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Art of Approaching

Art of Approaching


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Here are a few hard and fast rules you can abide by when you want to flirt with a woman.

1. Use flattery – Like the old saying goes, flattery will get you everywhere!
Women love it when nice things are said about them (I mean, let’s face it, who
doesn’t?). Just make sure what you say genuine! Not only do you not want to get
caught in a lie or sound insincere, but why would you want to compromise your
personal integrity by complimenting something you actually don’t find appealing
or interesting?

2. Greet others with energy – First impressions are always important. It’s much
harder to start an interaction with someone at a low energy and build it up than it
is to start an interaction with high energy and let it settle. The more energy you
come into an interaction with, the more the person you talk to will be willing to be
swept away with it!

3. Make direct eye contact – Nothing communicates confidence better than direct
eye contact with someone. Always be looking the person you’re talking to in the
eye. A hard, steady gaze can be quite seductive, but it also helps to establish a
strong connection to the person you’re speaking with.

4. Repeat her name – Personally, I have a terrible memory for names, so I usually
like to repeat the person’s name a couple times in conversation just to try and
remember it. However, this is also a great tactic to use when flirting, because
you’re making an effort verbally say the woman’s name that you’re talking to. In
a subtle way, hearing someone say your name creates comfort and familiarity
with that person. Do this with the woman you’re talking to, and she’ll feel
exactly that!

5. Ask questions about her – Women do like to talk about themselves, and asking
her about herself shows interest on your part about who she is and what she’s
about. Some dating experts out there don’t recommend doing this because they
think you place too much importance on the girl. I think that it’s important to
show you’re interested in who she is as a person, but not only that, you’re also
gathering information so you can figure out common topics of interest that you
can then relate to. For instance, if she once lived in a city you lived in too, you
can then jump in and start talking about your experiences in that city. This helps
create further connection between the two of you.

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6. Share your life experiences – This relates to tip number five. You want to
capture your target’s imagination by sharing experiences you’ve been through.
When you weave your own tales about yourself, you help shape other people’s
opinions of you. I cover this topic more in “The Art of Storytelling” section.

7. Speak with confidence – This is a HUGE deal when flirting. The last thing you
want to do is communicate that you’re scared or unsure. So know what you’re
talking about and be certain and secure in your knowledge. Don’t be afraid to set
the record straight or get into an argument if you know you’re right. Women
respond to male aggression and confidence quite well, as long as you don’t go
overboard with it.

8. Whisper – Nothing can be more flirtatious and seductive than the act of
whispering. When you lean in towards a woman and lower your voice, it creates
an aura of intimacy that is hard to resist. The closer you can get to her ear, the
more intimate it becomes, and the connection between the two of you becomes
stronger because of it.

9. Create and use nicknames – This is a neat little trick I picked up from a friend.
When you name something, you symbolically express ownership of it. The act of
giving the woman your talking to a name is quite powerful. Not only does it
establish your dominance in the interaction, it also creates an image the woman
you’re talking to is forced to live up to. For instance, the one I like to use is “If
you were a stripper, what would your stripper name be?” and when she responds,
say “Hmmm. Actually, you look more like a Martini to me. From now on,
you’re name is Martini!” and then continue to call her that. Make a playful joke
of it. Soon, she’ll adopt the notion of sexuality that’s attached to the name you
gave her. Very powerful.

10. Leave her wanting more – You don’t want to exhaust your flirting arsenal right
away, so it’s always a good idea to alternate between flirting and non-flirting
signals, and keep this going until the end of your interaction. Constantly flirting
comes off as too strong, and can be too hard to keep up in the sense of how much
energy you put into the interaction, so alternating is a way to keep the ball rolling
without burning out too soon. It also allows you to extend the flirting so that
when it comes time to part, she’s still interested in seeing more of you. Too often,
men will allow the energy of the interaction to drop and by the time it’s over, the
woman has gotten her fill of you. So always end on a high note and leave her
wanting more of you.

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