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Lesson 5 - Abigail: No Victim of Circumstances
Posted: 30 Oct 2010 05:00 AM PDT Introduction: Think about the people who seem to get along with everyone. What allows them to get along? Is that something you could possess? What they have is called "emotional intelligence," and you can learn to have it. Our lesson this week is about a smart, beautiful, practical and emotionally intelligent woman named Abigail. Her story introduces us to the Bible-based rules of emotional intelligence. Let's plunge into our study of the Bible to learn more! 1. The Main Characters


Read 1 Samuel 25:1-3. What do we know about David, Nabal and Abigail? (Samuel is David's primary witness that he has been anointed to be King of Israel. Now Samuel has died. After Samuel's death, David immigrates to Maon where Nabal lives. Nabal is rich. He is also mean and surly in his business affairs. Abigail, Nabal's wife, also lives in Maon. She is smart and beautiful.)


Do you know beautiful and intelligent women who are married to rich and surly men?


How does that work out?


The Business Dispute


Read 1 Samuel 25:4-6. Assume that some young men come to your door and say, "Long life to you! Good day and good health to you and your family!" What would be your reaction? (I would think, "What are you selling?")

Does David have a moral claim on Nabal's profits? 4. How would you like to give us some money for that because we see that you are cashing in on your business profits and no doubt you are in a good and generous mood?" 1. Re-read 1 Samuel 25:8. David asks Nabal to talk to his shepherds to get accurate information about his request. Let's jump ahead to gather a little more information about whether David and him men have a moral claim.) 1. Nabal would have lower profits. David's men protected them. Let's consider this message. Read 1 Samuel 25:14-16. What is Nabal's answer to David's request for part of the profits? (No. What do you think "a wall around us all the time" means? (Nabal's shepherds were in the wilderness where they would naturally suffer some loss from the hostile surroundings. Would you think you were being visited by the Mafia? 2. That gives David the moral argument that if his men had not protected Nabal's animals.) 3.B. Has Nabal done that? (No. Read 1 Samuel 25:10-11. If David's men can make the trip to collect their claim. Read 1 Samuel 25:7-9. Assume that some immigrants come to your home and say "We did not mistreat your employees or steal your stuff.) 1. Does David have a "feel good" claim on Nabal's profits? C. Let's explore this a bit more. Does David have a legal claim on Nabal's profits? (No. why didn't David show up months before to enter into an agreement with Nabal to protect his animals in exchange for some of the profit? D. .

as mentioned in the introduction.) .) a. Not having any first-hand information. but David has no authority to enforce his claims.) b. Nabal decides to give David nothing because David is a nobody. it could be that Nabal is not only surly and mean. If Nabal knew from where David had immigrated. is Nabal doing that is emotionally unintelligent? (Most of what he says is simply insulting David.Notice that when we skipped ahead. What. The ability to get along with others." How would you rate Nabal on his emotional intelligence? a. Stupid. he is so stupid that he cannot arrive at the real issue.has David performed services that deserve payment?) a. There is no need to insult David in making the business decision or in giving a reply. is called "emotional intelligence. would it have made a difference? E. surly and mean come as package in some people. specifically. Did you know that most employees get fired because they cannot get along. we found that Abigail does that later. Why do you think Nabal misses the main issue? (It could be because he assumes that David helped protect his herds. not because they are incompetent to do their job? 1. Or. on what basis does Nabal make his decision? (It is a very odd bit of thinking in today's business world. What counsel do we find about decision-making? 2. Read Proverbs 13:16. He does not discuss the main issue .

Why do you think he has this reaction? (Because of what we know about David generally. Is David showing emotional intelligence? 1. Why do you think that the servant went to Abigail? (No doubt because she had some sense. Proverbs 24:19 and Proverbs 19:11. Let's read some Bible-based principles of emotional intelligence: a. Proverbs 20:3 and Proverbs 11:17. Read 1 Samuel 25:14-17. I think David is reacting to the insults. Abigail's Response A.) 1.2. What does the Bible say about David's emotional intelligence? 4. Read Proverbs 18:19.) B. Read Proverbs 12:16. Consider that the servant is telling Abigail what to do. David's Response A. Read 1 Samuel 25:12-13. Is David really like the Mafia? 1. and the fact that God chose him to be the future King of Israel. Should she be insulted? . I'm going to assume that he is not involved in some sort of shakedown of Nabal. How is Nabal doing on the Bible-based rules of emotional intelligence? 3. Instead.

the Mafia? Those herds are ours and I'm willing to pay for your help. Why does she ride along behind? Is this for her safety. Could Abigail have reasonably said. She is doing all she can to show that David is worthy of praise and honor. Proverbs 21:24 and Proverbs 9:7-8. she showed emotional intelligence by taking advice.) C. But what you have in mind is simply criminal!" (Read Proverbs 11:2 and Ecclesiastes 10:20. What does Abigail understand that Nabal does not? (That the insults towards David are the problem.) 1.2. If you were Abigail. and not the safety of the servants? (Nabal has insulted David by not giving him any food. Abigail is showing David's importance by giving him many gifts of food. "What are you guys. The fact that Nabal never takes advice is further evidence that he lacks emotional intelligence. Instead. Reviling him would be a big mistake. The prior argument would express pride. Abigail showed emotional intelligence by being humble and by avoiding giving insult to those in authority. What do you think about the fact that Nabal doesn't take advice and Abigail does? (Read Proverbs 12:15. Nabal would not have taken Abigail's advice. Is it good or bad that she did not tell her husband what she was doing? (Read Proverbs 18:1.) . David was to be the next king. would you ride toward David or would you gather as many of your possessions as you could and ride the opposite way? 2.) B. Abigail could have been insulted." he would simply have abused her for her actions. What point is Abigail making with the food? 1. She showed further emotional intelligence (Proverbs 13:16) by seeking to act based on knowledge. Proverbs 13:10 and Proverbs 19:20. Read 1 Samuel 25:23-28.) a. As a "mocker. Read 1 Samuel 25:18-19. She rides behind so that David will see the presents first.

How has Abigail's emotional intelligence served Abigail? (It arrested David's anger and brought out David's own emotional intelligence. J. . Bruce N. have you considered whether you act in an emotionally intelligent way? If not. 1973. unless otherwise noted.D. Read 1 Samuel 25:36-40. Copr. Pray for the guidance of the Holy Spirit as you study. 2010. copr. Friend. why not study Proverbs to increase your emotional intelligence and increase your success in life? 5. Read 1 Samuel 25:32-35. All scripture references are to the New International Version (NIV). Next week: Uriah: Faith of a Foreigner. How does the story end for the emotionally intelligent wife and the emotionally unintelligent husband? (Abigail trades mean and surly for the next King.D. 1984 International Bible Society. Quotations from the NIV are used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers. Cameron. Suggested answers are found within parentheses.) F. It seems to be a pretty good trade.) E. 1978.

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