition she is likely to take seriously. There are very few men with enough of that second kind of confidence to be up to the challenge.about their sexual experience and prowess or their apartments or whatever. When you are trying to say the right thing or searching for something to say. and having been rejected. you don’t just hang in there and take it because you don’t have the second kind of confidence. You need to be able to approach the situation well with the first type of confidence and have the second type behind it. It is possible that this second type of confidence is the thing holding you up. intelligent and all that. and be able to get her away from her friends and in a one-on-one conversation with you. In a space where you can share your ideas. not the first. They try to say the right thing all the time. my name is Bob and I work in Advertising”. When you have true confidence. At a deeper level of understanding. be able to get them all laughing and into you. generous. Many men will flatter her. you can be confident enough to say all those things that come to your mind when you were on the pillow with your ex-girlfriend with people you just met.. although you can act as if you are confident in the first type of way. But when it starts going not exactly to plan and she deviates from the response you would like to get. 37 . I see people that get nervous and censor themselves. But if you are not good at managing that first half hour of a meeting. That is where you need to be. And conversely. honest. you can have plenty of the second type of confidence. the first type of confidence is being able to be the same person with people that you don’t know as people that you know well. When you were with your ex-girlfriend and she loved you. on the pillow in the bedroom. but then find that the desirable women are not interested in getting to know you better beyond that first meeting because they sensed your inner turmoil. Or perhaps you can act in a confident way and do very well on a first meeting. you are not confident like you are when you are around people you know already like you. you will never demonstrate these things to any potential mate. You are able to talk and just be yourself. The true skill is to be able to be yourself when you are with other people who like you are in your own lounge room. ambitions and dreams with each other. she has no idea who I am". You may have phenomenal social skills. but walk up to whatever girl you like (since you are so sure that they are beneath you) and say “Hi. You are being yourself and just hanging out. Given that we need to work on the first 30 minutes as a priority. You can be the ultimate in people: Interesting. That is because you are confident with people that you know well. thinking to yourself "if only she knew who she just blew off . did you struggle for what you wanted to say? Or did you just say the first thing that came to mind? The thing that was on your tongue? Like you are with your friends and family. great hobbies.
you are so confident that you can be exactly the person you are deep inside when you are around people who you know like you when you meet someone new. I want you to be yourself with women. There is nothing wrong with you. You can immediately laugh and have a good time like you are with your best friend. but you do not censor your opinions or try to say the right thing. After all. You know with such a sense of sureness inside that you are good as you are that you don’t need to change yourself for anyone. and after you run the routine. Then. Would you be shy to speak to your best friend at a party? Whenever you 38 . Remember. When you are speaking to your friends and speaking to your family. you should continue to be yourself. When you were at home as a kid. it is out in the open that is what you are doing. I want you to be in the frame of mind when you are running the routine. What is more. you are fine. That is the person that I want you to be. mostly. As if you are so confident in the world that you live in that you can be yourself wherever you go. and you may be censoring the real underlying you and not understanding ability to influence the world you live in. and everything is easy for you. You should speak to her as if this that is coming out of your mouth is the first thing that is on the top of your head even if it is a standard story you always tell. and find that inner balance that both makes you at peace with the world and makes the girls like you. The world is your oyster. you should not do what she says just because she said it. Part of that is that you don’t censor your opinions. Relax Mom. similarly. of course you would approach and start talking.The palm reading gives you a structure of things to say so that you can relax and be that person. If you can be yourself like you are with your friends around strangers. And the world becomes easy for you. before you run the routine. You are so confident that she will like you that you can treat her like she is already your best friend. the message wants to be "I am who I am. Then you are starting to live in the correct way. You can give her a light ribbing like you would your best friend. You can stop trying to say the right thing. Your friends and your family like you." And when you are with a girl. then you need to change it so that you are. Similarly. and your mother asked you to tidy your room. They understand your sense of confidence and charm and power in relation to the world around you. "Wait until I finish this level in the video game. The challenge is to be that same "you" from the moment you start speaking to a girl. This needs to be done within a healthy diet of approaching many women. The last thing that means is that you bend over and give her whatever she wants. that you are being yourself. It is then that girl’s eyebrows are raised. because it is my routine. It is your perhaps confidence that may be lacking. And they like that. I guess. The last thing I want to give you here is a greater feeling of needing to "say the right thing" or "say it the way Steve Celeste said". you did not say to her "of course. I do not feel like that when I run the routine. You know I am the sort of person who will do what ever you want!" You said. and you are a cute chick. If this does not feel like you are being yourself. I mean you watch your swearing like you might with your grandmother if it is in a formal setting. Doing what she says because she said it is trying to impress her by modifying your personality to someone that censors yourself in order to accommodate her. That is where you want to be in all your dealings with the world. We should get together".
fine for who we are. She can sense the hesitation. Learn socialisation skills. If your approaches are not really working at the moment and you are bouncing off girls when you try to speak to them it is because you do not truly believe in your mind that she wants to speak back to you. It is the confidence that drives your success with women. all that. and go back to being you. that you don't need to change who you are in any type of radical way such as presenting yourself as an astronaut. you need to make the changes so that you are fine for who you are. then decide that you can do far better. you have to be absolutely sure in your mind that this is going to work. and the conversation goes nowhere. Bottom line is. each and every one of us.approach a girl. Make the career change. Go to the gym. The way to do that is to use my palm reading and material for a period. I mean change your wardrobe. If you are not fine for who you are. You have to be sure. The best of the skills will stay. Take back your respect. 39 . or start a palm reading or any other thing of that sort. You are not treating the world like you are comfortable in it. Get good interests. We are. the lack of confidence. improve your comedy skills. when you strike up a conversation that she wants to speak back. I am not talking about maintaining a status quo. Reform your relationships. But make them who you are.
If you go out to eat on Christmas day.and ships . ‘To talk of many things: Of shoes . and natural. but can hold my own. and my grandmother did it. Girls find your family important. Or at least that is as far back as I am aware since our family history gets foggy further back than that. ‘The time has come’ the Walrus said. she will take an interest in who you are. At some stage however.’ Lewis Carroll. You know all about her deep things on the inside from the palm reading. When she asks me why I read palms. and sharing who you are with each other. and not relating personally. The mechanism behind the above is to redress the dissymmetry of information that you have about each other.When her Personal Questions Come. I am going to make you work a little here to come up with your own since mine is distinctly for me: I am a fifth generation palm-reader. Now talking about this stuff. (Here is an opportunity to talk about your roots and descent if she is interested including gold-rush stories. but not women. the palm reading illustrates it beautifully. but rather just talking to one another. and I am not as good as them. Through the Looking Glass. and my mother did it. The “How did you learn this?” conversation that is usually the first question after a palm reading falls into this category. When this happens. with both of you working at the interaction. you will find men eating alone. During the beginning you should work to make your conversations not strained. You should learn to recognise these questions as a desire to change gears in your interrelation when you are speaking to someone new even when not using a palm reading. etc). you are sharing with her something of yourself so she feels that she knows something about you also. the initial part of attraction is done and you can fall into becoming comfortable with her. At the beginning of a conversation it is reasonably high energy. 1871 The immediate questions that follow the palm reading signal that she is now ready to move to a different phase of your relationship.and kings – Of why the sea is boiling hot – And whether pigs have wings. hardy men. proud histories. migration to the new world. never falling back on tired conversations like the weather or the sorts of conversations that she might have with her dentist (“What do you do for a living?” for example). and start to fill in the details in her mind of who this man in front of her is. but rather relaxed things were you are happy to just talk and she is an audience and someone to share with.and sealing-wax – Of cabbages . She is close to hers. spending Christmas alone. However. She might simply ask you your name. That is not because there are more men than 40 . I tell her that it has been in my family for generations.
You can use it alone as an answer to “why can you read palms”. I could hear outside laughter. (I have inserted that geography just as an example. So I watch the old woman and my grandmother have this conversation that was obviously about me. keeps you on the topic. singing and knocking on the box. and deepens her into your world and your family increasing her idea of her knowing something about you. and keeping the conversation intimate. And in a dream this beautiful girl of about 15 comes into my room. And this woman is sitting on a rickety bed with a cat in her arms stroking it. Then I am taken out of the trunk. I remember it being dark and me being very frightened. I want to say the island is called Dauphin Island. I got this blood nose. she feels like she is getting to know you. I am now going to give you the Grandmother routine. but also tealeaves. It displays you as sexual and sensual even as a little child. puts me back on the boat and takes me home to bed. like about 7 or 8. as are far away exotic locales. Like she has a crown on her head. and my nose had stopped bleeding. And she is just breathtakingly beautiful. It was a different one. but that was not it … that is the one with a road to it.women in the world. It illustrates the sort of story that is very seductive for a girl you just met and the level of personal sharing that is good to increase intimacy. I cant remember how I got it now. Tell this story often as if it is your own. So my grandmother lived in southern Alabama on the Gulf of Mexico coast in a little town about 60 miles east of Mobile. My nose is still bleeding and I am holding a handkerchief to it. she takes me to this old women house. So anyway. Families look after their girls and girls value their families enough that they will travel long distances so that they don’t have to spend Christmas alone. and she would do readings based on spiders and cats and all sorts of things. and like five or six more cats purring around her. Grandmother routine My grandmother used to not only read palms. Talk about it in a positive way. and you should change it around to better reflect the real location of your extended family. She is barefoot and she comes in and sits on the edge of my bed. Islands are good including river islands. but I remember standing next to a wall with my head against the wall and watching the blood dripping off the end of my nose. Mountains are good too. and a thin nightshirt on that you can see the silhouette of her body through. It is not because there are more single men. My grandmother pays the old lady. So the old woman takes me and puts me in this chest and locks me in it. Babies are born at about a 50/50 ratio. Polygamy is illegal and largely socially frowned upon. It just bled and bled. You may think of some other location where such an old woman might live in an urban location if you are from a long line of city dwellers and cannot talk about real memories of the location you are talking about). I remember when I was down at my grandmothers place as little boy. sharing something about your family. screams. So she comes to me and puts me in this boat and takes me to this populated island just off the mainland in the Gulf of Mexico. And I am just lying there wallowing in her 41 . So I am lying in bed. It is nice for coming out of the post palm-reading glow. the name will come to me in a minute.
at this stage of my life. that to say that my nose stopped bleeding because of the spells and incantations would be wrong. What do you think? Do you believe in superstitions? Truth is better than fiction and my story is an illustration. do not throw it away after a single bad reception. and telling a story that is not yours is not going to hurt you. The repeated retelling will build your intuitions for the storytelling skill-set. And in the morning my grandmother came into my room and before I could say anything. and kisses me on the forehead and then she leaves. we are concentrating on form over substance. but nothing happened. for teaching purposes. But I think to say that the spells and incantations had nothing to do with it would be wrong also. If you want to do your own story instead you can try your own entertaining little piece that is true of a similar vein if you are confident you know why the above is good. what was redundant and what was valuable. The first time I told it. so if you develop your own rather than going with the tried and true one above. Consider the game won. After a palm reading has been done and accepted. However. and you can continue after a palm reading in the sort of intimate mode as if you have already slept with her and you are having a discussion on the pillow. Delivery and confidence also improves with repeated retelling. you should refrain from doing any more high-energy routines and conversations that you used earlier in the interaction when you were just meeting each other. where the laughs came. So I continue to sleep. All the same. I was genuinely scared and never told anyone until after she died. including the cheek kiss. When trying a new story for the first time. I was sure my nose would open and I would bleed to death. She sprinkles some gold coloured dust over me. and using human interactions in social environments as laboratories and testing grounds to learn a new skill set. You improve these things with the re-telling as you get feedback from your first audience as to what was good. You should therefore feel free to run the above to understand why it is an entertaining piece and develop good intuitions before creating your own. and move onto the sort of conversation you have with people that you are intimate with in 42 . You do not need to take yourself too seriously in this period of learning.beauty and she is speaking. Now. testing it once is not enough. I think. saying something that I don’t understand. What that means is that you are sure that she is attracted to you and you now need to spend some time getting emotionally intimate with her before physical intimacy. a major mechanism of the palm reading routine is to change the style of the interaction from just-met-each-other-banter to we-like-each-other-and-are-becomingcomfortable-in-each-others-presence. told me not to ever tell anyone about what I saw last night. It slows the energy down. The repeated retelling will build your intuitions for the story-telling skill set that will flow into all the stories you tell.
your life. It is a good time to talk about your worldviews and philosophies. These should be congruent with the sort of person you were portraying yourself as when you first met her. Once you stop having conversations that is built around attracting her and move more into personal stuff, you may want talk about old relationships so that you can get inside your philosophies about relationships and sex. When you do this you should tell her that you are still friends with all your old girlfriends. Tell her that you are still in love with them. You should espouse philosophies that let her know that you are a non-judgmental lover and respect women, never having had acrimony in your past. Even if you are divorced and in a bitter custody battle, when meeting someone new, your love life should be presented as rosy and you should never show any misogyny towards any of your ex’s. When you tell a girl that you are still friends with an ex girlfriend, it is a message straight from the ex-girlfriend to the girl that says, “This is a good man. He is so good, that even though we are not dating anymore, I am still friends with him”. That is the sort of message you want to send. You might want to escalate the sexual end of it. You can lay off the jokes and comedy now. Do not run any high-energy conversations where you might for example bang your fist on the table in the middle of it to indicate that you were surprised or someone surprised you. That will make her jump and throw off your energy. You want to slow down, and get intimate. Attract is over. It is time to get relaxed and comfortable. Touch her often. There are times where a girl will ask you to read your own palm to her to "get to know you like you know her". While this might seem a good chance to "sell yourself" in a subtle way, there is no good way to do that because you have too much information about yourself. It will sound like you are qualifying yourself to her and trying to get her to like you. This is something you should never do with a girl. Interacting with her is based on illusions. You want the illusion to be that she is the one trying to measure up to you, her hitting on you, even though it is you who initiated the interaction. She should like you without you trying. Or at least it should seem like you are not trying. Always come off like you are who you are, and are confident that she will like you. So if she asks, run the “Exchange life stories” routine. No, it is too hard for me to read my own palm because I know too much about myself and thus focus on certain features that I know to be good or bad about my personality. Instead, to get to know each other, I’ll tell you about my childhood. An alternative version goes like this: You: Tell me about yourself Her: What do you want to know. You: Where did you grow up. Give me a quick run-down on your life. At the end you then give her yours. Note that often to get the ball rolling you will need to offer yours first.
Alternatively again you can go into a more formal game: Tell me your entire life story in 5 minutes. C’mon, I grew up here and went to school there. Then I’ll tell you mine. Again, you will often have to tell yours first. Her run-down is extremely valuable information about the girl, her insecurities and her hot buttons and you should listen very closely and well so that you know how to deal with her in the future. Now, when you tell her about your childhood, you need to tell the truth and still do it in a way that presents you attractively and demonstrates the sort of person that you are. You want to tell the stories that you always tell and it should be fresh and interesting. But keep in mind that you are now in comfort building mode and you want to let her inside your world. while you want to tell the truth, you also want to make it clear in a subtle way that you were always cool and continue to be. You were not the geek at school, you never had pimples and you were always popular, and from within that context you can talk about events that were difficult in your life or rites of passage. A display of vulnerability is genuine sharing and will bring her closer. You want to talk about your first girlfriends as part of this. Never mention any heartbreak, however. Make out that you are still friends with them all, allowing the love to come out in your voice. This demonstrates you in a real way and she will increase her trust levels and the amount she is willing to share. I will leave what specifically to say to your good judgment. If you follow the philosophy that truth somehow sits outside the girls mind, and she has to construct the world inside her mind, we need to concentrate on this when we represent ourselves. When you tell your story you are presenting to the girl in front of you data that will have her constructing theories in her mind as to who you are. You have control of the theories that she will come up with in her own mental construction only to the extent that you can control the data going to her five senses as to who you are. There is in fact no true “Steve Celeste”. She will never know the “true me”, only construct theories about me based on what she has seen of me before, and what she has seen of men before, and what she has seen of the world before, and what she has seen of men that look like me before. This serves to allow her to predict in some way what I am thinking, who I believe myself to be, and how I will act in the future. These constructs, however are just models and in no way are related to who I actually am, what I am thinking now or how I might act in the future. This is not the truth, just a construction based on her experience. I can split myself into 4 parts as shown in the below chart.
Fig: On the left shows the entire self split four ways equally according to who can see each section. She can see the upper half of the circle. You can see the left half of the circle. The one on the right shows someone
with better self-understanding (and thus a smaller blind self) who has chosen to communicate more of himself (and moved items from the hidden self into the Shared Self). The challenge is to put the right things into the shared self and keep the right things in the hidden self.
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The shared self is all the things I know about myself and all the things the person I am communicating with knows about me too. These are the things about me that I talk about and consciously communicate with her. The hidden self is all the secrets I have about myself that I do not share. The blind self are the things my listener knows about me, that I am blind to myself. Certain habits I have or the way I come across that I am not aware of. The unknown self are things that I do not know about myself and the girl does not know either. There is no way of knowing what this is, but you can probably assume that it is there to make a complete model.
From the 4 areas I am only aware of my shared self and my hidden self. From the 4 areas, I am only presenting to my listener 2 parts: the shared self and the hidden self. It is from these two things that she constructs her theories about who I am, and many of these theories will be wrong. All you are able to control is what you communicate from the shared self. When you select things to communicate you are bringing things from the hidden self to the shared self to allow her to form opinions of who you are. When we select these things we both want to intrigue the listener and present things that she finds attractive. The blind self you can control on a larger scale by finding an inner calm and presenting yourself in a confident way. If you get to the right equilibrium in your life and body, the blind self will sort itself out to present an attractive picture even if you are unaware of it. Those two things are the point of what you are trying to do here. Further, you will be continually interesting to her if her theories about who you are prove to be wrong. In that way, women like guys who are “spontaneous” or “unpredictable”. The reason they like this is because it continually challenges their theories in their mind as to who you are, and she has to continually work to refine her mental model of who you are. This causes intellectual stimulation and keeps you on her mind in a positive way. It leaves her constantly constructing new views of your character in her mind. If you have ever read a women’s romance novel, you will have seen that there is a very brief description of the romantic leads physical appearance, but then hundreds of pages describing his character. Romance novels are women’s sexual fantasies. It is written by women for women and gives us a good idea of what is important to them. Keeping them analysing your character keeps their interest. Now, a large part of what shows up in your blind self can be controlled to the extent that you grow as a person. The insecurities that you throw out into the world in your deliveries, and how you betray your underlying beliefs and inner turmoils. Perhaps it is simply in your self-serving belief system where you betray that you believe that the men that are rich or good-looking are those that get all the girls. If you are neither rich nor good-looking, this simply betrays insecurity and an inner turmoil, that you wish you were one of those things. The insecurity is unattractive for itself, and although it will be 45
invisible to you. for she will be able to see it. 46 . your inner turmoil will be moving into your blind self.
Getting her phone number. Above I have oversold it. Specifically her friend may come 47 . There is a discussion of the book in the Appendix. But I can't do it here.. you can get her number and can continue the interaction. Most of the places that you meet girls. However with the opportunity to get her number here.. If I do the cube on you. OK? All right. With all those things accomplished that you would like so your life is perfect. but it tells us who you are today. Here is a segue to get her number for her first question after the palm reading. This is a very good way to get her phone number without ending the interaction. Make life easier on yourself and give people excuses to do the things that they want to do. and not mentioned The Cube. First it solidifies in her mind that you do in fact plan on seeing her again. there are constraints on the situation either in terms of time or social constraints that require that you will have to retire and continue the interaction on another day. It is however a good routine to run. I will oversell the Cube or oversell what I have in my house to convince her it is worth seeing or doing. We are not fortune-tellers. It takes 15 minutes of concentration on your part and requires silence. The other reason that it is good is because some unforeseen circumstance may occur that prevents you getting a good opportunity to get her number later. Overselling is something I do all the time to get her to make a decision by overselling what you have in your apartment. I mean if you can imagine yourself in 5 years in exactly the situation that you would love. Usually you get her phone number at the end of the interaction as you and her go your separate ways. Cannot divine the future from it. So then when you continue building comfort it is within the framework of an ongoing relationship. even if the pretence is not the important motivator. the Cube. I have this other thing . it will tell you all the things that you need to do in order to achieve that picture in 5 years. Generation’s excuse & Cube number close It has been in the family for generations. When you do that. it does not seem like too much fortune telling. It'll have to wait for another occasion. so give me your number and we will organise to catch up. and her grandmother taught her. My mother taught me. Even when you have already read her palm. you are going to need her number. This changes how the rest of the interaction is on that night. People prefer to do things for a reason. This is a good thing for a number of reasons. okay? “The Cube” is a visualization personality test in a book by Annie Gottleib. it is not that good. It is much better. etc. that of how you learned it. and I will usually run it during the Day 2 (first date). and this is not just a chance encounter with a guy she will never see again. They were just pretences to get her in a position where you want her anyway. That is the obvious time to do it. The disappointment she may feel for the oversold object is not important.
If you have nothing like that. The routine does not have to be that strong>" Let her get comfortable with the fact that you are on the phone without her having to talk much. So you should come onto the phone upbeat. and say confidently: I like you.. or some other joke that you made up together. if you used the above. do not get her number there and then. you should then go into a story of sorts to let her mind get comfortable with the fact that you are on the phone and this conversation is going to be easy. so if she wants them done she has to come to your place and inside with you. preferably as low-key as possible rather than a formal date. now you have that banter of sexual electricity going. You will notice that this is worded as if you choose her. like “Hi Jody! Steve here! How’s it going? Cool. Once you are where ever you are going you can use the cube where you are in a by-the-way style thing if you want. You are saying it as if you could have had her number at any time and you have only just decided that you are going to see 48 . Give me your number. Now. You should call her and open the conversation with something that reminds her of the conversation you had together … perhaps something you accused her of being. you should not do so with the Cube as a pretext on the actual call. This is a good pretext for getting her home alone with you. If she wants to step up and be more insolent than you. check this out: <immediately into funny story or routine about what apparently happened this morning or yesterday and the story can be re-used on multiple girls even if it is months since it happened. or a pet name you gave her or something that takes her straight back to the interaction in her mind. or a boyfriend or someone may arrive ruling out the chance to exchange numbers discretely. I am going to see you again. She just sits there and listens for a minute or 2 while she gets her brain around the fact that you called and she is speaking to you and let her get over the trembles involved with that coming out of the blue. In fact changing pretences for getting together solidifies what this is really about. still presenting it as if it happened yesterday. all the better . If you choose immediately after the palm reading not to use the above routine and go onto other routines (such as the Grandmother routine). touch her on the shoulder. You should pitch the get-together that you come up with. Take control on the phone. The Cube and the runes are discussed in Appendix 1.up and drag her away.. Hey. Better than the Cube is the Runes. just keep control of the agenda and the conversation. Just because you used it as the pretence to get the number does not mean that you need to stick with it.) Have her responding to your stimulus so she is the female and you are the male in the conversation. a solid number close is to pull out a pen and paper.. Take out the fluff and keep the call tight (tight does not necessarily mean short . and just continue with regular string along based conversation. You do not have to … just because you used it as an excuse to get her number does not mean you have to use it. when you call her.. They are better because you leave them at your place.
If you put too much pressure on yourself because you value the girl. You should treat it all as a fun experiment. looking at it. This is because you will trivialise your interactions as "just practice". it is time to give her your phone rules or discuss the exact circumstances of when you call so that she can imagine picking up the phone and having you on the other end. removing the pressure you put on yourself and the interaction. every girl will seem almost disposable to you. As she is filling it out. you don’t necessarily need her phone number. If this is a good way forward in a situation such as this. In such circumstances it is especially important that you remember her name and the details of your last conversation. you will loose many of the lessons in being relaxed that you have been building by practicing on the women around you. The way I do this is you pull out pen and paper. I am going to see you again. You will not follow up on your phone numbers that you get properly. and coming back for a second conversation with her. by remembering the first you create intimacy and the illusion that you know each other well. reach out and put your hand into the middle of her back behind her shoulder blades. and can drop immediately into comfort building type conversation. Slap the pen and paper down in front of her gently. You need to not change the way you are acting. It is all a social experiment. You will find. In that case you can just speak to her again. Her eyes will move to it too. and you will allow otherwise perfectly good interactions die midway just because you are distracted by something else. With girls that you will see again.her again as if that is what she was trying to achieve all along and her charms have got her what she wanted. and their details. If she is a girl that works somewhere you will see her again. look her in the face and say. It is strong and forceful. It works. This is in fact a good thing. understand that you should not put pressure on yourself to be successful. it is a good rule for all continued interactions with girls. when you see a girl you really like. Even with a girl who you really like and value highly. but rather have these conversations so normal to you that you are accustomed to it and not trying hard. It is flattering to remember someone. You must. It is hard for her to play coy games. with practice that you do not attach any real outcome to whether you get the phone number or not. Once you are starting to get good and have many women. Give me your number" and at the same time with your other hand slap lightly the pen and paper on the table. Your having your hand on her back means you and her are both looking at the paper side by side and it is filling her vision up close. but keep in mind that you need to look as if you are entering into this relationship with good intentions. the continuing interaction is not based on getting the phone number and following up over the telephone. "I like you. She goes onto autopilot and fills out her number without thinking. 49 .
but that should only happen once you are sure she will say either “yes”. you still have some work to do yet. Somerset Maugham. so long as you do not fall down into nastiness or a tit-for-tat conversational structure. “The Hairless Mexican” from Collected Short Stories Vol. It is not difficult. I tell him he can have just as many as I if he will only listen to me. girls will have their own agenda: she wants you to validate that she is desirable. It is fine to proposition a girl.Her Strategies. “Our good friend. you should laugh and come back with a strong line like (delivered with a smile as if you are mocking a four year old): “Oh. cute … you thought I wanted to be your boyfriend”. the Colonel. The roles can change.” W. or it can be all left ambiguous. you can move between the two modes. III. she was thinking you want to sleep with her. 50 .” The second phrase moderates the first. Understanding the situation allows you to flow within it. If her accusation of you being a player is strident and a put down. that is all you need. Stay above it. and gives a clear course of action to correct the relationship to one of openness and sharing. To address the scenario where you want it to be ambiguous as to whether she is capable of having you or not: putting agendas on the table can in certain situations kill the flirtation and turn it into a proposition. Confidence. and does not degrade you at all. and you are a big person. There is no reason that you have to stick with one or the other throughout the conversation. You can follow up. envies my successes with the fair sex. you pursuing her. Remember that this is fun. The follow up line about you not being that easy then breaks the tension of the put down and gets her chasing. attempting to claim the validation before you have given it by assuming the victory and giving you a rebuff. Once she has been validated. she need not continue with the interaction. A girl. and puts the fact that this in fact is a romantic encounter back on the table so that you have not rebuffed her. reinforcing in her mind all the options that she has in men. and then her pursuing you. supremely confident that you are having an effect on her or you can let it be known that you are hitting on her. “maybe” or “not yet”. or a womaniser. but rather as a symbol of the underlying need for validation. It means that she is looking for you to tell her that she is beautiful and extremely sexually attractive. 1951 Within a flirtation situation. You should be the big one within the interaction: the sun around which she is a planet orbiting. This means that you are immovable in the centre and are not thrown off your balance as she fishes for her validation. If you never fear a rebuff you will never have one. if you like with a smile “I am not that easy. so you want to keep the interaction positive and a thing of growth for both of you. When you are in a flirty conversation. because it was all she was looking for. You can accuse her of liking you. It means that you take nothing as a rebuff. I will therefore spend some time talking about remaining centred and at one with yourself while understanding this agenda. The reason the first phrase is good is that she was not thinking that you want to be her boyfriend. after a palm reading will sometimes accuse you of being a player. there is a dance of the pursued and the pursuer.
Do not take these things as rebuffs. I hardly even had to open my mouth and he was fawning all over me like the boys at high school with pimples on their faces and semen stains on their pants. or "Back off there Charlie". attempting in one blow to gain her validation at your expense and kill the fun of the interaction. Further. and never actually act on the threat it in a cruel way. You should not reward that. I am such a fantastically beautiful creature that I turn mere mortal men to jelly as soon as they lay eyes on me”. Remember that she used this line as a strident put down. I find there is a mechanism that I use to bring me closer to girls. In fact. her insecurities have manifested themselves and she has played a gambit so she can say to herself “see. You are the big one in the relationship. my charms won the day. Do not draw it out. I am this beautiful creature that all the guys want.. because she understands that I can always laugh at her and say "Look who has tickets on herself . You don’t want to be that mere mortal nor feed her vanity. I am not interested in you".. step back for a second taking away any warm feeling she might have had so that she almost feels as if the room got a couple of degrees colder. I can talk in roundabout ways about sex. or something like that. a couple of seconds sends the message. You are the prize that all the women want. I am doing it for her own good.A good principal in life is that you should reward the behaviour of other people that you want to encourage. but rather that she is not at the same level of personal development as you. When you reengage. Because you are the cool one. This is punishment for her behaviour. you are then going to have to have more high energy conversations such as comedy. I mean that I can escalate the flirtation and act and speak as I want. nevertheless. it is always an option. and therefore changes the dynamics of the interaction. but neither become wounded by it or vindictive. and that is her loss of face. She is the one in inner turmoil within herself. and there is no way she can take her validation at my expense and say: "Sorry. at least in her mind. and watch carefully the messages you are sending as to whether she can have you or not. She still needs to perform well to win your heart. I can escalate the relationship. or anything like that. what makes you think that I have any interest in you?" or something along those lines. Part of growth is being confident in who you are and enjoying such situations. I would never say that. but she understands that I might. Look at this guy. and she is just another. I can stand close to her. I can touch her. And those guys had so little control of themselves they could not even control their own bodies. as long as I make no blatant statement of my intentions. I just hold the threat by not giving her the validation that she wants. When I say that. and not reward the behaviour you want to discourage. I have 3 rules that a girl has to meet before she gets access to my 51 . The centred guy who is at one with himself. By not making the chase explicit. sometimes a validation gambit will come in the form of "I am not sleeping with you". I am above it. when I can smile and say "Who ever said anything about sleeping together. Given that is her gambit you need to continue for some time having her guessing as to whether she can have you. Women are not scarce in your life. that inner turmoil manifesting itself as gambits to feed her vanity at your expense. This is not to say she has a deep character flaw. You should.
Some girls who guys might label a "tease" string guys along. like driving a car. not out of cruelty. and it is part of the beauty of women and the reason I love them. A good thing to say at this stage is.” You can also run a reverse validation gambit by realising that she is aroused from her non-verbal communication like when she is flicking her hair and giggling at you. Girls are attuned to the energy of who is chasing whom and will try to turn it around so that you tell her that you want her. In order to keep the girl coming. ignored. This is bringing out into the open the subtle communication often behind flirting that drives the behaviour and she has just elevated herself at his expense and killed any fun in the interaction. alright". Expect it. I need to get to know you first. with a smile. she will not answer. you are doing it wrong and she was not powerfully moved by it. turned on her heels and walked away. Whilst you should not be actively courting this objection. and the “you are a player” objection is a good one that is very different from (and needs 52 . aren’t you? I can tell. And that is very cool …” let it breathe for a second. then you continue with what ever you were saying “… so anyway. and may blush. blah. First because. The palm reading routine is so good. don’t you?” and you can reply “Ha! Look at you! Thinking about sex already! Slow down a bit.bedroom. In order to turn the tables and get the pursuer and pursued reversed for a time. I would like it if you could push the envelope more until you get it. you can misinterpret one of her validation gambits and tell her to "slow down" or make another statement that makes out that she is the one chasing. I don’t want to overemphasise this validation grab gambit or demonise it. If you are not getting it. The conversation will continue as if it never happened. to which he stepped forward and said "yeah. Girls are very much into the whole flirting thing in order to get the validation that she is attractive and desirable. I was watching a sitcom once where a woman looked at her male co-worker and said "Do you want to sleep with me?" phrased in a way where it looked like an invitation. Second because learning to handle the validation gambits is part of what you need to learn here. yet we have the flirtation on the table rather than an unspoken sub-text. kind of dumbfounded in the way where she does not know what to say. blah…”. Now the thing is reframed. “You are attracted to me. so intimate and such a call to action that often you will be accused of being a player. blah. A girl that chases the validation can be stringed along by withholding the validation just out of her grasp. continuing the conversation and just letting that sit out there. This is part of the fun game of flirting. you can withhold that validation so that she is not sure if her charms have won the day yet. you do not know where the cornering limit is before you spin it around if you never actually take it to that limit (and is why in advanced driving courses the instructor will get you to go until you spin in a controlled environment so you know what the slippage in the seat of your pants feels like). For example she might say “You want to sleep with me. So she thinks she almost has you admitting that you are really into her. But I don't tell her until we are in a place where we are alone because “I don’t know her well enough yet”. to which she answered "good". and you don't meet them. There is nothing wrong with it. but as a method to get him to tell her she is desirable. and leading her along like the pied piper. no? She wants to know the 3 rules. Sorry to let you down like that". but you don't give it to her.
but I need to wash my hair”. honest approach is the best comeback. I hope my reality can meet up with your expectations”. don’t even dignify it with a response and run the Grandmother routine or any other “where did you learn it routine”. you are reading her much more deeply. just naturally from having got into the same headspace as her) and you say quietly and modestly. You are the biggest player I have ever met. You look her in the eyes (hers should be big like saucers … trust me. “Is she always like this?” Now you have not even accepted her frame or treated what she has said as anything more than a triviality. but if you lean in and gently kiss her on the cheek it is excellent if it will not be rejected. You have talked about all her inner beliefs and desires and now she is exposed. She says for example “You are making that up. Such a player!” You will need to judge from where this objection is coming. and “no” is playing onto the back foot in a defensive mode that is uncomfortable for you and degrading to your inner self. In that case then a thoughtful. “That was incredible. and it is game over. She is all yours. Other times it is of the style. look at you. her attraction to you at that moment increases dramatically. You go quiet. aren’t you?” And turning to her friends. Now during the palm reading. yours will be too. girls like me” and just continue with whatever you were saying anyway. Instead you laugh and move out of the frame. I want you to get this objection on at least one occasion while doing this course and relish it. Sometimes immediately after a palm reading she may make the pseudo-rebuff in the form of a “the girls must really like that” at which time you agree. Although to some of you.to be handled better than) “I would go out with you tonight. This is rejecting the frame that she has put on the conversation. You need not buy into her frames. When rejecting her frame entirely. “Yes” is a bad answer. a standard formula you can use while learning the skill is by laughing at her objection and talking about her behaviour in putting it out there. Another thing that I get sometimes is “do you just do that to pick-up women?” or variation at which point I just laugh. like when someone poses a bad multiple-choice question where none of the answers are what you want to choose such as “if you believe that you are either a) an idiot or b) a nazi” to which you want to scream that you reject his false framing of the question. and rather than try to answer “correctly”. Here use your judgment. and thus she is looking for your approval now on a much deeper level than the superficial level of flirting centred around physical beauty. It will start giving you skills that will serve you deep into your relationships. this may be counter-intuitive. you need to reject the entire frame as a triviality and pull her back into your conversational threads. If she was powerfully moved and is now completely in love with you she will be kind of smiling and in awe. “Yes. Like “Ha. The person posing the question has framed it in a way that you need not accept. You are like the distrustful little sceptic. and a brutal rejection of her would not be to reject the 53 . aren’t you?” Now there is no need to dignify that with a serious response that plays into her frame. “Thank-you … you just said I am like James Bond. Many of these validation gambits present you with a bad multiple choice. drop your eyes (as if you are searching inwards and thinking) and let a smile crawl across your face.
Part of being cool and maintaining your pride and power in the situation is that you always should have your own thing going on. She is bouncing it off you to see whether you are for real or not. I’m alive and real and right in front of you. Always smile. She has kissed you on the cheek after the reading. You waited and wished. You: C’mon. However. and kiss her on the cheek. you are not scared to change the subject. to give you an example of how far you can go this style of thing without with-holding validation. rather than tell her that her charms have not yet won the day. I’ve stepped out of your dreams. That we are getting together is now on the table. Never go onto the back foot. That does not mean that you are less talkative. You have to be cooler than a girl you are picking up. but rather to reject the inner girl who thinks and feels deeply. and in running something so arrogant and cocky. You lucky girl. You met me in your first hot dream. In this case you can. I am flattered that you think that I am so observant that I could see that without looking at your palm. Important to realise is that many of these things are tests. move onto aggressive footing. But as a general rule. if she is trying to put you on the back foot with a rejection. The subtext in her objection is “I am attracted to you. but there are certain hurdles that need to be jumped before I am comfortable with this”. you will increase that attraction dramatically even if she refuses the kiss to try to knock you off your high horse to tell you that you 54 . you misinterpret the test and go honest with: Thank-you. You should not look as if you are trying hard to impress anyone. When you don’t go onto the back foot you are maintaining your power and acting in a cool way. Her: But I hardly know you. and if you find a conversation banal. I wish I could. This should be delivered as cocky humour. It means that you avoid banal conversations. That style of response is for a girl who already has a high level of attraction for you. this is keeping the pursuer-and-pursued roles ambiguous is not a hard and fast rule. When you are with a girl. you need to be firm with her and let her know that the game is not over yet. Being courted. If she says “You just worked all that out by speaking to me before you started”. I will often tell her that I like her. Ever. who are you trying to kid? I’m no stranger to you. remember? You know the good-looking joker in your little girl dreams that always faded when you woke up wet between the legs. Now come here and give me a kiss on the cheek. I am going to give you an example at the extreme end of continuing with her frame and at the same time directly telling her that you and her are getting together. or rather perhaps a bigger person than her. you are there because you are bringing her into your world. let her try to impress you.outer girl on her beauty or superficiality. That gets the validation flowing in both directions. not the other way around. and you have kissed her. Some girls react very well to being chased. Here give me a kiss (point to cheek).
you will want to either take back the validation to get her chasing again. and having you defend yourself that you were not with another girl. and got it. or she might try a crying act to persuade you (no problem there. but be warned it can get old quickly if she is not ready to hook up with you immediately. or perhaps she might throw a tantrum because you went out without her last night. she cried when she wanted the bottle as a baby. it is not her fault. Now is not the time for the waterworks.haven’t won yet.). These skills are important. 55 . specifically for palm reading. and you can do the same “Ha! Look at the spoilt little girl. and that the fact we are getting together as a possible boyfriend-girlfriend and go after rapport and comfort in a getting to know you style exchange. setting a new precedent that all your movements need to be tracked by her. In that case you laugh and run the selling it routine and include the retard line reading. Perhaps she might try to impose an exclusive relationship upon you by pretending that she thinks that you are seeing some-one else. Now. baby. falling back to your autopilot that you will be learning here “Ha. Her parents taught her that one. and the gambit has worked ever since. On that sort of thing you need to understand why they are crying first. Once you go direct like this. We are not going to stay in this hotel because you are crying. It is important here. you might get to the end of your bit and she will say “Those things are applicable for anyone”. and you can reply. You can persist with this style of chasing game. I have a discount coupon for a place here in this book …”. or assume the sale. Because within a relationship your partner will try gambits to feel out the boundaries of the relationship. They might try to see if they can get a response by acting angry about something. and you will use them down the line in a relationship. look at you! You are all angry”.
just examine her palm then say) Now. There are certain girls that are just hard to talk to.. Introduction: Do you know your basic palm? Relax your fingers. It is not necessary to read the life line if you don’t want. and continue to do that every time you point out a feature on her hand. to equate to a single theme and a complete picture. I don’t usually read her life line. Don’t say anything. this is your heart line.. The improvement to the routine is to make it more complete. she is attracted to me. Yeah . Only use them if you feel that is what is needed to take the seduction forward. Obvious additions are the two readings from the beginners reading (Head and Life lines) that you have learned but are not in this routine. rather than the more disjointed reading that you have been doing. but not so long that I am continuing after the job is done. If you want to lengthen the routine. and we are intimate together … basically agreeing that we are together. I will continue the palm reading for so long. The three shells reading is sufficient to get her completely. leaving him just sitting there and staring into his beer. and then move onto other conversations so we can get to know each other. Alternatively. Do not be scared to touch her). relaaax. let’s say we are at the bar on bar stools with me beside her and some other guy on the other side of her who either knows me or her and wants to break into our world and talk to her. important to your palm are some minor 56 .The Advanced Palm Reading Now you have should been out reading girls palms and having success. The major change over the reading you have learned and been using is that you are going to be running the “3 shells over your inner love reading” for the head line. change orders and add any additional material that you might see fit. this is your life line. I am now going to add some complexity to what you have been doing... feel free to run this as it is then. (twist over the palm to look at the "children lines". relax. that his spirit on picking up this girl is broken. that is right. and get you taking some more risks. You can read any combination of material and she is not even looking at her palm. I will just continue with a longer reading to keep the intimate thing going with her. Because I have a lot of conversations that I like to have in a comfort building situation. and if I identify such a thing (like English is not her native language for example). This is your head line (run your finger along her head line. Hopefully he will walk away and find something else to do. I make the reading long enough that it serves its purpose in that it gets me in with her on a different level. For that reason what follows is my advanced reading and is long enough to do all the things I want to do. You should have started to incorporate the previous lessons on handling the situations surrounding the reading and getting your delivery and persona right in the interaction. and I do not include a life line reading here both because I will seldom do more than this when I read palms and also because I want you to understand that she cares nothing about what is in the actual palm and whether the reading is “complete” or not.
Time to change your voice tone and make sure you are in a serious voice here as if you could cry because it is likely that you are talking about a death in the family or divorce of her parents or something). If she pulls you up on it tell her if she gets better light and has a close look she will see them and that you are practiced .. (Pause. comes up to the head line for example. (Empathy on that line) However.. You don’t need to hold yourself back and watch 57 . the reading just took a change of pace and she will be thankful for it) However. this represents your heart also. as much as that was very hard (pause). Mound of Venus reading Your Mound of Venus is this fleshy area here. Yeah. I'll come back to it. If you have a close look.. and touch her chest above the breast. it means that as a little girl you always had dreams of a perfect-man. (Pause. or act lady-line and you don’t just be yourself and just relax even with your best friends. and give yourself to the people around you. And you hold people out of your life (bring your hand up .. or try to act cool. But you know that. let it sink in). or scared or lack some confidence. That means that as a child or adolescent you had some experience where you were asked to become an adult before you were ready. Your palm all combines to a single story.. push on with the reading). This line here is called your fate line. Yours is strange because it (does whatever it does). that was very difficult for you. (Here you reach across with a semi-cupped hand. You are more able to feel deeply and live as an adult because of it. and stop people from really getting to know you (gesture back and forth) and relax in a non-judgmental way. You know that sometimes you are shy. but relaxed with your elbow bent in a subtle motion). palm out like a policeman might say stop. but rather let everyone else in. And you always thought that a perfect-man would walk into your life.. It means that you hold yourself back and don't give yourself completely to all the people in your life (wave your hand out at the rest of the world). as I said. And given you like who you are today. And you’d be a lot happier if you could not lock yourself up. look her in the eye and smile. as much as your perfect-man could be right in front of you (be careful with the self point here) you may have trouble even recognising him and more trouble meeting him and seizing the opportunity that is right in front of you because if we look over here to your Mound of Venus .. And it means that you have a caged heart. at some stage.. you will see these small lines that run up and down and side to side (you say this even if she does not have any. you can therefore thank that event for making you who you are. And then you can just relax and be comfortable with yourself and everyone in your world. so let’s start with your fate line because it is a distinguishing feature in that it (does whatever it does . Now these lines represent bars like in a jail over your heart. Because it curves up to between your index and middle fingers. The other thing that is important to your palm is this (run your finger over her Mound of Venus) . your Mound of Venus it represents your heart also. or say the right thing. I know.lines that I am going to introduce you to also. everything that has happened to you makes you who you are today.. Fate line reading Where will I start? OK. Heart line reading Now your heart line. your fingers representing the bars around her heart)..
Important here is that you dwell on her ability to love. I'll make my own way in the world". When a child puts his hands over his eyes and says. Three Shells over your inner love reading Shell of Childhood Now. So you dwell here on her ability to love. I have never had a girl consciously notice this gesture. your head line. This guy sees me for who I really am!’ You can judge what you do. And you just wanted to love everybody and be loved for the inner love. Everyone even if they were spoiled as a child. Discussion of the above reading: This reading is about the common experience of loosing the unconditional love of childhood. Do not make this an obvious move that is too close to her lap. And you were hurt. relaxed and curling upwards and push them forward down low to simulate you putting your fingers into her. but you have a soft inside like soft fudge (and drop your hand towards her lap take stick out your index and middle fingers. “You can’t see me. So now you are hard on the outside like hard candy (and you knock on her shoulder gently like you would knock on a door). or for music or for sport or for art or for your popularity. you need to use your judgment as to how close you can get. Or rather the unconditional love of childhood was found to have conditions. But at some stage this inner love was over looked. Because you have this capability to love so deeply. Being in love for humans is an important motivator. I don't know if it was for your schoolwork. (change your voice back to the sad tone of voice) But you just wanted to be this little girl that loves. We are all born believing that we are the centre of the world. and she has this experience inside of ‘oh my god. He has not separated out his experience-of-the-world internally 58 . You want it to be as close as possible without it being consciously noticed. And you tried to be recognised for something else. What this means is that as a little girl you were born just this bundle of love. (Here you run your hand along her shoulder representing the shell she has built) Your first shell. however). And you have trouble taking the new opportunities right in front of you. You had just this shining light inside of you (clench fist loosely and place with the back of your hand into the centre of her chest). there was a sense somewhere that they did not get the attention that they needed. And you said to yourself "Well if they don’t recognise my love.your manners and what is "the right thing to say". So you built a shell around yourself. I am hiding” and then takes them off and says “Boo!” he is telling you that he still sees himself as the centre of the world. and this especially needs to be watched when you meet your perfect-man (run finger along heart line or else self point). her unconscious takes it in. but sometimes I add a bit around “the schoolwork or sport or music” part where I say “perhaps your sister was prettier” and get that competitive thing going there too. And in that way your heart is caged (touch her again on her heart). Some people love the feeling of being in love more than the actual person that they love. You just were this loving little girl who wanted nothing more than to love everyone and be loved. So you decided to navigate your own way in the world because you this inner love was overlooked and your heart was burned.
And you wanted the boys to be interested in you. She probably still does even if she has a perfect ass. just back in) But you were still this loving little girl. There then comes a day. But your beautiful loving inner radiance was hidden under that first shell. and you should not deliver it as a joke. And as the child realises that he is not the centre of the world. The same was for everything our parents encouraged us to do. Encouraged her to be things that the parents valued rather than looking at the child. but rather as the truth because when her body changed and her hips got wider from little girl hips to women hips. The reading taps directly into this mechanism. If they do you lean back and laugh too and point at her and say “I can tell. You can expand the theme into something separate later to the fact that her parents often encouraged her for the wrong things. You were still this girl who wanted to love and be loved. (they do not laugh at this. but don’t let it break up the reading either. by definition is not based in reality. he might realise that he has to compete for his parent’s affection and respect.from the external world itself. And it hurt you again that you had to make yourself look as good as possible. and if he closes his eyes. They may have encouraged her in maths when she regrets now that she never learned a musical instrument for example. And you did yourself up like a Christmas tree with clothes and jewellery (this line is optional depending on how beautiful she is. perhaps when the child is about 4 or 5. don’t smother it. The dream is unrealistic. Shell of Superficial Female Expression Then as a teenager. And perhaps you used to look at yourself in the mirror and wonder if your ass was fat. Every time you say inner love you suddenly change vocal inflection back to the one where you are almost going to cry). The more beautiful the better). But our parents needed to motivate us. So on top of this first shell (run hand over 59 . the world is not there anymore because he cannot see it. seeing with perfect information what she was good at and what she enjoyed and encouraged her to do those things to allow her to become the sort of person she really wanted to be. and gave us praise when we did what they wanted with positive reinforcement. Don’t rush getting back to the reading. They needed to prepare us for a world as a freestanding. So you started to look at yourself in the mirror. you were still this little ball of love inside (fist on chest again). she definitely used to look at her ass in the mirror and ask herself this question. Don’t get caught up in other conversations. and makes it an undesirable thing as compared to being appreciated just for her ability to love and love her back unconditionally. So they told us we had to tidy our rooms. independent person. you still do that to this very day. where perhaps he stays home from school for the day and he suddenly realises that “The Simpson’s” is on television every day at 2pm whether he watches it or not. but idealism. However sometimes they do laugh. allow the laughter to breathe. The world goes on without him or her. and withheld their affection until it was done with negative reinforcement. It is a nice break in tension of the reading and you can become warm in the glow of each other. It is unfortunate that we have to lose our innocence of the unconditional love. don’t you?” Let her laugh and laugh yourself without letting go of her palm. Put window dressing on your beautiful inner love (fist again to chest. And you started to try things with your hair and dress yourself up in the clothes that the cool girls were wearing.
It is a common experience for us all. You met a guy. and having told her that you can see beyond her beauty. Discussion of above reading: This again dwells on her ability to love. Who can see the inner love. The beauty that she values so highly is only window dressing on her soul.shoulder again). and you were spurned in love. This makes you a very different kind of man to what she is used to. And you told yourself that you would never be reliant on a man again. It is twisting her beauty from a thing that makes her more attractive to a thing that makes her less attractive to a man of integrity who can recognise the true inner beauty of the girl. And now your inner loving radiance was covered with two shells. you built a second shell. He expects the woman to have some deep intuition that means she will see the sensitive loving guy inside. The subtext is: "the depth at which you were ignored for your true inner beauty (love) as a child is manifested in the amount of time and energy that you spend on dressing up that hardened shell like a Christmas tree now. And your perfect-man (running your finger along the heart line again but looking her straight in the eyes) is the man who can recognise the inner love inside you (blatant self point). The more beautiful you are and the more time you spend on hair. A symptom of a deeper evil. Shell of failed love Then you formed a third shell. Further you kind of insult her by both telling her that her ass is fat (although this is a common experience at puberty and takes her mind back to when her body was changing). and you can see that. Many people who do not do well with women and reject outside help have the objection that she should see him for the deep sensitive person that he really is. and not judge him on his looks or his job or his friends or his car and she will just accept him and love him for who he is. However this time you downgrade the things that most men find her desirable for (her beauty). Your lack of superficiality is not lost. This makes her beauty look like a bad thing. So on top of the shell you built because your inner love was not noticed as a child or your sister was prettier or whatever. and penetrate all three shells and touch you deeply 60 . But still underneath those shells is this loving girl who can love and be loved. You were still this loving girl with a boundless ability to love and be loved. You were still this loving girl. It is exactly that emotion that you want to go to in your mind as you deliver this reading. you built a shell of superficial female expression and deception with make-up and bracelets and rings and on top of that you built another shell of self reliance as you told yourself you would never be reliant on another man. and that you are not impressed by the effort she puts into making herself look good. and make-up the more you are attempting to deceive and divert attention from the fact that you are unable to have your inner love recognised". you have told her that you see her inner love and you find that very appealing. This she would never have heard before. The shell of superficial female expression. That any woman who is attracted by these bad-boy players is not the sort of woman that he wants anyway. and gym. She feels even more that you see her for what she truly is.
then she tried to make herself beautiful to be accepted and get that unconditional love. You are overselling yourself. If you look at your hand she will watch it come up also.(here you bring your hand up from her lap to where you were putting your fist for the inner love stuff but this time you have your index and middle fingers outstretched. and you will be able to give from that deep well of love and receive his love. you will be able to relax and understand that your capacity to love is what you are appreciated for. She will loop on that one and contemplate it only half listening to the rest. Because you are the only man here that sees the inner love that she has. Girls as young as 19 will start to notice little lines around her eyes and start buying expensive skin care cream. By 24 those lines are becoming endemic. The line that really bites is “putting lines on your face”. You are saying her independence as an adult woman is just a manifestation of having ventured a long way from her original life position of having unconditional love and care during early childhood. Her childhood. she has to agree that no man has ever really appreciated her for it. This is really a reading about her third period as an adult. And you need to work to seize the opportunity in front of you to allow the inner love to be expressed and to receive love from a man who can see the inner you when he is in front of you. That is a good thing. you are making your body tense and the tension is putting lines in on your face. bringing your hand up her body without literally touching her until you get to her chest then you touch her there with your index and middle fingers. but that was found to have positive and negative reinforcement strings attached to it. and the men in her life have valued her for other things. You are 61 . She needs it. the problem is with these three shells. The entire 3 shells over your inner love reading splits her into the 3 separate periods in her life. as valuable as you are saying in your readings. Now you explicitly make yourself her ideal man. And with this ideal man. She still does not have the unconditional love that you have talked about. and put your hand over her heart again in the caged gesture with the fingers representing the bars). It didn’t work. You lean on the word penetrate). She is now an independent woman who stands on her own two feet in the world. And then your shells can disappear and you can allow yourself to be reliant and have the unconditional love you have always yearned for but never received. But she wants that unconditional love. However. Here you are blaming those lines on the fact that she does not have the right man and are offering a solution to her aging and mortality. We have come a long way now from the first reading where she was a little girl at the centre of her world who could put her hands over her eyes to stop the world from seeing her. and give her criteria by which she should think about these things and measure you. She used to have an unconditional love. You need to peel away the three shells and make sure you do not block your heart and hide yourself and your desires and tensions (point again to her Mound of Venus. Discussion of the above reading: This concludes the readings and rounds it out tying the entire palm reading together. Further. saying that you are capable of doing so. If she believes the inner love is valuable. you want her in a kind of stupor. you are running down both her ex-boyfriends and any current love interests in her life. her adolescence and her adulthood.
The routine without comments for easy reading: Do you know your basic palm? Relax your fingers. Fate Line Where will I start? OK. 62 . shell of superficial female expression. so let’s start with your fate line because it is a distinguishing feature in that it (does whatever it does). your Mound of Venus it represents your heart also. Children lines: you are fertile.offering it. Now some palm readers who come from a different tradition to me will tell you that these lines represent the number of children you will have. Children lines (Now you twist over her palm to look at her "children lines") You are fertile! (Smile. (HER sometimes: How can you see that? YOU: It is here in these little lines. you can. important to your palm are some minor lines that I am going to introduce you to also. You are offering something that she has not been able to achieve on her own with years and years of trying new strategies to attain it. Now. everything that has happened to you makes you who you are today. That means that as a child or adolescent you had some experience where you were asked to become an adult before you were ready.. And given you like who you are today. you don’t give yourself over to others Head line: You have a deep love with 3 shells: the shell of having your inner love ignored. if you feel the girl will be receptive. The routine in at a glance (cheat sheet) Fate line: grew up before you were ready Heart line: Dreams of perfect-man Mound of Venus: caged heart. drop palm). From here. However. this is your heart line. I know. shell of spurned love.. The other thing that is important to your palm is this (run your finger over her Mound of Venus) .. I'll come back to it. relaaax. Yeah . This line here is called your fate line. move onto the sexual reading that I include in a different chapter and it flows directly. Your perfect-man will recognise your inner love. that is right.. But obviously in my palm reading tradition we cannot read the future). as much as that was very hard (pause). Yours is strange because it (does whatever it does).. Your palm all combines to a single story. HER: What? YOU: You are fertile. this is your life line. you can therefore thank that event for making you who you are. that was very difficult for you. This is your head line.. You: give me a kiss (pointing at cheek). You are more able to feel deeply and live as an adult because of it. You are able to have children. RELAX . Yeah.
But your beautiful loving inner radiance was hidden under that first shell. And you hold people out of your life. However. It means that you hold yourself back and don't give yourself completely to all the people in your life. and give yourself to the people around you. And you were hurt. and this especially needs to be watched when you meet your perfect-man. Because you have this capability to love so deeply. I'll make my own way in the world".Heart Line Now your heart line. So you built a shell around yourself. But you just wanted to be this little girl that loves. And you tried to be recognised for something else. And you have trouble taking the new opportunities right in front of you. Three Shells over your inner love reading Shell of Childhood Now. You don’t need to hold yourself back and watch your manners and what is "the right thing to say". as much as your perfect-man could be right in front of you. you may have trouble even recognising him and more trouble meeting him and seizing the opportunity that is right in front of you because if we look over here to your Mound of Venus . So you started to 63 . your head line. Because it curves up to between your index and middle fingers. this represents your heart also. But you know that. or say the right thing. So you decided to navigate your own way in the world because you this inner love was overlooked and your heart was burned. And it means that you have a caged heart. If you have a close look. Shell of Superficial Female Expression Then as a teenager. or scared or lack some confidence. And you said to yourself "Well if they don’t recognise my love. you will see these small lines that run up and down and side to side. or try to act cool. Now these lines represent bars like in a jail over your heart. it means that as a little girl you always had dreams of a perfect-man. or for music or for sport or for art or for popularity. at some stage. You had just this shining light inside of you. or act lady-line and you don’t just be yourself and just relax even with your best friends. you were still this little ball of love inside. And you wanted the boys to be interested in you. So now you are hard on the outside like hard candy. and stop people from really getting to know you and relax in a non-judgmental way. And you always thought that a perfect-man would walk into your life. You just were this loving little girl who wanted nothing more than to love everyone and be loved. And you’d be a lot happier if you could not lock yourself up. but rather let everyone else in. I don't know if it was for your schoolwork. And you just wanted to love everybody and be loved for the inner love. Mound of Venus Your Mound of Venus is this fleshy area here. And then you can just relax and be comfortable with yourself and everyone in your world. You were still this girl who wanted to love and be loved. Your first shell. as I said. But at some stage this inner love was over looked. but you have a soft inside like soft fudge. And in that way your heart is caged.. You know that sometimes you are shy. What this means is that as a little girl you were born just this bundle of love..
And now your inner loving radiance was covered with two shells. Shell of Failed Love Then you formed a third shell. Put window dressing on your beautiful inner love. secure that it will be worked out. The shell of superficial female expression. It might have been when she first understood that we are mortal and will all die eventually. the girl will try to tell you that it is not the case for her. Having times in your past when this is the case is absolutely universal. You should have absolutely zero fear that any of the readings are off base. you are making your body tense and the tension is putting lines in on your face. She might have lost a 64 . You say in response “Shh! The palm never lies”. You need to peel away the three shells and make sure you do not block your heart and hide yourself and your desires and tensions. And you told yourself that you would never be reliant on a man again. you built a second shell. But you were still this loving little girl. You are fertile! Give me a kiss. you built a shell of superficial female expression and deception with make-up and bracelets and rings and on top of that you built another shell of self reliance as you told yourself you would never be reliant on another man. And your perfect-man is the man who can recognise the inner love inside you. And it hurt you again that you had to make yourself look as good as possible. just to summarise so you can see the entire picture. Have supreme confidence in it. but she understands the sentiment. And perhaps you used to look at yourself in the mirror and wonder if your ass was fat. and can push through all three shells and penetrate you deeply.look at yourself in the mirror. And you did yourself up like a Christmas tree with clothes and jewellery. Sometimes in a palm reading. A girl might tell you that she does not have such an experience she can put her finger on. But still underneath those shells is this loving girl who can love and be loved. Even if she had a clean childhood. However. And you need to work to seize the opportunity in front of you to allow the inner love to be expressed and to receive love from a man who can see the inner you. it might be as simple as finding out that Father Christmas does not exist and that her parents had lied to her for example. So on top of the shell you built because your inner love was not noticed as a child or your sister was prettier or whatever. It might have been the day she was first sent to school and had to leave her mother at home. asked to act in adult ways when we would prefer to be children and defer to our parents. You were still this loving girl with a boundless ability to love and be loved. Now. and you were spurned in love. Every single reading in this advanced palm reading is universally true. First it talks about being born a child and turning into an adult. We are still. as adults. the problem is with these three shells. And you started to try things with your hair and dress yourself up in the clothes that the cool girls were wearing. So stepping you through from the beginning to illustrate. So on top of this first shell. Perhaps it is true that she cannot put her finger on it immediately. You met a guy. Who can see the inner love.
There were times when her innocence started being lost and there is no denying it. and she got feedback as to what correct behaviour was. This has nothing to do with her current relationship. It is universally true. Then she found out that the love had conditions. She was once a child with unconditional love. 65 . There is no getting around it or claiming it did not happen to you. However you always believed that the perfect 10 would walk into your life one day. She has definitely been in adult situations where either the world has let her down or she has had to deal with a situation she would rather be able to hide from or not have happened. and is validated instead for her beauty as a woman. Imagine you have a fantastic relationship in your life and I tell you “As a child or adolescent you had dreams of a perfect 10. It is not important about her current relationship. The third reading … 3 shells over your inner love. you may not be able to either recognise it or act on the opportunities right in front of you. And you love Doris to pieces. but these are surely not the girls whose palms you are reading). and was toilet trained and she found that the love was withheld and had conditions put on it. you are unable to just be yourself and blah. sensitive baby. Do not accept any objections. she is not being validated for the simple unconditional love she had as a gurgling. Let me turn it into male terms for you. and a mood that makes her want to dress in an unattractive way. Behaviour is modified via feedback. She might have been punished for something that she was innocent of. She might be in a relationship that satisfies her to bits. In doing that. “Shh! The palm does not lie”. blah”. You try to act cool. At some stage someone has told her that she needs to be a “big girl”. (It may be untrue for an ugly girl who does not look after herself. The reading is absolutely universal regardless of her level of satisfaction with her current relationship. You get the point. This is universal for all girls that are well groomed. This is necessary to turn the dependent organism that is a baby into a functioning adult and is an important part of life. bad hair day. The reading speaks to her inner animus. her appearance or how she is perceived by the world. however you ended up married to some woman named Doris. She was born into the world that way. she will get treated differently by the world and the people around her. There is no denying it.grand-parent. But even if your perfect 10 were right in front of you. She was told to tidy her room. or else she has told herself. “Shhh! The palm doesn’t lie”. But it is still true that she had dreams of a perfect-man. she thinks about her presentation and knows well that she is valued for her beauty. crying. and as a baby someone took care of her. Because you lock yourself up. and that is personified as her perfect-man of childhood fairy tales. She knows if she were to suddenly loose her beauty or get a round of pimples. She cannot argue with any of it. If she is a beautiful or even decent looking girl. The second reading about perfect-man … we all have dreams of a perfect mate. “Shh! The palm does not lie”. She has concepts of a perfect mate in there and no real living breathing man can actually completely live up to that. blah. or you are shy and so when that perfect 10 might be right in front of you. This has displaced the unconditional love that she had in the womb onto her appearance.
no matter how much she might like it. However. She needs to get herself up in the morning. Now she is an adult. Now what she really wants on a deep down level that is not considered (and would not actually be wanted in reality) is that unconditional love and support of childhood. That is true. If she expected it. All her needs were looked after. and it is not something any man would want to do. She may not have ever had a rejection from a man in her life if she is young. She has now ventured an enormous distance from the original premise of the unconditional love. I have had girls try to tell me that the other readings are not true. 66 . The reason is simple. dress herself and move around the world as an adult. She has rent that needs to be paid.Now the spurned in love reading. But she realises that she has to be a woman. but this reading about “never being reliant on a man again” has never got the response of “that never happened to me”. because she is an independent adult in the world and has to accept the responsibility for who she is. She understands the feeling. You have to look after yourself as an adult. Even if I did get that response. the feeling is common. She was born a dependent baby. she had to tell herself that she can not allow herself to be reliant on a man again. and bills that need to be paid. In a similar way no woman can live your life for you. She has definitely told herself that she would “never be reliant on a man again”. the sentiment is universal and you can honestly look her in the eye and say “Shh! The palm never lies”. she would not be attracted to him in return. No man can do those things for her. There is no man out there that loved her unconditionally like she was loved as a baby regardless of how she acted. Has to be an adult. The love and the world are not unconditional. If he did. as she would see him as “beneath her”. It is impossible to do.
This is based on the philosophies whereby I justify it to myself philosophically. If she is a hard sceptic. Albert Einstein. Little Miss Science. and move onto another topic of conversation. and it says you are a dork!”) What is more. the lifeline forms at 7 weeks after conception. Selling-it palmistry routine Ha! I have you worked out now: You are Jill the science chick. Just laugh. (Optional. bust her on it. Understanding my philosophical underpinning is not necessary to running the routine properly. How can someone like you. but what does she know anyway. and are not. I made it up. uniquely determined by the external world. “Dermatography” is not a real word. and expand the scope of the sorts of places you can go with it. It is not. the lines on the palm are not random or caused by creasing. however it may seem. so instead I say “Dermatography” because it is easier to pronounce. I thought so: this is the retard line. See. it is important when a girl asks that you believe in it. cease reading her palm because she is listening on a different level and will not enjoy it. call her a spoilsport and accuse her of being no fun. Dermatoglyphics is a science that studies the hand and fingerprints and finds correlations with diseases. for fun with a smile: “Here.Selling-it routines. This routine loses all my vocal inflections and seems like a long meditation. for some reason the word is really hard to say. There is a clear mark on the lifeline of every single child with downs syndrome for example. Evolution of Physics. aren’t you? (You call her Jill even though her name is not Jill. (to remember this word think of the word Dermatology … the medicine of skin. On a foetus. If they are a smoker. For me. if you say the reading that follows. My own justification has a classical philosophical underpinning and the concepts can be quite conceptually difficult. There are 4 simple ideas that I will summarise afterwards to get you performing it right. Of course. Physical concepts are free creations of the human mind. Calling her Jill is part of the joke). But the hand doesn’t develop 67 . you can tell some things from looking at someone’s hand. give me your palm. But the lines mean nothing. but understanding my ideas on this will enrich your experience of using the routine. a rational thinker believe in something as obviously false as palm reading? I will here give you a routine that you can use with girls. right? I would struggle with the real word if she were a medical student or something). OK. symbols with meanings. 1938 Palmistry is not real. Nevertheless. There is a field of science called Dermatoglyphics. and the word Hieroglyphics: carvings. The lines on the hand have a 100% correlation with all sorts of diseases and syndromes. drop her hand. treat her like she is a little bit stupid and you are explaining this to a child. Also you should not justify yourself in any way. or if they do manual labour for example. and the heart and head lines at 9 weeks.
• Then you point out that the lines form before the hand is capable of moving in the womb. And I don’t need to think about the laws of gravity when a glass falls off the table. and use rational thought to take you to a logical position where palm reading can exist. To simplify what you talk about. Now. the attraction gets stronger by that distance squared. • You compare palm reading with that as a metaphor. Or the wave / particle nature of light. But it is not an either / or belief. but despite wavelengths and absorption theories the flower seems red in the simplified world). Therefore the lines are not from creasing. But you could similarly talk about any scientific simplification (the protons. It is just easier to think of the world in that way in every day situations. That does not mean that I believe the world is flat and gravity does not exist. and you can be the sort of person that can do it without having to re-define your concept of 68 . Therefore the lines are there before the hand can even move to form creases. This in fact forms my philosophical underpinning of all fortune telling routines. If two bodies move closer together (step towards her). In my example I talk about the complex theory of gravity as opposed to the simplification of “unsupported objects fall down”. Palm reading is similarly a simplification of the world. and talk about the real research in this science pointing out the correlation to downs syndrome. Palm reading has a long tradition going all the way back to the oracles of ancient Greece and continues to this day because it contains the truth. but I can see general trends. you may have lost her in the above but you want her to understand now). I will summarise the routine: • First you accuse her of being a science chick. neutrons and electrons that make up matter being made of energy. Belief in one does not mean that the more simple case is not true also. Because gravity says that the force of attraction of 2 bodies (gesture back between you and her) is inversely proportional to the square of the distance they are apart. up is up and down is down. yet it is easier to think about the bus that is about to run me over being solid. The routine is actually the tip of the iceberg of a whole string of ideas I have about this that I will explain here to give you the back-story on the routine in case you feel like exploring it further. I want to take you from your current position as a rational thinker. I can simplify the world in my everyday life and say: the world is flat.the muscles or tendons needed to move it until 11 weeks. I can’t see the specifics of your history from it. For example I don’t need a weather man to tell me which way the wind is blowing. Are you a scientific person completely? I mean do you believe in Ghosts? This routine should not be memorised. • Then you intimidate her with science by talking about how complex science does not impact the simplicity of the world. • Then you introduce the science of dermatoglyphics. Unsupported objects fall down. It is the way that I run it. but it represents my own understandings and the way that I think about the world. See. (Slow down here.
69 . It is outside the main ideas of what I am presenting (although important to the philosophy). I must emphasise again that the following is conceptually complex and understanding it is not necessary to either read palms or lean to interact with women and is only included to enrich what I am teaching and increase your enjoyment of what you are doing. you can turn to the Appendix 1a on it and read further.yourself as a person. or the sort of person that believes in the supernatural. so if you are interested.
As you stop and imagine a time in the future having let this person in. and now having company in your own secret garden. However. Because you lock yourself up inside with inhibitions. In that case. But there is no need to do that. And 70 . you need to realise that you are able to be the person who you actually are. however. when you have moved the relationship quickly (where she is saying things like “we really shouldn’t be doing this”). Anonymous It is not necessary to read the palm of a girl you have kissed. But he only gets one chance. if you must. you should use the fact that you are already intimate with her to do more comfort related readings and sexual readings. the besieged. Each girl is different. There is a secret garden inside your mind where you store all your deepest thoughts and fantasies. you cannot do the perfect-man readings because it is obvious what you are doing. of letting a certain guy in. The interaction you want to avoid is that of you role playing the seducer and her. you know that he will accept that world completely. It will invariably come out in the form of last minute resistance. on this meeting to segue back to intimacy I offer the following to guide you in your interactions after the kiss so you understand the sort of conversations that are applicable at this stage: Once you have made out a girl. if you must. looking at him. And you don’t let anyone in there. In that case. And you look back on today. Things like the below: Share fantasies. the fact that you and her are together becomes on the surface and out in the open. If it ain’t broke. Especially if it is on the table that you are trying to seduce her. not even your best friends. Because no-one understands you truly. don’t fix it.Girls you have already kissed. for example you called her for a second meeting to follow up on a phone number you got on the night you kissed her and need. and you want to disarm that frame by not playing into it. You are capable. there can be no judgementalism or you will shut them up forever. And as you do that. and knowing for sure that it is him that can be let in. you should be having relaxed get-to-know-you conversation. As a general rule however. When you let him in and talk about your fantasies openly. my advice is not to do it. She will see straight through it. you will need to use your judgment and work out what moods you want her in and run readings that go towards those moods. and all the feelings of satisfaction at having made the decision and done it. But you need to understand that when you see the person who you are able to let into your secret garden. However. If there is even a tinge of that frame playing out palm reading is the absolute worst thing you can do.
Here in your life line it says that sometimes you can be a self-saboteur.you can relax completely and just allow yourself to act however you like and be the person you actually are. and things to practice. are afraid to just let yourself go. And you need to let any fear holds you back from embracing your life entirely fade away. However these conversations can be had without a palm reading and will serve you well in the continuing relationship. “I am going to do it!” These are good conversations to have. and you just need to reach out and take it. Happiness is right here in front of you. and do the things that you want to do. in your life. What that means is that you get in the way of your own opportunities. Having them within a palm reading to learn takes the pressure off you and gives you an excuse to say these things the first time. Like you might be in the middle of something else when the telephone rings. Sometimes you will turn down opportunities to go out with friends and have a good time because you. to stop doing that. and you need to step forward and say. somewhere deep inside. Stop interrupting your own opportunities and being the self-saboteur that you know you can be. But you need. Fear of Success/ self-saboteur. with a subtext of “it is written in the palm”. But often you will let that fear get in the way of going out and doing it. and then the person on the other end wants you to go out and do something. And understand that success is within your grasp. And sometimes you let fear get in the way of action. 71 .
It makes her cry. Getting a good feel for explicit sexual conversation is a good thing to learn. and your body can open and you can connect so deeply your hearts merge into one. Not 72 . not just the shell of superficial female expression. the energy between us can be almost dead.Going sexual. but a communicating with your deepest heart. There is no risk. I want you to try a sexual reading and see the reaction. Zen Mind. In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities. It makes her feel understood. she nods her head in agreement as if you are like someone giving her a diagnosis. Not expressing your true love. Like a doctor. This is an extension on the thesis that can either feel sexy or it can feel like a clinical diagnosis depending on the delivery. Right inside you. For example. A man that can penetrate you deeply. Not sexy. There is no spark. You can make her laugh. The man you have dreamed of since you were a little girl who could recognise your loving heart. But when you meet that man of integrity (self point) who can see the inner beauty. Shunru Suzuki. but more like what I have included in the African Store Routine in the next chapter). 1972 Transitioning the conversation to sexual is a stage in you and her getting together. And it is no longer about the superficial sexual release that you have been used to. Through all the shells so that instead of some shallow exercise in sex. If I am in a non-performing mood and I am just going through the motions with the routine like it is the 100th time I have done it today. or making jokes that have sexual themes (not smutty jokes. A man you can trust. Specifically. You need to see what moods this creates and work out why and how. Here I am going to have you transition the palm reading sexual to let you get a feel for it. understanding that it breaks nothing even if rejected. I love a palm reading. It easiest done where you are talking about sexual themes in general. It makes her feel good. Going sexual within a palm reading is a judgement call just as it is with any conversation within a seduction. tweaking your understandings of interactions as you do so. My advanced reading all builds to one thesis. Even when you move onto the sexual thing saying "and your orgasms are shallow”. here is the one that I want you to do at least once since it is extremely low risk and fills out a continuing theme in the palm reading: Sexual result of the 3 shells over your inner love All these shells have you locked inside your body so your orgasms are shallow and your body and face full of tension and lines. when she is listening. and all the world can fade away. And your fears can relax. If she is not visibly excited by you that is where you are doing your learning. but in the expert's mind there are few. Beginners Mind. This reading works best when she is extremely attracted to you in which case it is an exciting promise of great sex. you are able to share your inner love.
. Your skin texture tells me that you need to understand that human touch is important to you. the most basic of human communication and warmth. Girls will usually try to wriggle out of the question. and I'll make it ambiguous as in: Kink elicitation reading You are either bi-sexual (pause) . or you have all those dreams and fantasies about being punished .. There is no need for you to feel that there is something wrong with you and you need to hide it. you can go straight at a fantasy reading. And you can allow your sexuality to blossom. and you need to embrace them... you are not judged. Because it hurts you to lock yourself up like this. And be at one with them. If she jumps on the bi-sexual thing you can follow with a reading that goes (semi-crying voice tonality again): Bi-sexual gambit reading And you hold your preferences deep inside.risky.. As you understand that deep touch is critical to just being a healthy living breathing person. and is best left until after you have already had sex and been satisfied. I will usually do it like a pure cold reading. I use the opportunity to fish around for what her "kinks" are. or you have fantasies about exhibitionism (pause) . you are embraced and accepted for who you are. Not "Shhh! People might see us!" It is the later risk that you want in your interactions.. A kink elicitation is an important part of partners exploring each other’s sexuality. perhaps tied up . People really understand and can love you for it. Therefore. and you can live it openly without shame and without remorse. perhaps simply spanked . and live them. What that means is that I asked her what she thinks about when she masturbates.. But there is no problem with them. It is a natural expression 73 . And in part there are things holding you back from expressing this. So I tell her about the fantasy of an ex girlfriend to give her an example of the sort of thing that is fine to share with me. And you need to understand that you are able to live without hiding who you really are. Because no-one (point away) understands you. Another milder reading goes like this: Importance of human touch reading. Alternatively. You can embrace them. Your preferences are completely natural. perhaps having being "taken" against your will (You watch her very closely for which gets a little reaction. I use the heart line as proof.. You should not judge her kinks at all.) For the kink elicitation you have to keep your ears open. and you should use these sexual readings to understand it.. perhaps whipped ... watching her face to see when I hit the mark.. And sexuality is part of that. Because you are prepared to go without touch for long periods of time. Because when people know (self point).
74 . Nothing is ever “wrong”. and kissed well. Some girls do not want to get into heavy stuff and want the interaction to be sexually charged. Others still will be interested in their own natures. Each of the readings can be chopped and changed. You need to be kissed often. Others will be looking for someone who can truly understand them. You should run the routine the way that will suit your purposes best for achieving your goals with the girl. Remember: you are not a palm-reading purist. The palm reading routine is a modular routine. You can build your palmreading with blocks of readings that fit together like Lego live in the field giving a unique reading to each girl choosing the way forward by looking at the situation in which you find the girl and the her mood. They do not even necessarily need to be attached to the line that I am suggesting. You could read perfect-man from her lifeline if you wanted. You should not fight that energy.that is unhealthy to go without. And you don’t get enough of it at the moment. You will find that there are a lot of different “energies” or “vibes” or “chemistries” with the girls you run a palm reading on. Tell her the readings that you need to tell her to get the situation working. All these things call for you to use your judgment and do the palm reading in the delivery and style that is best for the girl. Some will just have a burning question they want answered and the minute you say you read palms like the destiny of their current relationship. it is just a tool to get you talking on a completely different plane with her.
following up on conversational threads that she leaves open. It is once she is aware that she likes you. When you want to abort an attempt at reading her palm you go at right angles as if you got side tracked. It is written right here in your palm. This is a comedy routine and should be delivered as such.Changing the direction of a conversation and use of comedy. not like a hot potato. and thus you will find yourself wanting to jump to this routine. we find these: spirituality. or not come back to it at all. However there comes a time where your initial work has been done and she is attracted to you. Moving to this level of intimacy is an important stage in you and her getting together. She is all crossed up. I am going to give you a sidetrack routine to use just so that all the options are covered. At that stage it is time to slow it down and move the topic of conversation onto a deeper level of sentiments and getting to know each other deeply and getting comfortable with each other. finding opportunities to make jokes and display how comfortable you are in this situation. changing directions of the conversation to keep it going. but you use your judgment as to when a good time is to move to the next level. creating open threads for you to follow up on later if you want. directness of expression. then you look down for a moment and look back smiling as if something just occurred to you. This chapter is instructional for the larger picture of the interaction. So you are reading her palm and it is not going well. and frequently an almost wanton delight in going astray from respectability. disregard of conventionalism. But check this out: I was out the front earlier and …” and head into another conversational topic. you can side track the conversation back into the high-energy routines and come back to it if you wish when the situation is better. but clearly in ‘meeting new people’ mode. You always reserve the right to come back to the palm reading later when she is in a mood to get a little more intimate with you. The palm reading will transition the mood. Not hyperactive. Palm reading is low risk. There is a correct time for a palm reading routine. This also serves as an example of the sort of high-energy material you can run before a palm reading. She might tell you straight up “I don’t believe in that superstitious stuff”. If a palm reading is rejected. and the girl will just obviously simply not be into it. In that case just drop the hand. Among the most remarkable features characterizing Zen. Listening closely looking for tangents. This is the right time for a palm reading. but continue to hold it for a bit and go at right angles with your conversation and let it go gently. You smile at her and go “I know! You are the little sceptical scientist. in part because it is so good at taking you to the next level. You should 75 . After she is attracted and it will be accepted because she is ready. Daisetz Teitaro Suzuki (1870-1966) Sometimes you open a palm reading. When you start speaking to a girl you need to be reasonably high energy. It does not take very long. You look at her.
often discounted including beads.. I am going to go compare the prices of the penis at .... umm … African stores .. African Store Routine So check this out . right? The ones that are all dark with all the carved wooden face masks and like beads hanging from the ceiling and voodoo dolls with a big fat Ugandan woman behind the counter... that . (allow laugh) But I can’t just turn and leave.. Now I don't know if it's me … probably … but I walked in there and my first reaction was . I was out shopping for a gift for my little sister on <whatever street with a large amount of these shops in your city..> yesterday (now is a good time to drop the palm and point in the direction of the shops from where you are) . You know which ones I am talking about.. etc. I am talking about the sort of store that sells imported African art. because you know how sales people can be .. I was walking around from shop to shop in my own mind thinking about what I might get her ...look like you are trying to keep a straight face.. umm…..do you want to buy it.. walked into an …(pause) African store! (allow it to breathe here for a moment).. suuurr?" (allow laugh at how expensive it is) So I am thinking as fast as I can .. carved wooden penis?" (allow laugh) [optional if telling it in straight style: “or at least that is what the statue looked like to me” (you might get another laugh)] She says: "$1500.... I mean it is an African store and there is the owner behind the counter looking at me. She goes "Can I help you. suuurr .. you walk in "just looking" (do quotes with fingers) and walk out with a giant wooden cock in your hand .. suuurr?" So I say (insecurely) "Yeah ... I was wondering how much is this . not like you enjoy undergraduate humour. giant . (allow laugh) I say (insecurely): "Ummmm ... no .. So I go in to look around just cursing myself for not looking before I walked in. You should look like a relaxed sophisticate when delivering it. and if yours is the best I’ll come back..... (delivered with pure amazement opening your eyes wide and pulling your head back slightly as if you just stopped and checked yourself) "Whoa! Africa!" (allow laughter) And it was not the sort of store I wanted to buy furniture or art in because like … I am really white (allow laugh) and it doesn’t go with Ikea." (allow laugh) The routine is a good model for the sort of material you are able to run when you are high energy and I use it as an example of the sort of routine you should get together for when 76 ... err … big .. and I wasn't even looking when I accidentally ... other . right... think . I ....
I have hundreds of them. then something in her "chose" to release or vent this tension in the form of laughter. That is why girls giggle in the presence of an attractive man. and I don’t take you seriously. that the acrobats were doing far more difficult things than standing in front of a microphone and making people laugh. importantly. so we can play together’.. and given that laughter is so easy to generate with a joke. It is a release of tension. you can use your own. In fact. it is not important whether you use the one I present. Jerry is talking about the amazing things he saw at the "Cirque de Soleil" . the tension will just continue with no release.you are attracting the girl to you. When you make a joke and both of you can laugh. She can take off her kid gloves when dealing with you. Jerry and the other guy are having a conversation about why people like comedy so much. but is also. The sex is a mechanism to laughter. It does not sound anything like a proposition. the one above chosen simply because it is what I am running right at the moment (time of writing). Laughter is a response to a large range of things. The routine does not sound at all crass coming out of my mouth because I am someone who is comfortable with my sexuality. in fact. and it is clear that it is not intended to shock. and it keeps my interactions fresh. Making fun of her is important. however this one. In other words. If you continue being serious and try to be James Bond. You can then also make fun of her. Comedy is a way to bring up sex without even coming close to proposing sex between you and the girl. The other guy points out that laughter feels better than the gasp of astonishment from 77 .. Laughter also makes you feel good. rather than tears or anger or some other form. a release of tension. she knows she is attracted to you when she starts giggling or laughing. I do. In the commentary track on the DVD of Jerry Seinfield's "Comedian". I know works and you can use it to learn comedic timing until you want to replace it with something you like better. or bragging about my sexual exploits. It shows that you do not take yourself too seriously. Instead it talks about sex in the third person and I am only talking about sex in order to get to the punch lines. It is an element of flirting that says. Like the Grandmother routine. it is unimportant. have African art hanging on the walls of my apartment in real life. and think about you’re your early interaction with comedy in mind. and get together and test many of these. and that tension can be released and leave permanently. and all is forgiven. Getting together and testing interesting little sexually oriented comedy bits is part of what I really enjoy in going out and meeting women. The punch lines give a reason for the sexually graphic language. If you don’t like my comedy routine. Something about what the person just saw or heard or thought made them tense on an emotional or psychological level. and she can relax because you are not about to get upset and take something the wrong way if she wants to make a joke. you should have routines that are purely comedy based with laughter as the objective (as opposed to attraction. ‘I don’t take myself seriously. Given that. you say things that are actually funny to get the signal happening in her. It is her signal to herself. That is why it is important when dealing with a girl. or conveying personality or any other criteria). A man meeting a woman makes her heart rush and increases the tension in both of you.
“this is what interacting with me is like. Humour can be learned. This is my sense of humour. you need to be super-confident as if you are not looking for her approval. Then you want to get one punch line flowing after another. Early in the interaction. It displays my reality and the sort of interaction that she can expect from me in the future. A simple joke. and it is extremely accessible to you. Get your delivery really polished. This routine you will need to run quite a bit to get it working properly. Let’s say that you do not consider yourself a naturally funny person today.” In that way you have dispensed completely with all formalities and invited her for a ride in your world. So you set the intimate tone of the conversation and send a message that says. What you need to do is get together a proven comedy routine like the one above. Once I am into the thick of the punch lines. I am who I am and am and so confident that I am worthwhile that I am prepared to relax completely and have this conversation with you as if we are already best friends. You are bringing her into your world where you. the euphoria that laughter gives the audience is qualitatively superior to the gasp. The “set-up” is the part where you set the stage for the unexpected line that causes a laugh. have you vibe off each other. She can look at the world out of your eyes and enjoy the experience. Routines designed to get a laugh. I would warm her up for a few minutes first and will have used a good early interaction comedy bit to set the tone. The quality of the feeling of laughter is hard to beat. and in that way the feeling. And that quality of feeling will release the tension. Reading it. but it really glows as a comedy routine. I strip out all additional information that I could have chosen to recount to keep the punch lines coming reasonably thick and fast. and how I have stripped out all the additional things that I could have put in there. You act as if you don’t care whether she stays or leaves because your friends surround you. Keep running it even if you get groans the first time.seeing an acrobatic feat. not her. However it is not the sort of routine I would use as a first routine after breaking the ice. You can use 5 or 6 sentences (or as many as you like if you want to tell a good straight story that displays your personality in a different way) to set up your thick punch lines before she is aware that this is comedy. The unexpected and funny line is called the punch line. you just need to play with the delivery to get it right. You can see how short the set-ups are in the African Store Routine. If you are not the sort of person who can pull off this level of sexual routine. The secret to good comedy routines for romantic encounters is that you need to keep the set-ups short. then you will want to get together your own also of a humorous nature so that you have a plan for ejecting from a palm reading. and it is why there is a much larger market for comedy and much more money in it. dictate the levels of social etiquette. 78 . Single sentences if possible. The routine works as a straight story. you can see it is funny and why it is funny. This routine is a few minutes in once the mood has been set to some extent and is why I include it as an example of what I would typically use to break up a palm reading. everybody in the place is your friend including her. In that way I choose to make the introductory set up longer to move any necessary information from between the punch-lines up to the top when she still thinks it is just a straight story. In a comedy routine there are set-ups and there are punch lines.
It is a story that you are telling that you see humour in and you don’t really care if she sees it or not. You should never strangle a joke. Delivery is how you say what you say. If you get a laugh. Have you ever seen young girls giggle with each other for no reason? It is the same mechanism. The girl might take a second to catch on to a certain joke. When I say that I mean never tell a knock-knock joke. It is almost elitist. and you should not say. or anything that looks like it has that standard joke structure. provided the jokes are not at your expense or are self-depreciating. I see people strangle their jokes all the time. We all know that African Art is extremely phallic. but also with your hands. You are causing her to have good feelings and she is communicating that with laughter. and you are amusing yourself. It is a good thing. When a girl laughs. You are laughing too. And the barman says …”. You do not want something that starts with “So this guy walks into a bar with a duck under his arm. A comedy routine does not need to be that funny. You don’t care if she laughs or not. You are then at her mercy. You are comfortable with her and with yourself. You are empathizing with what she is laughing at and underlining it to make her laugh even more. Leave pauses to allow the laughs to breathe. It is obvious that you are exaggerating. You are just a guy who she has started talking to. right. that you find amusing just for yourself. do not comment on it except as a tag line. Rather than telling “jokes”. Her attraction to you is escalating. I know. you are exaggerating. Getting her laughing is all you need to do and then you can move onto a palm reading. So even sick jokes get a good laugh. facial expressions and body. You are setting the whole situation up in order to get the laugh. That is strangling your own joke by commenting on it. She is laughing and having a good time. Remember that it looks as if it is coming straight off the top of your head. you are just exaggerating it. Do not talk over them. They are bouncing vibes off each other and escalating their enjoyment of each other. She is not expecting you to be funny. your comedy should look like it is just something coming off the top of your head exactly as in the African Store Routine.Never tell a standard joke early in the interaction with a woman. You need to almost be trying to keep a straight face to signal to the girl that you are not being serious and she is allowed to laugh. you can assume that she is attracted to you. Not just with your voice. and setting yourself up so that you are looking for her approval in whether she laughs or not. she is actually bouncing her mood off you. This is just your natural wit to her. A tag line is where you empathise with her emotion and you do that spontaneously as in “Yeah. There is no risk in attempting a joke. “I wondered how long you would take to get it”. Those are obviously constructed so that the laugh is desired. It was embarrassing”. What are you to do now she hasn’t laughed? You look like you are trying hard. and you should exaggerate the emotions as well. If you get a girl laughing. Do you see the difference between a tag-line and 79 . because if she doesn’t laugh you spent all that time looking for her approval and did not get it. The two of you are sharing a joke together that the rest of the world is not privy to. In the above routine.
80 . But if it does not get the laughs. you will find that those get good laughs too. You can deliver it like that. you can deliver jokes properly that come to your mind spontaneously. This is protecting your insecurity by going on the offence. In fact. People who do that are so nervous in the interaction that they put a lot of pressure on themselves and can not just relax and make fun of themselves and the girl. When you try. With confidence you will say those jokes that come to your mind more. Get the African Store Routine as well as other comedy routines together so that they really elicit the laughs. and it is not nice. Similarly the use of cutting sarcasm directed at the girl or being insulting is a sign that you are not comfortable in your skin in her presence and trying to judge her harshly before you are judged. and does not endear you to anyone. It is still a good routine for regular conversation. You will start looking for funny angles. Even. Once there. the other is commenting that you were trying to make a joke and strangling it. That builds confidence in your sense of humour. on the above routine. you will see that you can be funny. taking yourself too seriously is a sign of insecurity.strangling it? One is empathizing with the emotion and extending the joke. You do not want to take yourself too seriously when you first meet a girl. don’t sweat it. Once you have it down. you say “nah. She will drop her eyes because she did not understand that you were joking and work with you on the rest of the routine. it works well as a straight interesting story. just joking” and reach out and touch her on the arm in a gesture of acceptance with a smile. If she says “Are you serious?” when you say it was worth $1500. because you learned the comedic delivery from my above routine. Girls do not like to think they have no sense of humour. if you do not get the laughs.
With that. to get the girl to have good feelings and happiness. whereas mine is the shape of a Red-Gum leaf coming from a different place with a different childhood and a different original leaf in my past. other leaves and decide to call this unique object ‘a leaf’. 1991 Word choice and being able to deeply communicate with someone is a skill unto itself. From within that framework. which is then received in the ear of the listener. From there the receiver takes the vibrations from the hearing sense and turns it back into an image of a leaf in her head. When we do that we take a unique object that is different from all other leaves in its shape and veins and colour and we categorise it as an object that has certain things in common to other objects of a similar type. we get a one-size-fits-all representation for the infinite differences of each of the veins and shapes of the original leaf described. we put together one-size-fits-all palm readings to appeal to and trigger those a priori images in a girl’s head. We look at a leaf on a tree. say the word “leaf”. and use the word “leaf” to describe it. You should allow these language skills to spill out of the palm reading situation into your general interactions. Imaginary Homelands. and now she has in her mind an image of her standard-leaf to which all other leaves are imperfectly compared and is unique to her. unique images that are much different in her mind to my own when I chose each word and constructed each sentence. and we want to motivate her to make a decision.Using Language Effectively. is the shape of a maple leaf like on the Canadian flag. we have lost all the detail of the original leaf that we were using words to describe. the a priori leaf (as Immanuel Kant would describe it). Then we take the word and change it to the best representation we have of it. Language. You want to remove the barriers between you and her and communicate in a way where she can stand in the same place as you and view things from the same angle that you view things. we can further pull the detail out of the leaf. a string of sounds. to represent it and communicate it. by its very nature is a one-size-fits-all process. Perhaps her standard-leaf. is the point from which fiction begins. Take a word. but rather the objective of good communication. We want her to associate those good feelings with us. Because of the limitations of language. The acceptance that all that is solid has melted into the air. Salman Rushdie. that reality and morality are not givens but imperfect human constructs. and have her attempt to 81 . This is not some evil trick. or in the case of a palm-reading. Our vocal chords and mouth manipulate the word into a set of air vibrations. In fact we are fortunate for the limitations of language in representing the actual world. In doing so. the things which are important to her. The palm reading will teach you to talk to deep themes and be able to control the images within her mind and the things that she is thinking about. and the process of even attempting to use language strips out the details and the specifics. We use the imperfect descriptors of our ideas: words.
“when is a time when she was really sure of something?” Well it was before she bought something she loves. flare your nostrils and breathe deeper and can feel your muscles tense with anger. You might squint your eyes. Because if she feels sure right now that she is about to make a good decision that will 82 . And you just want to yell and scream and break things. life experience. You are enjoying the rage and happy inside with an inward smile really loving the experience as you go out and break things. And you can let the happiness spread and rejoice as you feel this anger. So stating that again to be clear. Now there are two ways that you can have her access a feeling. for example. that item of clothing will still have all the positive associations that she got from wearing it. the reading is in fact free form rapping. You want to work out want her to feel then put together the sentences to make her feel that. ideal concepts that make up her as a person and form her world view and philosophies. She will be sure that this purchase decision is a good decision. anger and happiness at the same time … I choose these because they are opposites) I might go: “If you could imagine a time when you are extremely angry. So. Similarly. With practice you will be able to do it naturally with any conversation you like. Now that I have her with a feeling of sureness. Like “Yeaah! This feels great”” What I have done in the above is just take two sentiments that do not go together. There are 2 ways to have her access the feeling: a) Remember it from her past. I run it very closely to the advanced reading. This is a skill you will build by using the palm reading so you can carefully choose works in other conversations. perhaps you could also imagine that you are extremely happy while you are doing this. One is to ask her to remember how she felt on another occasion and tell her to recall that so that she feels it now. I construct for her the feeling and sentiment using words. I will have her recall a piece of clothes that she loves to wear. I just have in my mind where I want to take her and then put it together. While when I run the routine. I want to tell her to trust that feeling. Now as you imagine feeling like that.reconstruct our experience in her own mind using her a priori concepts. They are the opposite of each other. b) Construct it from her future (imagination). Once she has that in her mind. and therefore need to construct it (randomly. and the second is to ask her to construct a feeling in her imagination and imagine she feels it now. if I want her to feel a new sensation that she has never felt before. Anger and happiness. Hindsight is 20/20 so when she remembers looking at the thing on the rack. if I want her to feel sure she is making a good decision like in the beginners heart line reading. I will ask her to go back and remember when she bought that piece of clothing. The words drive themselves. just to explain. I say to myself.
You say “And your head line says that you can really trust your judgment. and that is how you should think about reading palms. you should not memorise the readings as I have written them. you may feel that she is nervous for her safety. if you can remember a time when you felt really safe. As you come to understand that you are completely secure. And as you feel that sense of safety and security. and what feeling you need to give her to take your case forward. For example. but rather realise the things I am doing and allow yourself to go free form during the reading. not the other complications in her life like the reputation she might get from her friends should she come home with me. 83 . you will be able to identify where she is emotionally. A skill in free-form readings. Not a memorization exercise where you just memorise my lines. So if you look at the way that I talk in these palm readings. And when you feel like this. Perhaps you were in your mothers’ arms sitting on her knee. Reading palms is just a means to and end. or any other judgments.continue to be good into the future that is something she should trust. In that way. and then work on achieving the same things with your own language live with the girl. So you go back in your mind and you think to yourself “When would she have felt extremely safe?” Perhaps you come up with “When she was wrapped in her mothers arms as a child”. That is where you go with it. and I can relax into the situation”. I can take the opportunity to tell her that it is this feeling of sureness that she should trust. If I have got her to consider hooking up with me. And you could completely relax inside because you knew the whole world was good. When I run these readings it is never exactly the same twice. As you do that. So I put the words together to tell her that. with these big arms wrapped around you. And as you remember that time you should remember all the things you heard and the warmth of the feeling that you had deep on the inside. with practice. you realise that this is a judgment you should trust. you can say to yourself “This is completely safe. You want her to feel this is safe. With practice you will be able to construct this yourself. That is the process. So while she is there in her mental space. and she is sure that is a good decision then I am in a good position as far as the seduction goes. I mean. It is a skill set. Once you understand who to access feelings you should find yourself doing it all the time. you need to understand what I am trying to achieve in each of the readings.
and not rely on the beginners or advanced palm readings. There are two objectives in what you should be learning here. it is always the best-looking girl that is the most interested in the interaction with you when you are speaking to a group. The second is to start to learn to deal with the social situations that you will find girls are often in. They are easy to deal with. Here is how it works: Good-looking girl gets a friend who is less good looking. She is the obstacle because girls protect each other. The reason you need a new reading for this is that you do not want them comparing notes and understanding that you just say the same thing all the time. 84 . Girls do not necessarily form friendships based on sex. It is almost as if one of the friends will take on a quasi-male role in the friendship. usually less attractive to the girl that is your objective. Now what the good-looking girl can do is completely absolve herself from responsibility in this evening. or one is the responsible one.. sometimes out of a sense of protection. However. and doing a second reading on her friend completely from your head without the crutch of simply repeating the same thing. They like to ensure that their friend does not get into any situations that she cannot control or does not want to be in and will actively work as a saboteur. The first is to develop your skills at using ambiguous language. sometimes out of jealousy. They go out together (perhaps even in large groups .. It means that you will read the palm of the girl you like in the way you have now become used to. The role of the obstacle is to reign back in the good-looking girl. In doing so she has played out her dominance over the obstacles in a feminine way. Obstacle is one such role. The reason for this is that she has displaced the responsibilities for her actions onto the obstacles. they know their roles.Female Obstacles (Chaperones) Now you should have mastered many of the skills. and should be becoming confident with the palm readings that I have presented. Nevertheless. People take on roles in their lives and in their relationships. but rather common interests and how well they get along. etc.. A girl’s friend will generally not want to see you be successful with your girl. Both these things are beyond learning to read palms and are part of the broader skill base that this course aims to teach. When they go out they then fall naturally into desirable girl and obstacle roles. and coming up with readings yourself. In this section I am going to move you off the standard readings. and the other the less responsible. invariably there will be a little power relationship that forms where they both realise that either one is better looking than the other. The desirable girl may in fact have brought her obstacles along especially to be obstacles. Girls will often have friends with them that act as obstacles (in more polite society called chaperones). This is to build your skill in doing it free form. there can be more than one obstacle). If you notice. Getting a feeling for how to handle obstacles is an important skill. and have you go out and attempt to do a complete fresh reading using the language talked about in the previous chapter. just the same as guys.
With her larger group of friends. That she had no father in her life and therefore flirts outrageously with everyone. Women school like fish. Roxanne who is more irresponsible than her. To have them wishing that it was them that were with you. What they get from the relationship is they get to go out with the Roxanne whom they really like. being able to fantasise about the men in the desirable girls life. Similarly with women. You know why fish school? It is because the big predatory fish comes in and chases the pack without focussing on any one fish. If the friend is watching. Sometimes you will do a palm reading where there is her friend. Obstacles are not without their vices. At the end. even if not strictly better looking. But to understand where the obstacles come from is easy. They get the additional fun of the free drinks that may come her way. You do not sneak your desirable girl out the back door and give a phone call. She will track you down with a vengeance and drag her irresponsible friend away and give her a berating in the car on the way home. it is a role that is played with more subtlety by women of all ages. Now it is rich. even if he is not your wingman. and give them some attention so that she approves of you as the gatekeeper to her friend. Call one a your girl. She goes out and drinks and flirts with guys. although it is more prevalent among young girls. and it is her more homely friends that ensure that she gets home safely. listening. they are playing a role and what they actually want is to get a man themselves. While this might seem childish. People understand their roles. who represents your obstacle. She complains that this friend is hard to go out with because she is always getting into situations she needs saving from.I know one girl who is the usually desirable girl in her group. Yet this same girl has a friend. It is easy to beat. They will then not come up and pretend they are lesbians. and the rest obstacles. Her friends complain that she never grows up and is irresponsible and acts like she is 16. this girl psychoanalysing her friend because she plays the obstacle role in that friendship but not with her larger group of friends. the big old predator is sitting in the middle of where the centre of the pack would be going "where did all those little slow fish go?" But if he had focussed on one he would have got it easily. Problem solved. They hang in groups and try to tease you along into not committing to which you will chase. they will not drag her away and they will not suggest they go to the bathroom together. If you can set up the obstacle with a guy. They are not prudes. This is the obstacles worst nightmare . It is a role. Is to acknowledge them as people. and get to meet guys that are out of their quality range. she has been derelict in her duties as obstacle. You tell her to tell them that she likes this guy and he is good.. As he chases the pack they spread out because he has been focussing on all of them. You have your desirable girl speak to her obstacles. You spend time with them to make them comfortable. it is her that is Roxanne. you cannot go into the deep stuff like the 85 . So understanding that tells you how to deal with obstacles. The way to deal with obstacles is to talk to them. then you will extract to your place easily.. and they enjoy playing the role. They will then allow their friend to be isolated with this quality guy within the club.
she will ask you to read her friend’s palm. However. to leave the friend there alone while you isolate your girl. In that case. In that case. but underneath you are really sensitive. See because your Mound of Venus has this crossed pattern it means that you are faithful. in fact. and if there is loud music. Whenever you need a new reading you can simply pull 3 readings from the runes readings in the appendix and read the palm as if it was those runes that you pulled. You get the idea of some small thing and you go over it and over it in 86 . Now. You feel really deeply. it is a reality that you are on occasion going to have to read more than one palm to get your girl. However I have a reasonably standard obstacle reading. Now do you have a boyfriend? Either: (If she says yes) I thought so. It is the reading I usually do and goes like this: Quality man Mound of Venus reading. But she needs the validation of her friend to justify how she feels. he can work the friend while you read the palm. there are times when you dwell on small things in your relationship. I am going to start with your head line. and this is your Mound of Venus. Now your heart line and your Mound of Venus both represent your heart (if your girl is listening you say: “yours is different from hers because yours <does what it does … mention a minor faint line crossing it or point out the exact curvature>”). this is your head line. When people can see you for who you are. if not impossible. and if this man is the man that you choose to spend the rest of your life with. and can see your inner strength. your heart will completely belongs to him. It just let’s her feel you are quality so she can be comfortable you are a quality man and are good for her friend and she can understand why her friend likes you. She wants her friend to understand this interaction that she is having so that she can let herself go and become more attracted to you. and she is completely into you now. You need an entire new reading. You have this capability to love so deeply. Girls in groups of two are harder because it is difficult. it should be done in privacy. I have now given you a lot of material for readings for the your girl. It is better therefore if you make a semi-solid policy that a palm reading is personal and insist that if she wants it done. this is your heart line. happens. it causes an isolating buffer so it is you and her in a bubble anyway. you will do this with your girl listening. Often. The three of you in a little triangle. It often. This is your life line. When you go out to the world you square your shoulders up and hold your head up and pretend that you have everything under control. you cannot do the same reading that you did on your girl. If you are working with a wingman. if we look to your heart line. The important part comes later but I start with this optional reading. And you like it when people like you. that you read your girl’s palm.three shells over your inner love reading.
So that you wear it like power. Enjoying watching the people around you who are making their own decisions. those men that are all around you (point around at all the men in the place. But you are ready. your easygoing beauty that will attract this man into your life. And when you recognise quality in front of you (self point). To enjoy what is going on around you. As you feel that feeling. but when you are healthy you are able to let go. And you can allow all those feelings of tension and nervousness to just fade away and allow the world to just be. So you need to allow yourself. Like some people might say. It is your good nature in everything you do.your mind and you allow your relationship to make you feel bad when it should be nothing but a source of pleasure to you. Or: If she does not have a boyfriend: Okay. when you see the man walk through your door say to yourself “Ohh! There he is! I feel really good!” And if you can stop. and enjoy yourself. and the other is to relax and reduce the things you are responsible for. and remember a time when you felt really good. And just let the feeling take over you. The important part of the reading is this: Female Obstacle reading This is your head line. and just allow the inner beauty that inside you to shine. Not allowing. you need to ensure that you relax. He is a man of quality. and just smile. But instead. and allow your inner good nature to come to the outside. you can just relax and allow nature to take its course. And if you could stop and remember a time when you 87 . It means that you don’t like the feeling of being out of control. or your wingman if you have one) into your life. And when you are in an unhealthy frame of mind you try to control things. you need to understand that this person in front of you (self point) is worthy. but are rather content to just let the world be. but have no control over what happens. To recognise that you are responsible for you. And just let the rest of the world swirl around you. and be confident. But since you don’t it means that you have been holding yourself back. enjoying it. Of having things that you feel that you are responsible for. So you can be fulfilled deeply by that man of quality that you are on the verge of forming a relationship with. One is to try to exert your control over more and more things and situations. to feel really good every time you see him. “He didn’t ask me how my day was” and then let that make them feel bad. And you need to embrace that man in your life. And you have control over your own actions. So there are two ways out of that for you. and feel really good. when you see the man in your life. You see there are some people who have relationships where every time they see each other they feel really bad. if you had a boyfriend your Mound of Venus would mean that your heart completely belongs to him. scared of love because you love so deeply and can become scared that you will get hurt if you let yourself fall in love. In order to retain this balance in your life. and you don’t judge those decisions when you are healthy. You have reached a state of health when you are now ready to embrace a man who can fulfil you deeply.
And that means that there is something missing in your life. Your life line tells me that you long for the unconditional support of childhood. More material: this is just stuff that is universally true that I run although it does not take a seduction forward. you need to let it go. But you would love it if you could have a relationship in your life that could give you that unconditional support and love that you used to have. Although it is the same theme as the 3 shells reading it sounds sufficiently different and I have never had a girl catch it. Finish by telling her that she is fertile too. This means that you will make an excellent mother. you can assume she had a harder life and can talk about that in ambiguous ways so as not to cause offence. that the bills would be paid and that you could just be. and let your girl vibe her friend so they are comfortable escalating the intimacy and you have the approval. you can talk about how she is making her own way in the world but would love to have the unconditional support of her childhood years. and is thus good for an obstacle. The obstacles generally follow this advice and keep out of your hair once you have run this routine.. If she is out of university and 25 or so and working. But you need to allow people to make their own choices and not interfere in your friend’s lives. I mean that you have the girl in front of you and can observe some things about her. It means that you can be very protective. You knew your parents would provide your next meal. And sitting inside. If she is tattooed and self mutilated (piercing. he can see 88 . An unfulfilled yearning. Because you don’t have that support anymore. These piercings and tattoos are signs of bi-sexuality so you can push that. and relax. If you can stop and remember back to when you were a child. Thunderstorms and rain for example. you can talk about how she cares for things and blah blah save the whales style topics. First and foremost. The routine is to tell her to relax about the girl and think about herself. And you need to manage your own affairs to keep yourself afloat. One other thing: don’t forget this is a warm reading. and understand that the world will actually look after you. If you are not from a region where it snows you should change the storm part of the reading to the sorts of storm that the girl can relate to. This is your life line. I am naked with him. just enjoying watching the way the storm dances.. And you long for that feeling still even though you are an adult. You need to do that more often. If she is in hippy garb. in the warmth. It does that quite forcefully. this guy knows everything about me . For the remainder of the readings you can use readings from the runes or any other readings that you did not use on your girl (like the beginners readings). what you are wanting to do is sell to her that the palm reading is real so she can go "wow. Just relax into the love and support and knowing that you were looked after. completely secure that you would be looked after. When I say that. etc). Obstacles are protective and pull your girl away.were watching the swirling snow out the window. And in order to be happy. You can be protective of all your friends and family and want the best for them.
You have said “This will do me. You are lost if you forget that the fruits of the earth belong to everyone and the earth belongs to no one!’ Jean-Jacques Rousseau. Maybe Claudia Schiffer or Elle McPherson or Angelina Jolie. You need to reclaim your dreams. and you represent what she always dreamed of. You are settling. But now you will just settle. You can deepen him into talking about his Anima if you like and point out that the girl in his group does not measure up as real. You should keep those dreams lofty. To have this problem often. The gender can be changed on the above routine and it can be used on a girl. How many crimes. 90 . And remember you used to have dreams of what you would be when you grew up. They work from possessiveness. You should not settle for this girl or that girl (point in direction of girl). I mean maybe you thought you would be an action hero and live an exciting life. Give the readings a try and you will learn how the dynamic works. how much misery and horror the human race would have been spared if someone had pulled up the stakes and filled in the ditch and cried out to his fellow man: ‘Beware of listening to this impostor. I mean remember when you were younger. but at the same time tell him that he is a highly independent rational thinker who is able to make his own way in the world and readings like that. 1755 Male Obstacles have a different agenda to female.Male Obstacles without girl listening (a. Broken Dreams reading Your dreams are broken. being that action hero without any underhanded positioning and scheming. In that case you tweak the reading to say what you want it to say. and you need to re-capture them.a Befriending Male Obstacles) The first man who. Nevertheless. not necessarily in a palm reading but rather in general conversation after a palm reading. this is still using the palm reading to teach you the proper intuitions and get you acting in the right way. you want it to be positive. So you run the generic readings from the Runes appendix. jealousy and a misplaced belief in chivalry. Keep in mind. breathing girls without television make-up and flattering lighting and camera angles never can. murders. having enclosed a piece of land. thought of saying ‘This is mine’ and found people simple enough to believe him was the true founder of civil society. I don’t need any better than this”. You need to go out and make the changes to your life that will allow you to achieve what you want.k. A Discourse on Inequality. living. When you read a male’s palm. This reading is to get him to change his focus from this girl that we are with to his ideals of a ‘perfect 10’. you need to be approaching girls within groups. Into that style of routine you insert the following. That is that her current relationships are breaking the dream. wars. defending the damsel in distress. your dreams of a perfect woman? I mean remember you used to think about pin-up models. it will crop up even for those not doing groups so learning to deal with other men is an important skill. You want these guys to be your friends. And you should do it cleanly. but you have settled for the job you have.
This reading is then to tell him to accept you as a new person in his group and to get him acting in the right ways. or a UN chief or a Hollywood actor. the kid could be a footballer. And take pride in the fact that you are a big man in personality terms that can accept new people easily. Humour helps greatly with making your conversations with guys worthwhile from his end. You should treat him exactly like that." But as you got older it was clear that you were not a stand out freak of an athlete. And you might realise that was because you accepted them. you can tell them whatever you want. Astronaut. Nobel Prize winner. You are a guy. And that is a function of mood. And you need to feel like this all the time. And when you see that rapport.As you get older your options diminish. Your options continue to diminish as you go on. He could play NFL. so that you can be in this state of energy all the time. and all good. and respect the new people they meet. And you were able to become friends immediately without holding yourself back or judging the new people harshly. President of the USA. no more engineer. See rune-casting appendix for rune readings). anything. Big Man reading You are capable of being extremely likable and having a lot of friends even if you don’t always manifest yourself that way. And as you remember that you should remember how you interacted with the world.. you have something that you want to talk about. His laughter makes the interaction worthwhile from your end. So you have him think about that. and feel like this you can trust it and relax. and you tell him that he needs to rekindle his dreams. so that option went. On it goes. You are kind and generous with friends.. You have linked his sense of pride to his ability to make you comfortable and to be hospitable. and the harvest rune and the blank rune too (or which ever random combination you pull out of your mind. You are speaking to him because he is there. Just make sure you tell them to relax about the chick. You are not speaking to him because you want anything from him. The confidence you had that you were likable and how everybody accepted you easily. And he is settling at the moment. But you could still be a doctor. When you were a little kid you could have been anything. Perhaps as a toddler and you kicked the cat. no more Nobel Prize winner. and he is as good as anyone to talk about that with. your father said. Because your passionate nature is endowed with a strong sense of loyalty and fidelity. Read their palms as if it is a rune reading and as if they pulled the warrior rune. Because he used to have dreams. he is a guy. with whom you develop an unspoken rapport. It is all ambiguous. After that. we all did. no more the man who might invent the cure for cancer. "Look. Because if you can stop and remember a time when you were truly gracious and met a new group of people. But then you start failing math’s and oops . Like he happens to be there and you want to speak to someone. Guys are not difficult to befriend if they are not nervous about their women. 91 . Befriending guys is easy because there is no confusion about intentions.
You speak to them just because they happen to be there like you might speak to a guy you want nothing from. He might know that you are there for the women. Now there is something deeper there. So you ask for a kiss. Instead. they are next to impossible to truly befriend. you should bring the true emotion to the surface. Now the trick to that is to genuinely seem like you want nothing from them. Now. Same with the whole group. you should start it as if it as if you have no intentions. But being a sexual being does not mean that you want to sleep with anyone in particular or that you have an agenda. The minute that he starts trying to interject himself between you and her. the intentions get a bit more clouded. I promise! Really! C'mon Lisa. You are always playing with intentions during a interaction. So instead you use sarcasm on him to make him look stupid." and you isolate her further away. but I know there is a hidden agenda and a "do you have any spare change?" is coming. Even if she has been being quiet when you were speaking to her group. that said. Now the intentions are still a bit mixed. but you like what you see and want to continue the interaction. I call him "champ" in the most facetious way possible. When you start the conversation with a girl. Because the interaction between you and him has been forced and fake on some level. Your decision has not been made that you want her. I'll give them. They may be searching for a hidden agenda. it is what you see that impresses you. you should say.When he has girls with him. you should display your sexuality proudly at the same time. As in "Good one. If they are nervous about their women. 92 . You do not want to be the beggar at her doorstep. When the dishevelled guy walks up to me in the street and asks me for directions. I will come over and we can hang after we are finished here. because he might genuinely be lost. we are in the middle of something here. You are a sexual being and should not be ashamed of that. If you are in the middle of a palm reading and he comes up with some comment. I give him directions. but social etiquette dictates that he has to act around you as if there is no problem with you speaking to him. By then it is too late and there is nothing he can do about it. That is how it should come across. This will happen also when he suddenly realises that you are stealing his girls. you want to start speaking to her and decide that you like her during the interaction so that the agenda was not pre-planned but rather spontaneous. but she just happens to be there and you happen to be speaking to her. He would look insecure to the girls if he gets possessive. champ! I wish I could be as good as you!" The onus is then on him to try to cut you down. "Champ. befriend him like you are now best friends then steal his girls out from under his nose. once you read her palm. but you are expecting the agenda to surface. he can become a proactive obstacle in trying to ruin your chances with the girl. When you have a guy who is faking he likes you because he is boxed in by the social etiquette. and not just play along. You want to come in. That is not the guy you want to be. It will be obvious to the girl what he is trying to do. and you see her for the inner girl. let’s just move over here. so he has to play along. If the women in his group accept you he will continue to play along through forced smiles.
As soon as you want to possess something that other people want to possess. and possessiveness is not an indication of depth of love but rather a depth of insecurity that she will leave you for someone else. Then you can relax into the interaction and relationship without niggling fears and actually enjoy life. and makes jumping in the puddle all the more appealing. then she will realize that the other man is better than him and he will loose her. if you are the insanely jealous sort and punish her with a verbal barrage for “speaking to the waiter” or whatever when she is innocent of any mal-intent. The minute you are there you are already loosing the battle. and increase the likelihood of her cheating on you. Possessiveness betrays an underlying insecurity. if you allow it to corrupt you in a possessive ego way. and I’ll try to catch you” or worse. Once she understands the rules of the sub game in your relationship. You establish within your interactions early that there is no ownership. This works in your favour in a number of respects but will truly pay dividends when there truly is no possessiveness on your part and it is not a charade. in order for the child to understand that. But as you fight the external manifestations of possessiveness. The insecurity is part of your inner turmoil and it will manifest itself in your blind self. Further. However the highly possessive are worried that if their woman speaks to any other man. I understand that possessiveness is a male human trait bred into us … the desire to know that any offspring of your girl is yours. negating it. Why would you want to set up that sort of game with a girl? Instead. he must put a picture in his mind of him jumping in the puddle. and a paradox. you are setting up the rules of a game that goes “You flirt with other men in secret. be the guy that is able to know that he can hold his women without worry. Don’t be that insecure guy. and accept no possessiveness by her of you. You should work internally with yourself to practice what you preach to actually kill the 93 . then cross it out. and when a man enters the interaction you are having with his girl unthreatened by the situation. you need to have a philosophy that jealousy and possessiveness kill a relationship. you make yourself the lap dog in the relationship exposing your insecurities. and she knows it. You need to be at one with yourself and relaxed and confident to keep the girl that you want.Never display any possessiveness of women. Ironically possessiveness encourages infidelity. it is quite likely that this girl is not available to you. The picture you caused him to create makes the idea occur to him where it might not have naturally. A truly secure man is not concerned if his woman is speaking to another man because he is secure in his knowledge that he is the best man that she is likely to meet in her lifetime. Similarly a display of possessiveness does the same thing to a girl and lets her know that you feel you have something to fear from this guy or that. Further. you are punishing her for something she might as well be guilty of. And the only way you can do that is by letting go and not wanting to keep her and possess her. and become better with girls giving yourself more options and making any girl replicable. it will encourage her to play her side of the game. When you say to a child “Do not jump in that puddle”. you will value a lack of possessiveness in the girls with whom you form relationships. It is something you should learn by first getting your outward behaviour correct and acting in non-possessive ways. That is a complex idea. Love and possessiveness are not linked.
if you want a sexually adventurous girl who is prepared to explore her sexuality into bi-sexuality. The girl wants into that 94 . A woman will act in a way where she is playing into the preconceived notions of the men in her life. like the Virgin Mary: virginal. Now if you let it get out of hand and give her too much (meaning that you accommodate what she says and respect what she tries to sell you are her limits). in which a man can want his female partners to be Madonna’s. Once possessiveness is dead. and it isn't so much that a man wants a girl with a duality to her persona (whore in the bedroom. it may contribute to why women won't be more sexually aggressive and why they think "he won't respect me" if they sleep with you. Obviously that is extreme. and develop her into a sexual being that can actually fulfil her desires. Eventually a relationship falls into an equilibrium where the two of you are together. These two desires can often contradict each other. A girl comes in to any relationship with these ideas about what a relationship should be from her previous experience with other guys and her parents relationship or whatever. if it is expensive restaurants and weekend trips to Paris. but you bring her into your reality in such a way that she has to re-think what is proper behaviour. she will be sucked into that. Girls act in a way where they are trying to "say the right thing" to keep the relationship moving forward. Madonna in society for example) as that he wants something that doesn't exist (woman who gives him great sex. and understand how to give pleasure in the bedroom without reservation. because has the negative response that. sexually aggressive. you will let her fall into a comfort zone and she will not go any further. and she will play into it. If your reality is cooking at home and renovating the house on the weekend. and you can just hang out because this is what the relationship is. and it is all part of the inner turmoil that stops you from finding peace within yourself. and sexually reserved. exhibitionism. You want to allow her sexuality to grow. although he likes her when she is being "his whore.possessiveness within you. Females tend to understand this duplicity in the head of a man in front of her. but doesn't know anything about sex and never sleeps with anyone)." he also hates her because she's no longer being "his Madonna” and is actually repulsed by her sexuality. So. your life will be more balanced. she will be sucked into that. pure. and you will have reduced some of your insecurities that cause you discomfort. she will be sucked into that. However the same man can also want his girl to be a whore: extremely attractive who dresses provocatively and reflects well on him in the world. and exciting sex you have to set the expectations of what those right things are. Part of your inner turmoil as a man is wrestling with your own sexual limitations that can manifest themselves in things like the Madonna whore complex. that is. In that way. and if it is thrilling excitement and going out all the time and partying. your possessiveness is active in stifling the sexuality of the women in your life. I know men who sufferer so greatly from this that they are unable to deal with any single human female who he has slept with. To remove the societal restrictions that has her sexuality in a box.
and it is no point getting upset because they do so. you are in a state of pure extroversion where you and her are out here in the real world together. It is the second that is attractive. When you are inconvenienced by her behaviour.zone. It is a process of appreciating the nature of women. and reduces the turmoil that can hurt your quality of mental well being and enjoyment of life. She wants to be able to sit down together and just chill on a Tuesday night. but rather laugh. possessiveness or jealousy. 95 . If she is angry. you cannot fall into that. If it is nothing but a chest beating “look at me. If you can get your inner state correct within the interaction. but rather for the relationships with the women themselves. It is common for people to let their own internal issues. and not display any prudery. and explore aspects of your own sexuality and hers. insecurities and agendas to cloud interactions with subplots that do not take the case forward and subvert friendships and communication to the lesser goals of pettiness. then you are betraying yourself as a self serving little insecure man rather than the lover of women who enjoys life and the company of women. are you? What are you angry about?” Reducing the gravity of the frames that she sets on the world both establishes you as the steady male that is the rock while she cycles between her feelings. The pursuit of women should not be to serve your own vanity. not playing to petty insecurities of either. because then she has her "relationship". even at the expense of the sexual growth she can do if she is prepared to hold it off a little longer. rather than being wounded like an insecure little man. let your bending in your behaviour come from gladness. But if you want her to grow. judgementalism. Women think differently than men. there is no point lamenting it. I could have her if I wanted” exercise. like you might at a cat for being angry for no reason and say with a laugh “You are all angry.
96 . and even if they do not have a chance with the girl themselves. Men see girls as possessions. The Gospel according to St. You should take note of the below as things that you should definitely not do in an interaction with the opposite sex. because he is a heirling. and careth not for the sheep. John.k. you are a straight shooter who does not play games. What you are doing with these readings is ruining his chances with her and making a joke at his expense that he often does not see. and many men do not understand this. Girls are unattracted to men that put them on pedestals. You are able to be sensitive to a woman. when you are being yourself. you need to work harder at holding your opinions firm and not changing them to suit the women in your life. You put your women on a pedestal and treat them as if they are queens. You are a big man. seeth the wolf coming. they will actively insert themselves into your relationships to attempt to prevent anyone hooking up with each other. You do this from within a veneer of cordiality while hiding underneath a power play that puts you above him in the social situation. but from wherever it comes. or it can come from protectiveness and a misguided sense of chivalry. you need to learn to deal with it. and fleeth: and the wolf catcheth them. or drinks. Girls are sick of weak guys who try to win favour by being nice.Male Obstacles with girl listening. While this is a good thing. Because deep down. and you always ask what she wants and never starts something without consulting her. 10. Nice Guy Reading You are a really nice guy. and lavish them with attention. You should make sure you meet and talk to more people in your surroundings because networking is important. But he that is an heirling.11-13 King James Version. Jesus. continually feeding her ego. and scattereth the sheep. You will side with the women around you. and not the shepherd. They buy into the philosophy of their mothers who told them that they must be nice to women. This reading thus sounds like it is a positive thing for you to be saying about him in front of a woman. (a. and are attracted to the men who already have women with them and are unattainable to them. whose own sheep they are not. The heirling fleeth.a Going Head to Head with Competition) The good shepherd giveth his life for the sheep. put women’s needs first and women will be nice back. I can see that you have the fundamentals in your palm to provide you with fortune and success in your future. You will make someone a good husband. This can come from competitiveness. There are certain things that men believe are good readings but will disqualify them in the girls’ eyes. and more outgoing and spontaneous. but you and the girl both know that it is a damning inditement of his sexual behaviour. You are the sort of thoughtful man who will put himself in a woman’s good graces by buying her flowers. However you need to work on being less lazy. or they already have a girlfriend who is in the room. and leaveth the sheep.
speaking too loudly or too quickly and fidgeting. Thus in the above reading. Then you can hit him with this one: Wimp reading There are certain fears in your life that stop you from living your dreams: whether it be making a greater contribution to mankind. Then there is the more abrupt fear of approaching an unknown woman. so we are afraid. We may feel that our own lives are overwhelming. and will also be good for your skills at meeting women as it will make you comfortable speaking to large 97 . and living in a different way. The reading is very harsh and you need to use your judgement as to when to pull out of it and jump to something else. Fear can take many forms. nervous laughter. We know that we are going to die. you are accusing him of cowardice. There are not enough risks. but dead. Not exciting. The essence of cowardice is not acknowledging the reality of fear. So you pull out of this reading before you break the relationship and have him pull his hand back and follow up with the ‘Big Man Reading” from the previous chapter to finish on a high note. You are scared to be the man you truly can be. It is normal to have fear and it is a part of life. You need not pretend you don’t have any. This fear expresses itself as a feeling of inadequacy. To expand on the reading. not just approaching women. or from earning more money. And if you can do that. We experience fear in our lives and specifically when we want to speak to a girl. And you should wink at it. You would be doing something different. These behaviours are unattractive to the opposite sex. It is the same fear as the fear you feel when you believe that you cannot handle the situation you are in and would prefer to be in a lower pressure situation (the way many feel about public speaking for example). If you were absolutely fearless. They can see the fear in the way you are acting and they will see your ability or lack of ability to deal with it and make judgements about you. you can make the bold changes to your life that are required to be the sort of person you really want to be.Before you go onto the next reading which is very harsh. we are afraid that we can’t handle the demands of the world. You need to embrace your fear. Your life is relatively secure and comfortable. Logically. Learning to speak publicly will help you deal with this fear. I will seldom get all the way through the reading. you should insert some other innocuous reading to break it up such as from the previous chapter or from the runes readings in the appendix. and fear is what defines you as a person. On another level. You cannot wish it away. we can understand it by looking within ourselves. we know that we can’t live forever. It can cause panic. but rather embrace it. but will decide it is at breaking point and I should move on. Because at the moment you are living in fear. then do those things you are scared of despite your fear. you should fully acknowledge it. This sort of fear manifests itself in restlessness. This is another type of fear that is common in many areas of your life. would you be doing the same job you have now? Imagine if you had no fear. or from having fulfilling relationships or from living life the way you truly want to live it.
The first approach of any given night. It is what you are going to learn to do also. Going beyond fear begins when you examine your fear: your anxiety. You should look at how you move. and that is exactly what I do. you thought I wanted to be your boyfriend” correctly. that you can deliver a line like “Oh. is unnerving at first. and if you learn to have no anxiety in your new encounters you will be better in relationships. vibrating all the time. but rather an acceptance of who they are and an appreciation of the experience of interacting with them. If you have no anxiety in your relationships. That openness is the answer to your fears.groups of people that are her friends and having 8 sets of eyes on you as you become their centre of attention. how you conduct yourself. and an open heart and empathy. you realise that human beings should be tender and open. Then you will find out something about how your fear is manifested. the first thing you might find is a calm sadness beneath the nervousness. You must exercise to recognise this fear. and exercise to overcome it. Then you can deal with women in a way that is organic and easy. if you look beneath its veneer. In fact your softness begins to become more passionate. The ability of acceptance will cause you to have fulfilling relationships and improve your ability to meet new women. Then you can truly appreciate the world around you. The girls will sense your centeredness and acceptance of their natures and enjoy it. Your fears and frustrations are not manifested in a hate or judgement of the girls you are with. and to expose it. being fearless requires me to act anyway. You deal with her situation and her tests with the light-hearted non-seriousness that the situation requires. If you look into your fear. in particular can almost paralyse me. When you slow down and relax with your fear. you do not lower yourself to try to win her favour. you find sadness which is calm and gentle. but going beyond fear. You enjoy extending yourself to others and communicating with them. how you sometimes put your hands in your pockets uselessly as you go about your everyday life and as you approach women. cute. nervousness. True fearlessness is not the reduction of fear. how you chew your fingernails. concern. So you no longer need to feel shy or embarrassed about being gentle. 98 . To experience the fear and act anyway since you are aware that fear is part of your life. You still retain your pride. Nervousness is cranking up. how you talk. you can carry that to new encounters. But then as you experience the empathy of understanding fear more and more. right down to the heart of the matter. I still. Acknowledging your fear allows you to move towards fearlessness. It is then. You must find that fear lurking in your life in many things you do and identify it. but from a place of gentleness. To understand the calmness in the centre. Fear has to be acknowledged. You have to recognise your fear and reconcile yourself with your fear. because the delivery does not come from a place of insecurity and false bravado. having approached thousands of women in my life feel fear. with gentleness. and restlessness. However.
you are both exposing his lack of ability to deal with his fear. her behaviour betrays the metaphysical thorns of vanity. upon closer look of the way she is acting. exposing his need for possessive jealousy of her.From within that. greed. 99 . In reading his palm and identifying his fear. she will understand. and no longer have the ugly thorns on your presence that the men around her whose palms you are reading do. I often see beautiful girls that. and. you no longer become possessive about the women you are speaking to. and selfabsorption.
Take my advice and do your learning in an environment where you do not care for the outcomes like an anonymous social environment. Don’t tell them that you do it only to get girls. They will get used to it. They too can act like obstacles and pretend to enforce the virtue of women. I talk about this in the case of palm reading. Even your best friends can on occasion talk to a girl to try to ruin your chances with her. Your male friends may also think you are a bit of a joke for reading palms. however. the situation needs to be thought about. Your male friends love telling the girls this. Should one of your male friends tell a girl whose palm you have read or whose palm you are about to read that you read palms to pick girls up especially to attempt to foil your attempts you say: Yeah. and further more sexually attractive than those around them in the world. It is a fact. He doesn’t believe that it is real. It is an unfortunate fact. 100 . You might find yourself. Because if you read her palm within a group your friends will all chuckle and laugh as you do it whispering to each other about what you are doing.Your Male Friends. or you are part of a group from work or any other place where you want to be discrete. because that would signal to the group that you are hitting on her. but men define their value as humans. but once you are good with women it can occur anytime you sit next to a girl and are in deep rapport. You should really hold off on the palm reading and have other conversations. often from their ability to be sexually attractive. once you become better than them with women. He doesn’t have to believe the same things I believe. This is similarly the case for your friends. I have discussed it with him many times and even tried to read his palm. will want to see you fail. even though they are on your side in life. Ignore them. But that is okay. I advise that you tell them that you could always do it. but he was so closed to it that he would not let me do it. John is a sceptic. Instead of whispering and making jokes about palm reading. If you do break the rule. A true friend stabs you in the front. This is the case if she is married. Men are petty jealous animals. regardless of the conversation. Your friends. There is no point discussing it with him anymore. Try it once and you will learn for yourself. Oscar Wilde. it will be just about the fact that you are hooking up and what a player you are. You should make it a semi-firm policy that you do not read palms while the girl is amongst her group of friends. in a situation where you absolutely cannot isolate her into the corner for a one-on-one reading. Probably the worst situation is where you have your own male friends in the social group and guys out number girls.
The reason that they will agree is because they want to sleep with your sister. and as the body fights off this extremely small amount. It is a general discussion that works and the guys will agree. Similarly here. it builds the defences with in the body to resist a real infection. As you can see. you can prepare the girl by telling her that ‘guys don’t like palm-reading’ before you even get close to doing it. Laugh at them. But to the girl it seems like the only reason that they would want it from your sister is that your sister is female. Understand this: you are not a teacher. you are the fearless male that demands respect. What it does is give the patient a very weak dose of a disease (small pox for example). you can laugh at them and tell them that if your sister were to read their palms (remember that you learned it within your family so she can do it too) they would be lining up. You should look at them straight in the eye and say “Look at you guys lined up like the 3 wise monkeys. and they believe that the problem for them is that males should not be able to read palms. You should just do them as if they are not techniques that you can tech your friends what to do and why. and telling a man that he needs improvement can be an insult directly to his self-image as a male.This is obvious to the girl. and continue the reading for a minute or two and whisper in her ear that you will finish it later. and if you try to be you will loose your friends. If you know you are going to get problems from within your group. you are telling her about your friend’s attempts to sabotage you in a round about way. and this is just you as a person. Then should your friends want to tell her that you are trying to pick her up in front of you. Problem solved. the firm rule that you should never break is that you should not tell your friends that you learned this to meet women. It is easy to judge from over there. you have inoculated your girl against the objection. That they have trouble with a guy doing it. Once that is done. They are actually agreeing to piss you off because you would not like your little sister hitting on them in the way that you are hitting on this girl. They will agree. If you want to talk further about the subject and there are guys in your group you can talk about how guys think only women should be able to read palms. 101 . If you get into that situation you should not ignore it.” You should not bow to their pressure to stop even if they claim that you have told them that you use it as a trick to obtain women. and thus they would not turn down a seduction palm reading from her. People need to come to want to learn to be better at women for themselves. It is called inoculation because it is similar to the way that inoculation works in medicine. In fact you should not talk about pick-up techniques at all. Remember. You should tell them that it is in your family and you have just not been doing it for years.
Because your opportunity for initiating long-term companionship is in the present tense. Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. beauty is fleeting. and you don’t imagine a time in the future where the inevitable effects of aging have taken place. You are sharing yourself more openly if you are fearless to deal with themes that are at the core of existence. it means she is sharing herself with you in a touching way. but in fact it illustrates to her that you understand her deeply and can empathise with her struggles as a human being and she does not need to hide herself with you or present herself as a shiny person with all the pretences that come with that. Kahlil Gibran. The Prophet. And how else can it be? The deeper that sorrow carves into your being. Low fat foods. Important to learn here is to take control of the interaction and not shy away from themes that are difficult. You will notice that the entire palm reading is actually negative and not a “feel good” experience. the more joy you can contain. counter intuitive. while keeping her feeling good to have her associate that good feeling with you as the palm reader and to be enjoying the experience. If a girl cries in your presence. And you will be able to reap the harvest of your decisions today into the future. And you need to understand that while you are obviously a very beautiful girl. And that leaves you feeling alone. And you are lonely looking back on today as a time of missed opportunity. cleaning products to protect your babies from disease. there is a line that we should walk during a palm reading as well as interactions in general to use fear to keep her motivated. Given that. keeping this inside. but it is completely not recognised. Your destiny is completely in your hands today. all sorts of things. Crying in a palm reading is a good thing. You can make a girl cry in a palm reading if you stumble upon something that she is sensitive about (or that she is bi-sexual) with a (and you have to almost cry yourself here … she will follow you to the emotion): Because no one understands you. And you are so beautiful on the inside. and gives her great joy. Where events have taken a toll on your life and your body and your face. That it is so powerful at attracting her to you is perhaps at first blush. gives a certain exoticness to you. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with tears. Whether that harvest is bountiful or a black harvest is completely up to you. If you can get her to cry you are doing very well in the palm reading. and down.To go depressing or to stay positive. And you are so lonely. your outer beauty having fled and you have missed this opportunity that you had in your twenties. In sales it is common to use fear to help sell a product. Because you have this tendency to live in today only as if the days will continue to be like this forever. And make it all seem better. A call to action for very good-looking girls who are aware of their beauty only: You take yourself for granted. We are strongly motivated by our fears. It increases your depth of personality. You need someone who can reach in and touch you on the inside. 102 . And you really need someone to understand you deeply.
They understand that if they spend their youths and beauty for example. Today they have options in men. once they hit about 30 their skin is going to start coming apart and they will have to move down-market. but they will not always.You should evaluate where you sit and the sorts of things that you want and need in your life and do all those things that you need to do today while you have this outer beauty. and make the wrong decisions. Further what the reading does in the ending when talking about human touch is tell her that if she does not get that touch today it will cause a more rapid descent into ugliness because she will atrophy and die. It is human communication and essential to your organism. So the reading gives her a call to action and tells her to grab you now while you are available to her because you will not be always. Because human touch is important to you. And you should take your opportunities for touch today to ensure you have it into the future. Touch is like breathing. How else could you ever broach such a subject with a girl and how else could you make such prophetic statements that strike the fear of god into her? 103 . At that point she will not be as desirable. Without human touch you atrophy and die. Pretty girls have the above fear. She will be an old toothless geriatric that smells of rotting flesh with bladder problems and a colostomy bag in a wheel chair one day. This is the beauty of palm reading. as a waitress in a flashy restaurant with large tips and lots of attention.
The object and his thoughts are changing together in a progression of changes until his mind is at rest and at the same time the material is right. He is not following any set of written instruction because the nature of the object at hand determines his thoughts and motions. In his mind also are the underlying pictures and flow-charts that represent his philosophy of the way that watches work as he tightens a spring considering how that action relates to the systems in the whole mechanism. there is no one right way to do things or interact with women. That is the mind-state of the artist. which simultaneously change the nature of the object. Sometime look at a novice workman or bad workman. 1976 Managing romantic encounters is an art. the art of the work is just as dependent on your own mind and spirit as upon the material or girl. should be inwardly proud of your craft. Like all art. reading the manufacturers instructions as he fixes the watch and compare his expression on his face as he works with that of a craftsman whose work you know is excellent and you will see the difference. For that reason he will be absorbed and attentive to what he is doing even though he does not deliberately contrive it. the Pick-Up Arts are about communicating. music.Closing words If one really wishes to master an art. film. dance or drama. Art is quintessentially a quest for communication. So you can express your art beautifully. in order to ply it well you need to be in the right state of mind with an inner equilibrium. The craftsman is not ever following a single line of instruction. I want to increase your ability to apply your art in the true sense of the word. Similarly. painting. These lessons that I have shared will enhance your ability to communicate with the women you desire. That is why you need piece of mind. and in that way. 104 . and you should not consider it such. the goal is to communicate something beautiful or meaningful. as a Pick-Up Artist. say an uncaring 9-5 working watch-maker at a jewellers. One has to transcend technique so that the art becomes "artless art" growing out of the Unconscious. Daisetz Teitaro Suzuki. It does not matter if it is sculpture. technical knowledge is not enough. Introduction to Zen Buddhism. You. Because the selection from among many choices. He is making his decisions as he goes along. While this is book uses a palm reading routine to teach interaction and part of that is learning to interact with the world the way I do it.
because if he had a thought where would it have come from? In giving this answer would have defined himself an empiricist. It is easy to judge other forms of knowledge based on dogmatic belief in science that is unjustified. that all the world that you receive is nothing more than an illusion. Suppose this child is fed intravenously and otherwise attended to and kept alive for 18 years in this state of existence. In this modern age we are predominantly empiricists. however. and religious people from other cultures would surely answer it differently. are modern witchcraft. The question is then asked: Does this eighteen-year-old person have a thought in his head? If so. The answer to this question is a philosophical construct and has no absolute truth. Scientific theories. they would be irrefutable.Appendix Ia: Filling out the “Selling-It” Routine In the selling it routine. But we were not always so. no touch. and all science is based on it. to me. These were the ideas from where the film "The Matrix" formed its philosophies and are a re-writing of the ideas of Bishop Berkeley. there is no way to refute that view with evidence. where does it come from? Hume would have answered that the eighteen-year-old had no thoughts whatsoever. We cannot know for sure what the answer is to the question. a program feeding you the data and the computer keeps track of it all to keep some sense of continuity in your world-view. I compare science to superstitions. taste and physical feeling. hearing. If I were to tell you. he has no sight. we can go back to the post-renaissance philosophy that makes up our view of the world today as modern Westerners. This is also good stuff to explore and talk about with the right girl. smell. no smell. that as opposed from the common-sense view that the world is actually out there.nothing. he 105 . He felt if he could find a concrete foundation on which the logic of ideas could be built. pointing out that science is nothing more than theories. I offered an alternative hypothesis that you are in fact just a brain sitting in a jar with 5 sensors plugged into it attached to a central computer to stimulate your 5 senses of sight. So he searched around for things he actually knew. Descartes started with the difference between knowledge and belief. no taste -. Here I want to take some time to fill in the arguments so that you can follow what is contained in the routine. There is no way whatsoever for him to receive any sensations from the outside world. and other cultures would answer the question differently. no hearing. not based in reality. I’ll start with Scottish Philosopher David Hume. That idea sounds like madness and to understand the idea properly. and these words here that you are reading are part of the same program. As he did so. Hume and Berkeley’s ideas flowed directly from the arguments of French philosopher René Descartes. one who believes that all knowledge is derived exclusively from the senses. Hume’s reasoning followed arguments that would result from the answers to this question: Suppose a child is born devoid of all senses. The line of thinking is impossible to refute.
Bishop Berkeley’s position. you can consider that you may be dreaming now. but it is just as conceivable as the flat-word with up and down being overthrown with a new theory and a new "truth". and that perhaps your whole life has been a dream. They felt the same about their belief then. 106 . therefore you know that at least you exist. You are thinking now as you read this. there are insane people out there who believe that their head is a pumpkin. and he was trying to put God back into the philosophy of the day. within their own heads. The difference between knowledge and belief is only a feeling of sureness. So as you shoot down all knowledge one piece at a time.kept writing things off. The new understanding did not change anything in their day-to-day lives.. and there is some new truth. and knowing it at the same time to be thine own consciousness. and question even the existence of the out-there world then all you can possibly know is that you exist and the only way you know that is because you can think. You can not necessarily trust your common-sense. and us being a part of God. Say for example that there was a new theory of light that showed us that the round world in the pictures is an optical illusion. being a churchman. understanding that the world was in fact round so their world views could accommodate that Columbus had gone over the edge to the new world. even if you pinch yourself. but the flip in worldview caused a new golden age of thought known as the Renaissance where everything underlying was questioned.. would this belief that the world is flat have felt any different for them than for us now that the world is round? Because I feel like I know the world is round. It would be hard to get our minds around. for you can not be sure this is not a dream. If we question everything. The table in front of you is just a dream of God manifested onto your consciousness. There is no reason why each and every one of our current beliefs could not be shattered causing a new "Copernican flip" in our worldviews forever altering what we believe. and then had to deal with the Copernican flip where Copernicus stated that the earth goes around the sun as opposed to vice versa. for example that the world is round? People once thought it was flat. Do we know. therefore I am". How can you be sure you are not one of them? If we reject everything we can not prove due to lack of evidence. God being a part of all of us. Where can you go from there with the edifice of logic? The position of Bishop Berkeley (of which the world of "The Matrix" is just a re-writing . we are left with very little. That is Descartes famous line that you will have heard of. So the one thing that you know for sure is that "I think.” (Tibetan Book of the Dead). was a spiritual one. That is not a large foundation from which to build the world. thou shalt abide in the state of the divine mind of the Buddha. They must have felt like they knew that the world was flat. Internally. Although he was not aware since the Eastern texts had not been translated or seriously studied in the west at that time it is not so different from that of the Buddhists: “Recognising the voidness of thine own intellect to be Buddhahood. God being "The Matrix" rather than machines) was that the common sense world out here was perhaps the dream of God. even our knowledge about the shape of the earth. This was the world Descartes lived in. and further.
that is straight forward. and the foundations upon which “truth” can be built. In mathematics that is illegal. Force = mass x acceleration. In that world every body continues in a state of motion or rest unless acted upon by an outside force. we can measure acceleration. and then to be able to go on living in this common-sense world say. To say that before Newton the theory of gravity did not exist seems ridiculous. You will have heard the word before and looked at his ideas in high school mathematics. But what about unconsciousness? Eastern Philosophies concentrate on dispensing with the ego. All right. But if you admit the unconscious (as Carl Jung attempted to do). right? Well in order to have the theory of gravity. says Newton. he is talking about the acceleration that is only true in the inertial frame of reference. Okay. ego being the very name for our consciousness through which we are aware of the outer world.Descartes is often called “the father of modern philosophy” and his ideas brought in the modern scientific age. Force is a new concept. We first reduce the world to nothing but our senses. Newton first defined a world that does not exist: The inertial frame of reference. What is mass. materialistically scientific view. “But wait”. I will leave that question open. Now many people think that Isaac Newton "discovered" the theory of gravity. The adjective for “of Descartes” is “Cartesian” (we are now discussing Cartesian Philosophy). F=ma. So what about acceleration? Acceleration is the rate of change in velocity. says Newton. not the world I live in. it is real. So from within this empiricist. Wait on though! We have just defined 2 variables with one equation. if we are conscious of it. Weight is a force due to gravity that acts on a mass. it does not punch me back explicitly. you move towards larger metaphysical questions. “Bear with me”. enough to say that there are alternative hypotheses that do not support the empiricist scientific philosophical position. “If I can sense it. Again. Force = mass x acceleration. So the third thing in this world is that the following law is followed: F=ma. Of course. This is a nice piece of imagination. Descartes’ position of “I think. It was always there. therefore I am” puts our own consciousness at the centre of truth and reality. though? Mass is not weight. He is not talking about the acceleration you measure in the real world. The second thing that is the characteristic of this inertial world is every action has an equal and opposite reaction. For inherent within the modern empiricist philosophy is the idea that in the commonsense world. Why? Because in the real world there is 107 . I am with him on it. So what is mass? Mass is what you get if you divide the force applied to a body by the acceleration it produces. That is not the world I live in. If I punch the wall. it is real”. It is measured in “Newton’s” and it is defined by being the product of mass and acceleration. If I throw a tennis ball it does not go on forever in a continuous state of motion. Newton advances a theory to make it make sense that the wall is pushing back with the same force even though we can not see that. we come to look at scientific thought. Now in order to get to this equation. we need Newton’s laws where forces are defined.
It is the thing that all things are made of. 108 . But when we come back to the real world. the common-sense world. A fantasy world with fantasy concepts. For we have an infinitely rich and complex model of the world: the world itself. The faith we have in this science is formidable. But I do not believe that it contains any absolute truth. You could as easily. With Descartes “I think therefore I am”. In other words. All of them describe something that is philosophically unknown. Incredible from a new fantasy worldview. The modern-witchcraft of science is truly formidable. It contains no real truth that is built on the foundations of anything we can “know” for sure. What Western philosophers have done is to separate strongly the subject and the object. stripping out the commonality of what it means to be human. ‘Matter’ is just another word for ‘the principal of existence’. In doing so we have limited our worlds’ backwards from our subjective experience and also written off all supernatural phenomena and our own experience of the word. So acceleration is the thing we can not measure since we can not isolate an inertial frame of reference. So we cannot trust the measurement. Newton definitely “invented” gravity. As part of what we have done with empirical and scientific thought is to become negatively metaphysical. Palm-reading. The model he has built had good predictive value in this real world that we live in. the basis of all modern mechanics including the laws of gravity is from an invented world where all three of the variables are defined in a single equation. I will get on an aeroplane and trust the predictive value of it. He creates an inertial frame of reference that does not exist so we can study the dynamics of how the world would work if it did exist. by making some “simplifying assumptions”. So Newton simplifies the world. It is a model of the world. stripping out the gods and spirits from explanations of our world – in other words materialistic – with ‘matter’ (from which the word ‘materialistic’ comes) assumed to be a tangible and recognisable reality. we have limited how much we can trust our own internal experience all the way to not trusting anything except that we can know we exist. which would be far too much for a light palm reading. like in times of old substitute the word ‘matter’ for other words for ‘principal of existence’ such as ‘spirit’ or ‘God’ or ‘Buddha’ like Bishop Berkeley. we return to the common-sense world to live our lives and say “we only trust it if it has ‘matter’ and we can touch it and feel it”. and nothing can be measured in the real world. In order for any model to have value it needs to make some simplifying assumptions. we need to remind ourselves that it is a model only. It can put aeroplanes in the sky. etc. one might argue. Yet the world itself is so complex that we gain no understanding by looking at it. and men on the moon. Once at that place. removing some of its complexity. So ultimately.energy lost to heat and friction. rather than “discovering” it. puts that commonality back in without pointing to any alternative hypotheses that are unprovable such as higher powers or religious concepts. Newton’s laws and gravity are theories created by a genius.
you understand what the “Selling it routine” does. So having read that. We value the subjective experience of being human.You can sell it. 109 . both a rational thinker. and someone that believes in palm reading. and took a philosophical left turn well before Western thought got to Descartes. hey presto. in the same way that science has a predictive value. the practice being so old. and that believing that one thing has predictive value does not mean that something else can not have predictive value too. You understand the historical significance of it. congruently as a different witchcraft from a different tradition that makes different choices. and the palm reading talks directly to it. It has some predictive value. You are now. Palm reading predates renaissance philosophy and we choose to admit our inner experience. while having good predictive value does not necessarily represent any concrete “truth”. It says that science.
The theory behind this is that your potential at birth is revealed in the left hand while the right hand represents your adult self. The left and right hands are very different from one another. Tell her that people with Simian palms are special for their unique childhoods. For left handers. The simian line is a special line. it means she is special. you should read their left hand. and point out how your own heart and head lines are separate. but you do get it on occasion. 110 . It is very rare. The other hand (the passive hand) is more about the subconscious. and of course therefore. The hand you write with is your dominant or active hand and reflects the conscious you. tell her that her palm is very special. What this means is that the heart and head lines merge into one so that there is a single line across her palm. and their sensitivity and creativity. When you get a Simian line palm. Then do the advanced reading as if the Simian line is proof of all the heart and head line readings. and that they feel just a little bit more deeply than everyone else. that she has a Simian palm.Appendix 1b: The Simian Line Some girls will have a palm with what is called a Simian line. This is reversed in left-handed people. The palm will then look like the below. That they are more sensitive than normal people.
Now when I deliver the beginning of this. And you feel deeply. Without those you would be a different person. Most important is that you need to take control of the situation immediately. How do you feel? (allow her to answer “good” … if she doesn’t you are going to need to continue the feel good material until she feels better). so as you understand what I mean. But that is just me. I like who you are today. It is a dialogue between her and me for a moment before going back to the readings. Ibn ‘Arabi Girls who were molested as children can get extremely agitated after the first reading where you tell her that something happened that caused her to act as an adult before she was ready. there is no reason that you should not feel like this always. If the girl is not so good looking and I have not invested much. The Sufi must act and speak in a manner which takes into consideration the understanding. And as you remember that time you should remember all those things you saw. And. and telling her to feel good with a positive reading so that I can continue and she has put aside the worst of negative experiences. you are allowing the world to stop and the silence needs to breathe for a second. And perhaps you come to understand who is making you feel so self-confident. And I don’t want a different person. I am looking her straight in the eyes honestly and speaking in my regular speaking voice to placate her. So you come in strong. Stop thinking and just listen. Part of the thing that makes you who you are is all the things that have happened to you in your past. But look: Shhh! Shhh! Quiet for just a minute. it is not delivered like a regular reading. then distracting her. A time when you were just the most charming girl ever. I will move on with the reading by telling her to hear me out. and I understand that it is unfair since it was not her fault. You do not want to apologise on the behalf of all men. If I am attracted to her. You do not want to be associated with any man hating that she has associated with her past. The pause is important. and all the things you heard and all the things you felt. Now you are going back to a reading)… and remember a time when you felt really self-confident. Without all the things that have happened to you. limitations and dominant concealed prejudices of his audience. And you should concentrate on that feeling. I could not see the details of that. I am sorry to hear that. I want you here. 111 . And you are attractive for who you are. perhaps you can stop (pause. I would have a different person sitting here in front of me. I will often eject from the interaction because she is “damaged goods” with her sexual self-image tarnished. And if you can feel like this just when you talk to me. You are a product of your life. You do not back-pedal or react. Are you okay? Should we continue? So if we look up here to your heart line … What I am doing in the above is reframing the experience as one that is positive in retrospect. It is you. This is the way that I see it: You are attractive. All the good things that have happened to you as well as all the bad things make you who you are today.Appendix Ic: When former child abuse victims blow up in fury mid palm-reading and other tips for dealing with girls who have dark pasts that you uncover.
112 . Girls are softer on the inside and contain an idea of naïveté. Asking her how she feels and asking for her permission to go on is a nice thing to do.You are going to need to gauge now how you move forward. You can run the rest of the reading the same. Leave your sensitive tonality on. Do not rush pushing ahead if it needs some time to breathe. and make sure you call her a “girl” when you refer to her rather than a “woman” or anything else.
The anticipation is killing them. Now is not a time to turn down the opportunities right in front of you. So instead of trying to write a complete explanation of these 2 routines as I have above with palm reading.. And do all the things that you want to do but never before allowed yourself to do. I offer just the following as an adjunct to a book on the “real readings” that you should buy to run these routines. The truth is that all fortune telling techniques are a bit the same. This is not mysticism.." In tarot reading (that is related) I love "Death". Say "there are certain things in your life which make a status quo seem like a good option. For oracle style readings. so it is not actually a bad card at all). where the girl consults the oracle for an answer to a particular problem facing her in her life at the moment. so you are not constrained by the readings in that book either. and get the suspense of death even more happening. Comment on it as you pull it when dealing. You are about to drink the wine you have always wanted to drink. Now I would be remiss to not teach you something about how to run these routines for seduction. Read some other stuff and surprise her with the depth of insight and the "truth" of the oracle. But those are all those thoughts and people and things that are holding you back from feeling as much pleasure as you can. So if you let the past and the future just drop away and live in the true present. no this can’t be". etc. and say knowingly "Oh. You need to allow your girl to stop and breathe in the suspense. Change it. Jumping straight at death and telling her what it means is like the guy who spoils a movie for you and tells you what is in the end. Go to extremely pleasurable places that you have always wanted to go. Suspense is the gap between anticipation and fulfilment. This is seduction. you may realise that there is no reason you need to settle for what you have always had... To allow all her sensations to be standing on end with what the death card holds for her. This is a time of separating paths .. People freak when you pull death. To get her body quivering with desire to know. end of a phase or cycle . Holding that suspense is what a well run routine is all about.. there are ultimately only 2 answers: “Do it” and “Don’t do it”.. and you need to throw away those things and people holding you back and embrace the opportunity right in front of you. I have mentioned in the number close that you should oversell the Cube or the Runes and invite her back to your place with that as a pretext. She does not understand what the runes actually mean so you can run the same reading all the time just as you do with palm reading. she has not had her cube read before.. old skins need to be shed. Make sure you do it! Now with me .. If you do a rune spread (or read her horoscope or tarot any other method of fortune telling that you might want to learn) that calls for her maintaining status quo (which is the opposite of the motivational mood I want to create). a good card to read obliquely that she should leave her boyfriend. remember. Since you are doing this from within the framework of seduction. I want to learn sleight of hand so that I can always pull death. what . Similarly. (Death is actually just the card of re-birth.Appendix II: On other methods of fortune telling. the 113 ..
Therefore “Do it” for the answer is as fair as “Don’t do it” and therefore there is no moral problem with that as a standard answer.answer should be always to “Do it” regardless of the unseen question. which is fair once you write off the divinity. When all truth of fortune telling is written off then either answer is completely arbitrary. 114 .
A good standard reading is to call the first rune (overview of her situation) Separation. or maybe a beached chicken bone. there is a major difference. Then you just read them with the meanings that I explain below. What is more. the way I run it. it is a flashy routine because you are there with runes! You have people coming over to watch. So you have to have your runes with you to run a rune casting routine. the first rune is the overview of her situation. a coloured lambs knuckle. I include my runes readings here because they are good for palm reading. You could have 15 of Egyptian hieroglyphic symbols if you want and call them the Pheronic oracle. I will give you enough information to get you reading runes but if you really want to get this routine together and tight it might be worth buying not only a set of runes. For the 3 rune spread. (Like consulting her cat about her future or something). However. the second rune is the challenges of her situation. They are therefore not as flexible and all purpose as palm reading that requires no props. Now you can ask her to pull 1 rune and read that. a stone. She does not know what the symbols mean. or if you have more time than money you could make a set by etching each of the runic symbols (that you should be able to find on the internet) onto a bunch of similar stones. It is a little bag of stones! That is it. It is a gimmick. a rabbits foot. each with a runic symbol etched onto them. a smooth piece of glass. Runes are a set of 25 stones. and the third rune (action) Signals. a piece of wood.Appendix IIa: Runes for Romantic Encounters. but also the book that will invariably come with them in a bundle. and the 3rd rune is the action required. a crystal and a lump of bronze and call it a Haitian voodoo witchdoctors oracle! The point is she chooses 3 out of a bag. the second rune (the challenge) The Self. you should not feel hemmed in by either the Nordic runic symbols or the number of stones. So you ask your girl to consult the runes with a question in her mind that she need not tell you. so you can choose your favourite 3 readings and read them. Runes The Self 115 . Or 10 or the Hindu gods. as well as any other oracle reading you can dream up. The runes are an oracle. or ask her to pull 3 runes and do a 3 rune spread. But if you are making them. You will be able to buy a set at a new-age store where they sell crystals and tarot and like tantric meditation shawls. It intrigues the people around you.
and these things are stopping you from doing all those things that you really want to do. You can put those things that are stopping you in the same place. And you should allow yourself to give yourself completely to this new person. Make sure you embrace that person. and new relationships that you are about to cultivate. And I mean YOU FEEL REALLY GOOD. but never before allowed yourself to enjoy as completely as what you are about to enjoy. This is not a time to turn down your opportunities. This moment that you are living in. And you should just stop for a moment.A correct relationship with the self is essential in order for relationships to flow. you can remember what you saw. and go with the flow of the times. Like you threw away an old piece of clothing that you never wear. Yeah. and all those feelings of just feeling really good. people. Nothing else is important for the self other than right now. You need to repeat these experiences that make YOU FEEL SO GOOD. with me. as you realise where all these feelings are coming from. a new and rewarding relationship is just about to begin. and you are the only one that can make yourself feel good. and make sure that you are prepared to accept it. It may seem that there are certain things holding you back. Ready yourself for a very pleasurable gift. As you realise that there is no reason why you can not always feel like this. and allow yourself to enjoy this moment. or any other sort of relationship. you can now just take and throw away. I believe it is an important thing to be able to do. Happiness is nothing more than feeling good. Now. So if you go inside and just work out what it is that is stopping you from feeling really good. because this is the signal that this rune is giving you. and remember a time when you felt really good. as you realise that accepting this new thing inside you life is what will bring you the greatest pleasure. that’s right. There are certain things. that this gift will give you. But whoever is the new person or opportunity you have just encountered. that delight. and remember the last time you felt extreme pleasure. That you are about to feel that real pleasure. or ideas in your life that are outmoded. You should just let the rest of the world fade away and allow yourself to enjoy this moment and the ones that will follow. Partnership This rune gives you notice that a new partnership. messages. be it a new love. So all those things that are holding you back. the self. gifts. signals. Separation This is a rune of separating paths. Who is causing you to have these feelings. All your worries fade away and in place are the pleasures of new experiences that you are about to experience. again and again. but you allow all those things to become smaller and smaller in your mind as you realise that there is actually nothing holding you back. and all those sounds that you can hear. like that. You can just feel good just speaking with me. Live in the true present and do all those things that are right for the self. and you can act NOW. I mean if you could close your eyes. like with lids down. And make sure you do not hold this person out of your own life. you need to make sure that you DO all those things that you are able to do. Signals This is the rune of receiving: People. As you realise that you 116 . Perhaps a new job. Old skins need to be shed in order for you to embrace the new opportunity that is right in front of you. And as you remember this time.
that is how I live. and do all those things you want to do etc. as for separation. and something new and beautiful is about to grow out of this fertile period. and experience the things you want to. This delight. and to hell with the rest. but have never been. and act regardless of the forces in your life that do not have your immediate pleasure at heart. You want to drink the wine that those things holding you back wont let you drink. New relationships. Keep in mind that new ways of life are always better. Protection 117 . the fertile hole in the ground is warm and wet. You need to terminate the old way of life and begin a new one. as for signals. and new people have just walked into your life. and looking back on today as the time when it all began. I am a self sufficient person who would not let anybody stand in the way of my own happiness. and I have no respect for those weak people who will not act on their desires. and you should do those things you need to do in order to enjoy yourself the way that you deserve to be. Strength This is the rune of personal strength. You need to make sure you defend yourself from all those forces that do not want you to feel this pleasure you are about to feel. You need to seize the moment and act now etc.. Initiation This rune indicates the initiation of a new way of living. loosen yourself from these restraints. You need to shed these old skins . As you imagine a time in the future. This opportunity at increased happiness. DO IT. You need to allow the harvester to enter that hole to plant the seed of a new beginning. You are the sort of person who is capable of making your own decisions. Defence The new beginnings in your life are going to be resisted by forces that do not want you to embrace this new pleasure. This is a time for you. You need to be strong and defend what you want to do. This rune tells me that you are the sort of person who is prepared to do all the things that you need to do in order to gain true happiness. Constraint This rune represents the constrains we put on ourselves as well as the constraints put on us by the world around us. Now with me. and be the person you want to be.are about to move forward to places you always wanted to go. when this beautifully fertile period has born its fruit. Now with me. right now. Fertility Fertility represents the birth of new beginnings.. You need to be strong to embrace this opportunity right in front of you etc as for separation. Like mother earth. and you do so with your own best interests at heart. Perhaps a new relationship that will be extremely rewarding.
etc. Harvest: This is the rune of beneficial outcomes.. The results of a long awaited fulfilment are about to be satisfied in your life. (see separation) Flow: As for movement Disruption: Breaking free from the old. Etc (as for joy). etc. As you feel this . As you realise that you are about to feel those feelings again. as for signals. Prepare yourself for the receiving of gifts etc. When the climax of some venture had been reached and you just felt all those feelings of spent satisfaction. or a new life. Warrior: This is the rune of the spiritual warrior. You are free to pass through and re-invent who you are. The message of this rune is that you need to protect yourself against the old. achievements gained. In this time of change you need to protect yourself from those people from your old life. Opening: This is the rune that represents a new opening in your life. Possessions This is the rune of fulfilment: ambition satisfied. to new attitudes. Perhaps even all of your dreams are about to become true. You need to ready yourself for something beautiful that is about to occur. extremely pleasurable opportunity in your life that will take you forward in ways you can only imagine. You need to throw away the old and embrace the new. See defence. etc. Overwhelming joy and happiness.. love fulfilled. (see self) Growth: This is the rune of growth of a new period in your life. You need to make sure that you ACT on this opportunity in front of you. and always the battle of the spiritual warrior is with the self.You are about to embrace a new. you are completely capable of doing so. With me. (see joy or opening or whatever) Movement: This is the rune of transition and movement. it is a fantastic feeling that I savour. Joy This is a fruit bearing rune. etc. If you could just stop and remember the last time that you were completely satisfied. Journey: As for movement Gateway: As for opening Breakthrough: As for opening 118 . If you remember a time when you felt Joy. Those people who will attempt to hold you back.
It can go anywhere you want it to. (etc see self) The Unknowable Blank is the end. This is the best rune. This is the rune of ends and beginnings. Of doing those things to become the person you have always wanted to be. See also Self. See separation. You need to separate from the things that are holding you back. Dead. Part of who you used to be will be over. It is a rune of completing the self. you need to reduce these factors so you can act (see defence) Wholeness: This is the rune of making yourself whole. you will reinvent yourself. Blank is the beginning.Standstill: There are some factors in your life that are making you stand still at the moment. 119 . Like the phoenix who rises from the ashes.
But there is no need to run it like that. etc. So you should read the cube as if it is a palm reading. You are not a cube-reading purist. She makes the size of the cube proportional to your self opinion. as it says in the book. However. perhaps a small cube signifies a need for intimacy. I know that there are some of you out there that actually believe that there is some truth to the cube. A medium sized cube means you are adventurous. When in a seduction all readings should similarly take your path forward. You do not tell her that she is low on confidence and low on self-esteem. and like it when people can just embrace you and understand you for who you are. As you learn to read it. You do not want to be her therapist. 120 . A large cube means that you are self-confident and that you should trust your confidence to handle new situations and do all those things that you want to do. or you should buy the book for a complete account. Or that her flat ladder means her friends are lazy. which is constructed from a wire frame surrounded by cling-wrap. or confidence. You say something more along the lines of “Your small cube means that you feel more deeply than other people and can be hurt easily. You are a really sweet girl who blah. you use the same philosophy that you use when running palm-reading. or ego. the feeling of being thrilled and standing on a precipice. and throwing yourself over and how you should do it.Appendix IIb: The Cube for Romantic Encounters. You have a need for intimacy in your life. The cube is a personality game written about in the book by Annie Gottleib called “Secrets of the Cube: The Ancient Visualization Games That Reveals Your True Self” or simply “The Cube”. Now. and do a reading about adventures. when you are doing it with girls. There is enough material around on the Internet to get you running this routine. That the cube is real and gives you real readings about the person. you do it like you have the same level of belief that you have about palm reading. blah. and you should do it often. So lets say she has a small cube the size of a dice. blah”. again with all the readings pointing towards your goals. as you work your reading around how nice it is to feel that. So for example. You are not bound by the “true” readings in the book. there is no more “truth” in the cube than there is in the palm reading.